WEBVTT - Magic Can Make You Rich Feat. Luz Warrior 0:00:20.360 --> 0:00:22.200 Welcome back to good Mom's Bad Choices. 0:00:22.320 --> 0:00:26.160 I'm Erica and I'm Nila, and it is Wednesday, house, 0:00:26.920 --> 0:00:30.520 Happy motherfucking hump day, bitches, the best day of the week. 0:00:30.720 --> 0:00:34.680 It's Monday's over. We're halfway in, We're almost the weekend. 0:00:35.240 --> 0:00:37.080 I feel like Wednesday is a good day. It is. 0:00:37.159 --> 0:00:40.199 I think America officially got rid of Friday as a workday, 0:00:40.720 --> 0:00:41.360 so it's good. 0:00:41.440 --> 0:00:42.680 Nay, yeah, it's recent. 0:00:44.080 --> 0:00:45.639 It's been cycling out for some time. 0:00:45.680 --> 0:00:48.120 Are people not working on Fridays so you get fourday weekends? 0:00:48.200 --> 0:00:50.880 Mostly not in la I think students don't take class 0:00:50.880 --> 0:00:54.080 on Friday. We don't get forty we don't get Forday weekends. 0:00:54.200 --> 0:00:56.240 The well we I mean, are we supposed to give 0:00:56.280 --> 0:00:57.040 our people for day? 0:00:58.360 --> 0:01:00.520 Whoever's listening to shut out, don't return, turn it off 0:01:00.520 --> 0:01:02.120 now you don't get Friday off. 0:01:02.280 --> 0:01:04.120 I don't know. Maybe that's just like a personal belief 0:01:04.160 --> 0:01:07.479 that i've I've I've adapted. I don't know if it's 0:01:07.520 --> 0:01:11.280 actually cycling out. I'm sorry for anyone. Everyone's pissed going 0:01:11.360 --> 0:01:13.400 to work like, I don't know why I'm working Fridays. 0:01:15.520 --> 0:01:17.280 You guys, we're in Dallas. 0:01:17.640 --> 0:01:21.800 Yeehaw haw you know, every time I'm in a southern city, 0:01:21.880 --> 0:01:23.120 I like to use my accent. 0:01:23.240 --> 0:01:24.160 You're really good at that. 0:01:24.400 --> 0:01:29.280 It's my favorite every time, you know what. And this 0:01:29.360 --> 0:01:32.360 week I deliberately left all my cowgirl boots at home. 0:01:32.880 --> 0:01:36.160 Wow, this is very rare. It's a very rare occurrence. 0:01:36.280 --> 0:01:36.520 I know. 0:01:36.640 --> 0:01:38.559 I was like, can I go to a southern city 0:01:38.560 --> 0:01:39.679 with no cowboy boots? 0:01:39.959 --> 0:01:40.080 Well? 0:01:40.080 --> 0:01:41.600 You know why, because we need to buy some. 0:01:41.520 --> 0:01:46.640 Hats, may babe, we buy shoes and hats here. Oh yes, 0:01:48.320 --> 0:01:54.840 gram time, yes, yes, yes. Anyway, we have a very 0:01:55.680 --> 0:01:59.040 very very special guest here today with us, a long 0:01:59.120 --> 0:02:02.480 time coming. Second, her second time on the show. The 0:02:02.520 --> 0:02:06.160 first time was during COVID. Yeah, during COVID it was 0:02:06.320 --> 0:02:11.560 fucking deep. Twenty twenty. We had her on for Money March, 0:02:11.800 --> 0:02:14.760 Money March, Money March. Oh my god, that was such 0:02:14.760 --> 0:02:17.400 a great month. That was a good month. And your episode, well, 0:02:17.440 --> 0:02:20.680 let me let's introduce her. We have the beautiful, amazing 0:02:20.919 --> 0:02:23.560 Loose Warrior. Thank you so much for coming on our show. 0:02:24.040 --> 0:02:28.080 Louise is an intuitive, she's a wealth generator, she's a mama, 0:02:28.800 --> 0:02:31.359 just an overall bad beach. 0:02:32.240 --> 0:02:32.760 Thank you. 0:02:34.080 --> 0:02:37.600 Yeah, your episode with us during Money March was so amazing. 0:02:37.600 --> 0:02:39.639 We had such an amazing response, So many people were 0:02:39.680 --> 0:02:41.960 so happy to be introduced to you. 0:02:42.200 --> 0:02:43.720 I know a lot of our listeners have. 0:02:43.800 --> 0:02:46.840 Taken your course now and are hopefully making lots of 0:02:46.840 --> 0:02:49.960 money in the stock market and beyond. 