1 00:00:01,200 --> 00:00:04,520 Speaker 1: Lip Service. What up? It is lift Service, I mean Delay. 2 00:00:05,040 --> 00:00:08,559 Speaker 1: I'm Stephanie Santiago, I'm g G McGuire and it's saving 3 00:00:08,960 --> 00:00:11,840 Speaker 1: Hey girl, listen, we thought this is only appropriate now 4 00:00:11,880 --> 00:00:13,280 Speaker 1: Every week we come up here to the engine room 5 00:00:13,320 --> 00:00:15,880 Speaker 1: audio to do lip Service, and every week we sit 6 00:00:15,920 --> 00:00:17,599 Speaker 1: down and chit chat with Avian and we have some 7 00:00:17,640 --> 00:00:20,400 Speaker 1: great girl talk. So she's here with us today on 8 00:00:20,480 --> 00:00:21,840 Speaker 1: lip Service and we're gonna stet with the tip of 9 00:00:21,880 --> 00:00:23,959 Speaker 1: the day, Avian. What are you doing here? Just so 10 00:00:24,079 --> 00:00:27,560 Speaker 1: people know, well, Um, I do a lot, man, you know, 11 00:00:27,640 --> 00:00:30,880 Speaker 1: just managing the spot, helping Scotty, dealing with bookings, you know, 12 00:00:30,960 --> 00:00:33,400 Speaker 1: making sure that engineers are on point with the sessions, 13 00:00:33,560 --> 00:00:37,920 Speaker 1: just every kind of studio. Yeah. Yeah, it's a lot, 14 00:00:38,000 --> 00:00:39,960 Speaker 1: but it's it's great. You know, everything that we do 15 00:00:40,040 --> 00:00:42,680 Speaker 1: here on the podcast lip Service is great every week 16 00:00:42,840 --> 00:00:50,280 Speaker 1: is it's Yeah, you're weird because I'm sure guys come 17 00:00:50,360 --> 00:00:51,440 Speaker 1: up here and try to kick it to you because 18 00:00:51,479 --> 00:00:54,279 Speaker 1: you're a cute girl, very attractive. So how do you 19 00:00:54,400 --> 00:00:56,920 Speaker 1: handle that? Um? I mean, you just got to know 20 00:00:57,000 --> 00:00:59,360 Speaker 1: the industry that you and you know this music industry. 21 00:00:59,360 --> 00:01:01,360 Speaker 1: You're gonna do with that every day? If you're pretty 22 00:01:01,400 --> 00:01:03,320 Speaker 1: chick no matter where you go. So I think I 23 00:01:03,440 --> 00:01:06,320 Speaker 1: just you know, because people always say that, how do 24 00:01:06,400 --> 00:01:08,479 Speaker 1: you handle it when you work? You know, you're working 25 00:01:08,480 --> 00:01:11,080 Speaker 1: and guys are flirting with you, coming on to you. 26 00:01:11,280 --> 00:01:12,920 Speaker 1: How do you handle that if you especially if you're 27 00:01:12,959 --> 00:01:15,840 Speaker 1: not interested, but you don't want to offend somebody, And yeah, 28 00:01:15,959 --> 00:01:17,760 Speaker 1: I think you gotta keep it friendly. And I think, 29 00:01:17,800 --> 00:01:20,360 Speaker 1: you know, depending on how you come off to the person, 30 00:01:20,400 --> 00:01:22,760 Speaker 1: they would know immediately if you're rocking with them or not. 31 00:01:22,840 --> 00:01:25,640 Speaker 1: You know what I mean. It's one thing to flirt friendly, 32 00:01:25,760 --> 00:01:28,120 Speaker 1: but you know, I think if you're trying to take 33 00:01:28,160 --> 00:01:30,560 Speaker 1: it to the next level is pretty obvious. So you know, 34 00:01:30,600 --> 00:01:33,600 Speaker 1: I'm always friendly with the guys. Is again, this industry 35 00:01:33,680 --> 00:01:36,640 Speaker 1: is just mail driven. So I deal with men every day. 36 00:01:36,680 --> 00:01:38,640 Speaker 1: All the guys that work here is a bunch of them. 37 00:01:38,880 --> 00:01:41,120 Speaker 1: But you know, it's an adventure. It's fun. I learned 38 00:01:41,120 --> 00:01:43,319 Speaker 1: from them. I learned people always asking that, they're like, 39 00:01:43,319 --> 00:01:46,440 Speaker 1: how do you deal with guys? It's just something you 40 00:01:46,520 --> 00:01:48,800 Speaker 1: gotta get used to, you know, something you gotta deal 41 00:01:48,840 --> 00:01:50,559 Speaker 1: with if you're going to be in this industry. Again, 42 00:01:50,600 --> 00:01:53,160 Speaker 1: it's a male driven industry, so you gotta get used 43 00:01:53,160 --> 00:01:56,040 Speaker 1: to it. The worst for me is like even if 44 00:01:56,080 --> 00:01:59,800 Speaker 1: you're really nice and they still can't take the curve right, Yeah, 45 00:02:00,320 --> 00:02:03,240 Speaker 1: respect because you know why, because sometimes persistence of what 46 00:02:03,280 --> 00:02:05,200 Speaker 1: comes resistant. I'm sure we've all give it into a 47 00:02:05,240 --> 00:02:09,799 Speaker 1: persistent guy. Yes I have. Yeah it works. Yeah, I'm 48 00:02:09,800 --> 00:02:12,239 Speaker 1: not gonna lie. It works. It's like getting a job. 49 00:02:12,280 --> 00:02:14,640 Speaker 1: You know, I'm gonna keep on checking in and seeing 50 00:02:14,680 --> 00:02:16,320 Speaker 1: if it works out. And if one day you can 51 00:02:16,360 --> 00:02:19,639 Speaker 1: get caught slipping. You know, if one day you're drunk, 52 00:02:20,080 --> 00:02:24,400 Speaker 1: right or you know, upset about something or board or lonely, 53 00:02:24,520 --> 00:02:27,680 Speaker 1: maybe this guy to be hearing me all the time, 54 00:02:28,000 --> 00:02:33,080 Speaker 1: fucking you don't want it does happen, though it happened 55 00:02:33,080 --> 00:02:35,880 Speaker 1: to all of us. I'm sure, right that persistent guy. 56 00:02:35,919 --> 00:02:38,600 Speaker 1: But it's just that if you're not interested at all, 57 00:02:38,600 --> 00:02:41,160 Speaker 1: and that is their rules against, like dating somebody that 58 00:02:41,240 --> 00:02:43,160 Speaker 1: comes up here is bad. Like do they tell you 59 00:02:43,200 --> 00:02:47,320 Speaker 1: not to um or is it just like at your 60 00:02:47,320 --> 00:02:51,000 Speaker 1: own discretion? I mean I've never been told not to, 61 00:02:51,320 --> 00:02:53,120 Speaker 1: you know, I think we're all adults. But it's just 62 00:02:53,240 --> 00:02:55,400 Speaker 1: keeping it at a level where it's still respectful when 63 00:02:55,440 --> 00:02:57,799 Speaker 1: it's not, you know, it's not messing with anyone, it's 64 00:02:57,800 --> 00:03:00,640 Speaker 1: not messing with the business. Do you think it's never spectable? Like, 65 00:03:00,680 --> 00:03:03,400 Speaker 1: what do y'all think if a girl is working someplace? 66 00:03:03,480 --> 00:03:05,880 Speaker 1: Like say, we came in here and a woman was 67 00:03:05,919 --> 00:03:08,600 Speaker 1: working here, but you know a few people done came 68 00:03:08,639 --> 00:03:14,720 Speaker 1: in and it doesn't matter for me. I think. Um, 69 00:03:14,760 --> 00:03:16,960 Speaker 1: I feel like once you once you have sex with 70 00:03:17,000 --> 00:03:20,000 Speaker 1: somebody and you see them every day, it makes things awkward. 71 00:03:20,520 --> 00:03:22,680 Speaker 1: But would you look at somebody differently, like if you 72 00:03:22,720 --> 00:03:24,280 Speaker 1: work you know, if we came up in here and 73 00:03:24,320 --> 00:03:27,320 Speaker 1: Avian not at all, because I don't know Aban don't 74 00:03:27,360 --> 00:03:29,600 Speaker 1: do nothing like that. But let's just say, like you know, 75 00:03:29,680 --> 00:03:31,560 Speaker 1: several guys it was like, yeah, you know what I mean. 76 00:03:32,880 --> 00:03:36,160 Speaker 1: Would you be like damn, would you like she's letting 77 00:03:36,200 --> 00:03:42,000 Speaker 1: a professional? Yeah? Yeah, because even if you are going 78 00:03:42,040 --> 00:03:44,240 Speaker 1: to do something different place, then you need to not 79 00:03:44,280 --> 00:03:49,080 Speaker 1: do it excessively to where the people more people going 80 00:03:49,200 --> 00:03:51,320 Speaker 1: up here. She would be like, oh, look that's the 81 00:03:51,360 --> 00:03:55,600 Speaker 1: thought that works up here. Right, Look, guys, if you're interested, 82 00:03:55,760 --> 00:03:58,280 Speaker 1: and then I'll be super uncomfortable for me, you know, right, 83 00:03:58,960 --> 00:04:01,560 Speaker 1: like Danny's talking about me. Yeah, I mean you know 84 00:04:01,640 --> 00:04:04,520 Speaker 1: you you know who you fucked. So it's like you, 85 00:04:04,520 --> 00:04:07,400 Speaker 1: you yourself would be uncomfortable in that situation, not even 86 00:04:07,520 --> 00:04:10,320 Speaker 1: them talking about you. You yourself would be like, oh ship. 87 00:04:10,680 --> 00:04:12,640 Speaker 1: I always say that if guys have respect for you, 88 00:04:12,680 --> 00:04:15,360 Speaker 1: they're not gonna talk about you, right Like, if they 89 00:04:15,440 --> 00:04:17,359 Speaker 1: respect you, they're not gonna be like, oh yeah, you know, 90 00:04:17,440 --> 00:04:19,000 Speaker 1: I hate that because they don't even look at you 91 00:04:19,040 --> 00:04:21,120 Speaker 1: like that. They respect you to me, so they didn't 92 00:04:21,160 --> 00:04:22,839 Speaker 1: want to talk no ship. And I was having that 93 00:04:22,920 --> 00:04:25,599 Speaker 1: conversation the other day, Um one of my friends. He 94 00:04:25,720 --> 00:04:26,920 Speaker 1: was like, you know, I could be in a room 95 00:04:26,920 --> 00:04:29,120 Speaker 1: with four chicks that I fucked and I won't say anything, 96 00:04:29,560 --> 00:04:32,120 Speaker 1: right you know. It's well, he sounds a little griny, 97 00:04:32,640 --> 00:04:34,840 Speaker 1: I mean, but in a sense, in a sense, you're 98 00:04:34,839 --> 00:04:36,640 Speaker 1: not gonna be like, oh yeah, I sucked her, and 99 00:04:36,800 --> 00:04:39,000 Speaker 1: her and her. It's like, it's it's your business. If 100 00:04:39,040 --> 00:04:40,400 Speaker 1: you guys can keep it on the low and and 101 00:04:40,400 --> 00:04:42,159 Speaker 1: you don't have to spread that out to everybody, then 102 00:04:42,240 --> 00:04:44,279 Speaker 1: just keep it to yourself. If you guys are respected, 103 00:04:44,560 --> 00:04:47,440 Speaker 1: respectful to each other, then you know, now, let's say 104 00:04:47,480 --> 00:04:49,680 Speaker 1: somebody came up in here and one of us, you know, 105 00:04:49,800 --> 00:04:52,080 Speaker 1: step with him. Would you tell other people? Would you 106 00:04:52,160 --> 00:04:55,320 Speaker 1: keep that between you and him, like, let's just say 107 00:04:55,360 --> 00:04:57,800 Speaker 1: we have somebody in here, and we're like, oh, you know, 108 00:04:58,520 --> 00:05:01,760 Speaker 1: just tell y'all know, like or is that private information? 