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Speaker 2: It's never too late to fix something.

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Speaker 3: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and

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Speaker 3: I'm Nila.

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Speaker 4: And it's home day.

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Speaker 3: It's Wednesday, Beaches.

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Speaker 5: Your favorite hoes are on your screen again if you're

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Speaker 5: watching YouTube, but you should be, and if you aren't,

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Speaker 5: I want to encourage you to click the link of

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Speaker 5: there's some hot s bitches in the house.

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Speaker 3: This is a fact. We look cute, We really do.

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Speaker 3: And this month, I don't know if you've joined us already,

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Speaker 3: but it's a very, very very special month for us.

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Speaker 3: It is a good Mom's Guide, may And do you

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Speaker 3: know why it's a good mom's guide? Tell them, baby,

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Speaker 3: it's because you girls are author's bitches. And we wrote

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Speaker 3: a book called a Good Mom's Guide to Making Bad Choices.

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Speaker 4: This is a fact as well.

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Speaker 3: This is our first book we've worked tiresly, very very

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Speaker 3: All of the themes in the book, all of the lessons,

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Speaker 5: we're going to Mexico. We're going on a retreat.

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Speaker 3: Hallelujah.

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Speaker 5: Retreat is happening July second and July twelfth. We're going

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Speaker 5: It's our eighth and ninth, seventh and eighth, it's a seventh.

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Speaker 3: It's our seventh and eighth retreats. Yeah, it's our first

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Speaker 1: set an example for me that I don't want to

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00:20:26,240 --> 00:20:27,160
Speaker 1: live the rest of my life with.

441
00:20:27,080 --> 00:20:28,840
Speaker 2: Somebody that bro you.

442
00:20:29,240 --> 00:20:30,760
Speaker 1: We still got to work on his marriage, and the

443
00:20:30,800 --> 00:20:32,359
Speaker 1: one thing he could have did for me was tell me,

444
00:20:32,920 --> 00:20:35,080
Speaker 1: I know that I haven't done everything I can do,

445
00:20:35,400 --> 00:20:37,239
Speaker 1: but I realized I don't want to.

446
00:20:38,200 --> 00:20:39,760
Speaker 2: He told you that, yes, and.

447
00:20:39,680 --> 00:20:42,080
Speaker 1: He set me the fuck free because the way that

448
00:20:42,160 --> 00:20:45,359
Speaker 1: I rationalize things, I can find a way to do anything.

449
00:20:45,480 --> 00:20:47,680
Speaker 2: I'm a woman. I can do anything.

450
00:20:47,760 --> 00:20:49,760
Speaker 1: I can make anything work, I can make anything cohesive,

451
00:20:49,800 --> 00:20:52,639
Speaker 1: I can put anything back together. But he taught me

452
00:20:52,680 --> 00:20:54,679
Speaker 1: that just because you can doesn't mean that you should.

453
00:20:55,160 --> 00:20:55,320
Speaker 3: Right.

454
00:20:55,560 --> 00:21:00,880
Speaker 5: That's I think a lot of relationships have that element.

455
00:21:00,960 --> 00:21:03,080
Speaker 5: I mean some people have that element where like I

456
00:21:03,080 --> 00:21:05,760
Speaker 5: think that in your journey of love and there might

457
00:21:05,800 --> 00:21:07,680
Speaker 5: be times where you don't like your partner. Like I've

458
00:21:07,680 --> 00:21:09,840
Speaker 5: talked to a lot of married people where they've gone

459
00:21:09,840 --> 00:21:11,960
Speaker 5: through those moments and then they've surpassed those moments and

460
00:21:11,960 --> 00:21:14,560
Speaker 5: they've reconnected. Yeah, but then there's like when you have

461
00:21:14,600 --> 00:21:17,840
Speaker 5: a deep understanding of like you are just not this

462
00:21:18,000 --> 00:21:19,880
Speaker 5: is not for me and I don't want to do

463
00:21:19,920 --> 00:21:22,680
Speaker 5: the work, and you can actually say that out loud,

464
00:21:22,920 --> 00:21:25,399
Speaker 5: Like what a gift actually that he was able to

465
00:21:25,400 --> 00:21:27,960
Speaker 5: give you. I'm sure, Like, I don't know, was it

466
00:21:27,960 --> 00:21:30,760
Speaker 5: heartbreaking for you to hear that or was it you say.

467
00:21:30,320 --> 00:21:31,440
Speaker 2: You find relief?

468
00:21:31,560 --> 00:21:33,880
Speaker 1: It was really Now, I'm not gonna lie to you divorce,

469
00:21:34,080 --> 00:21:36,520
Speaker 1: and not even just divorce, it was I lost everything

470
00:21:36,560 --> 00:21:37,120
Speaker 1: all at once.

471
00:21:37,560 --> 00:21:40,800
Speaker 2: Life was like, Okay, now we talking some big shit, right.

472
00:21:41,320 --> 00:21:45,000
Speaker 1: So when God, the universe, whatever it is that you believe,

473
00:21:45,760 --> 00:21:47,520
Speaker 1: is like, it's time to make a change. They want

474
00:21:47,600 --> 00:21:49,280
Speaker 1: everything to change, right, so you change one of the

475
00:21:49,359 --> 00:21:51,040
Speaker 1: thing you like. I changed my life and the thing

476
00:21:51,119 --> 00:21:53,399
Speaker 1: is that the universe chose for me. Nah, now you've

477
00:21:53,400 --> 00:21:55,119
Speaker 1: got a chance to do this over, like you know

478
00:21:55,119 --> 00:21:57,439
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. And it was like, let go everything.

479
00:21:57,840 --> 00:21:59,040
Speaker 2: I lost my job.

480
00:21:59,359 --> 00:22:02,720
Speaker 1: Within that, I lost my family, like I cut off

481
00:22:02,760 --> 00:22:05,600
Speaker 1: my parents and I lived down in Like my only

482
00:22:05,680 --> 00:22:08,480
Speaker 1: family in the city I live in is my ex husband,

483
00:22:08,480 --> 00:22:11,040
Speaker 1: Like he's still my emergency contact because I don't deal

484
00:22:11,119 --> 00:22:13,480
Speaker 1: with my He's family, you know what I mean.

485
00:22:14,080 --> 00:22:14,520
Speaker 2: And so.

486
00:22:16,760 --> 00:22:19,840
Speaker 1: For me, it was a matter of letting everything go

487
00:22:20,119 --> 00:22:24,919
Speaker 1: and being stripped of everything. But even realizing that he

488
00:22:24,960 --> 00:22:27,200
Speaker 1: doesn't care for me, He wasn't trying to be mean.

489
00:22:27,240 --> 00:22:28,600
Speaker 2: He can't help what he like or don't like.

490
00:22:29,000 --> 00:22:30,800
Speaker 1: The only way I was even able to acknowledge that

491
00:22:30,840 --> 00:22:32,359
Speaker 1: he didn't like me was because I had to realize

492
00:22:32,440 --> 00:22:35,600
Speaker 1: there were my parents at sometimes didn't like me, like

493
00:22:35,640 --> 00:22:36,440
Speaker 1: the way my mom.

494
00:22:36,320 --> 00:22:39,000
Speaker 2: Was treating me. Was if it was okay what he

495
00:22:39,040 --> 00:22:41,240
Speaker 2: was doing, then it was it was okay. You know

496
00:22:41,280 --> 00:22:41,720
Speaker 2: what I'm saying.

497
00:22:41,760 --> 00:22:43,120
Speaker 1: If you say that, oh, it's okay if my mom

498
00:22:43,160 --> 00:22:45,440
Speaker 1: does this, then that means that the partner that you're

499
00:22:45,440 --> 00:22:46,920
Speaker 1: allowed will talk to you like this as well.

500
00:22:47,320 --> 00:22:49,280
Speaker 3: Well. We attract the look that we're used to and

501
00:22:49,280 --> 00:22:51,159
Speaker 3: that we're comfortable with, and that we and then we

502
00:22:51,160 --> 00:22:53,640
Speaker 3: don't even realize it's settling because it feels like love

503
00:22:53,640 --> 00:22:55,679
Speaker 3: that you're familiar with and you have to kind of

504
00:22:55,680 --> 00:22:58,120
Speaker 3: get out of your comfort zone to realize and really

505
00:22:58,119 --> 00:23:01,679
Speaker 3: assess just because was this ecce childhood or whatever, this

506
00:23:01,760 --> 00:23:04,000
Speaker 3: past relationship, is this type of love the standard that

507
00:23:04,040 --> 00:23:06,160
Speaker 3: I want to live by, Like you have to consciously

508
00:23:06,280 --> 00:23:08,960
Speaker 3: choose those things or else they will choose you for

509
00:23:09,000 --> 00:23:11,320
Speaker 3: you because that's what you're used to every time.

510
00:23:11,440 --> 00:23:15,919
Speaker 1: And so it's like my imagination and the second start

511
00:23:16,320 --> 00:23:18,080
Speaker 1: was like everything. I was like, well, I'm not gonna

512
00:23:18,080 --> 00:23:20,000
Speaker 1: fuck this shit up, and an't got in a relationship

513
00:23:20,080 --> 00:23:26,159
Speaker 1: right after that and almost and so it's crazy, you know,

514
00:23:26,359 --> 00:23:28,280
Speaker 1: and you do a little bit better every time, But

515
00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:31,040
Speaker 1: what I realize is that I'm going to make mistakes

516
00:23:31,040 --> 00:23:33,240
Speaker 1: and things like that. But it's about getting up faster

517
00:23:33,480 --> 00:23:36,959
Speaker 1: and not making the exact same mistakes and realizing quicker

518
00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:38,960
Speaker 1: that this is not right for me. And so this

519
00:23:39,040 --> 00:23:41,439
Speaker 1: has been a journey of understanding my intuition. And I

520
00:23:41,440 --> 00:23:43,320
Speaker 1: feel like I would not have chose my intuition if

521
00:23:43,320 --> 00:23:44,199
Speaker 1: he didn't pick for me.

522
00:23:44,440 --> 00:23:47,280
Speaker 2: And for that we always cool because my life is

523
00:23:47,320 --> 00:23:47,879
Speaker 2: so amazing.

524
00:23:47,880 --> 00:23:51,880
Speaker 1: It's hard, but it's so amazing and beautiful and it's

525
00:23:51,880 --> 00:23:55,040
Speaker 1: just like, bitch, you can do whatever it is that

526
00:23:55,080 --> 00:23:55,960
Speaker 1: you want to do.

527
00:23:56,200 --> 00:23:57,800
Speaker 2: Like it's so crazy.

528
00:23:57,880 --> 00:23:59,399
Speaker 1: We live in a world that you know, like he

529
00:23:59,400 --> 00:24:00,879
Speaker 1: would have to say and offer me to get my

530
00:24:00,920 --> 00:24:04,680
Speaker 1: tubes tied. Still, we live in a world like that, Yeah,

531
00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:10,520
Speaker 1: your tube because I'm thirty one, no married, no, so

532
00:24:10,560 --> 00:24:12,280
Speaker 1: like you have to find a doctor that's willing to

533
00:24:12,320 --> 00:24:14,480
Speaker 1: do Like we live in a world like that, right,

534
00:24:14,880 --> 00:24:16,680
Speaker 1: And in that world, I'm living this.

535
00:24:16,720 --> 00:24:19,400
Speaker 2: Ball ass life as a divorced.

536
00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:20,800
Speaker 1: Woman with a child, and like, do you know the

537
00:24:20,880 --> 00:24:23,800
Speaker 1: numbers for like how much women like us make and

538
00:24:24,560 --> 00:24:29,240
Speaker 1: being able to come back after I made a choice

539
00:24:29,240 --> 00:24:31,119
Speaker 1: that I could literally have stuck with and tried to

540
00:24:31,119 --> 00:24:33,360
Speaker 1: make it work and in thirty years.

541
00:24:33,200 --> 00:24:35,679
Speaker 2: Been like na we worked on our marriage.

542
00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:39,320
Speaker 3: So hard.

543
00:24:39,480 --> 00:24:42,119
Speaker 1: Like this story of struggle and wearing that ship with

544
00:24:42,200 --> 00:24:44,960
Speaker 1: paying man, fuck that ship, Like this is so much

545
00:24:45,240 --> 00:24:48,680
Speaker 1: better because life gonna suck anyway, so why not make

546
00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:51,280
Speaker 1: it suck with the ship I can choose from, Like

547
00:24:52,000 --> 00:24:53,639
Speaker 1: I fucked with him for that for real, feel like

548
00:24:53,720 --> 00:24:55,920
Speaker 1: being like, bro, I don't want to do this, say less,

549
00:24:56,000 --> 00:24:58,840
Speaker 1: I felt relieved because I didn't have the balls to

550
00:24:58,880 --> 00:24:59,239
Speaker 1: pick me.

551
00:24:59,520 --> 00:25:03,040
Speaker 3: Well. The the thing is is that, like it's crazy

552
00:25:03,119 --> 00:25:07,280
Speaker 3: that we live in this society that almost tells us

553
00:25:07,359 --> 00:25:10,760
Speaker 3: that you, like a your happiness is not that important.

