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Speaker 1: Misspelling with Tory Spelling and iHeartRadio podcast. We all deal

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Speaker 1: with a lot of stuff in our lives and things

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Speaker 1: are hard, things are challenging. But I gotta say, I'm

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Speaker 1: a tough cookie. I can usually get through anything. But

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Speaker 1: I'm just going to say, back to school, Oh boy,

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Speaker 1: what might be the most challenging thing in life. It's

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Speaker 1: a bold statement. Fact. Back to school is really hard.

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Speaker 1: It's not easy. It's it's not for the week. So

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Speaker 1: my kids went back to school, which is a blessing

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Speaker 1: and a curse because I'm kind of you know, there's

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Speaker 1: there's two camps, right, there's the parents that are like,

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Speaker 1: oh god, they're back to school. I can get my

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Speaker 1: stuff done, my kids around, I gotta say, And even

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Speaker 1: that I hate. So summer to me, summer break is

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Speaker 1: joyous because I'm like, Okay, that's kind of my knee

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Speaker 1: time is I wake up early and I can get

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Speaker 1: parents and they still have kids even when they get older.

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Speaker 1: That you know, wake up at five am, six am.

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Speaker 1: My kids sleep like if I didn't wake them, which

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Speaker 1: during summer I'm like, quiet, what don't wake the beast?

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Speaker 1: It's sleep all day, which during summer I'm mad at that.

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Speaker 1: But back to the grind. I will toot my own

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Speaker 1: horn for a moment, which you know I don't like

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Speaker 1: to do. But five kids back to school, Oh my god,

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Speaker 1: it's wow. It's a lot so this year in particular,

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Speaker 1: and this is the first year I have five kids

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Speaker 1: with five drop offs and pickups, which doing alone is

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Speaker 1: not humanly possible. And their dad helps, but he's working,

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Speaker 1: and so we have to coordinate schedules. And primarily I'm well,

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Speaker 1: I'm the Uber driver. I am a glorified Uber driver,

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Speaker 1: adding that to my resume, call myself Torri of all trades,

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Speaker 1: and now I am I'm a great driver. Ill I mean,

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Speaker 1: but yeah, I do five drop offs this year. Hi,

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Speaker 1: I'm Tori, and I do five draws, which you know,

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Speaker 1: some out there might say, okay, well you have five

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Speaker 1: drop offs, but it's the time crunch. It's the you know,

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Speaker 1: it's not on Tory time, which is I'm if you

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Speaker 1: know me, you know, if you know you know, I'm

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Speaker 1: notoriously late to everything, but school waits for no one.

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Speaker 1: They man don't care, you know, they're minute late. They're charty,

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Speaker 1: So don't want to be a tardy to the party,

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Speaker 1: the school party. So it's gonna not that you care.

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Speaker 1: Run you through my drop offs because they're kind of

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Speaker 1: not humanly possible, which is something I'm grappling with. So

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Speaker 1: from each other, so I have to, uh, I have

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Speaker 1: to go. Wow, I have to get my youngest to

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Speaker 1: his elementary school. He's the first drop off. I have

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Speaker 1: to then get my next two to their middle school.

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Speaker 1: I then have to get my daughter Stella to her

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Speaker 1: And they have really odd times for drop offs and picks. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so it's like one of them is like at eight fifty.

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Speaker 1: It's like eight fifty. Okay, it's not eight thirty, it's

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Speaker 1: not nine, it's eight fifty. Cool one is eight thirty five.

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Speaker 1: The challenging one is one is at eight thirty and

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Speaker 1: could like time warp or fly or you know, just

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Speaker 1: like what they do in Bewitch, which your no, and

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Speaker 1: like you're there or going back to my bestie William Shatner,

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Speaker 1: beat me up, Scottie, be me to school. It just

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Speaker 1: it's not humanly possible to get from somewhere at drop

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Speaker 1: the tricks for that, let me know. And their public school,

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Speaker 1: so you know, no one's you know, it's not some

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Speaker 1: we understand the challenge. We'll make an exception because you

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Speaker 1: are physically geographically not able to do that. It's like, no,

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Speaker 1: they don't wait for anyone. You know, there's thousands of kids,

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Speaker 1: and it's like you got to be in class. So

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Speaker 1: thirty five, but you have to be like in the classroom,

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Speaker 1: so I'm trying to work that out. As the robot,

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Speaker 1: I am not and I can't make magic happen. Well

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Speaker 1: I wish I could, but so that's that's my challenge.

