WEBVTT - Managing Overwhelming Emotions

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<v Speaker 1>I'm struggling, I'm sick. I'm in so much pain. They

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<v Speaker 1>mock me, they ridicule me, they oppressed me. Is following

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<v Speaker 1>you all in vain? Is it worthless?

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<v Speaker 2>All right? Welcome back to the podcast, y'all. We have

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<v Speaker 2>Marshall joining us, my pastor and uh, a man of

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<v Speaker 2>great advice.

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<v Speaker 1>I appreciate that, man.

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<v Speaker 2>Marshall. Where are you from.

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<v Speaker 1>Austin, Texas?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, you are from there.

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<v Speaker 1>I was born there, but we moved around a lot

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<v Speaker 1>so Central Texas, so Austin, Georgetown, bas drop back to

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<v Speaker 1>Austin Cedar Park for a little bit.

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<v Speaker 2>What about Smithville does that have? Where does that come in?

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<v Speaker 1>That's what I meant by bastrop. Nobody knows who Smithville?

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<v Speaker 1>So I say, but that was Junior High High School?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, yeah? What about before that? You were in Austin.

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<v Speaker 1>Before before Smithville?

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<v Speaker 2>Where was elementary school?

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<v Speaker 1>Elementary school would have been Austin and Cedar Park. We moved.

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<v Speaker 1>We moved in the middle of elementary school.

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<v Speaker 2>You were like Central Texas born and raised.

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<v Speaker 1>H yeah, seat in downtown. That's where That's where I

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<v Speaker 1>was born.

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<v Speaker 2>There's this, uh, there's this book that Bernie showed me

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<v Speaker 2>called the intentional father, and it talked about that term raised. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and now it has Roman roots where the woman would

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<v Speaker 2>lay the baby on the at the foot of the

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<v Speaker 2>father and if he wanted the baby, he would raise

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<v Speaker 2>it up in the front of everyone, okay, and if

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<v Speaker 2>he didn't want it, he would just turn his back

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<v Speaker 2>and walk away. Interesting since then we get that term

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<v Speaker 2>raised up like I was raised. I was raised by

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<v Speaker 2>my grandparents. I raised by my parents. I've never really

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<v Speaker 2>thought about it. What does it even mean raised?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah? Yeah, I've never thought about That's interesting. Yeah, so

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<v Speaker 1>you're raised glad my dad raised me up.

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<v Speaker 2>He raised you up in Central Texas, that's right. Yeah, okay, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>you want to answer some of these questions, I'll.

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<v Speaker 1>Do my best.

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<v Speaker 2>People love you here. That's why you're back again and

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<v Speaker 2>hopefully ford willing many other times.

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<v Speaker 1>I love being here.

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<v Speaker 2>We answer your questions. You email podcast at grangersmith dot com.

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<v Speaker 2>And this first one comes from Chastity. It says, Hey Granger,

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<v Speaker 2>my name is Chasity. Lately, I've been struggling with emotions

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<v Speaker 2>and getting so easily upset over the past past hurts

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<v Speaker 2>that are resurfacing. I was explaining to my husband that

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<v Speaker 2>some days I feel so on fire for Jesus and

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<v Speaker 2>I want to tell everyone about him, and I'm so

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<v Speaker 2>excited to be a child of God. Then there are

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<v Speaker 2>other times when I feel so overwhelmed and emotional, over

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<v Speaker 2>feeling ignored by others, are just over things that have

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<v Speaker 2>already happened. My question is how do I have faith?

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<v Speaker 2>Because I know that it isn't always based on feelings,

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<v Speaker 2>it's more trust. And do I keep from getting so

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<v Speaker 2>overwhelmed by emotions and acting out saying things that hurt others?

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you so much for all you do God blass

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<v Speaker 2>All right, chassity, let me recap from my own mind here.

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<v Speaker 2>You're wondering. First of all, your big question is how

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<v Speaker 2>do I have faith? And then you say, because it

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<v Speaker 2>isn't always based on feelings, it's more trust, and do

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<v Speaker 2>I keep from getting how do I keep from getting

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<v Speaker 2>overwhelmed by emotions and acting out saying things that hurt others?

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<v Speaker 2>So there's like stuff under here that we don't totally

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<v Speaker 2>know about. In your question, it's kind of it's a

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<v Speaker 2>parent that you're acting out and hurting others, and that

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<v Speaker 2>is part of the purpose of this email, and that

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<v Speaker 2>you're saying is associated with your past hurts that are resurfacing.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm explaining for myself, but all this is totally normal.

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<v Speaker 2>This isn't abnormal for someone to say an email just

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<v Speaker 2>like this. But the fact that you say, I feel

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<v Speaker 2>so on fire for Jesus and I want to tell

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<v Speaker 2>everybody about him. And then there are other times we're

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<v Speaker 2>just overwhelmed by emotion. That's yes, we hear you, Marshall.

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<v Speaker 2>Where do you start with chastity?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, one, you you don't want to put your feelings

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<v Speaker 1>against your faith. They're not enemies, right, one you live

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<v Speaker 1>by and one you just experience. And so faith is

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<v Speaker 1>the assurance of things, hope for no matter what you're feeling,

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<v Speaker 1>positively or negatively, you're on the highest high of the

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<v Speaker 1>lowest low. You're not letting your feelings dictate your steps forward.

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<v Speaker 1>And so your your faith comes in when you when

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<v Speaker 1>you try to think through Okay, I know what I'm feeling,

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<v Speaker 1>but what do I know to be true? What do

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<v Speaker 1>I know God's word says about the situation I'm in?

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<v Speaker 1>And a lot of times, especially when it's the negative

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<v Speaker 1>feeling of pain and hurt and suffering, the truth is well,

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<v Speaker 1>God said we're going to experience this. This is a

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<v Speaker 1>broken world. I'm not I shouldn't be chasing comfort and

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<v Speaker 1>peace here and now. I should be finding my peace

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<v Speaker 1>in Christ. Should be chasing the promise of God that

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<v Speaker 1>this is not the end. There's something better when Christ returns.

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<v Speaker 1>And so that's where my hope is. And so I

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<v Speaker 1>can experience the hurt and the pain and the suffering

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<v Speaker 1>in a way that doesn't overwhelm me because I know

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<v Speaker 1>this is not a lasting thing, that this will end.

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<v Speaker 1>But then it also keeps in check the positive emotions

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<v Speaker 1>that we have and the positive feelings when we might

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<v Speaker 1>be tempted to put too much stock into the current situation.

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<v Speaker 1>If only I can stay in this specific situation, this circumstance,

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<v Speaker 1>then everything's going to be good moving forward.

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<v Speaker 2>And so yeah, that's interesting. You start right, you go

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<v Speaker 2>right out the gate and you say we shouldn't pit

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<v Speaker 2>our feelings and our trusting or would you say.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't pit feelings in faith against each other?

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<v Speaker 2>Chastity you said, because I know that it isn't always

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<v Speaker 2>based on my feelings, And so yeah, it's interesting that

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<v Speaker 2>Marshall's saying, why do you need to make those two

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<v Speaker 2>completely separate things like as if feelings are crushing your faith, right, Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>it's what she's implying. And we see that, We've seen

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<v Speaker 2>it in the Psalms all the time. David wrestles through this.

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<v Speaker 2>In fact, you're preaching on it.

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<v Speaker 1>This Sunday, I'm preaching on Psalm seventy three, where the

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<v Speaker 1>psalm ist Uh sees all this, these wicked people prospering.

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<v Speaker 1>He says, they're healthy, they have all this money, they

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<v Speaker 1>have no problems. The biggest problem they have is the

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<v Speaker 1>fact that they die at some point. But until then

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<v Speaker 1>they just live these great lives. And me, who I'm

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<v Speaker 1>seeking to follow? You got I'm struggling, I'm sick, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>in so much pain. They mock me, they ridicule me,

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<v Speaker 1>they oppress me. Is following you all in vain? Is

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<v Speaker 1>it worthless? Is?