554
00:25:11,200 --> 00:25:13,480
Speaker 3: And second, you know, like you chose to be a

555
00:25:13,520 --> 00:25:14,960
Speaker 3: mom and you chose to be a wife, so now

556
00:25:14,960 --> 00:25:17,439
Speaker 3: you sacrifice and now you figure it out. And like

557
00:25:17,480 --> 00:25:20,800
Speaker 3: it's like you said, there's almost this adopted understanding that

558
00:25:20,840 --> 00:25:23,800
Speaker 3: if I choose motherhood and I choose marriage, then I

559
00:25:23,840 --> 00:25:26,399
Speaker 3: have I've in some ways chosen to struggle and sometimes

560
00:25:26,440 --> 00:25:28,159
Speaker 3: it's not going to be hard, and obviously it's not

561
00:25:28,200 --> 00:25:29,560
Speaker 3: I mean not gonna be easy, and obviously it's not

562
00:25:29,560 --> 00:25:31,760
Speaker 3: always going to be easy, but it also gives us

563
00:25:31,800 --> 00:25:35,240
Speaker 3: this narrative that we have to have some huge explosion

564
00:25:35,359 --> 00:25:38,240
Speaker 3: has to happen in order to not fuck with somebody anymore,

565
00:25:38,440 --> 00:25:40,040
Speaker 3: in order to grow out of something, in order to

566
00:25:40,040 --> 00:25:42,639
Speaker 3: be like I'm I'm healed, I'm a different version of myself,

567
00:25:42,680 --> 00:25:45,239
Speaker 3: and I love you, and but I'm also parting with you.

568
00:25:45,480 --> 00:25:48,439
Speaker 3: We live in this like this world where especially as women,

569
00:25:48,720 --> 00:25:51,320
Speaker 3: that if I just wake up today and say I

570
00:25:51,359 --> 00:25:53,400
Speaker 3: don't feel like I don't even feel motivated to work

571
00:25:53,400 --> 00:25:55,000
Speaker 3: on this with you. I'm not attracted to you, I'm

572
00:25:55,040 --> 00:25:57,120
Speaker 3: not getting fucked right, it's not good.

573
00:25:57,359 --> 00:25:58,160
Speaker 2: It's not good enough.

574
00:25:58,280 --> 00:25:59,960
Speaker 3: If I tell somebody I'm getting divorce because I'm gon

575
00:26:00,040 --> 00:26:01,879
Speaker 3: and fucked right, it's like, oh that fucking sweat, you

576
00:26:01,880 --> 00:26:02,360
Speaker 3: know what I'm saying?

577
00:26:02,560 --> 00:26:03,119
Speaker 2: What's crazy?

578
00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:06,000
Speaker 4: I was.

579
00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:11,639
Speaker 1: That's usually when it confuses the like how could I

580
00:26:11,680 --> 00:26:13,520
Speaker 1: be having great sex.

581
00:26:13,320 --> 00:26:15,359
Speaker 3: And still be unhappy and still be unhappy?

582
00:26:15,640 --> 00:26:18,240
Speaker 2: And so it's like your perspective changes.

583
00:26:18,280 --> 00:26:21,080
Speaker 1: But also I mean, I just I was like, damn,

584
00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:22,680
Speaker 1: I really am in the right field, because if I

585
00:26:22,680 --> 00:26:26,119
Speaker 1: could make good it's good with somebody that like, I

586
00:26:26,119 --> 00:26:28,159
Speaker 1: ain't even fucking like that. It just it makes you

587
00:26:28,240 --> 00:26:29,960
Speaker 1: wonder what could be like with the place where I'm

588
00:26:29,960 --> 00:26:30,560
Speaker 1: supposed to be.

589
00:26:30,720 --> 00:26:32,840
Speaker 3: But that shit, it only lasts so long. Like that

590
00:26:32,920 --> 00:26:35,399
Speaker 3: should as you heal, and as you get more aligned

591
00:26:35,440 --> 00:26:37,959
Speaker 3: with yourself, like as you heal, like you could have

592
00:26:38,040 --> 00:26:41,359
Speaker 3: great sex. But the more you evolve, like spiritually, it

593
00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:43,840
Speaker 3: doesn't matter how good that dick is, it's not going

594
00:26:43,880 --> 00:26:45,760
Speaker 3: to feel good. Because I found I saw the same

595
00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:47,359
Speaker 3: about my baby Daddy was dicking me down, and I

596
00:26:47,400 --> 00:26:49,679
Speaker 3: was like, I'll just hold on to this dick. You know,

597
00:26:51,800 --> 00:26:57,480
Speaker 3: this is I'm good dick. But it's like eventually, like

598
00:26:57,520 --> 00:27:00,080
Speaker 3: it doesn't matter, like you're like, fuck, I still hate you.

599
00:27:01,160 --> 00:27:03,440
Speaker 3: Dick is not enough to make me, not fucking make

600
00:27:03,640 --> 00:27:06,440
Speaker 3: it's making me miserable. This good dick is making me miserable.

601
00:27:06,480 --> 00:27:07,920
Speaker 3: So you could fucking take them both.

602
00:27:10,200 --> 00:27:14,359
Speaker 1: Getting good dick is that fucking rare that women say

603
00:27:15,800 --> 00:27:16,879
Speaker 1: just to get dick down?

604
00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:19,040
Speaker 2: What a woman to do for orgasm.

605
00:27:19,200 --> 00:27:21,440
Speaker 3: But but it's important too. I think, like I wish

606
00:27:21,440 --> 00:27:23,400
Speaker 3: I was, like I wish in this evolution that I

607
00:27:23,440 --> 00:27:26,080
Speaker 3: was like just more in tune with myself. I'm grateful

608
00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:30,359
Speaker 3: for the lessons because now I'm here, but like I like,

609
00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:32,960
Speaker 3: we are pussies in our hearts and our minds are

610
00:27:32,960 --> 00:27:36,400
Speaker 3: so compartmentalize. Now we forget that we need to integrate

611
00:27:36,400 --> 00:27:38,280
Speaker 3: them and that they all matter, you know. And it's

612
00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:38,880
Speaker 3: just like I.

613
00:27:38,800 --> 00:27:41,359
Speaker 4: Think that that actually sometimes is the problem. To be honest.

614
00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:43,400
Speaker 3: Okay, well speak of mine, bitch.

615
00:27:43,520 --> 00:27:46,199
Speaker 5: When you're pussy in your heart, are compartmentalized when you

616
00:27:46,200 --> 00:27:48,199
Speaker 5: make fucked up choices. A lot of times sometimes you

617
00:27:48,240 --> 00:27:50,400
Speaker 5: need to compartmentalize that, bitch and say.

618
00:27:50,320 --> 00:27:52,760
Speaker 2: This is what this one?

619
00:27:53,160 --> 00:27:56,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's the problem. Like she'd be thinking you she

620
00:27:56,160 --> 00:28:00,840
Speaker 5: in love because she you know, did first time ever,

621
00:28:00,960 --> 00:28:03,640
Speaker 5: and she's like, wow, I my husband, it must be him.

622
00:28:03,760 --> 00:28:03,879
Speaker 4: No.

623
00:28:05,240 --> 00:28:07,640
Speaker 2: I feel like the a lot of the.

624
00:28:09,440 --> 00:28:12,239
Speaker 1: A lot of the problems come from this timeline that

625
00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:15,919
Speaker 1: we have that doesn't exist, or it's it's altered. Like

626
00:28:15,960 --> 00:28:18,320
Speaker 1: a lot of times we don't see stuff for what

627
00:28:18,359 --> 00:28:20,320
Speaker 1: it really is, and so we see that we're in

628
00:28:20,320 --> 00:28:22,280
Speaker 1: our thirties and it's like, oh, I wish I hadn't

629
00:28:22,280 --> 00:28:24,520
Speaker 1: made these mistakes or things like that. But in retrospect,

630
00:28:24,560 --> 00:28:27,600
Speaker 1: if I expect to live this beautiful lifetime eighty ninety

631
00:28:27,640 --> 00:28:30,119
Speaker 1: one hundred years old and I'm taking care of my body,

632
00:28:30,200 --> 00:28:32,480
Speaker 1: drinking my coconut water, you know what I'm saying, getting

633
00:28:32,480 --> 00:28:35,840
Speaker 1: the sunlight and all that stuff, Really my prime is

634
00:28:35,880 --> 00:28:39,320
Speaker 1: around forty fifty, you know what I mean. But so

635
00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:42,440
Speaker 1: these mistakes, they happen to mistakes at twenty Like that's

636
00:28:42,440 --> 00:28:46,400
Speaker 1: making sense. I see through the mistakes, how I could

637
00:28:46,400 --> 00:28:49,920
Speaker 1: have been kinder, and how you just don't fucking know everything,

638
00:28:50,120 --> 00:28:52,160
Speaker 1: Like women just are some fucking know it alls.

639
00:28:52,200 --> 00:28:53,200
Speaker 2: I don't know shit.

640
00:28:54,640 --> 00:28:55,920
Speaker 4: That we know it all.

641
00:28:56,320 --> 00:29:00,760
Speaker 5: I think about, like I think about how man marriage is.

642
00:29:01,120 --> 00:29:03,440
Speaker 5: There is a timeline that's fed to us that like

643
00:29:03,520 --> 00:29:06,360
Speaker 5: we find our husband in our twenties, we might get

644
00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:09,560
Speaker 5: married at the end of our twenties, thirties, maybe early thirties.

645
00:29:09,760 --> 00:29:13,600
Speaker 5: And I think about, like most people, I'm still I'm

646
00:29:13,720 --> 00:29:17,360
Speaker 5: still being introduced to myself. Yeah I'm thirty five, you know.

647
00:29:17,640 --> 00:29:20,360
Speaker 5: And I think about you getting married at twenty two

648
00:29:21,120 --> 00:29:24,280
Speaker 5: and crazy like having like just not knowing who you are,

649
00:29:24,560 --> 00:29:27,800
Speaker 5: having unchecked traumas, and you know, I know that you

650
00:29:27,840 --> 00:29:30,200
Speaker 5: had a you know, a challenging childhood that I don't

651
00:29:30,200 --> 00:29:32,720
Speaker 5: know if you had even begun to unpack before entering

652
00:29:32,800 --> 00:29:36,040
Speaker 5: into a marriage with someone and coming in and deciding

653
00:29:36,080 --> 00:29:39,120
Speaker 5: to have creating a whole life with somebody you know,

654
00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:41,320
Speaker 5: and as you know and as we know, and if

655
00:29:41,360 --> 00:29:43,520
Speaker 5: you're a mother listening you know that when you have

656
00:29:43,600 --> 00:29:46,600
Speaker 5: a child, like you can't you start to be like,

657
00:29:46,640 --> 00:29:47,840
Speaker 5: I can't hide from these anymore.

658
00:29:48,080 --> 00:29:49,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, I have to face them.

659
00:29:49,600 --> 00:29:49,840
Speaker 3: Yeah.

660
00:29:49,880 --> 00:29:52,200
Speaker 1: My child was my biggest trigger. And I didn't know

661
00:29:52,240 --> 00:29:55,200
Speaker 1: what the word trigger meant. I didn't know every something

662
00:29:55,280 --> 00:29:59,080
Speaker 1: was wrong, Like my body was screaming, like literally inside

663
00:29:59,120 --> 00:30:02,840
Speaker 1: understanding into as a woman, I understand that that is something,

664
00:30:02,880 --> 00:30:05,240
Speaker 1: it's a gift, it's something. I it's just like the

665
00:30:05,240 --> 00:30:07,240
Speaker 1: way that you pick up a seed and it turns

666
00:30:07,240 --> 00:30:10,240
Speaker 1: into a tree. That shit is crazy magic and there

667
00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:13,640
Speaker 1: is intuition inside of us. And I my intuition went

668
00:30:13,720 --> 00:30:15,840
Speaker 1: off when I had my child because there was like

669
00:30:15,880 --> 00:30:18,680
Speaker 1: there was no way that everything that I believed before

670
00:30:18,680 --> 00:30:20,640
Speaker 1: it could be true. The way that I'm loving my child,

671
00:30:20,720 --> 00:30:23,360
Speaker 1: the things that happened to me, I would kill somebody

672
00:30:23,840 --> 00:30:24,960
Speaker 1: for you know what I'm saying.

673
00:30:25,000 --> 00:30:26,880
Speaker 2: And that's when I was like, oh, they got me

674
00:30:27,040 --> 00:30:27,680
Speaker 2: fucked up.

675
00:30:28,560 --> 00:30:31,160
Speaker 1: Now got like and I can figure that because guess

676
00:30:31,160 --> 00:30:34,120
Speaker 1: what now I'm the protector and that's the core of

677
00:30:34,160 --> 00:30:36,640
Speaker 1: my world now. At first, it was when you were raised,

678
00:30:36,720 --> 00:30:39,480
Speaker 1: you know, you're when you raised It's like when you

679
00:30:39,600 --> 00:30:41,520
Speaker 1: raised by robbers. If I was raised by some robbers

680
00:30:41,560 --> 00:30:43,320
Speaker 1: and I became a robbery and be like, oh, robbers

681
00:30:43,440 --> 00:30:43,800
Speaker 1: is cool.