109 00:05:02,240 --> 00:05:08,480 Speaker 1: I would probably tell you right yeah, men during the show, 110 00:05:08,760 --> 00:05:12,960 Speaker 1: I would like quiet, y'all like girl, Yeah, I wouldn't 111 00:05:12,960 --> 00:05:14,560 Speaker 1: mention it on the show either, but of course I 112 00:05:14,560 --> 00:05:20,200 Speaker 1: would tell y'all if he was whack, you know, service. 113 00:05:21,040 --> 00:05:22,840 Speaker 1: I'll tell y'all if it was whack. If it was 114 00:05:22,960 --> 00:05:26,159 Speaker 1: good size lip service, you know those off the record. 115 00:05:26,360 --> 00:05:31,560 Speaker 1: Yeahs you gotta me and my me and my best fo. Yeah, 116 00:05:31,839 --> 00:05:35,159 Speaker 1: we have a code when it comes to guys dick size, 117 00:05:35,320 --> 00:05:37,719 Speaker 1: like with all people knowing, well, now everybody's gonna know, 118 00:05:38,160 --> 00:05:42,400 Speaker 1: but when um like if it was if it was 119 00:05:42,440 --> 00:05:44,400 Speaker 1: an average size, will be like, man, he was like 120 00:05:44,400 --> 00:05:49,000 Speaker 1: at six, you know the battery when your battery, but 121 00:05:49,000 --> 00:05:50,880 Speaker 1: it could still last for a few years, and that 122 00:05:51,040 --> 00:05:53,320 Speaker 1: somebody would have a little bit. Man, he was fifty 123 00:05:53,440 --> 00:05:56,640 Speaker 1: percent power mode. You want to be like, man, he's 124 00:05:56,680 --> 00:06:00,840 Speaker 1: about to die. He's on a little power mode. That 125 00:06:01,040 --> 00:06:05,679 Speaker 1: if it's really big, we'll say, oh he had the MOFI. 126 00:06:11,320 --> 00:06:13,560 Speaker 1: That's hilarious right now, you don't Normally we started for 127 00:06:13,600 --> 00:06:15,039 Speaker 1: the tip of the day to today's tipp is, how 128 00:06:15,040 --> 00:06:17,320 Speaker 1: do you tell somebody if they got you a present 129 00:06:17,320 --> 00:06:19,360 Speaker 1: that you don't really like it? Or should you tell 130 00:06:19,400 --> 00:06:25,599 Speaker 1: them that's tough. It depends on the situation, depends on 131 00:06:25,640 --> 00:06:28,200 Speaker 1: the president. It depends on how bad the president is. Like, 132 00:06:28,240 --> 00:06:30,160 Speaker 1: if it's something that they would if it's like clothing 133 00:06:30,240 --> 00:06:31,800 Speaker 1: or something that they would expect you to wear or 134 00:06:31,800 --> 00:06:34,159 Speaker 1: expect to see you in, or you know, something like that, 135 00:06:34,240 --> 00:06:37,080 Speaker 1: then I probably tell them, like, you know, even though 136 00:06:37,080 --> 00:06:39,520 Speaker 1: it's so nice, it's just not my style. It's just 137 00:06:39,600 --> 00:06:42,560 Speaker 1: not for me. This is funny because, um, one of 138 00:06:42,600 --> 00:06:45,840 Speaker 1: my best friends, a guy gave her a charm for 139 00:06:45,880 --> 00:06:52,200 Speaker 1: her bracelet and it's, um, the title of the charm, 140 00:06:52,279 --> 00:06:55,800 Speaker 1: it's my first our first dance, right, it's two as 141 00:06:55,800 --> 00:06:57,680 Speaker 1: a boy and a girl, you know, one of those 142 00:06:57,960 --> 00:07:00,800 Speaker 1: bless So it's a boy and a girl at his 143 00:07:00,960 --> 00:07:04,240 Speaker 1: first dance. And she's like when she opened, like, she's like, 144 00:07:04,279 --> 00:07:07,840 Speaker 1: but we've never danced before. How long have they been dating? 145 00:07:08,480 --> 00:07:11,560 Speaker 1: Like a year or something? And then um, well they're 146 00:07:11,560 --> 00:07:13,760 Speaker 1: like on and off because she has another boyfriend. But 147 00:07:13,800 --> 00:07:16,640 Speaker 1: that's a whole different right, Yeah, that's a whole different 148 00:07:16,760 --> 00:07:20,360 Speaker 1: dancing itself. Yeah, that's a whole different dance. But she's like, 149 00:07:20,480 --> 00:07:23,360 Speaker 1: we didn't dance on our first day. Like if if 150 00:07:23,520 --> 00:07:26,000 Speaker 1: it doesn't make sense, it doesn't make sense though type 151 00:07:26,000 --> 00:07:29,400 Speaker 1: of connection. Maybe, Yeah, that's what I told her. I 152 00:07:29,400 --> 00:07:32,600 Speaker 1: was like, maybe you should like And that's a tough 153 00:07:32,640 --> 00:07:36,600 Speaker 1: situation because the way she the way she kind of 154 00:07:36,680 --> 00:07:50,200 Speaker 1: took the gift is like but he now you know what. Okay, 155 00:07:50,240 --> 00:07:52,720 Speaker 1: SO had ex boyfriend and he used to gna be 156 00:07:52,760 --> 00:07:55,400 Speaker 1: the worst presence ever. And we were together for a 157 00:07:55,400 --> 00:07:58,360 Speaker 1: long time, like five years, and his presence used to 158 00:07:58,440 --> 00:08:00,720 Speaker 1: be terrible. I used to be like he would be 159 00:08:00,720 --> 00:08:02,880 Speaker 1: so excited to give him He wouldn't even be excited. 160 00:08:02,880 --> 00:08:05,800 Speaker 1: He just wasn't a thoughtful person and he would give 161 00:08:05,800 --> 00:08:08,680 Speaker 1: me the worst presence and I never would say anything, 162 00:08:08,760 --> 00:08:12,200 Speaker 1: but it would make me mad. So when we did 163 00:08:12,280 --> 00:08:16,120 Speaker 1: break up, Now, he did cheat on me, and you know, 164 00:08:16,160 --> 00:08:18,920 Speaker 1: I found out and then I was like, okay, and 165 00:08:18,960 --> 00:08:21,640 Speaker 1: I was thinking to myself, he got me whack presents anyway, 166 00:08:22,040 --> 00:08:23,720 Speaker 1: and that's like, I think you could put up with 167 00:08:23,760 --> 00:08:25,640 Speaker 1: a lot more when somebody treats me really good and 168 00:08:25,680 --> 00:08:28,680 Speaker 1: it's like thoughtful and everything. But because you know, he 169 00:08:28,720 --> 00:08:30,800 Speaker 1: got me whack presents and he didn't treat me like 170 00:08:30,960 --> 00:08:36,160 Speaker 1: like he was cheating. It take you a little homemade purse, 171 00:08:41,200 --> 00:08:43,000 Speaker 1: but you know, lie, he was like, you know this 172 00:08:43,120 --> 00:08:45,840 Speaker 1: woman in my job makes persons. He really brought me 173 00:08:45,920 --> 00:08:50,680 Speaker 1: a purse. But then in those situations when people buy 174 00:08:50,720 --> 00:08:53,200 Speaker 1: you continuously by your gifts that you don't like, is 175 00:08:53,200 --> 00:08:55,080 Speaker 1: it that they're not paying attention to what you do 176 00:08:55,160 --> 00:08:57,880 Speaker 1: like or they're just picking up whatever. Maybe it's their 177 00:08:57,960 --> 00:09:01,319 Speaker 1: personal taste it's but his taste was good. He put 178 00:09:01,400 --> 00:09:03,920 Speaker 1: himself all kind of nice stuff. Maybe you know what 179 00:09:03,960 --> 00:09:05,560 Speaker 1: I think. I think he never had like a for 180 00:09:05,640 --> 00:09:08,319 Speaker 1: real like the girlfriend he had before me was like basic, 181 00:09:08,880 --> 00:09:11,360 Speaker 1: not even but he never had like no real girlfriend 182 00:09:11,360 --> 00:09:13,520 Speaker 1: that he really did stuff for. So it probably was 183 00:09:13,559 --> 00:09:16,200 Speaker 1: his most serious relationships. It was like a learning experience. 184 00:09:16,640 --> 00:09:18,560 Speaker 1: I was like candy Pig. I'm sure he was buying 185 00:09:18,720 --> 00:09:21,560 Speaker 1: amateur gifts, right, he was just didn't an amateur gifting. 186 00:09:22,880 --> 00:09:25,240 Speaker 1: Like he went on vacation and he came back with 187 00:09:25,400 --> 00:09:29,480 Speaker 1: like some type of shell necklace from he probably bought 188 00:09:29,480 --> 00:09:32,000 Speaker 1: at the airport. Oh my god, I can't even imagine 189 00:09:32,000 --> 00:09:34,480 Speaker 1: you're making that cold. So what are your girlfriend's like girl, 190 00:09:34,640 --> 00:09:36,360 Speaker 1: this guy, and I was like, I don't want to 191 00:09:36,400 --> 00:09:39,360 Speaker 1: be And it's not even that I'm materialistic or I'm 192 00:09:39,400 --> 00:09:42,360 Speaker 1: an asshole. I just felt like this is all I 193 00:09:42,400 --> 00:09:45,440 Speaker 1: can't even were a little more in life. And then 194 00:09:45,480 --> 00:09:47,960 Speaker 1: one time he got me a juicy couture perfume set. 195 00:09:48,520 --> 00:09:54,200 Speaker 1: It smelled disgusting. Yeah, that's that's that's like teenager. Where 196 00:09:54,200 --> 00:09:56,960 Speaker 1: do you get it from? Like century twenty one or something. 