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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is to realize that few things go perfectly

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<v Speaker 1>the first time. Unless in experience is absolutely miserable, it

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't hurt to try again. We all love stories that

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<v Speaker 1>hinge on a moment when everything changes. A kid picks

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<v Speaker 1>up a basketball and its love at first sight. A

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<v Speaker 1>novel idea comes to a writer in a moment of inspiration.

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<v Speaker 1>Such epiphanies make for good storytelling, but real life seldom

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<v Speaker 1>works that way. I know this has been the case

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<v Speaker 1>for me. I was on another podcast recently and the

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<v Speaker 1>host asked when I knew I wanted to write about

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<v Speaker 1>time management. The answer, honestly was several years after I'd

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<v Speaker 1>written my first book on the topic. I've been trying

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<v Speaker 1>to get a book deal for a while, casting around

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<v Speaker 1>through a variety of topics, and finally landed a contract

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<v Speaker 1>to write a book called A hundred sixty eight Hours

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<v Speaker 1>that came out in May of two thousand. It got

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<v Speaker 1>some nice publicity, which was great, but it didn't sell

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<v Speaker 1>all that swiftly. So when I wanted to write another book,

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<v Speaker 1>my publisher and I came to the idea of writing

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<v Speaker 1>about personal finance. So I wrote a book called All

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<v Speaker 1>the Money in the World, which came out in early

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<v Speaker 1>two thousand twelve. That didn't do all that well either.

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<v Speaker 1>But while I was waiting for that one to come out,

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<v Speaker 1>I wrote a short e book on productive mornings called

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<v Speaker 1>What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast. That one

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<v Speaker 1>did much better and nudged me to start declaring myself

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<v Speaker 1>a time management expert. In retrospect, it seems obvious, but

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<v Speaker 1>at the time not so much. I just had to

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<v Speaker 1>keep trying things, figuring eventually something would stick. There are

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<v Speaker 1>all kinds of things that might be worth trying again.

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<v Speaker 1>The general and census from nutritionists is that kids may

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<v Speaker 1>need to be exposed to new foods a dozen times

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<v Speaker 1>or more before they'll actually eat them. I love running,

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<v Speaker 1>but I tried to become a runner multiple times before

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<v Speaker 1>it finally took. It's a well known psychological phenomenon that

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<v Speaker 1>people are prone to fixate on the negative. If three

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<v Speaker 1>things go wrong and three things go right, we tend

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<v Speaker 1>to focus on the ones that went wrong. But maybe

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<v Speaker 1>the next time two things will go wrong and four

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<v Speaker 1>things will go right. The first experience wasn't bad. It's

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<v Speaker 1>just that parts were bad, and those were the parts

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<v Speaker 1>we remember. Plus, there are many reasons that things might

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<v Speaker 1>not go perfectly the first time, but that you can't

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<v Speaker 1>see because well, you don't have much experience to understand

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<v Speaker 1>why they're happening. This has been the case with me

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<v Speaker 1>and i KEA style furniture building. The fact that your

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<v Speaker 1>first shelf building experience felt long and painful does not

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<v Speaker 1>mean the second will be. It will probably be much

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<v Speaker 1>better as you figure out how not to misplace screws

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<v Speaker 1>and such. And sometimes the explanation you assigned for something

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<v Speaker 1>not working well isn't actually the right explanation. I have

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<v Speaker 1>definitely lost emails. When a person follows up, I remember that,

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yes, I actually did want to do that thing.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm glad they bothered to try again. Of course, there's

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<v Speaker 1>no reason to keep trying things forever. Time is finite,

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<v Speaker 1>energy is finite, And if the answer is a definite no,

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<v Speaker 1>well more trying is just annoying for everybody. But if

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<v Speaker 1>it's not a definite no, being open to possibility can

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<v Speaker 1>lead to good things. My first date with my husband

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<v Speaker 1>did not go well enough to suggest that we'd be

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<v Speaker 1>married within eighteen months, but the second date did good.

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<v Speaker 1>We tried again today. I think if there's some thing

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<v Speaker 1>you've tried in the past that you've just written off,

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<v Speaker 1>is it worth revisiting. Why did you tell yourself that

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<v Speaker 1>it didn't work? Are there alternative explanations if you try

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<v Speaker 1>it again? What could you do to maybe generate a

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<v Speaker 1>different outcome? If it doesn't work, it doesn't work, but

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<v Speaker 1>it might not hurt to try. In the meantime. This

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<v Speaker 1>is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making the

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<v Speaker 1>most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to hear

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