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Speaker 1: comes from old direction to nine six eight. I forty female,

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Speaker 1: I was repeatedly looked over and parentified by my parents

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Speaker 1: in favor of her, similar to the last story. Example

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Speaker 1: of this include giving my old clothes and toys to

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Speaker 1: keepsake of my childhood. In short, my inner child has

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Speaker 1: I am low contact with my parents and sister, but

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Speaker 2: Okay, I really do not see a problem.

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Speaker 1: With giving your old clothes.

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Speaker 2: Old clothes, maybe toys like if you had, like rbs

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Speaker 1: Like that that my parents gave away my car that

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Speaker 1: I bought my sister for free.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but like they, I don't see a problem with

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Speaker 1: So I had to buy my car for my parents.

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Speaker 2: Isn't it funny how that goes? Is it funny how

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Speaker 1: And they didn't even give me a deal, They just

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Speaker 2: Dude, Yeah, I had that growing up, Like I would

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Speaker 1: And Tat's not even that much younger than you, like

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Speaker 2: I hate to say this, he was so spoiled. Okay,

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Speaker 1: Okay, story time, Okay, story time, we'll get we'll get

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Speaker 1: I guess I haven't heard enough to validate the trauma

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Speaker 2: That's the only thing we have.

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Speaker 1: Which you did you live?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I've noticed something with therapists that some people go

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Speaker 1: I think that's true. And think of how you could

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Speaker 2: Yeah, man's so.

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Speaker 1: I think he's just like, you shouldn't have told Matt

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Speaker 2: But Matt is like persistently saying she needs to go

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Speaker 1: Like, I think you are right. At some point he's

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Speaker 1: No, it's just such an asshole move to tell the mom. Matt, Matt,

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Speaker 2: Do you have a uncle, Mat?

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Speaker 1: I have an uncle, Dave, Uncle, Dave, Rick, Mike.

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Speaker 1: That's awesome big family gatherings. But you know what I

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Speaker 1: All right, let's finish this up. Baby, Am I the

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Speaker 1: On Valentine's Day he called me and said get ready.

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Speaker 2: Dude, what stop acting like a baby? Dude? Whoa dude?

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Speaker 1: Why I feel like it depends? Okay, Right? Is this

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Speaker 1: Like, she's like, she's been in this relationship since she

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Speaker 2: The guy cheated on her and he doesn't know how

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Speaker 2: to like deal with that.

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Speaker 1: No, no, no, wait, what I think she cheated on the

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Speaker 2: I see where the guy's coming from, but he still

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I feel like he's not being sensitive enough. So

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Speaker 2: Yo. Okay, here's another piece I'm reading back now.

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Speaker 1: When maybe or maybe he's just doing it despite her.

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Speaker 2: Well, like he should understand. Okay, So the second sentence

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Speaker 1: Which is setting the context of the relationship. So he

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Speaker 2: Like he made she made him promise that he's okay

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I forgot, but but I can understand him, like, like,

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Speaker 1: all right, let's like give him the benefit of the

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Speaker 1: doubt that he's just doing like he's just trying to

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Speaker 1: give a nice gift basket and celebration for Valentine's Day. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and really put a lot of thought and effort into it.

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Speaker 1: I can imagine it feeling bad that, like he put

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Speaker 1: all this thought and effort and she's like, I can't

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Speaker 1: believe you did this. My sister's here, you know, Like

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Speaker 1: I imagine that could feel bad. I imagine he could

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Speaker 1: feel frustrated. Yeah, frustrated, but like that's but also he

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Speaker 1: has to like realize that what she said initially, like

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Speaker 1: family comes first and she feels an obligation to her family.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and she said so yeah, hmm, this is a

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Speaker 2: tough one.

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Speaker 1: It's a tough one.