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<v Speaker 2>Like?

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<v Speaker 1>What is it?

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<v Speaker 2>And right there that's real feelings.

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<v Speaker 1>That's real feelings. Yeah, And so there's not the sense

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<v Speaker 1>of hey, stop feeling that way. Yeah, Like you can't.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't control the way you interpret the situation or

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<v Speaker 1>how you respond to the interpretation of the situation, right,

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<v Speaker 1>Like you're gonna experience things in your life that will

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<v Speaker 1>they will cause your feelings to ebb and flow. They're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna go up and down, and so your faith is

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<v Speaker 1>how you respond to those feelings. It's not like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>don't feel one way so that you can be faithful.

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<v Speaker 1>It's how are you going to be faithful in the

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<v Speaker 1>way that you're feeling.

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<v Speaker 2>So let's stop right there and just define that because

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<v Speaker 2>you're saying Chassidy says, because I know it, my faith

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<v Speaker 2>is not based on feelings, and Marshall's saying, no, your

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<v Speaker 2>faith is how you respond to the feelings.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, yeah, I mean think about Paul and first Thessalonians.

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<v Speaker 1>When he says, you know, when we have loved ones,

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<v Speaker 1>who ones or friends, you know, things like that, who

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<v Speaker 1>who are followers of Jesus who die? He says, we

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<v Speaker 1>don't grieve as those who have no hope. And the

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<v Speaker 1>second part is tends to be what we lean on.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like, oh, you have hope, so so like be hopeful.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's true, but the first part is equally as important.

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<v Speaker 1>He says, we don't grieve as those who have no hope.

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<v Speaker 1>So there's the there's the reality that he's presenting. But

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<v Speaker 1>you're gonna grieve, You're gonna feel that pain. So you're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna have that feeling of hurt and sorrow, but that

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<v Speaker 1>grief doesn't find permanent residence in your soul because of

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<v Speaker 1>the hope that you have. And so he's showing that

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<v Speaker 1>right there. Your faith is going to be the response

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<v Speaker 1>to the feeling of grief that you have because it's

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<v Speaker 1>the hope that you have and so okay, this grief

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<v Speaker 1>is not going to be a lasting grief. Yeah. So

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<v Speaker 1>it's just that was really helpful when my mom passed away,

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<v Speaker 1>was thinking through that of in some stmes, I felt

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<v Speaker 1>for a little bit that I wasn't able to grieve

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<v Speaker 1>fully because I just grew up where it was kind

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<v Speaker 1>of like, hey, you're a Christian, have hope. You know

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<v Speaker 1>there's resurrection one day and she's in a better place

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<v Speaker 1>and all that kind of stuff. But and really studying

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<v Speaker 1>first Thessalonians and seeing that it hit me pretty hard. No,

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<v Speaker 1>Paul acknowledges we're gonna have grief and that is an

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<v Speaker 1>appropriate time to grief, but that grief doesn't stay, it's

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<v Speaker 1>not lasting because there's something greater than that and that's

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<v Speaker 1>what my faith is in.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, this is so good.

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<v Speaker 1>So you want your faith to instruct how you work

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<v Speaker 1>through your how you process your feelings. And that's exactly

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<v Speaker 1>what's happening in Psalm seventy three in the sermon this week,

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<v Speaker 1>Like he lists all these things that he's struggling with,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm bringing this up in the sermon. The interesting

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<v Speaker 1>thing is he lists all this injustice that he sees

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<v Speaker 1>and the wicked prospering and everything, But the issue that

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<v Speaker 1>he actually confesses to God is the fact that he

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<v Speaker 1>was envious of all that. So his biggest concern wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>that they were experiencing this process sparity. It was the

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<v Speaker 1>fact that he wasn't. And so he's trying to process

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<v Speaker 1>all of this, and it says like the turning point

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<v Speaker 1>of the psalm is when he says, when I thought

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<v Speaker 1>to understand this, I was exhausted. It was wearisome task

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<v Speaker 1>to me until I went to the sanctuary and I learned.

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<v Speaker 1>And so there's a shift where he takes his feelings,

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<v Speaker 1>his doubts, his thoughts to the Lord in faith and

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<v Speaker 1>basically says, I need you to help me understand this.

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<v Speaker 1>I know what's true is that You're good. He says

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<v Speaker 1>at the start of the song, he says, truly, God

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<v Speaker 1>is good. He says, I know this is true, but

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<v Speaker 1>this is what I'm seeing. I need you to help

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<v Speaker 1>me understand and reconcile these two things. So there his

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<v Speaker 1>faith is influencing his feelings in the sense of directing

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<v Speaker 1>where he moves forward from them. He could have just

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<v Speaker 1>stayed in those feelings right of doubt and hurt and envy,

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<v Speaker 1>but in faith, he takes it to the Lord and says,

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<v Speaker 1>I need you to help me understand this. And by

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<v Speaker 1>the end of it, he's like, whom have I in

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<v Speaker 1>heaven but you on earth? There's nothing to desire besides

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<v Speaker 1>you you. And so he really comes to understand. I

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<v Speaker 1>was starting to treasure so many things above you, and

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<v Speaker 1>it caused me to feel this way. But when you

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<v Speaker 1>showed me the end of all of it, so he said,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, the wicked they they'll perish. They'll be judged

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<v Speaker 1>for their wickedness that you're they're doing. So whatever prosperity

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<v Speaker 1>they have, now that's that's the extent of their their happiness,

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<v Speaker 1>because they're going to get judged. But as for me,

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<v Speaker 1>this pain and suffering I'm experiencing now pales in comparison

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<v Speaker 1>to the to the glory. I'm gonna be with with

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<v Speaker 1>you one day. And so that faith helps him get

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<v Speaker 1>through the feelings of doubt and grief and envy and pain.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's so good. So Chastity kind of give you

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<v Speaker 2>some some practical application for this. The at your words,

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<v Speaker 2>you're excited to be a child of God. So as

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<v Speaker 2>a child of God, you are told that you will suffer,

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<v Speaker 2>you will have feelings, you will grieve, you will sin.

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<v Speaker 2>You told a lot of things about yourself, and it

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<v Speaker 2>never says that you won't be that, or you won't

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<v Speaker 2>do that, or you won't feel that. But what the

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<v Speaker 2>Bible does it helps you to make sense of those

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<v Speaker 2>feelings and when you do suffer, how to suffer well,

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<v Speaker 2>when you do grieve, how to grieve with hope. So

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<v Speaker 2>that's the application for you, is that you will go

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<v Speaker 2>through these The fact that you feel or go through

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<v Speaker 2>these things doesn't mean you're a bad child of God.