682
00:30:44,480 --> 00:30:46,800
Speaker 2: The fact that you can't tell me nothing bad about

683
00:30:46,880 --> 00:30:48,960
Speaker 2: robbers because what you mean, my parents is a robbery

684
00:30:49,440 --> 00:30:53,240
Speaker 2: Like yeah, like because we're robbers or whatever. So you

685
00:30:53,240 --> 00:30:54,760
Speaker 2: know what I'm saying. So I was raised by these parents.

686
00:30:54,800 --> 00:30:57,280
Speaker 2: They the center of my world. I'm a kid, I'm supposed.

687
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Speaker 4: I love my you know what I'm saying.

688
00:30:58,360 --> 00:31:01,080
Speaker 2: I love my parents. Then I'm came a mother and

689
00:31:01,200 --> 00:31:04,080
Speaker 2: the role and my role in life switched. And so

690
00:31:04,240 --> 00:31:06,840
Speaker 2: from my perspective, I was like, oh, everybody got me

691
00:31:06,880 --> 00:31:07,320
Speaker 2: fucked up.

692
00:31:07,400 --> 00:31:09,240
Speaker 4: I saw a little Somaya and you were like, no

693
00:31:09,280 --> 00:31:09,880
Speaker 4: one protected me.

694
00:31:09,920 --> 00:31:10,360
Speaker 3: You got me.

695
00:31:10,560 --> 00:31:12,280
Speaker 1: And more than that, I loved him in a way

696
00:31:12,280 --> 00:31:13,920
Speaker 1: that I didn't even know I could love myself yet,

697
00:31:14,240 --> 00:31:18,440
Speaker 1: simply because of motherhood, which was intuition, which is a natural.

698
00:31:18,520 --> 00:31:20,440
Speaker 1: I was born with that good in me, whether I

699
00:31:20,440 --> 00:31:22,400
Speaker 1: wanted to be a mother or not. But as soon

700
00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:26,240
Speaker 1: as I had him, oh bitch, it was like law

701
00:31:26,280 --> 00:31:29,920
Speaker 1: abide and citizen for households. When I tell you, everything

702
00:31:30,240 --> 00:31:32,960
Speaker 1: fucking change. I was like, Yo, what am I gonna do? Like?

703
00:31:32,960 --> 00:31:34,640
Speaker 2: What am I gonna like? How am I gonna fix this.

704
00:31:35,520 --> 00:31:37,360
Speaker 1: My life did not change until I had to put

705
00:31:37,360 --> 00:31:41,000
Speaker 1: down a hard limit. Hey, I cannot deal or like

706
00:31:41,080 --> 00:31:43,480
Speaker 1: cut off my parents. I'm talking about parents that I like,

707
00:31:44,160 --> 00:31:47,080
Speaker 1: that I love that I missed like because fucking with

708
00:31:47,160 --> 00:31:49,560
Speaker 1: you got me fucked up. I can't look myself in

709
00:31:49,560 --> 00:31:50,959
Speaker 1: the mirror, and I got shit. I got to do

710
00:31:51,080 --> 00:31:53,640
Speaker 1: like I'm responsible for him, and so I made that

711
00:31:53,720 --> 00:31:56,920
Speaker 1: whole change. And ever since I've decided to be honest,

712
00:31:57,200 --> 00:31:59,120
Speaker 1: everything that I want has dropped to me because this

713
00:31:59,200 --> 00:32:01,640
Speaker 1: is my purpose to other fucking truth talk for people

714
00:32:01,640 --> 00:32:03,640
Speaker 1: who can't fucking talk because I ain't got no fucking shame.

715
00:32:03,960 --> 00:32:05,480
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Like, this is what it

716
00:32:05,520 --> 00:32:09,280
Speaker 1: is like the things I have created from my truths.

717
00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:12,239
Speaker 1: Nobody gives a fuck whose Oprah's dad was that got

718
00:32:12,280 --> 00:32:14,000
Speaker 1: her pregnant, But what you know is Oprah got pregnant

719
00:32:14,000 --> 00:32:15,719
Speaker 1: by her dad and Da Da Da Da Da. I

720
00:32:15,760 --> 00:32:17,960
Speaker 1: was so worried about protecting their name, even in the

721
00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:20,240
Speaker 1: midst of just sharing my story, about to sit on

722
00:32:21,200 --> 00:32:23,920
Speaker 1: my purpose and what I'm supposed to tell and what

723
00:32:23,920 --> 00:32:25,640
Speaker 1: I'm supposed to do and what I'm supposed to change

724
00:32:25,640 --> 00:32:28,440
Speaker 1: in rooms, protecting the people that did this thing to you,

725
00:32:28,560 --> 00:32:31,960
Speaker 1: holding secrets, holding secrets. I'm so fucking tired of this

726
00:32:32,120 --> 00:32:35,000
Speaker 1: is family business. No, it's just my station is not

727
00:32:35,120 --> 00:32:38,640
Speaker 1: family business. And I'm such an honest person and a

728
00:32:38,800 --> 00:32:42,920
Speaker 1: loud person, So yeah, it's time to talk about it.

729
00:32:43,360 --> 00:32:43,920
Speaker 2: I'm done.

730
00:32:44,200 --> 00:32:45,880
Speaker 1: It's time to talk about it, and not out of

731
00:32:46,160 --> 00:32:48,440
Speaker 1: I want something bad to happen to you. It's about

732
00:32:48,840 --> 00:32:50,320
Speaker 1: we need to speak the fuck up. Because if we

733
00:32:50,360 --> 00:32:52,680
Speaker 1: had spoke up about what marriages were like and love

734
00:32:52,800 --> 00:32:54,120
Speaker 1: was really like, I wouldn't have made some of those

735
00:32:54,120 --> 00:32:56,760
Speaker 1: decisions either. But you're telling me that this is okay,

736
00:32:56,800 --> 00:32:59,160
Speaker 1: that this is good. It's time to fix that because

737
00:32:59,160 --> 00:33:01,560
Speaker 1: I want my child to have a fair shot of

738
00:33:01,760 --> 00:33:04,120
Speaker 1: I couldnot imagine hurting my child and holding all this

739
00:33:04,200 --> 00:33:05,240
Speaker 1: in that's hurting my child.

740
00:33:05,880 --> 00:33:06,680
Speaker 2: It's something different.

741
00:33:06,680 --> 00:33:09,520
Speaker 1: I can't bring a girl into this world knowing that

742
00:33:09,560 --> 00:33:13,240
Speaker 1: I didn't do anything to make a change like I can't.

743
00:33:13,600 --> 00:33:16,400
Speaker 5: In the book, we talk about forgiveness, and I have

744
00:33:16,440 --> 00:33:20,200
Speaker 5: an exercise in there that I that I encourage our

745
00:33:20,240 --> 00:33:23,360
Speaker 5: reader to do, and the exercises I'm not going to

746
00:33:23,360 --> 00:33:24,920
Speaker 5: share because I want you to read the book, but

747
00:33:28,520 --> 00:33:30,640
Speaker 5: you know a lot of times we want forgiveness from

748
00:33:30,680 --> 00:33:33,440
Speaker 5: people that we will never get forgiveness from, you know,

749
00:33:33,800 --> 00:33:37,120
Speaker 5: and people that are either dead or that will never

750
00:33:37,160 --> 00:33:40,640
Speaker 5: give it to you, will never admit to it, will

751
00:33:40,720 --> 00:33:43,360
Speaker 5: you know, placate you, and just you know, pacify you.

752
00:33:44,200 --> 00:33:46,680
Speaker 5: I'm just curious for you and your personal experience, like

753
00:33:47,120 --> 00:33:49,920
Speaker 5: your in your life like that, Is there a forgiveness

754
00:33:49,920 --> 00:33:53,200
Speaker 5: that you have been granted? And if not, how have

755
00:33:53,360 --> 00:33:55,920
Speaker 5: you been able to move forward in that or is

756
00:33:55,960 --> 00:33:57,000
Speaker 5: it still a process?

757
00:33:57,480 --> 00:34:00,760
Speaker 1: I forgave them a long time ago. I believe that

758
00:34:01,040 --> 00:34:03,320
Speaker 1: me holding you accountable is not the same thing as

759
00:34:03,320 --> 00:34:06,840
Speaker 1: me forgiving you. I'm still holding you accountable because I

760
00:34:06,920 --> 00:34:09,680
Speaker 1: understand the boundaries and dedication of discipline to myself.

761
00:34:10,080 --> 00:34:11,440
Speaker 4: Was there an admission though?

762
00:34:12,040 --> 00:34:15,440
Speaker 1: I said, it was all from the which is why

763
00:34:15,480 --> 00:34:18,000
Speaker 1: the situation is so fucked us and how it's so

764
00:34:18,120 --> 00:34:21,600
Speaker 1: manipulative because I always spoke of I told the truths.

765
00:34:21,640 --> 00:34:22,640
Speaker 4: I don't mean, I mean.

766
00:34:24,680 --> 00:34:29,120
Speaker 1: I was always this was always a known, okay thing?

767
00:34:29,760 --> 00:34:32,040
Speaker 2: Oh I know he did that? And like this is

768
00:34:32,080 --> 00:34:33,879
Speaker 2: not like a secret, you know what I mean?

769
00:34:34,360 --> 00:34:37,640
Speaker 1: This is a story of years later me coming back

770
00:34:37,640 --> 00:34:40,960
Speaker 1: and correcting or wrong. It's never too late to fix

771
00:34:41,040 --> 00:34:43,000
Speaker 1: something you know what I mean. And so I kept

772
00:34:43,040 --> 00:34:44,920
Speaker 1: going and I kept wondering why I was having issues

773
00:34:44,920 --> 00:34:45,319
Speaker 1: in life.

774
00:34:45,320 --> 00:34:45,640
Speaker 2: I'm talking.

775
00:34:45,800 --> 00:34:48,239
Speaker 1: I was hitting my head hard, and I'm like, what

776
00:34:48,320 --> 00:34:51,440
Speaker 1: an I'm a person I cannot sit with being unhappy.

777
00:34:51,640 --> 00:34:53,399
Speaker 2: I don't do well with it. I would quit a job.

778
00:34:53,560 --> 00:34:54,680
Speaker 2: I can't do it.

779
00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:57,640
Speaker 1: And I kept running into problem like it was intuition

780
00:34:58,080 --> 00:35:00,320
Speaker 1: moving me. But you got to you know, I'm eighteen.

781
00:35:00,400 --> 00:35:02,840
Speaker 1: I'm nineteen, so I don't. I'm just thinking life is

782
00:35:02,880 --> 00:35:06,279
Speaker 1: fucked up, you know. And I'm hyper sexualized for the

783
00:35:06,320 --> 00:35:08,880
Speaker 1: wrong reasons, and I'm feeling these things and I'm getting

784
00:35:08,880 --> 00:35:11,799
Speaker 1: married why because I want to feel protected. You know,

785
00:35:12,239 --> 00:35:16,319
Speaker 1: this man is big, This man's old fashioned. This is safe,

786
00:35:16,520 --> 00:35:19,680
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I forgave them because you

787
00:35:19,719 --> 00:35:23,440
Speaker 1: did what you they They made me safer than what

788
00:35:23,520 --> 00:35:28,000
Speaker 1: they've experienced, you know, And that's a that don't mean

789
00:35:28,000 --> 00:35:30,160
Speaker 1: it's good enough now, you know. I mean me, that

790
00:35:30,239 --> 00:35:35,839
Speaker 1: was me learning boundaries. Boundaries is I understand? But fuck no,

791
00:35:36,200 --> 00:35:39,719
Speaker 1: that's and I'm allowed to have both. I intertwined them

792
00:35:39,719 --> 00:35:41,600
Speaker 1: in my life the best way that I can. The

793
00:35:41,680 --> 00:35:43,680
Speaker 1: things that they gave me that was good. We do

794
00:35:43,719 --> 00:35:46,600
Speaker 1: those things. I love food. That's the thing that I've

795
00:35:46,760 --> 00:35:49,200
Speaker 1: tried not to like. I always say I hate to cook.

796
00:35:49,480 --> 00:35:51,719
Speaker 1: My parents are on a restaurant. I love cooking for

797
00:35:51,760 --> 00:35:53,799
Speaker 1: the people that I love. I hate saying it, but

798
00:35:53,840 --> 00:35:56,440
Speaker 1: I do. It makes me feel amazing. I love outside.

799
00:35:56,480 --> 00:35:59,719
Speaker 1: I have a living van because it was an amazing

800
00:36:00,200 --> 00:36:02,319
Speaker 1: you know, to fish with my dad is sometimes miss

801
00:36:02,360 --> 00:36:03,920
Speaker 1: all the time, you know what I mean. My kid

802
00:36:03,920 --> 00:36:06,000
Speaker 1: plays baseball like he you know what I'm saying. As

803
00:36:06,080 --> 00:36:08,480
Speaker 1: much as I can intertwine with him, he doesn't know

804
00:36:08,520 --> 00:36:10,279
Speaker 1: what he's learning is from some of those things. When

805
00:36:10,280 --> 00:36:13,319
Speaker 1: he gets older, I'll explain them. But their love is

806
00:36:13,360 --> 00:36:15,480
Speaker 1: not lost in my household, in my lineage, and my

807
00:36:15,920 --> 00:36:18,520
Speaker 1: kids will know everything. But they made a mistake and

808
00:36:18,560 --> 00:36:22,120
Speaker 1: my boundaries they crossed, and there was always space for

809
00:36:22,200 --> 00:36:23,239
Speaker 1: us to forgive.

