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Speaker 1: My half sibling wanted a share of my father's will,

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Speaker 2: WHOA, that's crazy, Riley.

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Speaker 1: I thirty four female, am the firstborn child of my

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Speaker 1: father sixty eight male second marriage. My dad married his

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Speaker 1: previous wife very young, as she had gotten pregnant with

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Speaker 1: my oldest half brother, Mark forty eight miles. They had

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Speaker 1: two more children together, Mindy and Martin forty four female

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Speaker 1: and forty mail. They got divorced because his previous wife

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Speaker 1: was cheating on him with another married man.

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Speaker 3: You let her.

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Speaker 1: He later married my mom a few years later and

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Speaker 1: were four siblings in total, me Adam, Anna and Aaron

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Speaker 1: thirty mail, twenty six female, twenty three mail. By the way,

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Speaker 1: subred I'm Riley, I'm Sophia, So says. There have always

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Speaker 1: been rumors that my two youngest half siblings, Mindy and Martin,

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Speaker 1: aren't my dad's but the affair partner's children, but we've

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Speaker 1: dismissed them as we don't have much of a relationship

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Speaker 1: with them from the get go. Yikes, because of their mother.

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Speaker 1: The relationship between our half siblings has always been strained.

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Speaker 3: Dad is a.

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Speaker 1: Hugely successful business owner and he has always provided for

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Speaker 1: all of his children. He has paid for all of

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Speaker 1: our education so we could all live a free life,

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Speaker 1: helped us with businesses or getting us work, and even

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Speaker 1: helped us buy our own homes. A few years ago,

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Speaker 1: when Martin was jailed for fraudulent checks. My father paid

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Speaker 1: off all of his fines, bell and lawyer fees, which.

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Speaker 3: Told you around three hundred K.

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Speaker 1: Yet he hasn't received so much as a thank you

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Speaker 1: from any of my half siblings. On the other hand,

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Speaker 1: they constantly fight with him, accusing him of favoring my

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Speaker 1: siblings and I over them, and resenting my mother for

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Speaker 1: no apparent reason. They have always used my father as

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Speaker 1: a money bag and felt entitled to it. Mark recently

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Speaker 1: came to my dad and told him he needs to

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Speaker 1: know what Dad intends to leave to him in his

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Speaker 1: will to make sure they will be treated, to make

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Speaker 1: sure they will be treated fairly. This upset me, as

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Speaker 1: my dad is healthy and fit as ever. I suggested

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Speaker 1: all of my dad's children take a DNA test and

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Speaker 1: then we can have a go over his will and

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Speaker 1: what he wishes to leave us. Apparently this was the

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Speaker 1: wrong thing to say. Soon I was getting angry calls

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Speaker 1: from my half siblings and their mother calling me all

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Speaker 1: sorts of names. Well, Dad hasn't said much on the matter.

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Speaker 1: He is became awfully quiet, which is what he does

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Speaker 1: when he's upset. My mother said that I shouldn't have

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Speaker 1: was right. So am I the a hole?

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Speaker 2: I don't think you should have said that.

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Speaker 3: Mm hmmm.

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Speaker 2: I feel like that's your dad's issue to sort out

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Speaker 2: because it's his will and his money and also his

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Speaker 2: relationship with his kids.

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Speaker 1: But wasn't it a good idea what them getting DNA tests?

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Speaker 2: I think if the dad wanted that, he could have

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Speaker 2: done that ages ago.

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Speaker 1: Oh, but like objectively, isn't it a good idea?

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Speaker 2: Objectively? Maybe if they if they want to ensure that

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Speaker 2: they have a claim.

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Speaker 1: Why are you still on the fence, Get off the fence? Yes,

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Speaker 1: you said maybe, and he said perhaps.

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Speaker 2: Well, I think it's I think OP shouldn't have.

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Speaker 1: Done it, so edit, I feel that there's more backstory.

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Speaker 1: As some of you may think I'm being greedy or

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Speaker 1: want money for myself, That's not the case. I'm very

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Speaker 1: financially stable and can live a comfortable life without his inheritance.

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Speaker 1: Same goes for most of my siblings. Only the youngest,

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Speaker 1: who has chosen to join my father's business, is slightly

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Speaker 1: dependent on him, but he's a very hard worker and

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Speaker 1: my father is very proud of him for as my

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Speaker 1: half siblings. When we were kids, my father tried to

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Speaker 1: take Mark under his wing and have him join the company.

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Speaker 1: He taught him all the ropes and as in every

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Speaker 1: work environment, you were expected to wake up early and

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Speaker 1: do your job. Mark didn't like this, calling my father

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Speaker 1: a bad father for supposedly spoiling us while expecting him

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Speaker 1: the same with the other two. Mindy started to fight,

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Speaker 1: bringing her mother along to confront my father about why

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Speaker 1: her mother doesn't have a nice jewelry like my mother does,

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Speaker 1: and how he raised them in poverty. My father's business

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Speaker 1: was in his early stages then, but they were far

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Speaker 1: from poor. They went to the best private schools and

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Speaker 1: my father had bought their mother diamond rings, expensive necklaces,

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Speaker 1: and even gold bengals from a trip to Iran. Yes,

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Speaker 1: it wasn't as much as today, but they still felt

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Speaker 1: that she was entitled to the same treatment as his

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Speaker 1: current wife, my mother, all while the mother sat in silence,

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Speaker 1: acting like the victim, Sophia, should you buy your ex

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Speaker 1: wife cheated on you gifts as if they were still

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Speaker 1: your wife or you have another wife?

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Speaker 2: No, they're probably not.

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Speaker 1: Hmmm, grani'st troiling me on the Chartop, my name's not

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Speaker 2: Riley Wilson, that's right. I've speaking of names. I've chosen

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Speaker 2: to start spelling mine correctly. I just wish it was

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Speaker 2: also in the name of a flower. Me too, Me too?

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Speaker 2: But what happened next?

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Speaker 1: So this isn't the first time they've done this, and

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Speaker 1: I hate to see my dad's blood pressure go up

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Speaker 1: because of them. He's the type of person who will

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Speaker 1: to the point of no return. And it's always because

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Speaker 1: a DNA test to put them in their place regarding

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Speaker 1: the money they feel entireled to and the father they

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Speaker 1: have been bad mouthing all these years, all for a

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Speaker 1: woman who has been lying and manipulating them all their lives. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I did it out of pettiness, but I don't regret

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Speaker 1: at one bit. I'll take the a hole with the title,

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Speaker 1: with the pride it comes with. We have an update.

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Speaker 2: I don't even know where this is going, Like what

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Speaker 2: if they take the DNA test and they're not or

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Speaker 2: are they going to take a DNA test?

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Speaker 1: Can you take a d tests for someone?

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Speaker 3: Like?

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Speaker 1: Can I pluck some of your hair and do it

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Speaker 1: for you?

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Speaker 3: I mean you could.

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Speaker 2: I don't think it's entirely legal to do that.

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Speaker 1: Would you pursue legal action if I did?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: What if I've already done it? Shoot and you don't know?

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Speaker 2: I don't know about It's fine?

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Speaker 1: Okay?

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Speaker 2: Sweet?

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Speaker 1: Look sweet? Good to know, Good to know. The last

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Speaker 1: few days have went eventful, to say the least. I

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Speaker 1: I began by apologizing if my behavior upset him, and

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Speaker 1: told him if he never wants me to bring you

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Speaker 1: up the issue again, I won't. He laughed a bit

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Speaker 1: in his nature and told me how he always liked

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Speaker 1: that I checked up on him. It's been a habit

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Speaker 1: I'd done something that didn't please them. Reminisced a few

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Speaker 1: of those stories before he got to the point. The

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Speaker 1: thought that Martin and Mindy might not be his had

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Speaker 1: crossed his mind. But in our culture, having an affair

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Speaker 1: considered shameful. So not just too many people I knew

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Speaker 1: able to twist the narrative and blame my father for

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Speaker 2: Ooh, so she's out here telling everyone, Oh, he abandoned them,

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Speaker 2: and he can't say she cheated on me because it

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Speaker 1: So do you think Mindy and Mark know that they're

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Speaker 1: a fair baby?

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Speaker 2: Don't know. I don't know if they know. They might

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Speaker 2: They might know, and they might know that like Dad

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Speaker 2: can't say anything about it either.

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Speaker 1: Told her children that my father's sister conspired against her

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Speaker 1: all these years. My father said he doesn't give much

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Speaker 2: It's like, don't look up whether or not they're related

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Speaker 2: to me. I pass away and then please look it up.

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Speaker 2: I'm so curious.

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Speaker 1: I apologize again and told him I'm not interested in

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Speaker 1: Mindy is his as she has a striking resemblance to

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Speaker 2: Okay, maybe Mendy's the better sip of the two. Maybe

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Speaker 2: Mark just sucks and Mindy's like, I've been cool, but

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Speaker 1: So we have Mark, Mark Martin, and Mindy. I forgot

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Speaker 1: about Martin and Mindy.

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Speaker 2: Martin is, yes, also half brother and Mindy is half sister.

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Speaker 1: So so Mindy's good. Yeah, but we don't know about Martin.

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Speaker 2: Nah, Martin's he's a He's an Enigma.

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Speaker 3: Enigma two Enigma.

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Speaker 1: Out of the three, Mindy is probably the only one

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Speaker 1: I got what everyone was saying. I was truly the ahole.

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Speaker 1: Are you excited? Yeah, my brother's girlfriend kept lying about me.

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Speaker 1: To say, my twenty four female older brother twenty six

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Speaker 1: to him if I don't apologize, and I told him

441
00:20:35,359 --> 00:20:38,240
Speaker 1: that it's unfair that the stability of their relationship is

442
00:20:38,280 --> 00:20:40,639
Speaker 1: falling on to me when I have nothing to do

443
00:20:40,680 --> 00:20:42,879
Speaker 1: with their relationship. So I told him that if she

444
00:20:42,960 --> 00:20:45,680
Speaker 1: wants an apology, the best I can do by sending

445
00:20:45,720 --> 00:20:48,600
Speaker 1: a message to my brother saying my fault. She's not

446
00:20:48,640 --> 00:20:50,920
Speaker 1: getting a genuine apology out of me. Then my brother

447
00:20:50,960 --> 00:20:53,640
Speaker 1: says that that's not enough, and I have to apologize

448
00:20:53,640 --> 00:20:58,880
Speaker 1: to her in person. The audacity of the switch apologizing

449
00:20:58,920 --> 00:21:00,800
Speaker 1: person no shade of my mind. My brother, I am

450
00:21:00,800 --> 00:21:03,119
Speaker 1: not him. I will not call to her or entertain

451
00:21:03,160 --> 00:21:06,760
Speaker 1: her bs. So now I will not apologize. I'm someone

452
00:21:06,760 --> 00:21:10,479
Speaker 1: whose face gives away my emotions very easily and someone

453
00:21:10,480 --> 00:21:13,560
Speaker 1: who isn't afraid of confrontation. If she wants an apology

454
00:21:13,560 --> 00:21:16,000
Speaker 1: in person, She's not going to get an apology. I'm

455
00:21:16,000 --> 00:21:18,760
Speaker 1: going to curse her out for being so audacious and stupid.

456
00:21:18,800 --> 00:21:21,400
Speaker 1: So I told my brother that he knows that if

457
00:21:21,400 --> 00:21:24,439
Speaker 1: she asks for an apology in person, she will not

458
00:21:24,600 --> 00:21:28,000
Speaker 1: get an apology, and I will confront her about all

459
00:21:28,040 --> 00:21:29,960
Speaker 1: of the crap she has done. The only reason I've

460
00:21:29,960 --> 00:21:33,000
Speaker 1: been nice is because my brother really likes her. Anyways,

461
00:21:33,000 --> 00:21:35,600
Speaker 1: my brother hung up the FaceTime she and blocked my

462
00:21:35,680 --> 00:21:38,680
Speaker 1: older brother and they're talking again. So she wasn't going

463
00:21:38,720 --> 00:21:41,240
Speaker 1: to stop talking to my brother if I didn't apologize.

464
00:21:41,240 --> 00:21:44,200
Speaker 1: She just wanted to make threats like I expected. But

465
00:21:44,560 --> 00:21:47,520
Speaker 1: my older brother said that I should still apologize. So

466
00:21:47,640 --> 00:21:50,560
Speaker 1: reddit am I the a hole for not apologizing? If

467
00:21:50,600 --> 00:21:53,479
Speaker 1: I'm being honest. I told my brother that I worry

468
00:21:53,480 --> 00:21:55,560
Speaker 1: for him and his relationship and say that he needs

469
00:21:55,560 --> 00:21:58,360
Speaker 1: to take a step away from her and focus on himself.

470
00:21:58,400 --> 00:22:00,639
Speaker 3: But he's so in deep.

471
00:22:00,840 --> 00:22:03,120
Speaker 1: I don't want to apologize, but I need to know

472
00:22:03,480 --> 00:22:06,480
Speaker 1: if I'm in the wrong for not apologizing. Any advice.

473
00:22:06,840 --> 00:22:09,160
Speaker 2: I don't think you're in the wrong for not apologizing.

474
00:22:09,359 --> 00:22:12,359
Speaker 2: I do think the only way to fix the situation

475
00:22:12,640 --> 00:22:14,359
Speaker 2: is for you to move out if you can or

476
00:22:14,400 --> 00:22:17,320
Speaker 2: when you can, because I think you living or literally

477
00:22:17,440 --> 00:22:21,000
Speaker 2: right next or like in that same apartment and sharing

478
00:22:21,040 --> 00:22:24,280
Speaker 2: basically a wall with them is not doing anything for

479
00:22:24,320 --> 00:22:25,560
Speaker 2: your guys' relationships.

480
00:22:25,640 --> 00:22:27,639
Speaker 1: Oh mind you a very thin wall.

481
00:22:27,880 --> 00:22:33,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, you've expressed your feelings about his girlfriend, and after that,

482
00:22:33,320 --> 00:22:36,439
Speaker 2: there's really not much you can do to convince him.

483
00:22:36,480 --> 00:22:38,679
Speaker 2: You know that she's not a great person. So I

484
00:22:38,720 --> 00:22:40,440
Speaker 2: think just working on moving out.

485
00:22:40,720 --> 00:22:42,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, and that's the end of the story. We're gonna

486
00:22:42,760 --> 00:22:43,400
Speaker 1: read the next one.

487
00:22:44,440 --> 00:22:48,920
Speaker 2: My cousin said, I ruined Thanksgiving because I refuse to attend.

488
00:22:49,040 --> 00:22:50,320
Speaker 1: How's that ruining Thanksgiving?

489
00:22:50,400 --> 00:22:53,639
Speaker 2: And this comes directly from the Arslage? Okay, storytime separate it.

490
00:22:53,840 --> 00:22:56,760
Speaker 2: A few days ago, I twenty nine female, was tasked

491
00:22:56,880 --> 00:23:00,840
Speaker 2: to cook the whole Thanksgiving dinner for my end. My husband,

492
00:23:00,920 --> 00:23:04,000
Speaker 2: John thirty male, absolutely loves my cooking and told this

493
00:23:04,040 --> 00:23:06,240
Speaker 2: grandma that I could make some desserts, but she said,

494
00:23:06,280 --> 00:23:09,439
Speaker 2: my new granddaughter can do the entire meal. I feel

495
00:23:09,440 --> 00:23:11,280
Speaker 2: like this is a test from her or something, and

496
00:23:11,320 --> 00:23:14,160
Speaker 2: I absolutely accept it. She's such a doll of a person.

497
00:23:14,240 --> 00:23:17,160
Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from Radiant Plantain two four three,

498
00:23:17,240 --> 00:23:18,680
Speaker 2: and if you want to submit your own stories, go

499
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Speaker 2: to the r slash Okay Storytime Separate it. I'm Sophia,

500
00:23:21,600 --> 00:23:24,040
Speaker 2: I'm Riley, I'm Carly, and we're here to give good

501
00:23:24,080 --> 00:23:25,960
Speaker 2: advice goofy, but we don't have all the answers. We

502
00:23:26,040 --> 00:23:27,800
Speaker 2: only know what we'd do, So let us know what

503
00:23:27,840 --> 00:23:28,840
Speaker 2: you would do in the commons.

504
00:23:28,920 --> 00:23:29,120
Speaker 3: Well.

505
00:23:29,160 --> 00:23:32,040
Speaker 2: Traditionally I spend Thanksgiving with my dad's side of the family.

506
00:23:32,240 --> 00:23:34,600
Speaker 2: I told them all that I won't be attending this year,

507
00:23:34,720 --> 00:23:38,000
Speaker 2: and my cousin, Sarah sixty female who's the host, cried

508
00:23:38,080 --> 00:23:39,960
Speaker 2: on the phone and said that I'm ruining the family

509
00:23:39,960 --> 00:23:42,720
Speaker 2: dinner and I'm taking half of the table away by

510
00:23:42,760 --> 00:23:45,480
Speaker 2: not sticking to tradition. I told her I apologize, and

511
00:23:45,520 --> 00:23:47,400
Speaker 2: I would try if I could, but more than likely

512
00:23:47,480 --> 00:23:49,399
Speaker 2: I won't be coming and will be with my in laws.

513
00:23:49,480 --> 00:23:52,199
Speaker 2: I actually have another reason why I don't want to go,

514
00:23:52,359 --> 00:23:56,080
Speaker 2: and my hobby agrees. Sarah has a daughter, forty nine female,

515
00:23:56,119 --> 00:23:59,680
Speaker 2: let's call her Diana. Diana is a heavy drinker. She'd

516
00:23:59,760 --> 00:24:02,600
Speaker 2: drinks liquor more than water. Actually, her lifestyle is a

517
00:24:02,600 --> 00:24:04,800
Speaker 2: bit scary, but I have to give some background before

518
00:24:04,840 --> 00:24:06,880
Speaker 2: I jump right in and sound like I'm bashing her.