197 00:09:57,000 --> 00:09:58,400 Speaker 1: Where did he get it from? I think he ended 198 00:09:58,440 --> 00:10:01,360 Speaker 1: up Bloomingdals or something, but it was listen and it 199 00:10:01,520 --> 00:10:04,120 Speaker 1: was like teenage perfect, probably the same place you got 200 00:10:04,120 --> 00:10:08,000 Speaker 1: the charm. But I do feel like at the time 201 00:10:08,040 --> 00:10:10,600 Speaker 1: I should have said something to him, because I felt 202 00:10:10,600 --> 00:10:11,960 Speaker 1: like it was wrong for me not to say anything. 203 00:10:12,000 --> 00:10:14,240 Speaker 1: But it was making me matter and matter, and I 204 00:10:14,280 --> 00:10:17,640 Speaker 1: wasn't saying because I felt like it would be ungrateful 205 00:10:17,720 --> 00:10:21,360 Speaker 1: to be like, I don't really like these, so I 206 00:10:21,360 --> 00:10:25,520 Speaker 1: wanted to be appreciative of it. But I just like 207 00:10:25,760 --> 00:10:27,319 Speaker 1: it was building. It was like a build up, you know, 208 00:10:27,520 --> 00:10:29,280 Speaker 1: sometimes you're like, Okay, I don't want to be an asshole, 209 00:10:29,280 --> 00:10:32,000 Speaker 1: so I'm not gonna say but it built up and 210 00:10:32,040 --> 00:10:33,480 Speaker 1: I probably would have had this time. I was like 211 00:10:33,679 --> 00:10:37,199 Speaker 1: this whack ass present, Like it just didn't. I did, 212 00:10:37,559 --> 00:10:39,800 Speaker 1: but but it was like way later after you given 213 00:10:39,800 --> 00:10:44,480 Speaker 1: like eight terrible presents, see after president with three? I like, listen, bro, 214 00:10:45,360 --> 00:10:50,800 Speaker 1: let's just yeah. Everybody was talking about black Shina and 215 00:10:50,880 --> 00:10:54,719 Speaker 1: Rap Kardashian getting engaged and the ring that he bought her, right, 216 00:10:55,080 --> 00:10:59,679 Speaker 1: seven carrots seven carrots. So somebody was asking me, you know, 217 00:11:00,520 --> 00:11:02,400 Speaker 1: how much do you think somebody should spend on a ring? 218 00:11:02,480 --> 00:11:05,199 Speaker 1: Like if you was gonna get engaged, how doesn't like, 219 00:11:05,240 --> 00:11:10,640 Speaker 1: what do you expect somebody to spend? Um? I it 220 00:11:10,720 --> 00:11:14,520 Speaker 1: depends on the situation, like if um if it depends 221 00:11:14,559 --> 00:11:16,240 Speaker 1: on what he does for a living, what you do 222 00:11:16,320 --> 00:11:18,440 Speaker 1: for a living? What's going on? Because in general they 223 00:11:18,440 --> 00:11:23,120 Speaker 1: say three months salary, Okay, you supposed to spend on 224 00:11:23,200 --> 00:11:26,760 Speaker 1: a ring, on a ring? My friends just got engaged 225 00:11:26,800 --> 00:11:31,720 Speaker 1: in her ring was like nice, Yeah, it was nice. 226 00:11:31,800 --> 00:11:34,600 Speaker 1: That's number. I agree with stuff. I think it's just 227 00:11:34,640 --> 00:11:37,640 Speaker 1: really you know your situation. But if somebody asked you, 228 00:11:37,640 --> 00:11:39,880 Speaker 1: like how much you think would you expect somebody to 229 00:11:39,920 --> 00:11:42,080 Speaker 1: spend on the ring for you? What would you say 230 00:11:42,760 --> 00:11:46,080 Speaker 1: for me? For my soul? Yes? What would you say? 231 00:11:46,520 --> 00:12:00,240 Speaker 1: Three million? Dollars. I mean cute, you know, if if 232 00:12:00,280 --> 00:12:04,720 Speaker 1: you want to you know, I mean, I mean, you know, 233 00:12:04,760 --> 00:12:09,200 Speaker 1: we could go up to a million, but millions aller 234 00:12:09,280 --> 00:12:12,080 Speaker 1: ring where it's so it's so big and happy, I 235 00:12:12,080 --> 00:12:16,120 Speaker 1: can't even lift my hand. Would you get it to praise? Yes, 236 00:12:16,240 --> 00:12:18,439 Speaker 1: I would get it a pise. Is that bad? Does 237 00:12:18,480 --> 00:12:20,679 Speaker 1: that mean? I don't know. Now. I had a discussion 238 00:12:21,440 --> 00:12:23,080 Speaker 1: with one of my hands and we had a whole 239 00:12:23,120 --> 00:12:28,720 Speaker 1: debate about this. Well, it depends. It depends like insurance purposes. Yes, 240 00:12:28,920 --> 00:12:35,480 Speaker 1: what if he says it's in short already? M hmm. Interesting, Yeah, 241 00:12:35,520 --> 00:12:40,120 Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm saying under rail. Would you get 242 00:12:40,160 --> 00:12:42,720 Speaker 1: it appraised? Because my friend said she would, I said 243 00:12:42,760 --> 00:12:50,040 Speaker 1: I would really wouldn't immediately, Yeah, not right away your prayers, Yeah, 244 00:12:50,280 --> 00:12:53,160 Speaker 1: but I would be I mean if if if for 245 00:12:53,280 --> 00:12:55,920 Speaker 1: somehow I didn't find out some way down the line 246 00:12:55,920 --> 00:12:57,560 Speaker 1: and I really really felt like I needed to know 247 00:12:57,640 --> 00:13:00,200 Speaker 1: or I wanted to know, then I would just would 248 00:13:00,200 --> 00:13:02,280 Speaker 1: you ask him I get it a praise? I would 249 00:13:02,280 --> 00:13:04,080 Speaker 1: probably just get it a praise. I think it's kind 250 00:13:04,120 --> 00:13:05,480 Speaker 1: of rude to be like, how much you pay for this? 251 00:13:06,960 --> 00:13:08,599 Speaker 1: You know, when you could just go read to go 252 00:13:08,679 --> 00:13:11,480 Speaker 1: get it a praise. We're not if you don't know. Okay, 253 00:13:12,880 --> 00:13:14,200 Speaker 1: now what if you what if you're going you find 254 00:13:14,200 --> 00:13:21,520 Speaker 1: out it's not real? Right, because then do you go 255 00:13:21,600 --> 00:13:25,280 Speaker 1: and talk Look, I got this a praise that's acts like, well, 256 00:13:25,280 --> 00:13:28,120 Speaker 1: hey about this ring? And then what if he lies? 257 00:13:28,720 --> 00:13:30,400 Speaker 1: Then that's when you slide that. People were going like, 258 00:13:31,000 --> 00:13:35,480 Speaker 1: so now you're both designed. You can't get mad at 259 00:13:35,480 --> 00:13:37,200 Speaker 1: me for getting into praise. If this ship is fake, 260 00:13:37,800 --> 00:13:41,320 Speaker 1: who's who's worse? And at the end of the day, Yeah, 261 00:13:41,720 --> 00:13:44,040 Speaker 1: what would you do if you got the ring a 262 00:13:44,080 --> 00:13:49,560 Speaker 1: praise and it was fake? Mm hmm. I don't think 263 00:13:49,600 --> 00:13:57,120 Speaker 1: I'll talk to the motherfucker for a wow, well this glass? 264 00:13:57,800 --> 00:14:02,840 Speaker 1: But you would telling yeah, yeah, sure, definitely you would 265 00:14:02,840 --> 00:14:08,240 Speaker 1: tell him what if I what it at him? What 266 00:14:09,840 --> 00:14:13,120 Speaker 1: I would probably tell him after he's in the hospital 267 00:14:13,360 --> 00:14:16,320 Speaker 1: because I almost killed him because he got cut, And 268 00:14:16,360 --> 00:14:19,480 Speaker 1: I would tell him there like I caught you because 269 00:14:19,600 --> 00:14:22,360 Speaker 1: you gave me a fake as relationships over after that, 270 00:14:22,800 --> 00:14:26,000 Speaker 1: I mean it's not yeah, it's a line like for that, 271 00:14:26,320 --> 00:14:32,840 Speaker 1: I mean it's for me. It depends on the situation, 272 00:14:32,960 --> 00:14:35,600 Speaker 1: like if um, if you know it's a it's a 273 00:14:35,640 --> 00:14:39,360 Speaker 1: hard working you know regular guy, you know who's who's 274 00:14:39,440 --> 00:14:42,480 Speaker 1: doing the forty hours a week. And I went and 275 00:14:42,520 --> 00:14:44,160 Speaker 1: got there. He got me a beautiful ring, and I 276 00:14:44,200 --> 00:14:46,520 Speaker 1: went and found out it was fake. I probably wouldn't. 277 00:14:47,040 --> 00:14:49,400 Speaker 1: I probably wouldn't be sold down on him for it. 278 00:14:49,440 --> 00:14:51,720 Speaker 1: You know, I probably wouldn't kill him for it. But 279 00:14:51,760 --> 00:14:55,440 Speaker 1: if I'm dating an athlete or a rapper or something 280 00:14:55,520 --> 00:14:57,520 Speaker 1: like that, and then give me a bakery. But if 281 00:14:57,520 --> 00:15:05,000 Speaker 1: he's like babe, I wouldn't fake jul Now they be moving. 282 00:15:05,160 --> 00:15:07,120 Speaker 1: We don't want nobody hanging on what you're trying to 283 00:15:07,160 --> 00:15:09,840 Speaker 1: take your ship. Yeah no, but you know that's because 284 00:15:09,920 --> 00:15:12,360 Speaker 1: you have You should have brought me a real ring, 285 00:15:12,440 --> 00:15:14,680 Speaker 1: and they had a dummy ring that I wear out 286 00:15:15,120 --> 00:15:17,640 Speaker 1: and the real ring safe. At least we know we 287 00:15:17,720 --> 00:15:20,760 Speaker 1: got a real bring. I think it all depends on 288 00:15:20,760 --> 00:15:22,720 Speaker 1: the situation and a lot of things like stuff. And 289 00:15:22,760 --> 00:15:24,600 Speaker 1: he said, if it's a hard working dude and he 290 00:15:24,680 --> 00:15:26,680 Speaker 1: doesn't have a lot of money, but he feels like 291 00:15:26,760 --> 00:15:28,920 Speaker 1: you really want to ring and he wants to propose 292 00:15:29,000 --> 00:15:31,120 Speaker 1: to you, and he has to do whatever it takes 293 00:15:31,120 --> 00:15:34,720 Speaker 1: to make you happy, wouldn't if it was fake, you know, 294 00:15:35,160 --> 00:15:38,000 Speaker 1: that would be a problem. But maybe he felt pressured 295 00:15:38,160 --> 00:15:39,840 Speaker 1: that he wanted to get you a ring and he couldn't. 296 00:15:39,840 --> 00:15:41,320 Speaker 1: Maybe it was like one day I'm gonna get a 297 00:15:41,320 --> 00:15:44,200 Speaker 1: real one and replace the fake one. But it's still 298 00:15:44,200 --> 00:15:47,120 Speaker 1: a conversation, like, God, now I'm playing, isn't ring exactly? 