810
00:36:22,920 --> 00:36:23,640
Speaker 2: And work it out.

811
00:36:24,000 --> 00:36:26,879
Speaker 1: But you can't do that and still drink and not

812
00:36:26,920 --> 00:36:28,719
Speaker 1: get an AA and think I'm going to leave my

813
00:36:28,800 --> 00:36:31,120
Speaker 1: kid around you and you're doing the same things and

814
00:36:31,200 --> 00:36:34,160
Speaker 1: repeating the same cycles after you told me that, you

815
00:36:34,160 --> 00:36:35,480
Speaker 1: know what I mean. At the end of the day,

816
00:36:35,480 --> 00:36:39,520
Speaker 1: you need help. You need help, And I just made

817
00:36:39,560 --> 00:36:41,120
Speaker 1: a choice that that's not the life I want.

818
00:36:41,160 --> 00:36:41,439
Speaker 2: To live.

819
00:36:41,480 --> 00:36:42,960
Speaker 1: And if that means that we can no longer be

820
00:36:43,000 --> 00:36:44,680
Speaker 1: that type of family and I have to have a

821
00:36:44,760 --> 00:36:47,200
Speaker 1: chosen family, then that's what I choose, because I have

822
00:36:47,239 --> 00:36:48,960
Speaker 1: to live this life and I have to want to live,

823
00:36:49,520 --> 00:36:51,600
Speaker 1: and if I don't want to live, then you gotta go,

824
00:36:51,920 --> 00:36:54,400
Speaker 1: right And at this point, I was just fighting wanting

825
00:36:54,480 --> 00:36:57,359
Speaker 1: to live. So at this point I had to let

826
00:36:57,440 --> 00:36:59,360
Speaker 1: them go, or y'all would have let me go.

827
00:36:59,560 --> 00:37:02,680
Speaker 3: I just want to say, like, as your friend, I'm

828
00:37:02,680 --> 00:37:06,520
Speaker 3: like super proud of you. You know, We're not like

829
00:37:06,560 --> 00:37:08,719
Speaker 3: we've been known each other for like three years or

830
00:37:08,840 --> 00:37:10,960
Speaker 3: you know whatever, but like when when we met and

831
00:37:11,000 --> 00:37:13,360
Speaker 3: when I learned about you and we talked and we connected,

832
00:37:13,440 --> 00:37:15,880
Speaker 3: and these are recent decisions that you've made, Like this

833
00:37:16,080 --> 00:37:19,200
Speaker 3: is not like years of like I've cut these people

834
00:37:19,280 --> 00:37:22,440
Speaker 3: off that hurt me, Like this is recent strides and

835
00:37:22,480 --> 00:37:24,200
Speaker 3: your healing, And I just want to say I'm super

836
00:37:24,239 --> 00:37:26,279
Speaker 3: proud of you because I've seen you do it. I've

837
00:37:26,280 --> 00:37:28,920
Speaker 3: seen how difficult it is for you. I can't begin

838
00:37:29,000 --> 00:37:31,719
Speaker 3: to imagine what that process is like. But you know,

839
00:37:31,800 --> 00:37:33,840
Speaker 3: our parents are the first people that we have that

840
00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:36,520
Speaker 3: were supposed to protect us, our first examples of that,

841
00:37:36,719 --> 00:37:41,520
Speaker 3: and naturally, when we're raised and nurtured by people, we

842
00:37:42,280 --> 00:37:44,000
Speaker 3: want to protect them and we want to love them,

843
00:37:44,000 --> 00:37:45,640
Speaker 3: and we want to stay in contact with them, and

844
00:37:45,680 --> 00:37:47,880
Speaker 3: we watch TV and we want to have happy households

845
00:37:47,920 --> 00:37:50,839
Speaker 3: and do Christmases and Easters and shit, and you know,

846
00:37:51,040 --> 00:37:53,440
Speaker 3: and I know that's been a big obstacle for you

847
00:37:53,480 --> 00:37:55,840
Speaker 3: and have grandparents to our children and all these things.

848
00:37:55,920 --> 00:38:00,720
Speaker 3: And you know, for anybody listening for you, like anyone

849
00:38:00,719 --> 00:38:04,360
Speaker 3: who hurts you in a major way and continues to

850
00:38:04,600 --> 00:38:07,719
Speaker 3: like display those types of behaviors, cut them the fuck off.

851
00:38:07,920 --> 00:38:09,560
Speaker 3: It doesn't matter if they birthed you, it doesn't matter

852
00:38:09,600 --> 00:38:11,040
Speaker 3: if you live with them your whole life, doesn't matter

853
00:38:11,040 --> 00:38:14,440
Speaker 3: if they fed you three squares a day, like sometimes

854
00:38:14,440 --> 00:38:16,879
Speaker 3: that's the lesson for those people. And I've seen you grow,

855
00:38:16,920 --> 00:38:19,560
Speaker 3: I've seen you heal tremendously through that decision, and I

856
00:38:19,600 --> 00:38:21,680
Speaker 3: knew that was a decision you were going to eventually make.

857
00:38:22,400 --> 00:38:25,319
Speaker 3: And obviously I'm not ever going to tell you what

858
00:38:25,360 --> 00:38:28,040
Speaker 3: to do, but I see you. I know this is

859
00:38:28,040 --> 00:38:31,880
Speaker 3: not a story that you always were, you know, willing

860
00:38:31,920 --> 00:38:34,080
Speaker 3: to tell, for you know a lot of reasons, but

861
00:38:34,480 --> 00:38:37,440
Speaker 3: it's so fucking powerful Samaya, Like, like you said, it's

862
00:38:37,560 --> 00:38:39,920
Speaker 3: just like it heals other people and it heals you.

863
00:38:39,960 --> 00:38:42,000
Speaker 3: And I've seen you grow and I've seen you you know,

864
00:38:42,160 --> 00:38:47,120
Speaker 3: like it's contagious, it is, and like choosing yourself is

865
00:38:47,760 --> 00:38:52,280
Speaker 3: revolutionary and for your kid and to clear generational curses

866
00:38:52,280 --> 00:38:54,840
Speaker 3: and like who fucking knows what they experience and honestly,

867
00:38:54,880 --> 00:38:56,960
Speaker 3: like not who cares, but who cares? You know what

868
00:38:57,000 --> 00:38:59,720
Speaker 3: I mean? Like you just you do things, you decide

869
00:38:59,719 --> 00:39:01,440
Speaker 3: to grow out of them, and if you don't, you

870
00:39:01,560 --> 00:39:03,879
Speaker 3: got to cut people off, you know, And like you've

871
00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:07,040
Speaker 3: decided to grow, You've chosen yourself and not pick him,

872
00:39:07,239 --> 00:39:09,840
Speaker 3: and and you choose you. And by choosing you, you

873
00:39:09,960 --> 00:39:12,120
Speaker 3: choose him. And like look where we're sitting and look

874
00:39:12,120 --> 00:39:14,279
Speaker 3: at all the things that you've accomplished. And like Be

875
00:39:14,360 --> 00:39:17,960
Speaker 3: and Erica always say that podcasting has been like the

876
00:39:18,040 --> 00:39:21,120
Speaker 3: honesty through podcasting has really truly been healing to us.

877
00:39:21,480 --> 00:39:25,120
Speaker 3: But that shit is true, like speaking your truth, especially

878
00:39:25,160 --> 00:39:27,600
Speaker 3: for people who have been told like don't tell the business,

879
00:39:27,640 --> 00:39:29,680
Speaker 3: like like you know, black people, to keep keep on

880
00:39:29,800 --> 00:39:32,360
Speaker 3: business in the house, don't go outside town on business,

881
00:39:32,360 --> 00:39:34,960
Speaker 3: Like well it's crazy shit is going on in the house.

882
00:39:35,000 --> 00:39:40,759
Speaker 3: What the fuck? Asking children to hold adult secrets is

883
00:39:40,840 --> 00:39:43,680
Speaker 3: not cool, and it's not you know, like it's not

884
00:39:43,719 --> 00:39:46,040
Speaker 3: having your child in mind. And when you don't protect

885
00:39:46,080 --> 00:39:48,920
Speaker 3: your child, best believe they might not they should not

886
00:39:48,960 --> 00:39:52,200
Speaker 3: protect you. And so I just want to say, I'm

887
00:39:52,239 --> 00:39:54,400
Speaker 3: really grateful for you, and I'm really you know, for

888
00:39:54,480 --> 00:39:57,839
Speaker 3: your for your strength and your courage and for your

889
00:39:57,920 --> 00:39:59,880
Speaker 3: voice because it's important and a lot of people need

890
00:39:59,920 --> 00:40:03,200
Speaker 3: to hear it, including me, and so I'm just I'm thankful.

891
00:40:03,440 --> 00:40:05,520
Speaker 3: And you know, even in our book, we talk about

892
00:40:05,520 --> 00:40:08,560
Speaker 3: how our parents affected us and how we show up

893
00:40:08,560 --> 00:40:11,400
Speaker 3: in relationships and how we parent, and I think sometimes

894
00:40:11,400 --> 00:40:14,040
Speaker 3: we forget that we can change all those things, like

895
00:40:14,120 --> 00:40:17,000
Speaker 3: we can actually edit our parents' parenting, you know, like

896
00:40:17,320 --> 00:40:18,840
Speaker 3: this didn't work out for me, Mom, I saw you

897
00:40:18,880 --> 00:40:20,920
Speaker 3: curse my dad out four thousand times. I saw you

898
00:40:21,080 --> 00:40:23,000
Speaker 3: kick his ass, and now I don't want to be

899
00:40:23,000 --> 00:40:24,839
Speaker 3: a married I don't want to be a wife, you know,

900
00:40:24,920 --> 00:40:27,279
Speaker 3: Like this is good? You know, I'm good, like you know,

901
00:40:27,480 --> 00:40:29,759
Speaker 3: and my parents are still the fuck mary with their

902
00:40:29,760 --> 00:40:34,080
Speaker 3: crazy asses. But like I you know, I'm just grateful

903
00:40:34,280 --> 00:40:37,040
Speaker 3: that we as women have all tapped into our voices

904
00:40:37,080 --> 00:40:40,000
Speaker 3: and our honesty and our vulnerability and chosen to show

905
00:40:40,080 --> 00:40:43,040
Speaker 3: up as ourselves so that it can change our own lives,

906
00:40:43,239 --> 00:40:44,520
Speaker 3: and obviously it has.

907
00:40:45,000 --> 00:40:47,920
Speaker 1: I'm grateful for well, first of all, I receive that

908
00:40:48,280 --> 00:40:51,920
Speaker 1: thank you. I am grateful for you guys. To me,

909
00:40:52,080 --> 00:40:55,080
Speaker 1: you guys are the coolest girls like y'all. And I

910
00:40:55,120 --> 00:40:57,080
Speaker 1: know it sounded like so corny, but I'm a corny

911
00:40:57,120 --> 00:41:01,200
Speaker 1: ass bitch, be witty. I'm fine though, too, but corny

912
00:41:01,239 --> 00:41:05,560
Speaker 1: and fine is y'all are just such amazing energy and something.

913
00:41:05,560 --> 00:41:07,480
Speaker 1: And when I found you guys where you guys were

914
00:41:07,480 --> 00:41:10,200
Speaker 1: in your motherhood and you know, in your journey, was like,

915
00:41:10,200 --> 00:41:12,480
Speaker 1: you know what, that's something I love. And I was like, hey,

916
00:41:12,520 --> 00:41:13,880
Speaker 1: you want to be my friend and y'all was like

917
00:41:13,920 --> 00:41:16,759
Speaker 1: fuck yes, so yes to that nice girl energy and

918
00:41:16,840 --> 00:41:19,040
Speaker 1: yes too, saying you want to be cool too, good

919
00:41:19,080 --> 00:41:22,720
Speaker 1: come be with us and being amazing and always teaching

920
00:41:22,719 --> 00:41:25,360
Speaker 1: me stop fucking apologizing, like y'all have gotten me together

921
00:41:25,400 --> 00:41:27,080
Speaker 1: to the point that it is rubbing off of my friends. Hey,

922
00:41:27,120 --> 00:41:30,040
Speaker 1: we don't apologize. We tell you what's going on, and

923
00:41:30,080 --> 00:41:32,560
Speaker 1: motherfucker's respected. You know what I'm saying, And that's it.