519
00:24:07,000 --> 00:24:09,800
Speaker 2: I love my cousin. So when I was born, my

520
00:24:09,880 --> 00:24:11,879
Speaker 2: dad told my mom not to put his name on

521
00:24:11,960 --> 00:24:14,639
Speaker 2: my birth certificate and not to tell anyone that I'm his.

522
00:24:14,960 --> 00:24:17,280
Speaker 2: For some dumb but reason, she went along with it.

523
00:24:17,440 --> 00:24:19,800
Speaker 2: Now till this day, there's a random man's name on

524
00:24:19,880 --> 00:24:22,919
Speaker 2: my birth certificate. This is relevant. My mom's dad was

525
00:24:23,080 --> 00:24:25,439
Speaker 2: furious with her for going along with that, so he

526
00:24:25,520 --> 00:24:28,159
Speaker 2: forced her to take me to meet my paternal grandparents.

527
00:24:28,240 --> 00:24:31,080
Speaker 2: Adored me instantly and eventually introduced me to the rest

528
00:24:31,080 --> 00:24:33,480
Speaker 2: of the family. I was about six months to a year.

529
00:24:33,960 --> 00:24:36,720
Speaker 2: Diana met me and instantly fell in love. She would

530
00:24:36,720 --> 00:24:39,199
Speaker 2: babysit me sometimes on the weekends that I was with

531
00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:41,119
Speaker 2: my pop up. By the time I was four, my

532
00:24:41,200 --> 00:24:44,719
Speaker 2: paternal grandmother passed away, and during her funeral was the

533
00:24:44,760 --> 00:24:47,679
Speaker 2: first time I met my dad. I genuinely didn't know

534
00:24:47,760 --> 00:24:49,840
Speaker 2: that's who he was until I was about seven. I

535
00:24:49,880 --> 00:24:52,080
Speaker 2: would see him from time to time in between, but

536
00:24:52,160 --> 00:24:53,960
Speaker 2: I thought he was some random white guy that would

537
00:24:54,000 --> 00:24:56,560
Speaker 2: just pop up. Both sides of my family were all black,

538
00:24:56,640 --> 00:24:59,080
Speaker 2: so I was super confused. I found out later that

539
00:24:59,119 --> 00:25:02,280
Speaker 2: my dad is adopted and is Armenian. After my grandmother

540
00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:05,800
Speaker 2: passed away, her family, which included Sarah and Diana, bold

541
00:25:05,800 --> 00:25:08,879
Speaker 2: my papa that he's still welcome to family functions because

542
00:25:08,920 --> 00:25:12,320
Speaker 2: he's family no matter what. So every year we'd spend

543
00:25:12,359 --> 00:25:15,160
Speaker 2: all major holidays with them. Diana has a brother, let's

544
00:25:15,160 --> 00:25:18,359
Speaker 2: call him Ted. Ted was my favorite cousin. He was

545
00:25:18,440 --> 00:25:21,359
Speaker 2: the sweetest man in the world, and he treated me

546
00:25:21,440 --> 00:25:25,040
Speaker 2: like a princess. He lived with Diana and had a son, Junior,

547
00:25:25,200 --> 00:25:27,000
Speaker 2: who I would love to visit with. I would spend

548
00:25:27,000 --> 00:25:29,520
Speaker 2: a lot of time at Diana's house throughout my childhood.

549
00:25:29,520 --> 00:25:32,040
Speaker 2: When I turned eight, Ted passed away. I was the

550
00:25:32,119 --> 00:25:35,359
Speaker 2: day that shook the entire family. Sarah stopped eating and

551
00:25:35,400 --> 00:25:38,320
Speaker 2: became very sick when she heard her son was gone.

552
00:25:38,440 --> 00:25:41,240
Speaker 2: Even my aunt Karen, Sarah's mom, who was a normally

553
00:25:41,280 --> 00:25:45,359
Speaker 2: peppy person, had a complete personality change. I noticed all

554
00:25:45,400 --> 00:25:47,600
Speaker 2: of this as a kid. The first holiday after his

555
00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:51,600
Speaker 2: passing was so heavy. Everyone basically had their heads low.

556
00:25:51,680 --> 00:25:55,199
Speaker 2: The entire time from Ted's passing till today, I watched

557
00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:58,920
Speaker 2: my family's love turn into tolerance for me. Around this time,

558
00:25:59,000 --> 00:26:01,760
Speaker 2: my Dad comes back. He never took care of me,

559
00:26:01,880 --> 00:26:04,040
Speaker 2: and no one ever mentioned it. It was actually kind

560
00:26:04,080 --> 00:26:06,000
Speaker 2: of weird not seeing this man that I was just

561
00:26:06,080 --> 00:26:08,360
Speaker 2: told was my father all year long, just to see

562
00:26:08,440 --> 00:26:10,600
Speaker 2: him at dinner where he barely talks to me. No

563
00:26:10,600 --> 00:26:12,960
Speaker 2: one said anything about it. When I turned thirteen, my

564
00:26:13,080 --> 00:26:16,080
Speaker 2: Papa passed away, and my eyes were open to everything

565
00:26:16,119 --> 00:26:18,119
Speaker 2: that was going on in the family. Maybe it was

566
00:26:18,160 --> 00:26:20,399
Speaker 2: his passing that took the blinders off. The day of

567
00:26:20,440 --> 00:26:23,560
Speaker 2: his funeral, I heard them all bickering over his belongings

568
00:26:23,640 --> 00:26:26,040
Speaker 2: and his will that hadn't even been read out yet.

569
00:26:26,200 --> 00:26:29,200
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh.

570
00:26:28,119 --> 00:26:30,119
Speaker 2: But they were in a corner in the church trying

571
00:26:30,119 --> 00:26:33,040
Speaker 2: to figure out who was getting his cars in house. Well,

572
00:26:33,080 --> 00:26:35,399
Speaker 2: all of their faces fell when they heard that I

573
00:26:35,680 --> 00:26:38,720
Speaker 2: had been left everything. Good on you, Pete, because clearly

574
00:26:38,800 --> 00:26:41,440
Speaker 2: you had a relationship with them or with your grandfather

575
00:26:41,520 --> 00:26:43,879
Speaker 2: that they did not have because they just wanted his money.

576
00:26:43,920 --> 00:26:45,919
Speaker 2: My dad, most of all, was hurt. He was my

577
00:26:45,960 --> 00:26:49,280
Speaker 2: papa's only child, and he spoiled my dad rotten. I

578
00:26:49,359 --> 00:26:51,800
Speaker 2: noticed a big change once my papa was gone. No

579
00:26:51,880 --> 00:26:54,119
Speaker 2: one called me unless it was to come for Thanksgiving

580
00:26:54,160 --> 00:26:57,399
Speaker 2: and Christmas. Diana stopped coming to get me, so that

581
00:26:57,480 --> 00:26:59,720
Speaker 2: took Junior away from me, and I started to feel

582
00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:02,720
Speaker 2: like an extra they needed on holidays a prop. When

583
00:27:02,760 --> 00:27:05,479
Speaker 2: I turned sixteen, my dad found a way to steal

584
00:27:05,600 --> 00:27:09,800
Speaker 2: my entire inheritance, the house, all three cars, and the money.

585
00:27:09,880 --> 00:27:11,840
Speaker 2: I had gone through a lot of depression and was

586
00:27:11,880 --> 00:27:14,960
Speaker 2: doing things I genuinely wasn't ready for time out.

587
00:27:15,080 --> 00:27:17,639
Speaker 3: Please go to courts that and don't you feel the

588
00:27:17,680 --> 00:27:18,639
Speaker 3: courts a trust?

589
00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:22,520
Speaker 1: And I remember we read something a while ago and

590
00:27:22,680 --> 00:27:24,760
Speaker 1: the people that are in charge of the trusts, what

591
00:27:24,800 --> 00:27:26,679
Speaker 1: are they called? They's supposed to be responsible to make

592
00:27:26,680 --> 00:27:28,280
Speaker 1: sure all that stuff is kept together.

593
00:27:28,520 --> 00:27:31,040
Speaker 2: Yeah. And then some time passed by and I got

594
00:27:31,080 --> 00:27:33,320
Speaker 2: pregnant with my son. When my dad found out, he

595
00:27:33,400 --> 00:27:36,520
Speaker 2: tried to fight me. My whole family doesn't approve my

596
00:27:36,600 --> 00:27:40,320
Speaker 2: son is the most handsome, intelligent, sensitive and strong young

597
00:27:40,400 --> 00:27:42,800
Speaker 2: man I know. I named him after my cousin Ted.

598
00:27:42,920 --> 00:27:45,720
Speaker 2: After my little Ted turned two, I really started to

599
00:27:45,720 --> 00:27:48,360
Speaker 2: feel like a family prompt But now as a mother,

600
00:27:48,480 --> 00:27:50,399
Speaker 2: I don't want my son to have that feeling of

601
00:27:50,520 --> 00:27:53,960
Speaker 2: not belonging like me. Everything was brushed over and no

602
00:27:53,960 --> 00:27:56,320
Speaker 2: one spoke on anything. I was older now and I

603
00:27:56,320 --> 00:27:58,879
Speaker 2: guess Diana saw me as an equal. Well that's what

604
00:27:58,960 --> 00:28:01,120
Speaker 2: she said. I now know better. So she would call

605
00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:03,600
Speaker 2: me a lot and we'd talk about any and everything. Well,

606
00:28:03,600 --> 00:28:07,919
Speaker 2: eventually the conversations changed from normal, lighthearted cousin conversation to

607
00:28:08,040 --> 00:28:11,040
Speaker 2: something else. She would constantly keep reminding me that she

608
00:28:11,119 --> 00:28:13,440
Speaker 2: was nineteen years older than me and that she helped

609
00:28:13,520 --> 00:28:16,840
Speaker 2: raise me. Babysitting is not raising. She would talk down

610
00:28:16,880 --> 00:28:19,320
Speaker 2: about my mother. She would praise me being a good

611
00:28:19,320 --> 00:28:21,200
Speaker 2: mom and then tell the story of how she can't

612
00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:24,320
Speaker 2: get pregnant because of some genetic fertility issues that she

613
00:28:24,400 --> 00:28:26,879
Speaker 2: had in common with my grandmother. She would complain that

614
00:28:26,920 --> 00:28:29,560
Speaker 2: it wasn't fair that I have a baby and she didn't.

615
00:28:29,600 --> 00:28:32,160
Speaker 2: At first, I just let her go on, but eventually

616
00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:34,720
Speaker 2: it started to bother me because she went from adoring

617
00:28:34,760 --> 00:28:38,520
Speaker 2: me to envying everything that I do, even if it

618
00:28:38,680 --> 00:28:39,600
Speaker 2: was a bad choice.

619
00:28:39,680 --> 00:28:40,840
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh.

620
00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:43,880
Speaker 2: When I turned twenty three, I was completely done with

621
00:28:43,960 --> 00:28:46,880
Speaker 2: everyone in my life treating me less than so I

622
00:28:46,920 --> 00:28:49,880
Speaker 2: developed a nice, hard, shiny backbone and was ready for

623
00:28:49,920 --> 00:28:51,000
Speaker 2: any and everybody.

624
00:28:51,040 --> 00:28:51,680
Speaker 3: All right.

625
00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:54,920
Speaker 2: She called me one night, super wasted and told me

626
00:28:55,000 --> 00:28:57,000
Speaker 2: she was just sitting there with a drink thinking about

627
00:28:57,040 --> 00:28:59,040
Speaker 2: her brother. I saw that they did a memorial for

628
00:28:59,080 --> 00:29:02,000
Speaker 2: him on Facebook. It was beautiful. She said, yeah, we did.

629
00:29:02,120 --> 00:29:03,840
Speaker 2: We should have invited you, but I didn't know if

630
00:29:03,840 --> 00:29:06,200
Speaker 2: you had work. I told her, if she'd called, I

631
00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:08,680
Speaker 2: would have told her that I didn't have work today

632
00:29:08,720 --> 00:29:11,000
Speaker 2: and I would have loved to come. It's okay, though.

633
00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:12,959
Speaker 2: She said, Oh, I'm sorry. I didn't know you were

634
00:29:13,000 --> 00:29:15,320
Speaker 2: going to be sad about it. I told her, I'm not.

635
00:29:15,640 --> 00:29:17,800
Speaker 2: It's okay. I don't need a memorial to have a

636
00:29:17,840 --> 00:29:20,000
Speaker 2: memory of him. She said, right, because you have a

637
00:29:20,080 --> 00:29:23,600
Speaker 2: sweet baby ted to remember my brother, my brother who

638
00:29:23,680 --> 00:29:26,160
Speaker 2: I took care of, My brother who you named your

639
00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:28,800
Speaker 2: baby after. I didn't even know you were all that close,

640
00:29:29,200 --> 00:29:31,200
Speaker 2: my brother who passed away in front of me. Why

641
00:29:31,360 --> 00:29:33,680
Speaker 2: is your problem, girl? You both love your brother.

642
00:29:33,920 --> 00:29:37,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, this ViBe's kind of weird. Man, I would be gone,

643
00:29:37,240 --> 00:29:39,080
Speaker 1: no conduct, Yeah, absolutely.

644
00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:41,360
Speaker 2: I asked her if she was mad, what's going on?

645
00:29:41,720 --> 00:29:44,160
Speaker 2: She told me, f you you have the audacity to

646
00:29:44,200 --> 00:29:46,680
Speaker 2: be mad about not coming to my brother's memorial. You

647
00:29:46,720 --> 00:29:48,920
Speaker 2: didn't come any other time either. I told her to

648
00:29:48,960 --> 00:29:52,080
Speaker 2: stop that she never invited me, and she's going to

649
00:29:52,080 --> 00:29:54,640
Speaker 2: stop raising her voice at me, I'm not a kid anymore.

650
00:29:54,720 --> 00:29:56,520
Speaker 1: There we go that backbone. I see it over.

651
00:29:56,640 --> 00:29:59,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, she said you are a kid. Just because you

652
00:29:59,160 --> 00:30:01,120
Speaker 2: had a kid doesn't mean crap. I told her, I

653
00:30:01,120 --> 00:30:03,640
Speaker 2: feel like she only called me because she feels guilty,

654
00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:06,320
Speaker 2: and it's just easier to be mad at me than

655
00:30:06,360 --> 00:30:10,760
Speaker 2: to acknowledge that she left me out intentionally. Again, it's okay, done.

656
00:30:10,800 --> 00:30:13,560
Speaker 2: She hung up on me. I was so confused. I

657
00:30:13,640 --> 00:30:16,479
Speaker 2: called Junior to ask if he had spoken to his

658
00:30:16,560 --> 00:30:19,479
Speaker 2: aunt and if she was okay, because she called very angry.

659
00:30:19,560 --> 00:30:21,840
Speaker 2: He told me that earlier that day he asked the

660
00:30:21,880 --> 00:30:24,920
Speaker 2: family at large why I never come to my dad's memorials.

661
00:30:25,000 --> 00:30:27,200
Speaker 2: I thought this was for family. He said that Sarah

662
00:30:27,240 --> 00:30:29,320
Speaker 2: and Diana told them that shut up. I told them

663
00:30:29,320 --> 00:30:31,080
Speaker 2: my theory that I'm just a prop piece in the

664
00:30:31,080 --> 00:30:33,320
Speaker 2: family to help fill the table on holidays, and that

665
00:30:33,440 --> 00:30:35,680
Speaker 2: I'm okay with that. I just wish that everyone would

666
00:30:35,680 --> 00:30:37,760
Speaker 2: acknowledge it and maybe it would help me let go

667
00:30:37,840 --> 00:30:39,480
Speaker 2: of them. He told me that they have been having

668
00:30:39,760 --> 00:30:43,480
Speaker 2: memorials and other family events that included my father but

669
00:30:43,720 --> 00:30:46,880
Speaker 2: excluded me for years, and that it always bothers him.

670
00:30:46,920 --> 00:30:49,040
Speaker 2: I told him that it was okay and not to

671
00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:52,400
Speaker 2: be upset for me. I love them unconditionally because whatever

672
00:30:52,480 --> 00:30:54,520
Speaker 2: problem they have against me has nothing to do with

673
00:30:54,600 --> 00:30:57,160
Speaker 2: him and doesn't tarnish my love for him or his dad.

674
00:30:57,280 --> 00:30:59,240
Speaker 2: I told him that they were the only two who

675
00:30:59,400 --> 00:31:02,560
Speaker 2: genuinely loved me and treated me like family. So knowing

676
00:31:02,600 --> 00:31:05,440
Speaker 2: that helps more than anything. So about five years later,

677
00:31:05,560 --> 00:31:08,680
Speaker 2: I kept Diana at arm's length, but she would occasionally

678
00:31:08,720 --> 00:31:11,280
Speaker 2: call wasted to tell me that she envied my life.

679
00:31:11,480 --> 00:31:14,480
Speaker 2: Block this woman, blocked this woman. Yeah, I'd be like, girl,

680
00:31:14,640 --> 00:31:15,720
Speaker 2: you need to stop.

681
00:31:15,800 --> 00:31:17,560
Speaker 1: It's okay to do that with Emily.

682
00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:20,680
Speaker 2: Sometimes I'd answer because I felt bad for her, but

683
00:31:20,920 --> 00:31:23,360
Speaker 2: sometimes I would answer and let my grandma hear how

684
00:31:23,400 --> 00:31:27,240
Speaker 2: absolutely backcrap crazy she was. Junior called me and invited

685
00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:29,640
Speaker 2: me to a memorial at the passing spot of his dad.

