1 00:00:04,760 --> 00:00:09,760 Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey. 2 00:00:09,119 --> 00:00:09,760 Speaker 2: We're back. 3 00:00:10,200 --> 00:00:18,320 Speaker 3: We're round and Bishop and musition, edition and ambition. 4 00:00:18,520 --> 00:00:21,320 Speaker 2: We need to get our breaks checked. We're a little 5 00:00:21,320 --> 00:00:25,400 Speaker 2: squeaky today. I'm here, tell me about a baby. What's 6 00:00:25,440 --> 00:00:27,720 Speaker 2: going on, honey, But nothing. 7 00:00:27,760 --> 00:00:29,960 Speaker 3: It's just the last few days, you know, we've been, 8 00:00:30,240 --> 00:00:32,879 Speaker 3: you know, doing this partnership with my friend Terry, with 9 00:00:32,960 --> 00:00:36,360 Speaker 3: her her Friday masterclass. Are investing today's I mean, by 10 00:00:36,360 --> 00:00:38,000 Speaker 3: the time, y'all hear this is too late, but. 11 00:00:37,960 --> 00:00:40,360 Speaker 2: Y'all because you know how those partnerships can be. 12 00:00:40,479 --> 00:00:44,920 Speaker 3: Yeah, no's we know, you know, but it's just, you know, 13 00:00:45,120 --> 00:00:47,320 Speaker 3: it's just been a lot of work and then low 14 00:00:47,400 --> 00:00:47,880 Speaker 3: key hockey. 15 00:00:47,880 --> 00:00:48,760 Speaker 2: I'm sure they might listen. 16 00:00:48,840 --> 00:00:52,120 Speaker 3: My my what's called a company reached out to me 17 00:00:52,159 --> 00:00:56,639 Speaker 3: today about like another book. Everybody like, yeah, by publisher, 18 00:00:56,680 --> 00:00:59,720 Speaker 3: and I'm like, go sit down up with the world. 19 00:00:59,720 --> 00:01:01,280 Speaker 2: Book came out in an ocean book. 20 00:01:02,360 --> 00:01:04,480 Speaker 3: I'm not doing nobody's book because they could hopefully they 21 00:01:04,520 --> 00:01:05,840 Speaker 3: could just could count as a notice. 22 00:01:05,959 --> 00:01:07,679 Speaker 2: You know, I can write the whole thing. I'd be 23 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:09,240 Speaker 2: a ghost writer for you. 24 00:01:09,280 --> 00:01:11,240 Speaker 3: No, because it's not the writing of the book part 25 00:01:11,280 --> 00:01:14,000 Speaker 3: is the easiest part, girl, It's the marketing part that's 26 00:01:14,000 --> 00:01:16,080 Speaker 3: why they don't tell you, and so like they're like, ooh, 27 00:01:16,440 --> 00:01:19,440 Speaker 3: even they were asking because oftentimes you'll have a book 28 00:01:19,520 --> 00:01:21,440 Speaker 3: when it's a hardcover, you know, you eventually make a 29 00:01:21,480 --> 00:01:24,319 Speaker 3: transition into softcover. So that's a conversation they want to have. 30 00:01:24,520 --> 00:01:26,240 Speaker 3: But truthfully, you only do that when the book sales 31 00:01:26,240 --> 00:01:28,520 Speaker 3: are waiting. But like, honestly, we just sold eight hundred 32 00:01:28,520 --> 00:01:30,520 Speaker 3: copies last week, like nine hundred a week before twenty 33 00:01:30,520 --> 00:01:31,280 Speaker 3: five hundred a week. 34 00:01:31,280 --> 00:01:34,360 Speaker 1: You sold eight eight hundred copies last week. 35 00:01:34,480 --> 00:01:37,720 Speaker 2: Oh oh yeah, so we're still selling so amazing. You're 36 00:01:37,760 --> 00:01:40,479 Speaker 2: selling more than like a first like most author sell. 37 00:01:41,600 --> 00:01:42,360 Speaker 2: So I'm just like. 38 00:01:42,440 --> 00:01:44,360 Speaker 3: Usually I'm just like, I don't know that it's ready 39 00:01:44,360 --> 00:01:46,039 Speaker 3: for paperback, because usually you do that as like to 40 00:01:46,080 --> 00:01:47,080 Speaker 3: reinvigorate the book. 41 00:01:47,200 --> 00:01:49,400 Speaker 2: I didn't know that. I mean I always imagine like 42 00:01:49,440 --> 00:01:51,120 Speaker 2: a year after a book comes out, but yours has 43 00:01:51,120 --> 00:01:53,560 Speaker 2: been out for well you did the worst book, but 44 00:01:53,640 --> 00:01:56,000 Speaker 2: yeah three years now. It's like, yeah, well usually they 45 00:01:56,120 --> 00:01:59,240 Speaker 2: do the paperbacks are more affordable, yes, So for that, 46 00:01:59,560 --> 00:01:59,840 Speaker 2: you know. 47 00:02:00,200 --> 00:02:02,720 Speaker 3: They usually say that the reason why is because that's 48 00:02:02,760 --> 00:02:04,320 Speaker 3: why they like to bring it out, because they're like, oh, 49 00:02:04,360 --> 00:02:06,160 Speaker 3: people are not buying it. Maybe it's the price, but 50 00:02:06,200 --> 00:02:08,320 Speaker 3: it's like, well, that's how true. It's it's hell pretty 51 00:02:08,320 --> 00:02:11,040 Speaker 3: steady in about thousand sales give or take a week. 52 00:02:11,440 --> 00:02:13,720 Speaker 3: And so I'm just kind of like, but also if 53 00:02:13,720 --> 00:02:15,760 Speaker 3: you do a paperback, that's another push. 54 00:02:15,960 --> 00:02:19,320 Speaker 2: I'm not I'm yeah. 55 00:02:19,760 --> 00:02:20,920 Speaker 1: The marketing required. 56 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:21,680 Speaker 2: I don't have. 57 00:02:21,600 --> 00:02:22,160 Speaker 1: It in me. 58 00:02:22,520 --> 00:02:23,680 Speaker 2: You got other stuff to do. 59 00:02:24,160 --> 00:02:25,639 Speaker 1: Yeah, So I'm just like, we just try to save 60 00:02:25,680 --> 00:02:27,840 Speaker 1: this company job like y'all know, I'm you. 61 00:02:27,760 --> 00:02:29,400 Speaker 3: Know, we are this is the year. I mean, we 62 00:02:29,440 --> 00:02:34,080 Speaker 3: are stable. Yeah yeah, But I'm just like, so just 63 00:02:34,160 --> 00:02:36,560 Speaker 3: all the things. I mean, there's a lot of changes happening, 64 00:02:36,600 --> 00:02:39,760 Speaker 3: but good changes. I feel good about it. It's just 65 00:02:39,800 --> 00:02:43,960 Speaker 3: a little overwhelming. Oh yea, let me do that one. 66 00:02:44,040 --> 00:02:47,360 Speaker 3: Need that, you know what, just a nice sometime. 67 00:02:48,560 --> 00:02:52,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, do the nose reach up to the sky and 68 00:02:52,480 --> 00:02:54,520 Speaker 2: let that ship go. Yes. 69 00:02:55,080 --> 00:02:56,880 Speaker 1: Well, all in all, things are going really well. It's 70 00:02:56,880 --> 00:02:58,000 Speaker 1: just a lot of work. 71 00:02:59,000 --> 00:03:02,399 Speaker 2: Breathe, baby, breathe, that's all I can do. I don't 72 00:03:02,400 --> 00:03:06,480 Speaker 2: know whether it's the weather, my meds like, it's probably 73 00:03:06,520 --> 00:03:08,359 Speaker 2: the weather in the fact that I've been I moved 74 00:03:08,520 --> 00:03:10,640 Speaker 2: so much this week and I did so much activity, 75 00:03:11,840 --> 00:03:15,359 Speaker 2: but I just was really feeling I'm feeling optimistic. I'm 76 00:03:15,400 --> 00:03:19,160 Speaker 2: finally getting through the fog. And just of the first 77 00:03:19,480 --> 00:03:22,839 Speaker 2: the first you know, quarter of twenty twenty four kicked 78 00:03:22,880 --> 00:03:26,240 Speaker 2: my ace. But yeah, things are feeling good. Mental health 79 00:03:26,280 --> 00:03:30,720 Speaker 2: check is is great. And if one of the things 80 00:03:30,720 --> 00:03:33,560 Speaker 2: that brought me so much doy is that I evicted 81 00:03:33,919 --> 00:03:39,080 Speaker 2: my boys from my bathtub, I took it back. It's 82 00:03:39,160 --> 00:03:42,200 Speaker 2: like they have a whole bathroom upstairs that's just collecting dust. 83 00:03:42,600 --> 00:03:45,040 Speaker 2: You know. It's like the bathroom where my husband will 84 00:03:45,080 --> 00:03:48,400 Speaker 2: go when he wants to, you know, like flow up. 85 00:03:50,760 --> 00:03:52,760 Speaker 2: That's all it is. You know, it's like the it's 86 00:03:52,760 --> 00:03:55,640 Speaker 2: the clean dust and poop. Uh Ever, anyway, well, if 87 00:03:55,680 --> 00:03:58,160 Speaker 2: you're lucky, you have a poop bathroom. Yeah. And our 88 00:03:58,200 --> 00:04:00,560 Speaker 2: bathtub has really become like the kids. It has everything 89 00:04:00,960 --> 00:04:02,880 Speaker 2: we have, Like I wanted to make the Battip funds. 90 00:04:02,880 --> 00:04:06,200 Speaker 2: We have like a whole march, like a marble run 91 00:04:06,280 --> 00:04:08,640 Speaker 2: for water, suction cup to the wall, and all these 92 00:04:08,640 --> 00:04:10,400 Speaker 2: toys and no om my got so many monster trucks 93 00:04:10,440 --> 00:04:13,560 Speaker 2: blah blah blah. But I just unsuction cupped everything. I said, 94 00:04:13,760 --> 00:04:15,960 Speaker 2: I said, Rio, we're filling up a big tub. You 95 00:04:16,160 --> 00:04:18,360 Speaker 2: got to pack a box. We got to go, and 96 00:04:18,400 --> 00:04:20,360 Speaker 2: he actually got excited because he got to choose where 97 00:04:20,440 --> 00:04:23,040 Speaker 2: stuff went on the wall in the new bathroom. And 98 00:04:23,480 --> 00:04:26,240 Speaker 2: his new shower has a detachable shower head, so you 99 00:04:26,279 --> 00:04:31,560 Speaker 2: know that's going to be a mess, but small baby steps. 100 00:04:31,560 --> 00:04:35,599 Speaker 2: We planted some flowers yesterday. There was park play, lots 101 00:04:35,600 --> 00:04:39,480 Speaker 2: of walking. I really wanted to call you this morning 102 00:04:39,520 --> 00:04:40,720 Speaker 2: and I was like, no, no, no, no, no, save it 103 00:04:40,760 --> 00:04:45,479 Speaker 2: for the podcast. What happened, Well, I had like this 104 00:04:45,800 --> 00:04:50,520 Speaker 2: interesting interaction with a dad at Rio's pre k, and 105 00:04:51,240 --> 00:04:53,960 Speaker 2: I was really feeling like, anyway, I'll tell you what 106 00:04:54,000 --> 00:04:55,440 Speaker 2: it is, because I want to get your tank on it. 107 00:04:55,480 --> 00:04:58,680 Speaker 2: My husband was like, he's like, girl, run away. This 108 00:04:58,720 --> 00:05:01,400 Speaker 2: feels very He's like, don't catfish. Just feels very weird. 109 00:05:01,880 --> 00:05:05,640 Speaker 2: But so anyway, dropping Rio off today at his pre 110 00:05:05,720 --> 00:05:07,800 Speaker 2: k and you always see the other parents. We're at 111 00:05:07,800 --> 00:05:09,280 Speaker 2: the door of shame where you have to go if 112 00:05:09,320 --> 00:05:11,200 Speaker 2: you come in after nine, which we do every day, 113 00:05:11,760 --> 00:05:13,560 Speaker 2: and you got to call and they gotta be like, okay, 114 00:05:13,560 --> 00:05:16,920 Speaker 2: we're coming anyway. So him and his daughter were there. 