299 00:15:47,120 --> 00:15:49,800 Speaker 1: I was gonna say, maybe just don't pay me ring right, 300 00:15:49,880 --> 00:15:51,600 Speaker 1: just don't get don't get it right now you really 301 00:15:51,600 --> 00:15:53,920 Speaker 1: feel like that? Can a guy propose to you with 302 00:15:54,000 --> 00:15:57,000 Speaker 1: no ring? No, that's not a proposal. There is no 303 00:15:57,080 --> 00:15:59,480 Speaker 1: ring involved. But I mean you can go google, go 304 00:15:59,520 --> 00:16:01,400 Speaker 1: get married it out having a wetting So what difference? 305 00:16:01,400 --> 00:16:03,320 Speaker 1: Don't make its only paper at the end of the that. No, 306 00:16:03,440 --> 00:16:07,280 Speaker 1: I mean I think your man was like, yeah, let's 307 00:16:07,280 --> 00:16:10,800 Speaker 1: just get married, but no ring. He's just ready to 308 00:16:10,840 --> 00:16:13,120 Speaker 1: go to the court. You don't think he proposed to you. 309 00:16:13,280 --> 00:16:16,800 Speaker 1: That's not a proposal that jump in the room. No, no, 310 00:16:16,960 --> 00:16:20,480 Speaker 1: it's getting hitched. No no, no, no, no, no no. 311 00:16:20,640 --> 00:16:23,880 Speaker 1: Because if you're getting marriage, when you ask the questions, 312 00:16:24,120 --> 00:16:26,560 Speaker 1: get down nothing to do. What if he says let's 313 00:16:26,560 --> 00:16:31,120 Speaker 1: get tattoos, it's let's get tattoos? Is a proposal to 314 00:16:31,160 --> 00:16:36,760 Speaker 1: get at ring tattoo? Like a ring tattoo Yeah, like, 315 00:16:36,840 --> 00:16:41,160 Speaker 1: let's get married and done tattoo it. Yeah, yeah, it's 316 00:16:41,160 --> 00:16:44,480 Speaker 1: still a proposal. If he gets down, She's like, I'm 317 00:16:44,520 --> 00:16:47,920 Speaker 1: not having it, Michael, my man had a ring. Having 318 00:16:49,120 --> 00:16:51,520 Speaker 1: If it's important to you, that's fine. I mean, I 319 00:16:51,560 --> 00:16:53,440 Speaker 1: don't really know if a ring is all that important 320 00:16:54,200 --> 00:16:57,080 Speaker 1: as the commitment itself, right, because you can have the 321 00:16:57,120 --> 00:16:59,320 Speaker 1: craziest you can have a goddamn ice skating rink on 322 00:16:59,360 --> 00:17:03,560 Speaker 1: your finger and there like ship low so with me, 323 00:17:03,760 --> 00:17:06,679 Speaker 1: and at the end of it, what matters is the 324 00:17:06,720 --> 00:17:11,159 Speaker 1: real commitment and not the materialistic part of it. But 325 00:17:10,960 --> 00:17:13,040 Speaker 1: but but I would prefer to have, right, That's what 326 00:17:13,040 --> 00:17:16,600 Speaker 1: I'm like, what if I had If you're in a 327 00:17:16,680 --> 00:17:18,880 Speaker 1: serious relationship and you've been with him for a long 328 00:17:18,960 --> 00:17:22,400 Speaker 1: time and you're ready for that commitment, you would expect 329 00:17:22,440 --> 00:17:24,480 Speaker 1: and hope that that moment will be special when he 330 00:17:24,600 --> 00:17:26,199 Speaker 1: because you want to believe you when we say you 331 00:17:26,240 --> 00:17:31,000 Speaker 1: engaged ring right, when you're like, I'm engaged, desid in 332 00:17:31,080 --> 00:17:34,320 Speaker 1: the ring, It's like if you're you know, you're not engaged, 333 00:17:35,320 --> 00:17:38,760 Speaker 1: not yet? Oh then um who got married without a ring? 334 00:17:39,040 --> 00:17:41,600 Speaker 1: I think it was Tammy and Walker. Yeah, And she's like, 335 00:17:41,600 --> 00:17:43,480 Speaker 1: I don't need know ring. I got a big ass house. 336 00:17:45,680 --> 00:17:48,560 Speaker 1: I got a big as I'm not mad us saying 337 00:17:48,680 --> 00:17:50,360 Speaker 1: let's not spend money on the ring because we're gonna 338 00:17:50,359 --> 00:17:53,040 Speaker 1: spend money on the house instead. Yeah, I'm never mad 339 00:17:53,040 --> 00:17:57,280 Speaker 1: at being practical, right, So I'm not. I mean, it's like, right, yeah, 340 00:17:57,680 --> 00:18:00,480 Speaker 1: but you want the ring. I mean, but if you're 341 00:18:00,480 --> 00:18:02,679 Speaker 1: doing that, like if you're invested in the home for 342 00:18:02,720 --> 00:18:04,720 Speaker 1: a future family and you know you're gonna be together 343 00:18:04,760 --> 00:18:06,960 Speaker 1: for a while, then the rink of weight, you know, 344 00:18:07,680 --> 00:18:09,560 Speaker 1: it all depends on a person. Oh my god, how 345 00:18:09,600 --> 00:18:14,040 Speaker 1: could I know? How could I forget this? The first 346 00:18:14,080 --> 00:18:16,080 Speaker 1: time I was to gage, the first time I got 347 00:18:16,119 --> 00:18:21,480 Speaker 1: to gauge, the guy gave me a cubic yes, God 348 00:18:21,520 --> 00:18:24,560 Speaker 1: bless that man, and I went. I took it too. 349 00:18:24,960 --> 00:18:27,360 Speaker 1: I took it to the pawn shop because I knew 350 00:18:27,400 --> 00:18:29,600 Speaker 1: the guy in the pawn shop. I was only like seventeen, 351 00:18:29,680 --> 00:18:32,080 Speaker 1: eighteen years old. I took I took it to the 352 00:18:32,119 --> 00:18:34,040 Speaker 1: pawn shop, and the guy was like, no, this isn't 353 00:18:34,040 --> 00:18:37,080 Speaker 1: a diamond. So I was like all right. I was 354 00:18:37,119 --> 00:18:39,560 Speaker 1: like okay. So I went to him and I told him. 355 00:18:39,560 --> 00:18:44,240 Speaker 1: I was like, hey, you know, I took it. Yeah, like, um, 356 00:18:44,600 --> 00:18:47,320 Speaker 1: was this supposed to be a diamond? Like did you know? 357 00:18:49,920 --> 00:18:57,600 Speaker 1: And he was like no, it's a diamond, was like yeah, yeah, 358 00:18:57,880 --> 00:19:00,399 Speaker 1: it was awful. He was an awful He was an 359 00:19:00,400 --> 00:19:06,320 Speaker 1: awful boyfriend. Was just awful. Yeah. Right, but you said 360 00:19:06,359 --> 00:19:10,080 Speaker 1: you was seventeen at that time, Oh he was thirty one. 361 00:19:10,920 --> 00:19:13,960 Speaker 1: Well he's a ready discussed exactly because I was trying 362 00:19:14,000 --> 00:19:15,880 Speaker 1: to say if it was a situation where he where 363 00:19:15,880 --> 00:19:18,880 Speaker 1: he was like he was, but he had just came 364 00:19:18,880 --> 00:19:22,480 Speaker 1: out of jail. He was in jail for seven years. Okay, yeah, 365 00:19:22,560 --> 00:19:26,560 Speaker 1: here we go from jail. Yeah, probably got it from 366 00:19:26,600 --> 00:19:29,440 Speaker 1: a cracking jack box man. We had was fake racks 367 00:19:29,440 --> 00:19:37,000 Speaker 1: and jail commissary money. You know what. Let me find 368 00:19:37,000 --> 00:19:40,720 Speaker 1: out he came home and got you that commissary brain. Yo, 369 00:19:44,440 --> 00:19:50,359 Speaker 1: marry me? Now, would you propose to a guy? Yes, 370 00:19:51,600 --> 00:19:55,280 Speaker 1: of course I would. I would ask a guy to 371 00:19:55,400 --> 00:19:58,280 Speaker 1: marry me. I would ask a guy to marry me. 372 00:19:59,000 --> 00:20:02,240 Speaker 1: It just depends on the situation, Like I wouldn't propose 373 00:20:02,320 --> 00:20:04,679 Speaker 1: to just any guy that I'm in love with. How 374 00:20:04,720 --> 00:20:06,679 Speaker 1: would you propose to a guide stuff? How would I 375 00:20:06,720 --> 00:20:10,159 Speaker 1: propose to marry this so a guy? It depends, like 376 00:20:10,200 --> 00:20:13,040 Speaker 1: I said, like I would ask my son's father to 377 00:20:13,080 --> 00:20:15,320 Speaker 1: marry me. You know what I mean. We've been together 378 00:20:15,359 --> 00:20:18,080 Speaker 1: for a long time, Like I know he probably wanted 379 00:20:18,119 --> 00:20:20,280 Speaker 1: that at a point, and you know I didn't want 380 00:20:20,280 --> 00:20:22,360 Speaker 1: it at that time. And then you know, if we 381 00:20:22,359 --> 00:20:24,200 Speaker 1: were to get back together, you know, a big history, 382 00:20:24,200 --> 00:20:26,719 Speaker 1: there would have to be a big, long history. Like 383 00:20:26,760 --> 00:20:33,280 Speaker 1: I wouldn't propose to somebody. No, I wouldn't. But if 384 00:20:33,280 --> 00:20:35,520 Speaker 1: I were to propose to anyone, it would be him, 385 00:20:35,840 --> 00:20:38,199 Speaker 1: and it would not And I'm not saying that I 386 00:20:38,240 --> 00:20:43,159 Speaker 1: want to marry him. No, no, no, that is a 387 00:20:43,200 --> 00:20:48,159 Speaker 1: half years that was. No, he don't. They're broken up. 388 00:20:48,200 --> 00:20:51,200 Speaker 1: He doesn't have a girlfriend anymore. Yeah, my son's father 389 00:20:51,280 --> 00:20:53,280 Speaker 1: is single, right now. Did he hit you up to 390 00:20:53,359 --> 00:20:55,520 Speaker 1: tell you that? No, he didn't. But I speaks to him, 391 00:20:55,600 --> 00:20:57,240 