WEBVTT - Minisode: Gemology with Chelsea & Catherine 

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, guys, here are my dates for the High and

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<v Speaker 1>Mighty Tour.

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<v Speaker 2>In August, you can find me in Red Bank, New Jersey, Montclair,

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<v Speaker 2>New Jersey, and Calgary that's Canada. And September I will

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<v Speaker 2>be in Santa Barbara, San Diego, New York City, Philly,

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<v Speaker 2>and New Haven, Connecticut. October is Atlanta, Baltimore, Saginaw, Michigan, Pittsburgh, Toronto, Boise,

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<v Speaker 2>Idaho and Spokane. And then in November I'll be in

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<v Speaker 2>San Francisco. I'm coming to Salt Lake City, Austin, Houston,

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<v Speaker 2>Dallas Babies, I'll be there. And then in December I

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<v Speaker 2>am closing out my tour in Denver and Vancouver. So

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<v Speaker 2>get your tickets at Chelseahandler dot com for the High

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<v Speaker 2>and Mighty Tour.

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<v Speaker 1>Hello hello Chelsea, Hello Chelsea.

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<v Speaker 3>Hi.

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, you're Chelsea. I'm Catherine.

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<v Speaker 3>Hello Catherine.

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<v Speaker 4>Hi.

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<v Speaker 3>I have to tell you a crazy story. Oh oh, I.

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<v Speaker 5>Think I told you this, but I don't know if

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<v Speaker 5>I mentioned it on the podcast. But in February of

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<v Speaker 5>last year, I went to the gym and came home

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<v Speaker 5>and realized that the like main stone in my engagement

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<v Speaker 5>ring was gone. It had like gotten knocked out and

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<v Speaker 5>it was totally gone. So then I spent the entire day.

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<v Speaker 3>We had like vacuumed the.

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<v Speaker 5>Day before, so I spent the rest of the day

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<v Speaker 5>like combing through the crap from the vacuum and like

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<v Speaker 5>searching on the floor of my gym and like crying.

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<v Speaker 3>Just like all day because I was like, this thing

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<v Speaker 3>is gone. Right. Oh that was February of last year.

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<v Speaker 5>And this weekend I was out in the garden. We've

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<v Speaker 5>been like moving some stuff around in the bedroom. We

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<v Speaker 5>got some new bedside tables this and that's why I

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<v Speaker 5>was like switching stuff from my old bedside table and

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<v Speaker 5>the new one. Who knows how it happened, but I

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<v Speaker 5>was out in the garden and Breg comes out and

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<v Speaker 5>he was like, I don't know if this is it.

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<v Speaker 5>This might just be like a glittera sparkle from something.

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<v Speaker 5>But he opens his hand, he goes, is this your diamond?

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<v Speaker 5>And he had my diamond from my ring a year

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<v Speaker 5>and a half ago in his palm.

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<v Speaker 1>Where did he find it?

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<v Speaker 3>In the middle of the floor. Can you believe that?

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<v Speaker 1>Wow?

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<v Speaker 5>It just was like literally I had a regulated ones

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<v Speaker 5>tell me like crystals like you know, yea luck crystals

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<v Speaker 5>or whatever.

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<v Speaker 3>She's like, they might wander away.

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<v Speaker 5>Don't worry if they wander away, they might come back

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<v Speaker 5>if you need them again.

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<v Speaker 3>But they might.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm like, this is literally what happened. It like wandered

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<v Speaker 5>away and then it came back.

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<v Speaker 1>I wonder what they're Yeah, isn't that crazy?

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<v Speaker 2>Crazy to find that a year later, completely after how

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<v Speaker 2>many times you vacuumed.

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<v Speaker 5>Vacuumed where we looked. I'm like, maybe it was in

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<v Speaker 5>my bedside table and like fell out as I was

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<v Speaker 5>like transferring things over to the new one.

