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Speaker 1: why now, why am I so craving his message? If

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Speaker 1: it's a God thing and his timing, I could accept

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Speaker 1: and roll with it. Thanks and God blessed Tim. So

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Speaker 1: this is this kind of goes to your first thing

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Speaker 1: you said in the first break about let's get a

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Speaker 1: let's get someone that says what the podcast has done. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so Tim, awesome, Tim bro. What you're feeling is absolutely

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Speaker 1: normal and absolutely a necessity in your walk right now.

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Speaker 1: And this is an interesting thing that Bernie I can

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Speaker 1: talk about. We talk about it a lot together off camera.

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Speaker 1: We could talk about what's happening to you, and it's

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Speaker 1: called a rebirth. And this is the danger that I

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00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:23,120
Speaker 1: should bring up. This is the danger of American Christianity

439
00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:28,960
Speaker 1: growing up in church, confession of faith, baptized, the whole bit,

440
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Speaker 1: those are your words, and there's a false sense of

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Speaker 1: security of salvation in that. So tons of people, tons

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Speaker 1: of people grew up in church in America. They gave

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Speaker 1: the confession of faith in church, whether it was in

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Speaker 1: confirmation class or with a pastor, or at an altar call,

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Speaker 1: or with an elder or in a small group. They

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Speaker 1: were baptized, and that could have all happened in the

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Speaker 1: baptism as well. And then you walk away and you

448
00:26:00,400 --> 00:26:03,560
Speaker 1: think I'm good. I have a false sense of security,

449
00:26:04,240 --> 00:26:07,880
Speaker 1: and yeah, I accept Jesus. I call this dog tag

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Speaker 1: Christianity because in World War Two, when when they made

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Speaker 1: the dog tags, they would ask for your religion, so

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Speaker 1: that if you died, they would they knew what kind

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Speaker 1: of priest to bring to your funeral. And so it

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Speaker 1: said Christian on your dog tag, and so much of us,

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Speaker 1: so many of us walk around with dog tags that

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Speaker 1: say Christian. But we don't really live anything more than that.

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Speaker 1: We don't have a craving at all. And when you

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Speaker 1: are saved, truly, when you're reborn, which is all God.

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Speaker 1: Salvation is all a force from God, not us. We

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Speaker 1: can respond to it, and that is the mystery of

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00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:55,880
Speaker 1: salvation includes us responding to the Gospel. It's responding to

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Speaker 1: the call, responding to the choosing, but the active force

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00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:08,159
Speaker 1: that begins this is always God. One of the first

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Speaker 1: things we could see as a result of this sow

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Speaker 1: the true salvation that you're talking about, Tim. One of

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Speaker 1: the first things we see is a craving, a thirst,

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Speaker 1: a hunger for more. We also see a high conviction

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Speaker 1: of sin. So's it's a false representation of Christianity to

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Speaker 1: think that we go on sinless. Jesus says, go sin

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Speaker 1: no more. But we take that to the extreme and

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Speaker 1: think sometimes that Christians don't sin, but we do. But

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Speaker 1: the difference is the ones that are saved have a

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Speaker 1: higher conviction of it. It's like we hate it, we

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Speaker 1: do it, we regret it, we want to repent for it,

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Speaker 1: we want to apologize for it, we want to move on,

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Speaker 1: we don't want to go back to it. And that

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Speaker 1: goes right along. And I guarantee you didn't say it, Tim,

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Speaker 1: but I guarantee you you're also feeling that. That's an

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00:28:00,000 --> 00:28:03,160
Speaker 1: other thing you're feeling right now. And so this craving

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Speaker 1: that you're having, this hunger, this thirst, this when you're

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Speaker 1: away from the body of church of the church and

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00:28:09,880 --> 00:28:12,560
Speaker 1: you want to go back to church and you just

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00:28:12,640 --> 00:28:14,560
Speaker 1: crave it. You it's like Sunday and you're like, I

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Speaker 1: don't care what I got going on, I don't care

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Speaker 1: what NFL team is playing. I gotta go to church.

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Speaker 1: I got to be around other believers. Like you said

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Speaker 1: in your email, I need to read the Word, like

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Speaker 1: I just I got to open this Bible and see

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Speaker 1: what he says, Like what is God saying to me today?