115 00:05:16,960 --> 00:05:18,839 Speaker 2: I was the daughter was so cute. I usually just 116 00:05:18,880 --> 00:05:20,680 Speaker 2: have a big smile whenever I see the kids and 117 00:05:20,720 --> 00:05:22,720 Speaker 2: they're just like that lady with the hair always smiles 118 00:05:22,760 --> 00:05:25,720 Speaker 2: at me, so she was whatever we were vibing. I 119 00:05:25,720 --> 00:05:27,000 Speaker 2: go to the back to the car. I got the 120 00:05:27,000 --> 00:05:29,120 Speaker 2: baby in the car and I kind of hear him 121 00:05:29,240 --> 00:05:31,320 Speaker 2: approaching me sort of. And I get in the car 122 00:05:31,360 --> 00:05:33,400 Speaker 2: and I see him and he's looking at me like, oh, 123 00:05:33,440 --> 00:05:35,040 Speaker 2: never mind, and I just rolled the window down. I 124 00:05:35,080 --> 00:05:37,599 Speaker 2: was like, oh no, what is it. And he just 125 00:05:37,640 --> 00:05:40,080 Speaker 2: walked up and it's the strangest thing. It's a black guy. 126 00:05:40,240 --> 00:05:43,200 Speaker 2: He's like, my name is we'll call him Terrence. So 127 00:05:43,240 --> 00:05:47,640 Speaker 2: my name is Terrence. And he just looks so like down, 128 00:05:48,080 --> 00:05:49,919 Speaker 2: just down, and he said, I see you're wearing a 129 00:05:49,920 --> 00:05:52,800 Speaker 2: wedding ring. And I was like, oh my god, what 130 00:05:54,480 --> 00:05:57,159 Speaker 2: is he gonna You know, I'm just like, oh, I 131 00:05:57,200 --> 00:05:59,560 Speaker 2: didn't look like this, and I'm just saying I was 132 00:05:59,600 --> 00:06:04,320 Speaker 2: like wow anyway, But he was like, I'm really struggling 133 00:06:04,360 --> 00:06:07,839 Speaker 2: in my marriage. I wanted to know what he's like. 134 00:06:08,320 --> 00:06:13,279 Speaker 2: This miserable, this is it's it's making me the worst 135 00:06:13,360 --> 00:06:16,559 Speaker 2: version of myself. I can't sleep at night. He seemed 136 00:06:16,600 --> 00:06:18,800 Speaker 2: it was very sincere, and he was like opening up, 137 00:06:18,800 --> 00:06:20,719 Speaker 2: but at the same time, I'm thinking, to me, like 138 00:06:20,760 --> 00:06:23,279 Speaker 2: a complete stranger, just based on the fact that I 139 00:06:23,320 --> 00:06:26,200 Speaker 2: have a wedding ring on. And I was like, and 140 00:06:26,240 --> 00:06:28,080 Speaker 2: you know, I think I see his eyes kind of 141 00:06:28,080 --> 00:06:31,640 Speaker 2: getting misty. And I if it had been someone that 142 00:06:31,680 --> 00:06:33,320 Speaker 2: I even a little bit knew, what I would have 143 00:06:33,320 --> 00:06:34,800 Speaker 2: done is get out the car, give him a hug, 144 00:06:34,839 --> 00:06:36,800 Speaker 2: just offer, like you need a hug. But I had that, 145 00:06:36,839 --> 00:06:40,360 Speaker 2: and I was like, hmm, but I did. I showed 146 00:06:40,400 --> 00:06:43,440 Speaker 2: him the attached book that you and I, you know, 147 00:06:43,480 --> 00:06:46,440 Speaker 2: I have talked about, and I told him like, it 148 00:06:46,480 --> 00:06:49,360 Speaker 2: sounds like maybe talking to a therapist, because he had 149 00:06:49,400 --> 00:06:51,880 Speaker 2: like a he had a Caribbean accent, maybe Jamaican. And 150 00:06:51,920 --> 00:06:55,440 Speaker 2: he said that he was so desperate to just talk 151 00:06:55,480 --> 00:06:58,880 Speaker 2: to somebody because he kind of is isolated in his 152 00:06:59,000 --> 00:07:01,520 Speaker 2: family and friendsh they all know each other and stuff. 153 00:07:01,560 --> 00:07:03,279 Speaker 2: And he's like, I don't have anyone I can talk 154 00:07:03,320 --> 00:07:07,440 Speaker 2: to who's not a family member or someone who knows 155 00:07:07,520 --> 00:07:11,480 Speaker 2: us already. And anyway, I was like, better help use 156 00:07:11,520 --> 00:07:15,520 Speaker 2: Cobron ambition for ten percent. I didn't say that, but 157 00:07:15,640 --> 00:07:17,680 Speaker 2: I was like, you know, therapy would be great just 158 00:07:17,720 --> 00:07:21,000 Speaker 2: for you, and it was. Yeah, it was just so 159 00:07:21,120 --> 00:07:24,720 Speaker 2: bizarre and part of me is like I wish, you know, 160 00:07:24,920 --> 00:07:28,240 Speaker 2: why don't we just chat to people sometimes if you're 161 00:07:28,280 --> 00:07:30,000 Speaker 2: having a hard time, you know. I think in that moment, 162 00:07:30,000 --> 00:07:33,200 Speaker 2: he was probably just desperate, yeah, for someone to just 163 00:07:33,240 --> 00:07:36,480 Speaker 2: hear him and reaching out for help. And I hope 164 00:07:36,480 --> 00:07:40,840 Speaker 2: he does see a therapist. But it left me feeling 165 00:07:41,000 --> 00:07:43,880 Speaker 2: like just really sorry for him, really sad for him, 166 00:07:43,920 --> 00:07:48,200 Speaker 2: but also like, oh, that was a human interaction that 167 00:07:48,280 --> 00:07:51,000 Speaker 2: I don't get to have all the time. But then 168 00:07:51,080 --> 00:07:53,240 Speaker 2: Enrique said it was probably a whole like bait and 169 00:07:53,280 --> 00:07:56,640 Speaker 2: switch thing, and like, I don't know what to think 170 00:07:56,680 --> 00:07:58,520 Speaker 2: about it. If I see him again, I don't know 171 00:07:58,520 --> 00:08:00,720 Speaker 2: what to do. I'm gonna see him again, and we're 172 00:08:00,760 --> 00:08:04,320 Speaker 2: always the door of shame together. It's one of two things. 173 00:08:04,560 --> 00:08:06,920 Speaker 3: He was trying to do, a pre holler, you know, 174 00:08:07,160 --> 00:08:10,760 Speaker 3: like hey, I see what you're I'm just said, let 175 00:08:10,760 --> 00:08:13,120 Speaker 3: me see can I be toodled in your bosom? 176 00:08:13,240 --> 00:08:15,480 Speaker 2: Let's see how she can both co miserate? 177 00:08:15,800 --> 00:08:18,160 Speaker 3: Yes, right, So IT'SI the pre holler, like let me 178 00:08:18,200 --> 00:08:21,720 Speaker 3: test the waters or this is somebody really that was 179 00:08:21,760 --> 00:08:23,160 Speaker 3: like really struggling, And. 180 00:08:23,480 --> 00:08:26,240 Speaker 2: Sometimes it's like I don't know. 181 00:08:26,320 --> 00:08:27,640 Speaker 3: I mean, I don't know if you've ever been in 182 00:08:27,720 --> 00:08:31,520 Speaker 3: a position where the emotion is so to the top 183 00:08:32,000 --> 00:08:35,040 Speaker 3: that you know, all like kids just cry, you know, 184 00:08:35,120 --> 00:08:37,120 Speaker 3: like you know, I'm sad. You know, Rio is gonna 185 00:08:37,120 --> 00:08:38,800 Speaker 3: be like I'm gonna drop down to get my egolong, 186 00:08:38,840 --> 00:08:40,800 Speaker 3: I'm crying and whatever. In the moment I feel it, 187 00:08:40,840 --> 00:08:42,280 Speaker 3: but after the you're like, I'm gonna wait till I 188 00:08:42,280 --> 00:08:45,840 Speaker 3: get to my car, and sometimes repress. It is so 189 00:08:46,200 --> 00:08:48,320 Speaker 3: there I can remember distinctly, like, for example, I went 190 00:08:48,360 --> 00:08:50,720 Speaker 3: to the DMV after Jerrell passed away. You have thirty 191 00:08:50,760 --> 00:08:52,839 Speaker 3: days to switch the card of their name so you 192 00:08:52,880 --> 00:08:54,120 Speaker 3: can get insurance or whatever. 193 00:08:54,480 --> 00:08:56,360 Speaker 2: And it was like day twenty eight and. 194 00:08:56,320 --> 00:08:57,800 Speaker 1: I go to the DMV and they're like, you know, 195 00:08:58,040 --> 00:08:59,679 Speaker 1: you know how it is when you at the one. 196 00:09:00,280 --> 00:09:03,400 Speaker 2: I'm already stressed, just thinking, yeah, that interaction, but especially 197 00:09:03,400 --> 00:09:04,000 Speaker 2: the Jersey one. 198 00:09:04,160 --> 00:09:05,880 Speaker 3: I was like, oh, yeah, I'm trying to hold it together, 199 00:09:06,360 --> 00:09:08,559 Speaker 3: you know, I'm hean you to switch the car and 200 00:09:08,760 --> 00:09:11,120 Speaker 3: my husband then, you know, and she's like why, and 201 00:09:11,160 --> 00:09:16,000 Speaker 3: I just said he died and just she actually came 202 00:09:16,080 --> 00:09:16,680 Speaker 3: out of her. 203 00:09:16,559 --> 00:09:19,520 Speaker 1: Boot around and gave me up because I you know. 204 00:09:19,520 --> 00:09:19,800 Speaker 2: What I mean. 205 00:09:19,840 --> 00:09:21,680 Speaker 3: So I'm just saying that sometimes it could be that 206 00:09:21,760 --> 00:09:24,679 Speaker 3: he was so full of like I am at my 207 00:09:24,720 --> 00:09:27,640 Speaker 3: wits end. I don't have any She seemed like nice, 208 00:09:28,040 --> 00:09:31,400 Speaker 3: probably just because you smiled and you it's like I 209 00:09:31,440 --> 00:09:32,480 Speaker 3: need something, you. 210 00:09:32,440 --> 00:09:33,000 Speaker 2: Know what I mean. 211 00:09:33,120 --> 00:09:35,079 Speaker 3: And so that's what it sounds like. I mean, I'm 212 00:09:35,080 --> 00:09:37,680 Speaker 3: more inclined to think that. But men, I always you know, 213 00:09:37,679 --> 00:09:38,839 Speaker 3: men are up to shananigans. 214 00:09:38,920 --> 00:09:41,559 Speaker 2: I'm going to choose to be on that. I want 215 00:09:41,600 --> 00:09:42,720 Speaker 2: to choose to that side. 216 00:09:42,840 --> 00:09:45,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, because it sounds like and it's just I'm so 217 00:09:45,520 --> 00:09:46,600 Speaker 3: glad that you gave him the book. 218 00:09:46,800 --> 00:09:47,320 Speaker 2: I'm so glad. 219 00:09:47,400 --> 00:09:52,960 Speaker 3: I was gonna say, I hope you suggested therapy. 220 00:09:51,000 --> 00:09:52,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, because I mean, obviously it's nothing. I mean, I 221 00:09:52,720 --> 00:09:54,720 Speaker 2: hadn't have my coffee yet. I was like, that's the 222 00:09:54,720 --> 00:09:56,320 Speaker 2: first thing I said to him. When he got finished. 223 00:09:56,360 --> 00:10:00,240 Speaker 2: I was like, I have not even had any coffee yet. 224 00:10:00,240 --> 00:10:02,600 Speaker 2: But I'm gonna do my past because I feel like 225 00:10:02,640 --> 00:10:03,199 Speaker 2: you need it. 226 00:10:03,360 --> 00:10:05,800 Speaker 3: Hey, ba fan, We're gonna take a quick break and 227 00:10:05,840 --> 00:10:07,319 Speaker 3: we'll be right back. 228 00:10:12,600 --> 00:10:14,840 Speaker 2: Yeah. And that's such a beautiful story about the woman 229 00:10:14,880 --> 00:10:19,439 Speaker 2: at the dB DMV. I had a recent experience. I 230 00:10:19,480 --> 00:10:20,800 Speaker 2: don't know if I told you. When I came back 231 00:10:20,840 --> 00:10:22,720 Speaker 2: from one of my trips to Atlanta for my dad. 232 00:10:23,120 --> 00:10:26,240 Speaker 2: Me and Remy were at the Atlanta airport. Which listen, 233 00:10:26,320 --> 00:10:28,960 Speaker 2: y'all talk a lot of shit about Atl's airport. I actually, 234 00:10:29,040 --> 00:10:31,000 Speaker 2: I don't know if it's like the emotional connection I 235 00:10:31,000 --> 00:10:33,760 Speaker 2: have so many I just love that airport. I think 236 00:10:33,760 --> 00:10:37,040 Speaker 2: it's very efficient. I think the train is, you know, 237 00:10:37,160 --> 00:10:40,000 Speaker 2: bar none to any other airport I've been in. Getting 238 00:10:40,000 --> 00:10:42,560 Speaker 2: you to your gate airports are huge. You ever been 239 00:10:42,600 --> 00:10:45,760 Speaker 2: to Minneapolis. You to walk to FN miles just to 240 00:10:45,840 --> 00:10:48,280 Speaker 2: get from the from the check into my gate area, Like, 241 00:10:48,480 --> 00:10:52,840 Speaker 2: where's the train, where's my transportation? Anyway? But anyway, so 242 00:10:52,920 --> 00:10:56,600 Speaker 2: I get through, I get I had had a rotten 243 00:10:56,640 --> 00:11:00,360 Speaker 2: interaction I'll just say rotten with a Delta gate Delta 244 00:11:00,440 --> 00:11:03,280 Speaker 2: agent who was like checking the baby stuff. And by 245 00:11:03,320 --> 00:11:05,480 Speaker 2: the time I got to Now, I have been throughout 246 00:11:05,480 --> 00:11:08,600 Speaker 2: this at airport like many times over the past six months, 247 00:11:08,880 --> 00:11:11,079 Speaker 2: and I always go to the family Assist line and 248 00:11:11,520 --> 00:11:14,160 Speaker 2: just just so happens that this young woman ah and 249 00:11:14,200 --> 00:11:16,760 Speaker 2: I can't remember her name because I'm a piece of garbage, 250 00:11:17,000 --> 00:11:20,400 Speaker 2: but she's a door she's a young black woman. She 251 00:11:20,440 --> 00:11:23,320 Speaker 2: works in TSA, but she's studying at Emory to be 252 00:11:23,360 --> 00:11:25,400 Speaker 2: a gynecologist. And I know this about her because I've 253 00:11:25,400 --> 00:11:28,320 Speaker 2: seen her so many times. And anyway, the last time 254 00:11:28,320 --> 00:11:30,040 Speaker 2: I went through, she wasn't my girl because I went 255 00:11:30,240 --> 00:11:32,120 Speaker 2: She's usually there in the morning. I had flown at night, 256 00:11:32,200 --> 00:11:34,560 Speaker 2: so I didn't see her. But this time, and you know, 257 00:11:34,640 --> 00:11:36,480 Speaker 2: like when you're really like, I'm trying to hold it 258 00:11:36,520 --> 00:11:38,680 Speaker 2: together as I'm in line, but I'm feeling all these feelings. 