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Speaker 3: I refuse to give my friend a pricey wedding gift.

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Speaker 3: She didn't take it lightly.

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Speaker 3: She am I the ale for refusing to get my

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Speaker 3: best friend a wedding gift. I twenty three female, have

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Speaker 3: known my best friend, twenty four female, let's call her

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Speaker 3: Maria since we were babies. We have been inseparable our

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Speaker 3: whole lives, and she's like a sister to me. We

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Speaker 3: both grew up in a poor area and our family

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Speaker 3: struggle a lot with money. By the way, this comes

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Speaker 3: final year of college now, and I don't have a

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Speaker 3: lot of money to spare. I have lots of student debt,

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Speaker 3: and I work two jobs to have enough money for

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Speaker 3: food and rent, et cetera. We both go to a

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Speaker 3: very prestigious college, so we have worked very hard to

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Speaker 3: get to where we are. Around six months ago, Maria

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Speaker 3: met a guy at the shop she works at called Mike.

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Speaker 3: Mike thirty three mail.

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Speaker 1: Hmmmm.

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Speaker 3: They started dating pretty quickly, and Mike is a very

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Speaker 3: rich Oh. He's the definition of living off daddy's money.

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Speaker 1: Oh.

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Speaker 3: At first I was a little bit skeptical, as obviously

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Speaker 3: Mike is quite a bit older than her, but she

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Speaker 3: seemed tappy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they're like it seems like they're about to graduate,

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Speaker 2: so she's probably like twenty two.

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Speaker 3: She's twenty four.

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Speaker 1: Twenty four thirty three.

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Speaker 3: After a month of them dating, Maria had changed a lot.

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Speaker 3: He was missing lectures and tests to go on last

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Speaker 3: minute holidays to Dubai, Paris, New York, et cetera, oh

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Speaker 3: and always coming back with designer accessories. After three months,

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Speaker 3: she moved in with Mike, which upset me as I

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Speaker 3: had to sell our shared apartment because I could not

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Speaker 3: afford rent by myself. I thought they were moving their

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Speaker 3: very quickly, but I didn't want to seem jealous or

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Speaker 3: petty by bringing it up. Around a month ago, Mike

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Speaker 3: proposed to Maria and she accepted. I was happy for her,

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Speaker 3: but after she told me her plans, I was shocked.

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Speaker 3: Maria's dream since we were kids was to work for NASA,

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Speaker 3: and she had worked so hard for this. She's taken

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Speaker 3: internships there and was planning to apply there for next year.

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Speaker 3: But her new plan is to get married, graduate college

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Speaker 3: and moved to LA with Mike and become a housewife.

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Speaker 1: That's what he turned to me for. Probably It's like comment,

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Speaker 1: I thought you were ready. I wasn't.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, oh, I mean if she wants to go for it,

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Speaker 2: but yeah, that is I do see where Op He's

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Speaker 2: coming from. It's like, hey, like it's giving you're giving

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Speaker 2: up the dream for the guy.

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Speaker 3: Yes, you know what I mean, well for the money, for.

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Speaker 2: The money for potentially I would guess to maybe acquiesce

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Speaker 2: to his vision of what he wants wants her.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I think that, you know, obviously, if this is

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Speaker 3: what she wants, that's her decision. But I think from

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Speaker 3: Op's standpoint, it's like you are changing who you are

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Speaker 3: feels very sudden, and maybe there's a lot of worry

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Speaker 3: that Op has. Yeah, the wedding is planned for this December,

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Speaker 3: and it is the most lavish, expensive wedding that you

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Speaker 3: can think of. Her bridal shower is next week and

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Speaker 3: she has asked me to be her maid of honor. Well,

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Speaker 3: I don't approve of her plans, of course I said yes.

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Speaker 3: She's inviting me and some of her new rich friends

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Speaker 3: she's met through Mike to the shower, and she made

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Speaker 3: me by surprise because this list included designer items and

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Speaker 3: was five hundred and fifty dollars. Oops, and Op's twenty three.

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Speaker 2: And like working two jobs to be able to work

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Speaker 2: jobs things she's doing right now.

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Speaker 1: No, no, no, And she.

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Speaker 3: Should understand because they both have like we've had that, Like,

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Speaker 3: how could you not understand that?

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Speaker 1: Oh boy?

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Speaker 3: I had planned to get her something sentimental and personal,

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Speaker 3: not designer brands. While all the bridesmaids were discussing in

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Speaker 3: buy anything. You completely went off at me, saying that

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Speaker 3: my financial issues shouldn't get in the way of her wedding.

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Speaker 4: They're not, She's right, but why are you making them

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Speaker 5: Then?

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Speaker 3: Literally like they're not at all getting in the way

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Speaker 4: Sorry, girl, you're not going to get the twelve hundred

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Speaker 4: dollars toaster you wanted on your freaking website.

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Speaker 3: Hey, yayyay. I got pretty upset at this, as this

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Speaker 3: is well aware of my issues with money. I told her,

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Speaker 3: if that is the way she's acting, I wouldn't buy

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Speaker 3: party chat, and I've had several angry messages from Mike

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Speaker 3: and the bridesmaid telling me what a horrible friend I am. Oh,

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Speaker 3: I'm feeling very conflicted about whether I'm in the wrong

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Speaker 3: am ib a whole and there are some comments, but

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Speaker 3: what do you say?

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Speaker 2: Don you know what friendships and the relationships that matter

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Speaker 2: most to us, not about money, not about money, not

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Speaker 2: about gifts. Oh not about material things about.

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Speaker 3: I love friendships aren't about the gifts that you guys

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Speaker 3: get each other's right, that's not a good friendship.

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Speaker 1: That's not it.

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Speaker 3: It's certainly not about spending five hundred and fifty dollars

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Speaker 3: making your friend spend five hundred and fifty dollars on you. No,

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Speaker 3: she doesn't have the money. Like you know this, you

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Speaker 3: were in the same position as her until you got this,

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Speaker 3: like sugar Daddy, and.

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Speaker 2: I kind of I love the idea of the sentimental

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Speaker 2: wedding gift because I feel like it's like the classic

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Speaker 2: trope of like like Riley said, like the twelve hundred

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Speaker 2: dollars toaster or whatever is like the wedding gift, but

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Speaker 2: like thinking of something like it's it's the probably the

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Speaker 2: most important day in so many people's lives, and it's

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Speaker 2: like you you make something really special to kind of

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Speaker 2: come in rate that moment.

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Speaker 1: That's beautiful.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: One time I was talking to my friends about getting

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Speaker 4: someone a wedding gill and I was like, let's get

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Speaker 4: I thought it was like super like, you know, a gnome,

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Speaker 1: Couple a gnome.

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Speaker 4: And basically this gnome is like, hello, this is mister troublemaker.

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Speaker 4: And this troublemaker gnome always leaves the door open, or

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Speaker 4: always leaves the tuospaste out, or always leaves the cabinets open.

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Speaker 4: So you must blame him for all of these little

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Speaker 4: mysterious things that happened around the house, not each other.

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Speaker 3: And that's the only thing that you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I was in cash. I was gonna put like

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Speaker 1: some cash at the.

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Speaker 2: Bottom of.

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Speaker 3: Hate that.

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Speaker 1: Who would hate that?

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Speaker 3: Maybe we just stick to the registry for that one.

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Speaker 1: What why would you not like.

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Speaker 4: That you were giving You were giving them some like

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Speaker 4: you know, how much less stress around the house.

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Speaker 1: There's gonna be the nome.

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Speaker 4: It looks like it's sounds like mister troublemaker left out

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Speaker 4: the cup again, well, mister troublemaker put the shoes in

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Speaker 4: the doraworway. We must get on him instead of like, hey,

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Speaker 4: why'd you do that?

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Speaker 3: It's just passive aggressive.

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Speaker 1: It's not passive aggressive.

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Speaker 4: You just make fun of live of it, as if

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Speaker 4: as if like, Okay, these are little things that don't

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Speaker 2: To defend Riley, like you know, because cash, especially like

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Speaker 2: if the couple is like.

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Speaker 1: I'm neaking a pole, keep going.

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Speaker 2: I was, I was defending your idea good because its cash.

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Speaker 2: Cash can be a great gift, but it's sometimes like

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Speaker 2: you're like, I wanted to make it more personal. This

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Speaker 2: is a way to like give cash, which which in

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Speaker 2: many cases a great gift and something sent to you

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Speaker 2: just put some thought into it.

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Speaker 1: You know you're going with me personally, No, but I

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Speaker 1: was gonna get you a home. I'm saying. I'm just saying,

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Speaker 1: it's not the gift that I'm going to get. That's

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Speaker 1: all I was saying. I you anman cash, are you

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Speaker 2: I would absolutely, I'm not joking I genuinely.

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Speaker 3: But how much cash would you be happy with? I?

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Speaker 2: Well, you know I don't even want I just want

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Speaker 2: the sentimental stuff, honestly, See, you.

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Speaker 3: Just want the gnome. No, no cash.

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Speaker 2: I am low key uncomfortable in a way like receiving

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Speaker 2: like I don't want for me personally, I don't want gifts.

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Speaker 3: You guys heard it here. First, just get John a nome.

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Speaker 1: That's all you need, truly, that's all you need.

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Speaker 3: But there is a little bit more.

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Speaker 4: It's not supposed to be super passive grass, but supposed

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Speaker 4: to be light like. Oh my gosh, I can't believe

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Speaker 4: this gnome put this out there? Are you supposed to

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Speaker 3: Oh the gnome? Brud and Border fifty sixty says not

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Speaker 3: the a hole. But your friendship is basically over. Her

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Speaker 3: values have changed. She isn't the same person anymore, and honestly,

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Speaker 3: there is some massive red flags in her relationship. You

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Speaker 3: cannot help her in this regard. It's time to let

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Speaker 3: her live her life the way she wants. Your lives

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Speaker 3: aren't compatible anymore. She's placing a gift over your shared

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Speaker 3: history and what your friendship means. To be honest, being

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Speaker 3: a bridesmaid is very expensive, and with her taste, it

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Speaker 3: will be even more so. It sounds like she's putting

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Speaker 3: having an expensive lifestyle over her own dreams. I think

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Speaker 3: you need to do what's best for you. Do not

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Speaker 3: go into debt for this wedding. I would decline being

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Speaker 3: If she is a true friend, she would understand. Falcon

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Speaker 3: means seven twenty says Yep would not be surprised if

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Speaker 3: Maria wants a week long luxury bachelorette in Turks and

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Speaker 3: Kickos or something just as extravagant. Prudent Border fifty sixty says, yep, Honestly,

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Speaker 3: there is no way op could financially handle her expectations.

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Speaker 3: You have to love the guilt card though. Her old

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Speaker 3: friend is only too happy to spend other people's money.

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Speaker 3: But if it means so much to where she would

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Speaker 3: cover the cost.

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Speaker 1: There you go. Mike, put up the money.

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Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, Mike can buy you all that stuff you want.

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Speaker 1: So rich.

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Speaker 3: Capti Colton says, not the a hole. She dumped you

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Speaker 3: with a shared apartment that you can't afford, and that

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, don't look at it as like, oh,

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Speaker 1: That's it.

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Speaker 3: Maria caught Mike cheating with an even younger girl. She

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Speaker 3: Do you have any final thoughts? Really?

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Speaker 4: Go go ahead, darhn, go ahead.

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Speaker 4: Yes, I'm a little hesitant on still being her friendly

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Speaker 1: The second what was her name?

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Speaker 4: Maria? Yeah, Maria got money. She said, Opie, you're too poor?

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Speaker 4: How dare you do this to me?

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Speaker 4: because of all Mike's daughter's daddy's husband's daughter's friends were saying, yeah,

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Speaker 4: You're no, You're totally right.

