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Speaker 2: Buenos tardes, I mean buenos I don't even know what

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Speaker 1: I'm so sick of my bell correcting me in my

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Speaker 2: I mean, like, she corrects everything I say, but she's

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Speaker 2: not correcting me to speak proper Spanish. She speaks slang

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Speaker 2: trying to learn Spanish for Spain and true. And I

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Speaker 2: But she is riding me like a wave. Oh my gosh,

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Speaker 2: we will get off my jock. I'm like, do you

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Speaker 2: want me to learn Spanish? Or don't you if you keep.

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Speaker 1: Putting up these barriers? Uh?

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Speaker 2: And she just loves it, though, But I gotta give

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Speaker 2: her to it, Well, yeah, I said I wanted to

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Speaker 1: You could let me slide a little bit with my grammar.

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Speaker 2: But you know what I love. I'm such a grammarian.

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Speaker 2: I care so much about grammar that I really want.

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Speaker 2: I want to speak proper Spanish anyway, It's just it's

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Speaker 1: Yea, what have I learned this week? I learned about

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Speaker 1: Cuba and sugar.

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Speaker 2: Oh, tell me about well, you know, after this, I

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Speaker 2: learned all about Spain.

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Speaker 3: Oh.

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Speaker 2: I have to promote a show April twenty. It's Spokane.

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Speaker 2: That's the second show we added in Spokane. It's not

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Speaker 2: quite sold out, so please buy your tickets, you motherfuckers.

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Speaker 2: And what other shows do I need to promote? Well,

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Speaker 2: they're all really almost sold out. Red Rocks Amphitheater. That

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Speaker 2: one's not sold out yet. Red Rocks Amphitheater. That's a

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Speaker 2: big one, that's like.

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Speaker 1: Ten thousand people.

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Speaker 2: I can't so yeah, go to Chelsea Heler dot com.

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Speaker 2: There are some tickets for some other shows. But yeah,

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Speaker 2: and I'm going to add a whole bunch of new

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Speaker 2: dates I think.

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Speaker 1: Sometime this month.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, fantastic.

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Speaker 1: It's so hard to figure out where I am.

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Speaker 2: I thought I was in Cuba, So I learned all

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Speaker 2: about the Spanish conquering Cuba and then the English conquering Cuba,

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Speaker 2: and then they had a treaty and they gave Cuba

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Speaker 2: they kept the Lower Mississippi some areas around there, and

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Speaker 2: then they discovered sugar during the Atlantic slave trade, which

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Speaker 2: was started by the English.

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Speaker 1: I'd like to say that, make sure.

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Speaker 2: We keep that mentioned so that people fucking understand history,

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Speaker 2: because I am so confused about so many things. I

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Speaker 2: was like, well, didn't we all come from Egypt to

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Speaker 1: Then we all came from Africa. Everybody came from Africa. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: So anyway, the sugar.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so Cuba was the center of sugar for a

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Speaker 2: long time. Slaves were responsible for all of the prosperity

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Speaker 2: taking all of the sugar cane, hacking it, cutting it,

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Speaker 1: And so that's when the Atlantic slave.

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Speaker 2: Trade peaked, was during the sugar I want to say rush,

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Speaker 4: I like calling it a sugar rush.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, sugar rush.

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Speaker 4: That's a different gun.

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Speaker 1: That's a difference. That's something too. So yeah, there's that.

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Speaker 2: And then I'm learning about Neanderthals and Denisovans and Anatolia

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Speaker 4: To read what you're reading, because like, as a kid

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Speaker 2: I also believed that we were Everything was connected, even

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Speaker 4: They were just like they were volcanic.

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Speaker 1: Yes, yes, so they have their own thing going.

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Speaker 2: So that's interesting too that that would naturally happen, that

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Speaker 4: You know, I mean, I guess I got such bad

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it is wild.

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Speaker 2: And you know, you know you read something and you retain.

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Speaker 2: I'd be interested in my level of retainment. I want

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Speaker 4: I think we're trying to send you back to college.

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Speaker 2: I wouldn't some sort of curriculum quite frankly, Okay, what

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Speaker 1: What's happening to me?

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Speaker 4: Well, Chelsea, I had had my.

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Speaker 1: Ski buddy on today, but I won't tell you that

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Speaker 4: That's very exciting. So, Chelsea, I had an email come

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Speaker 4: I think I was meant to hear this podcast today

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Speaker 4: as my therapy session this week was focused on my

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Speaker 4: and I'm thankful you communicated to prioritize safety of family

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Speaker 4: on the impact these quote unquote micro traumas can have

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Speaker 2: I like how she said micro trauma because I learned

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Speaker 2: But I want to underline the intuition part because more

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Speaker 1: Not measurable thing.

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Speaker 2: We all have intuition. We all have a feeling in

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Speaker 4: The body is communicating with you.

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Speaker 1: It's called Rise.

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Speaker 1: There she is, Miss America.

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Speaker 1: And they're like, well, do you really want.

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Speaker 1: What are you doing in Orlando?

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Speaker 2: I believe it. You're a champion. We were just watching

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Speaker 1: The streef, the streef in cloth kids, fool kids, puel kits.

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Speaker 5: Fuel Yes, kids fuel the strife. Yes, good job guys.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and this video is of you skiing the world's

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Speaker 3: It's a hard one.

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Speaker 5: Honestly, I've not run into one American that has gotten

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Speaker 2: Yeah, powder skiing is really fucking fun. And you know

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it's like leaning back. It's the exact opposite that

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Speaker 2: I like watching what you've been doing in the last

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Speaker 2: your foundation, and all of the business opera tunities that

442
00:20:00,680 --> 00:20:03,399
Speaker 2: you have cultivated for yourself is a great model I

443
00:20:03,480 --> 00:20:05,600
Speaker 2: think for a lot of younger athletes who are probably

444
00:20:05,640 --> 00:20:08,960
Speaker 2: looking going, oh, she made this like so seamless, you know.

445
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Speaker 5: Well, it's definitely wasn't seamless. I mean, I can't tell

446
00:20:12,160 --> 00:20:14,639
Speaker 5: you how hard it was. You know, as a ski racer,

447
00:20:14,720 --> 00:20:17,080
Speaker 5: we don't we don't make money. There's no money in

448
00:20:17,240 --> 00:20:20,280
Speaker 5: ski racing. So I had to really work hard to

449
00:20:20,800 --> 00:20:23,720
Speaker 5: make a business for myself. And my dad always made

450
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Speaker 5: me aware when I was younger that if I wanted

451
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Speaker 5: to be successful, I had to be more than an athlete,

452
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Speaker 5: and so I always took that approach. I always want

453
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Speaker 5: the extra mile. I always did all the interviews, you know,

454
00:20:35,440 --> 00:20:39,399
Speaker 5: I was really careful with my sponsorships, what partnerships I chose,

455
00:20:39,480 --> 00:20:42,440
Speaker 5: always thinking long term. And I was actually made fun of.

456
00:20:42,800 --> 00:20:44,199
Speaker 5: You know, a lot of people were like, why are

457
00:20:44,240 --> 00:20:46,400
Speaker 5: you spending so much time with this, You know, you're

458
00:20:46,480 --> 00:20:48,800
Speaker 5: distracted from your racing, And I said, no, I can

459
00:20:48,880 --> 00:20:51,359
Speaker 5: do both. I can win races, I can have my

460
00:20:51,480 --> 00:20:55,040
Speaker 5: own business. I can be successful on multiple levels at

461
00:20:55,040 --> 00:20:58,400
Speaker 5: the same time. And I think, you know, just believing

462
00:20:58,440 --> 00:21:01,639
Speaker 5: in myself and not listening to anyone else was was

463
00:21:01,760 --> 00:21:04,040
Speaker 5: the best thing that I could do, because I wouldn't

464
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Speaker 5: be anywhere if I'd listened to every single person that

465
00:21:06,720 --> 00:21:09,440
Speaker 5: said I wouldn't do anything, or couldn't be anything, or

466
00:21:09,840 --> 00:21:12,760
Speaker 5: you know, couldn't multitask. Women are great multitaskers.

467
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Speaker 2: I think, you know, fucking tell me about it. I mean, honestly, like,

468
00:21:16,840 --> 00:21:19,200
Speaker 2: women are so much better. When I was at the

469
00:21:19,280 --> 00:21:22,000
Speaker 2: doctors this morning, and I would ask him one question

470
00:21:22,160 --> 00:21:24,840
Speaker 2: and then he just stopped everything he was doing to

471
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Speaker 2: answer the question. And I looked at him and I

472
00:21:27,560 --> 00:21:30,960
Speaker 2: wanted to say, keep keep keep going, like don't we

473
00:21:31,080 --> 00:21:34,520
Speaker 2: don't have to do separate things, like you can work

474
00:21:34,640 --> 00:21:35,720
Speaker 2: and talk, can't.

475
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Speaker 1: You after like get it together?

476
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Speaker 2: I mean, women are just like you know, you're eating

477
00:21:42,040 --> 00:21:44,760
Speaker 2: a hard boiled egg, feeding your dog, getting on a plane, like,

478
00:21:45,040 --> 00:21:47,440
Speaker 2: we're doing a million things at once. And it's so

479
00:21:47,600 --> 00:21:50,359
Speaker 2: crazy to me that they cannot talk and think at.

480
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Speaker 1: The same time.

481
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Speaker 5: They can't even fathom what we do. It's pretty n no.

482
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Speaker 1: I know your mom was a big influence on you.

483
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Speaker 2: I know you posted something today about her and her

484
00:22:00,320 --> 00:22:03,320
Speaker 2: determination and how she inspired you and showed you what

485
00:22:03,480 --> 00:22:04,680
Speaker 2: determination looked like.

486
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Speaker 1: So talk to me a little bit about that.

487
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Speaker 5: I mean, I think my mom impacted me in more

488
00:22:09,560 --> 00:22:12,879
Speaker 5: ways than I even really truly understand now, and I

489
00:22:13,040 --> 00:22:16,240
Speaker 5: think now that she's passed away, it's been a few months,

490
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Speaker 5: and you know, I still always reflect on what she

491
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Speaker 5: showed me. My mom had a stroke when she gave

492
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Speaker 5: birth to me, and she wasn't able to do physically

493
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Speaker 5: the things with me that I would have loved to

494
00:22:27,720 --> 00:22:30,800
Speaker 5: do with her, like ski She couldn't ride a bike.

495
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Speaker 5: The only thing she really could do what she loved

496
00:22:32,920 --> 00:22:36,240
Speaker 5: was swimming, which I'm ironically horrible at I think like

497
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Speaker 5: a rock. But you know, my mom always tried and

498
00:22:40,160 --> 00:22:42,960
Speaker 5: she failed, but she always tried. She would try to

499
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Speaker 5: ride a bike and I would watch your fall over

500
00:22:45,080 --> 00:22:48,040
Speaker 5: and over and over again. But she always got back up,

501
00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:50,879
Speaker 5: and she always tried, and she always had a smile,

502
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Speaker 5: and she always was positive. And even when you know,

503
00:22:54,640 --> 00:22:57,560
Speaker 5: she was in her hospital bed and she couldn't move

504
00:22:57,640 --> 00:23:00,880
Speaker 5: her arms or legs, she was positive and she said,

505
00:23:01,040 --> 00:23:04,000
Speaker 5: you know, today is another great day. And it got

506
00:23:04,040 --> 00:23:07,720
Speaker 5: harder and harder, but she never lost that perspective. And

507
00:23:08,680 --> 00:23:11,359
Speaker 5: I felt like when I was injured, I was lucky

508
00:23:11,440 --> 00:23:14,119
Speaker 5: to have the opportunity to try again. You know, my

509
00:23:14,240 --> 00:23:16,760
Speaker 5: mom didn't have that opportunity because of her stroke. So

510
00:23:17,320 --> 00:23:19,920
Speaker 5: I think throughout my career it's always given me a

511
00:23:20,080 --> 00:23:23,960
Speaker 5: different sense of gratefulness that I think, you know, sometimes

512
00:23:24,000 --> 00:23:27,120
Speaker 5: we lose sight of. I'm lucky to follow my passion

513
00:23:27,160 --> 00:23:30,320
Speaker 5: every single day. I'm lucky that I'm walking and I'm

514
00:23:30,560 --> 00:23:32,320
Speaker 5: you know, while I hate running, I could run if

515
00:23:32,359 --> 00:23:35,440
Speaker 5: I wanted to. It could always be worse, and you know,

516
00:23:35,520 --> 00:23:37,280
Speaker 5: we just have to be positive. And that's always what

517
00:23:37,359 --> 00:23:40,840
Speaker 5: my mom taught me. And I'm very grateful for her influence.

518
00:23:40,960 --> 00:23:43,800
Speaker 5: And again, well I didn't really fully understand it when

519
00:23:43,840 --> 00:23:46,560
Speaker 5: I was growing up. I certainly understood it now, and

520
00:23:46,640 --> 00:23:49,239
Speaker 5: I wish i'd had a little more time with her

521
00:23:49,400 --> 00:23:51,359
Speaker 5: to be able to share more things with her.

522
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Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think you continue to understand it the

523
00:23:54,320 --> 00:23:56,640
Speaker 2: longer we're without our moms. You know, when my mom

524
00:23:56,720 --> 00:23:59,959
Speaker 2: passed away, I certainly was too young to even understand

525
00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:02,719
Speaker 2: on the impact. I remember be talking in this interview

526
00:24:02,800 --> 00:24:05,639
Speaker 2: about somebody asking me why I'm so strong, And I

527
00:24:05,760 --> 00:24:08,080
Speaker 2: remember talking because I saw the way my mother and

528
00:24:08,200 --> 00:24:11,000
Speaker 2: my dad's dynamic was and I didn't like that. And

529
00:24:11,119 --> 00:24:14,159
Speaker 2: that is just so diminishing to my mother, because my

530
00:24:14,240 --> 00:24:16,880
Speaker 2: mother sacrificed so much, you know, to be our mother

531
00:24:17,320 --> 00:24:19,520
Speaker 2: to not you know, she didn't get to live and

532
00:24:19,640 --> 00:24:22,239
Speaker 2: pursue her dreams the way that I'm able to live

533
00:24:22,320 --> 00:24:23,320
Speaker 2: and pursue my dreams.