259 00:11:38,720 --> 00:11:41,559 Speaker 2: It's very early by the time I get to the 260 00:11:42,000 --> 00:11:44,280 Speaker 2: area where they're like, put your thing in a bin. No, 261 00:11:44,400 --> 00:11:46,320 Speaker 2: not that bin, No, take that out. Da da da 262 00:11:46,360 --> 00:11:49,840 Speaker 2: da da. Like I started to I was like, you know, 263 00:11:49,920 --> 00:11:52,640 Speaker 2: like I was. I was starting to cry. It was happening, 264 00:11:53,080 --> 00:11:55,640 Speaker 2: and I was like there, no, I couldn't wipe anything. 265 00:11:55,679 --> 00:11:58,199 Speaker 2: I had the baby. My hands were tied, and the 266 00:11:58,679 --> 00:12:00,679 Speaker 2: lady with the bit by the bit was just like 267 00:12:01,240 --> 00:12:03,400 Speaker 2: go ahead, you know, really just trying to give me 268 00:12:03,440 --> 00:12:06,160 Speaker 2: my privacy. But also I'm crying in front of rely strangers. 269 00:12:06,600 --> 00:12:08,840 Speaker 2: But then who was on the other side but my 270 00:12:09,000 --> 00:12:12,520 Speaker 2: but my bestie at the Atlanta airport and the Family 271 00:12:12,559 --> 00:12:14,920 Speaker 2: Assist line, and she just saw me. I saw her, 272 00:12:14,960 --> 00:12:16,920 Speaker 2: and she says, I got a chair for you right here. 273 00:12:17,559 --> 00:12:19,920 Speaker 2: What's going on? I've never seen you this way though. 274 00:12:19,960 --> 00:12:23,000 Speaker 2: She talked to me like we had been friends since childhood, 275 00:12:24,080 --> 00:12:26,280 Speaker 2: and I was and I just sat in that chair. 276 00:12:26,360 --> 00:12:27,800 Speaker 2: She gave me a hug, and she just let me 277 00:12:27,840 --> 00:12:32,160 Speaker 2: sat and collect me sit and collecting myself, and it 278 00:12:32,280 --> 00:12:34,160 Speaker 2: just didn't matter what anyone else thought about me in 279 00:12:34,200 --> 00:12:37,480 Speaker 2: that moment. But and just if you're you know, and 280 00:12:37,480 --> 00:12:40,240 Speaker 2: that's that's such a that's happened to me for sure. Yeah, 281 00:12:40,280 --> 00:12:42,960 Speaker 2: that moment comes to mind. And if you've been the 282 00:12:43,000 --> 00:12:44,840 Speaker 2: one who needed that kind of person, or you've been 283 00:12:44,880 --> 00:12:48,719 Speaker 2: that person for someone, for the random person struggling, it's 284 00:12:48,720 --> 00:12:49,439 Speaker 2: a beautiful thing. 285 00:12:49,520 --> 00:12:51,720 Speaker 3: So thinks it's just to like reach out and just 286 00:12:51,760 --> 00:12:53,400 Speaker 3: like because you know, like at the end of the day, 287 00:12:53,400 --> 00:12:56,079 Speaker 3: we're all humans, and you know, like I mean, there 288 00:12:56,080 --> 00:12:57,640 Speaker 3: has been a time or two where I've seen, like, 289 00:12:57,880 --> 00:13:00,719 Speaker 3: especially some young woman crying, and I'm like, you know, 290 00:13:00,840 --> 00:13:02,559 Speaker 3: I was at the park door, my park walk. It 291 00:13:02,640 --> 00:13:05,160 Speaker 3: was a young Latino woman. She was just like sitting 292 00:13:05,200 --> 00:13:08,240 Speaker 3: on this park bench. She's like eighteen nineteen. I think 293 00:13:08,280 --> 00:13:11,800 Speaker 3: she had a suitcase. She was like hysterically crying. So 294 00:13:11,880 --> 00:13:14,240 Speaker 3: I walked past her. Then I stopped and I was like, 295 00:13:14,400 --> 00:13:15,839 Speaker 3: I feel like I can't just leave this young woman 296 00:13:15,920 --> 00:13:19,480 Speaker 3: here crying, and so I said, are you okay? But 297 00:13:19,520 --> 00:13:21,840 Speaker 3: I realized she didn't speak any English, So I was like, lord, 298 00:13:21,880 --> 00:13:22,959 Speaker 3: what is my broken Spanish? 299 00:13:22,960 --> 00:13:26,560 Speaker 2: I was like, are you the you know tennis? You know? 300 00:13:27,040 --> 00:13:30,199 Speaker 3: Yeah, she was like, because I was nervous. My first mind, 301 00:13:30,280 --> 00:13:32,679 Speaker 3: I thought to myself, she's a beautiful young girl. And 302 00:13:32,800 --> 00:13:35,480 Speaker 3: I thought to myself, a beautiful young girl crying in 303 00:13:35,520 --> 00:13:37,360 Speaker 3: the park. I don't want some man to come take 304 00:13:37,360 --> 00:13:39,720 Speaker 3: advantage of her, you know. I'm I sat with her 305 00:13:39,720 --> 00:13:41,920 Speaker 3: for a little while, with my broken Spanish to try 306 00:13:41,920 --> 00:13:42,640 Speaker 3: to figure out what's happening. 307 00:13:42,679 --> 00:13:44,520 Speaker 1: She didn't really share. I just sat with her for 308 00:13:44,559 --> 00:13:45,520 Speaker 1: a little while to see. 309 00:13:45,320 --> 00:13:46,080 Speaker 2: Do you need a ride? 310 00:13:46,160 --> 00:13:48,280 Speaker 3: Do you need because you just hope that somebody will 311 00:13:48,320 --> 00:13:51,280 Speaker 3: be there, you know, when you need to like, you know. 312 00:13:51,440 --> 00:13:53,959 Speaker 3: But yeah, So I'm just glad that he, at least 313 00:13:54,000 --> 00:13:56,959 Speaker 3: for a moment, had a reprieve and now you weren't like. 314 00:13:57,160 --> 00:13:59,280 Speaker 2: Get away from me stranger's anger, because that would have 315 00:13:59,280 --> 00:14:03,360 Speaker 2: been really disheartening way sometimes as a woman. But in 316 00:14:03,400 --> 00:14:05,480 Speaker 2: the context, I just saw him with the daughter. She's 317 00:14:05,559 --> 00:14:07,760 Speaker 2: very cute, it's very well cared for. You know, it 318 00:14:07,800 --> 00:14:10,480 Speaker 2: had been if it had been two am at the park, 319 00:14:10,720 --> 00:14:13,160 Speaker 2: probably a different story. Also, why would I be there? 320 00:14:13,520 --> 00:14:16,680 Speaker 3: Yeah, but it's true. People with kids always get like, 321 00:14:16,679 --> 00:14:18,400 Speaker 3: that's what they tell kids. It's like the number one 322 00:14:18,400 --> 00:14:18,920 Speaker 3: they think. 323 00:14:18,920 --> 00:14:19,240 Speaker 2: They say. 324 00:14:19,240 --> 00:14:22,600 Speaker 3: They're like, if you are lost or whatever, look for 325 00:14:22,640 --> 00:14:26,920 Speaker 3: a mom with a kid, because because the likelihood is 326 00:14:26,960 --> 00:14:29,720 Speaker 3: that you're gonna mama bay of him. Come sit next 327 00:14:29,720 --> 00:14:31,880 Speaker 3: to you, baby, because we're gonna find your mama. We're 328 00:14:31,920 --> 00:14:35,280 Speaker 3: gonna you know, like that that you're probably safest with 329 00:14:35,320 --> 00:14:37,160 Speaker 3: a mom with I mean, of course, you can never 330 00:14:37,640 --> 00:14:41,280 Speaker 3: never know for sure, but you're probably safest with the mom. 331 00:14:42,560 --> 00:14:45,320 Speaker 2: Having lived in the suburbs for a while, I will say, 332 00:14:45,640 --> 00:14:47,800 Speaker 2: I think there's some moms who are waiting to be 333 00:14:47,880 --> 00:14:53,560 Speaker 2: that hero, Like they can't wait. It's like they're just 334 00:14:53,600 --> 00:14:56,200 Speaker 2: looking for lost kids, but they want to find them. 335 00:14:56,400 --> 00:14:59,880 Speaker 2: I don't know, is just thought. But yeah, So what 336 00:15:00,000 --> 00:15:05,360 Speaker 2: what else is going on in the world? Businesses really good. 337 00:15:05,400 --> 00:15:09,880 Speaker 3: I have been making really hard business decisions. So I 338 00:15:11,000 --> 00:15:13,040 Speaker 3: so here is an unlock and maybe this will help 339 00:15:13,080 --> 00:15:16,520 Speaker 3: somebody with business or their career or whatever. I realized 340 00:15:16,560 --> 00:15:18,640 Speaker 3: I was carrying around this this thought process that for 341 00:15:18,640 --> 00:15:21,200 Speaker 3: the first time I realized that's not true, like that 342 00:15:21,480 --> 00:15:25,800 Speaker 3: I believe that in order for you to have I'm 343 00:15:25,800 --> 00:15:28,400 Speaker 3: trying to think that conflict not conflict. What was the 344 00:15:28,400 --> 00:15:34,280 Speaker 3: word I use that confrontation. I don't know how I 345 00:15:34,360 --> 00:15:36,840 Speaker 3: had like a perfect phrase for it, but basically that 346 00:15:37,160 --> 00:15:41,280 Speaker 3: when you had to confront someone that it had to 347 00:15:41,400 --> 00:15:42,200 Speaker 3: have conflict. 348 00:15:43,040 --> 00:15:44,560 Speaker 2: I mean like I might say. 349 00:15:44,360 --> 00:15:46,920 Speaker 3: Like, you know, Mandy, hey, you hurt my feelings, but 350 00:15:47,080 --> 00:15:49,360 Speaker 3: it always had to be like, Mandy, you really hurt 351 00:15:49,360 --> 00:15:53,240 Speaker 3: my feelings. I didn't like that because sometimes confrontation and 352 00:15:53,280 --> 00:15:54,960 Speaker 3: I don't know if confrontation is the right world, because 353 00:15:54,960 --> 00:15:57,320 Speaker 3: I feel like inherently in confrontation there's this kind of 354 00:15:57,400 --> 00:16:01,320 Speaker 3: conflict baked in. But then in a hard conversation had 355 00:16:01,360 --> 00:16:03,280 Speaker 3: to be had that there always had to kind of 356 00:16:03,320 --> 00:16:06,840 Speaker 3: like bueness underlying of negativity, you know, not that you're 357 00:16:06,880 --> 00:16:10,080 Speaker 3: yelling or screaming, but like it couldn't be had softly, 358 00:16:10,720 --> 00:16:13,280 Speaker 3: or or like it couldn't be had almost joyfully. 359 00:16:13,240 --> 00:16:15,760 Speaker 2: Or you know, they would be like really a gress 360 00:16:15,840 --> 00:16:18,760 Speaker 2: and yes, and so be really defensive. 