0:02:51.320 --> 0:02:53.840 So thank you, yeah, thank you so much for having 0:02:53.880 --> 0:02:56.760 me and coming into the space and bringing all your 0:02:57.200 --> 0:03:01.360 divine energy. I feel held like the So yeah, I 0:03:01.400 --> 0:03:05.559 appreciate you all having me again and being here in Texas. 0:03:05.960 --> 0:03:07.840 Of course, after we got off the interview, I was like, 0:03:07.880 --> 0:03:08.919 I want to meet her in person. 0:03:09.000 --> 0:03:09.200 Yeah. 0:03:09.200 --> 0:03:10.799 We've been like trying to make this happen for a while. 0:03:10.800 --> 0:03:13.680 We're like, we will get to Texas somehow, we'll see 0:03:13.720 --> 0:03:16.919 her in human I know, I was plotting it since 0:03:16.919 --> 0:03:18.480 the day we got off that call. I'm like, we're 0:03:18.480 --> 0:03:20.680 going to see her. Thank you for letting us come 0:03:20.720 --> 0:03:22.919 to your home and do this, and you know, having 0:03:22.960 --> 0:03:25.639 us in and you know, we're like, you know, we 0:03:25.800 --> 0:03:27.560 like to stalk and get in people's faces. We're going 0:03:27.639 --> 0:03:29.200 to make you our best friend. It's the last thing 0:03:29.240 --> 0:03:34.440 we do. What's what's been up, what's changed, What's what's 0:03:34.520 --> 0:03:36.280 new Since we last talked to you, It's been like 0:03:36.280 --> 0:03:36.840 two years. 0:03:37.040 --> 0:03:40.600 It has, it has the the you know, the the 0:03:40.640 --> 0:03:43.120 conversation surrounding money is really growing. 0:03:43.240 --> 0:03:50.120 It's it's taking off. I landed a book deal. Yeah, 0:03:50.320 --> 0:03:52.960 so that's cool. We just turned in the last chapter 0:03:53.200 --> 0:03:57.760 on Friday. Got you girl. That's a big undertaking. 0:03:58.040 --> 0:04:03.280 It's like giving birth to a baby. Yes, And so 0:04:03.480 --> 0:04:06.840 that that's been going on, and then we are currently 0:04:07.280 --> 0:04:12.200 in negotiations to launch a podcast pertaining to money and 0:04:12.320 --> 0:04:16.240 the stock market and just embracing that. So yeah, it's 0:04:16.279 --> 0:04:19.600 been really busy. You know, it's been going really good. 0:04:19.839 --> 0:04:23.000 We are in a really interesting time since the last 0:04:23.000 --> 0:04:26.520 time we spoke, we were like thriving there was in 0:04:26.600 --> 0:04:28.960 terms of the economy and just where we were there 0:04:29.040 --> 0:04:32.320 was so much money that was being funneled in. And 0:04:32.360 --> 0:04:34.760 so right now what we're seeing is just a little 0:04:34.760 --> 0:04:40.200 bit of a pullback of that. It's like going inward resetting. Yeah, 0:04:40.240 --> 0:04:44.000 so you know, it's like navigating all of the outward 0:04:44.040 --> 0:04:46.640 things that I'm being called to do, but also navigating 0:04:46.680 --> 0:04:49.080 how I feel like the economy and we're just having 0:04:49.080 --> 0:04:51.039 like this massive reset right now with the. 0:04:51.080 --> 0:04:53.599 Recession and inflation and all of those things. 0:04:53.640 --> 0:04:56.240 I think people too are just I think one thing 0:04:56.320 --> 0:04:58.760 COVID did in general was to make people just have 0:04:59.360 --> 0:05:03.400 more toon over everything in their life, including finances and 0:05:03.440 --> 0:05:06.560 like really understanding what am I spending my money on, 0:05:06.640 --> 0:05:08.640 and like how can I make more money from home? 0:05:08.760 --> 0:05:10.320 And how can I like not have to. 0:05:10.279 --> 0:05:13.800 Work so hard like every single day, and like make 0:05:13.960 --> 0:05:17.680 this economy work for me? And I know your courses 0:05:18.000 --> 0:05:21.440 like are transformational, especially for women of color to learn 0:05:21.480 --> 0:05:23.800 that and like really feel empowered in that space and 0:05:23.880 --> 0:05:27.120 know that it's not just like a white person's ballgame, 0:05:27.320 --> 0:05:28.960 and like you can do this too. 0:05:29.560 --> 0:05:30.880 Yeah, most definitely. 