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Speaker 1: Okay, guys, I am officially on my High and Mighty tour.

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Speaker 1: March thirteenth, Cleveland, Ohio. March fourteenth Columbus, Ohio. March fifteenth, Cincinnati, Ohio,

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Speaker 1: and then March twentieth is Denver, Colorado. March twenty seventh, Portland, Maine.

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Speaker 1: March twenty eighth, Providence, Rhode Island. March twenty ninth, Springfield, Massachusetts.

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Speaker 1: April tenth is Chicago. I'll be at the Chicago Theater.

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Speaker 1: April eleventh, Indianapolis, Indiana. April twelfth Louisville, Kentucky. April sixteenth

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Speaker 1: is Albuquerque, New Mexico. April seventeenth is Mesa, Arizona. April

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Speaker 1: twenty third is Kansas City, Missouri. April twenty fourth is

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Speaker 1: Saint Louis, Missouri. April twenty fifth is Minneapolis, Minnesota. April

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Speaker 1: thirtieth Nashville, Tennessee. May first is Charlotte, North Carolina. May

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Speaker 1: second is Durham, North Carolina. May sixth, I'm doing Netflix

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Speaker 1: as a joke festival. I will be in Los Angeles.

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Speaker 1: That is a new announcement, along with Atlantic City. May fifteenth, Toga, California.

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Speaker 1: May sixteenth, Monterey, California, May seventeenth Modesto, California, and then

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Speaker 1: June fourth.

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Speaker 2: Portchester, New York.

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Speaker 1: June fifth is Boston, mass And June twelfth is Portland, Oregon.

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Speaker 1: And then Seattle is June thirteenth. So suck on that.

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Speaker 1: Everybody go to Chelseahandler dot com for tickets.

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Speaker 3: Hi, Catherine, how are you?

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Speaker 4: Hi, Chelsea? You've got a full house today.

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Speaker 5: I do.

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Speaker 3: I'm Mac and Whistler.

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Speaker 2: I went to Finland, then I went to Istanbul.

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Speaker 1: Then I went to la for one night, then I

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Speaker 1: went to Vegas for my show in Vegas, and then

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Speaker 1: I'm now I'm in Whistler.

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Speaker 3: It's a tilt to world. It's a tilt to world truly.

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Speaker 4: Okay, tell me about Istanbul, because you seem like you

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Speaker 4: had a really magical time there.

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Speaker 1: It was pretty It was pretty beautiful. It was a

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Speaker 1: beautiful trip. It was just so cultural, like you learn

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Speaker 3: It was like a street. It's not considered a Muslim country.

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Speaker 1: It's considered a secular country, but it's it's ninety nine

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Speaker 1: point nine percent Muslim, so they call for prayer all

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Speaker 1: day long. And we got like a huge history on

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Speaker 3: Empire, then met the Conqueror.

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Speaker 1: It was like full on and then one side is Asia,

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Speaker 1: one side's Europe, so you can like be on two continents,

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Speaker 3: So yeah, it was really beautiful.

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Speaker 1: Finland was absolutely stunning, one of the most beautiful, most

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Speaker 1: we went to Helsinki, not as beautiful. That felt like

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Speaker 1: I was in a Russian bathhouse. There was ice everywhere.

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Speaker 1: There was more ice in Helsinki than there was an Antarctica,

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Speaker 3: And it wasn't the good kind. It was just slush everywhere.

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Speaker 3: Was a shit show.

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Speaker 4: Oh no, so it's like warming up and getting slushy

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Speaker 3: It was like black snow.

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Speaker 1: And all they do in Finland is sauna and karaoke,

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Speaker 1: so they may as well just put the karaoke inside

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Speaker 1: the sauna and kill two birds with one stone and

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Speaker 3: Do you have a karaoke song?

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Speaker 3: I don't. I don't do that.

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Speaker 1: I don't participate in karaoke, don't partici no I don't

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Speaker 1: My dancing is bad enough, so I figure I just

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Speaker 1: The LSDA is here and ready to stay. Guys, I

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Speaker 4: Mean, speaking of things that'll change your mental state our

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Speaker 1: Yes, exactly, So hopefully this will help you deal with

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Speaker 1: everything that's going on in the world because I just

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Speaker 1: keep bouncing around trying to avoid everything, which I know

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Speaker 1: is not a solution, but I'm trying to gather my strength.

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Speaker 1: She is an intuitive, as you said, and an author

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Speaker 1: of the new book it's called The Prism Seven Steps

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Speaker 1: to Heal Your Past and Transform Your Future.

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Speaker 4: Right, and you can also find free intuitive activations on

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Speaker 4: her YouTube page and live events on her website at

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Speaker 4: Lauraday dot com slash events.

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Speaker 3: Please welcome Laura Day.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Laura Day, who is the author of The Prism

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Speaker 1: Seven Steps to Heal Your Past and Transform Your Future

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Speaker 1: and who does it need to heal their past and

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Speaker 1: transform their future capping. So this is a great book

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Speaker 1: about well it's a guy. It's kind of a work book.

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Speaker 1: It gives you things to do. I've done a couple

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Speaker 1: of them so far. How do you self describe? Like,

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Speaker 1: what do you describe yourself as?

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Speaker 5: I describe myself as a practicing intuitive but nobody really

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Speaker 5: knows what that means. Basically, I'm a psychic, but I

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Speaker 5: somebody who in the early eighties was an experimental subject

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Speaker 5: for tests on extrasensory perception, which means your ability to

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Speaker 5: intuitive and most of my books are really about how

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Speaker 5: do you, as a person as a company engage these

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Speaker 5: extrasensory perceptions to create better life as opposed to complicate

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Speaker 5: your life with more theology.

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Speaker 1: Right, and you talk a lot about like a space

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Speaker 1: and time continuum. You actually talk about quantum physics in

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Speaker 1: break that down for us, Why don't you give us

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Speaker 5: Well, although we experience time on a continuum, which means

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Speaker 5: really as a place where it happens now, and that

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Speaker 5: one of the things I hate the most, the idea

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Speaker 5: because people believe anything, and you've got to be Skepticism

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Speaker 5: is do this in community, do it for yourself, do

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Speaker 1: And I mean you focus a lot on your thoughts, right,

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Speaker 1: you know in this book it's all about kind of

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Speaker 5: In the beginning, yes, In the beginning, I ask you

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Speaker 5: we're just scattering our energy everywhere. But after that, this

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Speaker 5: It's about do something different and then notice what happens.

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Speaker 5: Because I know that things are interconnected. I made my mantra,

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Speaker 5: wow yes, so every time, and I'm someone who says

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Speaker 5: I'd say, wow, yes, you need a catalyst, something outside

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Speaker 5: You are the box. You are the prism. A catalyst

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Speaker 5: And I always tell people pick the thing where you say, oh,

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Speaker 5: I wish I could say I was wise. People confuse

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Speaker 5: My I don't experience intuition is mystical at all. I

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Speaker 5: I it's like almost being in a in a multi

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Speaker 2: But you, you and me, both sisters.

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Speaker 5: But my experience of intuition is just that it's data.

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Speaker 5: When people are talking about things, for example, I have

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Speaker 5: unless I'm intimately involved with them, in which case I

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Speaker 5: But when people lie to me where it's one step removed,

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Speaker 5: actually happened. There's a myth that an intuitive knows everything

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Speaker 5: It's like having one piece of a puzzle, the piece

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Speaker 3: So I get an understanding.

