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Speaker 1: All right, here we go. Time for today's Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: If you need advice on relationships, on dating, work, sex, parenting,

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Speaker 1: and more, please please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve

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Speaker 1: HARVEYFM dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could

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Speaker 1: be reading your letter live like we're doing this one.

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Speaker 1: All right, let's go to boggle up. Hold on tight,

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Speaker 1: we got it for you. Here it is the Strawberry

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Speaker 1: Letter subject. I thought I found the perfect man. Is

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Speaker 1: there such a thing? We'll find out? All right, Dear

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Speaker 1: Seton Shirley. I know I am a hardworking, educated, financially secure,

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Speaker 1: good looking, mature woman with a lot to offer. But

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Speaker 1: since my divorce, I've been having trouble with dating because

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Speaker 1: the men I meet say that I have too many

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Speaker 1: prerequisites and they lose interest. My goal was to meet

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Speaker 1: a man aged fifty five to sixty five, but instead

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Speaker 1: I finally met a man that is seventy five years old.

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Speaker 1: Oh this is five years other than yesterday. Okay, he's

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Speaker 1: retired and he's everything that I looked for in a man.

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Speaker 1: He's a sharp dresser, good looking, financially stable, and he

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Speaker 1: has good morals. In the beginning, he wanted to come

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Speaker 1: over every night and get busy, but I still have

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Speaker 1: to go to work, so I had to cut him

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Speaker 1: back to two to three nights per week and Saturday.

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Speaker 1: RE enjoy going out together and we've even had a

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Speaker 1: nice vacation together. There's just one problem. He refuses to

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Speaker 1: about church. I could easily fall in love with this

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Speaker 1: man and we talk about our future and getting married,

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Speaker 1: but the church issue upsets me. When we talk about marriage.

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Speaker 1: I told him I could never say yes if he

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Speaker 1: does not say yes to going to church. He told

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Speaker 1: me that he will eventually just show up one Sunday,

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Speaker 1: but it will be on his own terms, not because

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Speaker 1: of my nagging. What advice do you have for me?

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Speaker 1: My sister said, as I'm acting crazy and I should

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Speaker 1: marry this man. She does not think it's a big deal.

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Speaker 1: By the way, he does meet all of my other prerequisites.

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Speaker 1: So what are your thoughts? Your thoughts are that I

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Speaker 1: My thoughts are that I agree wholeheartedly with your sister.

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Speaker 1: You can't nag him. Nobody wants to be nagged. You

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Speaker 1: don't want to be nagged. He says he's going to

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Speaker 1: show up to church on his own terms. Let him

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Speaker 1: do that, Okay, let him do it in his own terms.

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Speaker 1: He may, you know, not like your church for some reason,

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Speaker 1: or you know, maybe it takes him a minute to

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Speaker 1: get in the spirit or whatever. Give him time. I mean,

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Speaker 1: you guys haven't even been together that long for you

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Speaker 1: probably if you'd let it go, he would show up

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Speaker 1: to church with you one day. Come on, now, I

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Speaker 1: don't think this is such a major issue that you

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Speaker 1: have to nag him and nag him and nag him

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Speaker 1: about it. This man is seventy five years old. You're

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Speaker 1: a mature woman. You didn't say your age. But anyway,

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Speaker 1: so far it's working out nicely. I mean, he's a

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Speaker 1: good dresser, he's good looking, financially stable, you said in

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Speaker 1: your letter. He has good morals. Okay, he has good morals.

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Speaker 1: So um, I think you're putting pressure on this man.

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Speaker 1: I think just smooth it out, weight a little bit,

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Speaker 1: but definitely stop nagging him, or guess what, you're gonna

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Speaker 1: nacked Steve Shirley one thousand percent correct. Hell, both y'all old,

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Speaker 1: both of y'all old, Oh her and the man. Now

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Speaker 1: you didn't want to say, yo, man, but you come

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Speaker 1: tell about you want a man between fifty five and

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Speaker 1: sixty five. Well he's seventy five. Yeah, but he still

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Speaker 1: to go to church. He is sharp dresser, he looked good.

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Speaker 1: He treats you right. He checks off all the blocks

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Speaker 1: and blocks in every category. And you talking about day,

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Speaker 1: talking about marriage. You can't say, he can't say. You

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Speaker 1: can't say yes to him unless he say yes till you,

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Speaker 1: with you. I have news for you. The reason I'm

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Speaker 1: to apologize again, God, what you mean you've been up

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Speaker 1: nagging him to go to church. Now. I have personal

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Speaker 1: experience with this. My father didn't go to church much.

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Speaker 1: My mother and father were married for sixty folk years.