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Speaker 1: So I open it up and I'm like, God, this

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Speaker 1: is the Word of God, and I can't stop until

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Speaker 1: I see where he finishes all. This is a really

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Speaker 1: great sign and it's totally natural. So I would say, welcome. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I think that you've you're growing up sounds very similar

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Speaker 1: to mine. And I'm guessing that you have probably heard

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Speaker 1: a lot of narrative about kind of this dog tag

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00:29:01,720 --> 00:29:04,920
Speaker 1: Christianity or what a Christian is. But then all of

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00:29:04,920 --> 00:29:10,920
Speaker 1: a sudden that paradigm's kind of being flipped around, right,

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00:29:10,960 --> 00:29:12,840
Speaker 1: You're starting to hear some things that are like wait

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00:29:12,920 --> 00:29:16,959
Speaker 1: a second, yeah, and then the spirit's kind of opening

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00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:19,560
Speaker 1: your heart to understand, open your eyes to understand, like

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00:29:20,360 --> 00:29:23,720
Speaker 1: oh okay, there's that those moments where you're like, oh,

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00:29:23,760 --> 00:29:27,800
Speaker 1: my goodness. And so I would just encourage you to

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00:29:27,880 --> 00:29:30,600
Speaker 1: keep digging in. Man, it just gets better and better.

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00:29:30,680 --> 00:29:36,320
Speaker 1: It gets harder and harder and more like it'll stretch you.

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00:29:38,840 --> 00:29:44,720
Speaker 1: I mean, being a disciple of Jesus is one of

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00:29:44,760 --> 00:29:47,480
Speaker 1: the hardest things that you can think of. Being a

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00:29:47,520 --> 00:29:51,920
Speaker 1: dog tag Christian's pretty easy, pretty easy, pretty easy. But

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Speaker 1: giving your life away, like putting yourself behind others, giving

510
00:29:57,720 --> 00:30:04,320
Speaker 1: away your wealth, being generous, being humble, restraint from your

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00:30:04,760 --> 00:30:10,520
Speaker 1: you know, worldly desires like those yeah it's to die

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Speaker 1: is gain? Uh, These things are very very difficult. So

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Speaker 1: I would just encourage you to keep keep pushing in

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Speaker 1: to all the things, whether it's this podcast, your time,

515
00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:30,719
Speaker 1: and the word. You're gonna definitely need some brothers and

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00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:34,640
Speaker 1: some sisters that you can lock arms with, be encouraged by,

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00:30:34,720 --> 00:30:37,000
Speaker 1: and that you can then pour into when they need it,

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00:30:37,040 --> 00:30:40,000
Speaker 1: because we're all human and we need that encouragement. But

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00:30:40,960 --> 00:30:44,959
Speaker 1: I think you've probably heard something in Granger's voice, and

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00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:48,120
Speaker 1: I don't. I love you know, Grizzy's been my friend

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00:30:48,120 --> 00:30:49,720
Speaker 1: for a long time, but I don't think it's him.

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00:30:49,800 --> 00:30:51,560
Speaker 1: I think it's the Holy Spirit that did a work

523
00:30:51,600 --> 00:30:53,840
Speaker 1: in him, and now that's starting to come out and

524
00:30:53,880 --> 00:30:55,840
Speaker 1: people are starting to hear it and be like, man,

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00:30:55,880 --> 00:30:58,480
Speaker 1: what is that. That's a different word than I've heard before,

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Speaker 1: and I gotta go. I got to go read more

527
00:31:01,400 --> 00:31:02,800
Speaker 1: about that. I got to figure out what that is.

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00:31:02,840 --> 00:31:05,080
Speaker 1: And then you're like, oh, I got more of it.

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00:31:05,160 --> 00:31:06,560
Speaker 1: I got more of it. I need more of it.

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00:31:06,600 --> 00:31:09,600
Speaker 1: So it's not him, it's not this podcast, but it's

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Speaker 1: the words that are coming out of it that I think,

532
00:31:13,480 --> 00:31:16,080
Speaker 1: and those words are available every morning to you. So

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Speaker 1: if for all the other tim to you, i'd say

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00:31:20,080 --> 00:31:23,840
Speaker 1: welcome for everyone else that's listening. And if you say

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00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:27,560
Speaker 1: that you're a Christian, but you're thinking to yourself, I

536
00:31:27,600 --> 00:31:31,280
Speaker 1: don't thirst at all. I don't hunger at all, I

537
00:31:31,280 --> 00:31:35,720
Speaker 1: would say gently and lovingly, that's a red flag. I

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00:31:35,720 --> 00:31:39,000
Speaker 1: would say why why are you not? And I would

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00:31:39,040 --> 00:31:42,720
Speaker 1: want to dig into that. Okay. I posted this yesterday

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Speaker 1: on Twitter and it's a revelation twenty one six. It

541
00:31:47,120 --> 00:31:50,560
Speaker 1: says it is done. I am the Alpha and the Omega,

542
00:31:50,640 --> 00:31:52,960
Speaker 1: the beginning and the end to the thirsty. I will

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00:31:53,000 --> 00:31:56,280
Speaker 1: give from the spring of the water of life without payment.