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<v Speaker 3>I have no idea.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a nice return, isn't that why? I like that

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<v Speaker 2>that crystals wandering? Did you say anything about diamonds? Did

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<v Speaker 2>they wonder?

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I think like it's a crystal, right, I guess.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I don't know anything about stones. Is

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<v Speaker 2>a diamond a crystal?

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<v Speaker 3>At He's just laughing at me. So anyway, that was my.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a good omen I think is good luck.

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<v Speaker 5>I know. I was like, I think this is also

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<v Speaker 5>a reminder, like somebody that there is looking out for us.

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<v Speaker 3>So that was a good reminder.

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<v Speaker 5>But CJ, who uses say of them pronouns, wrote in

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<v Speaker 5>with an update.

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<v Speaker 3>It was both a Crystal and a jim Ah.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks Brad. Good to know. Thank you, Brad.

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<v Speaker 3>He's full of information.

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<v Speaker 5>CJ says, dear Chelsea, it's been over two years since you,

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<v Speaker 5>both along with Skyler Baylor, advised me to follow my

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<v Speaker 5>trans joy and move from New York City to North Carolina.

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<v Speaker 3>Well that's so funny.

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<v Speaker 5>Our other, our last minnesot somebody's moving to North Carolina

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<v Speaker 5>to move from New York City to North Carolina to

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<v Speaker 5>be with my also trans partner. Since we last spoke,

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<v Speaker 5>i'd been flying back and forth, still paying eleven hundred

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<v Speaker 5>dollars rent for the same queen's apartment that I'd been

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<v Speaker 5>living in for the last twenty three years, and working

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<v Speaker 5>the same remote job.

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<v Speaker 3>Well I did it. About a month ago.

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<v Speaker 5>We loaded all of my belongings into a truck to

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<v Speaker 5>officially start our new life together. As someone on the

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<v Speaker 5>spectrum who's absolutely ter fight of change, it was, without

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<v Speaker 5>a doubt, the most challenging thing I've ever done. Literally

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<v Speaker 5>every facet of my life changed in a week. I

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<v Speaker 5>even lost my job, so now I don't have to

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<v Speaker 5>stress that my fully remote job will call me into

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<v Speaker 5>the office. But Chelsea I'm incredibly proud of myself. I

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<v Speaker 5>opened myself up to love for the first time in

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<v Speaker 5>life and took a real chance at happiness. It turns

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<v Speaker 5>out true love does exist. Who knew and for the

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<v Speaker 5>first time. I'm genuinely excited to see what's next for him,

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<v Speaker 5>for us.

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<v Speaker 3>And most especially for me.

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<v Speaker 1>Beautiful so sweet.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, because, as you say, we're all going to die

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<v Speaker 5>soon anyway, so we might.

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<v Speaker 3>As well start living our best lives.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh, thank you so much for your advice. Thank you

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<v Speaker 5>so much for your advice. This took some time, but

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<v Speaker 5>it did eventually sink.

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<v Speaker 3>In ps.

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<v Speaker 5>The first official event we attended after moving here was

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<v Speaker 5>to see you in Durham. Thank you both to you

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<v Speaker 5>and Yaminica for a great night best sea.

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<v Speaker 1>That's so sweet. I love a love story, I know.

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<v Speaker 5>I thought that was so fantastic and like, yeah, if

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<v Speaker 5>you call, if you called in a couple of years ago,

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<v Speaker 5>like let us know what's going on.

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<v Speaker 3>If that's the perfect upset.

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<v Speaker 2>Updates and North Carolina is poppin' it is living there.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I'm moving there. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, our caller today is Charlie.

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<v Speaker 3>He says.