361 00:16:18,800 --> 00:16:21,160 Speaker 3: And so it always made me say I didn't want 362 00:16:21,200 --> 00:16:22,680 Speaker 3: to do it because I was like, oh my gosh, 363 00:16:22,720 --> 00:16:23,000 Speaker 3: I don't. 364 00:16:23,240 --> 00:16:23,720 Speaker 2: I don't want. 365 00:16:23,920 --> 00:16:26,080 Speaker 3: And so most recently I've been having to have in 366 00:16:26,160 --> 00:16:30,680 Speaker 3: business some really hard conversations and and they've all been 367 00:16:31,000 --> 00:16:35,360 Speaker 3: someone like a friend of mine was like, so, for example, 368 00:16:35,400 --> 00:16:37,800 Speaker 3: my I have this the guy who cuts my my lawn. 369 00:16:37,800 --> 00:16:40,640 Speaker 3: His name is Louis is super nice. So it's been winter, 370 00:16:40,760 --> 00:16:43,840 Speaker 3: you know, Louis wasn't here. Louis came back and if 371 00:16:43,840 --> 00:16:45,880 Speaker 3: you've you've been to my front lawn, Mandy. 372 00:16:46,040 --> 00:16:48,600 Speaker 2: To call it a lawn, why does he cut? You 373 00:16:48,640 --> 00:16:49,240 Speaker 2: can't girls. 374 00:16:51,440 --> 00:16:54,520 Speaker 1: So Lewis came and then sent me like this text 375 00:16:54,600 --> 00:16:55,360 Speaker 1: like oh one fifty. 376 00:16:55,440 --> 00:16:56,160 Speaker 2: I said, oh my god. 377 00:16:56,240 --> 00:16:59,360 Speaker 3: So I was really upset because before Lewis used to 378 00:16:59,440 --> 00:17:03,440 Speaker 3: charge me for one cut I mean yes, and I said, 379 00:17:03,480 --> 00:17:04,640 Speaker 3: he said for clean up and cut. 380 00:17:04,720 --> 00:17:06,639 Speaker 2: So he texted to me, we need roman to get 381 00:17:06,640 --> 00:17:07,960 Speaker 2: a lawnmower girl. 382 00:17:08,119 --> 00:17:10,840 Speaker 3: So I was really mad. So I'm ranting a raven, 383 00:17:10,880 --> 00:17:12,439 Speaker 3: not to Louis but to everybody else. I told my 384 00:17:12,480 --> 00:17:15,280 Speaker 3: because my friend Cabral suggested Louis to me. My other friend, 385 00:17:15,320 --> 00:17:16,520 Speaker 3: I was telling everybody. 386 00:17:16,119 --> 00:17:18,240 Speaker 2: Like, okay, you believe it, oh lord, And. 387 00:17:18,240 --> 00:17:21,040 Speaker 3: Cabraw was like, well, why not just tell Louis that's 388 00:17:21,040 --> 00:17:23,320 Speaker 3: too much money. You don't want to pay that. And 389 00:17:23,359 --> 00:17:25,359 Speaker 3: I was like, I am, but I'm gonna have to 390 00:17:25,359 --> 00:17:28,000 Speaker 3: tell him, hey, you tried it, because in my mind, 391 00:17:28,080 --> 00:17:30,119 Speaker 3: when someone does something to you, there has to be 392 00:17:30,160 --> 00:17:32,920 Speaker 3: this kind of like conflicting conference, because that's how just 393 00:17:32,960 --> 00:17:34,479 Speaker 3: how I grew up, that's just how it looks like. 394 00:17:35,000 --> 00:17:37,560 Speaker 3: And so I avoided it, avoided avoided it because Louis 395 00:17:37,560 --> 00:17:39,840 Speaker 3: had called me to see can I come clean? Can 396 00:17:39,880 --> 00:17:42,280 Speaker 3: I come cut your grass? I didn't answer. He called me, 397 00:17:42,320 --> 00:17:44,200 Speaker 3: I didn't answer. He ranged the door, but I didn't answer, 398 00:17:44,240 --> 00:17:45,480 Speaker 3: and he cut it anyway. So you know, I was 399 00:17:45,600 --> 00:17:47,520 Speaker 3: extra piss like you cut it and now. 400 00:17:47,440 --> 00:17:48,199 Speaker 2: You try to overcow. 401 00:17:48,280 --> 00:17:51,680 Speaker 3: So I was already and then I forgot to text 402 00:17:51,760 --> 00:17:53,840 Speaker 3: him to say I ain't paying it. And so a 403 00:17:53,880 --> 00:17:58,960 Speaker 3: week later, here come Lewis outside again. So Cabra was like, Tiffany, 404 00:17:59,440 --> 00:18:01,880 Speaker 3: Louis is really chill. I promise you you're the only 405 00:18:01,920 --> 00:18:04,000 Speaker 3: ones dressed. So I said, you know what, I am 406 00:18:04,000 --> 00:18:07,960 Speaker 3: going to try to say the thing without confrontation. I said, hey, Louis, 407 00:18:08,520 --> 00:18:10,080 Speaker 3: I know you came last week and you said one 408 00:18:10,119 --> 00:18:10,960 Speaker 3: fifty for cleanup. 409 00:18:11,080 --> 00:18:13,000 Speaker 1: Honestly, I hardly have any grass. I don't think that's 410 00:18:13,000 --> 00:18:13,600 Speaker 1: a fair price. 411 00:18:14,000 --> 00:18:16,720 Speaker 3: Also too, whatever price he was trying to charge me, 412 00:18:16,760 --> 00:18:18,359 Speaker 3: I said, I don't think that this is a fair price. 413 00:18:18,359 --> 00:18:19,399 Speaker 2: I don't want to spend. 414 00:18:19,119 --> 00:18:22,680 Speaker 3: More than thirty dollars per cut, you know, cause I 415 00:18:22,720 --> 00:18:24,160 Speaker 3: feel like that's fair and that's front and back. 416 00:18:24,760 --> 00:18:26,800 Speaker 2: And Louis wrote back, okay. 417 00:18:26,960 --> 00:18:29,639 Speaker 3: I was like, wait what I was like, I said, no, 418 00:18:30,280 --> 00:18:31,879 Speaker 3: thirty dollars to cut the front of the lawn in 419 00:18:31,880 --> 00:18:33,400 Speaker 3: the back, you know, like to blow the leads whatever 420 00:18:33,400 --> 00:18:33,679 Speaker 3: in the back. 421 00:18:33,720 --> 00:18:37,240 Speaker 2: He said, okay, yeah, And I thought, Tiffany, it. 422 00:18:37,160 --> 00:18:39,440 Speaker 3: Was like an eye opening moment where I had thought 423 00:18:39,480 --> 00:18:42,960 Speaker 3: to myself it had to be this like headbudding, and 424 00:18:43,160 --> 00:18:45,600 Speaker 3: it's like, no, you can say a thing. So that's 425 00:18:45,600 --> 00:18:48,040 Speaker 3: a confrontation if you will, but it doesn't have to 426 00:18:48,080 --> 00:18:50,840 Speaker 3: be one that is filled in righte with conflict and 427 00:18:50,880 --> 00:18:54,359 Speaker 3: that I took that energy with Lewis saying okay, and 428 00:18:54,480 --> 00:18:57,639 Speaker 3: I had this difficult a series of difficult conversations that 429 00:18:57,720 --> 00:19:00,639 Speaker 3: basically the response too was oh okay. 430 00:19:01,160 --> 00:19:02,439 Speaker 2: And I was like, wait a minute, have I been 431 00:19:02,440 --> 00:19:07,160 Speaker 2: doing life wrong? So we all know? And I can't 432 00:19:07,200 --> 00:19:09,680 Speaker 2: wait for you to forget this lesson, as we all do, 433 00:19:09,880 --> 00:19:11,800 Speaker 2: and to have to remind yourself of it a couple 434 00:19:11,840 --> 00:19:16,119 Speaker 2: of years from now. Yeah, So it's hard being a 435 00:19:16,200 --> 00:19:22,399 Speaker 2: human you choose to be around other humans. WHYDA wonder? 436 00:19:22,480 --> 00:19:24,240 Speaker 2: I got it? What could I stop? She's just laughed. 437 00:19:24,280 --> 00:19:26,800 Speaker 2: She was like, girl, never made it. 438 00:19:26,960 --> 00:19:28,840 Speaker 1: No, it's it's just ongoing. 439 00:19:28,960 --> 00:19:33,960 Speaker 2: She's like I. 440 00:19:34,000 --> 00:19:37,040 Speaker 3: But honestly, it was such a freeing lesson because, like 441 00:19:37,040 --> 00:19:38,440 Speaker 3: I said, I just grew up in a household where 442 00:19:38,440 --> 00:19:40,959 Speaker 3: conflict was like the name of the game, honey. So 443 00:19:41,000 --> 00:19:43,280 Speaker 3: such a freeing lesson that you know, you can say 444 00:19:43,320 --> 00:19:47,200 Speaker 3: the thing without any underlying like like not that I 445 00:19:47,200 --> 00:19:49,760 Speaker 3: have underlying aggression, but not you could say the thing 446 00:19:49,760 --> 00:19:52,600 Speaker 3: with the expectation that someone's gonna receive it peacefully and. 447 00:19:52,600 --> 00:19:53,960 Speaker 2: Gonna respond peacefully. 448 00:19:54,000 --> 00:19:56,000 Speaker 3: And so like you, you could do that, Tiffany. And 449 00:19:56,040 --> 00:19:57,520 Speaker 3: so I've been doing that. And when I tell you, 450 00:19:57,520 --> 00:20:01,119 Speaker 3: I've had some hard like conver stations in business, like 451 00:20:02,000 --> 00:20:05,000 Speaker 3: downsize and conversations in business and that's not easy, and 452 00:20:05,040 --> 00:20:08,240 Speaker 3: it's been met with okay, and I'm like, wait, what 453 00:20:09,160 --> 00:20:12,520 Speaker 3: you know? And so I've just yeah, I just hope 454 00:20:12,560 --> 00:20:14,200 Speaker 3: that that's a lesson that someone can kind of absorb, 455 00:20:14,240 --> 00:20:17,640 Speaker 3: which is that it is possible to have the hard conversation. 456 00:20:17,680 --> 00:20:19,480 Speaker 3: Some of you knew this, are note this is already Batten. 457 00:20:19,720 --> 00:20:22,600 Speaker 3: It's possible to have the hard conversations and it not 458 00:20:22,880 --> 00:20:24,080 Speaker 3: be contentious. 459 00:20:24,480 --> 00:20:26,840 Speaker 2: You know, hey, be a fan. We're going to take 460 00:20:26,840 --> 00:20:33,880 Speaker 2: a quick break and we'll be right back. I'm very 461 00:20:33,920 --> 00:20:39,920 Speaker 2: uncomfortable because I have had a situation recently with I'll 462 00:20:39,960 --> 00:20:46,000 Speaker 2: say I'm a close one and I was so confrontational 463 00:20:46,520 --> 00:20:52,639 Speaker 2: when they came to me with some feedback and so 464 00:20:53,720 --> 00:20:56,600 Speaker 2: and I hate it, and you know, I had been 465 00:20:56,760 --> 00:21:00,680 Speaker 2: taught I have been This happened two months ago. Wish 466 00:21:01,080 --> 00:21:03,679 Speaker 2: and I have been talking about it in therapy and 467 00:21:03,680 --> 00:21:05,840 Speaker 2: it's and it's just been like and I've been annoyed 468 00:21:05,880 --> 00:21:07,919 Speaker 2: at my therapist. I don't know if she doesn't listen. 469 00:21:08,040 --> 00:21:10,640 Speaker 2: I've been annoyed because I'm like, it's still the same, 470 00:21:10,720 --> 00:21:13,560 Speaker 2: nothing has been resolved. I'm like, what am I? And 471 00:21:13,600 --> 00:21:16,480 Speaker 2: then last week I was like annoyed that we were 472 00:21:16,480 --> 00:21:18,560 Speaker 2: just having the same conversation and I was like, Okay, 473 00:21:18,680 --> 00:21:23,479 Speaker 2: let me think differently about it because you're not That's like, 474 00:21:23,560 --> 00:21:25,919 Speaker 2: what angle have I not what angle? Have it. It's 475 00:21:25,960 --> 00:21:30,000 Speaker 2: always been like, was this person wrong to say it? What? 476 00:21:30,080 --> 00:21:32,960 Speaker 2: You know? Was I wrong to do the thing? And 477 00:21:33,000 --> 00:21:35,280 Speaker 2: what was the all the things? And I had argued 478 00:21:35,320 --> 00:21:38,679 Speaker 2: it from so many different angles. What I hadn't said, 479 00:21:38,760 --> 00:21:41,440 Speaker 2: what I hadn't like asked myself and I did last week, 480 00:21:41,600 --> 00:21:45,480 Speaker 2: was but wait, why was my reaction so hot? Why 481 00:21:45,600 --> 00:21:47,560 Speaker 2: was I so immediately like you know when you turn 482 00:21:47,640 --> 00:21:50,520 Speaker 2: up flame on the stove? It was one of them, 483 00:21:50,640 --> 00:21:55,720 Speaker 2: like and I was like a nuclear, you know, explosion, 484 00:21:55,760 --> 00:21:59,199 Speaker 2: and instead of just like letting myself burn out, I 485 00:21:59,240 --> 00:22:02,760 Speaker 2: responded with that feeling anyway. So I'm not about to 486 00:22:02,800 --> 00:22:04,800 Speaker 2: tell you guys how I fixed it, because it's literally 487 00:22:04,840 --> 00:22:07,680 Speaker 2: men a week, not even a week since I talked anyway, 488 00:22:08,920 --> 00:22:11,879 Speaker 2: And I need to work on that. I need to 489 00:22:11,960 --> 00:22:14,320 Speaker 2: like work on it. And it's only with people who 490 00:22:14,359 --> 00:22:19,399 Speaker 2: I'm close to. And finally, and this is what's very 491 00:22:19,400 --> 00:22:22,680 Speaker 2: frustrating about therapy. You have to be kind of your 492 00:22:23,080 --> 00:22:24,960 Speaker 2: and I can see Lauren doing it. I wish she 493 00:22:25,080 --> 00:22:26,280 Speaker 2: was more. If I was like, if you can just 494 00:22:26,320 --> 00:22:28,240 Speaker 2: point exactly to where on the page you want me 495 00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:31,000 Speaker 2: to read, that would be much more efficient. But she 496 00:22:31,080 --> 00:22:33,080 Speaker 2: just kind of mentions things in one big you know, 497 00:22:33,520 --> 00:22:37,440 Speaker 2: in one big train of like you know, stream of consciousness, 498 00:22:37,440 --> 00:22:39,840 Speaker 2: and that I'm hearing her say the same thing, like, well, 499 00:22:39,880 --> 00:22:43,200 Speaker 2: you do seem to like, you know, really take things. 