686
00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:32,080
Speaker 2: I told him, of course I would come. I met

687
00:31:32,160 --> 00:31:34,880
Speaker 2: him and Diana at the location. Diana told us that

688
00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:36,680
Speaker 2: no one else in the family wanted to do the

689
00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 2: memorial anymore, and that she was only doing it for

690
00:31:39,160 --> 00:31:42,160
Speaker 2: Junior and me this year and wouldn't be returning. His

691
00:31:42,240 --> 00:31:44,960
Speaker 2: face clouded over, and she didn't know what she had said.

692
00:31:45,040 --> 00:31:47,960
Speaker 2: Had hurt him. We prayed, played his favorite song, and

693
00:31:48,000 --> 00:31:50,280
Speaker 2: took a shot of tequila in his name. When we

694
00:31:50,280 --> 00:31:53,240
Speaker 2: were saying our goodbyes, Diana brought up again how she's

695
00:31:53,280 --> 00:31:55,840
Speaker 2: not coming back to do this and that the only

696
00:31:55,880 --> 00:31:58,600
Speaker 2: reason was for Junior and because I never got a

697
00:31:58,680 --> 00:32:01,280
Speaker 2: chance to come. I was ab absolutely done with her

698
00:32:01,280 --> 00:32:04,200
Speaker 2: at this point, so I said to her, I love you, Diana.

699
00:32:04,440 --> 00:32:06,120
Speaker 2: I just want you to know that you didn't come

700
00:32:06,160 --> 00:32:09,200
Speaker 2: here for me. You came here out of guilt, guilt

701
00:32:09,240 --> 00:32:12,280
Speaker 2: for your brother, for his son, and for me. But Honey,

702
00:32:12,320 --> 00:32:14,600
Speaker 2: I release you from any guilt you feel towards me.

703
00:32:14,720 --> 00:32:16,840
Speaker 2: But I refuse to let you turn this moment for

704
00:32:17,000 --> 00:32:19,520
Speaker 2: this man's father into something about you. If you don't

705
00:32:19,520 --> 00:32:22,120
Speaker 2: want to be here, then leave. I absolve you from

706
00:32:22,120 --> 00:32:24,840
Speaker 2: feeling obligated to me. She starts shouting and wanting to

707
00:32:24,880 --> 00:32:27,280
Speaker 2: speak to Junior alone, but he was very upset and

708
00:32:27,360 --> 00:32:29,640
Speaker 2: aired out all of his grievances. He told her that

709
00:32:29,720 --> 00:32:32,600
Speaker 2: he hates that she gets wasted and makes everything about her.

710
00:32:32,760 --> 00:32:35,280
Speaker 2: He hates how the family sweeps everything under the rug.

711
00:32:35,720 --> 00:32:38,440
Speaker 2: He hates how I'm never invited to things, hates how

712
00:32:38,440 --> 00:32:40,800
Speaker 2: they treat me like family when it's convenient for them,

713
00:32:40,920 --> 00:32:42,960
Speaker 2: and he hats how fake they all are. She tells

714
00:32:43,040 --> 00:32:45,800
Speaker 2: him some stuff is for the family. I started laughing

715
00:32:45,840 --> 00:32:48,480
Speaker 2: and said, exactly, I'm glad you finally said it. Some

716
00:32:48,600 --> 00:32:52,200
Speaker 2: stuff is just for family, and you all never really

717
00:32:52,240 --> 00:32:54,960
Speaker 2: saw me as family, just a baby. Your dumb butt

718
00:32:55,000 --> 00:32:57,400
Speaker 2: cousin abandoned. Try to walk up on me like she

719
00:32:57,480 --> 00:32:59,840
Speaker 2: wanted a fight, but I snatched her up and put

720
00:32:59,840 --> 00:33:01,400
Speaker 2: her in her car. Do you threaten to call the

721
00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:04,000
Speaker 2: police on me? I then left and called Junior to

722
00:33:04,040 --> 00:33:07,280
Speaker 2: tell him that from now on, we'll do the memorials ourselves.

723
00:33:07,320 --> 00:33:09,640
Speaker 2: I love my cousin and his father so much, and

724
00:33:09,680 --> 00:33:11,719
Speaker 2: I just want to see him happy. I stopped talking

725
00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:14,680
Speaker 2: to Diana completely. I still get invited to holidays, so

726
00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:17,160
Speaker 2: I would speak to everyone but her. I wouldn't be

727
00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:19,640
Speaker 2: outwardly rude, but she knew not to even direct a

728
00:33:19,680 --> 00:33:22,600
Speaker 2: word in my direction. So now I'm at this point

729
00:33:22,640 --> 00:33:24,920
Speaker 2: in my life where I don't even feel bad for

730
00:33:25,080 --> 00:33:27,360
Speaker 2: not wanting to be a part of the family at all.

731
00:33:27,480 --> 00:33:29,960
Speaker 2: I do feel sadden that my aunt Karen has dementia.

732
00:33:30,240 --> 00:33:31,959
Speaker 2: My dad and I have worked through most of our

733
00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:35,040
Speaker 2: problems and have a very beautiful relationship. Surprisingly, but he

734
00:33:35,080 --> 00:33:37,200
Speaker 2: also agrees with me not wanting to be a part

735
00:33:37,200 --> 00:33:39,680
Speaker 2: of things. He's been to a few therapy sessions with me,

736
00:33:39,800 --> 00:33:41,760
Speaker 2: and he admits that he was jealous of me, and

737
00:33:41,800 --> 00:33:43,959
Speaker 2: maybe that's why the family treats me the way they do.

738
00:33:44,120 --> 00:33:46,680
Speaker 2: Their loyalty is to him, and for most of my

739
00:33:46,800 --> 00:33:49,360
Speaker 2: life he disliked me, so they acted accordingly. Not mad

740
00:33:49,400 --> 00:33:51,640
Speaker 2: at anyone or even sad about it at all. I'm

741
00:33:51,720 --> 00:33:54,160
Speaker 2: just happy to have it acknowledged, and I'm proud of

742
00:33:54,160 --> 00:33:57,080
Speaker 2: myself for creating these boundaries that have kept me and

743
00:33:57,160 --> 00:34:00,480
Speaker 2: my children safe from people who give themselves timeols in

744
00:34:00,520 --> 00:34:02,600
Speaker 2: your life just for show. If you got to the

745
00:34:02,680 --> 00:34:04,760
Speaker 2: end of s thank you for reading my family drama.

746
00:34:04,760 --> 00:34:07,560
Speaker 2: And that is the end of that story. My grandmother

747
00:34:07,600 --> 00:34:11,720
Speaker 2: threatened to sue me for grandparents' rights after my father's affair.

748
00:34:12,040 --> 00:34:13,239
Speaker 1: So whose fault is this?

749
00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:16,720
Speaker 2: I thirty two female, have had a rough six months

750
00:34:16,719 --> 00:34:19,600
Speaker 2: with my family. My parents are now divorced after thirty

751
00:34:19,640 --> 00:34:22,800
Speaker 2: three years of marriage because my father got cheating again,

752
00:34:22,960 --> 00:34:25,640
Speaker 2: and I've been emotionally supporting my mother along the way,

753
00:34:25,719 --> 00:34:28,319
Speaker 2: but now my grandmother is threatening with a lawyer. By

754
00:34:28,320 --> 00:34:30,440
Speaker 2: the way, This comes from Second Time Over and if

755
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Speaker 2: you want to submit your own stories, go to the

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Speaker 2: r slash Okay Storytimes suparate at I'm Sophia, I'm Riley,

757
00:34:35,360 --> 00:34:37,480
Speaker 2: I'm Carly, and we're here to give good advice. Goofy.

758
00:34:37,520 --> 00:34:39,279
Speaker 2: But we don't have all the answers. We only know

759
00:34:39,320 --> 00:34:41,279
Speaker 2: what we'd do, So let us know what you'd do

760
00:34:41,480 --> 00:34:44,960
Speaker 2: in the comments. Over three years ago, my son, now six,

761
00:34:45,200 --> 00:34:47,719
Speaker 2: and I were living back home with my parents due

762
00:34:47,760 --> 00:34:50,720
Speaker 2: to my divorce from a bad man. I had full

763
00:34:50,840 --> 00:34:53,239
Speaker 2: custody of my son. I had been seeing my ale

764
00:34:53,280 --> 00:34:55,399
Speaker 2: husband for about a year at this time, and we

765
00:34:55,400 --> 00:34:58,480
Speaker 2: were looking at apartments and houses to move into together

766
00:34:58,680 --> 00:35:01,480
Speaker 2: since it was a long distance relationship. In the evenings,

767
00:35:01,520 --> 00:35:03,960
Speaker 2: after putting my son to bed, I would wait until

768
00:35:03,960 --> 00:35:06,760
Speaker 2: both my parents headed to bed and spend a little

769
00:35:06,760 --> 00:35:09,680
Speaker 2: time video chatting with my husband. One night, after getting

770
00:35:09,680 --> 00:35:11,719
Speaker 2: my son into bed, I went to the living room,

771
00:35:12,120 --> 00:35:14,480
Speaker 2: sat on the couch and scrolled on my phone while

772
00:35:14,480 --> 00:35:16,920
Speaker 2: watching TV. My position on the couch was sort of

773
00:35:16,960 --> 00:35:19,520
Speaker 2: behind one of the chairs, my dad's chair, and he

774
00:35:19,600 --> 00:35:21,680
Speaker 2: was still up and on his phone. He had acted

775
00:35:21,680 --> 00:35:24,560
Speaker 2: weird before saying good night to my son, but the

776
00:35:24,600 --> 00:35:27,800
Speaker 2: reason didn't register until later. He placed his phone screen

777
00:35:27,880 --> 00:35:30,520
Speaker 2: down in this lab it didn't seem too strange. In

778
00:35:30,560 --> 00:35:33,160
Speaker 2: the moment between looking up at the TV and scrolling

779
00:35:33,160 --> 00:35:35,640
Speaker 2: my phone, I caught a glimpse of his phone in

780
00:35:35,719 --> 00:35:39,040
Speaker 2: his hands and was confused by the colors and format

781
00:35:39,040 --> 00:35:41,400
Speaker 2: of what was on his screen. I opened my camera

782
00:35:41,440 --> 00:35:44,880
Speaker 2: app and zoomed in. What I saw was the Messenger app,

783
00:35:44,920 --> 00:35:47,600
Speaker 2: with the background changed to the light pink and Heart's

784
00:35:47,600 --> 00:35:51,080
Speaker 2: theme and dark pink message bubbles right away red flags.

785
00:35:51,239 --> 00:35:54,520
Speaker 2: I instantly started sharing this via text with my husband.

786
00:35:54,600 --> 00:35:56,960
Speaker 2: My parents both let their phones in the living room

787
00:35:57,000 --> 00:35:59,479
Speaker 2: at night to charge, so when it was time for bed,

788
00:35:59,560 --> 00:36:01,640
Speaker 2: my dad plugged it in and left the room. I

789
00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:04,919
Speaker 2: took that as my opportunity to go and see if

790
00:36:04,960 --> 00:36:07,600
Speaker 2: what my gut told me was happening was true or not.

791
00:36:07,960 --> 00:36:10,480
Speaker 2: I thought finding out my exes had cheated on me

792
00:36:10,560 --> 00:36:13,840
Speaker 2: felt terrible, but in this moment, seeing proof that my

793
00:36:13,920 --> 00:36:17,080
Speaker 2: own father was being this way toward my mother was

794
00:36:17,120 --> 00:36:19,560
Speaker 2: even worse. The messages I read and the pictures I

795
00:36:19,560 --> 00:36:21,680
Speaker 2: saw said it all. I might be the a hole

796
00:36:21,760 --> 00:36:24,440
Speaker 2: for going into his phone and collecting proof of what

797
00:36:24,560 --> 00:36:27,759
Speaker 2: I found. That's fine, but I do not regret it

798
00:36:27,840 --> 00:36:30,440
Speaker 2: one bit because I had to tell my mother the

799
00:36:30,480 --> 00:36:32,719
Speaker 2: next morning, and I had to show her some of

800
00:36:32,760 --> 00:36:35,719
Speaker 2: the messages no pictures, because a daughter shouldn't have to

801
00:36:35,760 --> 00:36:39,040
Speaker 2: see her father's unmentionables, let alone save them on her phone.

802
00:36:39,080 --> 00:36:42,960
Speaker 2: My mom confronted him immediately. He denied having anything more

803
00:36:43,000 --> 00:36:45,799
Speaker 2: than emotional connection with the girl let's call her Jen,

804
00:36:45,960 --> 00:36:48,920
Speaker 2: but he said it had been going on for six months.

805
00:36:49,360 --> 00:36:49,920
Speaker 3: Whoa.

806
00:36:50,680 --> 00:36:52,960
Speaker 2: My mom kicked him out of the house that day.

807
00:36:53,120 --> 00:36:55,680
Speaker 2: She told them she needed time and space to figure

808
00:36:55,680 --> 00:36:57,960
Speaker 2: this out. Keep in mind that during those six months

809
00:36:57,960 --> 00:37:01,400
Speaker 2: of just talking and building their emotional can my parents

810
00:37:01,400 --> 00:37:05,279
Speaker 2: took a small vacation to celebrate their thirtieth wedding anniversary.

811
00:37:05,360 --> 00:37:08,200
Speaker 2: Shortly after that, my mother nearly passed away from a

812
00:37:08,239 --> 00:37:12,240
Speaker 2: biopsy gone wrong. All while these events and milestones were happening,

813
00:37:12,400 --> 00:37:15,759
Speaker 2: he was busy building a relationship with Jen. Jen is

814
00:37:15,800 --> 00:37:18,400
Speaker 2: also my age. After my mother kicked him out, my

815
00:37:18,520 --> 00:37:21,440
Speaker 2: father had to tell both my sister and me separately

816
00:37:21,640 --> 00:37:23,799
Speaker 2: about what was going on. I was second on the

817
00:37:23,840 --> 00:37:26,279
Speaker 2: list because of transportation. This man looked me in the

818
00:37:26,280 --> 00:37:29,080
Speaker 2: eyes and lied to my face when I asked if

819
00:37:29,080 --> 00:37:32,240
Speaker 2: he cheated and slept with Jen. He denied it. What

820
00:37:32,840 --> 00:37:35,160
Speaker 2: that's crazy because OPI is the one you found out.

821
00:37:35,239 --> 00:37:38,160
Speaker 3: Obviously denied what were we talking to?

822
00:37:38,239 --> 00:37:39,920
Speaker 1: Then AI bought what was happening.

823
00:37:39,920 --> 00:37:42,520
Speaker 2: A few weeks later he was allowed back into the

824
00:37:42,560 --> 00:37:45,279
Speaker 2: house and even shared a bit for me. It was

825
00:37:45,360 --> 00:37:47,440
Speaker 2: sickening to see that my mother would try to move

826
00:37:47,480 --> 00:37:50,600
Speaker 2: past it like it didn't happen and try to move forward.

827
00:37:50,880 --> 00:37:53,840
Speaker 2: She did therapy and counseling. He broke things off with

828
00:37:53,960 --> 00:37:56,760
Speaker 2: Jen and had to delete all forms of social media.

829
00:37:56,840 --> 00:37:59,080
Speaker 2: I told her I would support her in any decision

830
00:37:59,120 --> 00:38:01,680
Speaker 2: she made. From that, I played dice and didn't ruffle

831
00:38:01,719 --> 00:38:03,799
Speaker 2: any feathers with either of them. My son and I

832
00:38:03,880 --> 00:38:07,120
Speaker 2: moved out shortly after, and my husband has a zero

833
00:38:07,239 --> 00:38:10,839
Speaker 2: tolerance policy concerning cheaters. He pulled away the most from

834
00:38:10,880 --> 00:38:13,799
Speaker 2: my parents, mostly my father, but over the next three

835
00:38:13,880 --> 00:38:16,400
Speaker 2: years we both made solid efforts to build a different

836
00:38:16,480 --> 00:38:18,759
Speaker 2: kind of relationship with my father. The relationship with my

837
00:38:18,840 --> 00:38:21,000
Speaker 2: mother went right back to normal for us and only

838
00:38:21,000 --> 00:38:24,160
Speaker 2: got stronger with time. Six months ago, my father went

839
00:38:24,200 --> 00:38:26,839
Speaker 2: in for shoulder surgery. My mother held onto his phone,

840
00:38:26,880 --> 00:38:29,080
Speaker 2: which was turned off when given to her. When the

841
00:38:29,160 --> 00:38:31,200
Speaker 2: nurses rolled them away. She sat in the waiting room

842
00:38:31,239 --> 00:38:34,280
Speaker 2: for updates, but then she had a moment, called her gut,

843
00:38:34,440 --> 00:38:37,280
Speaker 2: telling her she needed to check his phone. She hadn't

844
00:38:37,320 --> 00:38:40,120
Speaker 2: been checking his phone during the last three years because

845
00:38:40,120 --> 00:38:42,520
Speaker 2: he told her he wanted their marriage to work, and

846
00:38:42,600 --> 00:38:45,920
Speaker 2: she trusted that. Sure enough, she turned his phone on

847
00:38:46,040 --> 00:38:49,040
Speaker 2: and found messages with Jen from that morning. My mother

848
00:38:49,120 --> 00:38:51,200
Speaker 2: read through enough of the conversation and then called me

849
00:38:51,320 --> 00:38:53,840
Speaker 2: right away. I knew what had been done this time.

