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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello, everybody, we are scrubbing in.

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Speaker 1: Grub a dub dumb the very oily today.

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Speaker 2: You don't look oily in real life, so I think something.

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Speaker 2: Maybe your light's given too much.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's giving, it's giving too much of what it

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Speaker 1: needs to be given.

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Speaker 2: Too much reflection.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, very oily.

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Speaker 2: No, you're not looking oily.

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Speaker 1: Thanks. But you know what the difference between a grape

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Speaker 1: and a raisin is, Well, they say water, but in

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Speaker 1: this case, I'm gonna go oil. My skin is oily.

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Speaker 1: Bring it on, baby.

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Speaker 3: Wow.

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Speaker 2: Wow, that was impactable. It wasn't right, It wasn't a

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Speaker 2: right scientific factor, but it makes it.

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Speaker 1: It makes a powerful punch.

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Speaker 2: Mm hmmm. A grape and literally the.

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Speaker 1: Only difference between a juicy, luscious grape and a raisin

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Speaker 1: is water. Water.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, hydration. That's why our skin can even look like

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Speaker 2: a raisin or hydrated and plump exactly and juicy exactly.

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Speaker 3: You know, if you're in southe of California, make sure

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Speaker 3: you're hydrating because it is hot.

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Speaker 1: So my biggest sick in the news when I'm watching

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Speaker 1: the news and They're like, make sure you're drinking your water,

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Speaker 1: and I'm like, I know.

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Speaker 2: I can't help it though, Like both Haley and I

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Speaker 2: do this to each other. We're like one of us

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Speaker 2: won't be feeling well. It's like, have you drink water,

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Speaker 2: and we both do it to each other.

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Speaker 1: Different. That's different. Hot outside and the news man saying,

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Speaker 1: please bring your water jug.

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Speaker 2: If I'm not feeling well, there's probably another reason other

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Speaker 2: than I haven't had enough water.

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Speaker 1: You know. My new thing that's gonna that I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: make this this winter.

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Speaker 2: Look.

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Speaker 1: So I'm gonna take garlic clothes and I'm gonna put

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Speaker 1: them in a mason jar and I'm gonna fill it

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Speaker 1: up with honey. And a pair only has a lot

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Speaker 1: of medicinal benefits if you're feeling sick.

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Speaker 3: To like she's an episode of the Tanya Show.

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Speaker 4: She's in her witch cauldron era.

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Speaker 1: That's right, That's how my friend gives me. Yeah, you

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Speaker 1: like take like a spoonful of it if you're feeling sick,

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Speaker 1: or you can like put it you you just use

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Speaker 1: it as a honey. But it has it's been like

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Speaker 1: soaking in the garlic. Since I'm going to do it now.

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Speaker 3: Tanya said to me earlier. She says, you know, Robbie's

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Speaker 3: done a lot of stuff for me that you know,

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Speaker 3: he didn't really want to do necessarily. And I'm like

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Speaker 3: everything he does, the family meetings, the journals, the taping

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Speaker 3: your mouth shut that there's a hundred things.

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Speaker 5: I had to remind her of this, so I you know,

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Speaker 5: I'm glad we're bringing this up because he likes those

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Speaker 5: things I was referencing, like a concert here or there

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Speaker 5: that he doesn't necessarily want to go to, but he

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Speaker 5: knows I want to that type of stuff.

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Speaker 1: I'm taping his mouth stud He is happy as a

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Speaker 1: clam taping.

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Speaker 3: He never would have done that if not for you.

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Speaker 1: Thank God for me, because he never eyes. I don't

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Speaker 1: force him. I don't say here's my mouth tape, take.

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Speaker 3: Yours in some of these things.

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Speaker 2: I don't think so I think that he does. He

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Speaker 2: would have never done it without you, But I think

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Speaker 2: after doing it, he does enjoy it. Yeah, but I

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Speaker 2: do think he, Uh, Tanya, finds himself for you and

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Speaker 2: then he like likes it.

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Speaker 1: He's thanking God every day on his knees.

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Speaker 3: He walks in the house and you're and you know,

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Speaker 3: there's got it like I don't know, your fridge is empty,

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Speaker 3: there's piles of stuff everywhere, and he's just like, oh boy,

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Speaker 3: what is it this week? What are we getting into now?

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Speaker 3: I bet there's got to be a moment of him

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Speaker 3: be like, okay, I gotta gear up for this.

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Speaker 1: Man like making that stuff for forty eight hours. He

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Speaker 1: is me in male form.

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Speaker 2: I have has made me. I do feel there's been

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Speaker 2: a switch.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he's me in a man's body.

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Speaker 2: No all the way.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, not all emotionally, not all the way now, I

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Speaker 1: would say one hundred percent, but he's like eighty percent there. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, y'all are a great match. Yeah. I was laughing

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Speaker 2: today because so Haley and I now that we're living together,

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Speaker 2: it's like okay, like who's doing what you know, and

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Speaker 2: goes it's okay, like today when she was like, it's okay,

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Speaker 2: it's okay, don't worry, We're gonna get into a routine,

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Speaker 2: and I was like, yeah, it's hard because not I

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Speaker 2: feel like typically there's a person in a relationship that's

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Speaker 2: like the clean, organized person and like that's like their thing.

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Speaker 2: But neither of us are that.

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Speaker 6: Way, so it's like, oh, it's chaos, but we have

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Speaker 6: to be really intentional about it otherwise because like, and

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Speaker 6: I'm actually grateful because I think if there was one

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Speaker 6: person who was like more that way, there would be resentment.

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Speaker 2: You know, we're both just like, oh, you're messy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, whatever will you do that?

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Speaker 2: It's like just out in the open. But I feel

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Speaker 2: like Alison, well, I feel like you're clean, but I

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Speaker 4: Allison's much cleaner. Yeah, yeah, and thank god for that.

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry, but I did. I wanted to make sure

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you have to vacate the room feels bad.

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Speaker 2: Mark was having a coffee Deack.

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Speaker 1: And he's still not back yet.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, he's not back. He took his water though.

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Speaker 1: I think you guys should just divving up the chores.

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Speaker 1: I'm in charge of this, you're in charge of that, right.

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Speaker 2: So So what happened was we were leaving for something

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Speaker 2: over the weekend and I was like, oh my gosh,

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Speaker 2: hold I have to feed Phoebe because I'm always the

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Speaker 2: one that feeds Phoebe. And she goes babe, and I'm like,

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Speaker 2: did you think of Phoebe. Would Phoebe have eaten if

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Speaker 2: I didn't feed Phoebe? And she's like, okay, So from

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Speaker 2: now on, I'll do Phoebe's food in the morning. But

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Speaker 2: this morning it's such a habit for me that I

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Speaker 2: made Phoebe's food and then she made it again. She

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Speaker 2: was about to leave and she goes, wait, I gotta

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Speaker 2: she's like, that's my chour. It's gonna take some adjustment,

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Speaker 2: but I'm glad. Everyone's eager, you know, everyone's eager to participate.

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Speaker 2: That's all I needed.

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Speaker 1: That's the best thing.

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Speaker 2: Mark's returned.

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Speaker 3: I try to be so mindful and demure and just

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Speaker 2: Yea hacking and like it looks like.

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Speaker 3: A little tickle.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Well, we couldn't start Dear Bonnie without because we're just

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Speaker 2: killing the chores, the chores, my chores with my girlfriend

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Speaker 2: living together. Yeah, it's not great, but I did want.

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Speaker 1: The way we feed Sonny is like whoever, whoever during

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Speaker 1: the week when I obviously leave in the morning, so

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Speaker 1: Robbie does it when I'm not there, and then it's

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Speaker 2: Well, Phoebe's not an instant, like she doesn't.

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Speaker 1: Don't they take her time in the morning. Sonny is

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Speaker 1: like chomping at the bitch.

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Speaker 2: Just let her like kind of when she walks over

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Speaker 2: I never have like a specific time, so that's why

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Speaker 1: Hope you eat eat.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, but today's episode is a dear bizybanya and uh,

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Speaker 2: we're so excited because we got some got some some

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Speaker 2: good stuff in here.

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Speaker 1: Some good stuff, good good stuff.

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Speaker 2: I'm good advice emails people seeking advice.

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Speaker 1: So mark without further redation, Oh, thank you so much.

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Speaker 3: This is from an anonymous mom to be help. I'm

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Speaker 3: looking for ideas to make my husband's fortieth birthday special.

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Speaker 3: At home. We're expecting our first baby two weeks before

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Speaker 3: his birthday, so I'm not thinking I'll be in any

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Speaker 3: condition to go out. We'll have a surprise birthday dinner

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Speaker 3: to make sure he feels super special on the actual day.

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Speaker 3: He's a low key guy and he mostly geeks out

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Speaker 3: on movies and actors, astronomy and really good coffee. When

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Speaker 3: I started thinking about what to do for him, I

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Speaker 3: thought about, how this is right up Tanya's Ali. I'd

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Speaker 3: love a man's perspective of Mark and Easton too. Thank

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Speaker 3: you so much for making me, helping me make this

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Speaker 1: You know what's so interesting. I was just talking to

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Speaker 1: a friend of mine. Her daughter was born, like I think,

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Speaker 1: I guess you don't really care when you're a parent.

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Speaker 1: It's just like whatever, everything is about the kid. But

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Speaker 1: I was like, oh, Like I like made a mental note.