534
00:24:23,560 --> 00:24:24,800
Speaker 1: The reason I'm able to do that.

535
00:24:24,920 --> 00:24:27,320
Speaker 2: Is because of my mother. And so I remember I

536
00:24:27,400 --> 00:24:29,720
Speaker 2: was reading this book recently. It's called The Seven Deadly Sins.

537
00:24:29,760 --> 00:24:32,119
Speaker 2: We're having this author on She's awesome, and it just

538
00:24:32,200 --> 00:24:34,800
Speaker 2: talks about how we don't give our mothers enough credit

539
00:24:34,880 --> 00:24:37,320
Speaker 2: for even just the time that they grew up and

540
00:24:37,560 --> 00:24:39,760
Speaker 2: the time that they raised us in It was so

541
00:24:39,920 --> 00:24:43,560
Speaker 2: prohibitive for them. Yet here are people that are able

542
00:24:43,640 --> 00:24:45,960
Speaker 2: to like live out their dreams and go after what

543
00:24:46,080 --> 00:24:49,320
Speaker 2: they want because our mothers were available to give us

544
00:24:49,359 --> 00:24:51,800
Speaker 2: the allowance and the freedom to do that, and if

545
00:24:51,800 --> 00:24:54,080
Speaker 2: they hadn't sacrificed what they had. And I don't think

546
00:24:54,400 --> 00:24:56,879
Speaker 2: that's even just beginning to sink in for me. But

547
00:24:57,000 --> 00:24:59,159
Speaker 2: I do feel like we talk a lot about, you know,

548
00:24:59,240 --> 00:25:01,159
Speaker 2: people who have passed on on the show, and you know,

549
00:25:01,800 --> 00:25:04,520
Speaker 2: I'm not sure how spirritual you are, but I know

550
00:25:04,640 --> 00:25:08,880
Speaker 2: that you're open minded. And I feel like my relationship

551
00:25:08,960 --> 00:25:11,560
Speaker 2: with my mother since she died is stronger than it

552
00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:15,000
Speaker 2: was when we were together on this earth. And there

553
00:25:15,160 --> 00:25:18,320
Speaker 2: are so many moments where I just feel her presence

554
00:25:18,480 --> 00:25:21,879
Speaker 2: so much guiding me and steering me, like in this

555
00:25:22,119 --> 00:25:26,440
Speaker 2: very sagacious, worldly way, which she was not like when

556
00:25:26,480 --> 00:25:28,680
Speaker 2: I was growing up. But that's exactly who she was,

557
00:25:28,720 --> 00:25:31,320
Speaker 2: according to my brothers and sisters. I just never had

558
00:25:31,920 --> 00:25:34,160
Speaker 2: the patience or the time to find that out about

559
00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:35,960
Speaker 2: my mother, you know, because by the time she had.

560
00:25:35,920 --> 00:25:36,560
Speaker 1: Me, she was older.

561
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Speaker 2: So I have to say, like, the idea that relationships

562
00:25:39,880 --> 00:25:42,600
Speaker 2: can even strengthen beyond them being here on earth, I

563
00:25:42,760 --> 00:25:45,520
Speaker 2: totally believe to be true. And I hope you feel

564
00:25:45,560 --> 00:25:48,640
Speaker 2: that too, and are open to those signs and signals

565
00:25:48,720 --> 00:25:51,240
Speaker 2: and like, you know, the stillness sometimes when you feel

566
00:25:51,480 --> 00:25:54,440
Speaker 2: another person's presence is really just so powerful.

567
00:25:54,960 --> 00:25:55,160
Speaker 4: Yeah.

568
00:25:55,320 --> 00:25:57,639
Speaker 5: And my mom actually lost her mom when she was

569
00:25:58,200 --> 00:26:00,960
Speaker 5: young as well, and when she was in the hospital,

570
00:26:01,160 --> 00:26:04,040
Speaker 5: she said, I want you after I'm gone, to talk

571
00:26:04,119 --> 00:26:06,879
Speaker 5: to me as if I'm there, and I will be

572
00:26:07,000 --> 00:26:09,080
Speaker 5: there and I will listen, just like my mom was

573
00:26:09,119 --> 00:26:12,120
Speaker 5: there listening to me. And it gave me a lot

574
00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:15,560
Speaker 5: of comfort. And you know, I when I ever I

575
00:26:15,680 --> 00:26:18,639
Speaker 5: want to call her, I just I just talked to her.

576
00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:19,280
Speaker 5: She's there.

577
00:26:19,800 --> 00:26:23,040
Speaker 1: Oh, yeah, she is. Yeah, it's so sweet. I believe

578
00:26:23,119 --> 00:26:24,200
Speaker 1: that our moms are there.

579
00:26:24,359 --> 00:26:27,560
Speaker 2: Hopefully they're hanging out and your mom isching my mom something,

580
00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:29,000
Speaker 2: you know, hopefully.

581
00:26:28,960 --> 00:26:31,840
Speaker 1: Listening to the podcast right now. Blah blah, crying.

582
00:26:32,880 --> 00:26:36,720
Speaker 2: Okay, anyway, thank you for sharing, Thank you for being candid.

583
00:26:37,000 --> 00:26:38,399
Speaker 2: I feel like we just had this moment.

584
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Speaker 1: We did.

585
00:26:39,440 --> 00:26:39,880
Speaker 5: We were.

586
00:26:41,720 --> 00:26:42,840
Speaker 1: Last time we saw each other.

587
00:26:42,920 --> 00:26:45,240
Speaker 2: We were on the Kelly Clarkson Show or no, was

588
00:26:45,240 --> 00:26:49,040
Speaker 2: it Kelly class was Kelly Clark with Wolfgang Fuck And

589
00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:52,720
Speaker 2: we were talking about her book and she started crying,

590
00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:54,879
Speaker 2: and then of course I started crying because it's contagious

591
00:26:55,280 --> 00:26:57,040
Speaker 2: and so now we're just crying whenever we see each other.

592
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Speaker 1: Okay, So, anyway, we're going to take some callers.

593
00:27:00,000 --> 00:27:01,760
Speaker 2: We're gonna call in and we're gonna give them some advice,

594
00:27:01,800 --> 00:27:04,840
Speaker 2: and we've curated this episode to suit things that you would.

595
00:27:04,640 --> 00:27:05,920
Speaker 1: Have experience with.

596
00:27:06,560 --> 00:27:09,040
Speaker 4: Yes, okay, and we'll take a break and grab some

597
00:27:09,160 --> 00:27:11,120
Speaker 4: cleanex and be right back.

598
00:27:15,480 --> 00:27:16,120
Speaker 2: And we're back.

599
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Speaker 1: We'refrect Are we ready to continue?

600
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Speaker 3: We're doing okay?

601
00:27:19,640 --> 00:27:21,400
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, okay, i'd be great.

602
00:27:22,119 --> 00:27:26,680
Speaker 4: Well, our first question comes from Rachel in Denver, and

603
00:27:26,840 --> 00:27:30,480
Speaker 4: she obviously, somehow a month before we talked about getting

604
00:27:30,520 --> 00:27:32,080
Speaker 4: you on the show, knew that you were going to

605
00:27:32,119 --> 00:27:32,359
Speaker 4: come on.

606
00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:33,680
Speaker 1: She manifested it.

607
00:27:34,200 --> 00:27:36,600
Speaker 4: And so she says thank you in advance for reading

608
00:27:36,680 --> 00:27:39,240
Speaker 4: my letter. I'm hoping Lindsay Vaughn makes an appearance on

609
00:27:39,280 --> 00:27:41,840
Speaker 4: the podcast, so this question is written to both Chelsea

610
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Speaker 4: and Lindsay. Dear Chelsea and Lindsay. I'm a thirty three

611
00:27:45,359 --> 00:27:47,600
Speaker 4: year old single female living in the Denver area of

612
00:27:47,640 --> 00:27:51,040
Speaker 4: Colorado with my dog Hide. My main hobbies are mountain

613
00:27:51,080 --> 00:27:53,960
Speaker 4: biking and skiing, but I love staying active in general.

614
00:27:54,600 --> 00:27:57,359
Speaker 4: A year ago, I ended a toxic long term relationship.

615
00:27:57,680 --> 00:27:59,600
Speaker 4: Even though it was a crazy past year, I was

616
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Speaker 4: actually able to achieve one of my life goals, which

617
00:28:02,119 --> 00:28:04,399
Speaker 4: was buying a second house and turning both of my

618
00:28:04,480 --> 00:28:08,320
Speaker 4: houses into airbnbs. It's been incredible to make the leap

619
00:28:08,400 --> 00:28:11,240
Speaker 4: and finally do what I've been dreaming of. Owning and

620
00:28:11,320 --> 00:28:14,400
Speaker 4: running these two businesses while still having my full time job.

621
00:28:14,600 --> 00:28:17,160
Speaker 4: Has allowed me to start saving for my second life goal,

622
00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:19,879
Speaker 4: which is to take a mini retirement before I'm forty

623
00:28:20,200 --> 00:28:22,920
Speaker 4: so I can travel the world mountain biking and skiing.

624
00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:24,800
Speaker 4: This leads me right.

625
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Speaker 1: I love that.

626
00:28:26,280 --> 00:28:28,800
Speaker 4: This leads me to my first question, which is what

627
00:28:28,920 --> 00:28:32,080
Speaker 4: are your tips for being a single, solo female traveler.

628
00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:34,280
Speaker 4: I want to be able to make new friends and

629
00:28:34,400 --> 00:28:37,720
Speaker 4: ski and mountain bike wherever I travel to. In particular,

630
00:28:37,880 --> 00:28:39,840
Speaker 4: how can I make friends with guys who like these

631
00:28:39,880 --> 00:28:43,240
Speaker 4: activities without looking like I'm interested in them. My second

632
00:28:43,320 --> 00:28:45,880
Speaker 4: question is do you have any recommendations on a good

633
00:28:45,960 --> 00:28:49,120
Speaker 4: ski jacket and bib Combo. I've had my same ski

634
00:28:49,200 --> 00:28:51,720
Speaker 4: outfit since college and it's starting to fall apart. I

635
00:28:51,800 --> 00:28:54,280
Speaker 4: took Chelsea's advice and got some heated gloves this season.

636
00:28:54,560 --> 00:28:57,360
Speaker 4: They've been life changing, so I'm curious what ski apparel

637
00:28:57,440 --> 00:29:00,040
Speaker 4: brands you like best. I want to look good a

638
00:29:00,200 --> 00:29:01,360
Speaker 4: really warm while out there.

639
00:29:01,600 --> 00:29:01,920
Speaker 3: Rachel.

640
00:29:02,040 --> 00:29:05,120
Speaker 2: Okay, well, let me answer the last part first, because

641
00:29:05,480 --> 00:29:08,480
Speaker 2: Lindsay sent me her fucking suit which is called core

642
00:29:08,800 --> 00:29:11,680
Speaker 2: right by it it's by Head, but Lindsay designed it.

643
00:29:12,120 --> 00:29:14,560
Speaker 2: This is the best ski suit I have ever had.

644
00:29:14,640 --> 00:29:17,320
Speaker 2: It's two pieces, but it has it's Is it gore

645
00:29:17,400 --> 00:29:20,200
Speaker 2: tex or is it something stronger than gortex, because I.

646
00:29:20,240 --> 00:29:22,600
Speaker 5: Think I think it's something similar but stronger.

647
00:29:22,720 --> 00:29:24,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, because I have gortex suits and they're not like this,

648
00:29:25,040 --> 00:29:27,560
Speaker 2: and I love Arctarics, that's what I usually wear. This

649
00:29:27,720 --> 00:29:30,240
Speaker 2: is better than Arctarics. This not only keeps the cold

650
00:29:30,360 --> 00:29:32,720
Speaker 2: the wet out, it keeps the wind out. It's somehow

651
00:29:32,800 --> 00:29:37,280
Speaker 2: fucking windproof this suit. And Whistler has very strange weather patterns,

652
00:29:37,320 --> 00:29:39,720
Speaker 2: so there's a lot of really like Arctic blasts, and

653
00:29:39,760 --> 00:29:40,600
Speaker 2: it gets really cold.

654
00:29:40,800 --> 00:29:42,760
Speaker 1: Most people don't like to ski in that. I love that,

655
00:29:43,280 --> 00:29:44,400
Speaker 1: but this keeps me warm.

656
00:29:44,480 --> 00:29:47,400
Speaker 2: And this scuit, I mean this suit, Lindsay. Everyone stopped me.

657
00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:49,239
Speaker 2: I've never worn a suit so many days in a row,

658
00:29:49,480 --> 00:29:50,400
Speaker 2: and then I wore this suit.

659
00:29:50,640 --> 00:29:52,760
Speaker 5: I know, I actually noticed that I'm like, Wow, she

660
00:29:52,840 --> 00:29:55,120
Speaker 5: doesn't stop worrying it. She must like it because you

661
00:29:55,280 --> 00:29:58,360
Speaker 5: normally change like every single day, which I do too,

662
00:29:58,600 --> 00:30:01,840
Speaker 5: so I get it. But I appreciate the support. That

663
00:30:02,000 --> 00:30:04,680
Speaker 5: was like a great that was a great ad life.

664
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Speaker 1: It's just the best suit. And I'm not full of shit.

665
00:30:07,080 --> 00:30:09,440
Speaker 5: I love it so much, like I you literally wouldn't

666
00:30:09,440 --> 00:30:10,440
Speaker 5: wear it if you didn't like it.