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Speaker 1: I'm getting a better understanding of like your explanation of it,

435
00:24:15,960 --> 00:24:18,560
Speaker 1: which which you describing the book, but you know throughout

436
00:24:18,560 --> 00:24:21,000
Speaker 1: the course of the book. But I also think one

437
00:24:21,040 --> 00:24:23,720
Speaker 1: of the points that you're making is that you and

438
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Speaker 1: I believe this, that you can improve upon your intuition

439
00:24:26,560 --> 00:24:30,600
Speaker 1: by being more aware of it, right and your porousness.

440
00:24:29,760 --> 00:24:31,880
Speaker 3: Like it is. It's just like anything in life.

441
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Speaker 1: If you go and play tennis every day for six years,

442
00:24:34,000 --> 00:24:36,160
Speaker 1: you're going to get better at tennis, just like you're

443
00:24:36,160 --> 00:24:38,840
Speaker 1: going to get better at intuition and intuitiveness if you

444
00:24:38,920 --> 00:24:40,520
Speaker 1: are actually paying attention to it.

445
00:24:41,160 --> 00:24:43,280
Speaker 2: But and also there are two things.

446
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Speaker 5: One, if you never saw a door before, you wouldn't

447
00:24:47,760 --> 00:24:50,679
Speaker 5: know how to open it. And that's what intuition is.

448
00:24:50,720 --> 00:24:54,480
Speaker 5: We don't have receptors for certain things, like people give

449
00:24:54,520 --> 00:24:56,880
Speaker 5: me so much help and so much love, But when

450
00:24:56,920 --> 00:25:00,159
Speaker 5: I was little, I had no receptors for the generosity

451
00:25:00,240 --> 00:25:02,680
Speaker 5: of others. I was the oldest of four children, born

452
00:25:02,720 --> 00:25:05,520
Speaker 5: in four and a half years in a traumatized home.

453
00:25:06,000 --> 00:25:10,400
Speaker 5: Now I feel like I have way too much almost

454
00:25:10,720 --> 00:25:15,960
Speaker 5: goodwill and gifts because I grew receptors for that. So

455
00:25:16,880 --> 00:25:20,199
Speaker 5: one of the things that doing something different does for

456
00:25:20,320 --> 00:25:24,199
Speaker 5: you that doesn't resonate with you because that's an old you,

457
00:25:25,160 --> 00:25:28,320
Speaker 5: is it allows something to bump into you and open

458
00:25:28,359 --> 00:25:31,480
Speaker 5: that receptor for what you thought wasn't there. It was

459
00:25:31,520 --> 00:25:33,560
Speaker 5: like when I was single at fifty and someone said, oh,

460
00:25:33,560 --> 00:25:36,240
Speaker 5: there are no men out there. It's like, thank God,

461
00:25:36,280 --> 00:25:38,960
Speaker 5: I'm so out of touch with common reality because that

462
00:25:39,040 --> 00:25:41,960
Speaker 5: was not my experience. And you know, I was going

463
00:25:42,000 --> 00:25:44,280
Speaker 5: through so much that was online at the time that

464
00:25:44,359 --> 00:25:47,720
Speaker 5: if you searched me, you certainly wouldn't date. Man. I'm psychic,

465
00:25:47,760 --> 00:25:50,840
Speaker 5: for God's sake, you know. So it was you know,

466
00:25:51,560 --> 00:25:55,720
Speaker 5: we do create our reality, and that is such a

467
00:25:55,840 --> 00:25:58,720
Speaker 5: very important and it's not easy.

468
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Speaker 6: You know.

469
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Speaker 5: Of course we have those old triggers, but you can

470
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Speaker 5: change it. The other thing is I do something every

471
00:26:05,840 --> 00:26:08,880
Speaker 5: morning and whenever I'm feeling off, which is I say,

472
00:26:08,920 --> 00:26:11,800
Speaker 5: who's inside of me? Because we are porous, So who

473
00:26:11,840 --> 00:26:15,200
Speaker 5: does this feel like? Is this my anxiety? Because anxiety

474
00:26:15,520 --> 00:26:18,000
Speaker 5: is supposed to show you the danger and have you

475
00:26:18,080 --> 00:26:21,960
Speaker 5: do something about it, you know, So anxiety shouldn't be

476
00:26:22,000 --> 00:26:25,000
Speaker 5: a constant state, which for me it often.

477
00:26:24,840 --> 00:26:27,840
Speaker 1: Is, and sometimes it's caused by other people's anxiety.

478
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Speaker 5: That's what I'm saying. So I say, who's inside of me?

479
00:26:31,320 --> 00:26:33,560
Speaker 5: And then I notice who am I arguing with? Who

480
00:26:33,600 --> 00:26:37,120
Speaker 5: am I having a negative discussion with negative being? They're

481
00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:39,960
Speaker 5: saying something about me? You know what's running through my head?

482
00:26:40,240 --> 00:26:43,280
Speaker 5: And is it helpful? Because if not, let me redirect

483
00:26:43,359 --> 00:26:45,119
Speaker 5: it to a helpful discussion.

484
00:26:45,720 --> 00:26:46,560
Speaker 2: Where am I?

485
00:26:46,680 --> 00:26:49,199
Speaker 5: Because if I'm not in this room speaking to you,

486
00:26:49,280 --> 00:26:53,000
Speaker 5: if I'm astral projection or remote viewing, if I'm somewhere else,

487
00:26:53,440 --> 00:26:56,800
Speaker 5: then my power is not in creating my life. So

488
00:26:56,960 --> 00:27:01,040
Speaker 5: where am I? And practicing mindfulness, which is not meditation

489
00:27:01,240 --> 00:27:05,000
Speaker 5: and it's not just awareness. Act of mindfulness is being

490
00:27:05,040 --> 00:27:08,479
Speaker 5: in yourself and then shifting your position if you notice

491
00:27:08,480 --> 00:27:11,880
Speaker 5: mindfully that your back hurts, or taking a breath, if

492
00:27:11,920 --> 00:27:15,960
Speaker 5: you notice that you're stressed, really making the moment powerfully

493
00:27:16,520 --> 00:27:20,080
Speaker 5: work for you. And then also what time zone am

494
00:27:20,119 --> 00:27:22,160
Speaker 5: I in? Because the only time zone you can make

495
00:27:22,160 --> 00:27:25,000
Speaker 5: a difference is in the present. Past is easy, you

496
00:27:25,000 --> 00:27:27,160
Speaker 5: don't have to do anything. Future is easy, you don't

497
00:27:27,200 --> 00:27:30,239
Speaker 5: have to do anything, And on some level, Being in

498
00:27:30,320 --> 00:27:32,960
Speaker 5: someone else's life is easy because you don't have to

499
00:27:33,000 --> 00:27:36,360
Speaker 5: do anything. It's all kind of toxic unless you're directing

500
00:27:36,400 --> 00:27:39,720
Speaker 5: it towards your goals. But it's easy. But being present

501
00:27:40,280 --> 00:27:42,160
Speaker 5: is hard because you've got to do something about it.

