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Speaker 1: Mother in law tries to forcefully breastfeed my child, so

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Speaker 1: I call the police.

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Speaker 2: Whoa, oh my, whoa. Okay, we can't prepared, y'all.

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Speaker 1: This is okay, special baby.

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Speaker 3: That title is quite titillating.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, it starts off even stronger. I am

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Speaker 1: a widower. I lost my wife and thirty four just

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Speaker 1: minutes after she gave birth to our first baby, Sammy.

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Speaker 3: Okay, all right, yikes, okay, it's just so bad, so quick.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, I feel bad.

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Speaker 3: She imagine how bad he feels his wife's dead. Jesus,

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Speaker 3: you know what I mean.

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Speaker 4: You are right, he's gotta feel pretty rough. Can't it

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Speaker 4: be easy?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? I dude, like I remember with my first uh,

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Speaker 1: like Gerbil died.

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Speaker 3: Like it's it was hard, man, it's hard hard.

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Speaker 2: She's looking at his little like sack with the little

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Speaker 2: shavings in it. She's just like, man, my journal's gone

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Speaker 2: right now. God.

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Speaker 1: She had a difficult pregnancy, so I took and indefinitely

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Speaker 1: three months before she was due. Now she's dead and

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Speaker 1: Sammy's four months old before I went back to work.

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Speaker 1: So I told my mother in law, Sondra fifty six,

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Speaker 1: about my plans and if she could recommended nanny to

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Speaker 1: take care of my daughter when I'm at work. She'd

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Speaker 1: offered to do it nanny for free, which sounds like

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Speaker 1: a great setup with the mother in law.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, a great deal, wonderful.

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Speaker 1: I told her she's free to come by any time

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Speaker 1: looking after if she feels I'm comfortable with and nanny

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Speaker 1: looking after Sammy. But she insisted doing it all herself

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Speaker 1: because she wants to be a good mother in lawn Stone.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I'm sure it's fine as long as she

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Speaker 3: doesn't do anything weird.

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Speaker 2: Which I mean, how could that happen?

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Speaker 3: What a wonderful end of this story. It was such

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Speaker 3: a Yeah, brother.

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Speaker 1: In law helps a widower, So I said yes and

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Speaker 1: gave her a copy of the house keys. She comes

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Speaker 1: thirty minutes before I leave for work, and when I

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Speaker 1: Sammy to sleep. This ideal scenario. Everything was fine for

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Speaker 1: the first couple of weeks until I noticed that Sammy's

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Speaker 1: not feeding as much. Her formula has barely been touched.

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Speaker 1: I asked Sandra about it and why Sammy's not feeding well,

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Speaker 1: she said, well, it's because I'm trying to breastfeed your daughter.

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Speaker 1: A first I thought she was joking, then I realized

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Speaker 1: she wasn't. She said, Sammy needs to learn to latch

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Speaker 1: a few minutes every day day to activate her milk production.

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Speaker 1: I almost lost her milk production, her milk production. The

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Speaker 1: the mother in law.

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Speaker 5: Milk production?

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Speaker 1: Does it activate your milk production? If you have a

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Speaker 1: little nipple every day.

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Speaker 5: It can? Well, there there are definitely situations where women

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Speaker 5: have like a psychosomatic response if there's a situation that

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Speaker 5: comes up that they their bodies will develop breast milk.

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Speaker 5: But like, that's so.

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Speaker 3: Weird that I think man can too on rare occasions. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: just if some some men can develop breast milk gift.

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Speaker 4: I get where she's coming from. Okay, there's a formula

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Speaker 4: shortage going on right now. She's she has a good heart.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Yeah, trying to save some money her granddaughter.

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Speaker 2: That sentence no no.

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Speaker 1: Also at fifty six, Like, isn't that like old to

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Speaker 1: be producing breast milk? Like, good on her if she

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Speaker 1: can produce brass milk in fifty six.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean, I wonder I wonder what it has

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Speaker 5: to do with like menopause and hormone production and how

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Speaker 5: all that plays into it.

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Speaker 3: She's definitely strange considering there's a perfectly fine alternative.

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Speaker 2: In formula correct.

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Speaker 3: If there wasn't an alternative, it made me be a

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Speaker 3: little bit less.

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Speaker 1: She's like, no, I need your baby to starve while

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Speaker 1: I figure out if she can make me lactate.

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Speaker 3: Uh.

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Speaker 1: At first, I thought she was joking. Then I realized

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Speaker 1: almost lost it. I told her she cannot do that

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Speaker 1: and she needs to stop right now. She said she will.

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Speaker 1: But then a couple of days later, I caught her

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Speaker 1: in my idea and she and I saw her forcing

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Speaker 1: Sammy to watch. I also love. It's like the double

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Speaker 1: whammy of like seeing your mother in law's tits and.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, there's a lot going on here.

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Speaker 3: It is sort of like, you know, getting to see

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Speaker 3: what your wife maybe would have looked like.

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Speaker 5: You know, she was trying to make that joke, was

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Speaker 5: trying to formulate that joke.

