Speaker 1: Lip Service. What up? It is lift Service, I mean Delay.
Speaker 1: I'm Stephanie Santiago, I'm g G McGuire and it's saving
Speaker 1: Hey girl, listen, we thought this is only appropriate now
Speaker 1: Every week we come up here to the engine room
Speaker 1: audio to do lip Service, and every week we sit
Speaker 1: down and chit chat with Avian and we have some
Speaker 1: great girl talk. So she's here with us today on
Speaker 1: lip Service and we're gonna stet with the tip of
Speaker 1: the day, Avian. What are you doing here? Just so
Speaker 1: people know, well, Um, I do a lot, man, you know,
Speaker 1: just managing the spot, helping Scotty, dealing with bookings, you know,
Speaker 1: making sure that engineers are on point with the sessions,
Speaker 1: just every kind of studio. Yeah. Yeah, it's a lot,
Speaker 1: but it's it's great. You know, everything that we do
Speaker 1: here on the podcast lip Service is great every week
Speaker 1: is it's Yeah, you're weird because I'm sure guys come
Speaker 1: up here and try to kick it to you because
Speaker 1: you're a cute girl, very attractive. So how do you
Speaker 1: handle that? Um? I mean, you just got to know
Speaker 1: the industry that you and you know this music industry.
Speaker 1: You're gonna do with that every day? If you're pretty
Speaker 1: chick no matter where you go. So I think I
Speaker 1: just you know, because people always say that, how do
Speaker 1: you handle it when you work? You know, you're working
Speaker 1: and guys are flirting with you, coming on to you.
Speaker 1: How do you handle that if you especially if you're
Speaker 1: not interested, but you don't want to offend somebody, And yeah,
Speaker 1: I think you gotta keep it friendly. And I think,
Speaker 1: you know, depending on how you come off to the person,
Speaker 1: they would know immediately if you're rocking with them or not.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean. It's one thing to flirt friendly,
Speaker 1: but you know, I think if you're trying to take
Speaker 1: it to the next level is pretty obvious. So you know,
Speaker 1: I'm always friendly with the guys. Is again, this industry
Speaker 1: is just mail driven. So I deal with men every day.
Speaker 1: All the guys that work here is a bunch of them.
Speaker 1: But you know, it's an adventure. It's fun. I learned
Speaker 1: from them. I learned people always asking that, they're like,
Speaker 1: how do you deal with guys? It's just something you
Speaker 1: gotta get used to, you know, something you gotta deal
Speaker 1: with if you're going to be in this industry. Again,
Speaker 1: it's a male driven industry, so you gotta get used
Speaker 1: to it. The worst for me is like even if
Speaker 1: you're really nice and they still can't take the curve right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: respect because you know why, because sometimes persistence of what
Speaker 1: comes resistant. I'm sure we've all give it into a
Speaker 1: persistent guy. Yes I have. Yeah it works. Yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna lie. It works. It's like getting a job.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm gonna keep on checking in and seeing
Speaker 1: if it works out. And if one day you can
Speaker 1: get caught slipping. You know, if one day you're drunk,
Speaker 1: right or you know, upset about something or board or lonely,
Speaker 1: maybe this guy to be hearing me all the time,
Speaker 1: fucking you don't want it does happen, though it happened
Speaker 1: to all of us. I'm sure, right that persistent guy.
Speaker 1: But it's just that if you're not interested at all,
Speaker 1: and that is their rules against, like dating somebody that
Speaker 1: comes up here is bad. Like do they tell you
Speaker 1: not to um or is it just like at your
Speaker 1: own discretion? I mean I've never been told not to,
Speaker 1: you know, I think we're all adults. But it's just
Speaker 1: keeping it at a level where it's still respectful when
Speaker 1: it's not, you know, it's not messing with anyone, it's
Speaker 1: not messing with the business. Do you think it's never spectable? Like,
Speaker 1: what do y'all think if a girl is working someplace?
Speaker 1: Like say, we came in here and a woman was
Speaker 1: working here, but you know a few people done came
Speaker 1: in and it doesn't matter for me. I think. Um,
Speaker 1: I feel like once you once you have sex with
Speaker 1: somebody and you see them every day, it makes things awkward.
Speaker 1: But would you look at somebody differently, like if you
Speaker 1: work you know, if we came up in here and
Speaker 1: Avian not at all, because I don't know Aban don't
Speaker 1: do nothing like that. But let's just say, like you know,
Speaker 1: several guys it was like, yeah, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: Would you be like damn, would you like she's letting
Speaker 1: a professional? Yeah? Yeah, because even if you are going
Speaker 1: to do something different place, then you need to not
Speaker 1: do it excessively to where the people more people going
Speaker 1: up here. She would be like, oh, look that's the
Speaker 1: thought that works up here. Right, Look, guys, if you're interested,
Speaker 1: and then I'll be super uncomfortable for me, you know, right,
Speaker 1: like Danny's talking about me. Yeah, I mean you know
Speaker 1: you you know who you fucked. So it's like you,
Speaker 1: you yourself would be uncomfortable in that situation, not even
Speaker 1: them talking about you. You yourself would be like, oh ship.