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<v Speaker 2>But how you respond to it is what we want

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<v Speaker 2>you to know. And then then we're going to get

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<v Speaker 2>into spiritual disciplines with this conversation, because what Marshall is

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<v Speaker 2>basically saying is when he lost his mother and I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know how the scenario worked out, but you went

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<v Speaker 2>to the Bible with your feelings. So, for instance, chastity,

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<v Speaker 2>when you say, well what do I how does that

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<v Speaker 2>look like? Bring it to God? When I bring my feet,

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<v Speaker 2>what does that look like? Well it means. It could

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<v Speaker 2>mean a dark room with a cup of coffee in

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<v Speaker 2>your Bible and you go to your Bible in prayer.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like, Lord, I'm coming to your word. I feel this.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I'm grieving this way, I'm suffering in this way,

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<v Speaker 2>I have sinned in this way, and I'm taking this

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<v Speaker 2>to you, meaning practically, I'm sitting here with the Bible

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<v Speaker 2>in my lap, and Marshall's saying when this happened with

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<v Speaker 2>his mother, he found a word in there that transformed

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<v Speaker 2>and gave him understanding to understand the suffering he was

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<v Speaker 2>going through. Yeah, there's a lot. We could talk for

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<v Speaker 2>probably an hour about spiritual disciplines and how the different

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<v Speaker 2>things you could set up chastity in your life to

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<v Speaker 2>help walk through these I don't think it's necessary to

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<v Speaker 2>do that in this podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>I think the only thing I would say based on

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<v Speaker 1>what she said in the email is feeling things based

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<v Speaker 1>on past experiences. I think there is something to where

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<v Speaker 1>we shouldn't dwell so much on the past. The Lord

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<v Speaker 1>has us where we're at today for a reason, and

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<v Speaker 1>to keep bringing up things in the past is going

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<v Speaker 1>to keep bringing up the same emotions. And so there's

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<v Speaker 1>a sense of just keep moving forward, keep pressing on

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<v Speaker 1>in faith. No, you can't go back and change things,

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<v Speaker 1>and that God was sovereign over all of it. So

0:14:29.360 --> 0:14:32.400
<v Speaker 1>you are where you are today for a reason, and

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<v Speaker 1>and just don't don't dwell so much on the past. Really,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I've told some of our people, like, the

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<v Speaker 1>only thing you should dwell on that's in the past

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<v Speaker 1>is the Cross because of all the implications that come

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<v Speaker 1>from that, and that fuels the faith going forward. So

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<v Speaker 1>it's good.

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<v Speaker 2>Amber and I were told one time it happened, but

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<v Speaker 2>That's Better Help HLP dot com slash Granger. Next question

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<v Speaker 2>comes from Grace. Hey, Granger, have been listening to your

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<v Speaker 2>podcast a lot and I feel very motivated by them.

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<v Speaker 2>What is your advice you'd give to someone who's never

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<v Speaker 2>dated at the age of nineteen, How to pick themselves

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<v Speaker 2>up when everyone around you has a boyfriend who is

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<v Speaker 2>already hanging out with their significant other instead of you,

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<v Speaker 2>and then make me feel lonely by myself? How do

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<v Speaker 2>I keep faith and trust in God, knowing that he

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<v Speaker 2>has a plan for my future when I'm starting to

0:17:08.720 --> 0:17:11.639
<v Speaker 2>lose hope? There it is again, thank you for everything

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<v Speaker 2>you do for others. Grace, Hey, Grace, thanks for emailing.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm nineteen years old. That once again not an uncommon question.

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<v Speaker 2>You're not alone in asking this, And for you to

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<v Speaker 2>be nineteen and single and have never dated and looking

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<v Speaker 2>around at a lot of other people that are dating

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<v Speaker 2>now is very common, very normal. Although it seems like

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<v Speaker 2>you're the only one I could tell you just from

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<v Speaker 2>this podcast alone, from two hundred and twenty six episodes,

0:17:43.800 --> 0:17:46.760
<v Speaker 2>I could tell you here by far, you're not alone.

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<v Speaker 2>You have a lot of people going through this, and

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<v Speaker 2>that's the first part. We'll start with that. The second

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<v Speaker 2>part is nineteen seems so old, but you're so young,

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<v Speaker 2>have so much. You have so much, and and I

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<v Speaker 2>would be so encouraged by you that you've actually not

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<v Speaker 2>dated in you're nineteen, and so you think of what

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<v Speaker 2>you what you've been saved from, you know, because all

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<v Speaker 2>these people you're looking at and all these bad breakups,

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<v Speaker 2>and probably the next question we get, I don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>this is something bad that's happening in a relationship that

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<v Speaker 2>people are trying to look Hey, the question we just

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<v Speaker 2>had from Chastity, so she's looking back at the past,

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<v Speaker 2>at things that are now resurfacing. It probably has to

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<v Speaker 2>do with a relationship and grace. You are free from

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<v Speaker 2>that right now. You have a clean slate, And so

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<v Speaker 2>let's start with that's that's your first paragraph. And how

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<v Speaker 2>to keep my faith and trust God knowing that he

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<v Speaker 2>has a plan for the future when I'm starting to

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<v Speaker 2>lose hope. That's that's that. And then then the middle

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<v Speaker 2>part of your question is how to stop looking at

0:18:58.040 --> 0:19:01.720
<v Speaker 2>everyone around you? So just try to think just purely

0:19:01.920 --> 0:19:06.000
<v Speaker 2>practical marshal on this without getting too deep with this.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna assume. I'm going to assume that social media

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<v Speaker 2>is part of the problem. It seems a pretty good

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<v Speaker 2>assumption in twenty twenty four, at being nineteen, that you're

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<v Speaker 2>gonna see something else popping up on social media when

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<v Speaker 2>it's another one of your friends and they're in a

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<v Speaker 2>relationship and they're having a good time and you're left out.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you get What are your thoughts on social media?

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<v Speaker 2>And have you and your wife Alex thought about any

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<v Speaker 2>safeguards for your own kids.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, we've started talking about it. Our oldest is nine,

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<v Speaker 1>so you can go all the way at a time,

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<v Speaker 1>But I mean, who knows what it'll be out there

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<v Speaker 1>by then?

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<v Speaker 2>Right, So in ten years Kim is Grace nineteen. Those

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<v Speaker 2>are ten quick years. Oh yeah, So let's think of

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<v Speaker 2>Kim as your daughter as Grace in the situation, right,

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<v Speaker 2>what are you telling her?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean, if she's telling me she's losing hope

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<v Speaker 1>on asking what her hope is in, right, that's it.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm not gonna I'm I'm not gonna go to

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<v Speaker 1>deep into that because I don't know yet, But that's

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<v Speaker 1>gonna dictate kind of the some of the practical advice

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<v Speaker 1>I give her, because I mean, part of it would

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<v Speaker 1>be what you've already said like, yeah, nineteen seems like

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<v Speaker 1>you're you're behind the game that you should have already

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<v Speaker 1>dated multiple guys by this point. And it's like you

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<v Speaker 1>got plenty of time. Out of all the people I've

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<v Speaker 1>ever met, I've only met two who or like I've

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<v Speaker 1>married my high school sweetheart yep too, out of all

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<v Speaker 1>the people. Yeah, And so it's you know, the odds

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<v Speaker 1>are not strong in that favor for that. And so

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<v Speaker 1>when I think through people dating, it's it's why do

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<v Speaker 1>you want to date? Right? Like, if you're wanting to

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<v Speaker 1>date just to date, that's just gonna lead to hurt

0:20:58.160 --> 0:21:01.320
<v Speaker 1>because there's no end game in that. It's just and

0:21:01.960 --> 0:21:05.080
<v Speaker 1>it's really about yourself. When really, when you think about

0:21:05.119 --> 0:21:07.960
<v Speaker 1>a relationship, in a relationship, you should be thinking about

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<v Speaker 1>the other person above yourself, and if both people are

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<v Speaker 1>doing that, that leads to a good relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Right. And so if the idea is I just I

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<v Speaker 1>want to date because I feel like I should have

0:21:18.480 --> 0:21:23.399
<v Speaker 1>dated by now, that's difficult because you've made it more

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<v Speaker 1>about you than anybody else. Now I have talked two

0:21:28.359 --> 0:21:32.119
<v Speaker 1>people who feel like I haven't dated yet because I

0:21:32.200 --> 0:21:35.400
<v Speaker 1>must not be good enough. Nobody's found me attractive, nobody

0:21:35.440 --> 0:21:39.320
<v Speaker 1>finds me lovable, nobody nobody wants to be with me,

0:21:40.400 --> 0:21:43.800
<v Speaker 1>And then if that's the case, then then then we

0:21:43.840 --> 0:21:46.000
<v Speaker 1>have a whole other discussion on our hands. Right, So,

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<v Speaker 1>if Kim's telling me that, like, I feel like I'm

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<v Speaker 1>I'm worthless, I feel like nobody loves me, nobody cares

0:21:51.119 --> 0:21:55.639
<v Speaker 1>for me, nobody wants to be with me again at nineteen,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm pushing against that a little bit, saying, hey, you're

0:21:57.440 --> 0:22:01.080
<v Speaker 1>only nineteen, don't stress about it. But you know you

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<v Speaker 1>could take the conversation in two different ways at that point.