850
00:38:54,000 --> 00:38:56,520
Speaker 2: She was done only a few hours later. She was

851
00:38:56,560 --> 00:38:59,480
Speaker 2: purchasing moving boxes and getting a plan in place. After

852
00:38:59,600 --> 00:39:01,880
Speaker 2: he woke up up from surgery, she was cold and

853
00:39:01,960 --> 00:39:04,560
Speaker 2: handed him his phone. She could tell from his face

854
00:39:04,600 --> 00:39:07,120
Speaker 2: that she knew and he knew it was over. I

855
00:39:07,160 --> 00:39:10,080
Speaker 2: have been emotionally supporting my mother this whole time, and

856
00:39:10,120 --> 00:39:12,600
Speaker 2: from a distance because I live hours away. My father

857
00:39:12,719 --> 00:39:16,080
Speaker 2: sent me one handwritten letter barely two weeks after it happened,

858
00:39:16,480 --> 00:39:18,960
Speaker 2: asking that I don't keep my son away from him.

859
00:39:19,040 --> 00:39:19,160
Speaker 3: Oo.

860
00:39:20,040 --> 00:39:22,560
Speaker 2: This triggered a few things for me. I'm married and

861
00:39:22,640 --> 00:39:25,880
Speaker 2: have a blended family. I now have three bonus daughters.

862
00:39:26,040 --> 00:39:30,439
Speaker 2: He chose to only address the one biologically related and

863
00:39:30,480 --> 00:39:33,240
Speaker 2: not my family as a whole, not even me his daughter.

864
00:39:33,400 --> 00:39:35,560
Speaker 2: After getting the letter, we had to tell our kids

865
00:39:35,600 --> 00:39:38,600
Speaker 2: that their grandparents were getting a divorce. They asked why

866
00:39:38,640 --> 00:39:40,719
Speaker 2: we don't full blown lie to our kids. We tell

867
00:39:40,760 --> 00:39:43,000
Speaker 2: them the truth in ways that they can understand. We

868
00:39:43,040 --> 00:39:45,520
Speaker 2: allow them to enjoy being kids, but we're also preparing

869
00:39:45,560 --> 00:39:47,479
Speaker 2: them to grow up and be able to hold real

870
00:39:47,560 --> 00:39:49,839
Speaker 2: discussions and real world conversations.

871
00:39:49,920 --> 00:39:51,880
Speaker 1: As a person, you have to pick if you're going

872
00:39:51,920 --> 00:39:54,720
Speaker 1: to be a great husband or great dad. He's neither.

873
00:39:55,000 --> 00:39:55,799
Speaker 3: How do you do that?

874
00:39:56,080 --> 00:39:58,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, he's failed on both accounts. So when they asked why,

875
00:39:58,719 --> 00:40:01,240
Speaker 2: we had to tell them that they're her grandfather broke

876
00:40:01,360 --> 00:40:04,520
Speaker 2: the trust and promises made to their grandmother, and that

877
00:40:04,600 --> 00:40:07,360
Speaker 2: we are here to support her. They were so upset,

878
00:40:07,400 --> 00:40:09,000
Speaker 2: but they knew it was time to love on their

879
00:40:09,040 --> 00:40:12,279
Speaker 2: grandmother more than ever before, and they did just that.

880
00:40:12,360 --> 00:40:14,240
Speaker 2: But my husband and I had to make the decision

881
00:40:14,360 --> 00:40:16,719
Speaker 2: not to allow my father to be a part of

882
00:40:16,760 --> 00:40:20,319
Speaker 2: our family for the time being, and especially while he

883
00:40:20,360 --> 00:40:23,479
Speaker 2: was still not taking responsibility for his actions. He wasn't

884
00:40:23,480 --> 00:40:26,000
Speaker 2: owning it. He was trying to be the victim. My

885
00:40:26,120 --> 00:40:28,120
Speaker 2: father had to move in with his mother. She is

886
00:40:28,160 --> 00:40:30,399
Speaker 2: in a wheelchair and doesn't like to leave her house

887
00:40:30,480 --> 00:40:33,400
Speaker 2: unless she absolutely has to. This is my grandmother. She

888
00:40:33,560 --> 00:40:36,120
Speaker 2: was my number one favorite person in the world until

889
00:40:36,160 --> 00:40:38,239
Speaker 2: I had my son, who stole my heart, and I

890
00:40:38,480 --> 00:40:42,120
Speaker 2: was until recently her favorite grandchild and my son her

891
00:40:42,160 --> 00:40:45,200
Speaker 2: favorite great grandchild. I'm the middle grandchild and my son

892
00:40:45,280 --> 00:40:47,520
Speaker 2: is the youngest great I'm not sure why we are

893
00:40:47,560 --> 00:40:49,839
Speaker 2: her favorite in comparison, and I'm not sure I'll ever

894
00:40:49,840 --> 00:40:50,359
Speaker 2: find that out.

895
00:40:50,440 --> 00:40:50,720
Speaker 3: Sends.

896
00:40:50,760 --> 00:40:53,680
Speaker 2: My father moved in with my grandmother. We believe he

897
00:40:53,800 --> 00:40:57,080
Speaker 2: isn't telling her the full story or the truth. My

898
00:40:57,160 --> 00:40:59,879
Speaker 2: grandmother verbally lashed out at my mother and my mother

899
00:41:00,120 --> 00:41:03,000
Speaker 2: was her favorite above her own five kids, and blamed

900
00:41:03,000 --> 00:41:05,720
Speaker 2: her for everything. My grandmother got it in her head

901
00:41:05,840 --> 00:41:08,880
Speaker 2: that my mother had been the one cheating, not my father,

902
00:41:09,080 --> 00:41:12,280
Speaker 2: and my father isn't telling her otherwise. He wasn't telling

903
00:41:12,320 --> 00:41:15,120
Speaker 2: anyone the truth, just that they had grown apart. Over

904
00:41:15,160 --> 00:41:17,960
Speaker 2: the summer, my family traveled up for a vacation because

905
00:41:18,000 --> 00:41:20,919
Speaker 2: we had our extra long distance extended family visiting. During

906
00:41:20,920 --> 00:41:22,919
Speaker 2: this vacation, we had a down day at the house

907
00:41:22,960 --> 00:41:25,160
Speaker 2: in town. I took the kids to run an errand

908
00:41:25,239 --> 00:41:28,600
Speaker 2: and spend some time while others slept in I thought

909
00:41:28,640 --> 00:41:30,759
Speaker 2: about swinging in to visit my grandmother so she could

910
00:41:30,800 --> 00:41:33,239
Speaker 2: see all the kids, but the night before, my father

911
00:41:33,400 --> 00:41:35,879
Speaker 2: texted my mother saying he took those days off from

912
00:41:35,920 --> 00:41:38,160
Speaker 2: work and wanted to join us on our day trips

913
00:41:38,200 --> 00:41:40,560
Speaker 2: with our guests, where my husband and me we said

914
00:41:40,719 --> 00:41:43,840
Speaker 2: new we weren't going to put ourselves or our kids

915
00:41:43,920 --> 00:41:46,319
Speaker 2: into a situation we don't want. Since my father took

916
00:41:46,360 --> 00:41:48,799
Speaker 2: the days off, I didn't want to chance bringing my

917
00:41:48,880 --> 00:41:51,000
Speaker 2: kids over to visit in case he was there, so

918
00:41:51,080 --> 00:41:53,400
Speaker 2: we didn't visit. My grandmother found out we were in

919
00:41:53,480 --> 00:41:56,560
Speaker 2: town and didn't stop by, and that's what caused her

920
00:41:56,600 --> 00:41:58,920
Speaker 2: to finally yell at my mother and blame her for

921
00:41:59,000 --> 00:42:01,840
Speaker 2: my choice not to bring the kids by. My grandmother

922
00:42:01,960 --> 00:42:04,439
Speaker 2: never reached out to me directly. I tried to swing

923
00:42:04,520 --> 00:42:06,799
Speaker 2: by for a visit while driving through on my way

924
00:42:06,840 --> 00:42:08,839
Speaker 2: to a work event. I wanted to clear the air

925
00:42:08,880 --> 00:42:10,719
Speaker 2: with her and get a chance for to visit with

926
00:42:10,960 --> 00:42:13,680
Speaker 2: at least my son, since I brought him along. I

927
00:42:13,719 --> 00:42:16,319
Speaker 2: went one day and other family showed up, so I

928
00:42:16,320 --> 00:42:18,440
Speaker 2: didn't get the chance to talk. But I planned to

929
00:42:18,480 --> 00:42:20,560
Speaker 2: stop by the next day with my son, and I

930
00:42:20,640 --> 00:42:23,080
Speaker 2: texted my father telling him I was going to stop by,

931
00:42:23,239 --> 00:42:26,000
Speaker 2: but would ask that he wasn't in the house while

932
00:42:26,040 --> 00:42:28,080
Speaker 2: my son was there. I wanted my son and my

933
00:42:28,120 --> 00:42:30,520
Speaker 2: grandmother to have a chance to visit. He chose that

934
00:42:30,680 --> 00:42:33,560
Speaker 2: moment to tell his mother about my ask. She freaked

935
00:42:33,560 --> 00:42:35,120
Speaker 2: out and told him to tell me not to bother

936
00:42:35,200 --> 00:42:36,120
Speaker 2: if he couldn't stay too.

937
00:42:36,280 --> 00:42:37,000
Speaker 3: I didn't visit.

938
00:42:37,200 --> 00:42:39,480
Speaker 2: My husband stepped in like the man I needed him

939
00:42:39,480 --> 00:42:42,359
Speaker 2: to be, and had a whole other conversation with my father,

940
00:42:42,560 --> 00:42:45,200
Speaker 2: defending our choice on why we don't want him around

941
00:42:45,239 --> 00:42:47,880
Speaker 2: yet and giving him the answers on how to change this.

942
00:42:48,000 --> 00:42:49,960
Speaker 2: All around a month ago, I got a letter in

943
00:42:50,000 --> 00:42:52,760
Speaker 2: the mail from my grandmother. It was all over the place,

944
00:42:53,000 --> 00:42:55,319
Speaker 2: but the part we can't get past is where she

945
00:42:55,440 --> 00:42:57,960
Speaker 2: says she has a family lawyer, but wants to try

946
00:42:57,960 --> 00:43:00,319
Speaker 2: to keep this out of court. She believes that she

947
00:43:00,400 --> 00:43:04,279
Speaker 2: and my father have grandparents' rights and are entitled to

948
00:43:04,360 --> 00:43:05,279
Speaker 2: my child.

949
00:43:06,200 --> 00:43:09,439
Speaker 1: Under special circumstances, and.

950
00:43:09,360 --> 00:43:11,880
Speaker 2: These aren't very special. I have drafted a letter for

951
00:43:11,960 --> 00:43:15,600
Speaker 2: both my grandmother and father both to include printed copies

952
00:43:15,640 --> 00:43:18,640
Speaker 2: of the screenshots of my father's conversations with Jen from

953
00:43:18,680 --> 00:43:21,360
Speaker 2: three years ago and a full breakout of all the

954
00:43:21,360 --> 00:43:24,240
Speaker 2: events and facts I know to be true. My husband

955
00:43:24,280 --> 00:43:26,400
Speaker 2: wants us to get a lawyer first and have a

956
00:43:26,440 --> 00:43:29,239
Speaker 2: cease and desist drafted and sent to them along with

957
00:43:29,520 --> 00:43:32,080
Speaker 2: or without the letter. I wrote a Reddit. Am I

958
00:43:32,239 --> 00:43:34,560
Speaker 2: the ale for not allowing my father to be part

959
00:43:34,600 --> 00:43:37,960
Speaker 2: of my kids' lives while he continues to lie and

960
00:43:38,200 --> 00:43:41,200
Speaker 2: cheat his way through this whole situation. We want positive

961
00:43:41,280 --> 00:43:44,080
Speaker 2: role models in our kids' lives. And am I the

962
00:43:44,120 --> 00:43:46,680
Speaker 2: aole for wanting to share all my facts and evidence

963
00:43:46,719 --> 00:43:48,960
Speaker 2: with my grandmother and father? And am I and the

964
00:43:49,000 --> 00:43:51,360
Speaker 2: wrong for wanting to go against my husband's wishes of

965
00:43:51,360 --> 00:43:53,760
Speaker 2: getting a lawyer and just send the letters and speak

966
00:43:53,840 --> 00:43:56,440
Speaker 2: my piece at last. And that is the end of

967
00:43:56,480 --> 00:43:58,960
Speaker 2: the story. I do think that maybe you should get

968
00:43:59,000 --> 00:44:02,120
Speaker 2: a lawyer just to protect yourself and your family and

969
00:44:02,160 --> 00:44:06,919
Speaker 2: then counter sue or also send Well, they haven't sent

970
00:44:07,000 --> 00:44:08,080
Speaker 2: a suit against.

971
00:44:07,800 --> 00:44:09,960
Speaker 1: Them yet, but if they do, yeah, prep for a

972
00:44:10,040 --> 00:44:10,800
Speaker 1: counter sue.

973
00:44:10,840 --> 00:44:14,480
Speaker 2: But I do think that you should tell your grandmother everything.

974
00:44:14,520 --> 00:44:16,000
Speaker 1: And that's the end of the story. We're going to

975
00:44:16,080 --> 00:44:16,799
Speaker 1: read the next one.

976
00:44:16,840 --> 00:44:20,160
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977
00:44:20,280 --> 00:44:22,280
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978
00:44:22,320 --> 00:44:25,040
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979
00:44:25,400 --> 00:44:29,640
Speaker 2: My coworker didn't realize he'd answered my call and started

980
00:44:29,800 --> 00:44:31,640
Speaker 2: dissing me to another coworker.

981
00:44:31,960 --> 00:44:33,920
Speaker 3: Ah embarrassing.

982
00:44:34,640 --> 00:44:38,200
Speaker 2: I twenty eight female, have a coworker Darren, thirty two male,

983
00:44:38,600 --> 00:44:41,600
Speaker 2: who I thought I had a good working relationship with.

984
00:44:41,800 --> 00:44:44,640
Speaker 2: But I guess not. By the way, this comes from

985
00:44:44,840 --> 00:44:46,840
Speaker 2: Velma but goth and if you want to spit your

986
00:44:46,840 --> 00:44:48,920
Speaker 2: own stories, go to the r slash Okay, story time,

987
00:44:48,960 --> 00:44:51,920
Speaker 2: separate it. I'm Sophia, I'm Dakota, and we're here to

988
00:44:51,920 --> 00:44:54,680
Speaker 2: give good advice. Goofley, but we don't have all the answers.

989
00:44:54,719 --> 00:44:56,360
Speaker 2: It's only a thirty in the morning.

990
00:44:56,560 --> 00:44:57,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, we don't.

991
00:44:57,560 --> 00:45:00,359
Speaker 2: We don't have any answers, but you might put them

992
00:45:00,360 --> 00:45:04,440
Speaker 2: in the comments. And Op says he is the field supervisor,

993
00:45:04,600 --> 00:45:07,800
Speaker 2: not my supervisor, and I work in the office of

994
00:45:07,840 --> 00:45:11,439
Speaker 2: a small cleaning company. We must work closely together via call,

995
00:45:11,560 --> 00:45:14,799
Speaker 2: text and meeting because of him being the super and

996
00:45:14,880 --> 00:45:17,919
Speaker 2: me being the main dispatcher. I use my personal cell

997
00:45:18,000 --> 00:45:21,000
Speaker 2: and always have, as do many people at this company.

998
00:45:21,160 --> 00:45:24,759
Speaker 2: It's on the owner's direction too for work communications, and

999
00:45:24,800 --> 00:45:27,360
Speaker 2: the other phone I have is the main office landline.

1000
00:45:27,600 --> 00:45:31,320
Speaker 2: I had asked him about something work related around eleven am,

1001
00:45:31,480 --> 00:45:33,560
Speaker 2: and when he had not said anything by one pm,

1002
00:45:33,640 --> 00:45:35,680
Speaker 2: I called him. I heard him struggling to get his

1003
00:45:35,719 --> 00:45:39,200
Speaker 2: phone to connect to his truck's bluetooth. He clearly did

1004
00:45:39,239 --> 00:45:42,880
Speaker 2: not hear me saying hello, Darren, can you hear me?

1005
00:45:43,440 --> 00:45:46,080
Speaker 2: And then I clearly hear him say to our young

1006
00:45:46,200 --> 00:45:49,360
Speaker 2: new hire he had in his truck, she's always offing

1007
00:45:49,440 --> 00:45:49,719
Speaker 2: doing this.

1008
00:45:50,040 --> 00:45:52,279
Speaker 3: Just call me off the work phone. She's so bad

1009
00:45:52,280 --> 00:45:52,520
Speaker 3: at this.

1010
00:45:52,880 --> 00:45:55,680
Speaker 2: If had always calling me, forth's sakes so annoying?

1011
00:45:56,320 --> 00:45:58,840
Speaker 3: Whoa crazy? Also?

1012
00:45:59,120 --> 00:46:02,320
Speaker 2: I don't know, like it's crazy to not chip?

1013
00:46:02,840 --> 00:46:05,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know all of that. How to connect

1014
00:46:05,440 --> 00:46:08,360
Speaker 3: your phone to the tooth in your car? I immediately

1015
00:46:08,800 --> 00:46:10,160
Speaker 3: I have a mental image of you.

