1 00:00:12,600 --> 00:00:15,880 Speaker 1: I am breaking the do not enter police line, do 2 00:00:16,000 --> 00:00:18,439 Speaker 1: not cross dating seal. 3 00:00:19,520 --> 00:00:21,440 Speaker 2: The b is back now. 4 00:00:22,280 --> 00:00:26,040 Speaker 1: I'm not coming in with a vengeance because dating can 5 00:00:26,120 --> 00:00:29,360 Speaker 1: feel like a buffet where if you don't make good choices, 6 00:00:29,880 --> 00:00:32,640 Speaker 1: you indulge on a bunch of crap that makes you 7 00:00:32,680 --> 00:00:34,640 Speaker 1: feel sick and you don't even know what you ate. 8 00:00:34,840 --> 00:00:38,560 Speaker 1: So I have taken what's almost eight months, to not date, 9 00:00:38,640 --> 00:00:42,080 Speaker 1: to be celibate, to be selective, to reflect, to do 10 00:00:42,159 --> 00:00:46,400 Speaker 1: the therapy, to do the work, to be alone, to 11 00:00:47,040 --> 00:00:49,800 Speaker 1: use my solitude to think about what I really want, 12 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:52,599 Speaker 1: to not settle, to not do the just go. 13 00:00:52,680 --> 00:00:54,280 Speaker 2: It might be fun to not go out with. 14 00:00:54,280 --> 00:00:58,560 Speaker 1: The younger, washboard ab Italian guy, because I'm bored and 15 00:00:58,640 --> 00:01:01,440 Speaker 1: that would make me feel sick anyway. That's like junk food. 16 00:01:01,480 --> 00:01:03,920 Speaker 1: And I don't want someone in my house that I 17 00:01:03,960 --> 00:01:06,280 Speaker 1: don't like. I don't want to be at someone else's house. 18 00:01:06,319 --> 00:01:09,640 Speaker 1: Like I want to be selective. I might picky you 19 00:01:09,720 --> 00:01:12,640 Speaker 1: better fucking believe it. Why Because I know I do 20 00:01:12,720 --> 00:01:15,679 Speaker 1: have a lot of opportunity. I do happen to have 21 00:01:16,120 --> 00:01:20,160 Speaker 1: several suitors. I have a good personality, I'm fun, I'm smart, 22 00:01:20,280 --> 00:01:22,479 Speaker 1: I don't need someone's money. I'm not a gold digger, 23 00:01:22,800 --> 00:01:26,440 Speaker 1: but I don't want someone who can't afford me. So 24 00:01:26,600 --> 00:01:31,360 Speaker 1: I've been super selective. And what has that process taught me? 25 00:01:31,440 --> 00:01:34,200 Speaker 1: Of being bored and alone and sort of not just 26 00:01:34,200 --> 00:01:36,800 Speaker 1: like going out just to have a drink with someone 27 00:01:37,319 --> 00:01:40,120 Speaker 1: just because just in case, like none of that. What 28 00:01:40,240 --> 00:01:43,960 Speaker 1: it's done is it's been like buying a house, where 29 00:01:44,440 --> 00:01:46,720 Speaker 1: when you buy a house, you choose what you want. 30 00:01:46,800 --> 00:01:48,760 Speaker 1: You say ahead of time, Okay, you're going in, you 31 00:01:48,800 --> 00:01:52,280 Speaker 1: have a price range, and you say, I want a house, 32 00:01:52,400 --> 00:01:54,120 Speaker 1: or I want a condo, or I want an apartment, 33 00:01:54,240 --> 00:01:56,280 Speaker 1: or I want to rent or whatever whatever you're doing, 34 00:01:56,800 --> 00:01:59,200 Speaker 1: and I want these things. I want to be by 35 00:01:59,240 --> 00:02:01,760 Speaker 1: the beach. I want to be by the lake. I 36 00:02:01,800 --> 00:02:03,520 Speaker 1: want to be by the golf course. I want to 37 00:02:03,520 --> 00:02:05,640 Speaker 1: be by the town. I want to be in a 38 00:02:05,680 --> 00:02:07,559 Speaker 1: cul de sac. I want to be near other kids. 39 00:02:07,600 --> 00:02:09,120 Speaker 1: I want to be in a good school district. I 40 00:02:09,160 --> 00:02:11,720 Speaker 1: want to be in houses next to each other because 41 00:02:11,760 --> 00:02:14,080 Speaker 1: it'll be more social for my kid when riding a bike. 42 00:02:14,160 --> 00:02:15,640 Speaker 2: I want to be on a farm. I want to 43 00:02:15,639 --> 00:02:16,360 Speaker 2: be secluded. 44 00:02:16,960 --> 00:02:19,920 Speaker 1: You decide where you want to be, okay, then you 45 00:02:20,040 --> 00:02:22,800 Speaker 1: decide what you want it to be. Are you choosing 46 00:02:22,880 --> 00:02:28,680 Speaker 1: brand new, sparkling perfection, new construction, engineered wood floors, turn 47 00:02:28,720 --> 00:02:31,480 Speaker 1: the key on the door, walk in, and everything's perfect, 48 00:02:31,480 --> 00:02:35,320 Speaker 1: but you're paying a premium. Or are you choosing fix 49 00:02:35,440 --> 00:02:38,880 Speaker 1: or upper. Are you choosing a building that has tons 50 00:02:38,919 --> 00:02:43,560 Speaker 1: of amenities, dry cleaning, a gym, very social, big place 51 00:02:43,680 --> 00:02:47,239 Speaker 1: may have an indoor pool. Or are you choosing intimate 52 00:02:47,440 --> 00:02:52,679 Speaker 1: and charming and more like pre war or privacy or 53 00:02:52,800 --> 00:02:56,320 Speaker 1: bigger apartment because you don't have any amenities, so you're 54 00:02:56,360 --> 00:03:01,519 Speaker 1: getting a bigger apartment and you're getting a smaller lobby. 55 00:03:01,639 --> 00:03:03,320 Speaker 1: Same thing happens on a vacation when you go away 56 00:03:03,360 --> 00:03:06,360 Speaker 1: to a hotel. You decide what you want, and everyone 57 00:03:06,400 --> 00:03:09,640 Speaker 1: wants something different within the hotel, within the house, what 58 00:03:09,639 --> 00:03:12,839 Speaker 1: are you choosing. You may come in saying I want 59 00:03:12,840 --> 00:03:16,160 Speaker 1: a bathtub, I want high ceilings, I want brightness. I 60 00:03:16,160 --> 00:03:18,120 Speaker 1: want multiple little rooms because I have to hack it 61 00:03:18,200 --> 00:03:20,280 Speaker 1: up for my friends. I want one giant open space. 