1 00:00:05,160 --> 00:00:07,880 Speaker 1: Hey, this is Anny and Samantha. I'm welcome to Stephane 2 00:00:07,920 --> 00:00:19,200 Speaker 1: Never told your production of iHeart Radio, and it is 3 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:22,840 Speaker 1: time for another happy hour, which means, as always, we 4 00:00:22,920 --> 00:00:26,119 Speaker 1: invite you to join us and take this moment to 5 00:00:26,280 --> 00:00:28,760 Speaker 1: kind of maybe take a break in your day and 6 00:00:28,880 --> 00:00:31,760 Speaker 1: hang with us. Um and if you choose to drink 7 00:00:31,960 --> 00:00:35,720 Speaker 1: whatever that may be, please drink responsibly. What are you 8 00:00:35,760 --> 00:00:39,120 Speaker 1: sipping on, Samantha? So I'm keeping it low key and 9 00:00:39,200 --> 00:00:42,640 Speaker 1: I'm sticking with my bubble water from the soda stream 10 00:00:42,680 --> 00:00:44,839 Speaker 1: that you gave me a little bit of pineapple flavor. 11 00:00:45,000 --> 00:00:47,720 Speaker 1: So yeah, I'm keeping it low key today. Nice. What 12 00:00:47,800 --> 00:00:51,639 Speaker 1: about you? I am doing a pretty like light gin 13 00:00:51,720 --> 00:00:54,200 Speaker 1: and tonic with some spice to it because I'm in 14 00:00:54,200 --> 00:00:57,600 Speaker 1: the midst of an allergic event. Yeah. Can you see 15 00:00:57,640 --> 00:01:00,920 Speaker 1: my eyes? Oh my god, it makes me feel better. 16 00:01:01,160 --> 00:01:02,720 Speaker 1: I've been recording with you all day and I haven't 17 00:01:02,720 --> 00:01:05,720 Speaker 1: noticed this one. I was like horrified by my video 18 00:01:05,760 --> 00:01:08,200 Speaker 1: earlier we did. We just did a female first with 19 00:01:08,240 --> 00:01:10,200 Speaker 1: their good friend and co worker Eves, and I was like, 20 00:01:10,400 --> 00:01:16,559 Speaker 1: don't look at me. I did not notice. That makes 21 00:01:16,560 --> 00:01:19,920 Speaker 1: me feel bad. Also staring at my all like many puginis, 22 00:01:21,520 --> 00:01:28,560 Speaker 1: I mean when it comes to this video skyping, there's 23 00:01:28,600 --> 00:01:30,560 Speaker 1: two I've told you I hated because I have to 24 00:01:30,600 --> 00:01:33,000 Speaker 1: see my face too often, and I'm like why in 25 00:01:33,040 --> 00:01:35,120 Speaker 1: the worst light even and I have a ring light 26 00:01:35,240 --> 00:01:37,479 Speaker 1: and I was even considering, I was like, I need 27 00:01:37,520 --> 00:01:40,240 Speaker 1: a new ring light. Is why does everybody look okay? 28 00:01:40,280 --> 00:01:42,440 Speaker 1: And I look washed out? I'm the brown person here? 29 00:01:42,520 --> 00:01:45,400 Speaker 1: How do I look watched out? To me? You look 30 00:01:45,480 --> 00:01:48,000 Speaker 1: like in the best way, like you're coming from a 31 00:01:48,320 --> 00:01:53,320 Speaker 1: like dark room. Your background is all yeah, it's pretty 32 00:01:53,320 --> 00:02:00,040 Speaker 1: pro fashionable looking to be honest. Yeah, Well maybe a 33 00:02:00,120 --> 00:02:04,919 Speaker 1: lesson here is we're also preoccupied with our own uh, 34 00:02:05,480 --> 00:02:09,240 Speaker 1: our own video and how we perceive our faults to 35 00:02:09,320 --> 00:02:13,480 Speaker 1: be that we're not noticing anybody else. I don't know 36 00:02:13,520 --> 00:02:15,160 Speaker 1: if that's a good thing or a bad thing, but 37 00:02:16,360 --> 00:02:20,520 Speaker 1: it's a thing because nobody noticed. I was like, nobody noticed. 