924
00:41:32,600 --> 00:41:34,640
Speaker 1: And y'all have taught me that don't come over, don't

925
00:41:34,640 --> 00:41:37,000
Speaker 1: come to our retree to apologize and for shit, just

926
00:41:37,080 --> 00:41:40,720
Speaker 1: let your titties hay damn, like, don't start apologizing somebody

927
00:41:40,760 --> 00:41:42,960
Speaker 1: like and it's okay. And I've always been accepted to

928
00:41:43,000 --> 00:41:45,759
Speaker 1: be me while you guys authentically be y'all. And it's

929
00:41:45,760 --> 00:41:48,319
Speaker 1: so crazy because I say, these are my hippie friends,

930
00:41:48,320 --> 00:41:51,040
Speaker 1: and my friends think I'm a hippie friend, and I'm like, yeah, okay,

931
00:41:51,840 --> 00:41:53,960
Speaker 1: when good Mom's come around, it's like, no, these are

932
00:41:53,960 --> 00:41:56,160
Speaker 1: my hippie friends. They're the ones who are like, look,

933
00:41:56,239 --> 00:42:00,480
Speaker 1: be you, be you however that you and type A

934
00:42:00,640 --> 00:42:02,200
Speaker 1: and how many or how many lists do you need

935
00:42:02,239 --> 00:42:02,640
Speaker 1: to tell.

936
00:42:02,560 --> 00:42:03,080
Speaker 2: Us who you are?

937
00:42:03,560 --> 00:42:05,759
Speaker 1: Okay, I'll look at all the lists, okay, Like it's

938
00:42:05,800 --> 00:42:08,400
Speaker 1: just support and it's just beautiful. And I hope you

939
00:42:08,400 --> 00:42:11,120
Speaker 1: guys just understand what you guys are doing. You're showing

940
00:42:11,160 --> 00:42:13,080
Speaker 1: other people that they can do it. Watching you guys

941
00:42:13,120 --> 00:42:16,160
Speaker 1: do it told me that, Okay, whatever my story is,

942
00:42:16,200 --> 00:42:18,360
Speaker 1: I can throw it into a show as well. I

943
00:42:18,400 --> 00:42:21,320
Speaker 1: can throw it into other podcasts. You know, you guys

944
00:42:21,320 --> 00:42:24,120
Speaker 1: have done it. Like, I'm so proud of you for

945
00:42:24,200 --> 00:42:24,959
Speaker 1: showing other.

946
00:42:24,920 --> 00:42:27,040
Speaker 4: Women that thank you. Thank you. I'm proud of you.

947
00:42:27,040 --> 00:42:28,279
Speaker 4: Your podcast is the Bomb Girl.

948
00:42:28,280 --> 00:42:30,000
Speaker 5: If you have haven't checked it out, please go check

949
00:42:30,000 --> 00:42:31,399
Speaker 5: out somebody's podcast or just.

950
00:42:31,400 --> 00:42:33,680
Speaker 3: On it last week. So make sure you go check

951
00:42:33,719 --> 00:42:36,600
Speaker 3: us out on not another sex podcast to book tour.

952
00:42:36,840 --> 00:42:40,040
Speaker 5: It just feel like I was I was just I

953
00:42:40,080 --> 00:42:42,160
Speaker 5: was just thinking about you know, us the Green that

954
00:42:42,200 --> 00:42:44,840
Speaker 5: we were going to be friends and how like it.

955
00:42:45,239 --> 00:42:47,319
Speaker 5: But like, I think if more women just said that

956
00:42:47,360 --> 00:42:49,160
Speaker 5: out loud to people that they.

957
00:42:49,040 --> 00:42:49,800
Speaker 4: Want to be friends with.

958
00:42:49,880 --> 00:42:51,680
Speaker 2: Here I want to be friends with, Like I want

959
00:42:51,680 --> 00:42:52,560
Speaker 2: to like just say.

960
00:42:52,480 --> 00:42:54,480
Speaker 5: If you're listening right now, and you might think this

961
00:42:54,560 --> 00:42:56,080
Speaker 5: is weird, but the next time you meet a bitch

962
00:42:56,080 --> 00:42:56,759
Speaker 5: who you want to.

963
00:42:56,680 --> 00:42:59,040
Speaker 4: Be your friend, just tell her, yeah, we should be friends.

964
00:42:59,120 --> 00:43:01,239
Speaker 5: We should be friends and know it's and if she

965
00:43:01,239 --> 00:43:04,319
Speaker 5: can't receive that, girl not your friend anyway. But I

966
00:43:04,320 --> 00:43:08,080
Speaker 5: think that if we just felt graver in that way

967
00:43:08,160 --> 00:43:10,959
Speaker 5: and took that initiative, like, there would be so many

968
00:43:11,000 --> 00:43:13,800
Speaker 5: more female friendships. And I really do think female friendships

969
00:43:13,840 --> 00:43:15,400
Speaker 5: is like the key to like saving the world.

970
00:43:15,920 --> 00:43:19,200
Speaker 4: And we've been separated and pitted against.

971
00:43:18,920 --> 00:43:22,160
Speaker 5: Each other and and and you know, our whole shit

972
00:43:22,239 --> 00:43:24,760
Speaker 5: is like when women come together and we're more powerful

973
00:43:24,800 --> 00:43:26,560
Speaker 5: and it's the truth. It's not just like fun to

974
00:43:26,600 --> 00:43:28,880
Speaker 5: say it truly is a thing. But we have to

975
00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:32,359
Speaker 5: like take the step. We have to like like reach

976
00:43:32,440 --> 00:43:35,400
Speaker 5: the olive branch out and and stop playing this narrative

977
00:43:35,440 --> 00:43:37,759
Speaker 5: in our minds that you can't trust women, that we

978
00:43:37,800 --> 00:43:40,920
Speaker 5: don't fuck with women, because yeah, there are some untrustful

979
00:43:40,960 --> 00:43:44,440
Speaker 5: people period there. People will hurt you, men will hurt you,

980
00:43:44,480 --> 00:43:52,120
Speaker 5: and you still.

981
00:43:50,880 --> 00:43:55,440
Speaker 3: He did do a couple of things. This will help everything.

982
00:43:56,280 --> 00:44:00,160
Speaker 2: I feel like women also have to see themselves.

983
00:44:00,239 --> 00:44:02,080
Speaker 1: And one thing that I think you guys were the

984
00:44:02,080 --> 00:44:04,360
Speaker 1: first women that I saw myself in that I thought

985
00:44:04,440 --> 00:44:07,360
Speaker 1: were cool as fuck, like, but that was me accepting

986
00:44:07,440 --> 00:44:09,920
Speaker 1: who I was, which was sma your you know, and

987
00:44:10,000 --> 00:44:12,000
Speaker 1: you know you've heard my voice get louder over time,

988
00:44:12,000 --> 00:44:14,560
Speaker 1: But at first it started off somebody, you're kind of

989
00:44:14,560 --> 00:44:17,080
Speaker 1: cool and you doing the damn thing sexual sensuals and

990
00:44:17,080 --> 00:44:20,040
Speaker 1: then boom, you guys walked into or internet linked in

991
00:44:20,080 --> 00:44:21,720
Speaker 1: to my life. We were in COVID at this time,

992
00:44:22,080 --> 00:44:26,120
Speaker 1: and it's just like seeing yourself and acknowledging that don't

993
00:44:26,120 --> 00:44:28,919
Speaker 1: be afraid to you know, don't feel intimidated.

994
00:44:28,960 --> 00:44:31,520
Speaker 2: You guys, like maybe saying the elephant in the room here.

995
00:44:31,560 --> 00:44:33,680
Speaker 1: But other women sometimes don't reach out to other women

996
00:44:33,719 --> 00:44:36,480
Speaker 1: because we feel intimidated, because we feel like, well, because

997
00:44:36,520 --> 00:44:39,399
Speaker 1: they are like this or this successful, they wouldn't want

998
00:44:39,400 --> 00:44:41,680
Speaker 1: to hang out with me. Yeah, and I don't want.

999
00:44:41,760 --> 00:44:43,680
Speaker 1: I don't talk to my friend like that. Y'all like,

1000
00:44:43,920 --> 00:44:45,719
Speaker 1: do better. And when I say my friend, I'm talking

1001
00:44:45,719 --> 00:44:48,520
Speaker 1: about you. So be kinder to yourself. And every time

1002
00:44:48,560 --> 00:44:51,200
Speaker 1: I'm around you, guys, I'm always reminded to be kinder

1003
00:44:51,200 --> 00:44:52,520
Speaker 1: to myself and slow down.

1004
00:44:52,640 --> 00:44:54,320
Speaker 2: So that's beautiful.

1005
00:44:54,920 --> 00:44:57,600
Speaker 5: Well, think talking about the internet, and just like the

1006
00:44:57,719 --> 00:45:01,440
Speaker 5: journey of me learning more about these sexual essentials. You know,

1007
00:45:01,520 --> 00:45:03,799
Speaker 5: I've shared the story before that it's May invited me

1008
00:45:03,880 --> 00:45:07,440
Speaker 5: to her dick sucking class and I happened to be

1009
00:45:07,719 --> 00:45:09,759
Speaker 5: at my homegirl's house at the time, and I was like,

1010
00:45:09,800 --> 00:45:13,000
Speaker 5: oh shit, tonight's my friend's dick sucking class. And she

1011
00:45:13,200 --> 00:45:15,480
Speaker 5: was like what. I was like, yes, She's like, are

1012
00:45:15,480 --> 00:45:17,200
Speaker 5: you a sucking dick? Like we have suck dicks? And

1013
00:45:17,239 --> 00:45:19,319
Speaker 5: I was like, I actually have no idea what we're

1014
00:45:19,320 --> 00:45:21,320
Speaker 5: doing in this class. I know that I should have

1015
00:45:21,320 --> 00:45:23,000
Speaker 5: bought I was. I had the option to buy like

1016
00:45:23,520 --> 00:45:25,440
Speaker 5: a toy, but it didn't happen. And now we're here

1017
00:45:25,480 --> 00:45:27,040
Speaker 5: in at your house. We're gonnaigure it out. We're just

1018
00:45:27,080 --> 00:45:30,160
Speaker 5: gonna log on and we logged onto your class and

1019
00:45:30,239 --> 00:45:36,080
Speaker 5: I was mind blown at a the community that you have.

1020
00:45:36,920 --> 00:45:39,360
Speaker 5: It was pages and pages of just like you know,

1021
00:45:39,480 --> 00:45:42,240
Speaker 5: you go on zoom, you got the pages, pages and pages,

1022
00:45:42,280 --> 00:45:45,799
Speaker 5: and I was like, I am in.

1023
00:45:45,840 --> 00:45:48,200
Speaker 3: This class, super tuned in, like.

1024
00:45:48,640 --> 00:45:50,719
Speaker 5: I mean, this is the queen of Patreon herself. But

1025
00:45:50,840 --> 00:45:54,200
Speaker 5: I was just like, WHOA, I had no idea. But

1026
00:45:54,880 --> 00:45:58,800
Speaker 5: it shouldn't have surprised me, because pleasure and learning, learning

1027
00:45:58,800 --> 00:46:02,040
Speaker 5: how to a please, you know, as women were nurturers.

1028
00:46:02,080 --> 00:46:04,479
Speaker 5: And there's a good part of this, and there's also

1029
00:46:04,520 --> 00:46:07,239
Speaker 5: a bad part because I feel like sometimes our our

1030
00:46:07,600 --> 00:46:13,160
Speaker 5: lust or our are not lust, our desire to learn

1031
00:46:13,480 --> 00:46:15,080
Speaker 5: is a lot of times outside of our own pleasure.

1032
00:46:15,080 --> 00:46:16,480
Speaker 5: It's just because we just want to please the man.

1033
00:46:16,480 --> 00:46:18,080
Speaker 5: We want to please the man. Which I'm sure there

1034
00:46:18,120 --> 00:46:20,080
Speaker 5: were some bitches in there for that, trying to save relationships,

1035
00:46:20,120 --> 00:46:22,279
Speaker 5: shave marriages and all the types of shit, right, But

1036
00:46:22,320 --> 00:46:24,239
Speaker 5: then there's also like the woman who just wants to

1037
00:46:24,280 --> 00:46:27,520
Speaker 5: just be just be the best sexual pleaser of her

1038
00:46:27,719 --> 00:46:29,279
Speaker 5: just of all times, so that she can please and

1039
00:46:29,320 --> 00:46:30,200
Speaker 5: get pleased back.

1040
00:46:30,640 --> 00:46:32,640
Speaker 4: But I was just so mind blown.

1041
00:46:32,719 --> 00:46:35,840
Speaker 5: And all the women there, and and and and the command.

1042
00:46:35,920 --> 00:46:37,359
Speaker 5: I mean, I shouldn't be mind blown, but I didn't

1043
00:46:37,400 --> 00:46:38,839
Speaker 5: know what kind of the educator you were, so.

1044
00:46:38,800 --> 00:46:41,280
Speaker 4: I was super I was just super impressed.

1045
00:46:41,320 --> 00:46:43,480
Speaker 5: Like you commanded the room and you just got the

1046
00:46:43,480 --> 00:46:47,799
Speaker 5: bitches together, okay, and the guy and gave us real tools.

1047
00:46:47,880 --> 00:46:48,080
Speaker 2: Like that.

1048
00:46:48,360 --> 00:46:53,080
Speaker 5: Really have changed myself, I literally have changed my Like you, guys,

1049
00:46:53,360 --> 00:46:55,280
Speaker 5: you need to go check out somebis Patreon.

1050
00:46:56,400 --> 00:46:58,640
Speaker 3: The windshield, yes, the windshield.

