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Speaker 1: I Put with Alexi Napola and Marisa Patton, an iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hi guys, welcome to another podcast of I Put.

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Speaker 1: Hello everybody. We just survived a torrential hurricane, didn't we, Alexia?

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Speaker 3: Well, yes we Fortunately we were blessed and it didn't

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Speaker 3: come our way, and we did prepare very much for it.

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Speaker 3: But luckily for us, it didn't go this way.

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Speaker 1: What did you do to prepare?

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Speaker 3: Well, the usual, bringing all the patio furniture, have flashlights

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Speaker 3: and batteries, having enough water and.

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Speaker 1: Food, food, food essential. How about alcohol? Did you have

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Speaker 1: any of that?

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Speaker 4: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Well, I always have a full bar here. I know you, yet.

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Speaker 1: Your house is like the only place I can get

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Speaker 1: a good drink.

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Speaker 2: But you know what, but it's lonely.

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Speaker 3: It was only Frankie and I here, so it's not

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Speaker 3: like I was going to drink by myself.

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Speaker 2: With Frankie. I prefer to go to somebody else's house.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but with you know, I didn't really think it

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Speaker 3: was going to come this way, So in other circumstances,

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Speaker 3: I would have probably gone to somebody's house, to my

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Speaker 3: family's house or friends, or even your house. Because I'm

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Speaker 3: really scared to be alone but honestly, during during a

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Speaker 3: circumstance like that. But we had a few winds that

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Speaker 3: night that were a little scary, but it was it

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Speaker 3: was just like some bands. It came really strong. And

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Speaker 3: then the next day it woke up. The day was beautiful.

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Speaker 2: It was prettier than yeah it was.

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Speaker 3: The sun was out. It was really beautiful. But you know,

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Speaker 3: you always have to prepare for the worst.

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Speaker 4: Oh.

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Speaker 1: Absolutely, Steve did all the work. He was blowing the

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Speaker 1: yard incessantly. He would not stop blowing the art and said, Steve,

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Speaker 1: there's a storm coming. What are you doing? Why why

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Speaker 1: would you clean the yard for it to be destroyed

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Speaker 1: by the storm. He said, I think it's just therapy.

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Speaker 1: I think it's therapeutic for him. No, well, he said,

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Speaker 1: I have to look out the window and it looks clean,

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Speaker 1: the cup pretty, it looks now and I could look

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Speaker 1: out the window and it looks nice. I said, that's

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Speaker 1: gonna last an hour. When the rains, all the leaves

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Speaker 1: are gonna come. Then he was running out of places

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Speaker 1: to blow. I saw him inside the poolhouse. I'm like,

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Speaker 1: what are you doing in the poolhouse.

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Speaker 2: With the blower? There's nothing to blow in there, so

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Speaker 2: you fixed the blower. I know, last time I was

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Speaker 2: there it wasn't working.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, yeah, it was down in the rain by production.

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Speaker 1: So we got a new one.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there's nothing like a new blower.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'll say, in more ways than one, everything's been

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Speaker 1: festive around here. We've actually, you know, turned it into

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Speaker 1: a party if we could. You know, when you get

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Speaker 1: a little you get cabin fever, you have to come

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Speaker 1: up with things to do. I love to play scrabble.

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Speaker 1: Have you played scrabble?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's fun. It's it's so fun. I'm obsessed. Well

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Speaker 2: I was here board, but we had electricity.

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Speaker 3: Nothing happened, So it was just like a regular night

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Speaker 3: for us, and went to sleep early. Woke up the

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Speaker 3: next day. It was a beautiful day, went to the gym,

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Speaker 1: Of course you did. You're so healthy.

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Speaker 3: You're trying to be help healthy and it's very therapeutic nowadays.

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Speaker 3: For me, it's all about therapy.

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Speaker 1: You got to do everything that makes you feel good.

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Speaker 1: You have to and bob out in Loweno mm hmmm.

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Speaker 2: So no, it was just like another beautiful day.

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Speaker 3: We closed the like Sam Frankie's Beauty Bar on Wednesday,

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Speaker 3: because you know, how everybody needed to get prepared for

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Speaker 3: the storm. And I feel like people also take advantage

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Speaker 3: that about what's going on so they don't have to

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Speaker 2: I mean that schools that were.

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Speaker 3: Closed, so a lot of my girls have kids, So honestly,

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Speaker 3: you know, I think that that's the best decision, you know,

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Speaker 3: in a case like got to just close it. But

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Speaker 3: then on Thursday, we were open and you know, and busy.

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Speaker 3: You know, I guess everybody that took the day off

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Speaker 1: Honey, listen, all that prep running a home deep them

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Speaker 1: preparing your yard and your home will screw up your

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Speaker 1: nails big times. So you you that was good for you.

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Speaker 2: I was open the next day. Ready for that? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: ready for that?

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Well on the happier news.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, what's what's what's happy?

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Speaker 2: What's happy? You and Boo Bear me got married? You

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Speaker 2: and you and Boo.

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Speaker 3: Bear got officially married in the courthouse. So he did

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Speaker 3: sharing it with our audience now. But of course I

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Speaker 3: know about that, and I'm so happy for you.

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Speaker 2: Thank you. Yeah. And so I'm reading here someone leaked

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Speaker 2: it before you came home.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I I well, I don't even know how anybody

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Speaker 1: found out, because I really didn't tell anybody. I mean,

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Speaker 1: you knew, and then people we work with knew, and

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Speaker 1: that was no for you. No, I know, it wasn't you.

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Speaker 1: I don't even have time. I know, you don't know

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Speaker 1: how to leak anything. Usually would be it would be you, Marisol.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, it wasn't me because I was busy getting married.

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Speaker 1: So when I'm coming home from courthouse, I start getting

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Speaker 1: emails from William and my and my publicist Vanessa that

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Speaker 1: they forwarded to me from page six asking for confirmation

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Speaker 1: that we got married at the Coral Gables Courthouse. I

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Speaker 1: was like, Okay, well, nobody knows we're getting married at

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Speaker 1: the Coral Gables Courthouse except for me and Steve and

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Speaker 1: you know, people we work with. And yeah, so I

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Speaker 1: don't know who leaked it, but it got out there

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Speaker 1: and it was already an article before I even got

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Speaker 1: home from the courthouse.

