WEBVTT - Dear Chiquis: How Do I Stop Second-Guessing Myself? I Need Help with Time Management & Overcoming Criticism

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<v Speaker 1>Hello everyone, it's your girl Cheekies, and you've reached the

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<v Speaker 1>how to balance your checkbook or how to start a business,

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<v Speaker 1>your question at the sound of the beat. Hey cheekies,

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<v Speaker 1>Good evening. So my question to you is how do

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<v Speaker 1>I get over fear? How do I stop setting guessing

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<v Speaker 1>myself or overthinking things. For example, I enjoy doing neils.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not a nail tech. I don't have a clientele.

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<v Speaker 1>I enjoy doing makeup. Same thing with that, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>have a line of clients. I have my license and

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<v Speaker 1>tattooing eyebrows as well. I don't have a line of clients.

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<v Speaker 1>How do I overcome that fear of going out there

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<v Speaker 1>and pursue what I enjoy doing what I love doing.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I give the best advice to my

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<v Speaker 1>friends not to be afraid to go out there trying

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<v Speaker 1>new things, give it a shot. But when it comes

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<v Speaker 1>to me, I feel like I get cold feet, I

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<v Speaker 1>get scared. I don't know what it is. Please help me.

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<v Speaker 1>I am in my thirties and I've been doing this

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<v Speaker 1>since I was fourteen fifteen years old, and I just

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<v Speaker 1>see other girls succeed when they started from the bottom,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'll look where they're at and I want to

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<v Speaker 1>do the same thing. But I'm scared. How do I

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<v Speaker 1>overcome that? Oh? I'm loving how this is starting. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>this is a great question. Hi a Dana'm okay. So

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<v Speaker 1>first off, that's the issue. You're scared, and I get that.

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<v Speaker 1>But we have to trade fear for faith, faith in

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<v Speaker 1>our future, faith in ourselves, faith in God, faith that

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<v Speaker 1>even if we try it and it doesn't work, at

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<v Speaker 1>least we tried it. I always say, take the leap

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<v Speaker 1>of faith, take a risk. Life is all about taking risks.

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<v Speaker 1>And you have the hardest part down. You have your license,

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<v Speaker 1>you already have the knowledge, you know how to do it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just putting yourself out there and not being afraid

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<v Speaker 1>I would love to ask you what are you afraid of?

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<v Speaker 1>You have to ask yourself that question is, well, what

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<v Speaker 1>am I afraid of? Really? Because anxiety comes and fear

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<v Speaker 1>comes from things that most of the time haven't even happened.

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<v Speaker 1>It all lives in our mind. So you have to

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<v Speaker 1>just really put that to this side and say, fuck it,

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<v Speaker 1>what do I have to lose. I know it's a

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<v Speaker 1>lot easier said than done, but honestly, it's just literally

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<v Speaker 1>just saying I'm going to try it. You're worried about

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<v Speaker 1>something that hasn't even happened, and you're paralyzing your own

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<v Speaker 1>growth with fear and when in reality you should just

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<v Speaker 1>be like, I know what's up. God gave me the knowledge.

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<v Speaker 1>I know how to do nails, I know how to

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<v Speaker 1>do makeup. Now I just got to do it. Just

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<v Speaker 1>do it, literally, just do it. Put yourself out there.

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<v Speaker 1>There's nothing. You're not going to lose anything by doing that,

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<v Speaker 1>I promise you. So I believe in you. You got this. Now.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's here from Azalaiya al Chinkies. I'm from No Noai, California,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm on here to ask for your advice for

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<v Speaker 1>time management and to start in from my businesses. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>nineteen years old. I am another to my beautiful daughter

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<v Speaker 1>named Luna, she's six months old. I am a full

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<v Speaker 1>time medical assisting student. I have two businesses. I am

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<v Speaker 1>a certified eyelash technician and I have a bakery business

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<v Speaker 1>where I bake adventure speezy treats. And with that being said,

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<v Speaker 1>I have so much on my schedule that I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like I never have an enough time for myself care.

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<v Speaker 1>And I would love to have enough and more time

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<v Speaker 1>with my daughter and my boyfriend so we can spend

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<v Speaker 1>time together as a family. And I have a bunch

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<v Speaker 1>of trouble like sending my schedules and managing my time.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to grow my businesses because it's such a

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<v Speaker 1>struggle when you're first running off. So if you have

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<v Speaker 1>any advice for me, I would love to hear it.

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<v Speaker 1>And I just want to let you know that I

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<v Speaker 1>love you. I love your sibling. I watched you guys

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<v Speaker 1>growing up. I love Jenny Chickens and Chill ye other

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<v Speaker 1>so funny. I love you all. Thank you for listening. Goodbye.

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<v Speaker 1>As a Leia Mama, Si dam you are out of

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<v Speaker 1>balance and that's okay. We all have to be super again.

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<v Speaker 1>Here's this word intentional. You guys, it's my favorite word.