500 00:22:43,200 --> 00:22:44,719 Speaker 2: You know, you do seem to think when people give 501 00:22:44,760 --> 00:22:47,439 Speaker 2: you feedback sometimes that it's about you as a person, 502 00:22:47,520 --> 00:22:50,240 Speaker 2: as a wife, as a sister, as a friend, as 503 00:22:50,280 --> 00:22:53,840 Speaker 2: a neighbor or whatever. And then you just like assume 504 00:22:53,960 --> 00:22:55,879 Speaker 2: that they want nothing to do with you, and you 505 00:22:55,920 --> 00:22:59,600 Speaker 2: take yourself away. And I'm like, yeah, well that's happened 506 00:22:59,640 --> 00:23:01,639 Speaker 2: a couple times. Yeah, but that's not what's happening in 507 00:23:01,680 --> 00:23:08,160 Speaker 2: these times. It has happened, but those those you know anyway, 508 00:23:08,280 --> 00:23:11,399 Speaker 2: And so now I'm like, well, shit, epiphany had But 509 00:23:11,480 --> 00:23:14,400 Speaker 2: how many years have I been in this girl? And 510 00:23:15,880 --> 00:23:26,040 Speaker 2: I know that the therapy side like, yeah, lot, I'm tired. Lord, 511 00:23:26,160 --> 00:23:29,000 Speaker 2: that's so exhausting, And it's exhausting because we're confronting it, 512 00:23:29,080 --> 00:23:31,800 Speaker 2: you know what I mean. But it's such But because 513 00:23:31,840 --> 00:23:35,280 Speaker 2: we're confronting it, we need that's gonna make it. Maybe 514 00:23:35,320 --> 00:23:38,359 Speaker 2: maybe what's his name, the the lawnmower, Maybe he's been 515 00:23:38,359 --> 00:23:40,440 Speaker 2: in therapy and he was able to take that feedback 516 00:23:40,720 --> 00:23:43,760 Speaker 2: a lot better. Because of it. I don't want to 517 00:23:43,800 --> 00:23:46,960 Speaker 2: be the reason someone is so afraid to get feedback. Yeah, 518 00:23:48,520 --> 00:23:52,960 Speaker 2: oh yeah, do you mean that that breath he gave me? 519 00:23:53,040 --> 00:23:55,240 Speaker 2: You need to do that. You need to do that again. Okay. 520 00:23:55,240 --> 00:23:57,800 Speaker 2: And I've been trying to figure out how to talk 521 00:23:57,800 --> 00:23:59,919 Speaker 2: about that. Is it such a huge, sort of like 522 00:24:00,760 --> 00:24:03,280 Speaker 2: background thing happening in the past few months. But yeah, 523 00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:06,800 Speaker 2: I do need some breaths. Okay, I'm figuring it out. 524 00:24:07,040 --> 00:24:09,320 Speaker 2: I'm figuring that. Okay, that's all I want to know. 525 00:24:09,440 --> 00:24:12,160 Speaker 2: It's all I need to know. I'm doing my best. 526 00:24:12,200 --> 00:24:16,120 Speaker 2: We all are. I didn't want to bring up something 527 00:24:16,160 --> 00:24:19,320 Speaker 2: because I have you seen this documentary everyone's talking about 528 00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:22,080 Speaker 2: about Nickelodeon girl, I don't know if I want to 529 00:24:22,080 --> 00:24:24,359 Speaker 2: talk about it quiet on set. I'm not gonna watch it. 530 00:24:24,400 --> 00:24:27,040 Speaker 2: But yeah, not even a little bit. I mean a 531 00:24:27,040 --> 00:24:27,800 Speaker 2: little bit. I don't know. 532 00:24:27,840 --> 00:24:29,720 Speaker 3: Stuff like that just always makes me so sick. I 533 00:24:29,720 --> 00:24:30,960 Speaker 3: guess because I work with kids. 534 00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:35,960 Speaker 2: It's just oh yeah, okay, well what I want just 535 00:24:35,960 --> 00:24:39,560 Speaker 2: for those of you, this is essay trigger warning. Okay, 536 00:24:39,560 --> 00:24:43,200 Speaker 2: for sure trigger warning. The documentary is for sure trigger warning, 537 00:24:43,240 --> 00:24:44,760 Speaker 2: and they have one at the beginning. It does talk 538 00:24:44,800 --> 00:24:48,679 Speaker 2: about essay when it comes to minors with children, this 539 00:24:48,760 --> 00:24:53,000 Speaker 2: particular instance is not necessarily about that, okay. And part 540 00:24:53,000 --> 00:24:55,440 Speaker 2: of the documentary I started to w I was like, 541 00:24:55,520 --> 00:24:57,720 Speaker 2: let me just see what they're talking about. And it 542 00:24:57,840 --> 00:25:00,840 Speaker 2: just it hooks you because I was such a like 543 00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:04,600 Speaker 2: a nick at night kid. All that was my room 544 00:25:14,320 --> 00:25:19,280 Speaker 2: all the time. Yes, I wanted to dress like those kids, 545 00:25:19,400 --> 00:25:22,200 Speaker 2: and I wanted to be that. I wanted to be there. 546 00:25:22,359 --> 00:25:26,400 Speaker 2: And you know, I loved Amanda the Amanda Show. I 547 00:25:26,480 --> 00:25:31,280 Speaker 2: loved Keenan and kel Goodburger like all that. I don't 548 00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:33,320 Speaker 2: know why they had to do a single sequel, no 549 00:25:33,359 --> 00:25:37,040 Speaker 2: one asked for, but anyway, so I was I was 550 00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:41,000 Speaker 2: immediately drawn in. And I and to find out one 551 00:25:41,000 --> 00:25:46,080 Speaker 2: of the cast members, Raquel Raquel Leelo, she was a 552 00:25:46,119 --> 00:25:49,399 Speaker 2: cast member. And then she this was during the on 553 00:25:49,520 --> 00:25:51,520 Speaker 2: the on the documentary she's been she talked and I 554 00:25:51,600 --> 00:25:53,080 Speaker 2: she didn't mention this, but it came out in the 555 00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:55,920 Speaker 2: press recently that when she was on the Amanda Show 556 00:25:55,960 --> 00:26:00,400 Speaker 2: that she spoke out about how Amanda, the actress who 557 00:26:00,480 --> 00:26:03,360 Speaker 2: was like, you know, she was the son of this program. 558 00:26:03,400 --> 00:26:05,520 Speaker 2: She came from all that they gave her her own show. 559 00:26:06,200 --> 00:26:09,000 Speaker 2: You know she was the star, and how like Amanda 560 00:26:09,040 --> 00:26:13,160 Speaker 2: had spit on her during this whole segment, and how 561 00:26:13,440 --> 00:26:16,080 Speaker 2: no one stopped it, no one, and it was like 562 00:26:16,400 --> 00:26:19,240 Speaker 2: multiple takes. It was on the oh, this is the 563 00:26:19,280 --> 00:26:22,320 Speaker 2: fifth episode of the show. And not only that, but 564 00:26:22,359 --> 00:26:26,359 Speaker 2: Amanda was allegedly made to continuously spit on her every 565 00:26:26,400 --> 00:26:29,399 Speaker 2: time I said spit it out. This is Raquel talking. 566 00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:31,160 Speaker 2: Every time I said spit it out, she would spit 567 00:26:31,200 --> 00:26:34,560 Speaker 2: what was in her mouth, water, whatever it was, indirectly 568 00:26:34,560 --> 00:26:37,680 Speaker 2: in my face. The third time, I was infuriated so mad. 569 00:26:38,240 --> 00:26:40,439 Speaker 2: The director hurried and put me on the side of 570 00:26:40,480 --> 00:26:42,800 Speaker 2: the set and was like, listen, breathe in, breathe out. 571 00:26:42,840 --> 00:26:45,000 Speaker 2: She's the star of the show. Don't make too much 572 00:26:45,000 --> 00:26:47,520 Speaker 2: of a problem. I'm going to ask her not to 573 00:26:47,560 --> 00:26:50,440 Speaker 2: spit in your face, but you have to keep your 574 00:26:50,520 --> 00:26:54,960 Speaker 2: cool and listen. Amanda at the time was also a child. Yes, 575 00:26:55,920 --> 00:26:59,880 Speaker 2: but this yes, and I just anyway, the whole really, 576 00:27:00,000 --> 00:27:02,560 Speaker 2: why it's on set is extremely disturbing in a lot 577 00:27:02,560 --> 00:27:05,920 Speaker 2: of ways, but just in a workplace context. The way 578 00:27:06,040 --> 00:27:12,600 Speaker 2: that bad actors influence like a room and influence a set, 579 00:27:12,840 --> 00:27:15,960 Speaker 2: whether that set is like a Hollywood set or it's 580 00:27:16,320 --> 00:27:18,840 Speaker 2: you know, it's a conference room at a major corporation 581 00:27:19,000 --> 00:27:22,520 Speaker 2: or a small corporation. Just how these toxic characters can 582 00:27:22,560 --> 00:27:25,960 Speaker 2: infiltrate and then all of a sudden, everyone is like, 583 00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:30,000 Speaker 2: no one's talking about it, but everyone's complicit in this abuse. 584 00:27:30,880 --> 00:27:34,040 Speaker 2: And it reminded me of a book that I had 585 00:27:34,080 --> 00:27:36,239 Speaker 2: recently picked up that I you know, the woman who 586 00:27:36,280 --> 00:27:39,800 Speaker 2: wrote Radical Candor. What's her name? Hold On, I have 587 00:27:39,800 --> 00:27:44,400 Speaker 2: the book right here. Allow me to get my book bag. 588 00:27:45,200 --> 00:27:48,840 Speaker 2: It's a key book bag now, yellow Survio. It's very bright. 589 00:27:50,119 --> 00:27:53,240 Speaker 2: Multiple times at day at pickup or drop off, a 590 00:27:53,280 --> 00:27:55,560 Speaker 2: teacher will be like, oh, I'll take Rio's backpack. I'm like, 591 00:27:55,800 --> 00:27:59,800 Speaker 2: that's mine, it's mine. Anyway, this is a book. It's 592 00:27:59,800 --> 00:28:04,320 Speaker 2: called Just Work. Kim Scott that's her name. I believe 593 00:28:04,320 --> 00:28:06,919 Speaker 2: she's a white woman, doesn't matter, but anyway, she wrote 594 00:28:07,400 --> 00:28:09,560 Speaker 2: Just Work, Get Shipped, Done, fast and fair. This was 595 00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:11,639 Speaker 2: her follow up to Radical Candor. I don't know if 596 00:28:11,640 --> 00:28:14,479 Speaker 2: it went as bonkers as Radical Candor did, but I 597 00:28:14,480 --> 00:28:19,200 Speaker 2: hope it does because this is such an incredible book. 598 00:28:19,640 --> 00:28:23,639 Speaker 2: For it's literally written not for the people who have 599 00:28:23,760 --> 00:28:26,480 Speaker 2: been well. There are instances where she's speaking to people 600 00:28:26,520 --> 00:28:28,560 Speaker 2: in the workplace who have who have taken the abuse. 