38 00:02:20,560 --> 00:02:25,359 Speaker 1: I definitely didn't notice. Okay, okay, um, and just f 39 00:02:25,560 --> 00:02:27,480 Speaker 1: y I none of the things we just mentioned that 40 00:02:27,520 --> 00:02:30,560 Speaker 1: our company, our brands are with no sponsors. Um, we 41 00:02:30,600 --> 00:02:33,520 Speaker 1: have sponsors, but that's not why we called them out. 42 00:02:33,560 --> 00:02:36,120 Speaker 1: They're not currently sponsors. Oh Man, if so to stream 43 00:02:36,120 --> 00:02:38,280 Speaker 1: wanted to sponsor us and send me some new stuff 44 00:02:38,280 --> 00:02:41,520 Speaker 1: that'd be amazing. I love your continued quest to get 45 00:02:41,560 --> 00:02:47,320 Speaker 1: free staff. We're very transparent about it, at least which 46 00:02:48,760 --> 00:02:52,400 Speaker 1: it is. And actually that kind of this discussion about 47 00:02:52,960 --> 00:02:55,760 Speaker 1: maybe looking too much into flaws does relate to what 48 00:02:55,800 --> 00:02:57,320 Speaker 1: I wanted to talk about today. Originally I was going 49 00:02:57,360 --> 00:02:59,760 Speaker 1: to do I have a two parter planned on, like 50 00:02:59,800 --> 00:03:02,840 Speaker 1: some quick reviews about horror movies I've seen, but I 51 00:03:02,919 --> 00:03:05,760 Speaker 1: wanted to wait because I really want to see Pearl, 52 00:03:06,280 --> 00:03:08,920 Speaker 1: which is the prequel to X, and then do it. 53 00:03:09,360 --> 00:03:10,920 Speaker 1: So this one is kind of a last minute one, 54 00:03:10,960 --> 00:03:12,680 Speaker 1: but it does touch on something that I didn't get 55 00:03:12,720 --> 00:03:15,320 Speaker 1: to talk about. And the Monday menty we just did 56 00:03:15,360 --> 00:03:18,359 Speaker 1: about my experience at Dragon con Um and I was 57 00:03:18,400 --> 00:03:23,040 Speaker 1: telling you about it. But something that I've struggled with 58 00:03:23,200 --> 00:03:26,480 Speaker 1: always is setting up boundaries and being a people pleaser. 59 00:03:27,560 --> 00:03:30,079 Speaker 1: And I think this was one of the first instances 60 00:03:31,440 --> 00:03:34,639 Speaker 1: I've been out with that many people since the pandemic 61 00:03:35,040 --> 00:03:38,080 Speaker 1: um and it was kind of a mixed bag of 62 00:03:38,280 --> 00:03:41,040 Speaker 1: my ability to kind of speak up for what I 63 00:03:41,080 --> 00:03:43,760 Speaker 1: wanted to do or what I needed. But I did 64 00:03:43,840 --> 00:03:46,120 Speaker 1: do it on a couple of occasions, and I felt 65 00:03:46,120 --> 00:03:49,840 Speaker 1: good about it. Um, what did it feel nice? Because 66 00:03:49,840 --> 00:03:52,520 Speaker 1: it's always the moments before or when you're thinking about 67 00:03:52,560 --> 00:03:55,000 Speaker 1: doing it that you panic and think the worst and 68 00:03:55,000 --> 00:04:00,960 Speaker 1: then it happens. They reacted pretty well, Okay, yeah, honestly 69 00:04:01,000 --> 00:04:04,920 Speaker 1: it did feel good. Um. It was funny because one 70 00:04:04,960 --> 00:04:08,200 Speaker 1: of my friends, Marissa, who I've mentioned a lot, she 71 00:04:08,800 --> 00:04:12,680 Speaker 1: was kind of giving me some guff about like this 72 00:04:12,760 --> 00:04:17,279 Speaker 1: is your people pleaser side coming out, like just letting 73 00:04:17,279 --> 00:04:20,400 Speaker 1: me know how it is, as a good friend does. 74 00:04:21,240 --> 00:04:24,360 Speaker 1: But one of the big things I've I've talked about 75 00:04:24,360 --> 00:04:28,719 Speaker 1: before something like Dragon con where I want people to 76 00:04:28,760 --> 00:04:31,640 Speaker 1: have a good time, I feel responsible for them having 77 00:04:31,640 --> 00:04:34,640 Speaker 1: a good time. Um, so I take on way more 78 00:04:34,720 --> 00:04:37,440 Speaker 1: than they're asking of me, to be honest, Like it's 79 