62 00:03:20,320 --> 00:03:22,400 Speaker 1: I want an open kitchen. I want the elevator to 63 00:03:22,440 --> 00:03:24,680 Speaker 1: open onto my floor, or I want to walk up 64 00:03:24,720 --> 00:03:26,440 Speaker 1: the stairs, or I want a doorman, or I don't 65 00:03:26,440 --> 00:03:28,960 Speaker 1: want a dorm in because I want privacy, Okay, you 66 00:03:29,200 --> 00:03:31,119 Speaker 1: say all of these things that you want. You want 67 00:03:31,120 --> 00:03:33,040 Speaker 1: a view, you want to be near the school, whatever 68 00:03:33,080 --> 00:03:35,560 Speaker 1: the thing is. Okay, So now you have made your list. 69 00:03:36,040 --> 00:03:38,880 Speaker 1: Here's what will happen. This is what happens with the house. 70 00:03:38,960 --> 00:03:41,680 Speaker 1: You came in and you set your sites high, of 71 00:03:41,720 --> 00:03:44,560 Speaker 1: course you did, but then reality sets in and you 72 00:03:44,640 --> 00:03:49,280 Speaker 1: may not find everything you want in your price range. Okay, 73 00:03:49,880 --> 00:03:54,880 Speaker 1: unlimited funds, then the sky's the limit. If you're brilliant, 74 00:03:55,280 --> 00:03:59,680 Speaker 1: you're funny, you're stunning, supermodel, you're a male Cloney, You've 75 00:03:59,720 --> 00:04:02,240 Speaker 1: travel all over the world, you're a human rights lawyer 76 00:04:02,280 --> 00:04:02,640 Speaker 1: or whatever. 77 00:04:02,880 --> 00:04:04,040 Speaker 2: Then you get George Clooney. 78 00:04:04,120 --> 00:04:08,720 Speaker 1: Okay, but for the most part, and even supermodels they 79 00:04:08,760 --> 00:04:12,280 Speaker 1: always have to change their desires all the time. For 80 00:04:12,320 --> 00:04:14,000 Speaker 1: the most part, you go looking for a house and 81 00:04:14,040 --> 00:04:17,520 Speaker 1: then you start to decide what is worth giving up 82 00:04:17,720 --> 00:04:21,000 Speaker 1: and how the puzzle will shift. So you're going to 83 00:04:21,000 --> 00:04:23,760 Speaker 1: look for a house and you realize, wait, like my thing, 84 00:04:23,920 --> 00:04:29,080 Speaker 1: my non negotiable in Florida and in ever moving from 85 00:04:29,080 --> 00:04:35,120 Speaker 1: my Hampton's house for me was sand an ocean, not bay, 86 00:04:35,240 --> 00:04:40,720 Speaker 1: not lake, not boat, not dock, not farm, not anything like. 87 00:04:41,200 --> 00:04:45,560 Speaker 1: Non negotiable was water I don't need that in New 88 00:04:45,600 --> 00:04:47,400 Speaker 1: York City because I can't use it. I can't walk 89 00:04:47,400 --> 00:04:50,159 Speaker 1: on a beach, I can't swim. So now I have 90 00:04:50,279 --> 00:04:53,440 Speaker 1: four homes. Two are sort of more for business purposes, 91 00:04:53,520 --> 00:04:56,599 Speaker 1: meaning like Miami and New York City are like kind. 92 00:04:56,480 --> 00:04:58,479 Speaker 2: Of right off workplaces. 93 00:04:58,680 --> 00:05:01,920 Speaker 1: But also we're good invest and also aren't huge, and 94 00:05:02,640 --> 00:05:04,400 Speaker 1: I could sell them for more than I paid right now, 95 00:05:04,480 --> 00:05:06,599 Speaker 1: and I feel good about keeping them because everything I 96 00:05:06,640 --> 00:05:08,800 Speaker 1: do is an investment as it pertains to real estate, 97 00:05:09,440 --> 00:05:11,480 Speaker 1: personal real estate, which is the only real estate I 98 00:05:11,520 --> 00:05:16,279 Speaker 1: invest in, and like, so all of my homes unrelatable sentence, 99 00:05:16,320 --> 00:05:20,080 Speaker 1: but this is the truth. Are on or near the water, 100 00:05:20,200 --> 00:05:23,840 Speaker 1: a beach and swimming usable water. That's what I want. 101 00:05:23,880 --> 00:05:26,479 Speaker 1: That's my happy place, that's my therapy. That's a non 102 00:05:26,480 --> 00:05:30,560 Speaker 1: negotiable item. You may have things that are just non negotiable, 103 00:05:31,120 --> 00:05:33,600 Speaker 1: Like I really did not want to move to Florida 104 00:05:33,720 --> 00:05:37,320 Speaker 1: and not be at the beach, but I also really 105 00:05:37,360 --> 00:05:39,560 Speaker 1: didn't want my daughter to not be near a town, 106 00:05:39,600 --> 00:05:42,000 Speaker 1: and I almost settled. So then you're by the beach, 107 00:05:42,000 --> 00:05:43,839 Speaker 1: but then you're really secluded and you can't just go 108 00:05:43,920 --> 00:05:47,920 Speaker 1: run and get something. So I ended up really prioritizing 109 00:05:48,480 --> 00:05:50,720 Speaker 1: being near some version of a town and the beach, 110 00:05:50,760 --> 00:05:56,239 Speaker 1: which is not that easy, and those are like non negotiables. Okay, 111 00:05:56,320 --> 00:05:58,520 Speaker 1: the beach was really no negotiable, but the town became 112 00:05:58,520 --> 00:06:00,599 Speaker 1: more important because it was important to my daughter. My 113 00:06:00,800 --> 00:06:03,200 Speaker 1: daughter had things for her that were no negotiable. For her. 114 00:06:03,360 --> 00:06:05,839 Speaker 1: It was she did not want to be in a condo. 115 00:06:05,920 --> 00:06:08,680 Speaker 1: She wanted to be in a home, backyard, her friends, 116 00:06:08,720 --> 00:06:11,480 Speaker 1: her fantasy. She's had some challenges in her life, in 117 00:06:11,520 --> 00:06:15,160 Speaker 1: our personal situation, and I want her to have that happiness, 118 00:06:15,240 --> 00:06:18,560 Speaker 1: that provincial life with other kids and so like, that 119 00:06:18,720 --> 00:06:22,640 Speaker 1: was something that she I rarely don't take into account 120 00:06:22,640 --> 00:06:23,160 Speaker 1: what she wants. 121 00:06:23,200 --> 00:06:24,520 Speaker 2: She's an amazing person. 122 00:06:24,600 --> 00:06:26,880 Speaker 1: She's such a light in my life, and she's so sweet, 123 00:06:26,920 --> 00:06:30,160 Speaker 1: and I want her to be happy and so non negotiable. 124 00:06:31,000 --> 00:06:33,480 Speaker 2: So now when. 125 00:06:33,360 --> 00:06:35,359 Speaker 1: You get to the house, you are thinking of what 126 00:06:35,520 --> 00:06:38,120 Speaker 1: you're willing to compromise on, right Are you willing to 127 00:06:38,120 --> 00:06:41,560 Speaker 1: compromise on privacy? Are you willing to compromise on a 128 00:06:41,600 --> 00:06:43,800 Speaker 1: basement which they don't even have them in Florida, or 129 00:06:43,880 --> 00:06:47,159 Speaker 1: a guest house which I've had in other places for privacy? 