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Speaker 3: I think that's a great point, Riley, Like, we don't

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, again, it's like she's she treated you poorly and

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Speaker 1: I think she's doing the Angel move right now, but

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Speaker 3: Even in the Angel move, it still is going like,

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Speaker 4: And ninety well eighty four percent of our audience says,

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Speaker 3: Buy a nome and then you guys can work through

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Speaker 4: Yes, it went down, it wasn't ninety but sixteen percent

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Speaker 4: of people want a registry item.

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Speaker 1: Whatever.

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Speaker 4: Have your twelve hundred thousand dollars toast Rabbins.

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Speaker 3: Whatever. But there is a little bit more to this story.

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Speaker 1: Oh, let's see.

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Speaker 3: We're making a plan at the moment to help her

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Speaker 3: I'm really appreciative of it. While she still has a

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Speaker 1: Who knows what's in there?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Riley, don't let the wooden horse in without checking

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I agreed, greed.

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Speaker 4: Also, make sure your friend's not hobosexual.

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Speaker 3: Also true.

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Speaker 4: But she just got off in a place and guess

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Speaker 4: where she's staying with you on your coat?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, falls in love with Opie whoa plot twist lot

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Speaker 2: Oh snorting Catnip says it's a sign from the universe,

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Speaker 2: strayed away, would be her maid of honor and she

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00:19:58,520 --> 00:20:02,920
Speaker 2: would have no other a tendants, like, no people at

444
00:20:02,960 --> 00:20:03,920
Speaker 2: the wedding at all.

445
00:20:04,560 --> 00:20:06,520
Speaker 3: She's like, you get well, I guess this small.

446
00:20:06,280 --> 00:20:09,000
Speaker 2: One maybe, I mean, that's the super small Just do

447
00:20:09,000 --> 00:20:11,560
Speaker 2: you pretty much letting me know that I would not

448
00:20:11,760 --> 00:20:14,439
Speaker 2: be in her wedding party okay, so just a party, okay.

449
00:20:14,800 --> 00:20:17,560
Speaker 2: She said that it was a quote unquote family obligation

450
00:20:17,760 --> 00:20:19,800
Speaker 2: and she didn't want to run me down too much

451
00:20:19,840 --> 00:20:22,480
Speaker 2: with all the work involved in being a bridesmaid slash

452
00:20:22,560 --> 00:20:25,239
Speaker 2: honor attendant. Plus she knows that I've had a lot

453
00:20:25,280 --> 00:20:28,280
Speaker 2: of medical bills recently in the months since. However, the

454
00:20:28,320 --> 00:20:31,399
Speaker 2: reality is that I've been conscripted to help out with

455
00:20:31,480 --> 00:20:35,639
Speaker 2: a lot for not being a bridesmaid. That that is

456
00:20:35,680 --> 00:20:38,200
Speaker 2: where it is wrong. That is where you in both

457
00:20:38,440 --> 00:20:40,720
Speaker 2: can't be doing both. I went to her to at

458
00:20:40,800 --> 00:20:44,920
Speaker 2: least a dozen prospective venues, a dozen. I went dress

459
00:20:44,920 --> 00:20:48,200
Speaker 2: shopping with her twice, did a tasting at her caterer.

460
00:20:48,600 --> 00:20:52,080
Speaker 2: I helped her address the save the date cards and invitations?

461
00:20:52,280 --> 00:20:54,800
Speaker 2: Are you marrying her? Are you marrying?

462
00:20:54,840 --> 00:20:55,040
Speaker 3: Ope?

463
00:20:55,200 --> 00:20:55,840
Speaker 1: What's going on?

464
00:20:56,000 --> 00:20:57,880
Speaker 3: Eh? He's doing a lot of work.

465
00:20:58,280 --> 00:21:01,359
Speaker 1: It sounds like op's like the part getting married. Yeah,

466
00:21:01,440 --> 00:21:01,920
Speaker 1: what the heck?

467
00:21:02,080 --> 00:21:04,800
Speaker 2: I helped design and will probably be asked to help

468
00:21:04,880 --> 00:21:08,600
Speaker 2: construct centerpieces. The other day, I went to get my

469
00:21:08,640 --> 00:21:11,320
Speaker 2: hair cut. My stylist is very chatty, and I mentioned

470
00:21:11,359 --> 00:21:13,239
Speaker 2: her that I was going to be a guest at

471
00:21:13,240 --> 00:21:15,720
Speaker 2: a wedding soon and complained a little how much work

472
00:21:15,800 --> 00:21:17,800
Speaker 2: I was doing for it. She told me a bit

473
00:21:17,840 --> 00:21:20,879
Speaker 2: about her own wedding and one that she'd be and

474
00:21:20,960 --> 00:21:22,840
Speaker 2: one that she'd been in, and we got on the

475
00:21:22,880 --> 00:21:27,080
Speaker 2: subject of being a bridesmaid and bridezilla behavior. I have

476
00:21:27,119 --> 00:21:29,480
Speaker 2: a client who may be a bridezilla. She said she

477
00:21:29,560 --> 00:21:31,520
Speaker 2: didn't ask her best friend to be in the wedding

478
00:21:31,600 --> 00:21:35,199
Speaker 2: because she got fat. She went on about this so

479
00:21:35,320 --> 00:21:38,880
Speaker 2: called bridezilla, and it became clear that she was talking

480
00:21:39,080 --> 00:21:42,080
Speaker 2: about my best friend and me, I'm sorry, but that's

481
00:21:42,119 --> 00:21:47,760
Speaker 2: like a weird way a really, that's kind of what whack.

482
00:21:47,840 --> 00:21:50,320
Speaker 3: What you were doing all of this work and then

483
00:21:50,359 --> 00:21:51,480
Speaker 3: you're getting craptopped.

484
00:21:51,960 --> 00:21:56,600
Speaker 1: Yeah? Well, and then the hairdresser is like, oh, yeah,

485
00:21:56,600 --> 00:21:56,760
Speaker 1: I know.

486
00:21:56,800 --> 00:21:59,160
Speaker 2: I had this friend who you know, is being run

487
00:21:59,200 --> 00:22:01,520
Speaker 2: around and the girl kicked driver because she's too fat.

488
00:22:01,520 --> 00:22:03,880
Speaker 1: And then Opie's like, wait, you're talking about yeah.

489
00:22:03,760 --> 00:22:06,520
Speaker 3: Oh, Oh, she's sorry. She's with the hairdresser, and she's like, wait,

490
00:22:06,560 --> 00:22:07,480
Speaker 3: is this story about me?

491
00:22:07,840 --> 00:22:10,840
Speaker 2: Yes, and it's like, dude, hairdresser, why are you piling

492
00:22:10,880 --> 00:22:11,480
Speaker 2: on right now?

493
00:22:11,600 --> 00:22:13,760
Speaker 1: Like can I can I not get a break?

494
00:22:14,080 --> 00:22:14,280
Speaker 5: Yeah?

495
00:22:14,640 --> 00:22:16,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, I am talking about you.

496
00:22:16,280 --> 00:22:18,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, just be directed to be like, hey, it sounds

497
00:22:18,640 --> 00:22:22,120
Speaker 2: like maybe her, your friend, is pushing you out. Don't

498
00:22:22,240 --> 00:22:24,760
Speaker 2: don't think I don't know that that's so weird. I'm sorry,

499
00:22:24,800 --> 00:22:27,520
Speaker 2: Opie says. I'm not surprised. This is a small town

500
00:22:27,600 --> 00:22:31,439
Speaker 2: and I know that my friend goes to the same stylist. Okay, Yeah.

501
00:22:31,520 --> 00:22:32,119
Speaker 1: I managed to.

502
00:22:32,160 --> 00:22:34,560
Speaker 2: Keep it together until my appointment was done, but once

503
00:22:34,600 --> 00:22:37,440
Speaker 2: I made it out to my car, I burst into tears.

504
00:22:37,960 --> 00:22:41,040
Speaker 2: I felt crappy enough already with everything going on, just

505
00:22:41,080 --> 00:22:43,840
Speaker 2: to find out I'm no longer pretty enough to stand

506
00:22:43,920 --> 00:22:46,520
Speaker 2: up with my best friend on her special day.

507
00:22:46,680 --> 00:22:49,320
Speaker 3: Well, she's ugly on the inside.

508
00:22:49,040 --> 00:22:50,320
Speaker 1: So boom got her.

509
00:22:50,600 --> 00:22:56,480
Speaker 2: Also, again to curiosity, we don't have one hundred percent

510
00:22:56,520 --> 00:23:00,359
Speaker 2: confirmation from the actual friend that this is that's true.

511
00:23:00,359 --> 00:23:04,879
Speaker 2: This is what the hairdresser very weirdly communicating.

512
00:23:04,320 --> 00:23:07,360
Speaker 3: That's true, that's true, Like, go talk to her directly

513
00:23:07,440 --> 00:23:09,440
Speaker 3: before we believe everything that's been said.

514
00:23:09,560 --> 00:23:12,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, see, the steroids have wrecked me, even as

515
00:23:12,720 --> 00:23:15,280
Speaker 2: they help my pain in inflammation. I've not so much

516
00:23:15,320 --> 00:23:19,840
Speaker 2: gained weight, has had fat redistributed in the most unattractive places,

517
00:23:19,880 --> 00:23:22,320
Speaker 2: like my face and neck, and my mid section is

518
00:23:22,400 --> 00:23:25,240
Speaker 2: lumpy where it never was before. I'm on a low

519
00:23:25,240 --> 00:23:28,760
Speaker 2: carb diet, which is helping my weight be basically the same,

520
00:23:28,920 --> 00:23:32,359
Speaker 2: but I've just about lost my previous hourglass figure, and

521
00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:34,480
Speaker 2: I don't like what I see in the mirror anymore.

522
00:23:34,840 --> 00:23:37,280
Speaker 2: I guess I can sort of understand that she doesn't

523
00:23:37,320 --> 00:23:39,320
Speaker 2: want this body in her wedding pictures. But I thought

524
00:23:39,359 --> 00:23:41,200
Speaker 2: our friendship was less superficial than that.

525
00:23:41,280 --> 00:23:43,719
Speaker 3: Well, she's superficial. That's not your fault.

526
00:23:43,840 --> 00:23:47,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, I just want my friends there.

527
00:23:47,480 --> 00:23:56,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly. Friendship doesn't revolve around like fitting into some perceived.

528
00:23:57,240 --> 00:24:00,840
Speaker 1: Looks, you know, in fact, in fact, few good looks

529
00:24:00,960 --> 00:24:02,680
Speaker 1: real really true friends.

530
00:24:03,000 --> 00:24:05,640
Speaker 2: One might be like, oh, hey, oh, Pie's going through

531
00:24:05,680 --> 00:24:08,080
Speaker 2: this all the stuff with the medication. You know, it

532
00:24:08,160 --> 00:24:10,760
Speaker 2: probably would make her maybe maybe make her feel included

533
00:24:10,760 --> 00:24:13,240
Speaker 2: and beautiful to be the bride of honor, like, hey,

534
00:24:13,280 --> 00:24:14,879
Speaker 2: we're gonna pick out the special dress and kind of

535
00:24:14,880 --> 00:24:15,840
Speaker 2: have fun glam it up.

536
00:24:15,880 --> 00:24:19,280
Speaker 3: I don't know exactly, Like, I don't know. This is

537
00:24:19,359 --> 00:24:23,679
Speaker 3: just awful bit like this is also going back to

538
00:24:24,840 --> 00:24:27,639
Speaker 3: oh p he's one of the only attendants, right.

539
00:24:27,840 --> 00:24:31,800
Speaker 2: Uh she said she your friend said that there'd be

540
00:24:31,840 --> 00:24:34,200
Speaker 2: like one person in the bridal party I believe.

541
00:24:34,280 --> 00:24:37,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, sorry, one of the only Yeah, bridesmaids. Bridesmaids

542
00:24:37,960 --> 00:24:40,240
Speaker 3: and it's like, disupposedly this is your closest friend and

543
00:24:40,320 --> 00:24:42,360
Speaker 3: yet you're talking about them in this way.