1051
00:46:59,760 --> 00:47:04,000
Speaker 5: And beyond all things anyway, So you know, speaking of

1052
00:47:04,040 --> 00:47:06,960
Speaker 5: pleasure and women tapping into pleasure, I'm just curious, like,

1053
00:47:07,080 --> 00:47:11,200
Speaker 5: so after after motherhood and now you're single and you

1054
00:47:11,239 --> 00:47:12,200
Speaker 5: know able to explore.

1055
00:47:12,200 --> 00:47:13,160
Speaker 4: I know you guys, were you?

1056
00:47:13,160 --> 00:47:13,399
Speaker 2: Guys?

1057
00:47:13,400 --> 00:47:14,080
Speaker 3: Were you?

1058
00:47:14,120 --> 00:47:17,000
Speaker 2: Guys? Were Polly in a relationship and I was always Polly.

1059
00:47:17,239 --> 00:47:20,200
Speaker 1: He was giving me an opportunity to expand, and the

1060
00:47:20,560 --> 00:47:22,960
Speaker 1: expand so we did try some things at the end.

1061
00:47:23,040 --> 00:47:26,279
Speaker 1: But me also being fully poly means that I can

1062
00:47:26,360 --> 00:47:30,279
Speaker 1: commit to another person, and so you know, when you

1063
00:47:30,320 --> 00:47:32,000
Speaker 1: don't know at this point, I think that it was

1064
00:47:32,040 --> 00:47:33,799
Speaker 1: just a lot of hail Mary's trying to give her

1065
00:47:33,800 --> 00:47:36,680
Speaker 1: what she really wants, which is I'm a polyamorous person

1066
00:47:36,840 --> 00:47:38,640
Speaker 1: and you know, we tried.

1067
00:47:38,440 --> 00:47:39,320
Speaker 2: Some things anyway.

1068
00:47:41,400 --> 00:47:43,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's who I am, whether I end up in

1069
00:47:43,160 --> 00:47:46,160
Speaker 1: a monogamous relation or relationship or not. I am a

1070
00:47:46,440 --> 00:47:48,560
Speaker 1: I can love many people. Yeah, I don't really care

1071
00:47:48,600 --> 00:47:53,320
Speaker 1: about men women. I'm a lover So yeah.

1072
00:47:53,160 --> 00:47:55,839
Speaker 5: I'm just curious, like how you were able to kind

1073
00:47:55,880 --> 00:48:01,719
Speaker 5: of step back into your son uality or sexuality in

1074
00:48:01,719 --> 00:48:04,760
Speaker 5: this new space of like introducing new a new energy

1075
00:48:04,800 --> 00:48:08,360
Speaker 5: into your life, meaning dating and having sex with other people.

1076
00:48:08,440 --> 00:48:11,759
Speaker 5: Like was that a seamless transition for you because you've

1077
00:48:11,800 --> 00:48:14,840
Speaker 5: always just been kind of more sexually liberated, more open,

1078
00:48:15,200 --> 00:48:18,000
Speaker 5: Because a lot of women, you know, including myself, like

1079
00:48:18,320 --> 00:48:21,560
Speaker 5: after you have a divorce or a breakup, like that

1080
00:48:21,600 --> 00:48:26,480
Speaker 5: transition into you know, finding out finding new sources of

1081
00:48:26,520 --> 00:48:28,040
Speaker 5: pleasure can feel really intimidating.

1082
00:48:28,480 --> 00:48:29,760
Speaker 4: Like was it like were.

1083
00:48:29,640 --> 00:48:32,920
Speaker 5: You just like backing popping or like did you have

1084
00:48:32,960 --> 00:48:36,000
Speaker 5: a whole phase or like what was what was?

1085
00:48:36,160 --> 00:48:38,520
Speaker 4: What was? So Maaya after divorce?

1086
00:48:39,000 --> 00:48:44,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, Smaya after divorce was pretty similar to Smaya after child.

1087
00:48:44,440 --> 00:48:48,600
Speaker 2: So after I had my son, I made a choice.

1088
00:48:48,280 --> 00:48:51,560
Speaker 1: To keep my sexuality, which was I didn't really have

1089
00:48:51,640 --> 00:48:55,399
Speaker 1: the desire to be sexual right after, but I made

1090
00:48:55,440 --> 00:48:56,880
Speaker 1: a choice and put it on my schedule that I

1091
00:48:56,880 --> 00:48:58,880
Speaker 1: was going to rub my kuci And this is what

1092
00:48:58,920 --> 00:49:02,160
Speaker 1: I was because I had heard these horror stories that

1093
00:49:02,239 --> 00:49:06,080
Speaker 1: people like lose the urge to me, and that scared

1094
00:49:06,120 --> 00:49:06,920
Speaker 1: the ship out of me.

1095
00:49:07,440 --> 00:49:09,840
Speaker 4: Scared this ship you literally had scheduled.

1096
00:49:09,840 --> 00:49:11,680
Speaker 1: I would just laughter it like I didn't because what

1097
00:49:11,719 --> 00:49:13,040
Speaker 1: I realized it was the alarm was set.

1098
00:49:13,440 --> 00:49:17,279
Speaker 2: Yes, it's it's always like has always been on my calendar.

1099
00:49:17,239 --> 00:49:21,160
Speaker 1: Really thorough in every and guess what, you know, how

1100
00:49:21,239 --> 00:49:22,839
Speaker 1: much better you do it when it's already in your

1101
00:49:22,880 --> 00:49:24,120
Speaker 1: mind and you knew that you had to do it,

1102
00:49:24,200 --> 00:49:26,200
Speaker 1: versus you being tired and somebody lay down and be like,

1103
00:49:26,320 --> 00:49:28,200
Speaker 1: oh you want to suck my dick and iouldn't expecting it.

1104
00:49:28,280 --> 00:49:30,160
Speaker 3: How often isn't on your calendar? Like once a week?

1105
00:49:30,400 --> 00:49:34,200
Speaker 1: Depend how much do I like you?

1106
00:49:34,200 --> 00:49:34,480
Speaker 3: Hear that?

1107
00:49:34,600 --> 00:49:35,200
Speaker 4: You two hear that?

1108
00:49:35,239 --> 00:49:35,399
Speaker 1: Man?

1109
00:49:36,200 --> 00:49:37,920
Speaker 3: If you like someone, it's like four times a week.

1110
00:49:38,000 --> 00:49:40,160
Speaker 1: It depends how much we're seeing each other. But also

1111
00:49:40,239 --> 00:49:43,560
Speaker 1: I like to say, Dick, I love it. I did

1112
00:49:43,600 --> 00:49:45,960
Speaker 1: to you have pretty lips it's like a thing.

1113
00:49:46,120 --> 00:49:47,319
Speaker 4: Yeah I like.

1114
00:49:47,280 --> 00:49:49,680
Speaker 3: To dick, but honestly, like, I know the guys like

1115
00:49:49,719 --> 00:49:52,279
Speaker 3: it messy, but I'm like, if I throw up on

1116
00:49:52,320 --> 00:49:55,000
Speaker 3: your dick, you're going to be I know. I'm like,

1117
00:49:55,000 --> 00:50:02,480
Speaker 3: but I wanted to be messy like lines.

1118
00:50:00,280 --> 00:50:02,720
Speaker 1: I just because I realized that everybody don't like everything

1119
00:50:02,719 --> 00:50:05,800
Speaker 1: the same and so like one of And it's also sexy.

1120
00:50:05,800 --> 00:50:08,920
Speaker 1: It's almost like with women with consent, like getting consent

1121
00:50:08,960 --> 00:50:11,080
Speaker 1: and sexy, like when they ask can I kiss you?

1122
00:50:11,400 --> 00:50:13,040
Speaker 3: I don't like the kiss me.

1123
00:50:13,360 --> 00:50:16,279
Speaker 1: Well, you also like threesome kisses and stuff like you

1124
00:50:16,560 --> 00:50:18,759
Speaker 1: have a different version of kissing that you prefer, and

1125
00:50:18,800 --> 00:50:23,600
Speaker 1: I so you know, it's never it's not it's for

1126
00:50:23,719 --> 00:50:27,080
Speaker 1: you and I get that, but yeah, it's just a

1127
00:50:27,080 --> 00:50:29,040
Speaker 1: little different. But for me, I feel like with men

1128
00:50:29,080 --> 00:50:30,400
Speaker 1: it's kind of the same thing. How do you like

1129
00:50:30,440 --> 00:50:33,920
Speaker 1: your dig sucked? And it's like, I matter, you know

1130
00:50:33,920 --> 00:50:36,080
Speaker 1: what I mean, And we have to remember like the

1131
00:50:36,120 --> 00:50:37,759
Speaker 1: same stuff we're teaching ourselves with them.

1132
00:50:37,840 --> 00:50:40,000
Speaker 5: Well, just like not all pussies are like that should

1133
00:50:40,000 --> 00:50:42,080
Speaker 5: be eating the same same with dick suck, And we

1134
00:50:42,160 --> 00:50:44,719
Speaker 5: have to offer extend the same invitation to the men

1135
00:50:44,760 --> 00:50:47,080
Speaker 5: that we share our mouths with absolutely.

1136
00:50:47,320 --> 00:50:50,080
Speaker 2: So I just I made it a priority.

1137
00:50:50,160 --> 00:50:51,759
Speaker 1: I'm just a person that if I say I'm going

1138
00:50:51,800 --> 00:50:53,040
Speaker 1: to do something, I'm going to do it.

1139
00:50:53,160 --> 00:50:55,280
Speaker 2: That's just the type of person I am. Period.

1140
00:50:55,560 --> 00:50:57,399
Speaker 1: So if I say I'm going to run my coach,

1141
00:50:57,480 --> 00:50:59,240
Speaker 1: and also if you're telling me that there's a chance

1142
00:50:59,239 --> 00:51:01,040
Speaker 1: that and mind you, this is what I was studying.

1143
00:51:01,080 --> 00:51:02,800
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. I've always been a sexual person.

1144
00:51:03,080 --> 00:51:05,080
Speaker 1: So before I even got into the business, I knew

1145
00:51:05,080 --> 00:51:06,799
Speaker 1: that when y'all said, then my kuchie may draw up,

1146
00:51:06,800 --> 00:51:09,560
Speaker 1: I started listening, like because when I tell you, my

1147
00:51:09,719 --> 00:51:13,800
Speaker 1: vagina was like baby powder pussy dry. For like a year,

1148
00:51:14,040 --> 00:51:18,040
Speaker 1: I felt you telling me I birthed.

1149
00:51:17,719 --> 00:51:20,279
Speaker 2: The gift of life and this is what you took

1150
00:51:20,320 --> 00:51:23,480
Speaker 2: for me. I felt betrayed, like bamboozoo hood wings, like you.

1151
00:51:23,440 --> 00:51:24,640
Speaker 4: Got me fucked up.

1152
00:51:25,840 --> 00:51:29,160
Speaker 1: And so I was like, but I also knew that

1153
00:51:29,719 --> 00:51:32,200
Speaker 1: I've always been a three orgasm girl, So like, if

1154
00:51:32,239 --> 00:51:34,239
Speaker 1: I'm sitting down to masturbate, I'm not getting up until

1155
00:51:34,239 --> 00:51:36,680
Speaker 1: have at least three orgasms. What I realized is that

1156
00:51:36,719 --> 00:51:40,040
Speaker 1: if I before, yeah, before even the sex, I would

1157
00:51:40,040 --> 00:51:42,160
Speaker 1: be like wet. And that was great one more like

1158
00:51:42,200 --> 00:51:46,000
Speaker 1: a creepy anyway, so it would be there. But then

1159
00:51:46,040 --> 00:51:49,279
Speaker 1: I realized after the baby it wasn't on the first one,

1160
00:51:49,320 --> 00:51:51,840
Speaker 1: and so I was really discouraged and embarrassed and you

1161
00:51:51,840 --> 00:51:53,480
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. But then I realized one day

1162
00:51:53,480 --> 00:51:56,200
Speaker 1: I happened to have sex after masturbating, and I realized

1163
00:51:56,239 --> 00:51:57,240
Speaker 1: I just needed more time.

1164
00:51:58,080 --> 00:51:58,799
Speaker 2: I just need more time.

1165
00:51:59,520 --> 00:52:01,560
Speaker 1: It was like being in a like living in Miami

1166
00:52:01,680 --> 00:52:04,040
Speaker 1: and then living like in snow, and it's just like

1167
00:52:04,120 --> 00:52:05,200
Speaker 1: just let the car warm up.

1168
00:52:05,200 --> 00:52:05,839
Speaker 2: It's still worked.

1169
00:52:05,880 --> 00:52:07,440
Speaker 5: I'm so happy you said this because I think a

1170
00:52:07,440 --> 00:52:09,520
Speaker 5: lot of women and men don't realize, and this may

1171
00:52:09,560 --> 00:52:11,200
Speaker 5: not be true for all women. I know that, like

1172
00:52:11,239 --> 00:52:14,360
Speaker 5: my what I needed sexually after I had a child

1173
00:52:14,440 --> 00:52:16,960
Speaker 5: was different than what I needed before. Yes, like what

1174
00:52:17,080 --> 00:52:18,759
Speaker 5: literally what my pussy wanted.