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Speaker 1: And you know, I know we're all dealing with the

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Speaker 1: getting them ready for back to school. I was like,

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Speaker 1: I just don't have it in me. I'm like, what

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Speaker 1: are the basics? What do you need? You know, they

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Speaker 1: send you lists and you get all these emails, you

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Speaker 1: get fifty million emails and you're just like, oh my gosh,

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Speaker 1: I'm all. First of all, my inbox takes school out

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Speaker 1: of it is filled with spam, and I'm tech challenge,

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Speaker 1: So tell myself that so I can be lazy and

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Speaker 1: of getting all the spam removed. But I mean I

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Speaker 1: get spam for the weirdest things. And you, guys, I'm

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Speaker 1: telling you, I mean you would think someone hears us, right,

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Speaker 1: is it Alexa? Alexa? Is it Siri? Whatever? Is it? Amazon?

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Speaker 1: Hears us? I don't know our computers, our phones, they

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Speaker 1: somehow know what we look into and send us that.

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Speaker 1: You guys, I don't even watch porn, Like I get

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Speaker 1: so much porn spam you would think for the amount

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Speaker 1: spam and like lots of emails from like you know,

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Speaker 1: I don't know, Keptobismo or like emodium or or something

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Speaker 1: It's like, you know, how to increase the size of

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Speaker 1: to increase the size of my penis. Thank you. Can

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Speaker 1: we get that removed? And it's just like all of

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Speaker 1: and you know they probably don't think most have five kids,

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Speaker 1: so you know, they're like, these are really important. You

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Speaker 1: emails daily, by so many things saying poor me here.

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Speaker 1: You know this is I chose to have these five beings,

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Speaker 1: not to mention work. I mean, god forbid, you're not

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Speaker 1: drop offs and doing the apparently things. You might actually

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Speaker 1: And the people are like, oh, I know, you know,

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Speaker 1: where's your me time? Like me time? Are you a

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Speaker 1: time if I tried, but you know, it's just it's

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Speaker 1: do envy a little bit, like moms are like, oh okay,

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Speaker 1: but on the list future plans, but yeah, they're all

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Speaker 1: So yeah, I should get some sort of is there

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Speaker 1: like a special rewards program for like you know they

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Speaker 1: drop off, pickup. Well, I know Stella is a junior

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Speaker 1: I want to say PTSD. I want to say it's triggering. No,

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Speaker 1: And she said to me the other day, not said

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Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, I feel your sister. Yeah, no, no,

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Speaker 1: And you know I don't lie. I ate lunch one time.

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Speaker 1: feel like you have to be like you can do this,

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Speaker 1: she can be on her phone during lunch and you know,

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Speaker 1: I was like, it's a beautiful day and thought, this

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Speaker 1: Ready for fall clothes? Nope? So hot here? But she uh,

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Speaker 1: I was like, you know, find a shady place, just

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Speaker 1: try to tell her everyone is in because I went

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Speaker 1: through this my whole life thinking like you know, a

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Speaker 1: I tell myself this doesn't work. So Lisa, I'm telling her,

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Speaker 1: I'm like, you know what, everyone is in their own

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Speaker 1: love to one day just be like, hey, man, what's

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00:29:52,040 --> 00:29:55,719
Speaker 1: your Starbucks order? Let me bring you something, you know,

420
00:29:55,800 --> 00:30:00,000
Speaker 1: because I feel like that is a job that's not appreciated,

421
00:30:00,560 --> 00:30:03,240
Speaker 1: that is a job that they're there. And I'm always

422
00:30:03,320 --> 00:30:08,240
Speaker 1: curious what their backstory is because one of our schools

423
00:30:08,720 --> 00:30:11,280
Speaker 1: there is a woman. But for the most part, all

424
00:30:11,360 --> 00:30:16,520
Speaker 1: the schools there are men that I've encountered, and they're older.