667
00:30:10,560 --> 00:30:13,000
Speaker 1: I know that, Yes, you do know that.

668
00:30:13,200 --> 00:30:15,400
Speaker 2: And I'll just all the details, even around the knees,

669
00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:19,000
Speaker 2: like that little roushing and then like the bottom couffs, everything,

670
00:30:19,080 --> 00:30:19,640
Speaker 2: the pockets.

671
00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:21,360
Speaker 1: Everything is perfect on this jacket.

672
00:30:21,600 --> 00:30:24,280
Speaker 2: And when you ski, like you know, if you're protecting

673
00:30:24,600 --> 00:30:26,560
Speaker 2: the back of your helmet, which I learned like how

674
00:30:26,640 --> 00:30:28,160
Speaker 2: to keep you know, you always want to trap heat

675
00:30:28,160 --> 00:30:30,920
Speaker 2: when it's really cold. This suit is just like it's

676
00:30:30,920 --> 00:30:33,600
Speaker 2: almost like a NASA suit. That's how I felt like.

677
00:30:33,680 --> 00:30:37,240
Speaker 2: I just felt tougher. So everybody who anybody who's listening

678
00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:39,880
Speaker 2: that wants to ski, yeah, please look into her. Go

679
00:30:40,280 --> 00:30:42,400
Speaker 2: find Does it come in different colors or is that

680
00:30:42,520 --> 00:30:43,040
Speaker 2: one color?

681
00:30:43,560 --> 00:30:46,480
Speaker 5: Yeah? I think it's it's in like forest green and

682
00:30:46,680 --> 00:30:50,240
Speaker 5: baby blue and yellow and black. Oh great, Oh perfect,

683
00:30:50,400 --> 00:30:51,800
Speaker 5: that's nice. Y, So I'll have to send you some

684
00:30:51,920 --> 00:30:54,480
Speaker 5: more colors so you can rotate instead of just having

685
00:30:55,120 --> 00:30:58,160
Speaker 5: every single day. Although green's my favorite color, so I

686
00:30:58,280 --> 00:30:59,440
Speaker 5: do think you look great at that.

687
00:30:59,800 --> 00:31:01,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a pretty color. And let me know how

688
00:31:01,720 --> 00:31:02,720
Speaker 1: that knee surgery goes.

689
00:31:02,760 --> 00:31:06,160
Speaker 2: Also, because I'm interested in possibly replacing my knees at

690
00:31:06,200 --> 00:31:07,200
Speaker 2: some point both of them.

691
00:31:08,320 --> 00:31:10,520
Speaker 5: Yes you should. I mean I know a lot of

692
00:31:10,560 --> 00:31:13,320
Speaker 5: people that have had it, and they've all raved about it,

693
00:31:13,520 --> 00:31:17,600
Speaker 5: so I am very excited. I'm always limited with what

694
00:31:17,720 --> 00:31:20,360
Speaker 5: I can do physically because of my knee, and I'm

695
00:31:20,680 --> 00:31:23,360
Speaker 5: excited to hopefully not have that in the future.

696
00:31:23,520 --> 00:31:25,960
Speaker 2: Plus, you're so good at recovering from surgeries, like this

697
00:31:26,080 --> 00:31:27,160
Speaker 2: is going to be a please from you.

698
00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:28,720
Speaker 5: I can do my own rehab.

699
00:31:29,120 --> 00:31:29,360
Speaker 4: Yeah.

700
00:31:30,120 --> 00:31:31,920
Speaker 1: Okay, So the first part of that woman's question.

701
00:31:32,160 --> 00:31:34,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, So the first part was how does she get

702
00:31:34,120 --> 00:31:36,840
Speaker 2: into groups and meet guys without there thinking they're into them?

703
00:31:36,880 --> 00:31:40,000
Speaker 1: I don't, right, Well, that's a separate issue. The first issue.

704
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Speaker 1: First of all, you should join Strata if you have it.

705
00:31:42,360 --> 00:31:44,720
Speaker 2: If you're not on Strata, because that's a great bike

706
00:31:44,800 --> 00:31:48,080
Speaker 2: riding community where you can compare speeds, meet people, talk

707
00:31:48,120 --> 00:31:48,680
Speaker 2: to people who.

708
00:31:48,600 --> 00:31:49,880
Speaker 1: Are in the area that you're going to.

709
00:31:50,320 --> 00:31:52,920
Speaker 2: If you don't want to go on these adventures by yourself,

710
00:31:53,360 --> 00:31:56,800
Speaker 2: there's always cycling groups. You know, in my Orca, I know,

711
00:31:56,920 --> 00:31:59,120
Speaker 2: there's tons of cycling groups that you can join as

712
00:31:59,160 --> 00:32:01,920
Speaker 2: a single person and find people that are also going

713
00:32:02,000 --> 00:32:04,200
Speaker 2: to be single, so that you're never really alone traveling,

714
00:32:04,200 --> 00:32:06,360
Speaker 2: because I think as a female it is more important

715
00:32:06,400 --> 00:32:09,160
Speaker 2: to always surround yourself with some people that are going

716
00:32:09,240 --> 00:32:11,040
Speaker 2: to be there, you know, whether they're friends or not.

717
00:32:11,200 --> 00:32:12,880
Speaker 2: It's just better not to be alone as a woman

718
00:32:12,960 --> 00:32:15,959
Speaker 2: in some some parts of the world, like the United States.

719
00:32:16,560 --> 00:32:18,960
Speaker 2: So I would definitely do that joint strati if you're

720
00:32:19,000 --> 00:32:22,040
Speaker 2: not already on that. And all of these activities you're

721
00:32:22,040 --> 00:32:25,160
Speaker 2: talking about, whether it's skiing or whether it's biking, you

722
00:32:25,320 --> 00:32:27,840
Speaker 2: could always find these groups too, Like you know, there's

723
00:32:28,040 --> 00:32:30,880
Speaker 2: there's always like a social aspect for skiing.

724
00:32:30,960 --> 00:32:34,480
Speaker 5: There's also like in Portillo, Chili, there's you know, groups

725
00:32:34,520 --> 00:32:37,000
Speaker 5: that come down. There's also singles women's week. You know,

726
00:32:37,080 --> 00:32:40,959
Speaker 5: there's most ski resorts have you know, either a singles

727
00:32:41,040 --> 00:32:43,760
Speaker 5: week or a women's only week. You know, there's a

728
00:32:43,880 --> 00:32:46,480
Speaker 5: ton of groups that you can travel with and meet

729
00:32:46,560 --> 00:32:48,800
Speaker 5: up with, so you're not by yourself, but you're with

730
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Speaker 5: people that are equally excited to do what you want

731
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Speaker 5: to do.

732
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Speaker 1: Yeah, so that's the easy part.

733
00:32:54,440 --> 00:32:57,280
Speaker 2: So get your ski suit, go on your trips, join

734
00:32:57,360 --> 00:32:59,400
Speaker 2: all these clubs, and then come back with a husband

735
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Speaker 2: or ye per excellent, excellent.

736
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Speaker 4: Well, our next question comes from Miranda, and she's going

737
00:33:06,680 --> 00:33:09,880
Speaker 4: to be joining us here on the zoom. She's twenty eight.

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Speaker 4: Dear Chelsea, I'm a female golfer and constantly on the

739
00:33:13,480 --> 00:33:16,560
Speaker 4: golf course men make sexist comments toward me and my

740
00:33:16,680 --> 00:33:20,280
Speaker 4: female friends. I usually just laugh off their quote unquote jokes,

741
00:33:20,400 --> 00:33:22,800
Speaker 4: but it bothers me so much to the point where

742
00:33:22,800 --> 00:33:25,880
Speaker 4: it negatively affects my game and my desire to get

743
00:33:25,920 --> 00:33:28,160
Speaker 4: on the course. I've asked a couple of women in

744
00:33:28,200 --> 00:33:30,440
Speaker 4: my life for advice about this, but there are never

745
00:33:30,520 --> 00:33:33,840
Speaker 4: any concrete ideas. I feel like Chelsea would have good

746
00:33:33,880 --> 00:33:35,520
Speaker 4: tips on how I can put these men in their

747
00:33:35,560 --> 00:33:38,000
Speaker 4: place or not let it affect me as much as

748
00:33:38,080 --> 00:33:40,920
Speaker 4: it does. It happens almost every round that we get

749
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Speaker 4: paired with older men. I absolutely love golf, but this

750
00:33:43,920 --> 00:33:46,160
Speaker 4: aspect of it fills me with such anxiety that I

751
00:33:46,240 --> 00:33:49,280
Speaker 4: wonder of continuing to play is even worth it? Miranda?

752
00:33:49,760 --> 00:33:53,120
Speaker 1: Hi, Miranda, Hello, how's it going good.

753
00:33:53,200 --> 00:33:55,480
Speaker 2: Our special guest is Lindsay Vaughan. So you have heard

754
00:33:55,520 --> 00:33:57,080
Speaker 2: today to give you advice as well.

755
00:33:57,680 --> 00:34:01,240
Speaker 3: How are you good? How are you good? I normally

756
00:34:01,360 --> 00:34:03,240
Speaker 3: cheer for Team Canada that I can make an exception

757
00:34:03,360 --> 00:34:03,640
Speaker 3: to them.

758
00:34:04,600 --> 00:34:05,360
Speaker 1: I think you'll have to.

759
00:34:07,000 --> 00:34:10,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, anyway, you're right, you're right.

760
00:34:10,680 --> 00:34:13,080
Speaker 1: Well, Lindsay, do you want to start this one? Because

761
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Speaker 1: I feel like you've probably had a lot of experience

762
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Speaker 1: with this kind of thing.

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00:34:16,440 --> 00:34:20,080
Speaker 5: Yeah, I definitely have. I honestly I enjoy it. I

764
00:34:20,400 --> 00:34:24,600
Speaker 5: use it to my advantage and I love also self deprecation.

765
00:34:24,920 --> 00:34:28,360
Speaker 5: So you know, whatever guys throw at me, I usually

766
00:34:28,480 --> 00:34:32,279
Speaker 5: make some self deprecating comment back, or you know, I

767
00:34:32,400 --> 00:34:34,799
Speaker 5: hit them with I kind of flip it around on them,

768
00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:37,520
Speaker 5: or you know, I don't know. I just find that

769
00:34:37,920 --> 00:34:40,880
Speaker 5: the more I use it as like a positive, I

770
00:34:41,000 --> 00:34:43,839
Speaker 5: always performed better when I was keying when people made

771
00:34:43,880 --> 00:34:46,359
Speaker 5: fun of me, especially men. I mean, I've been made

772
00:34:46,400 --> 00:34:49,399
Speaker 5: fun of for literally everything, and I'm still being made

773
00:34:49,440 --> 00:34:52,399
Speaker 5: fun of, which is kind of insane. Like I got

774
00:34:52,480 --> 00:34:55,560
Speaker 5: comments because I was wearing a tight one piece suit

775
00:34:55,640 --> 00:34:58,520
Speaker 5: the other day and someone that I've known for a

776
00:34:58,600 --> 00:35:01,800
Speaker 5: long time made a comment about how tight my suit was,

777
00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:04,720
Speaker 5: and I was like, you know what, the guy's just jealous,

778
00:35:04,920 --> 00:35:07,600
Speaker 5: you know, he's you know, you know, they're jealous of

779
00:35:07,680 --> 00:35:11,040
Speaker 5: what I have. And and again I don't take it personally,

780
00:35:11,280 --> 00:35:15,239
Speaker 5: which is obviously easier said than done. But however, you

781
00:35:15,320 --> 00:35:18,480
Speaker 5: can flip it, whether it's in your mind or it's

782
00:35:18,520 --> 00:35:22,000
Speaker 5: a comment back to them, the better, and you know,

783
00:35:22,200 --> 00:35:23,840
Speaker 5: you again use it to your advantage.

784
00:35:25,560 --> 00:35:26,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a good point.

785
00:35:27,000 --> 00:35:28,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I like that. I like the idea of using

786
00:35:29,040 --> 00:35:29,640
Speaker 1: it to fuel you.

787
00:35:29,800 --> 00:35:31,960
Speaker 2: I mean, listen, if you're talking to me, obviously I'm

788
00:35:32,040 --> 00:35:33,680
Speaker 2: just gonna go off on that guy and they're never

789
00:35:33,760 --> 00:35:34,759
Speaker 2: going to say another thing to me.

790
00:35:34,840 --> 00:35:36,640
Speaker 5: Again, I knew that was coming.

791
00:35:37,040 --> 00:35:38,759
Speaker 2: I can't give you the language to do that, but

792
00:35:38,880 --> 00:35:41,120
Speaker 2: I mean, you just give a dish up what they're

793
00:35:41,160 --> 00:35:43,720
Speaker 2: dishing up right back at them. Because men can't handle

794
00:35:43,840 --> 00:35:46,080
Speaker 2: what they say to women. They can't fucking handle it.

795
00:35:46,160 --> 00:35:48,120
Speaker 2: They're sensitive and they're insecure.

796
00:35:48,320 --> 00:35:48,720
Speaker 3: Secure.

797
00:35:49,760 --> 00:35:50,760
Speaker 1: You wouldn't be making.

798
00:35:50,600 --> 00:35:52,520
Speaker 2: Fun of somebody unless you were insecure, you know what

799
00:35:52,560 --> 00:35:55,640
Speaker 2: I mean, especially when you haven't done anything to deserve that.

800
00:35:56,040 --> 00:35:56,640
Speaker 1: You're golfing.

801
00:35:57,400 --> 00:35:59,960
Speaker 3: I know, I feel like by me not saying anything,

802
00:36:00,080 --> 00:36:03,760
Speaker 3: it almost compromises my comfort just to almost protect theirs,

803
00:36:03,840 --> 00:36:06,120
Speaker 3: which which I hate. And the annoying thing is it

804
00:36:06,239 --> 00:36:09,239
Speaker 3: normally happens when like I normally only golf with one friend,

805
00:36:09,280 --> 00:36:11,040
Speaker 3: and when you only book a tea time for two people,

806
00:36:11,080 --> 00:36:13,759
Speaker 3: they always pair you with two other people, and it's

807
00:36:13,800 --> 00:36:16,560
Speaker 3: always two older men that are saying stuff to us

808
00:36:16,640 --> 00:36:20,560
Speaker 3: the entire time. So it's basically four hours of this.

