WEBVTT - Mid-Week Mom Chat: Birth Control. 0:00:00.720 --> 0:00:04.760 What's up you guys. Okay, so this midweek mom chat, 0:00:05.040 --> 0:00:11.080 I am going into be talking about sex, well, how 0:00:11.160 --> 0:00:18.599 to not get pregnant while having sex, because obviously sex 0:00:18.640 --> 0:00:24.840 mix babies, and for me in particular, um, I had 0:00:24.840 --> 0:00:29.240 a C section, and so it's not safe for me 0:00:29.360 --> 0:00:35.839 to get pregnant for a year, um just because and 0:00:35.880 --> 0:00:37.880 I'm sure some people who've had c sections have gotten 0:00:37.880 --> 0:00:40.640 pregnant sooner than a year. Actually think I have some 0:00:40.640 --> 0:00:42.840 friends who have gotten pregnant sooner than a year, um 0:00:42.880 --> 0:00:46.720 who've had a C section. But my gynecologists recommended that 0:00:46.760 --> 0:00:49.199 we definitely went a year just so my body can 0:00:49.200 --> 0:00:52.479 completely heal because with a C section, they like literally, 0:00:52.840 --> 0:00:55.560 I mean, I know everyone knows this, but cut you open, 0:00:55.720 --> 0:00:59.920 cut your uterus open, and that has to heal back up. 0:01:00.120 --> 0:01:03.320 The scar tissue has to get healed, and everything's got 0:01:03.360 --> 0:01:08.560 to get good and tight again. So I'm not trying 0:01:08.560 --> 0:01:12.039 to get pregnant anytime soon because I just don't want. 0:01:12.560 --> 0:01:14.200 I don't know, I mean, I'm just scared, like my 0:01:14.280 --> 0:01:16.240 guts would rip open or something if I got pregnant. 0:01:16.240 --> 0:01:19.240 It would hurt me, I'd lose the baby, all the things. 0:01:19.240 --> 0:01:20.800 Of course, I'm going down a rabbit hole. I have 0:01:20.880 --> 0:01:22.600 no idea if that would happen, and I'm sure I 0:01:22.640 --> 0:01:24.800 could get pregnant right now. It probably would be fine. 0:01:25.640 --> 0:01:30.679 But I'm just following my gynecologist what she recommended because 0:01:30.720 --> 0:01:32.800 that makes a lot of sense to me. So because 0:01:32.800 --> 0:01:37.240 of that, I will not be I don't want to 0:01:37.240 --> 0:01:39.119 be getting pregnant. So that means I need to get 0:01:39.120 --> 0:01:42.560 on birth control because a year of pulling and praying 0:01:42.600 --> 0:01:45.720 and all that like that, just, um, that's not gonna 0:01:45.720 --> 0:01:49.480 work for me in my current situation. If I hadn't 0:01:49.480 --> 0:01:52.320 had had if I hadn't had how do I say this, 0:01:52.760 --> 0:01:56.520 hadn't had had a c section? Say that six times fast. 0:01:56.840 --> 0:01:59.520 If I hadn't had a c section and I had 0:01:59.560 --> 0:02:01.920 had a bad general birth, I would not get on 0:02:01.920 --> 0:02:05.280 birth control because Michael and I most likely want to 0:02:05.320 --> 0:02:07.560 have another child, and I'm thirty six years old and 0:02:07.640 --> 0:02:10.680 so it's not like I'm getting any younger and times 0:02:10.680 --> 0:02:13.120 of the essence to have a baby. So I probably 0:02:13.480 --> 0:02:15.360 would not get on birth control if I had had 0:02:15.360 --> 0:02:20.000 a vaginal birth. But since that's not our situation, I 0:02:20.040 --> 0:02:22.720 am so I have been on a lot of different 0:02:22.720 --> 0:02:27.600 birth controls. I was on the pill forever, and that 0:02:27.760 --> 0:02:29.400 was fine. It's just like, you have to take a 0:02:29.400 --> 0:02:32.480 pill every single day, and if you miss a pill, 0:02:33.040 --> 0:02:36.120 then you have this chance of getting pregnant, and then 0:02:36.160 --> 0:02:37.880 you have to take like two pills the next day. 0:02:37.880 --> 0:02:39.480 You have to take it at the exact same time 0:02:39.520 --> 0:02:42.400 every single day. And some people will crush at that 0:02:42.440 --> 0:02:44.920 and they're doing great. For me, that just feels like 0:02:44.960 --> 0:02:49.000 a lot to remember, especially right now where I'm