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Speaker 2: It was already like the ink was still wet.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, exactly. But we had a really really really

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Speaker 1: fun time. You know, I like to make my weddings memorable.

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Speaker 1: So this was the third one.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, by yourself, because I've never been part of them.

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Speaker 2: No one gets to enjoy the mix.

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Speaker 1: Right. I didn't even have photos this time. I don't

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Speaker 1: have anything. I got one someone took and shared with

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Speaker 1: me a week later.

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Speaker 2: If this one not Papa, would you have made a

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Speaker 2: public Right now?

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Speaker 1: I feel silly already. You know, you've already had two

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Speaker 1: that were pretings. Your third No, two that were public,

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Speaker 1: And I was like, we're just going to the courthouse.

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Speaker 1: You know, it's not a big deal. I don't want

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Speaker 2: But by the way, this one's the one that really

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Speaker 2: counts well for you.

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Speaker 3: I mean they all count yeah, No, I mean I

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Speaker 3: because the's spiritual. I mean, like you are all about

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Speaker 3: the spiritual Celomon ceremony.

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Speaker 1: The first one was spiritual, the second one was legit,

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Speaker 1: but it just wasn't you know in the US.

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Speaker 2: In your country, Well, that means it's a legit.

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Speaker 3: I mean I feel like they're a legit, right, I mean,

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Speaker 3: you've the sacraments and the vowels are olligit and you've

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Speaker 3: been with Steve for four years living together. You were

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Speaker 3: like super married, right. It's just now that you signed

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Speaker 1: Where you are we needed to make things legal for

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Speaker 1: certain you know reasons we're getting a little older, and

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Speaker 1: well we'll save that for another day. But you know,

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Speaker 1: it was it was it.

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Speaker 2: Just wanted to make it official. You wanted to make

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, in the eyes of the law, for you know,

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Speaker 1: legal reasons and wills and trusts and all that stuff

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Speaker 1: kind of thing you know, grow grown up talk things

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Speaker 1: I never thought i'd have to worry about my life.

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Speaker 3: For me, I mean, that's all very important, but for me,

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Speaker 3: it's always been more like the commitment, even though it's

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Speaker 3: always like a commitment obviously between you know, a couple

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Speaker 3: when you're living together, even you know there's no paper,

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Speaker 3: but like for me, it's always meant like it's more security,

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Speaker 3: you know, emotionally, And I mean you wouldn't think that

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Speaker 3: I would think that right after three marriages, but I

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Speaker 3: like okay, now it's like really, I don't want to

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Speaker 3: say real because it's always real, but it's hard for

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Speaker 3: me to put it in words, but it's like emotional security,

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Speaker 3: you know, for me, more than anything I felt.

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Speaker 1: I did when you came over with Julia like a

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Speaker 1: I was like, God, I'm a married woman. I am

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Speaker 1: when I was talking to you girls. I felt it

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it's a good feeling. So are you

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Speaker 2: going to take his last name?

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Speaker 2: No, not, no, I'm not.

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Speaker 1: Well, I just I've lived with this last name for

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Speaker 2: Everybody knows me. Is this path right?

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Speaker 3: Well, we're gonna talk. We're gonna get into that in

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Speaker 3: a little bit. Because speaking of marriage. Is a woman

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Speaker 3: that says her ex of twenty six years is getting remarried,

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Speaker 4: See it.

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Speaker 3: People gonna say the guy's the one that wants her

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Speaker 3: to drop the name. She you know, his fiance. Oh,

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Speaker 3: she posted I divorced my husband two years ago after

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Speaker 3: twenty six years of marriage. We have four kids, and

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Speaker 3: the split was amicable. He came out as gay and

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Speaker 3: we mutually agreed to part ways. Changing my name wasn't

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Speaker 1: Mm hmm okay.

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Speaker 3: Then at their grandsons okay. So then at their grandson's party,

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Speaker 3: her ex suddenly asked if she would consider dropping his

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Speaker 3: them very uncomfortable that I still use it, and that

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Speaker 3: she isn't yeah, and that she isn't moving on and

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Speaker 3: clinging to something in the past. But also the woman

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Speaker 3: doing just to keep peace.

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Speaker 1: That's crazy. Why would this guy care. He's a man

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Speaker 3: But even if it was with a woman, like it

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Speaker 1: All feeling if he's feeling uncomfortable, I would I would think,

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Speaker 1: Well, I mean I was a business person and my

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Speaker 1: Their last name. I liked the last name Rosello.

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Speaker 2: Now you're a Chevaria. You know, I said, you know what,

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Speaker 3: But the funny thing was that herman's ex wife Kepta

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Speaker 2: And I was like, no, bro, like calm down, like

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Speaker 1: You know that that could be like a like a business.

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Speaker 2: No, because the women won't do like the men that

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Speaker 2: I often wonder how do you feel about his ex

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well he hasn't talked about it with me, but

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Speaker 3: But more importantly, the thing is that she hasn't gotten married. No,

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Speaker 3: like you, I had already, Like my professional name was Alexa,

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Speaker 1: Do you even have to have a last name.

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Speaker 3: I'm just going to be like Share. I'm got to

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Speaker 3: be like Share. I'm got to be Alexia, and that's.

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Speaker 1: It, Alexia Astrid or why you give yourself a stage name,

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Speaker 3: Like that's even confusing. No, I'm just gonna leave Alexia.

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Speaker 3: I'm just gonna leave Alexia and we'll see because I mean, after.

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Speaker 1: Well, of course you're not changing Alexia Alexia.

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Speaker 3: Well I'm just I don't know, Shares just Share. Maybe

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Speaker 3: I don't really mind because you know, at the end.

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Speaker 4: Of the day, I am figured though, baby, because that

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Speaker 1: Listen, this is getting confusing for me because I've known

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Speaker 1: I had in my phone as a Chevalia. Now you're Napola.

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Speaker 1: It's very confusing. This is why I do not change

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Speaker 2: You really, that is true? You got to point my friend.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so what are you this week? Because I need

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Speaker 2: Just share.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm just gonna be Alexia for now till I

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Speaker 2: And besides that, it's so much work. Yeah, it's a

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Speaker 2: I hate work, so I don't want to be bothered

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Speaker 3: I don't want to do all that shit to change

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Speaker 3: show like that you're divorced. You know, it's a lot

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Speaker 2: It's a lot of work.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, in my phone I have when you call it,

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Speaker 2: I like that, Like, that's your middle name a lot too,

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Speaker 2: Alexi Astrod.