Speaker 1: you know, we have a kid together, so he speaks 392 00:20:57,240 --> 00:20:59,439 Speaker 1: to each other all the time. And he broke up 393 00:20:59,440 --> 00:21:02,520 Speaker 1: with his girlfriend, and unfortunately, I feel bad. I was 394 00:21:02,560 --> 00:21:05,560 Speaker 1: honestly hoping that they would have a baby. Us us 395 00:21:05,560 --> 00:21:07,760 Speaker 1: such a lie. You do not like his girl? No, 396 00:21:07,880 --> 00:21:14,000 Speaker 1: I don't mind her, She's all right, But I still 397 00:21:14,000 --> 00:21:16,080 Speaker 1: want to know how how would you propose to a 398 00:21:16,119 --> 00:21:20,600 Speaker 1: guy like I'll be like, you know, what's up them. 399 00:21:21,480 --> 00:21:25,000 Speaker 1: I wouldn't get down like remember Christie and Jim Jones. Remember, 400 00:21:25,920 --> 00:21:27,800 Speaker 1: I wouldn't do it like that. I wouldn't get down 401 00:21:27,800 --> 00:21:31,879 Speaker 1: on my moneys and propose like making events of it. 402 00:21:31,880 --> 00:21:34,200 Speaker 1: It would just be like, you know, I was thinking, 403 00:21:34,280 --> 00:21:39,159 Speaker 1: today's Wednesday, you want to get married? Today's somebody to 404 00:21:39,200 --> 00:21:42,679 Speaker 1: post you like that? Though it depends, It depends on 405 00:21:42,680 --> 00:21:46,520 Speaker 1: the situation because for me, for me, marriage it's not 406 00:21:46,640 --> 00:21:48,920 Speaker 1: about the ring, it's not about the money. It's about 407 00:21:49,000 --> 00:21:51,760 Speaker 1: the soul connection. You know what I mean. If you 408 00:21:51,880 --> 00:21:54,640 Speaker 1: love somebody and you feel that sole connection, I feel 409 00:21:54,640 --> 00:21:57,120 Speaker 1: you should get married. Now. I don't think everybody thinks 410 00:21:57,119 --> 00:21:58,720 Speaker 1: like that. I don't think everybody should think like the 411 00:21:58,720 --> 00:22:01,880 Speaker 1: way I do. You know, it's my personal opinion. But 412 00:22:01,960 --> 00:22:04,399 Speaker 1: you know, I've been a couple of guys have proposed 413 00:22:04,440 --> 00:22:07,560 Speaker 1: to me. I've had I've been engaged twice and I've 414 00:22:07,560 --> 00:22:10,120 Speaker 1: said no once. You know what I mean. That's three times. 415 00:22:10,520 --> 00:22:14,960 Speaker 1: And you know, if I mean it is what it is, 416 00:22:16,520 --> 00:22:19,080 Speaker 1: i'd be feeling like guys think. I think guys feel 417 00:22:19,119 --> 00:22:22,840 Speaker 1: like women ultimately want to get married, so that like 418 00:22:22,880 --> 00:22:25,080 Speaker 1: they'll say that let's just get married to make it better. 419 00:22:25,280 --> 00:22:30,080 Speaker 1: And that's not that's not when somebody up like that's 420 00:22:30,080 --> 00:22:34,040 Speaker 1: gonna That has happened to me, you know, So for me, 421 00:22:34,520 --> 00:22:37,080 Speaker 1: for me personally, I'm not in a rush to get married. 422 00:22:37,119 --> 00:22:39,520 Speaker 1: I'm not I'm not thirsty for it. You know, it's 423 00:22:39,560 --> 00:22:41,680 Speaker 1: not even something that I dreamt about when I was 424 00:22:41,720 --> 00:22:43,960 Speaker 1: a kid. You know when I when I was a kid, 425 00:22:43,960 --> 00:22:45,680 Speaker 1: I dreampt about living in a house on the hill. 426 00:22:45,840 --> 00:22:48,320 Speaker 1: I didn't think about a dog or a white fence. 427 00:22:48,440 --> 00:22:51,080 Speaker 1: I didn't think about husband. I didn't think about any 428 00:22:51,160 --> 00:22:52,800 Speaker 1: of that. I just thought, Hey, I want to live 429 00:22:52,800 --> 00:22:54,919 Speaker 1: in a house on a hill, and I want to 430 00:22:54,920 --> 00:22:57,080 Speaker 1: bring all my good friends that I hang out with 431 00:22:57,119 --> 00:23:04,160 Speaker 1: in the neighborhood. Proposing you've been with your man, I'm proposing, 432 00:23:05,160 --> 00:23:09,840 Speaker 1: but no, I can't. What do you think he would saying? 433 00:23:11,240 --> 00:23:12,879 Speaker 1: He would just look at me like I was crazy, 434 00:23:12,920 --> 00:23:14,960 Speaker 1: probably like I don't know what he would say. He 435 00:23:15,000 --> 00:23:17,200 Speaker 1: would I don't know you would because you think he 436 00:23:17,200 --> 00:23:21,959 Speaker 1: would look at you crazy. I'm not proposing. I'm just 437 00:23:21,960 --> 00:23:24,360 Speaker 1: not gonna do that. I'm just not going to propose. 438 00:23:24,520 --> 00:23:27,639 Speaker 1: I just I feel like that's the man's job. And 439 00:23:27,680 --> 00:23:31,479 Speaker 1: if you're gonna get married, then that's what he should do. 440 00:23:31,880 --> 00:23:35,920 Speaker 1: If that's what he wants, then he should propose. What 441 00:23:35,960 --> 00:23:41,000 Speaker 1: would he say though, I mean what he might be like, yeah, 442 00:23:41,160 --> 00:23:43,919 Speaker 1: and they you should go home tonight. No, I'm skinning, 443 00:23:44,840 --> 00:23:46,639 Speaker 1: but I love to how that is for for a 444 00:23:46,680 --> 00:23:49,879 Speaker 1: guy if a woman proposes to him, does he feel like? 445 00:23:50,080 --> 00:23:54,040 Speaker 1: Is he like, oh, yes, yeah? Why do you think 446 00:23:54,359 --> 00:23:59,280 Speaker 1: if I'm ready, I'm ask right, but you would never ask, 447 00:23:59,480 --> 00:24:07,200 Speaker 1: I'm not. Would you would marry me? No, that's his job, 448 00:24:08,119 --> 00:24:11,119 Speaker 1: would you, Angela? I don't know. I don't think so 449 00:24:11,440 --> 00:24:13,560 Speaker 1: because I'm not gonna lie. Like. Marriage is a scary 450 00:24:13,600 --> 00:24:17,159 Speaker 1: thing to me anyway, and I'm fine with being with 451 00:24:17,200 --> 00:24:21,480 Speaker 1: somebody forever and never getting married rejection. We're going on 452 00:24:21,520 --> 00:24:23,560 Speaker 1: seven years. But I would never ask somebody to marry 453 00:24:23,600 --> 00:24:25,840 Speaker 1: me if I didn't think they would say, yes, I'm 454 00:24:25,840 --> 00:24:29,480 Speaker 1: not asking, but I'm fine with us being I'm fine. 455 00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:32,520 Speaker 1: Nothing against a woman that they be honest, Nothing against 456 00:24:32,520 --> 00:24:35,040 Speaker 1: a woman that does ask a man to marry that's her, 457 00:24:35,680 --> 00:24:38,560 Speaker 1: you know, prerogative. But I just now, we talked about 458 00:24:38,560 --> 00:24:41,840 Speaker 1: this earlier. Once you start stop using times with somebody, 459 00:24:42,160 --> 00:24:45,199 Speaker 1: do you think you could start again? No? Yeah, no 460 00:24:46,520 --> 00:24:48,680 Speaker 1: like being in a situation. Let's say, y'all break up, 461 00:24:49,240 --> 00:24:53,240 Speaker 1: he was cheating, and now you'll get back together. We're 462 00:24:53,240 --> 00:24:55,040 Speaker 1: just gonna have to go and take take that trip 463 00:24:55,080 --> 00:24:56,959 Speaker 1: to the doctor together and be just gonna have to 464 00:24:57,040 --> 00:25:00,000 Speaker 1: just trust each other that we were not gonna happen again. 465 00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:03,399 Speaker 1: Whole shirt because I'm not. We're not using condom. Have 466 00:25:03,520 --> 00:25:05,119 Speaker 1: you ever like the first time you didn't use it? 467 00:25:05,160 --> 00:25:06,879 Speaker 1: Kind of never went back to using them after that? 468 00:25:07,320 --> 00:25:10,520 Speaker 1: List somebody, Yeah, we use condoms the first time and 469 00:25:10,560 --> 00:25:13,760 Speaker 1: that was it, and then after that never get That's 470 00:25:13,760 --> 00:25:15,359 Speaker 1: a tough thing to do to be like, hey, I 471 00:25:15,359 --> 00:25:19,399 Speaker 1: need you to use a condom now. I mean, because 472 00:25:19,400 --> 00:25:22,760 Speaker 1: you see, guys are like getting vasectomies, getting multiple women pregnant. 473 00:25:23,320 --> 00:25:26,879 Speaker 1: Guys are gross. Ye, Women, we don't like condoms just 474 00:25:26,920 --> 00:25:28,960 Speaker 1: as minute, just as much as men don't like kindom either. 