just 0:02:49.080 --> 0:02:53.120 in the big middle of newborn phase. The last thing 0:02:53.200 --> 0:02:54.520 I want to have to think about is taking a 0:02:54.520 --> 0:02:56.200 birth control pill and if I miss it then I 0:02:56.240 --> 0:02:58.600 could get pregnant. Like so that just feels too stressful 0:02:58.639 --> 0:03:02.639 for me. So that's out not doing the pill. Um. 0:03:02.680 --> 0:03:06.040 I've done the new ver ring before, and I actually 0:03:06.160 --> 0:03:07.960 really liked the new ring. That's the one that you 0:03:08.040 --> 0:03:10.520 put in vaginally and it's just like a ring that 0:03:10.520 --> 0:03:13.360 you put in vaginally, and I did that for years. 0:03:13.440 --> 0:03:16.480 I thought the new ring was awesome, Okay, but then 0:03:16.560 --> 0:03:19.440 there was a big negative side effect of the new 0:03:19.560 --> 0:03:22.000 ring for me, and it gave me malasma. And I 0:03:22.000 --> 0:03:24.120 don't know if that happens for everyone, but for me, 0:03:25.000 --> 0:03:28.240 it gave me malasmas. So I ended up getting really 0:03:28.320 --> 0:03:33.440 dark um like stained skin under my eyes and on 0:03:33.480 --> 0:03:35.160 my lips, so it looks like I had just like 0:03:36.040 --> 0:03:40.400 a mustache in like a dirty face, and it was 0:03:40.440 --> 0:03:42.000 not fun. I could not get it off. I had 0:03:42.000 --> 0:03:43.480 to do like chemical peels to get it off. I 0:03:43.560 --> 0:03:47.360 end up getting off the new ring and it just did. 0:03:47.360 --> 0:03:49.640 The malasma was too big of a side effect for 0:03:49.680 --> 0:03:51.640 me to not enjoy that at all. But I did 0:03:51.880 --> 0:03:55.560 really like the new ring, So that was something that 0:03:55.840 --> 0:03:59.200 um that would be the one that I would recommend 0:03:59.440 --> 0:04:02.160 with hormone is in it just as far as convenience, 0:04:02.200 --> 0:04:04.360 because you put it in once a month, you change 0:04:04.360 --> 0:04:08.520 it every month, and it's just like set it and 0:04:08.560 --> 0:04:12.640 forget it. So I really liked that one, but not 0:04:12.720 --> 0:04:17.800 the elasma. So then I moved on to an i 0:04:17.960 --> 0:04:21.279 U D. The last type of birth control I got 0:04:21.720 --> 0:04:27.120 before getting pregnant was an iu D, and I just 0:04:27.800 --> 0:04:32.400 I'm already emotional enough without hormones extra hormones being added 0:04:32.440 --> 0:04:37.440 to my life. So I really thought the paraguard was 0:04:37.640 --> 0:04:41.680 a great option for me because it's just a copper 0:04:41.800 --> 0:04:44.440 I U D and the copper makes the sperm and 0:04:44.480 --> 0:04:50.400 the egg um repel like it doesn't let them come together, 0:04:50.440 --> 0:04:54.159 so it's like oil and water, so there's no hormones 0:04:55.520 --> 0:04:58.919 and it's been around forever and so to me that 0:04:58.960 --> 0:05:00.920 felt like a really great and so I got that 0:05:01.000 --> 0:05:06.560 put in probably I don't know, five years ago, and 0:05:06.600 --> 0:05:08.960 I had it for like five years or maybe like 0:05:09.000 --> 0:05:10.320 six years ago and I had it for like five 0:05:10.400 --> 0:05:12.280 years because it lasts for ten years, which is also 0:05:12.320 --> 0:05:15.000 another thing that's awesome. You put it in and it 0:05:15.080 --> 0:05:17.840 lasts for another The last for ten years. And there's 0:05:17.880 --> 0:05:20.320 some MutS like the Marina, and I don't know what 0:05:20.320 --> 0:05:22.839 other kinds are there are, but they have like some 0:05:22.880 --> 0:05:25.240 hormones in them. I didn't want one with hormones. I 0:05:25.279 --> 0:05:29.560 won one with no hormones, and so I had the 0:05:29.560 --> 0:05:32.400 paragraph for like five years. The first six months I 0:05:32.400 --> 0:05:36.719 had the paraguard Um, I had really heavy periods. I 0:05:36.760 --> 0:05:40.279 had a lot of spotting. It was painful, like it 