0:05:30.960 --> 0:05:34.280 I really feel like the energy of money is really 0:05:34.320 --> 0:05:37.440 calling out for divine energy. Like I just really feel 0:05:37.480 --> 0:05:43.520 like money is really asking bipock feminine energy take take me. 0:05:43.760 --> 0:05:47.839 Like I'm ready to be, you know, maneuvered and manipulated 0:05:47.880 --> 0:05:49.680 by you. I'm ready to be held by you. I'm 0:05:49.720 --> 0:05:52.279 ready to be redistributed by you. And I think we're 0:05:52.400 --> 0:05:55.279 really getting a sense of that as we're starting to 0:05:55.360 --> 0:05:59.240 see this entire you know, part of the economy. 0:05:58.880 --> 0:06:00.520 Just descend lives. 0:06:00.800 --> 0:06:04.120 And yeah, like you said, like be in our power, 0:06:04.240 --> 0:06:06.920 and I'm with you. I think we have Fridays back 0:06:08.279 --> 0:06:08.960 that's happening. 0:06:11.000 --> 0:06:15.719 I love that, you know, I think we manifested loose 0:06:15.800 --> 0:06:19.440 even in twenty twenty, because we like someone we really wanted, 0:06:19.680 --> 0:06:22.240 like a witch who also knew about wealth, and like 0:06:22.279 --> 0:06:25.120 that is a very interesting combination to request from the universe. 0:06:25.400 --> 0:06:27.320 And literally that day we got her, and that day 0:06:27.360 --> 0:06:29.839 we recorded with her, literally and like you know, we 0:06:29.960 --> 0:06:32.880 manifest shit really, you know, like easily. But I think 0:06:33.920 --> 0:06:36.880 it's very interesting because when you say, like money is 0:06:36.920 --> 0:06:39.679 calling for like the divine energy and like the feminine 0:06:39.760 --> 0:06:42.560 energy to be held, it's it's interesting because I do 0:06:42.600 --> 0:06:44.560 feel like women are in this time or we're taking 0:06:44.560 --> 0:06:47.000 our power back and standing in our power and like 0:06:47.320 --> 0:06:50.479 healing rapidly and like coming together to each other, and 0:06:50.720 --> 0:06:54.680 there's an awakening happening, and we don't really hear a 0:06:54.720 --> 0:06:58.280 lot of people talk about like women and money and 0:06:58.320 --> 0:07:01.080 like the relationship with money and the energy you have 0:07:01.240 --> 0:07:03.680 with it and how much that really affects how much 0:07:03.720 --> 0:07:06.760 you make and how much you avoid it subconsciously, and like, 0:07:07.640 --> 0:07:10.840 you know, we've all grown very much since since, you know, 0:07:10.880 --> 0:07:13.080 it's like this a rapid growth that's happening. I think 0:07:13.240 --> 0:07:17.240 because we are becoming more in tune with ourselves and 0:07:17.280 --> 0:07:20.160 becoming more empowered, like money is coming to us more easily, 0:07:20.560 --> 0:07:23.680 And I didn't realize until recently, like how much of 0:07:23.720 --> 0:07:27.360 a like the energy I have with money, Like how 0:07:27.440 --> 0:07:30.320 uncomfortable I am with it, Like I've literally had to 0:07:30.360 --> 0:07:33.960 say so many times, like you're safe, You're good, like 0:07:34.000 --> 0:07:36.000 you don't have to like you don't have to fear, 0:07:36.080 --> 0:07:38.840 and like this this like energy that comes up in 0:07:38.840 --> 0:07:42.040 my soul about it is so it is so interesting, 0:07:42.080 --> 0:07:45.480 and I think that we don't pay enough attention to 0:07:46.040 --> 0:07:49.000 that energy and how that like really can stifle how 0:07:49.000 --> 0:07:52.040 easily it comes to you. So like, thank you for 0:07:52.120 --> 0:07:53.840 talking about that and shedding light on that, because I 0:07:53.880 --> 0:07:57.040 think that you know, as like women and like intuitive, 0:07:57.080 --> 0:07:59.680 witchy women, it's important to pay attention to that so 0:07:59.720 --> 0:08:02.440 that we can leverage it more to us without you know, 0:08:02.480 --> 0:08:04.280 avoiding ink and being afraid of it. 0:08:04.760 --> 0:08:07.840 Yeah, you know something really powerful that you just kind 0:08:07.880 --> 0:08:12.120 of brought up. I did this really amazing exercise with money. 