Speaker 1: I always say that if guys have respect for you,
Speaker 1: they're not gonna talk about you, right Like, if they
Speaker 1: respect you, they're not gonna be like, oh yeah, you know,
Speaker 1: I hate that because they don't even look at you
Speaker 1: like that. They respect you to me, so they didn't
Speaker 1: want to talk no ship. And I was having that
Speaker 1: conversation the other day, Um one of my friends. He
Speaker 1: was like, you know, I could be in a room
Speaker 1: with four chicks that I fucked and I won't say anything,
Speaker 1: right you know. It's well, he sounds a little griny,
Speaker 1: I mean, but in a sense, in a sense, you're
Speaker 1: not gonna be like, oh yeah, I sucked her, and
Speaker 1: her and her. It's like, it's it's your business. If
Speaker 1: you guys can keep it on the low and and
Speaker 1: you don't have to spread that out to everybody, then
Speaker 1: just keep it to yourself. If you guys are respected,
Speaker 1: respectful to each other, then you know, now, let's say
Speaker 1: somebody came up in here and one of us, you know,
Speaker 1: step with him. Would you tell other people? Would you
Speaker 1: keep that between you and him, like, let's just say
Speaker 1: we have somebody in here, and we're like, oh, you know,
Speaker 1: just tell y'all know, like or is that private information?
Speaker 1: I would probably tell you right yeah, men during the show,
Speaker 1: I would like quiet, y'all like girl, Yeah, I wouldn't
Speaker 1: mention it on the show either, but of course I
Speaker 1: would tell y'all if he was whack, you know, service.
Speaker 1: I'll tell y'all if it was whack. If it was
Speaker 1: good size lip service, you know those off the record.
Speaker 1: Yeahs you gotta me and my me and my best fo. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we have a code when it comes to guys dick size,
Speaker 1: like with all people knowing, well, now everybody's gonna know,
Speaker 1: but when um like if it was if it was
Speaker 1: an average size, will be like, man, he was like
Speaker 1: at six, you know the battery when your battery, but
Speaker 1: it could still last for a few years, and that
Speaker 1: somebody would have a little bit. Man, he was fifty
Speaker 1: percent power mode. You want to be like, man, he's
Speaker 1: about to die. He's on a little power mode. That
Speaker 1: if it's really big, we'll say, oh he had the MOFI.
Speaker 1: That's hilarious right now, you don't Normally we started for
Speaker 1: the tip of the day to today's tipp is, how
Speaker 1: do you tell somebody if they got you a present
Speaker 1: that you don't really like it? Or should you tell
Speaker 1: them that's tough. It depends on the situation, depends on
Speaker 1: the president. It depends on how bad the president is. Like,
Speaker 1: if it's something that they would if it's like clothing
Speaker 1: or something that they would expect you to wear or
Speaker 1: expect to see you in, or you know, something like that,
Speaker 1: then I probably tell them, like, you know, even though
Speaker 1: it's so nice, it's just not my style. It's just
Speaker 1: not for me. This is funny because, um, one of
Speaker 1: my best friends, a guy gave her a charm for
Speaker 1: her bracelet and it's, um, the title of the charm,
Speaker 1: it's my first our first dance, right, it's two as
Speaker 1: a boy and a girl, you know, one of those
Speaker 1: bless So it's a boy and a girl at his
Speaker 1: first dance. And she's like when she opened, like, she's like,
Speaker 1: but we've never danced before. How long have they been dating?
Speaker 1: Like a year or something? And then um, well they're
Speaker 1: like on and off because she has another boyfriend. But
Speaker 1: that's a whole different right, Yeah, that's a whole different
Speaker 1: dancing itself. Yeah, that's a whole different dance. But she's like,
Speaker 1: we didn't dance on our first day. Like if if
Speaker 1: it doesn't make sense, it doesn't make sense though type
Speaker 1: of connection. Maybe, Yeah, that's what I told her. I
Speaker 1: was like, maybe you should like And that's a tough
Speaker 1: situation because the way she the way she kind of
Speaker 1: took the gift is like but he now you know what. Okay,
Speaker 1: SO had ex boyfriend and he used to gna be
Speaker 1: the worst presence ever. And we were together for a
Speaker 1: long time, like five years, and his presence used to
Speaker 1: be terrible. I used to be like he would be
Speaker 1: so excited to give him He wouldn't even be excited.
Speaker 1: He just wasn't a thoughtful person and he would give
Speaker 1: me the worst presence and I never would say anything,
Speaker 1: but it would make me mad. So when we did
Speaker 1: break up, Now, he did cheat on me, and you know,
Speaker 1: I found out and then I was like, okay, and
Speaker 1: I was thinking to myself, he got me whack presents anyway,
Speaker 1: and that's like, I think you could put up with
Speaker 1: a lot more when somebody treats me really good and
Speaker 1: it's like thoughtful and everything. But because you know, he
Speaker 1: got me whack presents and he didn't treat me like
Speaker 1: like he was cheating. It take you a little homemade purse,
Speaker 1: but you know, lie, he was like, you know this
Speaker 1: woman in my job makes persons. He really brought me
Speaker 1: a purse. But then in those situations when people buy
Speaker 1: you continuously by your gifts that you don't like, is
Speaker 1: it that they're not paying attention to what you do
Speaker 1: like or they're just picking up whatever. Maybe it's their
Speaker 1: personal taste it's but his taste was good. He put
Speaker 1: himself all kind of nice stuff. Maybe you know what
Speaker 1: I think. I think he never had like a for
Speaker 1: real like the girlfriend he had before me was like basic,
Speaker 1: not even but he never had like no real girlfriend
Speaker 1: that he really did stuff for. So it probably was
Speaker 1: his most serious relationships. It was like a learning experience.
Speaker 1: I was like candy Pig. I'm sure he was buying
Speaker 1: amateur gifts, right, he was just didn't an amateur gifting.
Speaker 1: Like he went on vacation and he came back with
Speaker 1: like some type of shell necklace from he probably bought
Speaker 1: at the airport. Oh my god, I can't even imagine
Speaker 1: you're making that cold. So what are your girlfriend's like girl,
Speaker 1: this guy, and I was like, I don't want to
Speaker 1: be And it's not even that I'm materialistic or I'm
Speaker 1: an asshole. I just felt like this is all I
Speaker 1: can't even were a little more in life. And then
Speaker 1: one time he got me a juicy couture perfume set.