502
00:27:42,520 --> 00:27:45,480
Speaker 5: But when you do, and when you document it other

503
00:27:45,560 --> 00:27:52,800
Speaker 5: important point. Memory is so misleading. You know, document when

504
00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:55,200
Speaker 5: you have a goal, document the things that come from

505
00:27:55,320 --> 00:27:59,080
Speaker 5: left field. Notice and document and document those kind of

506
00:27:59,119 --> 00:28:01,639
Speaker 5: out of the blue set of what may happen, and

507
00:28:01,960 --> 00:28:04,800
Speaker 5: allow yourself to place them in time. You know, people

508
00:28:04,840 --> 00:28:08,600
Speaker 5: confuse intuition with vagueness, and I always get all my

509
00:28:08,640 --> 00:28:11,439
Speaker 5: students about this. You know, they give readings like I

510
00:28:11,520 --> 00:28:14,879
Speaker 5: see love, I see you need to drink more water.

511
00:28:15,000 --> 00:28:19,280
Speaker 5: No intuition is there's a deal you're trying to make.

512
00:28:19,440 --> 00:28:23,120
Speaker 5: It's going to happen mid September. You're getting paranoid about

513
00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:26,840
Speaker 5: the delay, but the delay is really fine. I get

514
00:28:26,840 --> 00:28:30,600
Speaker 5: a Jay involved in it. Like it's really just all

515
00:28:30,640 --> 00:28:33,520
Speaker 5: of these little data points that you spit out, But

516
00:28:33,600 --> 00:28:35,560
Speaker 5: when you're doing it for yourself, you need to write

517
00:28:35,560 --> 00:28:38,280
Speaker 5: them down and what you find, Like I review my

518
00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:43,040
Speaker 5: data points when I'm neurotic every day, when I'm less

519
00:28:43,080 --> 00:28:47,840
Speaker 5: neurotic every week, and I notice, oh I hit here,

520
00:28:47,960 --> 00:28:52,760
Speaker 5: I hit here, I hit here. This is precognitive in

521
00:28:52,800 --> 00:28:55,360
Speaker 5: a way I can trust it or WHOA, I was

522
00:28:55,800 --> 00:28:58,880
Speaker 5: way off here. That lets me know that there's a

523
00:28:58,920 --> 00:29:03,000
Speaker 5: part of my prism that's not clear, that's not working

524
00:29:03,080 --> 00:29:06,360
Speaker 5: where I am. You know, we repress what is painful

525
00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:09,240
Speaker 5: to see, which is legit, you.

526
00:29:09,240 --> 00:29:11,760
Speaker 1: Know, right, Okay, on that, and we're going to take

527
00:29:11,760 --> 00:29:13,640
Speaker 1: a break, and we'll be right back with Laura Day.

528
00:29:17,800 --> 00:29:19,400
Speaker 3: And we're back with Laura Day.

529
00:29:19,520 --> 00:29:20,480
Speaker 2: She's written several books.

530
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Speaker 1: The most recent book is called The Prism Seven Steps

531
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Speaker 1: to Heal your Past and Transform your Future. Are we

532
00:29:26,520 --> 00:29:29,000
Speaker 1: gonna do callers? Okay, great collar, are you ready?

533
00:29:29,000 --> 00:29:30,880
Speaker 3: We're gonna have some callers call in to get your

534
00:29:30,920 --> 00:29:31,880
Speaker 3: sagacious advice.

535
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Speaker 4: So our first caller is Katie. She says, Dear Chelsea,

536
00:29:36,840 --> 00:29:39,000
Speaker 4: I always think it's funny how many people ask Chelsea

537
00:29:39,120 --> 00:29:42,320
Speaker 4: advice on having kids, parenting, et cetera, when she's so

538
00:29:42,400 --> 00:29:44,760
Speaker 4: clearly not about that life. And here I am asking

539
00:29:44,800 --> 00:29:48,160
Speaker 4: for myself. Here's my issue. I've been with my partner

540
00:29:48,200 --> 00:29:50,680
Speaker 4: for almost six years. We have a really beautiful, healthy

541
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Speaker 4: relationship and I'm so grateful for everything we've shared. We've

542
00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:56,080
Speaker 4: always talked about wanting to have kids, and he used

543
00:29:56,120 --> 00:29:58,800
Speaker 4: to say eventually. When I was in my twenties, I

544
00:29:58,800 --> 00:30:02,000
Speaker 4: didn't feel any rush. Now I'm thirty two, turning thirty

545
00:30:02,000 --> 00:30:04,160
Speaker 4: three this year, and I feel ready to start a family.

546
00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:06,160
Speaker 3: Although our finances.

547
00:30:05,640 --> 00:30:08,080
Speaker 4: Aren't exactly where i'd like to have them be, I

548
00:30:08,080 --> 00:30:10,800
Speaker 4: trust we'll have what we'll need. The problem is he

549
00:30:10,800 --> 00:30:13,320
Speaker 4: says he doesn't feel ready and probably won't be ready

550
00:30:13,400 --> 00:30:15,640
Speaker 4: for at least two more years. I don't want to

551
00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:17,880
Speaker 4: wait until I'm thirty four or thirty five, when getting

552
00:30:17,920 --> 00:30:20,440
Speaker 4: pregnant could be a lot harder, especially because I want

553
00:30:20,480 --> 00:30:23,040
Speaker 4: to have two or three kids. Based on my tests.

554
00:30:23,040 --> 00:30:25,560
Speaker 4: The fertility doctor we met with recommends trying to get

555
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Speaker 4: pregnant now or freezing my eggs or embryos if we

556
00:30:28,080 --> 00:30:30,320
Speaker 4: want to wait, but we both have agreed we don't

557
00:30:30,320 --> 00:30:33,640
Speaker 4: want to do IVF. I'm feeling powerless and feelings of

558
00:30:33,680 --> 00:30:35,880
Speaker 4: resentment are creeping in, as it feels like he could

559
00:30:35,880 --> 00:30:38,600
Speaker 4: be taking away the possibility of us having kids naturally,

560
00:30:38,960 --> 00:30:41,120
Speaker 4: even though I know he can't help not feeling ready.

561
00:30:41,480 --> 00:30:43,800
Speaker 4: I saw the quote being ready isn't a feeling, it's

562
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Speaker 4: a choice. And since we agree we want to have

563
00:30:45,920 --> 00:30:48,200
Speaker 4: kids and are up against a biological clock, it just

564
00:30:48,240 --> 00:30:50,960
Speaker 4: seems time to make the choice. What if we can't

565
00:30:50,960 --> 00:30:53,160
Speaker 4: get pregnant naturally, if we wait one or two years,

566
00:30:53,320 --> 00:30:56,320
Speaker 4: how can we preserve our relationship despite the same idea?

567
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Speaker 5: Okay, so perfect, So Katie, this really isn't an intuitive issue.

568
00:31:03,560 --> 00:31:06,240
Speaker 5: Using the prism, you'd go to the second ego center,

569
00:31:06,280 --> 00:31:09,120
Speaker 5: And the second ego center is really how am I

570
00:31:09,200 --> 00:31:13,960
Speaker 5: being nourished? And what are my boundaries? And I think

571
00:31:14,040 --> 00:31:19,960
Speaker 5: that really just from all of those words, what's really

572
00:31:20,080 --> 00:31:25,000
Speaker 5: clear is you do have a biological clock. There are

573
00:31:25,080 --> 00:31:32,120
Speaker 5: realities either you guys freeze eggs and zygotes or this

574
00:31:32,160 --> 00:31:35,720
Speaker 5: is a bigger relationship issue which clearly has to be

575
00:31:35,800 --> 00:31:40,200
Speaker 5: dealt with with now. And I think my gut is

576
00:31:40,240 --> 00:31:44,640
Speaker 5: that you're in a kind of anxious avoidant balance in general,

577
00:31:44,720 --> 00:31:49,720
Speaker 5: you anxious, your partner avoidant, and that's a very hard

578
00:31:49,800 --> 00:31:54,000
Speaker 5: balance to get out of. So I would do the

579
00:31:54,040 --> 00:31:58,400
Speaker 5: second ego center and start with what are creative solutions?