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00:31:57,200 --> 00:32:01,600
Speaker 1: And so I would say, are you thirsty? Why are

545
00:32:01,640 --> 00:32:04,560
Speaker 1: you not thirsty? Because that's the only requirement we have

546
00:32:04,720 --> 00:32:10,760
Speaker 1: in this passage here is to be thirsty. So why

547
00:32:10,800 --> 00:32:14,680
Speaker 1: are you not? Yeah, and if you're not, like you

548
00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:19,880
Speaker 1: need to just desperately pray because God will hear and

549
00:32:19,920 --> 00:32:23,000
Speaker 1: he will respond if we go to him in desperation,

550
00:32:23,640 --> 00:32:25,760
Speaker 1: and maybe you're just in a season where you're not

551
00:32:26,400 --> 00:32:29,000
Speaker 1: feeling that. I think that's what he wants, is us

552
00:32:29,080 --> 00:32:33,080
Speaker 1: to just go to him in prayer and just God,

553
00:32:33,160 --> 00:32:35,480
Speaker 1: I don't feel you. I don't feel this desire, but

554
00:32:35,520 --> 00:32:38,280
Speaker 1: I want it. Where is it? Can you respond? Can

555
00:32:38,320 --> 00:32:43,120
Speaker 1: you respond? And God is always, it seems like in scripture,

556
00:32:44,160 --> 00:32:47,920
Speaker 1: very slow to respond to what we think. It's like

557
00:32:48,160 --> 00:32:50,960
Speaker 1: so long, but then all at once, And so just

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00:32:51,000 --> 00:32:56,320
Speaker 1: be faithful and diligent in that. Absolutely, let's move on here.

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00:32:56,400 --> 00:32:59,840
Speaker 1: Next question says, are we gonna be able to do

560
00:32:59,880 --> 00:33:01,720
Speaker 1: this with the clock tickets? Yeah? You want me to

561
00:33:01,760 --> 00:33:04,400
Speaker 1: give some weird problems going on in the room right now, dude,

562
00:33:04,400 --> 00:33:07,040
Speaker 1: I'll just take it. Hey, well, no, let's try something new. Okay.

563
00:33:07,160 --> 00:33:09,040
Speaker 1: You were going to read the question for the first time, Okay,

564
00:33:09,080 --> 00:33:10,600
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna get rid of this clock that's tiken.

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00:33:10,800 --> 00:33:15,880
Speaker 1: Oh boy, Okay, addiction getting in the way of my

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Speaker 1: relationship with God. Hey Granger, my name is Josh and

567
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Speaker 1: I am eighteen. I have a porn addiction. I have

568
00:33:23,320 --> 00:33:25,480
Speaker 1: tried to quit in the past, but I fall short.

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Speaker 1: Every time I tried to quit. This has been eating

570
00:33:29,160 --> 00:33:33,120
Speaker 1: at me and makes me feel horrible. I've tried praying

571
00:33:33,120 --> 00:33:35,160
Speaker 1: about it and asking God to help me, but nothing

572
00:33:35,240 --> 00:33:38,720
Speaker 1: seems to work, and I always go back. What can

573
00:33:38,760 --> 00:33:41,480
Speaker 1: I do to quit my addiction and grow my relationship

574
00:33:41,600 --> 00:33:46,360
Speaker 1: with God? I love this question because I actually have,

575
00:33:47,080 --> 00:33:51,840
Speaker 1: unlike some other questions, I actually have a some systematic

576
00:33:51,880 --> 00:33:57,040
Speaker 1: things you could do right now. So, first of all, Josh, bro,

577
00:33:57,840 --> 00:34:02,880
Speaker 1: you're not alone, right, not alone? There are so many people,

578
00:34:03,800 --> 00:34:06,120
Speaker 1: most of them that don't admit it, that are dealing

579
00:34:06,200 --> 00:34:12,680
Speaker 1: with this. Okay, So so bro, you I'm so I'm

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00:34:12,719 --> 00:34:16,640
Speaker 1: so happy, I'm so pleased that you had the courage

581
00:34:16,680 --> 00:34:20,000
Speaker 1: to email me about this. And I just want to

582
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Speaker 1: stand with you for a moment in that and just