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Speaker 3: But anyways, I say, this lady needs to keep her

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Speaker 1: I would have been so angry at that guy, would

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Speaker 1: That's my name.

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Speaker 2: Too.

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Speaker 3: But there's women that tell their husbands, hey, like your

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Speaker 3: the woman won't do it. Like I'm telling you, I

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Speaker 2: Last name and take it back because they don't want them.

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Speaker 1: I missed that boat the cash payout. Hey, did you

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 2: You know that didn't bother me because at the end

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Speaker 1: Who That's right. In other news about husbands and wives,

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Speaker 1: don't know. It just never worked out. I love that

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Speaker 1: but it just.

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Speaker 2: Never lined up, right.

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Speaker 1: So that's interesting.

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Speaker 3: I mean they're both they're both stars, and you know,

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Speaker 3: our world.

441
00:20:06,920 --> 00:20:08,920
Speaker 2: They get it right well.

442
00:20:08,960 --> 00:20:11,960
Speaker 1: I also think that they both you know, it takes

443
00:20:12,040 --> 00:20:17,360
Speaker 1: us a special person also to let their partners shine,

444
00:20:17,520 --> 00:20:22,440
Speaker 1: and especially in the you know, in the acting business,

445
00:20:22,760 --> 00:20:24,879
Speaker 1: if we want to call it that. In the world

446
00:20:24,920 --> 00:20:28,800
Speaker 1: of Hollywood, it's a lot of ups and downs and

447
00:20:28,840 --> 00:20:31,119
Speaker 1: one maybe at the top and the other one is

448
00:20:31,160 --> 00:20:33,199
Speaker 1: not getting the jobs and not getting the work or

449
00:20:33,280 --> 00:20:36,320
Speaker 1: vice versa. And I think that puts a lot of

450
00:20:36,440 --> 00:20:39,640
Speaker 1: straight No, I think, yeah, but it puts a lot

451
00:20:39,680 --> 00:20:42,800
Speaker 1: of strain on the relationship. And it takes a special

452
00:20:42,840 --> 00:20:45,399
Speaker 1: person to be cool with it and let you just

453
00:20:45,520 --> 00:20:47,800
Speaker 1: shine and do your thing. And I feel like.

454
00:20:47,800 --> 00:20:48,680
Speaker 2: That happens a lot.

455
00:20:49,080 --> 00:20:51,560
Speaker 1: And I feel like there's a bunch of solid couples,

456
00:20:51,560 --> 00:20:52,000
Speaker 1: like they've.

457
00:20:51,880 --> 00:20:55,680
Speaker 3: Been very private about their personal life, which has worked

458
00:20:55,720 --> 00:20:58,119
Speaker 3: out for them, and they're like a loss of an

459
00:20:58,119 --> 00:21:01,560
Speaker 3: old like Hollywood couple you know that still together and

460
00:21:02,200 --> 00:21:04,960
Speaker 3: the long time right, And just because he's not in

461
00:21:05,200 --> 00:21:07,120
Speaker 3: Sex and the City or in any of her projects.

462
00:21:07,119 --> 00:21:10,280
Speaker 2: Doesn't mean he doesn't support her or or vice versa.

463
00:21:10,560 --> 00:21:12,280
Speaker 1: He does a lot of Broadway work.

464
00:21:12,520 --> 00:21:16,600
Speaker 3: Right, And besides that, Sarah Sarah Jessica, I'd rather go

465
00:21:16,640 --> 00:21:17,399
Speaker 3: with Anty Cohen.

466
00:21:18,080 --> 00:21:20,760
Speaker 2: Yah, she has a date.

467
00:21:21,359 --> 00:21:24,000
Speaker 3: So it's okay, Matthew Andy Cohen will take her place

468
00:21:24,720 --> 00:21:26,959
Speaker 3: for like the social events, but you know, as far

469
00:21:27,000 --> 00:21:29,240
Speaker 3: as sex and the City goes too, it's like, you know,

470
00:21:29,320 --> 00:21:31,560
Speaker 3: it's he's probably like a really smart guy because he's

471
00:21:31,560 --> 00:21:34,720
Speaker 3: probably saying, why am I like his his Like you said,

472
00:21:34,720 --> 00:21:36,720
Speaker 3: he does a lot of theater. He's done like movies

473
00:21:36,760 --> 00:21:39,040
Speaker 3: and like a different genre, Like why is he going

474
00:21:39,080 --> 00:21:41,120
Speaker 3: to like kind of like dip into her thing?

475
00:21:42,000 --> 00:21:43,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's really her thing.

476
00:21:43,160 --> 00:21:46,320
Speaker 3: He's actually really smart that he's not doing that because

477
00:21:46,359 --> 00:21:47,440
Speaker 3: this is really her thing.

478
00:21:47,760 --> 00:21:51,400
Speaker 1: Is it would have looked like she was throwing him

479
00:21:51,400 --> 00:21:55,880
Speaker 1: a bone. And you know who who has her husband

480
00:21:55,880 --> 00:21:59,720
Speaker 1: in all her films is Melissa McCarthy, the comedian. She's

481
00:21:59,720 --> 00:22:02,720
Speaker 1: so funny Melissa McCarthy. I don't know if you know

482
00:22:02,760 --> 00:22:05,480
Speaker 1: what her husband looks like, but every single film she does,

483
00:22:06,000 --> 00:22:09,040
Speaker 1: he's in there. What's his cameos? I don't know. He's

484
00:22:09,119 --> 00:22:11,920
Speaker 1: like sometimes he's a once he was an air marshall.

485
00:22:12,119 --> 00:22:15,040
Speaker 1: Sometimes he's a boyfriend, sometimes he's a couple. He just

486
00:22:15,320 --> 00:22:20,800
Speaker 1: has these random you know, you know, positions or rolls

487
00:22:21,359 --> 00:22:23,480
Speaker 1: and and I always see him and I'm like, she

488
00:22:23,600 --> 00:22:25,480
Speaker 1: helps him out. You could tell she gets all the

489
00:22:25,520 --> 00:22:28,639
Speaker 1: work and that she helps him out and he goes in.

490
00:22:28,680 --> 00:22:31,200
Speaker 1: But they've also been together a long time, and I

491
00:22:31,240 --> 00:22:33,960
Speaker 1: guess he's okay with it. You know, it depends on

492
00:22:34,000 --> 00:22:35,760
Speaker 1: the person, depends on the couple.