0:08:12.520 --> 0:08:16.240 I just held cash one hundred dollars in ones, just 0:08:16.280 --> 0:08:19.400 so I could see like the volume of it, and 0:08:19.680 --> 0:08:22.360 I had an intimate conversation with it that was guided 0:08:22.480 --> 0:08:27.040 by another woman that practices this, and I had to 0:08:27.080 --> 0:08:30.720 like look within and see how I felt towards money, 0:08:30.720 --> 0:08:34.720 and it was so interesting what began to transpire. One 0:08:34.760 --> 0:08:38.040 of the things that came up was like it was 0:08:38.440 --> 0:08:40.319 wrapped up, you know how it comes in the paper, 0:08:40.640 --> 0:08:43.000 and I didn't want to open it, like it was 0:08:43.040 --> 0:08:45.880 like I felt restricted from opening it and letting it loose. 0:08:47.160 --> 0:08:49.120 And then when I finally got to do that, I 0:08:49.160 --> 0:08:52.880 started to feel really angry, like really angry. 0:08:52.960 --> 0:08:55.400 And I started to yell at the money and like 0:08:55.480 --> 0:08:57.240 tell the money like why haven't. 0:08:56.960 --> 0:08:59.400 You been there for me when I needed you? Where 0:08:59.440 --> 0:09:00.240 have you been in? 0:09:00.400 --> 0:09:02.760 What about this time? And when my car broke down? 0:09:02.800 --> 0:09:05.120 And you know, like just I just went through a 0:09:05.200 --> 0:09:08.920 series of events and I realized how that was really 0:09:08.960 --> 0:09:10.840 transpiring with money itself. 0:09:12.280 --> 0:09:14.480 I was angry. I started to throw the money all 0:09:14.520 --> 0:09:16.120 over the room. It got crazy. 0:09:17.400 --> 0:09:23.280 I'm like pissed, and you know, the woman that was 0:09:23.320 --> 0:09:27.080 guiding me said, now, who in your life do you 0:09:27.320 --> 0:09:28.720 feel this same way with? 0:09:28.840 --> 0:09:31.120 Who do you not have access to? Who are you 0:09:31.200 --> 0:09:35.360 not supported by? And I was like my mother, you know, 0:09:35.520 --> 0:09:36.120 my mother. 0:09:36.360 --> 0:09:40.800 And interestingly enough, when I started to really make money, 0:09:40.880 --> 0:09:44.599 like when I started to see so just so we 0:09:44.720 --> 0:09:47.920 can't point of reference. I went from one year making 0:09:48.120 --> 0:09:52.000 fifteen to seventeen thousand in profits for my business, to 0:09:52.240 --> 0:09:56.480 the next making two around two hundred and thirty, to 0:09:56.559 --> 0:09:59.840 the next year making six hundred thousand. So I saw 0:10:00.240 --> 0:10:03.880 money come at me rapidly, like month over month, just 0:10:03.920 --> 0:10:08.559 like come like sweep in. When that pivoted, I had 0:10:08.559 --> 0:10:11.920 a big breakthrough in the relationship with my mom. We 0:10:12.000 --> 0:10:16.240 repaired our relationship, we started communicating, So it was. 0:10:16.200 --> 0:10:19.520 Like mirroring money was mirroring the relationship. 