580
00:31:59,320 --> 00:32:02,360
Speaker 5: But also so what are my boundaries? What am I

581
00:32:02,400 --> 00:32:04,680
Speaker 5: able to do on my own? Because you've given your

582
00:32:04,800 --> 00:32:08,520
Speaker 5: power away. Here, my partner, this, my partner that, And

583
00:32:08,560 --> 00:32:11,320
Speaker 5: again this is just one person listening, because this isn't

584
00:32:11,760 --> 00:32:16,840
Speaker 5: an intuitive issue. You know, there are too many facts. Yes,

585
00:32:16,960 --> 00:32:21,080
Speaker 5: miracles happen, but there is a biological clock. So what

586
00:32:21,120 --> 00:32:23,120
Speaker 5: I would do is do the second eco center, which

587
00:32:23,160 --> 00:32:25,720
Speaker 5: is how am I being nourished in my life entirely?

588
00:32:25,840 --> 00:32:28,880
Speaker 5: Let me deal with that issue, let me deal with boundaries.

589
00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:31,080
Speaker 5: And it sounds to me like your boundary is I

590
00:32:31,160 --> 00:32:34,480
Speaker 5: want a family, and so I'm going to have to

591
00:32:34,520 --> 00:32:39,000
Speaker 5: make some difficult choices. We make contracts in relationships. But

592
00:32:39,200 --> 00:32:42,880
Speaker 5: I think this is a you issue, not a couple's issue.

593
00:32:43,000 --> 00:32:46,600
Speaker 5: You know, you need to decide for yourself that having

594
00:32:47,000 --> 00:32:49,640
Speaker 5: the kind of life you want, because having a child

595
00:32:49,720 --> 00:32:55,240
Speaker 5: is a life choice, and what you want is more

596
00:32:55,280 --> 00:32:58,680
Speaker 5: important because the reality is what you're being told doesn't

597
00:32:58,680 --> 00:33:01,120
Speaker 5: make sense. There's biological clock.

598
00:33:01,280 --> 00:33:03,360
Speaker 1: I would add to that, Katie. First of all, I mean,

599
00:33:03,440 --> 00:33:05,240
Speaker 1: I don't think it's just a you issue. I think

600
00:33:05,240 --> 00:33:07,720
Speaker 1: this is actually something that you should bring to a

601
00:33:07,760 --> 00:33:10,959
Speaker 1: couple's therapists with your husband, because he doesn't get to

602
00:33:11,000 --> 00:33:13,360
Speaker 1: make that decision for you. You're in a marriage, you're in

603
00:33:13,400 --> 00:33:15,360
Speaker 1: a union, you've made an agreement to have a life

604
00:33:15,440 --> 00:33:18,000
Speaker 1: together and with the understanding that you were going to

605
00:33:18,040 --> 00:33:21,800
Speaker 1: build a family, and putting your life and like and

606
00:33:21,880 --> 00:33:25,680
Speaker 1: your fertility kind of postponing that when you're kind of

607
00:33:25,760 --> 00:33:28,160
Speaker 1: in your prime and kind of leaving your prime soon.

608
00:33:28,400 --> 00:33:29,800
Speaker 1: That's not to say you can't have a baby when

609
00:33:29,800 --> 00:33:32,160
Speaker 1: you're thirty eight or thirty nine. Who knows, maybe you can.

610
00:33:32,280 --> 00:33:35,080
Speaker 1: Maybe you're one of those women that will be easily able.

611
00:33:34,840 --> 00:33:35,440
Speaker 2: To get pregnant.

612
00:33:35,440 --> 00:33:37,720
Speaker 1: But like, it's not fair that he gets to make

613
00:33:37,760 --> 00:33:39,800
Speaker 1: that call when you're the one carrying the baby, when

614
00:33:39,800 --> 00:33:42,280
Speaker 1: you're the one who's ready. No one's fucking ready to

615
00:33:42,320 --> 00:33:44,479
Speaker 1: have a baby, no matter how long you prepare.

616
00:33:44,840 --> 00:33:45,720
Speaker 3: Nine months is not.

617
00:33:45,840 --> 00:33:48,160
Speaker 1: Enough time to have a baby walk in the house

618
00:33:48,200 --> 00:33:49,920
Speaker 1: and they're not walking, I know, but they may as

619
00:33:49,960 --> 00:33:50,320
Speaker 1: well be.

620
00:33:50,280 --> 00:33:52,600
Speaker 3: At that point, because that's what an impediment it becomes.

621
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Speaker 5: Yeah, what I mean by you, as she was, don't

622
00:33:54,840 --> 00:33:57,160
Speaker 5: give that power away to him, Yes, yeah, yeah, you know,

623
00:33:57,520 --> 00:34:01,120
Speaker 5: this is about This is about you and a partner.

624
00:34:01,520 --> 00:34:05,320
Speaker 5: A partner needs to respond to that. It's fine to say,

625
00:34:05,400 --> 00:34:08,320
Speaker 5: well one day, but one day, that's not That doesn't

626
00:34:08,360 --> 00:34:12,440
Speaker 5: respond to the you you are that's some mythical creature.

627
00:34:12,640 --> 00:34:15,160
Speaker 1: Yes, And you've also been together for six years, so

628
00:34:15,200 --> 00:34:17,480
Speaker 1: it's like it's not like you're in this marriage and

629
00:34:17,480 --> 00:34:19,160
Speaker 1: you're like, all right, you're not rushing and you're not

630
00:34:19,400 --> 00:34:21,879
Speaker 1: changing the game plan. This has been the game plan,

631
00:34:22,000 --> 00:34:24,279
Speaker 1: and you're trying to stick to the game plan even

632
00:34:24,320 --> 00:34:26,719
Speaker 1: though you're not financially ready. I loved what you said

633
00:34:26,719 --> 00:34:29,880
Speaker 1: about I trust that we will be fine and that

634
00:34:29,920 --> 00:34:32,200
Speaker 1: everything that we need will be provided for us. I

635
00:34:32,239 --> 00:34:34,840
Speaker 1: think that's such a great attitude to have about everything.

636
00:34:35,120 --> 00:34:37,800
Speaker 1: And I really do think that you when Laura speaks

637
00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:40,520
Speaker 1: about boundaries, absolutely like this is a boundary.

638
00:34:40,600 --> 00:34:42,319
Speaker 2: You're ready and you.

639
00:34:42,239 --> 00:34:44,600
Speaker 1: Want to start trying, and that doesn't mean you're going

640
00:34:44,640 --> 00:34:45,879
Speaker 1: to have a baby by the end.

641
00:34:45,760 --> 00:34:48,239
Speaker 5: Of the year or And one of the things that

642
00:34:48,640 --> 00:34:52,399
Speaker 5: I the prison life asks you to do is look

643
00:34:52,440 --> 00:34:55,160
Speaker 5: at what they can do is check your insurance right now.

644
00:34:55,960 --> 00:34:59,520
Speaker 5: It maybe in vitros, you know, maybe the harvesting is covered.

