1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:02,880 Speaker 1: All right, another episode of Father Knows Less. And because 2 00:00:02,880 --> 00:00:04,640 Speaker 1: we don't do this as a real podcast, this is 3 00:00:04,680 --> 00:00:07,040 Speaker 1: two different YouTube videos that we did. But the first 4 00:00:07,040 --> 00:00:09,080 Speaker 1: one you may have seen with Lauren Elena and we 5 00:00:09,160 --> 00:00:11,559 Speaker 1: talked about her and her birth experience and how crazy 6 00:00:11,600 --> 00:00:15,200 Speaker 1: it was. You'll hear the umbilical cord story. Uh, pretty wild. 7 00:00:15,520 --> 00:00:18,000 Speaker 1: Always loved talking with Lauren. And then after that we 8 00:00:18,040 --> 00:00:19,759 Speaker 1: talked with one of the guys that works here with me, 9 00:00:19,840 --> 00:00:23,200 Speaker 1: Kickoff Kevin, and he had twins, first babies, and we 10 00:00:23,280 --> 00:00:26,400 Speaker 1: talked about what that's like for him. And so here 11 00:00:26,560 --> 00:00:29,920 Speaker 1: is another let's say episode, but yeah, you get it. 12 00:00:30,120 --> 00:00:31,560 Speaker 1: And if you want to watch these, they're up on 13 00:00:31,640 --> 00:00:34,960 Speaker 1: at Bobby Bones channel on YouTube. But here is Father 14 00:00:35,080 --> 00:00:37,360 Speaker 1: Knows Less. All right, I want to welcome Laura and 15 00:00:37,360 --> 00:00:40,120 Speaker 1: Elena to the Father Knows Less Show. Thank you Lauren. 16 00:00:40,159 --> 00:00:42,040 Speaker 1: Of course, did you ever feel completely clueless when you 17 00:00:42,080 --> 00:00:42,600 Speaker 1: had your kid? 18 00:00:43,440 --> 00:00:46,320 Speaker 2: Every single day? I feel like I'm learning every day 19 00:00:46,440 --> 00:00:48,879 Speaker 2: how to take care of a child. 20 00:00:49,120 --> 00:00:52,560 Speaker 1: My question about being a new parent. And you're ahead 21 00:00:52,560 --> 00:00:54,280 Speaker 1: of me a little bit because your baby's over a 22 00:00:54,320 --> 00:00:54,960 Speaker 1: year now, right. 23 00:00:54,920 --> 00:00:55,720 Speaker 2: No, she's ten months. 24 00:00:55,760 --> 00:00:57,000 Speaker 1: Well, I saw a picture I thought it was your 25 00:00:57,000 --> 00:00:58,960 Speaker 1: your birthday party, like Hardy and all those other people, 26 00:00:59,360 --> 00:01:00,360 Speaker 1: every one thing exist. 27 00:01:00,400 --> 00:01:04,000 Speaker 2: That was Rosy's birthday party. Everyone thinks it was my daughter's. 28 00:01:04,040 --> 00:01:05,319 Speaker 1: I thought it was sure. That's why I thought it 29 00:01:05,360 --> 00:01:06,720 Speaker 1: was a year because a. 30 00:01:06,600 --> 00:01:08,880 Speaker 2: Lot of people have told me that they thought it 31 00:01:08,880 --> 00:01:10,800 Speaker 2: it was Herty's daughter's birthday. 32 00:01:10,920 --> 00:01:13,560 Speaker 1: Okay, yep, so your daughter is ten months. 33 00:01:13,400 --> 00:01:16,240 Speaker 2: Old, she'll be a year old June eleven. 34 00:01:17,760 --> 00:01:20,480 Speaker 1: What's to do with traveling because we haven't traveled. Our 35 00:01:20,520 --> 00:01:22,320 Speaker 1: baby is just a few weeks old. When did you 36 00:01:22,360 --> 00:01:24,680 Speaker 1: start feeling comfortable traveling with your child. 37 00:01:24,640 --> 00:01:25,440 Speaker 2: Like on a plane? 38 00:01:25,520 --> 00:01:27,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, I have not, you have not. 39 00:01:28,000 --> 00:01:30,920 Speaker 2: I have done it. It's but you comfortable? 40 00:01:31,880 --> 00:01:33,160 Speaker 1: What is that? Like? 41 00:01:33,200 --> 00:01:37,920 Speaker 2: What's actually? Bennie is really great. She's a really easy traveler. 42 00:01:39,640 --> 00:01:42,120 Speaker 2: If my husband's with me or someone is with me, 43 00:01:42,240 --> 00:01:44,560 Speaker 2: I feel comfortable. But it would be really hard to 44 00:01:44,600 --> 00:01:46,160 Speaker 2: do it by myself. 45 00:01:46,640 --> 00:01:48,480 Speaker 1: Because what do you have to do extra with a 46 00:01:48,520 --> 00:01:51,120 Speaker 1: baby that you don't have to do when it is. 47 00:01:51,160 --> 00:01:56,560 Speaker 2: You well, figuring out where to feed her, breastfeeding, and 48 00:01:56,600 --> 00:01:59,560 Speaker 2: then you have to travel with so much stuff that. 49 00:01:59,560 --> 00:02:01,520 Speaker 1: Seems to be the thing everywhere we go now, it's 50 00:02:01,520 --> 00:02:02,160 Speaker 1: just so much. 51 00:02:02,000 --> 00:02:04,920 Speaker 2: Stuff, like it's not just a die. I mean we 52 00:02:05,000 --> 00:02:07,760 Speaker 2: are now at the age where it does get better, 53 00:02:07,760 --> 00:02:09,440 Speaker 2: because we're at the age now where I feel like 54 00:02:10,000 --> 00:02:12,720 Speaker 2: I can take the baby and a change of clothes 55 00:02:12,760 --> 00:02:15,960 Speaker 2: if you know she poops all over herself or spill something, 56 00:02:16,520 --> 00:02:20,680 Speaker 2: and like diapers essentially and get away with it. If 57 00:02:20,680 --> 00:02:23,840 Speaker 2: we're going to like a restaurant, because she now eats 58 00:02:23,919 --> 00:02:27,840 Speaker 2: food too, She's not just like taking milk. 59 00:02:27,760 --> 00:02:27,919 Speaker 1: But. 60 00:02:31,480 --> 00:02:33,760 Speaker 2: It's it is a total addressing. I mean, like if 61 00:02:33,800 --> 00:02:36,640 Speaker 2: you fly with your child, you have to take a 62 00:02:36,680 --> 00:02:38,760 Speaker 2: pack and play because they're gonna have to have somewhere 63 00:02:38,760 --> 00:02:42,600 Speaker 2: to sleep. I mean, you take a lot of stuff, 64 00:02:42,639 --> 00:02:44,880 Speaker 2: but you get used to it. It's just your whole 65 00:02:44,880 --> 00:02:47,120 Speaker 2: life change, Like you start taking less stuff for you 66 00:02:47,200 --> 00:02:49,639 Speaker 2: and you take everything for them. Like I'm re wearing 67 00:02:49,680 --> 00:02:52,080 Speaker 2: the shirt a couple of times, you know what I mean. Like, 68 00:02:52,120 --> 00:02:56,000 Speaker 2: I'm not gonna take eighteen outfit choices. She has eighteen 69 00:02:56,000 --> 00:02:57,519 Speaker 2: outfit choices. I have one. 70 00:02:57,800 --> 00:02:59,560 Speaker 1: Have you had a situation where she's crying at a 71 00:02:59,560 --> 00:03:00,120 Speaker 1: public place. 72 00:03:02,240 --> 00:03:05,480 Speaker 2: Where I'm like feeling really bad about it. I'm not 73 00:03:05,560 --> 00:03:10,760 Speaker 2: gonna lie. My daughter is not a fussy baby. She's 74 00:03:10,800 --> 00:03:14,480 Speaker 2: like it's hilarious if you know her parents. I think 75 00:03:14,520 --> 00:03:16,440 Speaker 2: we are soaking up all the energy and she's just 76 00:03:16,480 --> 00:03:22,440 Speaker 2: hanging out. But I have had some situations where she's 77 00:03:22,480 --> 00:03:24,679 Speaker 2: crying and I feel bad. But I will tell you 78 00:03:27,080 --> 00:03:30,480 Speaker 2: everyone's really nice when you have a crying baby, especially 79 00:03:30,520 --> 00:03:33,639 Speaker 2: when they're really little, Like people feel bad for you 80 00:03:34,360 --> 00:03:38,280 Speaker 2: worse than they feel for themselves. I think because especially 81 00:03:38,320 --> 00:03:41,000 Speaker 2: the mom, because you can just tell like the mom 82 00:03:41,080 --> 00:03:45,360 Speaker 2: is frantic and like it is piercing to a mother's 83 00:03:45,400 --> 00:03:48,120 Speaker 2: ear when the baby is crying and needing something and 84 00:03:48,160 --> 00:03:52,800 Speaker 2: we're trying to figure out what it is. Like I mean, 85 00:03:52,840 --> 00:03:56,360 Speaker 2: mostly my maternal instinct kicks in and I don't really 86 00:03:56,440 --> 00:03:58,560 Speaker 2: care in that moment about everybody else. And then if 87 00:03:58,600 --> 00:04:01,560 Speaker 2: she continues to cry, then I would feel bad for 88 00:04:01,600 --> 00:04:03,280 Speaker 2: everyone else, But it would be like on a plane, 89 00:04:03,320 --> 00:04:05,080 Speaker 2: where you would feel bad if the baby cried the 90 00:04:05,120 --> 00:04:07,880 Speaker 2: whole time. But even then it's like you got to 91 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:10,920 Speaker 2: get where you're going and it's a baby, Like what 92 00:04:10,960 --> 00:04:12,160 Speaker 2: am I supposed to do? You know? 93 00:04:12,720 --> 00:04:14,560 Speaker 1: I feel like my wife has some sort of like 94 00:04:15,120 --> 00:04:18,200 Speaker 1: echo location where if something she can sense it. 95 00:04:18,400 --> 00:04:20,440 Speaker 2: I could hear my baby cry if she started crying 96 00:04:20,520 --> 00:04:24,200 Speaker 2: right now, We're across town I literally, it's crazy. It 97 00:04:24,240 --> 00:04:27,039 Speaker 2: initiates something in you, like my husband. 98 00:04:27,080 --> 00:04:28,400 Speaker 1: I mean, that's really what I've been like. 99 00:04:28,520 --> 00:04:31,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean if it were up to Cameron, Bennie 100 00:04:31,880 --> 00:04:34,479 Speaker 2: would cry all night long if something was wrong because 101 00:04:34,520 --> 00:04:36,560 Speaker 2: he would not wake up. And I I mean I 102 00:04:36,560 --> 00:04:38,680 Speaker 2: don't even need like a video monitor. I can hear 103 00:04:38,720 --> 00:04:42,080 Speaker 2: her across the house. It's done something to my ears. 104 00:04:42,160 --> 00:04:42,839 Speaker 2: It's crazy. 105 00:04:43,080 --> 00:04:45,600 Speaker 1: We're so early in. It's again, we're just a few 106 00:04:45,600 --> 00:04:45,960 Speaker 1: weeks in. 107 00:04:46,520 --> 00:04:48,560 Speaker 2: And how old is she now? 108 00:04:48,720 --> 00:04:49,440 Speaker 1: Over three weeks? 109 00:04:49,680 --> 00:04:50,839 Speaker 2: Oh my goodness. 