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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need

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Speaker 1: We got it for you here. It is a Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, nephew. Subject the country bumpkin is not welcome

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Speaker 1: in my family. Dear Stephen Shirley, I need your advice

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Speaker 1: because my daughter is in love with a country bumpkin.

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Speaker 1: She is twenty four years old and she got engaged recently,

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Speaker 1: and she brought her fiance to town to meet my

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Speaker 1: husband and I. As soon as they got out of

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Speaker 1: the pickup truck, I thought, wth is this? He is

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Speaker 1: a true country bumpkin. He has his ged because he

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Speaker 1: dropped out of high school to work on his family's farm.

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Speaker 1: My daughter has a master's degree and a promising career.

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Speaker 1: The fact that her fiance is white has no bearing

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Speaker 1: on how I feel about him. She could do so

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Speaker 1: much better than this. My husband says, farmers can make

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Speaker 1: a lot of money, but I don't want country grand babies.

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Speaker 1: They stayed with us for a weekend, and this young

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Speaker 1: man has no real interest in politics, the pandemic, or

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Speaker 1: Black Lives Matter. He doesn't watch much TV, and he

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Speaker 1: hasn't been to the movies in years. He's isolated himself

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Speaker 1: on the farm working with animals. They met at a

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Speaker 1: at first sight. I notice she's not on her phone

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Speaker 1: as much as she used to be, and she said

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Speaker 1: she's deleted her social media account because it's too much

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Speaker 1: to keep up with. In some ways, this young man

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Speaker 1: has grounded her, but he's stifling her in so many

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Speaker 1: other ways. My daughter said his family was very welcoming,

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Speaker 1: and they say she's book smart and nicknamed her professor.

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Speaker 1: My husband and my sister said, I'm uppity and being

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Speaker 1: too judgmental. I want the best for my daughter and

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Speaker 1: he is not it. I encouraged her to have a

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Speaker 1: long engagement, but the wedding date is set for next fall.

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Speaker 1: I know she can do better than this, and I'm

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Speaker 1: trying to get her to see that. Isn't that a

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Speaker 1: parent's job. Would I be wrong if I didn't give

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Speaker 1: her my blessing to marry him. Okay, no, you wouldn't

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Speaker 1: be wrong. But I have to tell you that they

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Speaker 1: don't need your blessing to get married if that's really

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Speaker 1: what they want to do. And I'm truly trying to

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Speaker 1: figure out what's so wrong with this guy. I mean,

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Speaker 1: is it just the fact that he's from the country,

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Speaker 1: enough or rich enough. You don't like this guy. Let's

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Speaker 1: go down the list. They met at a farmer's market.

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Speaker 1: You said he has a pickup truck. Seems like you

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Speaker 1: had a problem with that. He has a geed, he

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Speaker 1: hasn't been to the movies. He's not into politics or

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Speaker 1: the pandemic or Black Lives Matter, he doesn't watch TV,

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Speaker 1: and he's been isolated on the farm working with the animals.

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Speaker 1: Your daughter, meanwhile, is well educated. She has a master's

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Speaker 1: degree and a promising career. And his family says she's

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Speaker 1: very welcoming to her. You said, oh, and the big one.

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Speaker 1: Your daughter is black and he's white. But you say

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Speaker 1: that doesn't matter to you. What about love? I don't

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Speaker 1: see any mention of love on here. Do they love

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Speaker 1: you know, again your blessing is not going to matter

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Speaker 1: in this So and please don't say you don't want

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Speaker 1: that will be a turn off to your daughter. You know,

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Speaker 1: I've seen all kinds of marriages work, marriages that people

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Speaker 1: never believed would and then marriages where you go, no,

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Speaker 1: they broke up. I thought they would be together till death.

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Speaker 1: I mean, the main problem I'm going to tell you

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Speaker 1: that I see in this letter is that he doesn't

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Speaker 1: of that. He doesn't know what's going on in the world.

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Speaker 1: And that's probably because, like you said, he's been on

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Speaker 1: Your daughter really needs to discuss these things with him.

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Speaker 1: That's what they need to be talking about right now.

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Speaker 1: See how he feels about all this stuff for real,

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Speaker 1: because this is going to matter in a marriage in

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Speaker 1: spite of their differences, you know, sometimes opposite to do

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Speaker 1: a track. You've got to let them figure this out,

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Speaker 1: though you got to stay out of it. Let them

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Speaker 1: figure it out. Not you Steve, This country bumpkin ain't

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Speaker 1: welcome in my family. The first lie in the letter

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Speaker 1: I don't believe that. That's why you're friending him as

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Speaker 1: a country bunker. Now, you know, do how you want.

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Speaker 1: You can want the best for your kids. But does

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Speaker 1: every parent know what's best for their children all the time. Nope,

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Speaker 1: No they don't. No, they don't. Parents make mistakes too. Now,

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Speaker 1: she's twenty four years old, got engaged. Wait until she

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Speaker 1: got engaged, brought him home to meet y'all. You was

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Speaker 1: upset soon as they got out to pick up truck.