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Speaker 1: I was like, I don't want you know, like, I

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Speaker 1: feel like I've done this for Becca, I've done it

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Speaker 1: for Robbie, and it's always a hit. Where you get

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Speaker 1: the forty balloons and you write down something that you like,

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Speaker 1: it makes them feel good.

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Speaker 3: That would make him feel special, no question.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's it. That's all.

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Speaker 2: Oh I have an idea. She said, he loves astronomy.

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Speaker 2: That's stars, right, Yes, yeah, okay, I was thinking, what

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Speaker 2: if you got those glow in the dark stars and

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Speaker 2: did a movie night where you watch one of his

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Speaker 2: it like the stars. Yeah, under the stage.

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Speaker 1: Each star you could write down your favorite thing about him.

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Speaker 3: Put their glow in the dark.

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Speaker 1: Oh, it's just Nick straight out, I love you, you know,

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Speaker 1: just spitballing here. Yeah, I know.

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Speaker 2: Well that could be the morning, like yeah, he comes

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Speaker 2: down and then.

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Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, okay. The balloons have the glow up

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Speaker 1: stars on them with the writings on them, so he

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Speaker 1: all the stars, she puts them on the ceiling for

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Speaker 1: a movie night that night, or they just.

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Speaker 2: Hang in the air and they glow in the dark

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Speaker 2: on the blue.

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Speaker 1: See, these are.

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Speaker 3: All great ideas. I think they will all make him

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Speaker 3: feel very special and very very very thoughtful, very thought through.

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Speaker 3: I was just gonna say, I'm just I'm a simple guy,

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Speaker 2: Options? Yeah, maybe wake him up with his favorite couple

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Speaker 3: We didn't take a break after. I'm not going to

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Speaker 3: Sorry, wrong button, Sorry, all.

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Speaker 3: Here we go, Everyone's and no, I'm you know I

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Speaker 3: Hi, Becca and Tanya parenthetically and Marcaniston. That's us, easty

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Speaker 4: All right, we made it.

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Speaker 3: I've been a scrubber since day one. Thanks for bringing

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Speaker 2: So she's basically just saying she's fine to stay friends

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Speaker 2: But I think Meredith might be totally aloof because it

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Speaker 2: Y'all have like a couple of friends, right like people

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Speaker 3: I've had like solo friends that I've that have met

442
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Speaker 3: through me and then they hang out together, and I

443
00:20:36,040 --> 00:20:37,879
Speaker 3: think that's neat. I think that's kind of Yeah. I

444
00:20:37,880 --> 00:20:39,760
Speaker 3: always like, oh, I'm the reason that those two are

445
00:20:39,760 --> 00:20:40,480
Speaker 3: together right now.

446
00:20:41,760 --> 00:20:42,840
Speaker 4: And Spider Man teaming up.

447
00:20:42,960 --> 00:20:45,280
Speaker 1: Yeah exactly, it's like Wolverine and Deadpool.

448
00:20:45,440 --> 00:20:48,639
Speaker 4: Yes exactly. It's like, yeah, it's fun. I like that

449
00:20:48,640 --> 00:20:52,959
Speaker 4: soot Yeah, so impressed. I feel like I've been this

450
00:20:53,040 --> 00:20:56,159
Speaker 4: person before, like where like I've met someone through a

451
00:20:56,160 --> 00:20:58,360
Speaker 4: different friend that we end up hanging out with those

452
00:20:58,359 --> 00:21:01,040
Speaker 4: friends a lot and not the person and introduced us,

453
00:21:01,640 --> 00:21:05,000
Speaker 4: and uh, sometimes I feel bad, but also uh like like,

454
00:21:05,000 --> 00:21:08,040
Speaker 4: for example, we had some friends named Trish and Dylan.

455
00:21:08,480 --> 00:21:11,320
Speaker 4: They introduced me to David. David rides bikes. He got

456
00:21:11,359 --> 00:21:12,840
Speaker 4: me and riding bikes. I ride back to him all

457
00:21:12,880 --> 00:21:14,040
Speaker 4: the time. We don't hang out with the other people

458
00:21:14,080 --> 00:21:16,240
Speaker 4: as much because they were my neighbors. Now they moved away.

459
00:21:17,640 --> 00:21:19,639
Speaker 4: No one's there. I don't know, like it's not weird.

460
00:21:19,680 --> 00:21:23,680
Speaker 4: No one's ever like said anything. I don't know. It's

461
00:21:23,680 --> 00:21:25,760
Speaker 4: just how it's just how things go sometimes. I guess.

462
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Speaker 5: I don't know.

463
00:21:26,160 --> 00:21:28,320
Speaker 4: It's not really good advice. But but if.

464
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Speaker 3: You feel like you're being excluded and that sucks, yeah, no.

465
00:21:30,880 --> 00:21:31,720
Speaker 1: Feelings are valid.

466
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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah.

467
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Speaker 1: What were you going to say speaking of Sunny's birthday

468
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Speaker 1: parties November?

469
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Speaker 2: No, thank you.

470
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Speaker 3: It's a long time from now.

471
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Speaker 1: It's a Sunday.

472
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Speaker 3: I mean just coming up, all right, next one. I

473
00:21:46,880 --> 00:21:48,280
Speaker 3: don't know if we answered that one or not, but

474
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Speaker 3: here we go from anonymous. I've been with my boyfriend

475
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Speaker 3: a little over four years. Wait, where are the softball one? Okay,

476
00:21:55,440 --> 00:21:57,840
Speaker 3: spoiler alert. We live together and have a dog together.

477
00:21:58,000 --> 00:22:00,359
Speaker 3: Every summer, he plays in a softball league to four

478
00:22:00,440 --> 00:22:02,879
Speaker 3: nights a week. These evenings include one to two games

479
00:22:02,880 --> 00:22:04,639
Speaker 3: and then hanging out for hours after the game is

480
00:22:04,720 --> 00:22:07,760
Speaker 3: drinking beers with friends. About a month ago, everyone went

481
00:22:07,800 --> 00:22:09,359
Speaker 3: to the bar after one of the games, but I

482
00:22:09,359 --> 00:22:11,240
Speaker 3: didn't know about that until about a week later when

483
00:22:11,280 --> 00:22:13,159
Speaker 3: one of the wives told me they all went to

484
00:22:13,160 --> 00:22:13,400
Speaker 3: the bar.

485
00:22:13,560 --> 00:22:14,000
Speaker 1: Oh.

486
00:22:14,119 --> 00:22:15,639
Speaker 3: So I was frustrated and said, I didn't know this

487
00:22:15,680 --> 00:22:18,199
Speaker 3: information and my boyfriend didn't tell me. I made it

488
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Speaker 3: clear that I want to know this information at the moment,

489
00:22:20,920 --> 00:22:23,800
Speaker 3: even if I already went to bed. Last night, same

490
00:22:23,800 --> 00:22:25,880
Speaker 3: thing happened. He went to the game, went to the bar,

491
00:22:26,119 --> 00:22:28,080
Speaker 3: didn't tell me until eleven PM when I asked him

492
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Speaker 3: where he could possibly be. It's not being at the

493
00:22:31,040 --> 00:22:33,520
Speaker 3: bar that bothers me. It's the not telling me what's

494
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Speaker 3: going on when he's out and about. He came home

495
00:22:36,240 --> 00:22:38,919
Speaker 3: drunk and said that he gets nervous telling me things

496
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Speaker 3: because he knows I'm going to be mad regardless of

497
00:22:41,600 --> 00:22:43,480
Speaker 3: if he tells me or if he doesn't tells me.

498
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Speaker 3: Tell me. I tried to make it clear that I

499
00:22:45,680 --> 00:22:47,600
Speaker 3: wouldn't be mad if he just told me, but I

500
00:22:47,600 --> 00:22:49,440
Speaker 3: don't think he gets it. How do I set a

501
00:22:49,480 --> 00:22:51,359
Speaker 3: clear boundary and stick to it. I don't want to

502
00:22:51,359 --> 00:22:54,440
Speaker 3: be a naggy girlfriend, but I won't continue a relationship

503
00:22:54,520 --> 00:22:54,760
Speaker 3: like this.

504
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Speaker 2: I this is so. This is a very difference to suation.

505
00:23:00,400 --> 00:23:03,040
Speaker 2: But Haley and I had this time in our relationship

506
00:23:03,080 --> 00:23:09,399
Speaker 2: where she would not tell me things that she didn't

507
00:23:09,400 --> 00:23:13,600
Speaker 2: find important out of fear that maybe I would have

508
00:23:13,680 --> 00:23:16,919
Speaker 2: a reaction to it, And so we would go in

509
00:23:16,960 --> 00:23:19,119
Speaker 2: the circle because I'd be like, why didn't you just

510
00:23:19,240 --> 00:23:21,879
Speaker 2: tell me? Because now I'm more upset that you didn't

511
00:23:21,960 --> 00:23:24,399
Speaker 2: just tell me and I wouldn't have been upset, and

512
00:23:24,400 --> 00:23:26,200
Speaker 2: She's like, but I was scared that you would be upset.