0:05:40.360 --> 0:05:46.040 definitely hurt, and that was a negative side effect. But 0:05:46.279 --> 0:05:49.240 over time it stopped hurting and it was great and 0:05:49.360 --> 0:05:52.600 it was just so easy to have. So I really 0:05:52.800 --> 0:05:58.560 liked that. So yesterday I went back to my guy 0:05:58.680 --> 0:06:01.880 No and I got the guard put in again, and 0:06:01.920 --> 0:06:03.960 I was really nervous because when I got it put 0:06:04.040 --> 0:06:06.400 in the first time, like six years ago, it hurt 0:06:06.480 --> 0:06:10.080 like a mother to get it inserted, like literally hurt 0:06:10.560 --> 0:06:17.520 so badly, and then I was like, had terrible cramps afterwards. 0:06:17.600 --> 0:06:20.400 I literally had to take the day off and just 0:06:21.360 --> 0:06:23.159 give in to my pain and just like lay down 0:06:23.200 --> 0:06:25.680 take a bath because it was so painful. So I 0:06:25.760 --> 0:06:28.560 was really nervous and preparing for a lot of pain 0:06:29.080 --> 0:06:32.640 and cramps and all of that. But I have to say, 0:06:32.920 --> 0:06:35.400 maybe it's because my uterus has been stretched out five 0:06:35.480 --> 0:06:38.680 thousand times bigger than it was before, or I have 0:06:38.800 --> 0:06:42.680 no idea what. But it was a little sore, like 0:06:42.720 --> 0:06:45.800 it hurt a little bit when she um put the 0:06:45.839 --> 0:06:49.000 clamp into like I guess insert the paraguard. But after 0:06:49.040 --> 0:06:52.800 that it was great. It was so easy, Like I 0:06:52.839 --> 0:06:56.360 didn't have any cramping afterwards. There's a little bleeding afterwards. 0:06:56.360 --> 0:06:59.280 But like now I've had it, I guess a day 0:06:59.360 --> 0:07:01.640 or two. I can't remember remember when I got it. 0:07:01.640 --> 0:07:05.320 I think I got it yesterday, maybe the day before. Um, 0:07:05.360 --> 0:07:08.040 and it's been great. I haven't had any negative side effects, 0:07:08.080 --> 0:07:13.000 so I'm like, woo hoo, this is awesome. UM. So 0:07:13.080 --> 0:07:16.120 I have to say from my experience, the birth control 0:07:16.200 --> 0:07:20.840 that I personally like is the Paraguard. That is just 0:07:21.080 --> 0:07:24.320 my experience. I am sure some people out there hate 0:07:24.320 --> 0:07:27.560 the Paraguard because it does cause cramping and pain and 0:07:27.600 --> 0:07:30.440 there are side effects. I mean, okay, yesterday I forgot 0:07:30.640 --> 0:07:33.480 I did have a little bit of traveling pain like 0:07:33.520 --> 0:07:35.480 I had. I would get like a sharp, a sharp 0:07:35.600 --> 0:07:39.720 shooting pain, and different parts of my body, like my 0:07:39.840 --> 0:07:45.680 lower right growing area, I had a sharp shooting pain 0:07:45.720 --> 0:07:48.680 and then like transferred to my other side and it 0:07:48.760 --> 0:07:51.160 kind of like traveled around my body for a little while, 0:07:51.320 --> 0:07:53.960 but it wasn't anything bad, and it just lasted for 0:07:54.000 --> 0:07:57.400 like a few hours and then I was going. So overall, 0:07:57.640 --> 0:08:00.360 I'm gonna say I really liked the Paraguard and I 0:08:00.440 --> 0:08:02.960 really like it now, and this experience has been even 0:08:03.000 --> 0:08:06.280 better than the first time I got it. So if 0:08:06.280 --> 0:08:10.240 you're asking me what my opinion on birth control is UM, 0:08:10.360 --> 0:08:12.440 especially after you've had a baby and you're not trying 0:08:12.480 --> 0:08:14.360 to have another baby, I think a lot. I think 0:08:14.360 --> 0:08:16.560 the pool and pray method works for sure if you 0:08:16.600 --> 0:08:18.680 don't care about getting pregnant again and you've that and 0:08:18.720 --> 0:08:22.600 you vaginally um birth to your child and it's safe 0:08:22.600 --> 0:08:24.920 for you to get pregnant, and say you did get pregnant, 0:08:24.960 --> 0:08:27.120 you you'd be fine for me with a C section. 