Speaker 1: It's breaking Jeffrey in the morning, and we got a
Speaker 1: brand new Second Date update for you.
Speaker 2: Thank you so much for being on the podcast.
Speaker 1: I'm laughing only because we just spent two minutes off
Speaker 1: air trying to figure out the word breaking point.
Speaker 2: No, that's not it.
Speaker 1: Deal breaker, Yeah, deal breaker because one of our listeners
Speaker 1: deal breakers today is intense.
Speaker 2: It's an intense thing.
Speaker 1: And I know we're going to get a ton of
Speaker 1: comments about this woman and what she's giving up all
Speaker 1: because of one simple thing. Oh yeah, God, you're gonna
Speaker 1: hear it in just a second. But what are some
Speaker 1: of the comments you're seeing right now, Alexis Yeah, Rosie said,
Speaker 1: I've been listening since like twenty thirteen.
Speaker 2: I love you guys so much.
Speaker 1: Also, I love my spouse that I'm out on Plenty
Speaker 1: of Fish fifteen years ago. Yeah, yeah, well we were
Speaker 1: making fun of Plenty of Fish last week. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: I loved it where people met if it was like
Speaker 1: a weird place fifteen years ago, I think Plenty of
Speaker 1: Fish was kind of like hot, right.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I love it all right, liz It. Thank you
Speaker 2: so much for being here.
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Speaker 3: Second date updated?
Speaker 4: Why do women ghost after showing very high interest early on?
Speaker 4: Like we're talking two weeks of NonStop flirty talk and
Speaker 4: genuine planning of your futures together, and then suddenly one
Speaker 4: day Nope, actually never mind, she's completely over you and
Speaker 4: doesn't want to talk to you anymore.
Speaker 2: Got the ig.
Speaker 4: Alexis is that? The reason? Is that why someone would
Speaker 4: do that?
Speaker 2: You found something bad about you? I was taking online.
Speaker 4: Research, some incriminating like family information one.
Speaker 2: I mean, who knows? Rap she? You can't find anything? Yeah,
Speaker 2: I mean, if it's Alexis, it's just a photo taken
Speaker 2: in bad light. Yeah, post it online?
Speaker 4: Yeah, Okay, that's one possibility. Is it also possible that
Speaker 4: maybe you built up a lofty idea of who the
Speaker 4: guy was in your mind, and then when you actually
Speaker 4: met him and got to know him, reality didn't even
Speaker 4: get close to your expectations.
Speaker 3: Well, I don't know.
Speaker 4: Do girls build up us guys like that?
Speaker 1: Maybe jaxad the guy thought she liked him for two weeks,
Speaker 1: and that's possible.
Speaker 4: Well, one of our listeners chatted with a girl every
Speaker 4: night for almost two weeks. Then they met up and
Speaker 4: things just stopped. So now he's here.
Speaker 1: Maybe she was overwhelmed because she was so in love
Speaker 1: with you and she isn't processing it.
Speaker 2: Oh, you can lie to the listeners.
Speaker 4: Now, let's welcome into the show. Though. Hey Brad, how
Speaker 4: you doing? Man?
Speaker 1: Hey guys, dude, bunny, that is an investment. Two weeks
Speaker 1: of every day, like, actually, phone conversations are texts.
Speaker 5: We did it all. We did phone, we did text,
Speaker 5: we did face times, we did everything.
Speaker 2: Wow, she'd even seen you before.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so you only had one meet up with this woman?
Speaker 4: What was her name?
Speaker 5: Her name is Megan? And I know she saw what
Speaker 5: I look like on the face time, so she knows
Speaker 5: that I look like my photos.
Speaker 2: That sucks.
Speaker 4: I don't want to say this, but like most of
Speaker 4: the time people are dating around. Is it possible she
Speaker 4: was talking to somebody else?
Speaker 5: I understand when you're first talking to somebody, you could
Speaker 5: be dating someone else or talking to someone else. But
Speaker 5: we had such long, deep conversations we go on.
Speaker 2: It sounds like you guys connected on such a level.
Speaker 5: Right. Yeah, Well, listen to what she told me one night.
Speaker 5: She goes, I could see myself growing old with you.
Speaker 4: Oh, oh my god, that's almost too much, man, well,
Speaker 4: I've said that to my masseuse before. Is that not appropriate?
Speaker 4: I could do this until I die.
Speaker 2: But you liked that because you were on the same
Speaker 2: page with her. That didn't freak out.