544
00:24:42,680 --> 00:24:45,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, I don't know. Man whack.

545
00:24:46,080 --> 00:24:50,159
Speaker 2: At lunchtime today, she texted me basically she threw out

546
00:24:50,200 --> 00:24:52,800
Speaker 2: a pretty obvious hint that she wants me to throw

547
00:24:52,840 --> 00:24:55,080
Speaker 2: her a bridle shower and a bachelorette party.

548
00:24:55,240 --> 00:24:58,240
Speaker 3: And I'd say, hey, I heard you kind of crap

549
00:24:58,280 --> 00:25:00,240
Speaker 3: talk in me. Yeah, I don't think I could do

550
00:25:00,280 --> 00:25:02,680
Speaker 3: that anymore. I would love to talk have a conversation

551
00:25:02,720 --> 00:25:05,080
Speaker 3: about that actually before I do anything for her.

552
00:25:05,200 --> 00:25:11,080
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, I'm curious what producer Dakota thinks. How you

553
00:25:11,160 --> 00:25:13,920
Speaker 2: doing over there? Now here's what I think.

554
00:25:14,160 --> 00:25:14,760
Speaker 3: What do you think?

555
00:25:14,920 --> 00:25:18,440
Speaker 5: I think if someone makes you feel bad because they're

556
00:25:18,480 --> 00:25:21,000
Speaker 5: being ridiculous like this, don't go over their wedding.

557
00:25:21,320 --> 00:25:23,720
Speaker 3: Oops. Yeah, but I do think you should have a

558
00:25:23,760 --> 00:25:27,000
Speaker 3: conversation with her, because right now you're only getting secondhand yes,

559
00:25:27,080 --> 00:25:29,680
Speaker 3: sweet creation, Oh no stop caring.

560
00:25:29,840 --> 00:25:33,760
Speaker 1: Uh oh wait wait shut it down, shut it down.

561
00:25:34,800 --> 00:25:39,960
Speaker 5: No, but like, honestly, if you're have the conversation, yeah, yeah,

562
00:25:40,160 --> 00:25:44,080
Speaker 5: get to the root of what's actually happening, sop, He says,

563
00:25:44,240 --> 00:25:47,280
Speaker 5: so far, I've chosen not to pick up on the hints.

564
00:25:47,359 --> 00:25:48,760
Speaker 1: My feelings are pretty hurts.

565
00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:50,800
Speaker 2: But I am not sure how to say something, or

566
00:25:50,840 --> 00:25:53,200
Speaker 2: even if I can, because I got the info from

567
00:25:53,240 --> 00:25:56,080
Speaker 2: our gossipy mutual hairstylist.

568
00:25:55,760 --> 00:25:58,399
Speaker 1: Who has no idea that she's spilled the beans. Do

569
00:25:58,440 --> 00:25:59,800
Speaker 1: I just suck it up and help?

570
00:26:00,080 --> 00:26:03,520
Speaker 2: I'm asked, without the honor of the bridesmaid status, quietly

571
00:26:03,600 --> 00:26:06,760
Speaker 2: refuse to help anymore, or confront her and make her

572
00:26:06,840 --> 00:26:10,480
Speaker 2: really uncomfortable. Less than three months before her wedding, and

573
00:26:10,520 --> 00:26:15,240
Speaker 2: we have an update. But Sophia, of our three options A,

574
00:26:15,440 --> 00:26:17,879
Speaker 2: B and C, Yes, what's your pick?

575
00:26:18,119 --> 00:26:18,320
Speaker 5: Wait?

576
00:26:18,359 --> 00:26:19,480
Speaker 3: What are my three options?

577
00:26:19,600 --> 00:26:24,440
Speaker 2: Your options are A, suck it up and help, Yeah,

578
00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:28,679
Speaker 2: B quietly refuse to help anymore, or C confront her

579
00:26:28,840 --> 00:26:30,560
Speaker 2: and make her uncomfortable.

580
00:26:30,760 --> 00:26:34,160
Speaker 3: Who cares? What uncomfortableness you're uncomfortable right now confront her.

581
00:26:34,320 --> 00:26:38,440
Speaker 2: If if what she is saying is true, then it's like, okay,

582
00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:40,800
Speaker 2: you've you've discovered that she is truly like not a

583
00:26:40,840 --> 00:26:45,639
Speaker 2: friend and she's not being kind to you, or you

584
00:26:45,680 --> 00:26:50,600
Speaker 2: discover oh it was some crazy, insane misunderstanding. Yeah, and

585
00:26:50,640 --> 00:26:54,560
Speaker 2: it's actually all good and here's why, and it's like, oh, okay, exactly.

586
00:26:54,760 --> 00:26:56,879
Speaker 3: Yeah she would She could have been like, oh, I

587
00:26:56,920 --> 00:26:59,760
Speaker 3: never said that. You know, my cares styles must have

588
00:26:59,800 --> 00:27:02,080
Speaker 3: heard something miss her. I don't know.

589
00:27:02,240 --> 00:27:06,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, they doctor, doctor, just doctor, see what happens.

590
00:27:06,400 --> 00:27:06,600
Speaker 3: Yeah.

591
00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:09,679
Speaker 5: I think the hairstyle knows the hair, the hairstyle. The

592
00:27:09,720 --> 00:27:12,640
Speaker 5: hairstyle knows the hair stylists, the hair.

593
00:27:12,720 --> 00:27:16,720
Speaker 2: Nos, she knows who knows theirs like papess I heard,

594
00:27:17,000 --> 00:27:18,119
Speaker 2: I heard the secrets.

595
00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:20,960
Speaker 3: She's the Her hairstylist is the ratkang.

596
00:27:21,160 --> 00:27:24,119
Speaker 1: Oh that's all the secrets. Oh God, But we have

597
00:27:24,160 --> 00:27:26,520
Speaker 1: an updates. A lot has happened in the time since

598
00:27:26,520 --> 00:27:27,240
Speaker 1: my last post.

599
00:27:27,359 --> 00:27:29,560
Speaker 2: I held off on updating because I was hoping things

600
00:27:29,600 --> 00:27:32,040
Speaker 2: would take a turn for the better between the two

601
00:27:32,080 --> 00:27:33,960
Speaker 2: of us. But I don't think that that's going to

602
00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:37,639
Speaker 2: happen anyways. I feel really stupid at this point, because,

603
00:27:37,680 --> 00:27:40,200
Speaker 2: as several of you pointed out, this girl has no

604
00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:44,199
Speaker 2: idea what being a friend really is. I had scheduled

605
00:27:44,240 --> 00:27:46,920
Speaker 2: drinks with my friend we'll call her Ariel because that's

606
00:27:46,920 --> 00:27:49,200
Speaker 2: her name, and I no longer care what she thinks

607
00:27:49,840 --> 00:27:52,480
Speaker 2: on that Friday, and I decided to confront her then

608
00:27:52,800 --> 00:27:55,440
Speaker 2: on what our stylist had told me. I just said

609
00:27:55,480 --> 00:27:58,080
Speaker 2: I'd heard the real reason I wasn't asked to be

610
00:27:58,080 --> 00:28:01,280
Speaker 2: in her wedding was due to my appearance. There we go,

611
00:28:01,440 --> 00:28:03,600
Speaker 2: There we go, the truth is out there. How does

612
00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:06,840
Speaker 2: she respond? Yeah, you might be wondering, I'm wondering. Well,

613
00:28:06,960 --> 00:28:09,560
Speaker 2: the first thing she did was get all defensive and asked,

614
00:28:10,240 --> 00:28:16,520
Speaker 2: who told you? Hmmm, oh who told you? Who told you?

615
00:28:16,720 --> 00:28:21,200
Speaker 1: Who told you? Because I said that, Oh, because yeah

616
00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:24,720
Speaker 1: it's true, and like, who told you? I'm gonna go er?

617
00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:26,480
Speaker 1: Why did you make me so angry? Would you?

618
00:28:27,680 --> 00:28:27,840
Speaker 5: Er?

619
00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:29,520
Speaker 1: Noikes?

620
00:28:29,720 --> 00:28:31,960
Speaker 2: It took me a second, but that clued me in

621
00:28:32,040 --> 00:28:35,120
Speaker 2: that she not only had said this, but had said

622
00:28:35,160 --> 00:28:37,560
Speaker 2: it to more people than just our stylists.

623
00:28:37,560 --> 00:28:39,320
Speaker 1: That's also true and insane.

624
00:28:39,600 --> 00:28:42,080
Speaker 2: I said it didn't matter, but that was really hurt

625
00:28:42,080 --> 00:28:44,440
Speaker 2: by it, especially in light of how much help I

626
00:28:44,520 --> 00:28:47,480
Speaker 2: was giving her. She said, I know you have like

627
00:28:47,800 --> 00:28:50,400
Speaker 2: really low self esteem, and I know you wouldn't want

628
00:28:50,400 --> 00:28:52,680
Speaker 2: to be in pictures looking like you do right now.

629
00:28:52,920 --> 00:28:55,120
Speaker 2: So I was going to put you a very special

630
00:28:55,240 --> 00:28:57,480
Speaker 2: thank you to you in my programs.

631
00:28:59,680 --> 00:29:02,760
Speaker 3: No, wow, no thank you. I don't need that. I

632
00:29:02,800 --> 00:29:03,640
Speaker 3: won't be there.

633
00:29:03,520 --> 00:29:06,040
Speaker 2: A very special thank you when it's like, hey, so

634
00:29:06,520 --> 00:29:11,320
Speaker 2: shout out to op who spent like sixty hours prepping

635
00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:14,120
Speaker 2: for my wedding with me, and I just like didn't

636
00:29:14,120 --> 00:29:16,280
Speaker 2: make her bridesmaid even though we're supposed to be like

637
00:29:16,720 --> 00:29:18,600
Speaker 2: old friends for six years.

638
00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:22,360
Speaker 3: Yikes. Yeah, no, I would not be. You know who

639
00:29:22,400 --> 00:29:25,720
Speaker 3: she is. She admitted it. Yep, she didn't even deny it.

640
00:29:26,040 --> 00:29:29,040
Speaker 3: And now we move now, we move away accordingly, we

641
00:29:29,200 --> 00:29:30,440
Speaker 3: run swiftly.

642
00:29:31,600 --> 00:29:32,240
Speaker 1: She put an.

643
00:29:32,160 --> 00:29:35,320
Speaker 2: Emphasis on the was and I was going to thank

644
00:29:35,360 --> 00:29:38,200
Speaker 2: you in her tone and made it seem like she

645
00:29:38,360 --> 00:29:41,440
Speaker 2: thought that she was doing me a favor. I wanted

646
00:29:41,480 --> 00:29:43,680
Speaker 2: to talk about how it made me feel, but Ariel

647
00:29:43,720 --> 00:29:46,440
Speaker 2: could not stop going on about who had told me.

648
00:29:47,280 --> 00:29:49,880
Speaker 2: She just kept on about how people were so rude

649
00:29:49,920 --> 00:29:52,840
Speaker 2: and had no concept of being told in being told

650
00:29:52,880 --> 00:29:53,320
Speaker 2: in confidence.

651
00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:55,080
Speaker 1: Man, Yeah, people are so rude.

652
00:29:55,120 --> 00:29:55,960
Speaker 3: People are rude.

653
00:29:56,040 --> 00:30:00,360
Speaker 2: They are rude to say an insanely insulting thing about

654
00:30:00,400 --> 00:30:03,720
Speaker 2: a friend going through some medical stuff right now who

655
00:30:03,960 --> 00:30:08,280
Speaker 2: actually really needs a thread and support and love and

656
00:30:08,080 --> 00:30:11,520
Speaker 2: and a little confidence boost kindness and kindness.

657
00:30:12,880 --> 00:30:13,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, people are rude.

658
00:30:14,080 --> 00:30:15,160
Speaker 1: Who would funk that?

