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Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Letter. Subject Your best friend is

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Speaker 1: my girlfriend. Dear Stephen Shirley. I was married for four

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Speaker 1: years and at first my marriage was great and my

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Speaker 1: wife was sexy, classy and ratchet, so we had a

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Speaker 1: lot of fun together. She was a very sexual woman,

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Speaker 1: so she talked me into going to a swingers club.

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Speaker 1: My wife liked it so much that she started having

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Speaker 1: an affair with one of the guys she'd had sex

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Speaker 1: with in the swingers party. At the swingers party, I

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Speaker 1: found out and I was so hurt. She begged me

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Speaker 1: to forgive her, and I did, but things did not

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Speaker 1: go back to normal in our marriage. During this time,

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Speaker 1: my wife and her best friend fell out because her

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Speaker 1: best friend refused to lie for her so she could

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Speaker 1: keep cheating on me. The best friend and I became

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Speaker 1: closer because we couldn't believe how my wife had suddenly changed.

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Speaker 1: I spent a lot of time talking to her, and

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Speaker 1: we realized we have a lot in common. She had

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Speaker 1: just broken up with the father of her three year old,

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Speaker 1: so I was helping her work through that. After close

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Speaker 1: to six months of being around her, I started having

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Speaker 1: real feelings for her, but I didn't want to tell her.

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Speaker 1: She beat me to it and said she'd fallen in

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Speaker 1: love with me, and she felt terrible about it. I

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Speaker 1: admitted that I felt the same way about her, and

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Speaker 1: that night we had sex for the first time. A

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Speaker 1: few days later, A few days later, we want to

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Speaker 1: tell my wife everything. My wife wasn't upset at all,

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Speaker 1: and she told me that she's been She'd been sleeping

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Speaker 1: with her best friend for years, and we could have

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Speaker 1: done it three some years ago. My wife wasn't wasn't

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Speaker 1: upset at all. And she told me that she'd been

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Speaker 1: sleeping with her best friend for years and we could

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Speaker 1: have done it threesome years ago. She said, I'm crazy

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Speaker 1: to believe her best friend would be faithful to me.

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Speaker 1: I was speechless. The best friend admitted that my wife

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Speaker 1: was more than just a friend, but that was all

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Speaker 1: in the past. She said, she's ready to settle down.

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Speaker 1: Should I trust my new girlfriend or believe my wife?

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Speaker 1: Quite frankly, I don't see how you can believe any

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Speaker 1: of these people. How can you trust them? Everybody's doing

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Speaker 1: everybody and you've been done the wiser they've been doing

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Speaker 1: it right or your nose, So how can you feel

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Speaker 1: comfortable around your wife or her best friend aka your

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Speaker 1: new girlfriend right under your nose? And you had no idea.

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Speaker 1: And when you told your wife, she didn't even care.

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Speaker 1: We could have had a three some years ago. She said, Okay, cool.

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Speaker 1: I mean, so that sounds to me like your wife

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Speaker 1: doesn't care about you. I just think, you know, what

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Speaker 1: kind of mess is this that you're in? She told

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Speaker 1: you that this relationship with her bestie won't last. Now,

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Speaker 1: your wife did say that, and I say she should

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Speaker 1: know because she dated her first. I mean she knows

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Speaker 1: a lot more about her. They just don't sound serious

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Speaker 1: about anything. I know people can change, but I think

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Speaker 1: you need a little more time in this relationship. They

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Speaker 1: just don't sound serious, and you want something meaningful and

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Speaker 1: real here, all right? Quite frankly, I think you should

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Speaker 1: leave both of them, find someone and else whose past

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Speaker 1: had nothing to do with your ratchet ex wife. That's

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Speaker 1: my advice, Steve. Your best friend is my girlfriend. Now

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Speaker 1: this dude was married for four years and he said

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Speaker 1: at first his marriage was great. His wife was sexy,

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Speaker 1: classy and ratchet. Uh, you know we all know what

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Speaker 1: that means. That's cool. You know you want your woman

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Speaker 1: to be you know, styled and polished, put on your arm,

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Speaker 1: and youn't in the bedroom. You want, you know, somebody

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Speaker 1: So we had a lot of fun together. She was

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Speaker 1: a very sexual woman. So she talked me into a

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Speaker 1: swingers group. What dog, your wife? It's very sexual. So

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Speaker 1: she talked you into a sexual into a swingers group.

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Speaker 1: Now is she sexual or is that freaky slash hoish? See,

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Speaker 1: you need you need to come up with what this

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Speaker 1: really is. Your wife talked you into a swingers group.

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Speaker 1: That's some more damn people. Now is she sexual, which

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Speaker 1: ain't no problem? Or is she freaky slash hoish muse?