0:08:27.280 --> 0:08:31.000 I just feel like, um, it wasn't safe for me. 0:08:31.080 --> 0:08:33.600 Not too And let's be real, he wants to use 0:08:33.600 --> 0:08:38.600 condoms every time, not us, So sorry, husband happy kind 0:08:38.600 --> 0:08:40.559 of talking about her sex l but not really just 0:08:41.200 --> 0:08:45.720 vaguely talking about birth control. So the paraguard is the winner, winner, 0:08:45.800 --> 0:08:48.120 chicken dinner for me. So that is my thoughts on it. 0:08:48.120 --> 0:08:51.280 So I'm gonna answer some of y'all's questions because a 0:08:51.320 --> 0:08:55.280 lot of you'll have questions about birth control. Shocking opinion 0:08:55.320 --> 0:08:58.720 on birth control pills while breastfeeding. Okay, that's another thing 0:08:58.720 --> 0:09:00.920 i've heard. Another reason I'm do you ask that question? 0:09:01.160 --> 0:09:03.679 Another reason why I did not want to get on 0:09:03.840 --> 0:09:06.240 a pill because I don't want to take one every 0:09:06.320 --> 0:09:08.680 day and I don't want hormones. But also I have 0:09:08.880 --> 0:09:11.920 heard that taking a birth control pill does affect your 0:09:11.920 --> 0:09:16.240 breasts milk supply and it decreases it. So I don't 0:09:16.240 --> 0:09:18.040 want to do anything to mess with my milk supply 0:09:18.080 --> 0:09:21.400 because my milk supply is awesome, and I'm really I'm 0:09:21.520 --> 0:09:24.199 navigating breastfeeding I'm trying to figure out my pumping to 0:09:24.400 --> 0:09:27.199 breastfeeding ratio, but my milk supply is awesome and I'm 0:09:27.240 --> 0:09:28.880 not trying to mess with that, so i don't want 0:09:29.800 --> 0:09:31.720 anything to interfere with that. So that's another reason why 0:09:31.760 --> 0:09:34.559 I would not want to get on the birth control pill. Um. 0:09:34.559 --> 0:09:37.920 Someone says, I don't trust the withdrawal method. That's how 0:09:37.960 --> 0:09:40.960 I got prego with my son exactly. UM, I'm not 0:09:41.000 --> 0:09:44.560 saying it doesn't work, but you are playing with fire 0:09:44.720 --> 0:09:49.280 when you are pulling a praying and so I think that, Um, 0:09:49.400 --> 0:09:52.040 that is definitely not a method I want to trust. 0:09:53.360 --> 0:09:56.600 Another Sorry t m I any. I mean, if you're 0:09:56.640 --> 0:09:59.719 a guy listening to this, bless you, because I mean 0:09:59.720 --> 0:10:02.320 this is some straight woman talk. Right now, I'm gonna 0:10:02.360 --> 0:10:05.600 tell you another little trick, um that I have figured 0:10:05.640 --> 0:10:08.640 out when I was trying to get pregnant. The guys, 0:10:08.640 --> 0:10:10.920 I'm sorry, if you're listening to this, shut your ears 0:10:10.920 --> 0:10:13.400 because this is gonna gross you out. This is for 0:10:13.559 --> 0:10:16.559 my women out there who are seriously wanting to know 0:10:16.600 --> 0:10:20.600 about birth control and ovulation and babies and all all 0:10:20.679 --> 0:10:22.920 things having to do with this. Okay, So I warned 0:10:22.920 --> 0:10:28.480 you guys. Um, ladies, you can tell when you're ovulating 0:10:28.520 --> 0:10:30.360 because of your discharge. I don't know if you knew that, 0:10:30.600 --> 0:10:35.599 but you definitely can't like if it is so I 0:10:35.640 --> 0:10:37.319 can't believe I'm gonna talk about this, but this is 0:10:37.400 --> 0:10:41.400 real live talk. If it is like white and pasty, 0:10:41.679 --> 0:10:44.559 that means that you are getting your ovulations coming, it's 0:10:44.559 --> 0:10:49.080 getting closer. If it starts getting like clear and stretchy, 0:10:49.160 --> 0:10:52.679 but it's still got white pasted in ovulations coming coming 0:10:52.720 --> 0:10:55.679 and getting closer, you're probably a day or two away. 0:10:55.880 --> 0:11:01.040 And once it is clear and like slimy and really stretchy, 0:11:01.160 --> 0:11:04.920 that pretty much means you're ovulating. So that's another way 0:11:04.920 --> 0:11:07.960 to just check your