659
00:30:15,840 --> 00:30:19,000
Speaker 2: And that whoever told me was a bad friend, not

660
00:30:19,120 --> 00:30:21,600
Speaker 2: just to her but to me, and that she was

661
00:30:21,680 --> 00:30:24,479
Speaker 2: sure the person was just trying to stir up crap.

662
00:30:25,000 --> 00:30:27,080
Speaker 3: It's the crap that you put out there already. You

663
00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:29,640
Speaker 3: put it in the pot, you crapped it, you put

664
00:30:29,720 --> 00:30:32,400
Speaker 3: it in the pot. Man, they're just stirring it.

665
00:30:32,680 --> 00:30:35,360
Speaker 1: Thou who crapped it, snapped it.

666
00:30:35,920 --> 00:30:37,120
Speaker 3: That's what they say.

667
00:30:37,400 --> 00:30:39,240
Speaker 1: It is. That is what they say. That they say

668
00:30:39,280 --> 00:30:40,680
Speaker 1: it makes sense. Thank you to coda.

669
00:30:40,880 --> 00:30:42,600
Speaker 2: She then said that she didn't have time for this

670
00:30:42,680 --> 00:30:45,280
Speaker 2: and walked out of the bar, leaving five dollars on

671
00:30:45,320 --> 00:30:48,840
Speaker 2: the table for six dollars drink. Thanks probably Yeah it's

672
00:30:48,840 --> 00:30:51,080
Speaker 2: not even cover and tip right. Also send me the

673
00:30:51,120 --> 00:30:54,239
Speaker 2: link to this bar because that is great prices. So

674
00:30:54,360 --> 00:30:56,880
Speaker 2: I settled the check and I left. When I got home,

675
00:30:56,960 --> 00:31:00,240
Speaker 2: I tried to check her Facebook page and lo and behold,

676
00:31:00,280 --> 00:31:01,560
Speaker 2: I am blocked.

677
00:31:01,280 --> 00:31:02,040
Speaker 3: Oh my goodness.

678
00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:04,720
Speaker 2: I texted a mutual friend to snoop the page for me,

679
00:31:05,000 --> 00:31:07,240
Speaker 2: so of course I had to tell her what was up.

680
00:31:07,600 --> 00:31:12,200
Speaker 2: She said, Jesus, she's vague booking all over. This is

681
00:31:12,240 --> 00:31:14,200
Speaker 2: all about you. What is vague booking?

682
00:31:14,480 --> 00:31:15,000
Speaker 3: I don't know.

683
00:31:15,240 --> 00:31:17,520
Speaker 1: Is that like blocking someone on Facebook?

684
00:31:17,640 --> 00:31:18,080
Speaker 3: I don't know.

685
00:31:18,320 --> 00:31:19,000
Speaker 1: Nah, I bet you.

686
00:31:19,080 --> 00:31:25,240
Speaker 5: It's like it's like it's sending subs, you know, subliminals. True,

687
00:31:25,440 --> 00:31:27,920
Speaker 5: it's like posting about somebody and they're like, you're not

688
00:31:27,960 --> 00:31:28,640
Speaker 5: saying their name.

689
00:31:28,840 --> 00:31:32,120
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, that's got to be what It is classic

690
00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:37,360
Speaker 2: Facebook behavior. She sent me screenshots of aerial statuses like okay,

691
00:31:37,480 --> 00:31:40,400
Speaker 2: whichever one of you rude witches can't keep your mouth

692
00:31:40,400 --> 00:31:43,200
Speaker 2: shut about things that don't concern you. Just unfriend me

693
00:31:43,280 --> 00:31:47,120
Speaker 2: now because I'm done with you. And and people call

694
00:31:47,200 --> 00:31:49,840
Speaker 2: me a drama queen. I can't believe this is coming

695
00:31:49,920 --> 00:31:52,320
Speaker 2: up seventy one days before my wedding, when I'm already

696
00:31:52,360 --> 00:31:53,360
Speaker 2: so stressed out.

697
00:31:54,280 --> 00:31:56,480
Speaker 3: She's like, why are you bringing up the things that

698
00:31:56,600 --> 00:31:57,200
Speaker 3: I said?

699
00:31:57,440 --> 00:32:01,480
Speaker 1: Oh? Can you just like stop it? Like, oh my god,

700
00:32:01,840 --> 00:32:03,680
Speaker 1: the past. Oh and there's more.

701
00:32:04,520 --> 00:32:06,640
Speaker 2: When I find out who stabbed me in the back,

702
00:32:06,800 --> 00:32:09,080
Speaker 2: they will pay I promise.

703
00:32:08,680 --> 00:32:11,000
Speaker 3: You he was the addresser all along.

704
00:32:11,280 --> 00:32:13,800
Speaker 1: Dude. You sound like Papa John over here being like

705
00:32:13,880 --> 00:32:14,480
Speaker 1: the day.

706
00:32:14,320 --> 00:32:19,320
Speaker 3: Of reckoning in her salon, sweating, dude, just like she

707
00:32:19,600 --> 00:32:20,840
Speaker 3: goes to Opie in the middle of the night. She's like,

708
00:32:20,920 --> 00:32:21,800
Speaker 3: I never said anything.

709
00:32:21,920 --> 00:32:22,280
Speaker 1: I didn't.

710
00:32:22,560 --> 00:32:26,760
Speaker 2: It wasn't me that hear you heard here first, kid,

711
00:32:26,960 --> 00:32:30,680
Speaker 2: this just in It wasn't me Johnson. Well, apparently this

712
00:32:30,800 --> 00:32:33,800
Speaker 2: friend spread the word of my conflict with Ariel, because

713
00:32:33,960 --> 00:32:36,440
Speaker 2: over that weekend I started getting a lot of texts

714
00:32:36,440 --> 00:32:39,760
Speaker 2: from old college friends who filled me in on the truth.

715
00:32:40,400 --> 00:32:41,160
Speaker 1: You see, she had.

716
00:32:41,080 --> 00:32:43,760
Speaker 2: Told several girls that she would have asked them to

717
00:32:43,760 --> 00:32:47,400
Speaker 2: be bridesmaids, but that she couldn't without asking me, and

718
00:32:47,480 --> 00:32:50,720
Speaker 2: I wasn't in bridesmaid form and it wouldn't be fair

719
00:32:50,800 --> 00:32:53,600
Speaker 2: to just leave me out, so none of them could

720
00:32:53,600 --> 00:32:57,080
Speaker 2: be bridesmaids.

721
00:32:56,120 --> 00:32:58,000
Speaker 1: H Wow.

722
00:32:58,240 --> 00:33:00,000
Speaker 2: I have had long talks with one of the girls,

723
00:33:00,000 --> 00:33:02,800
Speaker 2: g Ols Jessica, who said that Ariel has been talking

724
00:33:02,840 --> 00:33:05,640
Speaker 2: bad about me behind my back, about how I'm trying

725
00:33:05,640 --> 00:33:08,760
Speaker 2: to take attention away from her the bride, and how

726
00:33:08,800 --> 00:33:11,560
Speaker 2: it's my fault that she wasn't going to have a

727
00:33:11,600 --> 00:33:14,360
Speaker 2: big line. The big line of bridesmaids like she wanted.

728
00:33:14,640 --> 00:33:17,280
Speaker 2: It is literally your own faults.

729
00:33:17,600 --> 00:33:20,120
Speaker 3: It's like being like, oh, why don't I have friends?

730
00:33:20,360 --> 00:33:22,080
Speaker 3: I mean to everyone I talk to.

731
00:33:22,600 --> 00:33:27,680
Speaker 2: I don't get it. Explain it may make it make

732
00:33:27,840 --> 00:33:29,200
Speaker 2: sense and stop that.

733
00:33:30,400 --> 00:33:33,320
Speaker 3: No, oh be explain why no one's going to be

734
00:33:33,320 --> 00:33:34,600
Speaker 3: my bridesmaid? Oh so have you?

735
00:33:35,040 --> 00:33:36,120
Speaker 1: Yeah?

736
00:33:36,240 --> 00:33:38,520
Speaker 2: Why don't people love me? When I like consult them

737
00:33:38,520 --> 00:33:40,480
Speaker 2: and I like call them fat and then I like

738
00:33:40,560 --> 00:33:42,080
Speaker 2: make them work, and then you come to my wedding Like.

739
00:33:42,040 --> 00:33:44,520
Speaker 1: Why do they do that? I just wish all my

740
00:33:44,520 --> 00:33:48,880
Speaker 1: friends were so stupid and ugly. That is exactly the energy.

741
00:33:48,880 --> 00:33:51,320
Speaker 3: See if you were more attractive, I would my wedding

742
00:33:51,320 --> 00:33:52,160
Speaker 3: wouldn't be ruined.

743
00:33:53,840 --> 00:33:56,520
Speaker 2: So Jessica says that she's been sort of distracting herself

744
00:33:56,560 --> 00:34:00,479
Speaker 2: from Ariel because she thinks Ariel is a user, treats

745
00:34:00,520 --> 00:34:04,240
Speaker 2: friends horribly and that no offense, but I am unable

746
00:34:04,240 --> 00:34:04,680
Speaker 2: to see that.

747
00:34:05,200 --> 00:34:05,640
Speaker 1: She says.

748
00:34:05,680 --> 00:34:08,440
Speaker 2: Ariel is fun and interesting and can be really charming

749
00:34:08,560 --> 00:34:11,120
Speaker 2: when she's getting her way, but when she's not, she's

750
00:34:11,200 --> 00:34:13,600
Speaker 2: catty and mean. She said, I know you can Sader

751
00:34:13,640 --> 00:34:16,400
Speaker 2: Ariel your best friend, but how much of that is

752
00:34:16,520 --> 00:34:20,160
Speaker 2: actually geography? You weren't really best friends during college. I

753
00:34:20,200 --> 00:34:22,759
Speaker 2: think you and I were actually closer back then, but

754
00:34:22,840 --> 00:34:24,160
Speaker 2: before I moved to the big city.

755
00:34:24,520 --> 00:34:25,400
Speaker 1: Isn't it only.

756
00:34:25,200 --> 00:34:28,600
Speaker 2: Because Ariel is still in little town that you think

757
00:34:28,600 --> 00:34:30,520
Speaker 2: of her as your best friend. I think she's your

758
00:34:30,640 --> 00:34:33,200
Speaker 2: nearest friend. But I think you have friends who are

759
00:34:33,239 --> 00:34:36,320
Speaker 2: better for you that don't just live in little town anymore.

760
00:34:37,200 --> 00:34:38,520
Speaker 1: And it's true, It's true.

761
00:34:38,640 --> 00:34:41,040
Speaker 2: I have lived in my town my whole life. The

762
00:34:41,120 --> 00:34:43,880
Speaker 2: college I went to is here, paid for by my parents.

763
00:34:44,040 --> 00:34:45,719
Speaker 2: If I had chosen a different school, I would have

764
00:34:45,719 --> 00:34:48,279
Speaker 2: been on my own. And while the vast majority of

765
00:34:48,280 --> 00:34:51,120
Speaker 2: my high school friends went to university elsewhere, the friend

766
00:34:51,200 --> 00:34:53,919
Speaker 2: who did go to the local school escaped.

767
00:34:53,760 --> 00:34:55,120
Speaker 1: Jobs in larger cities.

768
00:34:55,160 --> 00:34:58,480
Speaker 2: After graduation, I still live with my parents and work

769
00:34:58,520 --> 00:35:01,200
Speaker 2: at my family owned business. I guess I've been clinging

770
00:35:01,200 --> 00:35:04,000
Speaker 2: to Ariel, who actually works in the alumni office of

771
00:35:04,040 --> 00:35:08,239
Speaker 2: the university, because she is the only one left. Hey, man,

772
00:35:08,320 --> 00:35:11,120
Speaker 2: sometimes you just be not having much friends, and then

773
00:35:11,440 --> 00:35:13,560
Speaker 2: your friends are not the best friend.