130 00:06:47,360 --> 00:06:50,159 Speaker 1: Or do I have an office that's separate. Do I like, 131 00:06:50,320 --> 00:06:53,360 Speaker 1: what are the things we're not willing to compromise on. I, oddly, 132 00:06:53,480 --> 00:06:56,520 Speaker 1: in this particular move, for the first time, got everything 133 00:06:56,520 --> 00:06:58,640 Speaker 1: I wanted. I am very close to the beach, not 134 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:02,640 Speaker 1: on it, so I sack not being on it because 135 00:07:02,680 --> 00:07:05,200 Speaker 1: I could have been on it if I was going 136 00:07:05,240 --> 00:07:08,080 Speaker 1: to be in a condo, but my daughter didn't want that. 137 00:07:08,240 --> 00:07:10,960 Speaker 1: So to be on the ocean in a home is 138 00:07:11,040 --> 00:07:14,320 Speaker 1: much harder in Florida. So I'm next to it, literally 139 00:07:14,400 --> 00:07:16,200 Speaker 1: right next to it. But I'm saying when I look outside, 140 00:07:16,440 --> 00:07:18,320 Speaker 1: it's not like my Hampton's house where I see the water. 141 00:07:18,360 --> 00:07:20,600 Speaker 1: So that's one compromise. Okay, I was willing to move 142 00:07:20,640 --> 00:07:23,880 Speaker 1: that puzzle piece on the board because of the circumstances. 143 00:07:24,360 --> 00:07:26,360 Speaker 1: And then the list goes on and on and you 144 00:07:26,480 --> 00:07:30,840 Speaker 1: determine how it's going to work. But this is all 145 00:07:30,960 --> 00:07:35,040 Speaker 1: to say that dating is not unlike this. So you 146 00:07:35,160 --> 00:07:39,000 Speaker 1: might say, I want a man that is this height, 147 00:07:39,720 --> 00:07:44,920 Speaker 1: this age, this religion, lives in this general area or 148 00:07:44,960 --> 00:07:48,200 Speaker 1: these two areas, has one home, has multiple homes, has 149 00:07:48,800 --> 00:07:52,720 Speaker 1: two kids, has three kids, whatever. Okay, then you get 150 00:07:52,760 --> 00:07:55,760 Speaker 1: into reality and the pieces will move. And someone was 151 00:07:55,760 --> 00:07:57,440 Speaker 1: trying to set me up with someone and I told 152 00:07:57,520 --> 00:08:00,840 Speaker 1: them exactly what I wanted, but I changed one of 153 00:08:00,880 --> 00:08:04,760 Speaker 1: the pieces because of a situation. So there's a certain 154 00:08:04,800 --> 00:08:07,120 Speaker 1: success level that I would like. Okay, there's a certain 155 00:08:07,160 --> 00:08:09,200 Speaker 1: success level that I would like. I'm loud and proud 156 00:08:09,200 --> 00:08:11,640 Speaker 1: about it. I am very successful. I don't want anyone 157 00:08:11,640 --> 00:08:15,160 Speaker 1: else to feel inferior or insecure. I've dealt with that 158 00:08:15,360 --> 00:08:19,560 Speaker 1: in many different ways. I've gotten bullseye to understanding what 159 00:08:19,720 --> 00:08:21,600 Speaker 1: I need and don't need. I've never been at this 160 00:08:21,640 --> 00:08:24,560 Speaker 1: point in my entire life known exactly what I need 161 00:08:24,600 --> 00:08:26,200 Speaker 1: and don't need because I took this time to be 162 00:08:26,280 --> 00:08:28,560 Speaker 1: quiet and think about all of the mistakes that I've 163 00:08:28,560 --> 00:08:30,640 Speaker 1: made in all of the cars that I've gotten into 164 00:08:30,680 --> 00:08:34,120 Speaker 1: that were going in the wrong direction. So there's a 165 00:08:34,120 --> 00:08:37,839 Speaker 1: certain success level that I wanted. I decided to make 166 00:08:37,880 --> 00:08:42,520 Speaker 1: an exception for one person because the person was younger, 167 00:08:43,800 --> 00:08:47,640 Speaker 1: very successful now. The younger and the very successful now 168 00:08:48,160 --> 00:08:51,000 Speaker 1: equals how successful they're going to be. This could be 169 00:08:51,000 --> 00:08:53,080 Speaker 1: some version of a partnership. I could actually help this 170 00:08:53,120 --> 00:08:56,240 Speaker 1: person be successful. Meaning if I was dating someone ten 171 00:08:56,360 --> 00:08:59,199 Speaker 1: years older than myself, I want to know that they 172 00:08:59,200 --> 00:09:01,400 Speaker 1: were pretty establish where they are because they're not like 173 00:09:01,440 --> 00:09:04,880 Speaker 1: in their business prime, and where they are going to 174 00:09:04,920 --> 00:09:06,880 Speaker 1: be success wise is where they're landing. And you could 175 00:09:06,880 --> 00:09:08,760 Speaker 1: do this in your twenties and thirties too, by the way, 176 00:09:09,040 --> 00:09:11,720 Speaker 1: So where they are in their success life, yes, they 177 00:09:11,720 --> 00:09:14,439 Speaker 1: could become very successful in their sixties and seventies. Anything 178 00:09:14,520 --> 00:09:18,440 Speaker 1: can happen. So for that I would require that they 179 00:09:18,480 --> 00:09:22,800 Speaker 1: are at a different financial and business success level and 180 00:09:23,240 --> 00:09:26,679 Speaker 1: power level and accomplishment level. Then if someone is slightly 181 00:09:26,720 --> 00:09:29,720 Speaker 1: younger than me, I said to this person, no, this 182 00:09:29,800 --> 00:09:34,559 Speaker 1: guy actually could work. But if someone was brilliant and 183 00:09:34,720 --> 00:09:38,640 Speaker 1: funny and powerful and lived in the right places, I 184 00:09:38,720 --> 00:09:39,600 Speaker 1: might settle on. 185 00:09:39,600 --> 00:09:40,920 Speaker 2: The looks I don't want to. 186 00:09:41,400 --> 00:09:43,600 Speaker 1: So I chose in this equation to tell the person 187 00:09:43,600 --> 00:09:44,839 Speaker 1: who wanted to set me up with someone else. 188 00:09:44,840 --> 00:09:45,160 Speaker 2: I was like. 189 00:09:45,360 --> 00:09:47,439 Speaker 1: They were