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<v Speaker 5>His subject line is I accidentally fell in love and

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<v Speaker 5>now the government is involved. Dear Chelsea, I'm a thirty

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<v Speaker 5>five year old gay man, surprise, surprise, and my husband

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<v Speaker 5>is thirty eight and lives in Brazil. We met an

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<v Speaker 5>early spring of twenty twenty three, when he was in

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<v Speaker 5>New York doing work at Cornell University. Even then, we

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<v Speaker 5>knew our time together would likely be brief because his

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<v Speaker 5>contract was only for a year, after which he would

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<v Speaker 5>need to return to Brazil. He was on a jay

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<v Speaker 5>one visa that legally required him to return to his

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<v Speaker 5>country and not come back to the US for at

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<v Speaker 5>least three years. I guess to spread the word about

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<v Speaker 5>how great America is, but I digress.

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<v Speaker 3>When we met, I.

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<v Speaker 5>Was looking for the exact opposite of anything serious. I

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<v Speaker 5>remember thinking, oh, this will be fun, and it was

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<v Speaker 5>very quickly. He invited me over to his apartment for dinner.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm actual dinner. This man cooked Brazilian recipes he had

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<v Speaker 5>learned from his mom, including desserts. No one had ever

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<v Speaker 5>really done that for me before. We ended up spending

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<v Speaker 5>a lot of dinners together over the course of the year.

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<v Speaker 5>Not looking for anything serious flew out the window. We

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<v Speaker 5>fell in love a month before he had to leave

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<v Speaker 5>We got married in a small lakeside ceremony. It was

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<v Speaker 5>my parents, his friend, his friend's dog, and my friend officiating.

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<v Speaker 5>It was freezing in February, but we truly did not care.

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<v Speaker 5>He had to go home over two years ago. Since then,

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<v Speaker 5>I've gone to see him every year, usually for three

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<v Speaker 5>or four weeks in June. I'm grateful to be able

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<v Speaker 5>to afford to do this on a yearly basis. The

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<v Speaker 5>green card process has been an absolute bear. The whole

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<v Speaker 5>process honestly feels insane and never ending for someone who

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<v Speaker 5>is legally married to an American citizen. My question is

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<v Speaker 5>how do you stop yourself from becoming bitter when the

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<v Speaker 5>love of your life is stuck forty five hundred miles

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<v Speaker 5>away because of bureaucracy, government fees, and what feels like

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<v Speaker 5>the world's longest group project. All my best, Charlie pshi ps,

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<v Speaker 5>we're monogamous.

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<v Speaker 2>Hi monogamous, Hi and Charlie. Hi you guys, Hi cutie pies.

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<v Speaker 2>So where are you guys now? Are you in Brazil?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah? We're in Brazil. We're on vacation right now at

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<v Speaker 4>a resort's We're here until Saturday.

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<v Speaker 2>Great, Well that's nice and I'm glad you guys are together,

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<v Speaker 2>enjoying each other.

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<v Speaker 1>You have a beautiful love story. This is very exciting.

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<v Speaker 4>Thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>My brother is going through the same exact thing with

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<v Speaker 2>his wife who lives in the Philippines. She they have

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<v Speaker 2>two children, and their visa process and green car process

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<v Speaker 2>and marriage process has been very similar to what you're describing.

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<v Speaker 1>It's been an absolute nightmare.

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<v Speaker 2>It involves I mean, so I'm so glad that you

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<v Speaker 2>are grateful for the ability to even fly visit him,

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<v Speaker 2>and you that you can afford to do that. You

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<v Speaker 2>have to have gratitude for the small things. This system

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<v Speaker 2>is really frustrating, and I understand how frustrating it can be.

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<v Speaker 2>This administration is not helpful of obviously, and it's not

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<v Speaker 2>going to last forever. So I think that you just

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<v Speaker 2>have to figure out way to stay connected and figure

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<v Speaker 2>out maybe different rituals or kind of am initiating new

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<v Speaker 2>rituals for each other to stay connected so that you

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<v Speaker 2>don't let your anger overshadow you know, the gratitude that

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<v Speaker 2>you should have for each other and the patience that

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<v Speaker 2>is required for this to work. And it's infuriating, and

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<v Speaker 2>if you let yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>Go down that rabbit hole.