0:10:19.960 --> 0:10:22.280 Yeah, so you made me think of the quest, you know, 0:10:22.480 --> 0:10:24.200 Michelle my body. 0:10:25.280 --> 0:10:27.959 Yeah, so I think with that, you know, I think 0:10:27.960 --> 0:10:32.120 it's important to see how we feel about money intimately 0:10:32.240 --> 0:10:35.320 in that way and then where in our childhood is 0:10:35.360 --> 0:10:37.959 that reflected, because everything is just tied to. 0:10:38.200 --> 0:10:41.240 Of course, I mean I think about like like reflect 0:10:41.240 --> 0:10:42.360 I mean, I think we talked about this on the 0:10:42.400 --> 0:10:44.079 last episode that we did with you. It's like the 0:10:44.480 --> 0:10:47.400 fear that people have around money and like the unlearning 0:10:47.480 --> 0:10:49.640 that we have to do around it. Because I know, 0:10:49.720 --> 0:10:51.760 even for me, this is something that I've worked on 0:10:51.840 --> 0:10:54.480 more and more this year. Is like not saying, oh 0:10:54.480 --> 0:10:56.679 I can't I can't afford that. I can't do that now, 0:10:57.000 --> 0:11:00.640 like I'll get the cheaper one. Like I've been like 0:11:00.800 --> 0:11:03.960 really indulging in the things that I want, and it 0:11:04.000 --> 0:11:06.680 feels and it's helping me learn, Like why am I 0:11:06.760 --> 0:11:10.360 cheapening myself? Why am I of obviously yes, within reason 0:11:10.440 --> 0:11:12.400 of like what I can afford. But if I can 0:11:12.440 --> 0:11:14.160 afford it, why would I buy the other thing that 0:11:14.200 --> 0:11:16.800 I don't really want? Because I feel like that this 0:11:16.880 --> 0:11:18.960 thing is going to like put me in another it's 0:11:18.960 --> 0:11:20.520 going to make me in a deficit of some sort 0:11:20.600 --> 0:11:23.360 or I don't deserve it, you know, or like maybe later. 0:11:23.720 --> 0:11:24.240 Yeah. 0:11:24.280 --> 0:11:28.240 And I think that when we really start to expand 0:11:28.280 --> 0:11:30.800 in that way, like when we make room for luxury 0:11:30.840 --> 0:11:34.280 and we make room for things that are higher quality 0:11:34.280 --> 0:11:37.880 and just better for ourselves overall, the universe always yields. 0:11:38.000 --> 0:11:41.280 Yes, and you like always since I've been spoiling myself, 0:11:41.360 --> 0:11:44.960 like other things have been in my way. Yeah, And 0:11:45.000 --> 0:11:47.320 I think about like where I've really thought about like 0:11:47.320 --> 0:11:50.080 when did this? Where did my fear and money come from? 0:11:50.080 --> 0:11:51.760 Like what was the moment in my life? And it 0:11:51.800 --> 0:11:54.120 definitely was my childhood. I remember there was a time 0:11:54.240 --> 0:11:57.280 like when my mom was going through a really difficult time, 0:11:57.320 --> 0:12:00.840 and I was going to a really prestigious school, and 0:12:00.880 --> 0:12:02.720 I was in school with like a lot of wealthy 0:12:03.360 --> 0:12:05.959 white people, and I wanted like I was like, Mom, 0:12:06.040 --> 0:12:07.360 I want this, I want that. Because I had no 0:12:07.480 --> 0:12:09.840 concept of money, I was like, I want this. Kate's 0:12:10.559 --> 0:12:12.760 Kate's spade bag, Like what the fuck did I knew 0:12:12.840 --> 0:12:13.400 Kate spade bag? 0:12:13.720 --> 0:12:14.559 Everyone else has? 0:12:14.640 --> 0:12:15.000 My mom? 0:12:15.120 --> 0:12:16.120 Like this is school was nuts. 0:12:16.160 --> 0:12:20.400 But these girls were wearing tierras tiaras to school and. 0:12:18.960 --> 0:12:21.840 It was like a sweet six Do you remember that face? 0:12:21.840 --> 0:12:22.600 I don't remember that. 0:12:22.559 --> 0:12:23.880 It feels like a little dainty one. 0:12:24.400 --> 0:12:24.559 Yeah. 0:12:24.640 --> 0:12:27.160 I was a little tr like why, like everyone's a princess? 0:12:27.200 --> 0:12:27.600 I don't know. 0:12:28.600 --> 0:12:31.640 But and there were these things that I was asking for, 0:12:31.679 --> 0:12:33.640 and I remember she was like, Erica, we can't afford it. 0:12:33.640 --> 0:12:35.960 And I'd never heard her say I can't afford it, 0:12:36.400 --> 0:12:38.360 like and I and I like saw like the fear 0:12:38.400 --> 0:12:40.120 in her too, and like the pain of her having 0:12:40.160 --> 0:12:42.760 to tell me that, and I immediately got scared, like 0:12:42.800 --> 0:12:45.360 I started thinking, like it's a are we gonna be 0:12:45.360 --> 0:12:45.640 able to. 0:12:45.640 --> 0:12:46.640 Live in this house anymore? 