Speaker 1: It smelled disgusting. Yeah, that's that's that's like teenager. Where
Speaker 1: do you get it from? Like century twenty one or something.
Speaker 1: Where did he get it from? I think he ended
Speaker 1: up Bloomingdals or something, but it was listen and it
Speaker 1: was like teenage perfect, probably the same place you got
Speaker 1: the charm. But I do feel like at the time
Speaker 1: I should have said something to him, because I felt
Speaker 1: like it was wrong for me not to say anything.
Speaker 1: But it was making me matter and matter, and I
Speaker 1: wasn't saying because I felt like it would be ungrateful
Speaker 1: to be like, I don't really like these, so I
Speaker 1: wanted to be appreciative of it. But I just like
Speaker 1: it was building. It was like a build up, you know,
Speaker 1: sometimes you're like, Okay, I don't want to be an asshole,
Speaker 1: so I'm not gonna say but it built up and
Speaker 1: I probably would have had this time. I was like
Speaker 1: this whack ass present, Like it just didn't. I did,
Speaker 1: but but it was like way later after you given
Speaker 1: like eight terrible presents, see after president with three? I like, listen, bro,
Speaker 1: let's just yeah. Everybody was talking about black Shina and
Speaker 1: Rap Kardashian getting engaged and the ring that he bought her, right,
Speaker 1: seven carrots seven carrots. So somebody was asking me, you know,
Speaker 1: how much do you think somebody should spend on a ring?
Speaker 1: Like if you was gonna get engaged, how doesn't like,
Speaker 1: what do you expect somebody to spend? Um? I it
Speaker 1: depends on the situation, like if um if it depends
Speaker 1: on what he does for a living, what you do
Speaker 1: for a living? What's going on? Because in general they
Speaker 1: say three months salary, Okay, you supposed to spend on
Speaker 1: a ring, on a ring? My friends just got engaged
Speaker 1: in her ring was like nice, Yeah, it was nice.
Speaker 1: That's number. I agree with stuff. I think it's just
Speaker 1: really you know your situation. But if somebody asked you,
Speaker 1: like how much you think would you expect somebody to
Speaker 1: spend on the ring for you? What would you say
Speaker 1: for me? For my soul? Yes? What would you say?
Speaker 1: Three million? Dollars. I mean cute, you know, if if
Speaker 1: you want to you know, I mean, I mean, you know,
Speaker 1: we could go up to a million, but millions aller
Speaker 1: ring where it's so it's so big and happy, I
Speaker 1: can't even lift my hand. Would you get it to praise? Yes,
Speaker 1: I would get it a pise. Is that bad? Does
Speaker 1: that mean? I don't know. Now. I had a discussion
Speaker 1: with one of my hands and we had a whole
Speaker 1: debate about this. Well, it depends. It depends like insurance purposes. Yes,
Speaker 1: what if he says it's in short already? M hmm. Interesting, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm saying under rail. Would you get
Speaker 1: it appraised? Because my friend said she would, I said
Speaker 1: I would really wouldn't immediately, Yeah, not right away your prayers, Yeah,
Speaker 1: but I would be I mean if if if for
Speaker 1: somehow I didn't find out some way down the line
Speaker 1: and I really really felt like I needed to know
Speaker 1: or I wanted to know, then I would just would
Speaker 1: you ask him I get it a praise? I would
Speaker 1: probably just get it a praise. I think it's kind
Speaker 1: of rude to be like, how much you pay for this?
Speaker 1: You know, when you could just go read to go
Speaker 1: get it a praise. We're not if you don't know. Okay,
Speaker 1: now what if you what if you're going you find
Speaker 1: out it's not real? Right, because then do you go
Speaker 1: and talk Look, I got this a praise that's acts like, well,
Speaker 1: hey about this ring? And then what if he lies?
Speaker 1: Then that's when you slide that. People were going like,
Speaker 1: so now you're both designed. You can't get mad at
Speaker 1: me for getting into praise. If this ship is fake,
Speaker 1: who's who's worse? And at the end of the day, Yeah,
Speaker 1: what would you do if you got the ring a
Speaker 1: praise and it was fake? Mm hmm. I don't think
Speaker 1: I'll talk to the motherfucker for a wow, well this glass?
Speaker 1: But you would telling yeah, yeah, sure, definitely you would
Speaker 1: tell him what if I what it at him? What
Speaker 1: I would probably tell him after he's in the hospital
Speaker 1: because I almost killed him because he got cut, And
Speaker 1: I would tell him there like I caught you because
Speaker 1: you gave me a fake as relationships over after that,
Speaker 1: I mean it's not yeah, it's a line like for that,
Speaker 1: I mean it's for me. It depends on the situation,
Speaker 1: like if um, if you know it's a it's a
Speaker 1: hard working you know regular guy, you know who's who's
Speaker 1: doing the forty hours a week. And I went and
Speaker 1: got there. He got me a beautiful ring, and I
Speaker 1: went and found out it was fake. I probably wouldn't.
Speaker 1: I probably wouldn't be sold down on him for it.
Speaker 1: You know, I probably wouldn't kill him for it. But
Speaker 1: if I'm dating an athlete or a rapper or something
Speaker 1: like that, and then give me a bakery. But if
Speaker 1: he's like babe, I wouldn't fake jul Now they be moving.