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<v Speaker 2>It will just.

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<v Speaker 1>Become more and more infuriating.

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<v Speaker 2>So, like, what kinds of things can you guys do

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<v Speaker 2>to keep each other, you know, uplifted during this challenging time.

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<v Speaker 4>So we usually we're talking every day, like at least

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<v Speaker 4>once or twice a day on FaceTime. We're texting all

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<v Speaker 4>day long. Recently it's been a little bit more challenging

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<v Speaker 4>because I've been working night shift, but hopefully I'm done

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<v Speaker 4>with that. And then we started an Instagram paved just

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<v Speaker 4>kind of like documenting our travels, Like we just kind

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<v Speaker 4>of started doing that. Like that's kind of something to

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<v Speaker 4>look forward to.

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<v Speaker 2>Like is that a private page for you too, or

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<v Speaker 2>like a public page?

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<v Speaker 4>It's public. I mean we have like five followers right now,

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<v Speaker 4>but it's public.

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<v Speaker 1>That's cute.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean maybe there's something like I don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe there's something to do with writing five things down

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<v Speaker 2>in the beginning of the day or at the end

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<v Speaker 2>of the day that you want to let the other

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<v Speaker 2>person know that you're thinking about you know, like for

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<v Speaker 2>you and your partner, Like these are the five things

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<v Speaker 2>that I think about you today, or make it three

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<v Speaker 2>things or five things that I did today that I

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<v Speaker 2>thought about you while I was doing them, or five

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<v Speaker 2>different times today that I thought about you while I

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<v Speaker 2>was away from you, you know, like kind of create

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<v Speaker 2>I love the Instagram thing, just I think creating more

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<v Speaker 2>ritual around togetherness and to fill in the blank of

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<v Speaker 2>the actual separateness that you're feeling when you are separated,

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<v Speaker 2>to fill that up with stuff and like projects, not

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<v Speaker 2>the projects that are going to be so time consuming,

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<v Speaker 2>but projects that just keep you connected.

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<v Speaker 4>That's a good idea.

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<v Speaker 5>Is there like an end in site right now with

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<v Speaker 5>where you're at in the process, So.

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<v Speaker 4>Like our documentation has passed through the Immigration Service and

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<v Speaker 4>now it's with the Department of State, so we're just waiting,

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<v Speaker 4>Like we had to send all the same paperwork to

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<v Speaker 4>the Department of State that was already passed through like

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<v Speaker 4>the USCIS.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so we're.

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<v Speaker 4>Just waiting for them to have a say in what's happening.

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<v Speaker 4>That's really frustrating too, because it's like the same documentation

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<v Speaker 4>over and over, Like we got married here or in

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<v Speaker 4>the United States, yeah, and we are also legally married

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<v Speaker 4>in Brazil. So it's he has a more positive outlook

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<v Speaker 4>on things. I guess probably just being Brazilian and I'm

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<v Speaker 4>from the United States, and I can kind of get

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<v Speaker 4>myself down in the dumps about it.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, well, then you need to start writing those things

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<v Speaker 2>down in the morning.

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<v Speaker 1>Specifically, you need.

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<v Speaker 2>To write write down, here are the five things we're

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<v Speaker 2>going to Hey, this is how we're going to start

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<v Speaker 2>our day once you come and live in America. These

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<v Speaker 2>are the first five things we're going to do every morning.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to wake up, I'm going to make you

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<v Speaker 2>a cup of coffee. You're going to wake up, You're

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<v Speaker 2>going to make me a cup of coffee. Whatever your

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<v Speaker 2>rituals are together, like, just start implanting that into your

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<v Speaker 2>head and writing those things down to just kind of

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<v Speaker 2>change the vibration of your attitude towards the situation, because

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<v Speaker 2>you don't want to be cynical. You want to be optimistic.