475 00:25:29,000 --> 00:25:31,960 Speaker 1: By the way, Yeah, but I think as a woman, 476 00:25:33,680 --> 00:25:36,679 Speaker 1: look these guys out here with fun anything, and like 477 00:25:36,760 --> 00:25:39,679 Speaker 1: you said, they'll have multiple babies by multiple women. So 478 00:25:39,760 --> 00:25:42,840 Speaker 1: are they really worried about themselves? A lot of men 479 00:25:42,880 --> 00:25:44,840 Speaker 1: will be. But I think as a woman you should 480 00:25:44,840 --> 00:25:47,520 Speaker 1: protect yourself. I always think it's weird too, when a 481 00:25:47,520 --> 00:25:50,800 Speaker 1: guy tries to have sex with you with no condom, 482 00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:54,520 Speaker 1: absolutely first, especially when it's the first time, because that 483 00:25:54,560 --> 00:25:57,439 Speaker 1: means yeah, because you're not me. Think that you just 484 00:25:57,480 --> 00:25:59,800 Speaker 1: looked at me and said, okay, she don't need safe. Yeah, 485 00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:02,639 Speaker 1: you do that with everybody. Yeah. Yeah, I feel that 486 00:26:02,680 --> 00:26:04,800 Speaker 1: way too. I definitely feel And if you say to him, 487 00:26:05,080 --> 00:26:06,480 Speaker 1: if we're getting at it for the first time and 488 00:26:06,560 --> 00:26:08,240 Speaker 1: you just come straight with no condom, I'm gonna just 489 00:26:08,240 --> 00:26:09,879 Speaker 1: look at you and that we're not even gonna do it, 490 00:26:09,960 --> 00:26:12,000 Speaker 1: that's scary. Because men are less, it's likely to go 491 00:26:12,040 --> 00:26:15,000 Speaker 1: to the doctor. You shouldn't want it if it's that easy. 492 00:26:15,760 --> 00:26:21,400 Speaker 1: It's true. I think women if you don't have nothing, 493 00:26:21,440 --> 00:26:24,159 Speaker 1: they don't have nothing. Yeah, but you see women go 494 00:26:24,240 --> 00:26:26,560 Speaker 1: to the g y N. Yeah, like women get checked 495 00:26:26,640 --> 00:26:29,800 Speaker 1: up an you know what I mean. Yeah, I think 496 00:26:29,800 --> 00:26:32,440 Speaker 1: as a woman, if you sexually active, definitely go to 497 00:26:32,440 --> 00:26:34,199 Speaker 1: the g y N and make sure you're good at 498 00:26:34,200 --> 00:26:35,920 Speaker 1: the end of the day, because there's nothing these things 499 00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:38,639 Speaker 1: that you can have, no symptoms you don't even know 500 00:26:38,680 --> 00:26:40,840 Speaker 1: you have, and then you can end up not being 501 00:26:40,840 --> 00:26:43,879 Speaker 1: able to have kids. You can have a cent Yeah, 502 00:26:43,920 --> 00:26:46,640 Speaker 1: and I think for me, there's nothing. There's nothing better 503 00:26:46,760 --> 00:26:51,119 Speaker 1: for me when I'm having sex with somebody to feel confident, yeah, 504 00:26:51,440 --> 00:26:54,040 Speaker 1: like to knowing that I'm protective even if you haven't, 505 00:26:54,160 --> 00:26:56,199 Speaker 1: like you know, if you're not using the condom with 506 00:26:56,200 --> 00:26:57,960 Speaker 1: someone you're close to, but you're still not trying to, 507 00:26:58,040 --> 00:27:00,679 Speaker 1: let's say, get pregnant. There's nothing and better for me 508 00:27:00,720 --> 00:27:03,240 Speaker 1: to feel confident, like knowing that like I'm protected, like 509 00:27:03,280 --> 00:27:05,040 Speaker 1: on birth control or like that. I go to my 510 00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:07,720 Speaker 1: g y N regularly to know that I'm good, you 511 00:27:07,760 --> 00:27:09,960 Speaker 1: know what I mean. And I've had this conversation with 512 00:27:10,000 --> 00:27:12,439 Speaker 1: some male friends and just you know, listening to other 513 00:27:12,480 --> 00:27:14,879 Speaker 1: people talk and women, I think I'm more likely to 514 00:27:14,880 --> 00:27:17,000 Speaker 1: go to the doctor than men. And it's scary because 515 00:27:17,040 --> 00:27:20,359 Speaker 1: men will be I feel like they go up there 516 00:27:20,440 --> 00:27:24,479 Speaker 1: something wrong, something wrong, They're getting them checkups and damn, 517 00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:27,119 Speaker 1: you know, my dick is burning or it is, And 518 00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:30,639 Speaker 1: that's scary. And that's scary because, like you said, a 519 00:27:30,640 --> 00:27:32,800 Speaker 1: lot of ship don't give you symptoms. So Nigga could 520 00:27:32,840 --> 00:27:35,480 Speaker 1: have something for a year and then I think he's 521 00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:39,160 Speaker 1: cool and who knows, right, And then when it gets worse, 522 00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:42,399 Speaker 1: he's like, oh I'm burning, let me go. Yes, you 523 00:27:42,480 --> 00:27:44,600 Speaker 1: gotta be safe out here. Now, do you mind if 524 00:27:44,600 --> 00:27:50,080 Speaker 1: your guy goes on a guy's trip. The only thing 525 00:27:50,119 --> 00:27:52,240 Speaker 1: I can think of when you say god's trip is 526 00:27:52,320 --> 00:27:57,359 Speaker 1: just like bachelor party, and we all know that what 527 00:27:57,440 --> 00:27:59,919 Speaker 1: happens at that to the party's guys fun at bachelorp 528 00:28:00,160 --> 00:28:04,120 Speaker 1: these they get their dicks up, they fuck, it goes 529 00:28:04,160 --> 00:28:06,399 Speaker 1: down that back. What happens if your man tells you 530 00:28:06,400 --> 00:28:08,000 Speaker 1: we gotta go away for for the week for my 531 00:28:08,080 --> 00:28:10,919 Speaker 1: friends back to the party, then I already know you're sucking. 532 00:28:11,000 --> 00:28:13,600 Speaker 1: So I'm a trid. I'm a trade likely absolutely think 533 00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:15,520 Speaker 1: anytime a guy goes out with his friends, he's sucking. 534 00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:21,159 Speaker 1: She said, what ivery guy? But what if he's the 535 00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:23,720 Speaker 1: BA is definitely getting something. What if he's like, you 536 00:28:24,000 --> 00:28:25,560 Speaker 1: just go, I'm going on like a three or four 537 00:28:25,640 --> 00:28:28,400 Speaker 1: day trip with the fellas. You cool? You think he's 538 00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:32,320 Speaker 1: not doing anything that's weird. We're going to d R. Yeah, no, 539 00:28:32,880 --> 00:28:35,080 Speaker 1: you're gonna get into some trouble. But what do he 540 00:28:35,080 --> 00:28:39,280 Speaker 1: think is weird if we're going to No girls hang 541 00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:42,120 Speaker 1: out more than guys hang out with just themselves. Right, 542 00:28:42,760 --> 00:28:44,360 Speaker 1: if the guys are going on a guy trip, they 543 00:28:44,400 --> 00:28:46,760 Speaker 1: gotta be even want to do something really man, girls 544 00:28:47,200 --> 00:28:52,480 Speaker 1: know like what white like white water, like fly fishing, 545 00:28:53,600 --> 00:28:57,840 Speaker 1: mountain climbing, like I don't know, guys, if a guy's trip, 546 00:28:58,120 --> 00:29:00,520 Speaker 1: then you're going to like a ski resort, Like y'all 547 00:29:00,560 --> 00:29:03,160 Speaker 1: just gonna go. We're going to Vegas, just the guys. 548 00:29:03,480 --> 00:29:05,400 Speaker 1: There's a fight that we can't get out the city 549 00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:08,959 Speaker 1: hose holes and more holes. Yeah damn, So what does 550 00:29:08,960 --> 00:29:13,200 Speaker 1: that mean every other city you can see this game? No, 551 00:29:13,360 --> 00:29:14,760 Speaker 1: you don't tell them that you can't go. You just 552 00:29:14,880 --> 00:29:19,400 Speaker 1: know that. But what if he's calling you every day 553 00:29:19,440 --> 00:29:21,760 Speaker 1: and checking out and making sure you're good and you 554 00:29:21,880 --> 00:29:24,200 Speaker 1: feel more comfortable, are you still like mega, you're still 555 00:29:24,200 --> 00:29:27,720 Speaker 1: doing you Tonight's guess what. You don't trust him. We 556 00:29:27,760 --> 00:29:32,400 Speaker 1: can be FaceTime and right here somebody somebody sucking his 557 00:29:32,480 --> 00:29:34,920 Speaker 1: dick right there, so he can't even be Like yo, 558 00:29:36,320 --> 00:29:38,520 Speaker 1: I'm not saying he can't, but making the back of 559 00:29:38,640 --> 00:29:41,920 Speaker 1: my mind, I'm gonna think that it's some bullshit. So 560 00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:44,400 Speaker 1: you think anytime guys are together it is some bullshit. 561 00:29:44,600 --> 00:29:46,920 Speaker 1: Guys are bullshit. Yeah, I mean I agree with you. 562 00:29:47,280 --> 00:29:48,840 Speaker 1: I'm just trying to make sure I'm not crazy. I 563 00:29:48,880 --> 00:29:52,000 Speaker 1: don't listen when whenever I feel like whenever I'm not around, 564 00:29:52,040 --> 00:29:56,280 Speaker 1: he up to some bullshit. I agree, right now, I agree, 565 00:29:57,080 --> 00:29:59,600 Speaker 1: I agree with right now. I agree with g G. 566 00:30:00,160 --> 00:30:02,760 Speaker 1: That sucked up way to feel in a relationship. Tell 567 00:30:02,800 --> 00:30:04,760 Speaker 1: me about it. That's just man, That's how many makes 568 00:30:05,560 --> 00:30:08,960 Speaker 1: relationship and they make you feel that way relationships. Just 569 00:30:09,120 --> 00:30:11,640 Speaker 1: like with the blog from this week about putting your 570 00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:15,080 Speaker 1: phone down and always having your phone turned down, making 571 00:30:15,080 --> 00:30:16,840 Speaker 1: sure you got your phone with you at all times 572 00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:18,880 Speaker 1: when you're in the house, you're just walking around the house, 573 00:30:18,880 --> 00:30:20,360 Speaker 1: you can't leave your phone sit on the table, no, 574 00:30:20,680 --> 00:30:23,320 Speaker 1: because who knows what might pop up on the screen 575 00:30:23,360 --> 00:30:25,400 Speaker 1: and get you caught the funk up. It's the same 576 00:30:25,440 --> 00:30:29,960 Speaker 1: thing that's actually don't pop up on my screen. But 577 00:30:29,960 --> 00:30:32,240 Speaker 1: but it's different for girls and guys. I think. I think, 578 00:30:32,280 --> 00:30:34,280 Speaker 1: like you said, men are always up to some bullshit, 579 00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:35,880 Speaker 1: and I don't want to have a boyfriend that I 580 00:30:35,920 --> 00:30:42,120 Speaker 1: don't trust. It's hard, it's hard, it is I feel good, like, yeah, 581 00:30:43,040 --> 00:30:45,080 Speaker 1: you know, I don't know. I mean, it's great when 582 00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:47,560 Speaker 1: you have a man that you can trust, like lord, 583 00:30:47,800 --> 00:30:54,520 Speaker 1: you know, but I trust you? Yeah, that's true. I agree. 