1016
00:46:10,520 --> 00:46:13,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, I can see it. And you know what he's

1017
00:46:13,200 --> 00:46:18,280
Speaker 2: annoying you? I was crispawn, hung up, waited a few minutes,

1018
00:46:18,360 --> 00:46:20,960
Speaker 2: and then called him back. He picked up with his

1019
00:46:21,080 --> 00:46:24,120
Speaker 2: usual nicey, nice tone, and I kept it fairly professional

1020
00:46:24,120 --> 00:46:27,280
Speaker 2: and got the information I originally needed. I then said,

1021
00:46:27,800 --> 00:46:30,880
Speaker 2: you knew I could hear you, right, and he said huh.

1022
00:46:31,000 --> 00:46:33,920
Speaker 2: I explained to him firmly but politely, that as per

1023
00:46:34,040 --> 00:46:36,960
Speaker 2: company rules, I called him off my cell phone to

1024
00:46:37,040 --> 00:46:40,080
Speaker 2: keep the customer line landline free and that if he

1025
00:46:40,120 --> 00:46:42,520
Speaker 2: has an issue with that, do please schedule an appointment

1026
00:46:42,560 --> 00:46:45,440
Speaker 2: time for a meeting with me as per my office hours.

1027
00:46:45,920 --> 00:46:47,920
Speaker 2: I also said I would love to loop in the

1028
00:46:47,960 --> 00:46:50,400
Speaker 2: general manager for that meeting, so I'll be sure to

1029
00:46:50,400 --> 00:46:53,200
Speaker 2: get it on the book's asap. He kind of stuttered

1030
00:46:53,239 --> 00:46:55,000
Speaker 2: out something about how he isn't sure what I was

1031
00:46:55,040 --> 00:46:57,640
Speaker 2: talking about you now, my phone is our to year.

1032
00:46:58,560 --> 00:47:01,600
Speaker 2: This has never been mentioned before for I brought this

1033
00:47:01,680 --> 00:47:04,080
Speaker 2: to the GM and she was appalled by his lack

1034
00:47:04,160 --> 00:47:07,040
Speaker 2: of professionalism too. I have to have a sit down

1035
00:47:07,040 --> 00:47:09,279
Speaker 2: with her and HR next time HR is an open

1036
00:47:09,320 --> 00:47:11,720
Speaker 2: office time. I don't want him to get in trouble.

1037
00:47:11,760 --> 00:47:13,920
Speaker 2: But if he has been talking smack about me to

1038
00:47:13,960 --> 00:47:18,400
Speaker 2: the other texts, it explains why everyone's seemingly been colder

1039
00:47:18,440 --> 00:47:21,560
Speaker 2: to me in the last six months, especially new hires.

1040
00:47:21,880 --> 00:47:23,960
Speaker 2: I really love my job and I try my best

1041
00:47:24,000 --> 00:47:26,320
Speaker 2: to be sweet and helpful and on the ball, but

1042
00:47:26,320 --> 00:47:29,800
Speaker 2: it really feels awful to hear how the supervisor really feels.

1043
00:47:30,480 --> 00:47:34,080
Speaker 2: Advice please, and there are some comments, but do you

1044
00:47:34,120 --> 00:47:35,279
Speaker 2: have any advice of your own?

1045
00:47:37,840 --> 00:47:43,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know. I think this is probably what's best. Yeah,

1046
00:47:43,520 --> 00:47:43,880
Speaker 3: I don't know.

1047
00:47:43,920 --> 00:47:46,399
Speaker 2: I just would have Would you have just kind of

1048
00:47:46,640 --> 00:47:48,360
Speaker 2: confronted him and left it at that?

1049
00:47:49,600 --> 00:47:54,560
Speaker 3: I guess, yeah, you know, because I don't know. Politics

1050
00:47:54,560 --> 00:47:57,280
Speaker 3: in a job is weird. And then if he says

1051
00:47:57,320 --> 00:47:59,000
Speaker 3: that and then you heard it and take him to

1052
00:47:59,160 --> 00:48:01,600
Speaker 3: HR for it, next time he says it again, it's

1053
00:48:01,640 --> 00:48:04,680
Speaker 3: gonna have an even more Yeah, he's gonna have more

1054
00:48:04,680 --> 00:48:08,040
Speaker 3: of a point. Yeah. Yeah, No, she freaking spied on

1055
00:48:08,120 --> 00:48:10,319
Speaker 3: me in my car and then send me to HR.

1056
00:48:10,800 --> 00:48:13,680
Speaker 2: She spy were in my car. I don't know how

1057
00:48:13,760 --> 00:48:16,640
Speaker 2: she did it. Yeah, she plugged into my vehicle.

1058
00:48:16,920 --> 00:48:19,439
Speaker 3: So this might have the opposite intended effect you wanted

1059
00:48:19,480 --> 00:48:21,719
Speaker 3: to have of like people being less cold to you,

1060
00:48:21,760 --> 00:48:24,400
Speaker 3: they might just be more. They might be even less

1061
00:48:24,400 --> 00:48:27,480
Speaker 3: inclined to open up to you because they're like, well,

1062
00:48:27,480 --> 00:48:29,719
Speaker 3: if I say the wrong thing, I go to HR.

1063
00:48:30,080 --> 00:48:32,279
Speaker 2: Comment one, he's an a hole who is reaping the

1064
00:48:32,320 --> 00:48:36,000
Speaker 2: rewards of his bad behavior. Do not allow yourself to

1065
00:48:36,000 --> 00:48:39,160
Speaker 2: feel bad about reporting him for one second. He was

1066
00:48:39,239 --> 00:48:41,400
Speaker 2: so rude that there's no way that that would not

1067
00:48:41,520 --> 00:48:45,040
Speaker 2: impair your working relationship and a manager's involvement is needed.

1068
00:48:45,640 --> 00:48:47,920
Speaker 2: You were right to report it and ask for support,

1069
00:48:48,160 --> 00:48:51,279
Speaker 2: and you responded to him professionally as well. Comment two

1070
00:48:51,320 --> 00:48:53,800
Speaker 2: says sounds like work needs to get everyone of phones

1071
00:48:53,800 --> 00:48:56,880
Speaker 2: that actually work. I'd make a stink. In general, this

1072
00:48:56,960 --> 00:48:59,360
Speaker 2: guy is out in the field crap talking you and

1073
00:48:59,480 --> 00:49:02,640
Speaker 2: you have no way of defending yourself. This creates a negative,

1074
00:49:02,680 --> 00:49:07,160
Speaker 2: hostile environment when you were just doing as you were instructed. Also,

1075
00:49:07,320 --> 00:49:09,520
Speaker 2: what an a hole? This speaks to what a sad,

1076
00:49:09,680 --> 00:49:13,360
Speaker 2: crappy supervisory is Hope. He says, honestly, it's not just

1077
00:49:13,400 --> 00:49:18,000
Speaker 2: about phones, it's about respect. He showed you none, and

1078
00:49:18,239 --> 00:49:21,600
Speaker 2: it's fair to expect accountability for that. Comment three says

1079
00:49:21,600 --> 00:49:24,480
Speaker 2: shouldn't be using your personal phones for work purposes. This

1080
00:49:24,520 --> 00:49:27,879
Speaker 2: person didn't read the post. The company should provide cell

1081
00:49:27,880 --> 00:49:30,719
Speaker 2: phones or more phone lines. But other than that, you

1082
00:49:30,960 --> 00:49:33,560
Speaker 2: handled that amazingly and way to make sure the new

1083
00:49:33,640 --> 00:49:37,000
Speaker 2: hire also got the memo on the phone policy and

1084
00:49:37,160 --> 00:49:39,839
Speaker 2: how to properly follow up with the office. And there

1085
00:49:39,960 --> 00:49:43,840
Speaker 2: is an update. But yeah, we know why Hope is

1086
00:49:43,880 --> 00:49:46,880
Speaker 2: supposed to use uh cell phones.

1087
00:49:46,800 --> 00:49:49,480
Speaker 3: It's the company policy policy.

1088
00:49:50,239 --> 00:49:53,800
Speaker 2: But there is an update, so let's get into that.

1089
00:49:54,160 --> 00:49:56,439
Speaker 3: Yeah, I just hope this doesn't backfire, I mean, because

1090
00:49:56,480 --> 00:50:00,080
Speaker 3: you were Yeah, you were in the right, but but

1091
00:50:00,200 --> 00:50:00,719
Speaker 3: it might end.

1092
00:50:00,719 --> 00:50:03,719
Speaker 2: Up snitch just gets stitches, rule man, even when you're

1093
00:50:03,760 --> 00:50:06,279
Speaker 2: in the right. I spoke with the GM who took

1094
00:50:06,280 --> 00:50:08,640
Speaker 2: it to the hr lady. They did not consult me

1095
00:50:08,680 --> 00:50:10,719
Speaker 2: at all, nor did they provide an update to me

1096
00:50:10,800 --> 00:50:13,400
Speaker 2: after the meeting. I had to ask by GM this

1097
00:50:13,480 --> 00:50:16,319
Speaker 2: morning to please provide me with an update. She told

1098
00:50:16,320 --> 00:50:18,560
Speaker 2: me that the hr lady wants to talk to Darren,

1099
00:50:18,640 --> 00:50:21,279
Speaker 2: but since she only works once a week, this won't

1100
00:50:21,320 --> 00:50:24,879
Speaker 2: be resolved or addressed for at least another week, maybe two.

1101
00:50:25,400 --> 00:50:27,880
Speaker 2: For now, they have asked me to cease cell based

1102
00:50:27,920 --> 00:50:31,359
Speaker 2: communications with the supervisor, which is very hard because the

1103
00:50:31,360 --> 00:50:34,120
Speaker 2: main work phone is not only the direct customer line,

1104
00:50:34,200 --> 00:50:37,239
Speaker 2: so it is typically busy, but it is very antiquated.

1105
00:50:37,719 --> 00:50:40,640
Speaker 2: Being able to call and text the supervisor is pretty

1106
00:50:40,680 --> 00:50:43,560
Speaker 2: integral to my job. I feel as though I'm being

1107
00:50:43,640 --> 00:50:47,239
Speaker 2: punished for being belittled and mocked by Darren. When my

1108
00:50:47,400 --> 00:50:49,600
Speaker 2: GM told me this, I told her that I would wait,

1109
00:50:50,040 --> 00:50:52,279
Speaker 2: but that I think this is a ridiculous situation and

1110
00:50:52,320 --> 00:50:56,279
Speaker 2: it impedes my ability to do my job. And there

1111
00:50:56,400 --> 00:50:58,040
Speaker 2: is another update.

1112
00:50:58,640 --> 00:51:00,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, weird of them to just be like, oh, well,

1113
00:51:00,520 --> 00:51:03,040
Speaker 3: they just don't call the person you need to call

1114
00:51:03,200 --> 00:51:05,239
Speaker 3: and talk to to do your job.

1115
00:51:05,360 --> 00:51:08,080
Speaker 2: The whole point was that you needed to call him

1116
00:51:08,480 --> 00:51:11,319
Speaker 2: to get information, and then he got mad that you

1117
00:51:11,360 --> 00:51:14,319
Speaker 2: called him to get information, and now they're not letting

1118
00:51:14,400 --> 00:51:15,080
Speaker 2: you do that at all.

1119
00:51:15,840 --> 00:51:16,160
Speaker 3: Weird.

1120
00:51:16,960 --> 00:51:21,040
Speaker 2: Update two. Hr Lady and the GM sat Darren down

1121
00:51:21,040 --> 00:51:25,080
Speaker 2: today for his annual review. They at tagged my official complaints.

1122
00:51:25,160 --> 00:51:28,600
Speaker 2: I followed everyone's advice and submitted a formal account onto

1123
00:51:28,600 --> 00:51:31,440
Speaker 2: the tail end of his review. I had my annual

1124
00:51:31,600 --> 00:51:33,719
Speaker 2: review beforehand, and they told me that they would be

1125
00:51:33,719 --> 00:51:36,800
Speaker 2: addressing this with him during his meeting later on. I

1126
00:51:36,880 --> 00:51:39,239
Speaker 2: knew it would go nowhere and mean nothing when hr

1127
00:51:39,360 --> 00:51:42,319
Speaker 2: Lady literally scoffed and said, well what he said wasn't

1128
00:51:42,320 --> 00:51:46,399
Speaker 2: really rude. You just got upset. Yeah.

1129
00:51:46,800 --> 00:51:48,319
Speaker 3: HR Lady doesn't like you either.

1130
00:51:48,680 --> 00:51:52,560
Speaker 2: Yeah. I think the problem is sometimes not that you

1131
00:51:52,600 --> 00:51:56,040
Speaker 2: shouldn't report it and stuff, or that you did anything wrong,

1132
00:51:56,480 --> 00:51:59,880
Speaker 2: but I think sometimes hr can just be kind of useless,

1133
00:52:00,520 --> 00:52:04,600
Speaker 2: and then you've reported this instance and then they don't

1134
00:52:04,600 --> 00:52:08,359
Speaker 2: do anything, and then everyone just likes you less, which

1135
00:52:08,400 --> 00:52:10,520
Speaker 2: is not your fault, but does suck.

1136
00:52:11,080 --> 00:52:15,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I'll be I'll say it is a

1137
00:52:15,080 --> 00:52:17,640
Speaker 3: little your fault because you're the one who like did

1138
00:52:17,719 --> 00:52:20,480
Speaker 3: loop HR and everyone into the meeting and then like

1139
00:52:20,520 --> 00:52:21,399
Speaker 3: wanted to bring it up.

1140
00:52:21,480 --> 00:52:24,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, but with the expectation that they would do something,

1141
00:52:24,320 --> 00:52:26,400
Speaker 2: but they never seem to do anything.

1142
00:52:26,640 --> 00:52:29,839
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think it, you know, might have been better

1143
00:52:29,880 --> 00:52:33,920
Speaker 3: resolved one on one, being like, hey, you know, I

1144
00:52:33,960 --> 00:52:37,440
Speaker 3: feel like maybe the way that you talked about me

1145
00:52:37,480 --> 00:52:40,840
Speaker 3: in front of that new hire might kind of inform

1146
00:52:40,920 --> 00:52:43,319
Speaker 3: me to the way you talk about me in front

1147
00:52:43,360 --> 00:52:46,440
Speaker 3: of everybody. And I have noticed a shift in the

1148
00:52:46,440 --> 00:52:48,399
Speaker 3: way people have been treating me in the last nine

1149
00:52:48,520 --> 00:52:51,359
Speaker 3: or six months. So if we have an issue, let's

1150
00:52:51,400 --> 00:52:54,680
Speaker 3: talk it out and stop having one. Because the way

1151
00:52:54,719 --> 00:52:57,560
Speaker 3: you reacted when I called you and I could hear you,

1152
00:52:58,360 --> 00:53:01,000
Speaker 3: it was pretty it was pretty bad. It sounded pretty bad.

1153
00:53:01,360 --> 00:53:01,920
Speaker 2: Sure did.

1154
00:53:02,280 --> 00:53:06,120
Speaker 3: And yeah, because a lot of times HR can be useless.

1155
00:53:06,640 --> 00:53:09,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, but there is a little bit left to the story.

1156
00:53:10,280 --> 00:53:12,359
Speaker 2: They touched base with me after the fact and said

1157
00:53:12,360 --> 00:53:16,279
Speaker 2: that I had misunderstood or misheard Darren and that he

1158
00:53:16,320 --> 00:53:18,760
Speaker 2: would try to be more mindful of how his words

1159
00:53:18,800 --> 00:53:20,840
Speaker 2: can be misinterpreted going forward.

1160
00:53:21,560 --> 00:53:27,080
Speaker 3: HR dude, that's crazy. She misunderstood, like we should annoying.

1161
00:53:27,160 --> 00:53:29,759
Speaker 3: He meant like, oh, it's so effing annoying. How much

1162
00:53:29,800 --> 00:53:33,760
Speaker 3: I love a peace Yeah, it's so effing annoying. How

1163
00:53:34,320 --> 00:53:36,760
Speaker 3: Like I want to hang out with them so bad

1164
00:53:36,880 --> 00:53:39,840
Speaker 3: all the time and do fun things like go go karting.

1165
00:53:40,560 --> 00:53:44,040
Speaker 2: So a crappy end to a crappy situation. I'll take

1166
00:53:44,040 --> 00:53:46,320
Speaker 2: it as it is, me getting to hold the short

1167
00:53:46,440 --> 00:53:49,960
Speaker 2: end of Darren's crapstick, and I'll move on. It's just

1168
00:53:50,080 --> 00:53:52,960
Speaker 2: nice to know how this company operates, or if I

1169
00:53:53,040 --> 00:53:55,400
Speaker 2: ever feel like crisping up my resume in the future,

1170
00:53:55,719 --> 00:53:58,400
Speaker 2: should Darren or anyone else keep line dancing on my

1171
00:53:58,480 --> 00:54:02,240
Speaker 2: toes for no good reason? Yeah, I mean good point.

1172
00:54:02,800 --> 00:54:06,080
Speaker 2: If they don't take care of their employees, then maybe

1173
00:54:06,080 --> 00:54:07,440
Speaker 2: it's not the place to work.

1174
00:54:07,960 --> 00:54:09,799
Speaker 3: And that's the end of this story. We're gonna go

1175
00:54:09,800 --> 00:54:13,719
Speaker 3: on to the next one. My coworkers kept stealing, and

1176
00:54:14,040 --> 00:54:16,239
Speaker 3: HR pretended I was imagining it.

1177
00:54:16,600 --> 00:54:17,840
Speaker 2: I does see it happen.