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<v Speaker 2>You want to be positive, and you want to have

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<v Speaker 2>something to look forward to.

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<v Speaker 5>And another thing you can kind of do to reframe

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<v Speaker 5>a little bit is when you start feeling down in

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<v Speaker 5>the dumps, you're not going to be able to make

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<v Speaker 5>yourself do this every time. You won't, but try to

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<v Speaker 5>think about instead of like how upset you are that

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<v Speaker 5>he's not there, try and conjure the feeling of how

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<v Speaker 5>relieved and excited you're going to be when he is

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<v Speaker 5>in the States, like when he does get there, like

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<v Speaker 5>try and conjure those feelings. That's like one of those

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<v Speaker 5>like manifestation tricks as well as they say, like put

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<v Speaker 5>yourself in that headspace, right, It's like imagine yourself together

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<v Speaker 5>having a cup of coffee in the morning, not just

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<v Speaker 5>like welcoming him at the airport, but like your day to.

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<v Speaker 3>Day and all the things you want to do together.

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<v Speaker 5>And you can even make a list of those things too,

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<v Speaker 5>but like spend time in your head thinking of what

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<v Speaker 5>that's gonna feel like and what that's gonna be.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, and inviting the positive thoughts in like inviting positivity

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<v Speaker 2>instead of going God, this is so frustrating, this isn't working.

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<v Speaker 2>It's never gonna happen. You have to be like, this

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<v Speaker 2>is gonna happen. There is gonna be a day where

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<v Speaker 2>this does happen, where we are waking up next to

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<v Speaker 2>each other and we are spending our lives together. Invite

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<v Speaker 2>in that positivity, like create a magnetic attraction for that

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<v Speaker 2>to happen. Because this paperwork could change in a day.

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<v Speaker 2>You could get this notice in one day. It's happened

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<v Speaker 2>to my friend. She was waiting for months and months

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<v Speaker 2>and months, and then she found out one day that

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<v Speaker 2>it was clear and that she was free to stay here.

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<v Speaker 2>She couldn't go back and forth because she had she

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<v Speaker 2>couldn't leave the States while she was waiting, she was

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<v Speaker 2>pending her visa status. So and like it literally changed

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<v Speaker 2>in a second when she was so frustrated. So like, really,

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<v Speaker 2>just invite in positivity. Invite in positivity and like a

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<v Speaker 2>magnetic attraction so that this does work out sooner, like

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<v Speaker 2>energy shifts things, and so like you never know who's

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<v Speaker 2>gonna get to their desk one day and then just

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<v Speaker 2>stamp your paperwork and go, okay, this is official.

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<v Speaker 1>So just start thinking and conjuring.

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<v Speaker 2>As Catherine said, those ideas and that thought process.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, that's really reassuring actually because we've had like no

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<v Speaker 4>guide it and so like how that works out, Like

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<v Speaker 4>because so we didn't know, like is it just one

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<v Speaker 4>day somebody puts a stamp on it.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like okay, yeah, basically, do you have an immigration

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<v Speaker 2>attorney that you're working with.

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<v Speaker 4>No, we kind of just have been doing it by

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<v Speaker 4>ourselves thus far, and we have been told that, like

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<v Speaker 4>we could spend a lot of money on an immigration

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<v Speaker 4>attorney who doesn't have any more power really than we

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<v Speaker 4>do for the doing the same things that we're already doing.

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<v Speaker 5>So send us your Instagram handle for this account that

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<v Speaker 5>you guys have together. We'll put it in the notes

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<v Speaker 5>so people can check you guys out and follow you

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<v Speaker 5>as well.

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<v Speaker 6>Well.

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<v Speaker 4>Thank you. Okay, it's gringo because I'm the gringo here, okay,

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<v Speaker 4>and Guiano gringo egoyano.

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<v Speaker 1>That's cute. Love it.

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<v Speaker 5>Thank you God, thank you for calling in, and best

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<v Speaker 5>of luck.