110 00:04:51,120 --> 00:04:54,600 Speaker 1: The snuggles and she doesn't do a lot right, It's 111 00:04:54,640 --> 00:04:55,719 Speaker 1: all as much. 112 00:04:55,600 --> 00:04:58,640 Speaker 2: As you can because then they get busy and they 113 00:04:58,640 --> 00:05:01,640 Speaker 2: don't love to snuggle as much. Like I know people 114 00:05:01,680 --> 00:05:03,520 Speaker 2: say you can like spoil your baby, don't hold your 115 00:05:03,520 --> 00:05:06,000 Speaker 2: baby too much, hold that baby from morning to dark 116 00:05:06,120 --> 00:05:09,880 Speaker 2: if you want to, because it goes by so fast. 117 00:05:09,960 --> 00:05:12,919 Speaker 2: I know everyone says that, but it really could. I 118 00:05:13,000 --> 00:05:15,240 Speaker 2: could weep about it. I mean, we're in a really 119 00:05:15,279 --> 00:05:17,839 Speaker 2: fun age. She's crawling, learning to walk, and she like 120 00:05:17,960 --> 00:05:20,360 Speaker 2: knows us and says mama and dadad. 121 00:05:20,040 --> 00:05:24,239 Speaker 1: And that's crazy to think about our baby saying words 122 00:05:24,279 --> 00:05:26,080 Speaker 1: to us, or even that, are you. 123 00:05:26,480 --> 00:05:29,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, like to recognize you, to know you. That will 124 00:05:29,800 --> 00:05:31,440 Speaker 2: happen sooner than you think, where she. 125 00:05:31,400 --> 00:05:33,240 Speaker 1: Will recognize you, because right now. 126 00:05:33,279 --> 00:05:35,440 Speaker 2: They live like they're like a little potato at first 127 00:05:35,520 --> 00:05:37,480 Speaker 2: that you know, eats and poops, and then all of 128 00:05:37,520 --> 00:05:40,520 Speaker 2: a sudden they're like, this is my person like you. 129 00:05:41,000 --> 00:05:43,960 Speaker 2: Especially with your wife, I think she the baby will 130 00:05:44,000 --> 00:05:48,280 Speaker 2: recognize her probably first and then I mean, but it 131 00:05:48,320 --> 00:05:52,360 Speaker 2: wasn't long after, but she, like Benny, knew who I was. 132 00:05:52,800 --> 00:05:54,880 Speaker 2: Like I think she knew who I was immediately, but 133 00:05:54,960 --> 00:05:57,880 Speaker 2: I was more like the person that carried her and 134 00:05:57,920 --> 00:06:01,800 Speaker 2: fed her, you know. And then you become their person 135 00:06:01,880 --> 00:06:05,359 Speaker 2: that they trust and they recognize, and that is the 136 00:06:05,400 --> 00:06:07,520 Speaker 2: most rewarding part of being a parent to me. 137 00:06:07,640 --> 00:06:09,960 Speaker 1: My wife will be crying sometimes and I'm like, what's wrong, 138 00:06:09,960 --> 00:06:11,960 Speaker 1: because like nothing, I'm just so happy that did that 139 00:06:12,000 --> 00:06:12,440 Speaker 1: happen to you? 140 00:06:12,520 --> 00:06:15,159 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, and your wife's body just went through the 141 00:06:15,200 --> 00:06:20,359 Speaker 2: most miraculous gift and crazy shift of all time for 142 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:24,960 Speaker 2: a woman. So yeah, the emotions are very heightened at 143 00:06:25,000 --> 00:06:27,520 Speaker 2: that time. And yes, I still look at my daughter 144 00:06:27,560 --> 00:06:32,360 Speaker 2: and cry, like I took these pictures of her with this, 145 00:06:32,600 --> 00:06:34,560 Speaker 2: with these blocks that said forty two weeks because I 146 00:06:34,600 --> 00:06:39,440 Speaker 2: went way past my due date. I went twelve days 147 00:06:39,480 --> 00:06:42,840 Speaker 2: eleven days past. Wow, So I almost carried her full 148 00:06:42,880 --> 00:06:43,880 Speaker 2: forty two weeks? 149 00:06:44,040 --> 00:06:44,600 Speaker 1: Were you doing it? 150 00:06:44,600 --> 00:06:46,599 Speaker 2: And so I took a picture of her with blocks 151 00:06:46,600 --> 00:06:48,479 Speaker 2: that said forty two weeks and the way she held 152 00:06:48,520 --> 00:06:51,200 Speaker 2: her little hands and the bow and her hair made 153 00:06:51,279 --> 00:06:54,240 Speaker 2: me cry. So yeah, the crying doesn't stop, just out 154 00:06:54,279 --> 00:06:57,120 Speaker 2: of pure adoration for her. I cry like I love 155 00:06:57,160 --> 00:06:57,880 Speaker 2: her so much. 156 00:06:58,200 --> 00:07:02,080 Speaker 1: We were doing things like curb walking. Uh were you trying? Oh, 157 00:07:02,240 --> 00:07:03,279 Speaker 1: hot spicy food. 158 00:07:03,560 --> 00:07:06,599 Speaker 2: I did every trick you've if you've read a trick, 159 00:07:06,640 --> 00:07:08,719 Speaker 2: I did it. The only thing I never did was 160 00:07:08,760 --> 00:07:12,160 Speaker 2: castor oil. I never drank the castor oil. I was like, 161 00:07:12,640 --> 00:07:16,560 Speaker 2: because my doula told me that some people take drink 162 00:07:16,600 --> 00:07:19,120 Speaker 2: the castor oil and they have contractions, but it doesn't 163 00:07:19,160 --> 00:07:21,480 Speaker 2: actually get them into birth. And I was like, well, 164 00:07:21,480 --> 00:07:23,280 Speaker 2: we're not going to do that. I don't want to 165 00:07:23,320 --> 00:07:23,560 Speaker 2: do that. 166 00:07:23,600 --> 00:07:24,640 Speaker 1: How did you know a lot. 167 00:07:24,480 --> 00:07:26,880 Speaker 2: Of women do it in it like immediately they have 168 00:07:27,120 --> 00:07:27,520 Speaker 2: the baby. 169 00:07:27,520 --> 00:07:28,720 Speaker 1: But how did you know you're having a baby? 170 00:07:28,720 --> 00:07:30,080 Speaker 2: Like, what was your I had to be induced. 171 00:07:30,160 --> 00:07:31,760 Speaker 1: I ended up getting it for you, even though you 172 00:07:31,760 --> 00:07:32,720 Speaker 1: were two weeks late. 173 00:07:32,960 --> 00:07:35,400 Speaker 2: I had to be induced. Yeah, I mean it started 174 00:07:35,440 --> 00:07:38,080 Speaker 2: being it started. I really didn't want to be induced, 175 00:07:38,120 --> 00:07:41,560 Speaker 2: like I wanted my body to do it. And at 176 00:07:41,560 --> 00:07:44,960 Speaker 2: some point I was like getting kind of scared that 177 00:07:45,080 --> 00:07:45,960 Speaker 2: she was still in there. 178 00:07:46,000 --> 00:07:48,240 Speaker 1: You know, expbout to graduate high school. She's still in there. 179 00:07:48,280 --> 00:07:50,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, she came out reading that's crazy. 180 00:07:51,160 --> 00:07:53,560 Speaker 1: She's driving a car for me. There have been certain 181 00:07:53,600 --> 00:07:57,400 Speaker 1: things that I've learned in the past even month. One 182 00:07:57,440 --> 00:08:02,000 Speaker 1: thing is how important the labor nurses are, labor and 183 00:08:02,000 --> 00:08:04,679 Speaker 1: delivery nurses. Like I could if I were to see 184 00:08:04,880 --> 00:08:08,640 Speaker 1: ours walking down the street and again she spent a 185 00:08:08,760 --> 00:08:11,640 Speaker 1: day with us, so and we're just another person coming 186 00:08:11,640 --> 00:08:15,680 Speaker 1: in and going out. But to us same I would 187 00:08:15,760 --> 00:08:18,040 Speaker 1: hug her and go, what can I do for your life? 188 00:08:18,160 --> 00:08:20,360 Speaker 2: Yeah? Can I like pay for your kids to go 189 00:08:20,480 --> 00:08:22,560 Speaker 2: to school? What do you need? Yeah? Say? 190 00:08:22,920 --> 00:08:24,360 Speaker 1: So valued such a. 191 00:08:26,400 --> 00:08:30,960 Speaker 2: Crazy experience, isn't it? Just like have? I mean as 192 00:08:31,040 --> 00:08:33,440 Speaker 2: the person that had the but like even for my husband, 193 00:08:33,960 --> 00:08:36,959 Speaker 2: and Cameron's like the life of the party, he's mister 194 00:08:37,080 --> 00:08:42,360 Speaker 2: jokes or he's not a super emotional person. And when 195 00:08:42,760 --> 00:08:46,480 Speaker 2: Benny came out and he saw her, he stopped. I've 196 00:08:46,640 --> 00:08:51,000 Speaker 2: never seen him cry. I mean like when someone passed away. 197 00:08:51,040 --> 00:08:55,600 Speaker 2: He cries in appropriate situations, but like stopped, and it's 198 00:08:55,679 --> 00:08:59,600 Speaker 2: just such an out of like it's otherworldly experience. Like 199 00:09:00,320 --> 00:09:02,840 Speaker 2: and those people and it's so hard on them, mom, 200 00:09:03,000 --> 00:09:06,719 Speaker 2: Like there's a lot going on. And those women that 201 00:09:06,800 --> 00:09:11,520 Speaker 2: we had, like there was one nurse we had specifically 202 00:09:12,280 --> 00:09:14,959 Speaker 2: the saying like I love her, I love her. 203 00:09:15,080 --> 00:09:17,080 Speaker 1: I'm very close to feeling that way about hers, and 204 00:09:17,600 --> 00:09:19,240 Speaker 1: I love her, yeah, because I. 205 00:09:19,320 --> 00:09:21,520 Speaker 2: Want her to be there when I have another child. 206 00:09:21,920 --> 00:09:25,960 Speaker 1: She was there, and she was there for most of 207 00:09:25,960 --> 00:09:27,920 Speaker 1: it before our doctor got there, because the doctor got 208 00:09:27,920 --> 00:09:30,800 Speaker 1: called in. So it's like my wife started going into 209 00:09:30,880 --> 00:09:33,280 Speaker 1: labor and she's in all of it, and they should 210 00:09:33,280 --> 00:09:34,600 Speaker 1: pulled out the trash bag, and I know it was getting 211 00:09:34,600 --> 00:09:35,760 Speaker 1: real by the way, do you see him doing that 212 00:09:35,800 --> 00:09:37,360 Speaker 1: for you? Out the plastic? 213 00:09:37,480 --> 00:09:40,560 Speaker 2: We had like kind of an a wild at birth 214 00:09:40,720 --> 00:09:46,400 Speaker 2: because and when I would push Benny's heart right plummeted 215 00:09:46,800 --> 00:09:49,360 Speaker 2: and they couldn't figure out why. So her umbellical cord 216 00:09:49,400 --> 00:09:52,200 Speaker 2: was wrapped around her head twice and up under her 217 00:09:52,200 --> 00:09:54,760 Speaker 2: shoulder and then between her legs, so when I would push, 218 00:09:54,840 --> 00:09:55,520 Speaker 2: it was pulling. 219 00:09:56,280 --> 00:09:58,080 Speaker 1: Wow, did you know that as it was happening. 220 00:09:58,840 --> 00:10:01,880 Speaker 2: No, but I knew something was not right. So I 221 00:10:01,960 --> 00:10:04,360 Speaker 2: was very scared. It was very scary. It happens a lot. 222 00:10:04,400 --> 00:10:04,720 Speaker 2: I think. 223 00:10:04,840 --> 00:10:06,880 Speaker 1: I can't imagine she was fully wrapped. 