ovulation. I don't know if that 0:11:08.040 --> 0:11:10.680 happens when you're breastfeeding, because you don't really have a 0:11:10.720 --> 0:11:13.679 period when you're breastfeeding. So I have no idea if 0:11:13.679 --> 0:11:17.839 that discharge method works to tell when you're ovulating. But 0:11:18.000 --> 0:11:22.720 I do know that that has um been dead on 0:11:22.840 --> 0:11:25.040 for me. I mean, I'm not a doctor, so don't 0:11:25.760 --> 0:11:28.480 don't like quote me on that, but I have looked 0:11:28.480 --> 0:11:32.320 it up and I have like read about that, and 0:11:32.760 --> 0:11:37.040 um for me personally, I would when I was taking 0:11:37.040 --> 0:11:39.560 the ovulation kits. Like when I was peeing on those sticks, 0:11:39.880 --> 0:11:42.839 it always matched my discharge. So like when you get 0:11:42.840 --> 0:11:45.000 the flashing smiley face and your ovulation kit, that meant 0:11:45.000 --> 0:11:48.800 that you're getting close to ovulating, and my discharge would 0:11:48.840 --> 0:11:53.320 be like like clear and stretchy with white pace in it. Okay, 0:11:53.360 --> 0:11:55.080 I'm sorry this is gross to talk about. I know, 0:11:55.520 --> 0:11:58.200 but I told you guys, it's your own fault if 0:11:58.200 --> 0:12:01.360 you're listening, and the same thing when I was emulating, 0:12:01.360 --> 0:12:05.600 it would be that like stretchy clear kind So I'm 0:12:05.600 --> 0:12:08.400 sorry if that's too am I. But my podcast is 0:12:08.400 --> 0:12:10.679 called Get Real, right, so I'm trying to get real 0:12:10.720 --> 0:12:17.560 with you guys anyway. So there's that. Um let's see, 0:12:19.160 --> 0:12:20.800 I just got an I U D and the verdict 0:12:20.840 --> 0:12:22.520 is out if I like it or not. Okay. Well, 0:12:22.559 --> 0:12:27.880 and that's so true because it's there are side effects 0:12:27.880 --> 0:12:29.319 of the I D. I know it can cause a 0:12:29.400 --> 0:12:33.000 lot of cramping and heavy periods and I don't know 0:12:33.000 --> 0:12:35.640 what else, but I have experienced cramping and heavy periods 0:12:35.640 --> 0:12:37.880 with it so far. I'm having a great experience round 0:12:37.880 --> 0:12:40.920 two with my paraguard. But yeah, it's definitely that is 0:12:40.960 --> 0:12:47.080 a side effect. Not about birth control. But please do 0:12:47.120 --> 0:12:51.000 a chat on breastfeeding. Okay, I'll talk more about breastfeeding. 0:12:51.040 --> 0:12:53.680 I'm still navigating breastfeeding. The only thing that's going that 0:12:53.720 --> 0:12:55.680 it's going consistent for me is that I'm having a 0:12:55.679 --> 0:12:57.920 really solid milk supply, and I'm very thankful for that. 0:12:58.600 --> 0:13:02.319 I'm still figuring out how to feed if I want 0:13:02.320 --> 0:13:05.360 to feed her bottles with breast milk in it, or 0:13:05.400 --> 0:13:07.920 if I breastfeed. What I kind of am landing on 0:13:08.080 --> 0:13:12.160 right now is I give her about half of her 0:13:12.160 --> 0:13:14.880 feedings just bottles, And right now she's eating five ounces 0:13:14.880 --> 0:13:17.720 five to six ounces each feeding, and I like to 0:13:17.720 --> 0:13:19.600 give her a bottle of it. In that way, Michael 0:13:19.640 --> 0:13:22.640 can feed her also and I don't have to be 0:13:22.679 --> 0:13:24.880 the only one feeding her, which is really nice and helpful, 0:13:24.920 --> 0:13:28.520 so he can take some of the shifts um. And 0:13:28.559 --> 0:13:32.680 then when I do breastfeed her, I always like to 0:13:32.679 --> 0:13:35.560 top her off with a bottle because she'll only eat 0:13:35.559 --> 0:13:39.559 about ten minutes on on my boob, and then after 0:13:39.600 --> 0:13:42.720 that she's like done and I can't get her to 0:13:42.800 --> 0:13:47.040 nurse anymore, and so I'll get a bottle. She likes 0:13:47.080 --> 0:13:49.760 it warm. Oh my gosh, Sunny likes a warm bottle. 