645
00:34:59,760 --> 00:35:03,080
Speaker 5: Look look at those things right now when perhaps you're

646
00:35:03,080 --> 00:35:05,359
Speaker 5: in a position where you have the right insurance. Like,

647
00:35:06,000 --> 00:35:09,400
Speaker 5: really deal again with the U issue, which is I

648
00:35:09,440 --> 00:35:12,960
Speaker 5: want to make sure I'm I retain this ability to

649
00:35:13,040 --> 00:35:16,280
Speaker 5: have something I want in my life. Because we mystify things,

650
00:35:16,320 --> 00:35:19,759
Speaker 5: we magicalize them, and we emotionalize them, and then we

651
00:35:20,600 --> 00:35:23,320
Speaker 5: it distracts us from just doing the bare bones things

652
00:35:23,440 --> 00:35:27,440
Speaker 5: that really can safeguard us in our daily life.

653
00:35:27,480 --> 00:35:30,000
Speaker 4: And Katie, I also want to say, last weekend I

654
00:35:30,040 --> 00:35:32,280
Speaker 4: was at a baby shower. There were ten women there,

655
00:35:32,440 --> 00:35:34,960
Speaker 4: three of whom are pregnant, all three in their thirties,

656
00:35:35,080 --> 00:35:37,400
Speaker 4: all three pregnant through IVF. You know, I know you

657
00:35:37,440 --> 00:35:38,920
Speaker 4: say you don't want to have to do that, but

658
00:35:39,000 --> 00:35:41,480
Speaker 4: like IVF is not somebody something people want to do,

659
00:35:41,600 --> 00:35:43,560
Speaker 4: It's something people have to do when they really want

660
00:35:43,560 --> 00:35:46,279
Speaker 4: to create a family. You know, everyone would opt for

661
00:35:46,320 --> 00:35:48,560
Speaker 4: the free baby instead of one hundred thousand dollars baby.

662
00:35:48,560 --> 00:35:52,160
Speaker 4: But I would really really encourage you to go freeze

663
00:35:52,160 --> 00:35:54,640
Speaker 4: your eggs and maybe not even embryos at this point.

664
00:35:54,920 --> 00:35:58,040
Speaker 4: And if money is an issue, there are some places

665
00:35:58,040 --> 00:36:01,040
Speaker 4: that do what they call a split program where you

666
00:36:01,080 --> 00:36:02,719
Speaker 4: go and donate your eggs and like half of your

667
00:36:02,719 --> 00:36:04,839
Speaker 4: eggs get donated to someone who needs a donor egg

668
00:36:04,920 --> 00:36:07,160
Speaker 4: and then you know, you keep half of them. And

669
00:36:07,200 --> 00:36:09,759
Speaker 4: it's I think low cost or free to be able

670
00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:13,680
Speaker 4: to freeze your eggs. So I would very like intensely

671
00:36:13,760 --> 00:36:15,960
Speaker 4: encourage you because when you freeze your eggs, you're freezing

672
00:36:16,000 --> 00:36:18,440
Speaker 4: them at the age you are now, and so when

673
00:36:18,480 --> 00:36:20,239
Speaker 4: you go to use them later on, you have these

674
00:36:20,280 --> 00:36:22,040
Speaker 4: sort of quote unquote younger eggs.

675
00:36:22,480 --> 00:36:24,919
Speaker 5: So Katie, also, I don't think this is a one

676
00:36:24,920 --> 00:36:28,040
Speaker 5: off issue. I think this is about you know. I

677
00:36:28,080 --> 00:36:30,799
Speaker 5: think this has happened in so many different things in

678
00:36:30,840 --> 00:36:34,920
Speaker 5: your relationship, and dealing with that issue is super important.

679
00:36:35,520 --> 00:36:38,960
Speaker 5: Oh okay, are you already in couples therapy?

680
00:36:39,440 --> 00:36:42,359
Speaker 4: No, I'm in my own personal therapy, but we haven't

681
00:36:42,360 --> 00:36:43,439
Speaker 4: done couples therapy yet.

682
00:36:43,560 --> 00:36:44,600
Speaker 7: But he's open to it.

683
00:36:44,719 --> 00:36:44,959
Speaker 2: Good.

684
00:36:45,040 --> 00:36:47,800
Speaker 5: But also there's a time element that I think you

685
00:36:47,840 --> 00:36:51,200
Speaker 5: should address right away, Like, that's not you know, because

686
00:36:51,200 --> 00:36:54,200
Speaker 5: you don't want things to delay. This is about This

687
00:36:54,280 --> 00:36:56,759
Speaker 5: is about you, and I think we're often not taught,

688
00:36:56,880 --> 00:36:59,800
Speaker 5: especially as women, to make things about us. This is

689
00:36:59,840 --> 00:37:04,480
Speaker 5: a This is about you preserving your choices and not

690
00:37:04,680 --> 00:37:07,760
Speaker 5: having things withheld from you.

691
00:37:07,760 --> 00:37:09,799
Speaker 4: You know, we don't wait around for any man, even

692
00:37:09,800 --> 00:37:11,839
Speaker 4: when we're married to the go.

693
00:37:11,960 --> 00:37:12,840
Speaker 2: I like that motto.

694
00:37:13,400 --> 00:37:16,160
Speaker 3: Thanks Katie for calling in, Thank you so much.

695
00:37:16,719 --> 00:37:19,080
Speaker 5: Can I give a suggestion if we do it? Shorter,

696
00:37:19,440 --> 00:37:22,920
Speaker 5: because really intuition works in the absence of information, so

697
00:37:23,040 --> 00:37:25,279
Speaker 5: does the prism. It's what's the issue and you go

698
00:37:25,360 --> 00:37:26,120
Speaker 5: to that target.

699
00:37:26,239 --> 00:37:26,600
Speaker 2: Okay.

700
00:37:26,760 --> 00:37:28,480
Speaker 4: What I can do too is I'll kind of give

701
00:37:28,520 --> 00:37:30,520
Speaker 4: you like the bullet points of the email. Is that

702
00:37:30,640 --> 00:37:32,200
Speaker 4: does that feel a little bit perfect?

703
00:37:32,239 --> 00:37:32,799
Speaker 2: That'd be great?

704
00:37:32,840 --> 00:37:33,160
Speaker 5: Okay.

705
00:37:33,360 --> 00:37:36,520
Speaker 4: So our next caller is Erica with a K. She's

706
00:37:36,520 --> 00:37:39,600
Speaker 4: at a crossroads in her marriage. Feels that they are

707
00:37:39,600 --> 00:37:41,759
Speaker 4: sort of best friends and roommates, and she feels like

708
00:37:41,800 --> 00:37:44,680
Speaker 4: that's a great thing, but her husband feels like maybe

709
00:37:44,680 --> 00:37:46,799
Speaker 4: that's a reason they should split up. They're sort of

710
00:37:46,840 --> 00:37:50,080
Speaker 4: waffling between separation and divorce, but are kind of trying

711
00:37:50,120 --> 00:37:52,640
Speaker 4: to give it another try. Yeah, I think that that

712
00:37:52,719 --> 00:37:53,600
Speaker 4: kind of sums it up.

713
00:37:53,800 --> 00:37:56,800
Speaker 3: Hi, Erica. We have Laura Day our special guest today.