00:04:37,480 --> 00:04:39,920 Speaker 1: just I feel like, oh, I've got to make sure 80 00:04:40,040 --> 00:04:44,400 Speaker 1: everything's fine, everything goes smoothly. And this time I had 81 00:04:44,400 --> 00:04:48,320 Speaker 1: a moment of I said to my friends, look, I'm 82 00:04:48,400 --> 00:04:53,080 Speaker 1: fine eating this food and I don't need to like 83 00:04:53,200 --> 00:04:56,039 Speaker 1: go out and get more food or what they called 84 00:04:56,120 --> 00:05:01,719 Speaker 1: quote real food. Um, because I'm fine and I will 85 00:05:01,800 --> 00:05:04,080 Speaker 1: once the this convention is over. I'm going to eat 86 00:05:04,120 --> 00:05:05,960 Speaker 1: all the green vegetables, which is what I have been doing. 87 00:05:06,920 --> 00:05:11,640 Speaker 1: But in that time, like, I'm just not hungry when 88 00:05:11,680 --> 00:05:13,320 Speaker 1: all of you seem to be hungry. So I was 89 00:05:13,400 --> 00:05:17,359 Speaker 1: kind of after I've thrown away to entire whole meals 90 00:05:17,400 --> 00:05:19,920 Speaker 1: because I just went to eat with them because they 91 00:05:19,960 --> 00:05:22,760 Speaker 1: wanted to eat. I was like, just surprising, because you 92 00:05:22,880 --> 00:05:25,880 Speaker 1: haven't guilt about that, I will see. That was part 93 00:05:25,880 --> 00:05:30,200 Speaker 1: of the issue was I was eating people's leftovers, Like 94 00:05:30,320 --> 00:05:33,039 Speaker 1: they would leave pizza or whatever in our hotel room 95 00:05:33,080 --> 00:05:36,440 Speaker 1: and I would eat it, and then people would be like, now, 96 00:05:36,480 --> 00:05:37,919 Speaker 1: let's go get real food, and I'm like, but I 97 00:05:38,080 --> 00:05:44,000 Speaker 1: ate this pizza and I'm not hungry. Yeah. So it 98 00:05:44,080 --> 00:05:46,119 Speaker 1: was kind of a build up where I was trying 99 00:05:46,160 --> 00:05:48,640 Speaker 1: to not waste any food, and then it just built 100 00:05:48,720 --> 00:05:51,560 Speaker 1: up and I could not eat anymore. A part of 101 00:05:51,560 --> 00:05:54,520 Speaker 1: this is also, as I mentioned, I have some self 102 00:05:54,520 --> 00:05:57,760 Speaker 1: consciousness about the weight I've gained during COVID. That's not 103 00:05:57,760 --> 00:06:01,120 Speaker 1: why I didn't choose to eat at all, but what 104 00:06:01,240 --> 00:06:03,680 Speaker 1: I think it made it easier for me to turn 105 00:06:03,720 --> 00:06:06,320 Speaker 1: down food because I already felt kind of self conscious, 106 00:06:06,960 --> 00:06:10,560 Speaker 1: especially because I was in like a jumpsuit, right. But 107 00:06:10,640 --> 00:06:13,160 Speaker 1: that's a two part of that. Because I've always been 108 00:06:13,240 --> 00:06:15,160 Speaker 1: like you and I've had this conversation and I'm like, 109 00:06:15,200 --> 00:06:18,200 Speaker 1: I've had to like decipher your eating hep as to 110 00:06:18,240 --> 00:06:23,240 Speaker 1: a certain point because you don't necessarily get hungry. You 111 00:06:23,279 --> 00:06:26,080 Speaker 1: like the taste of food, but you don't like specific things. 112 00:06:26,600 --> 00:06:29,080 Speaker 1: You have to balance it because you do have a 113 00:06:29,120 --> 00:06:32,520 Speaker 1: tendency to overthink or it stresses you out or makes 114 00:06:32,560 --> 00:06:36,600 Speaker 1: you uncomfortable, like that's okay, and people know that about 115 00:06:36,680 --> 00:06:41,159 Speaker 1: themselves and that's good, but you also know was unhealthy 116 00:06:41,240 --> 00:06:43,120 Speaker 1: and try to balance it out for you, like this 117 00:06:43,160 --> 00:06:46,279 Speaker 1: is this is the thing eating. When