1178
00:54:18,360 --> 00:54:21,680
Speaker 3: A girl and the girlfriend of her brother got hired

1179
00:54:21,719 --> 00:54:23,840
Speaker 3: at the hotel that I worked at a couple of

1180
00:54:23,880 --> 00:54:28,640
Speaker 3: months ago. It has been months of nightmares having to

1181
00:54:28,719 --> 00:54:32,400
Speaker 3: babysit these two grown adults. They don't know how to

1182
00:54:32,440 --> 00:54:37,319
Speaker 3: do anything clean. Listen to simple instructions, et cetera. And

1183
00:54:37,440 --> 00:54:41,120
Speaker 3: by the way, this comes from User Business Meet ninety

1184
00:54:41,120 --> 00:54:43,279
Speaker 3: one ninety one. And if you want to submit your

1185
00:54:43,320 --> 00:54:45,160
Speaker 3: own stories, go to the our slash show. Okay, story time,

1186
00:54:45,200 --> 00:54:47,560
Speaker 3: sub Brett. I'm Dakota, I'm Sophia, and we are here

1187
00:54:47,560 --> 00:54:49,520
Speaker 3: to give you good advice. Goofully. But we don't have

1188
00:54:49,560 --> 00:54:53,200
Speaker 3: all the answers. We are just a couple meatballs in

1189
00:54:53,239 --> 00:54:57,040
Speaker 3: a little meatball sec so we only know what we

1190
00:54:57,080 --> 00:54:59,680
Speaker 3: would do as meatballs. Let us know what you would

1191
00:54:59,719 --> 00:55:02,960
Speaker 3: do as whatever you are down in the comments. We

1192
00:55:02,960 --> 00:55:05,520
Speaker 3: want we don't want to us, Opie says. Weeks of

1193
00:55:05,600 --> 00:55:08,480
Speaker 3: training went into these two girls, and they still cannot

1194
00:55:08,520 --> 00:55:11,399
Speaker 3: clean a room right to this day. They would leave

1195
00:55:11,480 --> 00:55:14,120
Speaker 3: unfinished rooms and run and leave before anyone else could

1196
00:55:14,160 --> 00:55:17,080
Speaker 3: stop them, so the housekeepers left behind had to fix

1197
00:55:17,120 --> 00:55:19,959
Speaker 3: the mistakes. They leave and go sit in their car

1198
00:55:20,000 --> 00:55:22,879
Speaker 3: on break for forty five minutes, and when they were

1199
00:55:22,880 --> 00:55:25,319
Speaker 3: the last with stuff to do, they would complain and

1200
00:55:25,360 --> 00:55:28,280
Speaker 3: ask people if they could help them finish. When people

1201
00:55:28,320 --> 00:55:32,280
Speaker 3: said no, they would talk bad about them. Laundry helpers

1202
00:55:32,360 --> 00:55:34,839
Speaker 3: make bedrolls of all the things you need to make

1203
00:55:34,920 --> 00:55:38,560
Speaker 3: a clean hotel bed, like pillowcases and fitted sheets, et cetera.

1204
00:55:39,080 --> 00:55:42,560
Speaker 3: So there are giant piles of these bedrolls for queen

1205
00:55:42,680 --> 00:55:46,920
Speaker 3: and king beds. They got caught unrolling the bedrolls, taking

1206
00:55:47,120 --> 00:55:51,000
Speaker 3: random pieces and then re rolling them and putting them

1207
00:55:51,040 --> 00:55:54,040
Speaker 3: back for someone to pick up, and not realize they'd

1208
00:55:54,080 --> 00:55:57,560
Speaker 3: just have to go back later to get missing pillowcases. Wait,

1209
00:55:57,680 --> 00:56:02,200
Speaker 3: that's weird. Are they stealing the Are they stealing pillowcases?

1210
00:56:02,320 --> 00:56:05,200
Speaker 2: Yeah? Or are they just like, Oh, I'm missing something,

1211
00:56:05,239 --> 00:56:06,120
Speaker 2: I gotta go grab it.

1212
00:56:06,440 --> 00:56:08,920
Speaker 3: I'm saying this would make it great Christmas.

1213
00:56:09,600 --> 00:56:11,399
Speaker 2: Everyone loves getting pillowcases.

1214
00:56:11,560 --> 00:56:13,279
Speaker 3: I got you a hotel pillowcase.

1215
00:56:13,920 --> 00:56:15,840
Speaker 2: How did you know this is always what I wanted?

1216
00:56:16,160 --> 00:56:18,520
Speaker 3: Well, I heard you last time you were staying at

1217
00:56:18,520 --> 00:56:19,239
Speaker 3: the Latina.

1218
00:56:19,920 --> 00:56:22,319
Speaker 2: I said, I don't have a hotel pillcase. These are

1219
00:56:22,360 --> 00:56:22,960
Speaker 2: so nice.

1220
00:56:23,000 --> 00:56:26,080
Speaker 3: I could go on for five pages about annoying things

1221
00:56:26,120 --> 00:56:29,000
Speaker 3: these girls have done. Why they weren't fired is another

1222
00:56:29,040 --> 00:56:32,000
Speaker 3: annoying tale I could go on about for five pages.

1223
00:56:32,560 --> 00:56:35,200
Speaker 3: Fast forward to about two weeks ago. Everyone is pretty

1224
00:56:35,239 --> 00:56:38,160
Speaker 3: tired of them. I'm on the fifth floor of the hotel,

1225
00:56:38,200 --> 00:56:40,720
Speaker 3: and I've just got done stacking the cart up there

1226
00:56:40,760 --> 00:56:44,400
Speaker 3: with all the cleaning supplies, towels, bedrolls, mats, et cetera

1227
00:56:44,520 --> 00:56:47,160
Speaker 3: that I've brought up from the first floor for the day.

1228
00:56:47,920 --> 00:56:50,239
Speaker 3: I go a floor down to the storage room for

1229
00:56:50,320 --> 00:56:53,040
Speaker 3: some toilet paper, and I come back to my cart

1230
00:56:53,600 --> 00:56:56,919
Speaker 3: to find these girls taking all the cleaning supplies I've

1231
00:56:57,000 --> 00:57:01,080
Speaker 3: brought up, taking extra towels for their cart. They basically

1232
00:57:01,120 --> 00:57:03,400
Speaker 3: didn't want to go all the way back downstairs and

1233
00:57:03,440 --> 00:57:07,480
Speaker 3: get their own stuff. I'm like, are you actually serious

1234
00:57:07,640 --> 00:57:10,480
Speaker 3: right now? And I kind of chew them out, basically

1235
00:57:10,520 --> 00:57:13,360
Speaker 3: saying the lazy way isn't the best way to do things,

1236
00:57:13,840 --> 00:57:16,600
Speaker 3: and they can go back downstairs and lug up everything

1237
00:57:16,680 --> 00:57:19,800
Speaker 3: they need for the day like everyone else. They leave,

1238
00:57:20,360 --> 00:57:22,520
Speaker 3: and I think this is the end of it. My

1239
00:57:22,600 --> 00:57:25,320
Speaker 3: sister works on and off with me at the same place,

1240
00:57:25,720 --> 00:57:28,240
Speaker 3: and this day she was working the same day as me.

1241
00:57:28,840 --> 00:57:31,520
Speaker 3: These girls decided to go to the floor she's on

1242
00:57:32,240 --> 00:57:35,560
Speaker 3: and laugh in her face and call her a witch

1243
00:57:36,240 --> 00:57:38,680
Speaker 3: and ask her what she was going to do about it.

1244
00:57:38,720 --> 00:57:42,800
Speaker 3: When she's like, what the f this is all because

1245
00:57:42,880 --> 00:57:45,800
Speaker 3: I chewed them out for being lazy and they just

1246
00:57:45,840 --> 00:57:48,680
Speaker 3: decided to go to my sister for some reason. He

1247
00:57:48,800 --> 00:57:53,560
Speaker 3: tells me about it, and I finally become unglued and

1248
00:57:53,680 --> 00:57:57,640
Speaker 3: drag the headhousekeeper into everything because I'm tired of them.

1249
00:57:58,000 --> 00:58:00,800
Speaker 3: Long rant short, I basically tell them if I ever

1250
00:58:00,840 --> 00:58:03,120
Speaker 3: hear them speak to anyone like that again, we'd have

1251
00:58:03,160 --> 00:58:06,960
Speaker 3: a huge issue. I basically said I would quit right there.

1252
00:58:07,520 --> 00:58:10,720
Speaker 3: I'm lucky that the headhousekeeper is such a pushover, because

1253
00:58:10,720 --> 00:58:12,760
Speaker 3: I would have been pretty unlucky if she decided she

1254
00:58:12,800 --> 00:58:15,920
Speaker 3: suddenly wanted to deal with this situation a hem. And

1255
00:58:16,040 --> 00:58:18,760
Speaker 3: Hall claimed my sister was lying and they never said

1256
00:58:18,800 --> 00:58:22,480
Speaker 3: anything like that. You can see them on camera talking

1257
00:58:22,480 --> 00:58:24,800
Speaker 3: to her, but no audio. So this is why the

1258
00:58:24,800 --> 00:58:27,320
Speaker 3: head housekeeper claims she's not going to bring anything to

1259
00:58:27,360 --> 00:58:30,400
Speaker 3: the manager, because it really is as she said, she

1260
00:58:30,560 --> 00:58:33,640
Speaker 3: said kind of situation and to just leave each other

1261
00:58:33,720 --> 00:58:37,200
Speaker 3: alone and do our work. Fast forward another week of

1262
00:58:37,320 --> 00:58:42,320
Speaker 3: absolute bs from these two girls glaring at me, whispering

1263
00:58:42,400 --> 00:58:45,000
Speaker 3: about me as I walk by, laughing at me while

1264
00:58:45,040 --> 00:58:47,520
Speaker 3: I try to catch an elevator up and the door

1265
00:58:47,640 --> 00:58:50,000
Speaker 3: closes with them in it before I can get on,

1266
00:58:50,720 --> 00:58:52,760
Speaker 3: Not that i'd want to get on it after I

1267
00:58:52,880 --> 00:58:56,280
Speaker 3: see they are there a memorable moment where they make

1268
00:58:56,360 --> 00:58:59,000
Speaker 3: up a story about me screaming at them in the hallways.

1269
00:59:00,000 --> 00:59:03,760
Speaker 3: Admit I was ignoring them, but pretty fed up. When

1270
00:59:03,760 --> 00:59:06,400
Speaker 3: I was walking down the hallway of the floor that

1271
00:59:06,560 --> 00:59:09,600
Speaker 3: had the storage room, another coworker was there and had

1272
00:59:09,640 --> 00:59:11,920
Speaker 3: a cleaning cart out, and I noticed that she had

1273
00:59:11,960 --> 00:59:14,280
Speaker 3: her purse with her on the cart, and it was

1274
00:59:14,360 --> 00:59:17,560
Speaker 3: kind of hanging off the side and visible. These two

1275
00:59:17,640 --> 00:59:21,480
Speaker 3: girls are, for some reason, on the same floor and

1276
00:59:21,640 --> 00:59:25,120
Speaker 3: walking past me, and I see my shining moment to

1277
00:59:25,240 --> 00:59:29,120
Speaker 3: be a little witch. I let them walk past me

1278
00:59:29,320 --> 00:59:31,920
Speaker 3: and then loudly say to my coworker in one of

1279
00:59:31,960 --> 00:59:35,479
Speaker 3: the rooms, hey, keep an eye on your bag out

1280
00:59:35,480 --> 00:59:39,520
Speaker 3: here as I walk past her. These are my exact words.

1281
00:59:39,880 --> 00:59:43,280
Speaker 3: I'm trying to be smart about it. I don't remember

1282
00:59:43,320 --> 00:59:45,760
Speaker 3: what cameras have audio, and I don't want there to

1283
00:59:45,760 --> 00:59:50,640
Speaker 3: be actual proof of me calling them thieves. They come unglued.

1284
00:59:51,040 --> 00:59:53,080
Speaker 3: They go to the headhouse keeper and tell her that

1285
00:59:53,280 --> 00:59:56,760
Speaker 3: I'm spreading rumors about them. Someone told me they went

1286
00:59:56,840 --> 00:59:59,320
Speaker 3: up to another floor and were ranting and cussing about

1287
00:59:59,360 --> 01:00:02,840
Speaker 3: me to another a coworker, and they heard them The

1288
01:00:02,920 --> 01:00:06,320
Speaker 3: head housekeeper comes to me like, what is this all about?

1289
01:00:06,480 --> 01:00:10,520
Speaker 3: And I'm just like, I don't know. All I did

1290
01:00:10,640 --> 01:00:12,800
Speaker 3: was tell so and so to watch their bag because

1291
01:00:12,800 --> 01:00:16,240
Speaker 3: it was hanging off their cart, which, honestly, if you

1292
01:00:16,360 --> 01:00:20,520
Speaker 3: hear someone say that and then immediately become untethered about

1293
01:00:20,520 --> 01:00:23,320
Speaker 3: it being an accusation to you, you're a thief.

1294
01:00:23,400 --> 01:00:31,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely, directing it towards them. Yeah, and they caught on. Yeah,

1295
01:00:31,280 --> 01:00:33,120
Speaker 2: but op has pausible diability.

1296
01:00:33,240 --> 01:00:35,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, And if you're not a thief, that shouldn't bother

1297
01:00:35,920 --> 01:00:38,200
Speaker 3: you really at all. Just be like, yeah, you should

1298
01:00:38,200 --> 01:00:40,000
Speaker 3: tell you to watch your bag. It's just good practice.

1299
01:00:40,080 --> 01:00:41,640
Speaker 2: That's just good practice.

1300
01:00:41,840 --> 01:00:45,160
Speaker 3: That's just good standard operation, just safety in the workplace,

1301
01:00:45,240 --> 01:00:48,680
Speaker 3: you know. Fast forward to this week, they got caught

1302
01:00:48,840 --> 01:00:51,240
Speaker 3: stealing expensive cologne.

1303
01:00:51,400 --> 01:00:53,720
Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, who could have.

1304
01:00:53,760 --> 01:00:57,720
Speaker 3: Guessed this out of a stay over room. After multiple

1305
01:00:57,760 --> 01:01:01,960
Speaker 3: instances of things disappearing from rooms they clean, the manager

1306
01:01:02,000 --> 01:01:04,560
Speaker 3: of the hotel is going to confront them with the

1307
01:01:04,680 --> 01:01:10,000
Speaker 3: video of them doing it and fire them. Finally, blow

1308
01:01:10,080 --> 01:01:15,320
Speaker 3: blow blow, pra You're out this entire time they were

1309
01:01:15,400 --> 01:01:17,760
Speaker 3: actually stealing from the rooms.

1310
01:01:17,880 --> 01:01:21,960
Speaker 2: But it does not look very good on management or

1311
01:01:22,000 --> 01:01:25,720
Speaker 2: that house cleaner. That this was going on, and it

1312
01:01:25,800 --> 01:01:29,120
Speaker 2: seems like they were obviously not very good employees.

1313
01:01:29,840 --> 01:01:33,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, seems like somebody knew what was up. Yeah, because

1314
01:01:33,320 --> 01:01:36,440
Speaker 3: they were the somebody of somebody, they weren't getting in

1315
01:01:36,480 --> 01:01:40,240
Speaker 3: trouble fast enough. Yeah, and we have a little more

1316
01:01:40,320 --> 01:01:43,320
Speaker 3: story left here. You've got a little bit of an update.

1317
01:01:43,840 --> 01:01:47,400
Speaker 3: Let's get into it. Went into work today to find

1318
01:01:47,440 --> 01:01:50,160
Speaker 3: out that not only were they caught on camera stealing,

1319
01:01:50,720 --> 01:01:54,320
Speaker 3: but a different stayover customer did an elaborate scooby doo

1320
01:01:54,440 --> 01:01:57,920
Speaker 3: trap where they carefully placed their items around and took

1321
01:01:57,960 --> 01:02:00,800
Speaker 3: a picture of every single thing. They came back to

1322
01:02:00,840 --> 01:02:03,320
Speaker 3: their room later that day and were able to easily

1323
01:02:03,400 --> 01:02:07,600
Speaker 3: show what items were stolen. And you guessed it, these

1324
01:02:07,640 --> 01:02:11,360
Speaker 3: two were the cleaners of that room. When they called

1325
01:02:11,360 --> 01:02:14,720
Speaker 3: in for the schedule, the manager answered and told them

1326
01:02:14,760 --> 01:02:18,480
Speaker 3: they were fired and to never come back and.

1327
01:02:18,320 --> 01:02:24,240
Speaker 2: That and it's never coming back. My coworkers started a

1328
01:02:24,280 --> 01:02:27,760
Speaker 2: war over a pumpkin. Now I want HR involved.

1329
01:02:28,160 --> 01:02:30,840
Speaker 3: HR. You must mediate this pumpkin wall.

1330
01:02:31,160 --> 01:02:34,040
Speaker 2: We work in the busiest branch in our entire region.

1331
01:02:34,240 --> 01:02:36,760
Speaker 2: Working in a bank, we have tons of regulars and

1332
01:02:36,800 --> 01:02:39,600
Speaker 2: so we feel a little more comfortable being ourselves around them.