Speaker 1: We don't want nobody hanging on what you're trying to
Speaker 1: take your ship. Yeah no, but you know that's because
Speaker 1: you have You should have brought me a real ring,
Speaker 1: and they had a dummy ring that I wear out
Speaker 1: and the real ring safe. At least we know we
Speaker 1: got a real bring. I think it all depends on
Speaker 1: the situation and a lot of things like stuff. And
Speaker 1: he said, if it's a hard working dude and he
Speaker 1: doesn't have a lot of money, but he feels like
Speaker 1: you really want to ring and he wants to propose
Speaker 1: to you, and he has to do whatever it takes
Speaker 1: to make you happy, wouldn't if it was fake, you know,
Speaker 1: that would be a problem. But maybe he felt pressured
Speaker 1: that he wanted to get you a ring and he couldn't.
Speaker 1: Maybe it was like one day I'm gonna get a
Speaker 1: real one and replace the fake one. But it's still
Speaker 1: a conversation, like, God, now I'm playing, isn't ring exactly?
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, maybe just don't pay me ring right,
Speaker 1: just don't get don't get it right now you really
Speaker 1: feel like that? Can a guy propose to you with
Speaker 1: no ring? No, that's not a proposal. There is no
Speaker 1: ring involved. But I mean you can go google, go
Speaker 1: get married it out having a wetting So what difference?
Speaker 1: Don't make its only paper at the end of the that. No,
Speaker 1: I mean I think your man was like, yeah, let's
Speaker 1: just get married, but no ring. He's just ready to
Speaker 1: go to the court. You don't think he proposed to you.
Speaker 1: That's not a proposal that jump in the room. No, no,
Speaker 1: it's getting hitched. No no, no, no, no, no no.
Speaker 1: Because if you're getting marriage, when you ask the questions,
Speaker 1: get down nothing to do. What if he says let's
Speaker 1: get tattoos, it's let's get tattoos? Is a proposal to
Speaker 1: get at ring tattoo? Like a ring tattoo Yeah, like,
Speaker 1: let's get married and done tattoo it. Yeah, yeah, it's
Speaker 1: still a proposal. If he gets down, She's like, I'm
Speaker 1: not having it, Michael, my man had a ring. Having
Speaker 1: If it's important to you, that's fine. I mean, I
Speaker 1: don't really know if a ring is all that important
Speaker 1: as the commitment itself, right, because you can have the
Speaker 1: craziest you can have a goddamn ice skating rink on
Speaker 1: your finger and there like ship low so with me,
Speaker 1: and at the end of it, what matters is the
Speaker 1: real commitment and not the materialistic part of it. But
Speaker 1: but but I would prefer to have, right, That's what
Speaker 1: I'm like, what if I had If you're in a
Speaker 1: serious relationship and you've been with him for a long
Speaker 1: time and you're ready for that commitment, you would expect
Speaker 1: and hope that that moment will be special when he
Speaker 1: because you want to believe you when we say you
Speaker 1: engaged ring right, when you're like, I'm engaged, desid in
Speaker 1: the ring, It's like if you're you know, you're not engaged,
Speaker 1: not yet? Oh then um who got married without a ring?
Speaker 1: I think it was Tammy and Walker. Yeah, And she's like,
Speaker 1: I don't need know ring. I got a big ass house.
Speaker 1: I got a big as I'm not mad us saying
Speaker 1: let's not spend money on the ring because we're gonna
Speaker 1: spend money on the house instead. Yeah, I'm never mad
Speaker 1: at being practical, right, So I'm not. I mean, it's like, right, yeah,
Speaker 1: but you want the ring. I mean, but if you're
Speaker 1: doing that, like if you're invested in the home for
Speaker 1: a future family and you know you're gonna be together
Speaker 1: for a while, then the rink of weight, you know,
Speaker 1: it all depends on a person. Oh my god, how
Speaker 1: could I know? How could I forget this? The first
Speaker 1: time I was to gage, the first time I got
Speaker 1: to gauge, the guy gave me a cubic yes, God
Speaker 1: bless that man, and I went. I took it too.
Speaker 1: I took it to the pawn shop because I knew
Speaker 1: the guy in the pawn shop. I was only like seventeen,
Speaker 1: eighteen years old. I took I took it to the
Speaker 1: pawn shop, and the guy was like, no, this isn't
Speaker 1: a diamond. So I was like all right. I was
Speaker 1: like okay. So I went to him and I told him.
Speaker 1: I was like, hey, you know, I took it. Yeah, like, um,
Speaker 1: was this supposed to be a diamond? Like did you know?
Speaker 1: And he was like no, it's a diamond, was like yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: it was awful. He was an awful He was an
Speaker 1: awful boyfriend. Was just awful. Yeah. Right, but you said
Speaker 1: you was seventeen at that time, Oh he was thirty one.
Speaker 1: Well he's a ready discussed exactly because I was trying
Speaker 1: to say if it was a situation where he where
Speaker 1: he was like he was, but he had just came
Speaker 1: out of jail. He was in jail for seven years. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: here we go from jail. Yeah, probably got it from
Speaker 1: a cracking jack box man. We had was fake racks
Speaker 1: and jail commissary money. You know what. Let me find
Speaker 1: out he came home and got you that commissary brain. Yo,
Speaker 1: marry me? Now, would you propose to a guy? Yes,
Speaker 1: of course I would. I would ask a guy to
Speaker 1: marry me. I would ask a guy to marry me.
Speaker 1: It just depends on the situation, Like I wouldn't propose
Speaker 1: to just any guy that I'm in love with. How
Speaker 1: would you propose to a guide stuff? How would I
Speaker 1: propose to marry this so a guy? It depends, like
Speaker 1: I said, like I would ask my son's father to
Speaker 1: marry me. You know what I mean. We've been together
Speaker 1: for a long time, Like I know he probably wanted
Speaker 1: that at a point, and you know I didn't want
Speaker 1: it at that time. And then you know, if we
Speaker 1: were to get back together, you know, a big history,
Speaker 1: there would have to be a big, long history. Like
Speaker 1: I wouldn't propose to somebody. No, I wouldn't. But if
Speaker 1: I were to propose to anyone, it would be him,
Speaker 1: and it would not And I'm not saying that I
Speaker 1: want to marry him. No, no, no, that is a
Speaker 1: half years that was. No, he don't. They're broken up.