493
00:22:36,520 --> 00:22:38,800
Speaker 2: So do you think your husband should be supportive no

494
00:22:38,880 --> 00:22:40,440
Speaker 2: matter what your decisions are?

495
00:22:41,200 --> 00:22:43,960
Speaker 1: Listen, it's a I mean, in a perfect world.

496
00:22:43,960 --> 00:22:48,800
Speaker 2: Frank you saying no, hear about going well, listen, well,

497
00:22:49,359 --> 00:22:53,840
Speaker 2: not exactly right, right. Yeah, If I'm.

498
00:22:53,640 --> 00:22:56,080
Speaker 1: Gonna go down the street and smoke crack with the

499
00:22:56,080 --> 00:22:58,360
Speaker 1: guys because they're down the corner smoking crack not far

500
00:22:58,400 --> 00:23:00,920
Speaker 1: from my house, I don't think SEE would be cool

501
00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:03,119
Speaker 1: with them, and I don't.

502
00:23:03,000 --> 00:23:03,680
Speaker 2: Want to be cool.

503
00:23:03,720 --> 00:23:05,399
Speaker 1: I hope it's like drag me out there. Not that

504
00:23:05,440 --> 00:23:07,560
Speaker 1: I would do it, but I'm just saying, well, I mean.

505
00:23:07,440 --> 00:23:10,160
Speaker 3: I'm just let's just keep it to decisions that obviously

506
00:23:10,280 --> 00:23:11,920
Speaker 3: are not going to hurt you.

507
00:23:11,800 --> 00:23:12,440
Speaker 2: Know, both of you.

508
00:23:12,880 --> 00:23:15,040
Speaker 3: I mean, this is like, really broad and really general.

509
00:23:15,160 --> 00:23:16,680
Speaker 3: You know, I can sit here and talk about this

510
00:23:16,760 --> 00:23:22,639
Speaker 3: all day long. Yeah, you know, because again, I feel

511
00:23:22,640 --> 00:23:25,040
Speaker 3: that they're a good balance, or they're a good couple

512
00:23:25,119 --> 00:23:28,800
Speaker 3: because they both know the industry and the entertainment world,

513
00:23:29,400 --> 00:23:32,800
Speaker 3: and sometimes it's easier to support. I mean that's just

514
00:23:32,840 --> 00:23:34,639
Speaker 3: me personally, that's what I think. You know, some people

515
00:23:34,720 --> 00:23:36,240
Speaker 3: say the opposite. Oh, no, you don't want to marry

516
00:23:36,280 --> 00:23:38,800
Speaker 3: anybody in the industry because it's a problem. It's better

517
00:23:38,880 --> 00:23:40,880
Speaker 3: to be to marry somebody that has nothing to do.

518
00:23:40,920 --> 00:23:41,520
Speaker 2: With my world.

519
00:23:42,040 --> 00:23:44,719
Speaker 3: But you know what, with just in my experience, I

520
00:23:44,760 --> 00:23:48,320
Speaker 3: think it's easier when you marry somebody in this case,

521
00:23:48,600 --> 00:23:50,919
Speaker 3: right that understands it, because you know, you have to

522
00:23:50,920 --> 00:23:53,280
Speaker 3: have the conversation if you're making a decision without them,

523
00:23:53,359 --> 00:23:55,719
Speaker 3: you know, you always want their love and support, right,

524
00:23:55,720 --> 00:23:56,480
Speaker 3: who doesn't want that?

525
00:23:56,920 --> 00:23:57,080
Speaker 4: Yeah?

526
00:23:57,080 --> 00:23:59,520
Speaker 3: I always want They're blessing their love and support. But

527
00:23:59,680 --> 00:24:01,760
Speaker 3: you know, there has to be like you have to

528
00:24:01,800 --> 00:24:06,199
Speaker 3: come to like an agreement, an understanding, you know, because

529
00:24:06,240 --> 00:24:08,840
Speaker 3: it's not only you know what you want or what

530
00:24:08,880 --> 00:24:11,640
Speaker 3: he wants, you know, And I feel like the medium, yeah,

531
00:24:11,680 --> 00:24:13,399
Speaker 3: I feel like you still have been able to figure

532
00:24:13,440 --> 00:24:13,960
Speaker 3: it out.

533
00:24:14,040 --> 00:24:16,879
Speaker 1: They know how figure it out to work together and compromise.

534
00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:20,920
Speaker 1: I got very lucky because seems like whatever you're doing,

535
00:24:21,040 --> 00:24:23,240
Speaker 1: I want to support it. And he gives me no

536
00:24:23,359 --> 00:24:27,560
Speaker 1: hard time about anything. He's very easy and open to

537
00:24:27,680 --> 00:24:30,080
Speaker 1: what I'm doing. And I know a lot of men

538
00:24:30,280 --> 00:24:33,480
Speaker 1: in the situation that we're in and our business of

539
00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:37,960
Speaker 1: reality TV, they just don't want to be any part

540
00:24:38,040 --> 00:24:38,280
Speaker 1: of it.

541
00:24:38,400 --> 00:24:38,560
Speaker 2: Right.

542
00:24:38,640 --> 00:24:41,760
Speaker 3: Well, reality TV is a lot different, very different. It's

543
00:24:41,800 --> 00:24:44,399
Speaker 3: a lot harder than just going descript it.

544
00:24:45,760 --> 00:24:46,720
Speaker 2: And then.

545
00:24:48,040 --> 00:24:50,360
Speaker 1: Or they're into it and then they have a bad

546
00:24:50,400 --> 00:24:52,679
Speaker 1: experience and then they pull back, and then they make

547
00:24:52,720 --> 00:24:56,280
Speaker 1: it hard for you. But he's so easy, so great

548
00:24:56,400 --> 00:24:57,600
Speaker 1: and super sid I mean, if I.