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Speaker 1: That's what you didn't like. I thought, what the hell

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Speaker 1: is this? He is a true country bunking. He got

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Speaker 1: work on his family farm. Okay, my daughter has a

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Speaker 1: master's degree and a promising career and what so what

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Speaker 1: she got a master's degree, so and he got a ged.

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Speaker 1: Now I understand what you say. She could do much

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Speaker 1: better than this. If she could, she would see if

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Speaker 1: your daughter qualifies for so much better, she'd have so

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Speaker 1: much better. There's some things you may not know about

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Speaker 1: your daughter. Then your husband told you farmers can make

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Speaker 1: had to have one moster of a farm now and

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Speaker 1: I ain't man, but either way, he's a hard working man.

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Speaker 1: I'm really pissed off at the letter because it sounds

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Speaker 1: like it's about me. I knew it. Let's just stop

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Speaker 1: this foolish We're gonna have part two of Steve Damn,

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Speaker 1: and we'll get back into it at twenty three minutes after.

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Speaker 1: Right after this, you're listening, all right, Steve, Come on,

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Speaker 1: recap the letter that you think is about you. It's

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Speaker 1: not welcome in my family. Let's go heard this before

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Speaker 1: sitting up working on a farm. Your daughter got a

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Speaker 1: master's degree and a promising career promises. I'm out here

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Speaker 1: pulling these tomatoes. Got a truck full of cucumbers? What

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Speaker 1: you promising? More promising than that? If I don't sell it,

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Speaker 1: we can eat it. Cucumber selling this delicious right. My

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Speaker 1: husband says farmers can make a lot of money, but

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Speaker 1: I don't want a country bunking grand baby. Well then

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Speaker 1: that's what they're gonna have. So you ain't gonna want

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Speaker 1: And this young man has no real interest in politics.

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Speaker 1: I ain't mad at him for that. The coronavirus, he

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Speaker 1: You're in the middle of field, working by yourself. He's

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Speaker 1: social distancing all black lives matter. Didn't you say he

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Speaker 1: you want him get a T shirt on? He didn't

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Speaker 1: do that. He's isolated himself on the farm, working with animals.

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Speaker 1: Maybe he don't like a lot of people. But your

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Speaker 1: daughter loves him. Yeah, I know that. She's not on

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Speaker 1: in your daughter, But he's stifling her in so many

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Speaker 1: other ways. Like what she like? What? What now? My

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Speaker 1: booked smart, she gotta masters, and he got a ged.

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Speaker 1: Hell yeah, she booked smart. They color professor, Hell yeah,

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Speaker 1: oh masters, We ged people. No time for high school

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Speaker 1: going down that graduating. I gotta go out here, police tomatoes.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you, we gotta shuck this coin. We

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Speaker 1: pee snapping people. We in here, we slopping hogs. So

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Speaker 1: why do you think this letter is about you? Stick?

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Speaker 1: Because I'm country. I hadn't heard this before. Oh you

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Speaker 1: all that? Yeah? Who told you that? Oh don't They

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Speaker 1: don't want to get into people. My it's been and

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Speaker 1: my sister say I'm up. And then I'm being too

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Speaker 1: and he is not it. You don't know that I

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Speaker 1: encourage her have a long engagement and blah blah, blah blah.

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Speaker 1: I'm not trying to, you know, get her to see

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Speaker 1: that now? All is it? Isn't that a parent's job.

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Speaker 1: Would I'd be wrong if I didn't give her my

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Speaker 1: blessing to marry him. You ain't got they don't need it.

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Speaker 1: She only say that they don't need it. But you

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Speaker 1: a blessing, that he has to come to the father

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Speaker 1: and ask for the daughter's head in manage. And you

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Speaker 1: wed Another bride. You do know them, let me ask

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Speaker 1: you a question. How does he treat them? Probably like

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Speaker 1: person that wrote the latter you don't like to do

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Speaker 1: because he got a ged Let's go over a couple

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Speaker 1: of people that don't have mass and degrees like your daughter. Ready, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Woods don't have a man Sins degree, Tyler Perry don't

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Speaker 1: they that, if they were dating your daughter, you wouldn't

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Speaker 1: have a problem with the GEDA. Did you? You you

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Speaker 1: lot of hugely successful people that don't have that. The

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Speaker 1: biggest problem in this letter issue I think your prejudice.

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Speaker 1: She ain't hit it herself, I could say, even though

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Speaker 1: she says she's not, Steve, You're right, Hell you know

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Speaker 1: how much stuff I said, I wasn't gonna do it.

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Speaker 1: told a person you was in love? What I mean?

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Speaker 1: You really weren't? Man? Yeah? Because I was home? Boy?

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Speaker 1: Wait what? Because he was home that's a good reason.

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Speaker 1: I love you immediately without my heart and soul. All right,

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