like, wait, this person isn't as successful as 190 00:09:47,440 --> 00:09:49,640 Speaker 1: you were talking about. I'm like, right, but look at 191 00:09:49,640 --> 00:09:52,560 Speaker 1: how old they are, look at how good looking they are, 192 00:09:52,640 --> 00:09:54,640 Speaker 1: how tall they are, look at the schools they went to, 193 00:09:54,720 --> 00:09:56,320 Speaker 1: and look exactly where they live. 194 00:09:56,720 --> 00:09:58,440 Speaker 2: And look that they don't have five kids. They have 195 00:09:58,480 --> 00:09:59,040 Speaker 2: five kids. 196 00:09:59,080 --> 00:10:02,240 Speaker 1: Like no, So even if they're handsome and successful, those 197 00:10:02,280 --> 00:10:03,400 Speaker 1: two things cancel it out. 198 00:10:03,480 --> 00:10:05,680 Speaker 2: So what I'm saying is you have. 199 00:10:05,559 --> 00:10:07,640 Speaker 1: To really be very clear on what you want and 200 00:10:07,640 --> 00:10:10,120 Speaker 1: what your puzzle is and kind of don't settle. You 201 00:10:10,160 --> 00:10:12,560 Speaker 1: can move pieces around and adjust, but you better have 202 00:10:12,600 --> 00:10:15,440 Speaker 1: a real good justification to yourself as to why you're 203 00:10:15,480 --> 00:10:30,000 Speaker 1: doing that. I don't want to go out with someone 204 00:10:30,080 --> 00:10:33,160 Speaker 1: until I'm excited. Why not because I'm an expert on it. 205 00:10:33,200 --> 00:10:35,240 Speaker 1: And yes, in your life you could be surprised, But 206 00:10:35,240 --> 00:10:36,959 Speaker 1: think about how many times in your life you were 207 00:10:37,000 --> 00:10:39,959 Speaker 1: not excited and you were pleasantly surprised by someone who 208 00:10:40,000 --> 00:10:42,640 Speaker 1: wasn't your physical type, didn't live where you wanted them to, 209 00:10:42,800 --> 00:10:45,120 Speaker 1: wasn't successful enough, something they had turned you off. 210 00:10:45,480 --> 00:10:47,160 Speaker 2: How many times have you gone on that date and 211 00:10:47,200 --> 00:10:47,920 Speaker 2: had it be good? 212 00:10:47,960 --> 00:10:51,080 Speaker 1: Because mine is probably zero to one if any I 213 00:10:51,080 --> 00:10:54,400 Speaker 1: don't remember any. So I don't want to go unless 214 00:10:54,440 --> 00:10:57,880 Speaker 1: I'm excited because it probably will be a disappointment anyway. 215 00:10:57,960 --> 00:10:59,880 Speaker 1: Not to be negative, I'm saying, it's just like, ah 216 00:11:00,160 --> 00:11:04,000 Speaker 1: are so I want to be really excited because if 217 00:11:04,040 --> 00:11:06,839 Speaker 1: you go and you second guess yourself and you knew 218 00:11:06,880 --> 00:11:08,200 Speaker 1: you shouldn't go, and then it's bad. 219 00:11:08,480 --> 00:11:10,199 Speaker 2: You could go low. You could go depressed. 220 00:11:10,559 --> 00:11:12,240 Speaker 1: It's like that buffet that you ate all the wrong 221 00:11:12,280 --> 00:11:14,120 Speaker 1: things and you're like disgusted by it because you don't 222 00:11:14,120 --> 00:11:15,440 Speaker 1: even know what you did and why you did it. 223 00:11:15,679 --> 00:11:17,040 Speaker 1: Then you don't want to go the next time, and 224 00:11:17,080 --> 00:11:21,240 Speaker 1: there's a really good one. So don't go unless there's 225 00:11:21,280 --> 00:11:23,600 Speaker 1: a really good reason. Actually, my last house in Connecticut, 226 00:11:24,000 --> 00:11:25,880 Speaker 1: I only wanted a house that had a pool. I 227 00:11:25,920 --> 00:11:29,720 Speaker 1: settled on that, but my broker was like, it has 228 00:11:29,800 --> 00:11:31,960 Speaker 1: all these other things, and I went, and I was 229 00:11:32,000 --> 00:11:34,720 Speaker 1: glad that I ended up going because I heard him 230 00:11:34,760 --> 00:11:36,560 Speaker 1: out on all the other things. But you better have 231 00:11:36,640 --> 00:11:40,160 Speaker 1: other things to make up for what you're sacrificing, and 232 00:11:40,280 --> 00:11:43,439 Speaker 1: don't delude yourself just to like match up with what 233 00:11:43,480 --> 00:11:46,840 Speaker 1: you're doing, like don't get in the wrong car. So 234 00:11:47,440 --> 00:11:50,960 Speaker 1: I'm excited about starting to date because I've been tight 235 00:11:51,480 --> 00:11:54,120 Speaker 1: and right and rock solid and exactly what I want. 236 00:11:54,760 --> 00:11:58,080 Speaker 1: And it is a puzzle and I can't wait until 237 00:11:58,080 --> 00:11:59,800 Speaker 1: I get it right to tell you how I got 238 00:11:59,840 --> 00:12:02,120 Speaker 1: it right. And I'm really not going to be sharing 239 00:12:02,160 --> 00:12:05,400 Speaker 1: like a lot about specific dates about people and specifics 240 00:12:05,480 --> 00:12:09,160 Speaker 1: or what happened or didn't happen. And when something is right, 241 00:12:09,240 --> 00:12:11,079 Speaker 1: I'll just tell you guys. Something is right. 242 00:12:11,120 --> 00:12:12,680 Speaker 2: It feels right. But I'm not going to get into 243 00:12:12,679 --> 00:12:15,199 Speaker 2: details because I really want to keep this private. 244 00:12:15,280 --> 00:12:17,960 Speaker 1: I do believe that like my profile and my what 245 00:12:18,040 --> 00:12:20,120 Speaker 1: I do for a living and all this craziness and 246 00:12:20,200 --> 00:12:22,400 Speaker 1: my pajamas and my grays and my shit show and 247 00:12:22,440 --> 00:12:26,320 Speaker 1: this fucking calamity probably to scare some people, but maybe 248 00:12:26,360 --> 00:12:32,840 Speaker 1: it doesn't. I have no fucking idea, but I'm definitely ready. 