1175
00:52:18,520 --> 00:52:21,840
Speaker 1: And also what I wanted as a woman. I started

1176
00:52:21,880 --> 00:52:25,399
Speaker 1: desiring people to do things for me, and that shit

1177
00:52:25,760 --> 00:52:28,480
Speaker 1: got my pussy wet. The words you were saying stopped

1178
00:52:28,480 --> 00:52:33,920
Speaker 1: working because I'm a mom now, bitch, you know what

1179
00:52:33,920 --> 00:52:37,680
Speaker 1: I'm saying. So there was that, but also just doing

1180
00:52:37,760 --> 00:52:39,520
Speaker 1: it with myself. I was like, so it's not even

1181
00:52:39,600 --> 00:52:42,760
Speaker 1: just all like another person it's also just me alone.

1182
00:52:43,320 --> 00:52:45,320
Speaker 1: I wasn't I was getting wet again. I just realized

1183
00:52:45,360 --> 00:52:47,880
Speaker 1: now it took about three orgasms before. It's like super

1184
00:52:47,880 --> 00:52:50,600
Speaker 1: superort such as understanding that and then also it did

1185
00:52:50,640 --> 00:52:51,359
Speaker 1: come back right.

1186
00:52:51,800 --> 00:52:53,399
Speaker 2: But also you know, it's like going to the gym.

1187
00:52:53,440 --> 00:52:54,359
Speaker 2: You never something.

1188
00:52:54,440 --> 00:52:56,319
Speaker 1: You might not want to do it, but have you

1189
00:52:56,360 --> 00:52:59,040
Speaker 1: ever regretted it after you did? But also if you've

1190
00:52:59,080 --> 00:53:01,200
Speaker 1: never had an orgasm, like, well, I don't like doing it.

1191
00:53:01,200 --> 00:53:03,480
Speaker 1: It's frustrating. Might be frustrated because you got blue pussy,

1192
00:53:03,719 --> 00:53:06,440
Speaker 1: you have not ever had an orgasm. If you're listening

1193
00:53:06,440 --> 00:53:08,120
Speaker 1: and you're not sure if you've ever had an orgasm,

1194
00:53:08,120 --> 00:53:09,200
Speaker 1: the odds are you haven't.

1195
00:53:09,560 --> 00:53:10,440
Speaker 2: That that's the odds.

1196
00:53:10,480 --> 00:53:12,759
Speaker 1: Like it's just like taking a shit, you know, if

1197
00:53:12,880 --> 00:53:15,520
Speaker 1: you ship your pants like hmm, that wasn't a fart,

1198
00:53:15,600 --> 00:53:18,400
Speaker 1: that was more like you would know. Like, so with

1199
00:53:18,560 --> 00:53:20,680
Speaker 1: an orgasm, it can feel you'd be like, ooh, sex

1200
00:53:20,719 --> 00:53:23,279
Speaker 1: feel good. Orgasm is it could feel good, but when

1201
00:53:23,280 --> 00:53:24,400
Speaker 1: it's orgasm, you'll know.

1202
00:53:24,680 --> 00:53:25,080
Speaker 2: Okay.

1203
00:53:25,320 --> 00:53:27,400
Speaker 1: So anyways, this is the part where you take my

1204
00:53:27,440 --> 00:53:28,600
Speaker 1: master classes like this.

1205
00:53:29,280 --> 00:53:32,000
Speaker 5: Take this part because this is what wait, this is

1206
00:53:32,000 --> 00:53:33,080
Speaker 5: the part of the master class.

1207
00:53:33,080 --> 00:53:34,400
Speaker 4: But Also, I just want to say.

1208
00:53:34,280 --> 00:53:36,759
Speaker 5: If you do something from dry pussy, you guys, and

1209
00:53:36,840 --> 00:53:38,400
Speaker 5: there is and you you know that's.

1210
00:53:38,200 --> 00:53:41,080
Speaker 3: The thing for you, especially like postpartum espec. Just at

1211
00:53:41,080 --> 00:53:42,040
Speaker 3: any point period.

1212
00:53:42,400 --> 00:53:46,320
Speaker 5: V Vitamins is the shit. B Vitamins is literally saving

1213
00:53:46,360 --> 00:53:48,920
Speaker 5: pussies around the world. It's a black owned company, and

1214
00:53:48,960 --> 00:53:51,400
Speaker 5: I vouch for them myself. My pussy's not dry, but

1215
00:53:51,440 --> 00:53:52,720
Speaker 5: now it's extra wet wet.

1216
00:53:53,120 --> 00:53:55,120
Speaker 3: My pussy's wet, and now it's wet, wet wet. We

1217
00:53:55,239 --> 00:53:57,319
Speaker 3: we what? And I know when to pull that bitch

1218
00:53:57,360 --> 00:53:59,120
Speaker 3: out because I'm like, let me show this motherfucker a

1219
00:53:59,120 --> 00:53:59,480
Speaker 3: little son.

1220
00:53:59,480 --> 00:54:06,320
Speaker 1: I'm like, you got I don't know, I'm shorts.

1221
00:54:06,600 --> 00:54:08,520
Speaker 3: You know, I will be honest. I didn't. I didn't

1222
00:54:08,520 --> 00:54:09,760
Speaker 3: pack any panties this trip.

1223
00:54:10,000 --> 00:54:13,479
Speaker 4: WHOA why purpose I didn't.

1224
00:54:13,480 --> 00:54:15,839
Speaker 3: I didn't enough laundry. It's a long star. I don't

1225
00:54:15,840 --> 00:54:17,920
Speaker 3: really panties that often anyway. But the point is v

1226
00:54:18,000 --> 00:54:22,640
Speaker 3: Vitamins use our code g NBC ten, get a discount

1227
00:54:22,680 --> 00:54:25,319
Speaker 3: and have a wet wet pussy and up your sex

1228
00:54:25,400 --> 00:54:27,200
Speaker 3: life because even if you have wet pussy is gonna

1229
00:54:27,200 --> 00:54:28,800
Speaker 3: make a wet, wet weather. And if you're going on

1230
00:54:28,840 --> 00:54:30,600
Speaker 3: a date, I have a date night, planned something special,

1231
00:54:30,600 --> 00:54:32,279
Speaker 3: a vacation, I don't know, toss it in the bag

1232
00:54:32,480 --> 00:54:35,319
Speaker 3: and then think us later. But it really does work.

1233
00:54:36,800 --> 00:54:38,560
Speaker 1: One day we got to talk about, you know, wet

1234
00:54:38,600 --> 00:54:41,560
Speaker 1: pussies and creamy pussies, because I think that also women

1235
00:54:41,680 --> 00:54:46,120
Speaker 1: have different not think, I know that women have different consistencies.

1236
00:54:45,360 --> 00:54:47,480
Speaker 3: With well, you know it has It has a lot

1237
00:54:47,520 --> 00:54:50,720
Speaker 3: to do with your ovulation. Usually, if it's creamy, niggas

1238
00:54:50,719 --> 00:54:53,160
Speaker 3: pull out, that's when they're ovulating. But if it's clear

1239
00:54:53,239 --> 00:54:55,920
Speaker 3: and that little like sticky clearness, then you're not ovulating,

1240
00:54:55,960 --> 00:54:58,000
Speaker 3: and then it's don't take this from me. I wouldn't

1241
00:54:58,000 --> 00:54:58,960
Speaker 3: say I'm not gonna tell you.

1242
00:55:00,040 --> 00:55:02,239
Speaker 5: Want to say that she's not a medical expert. So

1243
00:55:02,320 --> 00:55:04,920
Speaker 5: if you get pregnant listening to me, I do not contrast.

1244
00:55:05,400 --> 00:55:07,360
Speaker 3: No, this is to.

1245
00:55:11,160 --> 00:55:13,759
Speaker 4: Shut the fuck up. What's your life?

1246
00:55:13,800 --> 00:55:14,279
Speaker 1: Do what you want to?

1247
00:55:14,280 --> 00:55:15,600
Speaker 2: Just add that on the end and it resolves you.

1248
00:55:16,320 --> 00:55:21,359
Speaker 3: If it's a if it's a creamy smell, olderless thicker discharge,

1249
00:55:21,480 --> 00:55:23,800
Speaker 3: it's probably because you're ovulating. Now if there's a smell,

1250
00:55:23,880 --> 00:55:25,360
Speaker 3: that's a different issue and you have to go see it.

1251
00:55:25,600 --> 00:55:27,080
Speaker 4: No, we need to go use the vitamins because that

1252
00:55:27,120 --> 00:55:28,920
Speaker 4: also helps with the smell, or you need.

1253
00:55:28,880 --> 00:55:30,960
Speaker 3: To see a medical professional. But she's like, I think

1254
00:55:31,040 --> 00:55:34,759
Speaker 3: you should go the vitamins. Don't care that then you

1255
00:55:34,800 --> 00:55:36,760
Speaker 3: need to go see a medical professional. But just general

1256
00:55:36,840 --> 00:55:40,319
Speaker 3: creamy non odorless is probably ovulating. You shouldn't get none

1257
00:55:40,320 --> 00:55:43,440
Speaker 3: of it. Anyway, back to the regular program.

1258
00:55:43,520 --> 00:55:49,360
Speaker 2: I love the the range. This is gonna be a

1259
00:55:49,440 --> 00:55:51,560
Speaker 2: good book. It's gonna be a good book.

1260
00:55:51,600 --> 00:55:53,360
Speaker 3: The book is really good, and I'm not going to

1261
00:55:53,400 --> 00:55:54,839
Speaker 3: say it just because we wrote it, but it really

1262
00:55:54,960 --> 00:55:56,880
Speaker 3: is good. I was like, I can't miss any of

1263
00:55:56,960 --> 00:55:58,520
Speaker 3: these points. This is very important.

1264
00:55:59,400 --> 00:56:03,319
Speaker 2: What pussy yes asked the question?

1265
00:56:03,440 --> 00:56:08,600
Speaker 5: Okay, so yes, So was it easy getting back into

1266
00:56:08,640 --> 00:56:11,279
Speaker 5: your pleasure? Was it uncomfortable dating with a child?

1267
00:56:11,960 --> 00:56:14,600
Speaker 1: It is always uncomfortable dating with a child. That's fine

1268
00:56:14,719 --> 00:56:16,279
Speaker 1: because I don't like to split any of my time

1269
00:56:16,360 --> 00:56:18,040
Speaker 1: the time that I have. I already have my child

1270
00:56:18,120 --> 00:56:20,200
Speaker 1: fifty percent of the time, and that's not my choice.

1271
00:56:20,280 --> 00:56:22,879
Speaker 1: And when I think about those numbers, that shit fucks

1272
00:56:22,920 --> 00:56:24,680
Speaker 1: me up. Like you're telling me I have my child

1273
00:56:24,800 --> 00:56:27,960
Speaker 1: half of his life and I'm his mother, so I

1274
00:56:28,040 --> 00:56:29,880
Speaker 1: don't date while I have my child.

1275
00:56:30,280 --> 00:56:33,360
Speaker 2: But sex wasn't difficult because I was.

1276
00:56:33,680 --> 00:56:35,760
Speaker 1: I ended up dating the guy who was my boyfriend

1277
00:56:35,840 --> 00:56:37,960
Speaker 1: in my marriage, so we were already comfortable and him

1278
00:56:38,000 --> 00:56:40,640
Speaker 1: and my husband were already cool and stuff like that,

1279
00:56:40,840 --> 00:56:41,480
Speaker 1: so like he.

1280
00:56:41,640 --> 00:56:43,480
Speaker 2: Was even encouraging it because he ain't want me to

1281
00:56:43,480 --> 00:56:44,279
Speaker 2: be dating on new people.

1282
00:56:44,320 --> 00:56:46,359
Speaker 1: We either, like, because that's your kid around somebody knew

1283
00:56:47,360 --> 00:56:49,799
Speaker 1: so that you know, lasted for a while. But since

1284
00:56:49,840 --> 00:56:52,920
Speaker 1: then it has been very fucking hard because now I'm

1285
00:56:52,960 --> 00:56:55,040
Speaker 1: not dating, I have a new set of boundaries and

1286
00:56:55,120 --> 00:56:56,720
Speaker 1: standards and things I want for myself.

1287
00:56:56,760 --> 00:56:57,440
Speaker 2: But also.

1288
00:56:59,040 --> 00:57:02,360
Speaker 1: I've been lusting after me, like I've been allowing myself

1289
00:57:02,480 --> 00:57:07,440
Speaker 1: to explore seeing me, and like I turned myself on

1290
00:57:07,680 --> 00:57:07,960
Speaker 1: a lot.

1291
00:57:08,440 --> 00:57:09,839
Speaker 2: But also it works out because I'm busy.

1292
00:57:09,880 --> 00:57:13,400
Speaker 1: This concept house shit is whooping my ass, but now

1293
00:57:13,440 --> 00:57:15,160
Speaker 1: we open it, so now I'm ready for dates.

1294
00:57:15,680 --> 00:57:18,400
Speaker 2: She's available for dates, single and ready to mingle. I'm

1295
00:57:18,440 --> 00:57:18,960
Speaker 2: an aries.