549
00:24:57,920 --> 00:25:01,000
Speaker 3: Got lucky, you did, you have a very special human being,

550
00:25:01,280 --> 00:25:03,960
Speaker 3: not only you know for you know, because he supports

551
00:25:03,960 --> 00:25:07,280
Speaker 3: you and on the show, but I think he's like

552
00:25:07,280 --> 00:25:10,240
Speaker 3: your life partner. He supports you and everything and everything

553
00:25:10,440 --> 00:25:13,240
Speaker 3: I've seen it in the last four years. Yeah, so

554
00:25:13,359 --> 00:25:16,280
Speaker 3: that's very important. But you know, we can't expect all

555
00:25:16,320 --> 00:25:18,520
Speaker 3: of the men to be the same. And you know, somehow

556
00:25:18,720 --> 00:25:22,120
Speaker 3: us right, some house husbands do the same as Matthew,

557
00:25:22,240 --> 00:25:25,120
Speaker 3: and they don't participate and they don't get involved while

558
00:25:25,240 --> 00:25:28,720
Speaker 3: filming Housewives. Do you think that's okay or do you

559
00:25:28,760 --> 00:25:31,920
Speaker 3: think like that's not okay? Like what does it say

560
00:25:31,960 --> 00:25:32,240
Speaker 3: to you?

561
00:25:33,040 --> 00:25:35,800
Speaker 1: I mean, I think that you have to do what's

562
00:25:35,840 --> 00:25:37,840
Speaker 1: best for you. It's a personal choice.

563
00:25:37,880 --> 00:25:40,360
Speaker 2: But here lies the problem. You know what happens.

564
00:25:40,480 --> 00:25:42,800
Speaker 3: So if they do support you and they come on,

565
00:25:43,000 --> 00:25:46,600
Speaker 3: I mean, what's support participating? You know, the support and

566
00:25:46,640 --> 00:25:48,879
Speaker 3: another thing is participating, Like I like my husband to

567
00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:51,439
Speaker 3: support me. He may not want to participate, and I

568
00:25:51,440 --> 00:25:53,359
Speaker 3: get that. I respect that a little.

569
00:25:53,840 --> 00:25:56,439
Speaker 2: I think. Yeah, So the thing is, so this is

570
00:25:56,440 --> 00:25:57,800
Speaker 2: what happens on our kind of show.

571
00:25:58,359 --> 00:26:00,920
Speaker 3: So if they don't film at all and they don't

572
00:26:00,920 --> 00:26:03,200
Speaker 3: want to be part of this, then the girls are

573
00:26:03,240 --> 00:26:05,320
Speaker 3: going to run with the story and say, oh, well

574
00:26:05,359 --> 00:26:07,720
Speaker 3: that's because you're having marital problems, or that's because you're

575
00:26:07,760 --> 00:26:08,560
Speaker 3: having all kinds.

576
00:26:08,400 --> 00:26:11,040
Speaker 2: Of problems exactly.

577
00:26:11,119 --> 00:26:13,600
Speaker 3: So then they starts the rumors and then you give

578
00:26:13,640 --> 00:26:15,879
Speaker 3: them the storyline. So it's like your damn if you do,

579
00:26:15,920 --> 00:26:17,919
Speaker 3: your damn if you don't. And then if the husband

580
00:26:17,920 --> 00:26:21,240
Speaker 3: shows up and he tries so like some husbands are

581
00:26:21,280 --> 00:26:24,960
Speaker 3: uncomfortable in front of the camera and you know they're

582
00:26:25,280 --> 00:26:27,520
Speaker 3: they're seeing a certain way that maybe you know, the

583
00:26:27,600 --> 00:26:29,560
Speaker 3: viewers don't them as well. You know, we have three

584
00:26:29,600 --> 00:26:31,719
Speaker 3: and a half months of filming, but we can have

585
00:26:31,800 --> 00:26:34,040
Speaker 3: one bad scene or one bad day with the girls,

586
00:26:34,040 --> 00:26:36,359
Speaker 3: but then we have months to make it up. We

587
00:26:36,480 --> 00:26:37,680
Speaker 3: have three months to make it up.

588
00:26:37,960 --> 00:26:39,359
Speaker 2: These men are on just.

589
00:26:39,320 --> 00:26:41,800
Speaker 3: Like maybe like at a big party or one or

590
00:26:41,840 --> 00:26:44,080
Speaker 3: two or three scenes, and that's all you get to

591
00:26:44,080 --> 00:26:46,360
Speaker 3: see them, so you really don't know so much of them,

592
00:26:46,840 --> 00:26:49,680
Speaker 3: so it's scary for them. It's you know, their participation

593
00:26:49,760 --> 00:26:52,720
Speaker 3: on the show is a lot different from like let's say,

594
00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:56,679
Speaker 3: Matthew participating in Sex and the City. But with that

595
00:26:56,760 --> 00:26:59,000
Speaker 3: being said, we all like to feel supported.

596
00:26:59,240 --> 00:27:02,119
Speaker 1: Of course, and we're all under a microscope here and

597
00:27:02,119 --> 00:27:05,160
Speaker 1: everybody wants to have opinions about us, and we give

598
00:27:05,200 --> 00:27:08,000
Speaker 1: them the material to have the opinions about us. But

599
00:27:08,040 --> 00:27:10,239
Speaker 1: the husbands don't really sign up for that. They're just

600
00:27:10,720 --> 00:27:11,760
Speaker 1: there for us.

601
00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:13,760
Speaker 3: Right, So then what do you so, how do you

602
00:27:13,760 --> 00:27:15,280
Speaker 3: think about how do you feel about that? Do you

603
00:27:15,280 --> 00:27:18,000
Speaker 3: think that the husband's like they get too involved? Do

604
00:27:18,040 --> 00:27:20,440
Speaker 3: you think that's a good situation or about situation?

605
00:27:20,520 --> 00:27:23,639
Speaker 1: No? No, no, no, no no, no, think I know

606
00:27:23,760 --> 00:27:26,280
Speaker 1: you agree with me on this one. When a husband

607
00:27:26,359 --> 00:27:31,000
Speaker 1: gets too involved in the women's business on our show,

608
00:27:31,720 --> 00:27:36,520
Speaker 1: it is just it's chaotic, it's yeah, and it's it's

609
00:27:36,560 --> 00:27:37,119
Speaker 1: just wrong.

610
00:27:37,240 --> 00:27:38,880
Speaker 2: It's not a good look. It's not a good look.

611
00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:40,320
Speaker 1: It just doesn't work.

612
00:27:40,720 --> 00:27:41,640
Speaker 2: I agree, it's not.