249 00:12:32,920 --> 00:12:38,200 Speaker 1: So last night I did something really problematic. Let me 250 00:12:38,200 --> 00:12:40,720 Speaker 1: tell you the story. Let me set the stage. Here's 251 00:12:40,800 --> 00:12:45,200 Speaker 1: what I did. I had someone working with me at 252 00:12:45,200 --> 00:12:48,839 Speaker 1: my house, my home that I owned that I paid 253 00:12:48,840 --> 00:12:53,320 Speaker 1: for with my own big girl money, and we were 254 00:12:53,360 --> 00:12:57,480 Speaker 1: just talking and I offered her it was like probably 255 00:12:57,480 --> 00:12:59,480 Speaker 1: six o'clock, five thirty, I don't care if it was 256 00:12:59,559 --> 00:13:03,280 Speaker 1: nine am, but I offered her a drink and we 257 00:13:03,400 --> 00:13:05,400 Speaker 1: had a couple of SIPs of a margarita. 258 00:13:05,960 --> 00:13:06,959 Speaker 2: Then she departed. 259 00:13:07,679 --> 00:13:11,000 Speaker 1: Then I saw a Miley Cyrus song on TikTok that 260 00:13:11,040 --> 00:13:14,400 Speaker 1: I love that you already know about. Was in pajamas 261 00:13:14,440 --> 00:13:16,880 Speaker 1: because I had just shot something that required pajamas. Was 262 00:13:16,920 --> 00:13:18,600 Speaker 1: having a drink and I got up on the counter 263 00:13:18,679 --> 00:13:21,200 Speaker 1: and I did a Miley Cyrus dance to a sound. 264 00:13:21,280 --> 00:13:24,480 Speaker 1: My dance to Miley Cyrus's sound. I had a great time. 265 00:13:24,520 --> 00:13:26,360 Speaker 1: I was home alone. My daughter informed me she was 266 00:13:26,400 --> 00:13:29,000 Speaker 1: going for a botchy with her friends because she's a tenant. 267 00:13:29,040 --> 00:13:31,160 Speaker 1: I'm a landlord, which we're going to get into soon. 268 00:13:31,800 --> 00:13:34,920 Speaker 1: I am officially missus roper slash mcaulay Culkin. 269 00:13:35,000 --> 00:13:35,600 Speaker 2: Home alone. 270 00:13:36,280 --> 00:13:39,439 Speaker 1: So we're about to describe to you the difference between 271 00:13:39,480 --> 00:13:42,400 Speaker 1: TikTok and Instagram. And it's a fact, it's true. No 272 00:13:42,440 --> 00:13:45,080 Speaker 1: one disagrees, it's not even up for discussion. But I'm 273 00:13:45,080 --> 00:13:47,000 Speaker 1: just going to tell you. I'm going to highlight something 274 00:13:47,000 --> 00:13:50,120 Speaker 1: that you may not know. And if you're on both 275 00:13:50,120 --> 00:13:51,840 Speaker 1: of those apps, you do know. And if you're on 276 00:13:51,840 --> 00:13:54,880 Speaker 1: one of those apps, you'll understand how those different neighborhoods 277 00:13:55,559 --> 00:13:58,959 Speaker 1: relate to one another and don't have they contrast and compare. 278 00:13:59,440 --> 00:14:04,440 Speaker 1: So I then had trolls on Instagram TikTok. Fine, you 279 00:14:04,480 --> 00:14:07,120 Speaker 1: could do whatever you wanted TikTok. You could hula hoop 280 00:14:07,200 --> 00:14:12,240 Speaker 1: naked okay. On the other app, Instagram, the Betty Bowling, Alley, 281 00:14:12,520 --> 00:14:19,120 Speaker 1: Karen Middle Aged bake Sale, Marriott Christmas Party, lanyard name tag, 282 00:14:19,320 --> 00:14:24,040 Speaker 1: Dusty Vibrator crew. They come in and they're like, looks 283 00:14:24,040 --> 00:14:28,240 Speaker 1: like someone drinking alone. I'm like, yes, yes, it is guilty. 284 00:14:28,360 --> 00:14:28,920 Speaker 2: Is charged? 285 00:14:29,000 --> 00:14:33,000 Speaker 1: Asked an answered, my own house, my own drinks, my 286 00:14:33,040 --> 00:14:35,560 Speaker 1: own body, my own choice, my fourth home, my fourth 287 00:14:35,640 --> 00:14:38,440 Speaker 1: luxury home that I purchased, my own money from the 288 00:14:38,480 --> 00:14:41,520 Speaker 1: cocktail that I created, that I invented that I sold 289 00:14:41,960 --> 00:14:44,160 Speaker 1: to get myself on the cover of Forbes magazine. 290 00:14:44,520 --> 00:14:45,040 Speaker 2: But like a. 291 00:14:45,000 --> 00:14:48,760 Speaker 1: Bunch of those like Dusty Old, like Miserable, Oh pray 292 00:14:48,760 --> 00:14:50,720 Speaker 1: for her daughter. I had one drink and it was 293 00:14:50,720 --> 00:14:53,360 Speaker 1: like a water down sort of wine based drink. Got 294 00:14:53,440 --> 00:14:57,360 Speaker 1: on my pajamas early started watching High Town Eating Chips sober. 295 00:14:57,400 --> 00:15:00,800 Speaker 2: As a goalpost. That is Instagram. 296 00:15:01,240 --> 00:15:04,800 Speaker 1: You could post something that is like slightly askew but funny, 297 00:15:05,160 --> 00:15:09,920 Speaker 1: and on Instagram they're so literal. Instagram is like the 298 00:15:10,040 --> 00:15:13,080 Speaker 1: rule following bakesale mom that comes into He's like, well, 299 00:15:13,160 --> 00:15:16,440 Speaker 1: now you're only supposed to have one parking spot, or 300 00:15:16,480 --> 00:15:19,200 Speaker 1: you're supposed to park behind the yether line. You're supposed 301 00:15:19,240 --> 00:15:21,120 Speaker 1: to get your application and by that day, well, the 302 00:15:21,240 --> 00:15:25,080 Speaker 1: costumes need to be sewn by June ninety nine. Because 303 00:15:25,080 --> 00:15:28,880 Speaker 1: this is like Reese Witherspoon from Elections Mom, who's just 304 00:15:28,920 --> 00:15:33,680 Speaker 1: like worried about every rule, the ultimate loser rule follower 305 00:15:33,720 --> 00:15:38,400 Speaker 1: that is just no fucking fun, right. I live on 306 00:15:38,480 --> 00:15:41,800 Speaker 1: Bad Mom's Christmas Talk. Okay, so I got But where 307 00:15:41,840 --> 00:15:46,120 Speaker 1: you're on Instagram, they are in the lobby of a 308 00:15:46,200 --> 00:15:49,520 Speaker 1: midtown Marriotte at the Christmas party, having one and a 309 00:15:49,560 --> 00:15:52,720 Speaker 1: half drinks with a glass of water in between, having 310 00:15:52,800 --> 00:15:56,600 Speaker 1: two little ardeuvs. They're on the Weight Watchers Points program 311 00:15:56,680 --> 00:16:00,600 Speaker 1: or Jenny Craig or whatever they're doing. But there's secretly 312 00:16:00,880 --> 00:16:04,880 Speaker 1: swilling wine with others right before the fucking pot luck 313 00:16:04,880 --> 00:16:07,080 Speaker 1: where they're gonna call you next Tuesday to make sure 314 00:16:07,120 --> 00:16:11,280 Speaker 1: you gave them back their stained, scratched tupperware. So that 315 00:16:11,440 --> 00:16:16,120 Speaker 1: person is at the Lanyard Lobby Christmas party and they're. 316 00:16:16,320 --> 00:16:18,520 Speaker 2: Sell impressed by celebrities. 