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<v Speaker 4>Thank you, thank you guys.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah bye, all right, we got one little thing to

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<v Speaker 5>wrap up with. And Hailey says, uh, Dear Chelsea, I'm

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<v Speaker 5>a longtime listener and have a completely non urgent, but

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<v Speaker 5>highly persistent curiosity. I've noticed Chelsea frequently wearing a beautiful

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<v Speaker 5>green heart necklace and interviews, press appearances, and photos over

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<v Speaker 5>the years. At this point, it's become one of those

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<v Speaker 5>little things my brain files under. I wonder what the

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<v Speaker 5>story is there, especially since I know she isn't particularly

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<v Speaker 5>materialistic when it.

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<v Speaker 3>Comes to accessories and jewelry.

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<v Speaker 5>If there's a story of sentimental meaning gift, lucky, charm,

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<v Speaker 5>or personal significance behind it.

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<v Speaker 3>I'd love to hear about it on the podcast.

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<v Speaker 5>And if the answer is simply she likes it and

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<v Speaker 5>it looks good with every outfit and makes her eyes pop, honestly,

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<v Speaker 5>that's perfectly acceptable too. Thanks for all the laughs, wisdom,

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<v Speaker 5>delightfully unfiltered advice each week. Thanks to Chelsea, I have

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<v Speaker 5>list of vocabulary words save to my phone Kurt blanche sagacious, alacrity,

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<v Speaker 5>a plum ameliorate, to name a few.

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<v Speaker 1>Look up poll rumptious. Pul rumptious is a pole rumptious.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a good word.

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<v Speaker 6>And I learned a great word this morning. Rolled on

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<v Speaker 6>a second, what pol rumptious mean? Pas siloquy. Passiloquy is

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<v Speaker 6>someone who is. It's a noun economy of expression, especially

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<v Speaker 6>in speech. Pas siloquy, so paustity, which is shortness, an illoquy,

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<v Speaker 6>which is language and the way you speak. I love

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<v Speaker 6>it pas siloquy, But paul rumptious is a good word.

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<v Speaker 5>Toot oh, this.

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<v Speaker 2>Is Melinda Maria, my friend is a jewelry costume designer.

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<v Speaker 2>This isn't even a real real emerald, Although all of

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<v Speaker 2>my girlfriends who are friends with Melinda Maria because I

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<v Speaker 2>wear this fake necklace all the time make fun of

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<v Speaker 2>me because they're like, Chelsea, everyone thinks you're walking around

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<v Speaker 2>with a real emerald. And I was like, well, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't really care. And then they're like, we're gonna get

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<v Speaker 2>you a real emeralds. I'm like, great, and where And

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<v Speaker 2>they've been telling me that they have my emerald.

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<v Speaker 1>They have my emerald. We all chipped in and got

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<v Speaker 1>you a real emerald.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm like, I don't believe you, because no one

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<v Speaker 2>has given it to me.

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<v Speaker 1>But I love it just because it's green and I

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<v Speaker 1>love green.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and if there's not really and she's my friend

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<v Speaker 2>and I just she has rings too and all this.

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<v Speaker 1>She has lots of jewelry. But I just love this.

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<v Speaker 1>I've never I get so many compliments on this.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, it's very unique, I think, but it's like also

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<v Speaker 5>goes with everything.

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<v Speaker 3>It's simple.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, yes, So that's the story.

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<v Speaker 5>All right, Well we'll see you all next time, Okay,

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<v Speaker 5>bye bye. The word of the week is pull rumptuous.

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<v Speaker 5>Pull rumptuous adjective a word from the eighteen hundreds meaning

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<v Speaker 5>big headed, obstreperous, and downright obnoxious used in a sentence

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<v Speaker 5>the man in first class had a pull rumptuous disposition

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<v Speaker 5>when speaking to the flight attendant. Pull rumptious. If you

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