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Speaker 1: Welcome to Money Making Conversations. It's the show that she

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Speaker 1: has the secrets of success experience firsthand by marketing and

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Speaker 1: Brandon expert Rashan McDonald. I will know he's giving me

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Speaker 1: You know. He'll be interviewing celebrity CEOs, entrepreneurs and industry

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Speaker 1: decision makers. It's what he likes to do. It's what

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Speaker 1: my man, Rashan McDonald. Money Making Conversations. Here we come.

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Speaker 1: Welcome to Money Making Conversations. I am your host, Rashan McDonald.

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Speaker 1: I recognize we all have different definitions of success. For

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Speaker 1: some exercisable paycheck. Mine is helping people wake up and

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Speaker 1: inspiring them to accomplish their goals and live their very

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Speaker 1: best life. These are my passions and that's what I'm

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Speaker 1: going to do for you. I want you to stop

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Speaker 1: tripping over small challenges and prepare to rise above the

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Speaker 1: bigger obstacles that life will present to you my next kiss.

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Speaker 1: Ashley Woods is an author, aspiring, motivational teacher, and mentor.

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Speaker 1: Ashley is a veteran of the United States Army and

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Speaker 1: National Guard Reserve. She served for five years from two

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Speaker 1: thousand two to two thousand seven. Diagnosed with PTSD in twelve,

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Speaker 1: Ashley has faced many obstacles in their life, including multiple

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Speaker 1: breakdowns and two suicide attempts. Equipped with an effective management

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Speaker 1: a mental illness advocate, supporting millions of people that battle

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Speaker 1: with the effects of various mental disorders every day and

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Speaker 1: living proof that your illness does not have to define

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Speaker 1: your path in life. She's ill, sure to talk about

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Speaker 1: the overcoming the odds. Please welcome to money making Conversations

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Speaker 1: Ashley Woods. Hello, Hello, thank you for having me for

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Speaker 1: for all you know to explain to me what exactly

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Speaker 1: is PTS d Okay, PTSD is postermatic stress disorder and

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Speaker 1: a lot of people get a misconstrued and think that

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Speaker 1: it's m military driven and it's not need anything that

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Speaker 1: and it makes you and you can have triggers behind

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Speaker 1: it's it's it's it's different, um, depending on the person.

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Speaker 1: So how it might affect me, Like with me, my

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Speaker 1: one of my triggers is bad. Why back is a

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Speaker 1: So it's just, uh, it's triggered by a terrifying event.

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Speaker 1: So it could be somebody who got rape, molested, assaulted.

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Speaker 1: And also it just it takes over your mind. Right,

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Speaker 1: the first time I became aware of heard the term

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Speaker 1: I guess you said. Rashaun is not just tied to military.

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Speaker 1: It's tied to everyday life. It's tied to dramatic physical, mental,

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Speaker 1: catastrophic engagements in your life that can cause you to

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Speaker 1: a victim of PTSD. Now, how will you diagnosed? Because,

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Speaker 1: Now you're in the military. Uh, you're an author, an entrepreneur.

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Speaker 1: Did anything that you did the military? Uh? What impact

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Speaker 1: she just let us know. PTSD is not a military problem.

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Speaker 1: It's a problem that whenever you're involved in anything traumatic.

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Speaker 1: Average words now these words of information, and they're positive words.

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Speaker 1: let's let's put new words in there. Let's put new words.

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Speaker 1: And these new words are word that that matter emotionally,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I just thought it is a better,

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Speaker 1: forward now, Actually great, thank you for coming on my show.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much, Mr McDonald. It was a pleasure. Well,

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Speaker 1: you know, it was honor because we have to have

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Speaker 1: a good conversation. You got a conversation about me. You're

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Speaker 1: motivated me a little bit. You told me to step up.

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Speaker 1: Don't worry everybody with Sean. You know, it's all right.

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Speaker 1: other people know that you're You know that because we

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Speaker 1: I can't let people know that I made a mistake,

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Speaker 1: or I can't let people know I'm flawed, and all

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Speaker 1: these things lead to trauma. All these leads to lead

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Speaker 1: to emotional setback and leads to dysfunctional behavior. Relationships can

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Speaker 1: lead to you mistreatment or people that you love can

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Speaker 1: all you're saying. That's all this interview was talking about

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Speaker 1: was being able to understand these triggers. Sometimes you can

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Speaker 1: control them if you recognize them early on. That's all

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Speaker 1: you're saying. Correct, Yes, I'm saying that, and I'm also

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Speaker 1: saying that I'm going to take you up on the

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Speaker 1: back your session. I'm will just tell you right now,

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Speaker 1: don't you play with me? Ashley? Don't you play? I

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna close out the show. I'm gonna give you

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Speaker 1: and keep answering going hello, and so when you when

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Speaker 1: you when you? When? When we when we fined? Wrap

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Speaker 1: up this call? What we're doing right now, Ashally, I

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Speaker 1: want to thank you for coming on my show. You're

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Speaker 1: a fantastic She has a new book called I Matter,

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Speaker 1: which is an interacting book or affirmation for the youth,

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Speaker 1: utilizing the alphabet. The alphabet is for apple, no no, no,

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Speaker 1: it is for awesome. In her book, it explores positive

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Speaker 1: words that uplift and encourage all readers. I Matter allows

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Speaker 1: you to customize their confirmation and reinforced to are you

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Speaker 1: how great they are? Ashley, thank you for coming on

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Speaker 1: my show. Thank you cool. If you want to hear

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