714
00:37:57,360 --> 00:38:02,840
Speaker 5: She's an intuitive My intuitive got is that there's really

715
00:38:03,160 --> 00:38:07,680
Speaker 5: deep love and attachment between the two of you, but

716
00:38:07,840 --> 00:38:11,239
Speaker 5: also a lot of disappointment on both of your parts,

717
00:38:11,880 --> 00:38:17,520
Speaker 5: and that that's that's a very difficult thing to work

718
00:38:17,560 --> 00:38:20,160
Speaker 5: with because I think I think that neither of you

719
00:38:20,440 --> 00:38:23,480
Speaker 5: are really working to be together. You're both in your

720
00:38:23,520 --> 00:38:29,680
Speaker 5: own disappointments and and really focusing I think more. I

721
00:38:29,760 --> 00:38:32,480
Speaker 5: think the trip may may put a lot of pressure

722
00:38:32,560 --> 00:38:38,600
Speaker 5: on you, whereas focusing in therapy on doing things that

723
00:38:38,680 --> 00:38:41,719
Speaker 5: build common values. I think both of you had so

724
00:38:41,840 --> 00:38:43,799
Speaker 5: many plans of what you were going to build, and

725
00:38:43,880 --> 00:38:46,479
Speaker 5: to some degree, a lot of that didn't work out.

726
00:38:46,600 --> 00:38:50,160
Speaker 5: It wasn't what didn't wasn't in sync. So I would

727
00:38:50,200 --> 00:38:53,759
Speaker 5: work on the fourth ego center, which is really about

728
00:38:53,800 --> 00:38:57,399
Speaker 5: about worth and value, each of you working on your

729
00:38:57,440 --> 00:39:00,080
Speaker 5: own worth in the world and bringing it back to

730
00:39:00,120 --> 00:39:04,400
Speaker 5: each other, because I think that that will, in a

731
00:39:04,480 --> 00:39:08,280
Speaker 5: strange way, the marriage is the elephant in the room.

732
00:39:09,000 --> 00:39:11,319
Speaker 5: It's really about each of you being a little bit

733
00:39:11,360 --> 00:39:16,080
Speaker 5: disappointed about your own lives. And I think if you

734
00:39:16,200 --> 00:39:19,440
Speaker 5: work on your life and your partner works on their life,

735
00:39:20,120 --> 00:39:24,640
Speaker 5: that that's going to be much more helpful to each

736
00:39:24,640 --> 00:39:26,640
Speaker 5: of you and to the relationship. And I would do

737
00:39:26,680 --> 00:39:29,520
Speaker 5: the fourth ego center in the prism, which is about

738
00:39:29,560 --> 00:39:30,359
Speaker 5: you know, what.

739
00:39:30,400 --> 00:39:31,200
Speaker 2: Do I value?

740
00:39:31,800 --> 00:39:35,319
Speaker 5: How am I valued? And how do I create that

741
00:39:35,560 --> 00:39:37,360
Speaker 5: sense of value in the world.

742
00:39:38,080 --> 00:39:39,080
Speaker 2: Does that make sense to you?

743
00:39:39,880 --> 00:39:44,640
Speaker 7: Yeah, you know, I agree that we probably are putting

744
00:39:44,640 --> 00:39:48,279
Speaker 7: pressure on this trip for something to come up of

745
00:39:48,440 --> 00:39:51,279
Speaker 7: it and to maybe save us, and that we have

746
00:39:51,560 --> 00:39:55,239
Speaker 7: maybe not independently grown as two individual adults and have

747
00:39:55,320 --> 00:39:59,680
Speaker 7: been a little dependent on each other as we've grown up.

748
00:39:59,760 --> 00:40:04,359
Speaker 7: And it's only been us where childless family is an

749
00:40:04,400 --> 00:40:08,839
Speaker 7: hour away, so we've been very dependent on each other.

750
00:40:09,480 --> 00:40:12,000
Speaker 5: That's not a bad thing. I think more than anything,

751
00:40:12,120 --> 00:40:15,239
Speaker 5: it's that you've been dependent on each other. But you're

752
00:40:15,280 --> 00:40:19,479
Speaker 5: both a little disappointed in your lives. It's not even

753
00:40:19,880 --> 00:40:22,840
Speaker 5: just your marriage, it's your lives. And I think that

754
00:40:22,880 --> 00:40:25,640
Speaker 5: if you helped each other work on your lives, that's

755
00:40:25,719 --> 00:40:28,359
Speaker 5: really going to be the key to the excitement coming up.

756
00:40:28,600 --> 00:40:30,439
Speaker 5: You know, you're getting some help to do the things

757
00:40:30,480 --> 00:40:32,560
Speaker 5: you want in your life, and your partner getting some

758
00:40:32,680 --> 00:40:37,280
Speaker 5: help also. You know that was actually initially the spark

759
00:40:37,320 --> 00:40:40,680
Speaker 5: in the relationship, is that you're both such rich people,

760
00:40:41,239 --> 00:40:46,600
Speaker 5: and that I think would be So if you've planned

761
00:40:46,600 --> 00:40:49,880
Speaker 5: this trip and you're going on this trip, what are

762
00:40:49,920 --> 00:40:52,919
Speaker 5: your goals right now, what are your partner's goals right now?

763
00:40:53,080 --> 00:40:55,680
Speaker 5: How do you make this trip about not about the marriage,

764
00:40:56,120 --> 00:40:59,360
Speaker 5: but about helping each other find what you need in

765
00:40:59,400 --> 00:41:02,640
Speaker 5: the world. I really think that's going to be more bonding.

766
00:41:02,960 --> 00:41:07,000
Speaker 5: And again that's one intuitive's sense of things. You know,

767
00:41:07,080 --> 00:41:10,120
Speaker 5: because this isn't you know, there's a lot of love.

768
00:41:10,200 --> 00:41:13,960
Speaker 5: I go into a lot of relationships and it surprises

769
00:41:14,040 --> 00:41:17,799
Speaker 5: me how little kind of respect and love there is,

770
00:41:17,840 --> 00:41:20,719
Speaker 5: and a lot of relationships. There's a lot of respect

771
00:41:20,760 --> 00:41:24,319
Speaker 5: and love in your relationship. It's that there's a lot

772
00:41:24,360 --> 00:41:27,160
Speaker 5: of disappointment that doesn't have to do with one another.

773
00:41:27,239 --> 00:41:30,080
Speaker 5: It's just because you're a pair, it gets projected on

774
00:41:30,080 --> 00:41:34,440
Speaker 5: one another. You know, it's really about your lives and

775
00:41:34,480 --> 00:41:36,880
Speaker 5: the wonderful people you are and how you haven't been

776
00:41:36,920 --> 00:41:39,200
Speaker 5: able to express that and be valued for that in

777
00:41:39,239 --> 00:41:43,040
Speaker 5: the world. So make that trip, this trip about doing that,

778
00:41:43,280 --> 00:41:45,080
Speaker 5: not about your marriage. Don't worry about your marriage for

779
00:41:45,160 --> 00:41:48,800
Speaker 5: right now. Make it about Wow, how do we spread

780
00:41:48,840 --> 00:41:51,120
Speaker 5: what it is we want to do as individuals in

781
00:41:51,160 --> 00:41:53,040
Speaker 5: the world together and how do we support each other.

782
00:41:53,120 --> 00:41:54,200
Speaker 2: I really think that.

783
00:41:54,000 --> 00:41:57,640
Speaker 5: That and either way things work out, that's going to

784
00:41:57,640 --> 00:41:59,000
Speaker 5: be a better foundation for it.