224 00:10:07,000 --> 00:10:10,440 Speaker 2: She was like we and I think, and part of 225 00:10:10,520 --> 00:10:14,040 Speaker 2: me thinks, you know, the there's I never knew anything 226 00:10:14,040 --> 00:10:16,920 Speaker 2: about childbirth until I was getting prepared to have one. 227 00:10:17,080 --> 00:10:19,520 Speaker 2: And basically the way like your cervix and all the things, 228 00:10:19,559 --> 00:10:21,600 Speaker 2: like the way you dilate and stuff, is the baby's 229 00:10:21,679 --> 00:10:24,600 Speaker 2: head like burrows down. So I'm wondering, because she was 230 00:10:24,640 --> 00:10:26,520 Speaker 2: so wrapped up, if that's why I went so far 231 00:10:26,520 --> 00:10:28,600 Speaker 2: past my d date because she wasn't able to do 232 00:10:29,480 --> 00:10:31,640 Speaker 2: what she needed to do to like prepare my body 233 00:10:31,679 --> 00:10:37,560 Speaker 2: for birth. But they basically they basically told me not 234 00:10:37,640 --> 00:10:40,120 Speaker 2: to push until the doctor got there. I wasn't like, 235 00:10:40,640 --> 00:10:42,960 Speaker 2: I did not push, and then I pushed and they 236 00:10:43,200 --> 00:10:45,360 Speaker 2: the doctor came in and told me all these things 237 00:10:45,400 --> 00:10:47,000 Speaker 2: that we were gonna have to do to get her out, 238 00:10:47,440 --> 00:10:52,640 Speaker 2: like not like forces really and there's like this vacuum 239 00:10:52,679 --> 00:10:55,040 Speaker 2: that they can use and they're telling me this, and 240 00:10:55,080 --> 00:10:57,120 Speaker 2: I look up at my husband and I'm just like 241 00:10:58,559 --> 00:11:01,080 Speaker 2: scared to death, you know, I mean, and it's scary anyway. 242 00:11:01,120 --> 00:11:04,320 Speaker 2: But then that started happening and I was like, oh 243 00:11:04,360 --> 00:11:06,280 Speaker 2: my gosh, and I was like what, And then they 244 00:11:06,320 --> 00:11:08,440 Speaker 2: were and she was so far down in the birth 245 00:11:08,440 --> 00:11:10,040 Speaker 2: canal that they would have had to push her back 246 00:11:10,120 --> 00:11:12,120 Speaker 2: up for a C section, So they said that really 247 00:11:12,160 --> 00:11:15,439 Speaker 2: wasn't the greatest choice at that point either, So then 248 00:11:15,600 --> 00:11:19,120 Speaker 2: we're like having to pick the best of not great choices. 249 00:11:19,360 --> 00:11:22,480 Speaker 2: And I'm not kidding. It scared me so much so 250 00:11:22,600 --> 00:11:25,000 Speaker 2: for them to do any of those things that you 251 00:11:25,080 --> 00:11:27,080 Speaker 2: have to push for the doctor to kind of assess, 252 00:11:27,360 --> 00:11:30,000 Speaker 2: and then they would do like bring in the force, 253 00:11:30,320 --> 00:11:32,800 Speaker 2: and she was also sideway, so he said he couldn't 254 00:11:32,840 --> 00:11:35,560 Speaker 2: do the vacuum, so you push and then they like 255 00:11:35,600 --> 00:11:38,040 Speaker 2: clamp on her head and pull her out, which is 256 00:11:38,080 --> 00:11:41,480 Speaker 2: so graphic. I'm sorry, but it scared me so bad. 257 00:11:43,360 --> 00:11:45,040 Speaker 2: He said, well, we're gonna do. I want you to 258 00:11:45,040 --> 00:11:46,600 Speaker 2: push as hard as you can, and I just kind 259 00:11:46,600 --> 00:11:48,080 Speaker 2: of want to see the position of her head and 260 00:11:48,080 --> 00:11:50,160 Speaker 2: then you're gonna relax and then we'll do it again 261 00:11:50,320 --> 00:11:53,600 Speaker 2: and we're gonna get her out. And I looked up 262 00:11:53,640 --> 00:11:56,600 Speaker 2: at my husband. I will never forget it. Something happened 263 00:11:56,640 --> 00:11:59,400 Speaker 2: to me and I pushed her out, like they did 264 00:11:59,400 --> 00:12:02,400 Speaker 2: not have to use anything, like something happened to me. 265 00:12:02,520 --> 00:12:05,160 Speaker 2: They scared me so bad. You know you see those 266 00:12:05,240 --> 00:12:07,880 Speaker 2: videos of people like lifting cars off of their children. 267 00:12:08,240 --> 00:12:11,800 Speaker 2: I had that experience because I was like, because they 268 00:12:11,840 --> 00:12:14,319 Speaker 2: tell me everything that if they used that stuff, which 269 00:12:14,440 --> 00:12:16,720 Speaker 2: I had a friend who had to use them and 270 00:12:16,760 --> 00:12:19,800 Speaker 2: the baby was perfectly fine, but it can hurt them, 271 00:12:19,840 --> 00:12:22,319 Speaker 2: like the best option is to not have to use anything, 272 00:12:23,000 --> 00:12:25,000 Speaker 2: And so it just scared me, and I pushed her out. 273 00:12:25,160 --> 00:12:28,160 Speaker 2: I pushed twice and she was out. 274 00:12:29,360 --> 00:12:31,679 Speaker 1: When you heard her cry, were like, oh my god, it. 275 00:12:33,320 --> 00:12:37,280 Speaker 2: That right now will make me weep because I was 276 00:12:37,320 --> 00:12:40,160 Speaker 2: so scared that she wasn't gonna be okay. And I 277 00:12:40,240 --> 00:12:43,439 Speaker 2: heard her well first they I you know, I'm watched, 278 00:12:43,559 --> 00:12:45,480 Speaker 2: like I see them pull her out, and he's doing 279 00:12:45,520 --> 00:12:48,840 Speaker 2: this to my baby, like untangling my child, Like I 280 00:12:48,920 --> 00:12:51,920 Speaker 2: see the doctor untangled. He was like, she's really tangled, 281 00:12:52,960 --> 00:12:54,920 Speaker 2: and I'm like, is she okay? And my husband is 282 00:12:55,000 --> 00:12:58,240 Speaker 2: hysterically sobbing, and I'm like look, and they laid her 283 00:12:58,320 --> 00:13:02,439 Speaker 2: on me and she didn't cry. Immediately they like suctioned 284 00:13:02,640 --> 00:13:07,520 Speaker 2: out of her mouth and she went and I literally 285 00:13:08,160 --> 00:13:12,440 Speaker 2: like have never heard a more beautiful sound that my 286 00:13:12,640 --> 00:13:15,960 Speaker 2: life changed instantly in that second when I I mean 287 00:13:16,440 --> 00:13:20,520 Speaker 2: looking at her, just like yeah, it's crazy. Yeah, So 288 00:13:20,559 --> 00:13:24,160 Speaker 2: it was scary, and then that the reward of getting 289 00:13:24,280 --> 00:13:27,360 Speaker 2: I literally like never wanted them to take her away 290 00:13:27,360 --> 00:13:29,360 Speaker 2: from it. I was like, we're I didn't even want 291 00:13:29,400 --> 00:13:30,800 Speaker 2: them to weigh her. They were like, well, we have 292 00:13:30,880 --> 00:13:32,720 Speaker 2: to weigh her, and I was like, no, you don't. 293 00:13:32,920 --> 00:13:35,480 Speaker 2: I was like, because I was so scared, you. 294 00:13:35,440 --> 00:13:38,880 Speaker 1: Know, whenever they laid the baby on my wife's chest. 295 00:13:39,200 --> 00:13:43,679 Speaker 1: What was crazy was she immediately went from the intense 296 00:13:44,360 --> 00:13:48,120 Speaker 1: pressure of having to have a child physically mentally emotionally too. 297 00:13:48,280 --> 00:13:49,800 Speaker 1: She started going, I love her so much, I love 298 00:13:49,800 --> 00:13:53,000 Speaker 1: her so much. Yes, I've never seen it like that before. 299 00:13:53,160 --> 00:13:54,439 Speaker 1: Where As soon as it touched her, she was like, 300 00:13:54,480 --> 00:13:56,440 Speaker 1: I love her so much. This is and she was 301 00:13:56,600 --> 00:13:58,480 Speaker 1: obviously crying and emotional instantly. 302 00:13:58,640 --> 00:14:02,800 Speaker 2: It's the craziest. It's I can't It's an inexplainable feeling, 303 00:14:03,080 --> 00:14:03,840 Speaker 2: like it's. 304 00:14:03,840 --> 00:14:06,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, how long until you could sing again after you 305 00:14:06,200 --> 00:14:11,800 Speaker 1: gave birth? Because thedn't did it hurt singing? Yeah? Because yeah, 306 00:14:11,920 --> 00:14:13,960 Speaker 1: I know idea that it was that. 307 00:14:14,360 --> 00:14:16,760 Speaker 2: I did not sing right at first. That actually really 308 00:14:16,760 --> 00:14:22,160 Speaker 2: scared me. That actually really scared me because I couldn't 309 00:14:22,600 --> 00:14:25,440 Speaker 2: control my voice in a way that I'm able to do. 310 00:14:29,440 --> 00:14:31,200 Speaker 2: That's a great question, Molly. How long do you think 311 00:14:31,240 --> 00:14:37,160 Speaker 2: it took a couple months? A couple months? Well, I 312 00:14:37,240 --> 00:14:38,640 Speaker 2: mean you think about it, so you have like a 313 00:14:38,800 --> 00:14:42,720 Speaker 2: gaping wound in your and so I was like not 314 00:14:42,880 --> 00:14:45,920 Speaker 2: able to It was because I could had no core left, 315 00:14:46,400 --> 00:14:51,080 Speaker 2: so I could not control. I was still able to sing, 316 00:14:51,160 --> 00:14:54,080 Speaker 2: but I could not control like flipping my voice and stuff. 317 00:14:54,080 --> 00:14:56,000 Speaker 2: And it wasn't a voice thing. It was all like 318 00:14:56,040 --> 00:14:58,880 Speaker 2: a control. It was very interesting, like I did some 319 00:14:59,120 --> 00:15:02,040 Speaker 2: like vocal therapy and stuff to try to fix it. 320 00:15:02,360 --> 00:15:04,320 Speaker 1: I was very ignorant as to what it does to 321 00:15:04,360 --> 00:15:07,400 Speaker 1: the female body. It does a lot, because I've said 322 00:15:07,400 --> 00:15:08,800 Speaker 1: before I thought it was like, okay, rab some dirt 323 00:15:08,840 --> 00:15:09,000 Speaker 1: on it. 324 00:15:09,000 --> 00:15:10,720 Speaker 2: Get to Raisin, how is your wife doing? 325 00:15:10,760 --> 00:15:13,360 Speaker 1: How great? Now? But I mean it's you know, we 326 00:15:13,440 --> 00:15:15,440 Speaker 1: read the thing five days in a bed, five days 327 00:15:15,440 --> 00:15:18,080 Speaker 1: around the bed, five days, and it's more than that. 328 00:15:18,600 --> 00:15:20,800 Speaker 1: It's way more than yep. Shout out to every woman 329 00:15:20,800 --> 00:15:22,280 Speaker 1: that has to go through this. There's a new respect 330 00:15:22,280 --> 00:15:24,320 Speaker 1: of having gone through it. Like you guys rule. 331 00:15:24,400 --> 00:15:28,720 Speaker 2: We saw it like we are the superior. Yeah, women 332 00:15:28,800 --> 00:15:30,800 Speaker 2: are superior. I agree. 