1333
01:02:40,000 --> 01:02:42,400
Speaker 2: For the most part, when my manager asks me about

1334
01:02:42,400 --> 01:02:45,360
Speaker 2: a customer, I can usually tell her a pretty detailed

1335
01:02:45,400 --> 01:02:48,200
Speaker 2: story of who they are. I say this because my

1336
01:02:48,360 --> 01:02:52,720
Speaker 2: demonic coworker often has these outbursts in front of or

1337
01:02:52,800 --> 01:02:56,000
Speaker 2: near them. By the way, this comes from Gabrielle Meline

1338
01:02:56,440 --> 01:02:57,960
Speaker 2: and if you want to spit your own stories, go

1339
01:02:58,000 --> 01:03:00,840
Speaker 2: to the arsash Okay storytime, Supared at time. I'm Sophia,

1340
01:03:00,920 --> 01:03:03,200
Speaker 2: I'm Dakota, and we're here to give good advice. Goofully,

1341
01:03:03,240 --> 01:03:05,120
Speaker 2: But we don't have all the answers. We only know

1342
01:03:05,160 --> 01:03:06,880
Speaker 2: what we'd do, so let us know what you would

1343
01:03:06,880 --> 01:03:10,280
Speaker 2: do in the comments and Op says also, we have

1344
01:03:10,320 --> 01:03:13,920
Speaker 2: a new manager whom I absolutely adore and think is

1345
01:03:14,040 --> 01:03:17,560
Speaker 2: magnificent at our job. However, she had a rough start

1346
01:03:17,600 --> 01:03:20,360
Speaker 2: because of personal things that happened very early on in

1347
01:03:20,400 --> 01:03:23,560
Speaker 2: our managing us that were out of her control. I

1348
01:03:23,680 --> 01:03:27,280
Speaker 2: say this because my coworker is totally taking advantage of this,

1349
01:03:27,800 --> 01:03:30,360
Speaker 2: as she never behaved like this when our old manager

1350
01:03:30,440 --> 01:03:33,280
Speaker 2: was with us. Mind you, this paragraph isn't where the

1351
01:03:33,360 --> 01:03:37,640
Speaker 2: drama gets crazy, but it is where it begins. Before

1352
01:03:37,680 --> 01:03:40,760
Speaker 2: all this drama, the demon and I were good friends.

1353
01:03:40,960 --> 01:03:43,560
Speaker 2: We'd always go out for dinners together. We'd hang out

1354
01:03:43,600 --> 01:03:46,240
Speaker 2: at each other's homes. Her little son got me a

1355
01:03:46,280 --> 01:03:48,960
Speaker 2: birthday gift for Beete's sake. She's the only one that

1356
01:03:49,000 --> 01:03:52,400
Speaker 2: I spent my birthday with like we were close. Then

1357
01:03:52,560 --> 01:03:59,240
Speaker 2: the forbidden punkin contest happened. From very very long story short,

1358
01:03:59,320 --> 01:04:02,200
Speaker 2: my boyfriend and I. I painted her pumpkin for her because

1359
01:04:02,200 --> 01:04:04,800
Speaker 2: she had no interest in it. Hers one in mine

1360
01:04:04,840 --> 01:04:08,080
Speaker 2: got second place out of eight. She kept bragging and

1361
01:04:08,400 --> 01:04:11,800
Speaker 2: bragging about it, making fun of me for losing since

1362
01:04:11,840 --> 01:04:15,320
Speaker 2: I went to an art school in France and still lost. Hey,

1363
01:04:16,400 --> 01:04:18,880
Speaker 2: she did your pumpkin? What are you talking about?

1364
01:04:19,360 --> 01:04:20,280
Speaker 3: Are you a fool?

1365
01:04:21,160 --> 01:04:24,440
Speaker 2: I eventually got annoyed with the bragging and told her, geez,

1366
01:04:24,560 --> 01:04:27,400
Speaker 2: with how much bragging you do, you'd think you painted

1367
01:04:27,400 --> 01:04:31,280
Speaker 2: your own pumpkin. Anyways, because there was an actual prize

1368
01:04:31,280 --> 01:04:34,600
Speaker 2: on the line, My regional manager came in and realized

1369
01:04:34,640 --> 01:04:37,439
Speaker 2: that my coworker hadn't worked on her pumpkin and thought

1370
01:04:37,440 --> 01:04:40,360
Speaker 2: it only fair that I get the points instead. The

1371
01:04:40,360 --> 01:04:42,960
Speaker 2: way they told me seemed like they had discussed it

1372
01:04:43,000 --> 01:04:46,440
Speaker 2: with my coworker first. I arrived at work later than everyone,

1373
01:04:46,560 --> 01:04:49,360
Speaker 2: so I said, I don't care either way. Honestly, those

1374
01:04:49,480 --> 01:04:53,960
Speaker 2: were the words that ruined everything. My coworker assumed that

1375
01:04:54,040 --> 01:04:57,160
Speaker 2: I begged for the prize or something and went crazy

1376
01:04:57,200 --> 01:05:00,280
Speaker 2: on me. Started telling my coworkers in front of me,

1377
01:05:00,520 --> 01:05:04,880
Speaker 2: in front of customers, that I was pathetic, selfish, immature,

1378
01:05:05,480 --> 01:05:08,320
Speaker 2: that I was too competitive, that I stole her prize.

1379
01:05:08,760 --> 01:05:10,600
Speaker 2: You didn't even paint that pumpkin girl.

1380
01:05:11,000 --> 01:05:15,240
Speaker 3: That's such a huge red flag that you literally yeah,

1381
01:05:15,840 --> 01:05:18,600
Speaker 3: got her first place. And instead of being like, oh

1382
01:05:18,600 --> 01:05:20,560
Speaker 3: my god, thank you, you did such a good job,

1383
01:05:21,080 --> 01:05:24,800
Speaker 3: she went haha, you suck. I rock what.

1384
01:05:25,680 --> 01:05:28,760
Speaker 2: She kept slamming doors and huffing and puffin. I was

1385
01:05:28,880 --> 01:05:33,120
Speaker 2: so shocked. I went downstairs and cried. But I decided

1386
01:05:33,160 --> 01:05:35,320
Speaker 2: to leave it alone because maybe she would chill out

1387
01:05:35,400 --> 01:05:37,360
Speaker 2: and talk to me about it another day when she

1388
01:05:37,440 --> 01:05:40,200
Speaker 2: had time to think about it. She did not. Ever,

1389
01:05:40,320 --> 01:05:43,600
Speaker 2: since then, she's been making work heck for me, refusing

1390
01:05:43,640 --> 01:05:45,200
Speaker 2: to talk to me. So it's gotten to the point

1391
01:05:45,240 --> 01:05:47,360
Speaker 2: where my manager has to tell her to sell me

1392
01:05:47,480 --> 01:05:51,000
Speaker 2: money for customers, or to look into my transactions to

1393
01:05:51,040 --> 01:05:53,560
Speaker 2: find out if I accidentally gave a customer too much,

1394
01:05:54,080 --> 01:05:57,120
Speaker 2: or literally do her job as head tell her. Then

1395
01:05:57,600 --> 01:06:01,200
Speaker 2: the gram stories started. Every time I tried to talk

1396
01:06:01,240 --> 01:06:03,160
Speaker 2: to her, she'd post a story about how there are

1397
01:06:03,320 --> 01:06:06,760
Speaker 2: snakes around her but she was protected by Jesus or

1398
01:06:06,840 --> 01:06:10,680
Speaker 2: some weird crap like that. The Grahams have gotten weirder, meaner,

1399
01:06:10,720 --> 01:06:14,600
Speaker 2: and more accusatory over time, so I screenshot them because

1400
01:06:14,640 --> 01:06:17,440
Speaker 2: I know she'll eventually post something that is very clearly

1401
01:06:17,480 --> 01:06:21,360
Speaker 2: about me, so I can show my manager. My manager

1402
01:06:21,480 --> 01:06:24,400
Speaker 2: is involved, because I wanted to get hr involved, and

1403
01:06:24,480 --> 01:06:26,320
Speaker 2: she asked me to give her a chance to deal

1404
01:06:26,360 --> 01:06:29,360
Speaker 2: with it herself. To her credit, she's been trying, but

1405
01:06:29,480 --> 01:06:34,200
Speaker 2: in front of my manager she's all, okay, sure, of course, yeah,

1406
01:06:34,320 --> 01:06:37,400
Speaker 2: I understand. And then as soon as my manager goes

1407
01:06:37,440 --> 01:06:41,200
Speaker 2: to her office, she's staring daggers at me and posting

1408
01:06:41,240 --> 01:06:44,480
Speaker 2: about our beef. Now, her grandmother passed a couple of

1409
01:06:44,480 --> 01:06:46,960
Speaker 2: weeks ago, and our job gives you a month of bereavement,

1410
01:06:47,160 --> 01:06:50,439
Speaker 2: no questions asked. She decided to take a week off,

1411
01:06:50,480 --> 01:06:53,439
Speaker 2: telling my manager she doesn't trust us tellers to get

1412
01:06:53,440 --> 01:06:56,320
Speaker 2: her work done. Mind you, we are the branch with

1413
01:06:56,400 --> 01:06:59,400
Speaker 2: the best ratings. And my manager was confused by what

1414
01:06:59,440 --> 01:07:02,280
Speaker 2: she said, because if we can't do our jobs, that

1415
01:07:02,320 --> 01:07:04,920
Speaker 2: means my coworker didn't do her job in training.

1416
01:07:05,040 --> 01:07:07,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, I was about to say that as the headteller,

1417
01:07:07,960 --> 01:07:11,520
Speaker 3: telling your boss all your subordinates can't do their jobs

1418
01:07:11,600 --> 01:07:14,920
Speaker 3: right is not a good look. It's not the slam

1419
01:07:15,040 --> 01:07:16,200
Speaker 3: dunk that you think it is.

1420
01:07:16,320 --> 01:07:19,560
Speaker 2: Looks pretty bad for you. Well, she took a week

1421
01:07:19,600 --> 01:07:22,840
Speaker 2: off and then has called out every single day for

1422
01:07:22,880 --> 01:07:26,840
Speaker 2: two weeks, which means I've been covering her shifts. I mean,

1423
01:07:26,880 --> 01:07:29,680
Speaker 2: my pockets are happier and heavier, but I've literally been

1424
01:07:29,760 --> 01:07:32,760
Speaker 2: covering her out of respect for my manager that walked

1425
01:07:32,760 --> 01:07:35,760
Speaker 2: into a crap show and my coworkers that always bust

1426
01:07:35,760 --> 01:07:40,080
Speaker 2: their butts, not out of respect for the demon. Also,

1427
01:07:40,200 --> 01:07:43,240
Speaker 2: my coworker and I noticed that since her grandmother, someone

1428
01:07:43,280 --> 01:07:46,800
Speaker 2: that she loved very much, passed away, she hasn't posted

1429
01:07:46,920 --> 01:07:50,400
Speaker 2: anything about family or that she's only amped up the

1430
01:07:50,440 --> 01:07:53,840
Speaker 2: number of stories about our beef literally every hour or so.

1431
01:07:54,080 --> 01:07:57,800
Speaker 3: It's crazy that you guys were like, it's close, hanging

1432
01:07:57,840 --> 01:08:00,720
Speaker 3: out all the time and giving each other the Christmas

1433
01:08:00,720 --> 01:08:07,080
Speaker 3: presents and now a pumpkin carving contest is gonna be Yeah,

1434
01:08:07,120 --> 01:08:07,919
Speaker 3: the end of.

1435
01:08:07,840 --> 01:08:11,240
Speaker 2: It where she didn't get points because she didn't make

1436
01:08:11,360 --> 01:08:11,920
Speaker 2: the pumpkin.

1437
01:08:12,160 --> 01:08:13,880
Speaker 3: I mean, how what was the prize?

1438
01:08:14,200 --> 01:08:16,880
Speaker 2: It's like points for something, but I don't know exactly matter.

1439
01:08:17,000 --> 01:08:19,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, the very least you could have you should have

1440
01:08:20,080 --> 01:08:22,640
Speaker 3: offered to like give her the prize is what you

1441
01:08:22,640 --> 01:08:25,080
Speaker 3: should have done. Yeah, because it's like, oh, yeah, you

1442
01:08:25,200 --> 01:08:28,439
Speaker 3: painted my pumpkin. You deserve the prize. Yeah, maybe you

1443
01:08:28,520 --> 01:08:30,880
Speaker 3: take first prize and I can I don't know, take

1444
01:08:30,920 --> 01:08:33,360
Speaker 3: the second prize that you got, so then that would

1445
01:08:33,360 --> 01:08:36,080
Speaker 3: be fair or you know what I mean, I guess

1446
01:08:36,080 --> 01:08:39,240
Speaker 3: fair would be you get both. Yeah, but whatever.

1447
01:08:39,760 --> 01:08:42,080
Speaker 2: By the way, I haven't talked to anyone about this,

1448
01:08:42,280 --> 01:08:46,360
Speaker 2: only my manager and my boyfriend. So when my coworkers say, girl,

1449
01:08:46,479 --> 01:08:48,920
Speaker 2: you know this is about you, right, that's a little

1450
01:08:48,960 --> 01:08:52,120
Speaker 2: crazy to me. Another coworker has also stated that I

1451
01:08:52,200 --> 01:08:55,240
Speaker 2: need to be careful because she tried telling our manager

1452
01:08:55,280 --> 01:08:58,120
Speaker 2: that I've been bullying her, and they had to step

1453
01:08:58,160 --> 01:09:00,920
Speaker 2: into the manager's office after the team was done talking

1454
01:09:00,920 --> 01:09:04,200
Speaker 2: to her and tell my manager, I'm gonna be honest,

1455
01:09:04,680 --> 01:09:07,679
Speaker 2: that really doesn't sound like Ope. Like you can see

1456
01:09:07,680 --> 01:09:10,720
Speaker 2: for yourself that OP doesn't react meanly even when a

1457
01:09:10,760 --> 01:09:13,880
Speaker 2: customer yells at her, which I cannot tell you how much.

1458
01:09:13,880 --> 01:09:17,360
Speaker 2: I appreciate my coworkers stepping up for me. My manager

1459
01:09:17,400 --> 01:09:19,879
Speaker 2: is thinking of pulling her into a meeting for a warning,

1460
01:09:20,320 --> 01:09:23,719
Speaker 2: because it's been two months of one sided war over

1461
01:09:23,800 --> 01:09:27,160
Speaker 2: a pumpkin, and now it's turned into her calling me

1462
01:09:27,200 --> 01:09:30,559
Speaker 2: out by name and pestering me. I didn't ask her

1463
01:09:30,600 --> 01:09:33,360
Speaker 2: to do any of this. My own manager is getting

1464
01:09:33,400 --> 01:09:36,760
Speaker 2: fed up with it. Apparently she's also been auditing me

1465
01:09:36,880 --> 01:09:40,400
Speaker 2: without my knowledge. I can have a surprise audit anytime,

1466
01:09:40,560 --> 01:09:43,760
Speaker 2: but auditing my cash box and coins anytime I'm not

1467
01:09:43,840 --> 01:09:47,400
Speaker 2: working is insane and a huge waste of time. They

1468
01:09:47,479 --> 01:09:49,559
Speaker 2: usually only do that when they think you're stealing from

1469
01:09:49,640 --> 01:09:53,200
Speaker 2: the bank, and normally it's the regional manager that tells

1470
01:09:53,240 --> 01:09:56,400
Speaker 2: the manager to do it. My manager had no idea

1471
01:09:56,560 --> 01:09:59,120
Speaker 2: I was being audited, because the demon never left the

1472
01:09:59,160 --> 01:10:02,160
Speaker 2: stickers on my vaull else letting me or anyone know

1473
01:10:02,400 --> 01:10:05,759
Speaker 2: she had audited me. This is not allowed at all,

1474
01:10:05,800 --> 01:10:09,960
Speaker 2: because without transparency, nothing stops her from messing with my

1475
01:10:10,120 --> 01:10:13,559
Speaker 2: cash box to make my numbers off any final pot.

1476
01:10:13,560 --> 01:10:16,120
Speaker 3: It's girly about to start looking for a new job.

1477
01:10:16,439 --> 01:10:18,840
Speaker 3: I guarantee it. Yes, she's going to get fired for

1478
01:10:18,920 --> 01:10:19,519
Speaker 3: that one.

1479
01:10:19,360 --> 01:10:23,519
Speaker 2: You're gonna get fired girl because you were upset about

1480
01:10:23,560 --> 01:10:28,639
Speaker 2: a pumpkin. That's so embarrassing. But uh, Opie, you've done

1481
01:10:28,680 --> 01:10:32,080
Speaker 2: nothing wrong. I think you've handled this well. And uh

1482
01:10:32,080 --> 01:10:34,320
Speaker 2: there's really really nothing else you could have done to

1483
01:10:34,320 --> 01:10:37,880
Speaker 2: prevent this, though, But Opie finishes off. I have started

1484
01:10:37,920 --> 01:10:40,240
Speaker 2: selling all my cash and coins to my other coworker

1485
01:10:40,320 --> 01:10:42,920
Speaker 2: every time a shift ends and buying it back on

1486
01:10:42,920 --> 01:10:45,680
Speaker 2: my next shift, which is time consuming and annoying, but

1487
01:10:45,760 --> 01:10:48,679
Speaker 2: it was my coworker's idea, so I feel comfortable doing

1488
01:10:48,680 --> 01:10:51,400
Speaker 2: that since she's trying to protect me. I'm trying to

1489
01:10:51,439 --> 01:10:53,559
Speaker 2: take a back seat and not say so much because

1490
01:10:53,600 --> 01:10:56,160
Speaker 2: I feel like her actions will eventually get her fired.

1491
01:10:56,760 --> 01:10:59,439
Speaker 2: My regional manager seems to like firing people if they

1492
01:10:59,439 --> 01:11:02,200
Speaker 2: aren't following the rules one hundred percent, but she likes

1493
01:11:02,200 --> 01:11:04,600
Speaker 2: to have an ironcloud case, so there's no chance for

1494
01:11:04,600 --> 01:11:07,200
Speaker 2: a lawsuit, so I'm just waiting for the demon to

1495
01:11:07,200 --> 01:11:07,759
Speaker 2: get caught.