513
00:23:26,240 --> 00:23:29,199
Speaker 2: So we had to like set this boundary of being safe,

514
00:23:29,240 --> 00:23:32,800
Speaker 2: a safe space for both of us because she had

515
00:23:32,800 --> 00:23:35,760
Speaker 2: to make me feel safe by being upfront and honest

516
00:23:35,800 --> 00:23:38,560
Speaker 2: with me and letting me know certain things, especially if

517
00:23:38,600 --> 00:23:41,320
Speaker 2: it was like a sensitive time, and then I had

518
00:23:41,359 --> 00:23:43,879
Speaker 2: to give her the benefit of the doubt of not

519
00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:47,480
Speaker 2: being upset if she told me. So I think it's

520
00:23:47,520 --> 00:23:50,600
Speaker 2: setting the boundary of like, hey, I will work on

521
00:23:51,240 --> 00:23:53,399
Speaker 2: I don't want to be the naggy girlfriend, but that

522
00:23:53,560 --> 00:23:55,560
Speaker 2: is a boundary that's important to me. If you're gonna

523
00:23:55,600 --> 00:23:57,960
Speaker 2: go out and drink, I would just as your girlfriend

524
00:23:57,960 --> 00:24:00,600
Speaker 2: and someone who wants to know that you're safe, so

525
00:24:00,640 --> 00:24:02,680
Speaker 2: that I know what you're are where you are. I

526
00:24:02,680 --> 00:24:04,280
Speaker 2: don't care if you go without me. I don't care

527
00:24:04,320 --> 00:24:06,480
Speaker 2: what you're doing. I just want to know. And I

528
00:24:06,520 --> 00:24:10,080
Speaker 2: think that's out of respect and being in a relationship.

529
00:24:10,400 --> 00:24:13,600
Speaker 1: It is the approach to it because I will say, like,

530
00:24:14,640 --> 00:24:18,040
Speaker 1: I feel like, maybe, Anonymous, you aren't really telling us

531
00:24:18,080 --> 00:24:21,359
Speaker 1: how exactly you are reacting to the situation. And I

532
00:24:21,560 --> 00:24:24,639
Speaker 1: give you full credit to do so because I do

533
00:24:24,720 --> 00:24:29,720
Speaker 1: the same thing. I can sometimes my sentiment is is good,

534
00:24:30,119 --> 00:24:33,080
Speaker 1: and like my feelings and everything that I'm saying is valid.

535
00:24:33,080 --> 00:24:37,000
Speaker 1: My approach to it is can come off very naggy

536
00:24:37,240 --> 00:24:41,280
Speaker 1: or like annoying or it's it's always in the approach.

537
00:24:41,440 --> 00:24:43,720
Speaker 1: So and like I've learned this through my therapist because

538
00:24:43,720 --> 00:24:47,000
Speaker 1: she's like, the the sentiment and the things and your

539
00:24:47,000 --> 00:24:51,640
Speaker 1: ideas and what you want is very totally normal. It's

540
00:24:51,680 --> 00:24:54,479
Speaker 1: the way that you approach it that makes people that

541
00:24:54,560 --> 00:24:58,360
Speaker 1: makes him feel like attacked. And so I would kind

542
00:24:58,400 --> 00:25:03,160
Speaker 1: of like, look at how you you are communicating these

543
00:25:03,200 --> 00:25:05,760
Speaker 1: things to him, because again, what you're saying is totally

544
00:25:05,880 --> 00:25:09,120
Speaker 1: valid and totally he should be respecting you. And if

545
00:25:09,280 --> 00:25:10,880
Speaker 1: all you want is to keep you in the loop,

546
00:25:11,000 --> 00:25:13,800
Speaker 1: like it's very easy to do. But there's he had

547
00:25:13,880 --> 00:25:16,440
Speaker 1: He's saying there's a reason why he's not doing that,

548
00:25:16,760 --> 00:25:18,479
Speaker 1: So I would kind of maybe try and approach it

549
00:25:18,480 --> 00:25:21,040
Speaker 1: in a different in a different way, say it in

550
00:25:21,080 --> 00:25:21,879
Speaker 1: a different manner.

551
00:25:22,080 --> 00:25:25,280
Speaker 2: You're so right. If it's coming across a tackie, he's

552
00:25:25,320 --> 00:25:27,000
Speaker 2: never gonna feel safe to tell you.

553
00:25:27,359 --> 00:25:29,159
Speaker 3: He's probably right. And why aren't you going to the

554
00:25:29,160 --> 00:25:30,960
Speaker 3: softball games? Because I think it's the same group of

555
00:25:31,000 --> 00:25:33,199
Speaker 3: people at the games. Are then moving to the bar?

556
00:25:33,400 --> 00:25:35,639
Speaker 1: Right, And if she don't want to go to a

557
00:25:35,680 --> 00:25:38,679
Speaker 1: week I don't want to go either. I like buy

558
00:25:38,800 --> 00:25:41,040
Speaker 1: have fun, but I would like to know when you're

559
00:25:41,080 --> 00:25:43,399
Speaker 1: coming home or like, you know, just kind of update

560
00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:45,080
Speaker 1: me and then I'll text you, hey, I'm going to sleep.

561
00:25:45,119 --> 00:25:47,240
Speaker 1: And then by that came good.

562
00:25:47,119 --> 00:25:49,880
Speaker 2: Night, Yeah yeah.

563
00:25:49,200 --> 00:25:54,840
Speaker 1: Samuel kissy emoji, and we're all good funny.

564
00:25:55,000 --> 00:25:57,240
Speaker 2: I would give anything to be in bed with you,

565
00:25:57,320 --> 00:26:00,080
Speaker 2: caressing your face as you drift into a dreamland. This

566
00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:02,320
Speaker 2: is what Tanya would want to hear. I would give

567
00:26:02,320 --> 00:26:05,080
Speaker 2: anything to be there, but instead I'm at this gross

568
00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:05,880
Speaker 2: dingy bar.

569
00:26:06,920 --> 00:26:09,320
Speaker 1: This morning, he said, you're the air and my lugs

570
00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:13,960
Speaker 1: because he saw this like TikTok, and it was like,

571
00:26:14,400 --> 00:26:18,280
Speaker 1: what what I want? What my partner says to me,

572
00:26:18,320 --> 00:26:19,920
Speaker 1: and it's like, hey, babe, I'm gonna get my old

573
00:26:20,000 --> 00:26:22,320
Speaker 1: change be back in thirty or whatever. This is what

574
00:26:22,400 --> 00:26:25,600
Speaker 1: she wants me to say. Hey, babe, I really hate

575
00:26:25,600 --> 00:26:27,399
Speaker 1: to leave you, and I don't want to leave. You know.

576
00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:29,439
Speaker 1: If somebody could change my ol for me like I

577
00:26:29,480 --> 00:26:32,600
Speaker 1: would want, I would welcome it. But I have to go.

578
00:26:32,760 --> 00:26:34,560
Speaker 1: And since I have to go, I'm gonna be thinking

579
00:26:34,560 --> 00:26:37,000
Speaker 1: about you every minute of every second that I'm gone.

580
00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:38,920
Speaker 1: I cannot wait to come back and see you again.

581
00:26:39,600 --> 00:26:41,720
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, there we.

582
00:26:41,680 --> 00:26:44,240
Speaker 2: Go, Yeah, yeah, step it.

583
00:26:44,280 --> 00:26:49,520
Speaker 1: Up, which is actually so dark because he's wonderful.

584
00:26:50,000 --> 00:26:53,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I think that's just I was laughing. Hey,

585
00:26:53,680 --> 00:26:55,760
Speaker 2: I was laughing because I was like, this is so sick.

586
00:26:55,840 --> 00:26:56,760
Speaker 2: That's that is like.

587
00:26:56,720 --> 00:26:59,320
Speaker 1: How And then and then just to top it off,

588
00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:02,520
Speaker 1: to to put some salt in the wound that night,

589
00:27:02,560 --> 00:27:04,480
Speaker 1: I'm going to sleep, right. It was like I was

590
00:27:04,520 --> 00:27:06,639
Speaker 1: in bed and she was facetiming Haley in the kitchen

591
00:27:06,680 --> 00:27:09,840
Speaker 1: and I hear Haley say like, Babe, you're my best

592
00:27:09,840 --> 00:27:14,080
Speaker 1: friend and I'm and I miss you so much, I know,

593
00:27:14,359 --> 00:27:16,080
Speaker 1: and I'm like, this is what I was for.

594
00:27:17,520 --> 00:27:20,439
Speaker 2: I was trying. There's this trend on TikTok whets like

595
00:27:20,480 --> 00:27:23,159
Speaker 2: I'm going to say everything twice, like you repeat everything

596
00:27:23,160 --> 00:27:25,080
Speaker 2: twice that you say and see if your friend or

597
00:27:25,119 --> 00:27:28,840
Speaker 2: partner notices. So we were in bed and I was

598
00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:30,560
Speaker 2: doing it and you can just see my face, and

599
00:27:30,600 --> 00:27:34,240
Speaker 2: so I'm like starting, I'm like saying things twice and

600
00:27:34,720 --> 00:27:37,399
Speaker 2: she goes into this rant. She was like, Babe, I'm

601
00:27:37,440 --> 00:27:40,680
Speaker 2: just beaming with love for you. I love you so much.

602
00:27:40,720 --> 00:27:43,359
Speaker 2: You're my favorite person. It's the cutest thing ever. Because

603
00:27:43,359 --> 00:27:45,639
Speaker 2: I got her like I'm trying to do this brank

604
00:27:45,680 --> 00:27:49,080
Speaker 2: and I'm like dying a lot. She's not catching on

605
00:27:49,200 --> 00:27:51,800
Speaker 2: to everything I'm saying. And I was like, Tanya would

606
00:27:51,840 --> 00:27:55,640
Speaker 2: love this. This is literally the dream. I love it too.