0:12:47.320 --> 0:12:50.280 She didn't even say all that, but immediately I just 0:12:50.400 --> 0:12:52.840 went into like fear mode. Around money, and because of that, 0:12:52.920 --> 0:12:56.160 I became like throughout that that moment and like the 0:12:56.160 --> 0:12:58.439 moments after that, I became cheap. 0:12:58.559 --> 0:12:59.640 And now even my mom. 0:12:59.480 --> 0:13:02.520 Always says, AKA, you're so cheap, you know, And I'm like, well, 0:13:02.559 --> 0:13:04.360 it was that moment when I was nine and you 0:13:04.440 --> 0:13:08.640 said that, yeah, we could afforded the games paid bag. 0:13:10.360 --> 0:13:13.520 I'm traized, Oh my god, this sounds like for sure 0:13:13.600 --> 0:13:17.120 Valley Girl problems. But no, but that really was a 0:13:17.160 --> 0:13:19.960 defining moment for me. And I realized that when I 0:13:19.960 --> 0:13:21.800 pinpoint that moment, like, well, that was the moment that 0:13:21.840 --> 0:13:24.760 really I became aware of money and like being in 0:13:24.760 --> 0:13:27.040 a deficit of it. And so because of that, I 0:13:27.040 --> 0:13:28.520 always felt like I had to save. I had to 0:13:28.679 --> 0:13:31.680 like I couldn't do this, like that's not that important. 0:13:31.720 --> 0:13:35.840 I'd rather spend money here. And so you know, people listening, 0:13:35.880 --> 0:13:37.480 I encourage you to kind of if you are in 0:13:37.480 --> 0:13:42.720 that deficit mindset money mindset around money, like think about 0:13:42.800 --> 0:13:45.680 one was like that point in your childhood that like 0:13:45.760 --> 0:13:49.160 something shifted for you because children were young, like we 0:13:49.400 --> 0:13:52.959 don't really have a concept of like your life is 0:13:53.000 --> 0:13:55.640 being paid for. I always say, like my daughter's like 0:13:55.880 --> 0:13:58.760 my brokest like roommate she's and it's like you don't 0:13:58.760 --> 0:14:00.640 want them to have a concept of money and you 0:14:00.679 --> 0:14:03.280 don't want them to be like I realized them. I'm like, 0:14:03.360 --> 0:14:05.280 can you Like you're asking for so much stuff, but 0:14:05.320 --> 0:14:07.880 I'm like, also demand what the fuck you want? You know, 0:14:08.080 --> 0:14:10.559 like yeah, you just like if you think you deserve something. 0:14:10.640 --> 0:14:12.760 I'm having to unlearn that as an adult, like yeah, 0:14:12.760 --> 0:14:14.280 I fucking deserve it, and I want and I'll have it, 0:14:14.640 --> 0:14:16.000 you know what I mean, because I've grew up and 0:14:16.000 --> 0:14:17.839 it's like you don't need that, you don't need that, 0:14:17.920 --> 0:14:20.280 Like that's too much. And so now I'm having so 0:14:20.480 --> 0:14:23.240 constantly like I literally hate throwing shit away. I will 0:14:23.240 --> 0:14:25.240 bring all the food home from the table, I will 0:14:25.360 --> 0:14:27.040 throw it away three days later because no one's eating 0:14:27.040 --> 0:14:29.240 that shit. Sometimes I eat it, but it's just like 0:14:29.240 --> 0:14:32.720 like not having enough, you know, Like like I see 0:14:32.760 --> 0:14:35.360 how I see how like I feel about things leaving, 0:14:35.760 --> 0:14:36.840 and I'm like, bitch. 0:14:36.560 --> 0:14:38.320 You know I always make fun of her whatever at 0:14:38.320 --> 0:14:38.760 the dinner tab. 0:14:38.800 --> 0:14:40.680 We were at the dinner table the other night we're leaving, 0:14:40.960 --> 0:14:43.480 we're leaving town, and we're leaving town that night, and 0:14:43.520 --> 0:14:45.160 we had so much food left over and the guy 0:14:45.240 --> 0:14:46.560 was like, do you wanted to go box? And I 0:14:46.560 --> 0:14:50.120 could see her like and I was like, no, we 0:14:50.160 --> 0:14:52.000 don't shoot. I was like, was that hard for you? 0:14:52.040 --> 0:14:55.560 She's like yes, because you know, my family's like someone's starving. 