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Speaker 1: I remember my father would go twice a years, sometimes

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Speaker 1: went a little bit more later on, but my dad

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Speaker 1: was never much of a churchgoer. My dad was wanting

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Speaker 1: to find this man I ever knew because he liked

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Speaker 1: this man. Said, you say he's very moral. My father

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Speaker 1: was a righteous man. He was righteous man. This dude,

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Speaker 1: he was just a good dude. Now you're gonna pass

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Speaker 1: up on this man, like your sisters say, you being crazy?

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Speaker 1: First of all, well, how are you gonna you're gonna

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Speaker 1: find another one of these shop dressing We're all meaning

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Speaker 1: seventy five year old men that ain't got nobody, They

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Speaker 1: not everywhere. How you found this one this beyond me.

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Speaker 1: Or how he found you. It's beyond me. I do

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Speaker 1: not know. But I'll tell you what though you better

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Speaker 1: stay with this man. Yeah, if I was you. Now,

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Speaker 1: when we come back, I'm gonna take a different approach

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Speaker 1: to why I think he don't want to go all right,

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Speaker 1: all right, we'll have part two of Steve's respond to

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Speaker 1: coming up. Yeah, he may not like it. Are your passed? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: So yeah. The subject of the Strawberry Letter today, I

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Speaker 1: thought sales sermons on tape after services. I thought I

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Speaker 1: thought I found the perfect man. Part two of Steve's

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Speaker 1: response coming up at twenty three after the hour you're

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Speaker 1: listening to. All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's

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Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter subject. I thought I found the perfect man. Hello,

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Speaker 1: this that is simple. What I told you. I'm tired.

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Speaker 1: Now listen to me. I'm on a delay. Come on,

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Speaker 1: damn it, I'm on a delay. Not my system. Stuff

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Speaker 1: is working fine, Yeah, I'm on Steve Harvey got mentally

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Speaker 1: on a delay. You would just sleep strayed up all

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Speaker 1: night long like I'm farting. It hurts, don't it hurt?

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Speaker 1: Remember when that time? I can't do it? All right,

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Speaker 1: Steve coming back to the letter though seventy five years old.

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Speaker 1: This real simple, This lady Dayton is man he's everything,

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Speaker 1: sleeping with it and all this hell. Get busy whenever

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Speaker 1: you want to. But he don't want to go church

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Speaker 1: with It's just that what's wrong with the church? Though,

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Speaker 1: Now we're gonna get into that seat. My father didn't

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Speaker 1: a bad person. You can be very righteous person not

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Speaker 1: be an attendee of church. But now you're saying you've

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Speaker 1: getting married. Well, he keeps he's pretty adamant that you

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Speaker 1: nagging him about this church. Maybe he don't won't go

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Speaker 1: to your church? Yes? Fine, Now, first question? Does your

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Speaker 1: pastor can't preach? This is true? See what I Maybe

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Speaker 1: he don't want to sit up there to that dry sermon?

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Speaker 1: that don't matter, do it that? No? I'm just asking

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Speaker 1: didn't tambourines are good talks. She's a nat sack. Okay, well,

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Speaker 1: whatever it is. Maybe your pastor is dry unless here's

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Speaker 1: another thing. Maybe what's the name of Yokai? Oh? Maybe

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Speaker 1: your pastor is dry. Now here's the next question. What's

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Speaker 1: the name of your quai? What do you mean? What

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Speaker 1: do you mean it's got one of them names that mean?

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Speaker 1: They don't sound like the gospel song birds? Don't nobody

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Speaker 1: down't never sound good? What's your old rolls up the side?

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Speaker 1: The song birds? They got on crazy my row? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and not with you. Don't nobody want to sit through that? Now?

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Speaker 1: think that that's just been demoralizing for them to have

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Speaker 1: is your church your stove front next a liquor stoke? See,

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Speaker 1: and the motail motail or dey kill check cashing place

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Speaker 1: for churches, oh yeah, chicken yeah then or somebody selling chickens.

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Speaker 1: strawberry lettle Steve, m got to do you boo? Now

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Speaker 1: he was crazy today, Mark Tomorrow, I got to be

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Speaker 1: so so at some point you need to get some sleep,

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Speaker 1: trying to get it out of him. Yeah, we'll get

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Speaker 1: to stop nagging him. Though. That's a good point. She's

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Speaker 1: man and he's a good man, he righteous. He just

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Speaker 1: don't go to church much now he may eventually like

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Speaker 1: my father. Dude, My father ended up going to church

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Speaker 1: quite often. But you know she got all these rules

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Speaker 1: him do it on ome. Yeah, yeah, that's true. All right, Well,

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