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Speaker 1: we got it for you here. It is a Strawberry letter,

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Speaker 1: all right, Thank you, nephew. This one says, I am

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Speaker 1: the only one that can have sex in my house.

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Speaker 1: That is the subject. Dear Stephen Shirley, I am a

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Speaker 1: one hell of a situation. I have a five year

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Speaker 1: my ex wife and I decided it was best if

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Speaker 1: we were all on lockdown together. I have custody of

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Speaker 1: my son, but she helps me out a lot with

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Speaker 1: his medical care, so she moved back in with us. Temporarily.

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Speaker 1: Everything was cool at first, but by April my ex

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Speaker 1: I have a new girlfriend, and she comes by to

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Speaker 1: instead of her coming inside because of my son's health.

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Speaker 1: During my girlfriend's last visit, my ex wife came outside

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Speaker 1: My girlfriend and I haven't had sex yet. The final

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Speaker 1: so I barged into the room because it's my house.

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Speaker 1: He was that's politely to leave because he could be

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Speaker 1: putting my son's health at risk. I got into a

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Speaker 1: It was her infidelity that led to our divorce, so

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Speaker 1: I was stupid to think this arrangement would work. I

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Speaker 1: Trust me, that ain't it at all. I just don't

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Speaker 1: wrong for this? Well? You know, how can you be

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Speaker 1: your household, she's disrespecting your household. I'm sure her negative

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Speaker 1: energy isn't good for your son's health. You didn't mention

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Speaker 1: of course we don't know if it's true or not

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Speaker 1: She is the one. She's jealous of what you have.

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Speaker 1: That's why she's being disruptive like this. Well, I mean,

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Speaker 1: This is pretty serious right here. You all don't need

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Speaker 1: I wish you the best with your child. Everybody would

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Speaker 1: We would have said that you and your ex decided

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Speaker 1: That's why you her ex, because y'all can't live together

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Speaker 1: Everything was cool at first, but then mid April come.

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Speaker 1: We hadn't been in here about a month. See, quarantine

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Speaker 1: people can and get back together and stay nowhere together.

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Speaker 1: You got a new girlfriend. She come by to visit me.

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Speaker 1: Y'all sit on the back deck instead of her coming

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Speaker 1: in cause of your son's help doing my girlfriend's last

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Speaker 1: All trying to work too high to handle that one.

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after be our today's Strawberry Letters subject

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Speaker 1: I am the only one that can have sex in

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Speaker 1: You're listening morning show, All right, Steve, come on, let's

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Speaker 1: recap today's strawberry letter. I am the only one that

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Speaker 1: I don't have anything to say about this man's child.

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Speaker 1: So we're pulling for you on that. But you invited

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Speaker 1: Damn mistake, damn mistake. You cannot move a person in

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Speaker 1: who is fault now. Everything was working good till about

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Speaker 1: health conditions. Understood, that's playing it safe doing your girlfriend's

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Speaker 1: right there was hold on, don't see anything it ain't me.

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Speaker 1: I'm reglar. You too damn big? How about that? See

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Speaker 1: you know? But walk lightly though. Okay, that's all I'm

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Speaker 1: What's up with your little tiny thing? What crazy? Who

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Speaker 1: Wait minute, holer, man, who do you think I am?

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Speaker 1: How is that house politely? How would excuse me? Se? Okay,

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