583
00:34:21,800 --> 00:34:24,880
Speaker 1: say you have a lot of courage to admit this

584
00:34:25,040 --> 00:34:28,200
Speaker 1: and to bring it into light and to stop. You

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00:34:28,200 --> 00:34:29,879
Speaker 1: don't want to walk in the dark anymore. You want

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00:34:29,920 --> 00:34:31,480
Speaker 1: to walk in the light, and you're bringing this to

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00:34:31,560 --> 00:34:36,799
Speaker 1: the light. And luckily I have some I have some

588
00:34:36,800 --> 00:34:40,239
Speaker 1: pretty good systematic things I have for you. And at eighteen,

589
00:34:40,360 --> 00:34:42,560
Speaker 1: let me just say, yeah, like at eighteen, to be

590
00:34:42,640 --> 00:34:46,680
Speaker 1: able to recognize the damage that this can cause in

591
00:34:46,719 --> 00:34:50,040
Speaker 1: your future and to be vulnerable enough to put it

592
00:34:50,080 --> 00:34:52,439
Speaker 1: out there now and say, like, I know, this isn't

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Speaker 1: the life God has for me, and I want something better. Todd,

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00:34:56,400 --> 00:35:01,000
Speaker 1: That's awesome, Josh, good jobs. Absolutely so, Josh, what I'm

595
00:35:01,040 --> 00:35:04,399
Speaker 1: about to tell you is very difficult to do. It's

596
00:35:04,400 --> 00:35:07,440
Speaker 1: easy for me to tell you it's very difficult to do.

597
00:35:07,880 --> 00:35:11,640
Speaker 1: But because of your email, it sounds like you're in

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Speaker 1: a desperate situation where you're willing to do something difficult. Okay,

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00:35:15,840 --> 00:35:20,480
Speaker 1: so I would I would wonder how desperate are you?

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00:35:20,520 --> 00:35:23,200
Speaker 1: Because this is tough. But there is a website called

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Speaker 1: covenantiyes dot com and Pastor Chad told me about this,

602
00:35:27,560 --> 00:35:29,520
Speaker 1: and Pastor Chad has used this with a lot of

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00:35:30,520 --> 00:35:33,799
Speaker 1: different counseling sessions that he's done. So Covenant Eyes and

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00:35:33,840 --> 00:35:35,759
Speaker 1: we talked about this at t forg ME and you

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00:35:36,280 --> 00:35:41,320
Speaker 1: Chad at dinner. Covenant Eyes is a website where you

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00:35:41,320 --> 00:35:44,719
Speaker 1: you inter I'm so sorry, I can still here that

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00:35:44,760 --> 00:35:50,719
Speaker 1: clock that I'll put outside, Okay, so you you enter

608
00:35:51,040 --> 00:35:53,640
Speaker 1: your information from your computer and your phone and your

609
00:35:53,680 --> 00:35:58,279
Speaker 1: iPad and it it recognizes your ip address and then

610
00:35:58,320 --> 00:36:03,440
Speaker 1: it shares it monitor where you go and what you search.

611
00:36:07,640 --> 00:36:09,360
Speaker 1: This is a problem I get. I get a friend

612
00:36:09,360 --> 00:36:11,440
Speaker 1: of mine on the podcast and he starts laughing at me.

613
00:36:11,719 --> 00:36:15,200
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, Josh. The clock that usually sits here that

614
00:36:15,320 --> 00:36:21,040
Speaker 1: tells the time. There's the clock I have on the

615
00:36:21,080 --> 00:36:23,759
Speaker 1: table that I use for this podcast that monitors how

616
00:36:23,800 --> 00:36:27,360
Speaker 1: long I go. It counts up. It's a counter. And

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00:36:27,440 --> 00:36:30,399
Speaker 1: it started first it started flashing, so while we were talking,

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00:36:30,440 --> 00:36:33,799
Speaker 1: it was flashing at us. And so during the break

619
00:36:33,840 --> 00:36:36,239
Speaker 1: I took it outside and like plugged it into the

620
00:36:36,320 --> 00:36:38,080
Speaker 1: charge in a reset and I was like, cool, I'm good.

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Speaker 1: Now it started flashing again. Then it started clicking. Now

622
00:36:41,480 --> 00:36:43,640
Speaker 1: it's actually chiming, and I go to hear it in

623
00:36:43,640 --> 00:36:46,520
Speaker 1: the other room, chiming, all right, we're gonna get it back, Josh.