809
00:36:20,760 --> 00:36:22,960
Speaker 3: Sometimes they're great, and sometimes the groups are horrible, and

810
00:36:23,080 --> 00:36:24,880
Speaker 3: like they say stuff to us right when we start,

811
00:36:25,360 --> 00:36:27,560
Speaker 3: and then it just puts me in a shitty mood

812
00:36:27,840 --> 00:36:30,200
Speaker 3: for the whole day. But yeah, you're right.

813
00:36:30,360 --> 00:36:33,000
Speaker 5: Also, the question is like why golf? I feel like

814
00:36:33,080 --> 00:36:35,000
Speaker 5: there could be a better sport.

815
00:36:35,120 --> 00:36:39,799
Speaker 1: No, let's deconstruct this even more.

816
00:36:40,200 --> 00:36:40,919
Speaker 3: That's a good point.

817
00:36:41,680 --> 00:36:43,000
Speaker 1: I think it's that you're playing golf.

818
00:36:43,239 --> 00:36:45,000
Speaker 3: That's a good point. I took it up during COVID.

819
00:36:45,080 --> 00:36:47,080
Speaker 3: You know what you get outside, you have some drinks,

820
00:36:47,200 --> 00:36:49,360
Speaker 3: riding in a car. It's very fun. I find it relaxing.

821
00:36:49,480 --> 00:36:50,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, it sounds like you need to get two more

822
00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:51,960
Speaker 1: friends though to do it.

823
00:36:52,480 --> 00:36:54,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're not. Your day isn't ruined every day by

824
00:36:54,760 --> 00:36:57,919
Speaker 2: these two idiots. So A, get some other friends, rope

825
00:36:57,960 --> 00:37:01,279
Speaker 2: them into golfing. Actually, A I and find a different sport. B.

826
00:37:01,920 --> 00:37:04,200
Speaker 2: If you're going to stick to golfing, rope some other

827
00:37:04,239 --> 00:37:05,680
Speaker 2: friends in so you don't have to deal with two

828
00:37:05,719 --> 00:37:06,360
Speaker 2: guys you don't know.

829
00:37:06,880 --> 00:37:07,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, I have done that.

830
00:37:08,160 --> 00:37:10,480
Speaker 1: And see, make sure you give it back to them.

831
00:37:10,680 --> 00:37:13,040
Speaker 1: You know what I mean. They will cower as soon

832
00:37:13,120 --> 00:37:14,080
Speaker 1: as you level it up.

833
00:37:14,239 --> 00:37:16,640
Speaker 2: Men, understand that the dynamic is shift. As long as

834
00:37:16,680 --> 00:37:18,520
Speaker 2: you're not saying anything, they're going to keep going in

835
00:37:18,640 --> 00:37:20,560
Speaker 2: on you. It's like a bully. And as soon as

836
00:37:20,600 --> 00:37:22,799
Speaker 2: you turn around and say, hey, like this guy said

837
00:37:22,800 --> 00:37:24,920
Speaker 2: to me the other day, these guys invited me, helly skiing?

838
00:37:24,960 --> 00:37:27,399
Speaker 2: I said, no, my knee's really blown, like my knee

839
00:37:27,440 --> 00:37:28,120
Speaker 2: was too swollen.

840
00:37:28,320 --> 00:37:30,800
Speaker 1: I go, my knee hurts. He goes, oh, your knee hurts,

841
00:37:30,840 --> 00:37:32,439
Speaker 1: like oh yeah, And I don't want to be seen

842
00:37:32,600 --> 00:37:35,120
Speaker 1: skiing like you see. That's good?

843
00:37:35,440 --> 00:37:36,480
Speaker 5: Right, So good?

844
00:37:36,840 --> 00:37:37,399
Speaker 1: That was over.

845
00:37:37,520 --> 00:37:40,640
Speaker 2: That conversation ended, and he never came back around. If

846
00:37:40,680 --> 00:37:43,239
Speaker 2: I hadn't done that, he would have continued on and

847
00:37:43,360 --> 00:37:45,920
Speaker 2: on and on. But it's good to just kind of

848
00:37:46,120 --> 00:37:48,359
Speaker 2: get some stuff in your arsenal that you could throw

849
00:37:48,440 --> 00:37:50,840
Speaker 2: back at them. And with men, it's really not that difficult,

850
00:37:51,360 --> 00:37:53,080
Speaker 2: Like you don't have to be that prepared for what

851
00:37:53,160 --> 00:37:53,879
Speaker 2: they're talking about.

852
00:37:53,960 --> 00:37:57,200
Speaker 3: No, you know, yeah, you're very right. They're always the

853
00:37:57,239 --> 00:38:00,760
Speaker 3: stupidest jokes too. They're not funny at all. They're all terrible.

854
00:38:01,000 --> 00:38:02,560
Speaker 3: It's never it's like if you're gonna make a joke too,

855
00:38:02,640 --> 00:38:05,239
Speaker 3: to make it a little bit funny entertaining something though,

856
00:38:05,280 --> 00:38:07,719
Speaker 3: it's always like a guy puts the ball not very

857
00:38:07,760 --> 00:38:09,239
Speaker 3: far and he says to his friend like, oh, you

858
00:38:09,320 --> 00:38:11,200
Speaker 3: hit that one with your purse, so stupid.

859
00:38:11,640 --> 00:38:12,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly.

860
00:38:12,680 --> 00:38:15,200
Speaker 5: You can come up with some good, good lines in return.

861
00:38:15,360 --> 00:38:17,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, I can come up with something better than that.

862
00:38:17,480 --> 00:38:18,960
Speaker 3: But it's just I feel like it always throws me

863
00:38:19,000 --> 00:38:21,000
Speaker 3: off guard every time, which is so strange because I

864
00:38:21,040 --> 00:38:22,080
Speaker 3: should be used to it by now.

865
00:38:22,200 --> 00:38:23,880
Speaker 2: Well, then you have to get more prepared. You have

866
00:38:23,960 --> 00:38:26,520
Speaker 2: to go in there more prepared with the mission. Like today,

867
00:38:26,800 --> 00:38:28,080
Speaker 2: I'm going to give it back. I'm going to serve

868
00:38:28,120 --> 00:38:29,719
Speaker 2: it right back up to them, And just think about

869
00:38:29,760 --> 00:38:33,080
Speaker 2: every woman that you are helping by you using your voice,

870
00:38:33,120 --> 00:38:34,920
Speaker 2: because the next time they run into a woman like

871
00:38:35,000 --> 00:38:37,440
Speaker 2: you they're going to be much less likely to harass her.

872
00:38:37,600 --> 00:38:40,200
Speaker 1: So if you need that as an extra motivation, use it.

873
00:38:41,040 --> 00:38:41,719
Speaker 3: That's a good point.

874
00:38:42,080 --> 00:38:43,600
Speaker 4: And to your point, they're going to say the same

875
00:38:43,680 --> 00:38:45,319
Speaker 4: jokes every time, so you're not gonna have to come

876
00:38:45,400 --> 00:38:47,040
Speaker 4: up with that many like clapbacks.

877
00:38:48,280 --> 00:38:50,840
Speaker 2: Right, yeah, oh it looks like you hit that with

878
00:38:50,960 --> 00:38:52,400
Speaker 2: your purse. You can say what it looks like you

879
00:38:52,480 --> 00:38:55,200
Speaker 2: hit that with one of your balls. There's lots of

880
00:38:55,360 --> 00:38:58,920
Speaker 2: old man bald jokes that you can make, or you know,

881
00:38:59,480 --> 00:39:01,560
Speaker 2: intellect jokes, or the fact that we're in the year

882
00:39:01,600 --> 00:39:02,439
Speaker 2: twenty twenty four?

883
00:39:03,080 --> 00:39:07,920
Speaker 1: Is it twenty three? Yeah, don't take next year that

884
00:39:08,239 --> 00:39:09,320
Speaker 1: I've been thinking it was twenty.

885
00:39:09,200 --> 00:39:11,080
Speaker 2: Twenty four for like two years already. I don't know

886
00:39:11,480 --> 00:39:13,800
Speaker 2: what i'm smoking. Well, we all know what i'm smoking

887
00:39:13,800 --> 00:39:17,560
Speaker 2: at that's a given. Also, try smoking pot while you're

888
00:39:17,560 --> 00:39:19,279
Speaker 2: at the golf course. You won't give a shit about

889
00:39:19,280 --> 00:39:22,399
Speaker 2: anything then true about what they're saying. You'll be really

890
00:39:22,480 --> 00:39:23,439
Speaker 2: focused on your game.

891
00:39:23,880 --> 00:39:26,040
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, Normally the drinking comes into play and it

892
00:39:26,280 --> 00:39:29,240
Speaker 3: makes it a little easier, but it's just more annoying

893
00:39:29,280 --> 00:39:31,600
Speaker 3: than anything. It's just irritating that people are still saying

894
00:39:31,640 --> 00:39:32,040
Speaker 3: things like this.

895
00:39:32,440 --> 00:39:34,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, but definitely don't let anyone decide like how you're

896
00:39:34,960 --> 00:39:36,480
Speaker 2: going to spend your time. You're not going to knock

897
00:39:36,480 --> 00:39:38,839
Speaker 2: golf because guys are there. You're going to make sure

898
00:39:38,840 --> 00:39:39,280
Speaker 2: that you're.

899
00:39:39,160 --> 00:39:40,839
Speaker 1: Going to golf. You know what I mean? That you're

900
00:39:40,880 --> 00:39:42,680
Speaker 1: going to be fine when guys are around.

901
00:39:43,040 --> 00:39:45,320
Speaker 3: Right, as long as I don't pick another sport before then.

902
00:39:45,520 --> 00:39:48,320
Speaker 1: Well yeah, I mean try volleyball or something that seems

903
00:39:48,840 --> 00:39:49,480
Speaker 1: going to be the.

904
00:39:49,520 --> 00:39:51,200
Speaker 3: Team sports are Okay, I got a couple of those

905
00:39:51,239 --> 00:39:53,520
Speaker 3: on lock. But you know this is good for summer.

906
00:39:53,560 --> 00:39:54,320
Speaker 3: It's good for summer.

907
00:39:54,360 --> 00:39:57,120
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, okay, good, yeah, awesome.

908
00:39:57,320 --> 00:39:59,759
Speaker 4: Well Branda, please let us know what kind of come

909
00:39:59,840 --> 00:40:02,239
Speaker 4: back to come up with and how it goes next time.

910
00:40:02,840 --> 00:40:04,680
Speaker 3: All right, Well, do can I say one thing before

911
00:40:04,800 --> 00:40:07,480
Speaker 3: I leave? Chelsea and Catherine. I thought of you guys

912
00:40:07,480 --> 00:40:09,080
Speaker 3: the other day because me and my friends were on

913
00:40:09,120 --> 00:40:12,160
Speaker 3: our way to a ski trip and my friend decided

914
00:40:12,200 --> 00:40:15,759
Speaker 3: she would eat her breakfast in the car and it

915
00:40:15,880 --> 00:40:19,000
Speaker 3: consisted of hard boiled eggs, and right before I turned around,

916
00:40:19,000 --> 00:40:20,800
Speaker 3: I saw her about to open the container and I

917
00:40:20,880 --> 00:40:22,920
Speaker 3: prevented it from happening. But I could not believe she

918
00:40:23,000 --> 00:40:23,920
Speaker 3: was gonna eat them in the car.

919
00:40:24,760 --> 00:40:27,319
Speaker 4: I could not believe that in the privacy of her

920
00:40:27,400 --> 00:40:27,960
Speaker 4: car of car.

921
00:40:28,360 --> 00:40:29,200
Speaker 5: It was our car.

922
00:40:29,440 --> 00:40:31,479
Speaker 3: I was, my boyfriend was driving. I was in the front.

923
00:40:31,680 --> 00:40:34,600
Speaker 2: Let's catch Lindsay up on this so she's aware, Lindsay.

924
00:40:35,040 --> 00:40:38,160
Speaker 2: It was revealed to me late last year, in twenty

925
00:40:38,239 --> 00:40:43,640
Speaker 2: twenty three, that Catherine travels regularly on planes with a

926
00:40:44,120 --> 00:40:47,160
Speaker 2: ziploc bag of hard boiled eggs that have been peeled

927
00:40:47,920 --> 00:40:51,080
Speaker 2: and then and eats them because they're a good source

928
00:40:51,160 --> 00:40:54,240
Speaker 2: of protein. I said, well, it is true.

929
00:40:54,560 --> 00:40:59,000
Speaker 5: However, they do smell like heart boiled eggs.

930
00:40:59,040 --> 00:41:02,200
Speaker 1: Foot eggs smell no feet.

931
00:41:02,239 --> 00:41:05,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, smell like ass. But I think, you know, maybe

932
00:41:06,400 --> 00:41:08,640
Speaker 5: maybe eat them before you get on the plane because

933
00:41:08,640 --> 00:41:11,160
Speaker 5: they are a good source of protein. But like spare

934
00:41:11,680 --> 00:41:12,800
Speaker 5: your seat made.

935
00:41:13,000 --> 00:41:16,400
Speaker 3: When you're closed vehicle. I made her eat them in

936
00:41:16,400 --> 00:41:18,080
Speaker 3: the parking lot. She was standing in the parking lot

937
00:41:18,120 --> 00:41:20,160
Speaker 3: eating them, because I I mean, that's a.

938
00:41:20,200 --> 00:41:20,960
Speaker 5: Fair, that's a fair.