317 00:16:18,600 --> 00:16:21,320 Speaker 1: Right Meanwhile, the fun people on TikTok are on the 318 00:16:21,400 --> 00:16:24,880 Speaker 1: rooftop hula hooping, dancing with tassels on their titties. And 319 00:16:25,000 --> 00:16:29,000 Speaker 1: that's the difference. And I have a residence in the 320 00:16:29,080 --> 00:16:32,400 Speaker 1: Lanyard Lobby community, but I go up to that rooftop 321 00:16:32,440 --> 00:16:34,720 Speaker 1: and I want to have fun. So yes, if you 322 00:16:34,800 --> 00:16:36,840 Speaker 1: ask me, did I have a drink alone in my 323 00:16:36,920 --> 00:16:40,440 Speaker 1: own casa that I built with my own fucking money. 324 00:16:40,440 --> 00:16:44,360 Speaker 1: I don't have to sleep with some fat, hairy remote 325 00:16:44,440 --> 00:16:47,680 Speaker 1: control hugging golf playing. 326 00:16:48,280 --> 00:16:51,520 Speaker 2: Hey Dan, how's your game doing? Hit them straight? Is 327 00:16:51,560 --> 00:16:52,600 Speaker 2: it raining all day? 328 00:16:52,680 --> 00:16:56,520 Speaker 1: Is a Tuesday all day bob, because that's that woman's husband, 329 00:16:57,000 --> 00:17:01,960 Speaker 1: My own body, my own choice. And Betty Bowling Alley, 330 00:17:02,280 --> 00:17:05,040 Speaker 1: who's complaining about what time I showed up at the 331 00:17:05,040 --> 00:17:07,879 Speaker 1: bake sale and l is it gluten free? Is it 332 00:17:07,960 --> 00:17:10,440 Speaker 1: net free as it taste free as it's soul free? 333 00:17:10,720 --> 00:17:15,480 Speaker 1: That woman she pays my bills because she watches my 334 00:17:15,640 --> 00:17:18,920 Speaker 1: content way longer and is up for every video so 335 00:17:18,920 --> 00:17:22,040 Speaker 1: she can come in on her keyboard with her cape 336 00:17:22,520 --> 00:17:26,119 Speaker 1: and sword and shield and fight me every day. So 337 00:17:27,040 --> 00:17:30,040 Speaker 1: not only do I say you're welcome, but to Betty 338 00:17:30,080 --> 00:17:34,159 Speaker 1: Bowling Alley, thank you. And I'm starting to hit my 339 00:17:34,200 --> 00:17:38,840 Speaker 1: stride and I'm starting to feel good in this complete 340 00:17:39,320 --> 00:17:42,320 Speaker 1: dry streak. That's an intentional dry streak. That's a celibate 341 00:17:42,400 --> 00:17:46,320 Speaker 1: intentional So now I'm not breaking my non dating diet. 342 00:17:46,680 --> 00:17:49,560 Speaker 1: If it's not worth it, it's got to be expensive 343 00:17:49,760 --> 00:17:54,200 Speaker 1: shit that is worth it. I am whil watching shark fishing. 344 00:17:54,840 --> 00:17:57,399 Speaker 1: It has to be exactly what I want. So I 345 00:17:57,520 --> 00:17:59,639 Speaker 1: do have a fish on the line. I do have 346 00:17:59,640 --> 00:18:01,440 Speaker 1: a fish that just jumped on the line. You will 347 00:18:01,440 --> 00:18:05,200 Speaker 1: never know anything about them. Not a bread crumber. It's 348 00:18:05,240 --> 00:18:08,160 Speaker 1: a you connected. The person asked you for a date, 349 00:18:08,240 --> 00:18:12,360 Speaker 1: you said, yes, date is being set. Anything else is ridiculous. 350 00:18:12,400 --> 00:18:15,040 Speaker 1: Some other guy came in, Hey did you see this? 351 00:18:15,160 --> 00:18:16,520 Speaker 2: Did you read that? Where do you live? What are 352 00:18:16,560 --> 00:18:16,880 Speaker 2: you doing? 353 00:18:16,960 --> 00:18:20,560 Speaker 1: Upside downside, sideways up to guess what? You could ask 354 00:18:20,600 --> 00:18:22,640 Speaker 1: me the five questions. Yes, I have kids, I live here, 355 00:18:22,640 --> 00:18:24,280 Speaker 1: I live there, I go here, I go there, I'm that, 356 00:18:24,400 --> 00:18:26,320 Speaker 1: I'm this, I want this, I want that. Make a 357 00:18:26,320 --> 00:18:29,800 Speaker 1: fucking date. I do not want a pen pal. I 358 00:18:29,920 --> 00:18:33,280 Speaker 1: don't care about what books you're reading at all. 359 00:18:33,880 --> 00:18:34,840 Speaker 2: I don't care. 360 00:18:35,320 --> 00:18:38,360 Speaker 1: And no, because you're reading The Seven Habits of Highly 361 00:18:38,359 --> 00:18:40,840 Speaker 1: Effective People and I'm not. But I read it years ago, 362 00:18:40,880 --> 00:18:42,640 Speaker 1: or I don't know how to read, or I need 363 00:18:42,680 --> 00:18:45,199 Speaker 1: flash cards. It doesn't mean we're gonna be compatible or not. 364 00:18:45,560 --> 00:18:47,000 Speaker 1: This is what I want, This is what I don't want. This. 365 00:18:47,040 --> 00:18:48,679 Speaker 2: Where I live is where I don't live. I'm interested, 366 00:18:48,720 --> 00:18:49,160 Speaker 2: I'm open. 367 00:18:49,680 --> 00:18:52,359 Speaker 1: Let's go or get the fuck out, piece, the fuck 368 00:18:52,359 --> 00:18:57,000 Speaker 1: out scram ain't nobody got time. Nothing feels cleaner than 369 00:18:57,000 --> 00:19:01,119 Speaker 1: matching with someone and just deleting and expiring goodbye, and 370 00:19:01,160 --> 00:19:03,399 Speaker 1: for them to meet too. You don't like what you 371 00:19:03,440 --> 00:19:07,960 Speaker 1: see in this window, walk on by, walk on by. 372 00:19:08,680 --> 00:19:12,480 Speaker 1: We don't need to waste each other's time. No, thank you. 373 00:19:13,119 --> 00:19:15,280 Speaker 1: We can cosplay. You could be at the dunkin Donuts 374 00:19:15,359 --> 00:19:17,520 Speaker 1: drive through window. I could drive by, order a latte, 375 00:19:17,600 --> 00:19:20,359 Speaker 1: ask you three questions. I'll know right away. You don't 376 00:19:20,359 --> 00:19:22,560 Speaker 1: even have to take me for a full drink. Hand 377 00:19:22,640 --> 00:19:25,119 Speaker 1: me a latte. I'll know right away whether we're right 378 00:19:25,160 --> 00:19:25,600 Speaker 1: for each other. 