0:14:55.640 --> 0:14:58.040 Someone can use this even so much now, like I 0:14:58.080 --> 0:15:00.440 just bought an expensive pair of shoes or because we're 0:15:00.440 --> 0:15:02.280 telling me buy expensive foot she was wrong time. I'm like, 0:15:02.560 --> 0:15:04.920 it's like the first time it's spent one thousand dollars. Yeah, 0:15:05.400 --> 0:15:10.280 I love that. I'm going to buy him, Like you know, 0:15:10.320 --> 0:15:14.600 I'm bitch, you're thirty four years old. But it's just 0:15:14.640 --> 0:15:17.720 it's interesting, like not even you know, like not feeling 0:15:17.800 --> 0:15:19.680 like you need it, but like if you want it, 0:15:19.720 --> 0:15:22.880 and like just navigating between that space and even feeling 0:15:22.880 --> 0:15:25.880 guilty about it, feeling guilty about my success, like bitch, 0:15:25.920 --> 0:15:28.520 I've worked for this, but feeling like I have been 0:15:28.520 --> 0:15:30.680 in a space where I didn't have it and like 0:15:30.760 --> 0:15:33.160 people didn't support me and I didn't have you know 0:15:33.160 --> 0:15:35.240 what I mean, Like I really didn't have shit, And 0:15:35.320 --> 0:15:38.160 so now I can understand not being able to figure 0:15:38.160 --> 0:15:39.680 it out because it wasn't that long ago. I was 0:15:39.680 --> 0:15:44.240 figuring some shit out recently, we had somebody who is 0:15:44.280 --> 0:15:45.880 a listener of the show who I kind of became 0:15:45.960 --> 0:15:49.040 cool with, like, come at us about like the price 0:15:49.080 --> 0:15:53.240 of our retreat, and it was very unsolicited, and she 0:15:53.760 --> 0:15:56.840 suggested that, like, our demographic is single moms and they 0:15:56.920 --> 0:15:59.560 can't afford that right now, and a it made me 0:15:59.600 --> 0:16:01.920 feel bad and be was like it was not productive, 0:16:02.080 --> 0:16:04.800 and see, it's fucking wrong. Our retreat is cheap because 0:16:04.800 --> 0:16:06.800 we want people to come and afford it, and we 0:16:06.840 --> 0:16:09.640 work really fucking hard and it's like one of a kind, 0:16:09.720 --> 0:16:13.560 life changing, fucking experience and bitch, you've never been, so 0:16:13.720 --> 0:16:15.880 you wouldn't know what to compare it to anyway. But 0:16:16.320 --> 0:16:18.080 it also was like and also you don't know what 0:16:18.120 --> 0:16:21.480 our women are doing, and like women single moms are 0:16:21.480 --> 0:16:25.240 figuring shit out every fucking day. Hence, bitch me the business, 0:16:25.280 --> 0:16:27.040 you know what I mean? Like and you and I 0:16:27.080 --> 0:16:30.880 was just like, how dare you like come at us? 0:16:31.000 --> 0:16:34.480 But also how dare you like suggest that everybody's around 0:16:34.520 --> 0:16:37.800 like struggling, and you know, like obviously it was probably 0:16:37.840 --> 0:16:42.080 a projection in ways, and but I just like, I 0:16:42.080 --> 0:16:44.280 think as we grow, there's always going to be this 0:16:44.440 --> 0:16:48.040 like you know, like this like you're leaving people behind 0:16:48.160 --> 0:16:50.200 type shit, but it's like we all are trying to grow, 0:16:50.280 --> 0:16:52.200 Like that should be the mission for everyone, and it 0:16:52.240 --> 0:16:56.240 shouldn't be uncomfortable to like want that and like want 0:16:56.320 --> 0:16:58.880 your sister and your brother and your friends to like 0:16:59.120 --> 0:17:02.480 level up too. So it is interesting, just like the 0:17:02.600 --> 0:17:07.760 relationship I think from childhood examining that and also how 0:17:07.760 --> 0:17:10.560 you talk. I've while