584 00:30:54,920 --> 00:30:57,520 Speaker 1: You know, if he doesn't give you a reason then 585 00:30:57,520 --> 00:30:59,800 Speaker 1: don't worry about it. But if you know, when you've 586 00:30:59,840 --> 00:31:02,720 Speaker 1: had had a reason to be skeptical, then you're gonna 587 00:31:02,760 --> 00:31:06,080 Speaker 1: always be skeptical. Absolutely, Especially me, I've dealt with that, 588 00:31:06,160 --> 00:31:10,160 Speaker 1: like you over. It takes some time. I think it 589 00:31:10,200 --> 00:31:14,240 Speaker 1: depends on it, and it takes a lot of um 590 00:31:14,280 --> 00:31:17,920 Speaker 1: not really proving himself. But actions speak louder than words. 591 00:31:18,280 --> 00:31:22,320 Speaker 1: So it takes for me to see that you've you know, change, 592 00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:24,479 Speaker 1: so to say, in order for me to be like, 593 00:31:24,520 --> 00:31:26,360 Speaker 1: all right, he really not don't know bullshit because you know, 594 00:31:26,400 --> 00:31:28,520 Speaker 1: I go on girls ships all the time with my girls, 595 00:31:29,360 --> 00:31:32,560 Speaker 1: like all the time of the Yeah, you know, but 596 00:31:32,600 --> 00:31:35,040 Speaker 1: I think it's easy for girls like said to all 597 00:31:35,080 --> 00:31:37,840 Speaker 1: go together on a trip and just girls like that 598 00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:41,760 Speaker 1: have quality time with yeah, versus guys just like where 599 00:31:41,800 --> 00:31:46,120 Speaker 1: to hold that. Yeah, guys can't be around and drink 600 00:31:46,240 --> 00:31:50,440 Speaker 1: and hang out without somehow involving holes. They're gonna go 601 00:31:50,440 --> 00:31:52,360 Speaker 1: to the strip club, they're gonna do whatever. It's always 602 00:31:52,360 --> 00:31:55,360 Speaker 1: gonna be the fars and stuff like that and watch 603 00:31:55,400 --> 00:31:59,920 Speaker 1: the game and play cards and no. No, I think 604 00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:02,120 Speaker 1: it all depends on the person. So there's some guys 605 00:32:02,160 --> 00:32:05,240 Speaker 1: that are really, you know, really loyal and genuine and 606 00:32:05,240 --> 00:32:06,920 Speaker 1: don't worry about that and they can't hang out with 607 00:32:06,920 --> 00:32:09,720 Speaker 1: their friends. But there's some other dudes, the majority that 608 00:32:09,760 --> 00:32:11,640 Speaker 1: are like, wait, a bitch, is that damn? That's fun? 609 00:32:12,600 --> 00:32:14,520 Speaker 1: You think it's an immaturity thing though, like you think 610 00:32:14,680 --> 00:32:16,760 Speaker 1: because one of my ex boyfriends, his mom told me 611 00:32:16,800 --> 00:32:19,600 Speaker 1: that guys stopped cheating when they get too old and 612 00:32:19,640 --> 00:32:23,120 Speaker 1: tired to do it and it's too much effort. She 613 00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:25,800 Speaker 1: was like, listen, his stepfather ain't stopped cheating toil. His 614 00:32:25,840 --> 00:32:29,560 Speaker 1: ask was two day entired to be running because this 615 00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:32,480 Speaker 1: is hard to keep up. Once you know these guys, 616 00:32:32,560 --> 00:32:35,000 Speaker 1: they'll have three or four or five six chicks calling them, 617 00:32:35,040 --> 00:32:39,560 Speaker 1: texting them. It's hard to keep up. This is so sad, man, 618 00:32:39,640 --> 00:32:44,920 Speaker 1: I feel terrible about this whole situation. Now, what about 619 00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:47,640 Speaker 1: dating guys who have no friends? I diated this guy 620 00:32:47,760 --> 00:32:54,320 Speaker 1: and literally he had no friends, like none. That's tough. 621 00:32:55,080 --> 00:32:57,040 Speaker 1: And then it's a little weird because you want to 622 00:32:57,080 --> 00:32:59,479 Speaker 1: be like, hey, let me get my friends, and you know, 623 00:32:59,560 --> 00:33:02,440 Speaker 1: we all. I don't have changed with your friends, but friends, 624 00:33:02,480 --> 00:33:04,480 Speaker 1: that's tough. I was in a relationship like that when 625 00:33:04,480 --> 00:33:07,600 Speaker 1: I was like eighteen and I was engaged to him 626 00:33:07,760 --> 00:33:12,680 Speaker 1: early early, we were together like two years. He was 627 00:33:12,720 --> 00:33:15,200 Speaker 1: a good family man, like my mom loved him, his 628 00:33:15,240 --> 00:33:17,360 Speaker 1: family loved me. He's somebody that I could see my 629 00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:20,640 Speaker 1: I could have seen myself in the future with um. 630 00:33:20,680 --> 00:33:25,800 Speaker 1: But you know, we just went different paths and life, 631 00:33:25,960 --> 00:33:28,120 Speaker 1: like I just started get him busier. He was just 632 00:33:28,120 --> 00:33:31,320 Speaker 1: trying to find himself, and then he didn't. He had friends, 633 00:33:31,360 --> 00:33:33,520 Speaker 1: but he always wanted to spend time with me, and 634 00:33:33,560 --> 00:33:35,360 Speaker 1: that was great, but after a while, it's like, babe, 635 00:33:35,400 --> 00:33:37,080 Speaker 1: let's hang out with your friends, let's hang out with 636 00:33:37,120 --> 00:33:39,600 Speaker 1: my friends, hang out with you, let's all merged together, 637 00:33:39,680 --> 00:33:41,840 Speaker 1: like you come out with my friends or you go 638 00:33:41,880 --> 00:33:43,400 Speaker 1: out with your friends. And it was always like, no, 639 00:33:43,480 --> 00:33:46,080 Speaker 1: I want to And I'm like, dude, that's cool, but 640 00:33:46,160 --> 00:33:48,960 Speaker 1: like we need different energy, we need to be around people. 641 00:33:49,000 --> 00:33:51,680 Speaker 1: And then you know, then he just started hanging out 642 00:33:51,720 --> 00:33:54,520 Speaker 1: with other people, hanging out with other dudes, going to 643 00:33:54,640 --> 00:33:57,640 Speaker 1: parties all the time, and just don't know, Yeah, he 644 00:33:57,720 --> 00:34:00,280 Speaker 1: got friends. Yeah, I mean he always had friends, you know, 645 00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:02,800 Speaker 1: but he was more secluded to trying to focus on 646 00:34:02,880 --> 00:34:04,680 Speaker 1: himself and being with me. And I was great, but 647 00:34:04,720 --> 00:34:07,360 Speaker 1: I'm like, dude, we're still young. Let's have fun. Like 648 00:34:07,400 --> 00:34:08,920 Speaker 1: I want to be around my friends. I want you 649 00:34:08,960 --> 00:34:10,880 Speaker 1: to come hang out with my friends. I want to 650 00:34:10,920 --> 00:34:13,239 Speaker 1: be with your friends. Let's let's mingle. I don't want 651 00:34:13,239 --> 00:34:15,279 Speaker 1: to sit in your room the whole time. That's you 652 00:34:15,320 --> 00:34:16,920 Speaker 1: get bored. And I like to have a boyfriend. I 653 00:34:17,000 --> 00:34:19,080 Speaker 1: said that play dates with him and other my friends 654 00:34:19,080 --> 00:34:21,360 Speaker 1: and the boyfriends. You know what I'm saying, Like, hey 655 00:34:21,360 --> 00:34:24,880 Speaker 1: need you and I want you to meet her boyfriend. Yeah, 656 00:34:24,920 --> 00:34:27,640 Speaker 1: it's fun. I like guys that could be social because 657 00:34:27,640 --> 00:34:29,360 Speaker 1: it's like then it turns into a routine. It's like, 658 00:34:29,360 --> 00:34:31,560 Speaker 1: all right, I'm going to see you, We're hanging out. 659 00:34:31,760 --> 00:34:33,799 Speaker 1: You coming to see me. We're doing the same thing. 660 00:34:35,200 --> 00:34:39,239 Speaker 1: Do you get bored? Damn? And why did you pick 661 00:34:39,280 --> 00:34:42,480 Speaker 1: up your engagement? I think we were young, you know, 662 00:34:42,520 --> 00:34:45,440 Speaker 1: we were really young at that point. Um, we were 663 00:34:45,440 --> 00:34:47,359 Speaker 1: in a serious relationship. But I think we were young. 664 00:34:47,400 --> 00:34:50,279 Speaker 1: And again we crossed path we like our paths just 665 00:34:50,360 --> 00:34:54,080 Speaker 1: changed in life and we kind of just separated. Were 666 00:34:54,239 --> 00:34:57,239 Speaker 1: always but he had a baby after that, and he 667 00:34:57,280 --> 00:34:59,279 Speaker 1: was a good dude regardless, So I wish him the best, 668 00:34:59,320 --> 00:35:02,040 Speaker 1: you know, but it was we were just so we 669 00:35:02,080 --> 00:35:04,759 Speaker 1: started becoming different and that's fine. That happens all right. 