607
00:27:56,000 --> 00:27:57,600
Speaker 2: It's shocking. I love it.

608
00:27:57,720 --> 00:28:00,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just so, it's so it only from Haley

609
00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:02,040
Speaker 1: because when I'm texting you.

610
00:28:02,400 --> 00:28:08,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, it does have its limits. Yeah, well then.

611
00:28:10,200 --> 00:28:11,120
Speaker 1: Shall we do erin?

612
00:28:11,800 --> 00:28:12,399
Speaker 3: Not yet?

613
00:28:12,560 --> 00:28:14,280
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, we need one more. We need one more

614
00:28:14,280 --> 00:28:15,040
Speaker 2: before aaron.

615
00:28:15,240 --> 00:28:36,200
Speaker 3: Another break to Oh my god, here we go. That's

616
00:28:36,240 --> 00:28:40,880
Speaker 3: a cute. Anonymous Dear Banya high scrubbing in gang. First

617
00:28:40,920 --> 00:28:42,960
Speaker 3: of all, love all of you. Just came back from

618
00:28:42,960 --> 00:28:45,880
Speaker 3: a trip and bingaged the podcast on my thirteen hour flight,

619
00:28:46,360 --> 00:28:48,600
Speaker 3: and it made the flight easier to get through. Wow,

620
00:28:48,640 --> 00:28:51,520
Speaker 3: there's a lot of scrubbing in right there. Really simple

621
00:28:51,560 --> 00:28:54,080
Speaker 3: ask of a question for advice, How do I have

622
00:28:55,040 --> 00:28:59,480
Speaker 3: just a great makeout session? I sometimes just want a healthy,

623
00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:03,720
Speaker 3: long make out session with my boyfriend, But five minutes in,

624
00:29:04,200 --> 00:29:06,480
Speaker 3: he always wants to do more, he says, as you

625
00:29:06,560 --> 00:29:08,200
Speaker 3: take that as a compliment that I turn him on.

626
00:29:08,680 --> 00:29:11,480
Speaker 3: But for me, I'm good with just the kissing sometimes.

627
00:29:11,720 --> 00:29:14,120
Speaker 3: Thanks for keeping me company on my plane ride.

628
00:29:16,200 --> 00:29:21,600
Speaker 1: You know, one man's pie is another man's pleasure. Because

629
00:29:21,600 --> 00:29:24,400
Speaker 1: it's like someone out there might be saying, how can

630
00:29:24,440 --> 00:29:27,000
Speaker 1: I get my guy to boink me more? You know?

631
00:29:27,400 --> 00:29:27,680
Speaker 4: Sure?

632
00:29:27,840 --> 00:29:32,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, so it's so interesting, it's so interesting. Life is

633
00:29:32,120 --> 00:29:33,600
Speaker 1: so interesting, right.

634
00:29:33,720 --> 00:29:35,960
Speaker 2: But what's what's your advice? Just to her?

635
00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:36,440
Speaker 3: Why?

636
00:29:36,640 --> 00:29:38,240
Speaker 1: I mean, to me, the more the merrier, So I'd

637
00:29:38,240 --> 00:29:39,960
Speaker 1: be like, welcome.

638
00:29:40,240 --> 00:29:41,480
Speaker 3: You're like the escalation.

639
00:29:41,960 --> 00:29:44,479
Speaker 1: Yeah, like I'm I'm I am her boyfriend in this

640
00:29:45,560 --> 00:29:51,600
Speaker 1: Yeah you are, yeah, taking any time any place. But yeah,

641
00:29:51,600 --> 00:29:52,800
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know how to answer that.

642
00:29:53,000 --> 00:29:53,160
Speaker 7: Well.

643
00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:55,280
Speaker 2: I feel like maybe the guys can answer, because I

644
00:29:55,320 --> 00:29:58,840
Speaker 2: feel like I think that they're well. I was gonna

645
00:29:58,840 --> 00:30:02,200
Speaker 2: say different for guys, because like you know, if they

646
00:30:03,440 --> 00:30:04,440
Speaker 2: get turned on there, like.

647
00:30:04,400 --> 00:30:06,720
Speaker 1: Right, their wand wands can't.

648
00:30:06,440 --> 00:30:08,280
Speaker 2: Just collapse their mental wand.

649
00:30:08,760 --> 00:30:11,560
Speaker 1: Magic wand Oh can't just collapse.

650
00:30:11,600 --> 00:30:13,040
Speaker 2: I mean it can it will.

651
00:30:13,200 --> 00:30:13,960
Speaker 1: Isn't that painful?

652
00:30:14,160 --> 00:30:15,480
Speaker 3: No, that's not it. That's a myth.

653
00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:17,160
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I thought it was painful.

654
00:30:17,280 --> 00:30:19,160
Speaker 3: No, it comes, it goes by the way. By the

655
00:30:19,200 --> 00:30:21,960
Speaker 3: way it comes, It goes randomly. It comes, it goes

656
00:30:22,000 --> 00:30:29,479
Speaker 3: for no particular reasons, such a fascinating thing with the

657
00:30:29,520 --> 00:30:31,720
Speaker 3: wand in the morning. It doesn't mean we were dreaming

658
00:30:31,720 --> 00:30:32,280
Speaker 3: about sex.

659
00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:36,120
Speaker 1: That's that's what you Okay, Yeah, it does. I mean

660
00:30:36,200 --> 00:30:37,640
Speaker 1: something was going on that head.

661
00:30:37,760 --> 00:30:38,960
Speaker 3: It means absolutely nothing.

662
00:30:39,240 --> 00:30:42,560
Speaker 4: It's a it's a it's function that involves blood flow.

663
00:30:42,760 --> 00:30:43,000
Speaker 4: That's what.

664
00:30:43,400 --> 00:30:44,240
Speaker 3: It's a circuity.

665
00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:46,560
Speaker 1: I thought that it hurt if you if the magic

666
00:30:46,600 --> 00:30:50,120
Speaker 1: wand it's like, let's say the umbrella opened. I always

667
00:30:50,120 --> 00:30:52,440
Speaker 1: thought if it didn't, if the umbrella didn't.

668
00:30:52,400 --> 00:30:54,800
Speaker 2: Uh, I don't think you're gonna get it.

669
00:30:56,520 --> 00:31:00,080
Speaker 1: If the umbrella didn't shelter you from the rain and

670
00:31:00,880 --> 00:31:02,880
Speaker 1: you just put it back down. That I thought it

671
00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:03,600
Speaker 1: was hurt.

672
00:31:03,640 --> 00:31:06,680
Speaker 3: You know that the blue balls thing is a myth

673
00:31:06,720 --> 00:31:09,400
Speaker 3: that guys have used to guilt you with having sex

674
00:31:09,440 --> 00:31:09,720
Speaker 3: with them.

675
00:31:09,920 --> 00:31:11,000
Speaker 1: That's so gross.

676
00:31:11,240 --> 00:31:13,800
Speaker 4: Yeah, there was a post in the Facebook group about

677
00:31:13,920 --> 00:31:15,920
Speaker 4: blue balls and it made me so mad.

678
00:31:15,760 --> 00:31:22,840
Speaker 2: Because he was comparing to period.

679
00:31:23,000 --> 00:31:26,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, not only is it not comparable, that doesn't hurt,

680
00:31:26,680 --> 00:31:28,160
Speaker 3: there's no pain whatsoever.

681
00:31:28,200 --> 00:31:30,480
Speaker 2: And they're so nice, girls are like, well you know

682
00:31:30,600 --> 00:31:37,840
Speaker 2: his feeling. Can we not for a day?

683
00:31:37,880 --> 00:31:40,360
Speaker 1: You'd be crying like a baby in pain.

684
00:31:40,480 --> 00:31:43,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, Like it makes me so sorry. That sets me up.

685
00:31:45,000 --> 00:31:47,120
Speaker 2: I just feel like there should be like, I guess

686
00:31:47,360 --> 00:31:50,640
Speaker 2: what what wohen it hurts your feelings that that? Like

687
00:31:50,720 --> 00:31:52,440
Speaker 2: if Alice was like I just want to make out

688
00:31:52,840 --> 00:31:55,280
Speaker 2: nothing more, what could she say that didn't make you

689
00:31:55,320 --> 00:31:57,000
Speaker 2: feel rejected? I guess.

690
00:31:59,880 --> 00:32:01,920
Speaker 4: I'm trying to think because I don't know. I do

691
00:32:02,120 --> 00:32:04,840
Speaker 4: TM I here, but uh, there was a period in

692
00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:06,640
Speaker 4: my life where I was like this dude, you know,

693
00:32:06,880 --> 00:32:08,520
Speaker 4: like it started making out and it's like, oh yeah,

694
00:32:08,560 --> 00:32:12,160
Speaker 4: you there's a goal here, right, But then something just

695
00:32:12,280 --> 00:32:16,040
Speaker 4: clicked and I like prefer making out to the other

696
00:32:16,320 --> 00:32:20,840
Speaker 4: stuff often like it's it's it's to me. They're very

697
00:32:20,840 --> 00:32:25,320
Speaker 4: different experiences and I don't know, I don't know how

698
00:32:25,360 --> 00:32:26,880
Speaker 4: to make that like I don't know how to say

699
00:32:26,880 --> 00:32:30,760
Speaker 4: that too, you know, like like because.

