1 00:00:00,920 --> 00:00:05,160 Speaker 1: All right, so there's a topic circulating on social media. 2 00:00:05,920 --> 00:00:08,760 Speaker 1: Many of us have experienced the dating scene, okay before 3 00:00:08,800 --> 00:00:11,119 Speaker 1: we were married and all of that stuff, And a 4 00:00:11,160 --> 00:00:14,360 Speaker 1: lot of women expect men to pay for the check, 5 00:00:14,760 --> 00:00:19,440 Speaker 1: help with their bills, their rent, their groceries, nails, hair bags, 6 00:00:20,239 --> 00:00:24,120 Speaker 1: cell phones, etc. And on the other hand, some men 7 00:00:24,160 --> 00:00:29,000 Speaker 1: feel like just because we're dating or in a relationship, 8 00:00:29,440 --> 00:00:32,239 Speaker 1: that they shouldn't have to help with your bills or 9 00:00:32,320 --> 00:00:35,120 Speaker 1: help you keep up with a certain lifestyle. We're in 10 00:00:35,120 --> 00:00:38,000 Speaker 1: this together. I should get something from you and you 11 00:00:38,000 --> 00:00:40,559 Speaker 1: should get something from me. So, Steve, we got to 12 00:00:40,560 --> 00:00:43,520 Speaker 1: ask you, as you are our chief love officer, well 13 00:00:43,520 --> 00:00:45,760 Speaker 1: what do you think about this? I mean it's different. 14 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:50,000 Speaker 2: Now, it's a true statement that everybody should get something 15 00:00:50,080 --> 00:00:55,800 Speaker 2: from the relationship. M Now, if the relationship has progressed 16 00:00:57,840 --> 00:01:01,720 Speaker 2: and it looks like you are planning a future together, 17 00:01:02,120 --> 00:01:06,760 Speaker 2: if you are having any talks or plans of having 18 00:01:06,800 --> 00:01:11,360 Speaker 2: a future together, why would you align yourself with someone 19 00:01:11,840 --> 00:01:15,520 Speaker 2: who's not willing or looking forward to taking care of you. 20 00:01:16,360 --> 00:01:19,080 Speaker 2: And that goes for both the man and the woman, 21 00:01:20,600 --> 00:01:23,479 Speaker 2: because if this is going to lead to something up 22 00:01:23,480 --> 00:01:26,679 Speaker 2: the road, like we're planning on a life together. Then 23 00:01:26,760 --> 00:01:29,000 Speaker 2: we should be planning on the life where we become 24 00:01:29,160 --> 00:01:34,040 Speaker 2: one and we take care of one another. Now there's 25 00:01:34,080 --> 00:01:37,680 Speaker 2: an antige that a coach once said, you play the 26 00:01:37,760 --> 00:01:42,360 Speaker 2: game like you practice. If you've had no practice with 27 00:01:42,600 --> 00:01:47,080 Speaker 2: taking care of one another, what makes you think after 28 00:01:47,120 --> 00:01:51,240 Speaker 2: the wedding day, all of a sudden, you gonna want 29 00:01:51,280 --> 00:01:54,120 Speaker 2: to take care of each other. It doesn't make any 30 00:01:54,160 --> 00:01:57,800 Speaker 2: sense because there would be plenty of opportunities during the 31 00:01:57,880 --> 00:02:03,160 Speaker 2: dating process to show your ability or your willingness to 32 00:02:03,280 --> 00:02:08,680 Speaker 2: take care of one another. So it is a two 33 00:02:08,720 --> 00:02:14,760 Speaker 2: way street. But you can't expect something that you're not 34 00:02:14,960 --> 00:02:20,560 Speaker 2: willing to give. I can't expect to get rich if 35 00:02:20,600 --> 00:02:24,880 Speaker 2: I don't go to work. I can't expect to make 36 00:02:24,919 --> 00:02:27,880 Speaker 2: it across the other end of that swimming pool unless 37 00:02:27,919 --> 00:02:32,120 Speaker 2: I done took some swimming lessons. I can't expect to 38 00:02:32,200 --> 00:02:35,280 Speaker 2: play golf and part this hole if I ain't been 39 00:02:35,320 --> 00:02:40,040 Speaker 2: out there in practice. You can't make eight out of 40 00:02:40,120 --> 00:02:43,440 Speaker 2: ten free throws just by walking up to the line. 41 00:02:44,080 --> 00:02:48,600 Speaker 2: Somebody got a practice making these free throws. 