379 00:19:25,600 --> 00:19:26,240 Speaker 2: And so will you? 380 00:19:26,760 --> 00:19:28,320 Speaker 1: Let me get the fuck out of here. Here's my 381 00:19:28,359 --> 00:19:31,159 Speaker 1: four ninety nine and a thirty five percent tip. Piece 382 00:19:31,320 --> 00:19:35,080 Speaker 1: the fuck out. Nobody has the time, and there should 383 00:19:35,080 --> 00:19:38,280 Speaker 1: be like a rule. After fifteen minutes, you have the 384 00:19:38,400 --> 00:19:40,560 Speaker 1: lease option to buy. I've come to meet you for 385 00:19:40,640 --> 00:19:42,560 Speaker 1: drinks fifteen minutes and I can be like, I don't 386 00:19:42,560 --> 00:19:43,880 Speaker 1: think this is gonna work me neither. 387 00:19:43,960 --> 00:19:44,120 Speaker 2: By. 388 00:19:44,520 --> 00:19:47,040 Speaker 1: Go do what you gotta do, get a hooker, get 389 00:19:47,040 --> 00:19:50,959 Speaker 1: a meal, jerk off, watch TV, watch Game of Thrones, 390 00:19:51,040 --> 00:19:52,200 Speaker 1: do whatever you want to do. 391 00:19:52,359 --> 00:19:53,800 Speaker 2: I understand your time is precious. 392 00:19:53,880 --> 00:19:55,760 Speaker 1: Nothing is more valuable, which is why I've waited this 393 00:19:55,880 --> 00:19:59,639 Speaker 1: long to date people. In my comments, ooh no, wonder 394 00:20:00,200 --> 00:20:05,639 Speaker 1: she's alone exactly. That's not an insult. If dancing on 395 00:20:05,720 --> 00:20:10,879 Speaker 1: my counter by myself is a reason I'm alone, fuck off, good, good, 396 00:20:12,000 --> 00:20:14,359 Speaker 1: then I should be alone because if there's not a 397 00:20:14,359 --> 00:20:17,639 Speaker 1: man that's going to understand that when he's watching the 398 00:20:17,760 --> 00:20:21,919 Speaker 1: game or sleeping, that I'm gonna go danceairs, make myself 399 00:20:21,920 --> 00:20:24,639 Speaker 1: a drink in flower pajamas and dance on my countertop, 400 00:20:24,960 --> 00:20:29,120 Speaker 1: then I would rather be alone. Biggie and Smallest didn't 401 00:20:29,160 --> 00:20:31,480 Speaker 1: have a problem with it, and they are grown ass 402 00:20:31,640 --> 00:20:48,040 Speaker 1: furry men. Let's talk about dating profile red flags. This 403 00:20:48,160 --> 00:20:51,720 Speaker 1: is so good because I really am excellent at this. Okay, 404 00:20:52,359 --> 00:20:56,760 Speaker 1: so this is some obvious stuff, but let's just warm up. 405 00:20:57,320 --> 00:21:00,359 Speaker 1: The person's worst picture is the closest to what they 406 00:21:00,400 --> 00:21:03,520 Speaker 1: actually look like. Person's worst picture is the closest to 407 00:21:03,520 --> 00:21:06,159 Speaker 1: what they actually look like. Okay, everybody can have a 408 00:21:06,160 --> 00:21:08,440 Speaker 1: good day. Even a broken clock is right twice a day. 409 00:21:09,119 --> 00:21:13,560 Speaker 1: The height they will lie within two inches, okay, saying 410 00:21:13,560 --> 00:21:19,879 Speaker 1: that they're two inches taller. If someone shows a big house, 411 00:21:20,800 --> 00:21:26,000 Speaker 1: a nice car, or a private plane, or them next 412 00:21:26,040 --> 00:21:32,080 Speaker 1: to a celebrity, or them like flexing on some podium 413 00:21:32,280 --> 00:21:37,000 Speaker 1: or with like a known like professional sports team behind them, 414 00:21:37,080 --> 00:21:38,200 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like they're at the super 415 00:21:38,240 --> 00:21:40,959 Speaker 1: Bowl or something, or they're then it's a red flag 416 00:21:41,640 --> 00:21:45,520 Speaker 1: because it means that they are showing off something they 417 00:21:45,560 --> 00:21:47,920 Speaker 1: probably don't really have. So you might find your own 418 00:21:48,040 --> 00:21:50,160 Speaker 1: version of that, like whatever that is. But if it's 419 00:21:50,200 --> 00:21:53,399 Speaker 1: something that is some version of showing something off that 420 00:21:53,440 --> 00:21:57,560 Speaker 1: it's like a flex, then they want to prove something. 421 00:21:57,920 --> 00:21:59,200 Speaker 2: A real guy. 422 00:22:00,480 --> 00:22:03,359 Speaker 1: Has it but isn't going to show it even with Okay, 423 00:22:03,400 --> 00:22:06,520 Speaker 1: so a shirtless photo or a tank top at the 424 00:22:06,600 --> 00:22:10,080 Speaker 1: gym photo, Like there has to be some way that 425 00:22:10,119 --> 00:22:12,320 Speaker 1: they would be smart enough to take a picture that 426 00:22:12,359 --> 00:22:14,040 Speaker 1: you know they have a good body, but they're not 427 00:22:14,400 --> 00:22:18,359 Speaker 1: in a tank top, or that you would understand that 428 00:22:18,400 --> 00:22:22,520 Speaker 1: they're wealthy from their job description or where you find 429 00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:24,920 Speaker 1: out that they live, what area it is, et cetera. 430 00:22:25,280 --> 00:22:28,440 Speaker 1: But not by like being in front of a fancy 431 00:22:28,600 --> 00:22:32,639 Speaker 1: sports car. These things are red flags because the ones 432 00:22:32,680 --> 00:22:34,800 Speaker 1: who show that, like there was a guy that I 433 00:22:34,840 --> 00:22:38,720 Speaker 1: saw and he lived in his town is an expensive town, 434 00:22:38,880 --> 00:22:42,040 Speaker 1: like obviously even expensive towns have in expensive houses, but 435 00:22:42,080 --> 00:22:45,320 Speaker 1: it was an expensive town and he was standing in 436 00:22:45,359 --> 00:22:48,520 Speaker 1: front of a very expensive house, Like I could tell 437 00:22:48,560 --> 00:22:52,280 Speaker 1: that the house was millions of dollars, and I later 438 00:22:52,359 --> 00:22:54,800 Speaker 1: came to find that it wasn't that person's house. So 439 00:22:54,920 --> 00:22:57,040 Speaker 1: that's like the equivalent of when someone's sitting inside a 440 00:22:57,040 --> 00:23:00,320 Speaker 1: private plane, Like it's either that the person's side of 441 00:23:00,359 --> 00:23:03,080 