774
00:35:13,640 --> 00:35:15,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, and then you got to go make new friends

775
00:35:15,960 --> 00:35:16,800
Speaker 3: we're nicer.

776
00:35:16,960 --> 00:35:19,680
Speaker 1: I've had many a story of these crazy friends.

777
00:35:19,800 --> 00:35:21,920
Speaker 3: Friends not all friends last forever.

778
00:35:21,960 --> 00:35:22,720
Speaker 1: That is true.

779
00:35:22,840 --> 00:35:24,799
Speaker 2: I'm really close with my cousins who all work at

780
00:35:24,800 --> 00:35:26,799
Speaker 2: the family business too, but it's not the same as

781
00:35:26,840 --> 00:35:29,680
Speaker 2: having friends who are not related to you. Since that Friday,

782
00:35:29,719 --> 00:35:32,040
Speaker 2: I've had no contact with Ariel and lots more with

783
00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:35,600
Speaker 2: other college friends, especially Jessica, who lives in the largest

784
00:35:35,600 --> 00:35:39,399
Speaker 2: city in our states. Apparently since our altercation, Ariel has

785
00:35:39,440 --> 00:35:43,400
Speaker 2: asked Jessica and at least three other girls to be bridesmaids.

786
00:35:44,760 --> 00:35:46,799
Speaker 3: H Is anyone saying yes?

787
00:35:47,200 --> 00:35:48,239
Speaker 1: I hopefully no.

788
00:35:48,480 --> 00:35:53,120
Speaker 3: I think they need to like Boycott or Ariel.

789
00:35:53,280 --> 00:35:56,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, now Jessica's she's there. I missed that.

790
00:35:56,680 --> 00:35:57,399
Speaker 3: I missed the name.

791
00:35:57,719 --> 00:36:02,720
Speaker 2: It is okay, Ariel Ariel. Okay, wait, you know what's

792
00:36:02,960 --> 00:36:06,560
Speaker 2: not under the sea? What our friendship? Because it's nowhere,

793
00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:07,480
Speaker 2: because it's over.

794
00:36:07,719 --> 00:36:10,640
Speaker 3: I thought that was a lead into the CTA, but

795
00:36:10,719 --> 00:36:11,160
Speaker 3: it wasn't.

796
00:36:11,440 --> 00:36:14,680
Speaker 1: Nope, it was just a comment, just a comment. Okay.

797
00:36:15,600 --> 00:36:20,640
Speaker 2: Now, Jessica declined being a bridesmaid, as did the two others. Yes,

798
00:36:21,160 --> 00:36:23,760
Speaker 2: Jessica thinks the fourst girl will do it, but whatever.

799
00:36:24,040 --> 00:36:27,200
Speaker 2: Jessica is downright disgusted with Aerial's behavior and probably won't

800
00:36:27,200 --> 00:36:30,000
Speaker 2: go to the wedding at all unless something major changes

801
00:36:30,040 --> 00:36:33,880
Speaker 2: by the time RSVPs are due, as I suspected. I

802
00:36:33,920 --> 00:36:34,960
Speaker 2: was not sent an invitation.

803
00:36:35,320 --> 00:36:37,280
Speaker 3: Eh, not a major loss.

804
00:36:37,600 --> 00:36:40,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, that stinks. That's a win. That's a win right there.

805
00:36:40,400 --> 00:36:43,040
Speaker 2: Jessica thinks I should consider applying for jobs in her

806
00:36:43,080 --> 00:36:44,600
Speaker 2: city and being more independent.

807
00:36:45,000 --> 00:36:47,320
Speaker 1: I'd be close to premier doctors.

808
00:36:47,719 --> 00:36:50,480
Speaker 2: I already know several people there, and Jessica says it's

809
00:36:50,520 --> 00:36:52,840
Speaker 2: a great city for people our age. I'm just the

810
00:36:53,160 --> 00:36:54,920
Speaker 2: I guess. I guess it'll help with the medical condition.

811
00:36:54,960 --> 00:36:56,160
Speaker 2: I was just caught off guard.

812
00:36:55,880 --> 00:36:58,080
Speaker 1: By the it has premier.

813
00:37:00,600 --> 00:37:02,680
Speaker 2: H I just dismissed the idea at first, but the

814
00:37:02,680 --> 00:37:05,759
Speaker 2: more I thought about it, the more I am coming around. Well,

815
00:37:05,920 --> 00:37:07,879
Speaker 2: may be hard to move away from the town I've

816
00:37:07,880 --> 00:37:10,239
Speaker 2: lived in my whole life and my family. I think

817
00:37:10,239 --> 00:37:12,240
Speaker 2: it would be good to get away from here. Jessica

818
00:37:12,320 --> 00:37:14,680
Speaker 2: says that I could move in with her for at

819
00:37:14,760 --> 00:37:17,480
Speaker 2: least a few paychecks to save up for deposits on

820
00:37:17,480 --> 00:37:19,680
Speaker 2: my own place. I've brought it up as an idea

821
00:37:19,719 --> 00:37:21,920
Speaker 2: to my parents, and I hope they'll be supportive if

822
00:37:21,960 --> 00:37:25,000
Speaker 2: I go for it. I told my boyfriend about the possibility,

823
00:37:25,120 --> 00:37:28,040
Speaker 2: and he was kind of whiny at first, which was understandable,

824
00:37:28,120 --> 00:37:29,719
Speaker 2: but in the last couple of days he has said

825
00:37:29,760 --> 00:37:32,600
Speaker 2: it could be very positive and who knows, he might

826
00:37:32,719 --> 00:37:39,560
Speaker 2: move toooooooooh little boyfriend. Movement, action, move action, Okay, move.

827
00:37:39,440 --> 00:37:40,560
Speaker 1: With me boyfriend.

828
00:37:40,880 --> 00:37:43,200
Speaker 2: He lives in a nearby town that's just as limiting

829
00:37:43,239 --> 00:37:46,880
Speaker 2: socially without the benefit of a small private university in it.

830
00:37:47,160 --> 00:37:50,200
Speaker 2: By the way, Oh, if you want to go to

831
00:37:50,280 --> 00:37:55,279
Speaker 2: the University of Okay Storytime and get a PhD in

832
00:37:55,800 --> 00:38:01,600
Speaker 2: uh pretty much hearing dang near every episode. Oh, I

833
00:38:01,680 --> 00:38:05,680
Speaker 2: just got at home said that, go to Apple, Spotify,

834
00:38:05,960 --> 00:38:09,799
Speaker 2: iHeartRadio and search Okay story Time and listen to two

835
00:38:09,840 --> 00:38:12,640
Speaker 2: thousand episodes. Guys, I mean it's literally endless content to

836
00:38:12,719 --> 00:38:14,759
Speaker 2: keep you entertained for eternity.

837
00:38:14,920 --> 00:38:16,720
Speaker 1: I don't know what else to tell you. I agree,

838
00:38:17,040 --> 00:38:19,000
Speaker 1: But before I get into the end of the story, Sophia,

839
00:38:20,360 --> 00:38:22,040
Speaker 1: I wanna. I want to. I want to. I want

840
00:38:22,080 --> 00:38:23,680
Speaker 1: you to break it all down for me, like, Okay,

841
00:38:23,760 --> 00:38:24,560
Speaker 1: what are we thinking about?

842
00:38:24,600 --> 00:38:24,920
Speaker 2: Friend?

843
00:38:25,160 --> 00:38:27,680
Speaker 1: Is this the right move? What? What are you thinking?

844
00:38:27,840 --> 00:38:29,800
Speaker 3: I think right now, you're if you're in this small

845
00:38:29,840 --> 00:38:33,640
Speaker 3: town where you've never really left, You're surrounded by people

846
00:38:33,920 --> 00:38:38,440
Speaker 3: that you are comfortable with but are not necessarily the

847
00:38:38,480 --> 00:38:40,520
Speaker 3: best people for you. And it's proven. I mean, she

848
00:38:40,600 --> 00:38:43,600
Speaker 3: doesn't seem like she's a very nice person. Uh, and

849
00:38:43,719 --> 00:38:46,160
Speaker 3: you don't have to take that. There are billions of

850
00:38:46,200 --> 00:38:52,400
Speaker 3: people out there just right for the friendship taken, you know. Yeah,

851
00:38:52,440 --> 00:38:55,759
Speaker 3: So make the move, go with your boyfriend, try a

852
00:38:55,760 --> 00:39:00,279
Speaker 3: new place, you know, go go dot, make some new hobbies. Yeah,

853
00:39:00,360 --> 00:39:02,760
Speaker 3: and you'll find people that you you gel with better

854
00:39:02,800 --> 00:39:03,800
Speaker 3: than Ariel.

855
00:39:04,800 --> 00:39:05,040
Speaker 1: Agree.

856
00:39:05,120 --> 00:39:08,799
Speaker 2: I I don't want to ever like push someone into

857
00:39:08,800 --> 00:39:11,960
Speaker 2: If op was like I am such a family person

858
00:39:12,160 --> 00:39:14,879
Speaker 2: and like was kind of clearly like my whole life

859
00:39:14,960 --> 00:39:16,920
Speaker 2: is here and that that's like what's important to me.

860
00:39:17,080 --> 00:39:18,560
Speaker 1: I would be like, Okay, don't do it.

861
00:39:18,600 --> 00:39:20,840
Speaker 2: But it seems like Opie's like curious and kind of

862
00:39:20,880 --> 00:39:23,239
Speaker 2: like it's kind of dawning on her, like, oh, like

863
00:39:23,400 --> 00:39:27,759
Speaker 2: maybe I actually haven't had like the best pool available

864
00:39:27,880 --> 00:39:30,239
Speaker 2: of like potential friends, and I think moving to a

865
00:39:30,239 --> 00:39:31,880
Speaker 2: new city and doing stuff like that, it's always like

866
00:39:31,960 --> 00:39:34,359
Speaker 2: a cool there's always like a lot of growth I

867
00:39:34,400 --> 00:39:37,720
Speaker 2: think in any friendship or any.

868
00:39:37,520 --> 00:39:38,520
Speaker 1: Direction you look at it.

869
00:39:38,560 --> 00:39:40,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like if you're like, oh, there's no one

870
00:39:40,480 --> 00:39:43,040
Speaker 3: a date for me in this tiny small town, move

871
00:39:43,200 --> 00:39:46,600
Speaker 3: to a big city, leave spand your options. And in

872
00:39:46,640 --> 00:39:50,000
Speaker 3: the same way, you can do that with friendships.

873
00:39:50,360 --> 00:39:53,360
Speaker 1: Or you could settle. Just find a guy with that.

874
00:39:54,880 --> 00:39:59,600
Speaker 2: Take those sunglasses off, sir, take those sunglasses off.

875
00:40:00,480 --> 00:40:03,160
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm back there we go. Yeah, get out and

876
00:40:03,160 --> 00:40:04,600
Speaker 1: move out of your small town. It sucks.

877
00:40:04,880 --> 00:40:10,120
Speaker 2: Okay, he's still evil. We need zero percent UV protection.

878
00:40:10,239 --> 00:40:14,480
Speaker 3: Before Dakota chimes in, good Ezekiel and replacing good Ezekiel

879
00:40:14,560 --> 00:40:16,120
Speaker 3: is evil, Dakota.

880
00:40:16,600 --> 00:40:17,200
Speaker 1: There we go.

881
00:40:17,280 --> 00:40:19,799
Speaker 2: All right, but we have the finale to the story.

882
00:40:19,840 --> 00:40:21,279
Speaker 2: Are we ready, boys and girls.

883
00:40:21,040 --> 00:40:22,399
Speaker 1: Yes, let's do it.

884
00:40:22,760 --> 00:40:25,520
Speaker 2: In the meantime, it's going to be long distance, but

885
00:40:25,680 --> 00:40:28,480
Speaker 2: not terribly so, a bit more than two hours each

886
00:40:28,520 --> 00:40:28,960
Speaker 2: way drive.

887
00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:29,680
Speaker 1: It's not too bad.