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Speaker 3: I see beauty and you, Diane, I really and this

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Speaker 3: has got to stop.

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Speaker 1: Then, So I don't know. I was thinking you were

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Speaker 1: gonna say like it's like and then the music show Wow, wow,

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Speaker 1: go to another room, eat some hummus.

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Speaker 2: What about what's the diet version of hummus?

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Speaker 1: Uh?

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Speaker 3: Baby?

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Speaker 1: Uh so yeah, caught her again, I can front and

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Speaker 1: told her she's no longer my baby's nanny. I didn't

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Speaker 1: ask for the keyback, as she is still welcome to

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Speaker 1: come and visit any time, which is pretty fair.

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Speaker 2: What do y'all think.

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Speaker 4: That's pretty reasonable of him?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't think that I would have allowed her

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Speaker 5: to be around anymore.

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Speaker 3: I mean it kind of sounds like she's still just

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Speaker 3: gonna be the nanny.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, if she's allowed to come over whenever.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm assuming it's more of like you can come over,

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Speaker 4: But I also have to be any kind of deal

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Speaker 4: then if I.

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Speaker 5: Give her the key or like a nanny being there

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Speaker 5: to supervise, Yeah.

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Speaker 4: It's gonna cast him an arm and a leg to

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Speaker 4: find another wetners though. If I'm being.

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Speaker 2: In this economy, let's talk to yas.

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Speaker 1: Formula, I asked for one week of leave from work

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Speaker 1: to care for my daughter and finding nanny. I found one,

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Speaker 1: but two days later she never returned. I called her

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Speaker 1: and she said, my mother fired her the day before.

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Speaker 1: I asked her to describe the woman, and I was

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Speaker 1: livid when I realized it was Sondra. She came and

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Speaker 1: just imagining maybe the nanny's now breastfeeding the kid.

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Speaker 2: You're doing it all wrong, sucking on every teeth this

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Speaker 2: way to Missouri.

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Speaker 1: I was about to call her when she showed up

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Speaker 1: and said I showed up and said a convoluted story

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Speaker 1: about how I, how I hired an incompetent nanny, etcetera, etcetera.

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Speaker 1: I told her to leave, but she refused and told

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Speaker 1: me that she's calling Child Protective Services because I am

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Speaker 1: endangering my child. My milk or no milk.

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Speaker 5: I would love to hear that phone call the audacity.

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Speaker 2: He won't let me breastfeed the baby. Are you the mother?

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Speaker 6: Well, she's dead. I killed her. It was an elaborate ruse.

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Speaker 6: I wanted to have another kid. Did we just go

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Speaker 6: to true crime podcast?

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Speaker 3: I think so.

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Speaker 2: We just made the crossover.

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Speaker 1: And we've always wanted to make that crossover. I told

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Speaker 1: her to leave that she refused. We argue back and

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Speaker 1: charged with trespassing. Okay, I know my mother in law

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Speaker 1: is grieving the loss of her daughter. I am too,

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Speaker 1: but she crossed the line when she disregarded my wishes.

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Speaker 1: She's very upset with me. My sister in law and

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Speaker 1: brother in law are calling me ruthless, and I'm now

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Speaker 1: second guessing myself. Have I taken it too far by

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Speaker 1: calling the police? Am I the a hole?

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Speaker 5: No? No, that you didn't take it too far and

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Speaker 5: absolutely insane?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so nuts.

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Speaker 4: Brother and sister definitely don't know the full story. No, Ei,

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Speaker 4: They're like, you're an asshole for not letting our mom

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Speaker 4: breast feed your child.

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Speaker 3: Excuse me, that's fifty percent, you know, of the same

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Speaker 3: breast milk, right, like genetically genetically that's like one generation. Now,

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Speaker 3: that's fifty percent. Like that's the mom's breast milk. Halfway,

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Speaker 3: you should let my mom feed your daughter.

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Speaker 2: Women unrelated, But I think I think the mathane mathing.

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Speaker 1: I think what what could happen is if it was

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Speaker 1: like half formula half breast milk. I think that's the

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Speaker 1: compromise we make here.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that makes sense that one's passable.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I just don't.

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Speaker 5: It's the whole thing is so uncomfortable.

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Speaker 4: It's because of the ratio. Do you think fifty fifties

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Speaker 4: multo much? Still? No, okay, the whole situation.

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Speaker 5: Is not cool.

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Speaker 3: Maybe jorin like a breast milk co op, you know

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Speaker 3: what I mean.

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Speaker 5: That's the thing like you can put out.

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Speaker 3: There trying to make a joke.

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Speaker 4: No, you can.

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Speaker 5: Absolutely, there's there's definitely markets for like breast milk donation

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Speaker 5: or you can buy breast milk.

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Speaker 4: Hospitals will have like a breast milk bank.

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Speaker 3: Is it called breast milk? No for us? Oh well

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Speaker 3: maybe it should be. You know what you judging the

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Speaker 3: venture on the horizon.

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Speaker 5: Move thank you?

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's a wild one. That's a wild one.

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Speaker 1: So no to being the a hole.