Speaker 5: Yeah, that was the thing. It didn't freak me out
Speaker 5: because I kept feeling like I was falling for her
Speaker 5: before we even met up.
Speaker 4: Oh wow, it's only weird when you're not on the
Speaker 4: same page and in two weeks like this is great,
Speaker 4: and you're on the same page, then it is great.
Speaker 4: But you sound like you're one hundred percent in on
Speaker 4: her before you even met her.
Speaker 5: Oh my god. I started telling all my friends about her.
Speaker 5: I told my sister about her.
Speaker 4: Got you a mat or?
Speaker 5: Yeah, like I have like a ninety year old barber
Speaker 5: that I told about it.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I just.
Speaker 3: Life.
Speaker 1: I mean, I bet you were so nervous for your guys'
Speaker 1: first meetup right in person.
Speaker 5: You know what. I wasn't nervous because we had such
Speaker 5: a good connection. Okay, I kind of felt like there's
Speaker 5: only one way to go.
Speaker 4: Sure, But see that goes back to what I was
Speaker 4: saying earlier about how it could be a little bit
Speaker 4: dangerous now that you've put up these lofty expectations for
Speaker 4: how much you're going to connect when you actually meet
Speaker 4: in person.
Speaker 2: But where's that risk, right, Like with great risk comes
Speaker 2: great reward, you know that?
Speaker 4: Or great letdown in this time?
Speaker 2: That's the risk part of that sentence.
Speaker 5: Well, I guess it's just going to depend because I
Speaker 5: thought the date itself went really really well.
Speaker 4: Well, let's go through. What did you do for the date?
Speaker 4: We went to out back okay, staying up in lofty?
Speaker 4: I like it. Yeah.
Speaker 5: The only thing I can think of that maybe with
Speaker 5: the stupid thing to say or do I don't know,
Speaker 5: is as we're walking into the restaurant, there's this old
Speaker 5: mattress out behind it, next to the dumpster, and I
Speaker 5: looked at it and I said, maybe I should just
Speaker 5: bring that home because I need a new one. Oh
Speaker 5: he actually she actually.
Speaker 4: Laughed, Yeah, but do you actually need the mattress or
Speaker 4: is that Jeff? He was kidding?
Speaker 2: And then she saw him strapping it to the roof of.
Speaker 1: The Okay, so she laughed, he said, she laughed great.
Speaker 4: Okay.
Speaker 5: I actually led into a conversation about what kind of
Speaker 5: dream house we would get if we ever had one.
Speaker 4: All the alley mattresses that one home could handle.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's not like me, like I don't rush into relationships.
Speaker 5: I just it felt right, you.
Speaker 2: Know that feeling. It just feels like comfort, like home.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 5: It felt like we'd known each other for years already. Wow,
Speaker 5: like we were doing that thing you know, where you're
Speaker 5: sitting at the table and you make little excuses to
Speaker 5: sort of brush up against the other person.
Speaker 4: I don't think that's really what it's like to be
Speaker 4: with somebody for a long time. You kind of are
Speaker 4: each other's nerves by that. Don't touch my shoulder. Yeah,
Speaker 4: you skipped right past the honeymoon phase into twenty years
Speaker 4: of marriage. Yeah, that's also.
Speaker 5: Good, right, like well the chemist, it felt amazing.
Speaker 4: Okay, if it feels good for you, that's awesome. How
Speaker 4: did the night end?
Speaker 5: Well, the kiss In my mind, I pictured it longer,
Speaker 5: but we did kiss. Yeah, And I told her I
Speaker 5: wanted to see her again, and she said definitely.
Speaker 2: Said definitely, okay.
Speaker 5: And now she's not answering anything weird.
Speaker 2: How long has it been since the date.
Speaker 6: It's been six days, six which feels.
Speaker 2: Like an eternity.
Speaker 1: When you talked every day, multiple times a day for
Speaker 1: two weeks.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and you built your dream house together with each
Speaker 4: other in your minds. I mean basically, I'm going to.
Speaker 1: Say, and you told your ninety year old barber, I
Speaker 1: mean you can't that he is going to be disappointed.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I know he's got he's got a lot writing
Speaker 5: on this.
Speaker 4: All right, Well, we cannot give your barber bad news.
Speaker 4: So we're going to come back, get you your second
Speaker 4: date update and hopefully and on a positive note coming
Speaker 4: up right after this.