it comes to eating, 118 00:06:46,320 --> 00:06:47,760 Speaker 1: it is a sense of things. So you know this 119 00:06:47,800 --> 00:06:51,400 Speaker 1: about yourself. But on top of that, but you are eating. Hey, 120 00:06:51,520 --> 00:06:53,200 Speaker 1: you eat on a schedule to make sure you eat 121 00:06:53,200 --> 00:06:55,160 Speaker 1: because you don't typically get hungry or you don't think 122 00:06:55,160 --> 00:06:57,360 Speaker 1: about it as often. And when you do get hungry, 123 00:06:57,680 --> 00:07:00,320 Speaker 1: it's not necessarily for specific types of food, which is 124 00:07:00,320 --> 00:07:03,240 Speaker 1: all fine, and you are very disciplined in that. And 125 00:07:03,320 --> 00:07:06,800 Speaker 1: yet as it can get into negative territory or you know, 126 00:07:06,920 --> 00:07:09,720 Speaker 1: like really damaging their territory, which you've already talked about 127 00:07:09,760 --> 00:07:11,560 Speaker 1: the floor that that could be. That's what you have 128 00:07:11,680 --> 00:07:14,640 Speaker 1: gone through and you've worked yourself out of it. But 129 00:07:14,720 --> 00:07:17,160 Speaker 1: that never that's never going to turn off. Unfortunately, that's 130 00:07:17,200 --> 00:07:20,440 Speaker 1: how it goes for a lot of people. So during 131 00:07:20,520 --> 00:07:24,360 Speaker 1: these times that was high traffic, high intensity, constantly going, 132 00:07:24,680 --> 00:07:28,560 Speaker 1: constantly doing things. You're trying to balance all of this out, 133 00:07:28,880 --> 00:07:30,480 Speaker 1: and yeah, for me, I'm like I need food. Yeah, 134 00:07:30,480 --> 00:07:33,960 Speaker 1: I'm gonna fight somebody. For you, like, you just sustain 135 00:07:34,280 --> 00:07:36,280 Speaker 1: on what you've got and you're okay with that. It's 136 00:07:36,280 --> 00:07:39,200 Speaker 1: not like you're not eating. It sounds like you're trying 137 00:07:39,280 --> 00:07:41,880 Speaker 1: to not waste food. But then that caused you to 138 00:07:41,960 --> 00:07:44,360 Speaker 1: waste food because you didn't want to sit and not 139 00:07:44,560 --> 00:07:47,720 Speaker 1: order because I know those times are really high traffic 140 00:07:47,760 --> 00:07:51,119 Speaker 1: times for these restaurants as well as pleasing your friends. 141 00:07:51,160 --> 00:07:52,840 Speaker 1: So there's like a lot of layers to this of 142 00:07:53,000 --> 00:07:55,440 Speaker 1: like I don't think you did not eat. I think, 143 00:07:55,640 --> 00:07:57,520 Speaker 1: and I think you're very aware you need to eat. 144 00:07:57,560 --> 00:07:59,960 Speaker 1: It was just more like the timing is way off, 145 00:08:00,040 --> 00:08:02,920 Speaker 1: and it just became a factor where you're already stressed 146 00:08:02,920 --> 00:08:06,440 Speaker 1: by something that stresses you out normal times, stressing you 147 00:08:06,440 --> 00:08:12,080 Speaker 1: out even more in these times with more things from 148 00:08:12,080 --> 00:08:15,560 Speaker 1: the outside. For sure, it was because normally I have 149 00:08:15,680 --> 00:08:19,160 Speaker 1: like times I eat um and I do get hungry 150 00:08:19,160 --> 00:08:21,760 Speaker 1: but it's pretty rare. But I have times that I eat, 151 00:08:21,800 --> 00:08:23,720 Speaker 1: and that's how I make sure I eat. For me 152 00:08:24,160 --> 00:08:26,800 Speaker 1: During like an event like this, I do make sure 153 00:08:26,840 --> 00:08:28,800 Speaker 1: I eat because there's a lot of drinking. I don't 154 00:08:28,800 --> 00:08:30,720 Speaker 1: want to be that person. I don't want to be 155 00:08:30,760 --> 00:08:32,199 Speaker 1: that person for my friends. Also don't want to be 156 00:08:32,240 --> 00:08:37,199 Speaker 1: that person for me, But it did become for so 157 00:08:37,280 --> 00:08:40,040 Speaker 1: long I've been and I have talked about this previously. 