you were talking about this and 0:17:10.640 --> 0:17:12.960 talking about your childhood too, I was thinking about how 0:17:13.000 --> 0:17:17.680 I've only recently really started to like unlearn the ways 0:17:17.720 --> 0:17:20.280 I talk about money, and thinking about how I've already 0:17:20.320 --> 0:17:22.639 talked about money with my daughter and the things that 0:17:22.680 --> 0:17:25.160 she's heard me say are like no, we can't get 0:17:25.160 --> 0:17:27.360 that right now, or like know and like how it's 0:17:27.400 --> 0:17:30.359 my duty now to like make sure that I'm not 0:17:30.560 --> 0:17:33.560 passing on my traumas around money to her. 0:17:34.240 --> 0:17:37.520 I think definitely, And I think it's also not only 0:17:37.560 --> 0:17:40.359 what we say, but I think it's also a lot 0:17:40.400 --> 0:17:43.000 of how we're behaving, like just the energy and the 0:17:43.040 --> 0:17:45.200 thoughts that we have. I think it's great that you're 0:17:45.240 --> 0:17:48.800 picking up on, like you're parenting yourself. You're moving through 0:17:48.840 --> 0:17:51.639 like I feel this scarcity when I'm at the dinner table, 0:17:51.680 --> 0:17:53.000 like catching yourself. 0:17:52.600 --> 0:17:54.400 In those moments, I think is so important. 0:17:54.440 --> 0:17:57.120 The ability to be able to step out of ourselves 0:17:57.200 --> 0:17:59.520 and reflect this is where I need to work on, 0:17:59.680 --> 0:18:02.760 I think is a really crucial part of also showing 0:18:02.760 --> 0:18:05.480 that behavior to our children, whether we're saying. 0:18:05.200 --> 0:18:06.239 It out loud or not. 0:18:06.840 --> 0:18:10.399 I've watched my son grow up in a completely different 0:18:10.440 --> 0:18:14.360 way reflecting the way I feel about money now. Granted 0:18:14.400 --> 0:18:16.800 I still have scarcity, I still have money wounds, money 0:18:16.800 --> 0:18:19.800 traumas that I'm working through, but I'm nowhere near the 0:18:19.880 --> 0:18:22.119 teen mom that I was with my daughter. So I 0:18:22.119 --> 0:18:25.000 can see the stark difference in like her traumas where 0:18:25.000 --> 0:18:28.920 I'm like, fuck as me, I did that, And then 0:18:28.920 --> 0:18:31.360 I can see, you know, the difference with my son 0:18:31.440 --> 0:18:34.760 where he's more in a space of abundance, and you know, 0:18:34.840 --> 0:18:38.840 that contrast also makes me feel guilty like that, why 0:18:38.920 --> 0:18:40.840 didn't I learn faster for my daughter? 0:18:40.960 --> 0:18:41.160 Etc. 0:18:41.560 --> 0:18:46.240 But what I've learned with my son is that it's 0:18:46.600 --> 0:18:49.840 mostly what I'm not saying that he's picking up on 0:18:50.400 --> 0:18:53.879 versus what I am saying. So I think, yes, obviously, 0:18:54.240 --> 0:18:56.560 you know, it's important for us to be conscious mothers 0:18:56.600 --> 0:18:59.919 about how we're talking about money and displaying our relationship. 0:19:00.160 --> 0:19:01.680 But I think a lot of it is what we're 0:19:01.680 --> 0:19:05.880 internalizing as well. That's crucial. I've seen my son has 0:19:06.040 --> 0:19:08.080 he was I'm gonna tell you this really quick story, 0:19:08.119 --> 0:19:11.280 but he was three years old and he's watching this 0:19:11.359 --> 0:19:16.040 wrestling movie for kids and the someone comes in to 0:19:16.240 --> 0:19:18.320 rob a diner. All the kids are at the diner 0:19:18.440 --> 0:19:21.120 and the kids run under the table to hide, and 0:19:21.320 --> 0:19:23.639 the man pretends to have a gun under his shirt 0:19:23.640 --> 0:19:26.320 and it's like holding up the register, and he gets 0:19:26.400 --> 0:19:31.000 so emotional, pauses the movie and I'm like, what's wrong. 0:19:31.040 --> 0:19:33.879 He's like, I just feel so bad? And I thought, 0:19:34.000 --> 0:19:36.800