425
00:30:16,800 --> 00:30:19,360
Speaker 1: So I'm like, oh, you know what, are they tired?

426
00:30:19,760 --> 00:30:24,520
Speaker 1: Like I love people, so I love box stories and

427
00:30:24,560 --> 00:30:27,560
Speaker 1: I mean, you know me, I always create. I'm a creator,

428
00:30:27,560 --> 00:30:30,800
Speaker 1: I'm a producer. So in my head, I've already created

429
00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:34,440
Speaker 1: their backstory. You know, where they've been, what they're doing,

430
00:30:34,520 --> 00:30:39,040
Speaker 1: who they're with, you know, and then you know Aaron

431
00:30:39,120 --> 00:30:43,600
Speaker 1: Spelling's daughter, I'm like, that's ad some intrigue and mystery.

432
00:30:45,080 --> 00:30:48,280
Speaker 1: So there's only some scandal is going on yet on

433
00:30:48,480 --> 00:30:51,920
Speaker 1: the things that get you through the day. But yeah,

434
00:30:52,120 --> 00:30:56,440
Speaker 1: they and there's two of them. I broke them down

435
00:30:56,760 --> 00:31:01,800
Speaker 1: for a few years at our elementary school and they're

436
00:31:01,880 --> 00:31:05,800
Speaker 1: you know what they're like, what are they at Buckingham Palace?

437
00:31:05,960 --> 00:31:10,880
Speaker 1: The guards there? What is that? That's that's the British guards.

438
00:31:11,240 --> 00:31:15,160
Speaker 1: They're the guards. And that's the thing like when you

439
00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:18,280
Speaker 1: see them, like they won't break character, right. You know,

440
00:31:18,600 --> 00:31:20,840
Speaker 1: people go in and they're like they need to try

441
00:31:20,840 --> 00:31:24,000
Speaker 1: to make them laugh and stuff, and they like nothing, right,

442
00:31:24,200 --> 00:31:27,560
Speaker 1: they show no emotion, kind of like me, yeah, right,

443
00:31:29,080 --> 00:31:33,680
Speaker 1: I wouldn't do well. I'd be like, she's just kidding.

444
00:31:35,800 --> 00:31:39,680
Speaker 1: Tell the queen no, no, no no. But the crossing guards

445
00:31:39,840 --> 00:31:44,120
Speaker 1: stone cold like they they just are there and they

446
00:31:44,160 --> 00:31:48,320
Speaker 1: are serious. They're seriously they're doing their job. They are

447
00:31:48,360 --> 00:31:53,200
Speaker 1: protecting kids and parents, and I love that. But this

448
00:31:53,360 --> 00:31:56,240
Speaker 1: is the first year that, you know, because I always

449
00:31:56,280 --> 00:31:58,720
Speaker 1: I feel like parents are like no, no, no, they

450
00:31:58,760 --> 00:32:03,120
Speaker 1: don't make eye contact. And I always, every single time

451
00:32:03,200 --> 00:32:06,360
Speaker 1: when I'm going in, going out, I always turn to them.

452
00:32:06,440 --> 00:32:10,920
Speaker 1: I smile and I say thank you. You know, I'm grateful.

453
00:32:11,400 --> 00:32:15,000
Speaker 1: I don't say it in my head, communicate that with

454
00:32:15,120 --> 00:32:18,560
Speaker 1: my smile in my eyes. Yeah. I want them to

455
00:32:18,680 --> 00:32:24,040
Speaker 1: know that it's not unnoticed what they do for our children. Wait,

456
00:32:24,120 --> 00:32:28,480
Speaker 1: do they respond this year though, to it our elementary

457
00:32:29,040 --> 00:32:34,360
Speaker 1: I not, and I smile. They've made eye contact. They're

458
00:32:34,840 --> 00:32:41,920
Speaker 1: broken the mold of cross guards and they're now like yeah,

459
00:32:41,960 --> 00:32:45,920
Speaker 1: and they acknowledge me and smile back, and I'm like winning.