785
00:42:00,080 --> 00:42:00,319
Speaker 2: Great.

786
00:42:00,440 --> 00:42:01,279
Speaker 7: I think so too.

787
00:42:01,480 --> 00:42:04,200
Speaker 5: Thank you, Thank you for sharing. That's a big deal

788
00:42:04,320 --> 00:42:06,040
Speaker 5: to share that kind of vulnerability.

789
00:42:06,200 --> 00:42:08,560
Speaker 1: I think also, like a fun exercise for you guys

790
00:42:08,600 --> 00:42:12,120
Speaker 1: to do together that is a separate activity, but you'll

791
00:42:12,160 --> 00:42:13,120
Speaker 1: both do it.

792
00:42:13,200 --> 00:42:14,640
Speaker 3: Is like while you're on this vacation.

793
00:42:15,200 --> 00:42:18,040
Speaker 1: Every morning, do like a gratitude journal, like what do

794
00:42:18,080 --> 00:42:21,000
Speaker 1: you want to happen today? What would make today great?

795
00:42:21,040 --> 00:42:23,120
Speaker 1: What are you focused on today? Like what are your

796
00:42:23,120 --> 00:42:25,640
Speaker 1: intentions for the day. You guys do these separately, but

797
00:42:25,680 --> 00:42:27,640
Speaker 1: you have your each have your own journal, and then

798
00:42:27,640 --> 00:42:30,040
Speaker 1: again at night like what made today special? What was

799
00:42:30,080 --> 00:42:32,880
Speaker 1: your highlight of the day? What are you grateful for today?

800
00:42:33,120 --> 00:42:36,080
Speaker 1: Like I feel like that those kinds of things that

801
00:42:36,120 --> 00:42:40,440
Speaker 1: are unifying when done separately, as like a couple or

802
00:42:40,480 --> 00:42:43,000
Speaker 1: even with the friendships, like do something that takes you

803
00:42:43,040 --> 00:42:45,240
Speaker 1: out of your comfort zone while you're on this trip,

804
00:42:45,440 --> 00:42:47,799
Speaker 1: so that you can also focus on other things rather

805
00:42:47,840 --> 00:42:50,880
Speaker 1: than focusing just on your relationship.

806
00:42:51,880 --> 00:42:54,320
Speaker 7: Okay, thank you. I like that we can give.

807
00:42:54,160 --> 00:42:56,279
Speaker 1: That, you know, and then you could compare notes and

808
00:42:56,320 --> 00:42:58,719
Speaker 1: stuff and talk about it and like that's another way

809
00:42:58,760 --> 00:43:01,560
Speaker 1: to connect that you probably have tried yet, and it's

810
00:43:01,719 --> 00:43:04,160
Speaker 1: make and it's reminds you of like all that you

811
00:43:04,239 --> 00:43:07,280
Speaker 1: have to be grateful for and all the like rich experiences.

812
00:43:07,400 --> 00:43:08,040
Speaker 2: It could be the.

813
00:43:07,960 --> 00:43:09,640
Speaker 1: Beach that you go to one day, or it could

814
00:43:09,640 --> 00:43:11,759
Speaker 1: be a restaurant that you go to, and that's fine too,

815
00:43:11,840 --> 00:43:13,840
Speaker 1: but like expressing.

816
00:43:13,200 --> 00:43:14,880
Speaker 3: That is a nice exercise.

817
00:43:15,960 --> 00:43:17,480
Speaker 7: Yeah, we'll do that.

818
00:43:17,760 --> 00:43:20,160
Speaker 3: And I hope you have a great vacation. I think

819
00:43:20,200 --> 00:43:20,720
Speaker 3: we will.

820
00:43:20,840 --> 00:43:23,040
Speaker 7: We're really looking forward to it, all.

821
00:43:23,040 --> 00:43:23,920
Speaker 4: Right, thank you, Erica.

822
00:43:24,000 --> 00:43:24,720
Speaker 3: I's Erica.

823
00:43:25,480 --> 00:43:25,880
Speaker 2: Ye.

824
00:43:25,960 --> 00:43:29,799
Speaker 4: Well, our last color today is Cindy, and Cindy is

825
00:43:29,880 --> 00:43:33,520
Speaker 4: forty eight. I'll give you the broad strokes. So she

826
00:43:33,840 --> 00:43:36,600
Speaker 4: is in a really big life situation. So she recently

827
00:43:36,719 --> 00:43:41,000
Speaker 4: ended a relationship of six years after family tragedy. Her

828
00:43:41,200 --> 00:43:44,960
Speaker 4: partner lost both her son and daughter in like motorbike

829
00:43:45,000 --> 00:43:48,480
Speaker 4: accidents about four months apart, and they found themselves caring

830
00:43:48,520 --> 00:43:53,440
Speaker 4: for two young children. Cindy never really wanted to raise kids,

831
00:43:53,560 --> 00:43:56,040
Speaker 4: and so that was part of her deciding to leave

832
00:43:56,080 --> 00:43:59,040
Speaker 4: the relationship, but also because it just didn't feel like

833
00:43:59,080 --> 00:44:02,840
Speaker 4: the right relationship anymore. So she's struggling with two things,

834
00:44:03,840 --> 00:44:06,400
Speaker 4: how to sort of still be a part of these kids'

835
00:44:06,480 --> 00:44:09,840
Speaker 4: lives because she does love them, but also maintaining her

836
00:44:09,880 --> 00:44:13,200
Speaker 4: friendship with her ex and being there to be emotionally.

837
00:44:12,840 --> 00:44:13,799
Speaker 2: Supportive to her.

838
00:44:13,960 --> 00:44:17,440
Speaker 4: So, Hi, Cindy, We've got Laura Day here. She's an

839
00:44:17,480 --> 00:44:20,080
Speaker 4: intuitive Oh Hi, hello everybody.

840
00:44:20,280 --> 00:44:20,480
Speaker 2: Hi.

841
00:44:21,400 --> 00:44:24,920
Speaker 5: I think that what you're really talking about is wanting

842
00:44:25,000 --> 00:44:28,600
Speaker 5: to be part of a foundation but having for the

843
00:44:28,680 --> 00:44:31,399
Speaker 5: children for your ex and having them be a part

844
00:44:31,400 --> 00:44:33,319
Speaker 5: of a foundation for you, but in a way that's

845
00:44:33,400 --> 00:44:39,160
Speaker 5: doable for you. But my sense is that getting into

846
00:44:39,239 --> 00:44:45,080
Speaker 5: the emotions of it is not helpful right now. But

847
00:44:45,440 --> 00:44:49,840
Speaker 5: what your ex could really use help with and maybe

848
00:44:50,560 --> 00:44:57,640
Speaker 5: can't admit this too much, is organization. And if you

849
00:44:57,760 --> 00:45:02,560
Speaker 5: could just like God is sometimes the most wonderful gift

850
00:45:03,080 --> 00:45:07,840
Speaker 5: is without processing, because I think there's a lot of tangles,

851
00:45:07,880 --> 00:45:10,120
Speaker 5: there's a lot of brambles you can get into here.