333 00:15:31,160 --> 00:15:33,720 Speaker 1: When did you go out and start singing again on 334 00:15:33,760 --> 00:15:34,120 Speaker 1: the road? 335 00:15:36,040 --> 00:15:39,120 Speaker 2: I had my first show. I think she was about 336 00:15:39,160 --> 00:15:39,800 Speaker 2: three months old. 337 00:15:40,240 --> 00:15:42,960 Speaker 1: Did you were you there physically? 338 00:15:43,520 --> 00:15:48,400 Speaker 2: No? But it was actually I don't even know if 339 00:15:48,400 --> 00:15:50,880 Speaker 2: I've talked about this, but I sobbed hysterically that I 340 00:15:50,920 --> 00:15:53,040 Speaker 2: had to go back to work. I was not ready, 341 00:15:53,720 --> 00:15:56,120 Speaker 2: and I thought, I mean when I was like looking 342 00:15:56,120 --> 00:15:58,400 Speaker 2: at the calendar, right, I was like, oh, I'll be 343 00:15:58,560 --> 00:16:02,400 Speaker 2: so ready by it was end of August. She was born, 344 00:16:03,920 --> 00:16:06,440 Speaker 2: like I literally think it was maybe the last day 345 00:16:06,480 --> 00:16:08,920 Speaker 2: of August. That was my first show, and she was 346 00:16:08,920 --> 00:16:12,720 Speaker 2: born June eleventh, So that's actually sooner than I thought 347 00:16:12,760 --> 00:16:13,640 Speaker 2: now that I'm thinking about it. 348 00:16:13,920 --> 00:16:15,680 Speaker 1: What also blows me away is that we don't have 349 00:16:15,800 --> 00:16:17,360 Speaker 1: like full paid maternity leave. 350 00:16:18,200 --> 00:16:20,400 Speaker 2: Well, and I don't have paid maternity leave at all. 351 00:16:20,480 --> 00:16:24,160 Speaker 1: That our government doesn't like, right, that's what you're saying, yes, 352 00:16:24,440 --> 00:16:28,160 Speaker 1: because some countries it's it's like three months paid fully 353 00:16:28,280 --> 00:16:31,440 Speaker 1: maternity leave. Yeah, ours is like you had a baby, 354 00:16:31,600 --> 00:16:34,080 Speaker 1: all right, you do at nine a m get to work. 355 00:16:34,360 --> 00:16:36,360 Speaker 1: It's crazy. There's just a whole new respect from me 356 00:16:36,440 --> 00:16:37,520 Speaker 1: because I've not gone through it. 357 00:16:37,680 --> 00:16:40,800 Speaker 2: I have so much respect for just mothers in general too, 358 00:16:40,840 --> 00:16:45,200 Speaker 2: because I am very fortunate in that my job, she 359 00:16:45,280 --> 00:16:51,600 Speaker 2: goes with me mostly. It's starting to be, like I have. 360 00:16:51,960 --> 00:16:54,840 Speaker 2: The whole month of May is going to be a tough, 361 00:16:55,080 --> 00:16:57,760 Speaker 2: tough month for me. She'll be fine because I'm going 362 00:16:57,840 --> 00:17:01,000 Speaker 2: to leave her with her dad and I have West 363 00:17:01,000 --> 00:17:04,520 Speaker 2: Coast runs and I'm just not I'm not doing that 364 00:17:04,560 --> 00:17:08,400 Speaker 2: to her. So I now I'm at the stage where 365 00:17:08,400 --> 00:17:11,919 Speaker 2: I'm leaving her. But I think, you know, but a 366 00:17:11,960 --> 00:17:14,160 Speaker 2: lot of mothers have to go back to work way 367 00:17:14,280 --> 00:17:16,920 Speaker 2: sooner than I did, and they're they're gone from them 368 00:17:16,920 --> 00:17:20,320 Speaker 2: all day long. I guess the real difference is like 369 00:17:20,359 --> 00:17:22,560 Speaker 2: when I'm gone from her, I'm I don't come home 370 00:17:22,600 --> 00:17:23,119 Speaker 2: at night. 371 00:17:23,520 --> 00:17:24,360 Speaker 1: So for a few days. 372 00:17:24,440 --> 00:17:29,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm gone for stretches of time. But this may 373 00:17:29,160 --> 00:17:31,000 Speaker 2: will be the first time where I've left her more 374 00:17:31,040 --> 00:17:32,480 Speaker 2: than like forty eight hours. 375 00:17:33,000 --> 00:17:33,200 Speaker 3: May. 376 00:17:33,320 --> 00:17:35,280 Speaker 1: Second, you're doing the iHeart Country Festival. 377 00:17:35,440 --> 00:17:38,240 Speaker 2: I am to Luke Bryn're gonna leave her there. 378 00:17:38,160 --> 00:17:40,840 Speaker 1: Kane Brown, Wait, you're gonna leve her in Texas? I'm 379 00:17:41,200 --> 00:17:43,400 Speaker 1: She's coming to Texas. No, that's not her home. Don't 380 00:17:43,440 --> 00:17:45,120 Speaker 1: leave her there. At least leave her here. 381 00:17:45,160 --> 00:17:48,960 Speaker 2: I'm gonna leave her, I believe. Well, we haven't talked 382 00:17:48,960 --> 00:17:51,399 Speaker 2: about that. One's a quick one, so in Texas is 383 00:17:51,440 --> 00:17:54,200 Speaker 2: a little bit easier, so we're figuring out. Sorry, yes, 384 00:17:54,240 --> 00:17:56,040 Speaker 2: I'm going to Texas. I interrupted in talking. 385 00:17:56,800 --> 00:17:59,720 Speaker 1: It's a big show. Everybody should get tickets ticketmaster dot com. 386 00:18:00,040 --> 00:18:02,439 Speaker 1: One final question. You were a gifted to Bronco by 387 00:18:02,480 --> 00:18:04,760 Speaker 1: Rascal Lights. Yes, I saw the picture. 388 00:18:05,200 --> 00:18:07,840 Speaker 2: It's real. I'vey blindfolded us and took us out to 389 00:18:07,960 --> 00:18:10,600 Speaker 2: the garage and I was like, maybe they got us 390 00:18:10,640 --> 00:18:12,359 Speaker 2: a golf cart or something. I don't know. And then 391 00:18:12,400 --> 00:18:15,840 Speaker 2: they cranked up these cars and then a steal was like, 392 00:18:15,880 --> 00:18:18,280 Speaker 2: they're gonna put us in these cars and take us somewhere. 393 00:18:18,320 --> 00:18:20,240 Speaker 2: And then I realized that was my car. 394 00:18:20,280 --> 00:18:21,160 Speaker 1: They were giving you the car. 395 00:18:21,240 --> 00:18:23,840 Speaker 2: They gave us the car shipped it. I mean we 396 00:18:23,840 --> 00:18:26,240 Speaker 2: didn't drive them home from there, obviously, because we had 397 00:18:26,280 --> 00:18:29,040 Speaker 2: more shows, so they shipped the cars like they just 398 00:18:29,119 --> 00:18:31,200 Speaker 2: one day. I walked outside and it was in my driveway? 399 00:18:31,280 --> 00:18:32,840 Speaker 1: Is that the greatest tour gift you've ever gotten? 400 00:18:34,359 --> 00:18:34,719 Speaker 2: Yeah? 401 00:18:35,119 --> 00:18:38,320 Speaker 1: I mean that's insane. Well, I appreciate you talking about 402 00:18:38,359 --> 00:18:38,960 Speaker 1: all that stuff with me. 403 00:18:39,200 --> 00:18:42,400 Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, And I'm here if you have any questions. 404 00:18:42,440 --> 00:18:44,000 Speaker 1: And my wife says same thing about you. She's like, 405 00:18:44,040 --> 00:18:46,000 Speaker 1: she's so grateful that you've reached out and. 406 00:18:46,280 --> 00:18:48,119 Speaker 2: Been She's asked me a couple of questions. I'm like, 407 00:18:48,119 --> 00:18:51,760 Speaker 2: there are no dumb questions because you know nothing. You 408 00:18:51,800 --> 00:18:53,879 Speaker 2: have this baby. Get back to the nurse thing. You 409 00:18:53,960 --> 00:18:56,160 Speaker 2: have this baby, and these people will help you bring 410 00:18:56,200 --> 00:18:58,280 Speaker 2: this baby into the world. And then they're like, here's 411 00:18:58,280 --> 00:19:00,000 Speaker 2: how the car seat goes in the car. Good luck. 412 00:19:00,160 --> 00:19:01,560 Speaker 1: Then you go home You're like, where do I put it? 413 00:19:01,720 --> 00:19:02,800 Speaker 2: Where does it? 414 00:19:03,200 --> 00:19:03,440 Speaker 3: Yeah? 415 00:19:03,760 --> 00:19:06,280 Speaker 2: But there, you know. And I told her about this 416 00:19:06,320 --> 00:19:09,080 Speaker 2: little thing that we laid Benny in. I told her 417 00:19:09,119 --> 00:19:10,639 Speaker 2: about it. It's like a pillow. Do you all have it? 418 00:19:10,920 --> 00:19:11,639 Speaker 1: Probably we have. 419 00:19:11,800 --> 00:19:13,639 Speaker 2: There's like a little indentation in the center of it. 420 00:19:13,720 --> 00:19:14,320 Speaker 1: Oh, we do have that. 421 00:19:14,400 --> 00:19:15,399 Speaker 2: Yeah. I told her to get that. 422 00:19:15,480 --> 00:19:16,040 Speaker 1: We do have that. 423 00:19:16,119 --> 00:19:17,560 Speaker 2: I'm trying to think of what it's called, but I 424 00:19:17,560 --> 00:19:18,679 Speaker 2: sent her to the link and stuff. 425 00:19:18,760 --> 00:19:21,120 Speaker 1: Final question, what's the best thing about being a mom? 426 00:19:22,119 --> 00:19:27,600 Speaker 2: Oh man, there's so many wonderful things. The way she 427 00:19:27,680 --> 00:19:35,480 Speaker 2: loves me, just the most pure innocence, love the way 428 00:19:35,520 --> 00:19:43,359 Speaker 2: she looks at me and needs me, and like just yeah, 429 00:19:43,680 --> 00:19:51,080 Speaker 2: the there's nothing like it this to know that I 430 00:19:51,160 --> 00:19:54,399 Speaker 2: am and my husband too. But it's different with the 431 00:19:54,440 --> 00:19:56,320 Speaker 2: mother a little bit. But I am the number one 432 00:19:56,359 --> 00:20:01,000 Speaker 2: person in her life and I don't like just yeah, 433 00:20:01,080 --> 00:20:03,760 Speaker 2: oh my goodness, and she says mama and that was 434 00:20:03,800 --> 00:20:05,800 Speaker 2: her first word, and that was pretty good. 435 00:20:08,240 --> 00:20:13,840 Speaker 1: Thank you, Lauren. Okay. On this episode we have kickoff 436 00:20:13,920 --> 00:20:17,200 Speaker 1: Kevin who has twins. Congratulations on that, Thank you very much. Dude. 437 00:20:17,240 --> 00:20:21,280 Speaker 1: That's crazy wild. But you don't know the difference, Like 438 00:20:21,320 --> 00:20:22,359 Speaker 1: you don't know what it would be like to have 439 00:20:22,359 --> 00:20:25,200 Speaker 1: one because I have one. Yeah, you just had two. 440 00:20:25,800 --> 00:20:27,480 Speaker 1: I think if you had one, then you had two. 441 00:20:27,560 --> 00:20:30,600 Speaker 1: Like my friend Ben Rector had a baby is it 442 00:20:30,600 --> 00:20:32,480 Speaker 1: a girl? And then they were gonna have another baby. 443 00:20:32,480 --> 00:20:33,560 Speaker 1: Then they had twins, so they know what it's like 444 00:20:33,640 --> 00:20:35,760 Speaker 1: to have one, but then they had two. Ooh. 445 00:20:35,960 --> 00:20:38,119 Speaker 3: And does he talk about how much harder two is 446 00:20:38,160 --> 00:20:38,840 Speaker 3: compared to one? 447 00:20:38,960 --> 00:20:40,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, and I know it's gonna be really hard even 448 00:20:40,960 --> 00:20:42,280 Speaker 1: for you, But I don't know that you know the 449 00:20:42,280 --> 00:20:44,400 Speaker 1: difference and how easy it could have been with just one. 450 00:20:44,520 --> 00:20:46,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't we always like my wife and I 451 00:20:46,320 --> 00:20:49,160 Speaker 3: always hypothetically talk about imagine if we just. 452 00:20:49,119 --> 00:20:51,120 Speaker 1: Had one, like you spread them out, one than one? 453 00:20:51,240 --> 00:20:53,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, one, then one. But then we always say, but 454 00:20:53,040 --> 00:20:55,200 Speaker 3: imagine if we had three or four at the same time, 455 00:20:55,600 --> 00:20:58,120 Speaker 3: so you can always like go either avenue, I guess, 456 00:20:58,160 --> 00:21:00,240 Speaker 3: but yeah, we say that all the time, like at 457 00:21:00,320 --> 00:21:03,199 Speaker 3: least we started this way instead of having one and 458 00:21:03,240 --> 00:21:05,359 Speaker 3: then too. Now I just hope we don't have another 459 00:21:05,480 --> 00:21:06,440 Speaker 3: set of twins. 