1496
01:11:07,920 --> 01:11:12,800
Speaker 3: I'm pretty sure auditing you every day without like informing

1497
01:11:12,840 --> 01:11:14,599
Speaker 3: anyone is a clear violation.

1498
01:11:14,960 --> 01:11:19,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, pretty big violation, I will say. My regional manager

1499
01:11:19,160 --> 01:11:21,160
Speaker 2: has been at our branch a whole lot more than

1500
01:11:21,280 --> 01:11:24,479
Speaker 2: usual and has been hanging around the teller stations more

1501
01:11:24,520 --> 01:11:27,559
Speaker 2: and more. So something tells me she's keeping an eye

1502
01:11:27,640 --> 01:11:30,879
Speaker 2: on the situation. And that is the end of that story.

1503
01:11:32,320 --> 01:11:35,160
Speaker 2: It seems like you're in good hands, Op, So I

1504
01:11:35,160 --> 01:11:36,280
Speaker 2: think it'll be all right.

1505
01:11:36,479 --> 01:11:39,960
Speaker 3: Your friend's job, your ex friends job.

1506
01:11:40,160 --> 01:11:42,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, is not long for this one, Noop.

1507
01:11:42,800 --> 01:11:44,680
Speaker 3: And that's the end of this story. We're gonna go

1508
01:11:44,680 --> 01:11:47,599
Speaker 3: on to the next one. Hey, it's Dakota, your favorite

1509
01:11:47,640 --> 01:11:50,400
Speaker 3: good time boy host. Here. We're gonna get back to

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01:11:50,439 --> 01:11:53,240
Speaker 3: the stories. But here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors.

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Speaker 3: I refused to cover for my boss's mistake and risk

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Speaker 3: my career. You're going down. We started working as a

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01:12:01,200 --> 01:12:04,160
Speaker 3: sales assistant a couple of months ago. Before this job,

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01:12:04,200 --> 01:12:07,000
Speaker 3: I had already booked a few important freelance projects that

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01:12:07,040 --> 01:12:10,680
Speaker 3: are taking place until the end of my probation. By

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01:12:10,680 --> 01:12:13,360
Speaker 3: the way, this comes from user the Catastrophic Ace And

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Speaker 3: if you want to submit your own stories, go to

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Speaker 3: the r slash Okay, storytime Support. I'm Dakota, I'm Sophia,

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01:12:17,800 --> 01:12:19,880
Speaker 3: and we are here to give you good advice. Goofly,

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01:12:19,920 --> 01:12:21,720
Speaker 3: but we don't have all the answers. We're just two

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01:12:21,840 --> 01:12:24,479
Speaker 3: little goobers. It's true, we only know what two little

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Speaker 3: goobers would do, so let us know what you little

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01:12:26,479 --> 01:12:30,200
Speaker 3: goobers would do down the comments and op says. Before

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01:12:30,240 --> 01:12:32,719
Speaker 3: I signed the contract for this new job, I emailed

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Speaker 3: the store manager asking if it was okay to go

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01:12:35,200 --> 01:12:38,360
Speaker 3: ahead with all these projects, making sure he knew ahead

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01:12:38,360 --> 01:12:40,840
Speaker 3: of time which key dates and times I would be needed.

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01:12:41,280 --> 01:12:43,880
Speaker 3: I also asked him to specify at what time my

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01:12:43,960 --> 01:12:46,599
Speaker 3: shifts were meant to finish, since although they were already

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01:12:46,600 --> 01:12:50,400
Speaker 3: discussed in person, nothing was mentioned in the contract itself.

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01:12:50,840 --> 01:12:53,719
Speaker 3: The store manager replied back with the times, then said

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Speaker 3: that I was more than free to go ahead with

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Speaker 3: the projects as long as they didn't clash with work.

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01:12:58,280 --> 01:13:02,200
Speaker 3: Fair enough, I contact did every single project manager, informing

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01:13:02,240 --> 01:13:05,000
Speaker 3: them of my probation and the closing hours that might

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01:13:05,080 --> 01:13:09,599
Speaker 3: now clash with their calendars. Fortunately, they were all willing

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01:13:09,600 --> 01:13:12,040
Speaker 3: to make an exception in light of the sudden change,

1538
01:13:12,160 --> 01:13:14,960
Speaker 3: and even wished me all the best with my new job.

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Speaker 3: So far, so good. Okay, here's where everything took a

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01:13:19,600 --> 01:13:24,200
Speaker 3: nose dive without any heads up. I slowly started to

1541
01:13:24,280 --> 01:13:28,040
Speaker 3: realize that the hours weren't what I was promised. Some

1542
01:13:28,080 --> 01:13:30,479
Speaker 3: of the weekly shifts required me to work an extra

1543
01:13:30,560 --> 01:13:33,840
Speaker 3: hour after closing time. I had to start working on

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01:13:34,000 --> 01:13:38,440
Speaker 3: random days during the weekend, even even though the contract

1545
01:13:38,479 --> 01:13:41,600
Speaker 3: an email said I was only meant to work during weekdays.

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01:13:42,120 --> 01:13:44,920
Speaker 3: And on top of all that, I slowly had to

1547
01:13:44,920 --> 01:13:48,479
Speaker 3: start working an eleven hours shift every week. When I

1548
01:13:48,560 --> 01:13:51,519
Speaker 3: contacted the store manager about all of this, he assured

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01:13:51,560 --> 01:13:54,040
Speaker 3: me this was just to make sure I hit the

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01:13:54,040 --> 01:13:58,160
Speaker 3: forty hour mark. Fair except if they were initially unhappy

1551
01:13:58,160 --> 01:14:00,799
Speaker 3: with the hours they assigned me to work, why couldn't

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01:14:00,800 --> 01:14:03,799
Speaker 3: they have just told me from beforehand what my actual

1553
01:14:03,840 --> 01:14:07,400
Speaker 3: schedule was going to be. Well, simply because that would

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01:14:07,439 --> 01:14:08,040
Speaker 3: be too easy.

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01:14:08,120 --> 01:14:09,880
Speaker 2: That would be too easy. They want to give you

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01:14:09,920 --> 01:14:12,559
Speaker 2: a challenge. They want you to figure out the schedule.

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01:14:13,800 --> 01:14:16,719
Speaker 3: Obviously, with these new hours coming out of thin air,

1558
01:14:16,840 --> 01:14:20,240
Speaker 3: I had to inform my project managers of the work updates.

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01:14:20,720 --> 01:14:24,560
Speaker 3: While some were incredibly kind and accommodating, others were justifiably

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01:14:24,600 --> 01:14:28,080
Speaker 3: pissed off with the situation. Not only would my absence

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01:14:28,120 --> 01:14:30,680
Speaker 3: be a breach in their contract, it would also be

1562
01:14:30,800 --> 01:14:34,679
Speaker 3: very disrespectful to those who drafted the project calendar months

1563
01:14:34,760 --> 01:14:37,719
Speaker 3: before I even had my first interview with this store.

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01:14:38,400 --> 01:14:40,880
Speaker 3: One of the project managers even threatened to fire me

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01:14:40,960 --> 01:14:44,040
Speaker 3: if I didn't find a solution to all of this. Desperate,

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Speaker 3: I sent a detailed email explaining everything to my store manager.

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01:14:49,000 --> 01:14:50,920
Speaker 3: I told them how few people we were in this

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01:14:51,040 --> 01:14:55,800
Speaker 3: project and that my absence would be detrimental. I explained

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01:14:55,840 --> 01:14:58,559
Speaker 3: how my role requires me to be present every day

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01:14:58,640 --> 01:15:01,080
Speaker 3: once we start working on the project. As of the

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01:15:01,120 --> 01:15:04,479
Speaker 3: final week of next month, I explained that there were

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Speaker 3: only a handful of days I had an issue with,

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01:15:06,640 --> 01:15:10,280
Speaker 3: since every other workday is completely fine with the project members.

1574
01:15:10,640 --> 01:15:13,240
Speaker 3: I explained that I only needed to leave one hour

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01:15:13,400 --> 01:15:16,960
Speaker 3: early from these few shifts, specifically the ones where I

1576
01:15:17,000 --> 01:15:21,080
Speaker 3: was already working an extra hour after closing time. Later,

1577
01:15:21,160 --> 01:15:23,800
Speaker 3: my store manager wrote back and said he had no

1578
01:15:23,960 --> 01:15:26,679
Speaker 3: issue whatsoever with letting me leave early on those days.

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01:15:27,200 --> 01:15:29,559
Speaker 3: The one condition he had was that I'd need to

1580
01:15:29,560 --> 01:15:32,680
Speaker 3: work some weekend shifts so I wouldn't fall behind on

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01:15:32,760 --> 01:15:36,160
Speaker 3: the forty hours. In this email, he also assured me

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Speaker 3: that these weekend shifts wouldn't clash with the project well.

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01:15:41,200 --> 01:15:44,280
Speaker 3: The following week, I received the work schedule for this month,

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Speaker 3: and two things to note. One is that I was

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01:15:46,840 --> 01:15:50,040
Speaker 3: no longer working after the store closes, not just on

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01:15:50,080 --> 01:15:54,200
Speaker 3: the project dates, literally every week, which is weird considering

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Speaker 3: he really wanted me to make up the forty hours

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01:15:57,360 --> 01:16:00,000
Speaker 3: and two I was only scheduled to work on one

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01:16:00,000 --> 01:16:03,880
Speaker 3: one single day out of every weekend this month. Yes,

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Speaker 3: it is also the only day out of every weekend

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Speaker 3: I will have to work on my project.

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Speaker 2: They just hate you.

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01:16:12,120 --> 01:16:14,240
Speaker 3: Your store manager is incompetent.

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01:16:14,360 --> 01:16:16,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, or has it? I don't know what he's doing. Yeah,

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01:16:16,439 --> 01:16:19,000
Speaker 2: I think maybe both. I think he's like stupid and

1596
01:16:19,040 --> 01:16:20,240
Speaker 2: also he's like, I don't really like you.

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01:16:20,280 --> 01:16:22,679
Speaker 3: Anyway. I sent a message to the store manager asking

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01:16:22,760 --> 01:16:25,040
Speaker 3: him if this was perhaps a mistake, assuring him I

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01:16:25,120 --> 01:16:29,120
Speaker 3: have no issue whatsoever with working literally every other weekend

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Speaker 3: this month. I even assured him that I can work

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01:16:31,800 --> 01:16:34,080
Speaker 3: the extra hours after closing time as long as they

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01:16:34,120 --> 01:16:38,040
Speaker 3: didn't clash with the project. His reply was, I thought,

1603
01:16:38,080 --> 01:16:40,679
Speaker 3: we said you're only working on the project on these

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01:16:40,680 --> 01:16:43,640
Speaker 3: specific days during the week. Why are you now no

1605
01:16:43,760 --> 01:16:47,280
Speaker 3: longer available? You're really pushing it. We're going to have

1606
01:16:47,320 --> 01:16:49,040
Speaker 3: a meeting next week to discuss this.

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01:16:51,000 --> 01:16:53,599
Speaker 2: Maybe you're just freaking dumb. Did you just think about that?

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01:16:53,800 --> 01:16:56,560
Speaker 3: We've talked about it multiple times.

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01:16:56,280 --> 01:16:58,760
Speaker 2: That guy, I hope that you have some sort of

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01:16:59,360 --> 01:17:03,280
Speaker 2: paper trail for this to be like, actually, no, no, no, no,

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01:17:03,439 --> 01:17:07,240
Speaker 2: we talked about this, did they send did OP soend

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Speaker 2: like A?

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01:17:08,280 --> 01:17:10,439
Speaker 3: I think so? I believe there is a paper trail,

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01:17:10,439 --> 01:17:15,639
Speaker 3: Ope continues, Confused, I collected myself then wrote back High,

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01:17:15,720 --> 01:17:18,680
Speaker 3: I feel like there might have been some miscommunication. In

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01:17:18,760 --> 01:17:22,200
Speaker 3: my email, I specified that the project was taking place

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01:17:22,439 --> 01:17:25,280
Speaker 3: every day, and in your reply you told me that

1618
01:17:25,439 --> 01:17:29,400
Speaker 3: my weekend shifts won't clash with the project. I'm sorry,

1619
01:17:29,520 --> 01:17:33,160
Speaker 3: but I was very transparent in my emails about everything.

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01:17:33,600 --> 01:17:35,840
Speaker 3: I am more than happy to discuss this further in

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01:17:35,920 --> 01:17:38,400
Speaker 3: our meeting next week. I made sure to send him

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01:17:38,400 --> 01:17:42,200
Speaker 3: screenshots of our emails along with those texts, just to

1623
01:17:42,280 --> 01:17:46,400
Speaker 3: be safe. His reply, I agree, there is indeed a

1624
01:17:46,439 --> 01:17:49,639
Speaker 3: misunderstanding here. Op. This is supposed to be your full

1625
01:17:49,680 --> 01:17:52,519
Speaker 3: time job. You do realize I had to cancel and

1626
01:17:52,560 --> 01:17:56,679
Speaker 3: rearrange other people's shifts and booked leave to accommodate you. Right,

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01:17:57,160 --> 01:18:00,479
Speaker 3: this isn't working for either of us. Dude, there's no way.

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01:18:00,560 --> 01:18:04,240
Speaker 3: He literally you sent him receipts of like here is

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01:18:04,280 --> 01:18:07,000
Speaker 3: exactly what I told you I'm looking for and then

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01:18:07,040 --> 01:18:09,439
Speaker 3: you were like, Okay, we can make that work, and

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01:18:09,479 --> 01:18:12,479
Speaker 3: then you messed up the schedule, and now it's my

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01:18:12,680 --> 01:18:14,280
Speaker 3: fault that you messed up.

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01:18:14,400 --> 01:18:17,280
Speaker 2: Genuinely, Is there anyone else that we can go to

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01:18:17,720 --> 01:18:20,760
Speaker 2: that's above him and just show the whole exchange?

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01:18:21,240 --> 01:18:27,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean op, yeah, OP says I'm done. I

1636
01:18:27,080 --> 01:18:30,000
Speaker 3: am so done, which is why I'm inclined to do

1637
01:18:30,040 --> 01:18:33,400
Speaker 3: the a whole thing here. Before there was this whole debacle,

1638
01:18:33,439 --> 01:18:37,240
Speaker 3: I was approached to participate in an extremely important event,

1639
01:18:37,360 --> 01:18:40,719
Speaker 3: a once in a lifetime opportunity that only comes around

1640
01:18:40,720 --> 01:18:45,439
Speaker 3: for specific people every ten years, you in a secret society.

1641
01:18:46,640 --> 01:18:49,920
Speaker 3: Before I confirmed my participation, I of course requested leave.

1642
01:18:50,439 --> 01:18:53,920
Speaker 3: Fortunately it was granted, so I gave these event people

1643
01:18:53,920 --> 01:18:56,240
Speaker 3: to go ahead. I can't wait for you to get

1644
01:18:56,240 --> 01:18:56,479
Speaker 3: out of you.

1645
01:18:56,720 --> 01:18:59,640
Speaker 2: I can't wait for you to quit and say you

1646
01:18:59,680 --> 01:19:00,759
Speaker 2: guys stink.

1647
01:19:01,400 --> 01:19:04,960
Speaker 3: Just an annoying, annoying situation to have all.

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01:19:04,920 --> 01:19:06,840
Speaker 2: Of their seats and for him to still be like, well,

1649
01:19:06,960 --> 01:19:08,360
Speaker 2: actually I can't read.

1650
01:19:08,560 --> 01:19:11,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, the icing on the cake is just you know,

1651
01:19:11,640 --> 01:19:15,439
Speaker 3: being scheduled the exact days on the weekend where you

1652
01:19:15,479 --> 01:19:19,519
Speaker 3: were like, I just can't do that day. But here's

1653
01:19:19,560 --> 01:19:22,000
Speaker 3: the thing, It wasn't until a few days ago that

1654
01:19:22,080 --> 01:19:25,720
Speaker 3: I realized the store manager went ahead and scheduled me

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01:19:25,840 --> 01:19:30,080
Speaker 3: to work that shift. Anyways, it literally shows on the

1656
01:19:30,160 --> 01:19:34,160
Speaker 3: system that my book leave is still accepted and everything.

1657
01:19:34,720 --> 01:19:38,120
Speaker 3: So seeing as my store manager feels this isn't working

1658
01:19:38,200 --> 01:19:40,880
Speaker 3: for either of us, and he's most likely going to

1659
01:19:41,040 --> 01:19:45,000
Speaker 3: end my probation during our meeting there and then, would

1660
01:19:45,000 --> 01:19:47,400
Speaker 3: i'd be the a hole for not telling him about

1661
01:19:47,400 --> 01:19:49,920
Speaker 3: this oversight? Would I be the a hole for not

1662
01:19:50,000 --> 01:19:53,679
Speaker 3: reminding him I can't work during that shift, therefore leaving

1663
01:19:53,680 --> 01:19:57,240
Speaker 3: the shop unattended due to his ignorance and lack of accountability.

1664
01:19:57,760 --> 01:20:01,000
Speaker 3: I don't think that's unfair at all. I think you

1665
01:20:01,040 --> 01:20:09,680
Speaker 3: know clearly this manager struggles with anything with his responsibilities

1666
01:20:09,680 --> 01:20:10,880
Speaker 3: with scheduling.

1667
01:20:10,720 --> 01:20:12,479
Speaker 2: I think, so, so let him.

1668
01:20:12,880 --> 01:20:13,840
Speaker 3: Let him deal with that.

1669
01:20:14,120 --> 01:20:15,839
Speaker 2: Yeah, he'll fit, he'll get in trouble

1670
01:20:16,400 --> 01:20:17,759
Speaker 3: And that's the end of his story.