939
00:41:21,360 --> 00:41:23,800
Speaker 2: Some peanut butter or something like a peanut butter stick like,

940
00:41:23,880 --> 00:41:27,439
Speaker 2: that's better. That's not offensive to anyone. Everyone loves peanut butter.

941
00:41:27,960 --> 00:41:30,560
Speaker 2: Almonds don't smell except the kids.

942
00:41:30,320 --> 00:41:32,360
Speaker 1: That are allergic to peanut butter on planes.

943
00:41:32,640 --> 00:41:34,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, there's many options.

944
00:41:34,160 --> 00:41:36,239
Speaker 2: I flew home from from somewhere yesterday and they put

945
00:41:36,280 --> 00:41:38,200
Speaker 2: down a thing of those almonds, and I'm just like,

946
00:41:39,120 --> 00:41:41,319
Speaker 2: those are the most unappealing almonds I've ever seen.

947
00:41:41,719 --> 00:41:44,920
Speaker 4: Like I was just like what, I was, just like unsalted,

948
00:41:45,040 --> 00:41:45,920
Speaker 4: and I just looked at them.

949
00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:47,360
Speaker 2: I'm like, I don't even want one, you know, like

950
00:41:47,440 --> 00:41:49,480
Speaker 2: almonds when they're hot on a plane are good. When

951
00:41:49,480 --> 00:41:51,440
Speaker 2: they don't do that and they just throw some mixed together,

952
00:41:51,480 --> 00:41:54,839
Speaker 2: I'm like, no, no, no, back the fuck up, bring

953
00:41:54,960 --> 00:41:57,839
Speaker 2: me some eggs anyway, So grab your obits and grab

954
00:41:57,880 --> 00:41:59,640
Speaker 2: your peanut butter, don't grab your eggs.

955
00:41:59,719 --> 00:42:02,040
Speaker 1: Head to the golf course and stand up for yourself.

956
00:42:02,239 --> 00:42:04,000
Speaker 3: Yes, or I do grab my eggs and no one

957
00:42:04,040 --> 00:42:04,600
Speaker 3: will go near me.

958
00:42:05,480 --> 00:42:06,439
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a good idea.

959
00:42:07,080 --> 00:42:08,080
Speaker 4: My love to your friend.

960
00:42:08,960 --> 00:42:10,600
Speaker 3: I'm sure you would. You guys have got along well.

961
00:42:11,560 --> 00:42:14,960
Speaker 4: Awesome, Thanks so much for colleague and Miranda to take care.

962
00:42:15,600 --> 00:42:16,360
Speaker 3: So yah bye.

963
00:42:17,440 --> 00:42:20,080
Speaker 2: Yeah. I don't know why anyone golfs anyway. I find

964
00:42:20,160 --> 00:42:22,400
Speaker 2: golfing to be so boring.

965
00:42:23,440 --> 00:42:26,160
Speaker 5: It seems I can confirm it's very borings.

966
00:42:26,239 --> 00:42:27,120
Speaker 1: Oh right, exactly.

967
00:42:27,239 --> 00:42:29,000
Speaker 2: You know what I've been watching is that Full Swing

968
00:42:29,239 --> 00:42:30,560
Speaker 2: documentary docuseries.

969
00:42:30,600 --> 00:42:31,720
Speaker 1: Do you know about this on Netflix?

970
00:42:32,040 --> 00:42:32,200
Speaker 3: Oh?

971
00:42:32,400 --> 00:42:35,280
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's actually makes golf someone interesting.

972
00:42:35,640 --> 00:42:38,040
Speaker 2: Yes, I was gonna say the same thing because I

973
00:42:38,200 --> 00:42:40,000
Speaker 2: was like, oh, this is something I know nothing about.

974
00:42:40,120 --> 00:42:41,480
Speaker 1: Let me watch a couple of episodes.

975
00:42:41,520 --> 00:42:44,480
Speaker 2: And it's a lot about Jordan's speeth and they have

976
00:42:44,560 --> 00:42:46,440
Speaker 2: a couple of players that are like on the up

977
00:42:46,480 --> 00:42:46,759
Speaker 2: and up.

978
00:42:47,040 --> 00:42:49,919
Speaker 5: Yeah, Jordan's great. I mean, I love Jordan. He's under

979
00:42:50,040 --> 00:42:52,040
Speaker 5: armor guy and I've known him for a long time.

980
00:42:52,760 --> 00:42:54,920
Speaker 5: There's some I mean, there's some good people, and I

981
00:42:55,000 --> 00:42:57,920
Speaker 5: think you just don't see their personalities when they're playing,

982
00:42:58,000 --> 00:43:01,400
Speaker 5: which is why I think others are more engaging. But

983
00:43:01,680 --> 00:43:04,440
Speaker 5: I think that this is showing actually a good side

984
00:43:04,480 --> 00:43:07,080
Speaker 5: of golf, So good on them. And also break Point.

985
00:43:07,120 --> 00:43:09,240
Speaker 5: I've you seen at the Tennis one Breakpoint.

986
00:43:09,280 --> 00:43:10,880
Speaker 2: I've seen a couple episodes of that. And then the

987
00:43:10,960 --> 00:43:13,920
Speaker 2: Formula one also, I haven't seen that yet because that's

988
00:43:14,239 --> 00:43:16,960
Speaker 2: I'm less interested in Formula one than I am in golf,

989
00:43:17,440 --> 00:43:19,840
Speaker 2: but I'm going to get to it because that's another

990
00:43:19,920 --> 00:43:22,200
Speaker 2: sport where I'm not paying attention and I don't know

991
00:43:22,280 --> 00:43:22,960
Speaker 2: what needs.

992
00:43:22,800 --> 00:43:23,359
Speaker 1: To be really good.

993
00:43:23,440 --> 00:43:26,520
Speaker 5: Yeah, I thought you would love Formula One. It's like skiing.

994
00:43:26,640 --> 00:43:28,600
Speaker 5: It's speed, it's like adrenaline.

995
00:43:29,400 --> 00:43:31,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, but there's a lot of mechanics.

996
00:43:31,400 --> 00:43:34,759
Speaker 2: It's very mechanical, actually not really well the way they

997
00:43:34,840 --> 00:43:36,480
Speaker 2: talk about cars and the pit.

998
00:43:36,840 --> 00:43:39,160
Speaker 1: I like the attitude and the strategy and the winning

999
00:43:39,239 --> 00:43:41,080
Speaker 1: championship vibe. I love that.

1000
00:43:41,520 --> 00:43:41,680
Speaker 3: You know.

1001
00:43:41,760 --> 00:43:45,600
Speaker 2: What is also great about full swing is it's great

1002
00:43:45,680 --> 00:43:48,680
Speaker 2: to see the ebb and flow of a career because

1003
00:43:48,719 --> 00:43:51,480
Speaker 2: you're never at your height all the time. There's highs

1004
00:43:51,520 --> 00:43:54,480
Speaker 2: and there's lows, and it's always like the underdog that

1005
00:43:54,600 --> 00:43:57,320
Speaker 2: comes in, you know, and wins when you least expect it.

1006
00:43:57,840 --> 00:44:00,160
Speaker 2: And the people that have been revered or celebrate to

1007
00:44:00,239 --> 00:44:03,640
Speaker 2: the most always end up not forever, but they always

1008
00:44:03,719 --> 00:44:06,400
Speaker 2: dip and they have their troubles too, So it's never

1009
00:44:06,640 --> 00:44:10,080
Speaker 2: like just some static road where it's just an assent,

1010
00:44:10,320 --> 00:44:10,520
Speaker 2: you know.

1011
00:44:10,560 --> 00:44:10,960
Speaker 1: What I mean.

1012
00:44:11,280 --> 00:44:13,879
Speaker 5: It's honestly really cool because it's kind of like every

1013
00:44:13,960 --> 00:44:17,560
Speaker 5: athlete has their own little mini documentary. And to your

1014
00:44:17,640 --> 00:44:20,720
Speaker 5: point of ebbs and flows, no career in any sport,

1015
00:44:20,800 --> 00:44:23,399
Speaker 5: I don't care who you are, is always at the top,

1016
00:44:23,920 --> 00:44:27,359
Speaker 5: and I think it humanizes athletes and shows you how

1017
00:44:27,560 --> 00:44:31,080
Speaker 5: hard it is to be consistently at the top. I

1018
00:44:31,160 --> 00:44:34,520
Speaker 5: mean again, no one's at the top forever, but to

1019
00:44:34,640 --> 00:44:37,520
Speaker 5: be able to come back every time you go down

1020
00:44:38,120 --> 00:44:40,920
Speaker 5: is really hard. So I love these little shows. I

1021
00:44:41,000 --> 00:44:44,279
Speaker 5: mean again, they're like mini documentaries for every athlete, and

1022
00:44:44,360 --> 00:44:47,640
Speaker 5: that gives every athlete a lot more credit because honestly,

1023
00:44:47,760 --> 00:44:50,600
Speaker 5: most people don't quite understand the difficulty.

1024
00:44:51,280 --> 00:44:54,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's not you know, there's a lot of similarities.

1025
00:44:54,560 --> 00:44:57,160
Speaker 2: You know, in my business, there are dips, and there

1026
00:44:57,200 --> 00:44:59,640
Speaker 2: are valleys, and there are struggles, and it is exactly

1027
00:44:59,680 --> 00:45:02,520
Speaker 2: how you behave in those moments that make you a champion.

1028
00:45:02,840 --> 00:45:05,000
Speaker 2: You know, it's how you pick yourself back up and

1029
00:45:05,120 --> 00:45:08,200
Speaker 2: how you succeed again after you've fallen or you've failed

1030
00:45:08,320 --> 00:45:10,760
Speaker 2: or what you deem a failure or you have at placed.

1031
00:45:11,120 --> 00:45:13,959
Speaker 2: It's very inspiring to watch these kinds of shows because

1032
00:45:14,000 --> 00:45:16,799
Speaker 2: it's just it's really about it's a commentary on life

1033
00:45:17,239 --> 00:45:19,920
Speaker 2: and you know, competitiveness, and I mean there aren't a

1034
00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:22,320
Speaker 2: lot of industries or businesses that you don't have some

1035
00:45:22,480 --> 00:45:24,239
Speaker 2: aspect of competitiveness in there.

1036
00:45:24,680 --> 00:45:26,400
Speaker 5: Absolutely not. Until totally agree.

1037
00:45:30,719 --> 00:45:36,320
Speaker 4: Well, our next question comes from Lana, and this is

1038
00:45:36,320 --> 00:45:40,040
Speaker 4: a bit of a relationship beet question. I'm twenty four

1039
00:45:40,120 --> 00:45:41,759
Speaker 4: and I've been with my boyfriend for three and a

1040
00:45:41,800 --> 00:45:44,440
Speaker 4: half years. This summer, we'll be moving in together for

1041
00:45:44,480 --> 00:45:46,800
Speaker 4: the first time in a new city with new jobs.

1042
00:45:47,280 --> 00:45:49,080
Speaker 4: Within the next year or so, I expect to be

1043
00:45:49,160 --> 00:45:52,160
Speaker 4: engaged to him. Our dynamic has always been the same.

1044
00:45:52,560 --> 00:45:55,839
Speaker 4: I'm very affectionate, both physically and verbally. I've been told

1045
00:45:55,880 --> 00:45:58,319
Speaker 4: it's like I don't leave the honeymoon phase, and he's

1046
00:45:58,440 --> 00:46:02,160
Speaker 4: always kind, caring, supporting me emotionally, showing up for me,

1047
00:46:02,440 --> 00:46:04,680
Speaker 4: helping me whenever I ask, and taking me out on

1048
00:46:04,760 --> 00:46:07,879
Speaker 4: nice dates. He just doesn't express to me verbally how

1049
00:46:07,960 --> 00:46:10,080
Speaker 4: he feels. He'll tell me he loves me when I

1050
00:46:10,160 --> 00:46:12,960
Speaker 4: say goodbye or when I prompt it, but usually no

1051
00:46:13,080 --> 00:46:16,520
Speaker 4: sweet words come unprompted. I'm not one hundred percent sure

1052
00:46:16,560 --> 00:46:20,080
Speaker 4: what's triggering this now, but recently I've been feeling insecure

1053
00:46:20,080 --> 00:46:22,040
Speaker 4: about how we display our love to each other and

1054
00:46:22,120 --> 00:46:25,680
Speaker 4: how it feels disproportionate to me. The perfect partner would

1055
00:46:25,680 --> 00:46:28,000
Speaker 4: be able to show their love through all love languages,

1056
00:46:28,120 --> 00:46:32,240
Speaker 4: because they want to gift giving verbal affection, physical affection,

1057
00:46:32,520 --> 00:46:35,120
Speaker 4: acts of service are all things I provide when I

1058
00:46:35,239 --> 00:46:38,000
Speaker 4: truly and deeply love someone without having to think about it.

1059
00:46:38,480 --> 00:46:41,799
Speaker 4: Is this an unrealistic view to expect the same. I've

1060
00:46:41,840 --> 00:46:43,760
Speaker 4: talked to him about this, and he says my feelings

1061
00:46:43,800 --> 00:46:46,480
Speaker 4: are valid, that he's always felt I have more affection

1062
00:46:46,600 --> 00:46:49,399
Speaker 4: toward him than he has for me. This hurt to hear,

1063
00:46:49,719 --> 00:46:51,640
Speaker 4: but he assures me that he loves me and is

1064
00:46:51,719 --> 00:46:54,320
Speaker 4: in love with me. He just doesn't feel affection for

1065
00:46:54,400 --> 00:46:56,960
Speaker 4: anyone as deeply as I do. He told me that

1066
00:46:57,080 --> 00:46:59,239
Speaker 4: he used to feel very deeply growing up, but that

1067
00:46:59,440 --> 00:47:02,320
Speaker 4: changed after going through painful heartbreaks and dealing with a

1068
00:47:02,360 --> 00:47:05,000
Speaker 4: close loss as a young adult. Is it wrong for

1069
00:47:05,120 --> 00:47:07,359
Speaker 4: me to find this out looks sad and to want

1070
00:47:07,440 --> 00:47:10,040
Speaker 4: more from him in terms of verbal and physical affection,

1071
00:47:10,280 --> 00:47:13,479
Speaker 4: even though he checks all the other boxes. I'm torn

1072
00:47:13,560 --> 00:47:15,279
Speaker 4: because I know I can find many men who will

1073
00:47:15,320 --> 00:47:17,719
Speaker 4: say sweet things to me, but they don't actually care.