460 00:21:07,040 --> 00:21:10,360 Speaker 1: Does that ever happen where people have multiple sets of twins? Yeah, 461 00:21:10,400 --> 00:21:12,399 Speaker 1: you had them in your family, hers and she has 462 00:21:12,440 --> 00:21:14,840 Speaker 1: a lot of twins, a lot. Yeah, was she a twin? 463 00:21:15,200 --> 00:21:16,359 Speaker 3: No, No, she wasn't. 464 00:21:16,440 --> 00:21:18,520 Speaker 1: I made a list of things because ours is still 465 00:21:18,520 --> 00:21:22,800 Speaker 1: considered a newborn of really important items that I'm glad 466 00:21:22,840 --> 00:21:24,600 Speaker 1: we knew of. And if you have any want to 467 00:21:24,600 --> 00:21:26,080 Speaker 1: throw into this, she can. But there's something called a 468 00:21:26,080 --> 00:21:28,920 Speaker 1: bobby familiar with the Bobby No, you probably are, maybe 469 00:21:28,920 --> 00:21:30,119 Speaker 1: the brand name, I don't know. It's like a thing 470 00:21:30,160 --> 00:21:31,600 Speaker 1: that wraps. It's a pillow that kind of is a 471 00:21:31,640 --> 00:21:35,240 Speaker 1: half circle, and so it's used for a lot of things, 472 00:21:35,320 --> 00:21:40,479 Speaker 1: for if I'm sitting the baby up, if you're like 473 00:21:40,760 --> 00:21:43,040 Speaker 1: our baby has like at times, like some reflex stuff 474 00:21:43,320 --> 00:21:45,840 Speaker 1: like the Bobby's legitimate as a pillow that goes around 475 00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:46,679 Speaker 1: your waist for the baby. 476 00:21:46,840 --> 00:21:48,320 Speaker 3: Yes, now I know what you're talking about. 477 00:21:48,400 --> 00:21:49,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, that could also be the brand. 478 00:21:50,480 --> 00:21:52,639 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I think we just called it a horseshoe 479 00:21:52,680 --> 00:21:53,280 Speaker 3: pillow or something. 480 00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:54,680 Speaker 1: That's probably good name for it. 481 00:21:54,800 --> 00:21:55,080 Speaker 3: Okay. 482 00:21:55,119 --> 00:21:57,400 Speaker 1: There's also and I've mentioned this, there's a rubber duck 483 00:21:57,480 --> 00:21:59,760 Speaker 1: that we have that has the temperature on the rubber 484 00:21:59,840 --> 00:22:00,800 Speaker 1: duck where you put it in the water. 485 00:22:01,200 --> 00:22:01,840 Speaker 3: That's legit. 486 00:22:02,040 --> 00:22:03,800 Speaker 1: Oh, it's the greatest thing. I thought everybody knew about this. 487 00:22:04,280 --> 00:22:06,480 Speaker 1: It's a rubber ducky, a yellow rubber ducky and on 488 00:22:06,520 --> 00:22:07,960 Speaker 1: the bottom you just flip it on and then you 489 00:22:07,960 --> 00:22:09,280 Speaker 1: put it on the water and it tells you the 490 00:22:09,280 --> 00:22:11,439 Speaker 1: temperature of the water. Huh, so you don't burn the 491 00:22:11,480 --> 00:22:12,600 Speaker 1: baby mine. 492 00:22:12,680 --> 00:22:13,960 Speaker 3: Our temperature is just a finger. 493 00:22:14,000 --> 00:22:16,400 Speaker 1: And well, now I'm getting good because of the rubber ducky. 494 00:22:16,440 --> 00:22:17,080 Speaker 3: I'm getting good. 495 00:22:17,359 --> 00:22:20,439 Speaker 1: But this thing's like six bucks. I encourage everybody on 496 00:22:20,440 --> 00:22:23,520 Speaker 1: Amazon if if you're wondering how even for me, I 497 00:22:23,640 --> 00:22:27,000 Speaker 1: take a bath at one fourteen, you know your temperature? Well, 498 00:22:27,040 --> 00:22:29,240 Speaker 1: could I put the duck in there? Because once we 499 00:22:29,280 --> 00:22:33,600 Speaker 1: had the baby, and because before that you didn't no idea, 500 00:22:33,680 --> 00:22:37,440 Speaker 1: had no idea. But Chad GBT was like, hey, if 501 00:22:37,480 --> 00:22:39,320 Speaker 1: you're going to give a baby a bath, it should 502 00:22:39,359 --> 00:22:41,639 Speaker 1: be around ninety nine to one hundred, which is just 503 00:22:41,680 --> 00:22:44,480 Speaker 1: kind of warm. It's not even that hot body temperature. Okay, 504 00:22:44,560 --> 00:22:46,359 Speaker 1: so you got to think we're ninety nine ninety eight 505 00:22:46,400 --> 00:22:50,320 Speaker 1: point six whatever. So it's basically body temperature water to 506 00:22:51,320 --> 00:22:54,280 Speaker 1: give the baby a bath in. And then obviously I'm 507 00:22:54,320 --> 00:22:55,879 Speaker 1: curious about my own bath, so I would run it 508 00:22:55,880 --> 00:22:57,760 Speaker 1: to I would normally have it, and it's at one 509 00:22:57,800 --> 00:23:00,960 Speaker 1: fourteen to one sixteen. I think that's pretty hot for 510 00:23:01,080 --> 00:23:04,200 Speaker 1: a human, because my wife will sometimes forget that I've 511 00:23:04,720 --> 00:23:06,800 Speaker 1: run the bath and then she'll just turn it on 512 00:23:07,040 --> 00:23:08,680 Speaker 1: and then she'll put her foot in out here and go. 513 00:23:08,720 --> 00:23:12,280 Speaker 3: What the heck, man, it's so hot, dude. We're opposite 514 00:23:12,320 --> 00:23:15,320 Speaker 3: where my wife is super hot and I'm the opposite. 515 00:23:14,960 --> 00:23:17,879 Speaker 1: Where I like a cooler, the boppy, the rubber you 516 00:23:17,880 --> 00:23:18,760 Speaker 1: gotta get a rubber duck. 517 00:23:19,000 --> 00:23:20,880 Speaker 3: I was gonna say, the rubber duck is awesome. 518 00:23:20,920 --> 00:23:22,639 Speaker 1: Do you like your your kids are? 519 00:23:22,640 --> 00:23:24,760 Speaker 3: How old? Now ten and a half months? 520 00:23:25,520 --> 00:23:27,600 Speaker 1: So what do I have to look forward to, like, 521 00:23:27,640 --> 00:23:30,120 Speaker 1: what are the cool things between like one and six months. 522 00:23:30,320 --> 00:23:33,159 Speaker 3: Well, right now, you're still early enough, I think where 523 00:23:33,520 --> 00:23:36,520 Speaker 3: you're just basically trying to keep her alive. Yeah, not 524 00:23:36,520 --> 00:23:38,040 Speaker 3: to be dramatic, but at the end of the day, 525 00:23:38,040 --> 00:23:38,760 Speaker 3: it's kind of what it is. 526 00:23:38,800 --> 00:23:40,959 Speaker 1: I'm basically trying to keep my wife alive, to keep 527 00:23:41,000 --> 00:23:43,520 Speaker 1: the big alive. It's really hard too. 528 00:23:43,600 --> 00:23:45,359 Speaker 3: And then so now you really have to look forward 529 00:23:45,400 --> 00:23:47,200 Speaker 3: to and even like my kids at ten and a 530 00:23:47,200 --> 00:23:50,000 Speaker 3: half months are changing every day, but really like after 531 00:23:50,080 --> 00:23:54,280 Speaker 3: six months or so, you start to see these personalities. 532 00:23:54,880 --> 00:23:56,639 Speaker 1: Six months when that happens, Yeah. 533 00:23:56,400 --> 00:23:59,360 Speaker 3: Like big even before that, but now it's really really 534 00:23:59,400 --> 00:24:02,040 Speaker 3: starting to come through after six months and the difference. 535 00:24:02,080 --> 00:24:04,560 Speaker 3: The good thing about twins is you see just how 536 00:24:04,600 --> 00:24:07,840 Speaker 3: different each one is. So like my girl is just wild, 537 00:24:07,840 --> 00:24:10,439 Speaker 3: she's a wild child, just wants to go go, go, yell, scream, 538 00:24:10,920 --> 00:24:13,080 Speaker 3: and then my boys just kind of sits back, puts 539 00:24:13,080 --> 00:24:15,800 Speaker 3: his fingers together, that kind of stuff. So it's really 540 00:24:15,800 --> 00:24:19,440 Speaker 3: cool to see the personalities come out and like which 541 00:24:19,440 --> 00:24:22,200 Speaker 3: one might be more like you, or if she's gonna 542 00:24:22,240 --> 00:24:25,719 Speaker 3: be more like you or more like your wife. And 543 00:24:25,760 --> 00:24:28,480 Speaker 3: then as they get older, like, legit, every day, it's 544 00:24:28,480 --> 00:24:30,840 Speaker 3: a little bit more every single day. Once you hit 545 00:24:30,840 --> 00:24:33,040 Speaker 3: that little bit of personality in a few months from now, 546 00:24:33,280 --> 00:24:36,040 Speaker 3: and then from then on it just goes so fast. 547 00:24:36,240 --> 00:24:37,960 Speaker 1: It's just me reading stuff, but it says it's a 548 00:24:37,960 --> 00:24:41,320 Speaker 1: big shift around three months where they start smiling regularly. 