Speaker 3: Hold on second date update.
Speaker 4: No pressure, but true love is on the line today
Speaker 4: for our listener Brad, because he met a girl online.
Speaker 4: They texted, they called each other, facetimed even for hours
Speaker 4: and hours on end, and got to the point where
Speaker 4: they were literally planning out their future dream home together,
Speaker 4: complete with roadside mattresses. And it's not just him who
Speaker 4: feels that way, he told us. Megan brought up I
Speaker 4: could see myself growing old with you. Those were her words.
Speaker 4: So clearly they were both drinking from the same that
Speaker 4: of love juice. But one dinner date whatever is in there.
Speaker 4: One dinner date though at the outback, and everything is changed.
Speaker 4: So I feel like we say that all the time. Yeah,
Speaker 4: nobody's the same after, but especially not Brad. He's trying
Speaker 4: to figure out what happened, what changed, because she is
Speaker 4: totally ignoring him. Now, Brook, you're sticking with the he's
Speaker 4: too sexy and emotionally mature angle.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, she's overwhelmed and doesn't know how to handle it.
Speaker 1: And right now she's just talking to her therapist about
Speaker 1: letting go of her old baggage and thoughts and moving
Speaker 1: forward into the future.
Speaker 4: Yes, she wants to be the perfect woman to fit
Speaker 4: your perfect man.
Speaker 2: I mean that's what I'm hoping for anyway.
Speaker 4: Okay, sounds good. Yeah, that's great. Yeah, I'm sure that's
Speaker 4: what she's gonna say when we call her right now.
Speaker 2: It has nothing to do with a dumpster mattress at all.
Speaker 5: I would hope not. I hope she knows I'm joking.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've read him.
Speaker 6: Question.
Speaker 4: You said you had a quick kiss, like really quick.
Speaker 4: Did you eat bloomin onions? Onion breathing?
Speaker 5: We ate a bunch of different stuff. If her breath
Speaker 5: smelled like twenty bloomin onions wouldn't have mattered. I feel Oh.
Speaker 2: That is so sweet.
Speaker 1: He would kiss her if she had hot bres really cute.
Speaker 4: If Brooke thinks it's cute. That's how you know you're doomed.
Speaker 4: So let's just call Hopefully it's not the breath thing,
Speaker 4: but brooking her husband just eating raw onions, Like, oh honey, hey,
Speaker 4: if you do.
Speaker 2: It together, it doesn't matter.
Speaker 4: Okay, let's eject from this as quickly as possible. I'm
Speaker 4: down on you right now.
Speaker 2: Hello.
Speaker 4: Hey is this Megan?
Speaker 6: Yeah, calm down, Brook.
Speaker 4: This is a radio show that you're on right now.
Speaker 4: It's called Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning. Thanks for
Speaker 4: being here.
Speaker 2: Hi, good morning, so happy.
Speaker 6: Yes, what is this?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 4: This is a segment that we do, a dating segment
Speaker 4: called Second Date Update, where we try to help out
Speaker 4: listeners who've gone out with someone and afterwards they're not
Speaker 4: getting a call back or no chance for a second meetup.
Speaker 4: We try to help them figure out why. Oh okay,
Speaker 4: I know you're probably expecting some prizes or whatever, but.
Speaker 2: I think this is even cooler than a prize. Yeah, like,
Speaker 2: could be a chance. I don't know, a relationship for
Speaker 2: love depends on a prize.
Speaker 4: Well, it's good. So this is a guy, a listener
Speaker 4: of ours that you went out with named Brad.
Speaker 6: Oh wow, okay, yeah, I mean like oh wow, or like, oh,
Speaker 6: I don't even want to talk about this. I mean, really,
Speaker 6: I mean.
Speaker 2: It sounds like you two are so invested in each other.
Speaker 4: We've heard a lot from Brad about you, and he
Speaker 4: said that it's been six days since your date, but
Speaker 4: it's kind of felt like a lifetime to him, because
Speaker 4: I mean that's how strong the connection was. We've heard
Speaker 4: a lot of people going on normal dates before on
Speaker 4: the show, but the way he described your connection and
Speaker 4: your kind of journey together, he put a lot of
Speaker 4: hope into this, and he's felt kind of devastated that
Speaker 4: you've stepped back.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 5: I was pretty devastated him.
Speaker 4: Oh okay, Well can we ask, like what caused that
Speaker 4: change in feeling towards him?
Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean we were talking about the future and
Speaker 6: everything was good, and then we met up and it
Speaker 6: started off right, it was fun, it was sweet, and
Speaker 6: then he said something that was just so off pudding.
Speaker 1: He doesn't like pudding, off putting jezz Okay, oh my god,
Speaker 1: Like immediately you had.
Speaker 2: To reaction as soon as he said this.
Speaker 6: I mean at first I thought it was a joke
Speaker 6: and then I realized he was serious.
Speaker 4: Oh god, it's not about the street mattress thing, is it?
Speaker 4: He wants to design a dream home or on a
Speaker 4: stained mattress.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 3: No, it was when we were eating.
Speaker 6: We had a lot of stuff to eat, and I
Speaker 6: said that I make the best blooming onion in my
Speaker 6: air fryer. Oh wow, And he laughed at me.
Speaker 4: He laughed at you.
Speaker 6: He laughed at me, and he said that air fryers
Speaker 6: are a scam.
Speaker 2: I mean, they are just convection ovens.
Speaker 4: But right, wait, what does that mean?
Speaker 5: Oh? He said, it's just a loud toaster.
Speaker 1: Oh that's kind of funny.
Speaker 2: I mean it's like the George Forman Grille of today.
Speaker 2: Like everybody's buying them. Everybody's got to have him.
Speaker 4: But she said, but she said he wasn't joking, that
Speaker 4: he was serious.
Speaker 6: He was serious.
Speaker 2: What he was that passionate about air friers?
Speaker 6: Yeah, well maybe I was passionate about it and he wasn't.
Speaker 6: But he said he just didn't believe in them. And
Speaker 6: that's the dumbest thing I've ever heard.
Speaker 4: Okay, wow, So his comment about air friers being a
Speaker 4: scam for you, that completely shifted how you saw him.
Speaker 6: Yeah, in that moment, I was like, Nope, I don't
Speaker 6: see my future husband.
Speaker 2: Okay, oh wow, not the trash mattress.
Speaker 6: We were joking about that. He was dead serious about this.
Speaker 2: Okay, that is such a hard take.
Speaker 4: That is weird. It seems like that's where she draws
Speaker 4: the line, like you can come after whatever else, but
Speaker 4: don't cross me in my air frier.
Speaker 2: No I actually met him. Oh say in the airfriars
Speaker 2: were a belief system.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, you never discussed it with him and told
Speaker 4: him how it made you feel.
Speaker 6: I mean, he was so serious, he was just digging in.
Speaker 6: I just sat back and crossed him off my list.
Speaker 4: Oh geez, wow. Well I can still sense a little
Speaker 4: bit of pent up frustration that you have towards Brad
Speaker 4: even thinking about it, and if you wanted to unload
Speaker 4: on him, just saying, now's your chance, because he's on
Speaker 4: the other line right now waiting to talk to you.
Speaker 6: Are you serious? I don't want to talk about this anymore.
Speaker 4: I'm sure he wants to say something about it this. Yeah,
Speaker 4: me too, Brad, are you there?
Speaker 5: Hey, Megan, I had no idea you were so bothered
Speaker 5: by those comments.
Speaker 6: Well, I mean you were so serious. I mean, what
Speaker 6: are you going to stick fries in the microwaves.
Speaker 5: I mean, you have an oven, you can put things
Speaker 5: in the oven.
Speaker 6: You're sounding like a lunatic right now, Brad, in an oven.
Speaker 4: You're great.
Speaker 5: Brad, I don't know, I don't know. I don't know
Speaker 5: what to say, because I mean, our connection I thought
Speaker 5: was so strong and I can't imagine that something as
Speaker 5: simple as my feelings about an air fryer have changed
Speaker 5: your optimism about where a relationship could go.
Speaker 6: I mean, I use it every single day. My friend
Speaker 6: use it every single day. I mean it's like the
Speaker 6: best invention. I mean, this guy like, wait, he doesn't
Speaker 6: understand how great it is.
Speaker 3: What's wrong with him?
Speaker 1: Maybe that's like an invitation to teach you bring him to.
Speaker 2: The air fire side.
Speaker 4: Brad, do you see how like you've clearly touched a
Speaker 4: nerve for her. It's not like you've just made a
Speaker 4: funny joke about air frers. You've attacked her life.
Speaker 5: I'm just so shocked. Guys, I thought you were in
Speaker 5: the hospital because things were going so well.