460
00:32:46,400 --> 00:32:48,840
Speaker 1: But that loop. So I had a moment the other

461
00:32:48,960 --> 00:32:54,000
Speaker 1: day where I was home and I was doing I

462
00:32:54,040 --> 00:32:58,280
Speaker 1: think I was doing my podcast and I was doing OMG,

463
00:32:58,760 --> 00:33:01,720
Speaker 1: and I had to get afterwards because then you know

464
00:33:01,800 --> 00:33:04,600
Speaker 1: what schools like to fuck with us, and they're like, hey,

465
00:33:05,000 --> 00:33:10,920
Speaker 1: by the way, parents, working parents out there in the

466
00:33:10,960 --> 00:33:14,680
Speaker 1: middle of the week on a hump day, you know

467
00:33:14,760 --> 00:33:17,720
Speaker 1: that day we're supposed to be like, we got this,

468
00:33:17,880 --> 00:33:23,960
Speaker 1: We're over the hump. We've climbed that mountain. Monday and Tuesday, Wednesday,

469
00:33:24,160 --> 00:33:27,080
Speaker 1: that's supposed to be our day because it's all easy

470
00:33:27,240 --> 00:33:33,720
Speaker 1: sailing after this Thursday Friday. They're like, nope, think again,

471
00:33:33,840 --> 00:33:39,280
Speaker 1: we're gonna fuck with you now. So on Wednesdays it's

472
00:33:39,360 --> 00:33:43,480
Speaker 1: called minimal dates. Yep, that's a thing that wasn't there

473
00:33:43,520 --> 00:33:46,800
Speaker 1: when I went to school. And it's an early day.

474
00:33:47,360 --> 00:33:50,840
Speaker 1: So you know, for all of us that work schedules,

475
00:33:50,840 --> 00:33:53,360
Speaker 1: for all the parents out there, nine to five jobs,

476
00:33:53,720 --> 00:33:57,000
Speaker 1: not only are we going to make it difficult for

477
00:33:57,200 --> 00:34:01,880
Speaker 1: you know, drop offs and pickups, but now on Wednesdays

478
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:04,840
Speaker 1: we're going to be like, it's about three o'clock anymore.

479
00:34:05,280 --> 00:34:11,239
Speaker 1: It's twelve today, yeah, and you're like, what what do

480
00:34:11,280 --> 00:34:14,120
Speaker 1: you do? It's like in the middle of the day

481
00:34:14,880 --> 00:34:21,120
Speaker 1: and there's no aftercare. Maybe it's some schools they have aftercare.

482
00:34:21,400 --> 00:34:25,000
Speaker 1: I'm not sure. My schools are public schools. There's no aftercare,

483
00:34:25,200 --> 00:34:27,879
Speaker 1: so you can't say I'm so sorry I'm working. Can

484
00:34:27,920 --> 00:34:32,120
Speaker 1: my child go into aftercare, you know for a couple hours,

485
00:34:32,120 --> 00:34:34,640
Speaker 1: Like nope, this is the pickup time. You got fifteen

486
00:34:34,840 --> 00:34:37,640
Speaker 1: thirty minutes, mac Or they're going the front office, and

487
00:34:37,640 --> 00:34:39,640
Speaker 1: I don't want to go to the front office. I'm

488
00:34:39,719 --> 00:34:42,360
Speaker 1: not human that if I have to go to the

489
00:34:42,360 --> 00:34:47,440
Speaker 1: front office, I go right back to my like thirteen

490
00:34:47,560 --> 00:34:51,960
Speaker 1: year old self, where I'm like terrified. I walk in,

491
00:34:52,320 --> 00:34:55,400
Speaker 1: always make eye contact. My parents talk me well, but

492
00:34:56,239 --> 00:35:00,680
Speaker 1: I make eye contact, but I will Yeah, I miss Michelle.