888
00:40:30,360 --> 00:40:33,160
Speaker 2: Next weekend, I was going over to stay with Jessica

889
00:40:33,200 --> 00:40:34,919
Speaker 2: and her roommate for a couple of days, to hang

890
00:40:34,960 --> 00:40:37,319
Speaker 2: out and see what I think of the neighborhood even

891
00:40:37,360 --> 00:40:39,799
Speaker 2: if I decide not to move. She says, I can

892
00:40:39,880 --> 00:40:42,960
Speaker 2: use her apartment when I come to see doctors. Yay.

893
00:40:43,080 --> 00:40:45,520
Speaker 1: And you know what else was great too? I think

894
00:40:45,600 --> 00:40:46,799
Speaker 1: she found a.

895
00:40:48,719 --> 00:40:52,800
Speaker 2: Blossomed, much much more blossomed friendship with Jessica.

896
00:40:52,920 --> 00:40:55,560
Speaker 1: I agree, Yeah, offering to give her a place.

897
00:40:55,760 --> 00:41:01,080
Speaker 3: Flowers bloom out of out of you know, the flames

898
00:41:01,560 --> 00:41:03,239
Speaker 3: of your last friendship.

899
00:41:02,760 --> 00:41:04,879
Speaker 1: From the concrete grew a rose.

900
00:41:04,880 --> 00:41:06,440
Speaker 3: And now I assume we have to stall.

901
00:41:06,640 --> 00:41:08,640
Speaker 2: Hey John Ogi host here, We're gonna get back to

902
00:41:08,640 --> 00:41:10,680
Speaker 2: this episode, but a quick three minute break of.

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00:41:10,640 --> 00:41:12,400
Speaker 1: Ads from a sponsor's keeping the show alive.

904
00:41:13,120 --> 00:41:15,759
Speaker 3: My friend revealed a secret to me and I want

905
00:41:15,800 --> 00:41:16,680
Speaker 3: to expose it.

906
00:41:16,960 --> 00:41:18,400
Speaker 1: Exposed backstory.

907
00:41:18,960 --> 00:41:21,200
Speaker 3: Three years ago, I moved to a new town and

908
00:41:21,280 --> 00:41:24,759
Speaker 3: met my now boyfriend, James. James has a small group

909
00:41:24,800 --> 00:41:28,080
Speaker 3: of guy friends Martin, Paul, and Lewis that he made

910
00:41:28,120 --> 00:41:30,800
Speaker 3: while at college or work. They all hang out together

911
00:41:30,880 --> 00:41:33,759
Speaker 3: and the girlfriends have all gotten really close because of that.

912
00:41:34,080 --> 00:41:36,960
Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from Sophira bright Scales and

913
00:41:37,000 --> 00:41:38,880
Speaker 3: if you want to submit your own stories, go to

914
00:41:38,880 --> 00:41:42,000
Speaker 3: the r slash okay storytime subreddit. Is that a reference

915
00:41:42,000 --> 00:41:46,319
Speaker 3: to Aragon? I don't know, Sefira isn't Safia the Dragon? Yeah?

916
00:41:46,760 --> 00:41:49,640
Speaker 3: Six months after I moved here and started hanging out

917
00:41:49,680 --> 00:41:52,640
Speaker 3: with everyone, a girl who used to date Martin moved

918
00:41:52,640 --> 00:41:57,200
Speaker 3: back into town. Mario was really cool off the bat, Oh, Maria,

919
00:41:57,320 --> 00:41:59,239
Speaker 3: we had a lot in common and even though her

920
00:41:59,280 --> 00:42:02,440
Speaker 3: and Martin didn't work out, she was still really close

921
00:42:02,480 --> 00:42:05,319
Speaker 3: with the group. She'd grown up with Lewis and they've

922
00:42:05,320 --> 00:42:08,319
Speaker 3: been best friends since they were kids. Since I wasn't

923
00:42:08,320 --> 00:42:10,520
Speaker 3: clicking that well with the other girls yet, I started

924
00:42:10,560 --> 00:42:14,560
Speaker 3: hanging out with Maria more. After a while, I noticed

925
00:42:14,600 --> 00:42:18,120
Speaker 3: that her relationship with Martin was awful. It was just toxic.

926
00:42:18,719 --> 00:42:20,680
Speaker 3: She couldn't get over him, and because of that, he

927
00:42:20,719 --> 00:42:24,080
Speaker 3: would constantly lead her on. At one point, he even

928
00:42:24,120 --> 00:42:26,440
Speaker 3: told her I'm going to hook up with people, and

929
00:42:26,480 --> 00:42:28,520
Speaker 3: you need to be okay with that. But if you

930
00:42:28,560 --> 00:42:30,239
Speaker 3: will up with some other guy, I'm wanting to get

931
00:42:30,280 --> 00:42:31,600
Speaker 3: pissed find him.

932
00:42:31,480 --> 00:42:34,880
Speaker 1: Um, and that's when you break up. Yeah.

933
00:42:34,960 --> 00:42:37,920
Speaker 3: That instantly turned me off Martin, and I found myself

934
00:42:37,960 --> 00:42:40,640
Speaker 3: not really caring for his company when we went out.

935
00:42:40,800 --> 00:42:44,080
Speaker 3: Why is your boyfriend friends with Martin?

936
00:42:45,000 --> 00:42:46,880
Speaker 1: These are the questions we need to be asking.

937
00:42:47,239 --> 00:42:49,799
Speaker 3: So a year goes by and I've been there for

938
00:42:49,880 --> 00:42:52,640
Speaker 3: her during her crappy Martin times, and so is the

939
00:42:52,680 --> 00:42:55,520
Speaker 3: rest of the group. Why are we still cool with Martin?

940
00:42:55,600 --> 00:43:00,920
Speaker 2: Well, she is Opie talking about comforting Martin's girlfriend.

941
00:43:01,480 --> 00:43:03,120
Speaker 3: Is Martin still a part of this group?

942
00:43:03,239 --> 00:43:05,840
Speaker 2: I have no idea is he still is at this point.

943
00:43:05,680 --> 00:43:08,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, it seems like it. Although the guys are close,

944
00:43:08,920 --> 00:43:12,120
Speaker 3: they could tell how awful Martin was being. Maria starts

945
00:43:12,120 --> 00:43:15,120
Speaker 3: hanging out with the girlfriend and creates just a strong

946
00:43:15,200 --> 00:43:18,919
Speaker 3: bond with Vicky Lewis's girlfriend, which Lewis was really happy

947
00:43:18,960 --> 00:43:21,880
Speaker 3: about because he wanted Vicky to like Maria and vice versa.

948
00:43:22,640 --> 00:43:24,839
Speaker 3: All the girls are happy and hanging out and all

949
00:43:24,840 --> 00:43:27,520
Speaker 3: the boys are happy and hanging out. It seems pretty

950
00:43:27,560 --> 00:43:31,920
Speaker 3: much perfect. Okay, Now, things have been going great and

951
00:43:31,960 --> 00:43:34,759
Speaker 3: Maria seems to be moving on from Martin until two

952
00:43:34,840 --> 00:43:37,359
Speaker 3: nights ago when everything hit the effing fan.

953
00:43:37,520 --> 00:43:38,080
Speaker 1: Oh.

954
00:43:38,160 --> 00:43:41,359
Speaker 3: We were all out for my boyfriend's James birthday. We

955
00:43:41,360 --> 00:43:44,400
Speaker 3: were getting pretty schated and decided to go out to

956
00:43:44,440 --> 00:43:46,800
Speaker 3: a club, which was super rare for all of us.

957
00:43:47,200 --> 00:43:49,959
Speaker 3: At some point in the night, I see Maria leave

958
00:43:50,120 --> 00:43:53,840
Speaker 3: in tears. I followed her and found her outside just

959
00:43:54,160 --> 00:43:57,880
Speaker 3: crying and saying she needed to go home. I offered

960
00:43:57,920 --> 00:44:01,080
Speaker 3: to walk her out and get a cab. While we're walking,

961
00:44:01,160 --> 00:44:04,319
Speaker 3: she apologizes and said that her feelings towards Martin got

962
00:44:04,360 --> 00:44:07,359
Speaker 3: the better of her and she was jealous watching him

963
00:44:07,400 --> 00:44:10,640
Speaker 3: dance with other girls. And had to leap then out

964
00:44:10,640 --> 00:44:13,719
Speaker 3: of nowhere. She says, she needs to tell me a secret,

965
00:44:14,160 --> 00:44:19,279
Speaker 3: a secret secret. Over the past four months, she's been

966
00:44:19,360 --> 00:44:22,120
Speaker 3: sleeping with both Louis and Paul.

967
00:44:22,400 --> 00:44:23,360
Speaker 4: Oops.

968
00:44:24,680 --> 00:44:28,440
Speaker 2: Wait, and just to run it back, Louis and Paul

969
00:44:29,040 --> 00:44:31,120
Speaker 2: both have girl girlfriends.

970
00:44:31,239 --> 00:44:35,600
Speaker 3: Yep, that she's friends with. All the girlfriends are friends

971
00:44:36,560 --> 00:44:39,759
Speaker 3: and she's your boyfriend. Really knows how to pick them?

972
00:44:39,840 --> 00:44:41,880
Speaker 5: How are you gonna get with both halves of that

973
00:44:42,000 --> 00:44:47,160
Speaker 5: explorer duo, Louis and Paul, they discovered the you know,

974
00:44:47,200 --> 00:44:48,600
Speaker 5: the West coast of America.

975
00:44:48,320 --> 00:44:52,160
Speaker 2: You mean Lewis and Clark. I don't know what you're

976
00:44:52,200 --> 00:44:56,319
Speaker 2: talking about, dude. How Dakota has turned into me in

977
00:44:56,360 --> 00:44:57,400
Speaker 2: the past few days.

978
00:44:57,560 --> 00:44:59,000
Speaker 3: No, but I can't tell if that was a bit

979
00:44:59,160 --> 00:45:02,480
Speaker 3: or a few genuine mistakenly thought Lewis and Paul.

980
00:45:03,000 --> 00:45:05,760
Speaker 1: We got him. That's our answer, because I'm worried.

981
00:45:05,840 --> 00:45:08,520
Speaker 5: That's our answer to be crazy if it was another set.

982
00:45:08,920 --> 00:45:11,280
Speaker 5: Lewis and Paul went out at the same time as Lewis.

983
00:45:11,080 --> 00:45:13,040
Speaker 3: And Clark, lose and Paul. But they were going the

984
00:45:13,080 --> 00:45:13,560
Speaker 3: wrong way.

985
00:45:13,640 --> 00:45:16,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, they were going the way. Everyone already

986
00:45:16,080 --> 00:45:16,880
Speaker 1: knew how to get it and.

987
00:45:16,880 --> 00:45:19,319
Speaker 3: They're like, we've discovered America.

988
00:45:19,000 --> 00:45:22,960
Speaker 1: And we discovered the East coast. Oh wait, did we

989
00:45:23,040 --> 00:45:24,759
Speaker 1: land here when we first showed up?

990
00:45:24,960 --> 00:45:27,080
Speaker 3: They go to Lake George and they're like, we found

991
00:45:27,160 --> 00:45:29,880
Speaker 3: the other side of the Americas And everyone's like, that's

992
00:45:29,920 --> 00:45:30,479
Speaker 3: just the lake.

993
00:45:30,680 --> 00:45:32,040
Speaker 1: We found a new ocean.

994
00:45:32,920 --> 00:45:33,360
Speaker 3: Anyway.

995
00:45:33,480 --> 00:45:35,520
Speaker 1: Anyways, sorry, guys.

996
00:45:35,400 --> 00:45:38,200
Speaker 3: I was effing shocked. I was really wasted, so I

997
00:45:38,200 --> 00:45:40,400
Speaker 3: didn't really know what to say to an equally wasted,

998
00:45:40,520 --> 00:45:43,800
Speaker 3: crying girl who just admitted to sleeping with two taken

999
00:45:43,840 --> 00:45:46,919
Speaker 3: guys from our friend group. Just want to point out

1000
00:45:47,200 --> 00:45:50,320
Speaker 3: she's gotten with three out of the four friends I

1001
00:45:50,480 --> 00:45:53,040
Speaker 3: likelihood gotten with the fourth oh, which.