670 00:35:04,760 --> 00:35:07,239 Speaker 1: Now he's the last question, Philip Service. Now, should you 671 00:35:07,280 --> 00:35:09,839 Speaker 1: support your man or you you know, for guys, your 672 00:35:09,880 --> 00:35:13,040 Speaker 1: women if you think that what she's doing isn't really 673 00:35:13,040 --> 00:35:14,960 Speaker 1: that good, if they're not if you don't believe in them, 674 00:35:15,400 --> 00:35:17,480 Speaker 1: like say they have a dream of goal, they want 675 00:35:17,520 --> 00:35:19,440 Speaker 1: to do something, but you don't really think they're that 676 00:35:19,480 --> 00:35:21,359 Speaker 1: good at it, should you still be supported or should 677 00:35:21,360 --> 00:35:24,200 Speaker 1: you let them know? Should you question if there's a 678 00:35:24,280 --> 00:35:30,000 Speaker 1: possibility for them to get better at said thing and 679 00:35:30,040 --> 00:35:34,319 Speaker 1: get professional training or you know, but well you might 680 00:35:34,360 --> 00:35:36,640 Speaker 1: need some professional training. Yeah, I mean if it's a 681 00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:38,880 Speaker 1: way for them too, if there's a way for you 682 00:35:38,920 --> 00:35:42,279 Speaker 1: to encourage them to improve that talent or whatever that 683 00:35:42,360 --> 00:35:45,839 Speaker 1: skill or whatever it is, then you should encourage them 684 00:35:45,960 --> 00:35:48,319 Speaker 1: that way. But if it ain't no way of help, 685 00:35:48,480 --> 00:35:51,040 Speaker 1: like let's just say you want to be a singer, 686 00:35:51,200 --> 00:35:54,040 Speaker 1: want to be a singer, can't single lick or trying 687 00:35:54,080 --> 00:35:56,759 Speaker 1: to singing or been trying to sing and he just 688 00:35:56,800 --> 00:35:58,719 Speaker 1: too old. You're not going to be in a boy 689 00:35:58,840 --> 00:36:07,640 Speaker 1: man because you so right? You just know so, I mean, 690 00:36:08,080 --> 00:36:11,600 Speaker 1: I guess it all depends, but you should all you 691 00:36:11,600 --> 00:36:14,840 Speaker 1: should never be a yes person. You should never you 692 00:36:14,840 --> 00:36:18,799 Speaker 1: should always give the honest truth rather it's gonna hurt 693 00:36:18,880 --> 00:36:21,440 Speaker 1: someone or not, because in the long run, you're going 694 00:36:21,520 --> 00:36:24,520 Speaker 1: to hurt them by not being truthful with them. So 695 00:36:24,719 --> 00:36:26,799 Speaker 1: I feel like and I live my life just being 696 00:36:26,840 --> 00:36:29,360 Speaker 1: honest and real because that's how I would expect the 697 00:36:29,440 --> 00:36:32,200 Speaker 1: same thing in return. But um, I just feel like, 698 00:36:32,239 --> 00:36:34,560 Speaker 1: you just gotta keep it one hunting and if it's 699 00:36:34,600 --> 00:36:37,719 Speaker 1: something that you're not you can't get better at. I 700 00:36:37,719 --> 00:36:39,440 Speaker 1: think quit while you are ahead, and let's try to 701 00:36:39,560 --> 00:36:45,120 Speaker 1: Let's just move on and try some other things. Like Yeah, 702 00:36:44,400 --> 00:36:47,439 Speaker 1: you can help them as much as you can. I think, 703 00:36:47,440 --> 00:36:50,160 Speaker 1: like G said, encourage them and help them find better 704 00:36:50,160 --> 00:36:52,600 Speaker 1: ways to you know, improve their skill. But is they're 705 00:36:52,600 --> 00:36:54,879 Speaker 1: not making no money and you've got to support them. Yeah, see, 706 00:36:54,880 --> 00:36:57,440 Speaker 1: Hell no, it depends how long. It depends how long 707 00:36:57,480 --> 00:37:01,120 Speaker 1: because certain things take time, you know, to to I'm 708 00:37:01,160 --> 00:37:02,799 Speaker 1: gonna be an actor. I want to do this, I 709 00:37:02,840 --> 00:37:05,319 Speaker 1: want to do that. Help me pay for these classes 710 00:37:05,520 --> 00:37:08,000 Speaker 1: and then when I blow up, I got you. You 711 00:37:08,040 --> 00:37:10,640 Speaker 1: ain't gotta work no more. But how long it's too long? 712 00:37:10,719 --> 00:37:14,799 Speaker 1: How long it's too long? Ten years? Yeah, that's long. 713 00:37:15,440 --> 00:37:17,080 Speaker 1: If it's been like four or five years and you 714 00:37:17,160 --> 00:37:21,040 Speaker 1: haven't gotten at least some type of even if it's 715 00:37:21,040 --> 00:37:23,480 Speaker 1: a made some type of stride, even if it's a 716 00:37:23,520 --> 00:37:25,040 Speaker 1: couple of bucks. It's like, all right, let's try to 717 00:37:25,080 --> 00:37:27,719 Speaker 1: reevaluate what's going on. Let's let's see what else you're 718 00:37:27,719 --> 00:37:30,480 Speaker 1: good at. Let's let's try to find I just learned 719 00:37:30,480 --> 00:37:34,919 Speaker 1: how to sell, and I'm selling and I'm making clee yes, 720 00:37:35,440 --> 00:37:37,520 Speaker 1: and I'm gonna get better at it. I'm not the 721 00:37:37,520 --> 00:37:39,719 Speaker 1: best at it right now, but I teamed up with 722 00:37:39,760 --> 00:37:43,319 Speaker 1: somebody that has more experience and we're working together and 723 00:37:43,360 --> 00:37:45,799 Speaker 1: I'm getting back and he supported down. Yeah, if my 724 00:37:45,800 --> 00:37:48,200 Speaker 1: ship sucked, I would want him to be like, bitch, stop. 725 00:37:48,680 --> 00:37:51,640 Speaker 1: But that is something you could learn. Well, yeah, even 726 00:37:51,680 --> 00:37:53,239 Speaker 1: if you stuck at it at first. I mean, but 727 00:37:53,280 --> 00:37:55,080 Speaker 1: what if I was the type of person that just 728 00:37:55,840 --> 00:38:00,040 Speaker 1: didn't dress well and what if you started on a 729 00:38:00,080 --> 00:38:03,800 Speaker 1: booty telling that stuff that trash? Yeah, I want to 730 00:38:03,960 --> 00:38:09,440 Speaker 1: time like nobe trash, you know, I feel you. So 731 00:38:09,480 --> 00:38:11,799 Speaker 1: what if it's like if it's something that they picked 732 00:38:11,840 --> 00:38:13,520 Speaker 1: up as a hobby and they're doing it on the side, 733 00:38:13,520 --> 00:38:17,200 Speaker 1: and like yeah, like that's I think that's a little 734 00:38:17,280 --> 00:38:21,040 Speaker 1: better versus if it's something that they're not good at 735 00:38:21,200 --> 00:38:24,279 Speaker 1: but they're going full hoby is a hobby. If they 736 00:38:24,320 --> 00:38:26,120 Speaker 1: have a job and they can pay for their own hobby, 737 00:38:26,200 --> 00:38:27,920 Speaker 1: go ahead. No, But what if they want to take 738 00:38:27,960 --> 00:38:30,360 Speaker 1: this hobby and make it like their full time and 739 00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:32,879 Speaker 1: they want to quit their job and they're not get either, 740 00:38:33,040 --> 00:38:36,080 Speaker 1: You're gonna be like, no, baby, how do feels get paid? Yeah? 741 00:38:35,880 --> 00:38:37,680 Speaker 1: You know, and then you're gonna break up. And then 742 00:38:37,719 --> 00:38:39,759 Speaker 1: then he gonna blow up and you can goddamn it. 743 00:38:39,920 --> 00:38:44,240 Speaker 1: I should have say by man when he had his dreams. 744 00:38:45,760 --> 00:38:48,160 Speaker 1: But it was lift service. Listen, thank you for joining 745 00:38:48,600 --> 00:38:50,480 Speaker 1: to see you every single week. So I wanted to 746 00:38:50,480 --> 00:38:52,000 Speaker 1: make sure that people got a chance to see who 747 00:38:52,000 --> 00:38:53,759 Speaker 1: you were, you know, back with us all the time. 748 00:38:54,320 --> 00:38:57,040 Speaker 1: And she's always supportive of lip service. In the very 749 00:38:57,080 --> 00:38:59,960 Speaker 1: beginning and when we started doing it, this was fun, man, 750 00:39:00,000 --> 00:39:02,239 Speaker 1: And it's like every week you learn something new from 751 00:39:02,280 --> 00:39:04,480 Speaker 1: the guests that we have here in the conversation, and 752 00:39:04,640 --> 00:39:07,080 Speaker 1: you always chime into, like when we be downstairs talking 753 00:39:07,120 --> 00:39:09,920 Speaker 1: about our lives and what is happening and what you 754 00:39:09,960 --> 00:39:11,480 Speaker 1: think about this, because we talk about a lot of 755 00:39:11,480 --> 00:39:14,160 Speaker 1: stuff before we do this shop sitting downstairs. And it's 756 00:39:14,160 --> 00:39:17,120 Speaker 1: even hard when you have guests to not chiming you know, 757 00:39:17,160 --> 00:39:19,160 Speaker 1: all the ship that the guests is saying, it's it's 758 00:39:19,160 --> 00:39:21,520 Speaker 1: just hilarious. We've had some good episode so I'm excited 759 00:39:21,560 --> 00:39:24,000 Speaker 1: to be on board for sure. The one thing that 760 00:39:24,120 --> 00:39:25,360 Speaker 1: I just want to say, I want to do it 761 00:39:25,360 --> 00:39:27,359 Speaker 1: that you guys always talk about a second dick until 762 00:39:27,400 --> 00:39:32,160 Speaker 1: you cry. Yo, man, I start watering, you start running 763 00:39:33,520 --> 00:39:38,680 Speaker 1: with me, but it and it feels like gagging and everywhere. 764 00:39:38,800 --> 00:39:42,759 Speaker 1: It's just messiest ship. Your face, like, um, I don't 765 00:39:42,760 --> 00:39:45,759 Speaker 1: wipe those tears. You cannot say let him run. You 766 00:39:46,000 --> 00:39:49,719 Speaker 1: gotta let it. Yeah, work on it. I'm gonna work 767 00:39:49,760 --> 00:39:56,000 Speaker 1: on it. When I you said no nineties heads all right? 768 00:39:56,080 --> 00:39:57,919 Speaker 1: Lift stavicell be back next week.