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Speaker 2: He's a ahle for being o dramatic, but like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's still tough. For what do you guys think?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I would love to know what you guys think, Like,

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Speaker 1: do you how would all right, how would you react

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Speaker 1: on either side? You know? Yeah, so if you if

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Speaker 1: you were Opie in Ope's position and your husband does

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Speaker 1: this like grand gesture for Valentine's Day, but your sister

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Speaker 1: is there and she's just going through a breakup, would

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Speaker 1: you chastise your husband or what would you do? And

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Speaker 1: if you were the husband, how would you react to

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Speaker 1: being like after you do this grand gesture to be

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Speaker 1: kind of like chastised for it. I would love to

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Speaker 1: know what you guys think. Put your answers in the comments. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but you know what I think. Well, it is ten

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Speaker 1: forty seven at night. I'm freaking tired. Riley's tired.

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Speaker 2: No, I'm not tired yet.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, get out of here, dude, I still have work

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Speaker 1: to do. Oh, you have to upload.

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Speaker 2: I have to upload everything.

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Speaker 1: But if you love us, make sure to subscribe.

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Speaker 2: And we love you and.

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Speaker 1: See you tomorrow. This is an episode from Deep within

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Speaker 1: the Archives.

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Speaker 2: Time for okop.

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Speaker 3: Relam Am I the a hole for telling my friend

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Speaker 3: that her degree is useless if she has to leave

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Speaker 3: the country to.

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Speaker 1: Find I mean, what degree are we talking here? We

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Speaker 1: talk in underwater basket. Even these degrees these these nuts,

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Speaker 1: degree in these nuts? Uh? Oh, I am a specialist.

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Speaker 1: Why are you measured the degrees of these nuts? Because

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Speaker 1: this room is hot and these nuts have many degrees?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they do.

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Speaker 3: I have a high school friend, Diana, whom recently got

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Speaker 3: her master's degree. She lived in another city and we

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Speaker 3: barely ever saw each other, and she was always too

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Speaker 3: busy for long phone calls, so we just talked briefly

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Speaker 3: every now and then. During the time she spent on

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Speaker 3: her degrees, I managed to get married and start my

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Speaker 3: own family.

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Speaker 1: I do.

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Speaker 3: I do feel there's like a slight like while she

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Speaker 3: was getting her degrees, I managed to start family and

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Speaker 3: get everything set up.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel it's like a little like, oh, I'm

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Speaker 1: better than her. Oh kind yeah, like she's like, oh,

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Speaker 1: she's so busy with all the degrees. She doesn't have

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Speaker 1: time for long phone calls. You can only call me

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Speaker 1: once every like day. Yeah, not for an hour, but

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Speaker 1: for like fifteen minutes. What the heck.

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Speaker 3: Diana was visiting her family and we met it for lunch.

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Speaker 3: I asked her about her degree, work, prospects, et cetera.

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Speaker 3: She did her masters in translation or interpreting or something

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Speaker 3: like that, so it sounds like she has some sort

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Speaker 3: of which I mean, there's definitely work for that. I'm sure,

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Speaker 3: like a very studied like translator.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, but it's usually like in different countries

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Speaker 1: or like an embassy or something.

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Speaker 3: I was about to say, like is like or not

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Speaker 3: usually YouTube caption's gonna put her.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know if that would do it,

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Speaker 1: but usually like if you're really really good, you could

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Speaker 1: be like a translator for someone important.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, or something. Yeah, I was, I was. I

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Speaker 3: don't know why I was thinking. I was thinking of

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Speaker 3: transcribing cash.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because content Usually it's like it's like like there's

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Speaker 1: if you can it's like a diplomatic kind of thing.

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Speaker 1: It's like if if Obama and Kim John un are

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Speaker 1: talking right to each other, like you need a good

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Speaker 1: translator to not fuck up what Obama saying.

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Speaker 3: Imagine you're like, oh, I'm so sorry, I was brushing

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Speaker 3: up on my Rosetta Stone. I'm I'm not quite sure

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Speaker 3: you're like, you're like screw imposter syndrome.

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Speaker 1: Coming going to their top nuclear crisis engaged.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And Diana said that she got a job that

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Speaker 3: will move her to Brussels.