Speaker 1: He doesn't have a girlfriend anymore. Yeah, my son's father
Speaker 1: is single, right now. Did he hit you up to
Speaker 1: tell you that? No, he didn't. But I speaks to him,
Speaker 1: you know, we have a kid together, so he speaks
Speaker 1: to each other all the time. And he broke up
Speaker 1: with his girlfriend, and unfortunately, I feel bad. I was
Speaker 1: honestly hoping that they would have a baby. Us us
Speaker 1: such a lie. You do not like his girl? No,
Speaker 1: I don't mind her, She's all right, But I still
Speaker 1: want to know how how would you propose to a
Speaker 1: guy like I'll be like, you know, what's up them.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't get down like remember Christie and Jim Jones. Remember,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't do it like that. I wouldn't get down
Speaker 1: on my moneys and propose like making events of it.
Speaker 1: It would just be like, you know, I was thinking,
Speaker 1: today's Wednesday, you want to get married? Today's somebody to
Speaker 1: post you like that? Though it depends, It depends on
Speaker 1: the situation because for me, for me, marriage it's not
Speaker 1: about the ring, it's not about the money. It's about
Speaker 1: the soul connection. You know what I mean. If you
Speaker 1: love somebody and you feel that sole connection, I feel
Speaker 1: you should get married. Now. I don't think everybody thinks
Speaker 1: like that. I don't think everybody should think like the
Speaker 1: way I do. You know, it's my personal opinion. But
Speaker 1: you know, I've been a couple of guys have proposed
Speaker 1: to me. I've had I've been engaged twice and I've
Speaker 1: said no once. You know what I mean. That's three times.
Speaker 1: And you know, if I mean it is what it is,
Speaker 1: i'd be feeling like guys think. I think guys feel
Speaker 1: like women ultimately want to get married, so that like
Speaker 1: they'll say that let's just get married to make it better.
Speaker 1: And that's not that's not when somebody up like that's
Speaker 1: gonna That has happened to me, you know, So for me,
Speaker 1: for me personally, I'm not in a rush to get married.
Speaker 1: I'm not I'm not thirsty for it. You know, it's
Speaker 1: not even something that I dreamt about when I was
Speaker 1: a kid. You know when I when I was a kid,
Speaker 1: I dreampt about living in a house on the hill.
Speaker 1: I didn't think about a dog or a white fence.
Speaker 1: I didn't think about husband. I didn't think about any
Speaker 1: of that. I just thought, Hey, I want to live
Speaker 1: in a house on a hill, and I want to
Speaker 1: bring all my good friends that I hang out with
Speaker 1: in the neighborhood. Proposing you've been with your man, I'm proposing,
Speaker 1: but no, I can't. What do you think he would saying?
Speaker 1: He would just look at me like I was crazy,
Speaker 1: probably like I don't know what he would say. He
Speaker 1: would I don't know you would because you think he
Speaker 1: would look at you crazy. I'm not proposing. I'm just
Speaker 1: not gonna do that. I'm just not going to propose.
Speaker 1: I just I feel like that's the man's job. And
Speaker 1: if you're gonna get married, then that's what he should do.
Speaker 1: If that's what he wants, then he should propose. What
Speaker 1: would he say though, I mean what he might be like, yeah,
Speaker 1: and they you should go home tonight. No, I'm skinning,
Speaker 1: but I love to how that is for for a
Speaker 1: guy if a woman proposes to him, does he feel like?
Speaker 1: Is he like, oh, yes, yeah? Why do you think
Speaker 1: if I'm ready, I'm ask right, but you would never ask,
Speaker 1: I'm not. Would you would marry me? No, that's his job,
Speaker 1: would you, Angela? I don't know. I don't think so
Speaker 1: because I'm not gonna lie. Like. Marriage is a scary
Speaker 1: thing to me anyway, and I'm fine with being with
Speaker 1: somebody forever and never getting married rejection. We're going on
Speaker 1: seven years. But I would never ask somebody to marry
Speaker 1: me if I didn't think they would say, yes, I'm
Speaker 1: not asking, but I'm fine with us being I'm fine.
Speaker 1: Nothing against a woman that they be honest, Nothing against
Speaker 1: a woman that does ask a man to marry that's her,
Speaker 1: you know, prerogative. But I just now, we talked about
Speaker 1: this earlier. Once you start stop using times with somebody,
Speaker 1: do you think you could start again? No? Yeah, no
Speaker 1: like being in a situation. Let's say, y'all break up,
Speaker 1: he was cheating, and now you'll get back together. We're
Speaker 1: just gonna have to go and take take that trip
Speaker 1: to the doctor together and be just gonna have to
Speaker 1: just trust each other that we were not gonna happen again.
Speaker 1: Whole shirt because I'm not. We're not using condom. Have
Speaker 1: you ever like the first time you didn't use it?
Speaker 1: Kind of never went back to using them after that?
Speaker 1: List somebody, Yeah, we use condoms the first time and
Speaker 1: that was it, and then after that never get That's
Speaker 1: a tough thing to do to be like, hey, I
Speaker 1: need you to use a condom now. I mean, because
Speaker 1: you see, guys are like getting vasectomies, getting multiple women pregnant.
Speaker 1: Guys are gross. Ye, Women, we don't like condoms just
Speaker 1: as minute, just as much as men don't like kindom either.