493
00:35:01,040 --> 00:35:05,600
Speaker 1: I you know, it's still you know, I'm very proper,

494
00:35:05,960 --> 00:35:10,600
Speaker 1: and I'm freaking terrified because I'm like, I'm a school.

495
00:35:10,680 --> 00:35:13,839
Speaker 1: Oh my god. I feel like I'm a kid, and

496
00:35:14,920 --> 00:35:19,920
Speaker 1: the teachers, the staff, the principal. I'm constantly like, I'm

497
00:35:19,960 --> 00:35:22,800
Speaker 1: I'm in trouble to hate me. What I do wrong

498
00:35:23,239 --> 00:35:27,560
Speaker 1: is again, I don't like to break rules, conventional rules.

499
00:35:27,719 --> 00:35:29,759
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my gosh, I don't want to go

500
00:35:29,840 --> 00:35:32,120
Speaker 1: the principal's office. Never been there. I'm not going to

501
00:35:32,200 --> 00:35:35,200
Speaker 1: do it now with my kids. But like, yeah, I

502
00:35:35,280 --> 00:35:38,640
Speaker 1: walk in and I'm just like my hands are together,

503
00:35:39,239 --> 00:35:42,959
Speaker 1: shoulders back. I'm very like prim and proper and turn

504
00:35:43,120 --> 00:35:46,719
Speaker 1: into a thirteen year old version of myself wanting to

505
00:35:46,800 --> 00:35:50,160
Speaker 1: like stay in line because I'm talking to my elders,

506
00:35:51,120 --> 00:35:53,279
Speaker 1: who most of them are like younger than me. So

507
00:35:53,320 --> 00:35:57,360
Speaker 1: it's like weird, it's such a weird echonomy, like what's happening?

508
00:35:57,680 --> 00:36:05,520
Speaker 1: But yeah, so Wednesdays, Wednesdays are a bitch, like a

509
00:36:05,560 --> 00:36:10,840
Speaker 1: Melrose tagline. No Mondays, it's We're Wednesdays nine two and

510
00:36:10,920 --> 00:36:15,520
Speaker 1: oh Melrose was after and then switched to Monday. AnyWho

511
00:36:15,960 --> 00:36:19,520
Speaker 1: the loop? Yeah, the loop? They don't. Yeah, you go

512
00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:23,799
Speaker 1: into that one loop and they have staff there and

513
00:36:24,239 --> 00:36:27,600
Speaker 1: teachers aides that are all you know, they are dedicating

514
00:36:27,719 --> 00:36:31,280
Speaker 1: so much God blessed teachers and teachers' aides and everyone

515
00:36:31,360 --> 00:36:35,719
Speaker 1: who works with the school system. They give so much, honestly.

516
00:36:36,080 --> 00:36:39,759
Speaker 1: And you pull in though, and they it's you know,

517
00:36:39,800 --> 00:36:41,960
Speaker 1: they got to keep you moving because of the hundreds

518
00:36:42,040 --> 00:36:45,560
Speaker 1: of cars you've seen line up, lined up, So you

519
00:36:46,000 --> 00:36:49,359
Speaker 1: pull into the loop. Once you're in that loop, they

520
00:36:49,360 --> 00:36:52,160
Speaker 1: are like, move forward, get your kids, move forward, move forward,

521
00:36:52,320 --> 00:36:56,239
Speaker 1: move forward. So you know, most parents are like strolling

522
00:36:56,400 --> 00:37:01,600
Speaker 1: and chat and I want to be the chatters. People

523
00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:05,000
Speaker 1: like me and I want to say hi to everyone,

524
00:37:05,680 --> 00:37:09,840
Speaker 1: but I'm also panicked that, you know, I'm not following

525
00:37:09,920 --> 00:37:13,200
Speaker 1: protocol and I got to move my car up. So

526
00:37:13,680 --> 00:37:17,880
Speaker 1: going back, circling back, I was doing OMG, doing my

527
00:37:17,960 --> 00:37:20,040
Speaker 1: podcast and I looked and I was like, oh my god,

528
00:37:20,520 --> 00:37:22,480
Speaker 1: it's time to go. I got to go to pick up.