158 00:08:40,920 --> 00:08:45,400 Speaker 1: I'm eating for other people. I want to make sure 159 00:08:45,440 --> 00:08:48,400 Speaker 1: they eat, and I think I do think I overthink this. 160 00:08:49,000 --> 00:08:52,280 Speaker 1: My friends are adults, they can, you know, figure things 161 00:08:52,320 --> 00:08:57,120 Speaker 1: out for themselves. Um, but I think to them sometimes 162 00:08:57,120 --> 00:09:01,400 Speaker 1: it looks like like maybe you feel a little judged 163 00:09:01,559 --> 00:09:03,959 Speaker 1: or that it looks like I'm like, oh, you can 164 00:09:03,960 --> 00:09:06,520 Speaker 1: go eat. I don't need to, but I have eaten. 165 00:09:06,960 --> 00:09:11,280 Speaker 1: I have, and it's just like I don't feel whatever 166 00:09:11,360 --> 00:09:13,000 Speaker 1: that thing is. Because we did have a moment where 167 00:09:13,040 --> 00:09:14,560 Speaker 1: one of my friends was like, if we don't go 168 00:09:14,559 --> 00:09:16,079 Speaker 1: eat soon, I'm gonna punch somebody in the face. And 169 00:09:16,120 --> 00:09:18,600 Speaker 1: I was like, you can go eat. You can do it, 170 00:09:19,480 --> 00:09:22,400 Speaker 1: because I don't feel that like that's not a thing 171 00:09:22,520 --> 00:09:26,480 Speaker 1: for me. So it also ties into my sometimes damaging 172 00:09:26,480 --> 00:09:30,760 Speaker 1: and usually find real independent street where I'm like, I'm fine, 173 00:09:30,760 --> 00:09:32,520 Speaker 1: which is like if I'm hungry, I'll go find something 174 00:09:32,559 --> 00:09:35,439 Speaker 1: and eat it um And I do like I want 175 00:09:35,440 --> 00:09:37,760 Speaker 1: to hang out. They're my friends. I want to hang out. 176 00:09:37,840 --> 00:09:40,160 Speaker 1: But to me at an event like that, the hanging 177 00:09:40,160 --> 00:09:43,360 Speaker 1: out part is like the watching of the costumes. The 178 00:09:43,520 --> 00:09:45,640 Speaker 1: food part is just a thing we need to do. 179 00:09:46,120 --> 00:09:48,040 Speaker 1: But I know that's not the same for everybody else. 180 00:09:48,920 --> 00:09:50,800 Speaker 1: The one time I went and the one time I 181 00:09:50,800 --> 00:09:52,199 Speaker 1: went to eat with you, we definitely ate out of 182 00:09:52,200 --> 00:09:54,760 Speaker 1: Hooters because I was the only one available. That is 183 00:09:54,760 --> 00:10:00,640 Speaker 1: not experience I needed necessarily as a dining experien areas 184 00:10:00,760 --> 00:10:04,439 Speaker 1: for that kind of event. That is so funny you 185 00:10:04,480 --> 00:10:06,520 Speaker 1: bring that up because my friends also asked me about 186 00:10:06,520 --> 00:10:08,560 Speaker 1: the Hooters and I was like, if you need to 187 00:10:08,600 --> 00:10:14,680 Speaker 1: go to the Yes, yes, because this event, for everybody 188 00:10:14,679 --> 00:10:18,440 Speaker 1: who's listening, is in like the tourist part of Atlanta 189 00:10:18,520 --> 00:10:21,600 Speaker 1: that you typically avoid that has the restaurants like the 190 00:10:21,600 --> 00:10:25,600 Speaker 1: hard Rock Cafe, the once a year or by accident 191 00:10:25,640 --> 00:10:28,600 Speaker 1: because my direction is sitting me through that way. Yeah, 192 00:10:28,800 --> 00:10:31,320 Speaker 1: it's it's not a place you typically go, and there's 193 00:10:31,360 --> 00:10:33,600 Speaker 1: not There are some really good food options. I don't 194 00:10:33,600 --> 00:10:37,479 Speaker 1: want to like