549 00:24:41,640 --> 00:24:44,680 Speaker 1: And baby Billy smiles now, but usually it's from gas 550 00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:47,240 Speaker 1: or something. Yeah, it's mostly a muscle thing, I think, 551 00:24:47,359 --> 00:24:50,119 Speaker 1: unless she's just delighted with me while she's pooping, I think, 552 00:24:50,720 --> 00:24:55,280 Speaker 1: so smiling regularly, the first laugh, stronger neck. That's around 553 00:24:55,280 --> 00:24:57,119 Speaker 1: two to three months. Is that pretty cool when the 554 00:24:57,119 --> 00:24:58,240 Speaker 1: baby starts to react to you. 555 00:24:58,440 --> 00:25:00,960 Speaker 3: Yeah, I was just gonna say the best now. I mean, 556 00:25:01,080 --> 00:25:03,720 Speaker 3: I get I walk in the door and both the 557 00:25:03,760 --> 00:25:05,800 Speaker 3: kids like they'll hear their door open and they'll kind 558 00:25:05,840 --> 00:25:07,960 Speaker 3: of pop up in the playpen and they'll look through 559 00:25:07,960 --> 00:25:10,639 Speaker 3: the bars and they'll see me and just these big smiles, 560 00:25:11,160 --> 00:25:14,320 Speaker 3: and I'm telling you, like, there is no better feeling. 561 00:25:14,359 --> 00:25:16,919 Speaker 3: I've heard all about that growing up, But that is 562 00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:18,679 Speaker 3: the best part getting home. Even if you had a 563 00:25:18,680 --> 00:25:21,280 Speaker 3: crappy day, word, crappy day doing whatever. You see that 564 00:25:21,440 --> 00:25:23,600 Speaker 3: and they they don't care, they don't know about anything, 565 00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:25,760 Speaker 3: but you see that smile, even at this young of 566 00:25:25,800 --> 00:25:28,080 Speaker 3: an age, like it'll change your entire day when you 567 00:25:28,080 --> 00:25:28,399 Speaker 3: see that. 568 00:25:28,880 --> 00:25:31,560 Speaker 1: Any items that I haven't mentioned that you guys live 569 00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:36,240 Speaker 1: by diaper genie, I don't know. It's a pediatrician. They 570 00:25:36,280 --> 00:25:40,080 Speaker 1: have one, but it always stinks ours doesn't. Oh okay, 571 00:25:40,119 --> 00:25:42,359 Speaker 1: So the reason that we didn't do diaper genie is 572 00:25:42,359 --> 00:25:44,520 Speaker 1: because it smells like poop coming to that thing. It's 573 00:25:44,520 --> 00:25:46,879 Speaker 1: the pediatrician. But maybe that's just because people are reckless 574 00:25:46,920 --> 00:25:47,600 Speaker 1: because it's not theirs. 575 00:25:47,800 --> 00:25:50,119 Speaker 3: Yeah, probably because we've had ours since day one and 576 00:25:50,160 --> 00:25:53,240 Speaker 3: were still I use it literally ever have a hole 577 00:25:53,240 --> 00:25:54,879 Speaker 3: in it. It turned like you throw it in and 578 00:25:54,920 --> 00:25:57,639 Speaker 3: it turns and not a turn, like you kind of 579 00:25:57,680 --> 00:25:59,239 Speaker 3: shove it down or you toss it down in there 580 00:25:59,240 --> 00:26:01,280 Speaker 3: and it has like a little like contraption where you know, 581 00:26:01,280 --> 00:26:03,359 Speaker 3: when the diper goes through, it shuts back up. Okay, Yeah, 582 00:26:03,359 --> 00:26:05,199 Speaker 3: And I mean it's in our living room and we 583 00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:06,600 Speaker 3: don't even smell anything. 584 00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:10,119 Speaker 1: Something that I knew nothing about. And you guys are 585 00:26:10,200 --> 00:26:12,840 Speaker 1: double time this how many diapers a baby uses? Oh 586 00:26:12,880 --> 00:26:15,680 Speaker 1: my gosh, so much so that it's affected me in 587 00:26:15,720 --> 00:26:19,560 Speaker 1: a way of we donate diapers every week, because I 588 00:26:19,600 --> 00:26:22,840 Speaker 1: don't know that if you're just getting by like week 589 00:26:22,880 --> 00:26:24,520 Speaker 1: to week, like if you live a paycheck to paycheck 590 00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:27,119 Speaker 1: and you also got to buy diapers, that's so much money. 591 00:26:27,200 --> 00:26:30,520 Speaker 3: It's insane. Luckily for us, shout out my father in law. 592 00:26:30,520 --> 00:26:32,880 Speaker 3: We've only had to buy like two boxes, I think 593 00:26:33,200 --> 00:26:35,560 Speaker 3: because since day one he's been I'll buy your diapers 594 00:26:35,560 --> 00:26:36,120 Speaker 3: for you, man. 595 00:26:36,160 --> 00:26:38,639 Speaker 1: That is awesome. That's like a scholarship to college. 596 00:26:38,720 --> 00:26:40,879 Speaker 3: Yeah. Every time we run out, especially with two, we 597 00:26:40,960 --> 00:26:42,720 Speaker 3: go through so much. Every time we run out, we 598 00:26:42,760 --> 00:26:46,000 Speaker 3: text them next days on our doorstep. It's the best. 599 00:26:46,480 --> 00:26:48,200 Speaker 3: And wipes and wipes. 600 00:26:48,200 --> 00:26:49,320 Speaker 1: There's a lot of wipes. 601 00:26:49,560 --> 00:26:54,800 Speaker 3: What about cloths like baby cloths, like wiping cloths so 602 00:26:54,960 --> 00:26:56,960 Speaker 3: like Burt Brabs. Yeah, I couldn't think of the word. 603 00:26:56,960 --> 00:26:58,840 Speaker 1: There are times where I'm walking around the house and 604 00:26:58,880 --> 00:27:00,240 Speaker 1: I just look in a mirror and I've got two me. 605 00:27:00,280 --> 00:27:02,359 Speaker 1: I don't even remember putting them on me, but there's 606 00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:03,879 Speaker 1: like one on a shoulder, it's like a back of 607 00:27:03,920 --> 00:27:05,679 Speaker 1: my shirt. It's almost like when you take clothes out 608 00:27:05,680 --> 00:27:08,199 Speaker 1: of a dryer and there's like a sock attached to 609 00:27:08,240 --> 00:27:10,000 Speaker 1: your pants and you didn't realize that because the static cling. 610 00:27:10,200 --> 00:27:12,080 Speaker 1: Like I have burn cloths just on me. I'll go 611 00:27:12,119 --> 00:27:13,840 Speaker 1: to work in the morning and I got to do 612 00:27:13,880 --> 00:27:16,199 Speaker 1: a burn cloth check to make sure nothing is attached 613 00:27:16,200 --> 00:27:19,440 Speaker 1: to me right now, Yeah, they're everywhere. And the fact 614 00:27:19,480 --> 00:27:22,000 Speaker 1: that you grow out of baby the babies grow so fat. 615 00:27:22,040 --> 00:27:24,919 Speaker 1: And again I'm only three four weeks into this, but 616 00:27:25,200 --> 00:27:28,320 Speaker 1: she's already grown out of so many onesies. 617 00:27:28,520 --> 00:27:31,400 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, it's it's it's insane. 618 00:27:31,480 --> 00:27:32,399 Speaker 1: What a racket that is. 619 00:27:32,480 --> 00:27:34,400 Speaker 3: It's insane. And like I let my wife do whatever, 620 00:27:34,440 --> 00:27:36,240 Speaker 3: you know, get her clothes, but she's learning as she 621 00:27:36,280 --> 00:27:38,040 Speaker 3: goes along, Like why do we need all these clothes 622 00:27:38,040 --> 00:27:40,280 Speaker 3: because half of them they'll never wear because they just 623 00:27:40,280 --> 00:27:42,439 Speaker 3: grow out them so fast, especially the Onesi's at that 624 00:27:42,560 --> 00:27:44,520 Speaker 3: little And then you just start buying, like when they're 625 00:27:44,560 --> 00:27:46,320 Speaker 3: six months, you buy nine months because they're just gonna 626 00:27:46,320 --> 00:27:48,000 Speaker 3: grow into even if it's big now. 627 00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:50,280 Speaker 1: So you put them. Ah, that's good, you put them 628 00:27:50,280 --> 00:27:51,840 Speaker 1: in something a little bigger so we will have it longer. 629 00:27:52,000 --> 00:27:55,520 Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, especially if you're buying something nice. 630 00:27:56,320 --> 00:27:59,600 Speaker 1: We've got rules. No nice clothes good right now? I 631 00:27:59,640 --> 00:28:04,560 Speaker 1: mean I who knows, but right it's all generic good. 632 00:28:04,840 --> 00:28:06,600 Speaker 1: I'm not sure when my wife gets it. But there's 633 00:28:06,680 --> 00:28:09,320 Speaker 1: no name brand. The fact they make name brand baby 634 00:28:09,359 --> 00:28:12,520 Speaker 1: stuff is crazy to me. I know it's only for Instagram. 635 00:28:12,160 --> 00:28:15,119 Speaker 3: Right, Oh yeah, absolutely, And and kind of like a 636 00:28:15,119 --> 00:28:17,000 Speaker 3: lot of other people were you go out and your 637 00:28:17,000 --> 00:28:19,520 Speaker 3: baby's wearing this nice whatever brand and it's almost like 638 00:28:19,560 --> 00:28:20,960 Speaker 3: it this is for other people, not really for us. 639 00:28:20,960 --> 00:28:22,560 Speaker 3: They don't wear this unless we go out in public 640 00:28:22,720 --> 00:28:24,440 Speaker 3: so we can show other people we have this nice 641 00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:25,520 Speaker 3: brand on our baby. 642 00:28:25,720 --> 00:28:29,520 Speaker 1: Did you guys have a wedge pillow? No, it's something 643 00:28:29,560 --> 00:28:32,600 Speaker 1: that we use now. It's basically a pillow that's a 644 00:28:32,600 --> 00:28:36,399 Speaker 1: wedge so if the baby needs to like not stand up, 645 00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:39,680 Speaker 1: but be elevated, so not laying down. Okay, the pillow 646 00:28:39,760 --> 00:28:40,280 Speaker 1: is great for that. 647 00:28:40,600 --> 00:28:42,960 Speaker 3: Interesting, I haven't seen that one. 648 00:28:43,040 --> 00:28:43,360 Speaker 1: Yeah. 649 00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:45,680 Speaker 3: I just wait till the baby can hold herself up though. 650 00:28:45,960 --> 00:28:48,400 Speaker 3: That's it's a relief. What do you mean, like, is 651 00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:50,360 Speaker 3: she strong enough to hold her neck up quite yet? 652 00:28:50,400 --> 00:28:51,440 Speaker 1: She turns her head over? 653 00:28:51,600 --> 00:28:54,560 Speaker 3: Okay, but she can't, like she doesn't. 654 00:28:54,280 --> 00:28:57,000 Speaker 1: Mile on the treadmill, max, Dang, she's already there. 