700
00:32:32,280 --> 00:32:32,600
Speaker 1: I don't know.

701
00:32:32,640 --> 00:32:33,920
Speaker 4: If someone said to me, like I just want to

702
00:32:33,920 --> 00:32:35,960
Speaker 4: make out like I I like to think that I

703
00:32:35,960 --> 00:32:37,720
Speaker 4: would interpret it as like, oh, well, we just want

704
00:32:37,760 --> 00:32:39,720
Speaker 4: to You just want to enjoy this longer, you know,

705
00:32:39,800 --> 00:32:42,400
Speaker 4: like you just want to have that type of connection

706
00:32:43,000 --> 00:32:44,600
Speaker 4: on a different level. But like I think if I

707
00:32:44,680 --> 00:32:47,640
Speaker 4: was a younger man of bick, oh man, it's just

708
00:32:47,800 --> 00:32:48,920
Speaker 4: like me, you know, That's what I would think.

709
00:32:48,960 --> 00:32:51,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't think I feel rejected because the fact

710
00:32:51,760 --> 00:32:53,520
Speaker 3: that she wants to make out with me is a

711
00:32:53,520 --> 00:32:56,360
Speaker 3: compliment in itself, Like I would feel wanted by that,

712
00:32:56,440 --> 00:32:59,160
Speaker 3: so I feel rejected. I think my best advice for

713
00:32:59,200 --> 00:33:01,400
Speaker 3: her in this situation with this guy who clearly wants

714
00:33:01,440 --> 00:33:04,520
Speaker 3: descilate things is to find situations where you don't have

715
00:33:04,560 --> 00:33:08,840
Speaker 3: a choice, Like perhaps the first day of your period,

716
00:33:09,080 --> 00:33:10,880
Speaker 3: and you have a rule that nothing happens on the

717
00:33:10,880 --> 00:33:13,040
Speaker 3: first day of your period, Maybe that's the day to

718
00:33:13,120 --> 00:33:14,200
Speaker 3: make out.

719
00:33:14,240 --> 00:33:17,800
Speaker 1: One day a month, I mean, better than zero.

720
00:33:17,720 --> 00:33:21,640
Speaker 2: Days having a conversation of like I love yeah, pretty

721
00:33:21,680 --> 00:33:26,200
Speaker 2: part of this relationship sometimes, Like I know, I take

722
00:33:26,240 --> 00:33:28,200
Speaker 2: it as a compliment that you always want to move

723
00:33:28,240 --> 00:33:31,080
Speaker 2: forward after we make out. But sometimes for me, I

724
00:33:31,280 --> 00:33:34,320
Speaker 2: just want it to be a makeout and then cuddle

725
00:33:34,520 --> 00:33:36,960
Speaker 2: or you know, and not be it. And it doesn't

726
00:33:37,000 --> 00:33:39,440
Speaker 2: mean that I don't want you. It's just it's just

727
00:33:39,480 --> 00:33:41,640
Speaker 2: what I need. And I would hope.

728
00:33:41,480 --> 00:33:43,600
Speaker 1: That's very valid. I think like a lot of times

729
00:33:43,600 --> 00:33:46,239
Speaker 1: too in relationships, somebody wants to have sex more than

730
00:33:46,280 --> 00:33:48,120
Speaker 1: the other person and you just meet in the middle.

731
00:33:48,400 --> 00:33:50,480
Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. I think it's just like how again,

732
00:33:50,520 --> 00:33:52,960
Speaker 2: it's the approach of like not making him feel because

733
00:33:52,960 --> 00:33:55,280
Speaker 2: he's going to be sensitive about it, and let him

734
00:33:55,320 --> 00:33:58,640
Speaker 2: know that you feel so wanted and it's flattering to

735
00:33:58,680 --> 00:34:01,280
Speaker 2: you that he wants it to go beyond. But sometimes

736
00:34:01,320 --> 00:34:03,600
Speaker 2: you just want a good old fashioned makeout and nothing more.

737
00:34:03,760 --> 00:34:06,720
Speaker 3: It'll say great, I agree, that sounds great, and then

738
00:34:06,720 --> 00:34:08,840
Speaker 3: when it happens he's going to change his mind.

739
00:34:09,239 --> 00:34:10,560
Speaker 1: Well we can cross that bridge.

740
00:34:10,560 --> 00:34:12,880
Speaker 2: Well remember our talk.

741
00:34:13,400 --> 00:34:14,880
Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, guys need to be trained.

742
00:34:14,960 --> 00:34:18,160
Speaker 2: Yeah that's true, But you would hope that he would

743
00:34:18,200 --> 00:34:20,560
Speaker 2: get to a point where he would, you know, get

744
00:34:20,600 --> 00:34:24,120
Speaker 2: to a point where it's like he could feel comfortable,

745
00:34:24,120 --> 00:34:26,040
Speaker 2: they could feel comfortable being like, how are you feeling like?

746
00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:29,440
Speaker 2: Is this just a makeout night? Maybe there's a code wordies,

747
00:34:29,600 --> 00:34:29,879
Speaker 2: you know.

748
00:34:30,360 --> 00:34:31,120
Speaker 4: Like a safe word.

749
00:34:31,520 --> 00:34:32,000
Speaker 2: I don't know.

750
00:34:33,120 --> 00:34:36,440
Speaker 3: All right, let's get to Aaron. These are good questions.

751
00:34:36,480 --> 00:34:38,880
Speaker 3: I'm not try to answer these questions, but they're very good. Okay,

752
00:34:39,000 --> 00:34:42,080
Speaker 3: maybe go work it out together. Hi, Banya and friends.

753
00:34:42,960 --> 00:34:46,239
Speaker 3: Random fun question idea for the pod and she does

754
00:34:46,280 --> 00:34:47,440
Speaker 3: all four of us, but we'll do them one at

755
00:34:47,480 --> 00:34:51,080
Speaker 3: a time. Becca markne easton, what's the most Tanya thing

756
00:34:51,320 --> 00:34:52,480
Speaker 3: You've done lately?

757
00:34:55,520 --> 00:35:01,400
Speaker 2: Oh, the most Tanya thing I've done lately is Haley

758
00:35:01,440 --> 00:35:03,719
Speaker 2: and I have been getting up and going on walks

759
00:35:03,840 --> 00:35:06,759
Speaker 2: together in the morning as like our quality time to

760
00:35:06,800 --> 00:35:10,240
Speaker 2: start the day, and it feels very Tanya.

761
00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:17,880
Speaker 3: M most Tanya thing I've done lately is I she

762
00:35:17,960 --> 00:35:20,799
Speaker 3: a pudding wo because she eats it regularly and I'm

763
00:35:20,800 --> 00:35:22,719
Speaker 3: always curious what it tastes like. So I got some

764
00:35:22,840 --> 00:35:25,400
Speaker 3: over the weekend and it was delicious, and all I

765
00:35:25,440 --> 00:35:27,960
Speaker 3: thought about all lading was Tanya's onto something here.

766
00:35:28,000 --> 00:35:30,320
Speaker 1: Thank you. I wish you would feel that way about everything.

767
00:35:31,280 --> 00:35:31,680
Speaker 3: I don't.

768
00:35:32,600 --> 00:35:33,400
Speaker 1: Okay, you'll get.

769
00:35:33,239 --> 00:35:36,160
Speaker 3: There, we'll see Yes, thumbs up.

770
00:35:37,080 --> 00:35:39,440
Speaker 4: My mine's also food related. We made a hard pivot

771
00:35:39,480 --> 00:35:39,759
Speaker 4: to see it.

772
00:35:40,120 --> 00:35:43,520
Speaker 1: Chips nice nice, nice, nice nice.

773
00:35:43,640 --> 00:35:47,480
Speaker 2: Wow, I do eat chips on the regular. That is

774
00:35:47,520 --> 00:35:48,080
Speaker 2: something I do.

775
00:35:48,280 --> 00:35:52,680
Speaker 3: Thank you, Tanya Easton Mark. What's the most Becka thing

776
00:35:52,920 --> 00:35:53,800
Speaker 3: you've done lately?

777
00:35:54,719 --> 00:35:57,359
Speaker 1: I binged five episodes of a show in one day.

778
00:35:58,840 --> 00:36:02,719
Speaker 2: That feels more like you at this point. No, yeah,

779
00:36:02,800 --> 00:36:04,719
Speaker 2: I don't really binge a lot of.

780
00:36:04,600 --> 00:36:06,799
Speaker 1: TV shows more so than me.

781
00:36:07,080 --> 00:36:10,000
Speaker 2: I don't think you watched Survive like you'd binge a lot.

782
00:36:09,760 --> 00:36:14,480
Speaker 1: Don't binge I watched one episode a day. There's a difference,

783
00:36:14,880 --> 00:36:16,640
Speaker 1: do you think I.

784
00:36:16,600 --> 00:36:18,879
Speaker 2: Definitely think you watched way more TV than I do.

785
00:36:19,960 --> 00:36:23,120
Speaker 2: I don't really binge a lot of shows, but I

786
00:36:23,120 --> 00:36:24,280
Speaker 2: guess I did in my past.

787
00:36:24,520 --> 00:36:25,080
Speaker 1: Yeah.