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<v Speaker 2>So, yeah, I don't think Grace is going there.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think so either, which why I didn't start there. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but I do think there is the sense it sounds

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<v Speaker 1>more like I feel like I should have dated by now, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>and I haven't.

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<v Speaker 2>And so yeah, if London, my daughter came to me

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<v Speaker 2>and said, Dad, could you could you give me an

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<v Speaker 2>example of something you would love for me to say

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<v Speaker 2>in the next seven years, I would say, I would

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<v Speaker 2>love for you in the next seven years to say

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<v Speaker 2>I've never dated anyone and I'm still nineteen. I'm just nineteen.

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<v Speaker 2>I would I would love that for my daughter so

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<v Speaker 2>what you have, grace is truly a gift, and I

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<v Speaker 2>hope you see it that way. And because then we

0:22:46.920 --> 0:22:48.680
<v Speaker 2>can go to your last question, how do you keep

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<v Speaker 2>faith and trust in God? Knowing he has a plan

0:22:50.560 --> 0:22:53.159
<v Speaker 2>for your future? But you're starting to lose hope? And

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<v Speaker 2>I go, if I'm your father, Grace, I say, my

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<v Speaker 2>hope is that you are still single at nineteen. So

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<v Speaker 2>how much more would our heavenly Father want for us? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>And I think there's a sense of you know, how

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<v Speaker 1>do I I can't remember how she worded it right there,

0:23:08.760 --> 0:23:10.480
<v Speaker 1>you know, you just read it, but you know, how

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<v Speaker 1>do I remain faithful? Trusting God? And this whole thing?

0:23:15.520 --> 0:23:17.720
<v Speaker 1>I mean, it's interesting because his word actually speak speaks

0:23:17.760 --> 0:23:19.919
<v Speaker 1>to this when Paul says, I wish you were all single,

0:23:20.320 --> 0:23:21.840
<v Speaker 1>because then you could devote a lot of time to

0:23:21.880 --> 0:23:24.439
<v Speaker 1>the ministry like I'm doing just to not not like

0:23:24.480 --> 0:23:27.240
<v Speaker 1>paid ministry or working at a church, but just there's

0:23:27.240 --> 0:23:29.240
<v Speaker 1>so much you could be doing for God right now

0:23:29.280 --> 0:23:31.600
<v Speaker 1>when you don't have to worry about a significant other,

0:23:31.680 --> 0:23:34.919
<v Speaker 1>you don't have to worry about children. You have so

0:23:35.040 --> 0:23:40.320
<v Speaker 1>many freedoms in that sense. And so what scripture speaks

0:23:40.359 --> 0:23:43.120
<v Speaker 1>to this is if you're nineteen and you're not dating,

0:23:44.040 --> 0:23:46.600
<v Speaker 1>the Lord actually says that's a good thing. And if

0:23:46.600 --> 0:23:49.040
<v Speaker 1>that's the case, if you're not dating, if you haven't

0:23:49.040 --> 0:23:51.359
<v Speaker 1>found somebody that you're potentially getting married to, if he

0:23:51.359 --> 0:23:54.240
<v Speaker 1>hasn't brought that person into your life, then he's put

0:23:54.280 --> 0:23:56.080
<v Speaker 1>you in a position where you have a lot of

0:23:56.119 --> 0:24:00.720
<v Speaker 1>freedoms to serve him in specific ways. And so, you know,

0:24:00.760 --> 0:24:03.560
<v Speaker 1>how do I remain faithful without losing hope and knowing

0:24:03.600 --> 0:24:05.840
<v Speaker 1>what God's plan is for me in this His plan

0:24:05.920 --> 0:24:08.000
<v Speaker 1>for you is just to glorify Him and everything, whether

0:24:08.000 --> 0:24:11.040
<v Speaker 1>you're dating or not. And so when you're not dating,

0:24:11.080 --> 0:24:13.760
<v Speaker 1>you have all these freedoms that you can do to

0:24:13.840 --> 0:24:15.960
<v Speaker 1>serve him better. And so how do you do it?

0:24:15.960 --> 0:24:18.720
<v Speaker 1>What's the practical step? Figure out the ways you're serving

0:24:18.720 --> 0:24:22.760
<v Speaker 1>the Lord? How are you seeking to glorify Him in

0:24:22.800 --> 0:24:26.600
<v Speaker 1>everything you're presently doing. You know, as you know, I'm

0:24:26.640 --> 0:24:29.359
<v Speaker 1>assuming you're in church being a Christian, and so there's

0:24:29.960 --> 0:24:32.639
<v Speaker 1>you know, you can go on mission trips more easily

0:24:32.680 --> 0:24:36.040
<v Speaker 1>than if you were, you know, with somebody or you know,

0:24:36.119 --> 0:24:39.080
<v Speaker 1>have kids. That's more difficult when you get those situations

0:24:39.119 --> 0:24:40.600
<v Speaker 1>in your life. So you can go on mission trips,

0:24:40.600 --> 0:24:43.479
<v Speaker 1>you can you can be in more Bible, you can

0:24:43.520 --> 0:24:45.680
<v Speaker 1>go to Bible study, you can be in meeting with

0:24:46.280 --> 0:24:49.159
<v Speaker 1>more ladies in the church for discipleship and then discipling

0:24:49.200 --> 0:24:52.879
<v Speaker 1>some of the the the the younger ladies in the church.

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<v Speaker 1>And so you have all these opportunities to be serving

0:24:55.000 --> 0:24:58.959
<v Speaker 1>the Lord. And you know, how how am I supposed

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<v Speaker 1>to know God's plan for my life in this point? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>he actually tells you, if you're single, you have all

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<v Speaker 1>the freedoms to do so many things. Yeah, so go

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<v Speaker 1>and do them.

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<v Speaker 2>I was just I don't remember. I don't remember if

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<v Speaker 2>you're with me or not, Marshall. But recently someone told me,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't remember who was. They told me they met

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<v Speaker 2>their wife on mission.

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<v Speaker 1>Mm hmm.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like, oh man, that's a pretty good place to

0:25:19.800 --> 0:25:26.680
<v Speaker 2>meet your your future spouse. Yeah, so that's what he's saying. Yeah, yeah, Well,

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<v Speaker 2>is there a is there a book we could recommend Grace.

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<v Speaker 1>Not Yet Married? Not not Yet Married by Marshall? Uh Siegel?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, s E g A L.

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<v Speaker 1>I believe cool. So good question.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a fan of the outdated book. Jonathan Bakluda outdated,

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<v Speaker 2>I think that is, it's probably the closest target to

0:25:49.880 --> 0:25:52.720
<v Speaker 2>your exact question here, Even though that's coming from a

0:25:52.760 --> 0:25:54.760
<v Speaker 2>married man, it's always a little bit more difficult when

0:25:54.760 --> 0:25:56.960
<v Speaker 2>it's coming from someone's not in your situation at all.

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<v Speaker 2>Next question comes from Austin Hey Granger. I live in

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<v Speaker 2>North Georgia. I'm twenty two years old and a few

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<v Speaker 2>months away and hopefully getting engaged to my girlfriend of

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<v Speaker 2>four years. I've been listening to this podcast for about

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<v Speaker 2>a year now, and my question for you is about

0:26:13.800 --> 0:26:16.919
<v Speaker 2>growing my faith and reading the Bible a couple of mine.