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Speaker 1: I think you need to find out. Well, my wife

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Speaker 1: liked it so much. Here we go that she started

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Speaker 1: sex with at the swingers party. That answers your question, Steve,

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Speaker 1: the one that she talked you into going to that

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Speaker 1: you went down now and you notice to do because

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Speaker 1: you saw him? What higgo? Higgo? The dumbest line in

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Speaker 1: the whole letter. I found out and I was so hurt. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: what bro you? You wasn't hurt when she first asked

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Speaker 1: you to go down now, but you got hurt after

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Speaker 1: you found out she was having an affair. She was

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Speaker 1: having an affair at the swingers club. See, if you

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Speaker 1: have a sexual relationship outside of your marriage, you do

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Speaker 1: understand that's an affair. Now, whether you're at the swingers

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Speaker 1: club you over at Jack Johnson's house, what difference do

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Speaker 1: it make? The slick Paul, was she told your stupid

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Speaker 1: down there. Who is up with Joe? Happy marriage? We'll

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Speaker 1: have Part two of Steve's response coming up a twenty

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Speaker 1: three minutes after the hour. Your best friend is my girlfriend.

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Speaker 1: We'll be back right after this. You're listening morning show?

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Speaker 1: All right, Steve, come on, let's get back to this letter.

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Speaker 1: Let's recap. The subject is your best friend is my girlfriend?

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Speaker 1: This dude been married for years to this woman who says,

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Speaker 1: very very sexy, she's very sexual. She's classy and ratchet.

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Speaker 1: So do you have a lot of fun? And he says,

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Speaker 1: she's very sexual woman, and she talked to him into

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Speaker 1: going to a swingers group. I want a young man

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Speaker 1: to be aware. I don't know how old alt, but

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Speaker 1: I want a young man to be aware of when

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Speaker 1: a woman tells you she's very sexual and advises you

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Speaker 1: to a swingers club. You can be sexual, but you

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Speaker 1: gotta where about because some of that is freaky slash holish.

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Speaker 1: So be careful when a woman tells she very sexual,

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Speaker 1: and once again, now she outside the group. Now she'd

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Speaker 1: then fell in love with some dude she'd had sex

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Speaker 1: with that swingers party. Then this dude found out about that.

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Speaker 1: Now he hurt. You should have been hurt when your

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Speaker 1: wife asked you to come to the swingers club that

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Speaker 1: for you to be hurt and find out she wanted

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Speaker 1: to keep screwing him outside the party? Boy? What boy?

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Speaker 1: How do you think you cut off? Ignorant? Well? Anyway,

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Speaker 1: she begged you to forgive her, and you did, but

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Speaker 1: things didn't go back to normal. During that time, your

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Speaker 1: Now we couldn't believe how my wife had suddenly changed.

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Speaker 1: She couldn't believe it. You couldn't believe it. I don't

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Speaker 1: see why y'all couldn't believe to change, because y'all all

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Speaker 1: how participated didn't change Anyway, y'all spend a lot of

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Speaker 1: time talking to realize y'all had a lot in comment.

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Speaker 1: Broke up with the father her three year old, and

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Speaker 1: I was helping the work through that. Didn't know six

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Speaker 1: she felt terrible about it. Now, this is what people

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Speaker 1: they had sex for the first time. I mean, if

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Speaker 1: Let's just have some damn sex. Yes, I know, I

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Speaker 1: feel better. So now they had sex for the first

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Speaker 1: Now listen to this. We had sex for the first time.

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Speaker 1: A few days later, we went to tell my wife everything.

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Speaker 1: What the boy, boy? What is wrong with you? A

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Speaker 1: few days after that, we went to tell my wife everything. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: get it off your chest. To get it off your chest.

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Speaker 1: Just the dumbest damn thing I've ever heard. Then when

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Speaker 1: told me she'd been sleeping with her best friend for

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Speaker 1: years and y'all could have done a threesome years ago,

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Speaker 1: years ago. Wait a minute, dog, So she been cheating

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Speaker 1: fair with him. You go and screw her best friend,

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Speaker 1: then you gonna tell her? She said, Oh, as a

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Speaker 1: matter of fact, yeah, you ain't the only one. I've

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Speaker 1: the six months, right, they went to tell his wife? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: this letter. Just a butcher. Nutt asked, wait, wait a minute,

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Speaker 1: I believe my new girlfriend or my wife. Boy, that's

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Speaker 1: not your wife. Your wife is dating your girlfriend, which

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Speaker 1: down at the Swingers Club and ain't no telling what's

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Speaker 1: going on. You never did mention who you was doing

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Speaker 1: Now your girlfriend want you to trust her question today?

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Speaker 1: She just want you what we gotta go see? Cheryl

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