529
00:37:22,640 --> 00:37:25,879
Speaker 1: Oh my god, to be their inten minutes get there.

530
00:37:26,040 --> 00:37:29,239
Speaker 1: I get there in ten minutes at this school that

531
00:37:29,400 --> 00:37:33,160
Speaker 1: I'm talking about, and then there's the line. So I'm

532
00:37:33,200 --> 00:37:36,680
Speaker 1: waiting in the line, waiting in the line, and it

533
00:37:37,120 --> 00:37:43,360
Speaker 1: just again, timing isn't feasible with all my pickups and

534
00:37:43,480 --> 00:37:48,000
Speaker 1: drop offs with all five, but you know, you add

535
00:37:48,080 --> 00:37:51,120
Speaker 1: on the hundreds of cars waiting in the line to

536
00:37:51,120 --> 00:37:53,799
Speaker 1: get in there, and you're like, okay, now I'm even

537
00:37:53,840 --> 00:37:56,839
Speaker 1: more screwed. But I ran out of the house because

538
00:37:56,880 --> 00:37:59,880
Speaker 1: I was like, do you get oh when I have

539
00:38:00,080 --> 00:38:02,560
Speaker 1: to be in that line, because I have ten minutes

540
00:38:02,600 --> 00:38:06,040
Speaker 1: to get to Stella. After that, it's fifteen minutes away

541
00:38:06,960 --> 00:38:10,520
Speaker 1: go and I'm not gonna lie. I ran out of

542
00:38:10,520 --> 00:38:16,520
Speaker 1: the house with no shoes and I got there and

543
00:38:16,840 --> 00:38:21,040
Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, because if it's like

544
00:38:21,239 --> 00:38:25,719
Speaker 1: a moving fluid day, they have someone there and they

545
00:38:25,719 --> 00:38:28,520
Speaker 1: will open the car door and put him in the car.

546
00:38:29,680 --> 00:38:34,200
Speaker 1: When I got there, it was like, ooh, mad house again.

547
00:38:34,440 --> 00:38:39,400
Speaker 1: First week weeks of school and things are not running

548
00:38:39,440 --> 00:38:44,480
Speaker 1: smoothly yet. So I got there and I see Bo,

549
00:38:45,600 --> 00:38:48,960
Speaker 1: and first of all, I was like, oh, look at Bo.

550
00:38:49,560 --> 00:38:54,000
Speaker 1: He's a big man on campus now because Finn just

551
00:38:54,080 --> 00:38:58,520
Speaker 1: moved on to middle school this year. So Bo has

552
00:38:58,560 --> 00:39:01,319
Speaker 1: no siblings at his elm ntry, so he has to

553
00:39:01,360 --> 00:39:04,080
Speaker 1: like said for himself, you know before be like the

554
00:39:04,120 --> 00:39:06,720
Speaker 1: sibling picks the other one up and the older one

555
00:39:06,760 --> 00:39:11,480
Speaker 1: and walks theto the car. And yeah, so Bo's just

556
00:39:11,560 --> 00:39:15,520
Speaker 1: like he's in first grade. He's thrust out there. He's

557
00:39:15,600 --> 00:39:20,080
Speaker 1: the gladdest dinosaur backpack, one of those wheelly ones with

558
00:39:20,480 --> 00:39:25,759
Speaker 1: rappets in it. Love you Amazon super cheap too, just

559
00:39:25,800 --> 00:39:32,640
Speaker 1: like anything and everything so Amazon Prime. We got here

560
00:39:32,680 --> 00:39:34,600
Speaker 1: in a day because I'm not a playing I didn't