788
00:36:26,280 --> 00:36:28,560
Speaker 3: I think that's our image of you, whether you're sitting

789
00:36:28,560 --> 00:36:31,160
Speaker 3: on the couch a lot of TV time.

790
00:36:31,400 --> 00:36:33,600
Speaker 2: That's so interesting. Yeah, No, I don't do a lot

791
00:36:33,640 --> 00:36:34,279
Speaker 2: of TV time.

792
00:36:34,560 --> 00:36:37,120
Speaker 3: So what do you do? Because we've established this week.

793
00:36:37,160 --> 00:36:38,920
Speaker 4: You don't so interesting?

794
00:36:38,960 --> 00:36:43,880
Speaker 1: Because after hours, like way up to bedtime.

795
00:36:43,520 --> 00:36:45,880
Speaker 2: I was literally thinking about that after the last episode,

796
00:36:45,920 --> 00:36:49,560
Speaker 2: I was like, what do I do all day?

797
00:36:50,800 --> 00:36:53,640
Speaker 1: Because last I saw you were binging just Josie Doanes

798
00:36:53,680 --> 00:36:58,680
Speaker 1: in the sixth j Jones six, So I'm not that

799
00:36:58,840 --> 00:36:59,359
Speaker 1: far off.

800
00:36:59,480 --> 00:37:02,840
Speaker 2: No, but that's it's very rare, like I very rarely

801
00:37:02,880 --> 00:37:04,720
Speaker 2: find a show that I love that much to binge,

802
00:37:04,719 --> 00:37:07,279
Speaker 2: but I did. I was obsessed with Daisy Jones.

803
00:37:07,480 --> 00:37:10,400
Speaker 1: So I'm just saying my my Becca thing is not

804
00:37:11,440 --> 00:37:15,560
Speaker 1: off kilter. No, walk us through a day non podcast day.

805
00:37:15,760 --> 00:37:18,560
Speaker 2: Oh god, I mean the podcast is like my busiest day.

806
00:37:19,880 --> 00:37:22,280
Speaker 2: I wake up, now we go on to walk together.

807
00:37:23,040 --> 00:37:29,240
Speaker 2: That's around eight eight thirty. I make breakfast, the healthy

808
00:37:29,280 --> 00:37:34,879
Speaker 2: oatmeal waffles, put those in, do the dishes. Then I'll

809
00:37:34,880 --> 00:37:38,080
Speaker 2: get ready for the day, make my bed, do my

810
00:37:38,120 --> 00:37:41,160
Speaker 2: hair and makeup, pick out an outfit, and then typically

811
00:37:41,239 --> 00:37:43,400
Speaker 2: I have stuff to film for like word, like Instagram

812
00:37:43,400 --> 00:37:45,960
Speaker 2: stuff like stuff I have to film and I can

813
00:37:46,000 --> 00:37:49,399
Speaker 2: take that actually can take a long time if I'm

814
00:37:49,400 --> 00:37:51,239
Speaker 2: doing like reels and stuff, that can really take a

815
00:37:51,239 --> 00:37:52,759
Speaker 2: long time because I have to edit and everything. I

816
00:37:52,880 --> 00:37:54,560
Speaker 2: edit all my own stuff. So I do have some

817
00:37:54,600 --> 00:37:56,759
Speaker 2: stuff to do during the day if I'm busy.

818
00:37:56,719 --> 00:37:58,040
Speaker 1: Even shooting those bad Boys.

819
00:37:58,360 --> 00:38:04,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a lot and one woman show. Yeah, I

820
00:38:04,600 --> 00:38:07,400
Speaker 2: literally don't know. I don't do things like I'm not

821
00:38:07,440 --> 00:38:11,920
Speaker 2: like I like to a shop. I go like, I

822
00:38:12,000 --> 00:38:14,319
Speaker 2: literally don't know what I do think about it?

823
00:38:14,360 --> 00:38:16,600
Speaker 1: So like let's even say that that the shooting the

824
00:38:16,680 --> 00:38:20,240
Speaker 1: videos and editing them takes you four hours after breakfast.

825
00:38:20,360 --> 00:38:23,839
Speaker 1: That's like that takes you like one pm. What do

826
00:38:23,880 --> 00:38:24,399
Speaker 1: I do?

827
00:38:24,560 --> 00:38:27,480
Speaker 2: I don't I do? Like lately, I've been trying to

828
00:38:27,520 --> 00:38:30,040
Speaker 2: go in like a like an afternoon walk again.

829
00:38:29,760 --> 00:38:33,280
Speaker 3: Okay, that's it now it's too hot now, isn't it.

830
00:38:33,360 --> 00:38:38,200
Speaker 2: Just this past week down? And then Haley gets home

831
00:38:38,640 --> 00:38:41,200
Speaker 2: like five or six, and then we have dinner and

832
00:38:41,239 --> 00:38:43,560
Speaker 2: stuff together. So like there's a chunk of time where

833
00:38:43,560 --> 00:38:44,399
Speaker 2: I don't really know.

834
00:38:44,640 --> 00:38:45,920
Speaker 1: Right, there's like a two or three window.

835
00:38:45,960 --> 00:38:47,600
Speaker 2: But it changes every day, Like I'm not doing the

836
00:38:47,600 --> 00:38:49,840
Speaker 2: same thing every day, Like I'm not in like a routine,

837
00:38:49,880 --> 00:38:52,160
Speaker 2: so it does like change up. But yeah, I was

838
00:38:52,200 --> 00:38:54,400
Speaker 2: thinking after the last episode of like what do I

839
00:38:54,440 --> 00:38:56,800
Speaker 2: spend my time doing for so many hours of the day.

840
00:38:56,920 --> 00:38:57,120
Speaker 2: You know?

841
00:38:57,160 --> 00:39:00,080
Speaker 1: What's interesting what I found with myself is like the

842
00:39:00,160 --> 00:39:03,200
Speaker 1: days where I have a crazy jam pack schedule, I

843
00:39:03,239 --> 00:39:05,480
Speaker 1: will be more efficient and get more done when I

844
00:39:05,520 --> 00:39:07,279
Speaker 1: have so much going on in my day than I do.

845
00:39:07,440 --> 00:39:10,080
Speaker 1: Like on Labor Day, I was like this is my

846
00:39:10,160 --> 00:39:12,880
Speaker 1: day to this is my g get done day, Like

847
00:39:12,920 --> 00:39:15,640
Speaker 1: this was the day that we just We're gonna sit

848
00:39:15,680 --> 00:39:18,080
Speaker 1: and just get stuff done. And I had a list

849
00:39:18,080 --> 00:39:20,400
Speaker 1: of like twenty things, and I'd say I got to

850
00:39:20,520 --> 00:39:24,160
Speaker 1: like seven of them, okay, and I had the whole day,

851
00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:26,879
Speaker 1: Like what did I do with this day? I only

852
00:39:26,920 --> 00:39:28,720
Speaker 1: did seven of my twenty things?

853
00:39:28,800 --> 00:39:29,120
Speaker 2: Yeah?

854
00:39:29,239 --> 00:39:31,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I think it was because I had no

855
00:39:31,640 --> 00:39:32,319
Speaker 1: structure to.

856
00:39:32,320 --> 00:39:34,279
Speaker 2: My day, right, it makes sense.

857
00:39:34,400 --> 00:39:36,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, So I can see where because I was like

858
00:39:37,000 --> 00:39:39,480
Speaker 1: it came six pm, and I was like, we gotta

859
00:39:39,480 --> 00:39:40,439
Speaker 1: watch our show and go to bed.

860
00:39:42,320 --> 00:39:43,040
Speaker 2: Yeah what show?

861
00:39:43,880 --> 00:39:44,880
Speaker 3: Americans?

862
00:39:45,560 --> 00:39:49,000
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, I'll I'll be more aware of what I'm

863
00:39:49,040 --> 00:39:51,240
Speaker 2: doing on those days so I can report back way tomorrow.

864
00:39:51,239 --> 00:39:53,080
Speaker 1: This will be a fun game tomorrow. Why don't you

865
00:39:53,120 --> 00:39:54,759
Speaker 1: make all tomorrow of.

866
00:39:54,719 --> 00:39:57,359
Speaker 2: A busy day? Tomorrow a busy day. Well, okay, so

867
00:39:57,520 --> 00:39:59,520
Speaker 2: I didn't talk about this, but I did something to

868
00:39:59,560 --> 00:40:01,759
Speaker 2: my back where like it hurts so bad to turn

869
00:40:01,800 --> 00:40:03,800
Speaker 2: my neck, like I have to turn like my body

870
00:40:03,840 --> 00:40:07,880
Speaker 2: like this or like setting pain. But I Haley goes

871
00:40:07,920 --> 00:40:09,440
Speaker 2: to acupuncture all the time, and she's like, will you

872
00:40:09,440 --> 00:40:11,640
Speaker 2: please go see my acupuncture? So I went this morning,

873
00:40:11,640 --> 00:40:15,160
Speaker 2: and she's like, come tomorrow and then Friday. So tomorrow

874
00:40:15,239 --> 00:40:19,760
Speaker 2: I have acupuncture, I have the dentist, which is my nightmare,

875
00:40:19,840 --> 00:40:21,360
Speaker 2: and then Laura comes into town.

876
00:40:22,200 --> 00:40:24,080
Speaker 1: Okay, so tomorrow is a bad, bad example.