601 00:28:28,600 --> 00:28:30,160 Speaker 2: And yes she is a white woman because she mentions 602 00:28:30,200 --> 00:28:33,080 Speaker 2: that multiple times in the book, but she really examines 603 00:28:34,040 --> 00:28:39,720 Speaker 2: abuse that happens, discrimination, harassment, essay, everything in a workplace, 604 00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:43,920 Speaker 2: and she examines how can we what can be done 605 00:28:44,200 --> 00:28:47,080 Speaker 2: so that we can just work, just work, We can 606 00:28:47,240 --> 00:28:49,680 Speaker 2: just go to a workplace and just get shipped done 607 00:28:50,000 --> 00:28:52,280 Speaker 2: and not have to deal with being bullied or harassed 608 00:28:52,360 --> 00:28:57,040 Speaker 2: or having sexism against you. And it is extremely practical, 609 00:28:57,560 --> 00:29:00,840 Speaker 2: extremely practical. I would say, if you're one who is 610 00:29:00,880 --> 00:29:03,800 Speaker 2: on the receiving end of situations like Raquel, it may 611 00:29:03,840 --> 00:29:06,120 Speaker 2: not listen. It's not going to be someone spitting in 612 00:29:06,160 --> 00:29:09,640 Speaker 2: your face, but it may be someone who consistently takes 613 00:29:09,640 --> 00:29:14,360 Speaker 2: credit for your ideas, or consistently discounts your contributions or 614 00:29:14,480 --> 00:29:17,000 Speaker 2: doesn't who this is a very triggering one leaves you 615 00:29:17,040 --> 00:29:19,720 Speaker 2: off an email that pertains to you, oh forgot to 616 00:29:19,760 --> 00:29:23,160 Speaker 2: see see you. That kind of like small stuff. It'll 617 00:29:23,160 --> 00:29:26,960 Speaker 2: give you, you know, strategies you can use to decide 618 00:29:27,000 --> 00:29:30,120 Speaker 2: how to handle that. But it also like every page 619 00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:32,280 Speaker 2: has sort of like a key too on like who 620 00:29:32,320 --> 00:29:35,880 Speaker 2: it's for? Is it for leaders? Is it for is 621 00:29:35,920 --> 00:29:40,520 Speaker 2: it for the victims? Is it for the people causing harm? 622 00:29:40,760 --> 00:29:43,800 Speaker 2: So if you and listen, we're not We're all, you know, 623 00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:49,200 Speaker 2: I think capable of inflicting harm against one another through bias, 624 00:29:49,280 --> 00:29:53,680 Speaker 2: through prejudice, through bullying, whatever, as much as we are to, yeah, 625 00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:57,800 Speaker 2: as much as we are to being on the receiving 626 00:29:57,920 --> 00:30:01,880 Speaker 2: end of it. And yeah, I just I just really 627 00:30:01,920 --> 00:30:03,960 Speaker 2: like this book and it reminded me of that situation 628 00:30:04,040 --> 00:30:07,160 Speaker 2: and how I think quiet on set probably would not 629 00:30:07,200 --> 00:30:09,160 Speaker 2: have happened had a book like well, I don't want 630 00:30:09,160 --> 00:30:11,080 Speaker 2: to say that people are just evil and disgusting and 631 00:30:11,880 --> 00:30:15,600 Speaker 2: you know, vile, but this is a really good book. 632 00:30:15,840 --> 00:30:20,320 Speaker 2: If you have any say in you know, what leadership 633 00:30:20,320 --> 00:30:22,760 Speaker 2: but your company, what kind of trainings or like education 634 00:30:22,840 --> 00:30:24,840 Speaker 2: they have to get, I would be like, hey, this 635 00:30:24,920 --> 00:30:28,040 Speaker 2: is a book we need. So I did it to 636 00:30:28,080 --> 00:30:28,560 Speaker 2: my thing. 637 00:30:29,000 --> 00:30:29,360 Speaker 3: Yeah. 638 00:30:29,560 --> 00:30:31,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, I sat through and I just read this like, 639 00:30:31,840 --> 00:30:36,080 Speaker 2: I mean, read it so fast. So great book. That's all. 640 00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:36,880 Speaker 1: Thank you. 641 00:30:38,520 --> 00:30:42,160 Speaker 2: Are you ready to get some color back, mandra, I 642 00:30:42,160 --> 00:30:45,240 Speaker 2: would like to know where it's coming from, man, because 643 00:30:45,240 --> 00:30:48,360 Speaker 2: you think we're entering post winter, we're entering into this 644 00:30:48,880 --> 00:30:54,280 Speaker 2: we are I was I was gardening this weekend and 645 00:30:54,520 --> 00:30:57,240 Speaker 2: I did wear sunscreen. That's a thing. Do I want 646 00:30:57,280 --> 00:31:04,040 Speaker 2: to be toasty and like gorgeous and wrinkly and potentially 647 00:31:04,080 --> 00:31:07,960 Speaker 2: have melanoma? We're like, do I want to just say, girl, 648 00:31:08,280 --> 00:31:10,880 Speaker 2: your skin color? Is your skin color? Just? Well? 649 00:31:11,000 --> 00:31:14,520 Speaker 3: Question when you wear because I do wear sunscreen, you know, 650 00:31:14,920 --> 00:31:16,320 Speaker 3: but does sunscreen? 651 00:31:16,360 --> 00:31:18,880 Speaker 1: I guess I don't notice. Does a sunscreen mean that 652 00:31:18,920 --> 00:31:20,040 Speaker 1: you actually don't tan as much? 653 00:31:20,720 --> 00:31:22,920 Speaker 2: Well, that's I mean, tanning is sun damage. You know, 654 00:31:22,960 --> 00:31:25,760 Speaker 2: there's no healthy level of tanning. So yes, if I 655 00:31:25,800 --> 00:31:29,360 Speaker 2: am tanning with with sunscreen, basically, you know, what does 656 00:31:29,360 --> 00:31:33,719 Speaker 2: the factor mean it factor fifty is like fifty percent 657 00:31:33,760 --> 00:31:37,400 Speaker 2: of rays are filtered out or I don't know. Okay, Okay, 658 00:31:37,440 --> 00:31:39,800 Speaker 2: don't cutting on that. I know I've read an article 659 00:31:39,840 --> 00:31:42,960 Speaker 2: that's like, we think of sunscreen grade it's completely wrong. 660 00:31:43,160 --> 00:31:45,360 Speaker 2: I may still be thinking of it wrong, Okay, but yeah, 661 00:31:45,360 --> 00:31:48,080 Speaker 2: I still get I can still tan and burn, but yeah, 662 00:31:48,120 --> 00:31:50,280 Speaker 2: it's not good for your skin. So I wear lots 663 00:31:50,320 --> 00:31:52,760 Speaker 2: of hats, but I don't do a good job protecting 664 00:31:52,800 --> 00:31:54,200 Speaker 2: my arms. So you can tell. 665 00:31:54,200 --> 00:31:56,360 Speaker 1: If I was gonna say, when you put your hand up, 666 00:31:56,360 --> 00:31:57,080 Speaker 1: I was like, oh. 667 00:31:57,440 --> 00:32:00,560 Speaker 2: It's not the same color because you know, all my 668 00:32:00,600 --> 00:32:03,680 Speaker 2: cute little makeup and stuff has that's P thirty but 669 00:32:03,840 --> 00:32:06,800 Speaker 2: my Avena and my Upera four probably, which is what 670 00:32:06,920 --> 00:32:14,440 Speaker 2: I'm always slathering on. Yeah, anyway, now time. 671 00:32:14,440 --> 00:32:18,239 Speaker 4: To boost up, break up, boost up, break up, boost up? 672 00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:22,920 Speaker 4: Break m you learning a boost? Is she going by 673 00:32:24,440 --> 00:32:27,800 Speaker 4: what you're gonna do? What you're sad? 674 00:32:29,760 --> 00:32:33,240 Speaker 2: You got a boost up by egg me. I feel 675 00:32:33,240 --> 00:32:35,240 Speaker 2: like I do have a boost. I mean, sorry, I 676 00:32:35,280 --> 00:32:37,440 Speaker 2: have a big break. Well, you know, I do a 677 00:32:37,520 --> 00:32:39,360 Speaker 2: like I go first because that's a big one like 678 00:32:39,440 --> 00:32:43,800 Speaker 2: little boost. So my boost well, you know, since Mannag's 679 00:32:43,800 --> 00:32:45,680 Speaker 2: just hearing books and all, did I did I ever 680 00:32:45,720 --> 00:32:48,080 Speaker 2: share the book ten X is easier than two X? 681 00:32:49,160 --> 00:32:51,760 Speaker 2: I shared it on the podcast. Mm hmm, I will 682 00:32:51,760 --> 00:32:53,520 Speaker 2: go ahead and READU because I adn't talked about it. 683 00:32:56,000 --> 00:33:02,080 Speaker 1: My other boost is my condo is just about done. 684 00:33:02,920 --> 00:33:03,240 Speaker 3: I know. 685 00:33:04,560 --> 00:33:08,880 Speaker 2: So I bought it January. 686 00:33:09,360 --> 00:33:12,000 Speaker 3: I think I think I closed January February of last year, 687 00:33:12,680 --> 00:33:14,560 Speaker 3: so it's been basically like a year. But I closed 688 00:33:14,600 --> 00:33:16,800 Speaker 3: on it and then I rented it back to the 689 00:33:16,840 --> 00:33:20,240 Speaker 3: owners for a few months and then renovations started. But 690 00:33:20,240 --> 00:33:24,120 Speaker 3: I would say renovations have taken about a year, in 691 00:33:24,200 --> 00:33:25,680 Speaker 3: large part because I was dragging my feet. I wasn't 692 00:33:25,680 --> 00:33:29,080 Speaker 3: ready to like, you know, make the move. But now 693 00:33:29,280 --> 00:33:32,360 Speaker 3: like it looks really beautiful. I literally just took my 694 00:33:32,480 --> 00:33:35,360 Speaker 3: cleaning lady Ingrid there yesterday and you know she's going 695 00:33:35,400 --> 00:33:37,800 Speaker 3: to clean it beautifully either this week or next week. 696 00:33:38,160 --> 00:33:41,320 Speaker 3: I'm not going to move in this month because I 697 00:33:41,440 --> 00:33:44,480 Speaker 3: go to South Africa May first, to like the twentieth. 698 00:33:44,520 --> 00:33:46,200 Speaker 2: So I'm not going to move in this month because 699 00:33:46,280 --> 00:33:47,280 Speaker 2: this month is really tight. 700 00:33:47,560 --> 00:33:52,880 Speaker 3: I'm traveling this week to South Carolina and Florida, and 701 00:33:52,920 --> 00:33:55,640 Speaker 3: then also like two weeks later, I'm actually getting an award 702 00:33:55,560 --> 00:33:59,600 Speaker 3: with Hallmark. You know, Mahogany is Hallmark's like black brown brand, 703 00:33:59,720 --> 00:34:01,200 Speaker 3: you know, like cards and stuff. 704 00:34:01,480 --> 00:34:02,960 Speaker 2: I did not know that, but that's awesome. 705 00:34:03,480 --> 00:34:08,840 Speaker 3: So Hallmark is honoring me their Mahogany. I don't know 706 00:34:08,880 --> 00:34:10,400 Speaker 3: child with the name of the awarders after fly Toy 707 00:34:10,400 --> 00:34:12,840 Speaker 3: Atlanta for I just know that. So that's happening. So 708 00:34:12,880 --> 00:34:15,080 Speaker 3: because of all that's happening, I was like, honestly, I 709 00:34:15,120 --> 00:34:18,360 Speaker 3: want to go my designer Rihanna. Shout out to Rihanna 710 00:34:19,160 --> 00:34:20,960 Speaker 3: when I come back, because I bought most of the furniture. 711 00:34:20,960 --> 00:34:23,440 Speaker 3: Its already in the house. She's going to like stage 712 00:34:23,440 --> 00:34:25,680 Speaker 3: it for me, so it'll be like largely probably. 713 00:34:25,360 --> 00:34:27,719 Speaker 2: Like eighty percent. I know it's like to come back 714 00:34:27,760 --> 00:34:35,080 Speaker 2: to South Africa. I know, says that happened over eleven months. 