1074
00:47:18,360 --> 00:47:20,440
Speaker 4: Is it just an insecurity on my part, needing to

1075
00:47:20,520 --> 00:47:22,960
Speaker 4: know how he truly feels because of the next steps

1076
00:47:22,960 --> 00:47:28,000
Speaker 4: we'll be taking soon? Lana, Hi, Lada, Hi, Hi?

1077
00:47:28,080 --> 00:47:31,640
Speaker 1: How are you? I'm doing you and you are twenty four?

1078
00:47:31,760 --> 00:47:34,160
Speaker 1: You said, right, yes, I am okay?

1079
00:47:34,239 --> 00:47:35,919
Speaker 2: So the only thing that struck me in your letter,

1080
00:47:36,520 --> 00:47:39,040
Speaker 2: if you hadn't said this part, which was he used

1081
00:47:39,080 --> 00:47:41,239
Speaker 2: to be affectionate with other people and then he got

1082
00:47:41,280 --> 00:47:43,920
Speaker 2: his heart broken, which is the reason he's giving you

1083
00:47:44,080 --> 00:47:45,400
Speaker 2: for not having as much.

1084
00:47:45,280 --> 00:47:46,000
Speaker 1: Affection as you.

1085
00:47:46,800 --> 00:47:49,759
Speaker 2: Is kind of like, oh, so he has the capability,

1086
00:47:49,800 --> 00:47:52,120
Speaker 2: but he's chosen to shut down rather than open up.

1087
00:47:52,840 --> 00:47:55,200
Speaker 2: So that doesn't make a lot of sense, because if

1088
00:47:55,200 --> 00:47:56,759
Speaker 2: he really felt like you were the one and you

1089
00:47:56,800 --> 00:47:58,800
Speaker 2: guys are supposed to be together, I would imagine that

1090
00:47:58,880 --> 00:48:01,200
Speaker 2: that would be brushed open. And again, you don't really

1091
00:48:01,280 --> 00:48:03,480
Speaker 2: we don't really have control over who we fall over.

1092
00:48:04,120 --> 00:48:07,040
Speaker 2: That aside, it does sound like you're expecting from him

1093
00:48:07,160 --> 00:48:09,759
Speaker 2: what you're giving out, and that's not a fair thing

1094
00:48:09,840 --> 00:48:10,920
Speaker 2: to do in a relationship.

1095
00:48:11,280 --> 00:48:12,600
Speaker 1: You can't expect the.

1096
00:48:12,680 --> 00:48:14,840
Speaker 2: Partner to give you what you want to give, or

1097
00:48:14,880 --> 00:48:16,359
Speaker 2: that your partner is going to be great at all.

1098
00:48:16,400 --> 00:48:18,600
Speaker 2: Four love languages, like, that's just not realistic.

1099
00:48:19,120 --> 00:48:20,040
Speaker 1: Actually, if I.

1100
00:48:20,040 --> 00:48:23,839
Speaker 4: Can interject, there are five love languages, and the one

1101
00:48:23,920 --> 00:48:27,239
Speaker 4: that you left out, Lana was quality time, which is

1102
00:48:27,320 --> 00:48:29,200
Speaker 4: the thing that he is really giving you, and that

1103
00:48:29,480 --> 00:48:33,080
Speaker 4: may be the way he expresses his love languages. Started interrupt.

1104
00:48:33,120 --> 00:48:34,319
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm glad you did.

1105
00:48:34,440 --> 00:48:36,479
Speaker 2: I mean, I had no idea that we're five because

1106
00:48:36,480 --> 00:48:38,640
Speaker 2: I haven't read that fucking book. I've only heard about

1107
00:48:38,680 --> 00:48:41,120
Speaker 2: it NonStop for the last ten years.

1108
00:48:41,320 --> 00:48:43,480
Speaker 4: That's the thing is, I think everybody hears like the

1109
00:48:43,600 --> 00:48:44,920
Speaker 4: Instagram snippets of it.

1110
00:48:45,080 --> 00:48:47,920
Speaker 1: Oh, I'm figuring of the four agreements, that's what they're giving. Okay,

1111
00:48:48,400 --> 00:48:48,680
Speaker 1: got it.

1112
00:48:49,800 --> 00:48:51,960
Speaker 4: But yeah, you know, the thing about the love languages

1113
00:48:52,280 --> 00:48:56,160
Speaker 4: is it's about finding out what each person's actually is

1114
00:48:56,680 --> 00:48:59,839
Speaker 4: and expressing love to them through that, Like maybe yours

1115
00:49:00,080 --> 00:49:03,279
Speaker 4: is more heavily these verbal, little sweet things that he

1116
00:49:03,440 --> 00:49:06,640
Speaker 4: might say, and his maybe quality time, so it's just

1117
00:49:06,760 --> 00:49:10,560
Speaker 4: a mismatch, and figuring out how to encourage him to

1118
00:49:10,640 --> 00:49:12,359
Speaker 4: give you what you need and you to give him

1119
00:49:12,760 --> 00:49:13,359
Speaker 4: what he needs.

1120
00:49:13,800 --> 00:49:17,360
Speaker 6: Okay, is it wrong to like specifically ask for that?

1121
00:49:17,600 --> 00:49:20,000
Speaker 6: Like That's what I've been doing in the past few weeks,

1122
00:49:20,040 --> 00:49:22,560
Speaker 6: Because I wrote in this email after we had like

1123
00:49:22,640 --> 00:49:25,520
Speaker 6: a little bit of not an argument but a discussion.

1124
00:49:25,880 --> 00:49:27,839
Speaker 6: I mean I kind of circled back to him later

1125
00:49:27,960 --> 00:49:31,759
Speaker 6: after I kind of decompressed, and I was kind of saying, like,

1126
00:49:32,080 --> 00:49:35,720
Speaker 6: growing up, I didn't get verbal affection or physical affection

1127
00:49:36,000 --> 00:49:39,560
Speaker 6: for my parents, and just thinking about living my whole life.

1128
00:49:39,800 --> 00:49:44,600
Speaker 6: Not getting that is like really sad, so I I've

1129
00:49:44,640 --> 00:49:47,239
Speaker 6: been just asking for it, like, hey, like, when you're done,

1130
00:49:47,360 --> 00:49:50,160
Speaker 6: can you come here and like give me a cuddle

1131
00:49:50,480 --> 00:49:52,560
Speaker 6: or something cuddle me. I don't know if that's not

1132
00:49:52,840 --> 00:49:55,280
Speaker 6: romantic or if that's like being needy.

1133
00:49:56,080 --> 00:49:59,040
Speaker 4: It's communicating what you need from your partner, and I

1134
00:49:59,120 --> 00:50:01,279
Speaker 4: think that's great, and what if he's not able to

1135
00:50:01,320 --> 00:50:02,040
Speaker 4: deliver it though?

1136
00:50:02,719 --> 00:50:05,799
Speaker 6: Right And there have been times recently where he has

1137
00:50:05,920 --> 00:50:08,600
Speaker 6: been so stressed out with being on the job market

1138
00:50:08,600 --> 00:50:11,439
Speaker 6: and everything where he has been like, I'm not really

1139
00:50:11,480 --> 00:50:13,799
Speaker 6: in the mood to be really affectionate right now. I'll

1140
00:50:13,840 --> 00:50:16,279
Speaker 6: spend time with you and we'll have dinner together, but

1141
00:50:16,880 --> 00:50:18,640
Speaker 6: I'm not going to be as loving as you want

1142
00:50:18,680 --> 00:50:21,359
Speaker 6: me to be right now. And I think as long

1143
00:50:21,400 --> 00:50:24,080
Speaker 6: as that's communicated, I'm okay with that. But it is

1144
00:50:24,200 --> 00:50:26,520
Speaker 6: still kind of hard to be like, well, what if

1145
00:50:27,120 --> 00:50:29,000
Speaker 6: what if there is a perfect person where he would

1146
00:50:29,040 --> 00:50:31,160
Speaker 6: act this way towards Well.

1147
00:50:31,080 --> 00:50:34,040
Speaker 5: First of all, there's no perfect person, Like there's no

1148
00:50:34,640 --> 00:50:36,960
Speaker 5: one that's going to do all the love languages, and

1149
00:50:37,080 --> 00:50:40,200
Speaker 5: that's perfect. But at the same time, if you're communicating

1150
00:50:40,280 --> 00:50:42,600
Speaker 5: what you need to him and he's not able to

1151
00:50:42,719 --> 00:50:45,960
Speaker 5: give that to you. You're young. You can't spend the

1152
00:50:46,000 --> 00:50:49,160
Speaker 5: rest of your life feeling like you need something else.

1153
00:50:49,760 --> 00:50:52,799
Speaker 5: So I think if there's that hole, and I felt

1154
00:50:52,880 --> 00:50:56,080
Speaker 5: it before myself, if you're not if you have needs

1155
00:50:56,120 --> 00:50:59,000
Speaker 5: that aren't being met and that's just the character of

1156
00:50:59,120 --> 00:51:01,800
Speaker 5: the person that you're with, then it's just a mismatch,

1157
00:51:02,120 --> 00:51:05,000
Speaker 5: you know. And again, you're really young. It's fine to

1158
00:51:05,800 --> 00:51:08,800
Speaker 5: move on and start over. But if you live a

1159
00:51:08,920 --> 00:51:10,840
Speaker 5: hole and it's not being filled, that's never going to

1160
00:51:10,880 --> 00:51:13,520
Speaker 5: get filled. You're never going to change someone. If they

1161
00:51:13,680 --> 00:51:17,319
Speaker 5: can't do what you're needing them to do, then it's

1162
00:51:17,440 --> 00:51:18,239
Speaker 5: just not going to work.

1163
00:51:18,800 --> 00:51:21,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like I want to say, I am a little

1164
00:51:21,840 --> 00:51:25,359
Speaker 2: bit like I think your boyfriend and I have been

1165
00:51:25,400 --> 00:51:27,840
Speaker 2: in relationships with people who have been very needy of

1166
00:51:27,920 --> 00:51:31,759
Speaker 2: affection and time and like lots of cuddling and.

1167
00:51:31,840 --> 00:51:34,600
Speaker 1: Kissing, and I can give only so much.

1168
00:51:34,880 --> 00:51:37,239
Speaker 2: Like it's not a reflection of how I feel about them,

1169
00:51:37,680 --> 00:51:40,719
Speaker 2: it's a reflection of like, I'm very comfortable in my

1170
00:51:40,840 --> 00:51:43,480
Speaker 2: own space and in my own skin, and when I'm

1171
00:51:43,560 --> 00:51:45,360
Speaker 2: needed like that, you know, if I wanted to be

1172
00:51:45,440 --> 00:51:48,160
Speaker 2: needed like that, I would have become a mother, Like,

1173
00:51:48,280 --> 00:51:51,120
Speaker 2: I don't like when I feel needed, so I can

1174
00:51:51,239 --> 00:51:53,440
Speaker 2: kind of relate to you know, it's just a different

1175
00:51:53,560 --> 00:51:56,759
Speaker 2: set of importance around you, like what I value. I

1176
00:51:56,800 --> 00:51:58,520
Speaker 2: also don't like gifts, like I don't care if I

1177
00:51:58,560 --> 00:52:00,600
Speaker 2: ever get a gift in the world. Ya, it doesn't

1178
00:52:00,640 --> 00:52:03,240
Speaker 2: matter to me. Those things don't matter. So I'm about

1179
00:52:03,320 --> 00:52:05,520
Speaker 2: like I like time spent. That's how I spend time

1180
00:52:05,560 --> 00:52:08,200
Speaker 2: with my friends, my family, everyone I love. Is about

1181
00:52:08,280 --> 00:52:11,640
Speaker 2: quality time. So I think, you know, there's two sides

1182
00:52:11,680 --> 00:52:14,040
Speaker 2: of this argument. I think you are really young and

1183
00:52:14,640 --> 00:52:17,480
Speaker 2: twenty four years old. I really think you probably are

1184
00:52:17,520 --> 00:52:19,719
Speaker 2: going to want some more experiences in your life, like

1185
00:52:20,040 --> 00:52:22,160
Speaker 2: as you I know that's probably not how you're feeling

1186
00:52:22,239 --> 00:52:24,319
Speaker 2: right now, but it's really the truth of the matter.

1187
00:52:24,440 --> 00:52:26,919
Speaker 2: From three women who are older than you, You're gonna

1188
00:52:26,960 --> 00:52:29,640
Speaker 2: want a little bit more experience. It's like she's not

1189
00:52:29,680 --> 00:52:31,120
Speaker 2: getting what she needs, so she has to ask what

1190
00:52:31,239 --> 00:52:33,200
Speaker 2: she needs. Also, you have to respect that this person

1191
00:52:33,320 --> 00:52:35,520
Speaker 2: isn't built like you. You don't have the same brain,

1192
00:52:35,880 --> 00:52:37,880
Speaker 2: you don't have the same likes, dislikes, all of that.

1193
00:52:38,440 --> 00:52:40,400
Speaker 2: So I think it's somewhere in the middle. You know,

1194
00:52:40,520 --> 00:52:42,879
Speaker 2: you have to kind of figure out, like what's make

1195
00:52:42,960 --> 00:52:44,880
Speaker 2: or break? How often do you need a hug? And

1196
00:52:44,960 --> 00:52:47,480
Speaker 2: if you do really need that all the time, then

1197
00:52:47,520 --> 00:52:49,120
Speaker 2: you should find someone who's going to give it to you.