613
00:27:41,960 --> 00:27:44,439
Speaker 1: And then they look weird, like they're thirsty, like they

614
00:27:44,480 --> 00:27:46,239
Speaker 1: want to be one of the girls, or like they

615
00:27:46,280 --> 00:27:50,360
Speaker 1: really want it's I think you're doing a new jersey

616
00:27:50,800 --> 00:27:54,400
Speaker 1: for me. It's like wow, like I see, I mean,

617
00:27:54,480 --> 00:27:55,680
Speaker 1: I can't.

618
00:27:55,840 --> 00:27:58,639
Speaker 3: The thing with Jersey is they have a different dynamics,

619
00:27:58,680 --> 00:28:01,840
Speaker 3: their their their city, their franchise, completely different from ours.

620
00:28:01,840 --> 00:28:04,760
Speaker 3: Thank god we don't have that because our husbands are

621
00:28:04,800 --> 00:28:07,080
Speaker 3: too smart and they don't want to participate that way.

622
00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:09,679
Speaker 1: I would have to be committed. If I had to

623
00:28:09,720 --> 00:28:11,800
Speaker 1: deal with that, Malay, I would have to be put

624
00:28:11,840 --> 00:28:12,680
Speaker 1: into an institution.

625
00:28:13,080 --> 00:28:15,240
Speaker 2: No, I don't think for anybody's relationship.

626
00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:16,919
Speaker 3: I listen, a lot of them are still married, so

627
00:28:17,000 --> 00:28:19,679
Speaker 3: you know what good for them? You know they figured

628
00:28:19,680 --> 00:28:23,400
Speaker 3: it out, ye, But yeah, I think I don't think

629
00:28:23,400 --> 00:28:25,760
Speaker 3: it's appropriate honestly, and you know, it makes me feel

630
00:28:25,800 --> 00:28:30,080
Speaker 3: really awkward, like for example, like at Nicole's engagement party

631
00:28:30,520 --> 00:28:34,159
Speaker 3: that you know, Adrianna brought her fake boyfriend, you know,

632
00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:37,320
Speaker 3: to say he wasn't married, and he literally started insulting me,

633
00:28:37,600 --> 00:28:40,640
Speaker 3: like who does that like a man? Like if todt

634
00:28:40,680 --> 00:28:42,440
Speaker 3: or anybody else would have been there, like he would

635
00:28:42,440 --> 00:28:43,080
Speaker 3: have defended me.

636
00:28:43,200 --> 00:28:44,800
Speaker 2: And then he gets in trouble for that. It's like

637
00:28:44,800 --> 00:28:45,200
Speaker 2: it's so.

638
00:28:45,240 --> 00:28:48,600
Speaker 1: Crazy and him up before he got there.

639
00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:49,440
Speaker 2: It doesn't matter.

640
00:28:49,520 --> 00:28:52,200
Speaker 3: But that's not fair, Like he deserved it for me

641
00:28:52,360 --> 00:28:55,080
Speaker 3: to like actually throw a drink at him, but he

642
00:28:55,520 --> 00:28:58,200
Speaker 3: was like insulting me and talking down to me, and

643
00:28:58,720 --> 00:28:59,719
Speaker 3: that's where it comes.

644
00:29:00,040 --> 00:29:01,120
Speaker 1: You will throw a drink.

645
00:29:01,560 --> 00:29:04,800
Speaker 3: No, I'm just I'm just saying I've never I do

646
00:29:04,920 --> 00:29:07,440
Speaker 3: not resort to violence at all. And I've been on

647
00:29:07,440 --> 00:29:09,880
Speaker 3: the show for all these years and they've never ever

648
00:29:09,920 --> 00:29:12,040
Speaker 3: seen that, because you'll never see that that tied to

649
00:29:12,080 --> 00:29:14,960
Speaker 3: me because I don't have it. I'm actually very kind

650
00:29:15,000 --> 00:29:19,600
Speaker 3: and empathetic. But that was very, very disrespectful. And that's

651
00:29:19,600 --> 00:29:21,640
Speaker 3: what I'm talking about. The husbands. You know, we've seen

652
00:29:21,760 --> 00:29:23,680
Speaker 3: Russell that's had to get into scenes, you know, to

653
00:29:23,760 --> 00:29:28,560
Speaker 3: defend Gerdy. We've seen you know, Todd defending me, you know,

654
00:29:28,680 --> 00:29:30,000
Speaker 3: with Anthony's situation.

655
00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:33,240
Speaker 2: You know, we've seen, you know, Marcus. You know, it's

656
00:29:33,320 --> 00:29:34,840
Speaker 2: just not a good look for you know.

657
00:29:34,920 --> 00:29:38,360
Speaker 3: So my suggestion is like, yes, you know, we want

658
00:29:38,400 --> 00:29:41,800
Speaker 3: to know that they're there by us and they're supporting us,

659
00:29:42,320 --> 00:29:46,280
Speaker 3: but the least they can participate would be like, you know,

660
00:29:46,640 --> 00:29:58,440
Speaker 3: the smartest thing to do and the healthiest thing to do. So,

661
00:29:58,520 --> 00:30:02,040
Speaker 3: you know, I feel like sometimes you know, our husbands

662
00:30:02,160 --> 00:30:05,160
Speaker 3: or partners you know, get involved in the show just

663
00:30:05,280 --> 00:30:08,080
Speaker 3: because they have to, because they feel they need to

664
00:30:08,120 --> 00:30:10,920
Speaker 3: support us that way, and it actually like hurts them

665
00:30:10,920 --> 00:30:13,040
Speaker 3: in a way because you know they're doing it not

666
00:30:13,080 --> 00:30:15,280
Speaker 3: really wanting to do it. And I feel like we

667
00:30:15,320 --> 00:30:17,360
Speaker 3: saw that all lot with like Lenny and Lisa, Like

668
00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:20,040
Speaker 3: he participated very little and you can tell he really

669
00:30:20,120 --> 00:30:22,200
Speaker 3: didn't like the show, and every time he would come on,

670
00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:24,760
Speaker 3: he would look like a like, you know, like a

671
00:30:24,760 --> 00:30:26,680
Speaker 3: mean person like he was, you know.

672
00:30:28,240 --> 00:30:30,520
Speaker 1: When there's no cameras around, he has a mean face.

673
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Speaker 1: Twice for seven.