852
00:45:11,239 --> 00:45:15,160
Speaker 5: But if you just offer to do things that are

853
00:45:15,280 --> 00:45:18,279
Speaker 5: things you want to do so they're foundational for you too,

854
00:45:18,760 --> 00:45:22,360
Speaker 5: because I think that you're as you stated, your resentment

855
00:45:22,680 --> 00:45:25,719
Speaker 5: gets in the way. But I do think that you

856
00:45:26,040 --> 00:45:29,040
Speaker 5: don't want that this is family for you and that

857
00:45:29,040 --> 00:45:33,520
Speaker 5: that's important to you and that it's part of your

858
00:45:33,560 --> 00:45:37,000
Speaker 5: foundation and part of your identity. So if you like

859
00:45:37,080 --> 00:45:39,879
Speaker 5: honestly say what are the ways that I can give

860
00:45:39,920 --> 00:45:44,200
Speaker 5: what's needed, which is kind of organizational support, set the

861
00:45:44,239 --> 00:45:47,480
Speaker 5: boundary of you know, I'm only going to do what's

862
00:45:47,560 --> 00:45:51,719
Speaker 5: really life sustaining for me and because otherwise I'm going

863
00:45:51,800 --> 00:45:54,040
Speaker 5: to resent it, I think you'll find that there's a

864
00:45:54,040 --> 00:45:57,000
Speaker 5: lot of crossover in what you want to do and

865
00:45:57,040 --> 00:46:00,680
Speaker 5: what these children and your former partner need. Yeah, that

866
00:46:00,719 --> 00:46:01,160
Speaker 5: makes sense.

867
00:46:01,239 --> 00:46:02,160
Speaker 2: That makes a lot of sense.

868
00:46:03,040 --> 00:46:05,480
Speaker 1: Are you dealing with any anger from your former partner

869
00:46:05,600 --> 00:46:07,880
Speaker 1: about leaving the relationship.

870
00:46:09,080 --> 00:46:10,400
Speaker 2: Her anger towards me?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, yeah, right, I am. She you know, she

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Speaker 6: reminds me a lot of times like, oh, yeah, well

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Speaker 6: you don't want to Before I left, there was like

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Speaker 6: about eight months where I was trying to separate and

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Speaker 6: she's like, oh, yeah, I forgot you don't want to

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Speaker 6: be here anymore.

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Speaker 5: So that kind of, you know, that type of stuff

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Speaker 5: going on.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a really hard decision to make, and I mean,

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Speaker 1: I'm happy for you that you were able to make

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Speaker 1: that decision in your best interest, because it can it

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Speaker 1: can be a complicated decision to make and a lot

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Speaker 1: of hurt feelings left behind.

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Speaker 6: So thank you.

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Speaker 1: It's good that you took the steps to take care

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Speaker 1: of yourself in the first place, and then are trying

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Speaker 1: to show up in the ways that you can now. Okay, Well,

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Speaker 1: I mean I wish you well and I hope that

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Speaker 1: I hope that you just you know, moving.

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Speaker 3: Forward, you really just take it with you to move

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Speaker 3: with love.

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Speaker 1: You know, to move with love towards them, because her

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Speaker 1: feelings are going to be of abandonment, right and she's

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Speaker 1: gonna and the kids and all of that, but to

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Speaker 1: move forward in a really loving way. And if at

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Speaker 1: any time she asks you for the space and to

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Speaker 1: not be involved, or if there's somebody else in the picture,

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Speaker 1: like to always remember to be respectful of that as well,

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Speaker 1: because that's her, she's in this and she doesn't really

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Speaker 1: have a choice in the matter. So you can try

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Speaker 1: to be as supportive as possible, but if she doesn't

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Speaker 1: want that, you know, support from you, then you also

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Speaker 1: have to accept.

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Speaker 5: That, right absolutely, absolutely.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, okay, Well, thank you for calling in, and

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Speaker 1: I'm so sorry about all of those things that have happened.

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Speaker 2: Wow that's a lot to handle.

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Speaker 5: A lot, yes, yeah, a lot, but thank you.

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Speaker 3: Okay, thanks Indy.

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Speaker 1: All right, okay, thanks, We're going to take a break

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Speaker 1: and we'll be right back to wrap up with Laura Day.

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Speaker 3: Okay, and we're back, So Laura Day.

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Speaker 1: The book is called The Prism seven Step to Heal

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Speaker 1: your Past and Transform Your Future, and it's a guide,

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Speaker 1: it's self help. It's how to how to just kind

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Speaker 1: of really focus on what you want out of life

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Speaker 1: and how you're going to get it, you know, And

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Speaker 1: I think that that helps really.

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Speaker 3: Change your frequency when you have an idea.

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Speaker 1: You know, I've never been somebody who makes like a

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Speaker 1: list of goals or I'm kind of like fly by

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Speaker 1: the seat of my pants, but that seems to have

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Speaker 1: worked out for me more often than it hasn't. I mean,

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Speaker 1: of course there's been you know, ups and downs with everything,

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Speaker 1: but the idea of actually, really, you know, I wish

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Speaker 1: when I was younger I had all of this information

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Speaker 1: that's in this book, and that and the knowledge to

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Speaker 1: know that, like when you are patient with yourself and

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Speaker 1: you are very aware of what you want out of

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Speaker 1: life and what your intentions are, that has a grand

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Speaker 1: impact on the outcome of them.

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Speaker 5: So what's really important to realize is a miracle does

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Speaker 5: take a moment. Bumping into your love, sitting next to

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Speaker 5: someone who has the job offer on the train, you know,

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Speaker 5: sitting bumping into a social worker at a cafe who

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Speaker 5: can your mortgage pa. I mean, a miracle really takes

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Speaker 5: a moment. We tend to get stuck in this idea

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Speaker 5: that now is forever, for better or for worse. Now

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Speaker 5: is not forever and your next move dictates your future.

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Speaker 1: Yes, okay, well, thank you so much, Laura Day, thanks

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Speaker 1: for being here today.

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Speaker 5: Thank you for having me.

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Speaker 2: Take care.

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Speaker 1: Okay, guys, I am officially on my high and Mighty tour.

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Speaker 1: March thirteenth, Cleveland, Ohio. March fourteenth, Columbus, Ohio. March fifteenth, Cincinnati, Ohio.

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Speaker 1: And then March twentieth is Denver, Colorado. March twenty seventh, Portland, Maine.

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Speaker 1: March twenty eighth, Providence, Rhode Island. March twenty ninth, Springfield, Massachusetts.

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Speaker 1: April tenth is Chicago. I'll be at the Chicago Theater

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Speaker 1: in April eleventh. Indianapolis, Indiana. April twelfth Louisville, Kentucky. April

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Speaker 1: sixteenth is Albuquerque, New Mexico. April seventeenth is Mesa, Arizona.

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Speaker 1: April twenty third is Kansas City, Missouri. April twenty fourth

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Speaker 1: is Saint Louis, Missouri. April twenty fifth is Minneapolis, Minnesota.

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Speaker 1: April thirtieth Nashville, Tennessee. May first is Charlotte, North Carolina.

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Speaker 1: May second is Durham, North Carolina. May sixth I'm doing

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Speaker 1: Netflix as a joke.

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Speaker 2: Festival.

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Speaker 3: I will be in Los Angeles.

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Speaker 1: That is a new announcement, along with Atlantic City May fifteenth, Saratoga, California,

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Speaker 1: May sixteenth, Monterey, California, May seventeenth, Modesto, California, and then June.

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Speaker 3: Fourth Portchester, New York.

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Speaker 1: June fifth is Boston, mass and June twelfth is Portland, Oregon.

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Speaker 1: And then Seattle is June thirteenth, So suck on that, everybody.

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