561
00:39:34,600 --> 00:39:38,759
Speaker 1: think ahead before school started. Anyway, I get there, I

562
00:39:38,800 --> 00:39:41,680
Speaker 1: see Bo and he is in a circle with friends

563
00:39:41,719 --> 00:39:46,359
Speaker 1: and he's chatting and I'm doing that mad mom wave

564
00:39:46,440 --> 00:39:52,759
Speaker 1: and I'm like, see if he sees me? And you

565
00:39:53,080 --> 00:39:56,120
Speaker 1: d have seen me because you love me? Were in

566
00:39:56,160 --> 00:39:59,239
Speaker 1: my eyes and then kept looking and that is like,

567
00:39:59,560 --> 00:40:03,640
Speaker 1: you know, you're like hoy, and he just like looks

568
00:40:03,680 --> 00:40:06,719
Speaker 1: and looks past you and keeps looking like as if

569
00:40:06,719 --> 00:40:09,279
Speaker 1: you're like not there. And I'm like, oh my gosh,

570
00:40:09,840 --> 00:40:11,640
Speaker 1: he has to see me. He has to start to

571
00:40:11,680 --> 00:40:14,560
Speaker 1: walk towards the car. I have no shoes on. I

572
00:40:14,560 --> 00:40:17,320
Speaker 1: can't get out of the car. And I look forward

573
00:40:17,400 --> 00:40:20,640
Speaker 1: and they're like, move up, move up, we got a line,

574
00:40:20,800 --> 00:40:24,120
Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh my god. Panic. So I full

575
00:40:24,200 --> 00:40:29,680
Speaker 1: on felt like I pulled a Brittany moment. I jumped

576
00:40:29,680 --> 00:40:33,440
Speaker 1: out of the car, no shoes on, and just like

577
00:40:34,400 --> 00:40:37,440
Speaker 1: ran to him and I'm like, you know, you got

578
00:40:37,560 --> 00:40:39,880
Speaker 1: to you gotta go in nice always a positive before

579
00:40:39,880 --> 00:40:43,840
Speaker 1: and negative. And I was like, hy buddy, what's your day.

580
00:40:44,840 --> 00:40:47,960
Speaker 1: You're having fun. Let's get the car, you know kind

581
00:40:48,000 --> 00:40:52,200
Speaker 1: of thing. But you know, and uh and in my head,

582
00:40:52,400 --> 00:40:56,760
Speaker 1: which again as I tell Stella, think about their own stuff,

583
00:40:56,800 --> 00:40:59,719
Speaker 1: they're not looking at you. They're not Now. I was

584
00:40:59,760 --> 00:41:06,120
Speaker 1: to spelling, running at full speed, sweating, panicked, holding up

585
00:41:06,120 --> 00:41:09,880
Speaker 1: a line at a public school. Everyone was looking at me.

586
00:41:09,960 --> 00:41:13,959
Speaker 1: Let's be honest, with no shoes, with no shoes and

587
00:41:14,880 --> 00:41:17,440
Speaker 1: all I know is. I was like, of course, visual me.

588
00:41:17,560 --> 00:41:20,320
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, Britney spears in the gas station,

589
00:41:20,480 --> 00:41:25,400
Speaker 1: no shoes, like walking, Oh my gosh, all those false headlines.

590
00:41:25,440 --> 00:41:28,520
Speaker 1: This toy's been homeless, Oh my god, like you know,

591
00:41:29,400 --> 00:41:32,440
Speaker 1: down her luck, you know, and now she's walking the

592
00:41:32,560 --> 00:41:37,840
Speaker 1: streets no shoes. This girl has lost it. Oh, not

593
00:41:38,000 --> 00:41:40,680
Speaker 1: to mention, it's like one hundred degrees right now. So

594
00:41:40,800 --> 00:41:45,840
Speaker 1: my tootsies were burning this. If all this fails, I'll

595
00:41:45,920 --> 00:41:49,680
Speaker 1: never be able to go on feet Finder now yeap,

596
00:41:50,120 --> 00:41:54,760
Speaker 1: my soul's are born up. But that's the whole other story.