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Speaker 3: Well that's what we say too. It's kind of like

675
00:30:33,160 --> 00:30:34,880
Speaker 3: and this is like our defense, like you can't light

676
00:30:34,960 --> 00:30:36,800
Speaker 3: to the camera. You know a lot of these guys

677
00:30:36,800 --> 00:30:39,080
Speaker 3: are saying like, oh, okay, well that's not really how we are.

678
00:30:39,200 --> 00:30:42,280
Speaker 2: But Okay, you are that way because I can't hide

679
00:30:42,320 --> 00:30:42,800
Speaker 2: to the camera.

680
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Speaker 1: I think he loved the show. I think he loved

681
00:30:45,080 --> 00:30:48,240
Speaker 1: it for his business. He was all over that well, and.

682
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Speaker 2: He's there lies the problem.

683
00:30:50,080 --> 00:30:53,480
Speaker 3: Like these men like the show because of the fame

684
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Speaker 3: and what it brings to them, everything they could get.

685
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Speaker 2: But with the bad, I mean with the good.

686
00:30:58,640 --> 00:31:01,680
Speaker 1: When the fame turns on you, then that's the other.

687
00:31:01,800 --> 00:31:02,800
Speaker 1: That's the problem.

688
00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:06,320
Speaker 3: And we and we saw that, we saw that, We

689
00:31:06,360 --> 00:31:08,400
Speaker 3: saw that happen, you know to Lenny, you know, for

690
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Speaker 3: like the last two years.

691
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm very well deserved.

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Speaker 1: Well, I think that listen, and all relationships, each couple,

693
00:31:16,320 --> 00:31:19,680
Speaker 1: each partner in the relationship should have their own autonomy,

694
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Speaker 1: have their own stuff going on, because you don't want

695
00:31:22,280 --> 00:31:24,800
Speaker 1: to come home and not have anything to talk about.

696
00:31:24,840 --> 00:31:26,760
Speaker 1: It's more exciting when you come home and share this

697
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Speaker 1: happen in my day, and that happened in my day,

698
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Speaker 1: and you each have your own life and thing going on.

699
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Speaker 3: And I agree, I agree. I think you could be

700
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Speaker 3: successful separately. You don't have to be, like I said,

701
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Speaker 3: just because you know you're an actress, your husband doesn't

702
00:31:41,440 --> 00:31:42,920
Speaker 3: have to be an actor and share the same kind

703
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Speaker 3: of stories. I think that opposite opposites a track and

704
00:31:46,880 --> 00:31:51,520
Speaker 3: you can have success in a marriage and that doesn't

705
00:31:51,520 --> 00:31:54,200
Speaker 3: really tear the marriage apart, you know, not having like

706
00:31:54,280 --> 00:31:55,440
Speaker 3: that success together.

707
00:31:55,960 --> 00:32:01,800
Speaker 1: And competition is always you know, around for content. It

708
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Speaker 1: creates toxicity.

709
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Speaker 3: It's well, yeah, but you should never compete, whether you're

710
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:08,680
Speaker 3: in the same business or not. That's like, but men

711
00:32:08,760 --> 00:32:11,760
Speaker 3: do men to compete with the women. The thing is like,

712
00:32:11,840 --> 00:32:14,160
Speaker 3: if we're talking about real actors or like reality TV,

713
00:32:14,280 --> 00:32:17,000
Speaker 3: there's no man except for Jody that wants to, you know,

714
00:32:17,560 --> 00:32:19,480
Speaker 3: manage Lisa's reality TV career.

715
00:32:22,480 --> 00:32:24,560
Speaker 2: I mean it's true. I mean one man.

716
00:32:24,360 --> 00:32:26,880
Speaker 3: Wants to manage a reality TV star like you know,

717
00:32:26,920 --> 00:32:30,800
Speaker 3: our spouse. Like that's you know, let's not it's not fun.

718
00:32:30,960 --> 00:32:33,200
Speaker 3: I mean I think that could be toxic and it

719
00:32:33,240 --> 00:32:36,400
Speaker 3: could be bad, right because we really have no control,

720
00:32:36,520 --> 00:32:37,400
Speaker 3: is what I'm trying to say.

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Speaker 2: Our show is a reality TV show.

722
00:32:39,320 --> 00:32:41,840
Speaker 3: We don't have control over the editing, and that's where

723
00:32:41,920 --> 00:32:43,680
Speaker 3: things get you know, scary and messed up.

724
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Speaker 2: So this is different. Now.

725
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Speaker 3: On the other hand, I do believe that there's a

726
00:32:47,680 --> 00:32:52,080
Speaker 3: lot of actresses and entertainers that that do work with

727
00:32:52,160 --> 00:32:55,360
Speaker 3: their spouse and maybe they're in the same business or

728
00:32:55,360 --> 00:32:58,120
Speaker 3: maybe they do you know, like for example, Jala was

729
00:32:58,160 --> 00:33:02,160
Speaker 3: working with Ben Affleck. They're both actors, but Ben as

730
00:33:02,160 --> 00:33:06,000
Speaker 3: a director, he's a producer, So I think that's healthy.

731
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Speaker 3: I if you know, again, it's not really the career.

732
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Speaker 3: I feel as like the bond and the relationship that

733
00:33:12,160 --> 00:33:15,680
Speaker 3: you have established with your partner and if you're emotionally

734
00:33:15,760 --> 00:33:18,200
Speaker 3: you know, mature and there's an understanding.

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Speaker 2: You know, I feel like there could be more powerful.

736
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Speaker 2: Like that's how the power couples.

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Speaker 3: You know, there's a lot of power couples because they

738
00:33:24,520 --> 00:33:28,520
Speaker 3: do the same thing. The great Well, nothing works for her,

739
00:33:28,600 --> 00:33:30,320
Speaker 3: nothing's worked for her when she was with the backup

740
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Speaker 3: dancer Doogon, but again she was you know, would.

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Speaker 2: She help all of them? And I find I think

742
00:33:35,200 --> 00:33:37,800
Speaker 2: it's a way of like kind of you.

743
00:33:37,760 --> 00:33:41,600
Speaker 1: Know, tightening the news, keeping them close, baiting them with

744
00:33:41,720 --> 00:33:43,680
Speaker 1: you know, money projects.

745
00:33:43,720 --> 00:33:45,800
Speaker 2: You know, you really don't know, you know.