1198
00:52:50,200 --> 00:52:52,320
Speaker 6: Right, And back to the point where I said, he

1199
00:52:52,520 --> 00:52:54,920
Speaker 6: was saying that he used to be like really loving

1200
00:52:55,120 --> 00:52:59,320
Speaker 6: in relationships. That was also back in high school. So

1201
00:52:59,400 --> 00:53:01,720
Speaker 6: I don't know if that's like a fair comparison because

1202
00:53:01,719 --> 00:53:03,680
Speaker 6: he was saying, Oh, I was getting all this advice

1203
00:53:03,840 --> 00:53:07,520
Speaker 6: from girls to text my girlfriend I love you every

1204
00:53:07,600 --> 00:53:11,839
Speaker 6: day and good night gorgeous, and he obviously figured out

1205
00:53:11,840 --> 00:53:13,560
Speaker 6: that's not what you're supposed to do. So I don't

1206
00:53:13,640 --> 00:53:16,560
Speaker 6: know if it's really like trauma why he's closed off,

1207
00:53:16,680 --> 00:53:20,319
Speaker 6: or it's just him growing up. But I do think

1208
00:53:20,840 --> 00:53:23,840
Speaker 6: it would be good for him to kind of go

1209
00:53:24,000 --> 00:53:27,360
Speaker 6: to a therapist and explore that, because I don't know

1210
00:53:27,400 --> 00:53:28,680
Speaker 6: if he's really explored that.

1211
00:53:29,200 --> 00:53:30,960
Speaker 4: She meant that he also had a loss of someone

1212
00:53:31,040 --> 00:53:32,160
Speaker 4: close to him as well.

1213
00:53:32,880 --> 00:53:35,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean that could be it. I mean, but

1214
00:53:35,440 --> 00:53:36,840
Speaker 1: you know, is he going to go to therapy? Is

1215
00:53:36,880 --> 00:53:38,560
Speaker 1: he open to that? Like, have you discussed that?

1216
00:53:39,360 --> 00:53:44,320
Speaker 6: I have discussed that he thinks that he is generally okay,

1217
00:53:44,640 --> 00:53:47,120
Speaker 6: and he's like the strong one for all the other

1218
00:53:47,200 --> 00:53:49,640
Speaker 6: people in his life, and that he would be open

1219
00:53:49,719 --> 00:53:52,800
Speaker 6: to therapy if something bad happened or something traumatic happened.

1220
00:53:53,239 --> 00:53:56,120
Speaker 6: But I'm of the belief that anyone could use therapy

1221
00:53:56,239 --> 00:53:58,960
Speaker 6: y at all times. So I don't know if you

1222
00:53:59,040 --> 00:54:02,040
Speaker 6: can really convince someone of going to therapy without them

1223
00:54:02,160 --> 00:54:03,000
Speaker 6: feeling they need.

1224
00:54:02,960 --> 00:54:05,759
Speaker 2: To No, and there's no point, like, there's no point

1225
00:54:05,800 --> 00:54:07,520
Speaker 2: in forcing somebody to go to therapy. It has to

1226
00:54:07,560 --> 00:54:09,520
Speaker 2: be their idea, otherwise they're not going to absorb anything

1227
00:54:09,560 --> 00:54:10,279
Speaker 2: that they're going there for.

1228
00:54:11,320 --> 00:54:11,480
Speaker 3: Right.

1229
00:54:11,719 --> 00:54:14,400
Speaker 6: I almost thought about, you know, now that we're getting

1230
00:54:14,440 --> 00:54:16,880
Speaker 6: super serious, I am going to be moving to a

1231
00:54:16,920 --> 00:54:19,520
Speaker 6: whole different state with him. We've been together for four

1232
00:54:19,640 --> 00:54:22,960
Speaker 6: years and so now it's like finally becoming real, Like I,

1233
00:54:23,480 --> 00:54:25,480
Speaker 6: if I do this move with him, next step in

1234
00:54:25,600 --> 00:54:29,600
Speaker 6: a few years is maybe getting engaged. And I was thinking, well,

1235
00:54:29,680 --> 00:54:32,600
Speaker 6: maybe I should say, like, if I'm going to get

1236
00:54:32,680 --> 00:54:34,840
Speaker 6: married to you, I want you to be open to therapy.

1237
00:54:35,040 --> 00:54:37,400
Speaker 6: But I don't know if that's a fair ultimatum.

1238
00:54:37,719 --> 00:54:39,520
Speaker 2: I think that's fair. I mean, we live in twenty

1239
00:54:39,600 --> 00:54:41,880
Speaker 2: twenty three or sometimes twenty twenty four, you know.

1240
00:54:42,640 --> 00:54:43,600
Speaker 1: Have you tried golfing.

1241
00:54:45,080 --> 00:54:46,719
Speaker 6: He actually used to be on the golf team.

1242
00:54:47,120 --> 00:54:49,080
Speaker 2: Oh okay, well he's tried it. We just had a

1243
00:54:49,120 --> 00:54:52,680
Speaker 2: golfer Collein. So there's some similarities here. Well not very

1244
00:54:52,760 --> 00:54:55,120
Speaker 2: many actually, but I just thought golfing was something that

1245
00:54:55,200 --> 00:54:57,279
Speaker 2: I should bring up again as far as.

1246
00:54:57,200 --> 00:54:57,879
Speaker 1: The therapy goes.

1247
00:54:57,960 --> 00:55:01,560
Speaker 4: Maybe it's you two going together. Maybe there's something there.

1248
00:55:01,600 --> 00:55:03,080
Speaker 4: Maybe it's not just like you have to go.

1249
00:55:03,520 --> 00:55:05,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's good to get a third person involved in

1250
00:55:05,400 --> 00:55:07,319
Speaker 2: this because I don't want to qualify you as needy

1251
00:55:07,400 --> 00:55:09,440
Speaker 2: because you're saying what you want, which is good, but

1252
00:55:09,640 --> 00:55:12,359
Speaker 2: you might be coming across as needy and that might

1253
00:55:12,400 --> 00:55:14,320
Speaker 2: be rubbing him the wrong way and then you're creating

1254
00:55:14,480 --> 00:55:15,200
Speaker 2: like a chasm.

1255
00:55:15,600 --> 00:55:16,480
Speaker 1: So it's like if he.

1256
00:55:16,480 --> 00:55:18,560
Speaker 2: Could modify his behavior a little bit and you could

1257
00:55:18,600 --> 00:55:21,040
Speaker 2: modify yours and meet in the middle, which would be

1258
00:55:21,160 --> 00:55:24,040
Speaker 2: like what would happen in therapy ideally is somebody saying, Okay,

1259
00:55:24,120 --> 00:55:26,320
Speaker 2: this is you got to compromise. Then I feel like

1260
00:55:26,400 --> 00:55:29,960
Speaker 2: you would have more of a like workable dynamic instead

1261
00:55:30,000 --> 00:55:32,960
Speaker 2: of you feeling ignored or slighted.

1262
00:55:33,160 --> 00:55:33,320
Speaker 5: You know.

1263
00:55:33,920 --> 00:55:35,840
Speaker 2: I feel like that might be a good option for

1264
00:55:35,960 --> 00:55:38,759
Speaker 2: you to bring up. Yeah, especially since you're moving. That's

1265
00:55:38,800 --> 00:55:41,520
Speaker 2: a perfect excuse. We're moving to a new state. We've

1266
00:55:41,560 --> 00:55:43,680
Speaker 2: never lived here before. There's gonna be lots of pressure,

1267
00:55:43,719 --> 00:55:46,560
Speaker 2: there's gonna be lots of opportunity. I want to stay grounded,

1268
00:55:46,800 --> 00:55:48,520
Speaker 2: and I would love to have like a wad for

1269
00:55:48,680 --> 00:55:51,600
Speaker 2: us to just make sure we're always ahead of our problems.

1270
00:55:52,000 --> 00:55:54,120
Speaker 2: You know, therapy is great when you're going through something,

1271
00:55:54,160 --> 00:55:55,200
Speaker 2: but it's even better when.

1272
00:55:55,080 --> 00:55:56,680
Speaker 1: You have the tools before you go through that.

1273
00:55:57,080 --> 00:55:59,560
Speaker 2: So hang your hat on that and make it couch

1274
00:55:59,640 --> 00:56:01,640
Speaker 2: it in that, and then when you get in there

1275
00:56:01,760 --> 00:56:03,000
Speaker 2: you can get into these issues.

1276
00:56:03,600 --> 00:56:05,840
Speaker 5: That's actually really you're so smart, Chelsea.

1277
00:56:06,239 --> 00:56:08,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think so too. Right in this moment, I

1278
00:56:08,239 --> 00:56:09,800
Speaker 2: was like, Wow, why didn't you think of that earlier?

1279
00:56:09,840 --> 00:56:11,880
Speaker 1: Brilliant O. Great problem solved.

1280
00:56:12,320 --> 00:56:15,839
Speaker 4: Awesome. Well, Lana, let us know how it goes. Let

1281
00:56:15,920 --> 00:56:17,200
Speaker 4: us know how the move goes as well.

1282
00:56:17,960 --> 00:56:20,759
Speaker 6: Yeah, we'll do. I really like your idea, Chelsea, because

1283
00:56:20,800 --> 00:56:23,160
Speaker 6: we're also going to be living together for the first time,

1284
00:56:23,360 --> 00:56:25,479
Speaker 6: so that's also ourwines.

1285
00:56:25,840 --> 00:56:26,040
Speaker 5: Yeah.

1286
00:56:26,280 --> 00:56:28,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you don't want to screw this up. You

1287
00:56:28,480 --> 00:56:31,360
Speaker 1: want to succeed. Blah blah blah blah. Let's go to therapy.

1288
00:56:32,200 --> 00:56:32,960
Speaker 6: Right, for sure.

1289
00:56:33,120 --> 00:56:33,960
Speaker 3: I like that idea.

1290
00:56:34,160 --> 00:56:35,560
Speaker 5: Well, thanks so much for your suggestion.

1291
00:56:36,000 --> 00:56:38,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, absolutely awesome.

1292
00:56:38,920 --> 00:56:40,080
Speaker 5: Well you know how it goes.

1293
00:56:40,320 --> 00:56:45,160
Speaker 1: Okay, take Carolta, good luck, she's a baby.

1294
00:56:46,080 --> 00:56:48,160
Speaker 2: I know I wanted to go break up with him, like, fucking,

1295
00:56:48,200 --> 00:56:50,360
Speaker 2: it's your twenty four you need to find a new boyfriend.

1296
00:56:50,640 --> 00:56:52,879
Speaker 4: I want to be like we all felt so needy

1297
00:56:52,920 --> 00:56:53,920
Speaker 4: at twenty four, like.

1298
00:56:54,080 --> 00:56:56,440
Speaker 5: Mabe, I know, I know IM married at twenty two.

1299
00:56:57,239 --> 00:56:58,960
Speaker 1: Shit, I always forget you were married.

1300
00:56:59,080 --> 00:57:01,480
Speaker 5: It's so weird, you know, we don't even talk about it.

1301
00:57:01,600 --> 00:57:04,920
Speaker 5: But yeah, I always want to say whenever anyone in

1302
00:57:05,040 --> 00:57:07,200
Speaker 5: their twenties ask me for advice, I'm like, whatever, you

1303
00:57:07,480 --> 00:57:09,000
Speaker 5: just don't get married, don't.

1304
00:57:09,160 --> 00:57:11,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly, I mean twenty four years so needy. I

1305
00:57:12,000 --> 00:57:14,000
Speaker 2: used to I had a boyfriend. I remember who I

1306
00:57:14,080 --> 00:57:15,800
Speaker 2: was talking to over this weekend, actually because he was

1307
00:57:15,840 --> 00:57:17,520
Speaker 2: texting me, and I used to beg him like I

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00:57:17,560 --> 00:57:19,120
Speaker 2: would be like I wanted to sleep at his house

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Speaker 2: every night. He lived up the street from me in

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Speaker 2: Santa Monica, and I would go over there every night.

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Speaker 2: And I remember once he was like, hey, do you

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Speaker 2: have to sleep over every single night? And I was

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00:57:27,680 --> 00:57:29,840
Speaker 2: like yeah, I'm your girlfriend obviously.

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Speaker 5: You know.

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Speaker 1: Now as I'm sitting here.

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Speaker 2: As a forty eight year old woman, I'm like, oh,

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00:57:35,120 --> 00:57:38,200
Speaker 2: how annoying you know to not be able to.

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Speaker 1: Go, Oh, sure you need space, let me.

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Speaker 2: I won't sleep over a few nights a week that

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Speaker 2: if you know, when somebody asks you for space, you

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00:57:44,360 --> 00:57:46,840
Speaker 2: have to fucking respect that and give them double like

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00:57:47,440 --> 00:57:50,520
Speaker 2: let them have their space. So yeah, I think there's

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Speaker 2: a there's a neediness that comes in your twenties. You

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00:57:53,040 --> 00:57:55,360
Speaker 2: really want this fairy tale that you think is going

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Speaker 2: to happen.

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Speaker 5: There is no fairy tale.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like going to the Eiffel Tower.

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00:57:59,160 --> 00:58:01,000
Speaker 2: I went with my boyfriend and when I was twenty

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00:58:01,040 --> 00:58:03,560
Speaker 2: one to Paris, and I just had this vision of

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00:58:03,680 --> 00:58:05,720
Speaker 2: like what our trip was going to be like. And

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00:58:05,800 --> 00:58:09,040
Speaker 2: he was British and I was still American and I

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00:58:09,160 --> 00:58:11,360
Speaker 2: was twenty one and he was thirty four. And we

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00:58:11,480 --> 00:58:13,600
Speaker 2: went to London and we stayed in a hotel room

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00:58:13,640 --> 00:58:17,040
Speaker 2: and the bathroom was inside the bedroom. There was no

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Speaker 2: separate bathroom.