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<v Speaker 2>A goal of mine is to eventually read the whole Bible.

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<v Speaker 2>I've tried to start multiple times, but I always end

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<v Speaker 2>up not following through. I always get stuck feeling like

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<v Speaker 2>reading the Bible just to read is a chore, and

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<v Speaker 2>I don't feel like I get as much out of

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<v Speaker 2>it as I do when I study certain topics, for example,

0:26:36.840 --> 0:26:40.080
<v Speaker 2>doing a devotional or reading along with a pastor at church.

0:26:40.640 --> 0:26:42.959
<v Speaker 2>Should I focus on reading the whole Bible, and if so,

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<v Speaker 2>what would be the best way to focus on that?

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<v Speaker 2>Or should I just read and study certain topics. Thanks

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<v Speaker 2>for all you do to help build the Kingdom of God,

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<v Speaker 2>God Bless, and that is Austin. Austin, I'm gonna agree

0:26:57.680 --> 0:26:59.880
<v Speaker 2>with you right off the bat. It's something you said.

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<v Speaker 2>You said, I feel stuck, feeling like reading the Bible

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<v Speaker 2>just to read it is a chore, and I don't

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<v Speaker 2>feel like I get as much out of it when

0:27:07.640 --> 0:27:12.080
<v Speaker 2>I do. I agree, and I think God would agree.

0:27:14.040 --> 0:27:16.000
<v Speaker 2>If you're reading it just to read it. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't really know anything in life you could say

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<v Speaker 2>that about doing something just to do it, You're not

0:27:22.240 --> 0:27:24.840
<v Speaker 2>going to get anything out of it, regardless of filling

0:27:24.880 --> 0:27:29.080
<v Speaker 2>the blank with whatever that is, including the Bible. So

0:27:29.400 --> 0:27:33.560
<v Speaker 2>when the Bible becomes a chore, or when you think

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<v Speaker 2>of the Bible as something that you need to read

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<v Speaker 2>because that's what you need to do, it is certainly

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<v Speaker 2>getting into the category of works for righteousness at that point.

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<v Speaker 2>It's it is becoming you said the word often a chore.

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<v Speaker 2>So if that's where you are, and you're like, man,

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<v Speaker 2>I've heard people say I should read the whole Bible,

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<v Speaker 2>and I feel like I probably should read the whole Bible.

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<v Speaker 2>It just makes sense, but I cannot stand doing it,

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<v Speaker 2>and I've tried and I've given up, and it feels

0:28:04.880 --> 0:28:06.880
<v Speaker 2>like a chore because I'm just doing it because I'm

0:28:06.880 --> 0:28:09.040
<v Speaker 2>trying to, you know, put a check in the box.

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<v Speaker 2>And to all that, I say, Okay, then we probably

0:28:12.680 --> 0:28:16.800
<v Speaker 2>need to aim lower, and we need to we need

0:28:16.840 --> 0:28:20.359
<v Speaker 2>to go backwards a little bit and in the spiritual disciplines,

0:28:20.359 --> 0:28:23.800
<v Speaker 2>like we mentioned earlier, let's let's back up a little bit.

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<v Speaker 2>Because first of all, what I always like to encourage

0:28:28.400 --> 0:28:32.760
<v Speaker 2>is instead of thinking of reading the entire Bible, I

0:28:32.800 --> 0:28:36.080
<v Speaker 2>don't really even like that terminology. I don't like to

0:28:36.080 --> 0:28:39.080
<v Speaker 2>think of it in that way because it immediately makes

0:28:39.120 --> 0:28:44.440
<v Speaker 2>me think of reading it to finish it. And it

0:28:44.520 --> 0:28:47.880
<v Speaker 2>should never be like that. And unless you're taking some

0:28:48.000 --> 0:28:50.640
<v Speaker 2>kind of math class, then I don't think any book

0:28:50.680 --> 0:28:53.640
<v Speaker 2>should be looked at as reading it just to finish it.

0:28:54.440 --> 0:28:57.840
<v Speaker 2>What good is it at all? So back way up,

0:28:58.120 --> 0:29:02.480
<v Speaker 2>aim way lower. You know what I want to I

0:29:02.520 --> 0:29:06.800
<v Speaker 2>want to start. I'm want to start reading to the

0:29:06.800 --> 0:29:10.479
<v Speaker 2>Book of John. But I don't want to necessarily read

0:29:10.520 --> 0:29:11.960
<v Speaker 2>the Book of John. I don't want to read the

0:29:11.960 --> 0:29:13.320
<v Speaker 2>whole Bible, and I don't want to read the whole

0:29:13.320 --> 0:29:15.800
<v Speaker 2>Book of John. I just want to read the first chapter.

0:29:16.680 --> 0:29:19.040
<v Speaker 2>And if that seems like too much. Then I just

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<v Speaker 2>want to read the first page in my Bible of John.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm want to start there because I know that this

0:29:25.520 --> 0:29:30.280
<v Speaker 2>whole Bible reading thing something I should do. But your

0:29:30.360 --> 0:29:33.160
<v Speaker 2>eyes have to be open to that. And this is

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<v Speaker 2>this is from someone speaking to you right now that

0:29:36.880 --> 0:29:40.680
<v Speaker 2>understands what it felt like to have my eyes closed

0:29:40.720 --> 0:29:44.000
<v Speaker 2>to it, to have the dust collecting on the Bible itself.

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<v Speaker 2>And I can't tell you. I can't open your eyes, Austin,

0:29:47.000 --> 0:29:49.000
<v Speaker 2>and I can't tell you that you need to be

0:29:49.080 --> 0:29:50.760
<v Speaker 2>doing this. And if you want to be a Christian,

0:29:50.760 --> 0:29:52.720
<v Speaker 2>you need to read your Bible. I can't. I can't

0:29:52.760 --> 0:29:54.880
<v Speaker 2>do it. I can only encourage you if you're going.

0:29:55.200 --> 0:29:59.000
<v Speaker 2>I'm hungry, I love God. My eyes are open, I

0:29:59.080 --> 0:30:00.800
<v Speaker 2>want to know. I want to know word and I'm

0:30:00.840 --> 0:30:02.480
<v Speaker 2>gonna go. Let me show you where it is and

0:30:02.600 --> 0:30:05.160
<v Speaker 2>try to hear in the Bible. And you've probably heard

0:30:05.160 --> 0:30:08.240
<v Speaker 2>me go through that whole spill before on this podcast

0:30:08.320 --> 0:30:11.080
<v Speaker 2>or somewhere else. And that's not what I would say

0:30:11.080 --> 0:30:15.200
<v Speaker 2>to you. To you, I would say, we have to

0:30:15.200 --> 0:30:19.800
<v Speaker 2>get our heart right first, and that's gonna start with prayer. Yeah,

0:30:20.840 --> 0:30:23.640
<v Speaker 2>And it's like I'm thinking, I'm just trying to picture

0:30:23.680 --> 0:30:26.680
<v Speaker 2>this and try to give you just a practical look

0:30:26.720 --> 0:30:32.680
<v Speaker 2>for this, Austin. And so I'm thinking, I hate to

0:30:32.720 --> 0:30:36.200
<v Speaker 2>always say early in the morning, but you know, for

0:30:36.320 --> 0:30:40.520
<v Speaker 2>me in my life, the morning is better for my

0:30:40.640 --> 0:30:44.360
<v Speaker 2>personal reading because that's before my phone starts buzzing and

0:30:44.440 --> 0:30:46.960
<v Speaker 2>the emails come in, and Amber has things for me

0:30:47.000 --> 0:30:50.520
<v Speaker 2>to do, and I've got other obligations, so before all

0:30:50.560 --> 0:30:53.480
<v Speaker 2>that starts. This is why I always go there. I

0:30:53.520 --> 0:30:56.160
<v Speaker 2>would get there, Austin, in the time of day when

0:30:56.240 --> 0:31:03.760
<v Speaker 2>nothing's going on, and just go, Lord, here I am.