Speaker 1: a private plane and so insecure and the plane isn't 442 00:23:03,119 --> 00:23:05,440 Speaker 1: really theirs, or they were wance on someone else's plane 443 00:23:05,440 --> 00:23:06,760 Speaker 1: and now you think they have a plane, but then 444 00:23:07,400 --> 00:23:09,600 Speaker 1: like you just it's just a red flag if someone's 445 00:23:09,640 --> 00:23:13,120 Speaker 1: posting like that, like inside of a private plane, if 446 00:23:13,119 --> 00:23:17,560 Speaker 1: someone's posting next to someone famous. For me, it's absolutely 447 00:23:17,600 --> 00:23:20,199 Speaker 1: cringe because I know so many famous people, and then 448 00:23:20,280 --> 00:23:23,359 Speaker 1: it means that they're impressed by fame, and like like 449 00:23:23,400 --> 00:23:26,639 Speaker 1: I've seen people in in profile picks next to sharks, 450 00:23:26,640 --> 00:23:28,040 Speaker 1: and I'm like, I'm friends with these people, Like it's 451 00:23:28,080 --> 00:23:31,400 Speaker 1: just they're so impressed. It's just also that they're trying 452 00:23:31,440 --> 00:23:33,760 Speaker 1: to show you that they're hobnobbing with people. So even 453 00:23:33,800 --> 00:23:36,840 Speaker 1: if you aren't friends with famous people, there's just some 454 00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:41,280 Speaker 1: version of a cringey flex. So look for whatever version 455 00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:43,920 Speaker 1: that is. I also and I bet you don't do this, 456 00:23:44,480 --> 00:23:48,919 Speaker 1: like really zoom into the background in their house and 457 00:23:49,000 --> 00:23:50,879 Speaker 1: you can tell if it's their house probably, or if 458 00:23:50,920 --> 00:23:52,840 Speaker 1: it's like a vacation lobby or if it's a hotel 459 00:23:52,880 --> 00:23:53,560 Speaker 1: room or something. 460 00:23:53,600 --> 00:23:54,680 Speaker 2: You know, you could sort of tell. 461 00:23:54,960 --> 00:23:57,480 Speaker 1: But like, I'll look in at like I'll see someone 462 00:23:57,480 --> 00:24:00,000 Speaker 1: with like a leather sofa, and I'm like a boy 463 00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:03,800 Speaker 1: abort in twenty twenty five. I Am not going to 464 00:24:03,880 --> 00:24:06,040 Speaker 1: date someone who has a other sofa, so like, oh, 465 00:24:06,040 --> 00:24:09,119 Speaker 1: you'll see the window treatments or is their counter messy 466 00:24:09,240 --> 00:24:12,400 Speaker 1: or like is it still like friggin old wood paneling 467 00:24:12,480 --> 00:24:14,439 Speaker 1: kitchen cabinets? Like I know it sounds crazy, and you 468 00:24:14,440 --> 00:24:17,280 Speaker 1: can have whatever yours is. You could have whatever yours is. 469 00:24:17,280 --> 00:24:19,879 Speaker 1: You could see an ashtray and hate smokers, it's not about me. 470 00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:21,399 Speaker 1: You could see a bunch of liquor and think of 471 00:24:21,440 --> 00:24:24,159 Speaker 1: they drink too much. You don't drink whatever. They have 472 00:24:24,320 --> 00:24:26,560 Speaker 1: a bracelet on your note into man jewelry. I don't 473 00:24:26,600 --> 00:24:29,320 Speaker 1: know what it is, but for me, I really look 474 00:24:29,400 --> 00:24:33,440 Speaker 1: and I aborted yesterday because I found out that they 475 00:24:33,480 --> 00:24:36,879 Speaker 1: live in a not great house. But like post it 476 00:24:36,920 --> 00:24:41,240 Speaker 1: in front of like a palatial mansion. Like that's false advertising. 477 00:24:41,760 --> 00:24:46,040 Speaker 1: That's false advertising. When people battled me years ago about 478 00:24:46,080 --> 00:24:49,440 Speaker 1: how I felt about being in person versus at home work, 479 00:24:49,600 --> 00:24:50,120 Speaker 1: it was a. 480 00:24:50,119 --> 00:24:51,240 Speaker 2: It was a controversial thing. 481 00:24:51,840 --> 00:24:56,080 Speaker 1: And the truth is, I have realized I'll spend time 482 00:24:56,240 --> 00:24:59,280 Speaker 1: in person with people that I work with, that I 483 00:24:59,320 --> 00:25:01,439 Speaker 1: love and I loved work with, that I idate with, 484 00:25:01,640 --> 00:25:04,960 Speaker 1: that I produce with, that I brainstorm with, and when 485 00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:10,119 Speaker 1: we are together, we laugh, we connect. It's a different experience. 486 00:25:10,160 --> 00:25:13,080 Speaker 1: And it's the same thing with my friends. My relationships 487 00:25:13,080 --> 00:25:16,400 Speaker 1: with my friends ever since the pandemic and being older 488 00:25:16,480 --> 00:25:19,399 Speaker 1: and more obligations and living in different places, has gotten 489 00:25:19,520 --> 00:25:24,439 Speaker 1: really like formulaic. I had a long distance relationship like that. 490 00:25:24,480 --> 00:25:26,840 Speaker 1: It's not the same as in person now. You can 491 00:25:26,880 --> 00:25:29,399 Speaker 1: define whether it needs to be every day or occasionally. 492 00:25:29,440 --> 00:25:32,120 Speaker 1: But the pandemic was good and that it allowed us 493 00:25:32,480 --> 00:25:36,840 Speaker 1: and fostered us and taught us how to produce from home. 494 00:25:37,280 --> 00:25:39,800 Speaker 1: But we've aired in a direction that I don't think 495 00:25:39,880 --> 00:25:42,560 Speaker 1: is great. Like I go a long time without human 496 00:25:42,560 --> 00:25:45,120 Speaker 1: connection now as I used to not, and I get 497 00:25:45,160 --> 00:25:50,080 Speaker 1: a lot more done when I'm in person with my people, 498 00:25:50,480 --> 00:25:53,199 Speaker 1: and when I spend quality time with my daughter. You 499 00:25:53,200 --> 00:25:56,720 Speaker 1: can't do anything from Afar like that, so I just 500 00:25:56,760 --> 00:26:02,880 Speaker 1: wanted to mention that to the aster 501 00:26:12,480 --> 00:26:18,000 Speaker 2: Aster, to the conser