short change anybody, but generally it's pretty 195 00:10:37,880 --> 00:10:44,800 Speaker 1: pretty like chain commercial rights are are like three hour 196 00:10:44,960 --> 00:10:48,360 Speaker 1: weight that was with problems. That is definitely one of 197 00:10:48,400 --> 00:10:51,800 Speaker 1: the problems because I also people look to me and 198 00:10:51,800 --> 00:10:54,040 Speaker 1: this is partly my fault, lot my fault to make 199 00:10:54,080 --> 00:10:56,679 Speaker 1: all these reservations. But it's so hard to predict where 200 00:10:56,679 --> 00:10:59,600 Speaker 1: people will be at any point during that, so it 201 00:10:59,679 --> 00:11:02,600 Speaker 1: kind becomes a struggle of like, how am I going 202 00:11:02,679 --> 00:11:05,680 Speaker 1: to wrangle everybody? So we make this reservation. Are people 203 00:11:05,720 --> 00:11:10,040 Speaker 1: gonna be hungry? Um, usually they they get they get 204 00:11:10,080 --> 00:11:12,720 Speaker 1: food before then. And then like, we had one reservation 205 00:11:12,760 --> 00:11:15,640 Speaker 1: to sit down restaurant and we literally had all like 206 00:11:15,720 --> 00:11:18,679 Speaker 1: eaten a couple of hours before. We were all like, oh, 207 00:11:18,760 --> 00:11:20,679 Speaker 1: we're not hungry, but we had the reservation, and so 208 00:11:20,720 --> 00:11:23,679 Speaker 1: here we are just sort of the Yeah, that's just 209 00:11:23,720 --> 00:11:26,000 Speaker 1: sort of how it it works out a lot of 210 00:11:26,000 --> 00:11:28,480 Speaker 1: times and big events like this. I did have a 211 00:11:28,480 --> 00:11:31,280 Speaker 1: bunch of people that I was not expecting visit the 212 00:11:31,320 --> 00:11:33,920 Speaker 1: room and we ordered The group that was staying in 213 00:11:33,920 --> 00:11:37,160 Speaker 1: the room had ordered all this pizza and they were 214 00:11:37,240 --> 00:11:39,240 Speaker 1: kind of eyeing the pizza and I did not offer 215 00:11:39,320 --> 00:11:41,680 Speaker 1: I was like, nope, that you get your old food 216 00:11:42,720 --> 00:11:45,600 Speaker 1: going for You did not tell me you're coming. You 217 00:11:45,640 --> 00:11:47,960 Speaker 1: did not tell me there'd be this many people. This 218 00:11:48,040 --> 00:11:53,480 Speaker 1: is our pizza day. See I I was laying down somewhere. Also, 219 00:11:54,480 --> 00:11:56,719 Speaker 1: as you should. As you should. That's the thing. Is 220 00:11:56,760 --> 00:11:58,719 Speaker 1: like the scary part is doing it. And once you do, 221 00:11:58,800 --> 00:12:02,960 Speaker 1: and we would at as people understand. So I'm like, okay, yeah, 222 00:12:03,200 --> 00:12:06,240 Speaker 1: good for sure. It was certainly a lot of times 223 00:12:06,280 --> 00:12:07,920 Speaker 1: I was like, this is fine. I don't know why 224 00:12:07,920 --> 00:12:10,160 Speaker 1: I worked myself up so much about it. It's fine, 225 00:12:10,160 --> 00:12:12,920 Speaker 1: but it has been a part of my upbringing. I 226 00:12:12,920 --> 00:12:15,479 Speaker 1: think it is for a lot of women of constantly 227 00:12:15,480 --> 00:12:19,040 Speaker 1: putting other people's needs and once first, and it is 228 00:12:19,080 --> 00:12:20,959 Speaker 1: something like I said, I do want people to have fun. 229 00:12:21,040 --> 00:12:23,480 Speaker 1: But it's also, yeah, they're fine if I tell them, 230 00:12:23,520 --> 00:12:25,679 Speaker 1: like I'm not hungry, you go do what you need 231 00:12:25,720 --> 00:12:27,959 Speaker 1: to do. We can meet up later. I'll be here, 232 00:12:28,520 --> 00:12:31,520 Speaker 1: that's fine. They didn't care. Yeah, I hope they didn't. 233 00:12:31,520 --> 