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Speaker 1: And I was like, this is not how I yeah. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: we didn't speak the entire trip to Paris.

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Speaker 2: There were pictures of me alone at the Eiffel Tower

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00:58:28,720 --> 00:58:30,640
Speaker 2: and him alone at the Eiffel Tower and the Louver

1340
00:58:31,000 --> 00:58:33,320
Speaker 2: and every other thing that you saw, and the Champs

1341
00:58:33,320 --> 00:58:36,200
Speaker 2: de Les because Princess di had just died there, and

1342
00:58:36,280 --> 00:58:39,680
Speaker 2: the Plaza Athonite just us not speaking because I was

1343
00:58:39,920 --> 00:58:43,720
Speaker 2: so disappointed in this fantasy that I had created in

1344
00:58:43,840 --> 00:58:46,200
Speaker 2: my mind that had never shown proof of life.

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00:58:46,680 --> 00:58:49,600
Speaker 5: You know what I mean, It's just proof of life.

1346
00:58:49,760 --> 00:58:52,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, there's no I mean, we just were not as fantastical.

1347
00:58:52,680 --> 00:58:53,760
Speaker 2: When we're older, we get it.

1348
00:58:54,360 --> 00:58:55,960
Speaker 5: Yeah, just more real.

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00:58:56,360 --> 00:58:57,600
Speaker 4: We've been disappointed enough.

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00:58:58,040 --> 00:58:59,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, exactly.

1351
00:59:00,200 --> 00:59:02,400
Speaker 1: A quick break and we'll be back to wrap.

1352
00:59:07,080 --> 00:59:09,840
Speaker 2: And we're back with Lindsay, Vaughn and Catherine to wrap

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00:59:09,960 --> 00:59:14,320
Speaker 2: up today's episode, which was good. This was a great episode. Yeah,

1354
00:59:15,200 --> 00:59:17,680
Speaker 2: you gave good advice, Lindsay gave good advice. Lindsay, you

1355
00:59:17,760 --> 00:59:20,640
Speaker 2: look fucking beautiful, by the way, ridiculous. I was just

1356
00:59:20,720 --> 00:59:25,560
Speaker 2: sitting there looking at you, going, wow, you're looking real gooding.

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00:59:25,960 --> 00:59:30,280
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, this, this lovely hotel is really making me

1358
00:59:30,400 --> 00:59:31,040
Speaker 5: glow over here.

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00:59:31,080 --> 00:59:35,360
Speaker 2: All Orlando hotels are beautiful, so pretty well, Lindsay, is

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00:59:35,400 --> 00:59:37,120
Speaker 2: there any advice you'd like from Chelsea?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Do you want any skiing advice for me, lindsay, yes,

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00:59:40,880 --> 00:59:41,600
Speaker 1: how do you ski?

1364
00:59:41,800 --> 00:59:45,200
Speaker 5: So damn well? Chelsea? In your bikini? I've always wanted,

1365
00:59:46,160 --> 00:59:48,640
Speaker 5: how do you like not freeze your tits off?

1366
00:59:48,800 --> 00:59:48,840
Speaker 3: Like?

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00:59:48,960 --> 00:59:51,560
Speaker 5: That's what I want to know, because I can't even

1368
00:59:51,640 --> 00:59:55,320
Speaker 5: handle being in my ski clothes, let alone like basically naked.

1369
00:59:55,680 --> 00:59:58,080
Speaker 5: But that's not my question. That was just something I'm

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00:59:58,160 --> 01:00:01,600
Speaker 5: curious about. But my actual ques es is how do

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01:00:01,600 --> 01:00:04,640
Speaker 5: you Cause you love skiing and obviously I love skiing,

1372
01:00:04,960 --> 01:00:08,400
Speaker 5: but you work so hard? How do you manage both things?

1373
01:00:08,480 --> 01:00:10,920
Speaker 5: Like how do you manage getting time to do what

1374
01:00:11,000 --> 01:00:13,440
Speaker 5: you love? And how do you manage being a boss?

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01:00:14,080 --> 01:00:16,000
Speaker 2: I just I'm like, listen, if I don't get to

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01:00:16,080 --> 01:00:19,120
Speaker 2: ski for a good solid two months a year, then

1377
01:00:19,240 --> 01:00:21,120
Speaker 2: I'm not worth anything the rest of the year. So

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01:00:21,200 --> 01:00:23,920
Speaker 2: I will work all summer long, I'll tour and I'll

1379
01:00:24,000 --> 01:00:26,520
Speaker 2: do that stuff, and then I have to have my

1380
01:00:26,640 --> 01:00:29,280
Speaker 2: time to ski because it's just so important for me.

1381
01:00:29,440 --> 01:00:32,640
Speaker 2: It's my only real passion besides what I do and

1382
01:00:32,760 --> 01:00:35,520
Speaker 2: reading books and stuff like, I love skiing. You know,

1383
01:00:35,600 --> 01:00:37,160
Speaker 2: the way you talk about it is the way I

1384
01:00:37,240 --> 01:00:39,080
Speaker 2: feel about it. I always want to be on the mountain.

1385
01:00:39,200 --> 01:00:41,200
Speaker 2: I always want to get up, and I mean, my

1386
01:00:41,280 --> 01:00:43,640
Speaker 2: friends call it like they're just like, you're so ridiculous.

1387
01:00:43,760 --> 01:00:46,520
Speaker 2: Like I'm outside my door waiting for them to come

1388
01:00:46,560 --> 01:00:48,400
Speaker 2: get me before we go to the and I've got

1389
01:00:48,440 --> 01:00:51,120
Speaker 2: my outfit on, like I've got everything ready, my gloves,

1390
01:00:51,200 --> 01:00:53,680
Speaker 2: my skis, and my phone, and I'm just sitting there

1391
01:00:53,720 --> 01:00:55,760
Speaker 2: waiting at the ski lift. Like at the you know,

1392
01:00:55,960 --> 01:00:58,160
Speaker 2: we walk to the little run and I'm just like

1393
01:00:58,240 --> 01:01:00,560
Speaker 2: an eager beaver, and they're like, you're just so excited.

1394
01:01:00,600 --> 01:01:02,040
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, I like to go out.

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01:01:01,880 --> 01:01:03,720
Speaker 2: At eight thirty and get like three or four runs

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01:01:03,720 --> 01:01:06,240
Speaker 2: before anyone else comes out, and then I like to

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01:01:06,280 --> 01:01:09,200
Speaker 2: ski with my friends. But I feel like we talked

1398
01:01:09,200 --> 01:01:12,760
Speaker 2: about this earlier or the other episode, you know. I

1399
01:01:12,840 --> 01:01:14,800
Speaker 2: think for when you're in the public eye and the

1400
01:01:14,840 --> 01:01:17,200
Speaker 2: way that we both are, there's so much attention on you,

1401
01:01:17,280 --> 01:01:19,840
Speaker 2: and your life is so much about you, and you're

1402
01:01:19,880 --> 01:01:23,800
Speaker 2: so self involved that it's so necessary to actually have

1403
01:01:23,920 --> 01:01:27,680
Speaker 2: other interests that don't require it being about you. So

1404
01:01:28,000 --> 01:01:30,240
Speaker 2: for you, it would probably be something other than skiing

1405
01:01:30,840 --> 01:01:33,240
Speaker 2: to do that doesn't remind you of the main.

1406
01:01:33,440 --> 01:01:34,439
Speaker 1: Event in your life.

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01:01:35,480 --> 01:01:37,680
Speaker 2: And I always make sure that I take myself out

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01:01:37,680 --> 01:01:39,480
Speaker 2: of my comfort zone, and I'm trying different things so

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01:01:39,560 --> 01:01:43,080
Speaker 2: that I remain normal, like a human being that's constantly

1410
01:01:43,120 --> 01:01:46,080
Speaker 2: growing and evolving and not just spinning around in this

1411
01:01:46,240 --> 01:01:48,440
Speaker 2: little hubris that is our lives.

1412
01:01:49,600 --> 01:01:52,200
Speaker 5: Yeah, okay, that's a good point. I mean, I played tennis.

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01:01:52,240 --> 01:01:52,960
Speaker 5: I love tennis.

1414
01:01:53,240 --> 01:01:53,960
Speaker 1: What about golf?

1415
01:01:54,040 --> 01:01:57,040
Speaker 2: Have you thought about golfing? I think you should take

1416
01:01:57,120 --> 01:01:59,000
Speaker 2: up golf. That feels like the missing hole.

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01:02:01,200 --> 01:02:03,920
Speaker 1: So many puns in that, so many, so many puns.

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01:02:04,800 --> 01:02:07,080
Speaker 5: How do you also manage to change the subjects? How

1419
01:02:07,120 --> 01:02:09,760
Speaker 5: do you also manage being away from your dogs?

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01:02:10,680 --> 01:02:13,480
Speaker 1: Well, I mean that's just out of good parenting.

1421
01:02:13,920 --> 01:02:16,480
Speaker 2: It's better that they're not with me in Whistler because

1422
01:02:16,520 --> 01:02:18,440
Speaker 2: they like to be at home in LA where they

1423
01:02:18,480 --> 01:02:20,640
Speaker 2: can go in and out of the house. They just

1424
01:02:20,760 --> 01:02:23,080
Speaker 2: prefer that, and I took them to Whistler and they're

1425
01:02:23,160 --> 01:02:25,480
Speaker 2: just too old for that. So the next round of

1426
01:02:25,560 --> 01:02:28,520
Speaker 2: dogs I get, I will make sure they're younger and

1427
01:02:28,560 --> 01:02:30,680
Speaker 2: they're more adept, and then I will bring them to Whistler.

1428
01:02:30,840 --> 01:02:32,920
Speaker 2: But I'm just trying not to torture them because last

1429
01:02:32,960 --> 01:02:34,720
Speaker 2: time I brought them they were like, what is snow?

1430
01:02:35,360 --> 01:02:38,680
Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure they're from Mexico, because everything is pointing

1431
01:02:38,760 --> 01:02:41,800
Speaker 2: to that. They only understand my bell and they like hot,

1432
01:02:42,000 --> 01:02:44,800
Speaker 2: warm weather, so I think that they're Yeah, I think

1433
01:02:44,840 --> 01:02:45,640
Speaker 2: they're from South.

1434
01:02:45,480 --> 01:02:48,360
Speaker 4: America and one of these mountain dogs that like just

1435
01:02:48,400 --> 01:02:51,040
Speaker 4: wants to live in the snow. Maybe it needs like I.

1436
01:02:51,120 --> 01:02:52,960
Speaker 2: Need a part time dog for the winter, and then

1437
01:02:53,000 --> 01:02:54,680
Speaker 2: I need a dog for summer. That's what I need

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01:02:54,760 --> 01:02:57,400
Speaker 2: to do to split my time up. Thank you Lindsey

1439
01:02:57,520 --> 01:02:59,560
Speaker 2: for taking the time to do this. I really appreciate it,

1440
01:02:59,640 --> 01:03:01,920
Speaker 2: and you know I love you and I hope you

1441
01:03:02,000 --> 01:03:04,040
Speaker 2: have a great rest of your day in Orlando. I

1442
01:03:04,080 --> 01:03:05,959
Speaker 2: think it's going to really be falls to the wall.

1443
01:03:06,760 --> 01:03:09,160
Speaker 5: I mean, well, maybe I hit of Disneyland while I'm

1444
01:03:09,200 --> 01:03:09,440
Speaker 5: at it.

1445
01:03:09,720 --> 01:03:12,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, nothing better than an adults going to Disneyland with

1446
01:03:12,280 --> 01:03:14,200
Speaker 2: no children exactly.

1447
01:03:14,480 --> 01:03:16,880
Speaker 5: Not creepy at all. Well, thank you, I love you,

1448
01:03:17,120 --> 01:03:18,960
Speaker 5: and I appreciate you having me on.

1449
01:03:19,320 --> 01:03:20,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you so much.

1450
01:03:20,400 --> 01:03:25,320
Speaker 2: We'll speak soon, lindcybye bye, and don't forget everybody. My

1451
01:03:25,440 --> 01:03:30,040
Speaker 2: new special Revolution is now streaming on Netflix and it's badass.

1452
01:03:30,640 --> 01:03:32,640
Speaker 2: And then I'm doing a tour a little Big Bitch store.

1453
01:03:33,000 --> 01:03:35,040
Speaker 2: Go to Chelsea Hamma dot com for tickets. I've added

1454
01:03:35,080 --> 01:03:37,520
Speaker 2: some new dates. I added a date in Monticello, New York.

1455
01:03:37,920 --> 01:03:40,760
Speaker 2: I'm coming to Colorado to Red Rocks, you have thetheater.

1456
01:03:41,320 --> 01:03:43,320
Speaker 2: I'm coming to calum the Zoo, and then I'm coming

1457
01:03:43,360 --> 01:03:47,080
Speaker 2: to a bunch of places in Tennessee, Memphis, Knoxville, and Chattanooga.

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Speaker 1: That's May nineteenth, twentieth, and twenty first, and.

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01:03:50,280 --> 01:03:52,120
Speaker 2: Then I'll be in Atlantic City June tenth, which is

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01:03:52,160 --> 01:03:53,680
Speaker 2: almost stilled out, so get your tickets.

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01:03:54,520 --> 01:03:54,960
Speaker 3: If you'd like.

1462
01:03:54,960 --> 01:03:57,800
Speaker 4: Advice from Chelsea, shoot us an email at Dear Chelsea

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01:03:57,960 --> 01:04:00,480
Speaker 4: podcast at gmail dot com and sure to include your

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01:04:00,520 --> 01:04:04,000
Speaker 4: phone number. Dear Chelsea is edited and engineered by Brad

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01:04:04,080 --> 01:04:07,200
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