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Speaker 1: Would you ever ditch somewhere at the airport for eight hours.

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Speaker 2: If she needs to, like if I just cannot handle

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Speaker 1: She can go there for eight hours.

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Speaker 2: You know what s traveling she could do and then shopping, shopping, Wait,

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Speaker 2: what did she say? Food? Yeah, you know what, you know,

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Speaker 2: all the things she can do? It okay? And then

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Speaker 2: and then she's like I'm better now, And I'm.

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Speaker 1: Like, great, I don't know this eight hour seems a

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Speaker 1: I need to hear more. And Berner seventy six fifty

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Speaker 1: why I'm typing this now. But about seven years ago

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Speaker 1: Wait, but the relationship turned toxic real fast, mainly due

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Speaker 1: She quickly swiped away and held it where I couldn't

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Speaker 1: It's very clear I want honesty. I don't want you

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Speaker 1: reading this now is definitely from a place of more

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Speaker 1: they're probably not. Divorce is painful and hard, but it's

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Speaker 1: better than suffering for no reason. A weight has definitely

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Speaker 1: I think he just needed to DEVI I think that

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, Geese, Louise, if someone's cheating on you, don't

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Speaker 1: don't listen to the lies. Actions proved louder than words,

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Speaker 1: You know what, if you love us, make sure to

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Speaker 4: Friend burns eight thousand dollars of my Pokemon cards. Now

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Speaker 4: those who don't know. The first story. Basically, my former

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Speaker 4: friend bert eight thousand dollars worth of my Pokemon cards

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Speaker 4: as a.

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Speaker 3: Joke, prank.

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Speaker 2: Oh, it's just a prank.

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Speaker 3: Broad in a while, in a while.

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Speaker 4: Oh, this deserves the return, Yes, the return of It's

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Speaker 4: just a prank. Bro Starting off maybe two weeks after

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Speaker 4: my last post, I was attacked. I was in the

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Speaker 4: hospital for a few days, but all in all it

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Speaker 4: was a minor fracture on my rib and a broken finger.

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Speaker 3: Attacked by who?

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Speaker 4: This was done by my ex friend Cole and one

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Speaker 4: of his friends.

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Speaker 3: Is this like another prank? This dude literally jumped him?

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Speaker 2: Like god?

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Speaker 4: Uh so Cole was arrested and I was just terrified

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Speaker 4: of all the attention that I was getting from people

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Speaker 4: in my life, news articles, YouTube videos. Well, I guess

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Speaker 4: we're part of the problem. It didn't take long for

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Speaker 4: it to swirl around my school. I deleted most of

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Speaker 4: the photos, but you can still find it online. I

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Speaker 4: never wanted this to blow up as much as it

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Speaker 4: did because the attention was too much. Why are you

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Speaker 4: writing about it? Yeah, that's true. For everyone who messaged

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Speaker 4: me asking for an update, I gave it to them,

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Speaker 4: telling them Cole was arrested and that he's been charged

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Speaker 4: with assaults.

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Speaker 3: Wow.

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Speaker 4: Good, I think everyone who messaged me and helped me

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Speaker 4: and when it updates, et cetera, et cetera, for the

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Speaker 4: justice everyone's been waiting for the courtroom wasn't all that.

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Speaker 4: It wasn't like the movies or some kind of gotcha moment.

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Speaker 4: Cole painted me as an obsessed monster and that he

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Speaker 4: did me a favor as his true friend. How is

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Speaker 4: burning eight thousand dollars of your property a favor and

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Speaker 4: then attacking you?

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Speaker 3: No? No, not at all.

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Speaker 4: Because Cole is a first time offender. For the assaults,

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Speaker 4: he got a year in probation and a fine. In

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Speaker 4: a small claims court, he was ordered to pay back

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Speaker 4: six thousand dollars because it was all I could technically

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Speaker 4: prove that he destroyed.

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Speaker 3: So I mean, he's getting back some six out of

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Speaker 3: the eight.

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Speaker 4: Not not terrible considering probably most people don't get anything.

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Speaker 4: The police actually pulled the video from his laptop and

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Speaker 4: in the video you could see heaps of cards being burnt,

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Speaker 4: but because they couldn't properly identify all of them, there

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Speaker 4: wasn't much that could be done. And also, like what

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Speaker 4: small claims cards can be, Like all right, here's this card.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, this is it? Like exactly, I'm not angry anymore.

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Speaker 4: At first I was destroyed, but after everything has happened

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Speaker 4: in all the media, I knew there were people out

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Speaker 4: there who cared.

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Speaker 3: We care. Yeah, we do get that Pokemon money back back.

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Speaker 4: Right, We're but you know what, let's let's let's get

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Speaker 4: some leather jackets and grease style like come for coal

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Speaker 4: in his friend, Cole, You're dead, You're dense, Oh Switchblade,

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Speaker 4: I know you're reading this the internet. Oh man, this

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Speaker 4: is a personal address. I know you're reading this. The

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Speaker 4: internet knows you as coal. I've done my best to

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Speaker 4: not dox you, and I've done a pretty good job.

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Speaker 4: You took something you knew I loved and destroyed it,

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Speaker 4: when in reality, the only thing you destroyed was our friendship.

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Speaker 4: I forgive you for what you did, but I won't

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Speaker 4: forget what you did. But go ahead, create a video

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Speaker 4: on your own YouTube explaining your side of the event.

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Speaker 4: I bet it a go viral. Is that what you

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Speaker 4: want to go viral? Make a video, send me the link,

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Speaker 4: and I'll post it here for everyone to see. Let

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Speaker 4: the people make their own decision on who the real

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Speaker 4: monster is. I mean, there's two sides of every story,

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Speaker 4: right anyway, good luck and I help. Both sides of

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Speaker 4: the pillow are always warm. I started wreck. I started

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Speaker 4: recollecting Pokemon. This is segueing out of there like this.

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Speaker 4: You know, one on one that was a great distract.

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Speaker 4: I started recollecting Pokemon cards. I mean, it's in no

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Speaker 4: way as impressive as it was, but I'm rebuilding it.

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Speaker 4: I'm also making a lot of new friends, applying to

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Speaker 4: colleges and just moving on.

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Speaker 3: I know this.

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Speaker 4: Isn't the pro justice, pro revenge ending everyone wanted, but

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Speaker 4: it's the ending I was given. Thank you for everyone

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Speaker 4: who is stuck with me, for all the ten million

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Speaker 4: people who read my original posts. Wow, thank you for listening.

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Speaker 4: Shesh ten million. You have to get a you know,

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Speaker 4: a few more, few more, a few more good great.

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Speaker 3: Wow. Well I'm glad there was some justice. Now. I

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Speaker 3: want to see this clap back YouTube video though.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think I think there might be a whole

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Speaker 4: like before brewing before all right, well, we'll see, you'll

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Speaker 4: see