0:31:03.840 --> 0:31:07.800
<v Speaker 2>And my mind tells me that I should be reading

0:31:07.800 --> 0:31:10.160
<v Speaker 2>this because I've heard it said that this is your word.

0:31:11.000 --> 0:31:15.800
<v Speaker 2>But Lord, I'm struggling to want to do it, to

0:31:16.240 --> 0:31:18.760
<v Speaker 2>the desire to do it, and I feel like that's

0:31:18.760 --> 0:31:22.200
<v Speaker 2>a I feel like it's a problem. And I also

0:31:22.240 --> 0:31:25.360
<v Speaker 2>realized that God, but my heart is in your hands.

0:31:26.040 --> 0:31:28.960
<v Speaker 2>Will you soften my heart? Will you open up these

0:31:29.040 --> 0:31:31.360
<v Speaker 2>pages where you open up this word, so that so

0:31:31.480 --> 0:31:34.520
<v Speaker 2>that I crave it, so that I long for it,

0:31:34.840 --> 0:31:39.080
<v Speaker 2>so I thirst for it like a dear thirst for

0:31:39.280 --> 0:31:42.400
<v Speaker 2>living waters. You know, I want that. I want that

0:31:42.520 --> 0:31:46.560
<v Speaker 2>from me. I want to I want to desire this,

0:31:47.160 --> 0:31:49.360
<v Speaker 2>will you open up that for me? God? And then

0:31:49.400 --> 0:31:52.200
<v Speaker 2>at that point, Austin, you're not going, Okay, Genesis one,

0:31:52.240 --> 0:31:55.360
<v Speaker 2>here we go. Now You're like, so I'm gonna start

0:31:55.360 --> 0:31:58.560
<v Speaker 2>with these first couple of paragraphs of John one. In

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<v Speaker 2>the beginning was the Word, and the word is with God,

0:32:02.400 --> 0:32:05.120
<v Speaker 2>and then the word was God. He was in the

0:32:05.160 --> 0:32:08.200
<v Speaker 2>beginning with God. And you're just kind of working through that,

0:32:08.800 --> 0:32:11.640
<v Speaker 2>and then you stop and you pray, you read it again.

0:32:11.720 --> 0:32:16.080
<v Speaker 2>Maybe I'll say what I mean, five to ten minutes. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>close the Bible the next morning, picking up where you

0:32:23.480 --> 0:32:30.200
<v Speaker 2>left off, same prayer. Yeah, second chapter. Yeah, you know,

0:32:30.400 --> 0:32:33.440
<v Speaker 2>just just slowly, aim lower. That's what I'm trying to

0:32:33.440 --> 0:32:35.920
<v Speaker 2>tell you, aim lowered, to stop thinking about finishing the

0:32:35.920 --> 0:32:38.560
<v Speaker 2>Bible and closing the back of Revelation and going I

0:32:38.640 --> 0:32:41.200
<v Speaker 2>did it, I did it. Shock it up for another one,

0:32:41.240 --> 0:32:43.880
<v Speaker 2>for another person that's read the Bible. Don't be that guy, Austin.

0:32:45.240 --> 0:32:47.960
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna shut up and let Marshall guide on this. No.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I think all that's good man, and I

0:32:50.720 --> 0:32:52.440
<v Speaker 1>don't want to repeat anything Grander said, So I'll just

0:32:52.440 --> 0:33:01.040
<v Speaker 1>try to add a couple of other practical stuff I

0:33:01.080 --> 0:33:06.360
<v Speaker 1>would encourage you to find somebody who's a little more

0:33:06.360 --> 0:33:09.000
<v Speaker 1>mature in the faith than you will be. And that's

0:33:09.040 --> 0:33:10.960
<v Speaker 1>not saying you're immature. That's just saying we all have

0:33:10.960 --> 0:33:13.000
<v Speaker 1>people who are more mature. I have more people in

0:33:13.000 --> 0:33:15.080
<v Speaker 1>my lives who are more mature believers than I am,

0:33:15.120 --> 0:33:18.280
<v Speaker 1>and so I go and I am discipled by them.

0:33:18.320 --> 0:33:24.160
<v Speaker 1>But when you read scripture with somebody else, there's something

0:33:24.200 --> 0:33:27.959
<v Speaker 1>different that happens, right because you start it's now a

0:33:28.880 --> 0:33:32.360
<v Speaker 1>it's like a three person conversation, like God is speaking,

0:33:33.360 --> 0:33:35.800
<v Speaker 1>and then you're with this other person kind of talking

0:33:35.840 --> 0:33:39.520
<v Speaker 1>about what God is saying, and one that helps hold

0:33:39.560 --> 0:33:44.760
<v Speaker 1>you accountable to actually doing it. But more importantly, they

0:33:44.840 --> 0:33:48.120
<v Speaker 1>might see something that you don't, not something new, not

0:33:48.120 --> 0:33:51.640
<v Speaker 1>something that's like hidden in between the verses, but where

0:33:51.760 --> 0:33:54.520
<v Speaker 1>you they they'll say, do you realize what he's saying here?

0:33:55.320 --> 0:33:57.960
<v Speaker 1>He's actually connecting it back to this And then you're going, oh, wow,

0:33:58.240 --> 0:34:01.960
<v Speaker 1>I never made that connection. That's helpful. Little stuff like

0:34:02.000 --> 0:34:06.880
<v Speaker 1>that then starts feeding that appetite for the word. I mean,

0:34:06.880 --> 0:34:09.160
<v Speaker 1>if you think about eating healthy like the stuff that

0:34:09.160 --> 0:34:12.760
<v Speaker 1>you're supposed to be eating, nobody just jumps dives in it.

0:34:12.560 --> 0:34:18.759
<v Speaker 1>Nobody over eats the healthy stuff, right. But the more

0:34:18.800 --> 0:34:21.880
<v Speaker 1>you cut out junk and the more you start picking

0:34:21.960 --> 0:34:25.120
<v Speaker 1>up the healthy stuff, you start craving it a little

0:34:25.120 --> 0:34:29.839
<v Speaker 1>bit more. And so there's a sense of the more

0:34:29.880 --> 0:34:32.000
<v Speaker 1>you do it, the hungrier you'll get for it. Like

0:34:32.040 --> 0:34:34.080
<v Speaker 1>Grangeer was saying, but I think when you have somebody

0:34:34.080 --> 0:34:38.080
<v Speaker 1>else doing it with you, that that helps kind of

0:34:38.120 --> 0:34:41.480
<v Speaker 1>grow that hunger and that desire for it. And then

0:34:42.080 --> 0:34:43.920
<v Speaker 1>you know, I hope you're in church. If you're not

0:34:43.920 --> 0:34:45.879
<v Speaker 1>gonna encourage you get in church, but if you can,

0:34:46.000 --> 0:34:48.640
<v Speaker 1>if there's a way to do it, figure out what's

0:34:48.640 --> 0:34:51.640
<v Speaker 1>getting preached the next Sunday. So like at our church,

0:34:51.680 --> 0:34:54.040
<v Speaker 1>what I try to do is on Tuesday or Wednesdays

0:34:54.640 --> 0:34:58.759
<v Speaker 1>earlier on Tuesdays, I try to send out, hey, this

0:34:58.960 --> 0:35:03.160
<v Speaker 1>is the sermon text that is coming on Sunday. And

0:35:03.200 --> 0:35:04.840
<v Speaker 1>the reason I'm doing this because I'm praying that the

0:35:04.960 --> 0:35:08.160
<v Speaker 1>church throughout the week is reading that passage and so

0:35:08.200 --> 0:35:10.200
<v Speaker 1>that might be you might read that same passage every

0:35:10.239 --> 0:35:12.759
<v Speaker 1>single day. And what you're doing at that point is

0:35:12.800 --> 0:35:14.720
<v Speaker 1>you're trying to see, Okay, what is this text saying,

0:35:15.280 --> 0:35:17.960
<v Speaker 1>and how's the pastor going to preach this techt like,

0:35:17.960 --> 0:35:19.680
<v Speaker 1>what are some things he might be pulling out of this?