42 00:02:48,680 --> 00:02:53,440 Speaker 1: So so do I go to bag and get my 43 00:02:53,480 --> 00:02:55,920 Speaker 1: writ pain? Heah, what happened? 44 00:02:57,320 --> 00:02:59,639 Speaker 2: You can get all of that if I can get 45 00:02:59,720 --> 00:03:00,520 Speaker 2: what I need. 46 00:03:01,440 --> 00:03:04,080 Speaker 1: Okay. So yeah, you're saying it's a it's an even 47 00:03:04,120 --> 00:03:05,839 Speaker 1: exchange or or something there. 48 00:03:05,919 --> 00:03:07,520 Speaker 2: It has to be exchange. 49 00:03:07,800 --> 00:03:08,320 Speaker 1: Exchange. 50 00:03:08,680 --> 00:03:13,519 Speaker 2: Woman, is unreasonable and unfair to walk in thinking somebody 51 00:03:13,639 --> 00:03:15,600 Speaker 2: just supposed to take care of your hair, your nails 52 00:03:15,600 --> 00:03:18,040 Speaker 2: and buy you bags. If he wants you to look 53 00:03:18,080 --> 00:03:21,119 Speaker 2: a certain way, how was you looking before you met it? Yeah, 54 00:03:21,320 --> 00:03:24,320 Speaker 2: that's just because y'all start dating doesn't mean that he 55 00:03:24,400 --> 00:03:27,160 Speaker 2: has to come in and take over all these responsibilities 56 00:03:27,200 --> 00:03:29,840 Speaker 2: all of a sudden with nothing in it for him. 57 00:03:30,240 --> 00:03:34,720 Speaker 1: What you're saying over time and we want different things 58 00:03:34,760 --> 00:03:37,600 Speaker 1: men and women, right this this may be what women want? 59 00:03:37,640 --> 00:03:39,960 Speaker 1: What do men want? You know? You so you can 60 00:03:40,000 --> 00:03:41,040 Speaker 1: take care of men. 61 00:03:40,880 --> 00:03:48,560 Speaker 2: Won't support, Men won't loyalty, and men won't respect. 62 00:03:48,880 --> 00:03:49,280 Speaker 1: Mm hmm. 63 00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:53,240 Speaker 2: Love ain't at the top of the list with us. 64 00:03:53,680 --> 00:03:55,480 Speaker 1: Where where where does love fall? 65 00:03:55,920 --> 00:03:57,400 Speaker 2: It's somewhere in the top four. 66 00:03:57,920 --> 00:03:59,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, in the top four. 67 00:03:59,560 --> 00:04:02,640 Speaker 2: But if you loyal to us and respect us, that's 68 00:04:02,680 --> 00:04:04,560 Speaker 2: what we that's what we consider love. 69 00:04:05,240 --> 00:04:07,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, a few hours that. 70 00:04:08,080 --> 00:04:11,400 Speaker 2: You belong to us and we belong to you, that 71 00:04:11,480 --> 00:04:15,720 Speaker 2: you're gonna respect us and you're gonna support us. And 72 00:04:15,840 --> 00:04:18,360 Speaker 2: be loyal to us, and you can help me get 73 00:04:18,360 --> 00:04:20,440 Speaker 2: to where I'm trying to get to in life. You 74 00:04:20,520 --> 00:04:24,400 Speaker 2: must love me. But those are the things we're looking for. 75 00:04:24,600 --> 00:04:26,280 Speaker 2: Love is not at the top of. 76 00:04:26,200 --> 00:04:35,440 Speaker 1: The list, all right, empty handed, Okay, Red is due. 77 00:04:37,720 --> 00:04:40,200 Speaker 1: All Right, We'll have more of the Steve Harvey Morning 78 00:04:40,240 --> 00:04:43,039 Speaker 1: Show coming up right after this. You're listening to the 79 00:04:43,120 --> 00:04:44,559 Speaker 1: Steve Harvey Morning Show.