746
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Speaker 3: I just feel like I would be excited, like if

747
00:33:47,720 --> 00:33:49,480
Speaker 3: I was going out with somebody, Oh my god, not

748
00:33:49,520 --> 00:33:51,240
Speaker 3: a reality TV star, because I would never do that

749
00:33:52,440 --> 00:33:54,840
Speaker 3: with somebody like in my same business, you know what

750
00:33:54,880 --> 00:33:57,000
Speaker 3: I mean. It could be exciting. You know, it could

751
00:33:57,040 --> 00:34:00,160
Speaker 3: be fun. You can share ideas. Absolutely, I feel like

752
00:34:00,160 --> 00:34:03,840
Speaker 3: there's that mutual understanding and kind of like emotional support

753
00:34:03,840 --> 00:34:06,240
Speaker 3: because you're like in the same business, right, But it

754
00:34:06,280 --> 00:34:10,400
Speaker 3: doesn't matter what you do. Being a supportive partner means

755
00:34:10,400 --> 00:34:13,680
Speaker 3: that you have to like really listen to the person

756
00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:15,520
Speaker 3: you're with. You have to care for them, you have

757
00:34:15,600 --> 00:34:18,200
Speaker 3: to help them, and you have to know they're there

758
00:34:18,200 --> 00:34:20,040
Speaker 3: for you and you're there for them no matter what

759
00:34:20,080 --> 00:34:22,279
Speaker 3: business you're in. It doesn't even really matter whether they

760
00:34:22,360 --> 00:34:24,360
Speaker 3: like it or not. It is what it is, you know.

761
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Speaker 2: I mean some.

762
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Speaker 1: Women, support is support and to have someone loving and

763
00:34:31,640 --> 00:34:35,359
Speaker 1: supported by your side is everything. You can flourish that.

764
00:34:35,400 --> 00:34:39,520
Speaker 3: Way, yeah, because it's really like it stucks, honestly to

765
00:34:39,560 --> 00:34:42,280
Speaker 3: be in a situation where you want to do something

766
00:34:42,880 --> 00:34:46,759
Speaker 3: and you don't have that support from the person that.

767
00:34:46,960 --> 00:34:50,120
Speaker 2: Is with you because there's no understanding. And that's what

768
00:34:50,120 --> 00:34:50,440
Speaker 2: I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: It doesn't matter what it is, obviously, as long as

770
00:34:52,160 --> 00:34:55,680
Speaker 3: it's not something that's bad for you or you know,

771
00:34:55,800 --> 00:34:58,279
Speaker 3: or for your family, And like, why aren't you supporting them,

772
00:34:58,320 --> 00:35:01,160
Speaker 3: because like you're selfish about it, because are you competing

773
00:35:01,200 --> 00:35:01,560
Speaker 3: with them?

774
00:35:01,600 --> 00:35:03,160
Speaker 2: You like all these factors that you're set.

775
00:35:03,280 --> 00:35:06,399
Speaker 1: There's a lot of men that get insecure if you're

776
00:35:06,440 --> 00:35:09,480
Speaker 1: doing well, and they want to control you and control

777
00:35:09,520 --> 00:35:12,880
Speaker 1: your life so that you need them and you can't escape,

778
00:35:13,400 --> 00:35:15,319
Speaker 1: and then they put you in a box and in

779
00:35:15,360 --> 00:35:18,399
Speaker 1: a situation so they don't want you to flourish. And

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00:35:18,440 --> 00:35:21,640
Speaker 1: it's a terrible situation when that happens. And I think

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Speaker 1: a lot of women end up having no career at

782
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Speaker 1: all because they're with somebody like that.

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00:35:26,200 --> 00:35:30,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, a lot of women actually sacrifice their careers because

784
00:35:30,040 --> 00:35:32,640
Speaker 3: they have a partner they won't support, you know, what

785
00:35:32,719 --> 00:35:35,600
Speaker 3: they're doing, and then maybe they make more money and

786
00:35:35,880 --> 00:35:37,480
Speaker 3: you know, they say, well, okay, well you need to

787
00:35:37,480 --> 00:35:39,400
Speaker 3: support me because I'm the one that supports the house.

788
00:35:39,520 --> 00:35:41,799
Speaker 3: So like, why are you even doing this? You know,

789
00:35:41,880 --> 00:35:43,600
Speaker 3: it gets complicated, my friend.

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Speaker 2: It's shopplications. Sure does well.

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00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:50,480
Speaker 3: It seems like Matthew is supportive and lets Sarah Jessica

792
00:35:50,640 --> 00:35:53,440
Speaker 3: shine by doing her own thing, knowing how a iconic

793
00:35:53,520 --> 00:35:56,200
Speaker 3: Sex and the City is. That's another thing. I mean,

794
00:35:56,239 --> 00:35:58,040
Speaker 3: how can you not let your do wife do this

795
00:35:58,200 --> 00:36:00,879
Speaker 3: right when she's so good at it. There's no Sex

796
00:36:00,960 --> 00:36:02,920
Speaker 3: in the City without her. I mean, I know it's

797
00:36:03,000 --> 00:36:04,920
Speaker 3: it's a friend group, you know, kind of like ours

798
00:36:04,920 --> 00:36:07,719
Speaker 3: but scripted, but it's it's a real friend group.

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Speaker 2: But she's like, of course, she's like the hardest. She

800
00:36:11,640 --> 00:36:14,239
Speaker 2: said there started it. Yeah, you know.

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00:36:14,360 --> 00:36:17,920
Speaker 3: And I love that he understands that, and that he

802
00:36:18,160 --> 00:36:22,000
Speaker 3: supports that, and and I love that he takes a

803
00:36:22,000 --> 00:36:24,720
Speaker 3: step back when it comes to seeing her and succeed.

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00:36:25,120 --> 00:36:28,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's always been in the shadows. You never really

805
00:36:28,320 --> 00:36:31,480
Speaker 1: see him. Sure, that's his personality. He's a secure man.

806
00:36:32,040 --> 00:36:33,959
Speaker 3: And I love that he can take that step back

807
00:36:34,000 --> 00:36:36,520
Speaker 3: and just watch his wife shine and succeed.

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00:36:37,280 --> 00:36:42,440
Speaker 1: We love you, Matt, like you. We can call it

809
00:36:42,480 --> 00:36:45,200
Speaker 1: he can be a boo bear because he.

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00:36:45,239 --> 00:36:47,560
Speaker 2: Said he looks yeah right, he looks like you could

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Speaker 2: be like a personal be.

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Speaker 3: Well.

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