0:13:49.800 --> 0:13:52.600 She will not take cold milk, no, sir, ree. She 0:13:52.679 --> 0:13:55.000 wants a warm bottle, and I'll heat her up a 0:13:55.000 --> 0:14:00.079 bottle and okay, I have something in my throw. I 0:14:00.160 --> 0:14:03.160 might have to get up and get some water unless 0:14:03.160 --> 0:14:07.920 I can just swallow and make this tickle go away. Um. Okay, 0:14:08.640 --> 0:14:10.440 she looks a warm bottle, and so I will top 0:14:10.480 --> 0:14:12.959 her off with like two or three ounces. I just 0:14:13.040 --> 0:14:15.240 breastfed her this last feeding, and she ate for like 0:14:15.320 --> 0:14:17.720 ten minutes, and I figured, like normally when she does it, 0:14:18.200 --> 0:14:20.480 I've been able to measure it because I like pump. 0:14:20.680 --> 0:14:23.280 I pumped right after I fed her before, and on 0:14:23.320 --> 0:14:26.600 a full boob, I get like six seven ounces, like 0:14:26.640 --> 0:14:29.160 full boob when I haven't nursed her fed in like 0:14:29.240 --> 0:14:32.040 five six hours, which is probably going too long. Off 0:14:32.040 --> 0:14:34.480 of that boob, um, I'll have like six or seven 0:14:34.480 --> 0:14:37.920 ounces in it. And so I've pumped before after she's eaten, 0:14:37.960 --> 0:14:39.760 and I'll get like three ounces out of it. So 0:14:39.800 --> 0:14:42.560 that lets me know that she eats about two to 0:14:42.600 --> 0:14:44.480 three ounces when she breastfeeds on me, which is not 0:14:44.600 --> 0:14:47.600 near enough. So I will put like three ounces in 0:14:47.640 --> 0:14:50.720 a bottle and top her off with that. So I 0:14:50.800 --> 0:14:53.960 just fed her, nursed her, and she ate for ten minutes, 0:14:53.960 --> 0:14:57.680 and I thought, okay, she probably got like three ounces. 0:14:57.720 --> 0:15:01.280 I'll give her three ounces. That's air on the more. 0:15:01.760 --> 0:15:03.880 That's giving her more than she's gonna need, is what 0:15:03.920 --> 0:15:07.160 I thought. And she ate three ounces from the bottle, 0:15:07.200 --> 0:15:08.760 and then I gave her another ounce and she had 0:15:08.800 --> 0:15:11.360 another ounce, so she ate four ounces plus eating on 0:15:11.440 --> 0:15:15.280 my eating breast nursing for ten minutes. So I have 0:15:15.360 --> 0:15:17.320 no idea how much she's getting breastfeeding, but the fact 0:15:17.320 --> 0:15:20.760 that she eat four ounces after eating um breastfeeding, I 0:15:20.840 --> 0:15:23.920 was like, okay, you know, I'm just it's I'm glad 0:15:23.960 --> 0:15:26.000 I'm topping her off because I do not want her 0:15:26.000 --> 0:15:28.240 to be hungry. So that's kind of what I'm doing, 0:15:28.440 --> 0:15:30.600 feeding her bottles with five to six ounces in it 0:15:31.760 --> 0:15:34.560 each feeding, and then breastfeeding her probably two or three 0:15:34.560 --> 0:15:36.160 of the times, and then topping her off with a 0:15:36.160 --> 0:15:42.320 bottle for now. That's what I'm doing. UM. I am 0:15:42.360 --> 0:15:45.480 subject to change because it is a working project progress 0:15:45.520 --> 0:15:47.720 and every day is different. I'm so glad you're doing this. 0:15:47.760 --> 0:15:49.080 I'm set up to getting an I U D soon 0:15:49.160 --> 0:15:52.120 and I'm nervous. I get it. I was really nervous. Actually, 0:15:52.120 --> 0:15:54.000 this last time I went to my guy that I 0:15:54.040 --> 0:15:55.800 was sort of almost had a little panic attack because 0:15:55.800 --> 0:15:58.000 I was like, oh my god, it's gonna hurt so bad. 0:15:58.080 --> 0:15:59.880 I mean, I've just had a C section, mind you, 0:15:59.920 --> 0:16:01.560 but I was completely numb, so I didn't feel it. 0:16:02.000 --> 0:16:04.400 But um, it did hurt. I mean it hurts. It's 0:16:04.400 --> 0:16:06.280 not I'm not gonna lie. There's some pain involved, but 0:16:07.800 --> 0:16:13.400 it's mine's worth it. Um Someone said Marina at last 0:16:13.400 --> 0:16:15.680 five years, sadly, I'm about to retire my second one 0:16:15.760 --> 0:16:18.280 ten years. No periods Oh, I guess the Morina, you 0:16:18.320 --> 0:16:22.000 don't have a period? Weird? Okay, well, I guess if 0:16:22.000 --> 0:16:23.480 you don't want to, if you don't want to have 0:16:23.520 --> 0:16:26.720 a period, then that's a good thing. I kind of 0:16:26.720 --> 0:16:29.480 like having a period. I don't know. I just feel 0:16:29.520 --> 0:16:32.160 like it's like it's natural and like you need to 0:16:32.160 --> 0:16:34.160 have a period every month. But that's just my opinion. 