655 00:28:57,080 --> 00:29:01,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, she doesn't mind see the little ours, So that's okay. 656 00:29:01,880 --> 00:29:04,640 Speaker 3: But no, when you don't have to like support her 657 00:29:04,720 --> 00:29:07,440 Speaker 3: head in every little movement, and she can start to 658 00:29:07,440 --> 00:29:10,040 Speaker 3: support herself, like if you just move her just even 659 00:29:10,040 --> 00:29:12,440 Speaker 3: from you know, sitting here to sitting here, and you 660 00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:14,320 Speaker 3: don't have to like hold her head as you move her. 661 00:29:14,400 --> 00:29:17,400 Speaker 3: It's just a nice relief just internally, so you don't 662 00:29:17,400 --> 00:29:18,920 Speaker 3: feel like you're going to break a baby's neck. 663 00:29:20,120 --> 00:29:23,680 Speaker 1: I was talking on an episode prior where the car 664 00:29:23,680 --> 00:29:25,440 Speaker 1: seat was actually a lot easier than I thought because 665 00:29:25,440 --> 00:29:27,560 Speaker 1: people had built that up to be you never get 666 00:29:27,600 --> 00:29:30,240 Speaker 1: like a ten thousand piece puzzle with no picture on 667 00:29:30,280 --> 00:29:32,239 Speaker 1: the box, You're never going to figure it out. It's 668 00:29:32,280 --> 00:29:36,560 Speaker 1: actually quite simple. Yeah, And I put a mirror on 669 00:29:36,920 --> 00:29:39,000 Speaker 1: that head rest of the seat so you can see 670 00:29:39,000 --> 00:29:40,160 Speaker 1: in the mirror end of the kit. And then I 671 00:29:40,200 --> 00:29:41,480 Speaker 1: got a lot of message going, hey, you can get 672 00:29:41,520 --> 00:29:44,680 Speaker 1: cameras that are pretty inexpensive, and you so cause I 673 00:29:44,720 --> 00:29:46,200 Speaker 1: don't want. My vision's not good. And also I got 674 00:29:46,280 --> 00:29:47,480 Speaker 1: to look in a mirror to see a mirror to 675 00:29:47,480 --> 00:29:49,800 Speaker 1: see the baby. What do you guys have to see 676 00:29:49,800 --> 00:29:50,200 Speaker 1: the babies? 677 00:29:50,280 --> 00:29:52,280 Speaker 3: We have a mirror. I didn't even know they had cameras. 678 00:29:52,600 --> 00:29:55,040 Speaker 1: We just ordered one. We haven't opened it yet, but 679 00:29:55,080 --> 00:29:56,400 Speaker 1: I didn't know if you had done that at all. 680 00:29:56,560 --> 00:29:59,360 Speaker 3: No, But honestly, I can't stand in the mirrors because 681 00:30:00,360 --> 00:30:02,320 Speaker 3: those are harder to put together than the car seats. 682 00:30:02,320 --> 00:30:03,960 Speaker 3: Ours are the ones that we have. At least we 683 00:30:03,960 --> 00:30:06,120 Speaker 3: should probably get new ones. But like, if we go 684 00:30:06,200 --> 00:30:08,440 Speaker 3: from my wife's car, which is the car seats are 685 00:30:08,440 --> 00:30:11,040 Speaker 3: normally in there, to my truck for whatever reason, I'm like, 686 00:30:11,040 --> 00:30:12,240 Speaker 3: I don't even want to take the mirrors off and 687 00:30:12,280 --> 00:30:14,040 Speaker 3: put them back on, because it's that much of a hassle. 688 00:30:14,080 --> 00:30:16,200 Speaker 1: You go blind on the baby just when you get there, 689 00:30:16,240 --> 00:30:18,120 Speaker 1: you just cross your fingers and help, Oh my god, 690 00:30:18,160 --> 00:30:19,520 Speaker 1: help the baby. 691 00:30:19,640 --> 00:30:21,480 Speaker 3: I just pulled down and I just take a peek 692 00:30:21,480 --> 00:30:22,959 Speaker 3: if I can at a red light. Okay, we're good, 693 00:30:22,960 --> 00:30:25,520 Speaker 3: all right, keep going, And that's about it. But we 694 00:30:25,600 --> 00:30:26,400 Speaker 3: know we have the mirrors. 695 00:30:26,480 --> 00:30:27,680 Speaker 1: What's been the best part about it? 696 00:30:28,560 --> 00:30:31,600 Speaker 3: Man? This is something that I've looked forward to since 697 00:30:31,640 --> 00:30:33,960 Speaker 3: I was little. I have a great relationship with my dad, 698 00:30:34,040 --> 00:30:37,280 Speaker 3: so I think just looking forward to this my entire life, 699 00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:39,800 Speaker 3: but not rushing it at the same time, like, thank 700 00:30:39,800 --> 00:30:42,560 Speaker 3: God I found a great woman and a great mom 701 00:30:42,600 --> 00:30:44,360 Speaker 3: and a great wife. So I think the best part 702 00:30:44,360 --> 00:30:47,440 Speaker 3: has been like it's been everything I've wanted my entire life. 703 00:30:47,440 --> 00:30:48,800 Speaker 3: But then even. 704 00:30:48,600 --> 00:30:50,440 Speaker 1: More, what's been the hardest part about it. 705 00:30:50,640 --> 00:30:54,440 Speaker 3: Sleep by far, Because we have our little boy, he's 706 00:30:54,440 --> 00:30:56,680 Speaker 3: still not sleeping to to night, so we wake up 707 00:30:56,720 --> 00:30:58,160 Speaker 3: at least once to night with him, and then he 708 00:30:58,200 --> 00:31:00,480 Speaker 3: wakes her up sometimes, so then it's like you get 709 00:31:00,480 --> 00:31:02,280 Speaker 3: the double whammy and then you're up for an hour 710 00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:05,200 Speaker 3: instead of just being over fifteen minutes, and then you 711 00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:06,320 Speaker 3: try to go back to sleep, and then the other 712 00:31:06,320 --> 00:31:09,000 Speaker 3: one wakes up. So just the lack of sleep and 713 00:31:09,040 --> 00:31:12,480 Speaker 3: like the inconsistent sleep schedule is definite over them too. 714 00:31:13,880 --> 00:31:15,480 Speaker 3: And it would take an when they were a little 715 00:31:15,560 --> 00:31:18,040 Speaker 3: little month, first month or two, it would take an 716 00:31:18,080 --> 00:31:19,320 Speaker 3: hour and a half when they would wake up in 717 00:31:19,320 --> 00:31:21,640 Speaker 3: the mid night to feed them, could feed them, burp them, 718 00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:23,160 Speaker 3: change them. All that would take an hour and a 719 00:31:23,160 --> 00:31:24,240 Speaker 3: half to get both of them done. 720 00:31:25,640 --> 00:31:29,680 Speaker 1: I get so excited when there was a big bar 721 00:31:29,960 --> 00:31:33,280 Speaker 1: type belly fat man burp that comes out of hers. 722 00:31:34,600 --> 00:31:35,440 Speaker 3: You know how good it feels? 723 00:31:35,520 --> 00:31:37,280 Speaker 1: Yes, And also it's like, you know, you get an 724 00:31:37,280 --> 00:31:39,320 Speaker 1: iPhone used to peel that plastic off and you'd be 725 00:31:39,360 --> 00:31:42,000 Speaker 1: like that's so satisfying, Like this is stupid, but it 726 00:31:42,080 --> 00:31:44,640 Speaker 1: just Matt, that's kind of when if I'm burboner, like 727 00:31:44,680 --> 00:31:48,720 Speaker 1: if my wife's done and I'm doing That's what I'm 728 00:31:48,720 --> 00:31:51,640 Speaker 1: talking about. Yeah, because at first too, like they're so small, 729 00:31:51,840 --> 00:31:54,600 Speaker 1: you really don't You get a little tight looked tap 730 00:31:54,800 --> 00:31:57,560 Speaker 1: and then you realize these babies are built to be burned. Yeah, 731 00:31:57,600 --> 00:31:59,600 Speaker 1: that's a pretty satisfying part of being a bad So far, 732 00:31:59,680 --> 00:32:01,960 Speaker 1: did your wife I wish you ever telling you like 733 00:32:02,000 --> 00:32:03,760 Speaker 1: stop hitting and stop hitting her so hard or any 734 00:32:03,760 --> 00:32:06,760 Speaker 1: they know, because she was doing it before me because 735 00:32:06,760 --> 00:32:08,920 Speaker 1: I was scared to death. I never I'd ever held 736 00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:11,920 Speaker 1: one baby ever my whole life prior to our baby, 737 00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:14,000 Speaker 1: and it was for like thirty seconds. It was my nephew, 738 00:32:14,040 --> 00:32:15,440 Speaker 1: because I think they were like, hey hold this baby 739 00:32:15,440 --> 00:32:18,800 Speaker 1: for a second. So anything any of my relationship mentally 740 00:32:18,840 --> 00:32:20,280 Speaker 1: with the baby was I'm going to break this thing, 741 00:32:20,360 --> 00:32:23,520 Speaker 1: so do not touch. Uh. So mine was always like 742 00:32:23,520 --> 00:32:25,280 Speaker 1: one finger tap and she's like no, no, no, you're not 743 00:32:25,280 --> 00:32:27,640 Speaker 1: gonna get anything out of her unless you really. The 744 00:32:27,680 --> 00:32:29,560 Speaker 1: other thing that I've learned is like the rub up 745 00:32:29,920 --> 00:32:30,360 Speaker 1: on the back. 746 00:32:30,520 --> 00:32:32,480 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, that's. 747 00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:34,840 Speaker 1: Been good for me to get some burps. 748 00:32:34,360 --> 00:32:36,680 Speaker 3: Out, Like your wife does it to you. 749 00:32:36,680 --> 00:32:39,600 Speaker 1: No, I wish I wish you would do like because 750 00:32:39,600 --> 00:32:42,120 Speaker 1: you could do like bicycle legs to get to get poop. 751 00:32:42,200 --> 00:32:43,480 Speaker 1: I told my wife, I want to do some of 752 00:32:43,480 --> 00:32:44,960 Speaker 1: this stuff, like do some of this stuff to me 753 00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:49,400 Speaker 1: because I have stomach issues. So what do I have 754 00:32:49,440 --> 00:32:50,920 Speaker 1: to look like? What's the best part about the next 755 00:32:50,920 --> 00:32:51,880 Speaker 1: few months coming up for me? 756 00:32:52,400 --> 00:32:56,920 Speaker 3: Just the drastic change of like not her, not you, 757 00:32:57,040 --> 00:32:58,560 Speaker 3: just you know, trying to keep her alive. Like I 758 00:32:58,600 --> 00:33:00,960 Speaker 3: said earlier, Now you're really going to to She's gonna 759 00:33:00,960 --> 00:33:03,720 Speaker 3: start to notice you. She's gonna to your point, she's 760 00:33:03,720 --> 00:33:06,239 Speaker 3: already kind of seen you and noticed you a little bit, 761 00:33:06,280 --> 00:33:09,440 Speaker 3: but then she'll start following you, She'll start laughing at 762 00:33:09,480 --> 00:33:11,760 Speaker 3: things you say. You'll make her laugh. Then the little giggle, 763 00:33:11,800 --> 00:33:13,640 Speaker 3: I mean, there's nothing like a baby's giggle, especially when 764 00:33:13,640 --> 00:33:16,240 Speaker 3: it's her own baby. So I think just seeing that 765 00:33:16,320 --> 00:33:18,440 Speaker 3: come through so fast, and it's gonna happen like that, 766 00:33:18,520 --> 00:33:21,120 Speaker 3: and then another week goes by and she's gonna have 767 00:33:21,160 --> 00:33:23,760 Speaker 3: another new personality come out of her. So all of 768 00:33:23,760 --> 00:33:26,239 Speaker 3: that rapidly happening so fast is probably gonna be the 769 00:33:26,280 --> 00:33:26,800 Speaker 3: best part. 770 00:33:27,040 --> 00:33:29,880 Speaker 1: What is your advice to new dads, like, if they're 771 00:33:29,920 --> 00:33:31,320 Speaker 1: just about to have a baby, be there. 