00:12:33,000 Speaker 1: Like I did that to you a couple of times 234 00:12:33,000 --> 00:12:36,080 Speaker 1: when we've been to like the parks and I'm like, yeah, 235 00:12:36,240 --> 00:12:38,600 Speaker 1: I'm gonna punch the body. I need to find food, 236 00:12:38,640 --> 00:12:41,960 Speaker 1: and you're like okay, bye, that's like yeah, yeah, I 237 00:12:41,960 --> 00:13:01,679 Speaker 1: think that works understand each other's needs. There were still 238 00:13:01,720 --> 00:13:04,880 Speaker 1: instances where I could have done better setting the boundaries, 239 00:13:05,040 --> 00:13:09,200 Speaker 1: especially around like sleeping, which I'm bad at anyway, that's 240 00:13:09,200 --> 00:13:12,400 Speaker 1: a constant I'm really bad at. I didn't really have 241 00:13:12,440 --> 00:13:15,679 Speaker 1: a problem with how many people kind of showed up 242 00:13:15,920 --> 00:13:17,560 Speaker 1: a lot, but it was a thing where I just 243 00:13:17,600 --> 00:13:19,960 Speaker 1: said yes before I was like, oh, of course, and 244 00:13:19,960 --> 00:13:21,440 Speaker 1: then I was like, maybe I shouldn't have done that, 245 00:13:21,559 --> 00:13:23,400 Speaker 1: maybe I should have thought about it for a second. 246 00:13:24,559 --> 00:13:26,760 Speaker 1: But still I got better sleep than I normally do, 247 00:13:26,880 --> 00:13:29,760 Speaker 1: so I will count that as a win, especially because 248 00:13:29,760 --> 00:13:31,720 Speaker 1: I was sleeping on an air mattress and it was 249 00:13:33,120 --> 00:13:35,400 Speaker 1: you had you slept on the air mattress. I slept 250 00:13:35,440 --> 00:13:38,280 Speaker 1: on the air mattress. Well, it's because I struggle with 251 00:13:38,360 --> 00:13:40,520 Speaker 1: sleeping any if there are people around anyway. So I 252 00:13:40,559 --> 00:13:42,760 Speaker 1: was like, I'm already gonna and I'm gonna have to pee. 253 00:13:42,840 --> 00:13:44,160 Speaker 1: I'm the person who has to get up at three 254 00:13:44,200 --> 00:13:46,560 Speaker 1: am or whatever. Pece. I was like, I'm gonna sleep 255 00:13:46,559 --> 00:13:49,680 Speaker 1: on this air and it was comfortable. It was just cold, yeah, 256 00:13:49,679 --> 00:13:52,280 Speaker 1: because you know the air. I always get cold on 257 00:13:52,320 --> 00:13:57,000 Speaker 1: air mattresses. I think the other thing that I thought 258 00:13:57,080 --> 00:14:01,360 Speaker 1: was interesting was this is the first time in a 259 00:14:01,400 --> 00:14:04,720 Speaker 1: long time where I've kind of said like I need 260 00:14:04,720 --> 00:14:07,880 Speaker 1: to be alone. I didn't say it like that, but 261 00:14:07,920 --> 00:14:10,559 Speaker 1: I was like, I'm gonna go do this thing goodbye, 262 00:14:11,280 --> 00:14:14,120 Speaker 1: just because it's tiring when you're around so many people 263 00:14:14,200 --> 00:14:16,720 Speaker 1: for so long. And it was only for like a 264 00:14:16,760 --> 00:14:19,320 Speaker 1: couple of hours at most. I was just like watching 265 00:14:19,360 --> 00:14:22,640 Speaker 1: costumes by myself. But that's something that can kind of 266 00:14:22,640 --> 00:14:25,800 Speaker 1: weigh on you, especially when you're sharing hotel her together. 267 00:14:26,240 --> 00:14:28,400 Speaker 1: And I think because of the pandemic, I've become so 268 00:14:28,600 --> 00:14:34,240 Speaker 1: used to alone time I did, I did not get 269 00:14:34,240 --> 00:14:37,320 Speaker 1: to read fan fiction, so the build up was enormous. 