597
00:41:54,800 --> 00:41:58,839
Speaker 1: I'll think about that later. But yeah, yeah, and I know,

598
00:41:59,360 --> 00:42:03,520
Speaker 1: I know people were like, h yeah, I knew she'd

599
00:42:03,520 --> 00:42:07,359
Speaker 1: come undone. Obviously, I'm still thinking about it. But yeah,

600
00:42:08,040 --> 00:42:11,319
Speaker 1: so I grabbed him. You can grab him, like come on,

601
00:42:11,400 --> 00:42:13,799
Speaker 1: come on, come on, because he's got the wheelie, so

602
00:42:14,000 --> 00:42:17,600
Speaker 1: you know he's doing fine. But you know, my people

603
00:42:17,800 --> 00:42:22,920
Speaker 1: criticize me on social media. Someone zoomed in and people

604
00:42:22,960 --> 00:42:25,680
Speaker 1: say this all the time. No one's looking at that,

605
00:42:26,040 --> 00:42:29,080
Speaker 1: no one's looking I'm a detailed person to begin with,

606
00:42:29,280 --> 00:42:33,400
Speaker 1: as you know, but people, I'm like people screenshots stories,

607
00:42:34,160 --> 00:42:37,200
Speaker 1: they zoom in on stuff they find the weirdest thing

608
00:42:37,239 --> 00:42:41,239
Speaker 1: that everyone's like, no one's ever gonna notice that. They notice.

609
00:42:41,640 --> 00:42:44,960
Speaker 1: So always in the back of my head, someone was like,

610
00:42:45,880 --> 00:42:51,000
Speaker 1: hits are hard on their shoes. We know that. And honestly, like,

611
00:42:51,040 --> 00:42:53,120
Speaker 1: I don't know what people think of me. I'm a

612
00:42:53,200 --> 00:42:56,279
Speaker 1: normal mom. Like my kid has one bear, you know,

613
00:42:56,640 --> 00:42:59,040
Speaker 1: he has one bear of crocs. He wears a home.

614
00:42:59,160 --> 00:43:01,279
Speaker 1: He has to have ten shoes for school. He has

615
00:43:01,320 --> 00:43:04,880
Speaker 1: one pair of sneakers and he's worn them ragged. He

616
00:43:05,040 --> 00:43:07,960
Speaker 1: just bought a new pair for the school year, but

617
00:43:08,320 --> 00:43:12,200
Speaker 1: I can't forget last year when piece of his like

618
00:43:13,160 --> 00:43:17,320
Speaker 1: I mean they were Nike, they were chic oh yellow

619
00:43:17,360 --> 00:43:21,879
Speaker 1: and black, they're sweets. Anyway, he like was harming on them.

620
00:43:21,920 --> 00:43:25,319
Speaker 1: He plays, he runs, and that is one pair of sneakers,

621
00:43:26,040 --> 00:43:29,319
Speaker 1: and you know, it was like ripping up in the front.

622
00:43:29,360 --> 00:43:32,440
Speaker 1: And so I was like, oh my god, Like, what's

623
00:43:32,520 --> 00:43:35,520
Speaker 1: wrong with you as a mom? Buy your kid a

624
00:43:35,560 --> 00:43:39,960
Speaker 1: new pair of shoes. You know, I can't believe you

625
00:43:40,040 --> 00:43:44,239
Speaker 1: let your kids go out lips. This is horrific, Like

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Speaker 1: torn up shoes. I'm like what I mean, I'm like what,

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Speaker 1: But I'm like, oh, shoot, holding onto that one comment.

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Speaker 1: So hey, whoever put that comment on my Instagram, I

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Speaker 1: still think about you boo anyway. So I'm like, oh, great,

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Speaker 1: first that, now I'm like run across the schoolyard on

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Speaker 1: public street with no shoes. How is your week,