0:35:22.200 --> 0:35:24.480
<v Speaker 1>And I mean, in fact, what we try to do

0:35:24.520 --> 0:35:26.239
<v Speaker 1>is we actually try to give out two months worth

0:35:26.239 --> 0:35:28.919
<v Speaker 1>of texts, So, hey, this is a schedule we're going through.

0:35:28.960 --> 0:35:31.600
<v Speaker 1>So the people should be reading those things to get

0:35:31.640 --> 0:35:34.319
<v Speaker 1>an understanding of what it is. And so if you're

0:35:34.360 --> 0:35:36.200
<v Speaker 1>able to in your church, figure out what the next

0:35:36.280 --> 0:35:38.040
<v Speaker 1>sermon text is and use that as kind of your

0:35:38.080 --> 0:35:40.080
<v Speaker 1>guide of what to be reading, and then maybe read

0:35:40.120 --> 0:35:42.440
<v Speaker 1>the passages around it. So if he's preaching ten verses,

0:35:42.480 --> 0:35:44.960
<v Speaker 1>read twenty of them and kind of see what's happening

0:35:44.960 --> 0:35:47.040
<v Speaker 1>around it and use that for your guide of what

0:35:47.080 --> 0:35:49.000
<v Speaker 1>you're going to be reading. That way, you don't set

0:35:49.560 --> 0:35:52.600
<v Speaker 1>unrealistic goals for yourself. If you've never read the Bible

0:35:53.239 --> 0:35:55.759
<v Speaker 1>in depth before and you go, all right, this year,

0:35:55.760 --> 0:35:59.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm going the entire cover to cover. Yeah, that's like

0:35:59.040 --> 0:36:01.480
<v Speaker 1>saying I've never swam before when I'm diving in the

0:36:01.520 --> 0:36:03.680
<v Speaker 1>deep end from the high dive, like we're going, and

0:36:04.040 --> 0:36:07.160
<v Speaker 1>you're just like, that's not gonna be successful. You got

0:36:07.280 --> 0:36:08.600
<v Speaker 1>to you gotta ease yourself into it.

0:36:08.840 --> 0:36:11.520
<v Speaker 2>So I smiled earlier because I was just thinking Austin.

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<v Speaker 2>First of all, I'm encouraged by your email. Thank you

0:36:14.680 --> 0:36:20.240
<v Speaker 2>for this, But man, I pray, I pray that people

0:36:20.280 --> 0:36:23.440
<v Speaker 2>come to me. Any believer would think the same thing.

0:36:23.480 --> 0:36:26.160
<v Speaker 2>In your community right now in North Georgia, any believer

0:36:26.640 --> 0:36:29.319
<v Speaker 2>is praying that somebody like you would call them or

0:36:29.320 --> 0:36:32.880
<v Speaker 2>text him and go, I really want to read the Bible?

0:36:33.280 --> 0:36:37.560
<v Speaker 2>Would you do that with me? Oh? Man? Like, so

0:36:37.719 --> 0:36:40.960
<v Speaker 2>much of the the work I did, the evangelistic work

0:36:40.960 --> 0:36:43.600
<v Speaker 2>I do, is ground up stuff, or it's from from

0:36:43.600 --> 0:36:45.960
<v Speaker 2>people that don't want it, or they're rejecting God and

0:36:45.960 --> 0:36:48.239
<v Speaker 2>they and they come to me with these questions, these

0:36:48.280 --> 0:36:52.640
<v Speaker 2>like apologetic questions, and it's more rare that someone's like,

0:36:53.520 --> 0:36:55.240
<v Speaker 2>you know what, I think this is important. I'm hungry.

0:36:55.239 --> 0:36:58.320
<v Speaker 2>Will you will you walk this with me? And every

0:36:58.360 --> 0:37:02.800
<v Speaker 2>believer in North Georgia says yes, I will. I will.

0:37:02.840 --> 0:37:10.759
<v Speaker 2>How about tomorrow? How about coffee tomorrow? So you know,

0:37:10.800 --> 0:37:13.440
<v Speaker 2>if you're looking to get a hold of me, maybe

0:37:13.719 --> 0:37:17.239
<v Speaker 2>have me send you a message you know that's available

0:37:17.239 --> 0:37:20.480
<v Speaker 2>to you right now at cameo dot com slash Grangersmith

0:37:20.520 --> 0:37:23.759
<v Speaker 2>if you want a personal message, Happy birthday, happy anniversary,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe a bit of encouragement maybe even a prayer. I

0:37:27.239 --> 0:37:28.839
<v Speaker 2>could do that and you could find me. You could

0:37:28.840 --> 0:37:31.399
<v Speaker 2>tell me exactly what you need from me. You could

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<v Speaker 2>write it out. Hey, Granger, it's my brother's birthday. He's

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<v Speaker 2>doing this and that he's into this, He's not into that,

0:37:37.440 --> 0:37:40.399
<v Speaker 2>he's turning this many years old. Would you please wish

0:37:40.520 --> 0:37:43.439
<v Speaker 2>him a happy birthday? And I'll do that right here

0:37:43.440 --> 0:37:46.200
<v Speaker 2>on my phone. I record it and send you the

0:37:46.280 --> 0:37:49.080
<v Speaker 2>video message of me saying that. You can get that

0:37:49.160 --> 0:37:52.960
<v Speaker 2>at cameo dot com slash Granger Smith anytime. In fact,

0:37:53.000 --> 0:37:55.359
<v Speaker 2>I do these all the time. Again, it's cameo dot

0:37:55.400 --> 0:37:58.200
<v Speaker 2>com slash Granger Smith. You could also download the cameo

0:37:58.280 --> 0:38:05.399
<v Speaker 2>app and search for me Granger Smith. Next question comes

0:38:05.400 --> 0:38:07.600
<v Speaker 2>from Nicole. It says, Hey, I'd like to get your

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<v Speaker 2>input on the practice of manifestation. I have a friend

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<v Speaker 2>who recently started a new business venture that focuses on

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<v Speaker 2>manifesting yourself, ridding yourself of negative energy, and embracing the

0:38:18.080 --> 0:38:21.560
<v Speaker 2>power of your body to heal. While I personally believe

0:38:21.640 --> 0:38:24.160
<v Speaker 2>Jesus is the only answer, I'm having a hard time

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<v Speaker 2>processing what this new outspoken belief system of my friend

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<v Speaker 2>does for our friendship. Should I let it change the

0:38:31.160 --> 0:38:34.560
<v Speaker 2>relationship that we have. I find myself slightly pulling away

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<v Speaker 2>from that relationship because how can you be close to

0:38:38.760 --> 0:38:41.759
<v Speaker 2>someone who has such a different foundational belief? Is it

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<v Speaker 2>wrong for me to step back from a friendship due

0:38:44.000 --> 0:38:46.840
<v Speaker 2>to differences of opinion? I want to surround myself with

0:38:46.880 --> 0:38:51.239
<v Speaker 2>godly like minded people who can encourage and help me grow.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm excited to take to hear your approach on this

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<v Speaker 2>friendship and also the practice of manifestation itself. Nicole. Thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>Marshall.

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<v Speaker 2>We don't have like a ton of time on this,

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<v Speaker 2>and so we don't and I don't think it really

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<v Speaker 2>needs a lot of time. But one red flag, Nicole,

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<v Speaker 2>that you have recognized, and maybe you don't even realize it,

0:39:18.640 --> 0:39:23.359
<v Speaker 2>but your friend is starting a new business venture that's

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<v Speaker 2>focusing on this. Like that sid says something right there.