1002
00:45:53,000 --> 00:45:56,319
Speaker 1: Is Op's boyfriend. Oh no, no, no, no, no, you're right.

1003
00:45:56,719 --> 00:45:58,960
Speaker 3: I told her we'd talked about it later and focused

1004
00:45:59,000 --> 00:46:01,640
Speaker 3: on getting water, food, and getting her home. We've barely

1005
00:46:01,680 --> 00:46:05,160
Speaker 3: spoken since, which I chalked up to being really hung

1006
00:46:05,360 --> 00:46:08,479
Speaker 3: over yesterday. But what the F do I say to her?

1007
00:46:08,840 --> 00:46:11,000
Speaker 3: She's been one of my closest friends here, but she's

1008
00:46:11,000 --> 00:46:14,399
Speaker 3: been helping two of her friends cheats on two more

1009
00:46:14,440 --> 00:46:17,200
Speaker 3: of her friends. I mean, she hasn't been helping them,

1010
00:46:17,239 --> 00:46:20,080
Speaker 3: she's cheating them. She's cheating on her partner.

1011
00:46:20,239 --> 00:46:21,640
Speaker 1: She has assisted them.

1012
00:46:21,960 --> 00:46:24,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not only really disappointed and angered by this,

1013
00:46:24,960 --> 00:46:27,680
Speaker 3: I'm worried that she'll try to come for James. I

1014
00:46:27,719 --> 00:46:30,319
Speaker 3: trust him, but now I don't trust her. I thought

1015
00:46:30,400 --> 00:46:32,640
Speaker 3: Lewis and Paul were stand up guys, but now I'm

1016
00:46:32,680 --> 00:46:35,680
Speaker 3: disgusted by their part in all this. James has been

1017
00:46:35,719 --> 00:46:40,520
Speaker 3: cheated on before and has a zero tolerance for cheaters.

1018
00:46:40,719 --> 00:46:42,680
Speaker 3: I'm torn on whether to tell him to warn him

1019
00:46:42,680 --> 00:46:45,520
Speaker 3: about Maria, but I also don't want to ruin a

1020
00:46:45,520 --> 00:46:47,560
Speaker 3: friends group that has been going strong for the better

1021
00:46:47,560 --> 00:46:48,360
Speaker 3: part of a decade.

1022
00:46:48,440 --> 00:46:50,960
Speaker 2: Can I just say, real quick, yes, Sack, he doesn't

1023
00:46:51,000 --> 00:46:53,640
Speaker 2: want to be friends with cheaters, but he's totally fine

1024
00:46:53,680 --> 00:46:55,560
Speaker 2: with the friend that's like, Oh, I'm.

1025
00:46:55,400 --> 00:46:57,160
Speaker 1: Gonna go hook up with other friends. You should be

1026
00:46:57,200 --> 00:46:57,719
Speaker 1: okay with it?

1027
00:46:57,840 --> 00:47:01,520
Speaker 3: Literally, Like, does he know about her? Because presumably it

1028
00:47:01,560 --> 00:47:06,840
Speaker 3: seems like freaking Martin has been very forthcoming about you

1029
00:47:06,880 --> 00:47:10,680
Speaker 3: know what he thinks? Yeah, so why is I don't know?

1030
00:47:10,840 --> 00:47:13,600
Speaker 3: It feels like your boyfriend is very lax about his

1031
00:47:14,120 --> 00:47:15,600
Speaker 3: uh who he lets be his.

1032
00:47:15,520 --> 00:47:17,719
Speaker 1: Friends or he doesn't know to your point.

1033
00:47:17,800 --> 00:47:20,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, which in which case you need to go. I mean,

1034
00:47:20,480 --> 00:47:24,000
Speaker 3: I think regardless, you need to go to your boyfriend now, yes,

1035
00:47:24,080 --> 00:47:26,520
Speaker 3: because you don't know Maria anything, Like she's your friend,

1036
00:47:26,560 --> 00:47:30,120
Speaker 3: but you're you know, your loyalties to your partner. Yeah,

1037
00:47:30,160 --> 00:47:31,719
Speaker 3: And you go to your partner and say, hey, I've

1038
00:47:31,760 --> 00:47:35,560
Speaker 3: heard this thing from Maria. I wanted you to know,

1039
00:47:35,600 --> 00:47:37,920
Speaker 3: and I think that we need I am going to

1040
00:47:38,000 --> 00:47:40,759
Speaker 3: tell the girlfriends, but I wanted you to be the

1041
00:47:40,760 --> 00:47:43,000
Speaker 3: first to know. Yeah, you're you're my partner.

1042
00:47:43,200 --> 00:47:43,480
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1043
00:47:43,480 --> 00:47:45,759
Speaker 2: And like she said, she's like, you hate what as

1044
00:47:45,760 --> 00:47:47,400
Speaker 2: he should? He's like, oh, I don't want to like

1045
00:47:47,880 --> 00:47:50,000
Speaker 2: associate with cheaters.

1046
00:47:50,160 --> 00:47:51,640
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah.

1047
00:47:51,800 --> 00:47:53,640
Speaker 3: What do I say to Maria? What do I say

1048
00:47:53,640 --> 00:47:56,359
Speaker 3: to James? Do I tell Lewis and Paul's girlfriend? I'm

1049
00:47:56,440 --> 00:48:01,560
Speaker 3: so effing confused? Comments Here we go. Comment one says,

1050
00:48:01,600 --> 00:48:03,960
Speaker 3: Maria puts you in a crappy situation by telling you

1051
00:48:04,000 --> 00:48:06,960
Speaker 3: this secret. Personally, I don't think I could feel comfortable

1052
00:48:07,000 --> 00:48:09,479
Speaker 3: holding this secret in and I'd tell Maria that either

1053
00:48:09,560 --> 00:48:12,040
Speaker 3: she needs to come clean with this secret or that

1054
00:48:12,120 --> 00:48:14,520
Speaker 3: you'll do it for her. Then move on from this

1055
00:48:14,680 --> 00:48:16,880
Speaker 3: mess of a friend group. You aren't the one ruining

1056
00:48:16,920 --> 00:48:19,640
Speaker 3: the friend group. Lewis and Paul ruined it when they

1057
00:48:19,680 --> 00:48:22,920
Speaker 3: decided to cheat on their girl friends with Maria. That's facts,

1058
00:48:23,000 --> 00:48:25,279
Speaker 3: Opie says. It's a terrible situation to be in. I'm

1059
00:48:25,280 --> 00:48:27,800
Speaker 3: also afraid of getting some sort of I don't believe

1060
00:48:27,840 --> 00:48:30,840
Speaker 3: you black backlash, but I agree with you, and I

1061
00:48:30,840 --> 00:48:32,759
Speaker 3: think I need to tell Maria that she needs to

1062
00:48:32,800 --> 00:48:36,239
Speaker 3: come clean. Comment two. Before you make a decision to

1063
00:48:36,320 --> 00:48:39,200
Speaker 3: do anything, be very very sure the secret you heard

1064
00:48:39,320 --> 00:48:43,719
Speaker 3: was the actual truth, not the wasted storytelling of a heartbroken,

1065
00:48:43,760 --> 00:48:46,800
Speaker 3: messed up girl. If you're confident Maria is on the

1066
00:48:46,880 --> 00:48:49,360
Speaker 3: up and up about our affairs, it's time to decide

1067
00:48:49,400 --> 00:48:51,560
Speaker 3: if there are these are people you really want to

1068
00:48:51,560 --> 00:48:53,560
Speaker 3: be around. I personally wouldn't want to be in the

1069
00:48:53,640 --> 00:48:56,640
Speaker 3: vicinity when this all hits the fan. I'd be telling

1070
00:48:56,680 --> 00:48:58,640
Speaker 3: Maria I can't and don't want to be in the

1071
00:48:58,640 --> 00:49:02,520
Speaker 3: eye of a hurricane day. And if anyone asks me

1072
00:49:02,600 --> 00:49:06,800
Speaker 3: why I'm distancing myself, I'm gonna be honest. Basically, Maria

1073
00:49:06,880 --> 00:49:09,360
Speaker 3: throws your cards out onto the table, because I'm not

1074
00:49:09,520 --> 00:49:13,680
Speaker 3: keeping your crappy secret for you. Yeah, I'd also definitely

1075
00:49:13,719 --> 00:49:16,960
Speaker 3: be telling Jane, he's your primary relationship out of this

1076
00:49:17,040 --> 00:49:20,399
Speaker 3: bunch of clowns. Don't risk him thinking you're hiding things

1077
00:49:20,400 --> 00:49:22,600
Speaker 3: from him for the sake of a pack of liars

1078
00:49:22,640 --> 00:49:25,839
Speaker 3: and potentially cheaters OP. He says, I don't know how

1079
00:49:25,880 --> 00:49:28,680
Speaker 3: to really check this without accusing people and bringing it

1080
00:49:28,719 --> 00:49:31,680
Speaker 3: to light. During the reveal, she did talk about the

1081
00:49:31,719 --> 00:49:35,239
Speaker 3: times when it happened, and they make sense and we're

1082
00:49:35,280 --> 00:49:39,280
Speaker 3: pretty awkward sash suspicious occasions. I'm gonna tell James tonight.

1083
00:49:39,719 --> 00:49:42,240
Speaker 3: He deserves to know what's going on, and I hate

1084
00:49:42,360 --> 00:49:45,239
Speaker 3: keeping secrets. I'll probably have some good advice on how

1085
00:49:45,239 --> 00:49:47,600
Speaker 3: to go about getting this problem out of yard. I mean,

1086
00:49:47,640 --> 00:49:50,920
Speaker 3: these are his friends, so he should be you know,

1087
00:49:51,520 --> 00:49:53,080
Speaker 3: banning the ship on this.

1088
00:49:53,400 --> 00:49:53,600
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1089
00:49:53,680 --> 00:49:57,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, I do like the point of uh, go to

1090
00:49:57,160 --> 00:50:00,439
Speaker 2: Maria and say I'm gonna tell your friends or I will,

1091
00:50:00,840 --> 00:50:07,040
Speaker 2: because then that does at least, like again or protect

1092
00:50:07,120 --> 00:50:09,839
Speaker 2: op from them being like, oh, stop ruining the friend

1093
00:50:11,760 --> 00:50:14,279
Speaker 2: which like again, it's like they ruin the friend group.

1094
00:50:14,280 --> 00:50:16,920
Speaker 2: But it is annoying to deal with people badgering you

1095
00:50:17,080 --> 00:50:17,400
Speaker 2: with that.

1096
00:50:17,760 --> 00:50:20,879
Speaker 3: Absolutely. Yeah, No, I think it's it's uh, yeah, start,

1097
00:50:21,160 --> 00:50:23,360
Speaker 3: We'll start with your boyfriend and then go to Maria.

1098
00:50:23,520 --> 00:50:25,640
Speaker 1: Yes, update, here we go.

1099
00:50:25,880 --> 00:50:29,239
Speaker 3: So after reading and responding, it didn't take me long

1100
00:50:29,320 --> 00:50:31,240
Speaker 3: to figure out that I needed to talk to Maria

1101
00:50:31,680 --> 00:50:34,600
Speaker 3: and potentially talk to the other girls. I did talk

1102
00:50:34,640 --> 00:50:37,439
Speaker 3: to James first, and he was very upset at all

1103
00:50:37,520 --> 00:50:40,359
Speaker 3: parties involved and understood my want to try and back

1104
00:50:40,400 --> 00:50:42,759
Speaker 3: out of the friend group as it's about to implode.