877
00:40:24,120 --> 00:40:26,480
Speaker 2: Tomorrow is gonna be busy. Yeah, actually the rest of

878
00:40:26,520 --> 00:40:28,200
Speaker 2: the week because Laura's in town. So I'm gonna be

879
00:40:28,640 --> 00:40:29,800
Speaker 2: hostess with the mistess.

880
00:40:30,000 --> 00:40:32,160
Speaker 1: Okay, so maybe next week we revisit this.

881
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Speaker 3: Yeah, well I have my answer. I'm the most Becca

882
00:40:35,560 --> 00:40:37,840
Speaker 3: thing I've inmationally. A Saturday night, I had a burger

883
00:40:37,840 --> 00:40:38,280
Speaker 3: and fries.

884
00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:39,239
Speaker 2: Wow.

885
00:40:39,440 --> 00:40:41,960
Speaker 3: It was an impossible burger, but still it felt very decadent.

886
00:40:42,200 --> 00:40:44,160
Speaker 4: And where was it from?

887
00:40:45,000 --> 00:40:47,480
Speaker 3: That's uh, we're up in OHI all right, Yeah it

888
00:40:47,520 --> 00:40:48,080
Speaker 3: was really good.

889
00:40:48,440 --> 00:40:51,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, very and I Becca with the impossible burger burger

890
00:40:51,800 --> 00:40:54,160
Speaker 2: fries is as good as it's gonna get.

891
00:40:54,560 --> 00:40:57,320
Speaker 3: I think. So I slept with a woman. Does that count?

892
00:40:57,800 --> 00:40:58,680
Speaker 2: What? Yeah?

893
00:40:58,840 --> 00:41:00,520
Speaker 3: Okay, great, there we go, there we go.

894
00:41:03,080 --> 00:41:05,040
Speaker 2: Wow, that's the most thing.

895
00:41:07,400 --> 00:41:09,400
Speaker 4: I'm sorry to make this about fast food again, but uh,

896
00:41:10,719 --> 00:41:14,040
Speaker 4: when I got home from d C, I landed late

897
00:41:14,080 --> 00:41:16,399
Speaker 4: at night and I was sexting Alison. I'm like, which

898
00:41:16,880 --> 00:41:18,719
Speaker 4: did you eat? Like, I'm good and I'm like, all right,

899
00:41:18,800 --> 00:41:21,120
Speaker 4: I'm starving. I went through the Taco Bell drive through.

900
00:41:21,560 --> 00:41:23,759
Speaker 4: I got a crunch trap with three cheese and stead

901
00:41:23,800 --> 00:41:25,719
Speaker 4: nota cha cheese, and I got cheeseygordy to crunch and

902
00:41:25,760 --> 00:41:31,240
Speaker 4: I got a large pepsi down. It was so good.

903
00:41:31,480 --> 00:41:33,440
Speaker 4: But I never I don't go to Taco Bell almost

904
00:41:33,440 --> 00:41:36,200
Speaker 4: ever anymore because Elison has never been to Taco Bell.

905
00:41:36,239 --> 00:41:39,320
Speaker 4: Allison has never had it, So it's not part of

906
00:41:39,360 --> 00:41:39,880
Speaker 4: our routine.

907
00:41:40,040 --> 00:41:41,440
Speaker 2: Is that like a thing that she's anti?

908
00:41:42,000 --> 00:41:44,040
Speaker 4: She just it's just never come up. It's never come

909
00:41:44,040 --> 00:41:44,759
Speaker 4: across her desk.

910
00:41:44,840 --> 00:41:47,000
Speaker 2: I don't know how how do I make it come

911
00:41:47,000 --> 00:41:47,759
Speaker 2: across us.

912
00:41:48,480 --> 00:41:49,759
Speaker 4: She would do it for you if you wanted to

913
00:41:49,800 --> 00:41:52,200
Speaker 4: go talk about with her, she would do that. Yeah,

914
00:41:52,840 --> 00:41:55,200
Speaker 4: but uh, I crave it a lot, and I feel

915
00:41:55,200 --> 00:41:56,840
Speaker 4: like I have like a mistress, like when Alison's like

916
00:41:56,840 --> 00:41:59,680
Speaker 4: out of town or something like myll.

917
00:41:59,120 --> 00:42:02,200
Speaker 1: Is damn good, so good. So it is really good.

918
00:42:02,440 --> 00:42:04,680
Speaker 4: Of all the major chains, I think they're the most

919
00:42:04,680 --> 00:42:05,680
Speaker 4: consistently good.

920
00:42:05,800 --> 00:42:12,000
Speaker 2: Especially when it just hits hits no matter what, sober, drunk, high, whatever.

921
00:42:11,880 --> 00:42:15,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, it hits. Yeah, alright, that's very.

922
00:42:15,000 --> 00:42:18,359
Speaker 3: Beck, Tanya, Beca and Mark what's the most Eastern thing

923
00:42:18,440 --> 00:42:22,759
Speaker 3: you've done lately. I haven't been a Chooesta factory in

924
00:42:22,800 --> 00:42:23,719
Speaker 3: a while, So I.

925
00:42:23,640 --> 00:42:27,800
Speaker 1: Have two things. One of them's food related. I ordered

926
00:42:28,080 --> 00:42:31,400
Speaker 1: these like very decadent donuts that had all these different

927
00:42:31,400 --> 00:42:36,960
Speaker 1: designs on them. Yeah, and I ate one felt very Eastern.

928
00:42:38,000 --> 00:42:40,359
Speaker 1: And my crocs, the crocs that I wear often, they

929
00:42:40,600 --> 00:42:41,880
Speaker 1: that feels like Eastern to me.

930
00:42:43,560 --> 00:42:45,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would say. I was gonna say my buying

931
00:42:45,680 --> 00:42:49,440
Speaker 2: crocs for my ziplining excursion was a very east like.

932
00:42:49,480 --> 00:42:51,560
Speaker 2: I thought about Eastern the whole time, and I was like,

933
00:42:52,480 --> 00:42:55,160
Speaker 2: for some reason, they don't. I never am like, wow,

934
00:42:55,200 --> 00:42:58,120
Speaker 2: those are so ugly when I see Eastern war them.

935
00:42:58,160 --> 00:42:59,400
Speaker 2: But when I put them.

936
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Speaker 6: On, I was like, I've never felt worse about myself.

937
00:43:02,719 --> 00:43:02,920
Speaker 2: I know.

938
00:43:04,360 --> 00:43:06,759
Speaker 1: It's a weird thing because you feel so bad about

939
00:43:06,800 --> 00:43:08,960
Speaker 1: yourself and yet so comfortable at the same time. So

940
00:43:09,120 --> 00:43:10,560
Speaker 1: really is like this thing that tugs it.

941
00:43:10,560 --> 00:43:13,600
Speaker 2: It's like that there's something about Easton in them that

942
00:43:13,719 --> 00:43:17,440
Speaker 2: doesn't like I'm not like even Hailey was like.

943
00:43:17,400 --> 00:43:20,080
Speaker 1: The gibbets, you need gibbets.

944
00:43:19,760 --> 00:43:23,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, gibbet don't know. Hailey was like, I thought I

945
00:43:23,440 --> 00:43:26,040
Speaker 2: was gonna feel like people make them look so cool,

946
00:43:26,760 --> 00:43:31,040
Speaker 2: and they looked so ugly on me. But I did

947
00:43:31,080 --> 00:43:31,480
Speaker 2: get them.

948
00:43:31,840 --> 00:43:33,320
Speaker 4: I'm sure you're comfortable.

949
00:43:33,400 --> 00:43:37,640
Speaker 2: I did not, but they were so comfortable. So there

950
00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:40,799
Speaker 2: was I ate something too that I thought, Oh, I

951
00:43:40,840 --> 00:43:43,840
Speaker 2: did the trend where you line I don't know if

952
00:43:43,880 --> 00:43:45,120
Speaker 2: you would actually do this, but I feel like you'd

953
00:43:45,160 --> 00:43:47,440
Speaker 2: be interested in trying it, where you line the cup

954
00:43:47,520 --> 00:43:50,840
Speaker 2: with marshmallow fluff and then you you don't drink, Do

955
00:43:50,840 --> 00:43:51,759
Speaker 2: you drink? You drink?

956
00:43:52,120 --> 00:43:52,439
Speaker 4: I drink.

957
00:43:52,480 --> 00:43:57,080
Speaker 2: So I tried the Doctor Shepper and pickles. That was

958
00:43:57,120 --> 00:44:00,600
Speaker 2: the most easting thing I've ever done. Yeah, is Doctor

959
00:44:00,640 --> 00:44:03,880
Speaker 2: Pepper died Doctor Prepper with pickle bits and juice in it.

960
00:44:04,280 --> 00:44:11,399
Speaker 2: And I don't really anything with doctor Pepper good enough.

961
00:44:11,920 --> 00:44:13,959
Speaker 2: I love Doctor Pepper.

962
00:44:15,239 --> 00:44:16,640
Speaker 1: I can't tell you the last time I had it.

963
00:44:17,360 --> 00:44:20,840
Speaker 2: I can't When in Palm Springs, my sonic dirty Doctor Pepper,

964
00:44:21,719 --> 00:44:26,480
Speaker 2: Dirty Doctor Pepper, which is coconut cream, lime and doctor Pepper. Wow,

965
00:44:26,719 --> 00:44:28,759
Speaker 2: she kept reaching for it and I was like, don't

966
00:44:28,840 --> 00:44:29,720
Speaker 2: drink all that please?