Speaker 1: By the way, Yeah, but I think as a woman,
Speaker 1: look these guys out here with fun anything, and like
Speaker 1: you said, they'll have multiple babies by multiple women. So
Speaker 1: are they really worried about themselves? A lot of men
Speaker 1: will be. But I think as a woman you should
Speaker 1: protect yourself. I always think it's weird too, when a
Speaker 1: guy tries to have sex with you with no condom,
Speaker 1: absolutely first, especially when it's the first time, because that
Speaker 1: means yeah, because you're not me. Think that you just
Speaker 1: looked at me and said, okay, she don't need safe. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you do that with everybody. Yeah. Yeah, I feel that
Speaker 1: way too. I definitely feel And if you say to him,
Speaker 1: if we're getting at it for the first time and
Speaker 1: you just come straight with no condom, I'm gonna just
Speaker 1: look at you and that we're not even gonna do it,
Speaker 1: that's scary. Because men are less, it's likely to go
Speaker 1: to the doctor. You shouldn't want it if it's that easy.
Speaker 1: It's true. I think women if you don't have nothing,
Speaker 1: they don't have nothing. Yeah, but you see women go
Speaker 1: to the g y N. Yeah, like women get checked
Speaker 1: up an you know what I mean. Yeah, I think
Speaker 1: as a woman, if you sexually active, definitely go to
Speaker 1: the g y N and make sure you're good at
Speaker 1: the end of the day, because there's nothing these things
Speaker 1: that you can have, no symptoms you don't even know
Speaker 1: you have, and then you can end up not being
Speaker 1: able to have kids. You can have a cent Yeah,
Speaker 1: and I think for me, there's nothing. There's nothing better
Speaker 1: for me when I'm having sex with somebody to feel confident, yeah,
Speaker 1: like to knowing that I'm protective even if you haven't,
Speaker 1: like you know, if you're not using the condom with
Speaker 1: someone you're close to, but you're still not trying to,
Speaker 1: let's say, get pregnant. There's nothing and better for me
Speaker 1: to feel confident, like knowing that like I'm protected, like
Speaker 1: on birth control or like that. I go to my
Speaker 1: g y N regularly to know that I'm good, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. And I've had this conversation with
Speaker 1: some male friends and just you know, listening to other
Speaker 1: people talk and women, I think I'm more likely to
Speaker 1: go to the doctor than men. And it's scary because
Speaker 1: men will be I feel like they go up there
Speaker 1: something wrong, something wrong, They're getting them checkups and damn,
Speaker 1: you know, my dick is burning or it is, And
Speaker 1: that's scary. And that's scary because, like you said, a
Speaker 1: lot of ship don't give you symptoms. So Nigga could
Speaker 1: have something for a year and then I think he's
Speaker 1: cool and who knows, right, And then when it gets worse,
Speaker 1: he's like, oh I'm burning, let me go. Yes, you
Speaker 1: gotta be safe out here. Now, do you mind if
Speaker 1: your guy goes on a guy's trip. The only thing
Speaker 1: I can think of when you say god's trip is
Speaker 1: just like bachelor party, and we all know that what
Speaker 1: happens at that to the party's guys fun at bachelorp
Speaker 1: these they get their dicks up, they fuck, it goes
Speaker 1: down that back. What happens if your man tells you
Speaker 1: we gotta go away for for the week for my
Speaker 1: friends back to the party, then I already know you're sucking.
Speaker 1: So I'm a trid. I'm a trade likely absolutely think
Speaker 1: anytime a guy goes out with his friends, he's sucking.
Speaker 1: She said, what ivery guy? But what if he's the
Speaker 1: BA is definitely getting something. What if he's like, you
Speaker 1: just go, I'm going on like a three or four
Speaker 1: day trip with the fellas. You cool? You think he's
Speaker 1: not doing anything that's weird. We're going to d R. Yeah, no,
Speaker 1: you're gonna get into some trouble. But what do he
Speaker 1: think is weird if we're going to No girls hang
Speaker 1: out more than guys hang out with just themselves. Right,
Speaker 1: if the guys are going on a guy trip, they
Speaker 1: gotta be even want to do something really man, girls
Speaker 1: know like what white like white water, like fly fishing,
Speaker 1: mountain climbing, like I don't know, guys, if a guy's trip,
Speaker 1: then you're going to like a ski resort, Like y'all
Speaker 1: just gonna go. We're going to Vegas, just the guys.
Speaker 1: There's a fight that we can't get out the city
Speaker 1: hose holes and more holes. Yeah damn, So what does
Speaker 1: that mean every other city you can see this game? No,
Speaker 1: you don't tell them that you can't go. You just
Speaker 1: know that. But what if he's calling you every day
Speaker 1: and checking out and making sure you're good and you
Speaker 1: feel more comfortable, are you still like mega, you're still
Speaker 1: doing you Tonight's guess what. You don't trust him. We
Speaker 1: can be FaceTime and right here somebody somebody sucking his
Speaker 1: dick right there, so he can't even be Like yo,
Speaker 1: I'm not saying he can't, but making the back of
Speaker 1: my mind, I'm gonna think that it's some bullshit. So
Speaker 1: you think anytime guys are together it is some bullshit.
Speaker 1: Guys are bullshit. Yeah, I mean I agree with you.
Speaker 1: I'm just trying to make sure I'm not crazy. I
Speaker 1: don't listen when whenever I feel like whenever I'm not around,
Speaker 1: he up to some bullshit. I agree, right now, I agree,
Speaker 1: I agree with right now. I agree with g G.