772 00:33:31,240 --> 00:33:36,920 Speaker 3: For your wife number one, cause we've talked about this before. 773 00:33:38,560 --> 00:33:40,360 Speaker 3: You don't really know what they go through until you 774 00:33:40,400 --> 00:33:42,720 Speaker 3: see them go through it, and then it's like, okay, 775 00:33:42,760 --> 00:33:44,440 Speaker 3: well she just went through nine months of all this 776 00:33:44,520 --> 00:33:46,920 Speaker 3: and then labor and then all this. Now you just 777 00:33:46,920 --> 00:33:48,880 Speaker 3: need to be there for your wife, making sure the 778 00:33:48,920 --> 00:33:50,800 Speaker 3: kids okay, of course, but also just being like, hey, 779 00:33:50,800 --> 00:33:53,960 Speaker 3: what do you need, Let me support you, and how 780 00:33:53,960 --> 00:33:55,800 Speaker 3: can I make your life easier for at least the 781 00:33:55,800 --> 00:33:59,000 Speaker 3: first couple weeks until they can get their feetback on 782 00:33:59,040 --> 00:34:01,400 Speaker 3: her own and they can feel normal and she can 783 00:34:01,400 --> 00:34:04,080 Speaker 3: feel good again. That would be my biggest thing, is 784 00:34:04,120 --> 00:34:06,560 Speaker 3: just be there for her and just take a step 785 00:34:06,560 --> 00:34:10,880 Speaker 3: back of like your own rule, don't even think about yourself, 786 00:34:11,320 --> 00:34:12,799 Speaker 3: and just really be unselfish. 787 00:34:13,520 --> 00:34:16,000 Speaker 1: I remember whenever you told me you were having twins. 788 00:34:16,040 --> 00:34:17,560 Speaker 1: This is months before you actually the baby, like, we're 789 00:34:17,560 --> 00:34:19,560 Speaker 1: having twins, and you're like, I'm gonna be gone for 790 00:34:19,560 --> 00:34:21,200 Speaker 1: a while, and I did I listen. I didn't know 791 00:34:21,239 --> 00:34:25,239 Speaker 1: the benefit of paternity leave. I now do, and I 792 00:34:25,280 --> 00:34:27,520 Speaker 1: was just like, dude, I didn't know I would me. 793 00:34:27,640 --> 00:34:29,200 Speaker 1: I just always want the people to work for me 794 00:34:29,200 --> 00:34:33,160 Speaker 1: to feel like they have full support for me regardless 795 00:34:33,160 --> 00:34:34,560 Speaker 1: of what they're doing. And I was just like, dude, 796 00:34:34,560 --> 00:34:37,000 Speaker 1: don't even answer the phone from us, take off as 797 00:34:37,120 --> 00:34:39,640 Speaker 1: much time as you want, like you just let me 798 00:34:39,680 --> 00:34:41,080 Speaker 1: know when you're good. And you were like, no, no, I 799 00:34:41,120 --> 00:34:42,640 Speaker 1: think I'm gonna work a little bit. I didn't know. 800 00:34:42,640 --> 00:34:44,200 Speaker 1: I didn't know what I was saying, but I was like, no, no, 801 00:34:44,320 --> 00:34:46,520 Speaker 1: you're not gonna want to work. You're going to want 802 00:34:46,520 --> 00:34:48,640 Speaker 1: to And it turns out this is one of those 803 00:34:48,640 --> 00:34:51,080 Speaker 1: times where I was randomly really right, and I'm glad 804 00:34:51,120 --> 00:34:54,600 Speaker 1: I've been through it now because it's so important for 805 00:34:55,640 --> 00:34:58,880 Speaker 1: your wife, your partner to have somebody there with them. Yes, 806 00:34:59,040 --> 00:35:02,680 Speaker 1: it's crazy, like what they've been through physically and now 807 00:35:02,719 --> 00:35:05,720 Speaker 1: what they're expected to do immediately, it is wild. 808 00:35:05,960 --> 00:35:08,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, and to your point, I mean, you were immediately 809 00:35:08,160 --> 00:35:10,880 Speaker 3: like go away, turn off your phone, whatever you need 810 00:35:10,920 --> 00:35:14,560 Speaker 3: to do, your email, everything. And thank God for that, 811 00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:17,080 Speaker 3: because internally we always want to be like I want 812 00:35:17,080 --> 00:35:18,520 Speaker 3: to help where I can and work where I can. 813 00:35:18,600 --> 00:35:21,600 Speaker 3: But to be able to have that like space of 814 00:35:21,760 --> 00:35:25,280 Speaker 3: separation with work while dealing with that is a game changer. 815 00:35:25,800 --> 00:35:27,440 Speaker 1: I didn't even really know what I was saying. I 816 00:35:27,480 --> 00:35:29,759 Speaker 1: just want everybody to feel supported. Who works for me? 817 00:35:30,360 --> 00:35:31,719 Speaker 1: And you were like I need time off, I'm like, 818 00:35:31,760 --> 00:35:34,239 Speaker 1: well take it. But now if someone were to come 819 00:35:34,280 --> 00:35:36,800 Speaker 1: to me and say, hey, I need some time, double 820 00:35:36,880 --> 00:35:37,680 Speaker 1: it and I'll see. 821 00:35:38,239 --> 00:35:40,040 Speaker 3: I was gonna say, what do you two years now? 822 00:35:40,680 --> 00:35:41,920 Speaker 3: What do you feel like? 823 00:35:41,920 --> 00:35:42,000 Speaker 1: Like? 824 00:35:42,080 --> 00:35:46,720 Speaker 3: Do you feel like two weeks? Is? It depends everyone's 825 00:35:46,719 --> 00:35:47,880 Speaker 3: situation is a little bit different. 826 00:35:47,920 --> 00:35:50,880 Speaker 1: I guess yeah, I feel I took a week, but 827 00:35:50,960 --> 00:35:53,080 Speaker 1: I made sure the show is still fully covered, and 828 00:35:53,160 --> 00:35:54,840 Speaker 1: the second week I worked from home, so I was 829 00:35:54,880 --> 00:35:58,040 Speaker 1: working fully but I was a stone's throw and there 830 00:35:58,080 --> 00:35:59,279 Speaker 1: were times where we be in the studio and MOI 831 00:35:59,280 --> 00:36:01,840 Speaker 1: I feel like, hey can you and I could because 832 00:36:01,840 --> 00:36:04,680 Speaker 1: I was close. In a perfect world. First of all, 833 00:36:04,719 --> 00:36:07,480 Speaker 1: I would, and our country kind of sucks at maternity leave, 834 00:36:07,680 --> 00:36:09,879 Speaker 1: like there are laws that protect women from losing their jobs, 835 00:36:09,880 --> 00:36:13,640 Speaker 1: but they're not getting paid. I think if it were me, 836 00:36:14,000 --> 00:36:16,960 Speaker 1: I would try to mandate six months paid maternity leave 837 00:36:17,160 --> 00:36:18,880 Speaker 1: for everyone. And that's probably not enough because there are 838 00:36:18,880 --> 00:36:21,000 Speaker 1: countries in Europe that do way better than that. But 839 00:36:21,080 --> 00:36:24,000 Speaker 1: I would do six months paid maternity leave, government covered 840 00:36:24,800 --> 00:36:31,880 Speaker 1: and then if possible for the dudes, three weeks, I 841 00:36:31,920 --> 00:36:35,160 Speaker 1: think it's a sufficient amount of time to fully be dedicated, 842 00:36:35,200 --> 00:36:36,239 Speaker 1: and then if it's little more than that, If it's 843 00:36:36,239 --> 00:36:37,680 Speaker 1: a less than that, great, But I think three weeks 844 00:36:37,760 --> 00:36:39,920 Speaker 1: is a number that we should not scoff at if 845 00:36:39,960 --> 00:36:41,840 Speaker 1: a dude wants to take off time for their wife, 846 00:36:41,920 --> 00:36:44,799 Speaker 1: because I think, uneducated to me, would be like paternity leave. 847 00:36:45,640 --> 00:36:49,160 Speaker 1: You didn't have the baby, suck it up. I could 848 00:36:49,160 --> 00:36:51,520 Speaker 1: not feel more. And I never said that out loud, 849 00:36:51,560 --> 00:36:53,879 Speaker 1: but I think as dudes were kind of taught that, 850 00:36:53,920 --> 00:36:55,919 Speaker 1: like why does a dude need to leave? But now 851 00:36:55,920 --> 00:37:00,800 Speaker 1: that I've been through it, it's needed. Yeah, I would 852 00:37:00,800 --> 00:37:03,440 Speaker 1: three weeks to a month for a dude. You must 853 00:37:03,480 --> 00:37:06,400 Speaker 1: take off. It's not even that you get paid, Like, 854 00:37:06,440 --> 00:37:08,600 Speaker 1: you have to take off three to four weeks so 855 00:37:08,640 --> 00:37:10,279 Speaker 1: you can be there and we're gonna come and look 856 00:37:10,320 --> 00:37:12,080 Speaker 1: in your window and make sure you're supporting that, Like 857 00:37:12,120 --> 00:37:12,880 Speaker 1: that would be part of that. 858 00:37:13,160 --> 00:37:14,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, you're not going on vacations. 859 00:37:14,640 --> 00:37:18,439 Speaker 1: That would be part of the rules, part of the law. Yeah. Thanks, 860 00:37:18,520 --> 00:37:20,640 Speaker 1: often use you as a source when I'm like, man, 861 00:37:20,680 --> 00:37:22,360 Speaker 1: i think it's crazy for us. What about if we 862 00:37:22,400 --> 00:37:23,800 Speaker 1: had two? Yeah, that's crazy. 863 00:37:23,880 --> 00:37:25,120 Speaker 3: That's what a lot of people say that. I can't 864 00:37:25,120 --> 00:37:26,960 Speaker 3: believe you do too. But to your point, you know 865 00:37:27,040 --> 00:37:28,919 Speaker 3: the different story. You don't know the difference, and thank god, 866 00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:31,480 Speaker 3: we don't know the difference, and hopefully it's just one 867 00:37:31,520 --> 00:37:31,960 Speaker 3: from here on. 868 00:37:31,960 --> 00:37:35,040 Speaker 1: Out right there he is kickoff Kevin On. Father knows less.