967
00:44:29,920 --> 00:44:33,399
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, that's what they say.

968
00:44:33,560 --> 00:44:34,680
Speaker 1: Yeah.

969
00:44:34,880 --> 00:44:36,560
Speaker 3: I don't have a good answer for this. I'm sorry.

970
00:44:36,600 --> 00:44:39,440
Speaker 3: I I My best answer is that I engineered my

971
00:44:39,440 --> 00:44:45,640
Speaker 3: own audio last week when Eastern was gone processing. Notice

972
00:44:45,640 --> 00:44:47,520
Speaker 3: this sound a little more low end.

973
00:44:47,440 --> 00:44:50,000
Speaker 4: On the Listen to wind out Jane Kramer this week.

974
00:44:50,040 --> 00:44:50,640
Speaker 4: See how he did.

975
00:44:50,960 --> 00:44:51,680
Speaker 3: You know what's funny?

976
00:44:51,680 --> 00:44:51,960
Speaker 2: Though?

977
00:44:52,160 --> 00:44:52,600
Speaker 4: What's it?

978
00:44:53,080 --> 00:44:57,320
Speaker 3: One of our producers emailed like, this sounds different than usual.

979
00:44:57,520 --> 00:44:59,879
Speaker 3: I think we can do to fix them. I don't know.

980
00:45:01,719 --> 00:45:02,160
Speaker 2: What you get.

981
00:45:02,239 --> 00:45:04,120
Speaker 3: It sounds different because Eastern's going, but I don't know

982
00:45:04,160 --> 00:45:06,480
Speaker 3: what else to do. So I did it poorly, but

983
00:45:06,520 --> 00:45:07,400
Speaker 3: I did part of it.

984
00:45:08,239 --> 00:45:08,439
Speaker 7: Wow.

985
00:45:09,600 --> 00:45:11,719
Speaker 3: And finally telling you back in Easton, what's the most

986
00:45:11,760 --> 00:45:13,120
Speaker 3: mark thing you've done lately?

987
00:45:14,760 --> 00:45:20,000
Speaker 1: Ah? I tried to. I have been trying to convince

988
00:45:20,080 --> 00:45:23,120
Speaker 1: Robbie that we should have dedicated days of the week

989
00:45:23,160 --> 00:45:23,760
Speaker 1: with our food.

990
00:45:24,120 --> 00:45:25,759
Speaker 3: I think it makes life simpler.

991
00:45:25,960 --> 00:45:28,080
Speaker 1: I think so too, That is what I'm trying to say.

992
00:45:28,200 --> 00:45:30,919
Speaker 1: I'm like, we'll go to the grocery store once a week.

993
00:45:31,000 --> 00:45:33,400
Speaker 1: We'll get us through, you know, Monday through Friday, and

994
00:45:33,400 --> 00:45:35,560
Speaker 1: then have a little fun on the weekends. Yes, but

995
00:45:35,680 --> 00:45:37,200
Speaker 1: every day has its meal.

996
00:45:37,360 --> 00:45:39,560
Speaker 3: The other day you mentioned that with Ryan the other

997
00:45:39,600 --> 00:45:40,759
Speaker 3: day and Sis and he said, oh, I could never

998
00:45:40,760 --> 00:45:42,319
Speaker 3: do that. My life too hectic, And I was like, no,

999
00:45:42,400 --> 00:45:43,920
Speaker 3: that's the point makes it.

1000
00:45:44,880 --> 00:45:47,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't have to choose what do I feel like?

1001
00:45:47,160 --> 00:45:48,560
Speaker 3: You don't that's so much?

1002
00:45:48,600 --> 00:45:50,439
Speaker 1: And what do I have in the fridge? It's just there?

1003
00:45:51,920 --> 00:45:53,040
Speaker 3: So that's the that's good.

1004
00:45:53,120 --> 00:45:54,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean that.

1005
00:45:54,280 --> 00:45:55,000
Speaker 2: How do you beat that?

1006
00:45:59,680 --> 00:46:00,719
Speaker 4: I have any more time?

1007
00:46:02,480 --> 00:46:02,719
Speaker 1: Uh?

1008
00:46:03,080 --> 00:46:07,160
Speaker 4: The most? Oh okay, well well I'm going now, Yeah,

1009
00:46:07,160 --> 00:46:09,719
Speaker 4: I have the floor. When we were we were in

1010
00:46:09,800 --> 00:46:14,000
Speaker 4: Denver this weekend and we're driving around and I was like,

1011
00:46:14,160 --> 00:46:17,320
Speaker 4: we got to go check out Course Field. We gotta go.

1012
00:46:17,440 --> 00:46:20,240
Speaker 4: It was nighttime, there was a game going on actually

1013
00:46:20,280 --> 00:46:23,680
Speaker 4: they were playing. It was a Friday night, and uh,

1014
00:46:23,840 --> 00:46:26,000
Speaker 4: I was like, I'm not a big baseball guy, but

1015
00:46:26,040 --> 00:46:28,360
Speaker 4: Mark is making me a baseball guy. And I'm like,

1016
00:46:28,360 --> 00:46:29,759
Speaker 4: I just got to go see Course Field. So we

1017
00:46:29,840 --> 00:46:31,400
Speaker 4: like went over there and checked it out. It's a

1018
00:46:31,400 --> 00:46:34,080
Speaker 4: beautiful facility and it's a great we did.

1019
00:46:34,239 --> 00:46:35,920
Speaker 3: We were there for Ryan a few years ago. We

1020
00:46:35,960 --> 00:46:37,600
Speaker 3: did the same thing for no reason. There was no game.

1021
00:46:37,640 --> 00:46:39,319
Speaker 3: I think it wasn't even baseball season. We just went

1022
00:46:39,360 --> 00:46:41,319
Speaker 3: up there and walked around that stadium because I love

1023
00:46:41,400 --> 00:46:42,960
Speaker 3: baseball stadium. Thank you.

1024
00:46:43,719 --> 00:46:45,040
Speaker 4: They're playing the Orioles that night, and I.

1025
00:46:44,960 --> 00:46:47,239
Speaker 3: Saw a lot of oils. I got there there, but

1026
00:46:47,360 --> 00:46:47,839
Speaker 3: they got beat.

1027
00:46:48,000 --> 00:46:50,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, so anyway, I thought of you.

1028
00:46:52,600 --> 00:46:53,279
Speaker 3: That's really good.

1029
00:46:54,520 --> 00:47:00,680
Speaker 2: I went on a hike on a trail like your dogs. Yes, yeah, okay,

1030
00:47:00,840 --> 00:47:02,040
Speaker 2: you know, I expected to be more.

1031
00:47:01,960 --> 00:47:04,040
Speaker 3: Insulted by these responses that you guys should be doing

1032
00:47:04,040 --> 00:47:07,040
Speaker 3: boring things and drinking water and stupid.

1033
00:47:07,040 --> 00:47:09,440
Speaker 2: I drink water with one of my meals. I literally

1034
00:47:09,520 --> 00:47:12,160
Speaker 2: never drink like I always have some sort of like

1035
00:47:12,760 --> 00:47:15,239
Speaker 2: fizzy drink with my meals, like oh my gosh, And

1036
00:47:15,280 --> 00:47:16,840
Speaker 2: I almost said I drink water.

1037
00:47:17,760 --> 00:47:23,640
Speaker 1: Like fizzy drinks make me so unwell like physically yeah,

1038
00:47:24,120 --> 00:47:27,040
Speaker 1: like not even like just soda like like sparkling water

1039
00:47:28,160 --> 00:47:32,320
Speaker 1: your stomach acid. Yeah it does. I'm with you, Bubbly drinks,

1040
00:47:32,719 --> 00:47:35,319
Speaker 1: no bueno for me, although give me an operol sprits and.

1041
00:47:38,000 --> 00:47:40,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, oh that was fun.

1042
00:47:41,880 --> 00:47:42,759
Speaker 3: That was a really fun one.

1043
00:47:42,840 --> 00:47:43,479
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's fun.

1044
00:47:43,480 --> 00:47:47,960
Speaker 7: One erin not anonymous, and thank you all of the people,

1045
00:47:48,040 --> 00:47:54,160
Speaker 7: even the anonymous, thank you for submitting your ask Banya questions.

1046
00:47:54,280 --> 00:47:55,799
Speaker 2: But we have to go.

1047
00:47:56,040 --> 00:47:57,640
Speaker 1: It is time. They time.

1048
00:47:57,880 --> 00:48:03,440
Speaker 2: However, if you have something that you need advice on

1049
00:48:04,080 --> 00:48:07,719
Speaker 2: d m us on Instagram at scrubbing in, scrubbing in

1050
00:48:07,800 --> 00:48:11,920
Speaker 2: pod or email us at scrubbing in at iHeartMedia dot com.

1051
00:48:11,960 --> 00:48:14,719
Speaker 2: Good job, Becca, thank you so much. Just a reminder

1052
00:48:14,960 --> 00:48:19,600
Speaker 2: we're here for you always. We are here, We're here,

1053
00:48:20,160 --> 00:48:23,040
Speaker 2: and uh that's all for now. So a week are.

1054
00:48:24,719 --> 00:48:33,520
Speaker 1: Here and we hear you, and we here are to go.

1055
00:48:33,640 --> 00:48:34,279
Speaker 2: Bye bye