0:16:34.200 --> 0:16:36.960 I have no backing. I don't know why I feel 0:16:36.960 --> 0:16:39.120 that way. I have nothing to back that, and I'm 0:16:39.160 --> 0:16:41.200 sure it's probably awesome not to have a period, so 0:16:41.920 --> 0:16:43.600 I would look into that. Ladies, if you're wanting to 0:16:43.600 --> 0:16:46.480 not to have a period. Um, No, hate just don't 0:16:46.480 --> 0:16:49.520 believe in birth control. I totally get that. You know, like, 0:16:49.560 --> 0:16:51.480 there's a lot of reasons not to believe in birth control, 0:16:51.520 --> 0:16:57.680 religious religion, reasons, religious reasons, um, personal reasons, whatever your 0:16:57.680 --> 0:17:00.680 reasons are. I totally get it and support that. And 0:17:02.040 --> 0:17:06.760 you know you've got to do you so amen to that. UM. 0:17:06.800 --> 0:17:09.480 I had twins by c section. They were five months old, 0:17:09.480 --> 0:17:12.720 I found out I was pregnant with another set of twins. Okay, 0:17:12.760 --> 0:17:16.040 so I guess you can get pregnant. She's five. She 0:17:16.080 --> 0:17:19.480 had twins by c section and then five months later 0:17:20.040 --> 0:17:22.639 pregnant with another set of twins. So I'm guessing you 0:17:22.680 --> 0:17:25.080 can get pregnant before a year after a C section. 0:17:25.200 --> 0:17:30.679 According to this person, Wow, two sets of twins, go mama. 0:17:30.840 --> 0:17:33.439 Oh my gosh, I hope you live in your family 0:17:33.520 --> 0:17:36.240 because you need help. That is a lot of babies. 0:17:36.280 --> 0:17:41.639 Oh my gosh, God bless you seriously. That's amazing. UM. 0:17:41.760 --> 0:17:43.800 New Ring rocks not as intense as an I dy, 0:17:43.880 --> 0:17:45.440 but I don't have to take a pill every day. 0:17:45.440 --> 0:17:47.920 I totally am with you on that. If I was 0:17:47.960 --> 0:17:51.320 gonna do a hormonal birth control, I would do the 0:17:51.320 --> 0:17:54.199 New Ring except for the melasma that. I did not 0:17:54.359 --> 0:17:56.800 enjoy that, but that was I agree. New ring was easy. 0:17:57.359 --> 0:17:59.240 It was great. I didn't have to think about it. 0:18:00.359 --> 0:18:02.240 Would you go back on birth control until you try 0:18:02.240 --> 0:18:04.399 to have another baby? Yep, I just did. I have 0:18:04.440 --> 0:18:09.960 a paraguard, so I would totally do that. Um. Yes, 0:18:10.040 --> 0:18:12.600 So wonder how they affect me the pill hormonally? The 0:18:12.600 --> 0:18:15.119 pill made me crazy. The pill made me crazy, you know. 0:18:15.200 --> 0:18:16.960 I think the hormones kind of affected me and made 0:18:16.960 --> 0:18:18.560 me a little crazy too. I mean, I don't know. 0:18:18.640 --> 0:18:20.119 I could have just been crazy because it was in 0:18:20.119 --> 0:18:23.679 my twenties, and I mean, who knows. I think, at 0:18:23.760 --> 0:18:26.639 least for me, I was definitely figuring out life hardcore 0:18:26.680 --> 0:18:28.840 in my twenties, so maybe I was just crazy in 0:18:28.840 --> 0:18:31.639 my head already. But I do think hormones can affect 0:18:31.640 --> 0:18:33.280 you for sure. I mean I know how they affected 0:18:33.359 --> 0:18:35.640 me after I had Sunny, when I was losing all 0:18:35.640 --> 0:18:40.200 my pregnancy hormones. I mean that was a major hormonal swing. 0:18:40.400 --> 0:18:46.320 So hormones definitely can affect you. PHO show um, go 0:18:46.480 --> 0:18:50.040 for it, go for birth control. Breastfeeding is not birth control. 