715 00:34:37,320 --> 00:34:40,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, so I'm just really excited, like I you know, 716 00:34:40,120 --> 00:34:43,680 Speaker 3: I wasn't as excited before, you know, just moving out 717 00:34:43,680 --> 00:34:45,080 Speaker 3: of like my house that I built with Jirell. 718 00:34:46,480 --> 00:34:48,120 Speaker 2: But you know, one the house is still here. 719 00:34:48,200 --> 00:34:50,360 Speaker 3: It's not going anywhere. The kids, my sister and her 720 00:34:50,400 --> 00:34:52,399 Speaker 3: two kids will live here, which is great. 721 00:34:52,400 --> 00:34:54,160 Speaker 1: They're all excited. A million keeps asking me, when are 722 00:34:54,200 --> 00:34:55,360 Speaker 1: you moving to the condown. 723 00:34:57,520 --> 00:35:01,360 Speaker 2: She's she's been in there measuring just like it's just 724 00:35:01,400 --> 00:35:02,880 Speaker 2: like the colors here. 725 00:35:03,760 --> 00:35:05,600 Speaker 3: They already turned the man cave into the kids cave, 726 00:35:05,600 --> 00:35:07,399 Speaker 3: so they're already living their best life. Whenever they come over, 727 00:35:07,440 --> 00:35:10,240 Speaker 3: they barely say hello. They're like whatever, girl going off. 728 00:35:10,080 --> 00:35:16,480 Speaker 2: Down to would love that stroke light It did way there. 729 00:35:16,840 --> 00:35:18,319 Speaker 2: So yeah, so I just like, you know, but I'm 730 00:35:18,360 --> 00:35:18,960 Speaker 2: ready for it now. 731 00:35:19,000 --> 00:35:20,759 Speaker 3: So that's my little boost that, like, you know, life 732 00:35:20,840 --> 00:35:25,440 Speaker 3: is moving on and wonderfully for you. Yes, so I 733 00:35:25,520 --> 00:35:29,360 Speaker 3: definitely have my housewarming. Of course, I'm you're invited. I 734 00:35:29,360 --> 00:35:31,520 Speaker 3: don't know when. Yeah, but I don't know. I'm trying 735 00:35:31,520 --> 00:35:34,080 Speaker 3: to decide to do like birthday party slash housewarming that 736 00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:36,320 Speaker 3: won't be until like October. 737 00:35:36,440 --> 00:35:39,000 Speaker 2: Girl, Yeah, so I might do that. You know that 738 00:35:39,040 --> 00:35:41,640 Speaker 2: we can have everybody over, you know, so you can 739 00:35:41,640 --> 00:35:45,680 Speaker 2: do a housewarming any old time. Exactly, exactly. That's a 740 00:35:45,719 --> 00:35:49,600 Speaker 2: little very exciting. Thank you. That's a big boost. Yeah, 741 00:35:49,680 --> 00:35:52,440 Speaker 2: it's a big it's a big journey. Some pictures. Can 742 00:35:52,480 --> 00:35:55,440 Speaker 2: you send some pictures? Yes, I can, because it was 743 00:35:55,640 --> 00:35:57,879 Speaker 2: very There was a lot of personality in there before 744 00:35:57,920 --> 00:35:58,560 Speaker 2: but not yours. 745 00:35:58,960 --> 00:36:01,960 Speaker 3: Yes, it was very thank Betsy Johnson for those of 746 00:36:01,960 --> 00:36:02,840 Speaker 3: you who weren't familiar. 747 00:36:03,280 --> 00:36:05,080 Speaker 2: So it's like, you know, she was the woman who 748 00:36:05,160 --> 00:36:07,040 Speaker 2: lived there, Charlene before miss Charlene. 749 00:36:07,320 --> 00:36:10,319 Speaker 3: She was a textile trader, so she traveled all around 750 00:36:10,320 --> 00:36:14,160 Speaker 3: the world finding like beautiful textiles, which was evident because 751 00:36:14,239 --> 00:36:17,480 Speaker 3: the textures, the colors that it was very bright. It's 752 00:36:17,520 --> 00:36:19,720 Speaker 3: a beautiful place, and to her taste, it was definitely 753 00:36:19,800 --> 00:36:21,360 Speaker 3: very beautiful. You could tell this is a woman with 754 00:36:21,400 --> 00:36:24,279 Speaker 3: great taste, but her taste was very Betty Johnson color 755 00:36:24,320 --> 00:36:28,160 Speaker 3: color color, Mitch Matt's prints so that is not me. 756 00:36:28,200 --> 00:36:29,240 Speaker 2: I'm a little more subdued. 757 00:36:30,640 --> 00:36:33,440 Speaker 3: Although there is color, just more like earth tones, and 758 00:36:33,480 --> 00:36:35,320 Speaker 3: it's just really calm and really beautiful. 759 00:36:35,320 --> 00:36:40,040 Speaker 2: So excited. Oh, I know, I was taking a little 760 00:36:40,040 --> 00:36:44,000 Speaker 2: breath because I was just like reading a little bit 761 00:36:44,040 --> 00:36:47,040 Speaker 2: about my break. I think I want to get ready 762 00:36:47,040 --> 00:36:49,040 Speaker 2: for it. Okay, we ready for your break. That's okay, 763 00:36:49,040 --> 00:36:52,480 Speaker 2: go ahead, Uh yeah, okay. So I last week was 764 00:36:52,680 --> 00:36:57,160 Speaker 2: Black Maternal Health Week in America. And I don't have 765 00:36:57,200 --> 00:36:59,120 Speaker 2: to tell like our audience, I know that you guys 766 00:36:59,120 --> 00:37:02,320 Speaker 2: have heard these stories of the Kansas City Chiefs cheerleader 767 00:37:02,360 --> 00:37:07,600 Speaker 2: who died most recently from sepsis, which is like blood infection, 768 00:37:08,680 --> 00:37:12,359 Speaker 2: after delivering a steelborn baby girl. And she was only 769 00:37:12,400 --> 00:37:15,319 Speaker 2: forty years old. That's extremely tragic. This has almost been 770 00:37:15,360 --> 00:37:21,320 Speaker 2: a year since Tory Bowie. Tory Bowie, an Olympic sprinter, 771 00:37:21,800 --> 00:37:25,920 Speaker 2: was found dead while she was in labor. So we 772 00:37:26,320 --> 00:37:28,560 Speaker 2: know we've heard these stories. But what I wanted to 773 00:37:29,440 --> 00:37:34,279 Speaker 2: highlight is two black women who are doing something about it. Yes, 774 00:37:34,440 --> 00:37:38,920 Speaker 2: So Elaine Walter Roth love her semi idolized just a 775 00:37:38,960 --> 00:37:43,960 Speaker 2: little bit, and Serena Williams have come together to create 776 00:37:44,080 --> 00:37:47,839 Speaker 2: Birth Fund and I'm gonna tell you guys about it. 777 00:37:48,280 --> 00:37:50,680 Speaker 2: And Serena Williams, you remember she had a whole documentary 778 00:37:50,680 --> 00:37:54,160 Speaker 2: on her childbirth story, probably not even expecting to be 779 00:37:54,200 --> 00:37:58,520 Speaker 2: documenting her own example of just the way that black 780 00:37:58,560 --> 00:38:04,280 Speaker 2: female bodies are looked at, you know, an underestimated, under understan, 781 00:38:04,600 --> 00:38:08,680 Speaker 2: under understood, and not treated the way that they should 782 00:38:08,680 --> 00:38:11,280 Speaker 2: be when it comes to childbirth, because she almost died 783 00:38:11,360 --> 00:38:14,359 Speaker 2: in her own childbirth. And Elaine Walter has talked about how, 784 00:38:14,840 --> 00:38:16,719 Speaker 2: you know, she has a little boy and how it 785 00:38:16,840 --> 00:38:19,000 Speaker 2: changed her whole approach to having a kid. She went 786 00:38:19,080 --> 00:38:22,680 Speaker 2: and got a doula, and basically that is what birth 787 00:38:22,680 --> 00:38:27,440 Speaker 2: Fund is going to help with. It's going to hold 788 00:38:27,440 --> 00:38:33,360 Speaker 2: on a second do to do? Okay? Sorry, yeah, so 789 00:38:33,560 --> 00:38:34,719 Speaker 2: I wanted to be sure I said it right. So 790 00:38:34,760 --> 00:38:36,719 Speaker 2: Birth Fund it's going to be help. It's a it's 791 00:38:36,760 --> 00:38:40,200 Speaker 2: a nonprofit that's going to help basically give access to 792 00:38:40,320 --> 00:38:46,360 Speaker 2: quality care and life saving education to women women of color. 793 00:38:46,680 --> 00:38:50,360 Speaker 2: So that'll include like doulas, it could be what do 794 00:38:50,360 --> 00:38:53,200 Speaker 2: you call it, not a doula, but like a what's 795 00:38:53,239 --> 00:38:57,799 Speaker 2: the other wife? Midwife? Thank you, access to those so 796 00:38:57,840 --> 00:39:01,320 Speaker 2: that they can have the additional care and additional eyes 797 00:39:01,400 --> 00:39:05,000 Speaker 2: on the mom at all time. And I just thought 798 00:39:05,000 --> 00:39:06,520 Speaker 2: that that was wonderful. So if you guys want to 799 00:39:06,600 --> 00:39:09,760 Speaker 2: check that out, it's called birth Fund, and we'll post 800 00:39:09,760 --> 00:39:13,200 Speaker 2: a link to the show notes. But from two women 801 00:39:13,239 --> 00:39:15,160 Speaker 2: who are using their platform for good, I just think 802 00:39:15,200 --> 00:39:18,200 Speaker 2: that that's love. That finally something that we can say 803 00:39:18,800 --> 00:39:21,440 Speaker 2: in the conversation about black maternal health, not just that 804 00:39:21,520 --> 00:39:24,319 Speaker 2: it's happening, but that this is like, to me, this 805 00:39:24,360 --> 00:39:26,759 Speaker 2: is an argument for like black and brown wealth. Right. 806 00:39:27,400 --> 00:39:31,279 Speaker 3: I remember feeling guilty about making money because I was like, 807 00:39:31,280 --> 00:39:33,319 Speaker 3: I have enough, I have enough, I have enough, And 808 00:39:33,400 --> 00:39:35,759 Speaker 3: I remember one of my mentors said, Okay, then just 809 00:39:35,880 --> 00:39:38,560 Speaker 3: use the part that you have for yourself and then 810 00:39:38,600 --> 00:39:42,280 Speaker 3: the excess you use it to help causes that otherwise 811 00:39:42,280 --> 00:39:44,880 Speaker 3: would not be highlighted unless a black woman stood up 812 00:39:44,880 --> 00:39:48,480 Speaker 3: and said so you know, and I thought, like, okay, 813 00:39:49,160 --> 00:39:51,640 Speaker 3: that like Serena Williams. I don't know if you saw 814 00:39:51,880 --> 00:39:55,120 Speaker 3: Mandy she there was like this post about like she has. 815 00:39:56,080 --> 00:39:58,920 Speaker 3: You know, she's a venture capitalist. She funds different companies 816 00:39:59,280 --> 00:40:02,520 Speaker 3: and of forty two companies or something that she's funded, 817 00:40:02,680 --> 00:40:05,760 Speaker 3: eighteen are unicorns, which means they're worth over a billion dollars. 818 00:40:05,960 --> 00:40:07,160 Speaker 3: So I'll just say, you know, if I was a 819 00:40:07,160 --> 00:40:11,239 Speaker 3: Betan woman, I bet al Serena And so right, does 820 00:40:11,280 --> 00:40:13,120 Speaker 3: she need this level of wealth? 