270 00:14:37,760 --> 00:14:39,600 Speaker 1: I took an entire day to catch up on fan 271 00:14:39,680 --> 00:14:45,360 Speaker 1: fiction when when it was over, and then I I again, 272 00:14:45,400 --> 00:14:47,360 Speaker 1: I can improve on this and in a lot of ways, 273 00:14:47,600 --> 00:14:49,320 Speaker 1: but I had a couple of instance since of asking 274 00:14:49,360 --> 00:14:52,440 Speaker 1: for help, that is a kind of that's a benefit 275 00:14:52,480 --> 00:14:55,880 Speaker 1: for me. I don't usually really really bad about that, 276 00:14:56,800 --> 00:14:59,720 Speaker 1: but this time I was kind of almost like tired 277 00:14:59,760 --> 00:15:01,840 Speaker 1: and on with things. I'm like, you gotta help me, 278 00:15:01,840 --> 00:15:06,720 Speaker 1: can help you with this, if we if we do 279 00:15:06,800 --> 00:15:10,600 Speaker 1: it right, yeah. So, I mean I think, as I said, 280 00:15:10,600 --> 00:15:12,960 Speaker 1: it was a mixed bag. And I'm sure some of 281 00:15:12,960 --> 00:15:16,600 Speaker 1: my friends listening to this would be like this girl 282 00:15:16,640 --> 00:15:18,840 Speaker 1: and her food did not help me out at all. 283 00:15:20,800 --> 00:15:22,720 Speaker 1: You know, my friends when they roll up and they 284 00:15:22,720 --> 00:15:26,280 Speaker 1: bring a whole bags of snacks because I never yes, 285 00:15:26,840 --> 00:15:30,040 Speaker 1: I've had people roll up on my house, Larissa, I 286 00:15:30,160 --> 00:15:32,880 Speaker 1: Love you up with like three bags and snacks and 287 00:15:32,920 --> 00:15:35,200 Speaker 1: I was like, we have some of those things. You 288 00:15:35,360 --> 00:15:37,400 Speaker 1: don't need to read that here, this is my house. 289 00:15:37,440 --> 00:15:39,800 Speaker 1: And she's like, have you seen Annie's house? I was like, 290 00:15:40,920 --> 00:15:46,080 Speaker 1: you're correct, Okay, it's true. It was very fair assumption, 291 00:15:46,560 --> 00:15:48,720 Speaker 1: but I still I gotta kick out of that as well. 292 00:15:49,600 --> 00:15:53,720 Speaker 1: Brought like the most basic of things we have that 293 00:15:53,960 --> 00:15:57,160 Speaker 1: she brought honey tea, Like we have those things? What 294 00:15:57,360 --> 00:16:00,880 Speaker 1: is happening? And I have shade it though I will 295 00:16:00,880 --> 00:16:03,080 Speaker 1: say I did I love it? Yeah, we I mean 296 00:16:03,080 --> 00:16:06,400 Speaker 1: that's one thing we've learned is we've got to communicate 297 00:16:06,600 --> 00:16:08,560 Speaker 1: like who's bringing what, because what you think is like 298 00:16:08,760 --> 00:16:10,440 Speaker 1: acceptable amount of food and what I think is an 299 00:16:10,360 --> 00:16:13,680 Speaker 1: acceptable amount of food is not the same thing. But yeah, 300 00:16:14,480 --> 00:16:17,080 Speaker 1: I guess it was. I've been thinking about it and 301 00:16:17,120 --> 00:16:19,400 Speaker 1: I feel. This is something I've been working on for 302 00:16:19,440 --> 00:16:22,840 Speaker 1: a long time. There's still much to be done, but 303 00:16:23,240 --> 00:16:25,960 Speaker 1: I had some things that I'm proud I was able 304 00:16:26,000 --> 00:16:32,280 Speaker 1: to be like, Yeah, thank you, thank you. Um. It's 305 00:16:32,280 --> 00:16:35,360 Speaker 1: so funny because it seems so small, but really it's 306 00:16:35,360 --> 00:16:36,920 Speaker 1: a big deal for it really is a hard thing 307 00:16:37,080 --> 00:16:43,640 Speaker 1: to do. Mm hmmmm. Well. Cheers to healthy boundaries. Cheers 308 00:16:43,640 --> 00:16:47,120 Speaker 1: to good boundaries. I love it. Yes and asking for 309 00:16:47,160 --> 00:16:49,920 Speaker 1: help when you need it. Uh. And here's to all 310 00:16:49,920 --> 00:16:52,960 Speaker 1: of you listeners again. 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