1105
00:50:43,360 --> 00:50:46,839
Speaker 3: So that was good. I've been super busy this week,

1106
00:50:46,960 --> 00:50:49,600
Speaker 3: but I've managed to text Maria and get together with

1107
00:50:49,640 --> 00:50:51,719
Speaker 3: her last night, since James is out of town for

1108
00:50:51,719 --> 00:50:54,760
Speaker 3: a few days. He sat down and I just straight

1109
00:50:54,840 --> 00:50:56,919
Speaker 3: up asked her about what she told me the other night.

1110
00:50:57,520 --> 00:51:00,640
Speaker 3: She started crying and said that it was true. She

1111
00:51:00,760 --> 00:51:03,680
Speaker 3: slept with both Paul and Lewis, which suck to hear

1112
00:51:03,719 --> 00:51:05,759
Speaker 3: that it wasn't a wasted lie, but I knew better

1113
00:51:05,760 --> 00:51:08,759
Speaker 3: than to really believe that. She did, however, say that

1114
00:51:08,800 --> 00:51:10,920
Speaker 3: it only happened once with each guy.

1115
00:51:11,440 --> 00:51:13,600
Speaker 1: Which means it didn't count because.

1116
00:51:13,400 --> 00:51:15,560
Speaker 3: They could only happen once. It wasn't it wasn't a

1117
00:51:15,600 --> 00:51:16,400
Speaker 3: repeat offender.

1118
00:51:16,640 --> 00:51:19,800
Speaker 2: It was the same person. Yeah, dude, it was like

1119
00:51:19,840 --> 00:51:21,719
Speaker 2: the story the other day. She's like, Oh, I didn't cheat,

1120
00:51:21,760 --> 00:51:23,200
Speaker 2: I just did other stuff.

1121
00:51:23,400 --> 00:51:25,879
Speaker 3: I did other stuff leading out line.

1122
00:51:25,920 --> 00:51:30,200
Speaker 5: I basically just stubbed my toe and it it was

1123
00:51:30,239 --> 00:51:31,400
Speaker 5: a complete accident.

1124
00:51:31,600 --> 00:51:35,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, I thought I was gonna say something.

1125
00:51:35,040 --> 00:51:36,279
Speaker 1: I thought you were going to take that in a

1126
00:51:36,280 --> 00:51:37,000
Speaker 1: different direction.

1127
00:51:37,200 --> 00:51:40,640
Speaker 5: No, just the nature of the event was very like oopsie,

1128
00:51:40,800 --> 00:51:41,520
Speaker 5: that's all it was.

1129
00:51:41,840 --> 00:51:43,920
Speaker 3: I brought up how she said it's been going on

1130
00:51:44,000 --> 00:51:46,440
Speaker 3: for the past four months, but she said that it

1131
00:51:46,520 --> 00:51:49,719
Speaker 3: happened once with both of them, or the span of

1132
00:51:49,800 --> 00:51:52,560
Speaker 3: four months, and that she's been feeling guilty for the

1133
00:51:52,600 --> 00:51:54,319
Speaker 3: last four months, like.

1134
00:51:54,280 --> 00:51:57,680
Speaker 1: We weren't hooking up thought every day for four months.

1135
00:51:57,440 --> 00:52:00,359
Speaker 3: It was like once a week. She's like, I only

1136
00:52:00,360 --> 00:52:05,080
Speaker 3: hooked up with them once every day, once a day.

1137
00:52:05,800 --> 00:52:07,959
Speaker 3: I don't know if I believe her, but it really

1138
00:52:08,000 --> 00:52:11,160
Speaker 3: doesn't matter because she's still slept with two guys in

1139
00:52:11,239 --> 00:52:15,759
Speaker 3: committed relationships while being in a committed relationship herself. But

1140
00:52:15,840 --> 00:52:18,600
Speaker 3: I guess once is better than repeatedly. I mean she

1141
00:52:18,760 --> 00:52:22,120
Speaker 3: did repeatedly sleep with other people. Yes, I let her

1142
00:52:22,160 --> 00:52:24,319
Speaker 3: know that I didn't appreciate how little she valued her

1143
00:52:24,360 --> 00:52:26,400
Speaker 3: friendship with the girls and how I didn't trust her

1144
00:52:26,440 --> 00:52:29,359
Speaker 3: around James because of her actions. I told her that

1145
00:52:29,400 --> 00:52:31,920
Speaker 3: she was being destructive and needed to get help from

1146
00:52:31,960 --> 00:52:35,200
Speaker 3: a therapist to sort some stuff out. She agreed without

1147
00:52:35,280 --> 00:52:37,560
Speaker 3: question and said she's in the process of doing that.

1148
00:52:38,239 --> 00:52:40,600
Speaker 3: You know, she's acting terrible and she's been drinking a

1149
00:52:40,600 --> 00:52:42,640
Speaker 3: lot more. I was glad to know that she was

1150
00:52:42,680 --> 00:52:45,279
Speaker 3: at least trying to better herself. Then I told her

1151
00:52:45,320 --> 00:52:48,040
Speaker 3: that she needed to tell Vicki and Emma. She was

1152
00:52:48,160 --> 00:52:51,040
Speaker 3: very hesitant and defensive, but I told her that she'd

1153
00:52:51,040 --> 00:52:53,359
Speaker 3: want to know if she was in their shoes. I

1154
00:52:53,400 --> 00:52:55,120
Speaker 3: told her the best way would be to talk to

1155
00:52:55,160 --> 00:52:57,840
Speaker 3: the girls and then tell Paul and Lewis that she

1156
00:52:57,920 --> 00:53:01,960
Speaker 3: talked to them. By the way, you can talk to us. Oh,

1157
00:53:02,160 --> 00:53:04,680
Speaker 3: if you listen to full episodes with stories just like this,

1158
00:53:04,880 --> 00:53:08,879
Speaker 3: just go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and iHeartRadio and search

1159
00:53:08,880 --> 00:53:12,680
Speaker 3: abocus story time. We may not talk back, but you

1160
00:53:12,719 --> 00:53:13,440
Speaker 3: can keep talking.

1161
00:53:13,520 --> 00:53:14,560
Speaker 1: But we do sometimes we.

1162
00:53:14,960 --> 00:53:16,880
Speaker 3: Sometimes do if you're talk in the chat. Yeah, but

1163
00:53:16,920 --> 00:53:19,400
Speaker 3: there is a little bit left to this story. Oh,

1164
00:53:19,440 --> 00:53:20,520
Speaker 3: do you have any final thoughts?

1165
00:53:20,560 --> 00:53:22,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I think we need to just get

1166
00:53:22,600 --> 00:53:23,520
Speaker 2: away from this front.

1167
00:53:23,880 --> 00:53:24,719
Speaker 3: Oh freaking greet.

1168
00:53:24,920 --> 00:53:27,640
Speaker 2: I think this is just absolutely way too much. Everyone's like,

1169
00:53:27,680 --> 00:53:30,800
Speaker 2: oh well, not no, No, everyone's sleeping each other, everyone's

1170
00:53:30,880 --> 00:53:34,479
Speaker 2: cheating on each other. Go have fun doing that. I'm

1171
00:53:34,560 --> 00:53:38,120
Speaker 2: going to go have fun being away from you over here.

1172
00:53:38,320 --> 00:53:42,440
Speaker 3: Huh greed, Yes, because this is egregious. Ooh yeah, no,

1173
00:53:42,560 --> 00:53:45,400
Speaker 3: I think that uh to Ope's point about like wanting

1174
00:53:45,400 --> 00:53:50,160
Speaker 3: to get out before this all implodes. Honestly, I feel

1175
00:53:50,160 --> 00:53:52,719
Speaker 3: like you can. You can kind of and just like

1176
00:53:52,920 --> 00:53:55,480
Speaker 3: text the girlfriends and say, hey, you know I heard

1177
00:53:55,600 --> 00:53:58,520
Speaker 3: what went down. Yeah, I want to be there for you. Guys.

1178
00:53:58,640 --> 00:54:01,440
Speaker 3: Don't support the boyfriends the situation, Yeah yeah.

1179
00:54:01,320 --> 00:54:01,880
Speaker 1: You can still have.

1180
00:54:02,280 --> 00:54:05,440
Speaker 2: So far, they're presumed innocent from this, so maybe it

1181
00:54:05,480 --> 00:54:06,919
Speaker 2: maybe could continue to finisher with them.

1182
00:54:06,960 --> 00:54:09,160
Speaker 3: She's nervous and scared because she knows she's about to

1183
00:54:09,160 --> 00:54:10,879
Speaker 3: get a lot of hate. Well, she shouldn't have done

1184
00:54:10,920 --> 00:54:13,279
Speaker 3: what she did. I told her I go with her

1185
00:54:13,320 --> 00:54:14,960
Speaker 3: when she tells the girls, so I could be a

1186
00:54:15,040 --> 00:54:17,640
Speaker 3: mediator because I know Vicky is going to go mental.

1187
00:54:18,400 --> 00:54:21,239
Speaker 3: Also because if she decides to back out slash not

1188
00:54:21,320 --> 00:54:23,400
Speaker 3: show up. I told her I would tell them the

1189
00:54:23,440 --> 00:54:26,280
Speaker 3: information I knew and let them decide, But then after

1190
00:54:26,320 --> 00:54:28,680
Speaker 3: that I was going to distance myself from her and

1191
00:54:28,719 --> 00:54:31,360
Speaker 3: the group so she can get help and the others

1192
00:54:31,360 --> 00:54:34,160
Speaker 3: can figure out their problems on their own. She thanked me,

1193
00:54:34,200 --> 00:54:36,000
Speaker 3: and we had to have a set a lunch date

1194
00:54:36,040 --> 00:54:38,719
Speaker 3: with the girls for next week. I already know it's

1195
00:54:38,760 --> 00:54:41,000
Speaker 3: not gonna go well. I mean, how would that conversation

1196
00:54:41,120 --> 00:54:41,480
Speaker 3: ever go?

1197
00:54:41,600 --> 00:54:41,839
Speaker 1: Well?

1198
00:54:41,920 --> 00:54:44,279
Speaker 3: Right, yeah, how would that ever go? Well?

1199
00:54:44,640 --> 00:54:47,320
Speaker 1: I just like love that you like slipt to my boyfriend.

1200
00:54:47,320 --> 00:54:49,319
Speaker 3: It's like so great, like, thank you so much for

1201
00:54:49,360 --> 00:54:51,000
Speaker 3: telling me the truth. I really appreciate that.

1202
00:54:51,200 --> 00:54:54,239
Speaker 1: Right, you should be like, should break up with them.

1203
00:54:54,280 --> 00:54:55,120
Speaker 1: He wasn't that good.

1204
00:54:55,400 --> 00:54:58,719
Speaker 3: See, I agree with that. That's not even evil, that's

1205
00:54:58,880 --> 00:55:04,120
Speaker 3: just real. I won't update that conversation because it's just

1206
00:55:04,160 --> 00:55:06,200
Speaker 3: got to be a lot of hurt and anger. But

1207
00:55:06,280 --> 00:55:08,560
Speaker 3: I am confident that after the lunch, I'm going to

1208
00:55:08,560 --> 00:55:10,840
Speaker 3: be spending a lot more time with James and finding

1209
00:55:10,880 --> 00:55:14,000
Speaker 3: a new hobby slash bookstore, slash sport, to find new

1210
00:55:14,000 --> 00:55:16,360
Speaker 3: people to hang out with because this was just too

1211
00:55:16,480 --> 00:55:20,720
Speaker 3: much Amen's sister And that is the end of that story.

1212
00:55:21,000 --> 00:55:25,080
Speaker 3: Whoa and the end of this episode. No, Santa and

1213
00:55:25,200 --> 00:55:28,759
Speaker 3: So say it ain't so, but it is so so.

1214
00:55:29,760 --> 00:55:32,360
Speaker 3: If you love us, make sure to subscribe We love you,

1215
00:55:32,880 --> 00:55:34,239
Speaker 3: and see tomorrow.