821 00:40:13,640 --> 00:40:16,120 Speaker 2: No for herself personally, No. 822 00:40:16,120 --> 00:40:18,560 Speaker 3: But what you see is is that at that level 823 00:40:18,880 --> 00:40:24,560 Speaker 3: of wealth, of access, of prestige, if you will, that 824 00:40:24,880 --> 00:40:27,680 Speaker 3: she gets to have a big voice in something like 825 00:40:27,719 --> 00:40:29,840 Speaker 3: this because who else is going to do something and 826 00:40:29,920 --> 00:40:33,279 Speaker 3: champion you know, black internal health but black moms. I 827 00:40:33,320 --> 00:40:35,799 Speaker 3: mean not to say no one, but who I mean. 828 00:40:36,040 --> 00:40:38,160 Speaker 3: It's coming from a place of this was me, you 829 00:40:38,160 --> 00:40:40,680 Speaker 3: know what I mean. Like I think to myself all 830 00:40:40,680 --> 00:40:43,960 Speaker 3: the time, like for like this the most deadly blood 831 00:40:43,960 --> 00:40:47,720 Speaker 3: disease that children die from, sickle cell, but it overwhelmingly 832 00:40:47,760 --> 00:40:51,719 Speaker 3: affects black and brown children, but especially black children. And 833 00:40:51,760 --> 00:40:53,919 Speaker 3: there's been no major advancements in like in the last 834 00:40:53,920 --> 00:40:56,319 Speaker 3: thirty years, although I think my sister will telling me 835 00:40:56,320 --> 00:40:57,840 Speaker 3: there is something that I've got a family member of 836 00:40:57,880 --> 00:41:01,319 Speaker 3: sickle cell, And I'm just like, why has there not 837 00:41:01,360 --> 00:41:04,319 Speaker 3: been any major advancements because it doesn't affect the quote 838 00:41:04,360 --> 00:41:07,960 Speaker 3: unquote larger population, although it's the number one killer of 839 00:41:08,040 --> 00:41:12,080 Speaker 3: blood disease of children children, And so I thought, well, 840 00:41:12,560 --> 00:41:14,960 Speaker 3: someone is going to have to have a say, and 841 00:41:15,040 --> 00:41:16,440 Speaker 3: it has to be a big voice. And one of 842 00:41:16,440 --> 00:41:18,080 Speaker 3: those ways, one of the ways to have access to 843 00:41:18,120 --> 00:41:20,520 Speaker 3: that big voice is when we grow well for ourselves, 844 00:41:20,520 --> 00:41:23,520 Speaker 3: because we will champion things that other communities might not 845 00:41:23,520 --> 00:41:26,080 Speaker 3: even think of. Sometimes it's not even it's benign neglect, 846 00:41:26,160 --> 00:41:29,160 Speaker 3: you know. So I love that they're using their voice, 847 00:41:29,560 --> 00:41:34,360 Speaker 3: their funds, their access, their network, you know, to highlight this. 848 00:41:34,440 --> 00:41:38,439 Speaker 2: I love that, Yes, birth thebirthfund dot Com. We're gonna 849 00:41:38,440 --> 00:41:41,799 Speaker 2: put a link in. That's incredible. And I can't wait 850 00:41:41,880 --> 00:41:45,000 Speaker 2: to hear about whatever work you're doing with for sickle cell, 851 00:41:45,040 --> 00:41:48,879 Speaker 2: because it is it's not surprising, but it's a fallow that, 852 00:41:49,200 --> 00:41:52,000 Speaker 2: you know, babies are still being afflicted with the disease, 853 00:41:52,000 --> 00:41:54,640 Speaker 2: which I'm sure we could cure, you know, if we 854 00:41:54,719 --> 00:41:55,799 Speaker 2: just put more money behind it. 855 00:41:57,640 --> 00:42:01,080 Speaker 3: We are before we jump off, you know, we always begging, honey. 856 00:42:01,239 --> 00:42:02,760 Speaker 1: Have you ever heard of the term dry bagging? 857 00:42:03,800 --> 00:42:07,239 Speaker 2: Dry begging? Yeah? No, I don't know do. 858 00:42:07,320 --> 00:42:08,480 Speaker 3: I used to say it, And I'm like, is it 859 00:42:08,520 --> 00:42:10,000 Speaker 3: that a Drell saying or is that like, you know, 860 00:42:10,200 --> 00:42:11,360 Speaker 3: like hood vernacular. 861 00:42:11,360 --> 00:42:13,800 Speaker 2: I'm not sure. Do anybody knows what dry baging? No? 862 00:42:13,840 --> 00:42:15,440 Speaker 2: I don't know what it means, because sometimes I. 863 00:42:15,400 --> 00:42:17,600 Speaker 3: Would hear people say, oh, they dry bagging, and I'm like, 864 00:42:17,800 --> 00:42:18,680 Speaker 3: what is dry bagging? 865 00:42:18,840 --> 00:42:21,399 Speaker 2: Like, you don't have anything to offer? I'm gonna google it, girl. 866 00:42:21,480 --> 00:42:26,000 Speaker 3: Well, it's opposed to wet begging. Anyway, anybody knows, anybody 867 00:42:26,040 --> 00:42:27,560 Speaker 3: knows okay, got something? 868 00:42:28,440 --> 00:42:31,520 Speaker 2: Of course, it's on there. What doesn't mean okay? What 869 00:42:32,280 --> 00:42:34,719 Speaker 2: is okay? So there's a couple of definitions. Should read 870 00:42:35,080 --> 00:42:37,040 Speaker 2: the Facebook one is on top, but I don't know 871 00:42:37,040 --> 00:42:40,799 Speaker 2: if I trust Facebook. But let's see, it refers to 872 00:42:41,200 --> 00:42:44,160 Speaker 2: indirect requests. So if you're asking for in an indirect 873 00:42:44,280 --> 00:42:47,479 Speaker 2: or roundabout way, oh my, oh real, it's the king 874 00:42:47,560 --> 00:42:50,680 Speaker 2: of this. The way that we were hanging out with 875 00:42:50,719 --> 00:42:53,160 Speaker 2: a little girl next street during the solo her Eclips. 876 00:42:53,640 --> 00:42:55,160 Speaker 2: We were invited to go across the street to our 877 00:42:55,160 --> 00:42:57,000 Speaker 2: neighbor's house. There's an eight year old girl. She's got 878 00:42:57,040 --> 00:42:59,320 Speaker 2: like oreos chips, a hoy, she got a whole snack, 879 00:42:59,520 --> 00:43:01,920 Speaker 2: you know whatever. For real. Of course is like bline 880 00:43:01,920 --> 00:43:04,640 Speaker 2: for these days. But all he does instead of is 881 00:43:04,680 --> 00:43:07,360 Speaker 2: asking can I have a cookie? He's like, hey, Mama, 882 00:43:07,520 --> 00:43:11,160 Speaker 2: did you know I always loved chocolate chip cookie? Kay? 883 00:43:11,600 --> 00:43:18,400 Speaker 2: Drop Bagon. Mama, did you know I always love gummy bales? 884 00:43:20,680 --> 00:43:22,640 Speaker 2: Okay that's the girl for Yeah. 885 00:43:22,680 --> 00:43:25,480 Speaker 3: Okay, let's drive it. Okay drop Bagon. Okay, so anyway, 886 00:43:25,520 --> 00:43:27,920 Speaker 3: we're not drive Bagon. We wet Megan, go ahead and 887 00:43:28,000 --> 00:43:32,480 Speaker 3: leave us up review. We're moist, begging. 888 00:43:34,800 --> 00:43:36,800 Speaker 2: It worse, say something different. 889 00:43:38,120 --> 00:43:39,920 Speaker 3: We are going to ask you to leave us a 890 00:43:39,960 --> 00:43:42,520 Speaker 3: review wherever you listen to the podcast, especially if you 891 00:43:42,560 --> 00:43:46,920 Speaker 3: listen via Apple. It's not iTunes on more Apple Podcast. 892 00:43:47,000 --> 00:43:49,719 Speaker 3: I guess right. We want to read them out loud. 893 00:43:49,960 --> 00:43:52,680 Speaker 3: Mandy has some reviews she's gonna read. Leave us a review, 894 00:43:52,880 --> 00:43:56,399 Speaker 3: share the show, Mandy, you're up what reviews you want 895 00:43:56,400 --> 00:43:57,839 Speaker 3: to read this week? Uh? 896 00:43:58,239 --> 00:44:01,960 Speaker 2: We are going to wait one moment. Can you too 897 00:44:02,280 --> 00:44:15,719 Speaker 2: get chartable up? Deep boo? Well, shout out to us. 898 00:44:15,760 --> 00:44:19,279 Speaker 2: We hit two thousand, four hundred and fifty. Enrique, No, 899 00:44:20,360 --> 00:44:25,040 Speaker 2: I'm doing the podcast, so I'll call you back. All right, Okay, 900 00:44:25,080 --> 00:44:27,920 Speaker 2: we have two new reviews to read. Thank you to 901 00:44:28,160 --> 00:44:32,239 Speaker 2: Michelle xx ninety two, who said ten out of ten. 902 00:44:32,800 --> 00:44:34,839 Speaker 2: I love the show and the energy you both bring 903 00:44:34,880 --> 00:44:37,120 Speaker 2: to the table. I've learned so much. Please continue to 904 00:44:37,120 --> 00:44:39,840 Speaker 2: do what you're doing. See thank you me. She's sweet, 905 00:44:40,040 --> 00:44:43,200 Speaker 2: simple to the point. That's perfectly fine, but you can 906 00:44:43,239 --> 00:44:47,439 Speaker 2: also like go all in as a listener whose name 907 00:44:47,520 --> 00:44:52,440 Speaker 2: is Ashte zero zer zero one one, who clearly was like, 908 00:44:52,640 --> 00:44:54,480 Speaker 2: I left the long review now I'm just gonna like 909 00:44:54,560 --> 00:44:56,759 Speaker 2: attack the keyboard and not give you my real name. 910 00:44:57,200 --> 00:44:59,759 Speaker 2: But her review is five stars, girl Boss Gang. She says, 911 00:44:59,800 --> 00:45:01,799 Speaker 2: I've listen to this podcast over the years and it's 912 00:45:01,840 --> 00:45:04,200 Speaker 2: been so enjoyable hearing women who are further in life 913 00:45:04,200 --> 00:45:07,640 Speaker 2: than me share their experiences, ups and downs, perspectives, and 914 00:45:07,680 --> 00:45:10,799 Speaker 2: wins over challenges. This podcast is a breath of fresh 915 00:45:10,840 --> 00:45:14,000 Speaker 2: air week after week, even the non finance related parts, 916 00:45:14,200 --> 00:45:17,440 Speaker 2: it all just works. Definitely listen if you're trying to 917 00:45:17,480 --> 00:45:21,240 Speaker 2: achieve anything in life while remaining integral and balanced, especially 918 00:45:21,239 --> 00:45:25,520 Speaker 2: as a woman. It's inspirational and encouraging to hear these 919 00:45:25,520 --> 00:45:30,440 Speaker 2: two ladies experiences and advice week by week. I love 920 00:45:30,600 --> 00:45:34,200 Speaker 2: so sweet and thoughtful. I'm so sweet. So you guys, 921 00:45:34,200 --> 00:45:39,400 Speaker 2: we read every single one of these reviews with that. 922 00:45:40,160 --> 00:45:44,040 Speaker 2: By we mean Mandy Well, yes, I'm always here. It's 923 00:45:44,040 --> 00:45:49,839 Speaker 2: a dark log, detarnable. Honey. You know you're capable, see 924 00:45:49,880 --> 00:45:52,200 Speaker 2: you you treat me like I treat my husband when 925 00:45:52,239 --> 00:45:56,640 Speaker 2: it comes to like, but only you know how to 926 00:45:56,719 --> 00:45:59,280 Speaker 2: tank the carboil and break it down. I'm just gonna 927 00:45:59,520 --> 00:46:02,279 Speaker 2: leave it out on the deck, just open the back 928 00:46:02,280 --> 00:46:04,160 Speaker 2: door and just throw it out there. And he's like, 929 00:46:04,239 --> 00:46:07,439 Speaker 2: you know you could. I'm like, no, you do it better. Yeah, 930 00:46:07,560 --> 00:46:11,759 Speaker 2: it's okay. I'll be your work husband. It's all right. 931 00:46:13,160 --> 00:46:15,040 Speaker 2: You bring so much else to the show, you know 932 00:46:15,080 --> 00:46:18,120 Speaker 2: what I mean. Thank you guys so much. These reviews 933 00:46:18,160 --> 00:46:20,759 Speaker 2: are everything. Please leave one. You can leave it on 934 00:46:20,800 --> 00:46:25,200 Speaker 2: Apple podcasts, even Spotify I think hasn't, but Apple podcast 935 00:46:25,239 --> 00:46:26,880 Speaker 2: is where it's at. Okay, and while you're at it, 936 00:46:27,000 --> 00:46:30,480 Speaker 2: share the show with a friend. Make sure you let 937 00:46:30,480 --> 00:46:33,560 Speaker 2: them know to also check it out. Because we've only 938 00:46:33,640 --> 00:46:35,919 Speaker 2: gone eight years strong because of y'all. Be a fan, 939 00:46:36,120 --> 00:46:39,439 Speaker 2: and you wouldn't be here without you. Yeah, we love you. 940 00:46:39,920 --> 00:46:41,640 Speaker 2: Maybe we would just be hanging out talking. 941 00:46:41,719 --> 00:46:44,759 Speaker 3: But but we'll say Friday, don't worry because we have 942 00:46:44,760 --> 00:46:47,800 Speaker 3: our BAQA Friday and we've been doing throwbacks on Monday, 943 00:46:47,880 --> 00:46:49,680 Speaker 3: so you get Monday, Wednesday, Friday. 944 00:46:49,719 --> 00:46:54,120 Speaker 2: I mean, it doesn't get better than that. So absolutely, bye, y'all, 945 00:46:54,239 --> 00:46:54,720 Speaker 2: y y'all,