0:18:50.119 --> 0:18:55.480 That's how my second oldest came along. Um let's see 0:18:55.480 --> 0:18:57.200 what she said. I work in an ob ga in 0:18:57.359 --> 0:18:59.680 and so many women get pregnant by not going on something. 0:19:00.280 --> 0:19:02.040 And that's the thing I mean, I think. I think 0:19:02.080 --> 0:19:04.440 it's totally cool. If you're okay with like getting pregnant again, 0:19:04.720 --> 0:19:07.280 that's great. But if you don't want to get pregnant again, 0:19:07.400 --> 0:19:10.280 you're super hormonal. I mean super hormonal, yes, but you're 0:19:10.280 --> 0:19:14.360 super super fertile. After you have a baby, Like I think, 0:19:14.440 --> 0:19:16.160 you are so much more fertile, and you can get 0:19:16.160 --> 0:19:19.800 pregnant so much more easy, easier because your body is like, oh, 0:19:20.160 --> 0:19:21.480 we know how to do this, this is what we're 0:19:21.560 --> 0:19:24.359 used to, and you can just get pregnant really fast. 0:19:24.440 --> 0:19:28.800 So you just gotta be real careful. Marina is the 0:19:28.880 --> 0:19:31.440 queen of birth control. Okay, that's that same iu D 0:19:31.880 --> 0:19:34.760 that that one person said did not give them a period, 0:19:34.880 --> 0:19:37.240 So check that out if you guys are interested in 0:19:37.480 --> 0:19:42.160 not having a period and having an io d. Um. 0:19:43.640 --> 0:19:48.040 I love my io D. I'm so ready. That's someone said, 0:19:48.040 --> 0:19:50.080 I love my io DI. I agree, I love my 0:19:50.160 --> 0:19:53.320 io D. Also, I'm so ready for anything but the pill. 0:19:53.400 --> 0:19:57.080 It's making my face discolored melasma. Yes, I am with you, girl. 0:19:57.480 --> 0:19:59.720 The hormones made my face discolored and gave me a 0:19:59.760 --> 0:20:03.280 mill asthma, and I was just not into that at all. 0:20:03.600 --> 0:20:08.080 Like I know, I feel you, So I mean my recommendation. 0:20:08.320 --> 0:20:10.280 Of course, I'm not a doctor, and you need everyone 0:20:10.320 --> 0:20:13.159 needs to go do their own research and make this 0:20:13.280 --> 0:20:16.920 decision for yourself. I'm just giving you my opinions that 0:20:17.000 --> 0:20:20.600 are based on nothing other than my experience. I have 0:20:20.840 --> 0:20:23.240 no medical training. I just want to say that for 0:20:23.280 --> 0:20:26.560 the record. I know everyone knows that, but I don't 0:20:26.600 --> 0:20:30.119 want anyone to take this like I'm some professional. This 0:20:30.320 --> 0:20:35.400 is just my random opinion of someone who has lived 0:20:35.440 --> 0:20:37.440 through lots of different types of birth control and who 0:20:37.640 --> 0:20:40.760 is currently not trying to get pregnant after having a baby, 0:20:40.920 --> 0:20:44.680 So just I want to say that. Um, but I 0:20:44.800 --> 0:20:49.159 agree the milasma was awful, So there you go. The 0:20:49.200 --> 0:20:53.360 pill makes me crazy. HUBS doesn't like condoms using spermicidal 0:20:53.440 --> 0:20:57.600 loose sperm spermicide loop. I've never tried that before. I mean, 0:20:58.880 --> 0:21:04.760 I have no idea if that work. But spermicide lou interesting. 0:21:05.160 --> 0:21:08.000 I think I think I knew that existed. I'd be 0:21:08.080 --> 0:21:11.600 interested to look that up and see, um, to see 0:21:11.640 --> 0:21:14.520 if that really does work. But go you if that does, 0:21:14.560 --> 0:21:21.040 and that's a great solution. Um, have you heard of 0:21:21.320 --> 0:21:23.520 have you heard of or thought about natural family planning? 0:21:23.640 --> 0:21:26.720 The only all natural birth control. I don't know exactly 0:21:26.760 --> 0:21:28.760 what that means. Does that mean that you just follow 0:21:28.800 --> 0:21:32.119 your ovulation? I would need to look up natural family planning. 0:21:32.400 --> 0:21:36.399 I do think, um, learning your when you ovulate, and 0:21:36.640 --> 0:21:39.640