624
00:36:46,560 --> 00:36:49,320
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. This is a very serious subject. Attacked

625
00:36:49,320 --> 00:36:51,080
Speaker 1: by the enemy. Right now. You know that this is

626
00:36:51,120 --> 00:36:52,880
Speaker 1: an attack by the enemy because it doesn't want me

627
00:36:52,920 --> 00:36:56,640
Speaker 1: to tell Josh this truth Reset Reset Covenant, eyes dot

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00:36:56,680 --> 00:36:59,280
Speaker 1: com or org one of the two google it Coven

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00:36:59,320 --> 00:37:02,960
Speaker 1: and Eyes. It takes your information and it will monitor

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00:37:03,320 --> 00:37:06,880
Speaker 1: your online searching so that whenever you go to a

631
00:37:06,920 --> 00:37:13,759
Speaker 1: porn site, it will send that IP that activity to

632
00:37:14,360 --> 00:37:17,239
Speaker 1: whoever you tell it to send to. So it could

633
00:37:17,239 --> 00:37:21,239
Speaker 1: be your mother. I would suggest putting it as your mom, yes,

634
00:37:21,560 --> 00:37:23,640
Speaker 1: or your dad or both, so your mom will get

635
00:37:23,680 --> 00:37:27,840
Speaker 1: an email that says, Josh visited this website at this

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00:37:28,080 --> 00:37:31,480
Speaker 1: time and there's nothing you could do to stop it

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00:37:31,560 --> 00:37:34,160
Speaker 1: once you sign up. So that's what I say. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So that's when I say this is very difficult because

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Speaker 1: you're going to have to be so strong because when

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Speaker 1: you do it, you don't want to go through that

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Speaker 1: embarrassment of Mom seeing what you just looked at. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but if you're talking about habit correction, like you have

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Speaker 1: to have like extreme consequences or some kind of repercussions

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Speaker 1: or else your habits are just going to go back

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Speaker 1: if it's like, oh, you know, it's sent an email

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Speaker 1: to my buddy who also struggles with the same thing,

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Speaker 1: so we don't even pay attention to it anymore. No,

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Speaker 1: there has to be some rewiring of your brain a

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Speaker 1: little bit, and this can definitely help. So, Bro, Hey, Josh,

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Speaker 1: do me a favor if you have courage, and I

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Speaker 1: think you do because you email me. If you have

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Speaker 1: enough courage to sign up for Covenant Eyes, message me

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Speaker 1: back and just say, hey, man, I did it. I'm

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Speaker 1: signed up because I just want to know that you

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Speaker 1: did it. So I'm going to be over this next

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Speaker 1: week after the podcast comes out. I'm going to be

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Speaker 1: waiting for your email, Joshua Reese. Okay, I want to

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Speaker 1: hear back from you, bro, because I got your back

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Speaker 1: and I think it's so important and I love you, man,

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Speaker 1: and I'm so I'm so pleased that you have the

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Speaker 1: courage to email me. Okay, let's do this together and

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Speaker 1: you and not just Josh, but any dude out there,

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Speaker 1: because this is a very destructive habit and addiction. It's

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Speaker 1: so destructive and there are resources out there to help

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Speaker 1: navigate through it, not just covering eyes, but also like

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Speaker 1: getting connected to a group of godly men that can

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Speaker 1: you help keep you accountable and remind you of the

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Speaker 1: things that God's word, that God's Word says, and also

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Speaker 1: continue to just sit in God's word. Let that be

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Speaker 1: the thing that is going in your eyes and your

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Speaker 1: ears and getting into your mind and going down to

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Speaker 1: your heart like you're almost like trying to flush out

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Speaker 1: that addiction with God's word. Just preaching to yourself all

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Speaker 1: the time, all the time. So anybody out there that

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Speaker 1: is wrestling with this, I definitely recommend what Granger's talking about. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: if you guys have a question for me, Grangersmith Podcast

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Speaker 1: at gmail dot com would love to hear from you.

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Speaker 1: Could be about any subject. As Bernie and I have

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Speaker 1: proved today, we do not cut up this podcast once

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Speaker 1: we start it. We're rolling so bloopers and all you're

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Speaker 1: going to see. I don't even stop the podcast to

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Speaker 1: take the beeping clock out of the room. But I

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Speaker 1: love you guys, I love this platform, and I love

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Speaker 1: this dude burns back at you, man, Thanks for being here.

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Speaker 1: Good to be back all next Monday. Thanks for joining

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Speaker 1: me on the Granger Smith Podcast. I appreciate all of

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Speaker 1: you guys. You could help me out by rating this

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