Speaker 1: That sucked up way to feel in a relationship. Tell
Speaker 1: me about it. That's just man, That's how many makes
Speaker 1: relationship and they make you feel that way relationships. Just
Speaker 1: like with the blog from this week about putting your
Speaker 1: phone down and always having your phone turned down, making
Speaker 1: sure you got your phone with you at all times
Speaker 1: when you're in the house, you're just walking around the house,
Speaker 1: you can't leave your phone sit on the table, no,
Speaker 1: because who knows what might pop up on the screen
Speaker 1: and get you caught the funk up. It's the same
Speaker 1: thing that's actually don't pop up on my screen. But
Speaker 1: but it's different for girls and guys. I think. I think,
Speaker 1: like you said, men are always up to some bullshit,
Speaker 1: and I don't want to have a boyfriend that I
Speaker 1: don't trust. It's hard, it's hard, it is I feel good, like, yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, I don't know. I mean, it's great when
Speaker 1: you have a man that you can trust, like lord,
Speaker 1: you know, but I trust you? Yeah, that's true. I agree.
Speaker 1: You know, if he doesn't give you a reason then
Speaker 1: don't worry about it. But if you know, when you've
Speaker 1: had had a reason to be skeptical, then you're gonna
Speaker 1: always be skeptical. Absolutely, Especially me, I've dealt with that,
Speaker 1: like you over. It takes some time. I think it
Speaker 1: depends on it, and it takes a lot of um
Speaker 1: not really proving himself. But actions speak louder than words.
Speaker 1: So it takes for me to see that you've you know, change,
Speaker 1: so to say, in order for me to be like,
Speaker 1: all right, he really not don't know bullshit because you know,
Speaker 1: I go on girls ships all the time with my girls,
Speaker 1: like all the time of the Yeah, you know, but
Speaker 1: I think it's easy for girls like said to all
Speaker 1: go together on a trip and just girls like that
Speaker 1: have quality time with yeah, versus guys just like where
Speaker 1: to hold that. Yeah, guys can't be around and drink
Speaker 1: and hang out without somehow involving holes. They're gonna go
Speaker 1: to the strip club, they're gonna do whatever. It's always
Speaker 1: gonna be the fars and stuff like that and watch
Speaker 1: the game and play cards and no. No, I think
Speaker 1: it all depends on the person. So there's some guys
Speaker 1: that are really, you know, really loyal and genuine and
Speaker 1: don't worry about that and they can't hang out with
Speaker 1: their friends. But there's some other dudes, the majority that
Speaker 1: are like, wait, a bitch, is that damn? That's fun?
Speaker 1: You think it's an immaturity thing though, like you think
Speaker 1: because one of my ex boyfriends, his mom told me
Speaker 1: that guys stopped cheating when they get too old and
Speaker 1: tired to do it and it's too much effort. She
Speaker 1: was like, listen, his stepfather ain't stopped cheating toil. His
Speaker 1: ask was two day entired to be running because this
Speaker 1: is hard to keep up. Once you know these guys,
Speaker 1: they'll have three or four or five six chicks calling them,
Speaker 1: texting them. It's hard to keep up. This is so sad, man,
Speaker 1: I feel terrible about this whole situation. Now, what about
Speaker 1: dating guys who have no friends? I diated this guy
Speaker 1: and literally he had no friends, like none. That's tough.
Speaker 1: And then it's a little weird because you want to
Speaker 1: be like, hey, let me get my friends, and you know,
Speaker 1: we all. I don't have changed with your friends, but friends,
Speaker 1: that's tough. I was in a relationship like that when
Speaker 1: I was like eighteen and I was engaged to him
Speaker 1: early early, we were together like two years. He was
Speaker 1: a good family man, like my mom loved him, his
Speaker 1: family loved me. He's somebody that I could see my
Speaker 1: I could have seen myself in the future with um.
Speaker 1: But you know, we just went different paths and life,
Speaker 1: like I just started get him busier. He was just
Speaker 1: trying to find himself, and then he didn't. He had friends,
Speaker 1: but he always wanted to spend time with me, and
Speaker 1: that was great, but after a while, it's like, babe,
Speaker 1: let's hang out with your friends, let's hang out with
Speaker 1: my friends, hang out with you, let's all merged together,
Speaker 1: like you come out with my friends or you go
Speaker 1: out with your friends. And it was always like, no,
Speaker 1: I want to And I'm like, dude, that's cool, but
Speaker 1: like we need different energy, we need to be around people.
Speaker 1: And then you know, then he just started hanging out
Speaker 1: with other people, hanging out with other dudes, going to
Speaker 1: parties all the time, and just don't know, Yeah, he
Speaker 1: got friends. Yeah, I mean he always had friends, you know,
Speaker 1: but he was more secluded to trying to focus on
Speaker 1: himself and being with me. And I was great, but
Speaker 1: I'm like, dude, we're still young. Let's have fun. Like
Speaker 1: I want to be around my friends. I want you
Speaker 1: to come hang out with my friends. I want to
Speaker 1: be with your friends. Let's let's mingle. I don't want
Speaker 1: to sit in your room the whole time. That's you
Speaker 1: get bored. And I like to have a boyfriend. I
Speaker 1: said that play dates with him and other my friends
Speaker 1: and the boyfriends. You know what I'm saying, Like, hey
Speaker 1: need you and I want you to meet her boyfriend. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's fun. I like guys that could be social because
Speaker 1: it's like then it turns into a routine. It's like,
Speaker 1: all right, I'm going to see you, We're hanging out.
Speaker 1: You coming to see me. We're doing the same thing.
Speaker 1: Do you get bored? Damn? And why did you pick
Speaker 1: up your engagement? I think we were young, you know,
Speaker 1: we were really young at that point. Um, we were
Speaker 1: in a serious relationship. But I think we were young.
Speaker 1: And again we crossed path we like our paths just
Speaker 1: changed in life and we kind of just separated. Were
Speaker 1: always but he had a baby after that, and he
Speaker 1: was a good dude regardless, So I wish him the best,
Speaker 1: you know, but it was we were just so we
Speaker 1: started becoming different and that's fine. That happens all right.