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<v Speaker 2>This is not like a faith thing or something that

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<v Speaker 2>she's really It doesn't sound like she's something she's really

0:39:31.440 --> 0:39:36.160
<v Speaker 2>finding comfort in and practicing. She's starting a business venture

0:39:36.880 --> 0:39:43.799
<v Speaker 2>and there's big business in this. Manifesting yourself, ridding yourself

0:39:44.000 --> 0:39:49.160
<v Speaker 2>of negative energy, embracing the power of yourself to heal yourself.

0:39:49.200 --> 0:39:52.840
<v Speaker 2>You know, like those are all just huge red flags

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<v Speaker 2>for a Christian and I feel like you know that.

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<v Speaker 2>And I don't really think you have to hear from

0:40:01.719 --> 0:40:06.160
<v Speaker 2>me and Marshall on why we think that is an

0:40:06.320 --> 0:40:09.719
<v Speaker 2>unhealthy thing, So we won't. I don't think we need

0:40:09.719 --> 0:40:12.520
<v Speaker 2>to go there. What we can do is talk about

0:40:14.280 --> 0:40:16.879
<v Speaker 2>the middle part of your question is saying you're talking

0:40:16.880 --> 0:40:19.440
<v Speaker 2>about the relationship with your friend, and you want to

0:40:19.440 --> 0:40:23.200
<v Speaker 2>be around people that are encouraging you and and helping

0:40:23.239 --> 0:40:28.080
<v Speaker 2>your belief and helping you grow. And to that, I say,

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<v Speaker 2>this is why the Bible will warn us, especially as

0:40:32.800 --> 0:40:36.000
<v Speaker 2>new believers or ones that are weaker in the faith,

0:40:37.000 --> 0:40:44.360
<v Speaker 2>to be careful when we are associating with these new ideas,

0:40:45.640 --> 0:40:49.640
<v Speaker 2>because when you hear basically, this is a myth right.

0:40:49.880 --> 0:40:52.400
<v Speaker 2>So when we hear these myths, we could drift off

0:40:52.560 --> 0:40:56.480
<v Speaker 2>into this nonsense and actually start believing it ourselves if

0:40:56.480 --> 0:40:59.520
<v Speaker 2>we're around it too much. That's a warning. If you're

0:41:00.239 --> 0:41:05.360
<v Speaker 2>newer or weaker in your faith. If that's not you, Nicole,

0:41:05.520 --> 0:41:08.600
<v Speaker 2>and you're like, no, you know, I feel strong in

0:41:08.640 --> 0:41:13.239
<v Speaker 2>my faith, then this is definitely an evangelistic opportunity for

0:41:13.280 --> 0:41:15.840
<v Speaker 2>you that you don't want to cut off necessarily you

0:41:15.840 --> 0:41:18.120
<v Speaker 2>don't want to say, hey, I don't believe in that stuff,

0:41:18.600 --> 0:41:21.160
<v Speaker 2>and because of that, I can't even talk to you.

0:41:21.719 --> 0:41:24.920
<v Speaker 2>I don't even want to be friends with you. That's

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<v Speaker 2>not a good thing. That's not a good message to

0:41:27.880 --> 0:41:31.399
<v Speaker 2>your friend. And it's really if she's dying in this,

0:41:31.960 --> 0:41:36.520
<v Speaker 2>which she is, and you're cutting off a lifeline to

0:41:36.600 --> 0:41:39.440
<v Speaker 2>her by saying, you know what, I just don't agree

0:41:39.480 --> 0:41:40.839
<v Speaker 2>with what you're saying, and I don't want it to

0:41:40.960 --> 0:41:46.880
<v Speaker 2>start affecting me. Well, discourage that. So these are the

0:41:46.880 --> 0:41:49.080
<v Speaker 2>two scenarios for her, and I don't know really which

0:41:49.120 --> 0:41:49.680
<v Speaker 2>one she is.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, I just think when we have people who

0:41:54.560 --> 0:41:56.080
<v Speaker 1>are close to this in our lives to start chasing

0:41:56.160 --> 0:42:05.560
<v Speaker 1>a different a myth chasing, chasing a myth, chasing false teaching. Basically,

0:42:08.800 --> 0:42:14.279
<v Speaker 1>the guardrails we have is don't embrace it, don't ignore it,

0:42:15.560 --> 0:42:18.280
<v Speaker 1>but engage with with them.

0:42:18.400 --> 0:42:19.640
<v Speaker 2>So don't cut them off.

0:42:20.040 --> 0:42:23.240
<v Speaker 1>Yeah yeah, don't cut them off. Don't cut her off,

0:42:24.600 --> 0:42:27.920
<v Speaker 1>but you also don't interact with her in a way

0:42:27.920 --> 0:42:30.000
<v Speaker 1>where you're like, I just won't talk about religion. I

0:42:30.000 --> 0:42:32.759
<v Speaker 1>won't talk about faith, I won't talk about spirituality, I

0:42:32.800 --> 0:42:35.200
<v Speaker 1>won't I pretend like she has her way, I have

0:42:35.320 --> 0:42:38.239
<v Speaker 1>my way. You want to be able to have the

0:42:38.320 --> 0:42:41.960
<v Speaker 1>conversations with her where she knows you disagree, but you

0:42:42.000 --> 0:42:45.319
<v Speaker 1>can have loving and truthful conversations with her about why

0:42:45.400 --> 0:42:49.720
<v Speaker 1>you disagree, great, and why you're concerned for her soul.

0:42:50.040 --> 0:42:54.080
<v Speaker 2>For this, you can ask her questions like, how do

0:42:54.200 --> 0:42:57.480
<v Speaker 2>you rid yourself of negative energy? Explain that to me.

0:42:57.600 --> 0:42:59.640
<v Speaker 2>It's a great conversation I started with someone like this.

0:43:00.080 --> 0:43:01.920
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, But on the flip side too, I think it

0:43:01.960 --> 0:43:04.960
<v Speaker 1>also means you're putting in the effort outside of that

0:43:05.040 --> 0:43:08.000
<v Speaker 1>relationship to grow and you're understanding better of what you

0:43:08.080 --> 0:43:12.759
<v Speaker 1>believe so that you're not carried away, Yes, by this

0:43:12.840 --> 0:43:18.919
<v Speaker 1>other teaching. So this, this friendship now may require even

0:43:19.000 --> 0:43:21.880
<v Speaker 1>more effort than it did previously because outside of it,

0:43:21.920 --> 0:43:26.520
<v Speaker 1>you're trying to equip yourself and strengthen yourself to engage

0:43:26.560 --> 0:43:32.399
<v Speaker 1>with her in a meaningful, loving, but direct way when

0:43:32.400 --> 0:43:35.799
<v Speaker 1>it comes to this issue, because it isn't just could

0:43:35.840 --> 0:43:37.880
<v Speaker 1>ruin our friendship or I don't want to rock the boat,

0:43:37.920 --> 0:43:42.319
<v Speaker 1>but instead it's, uh, this is extremely dangerous for her

0:43:42.400 --> 0:43:45.239
<v Speaker 1>soul and for those she's influencing, And so you want

0:43:45.280 --> 0:43:49.040
<v Speaker 1>to you want to treat her in love with the truth,

0:43:49.480 --> 0:43:52.279
<v Speaker 1>and and and pray that the Lord would would help

0:43:52.320 --> 0:43:54.520
<v Speaker 1>her to see the truth and help you grow in

0:43:54.560 --> 0:43:55.000
<v Speaker 1>the truth.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's all we got. I love you, guess see

0:43:58.760 --> 0:44:03.440
<v Speaker 2>you next Monday. Thanks for joining me on the Grangersmith Podcast.

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