Speaker 6: You almost put me in the hospital with your comments
Speaker 6: about that, and that is so dramatic.
Speaker 1: I mean, it doesn't even sound like Brad really cares
Speaker 1: about air fryers that much, right, Brad.
Speaker 5: I don't believe in them, but who cares? Like, I'm
Speaker 5: not gonna let it get in the middle of a
Speaker 5: potential great re relationship.
Speaker 4: Clearly, it's an important touching point for Megan that you
Speaker 4: value it because that's how she eats all of her meals.
Speaker 4: She wants in the air fryer.
Speaker 6: I mean, if you don't believe in air fryers, what's next?
Speaker 6: Seasonal candles, fitted sheets, marinating things overnight?
Speaker 4: You do not believe in fitted sheets, bread?
Speaker 2: It's your dream home? Okay.
Speaker 1: I think we're putting a little too much emphasis on
Speaker 1: one kitchen appliance.
Speaker 5: I mean, go buy an easy bake oven. I don't
Speaker 5: care whatever.
Speaker 6: You guys are laughing at me, but it's it's a
Speaker 6: deal breaker.
Speaker 2: He said you can use your air. He doesn't care
Speaker 2: if you use an air fryer.
Speaker 4: I mean, but he also is like, I don't believe
Speaker 4: in them. At the same time, he.
Speaker 2: Hasn't had her bluemann onion. You know he may change
Speaker 2: his mind.
Speaker 6: You think he's getting invited over to try any of
Speaker 6: my foods. That chance.
Speaker 4: Doesn't deserve it. You'll never taste her blooming on you
Speaker 4: in there, Brad.
Speaker 2: Sounds like.
Speaker 4: It is in a way. Well, we went from the
Speaker 4: most romantic story of all time to air frars burning
Speaker 4: down a relationship.
Speaker 2: Yeah it's pretty simple.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and quick too, under fifteen minutes. They're so efficient.
Speaker 6: I can't believe I actually imagine myself growing old with you.
Speaker 6: You're clearly gonna die young from the way you're eating.
Speaker 3: Oh wow, that was dark.
Speaker 5: I mean, I gotta be honest. If this is the
Speaker 5: thing that is your deal breaker in a relationship, dying young,
Speaker 5: I'm gonna be getting out easy.
Speaker 4: Oh should we keep the disses going for another few
Speaker 4: minutes or should we just call it here? Okay, we're
Speaker 4: gonna call it anyway.
Speaker 3: Brook Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 4: Man, I need to be a better host, I think,
Speaker 4: just in general, particularly for this second date.
Speaker 2: Updated don't comment.
Speaker 4: I know it's true because we kind of got sidetracked
Speaker 4: on air fryer burns and kind of jokes and put downs.
Speaker 4: I never tried to reconnect those two back to their
Speaker 4: original feelings for each other and what they liked about
Speaker 4: each other. I was just sitting back and joining the show,
Speaker 4: eating popcorn, not being a good host.
Speaker 1: I feel like I tried to create some middle ground,
Speaker 1: at least on the air Frier front, and there was
Speaker 1: no middle ground to reach.
Speaker 2: It wasn't gonna work. It's so weird.
Speaker 1: I mean, she just wrote him off in that moment
Speaker 1: and would never change her mind.
Speaker 4: Yeah. I actually was kind of shocked that you don't
Speaker 4: own an air frier, brook I thought that you were
Speaker 4: one of the air friers Stands.
Speaker 2: I hate kitchen gadgets. It's like a thing for me.
Speaker 4: Brooks, Like, let's just put it over an open fire
Speaker 4: in a trash can and.
Speaker 1: Call it a day, like a nineties where everyone had
Speaker 1: like food dehydrators.
Speaker 2: You'd realize what it's a dumb mistake.
Speaker 4: I am glad.
Speaker 2: Seriously, how many banana chips can you make?
Speaker 4: But if you want help from our show, I promise
Speaker 4: Brooks willing to help you. It might not sound like it. Okay,
Speaker 4: safe here.
Speaker 2: You're the one that was apologizing, not me.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I am the bad host. Brooke is the good one,
Speaker 4: and hopefully she can help get you a second date.
Speaker 4: I mean it, Brooks the good one.
Speaker 3: We're all doing.
Speaker 4: Yeah, reach out to us, email us. We'll call that
Speaker 4: person who's not calling you back.