Speaker 1: Now he's the last question, Philip Service. Now, should you
Speaker 1: support your man or you you know, for guys, your
Speaker 1: women if you think that what she's doing isn't really
Speaker 1: that good, if they're not if you don't believe in them,
Speaker 1: like say they have a dream of goal, they want
Speaker 1: to do something, but you don't really think they're that
Speaker 1: good at it, should you still be supported or should
Speaker 1: you let them know? Should you question if there's a
Speaker 1: possibility for them to get better at said thing and
Speaker 1: get professional training or you know, but well you might
Speaker 1: need some professional training. Yeah, I mean if it's a
Speaker 1: way for them too, if there's a way for you
Speaker 1: to encourage them to improve that talent or whatever that
Speaker 1: skill or whatever it is, then you should encourage them
Speaker 1: that way. But if it ain't no way of help,
Speaker 1: like let's just say you want to be a singer,
Speaker 1: want to be a singer, can't single lick or trying
Speaker 1: to singing or been trying to sing and he just
Speaker 1: too old. You're not going to be in a boy
Speaker 1: man because you so right? You just know so, I mean,
Speaker 1: I guess it all depends, but you should all you
Speaker 1: should never be a yes person. You should never you
Speaker 1: should always give the honest truth rather it's gonna hurt
Speaker 1: someone or not, because in the long run, you're going
Speaker 1: to hurt them by not being truthful with them. So
Speaker 1: I feel like and I live my life just being
Speaker 1: honest and real because that's how I would expect the
Speaker 1: same thing in return. But um, I just feel like,
Speaker 1: you just gotta keep it one hunting and if it's
Speaker 1: something that you're not you can't get better at. I
Speaker 1: think quit while you are ahead, and let's try to
Speaker 1: Let's just move on and try some other things. Like Yeah,
Speaker 1: you can help them as much as you can. I think,
Speaker 1: like G said, encourage them and help them find better
Speaker 1: ways to you know, improve their skill. But is they're
Speaker 1: not making no money and you've got to support them. Yeah, see,
Speaker 1: Hell no, it depends how long. It depends how long
Speaker 1: because certain things take time, you know, to to I'm
Speaker 1: gonna be an actor. I want to do this, I
Speaker 1: want to do that. Help me pay for these classes
Speaker 1: and then when I blow up, I got you. You
Speaker 1: ain't gotta work no more. But how long it's too long?
Speaker 1: How long it's too long? Ten years? Yeah, that's long.
Speaker 1: If it's been like four or five years and you
Speaker 1: haven't gotten at least some type of even if it's
Speaker 1: a made some type of stride, even if it's a
Speaker 1: couple of bucks. It's like, all right, let's try to
Speaker 1: reevaluate what's going on. Let's let's see what else you're
Speaker 1: good at. Let's let's try to find I just learned
Speaker 1: how to sell, and I'm selling and I'm making clee yes,
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna get better at it. I'm not the
Speaker 1: best at it right now, but I teamed up with
Speaker 1: somebody that has more experience and we're working together and
Speaker 1: I'm getting back and he supported down. Yeah, if my
Speaker 1: ship sucked, I would want him to be like, bitch, stop.
Speaker 1: But that is something you could learn. Well, yeah, even
Speaker 1: if you stuck at it at first. I mean, but
Speaker 1: what if I was the type of person that just
Speaker 1: didn't dress well and what if you started on a
Speaker 1: booty telling that stuff that trash? Yeah, I want to
Speaker 1: time like nobe trash, you know, I feel you. So
Speaker 1: what if it's like if it's something that they picked
Speaker 1: up as a hobby and they're doing it on the side,
Speaker 1: and like yeah, like that's I think that's a little
Speaker 1: better versus if it's something that they're not good at
Speaker 1: but they're going full hoby is a hobby. If they
Speaker 1: have a job and they can pay for their own hobby,
Speaker 1: go ahead. No, But what if they want to take
Speaker 1: this hobby and make it like their full time and
Speaker 1: they want to quit their job and they're not get either,
Speaker 1: You're gonna be like, no, baby, how do feels get paid? Yeah?
Speaker 1: You know, and then you're gonna break up. And then
Speaker 1: then he gonna blow up and you can goddamn it.
Speaker 1: I should have say by man when he had his dreams.
Speaker 1: But it was lift service. Listen, thank you for joining
Speaker 1: to see you every single week. So I wanted to
Speaker 1: make sure that people got a chance to see who
Speaker 1: you were, you know, back with us all the time.
Speaker 1: And she's always supportive of lip service. In the very
Speaker 1: beginning and when we started doing it, this was fun, man,
Speaker 1: And it's like every week you learn something new from
Speaker 1: the guests that we have here in the conversation, and
Speaker 1: you always chime into, like when we be downstairs talking
Speaker 1: about our lives and what is happening and what you
Speaker 1: think about this, because we talk about a lot of
Speaker 1: stuff before we do this shop sitting downstairs. And it's
Speaker 1: even hard when you have guests to not chiming you know,
Speaker 1: all the ship that the guests is saying, it's it's
Speaker 1: just hilarious. We've had some good episode so I'm excited
Speaker 1: to be on board for sure. The one thing that
Speaker 1: I just want to say, I want to do it
Speaker 1: that you guys always talk about a second dick until
Speaker 1: you cry. Yo, man, I start watering, you start running
Speaker 1: with me, but it and it feels like gagging and everywhere.
Speaker 1: It's just messiest ship. Your face, like, um, I don't
Speaker 1: wipe those tears. You cannot say let him run. You
Speaker 1: gotta let it. Yeah, work on it. I'm gonna work
Speaker 1: on it. When I you said no nineties heads all right?
Speaker 1: Lift stavicell be back next week.