1296
00:57:20,440 --> 00:57:22,640
Speaker 3: She's like long long walks in the beach, a very

1297
00:57:22,800 --> 00:57:26,160
Speaker 3: organized date with lots of plans, maybe even that itinerary

1298
00:57:26,840 --> 00:57:30,920
Speaker 3: you I love ituary, and maybe even a wardrobe stylists

1299
00:57:30,920 --> 00:57:33,760
Speaker 3: and makeup artists before the itinerary begins, and don't be late,

1300
00:57:34,240 --> 00:57:34,880
Speaker 3: she will dump you.

1301
00:57:36,280 --> 00:57:39,000
Speaker 2: Now that's not true. I have grace, but we would

1302
00:57:39,040 --> 00:57:41,280
Speaker 2: have to reschedule the new itinerary.

1303
00:57:41,680 --> 00:57:43,600
Speaker 3: No girl, he was three minutes late, so I had

1304
00:57:43,640 --> 00:57:44,960
Speaker 3: to do something else. I went to sleep.

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Speaker 2: I'm masturbated, you guys.

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Speaker 3: We came to we got to somebody's house. I mistakenly

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00:57:51,520 --> 00:57:53,080
Speaker 3: text her that we're getting her the wrong day at

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00:57:53,080 --> 00:57:55,640
Speaker 3: five am. And as we've walked to the door, I

1309
00:57:55,720 --> 00:57:57,520
Speaker 3: was like, oh my god, this bitch is going to

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Speaker 3: kill us.

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00:57:58,440 --> 00:58:00,200
Speaker 4: It was dark, it was five am.

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Speaker 3: I'm like I thought I did. She's like I thought

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00:58:01,720 --> 00:58:03,400
Speaker 3: you said. I was like, I thought we left tomorrow.

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00:58:03,920 --> 00:58:05,720
Speaker 3: I was like, if one person's gonna beat her ass,

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Speaker 3: that's gonna be motherfucking Semia because she did not plan

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Speaker 3: for this. Ship.

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Speaker 5: We pulled up to the house, like the security is

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00:58:11,200 --> 00:58:14,200
Speaker 5: thick here, so don't even think about it. Don't even

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00:58:14,320 --> 00:58:16,480
Speaker 5: think about it. Okay, I'm gonna let you know now.

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Speaker 5: I noticed Atlanta and there's robbers and shit. Don't even

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Speaker 5: think about it.

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Speaker 4: Okay.

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00:58:22,840 --> 00:58:23,360
Speaker 3: We pulled up.

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Speaker 5: I was like, oh, ship, we're being recorded. It was

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00:58:25,560 --> 00:58:27,720
Speaker 5: like you are being recorded, Okay.

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Speaker 3: I was like, oh gosh.

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Speaker 5: We pulled an open opens the door, half sleep with

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Speaker 5: her blue frosachi rope hair perfectly coiled in her little coils,

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00:58:38,200 --> 00:58:41,560
Speaker 5: and ship she's throwing ship eyes closed, here.

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Speaker 4: Go get in there.

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00:58:44,160 --> 00:58:46,080
Speaker 3: Perfect just let out and I was like.

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Speaker 4: She's gonna kill us.

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00:58:47,560 --> 00:58:48,880
Speaker 3: I was like, I know he might not be friends

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00:58:48,920 --> 00:58:49,240
Speaker 3: to bro.

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00:58:50,720 --> 00:58:53,040
Speaker 4: I woke them up organizing she did.

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Speaker 3: She just came in the room. I was like, what's

1337
00:58:55,240 --> 00:58:59,120
Speaker 3: gonna be here? At nine am, I was like, he's

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Speaker 3: never latest.

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00:59:04,440 --> 00:59:05,280
Speaker 4: Even about.

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Speaker 3: She sures did at eight fifty. That came to awake

1341
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Speaker 3: as the funk up. You all need to move.

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Speaker 2: Look here or you don't like the details. I like

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Speaker 2: the you know all the you want a picture, you

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Speaker 2: want to drink like? I love the aesthetics and I

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Speaker 2: do I do. I think we deserve it, like.

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Speaker 3: Your goddess, your godess is we deserve all the goddish things.

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Speaker 3: Before before we move on, I wanted to ask you,

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Speaker 3: and this is going to be strictly for Patreon, because

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Speaker 3: you can't get all the gems for free.

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Speaker 5: But before we get out of here, because and then

1351
00:59:39,480 --> 00:59:42,720
Speaker 5: we gotta go, there's three things, okay. Number one, do

1352
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Speaker 5: you have an affirmation you can share with us?

1353
00:59:49,920 --> 00:59:51,439
Speaker 3: If you don't. I can share one from the book.

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Speaker 3: I have one just because we talked about a lot

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Speaker 3: of important things today. This is we share manifestations in

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00:59:57,760 --> 01:00:01,360
Speaker 3: the book. And one of the manifestations that I wanted

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01:00:01,400 --> 01:00:03,360
Speaker 3: to share with you all, just one because you got

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01:00:03,480 --> 01:00:05,960
Speaker 3: to read the book. But this comes from chapter one

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Speaker 3: and it says, I will not let my past fears

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01:00:11,640 --> 01:00:15,440
Speaker 3: and traumas limit the beautiful experiences manifesting in my present

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01:00:15,640 --> 01:00:20,440
Speaker 3: gorgeous existence. I love that I will not let my

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01:00:20,680 --> 01:00:25,800
Speaker 3: past fears and traumas limit the beautiful experiences manifesting in

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01:00:25,920 --> 01:00:30,680
Speaker 3: my present gorgeous existence, which basically means, whatever happened yesterday

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01:00:30,760 --> 01:00:33,080
Speaker 3: is yesterday, and you can build new life. You can

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Speaker 3: build new systems in your body, new responses, and new relationships.

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Speaker 3: And you have the power. So whatever doesn't serve you,

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Speaker 3: release it, let it go, Let them go, and forgive.

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Speaker 2: And move on, start over as many times as you

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01:00:45,920 --> 01:00:46,160
Speaker 2: need to.

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Speaker 3: Amen.

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Speaker 5: And we pulled a card at the top of the show,

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Speaker 5: and it just maya pulled a card as you pulled

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01:00:52,520 --> 01:01:04,320
Speaker 5: the world card. And the world card means my sense, completion, integration, accomplishment,

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01:01:05,080 --> 01:01:05,600
Speaker 5: and travel.

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Speaker 4: Bitch, is time to make a vacation. Maybe come, maybe

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Speaker 4: you need to come out to the Mexico good vibratry.

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Speaker 1: First of all, you know when y'all was talking about

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Speaker 1: it and y'all said rose courts, Yeah, I knowed.

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Speaker 2: I'd be rubbing my pussy to some rose qu.

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01:01:17,480 --> 01:01:17,520
Speaker 1: A.

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Speaker 5: B Well, come bring your rose courts and rub your

1382
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Speaker 5: pussy on the rose courts at the good vibe treatful? Okay,

1383
01:01:25,760 --> 01:01:28,120
Speaker 5: but yes, so that those are the things that it represents.

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Speaker 3: And uh.

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Speaker 5: When the World card appears in the tarot reading, you

1386
01:01:32,400 --> 01:01:35,880
Speaker 5: are glowing with a sense of wholeness, achievement, fulfillment, and completion.

1387
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Speaker 5: Hello Si content house, completion, a long term project, period

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01:01:41,280 --> 01:01:44,800
Speaker 5: of study, relationship, or career has come full circle and

1389
01:01:44,880 --> 01:01:47,560
Speaker 5: you are now reveling in the sense of closure and accomplishment.

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01:01:47,960 --> 01:01:50,760
Speaker 5: This card could represent graduation, a marriage, a birth of

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01:01:50,800 --> 01:01:54,040
Speaker 5: a child, achieving a long held dream or aspiration. You

1392
01:01:54,120 --> 01:01:56,920
Speaker 5: have finally accomplished your goals or purpose. Everything has come

1393
01:01:57,000 --> 01:01:58,960
Speaker 5: together and you are in the right place, doing the

1394
01:01:59,080 --> 01:02:02,320
Speaker 5: right thing, achieving what you have envisioned. You feel whole

1395
01:02:02,720 --> 01:02:07,560
Speaker 5: and complete. More literally, the world can mean world travel,

1396
01:02:07,760 --> 01:02:10,880
Speaker 5: particularly particularly on a large scale. You may be lucky

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Speaker 5: enough to embark on a six month overseas trip, or

1398
01:02:14,280 --> 01:02:17,400
Speaker 5: are working, studying, or living overseas for an extended period.

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01:02:18,280 --> 01:02:22,600
Speaker 5: This card reinforces universal understanding and global awareness, and you

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01:02:22,640 --> 01:02:25,320
Speaker 5: will find a new appreciation for people and cultures from

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01:02:25,320 --> 01:02:26,080
Speaker 5: across the world.

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Speaker 2: I receive, Ah, Okay.

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01:02:32,840 --> 01:02:34,920
Speaker 3: I feel like all of us are going to live

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01:02:35,320 --> 01:02:36,040
Speaker 3: out of the country.

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01:02:36,480 --> 01:02:38,760
Speaker 1: I think that you all are going to buy a

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01:02:38,840 --> 01:02:40,600
Speaker 1: vacation house, and I'm going to buy a vacation house,

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01:02:40,640 --> 01:02:41,720
Speaker 1: and then we're going to swap weekends.

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01:02:41,760 --> 01:02:44,400
Speaker 4: And we already bought land, so we're building our house

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01:02:44,440 --> 01:02:46,360
Speaker 4: in Costa Rica. So you're more than welcome to come,

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01:02:46,400 --> 01:02:46,840
Speaker 4: of course, and.

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01:02:46,840 --> 01:02:48,480
Speaker 3: Then everybody ears will definitely swap.

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01:02:48,480 --> 01:02:49,520
Speaker 2: I'd love that, Okay.

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01:02:49,520 --> 01:02:51,160
Speaker 1: I I gotta find a city because you know, I

1414
01:02:51,160 --> 01:02:53,440
Speaker 1: always loved a Malibu house, but y'all live out there,

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01:02:53,480 --> 01:02:55,880
Speaker 1: So now I got to get another well house like.

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01:02:56,480 --> 01:02:58,840
Speaker 2: You know that that like on the on the cliff,

1417
01:02:58,960 --> 01:02:59,400
Speaker 2: like up there.

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01:02:59,520 --> 01:03:00,160
Speaker 3: You know, I need.

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01:03:00,280 --> 01:03:02,560
Speaker 2: I need bouginess, like I need. I need like a

1420
01:03:02,720 --> 01:03:04,840
Speaker 2: modern rustic like.

1421
01:03:05,520 --> 01:03:08,160
Speaker 5: But I feel your esthetic though, I'm like, no, I

1422
01:03:08,240 --> 01:03:10,720
Speaker 5: see the esthetics. I'm like, bitch, I'm gonna be your husband.

1423
01:03:11,160 --> 01:03:19,640
Speaker 5: But now I'll marry you, watch out, and then one more.

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01:03:19,600 --> 01:03:22,840
Speaker 3: Last question before we wrap up. So our final part

1425
01:03:22,960 --> 01:03:26,280
Speaker 3: in the book is called Revelation, which is obviously a

1426
01:03:26,320 --> 01:03:31,000
Speaker 3: play on revelations because we're rebels. So we wanted to

1427
01:03:31,040 --> 01:03:34,360
Speaker 3: ask you, what is your revelation, something that a divine

1428
01:03:34,680 --> 01:03:38,880
Speaker 3: epiphany understanding that you discovered through you know, just being

1429
01:03:38,960 --> 01:03:40,880
Speaker 3: true to yourself and being rebellious.

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01:03:43,000 --> 01:03:47,800
Speaker 1: I am a greedy bitch, I should be. The truth

1431
01:03:47,960 --> 01:03:51,640
Speaker 1: is is that I want to be treated all girly

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01:03:51,880 --> 01:03:54,080
Speaker 1: and things like that, and I want to live this

1433
01:03:54,360 --> 01:03:57,479
Speaker 1: you know, quote unquote soft life, and but I also

1434
01:03:57,560 --> 01:04:01,320
Speaker 1: want to work hard as fucking live in crazy schedules

1435
01:04:01,360 --> 01:04:04,960
Speaker 1: and organized. But also I want to camp and disconnect.

1436
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Speaker 1: And I also want to be buried for years. And

1437
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Speaker 1: I kind of want a daughter, and I'm really scared

1438
01:04:11,720 --> 01:04:14,320
Speaker 1: that I want that, and I'm trying to give my

1439
01:04:14,840 --> 01:04:19,080
Speaker 1: I'm giving myself permission to not be sure. And I

1440
01:04:19,280 --> 01:04:22,840
Speaker 1: also want to still have slutty experiences and I still

1441
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Speaker 1: want my male male female threesome. And I am not

1442
01:04:26,840 --> 01:04:29,800
Speaker 1: bending or backing down for any of that. And I'm

1443
01:04:29,840 --> 01:04:32,800
Speaker 1: a greedy bitch, And yes it don't add up, but

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01:04:32,960 --> 01:04:37,680
Speaker 1: this is my life. I want everything. I want it

1445
01:04:37,760 --> 01:04:39,960
Speaker 1: all and I've decided and I'm okay with.

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Speaker 3: It, and you can it all.

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Speaker 5: It sounds about a revelation to me, all of it. Yes, well,

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Speaker 5: thank you friend. I always love sitting down with you.

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