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Speaker 1: Cool, that's awesome. I've actually my friend Lois. She's working

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Speaker 1: at a at NATO in Brussels. Shout out, Lois in Brussels,

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Speaker 1: Let's go NATO. I told her that's crazy, stupid. Oh

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Speaker 1: my god, Opi is terrible.

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Speaker 3: If she can't find a job locally, then her degree

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Speaker 3: was a waste of time. If she has to move

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Speaker 3: to a new country, Oh.

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Speaker 1: My god, Opie's world is so small. I managed to

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Speaker 1: start a family. What are you doing? Moving to Brussels

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Speaker 1: could be at the center like like I also, I

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Speaker 1: don't think Opie realizes like Brussels is like the center

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Speaker 1: of this whole world of like of like like geold politics,

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Speaker 1: like geopology, like like like world politics, like Brussels is

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Speaker 1: is a center point, like she's probably getting a really

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Speaker 1: good job. She's moving to Brussels.

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Speaker 3: But she squirted a kid out of hercucci. So yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 3: translate that bitch. She said it's an amazing job opportunity

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Speaker 3: and that she couldn't get anywhere around here. Apparently the

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Speaker 3: job is related to EU or Parliament or whatever.

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Speaker 1: Or whatever Parliament.

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Speaker 2: This is a big stuff right here, she says.

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Speaker 3: I admit I lost her with all the abbreviations she

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Speaker 3: was using.

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Speaker 1: Op.

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Speaker 3: You you are projecting so hard right now. It is

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Speaker 3: so bad. She again said that it's an amazing opportunity

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Speaker 3: and she's excited. I asked her about the pay and

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Speaker 3: she told me. I said, yo, what this woman is awful.

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Speaker 3: I said that my husband earns that without a degree.

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Speaker 3: So I was right about the waste of time and money.

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Speaker 3: And she said it's starting salary and it'll grow because

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Speaker 3: it's the first year. What this woman is oh.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, also yeah, it's a starting salary. Usually it increases

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Speaker 1: wildly after that. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Also, like like we don't know, like her husband could

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Speaker 3: have been in like, you know, insurance sales for fifteen

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Speaker 3: years and it's like this person is like you know,

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Speaker 3: just starting starting her career.

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Speaker 2: You know, it's like it's not.

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Speaker 1: Even like what she makes, Like my husband makes more

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Speaker 1: than you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like bru you go you, you go to Brussels.

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Speaker 1: If it's so, it sounds like, oh, he is deeply

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Speaker 1: unsatisfied with where she is. I'm compensating heavily by putting

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Speaker 1: this person down.

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Speaker 3: She said it was pretty much training and that it

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Speaker 3: was a junior position. I again could God, she doesn't stop.

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Speaker 3: I again said that she could have gotten a similar

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Speaker 3: job here and wouldn't have wasted six years and instead

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Speaker 3: could have worked and started a family. Oh God, it's

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Speaker 3: getting more and more painful to read this. And here's

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Speaker 3: where and here's where she was rude. Dude, she should

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Speaker 3: have been rude ages ago, bro Oh, here's where she

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Speaker 3: was rude. She said, if she wanted to be unhappy

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Speaker 3: as me, then she'd start a family clap back, creeking.

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Speaker 3: She threw it in my face that apparently I'm always

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Speaker 3: complaining about my husband but criticizing her.

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Speaker 2: He's the best husband in the world.

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Speaker 3: I told her she's ridiculous and mean, and then she

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Speaker 3: called me an a hole, paid and left the restaurant.

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Speaker 3: She's not even I love who she paid to. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: she's like boom, here's all my Brussels.

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Speaker 1: Money, bitch sho. Yeah dude, oh we suck.

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Speaker 3: I told my friends about this and they're split on

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Speaker 3: who is the A hole?

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Speaker 2: So tell me here.

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Speaker 1: Am I the A hole for chelling?

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Speaker 2: You are the A whole?

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Speaker 1: Like yo, you read it people, My god, you read

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Speaker 1: it people. That was abhorrent, how terrible that was. You

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Speaker 1: were the A hole through and through