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<v Speaker 1>We all have to be super intentional about finding that

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<v Speaker 1>balance in our life. Okay, first of all, thank you

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<v Speaker 1>so much for loving my siblings. That makes my heart

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<v Speaker 1>so happy. Thank you, thank you for loving me. So

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<v Speaker 1>Now back to you. Okay, you have a family and

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<v Speaker 1>that's very important, and obviously you want to keep your

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<v Speaker 1>husband happy and you want to keep your babies happy.

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<v Speaker 1>So in order to do that, you really need to

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<v Speaker 1>find balance. I feel that you're biting more than you

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<v Speaker 1>can chew. And I love the fact that you are

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<v Speaker 1>doing a lot. Believe me, I do a lot as well.

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<v Speaker 1>But I've also learned my lesson to say, Okay, what

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<v Speaker 1>am I really really truly passionate about? And it's not

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<v Speaker 1>that you can't do everything. I just think right now

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<v Speaker 1>you need to focus on one or two things and

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<v Speaker 1>to say I'm going to do these things that I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going to do them great, I'm going to be the

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<v Speaker 1>best I possibly can at them, and then eventually start

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<v Speaker 1>bringing in other things so that you can find the

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<v Speaker 1>time for yourself. Yes, absolutely, because if you're not happy,

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<v Speaker 1>if you're not energized, if you're not content, then you

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<v Speaker 1>can't make everyone else around you, and your businesses won't flourish.

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<v Speaker 1>So you have to find time for yourself. And I

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<v Speaker 1>always say wake up early and read and meditate and

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<v Speaker 1>pray and all that good stuff. Work out whatever it

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<v Speaker 1>is that makes you happy, and really set that's schedule

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<v Speaker 1>of saying on Sundays, I'm not doing anything but being

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<v Speaker 1>with my husband and my daughter, Like you need to

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<v Speaker 1>do that. If not, it's going to cause issues in

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<v Speaker 1>your relationship. Your child is going to resent you. Like

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<v Speaker 1>you really need to say, mommy wife is working really

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<v Speaker 1>hard and has all these aspirations and I'm not telling

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<v Speaker 1>you to give up on those, but you also have

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<v Speaker 1>to take care of your loved ones and they have

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<v Speaker 1>to see oh, while she's really trying to find this time,

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<v Speaker 1>quality time for us and of course yourself. So does

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<v Speaker 1>that mean in the morning at night. I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>what your schedule looks like, but really really honing in

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<v Speaker 1>on this is what I'm really passionate about, and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going to focus focus on that and really take a

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<v Speaker 1>day off. You need at least one day where you're

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<v Speaker 1>just not doing anything but being okay. I hope that

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<v Speaker 1>helps and I can't wait to hear from you again. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>next step is Graciela. Hey, chickies, I just want to

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<v Speaker 1>start off by saying how gorgeous you are, not only

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<v Speaker 1>on the outside but inside as well. And I've seen

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<v Speaker 1>the growth throughout the years. I absolutely love it, and

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<v Speaker 1>I know your mom is so proud of you. I

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<v Speaker 1>did have a question. I was curious and kind of

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<v Speaker 1>thinking to myself. I know you guys had to sell

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<v Speaker 1>your mom's mansion. If it ever came on the market again,

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<v Speaker 1>would you consider repurchasing it? Would you live in it again? Hi,

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<v Speaker 1>Garcia La, thank you so much for following us, for

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<v Speaker 1>loving us. I'm so grateful and I love your question

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<v Speaker 1>because the crazy thing is, I think last year or

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<v Speaker 1>about a year and a half ago, it went on

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<v Speaker 1>the market Miss Vanessa and Nick Lache they put it

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<v Speaker 1>on sale or they put it up for sale, and

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<v Speaker 1>they put it for seven million dollars. Girl, and I

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<v Speaker 1>swear I thought about it. I was like, oh my gosh,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll say, but you know what, it wouldn't be a

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<v Speaker 1>good move for me right now. It's just a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>I would love to absolutely, I mean, I think it

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<v Speaker 1>would be amazing for sure, but it's not something that

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<v Speaker 1>I feel I need in order to be happy. It

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<v Speaker 1>would just be something like if I have that money

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<v Speaker 1>and I'd be able to live comfortably, then yeah, I'd

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<v Speaker 1>do it. To answer your question, I would, and I'd

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<v Speaker 1>see if all my siblings want to come and move

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<v Speaker 1>back in which I know those they're gonna be like, no,

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<v Speaker 1>you're crazy. But anyway, thank you for your question. Lastly,

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<v Speaker 1>this question is admitted by two listeners, Violet and Andres. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>let's hear this and this is by Ladia, and we

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<v Speaker 1>have a very important question for you. Okay, I just

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to let I'm your biggest fan. I love you

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<v Speaker 1>so much, I appreciate you, and I just want to

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<v Speaker 1>know that I'm a big fan of your mom. And

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<v Speaker 1>I also wanted to let you know that I have

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<v Speaker 1>a teacher that knew your mother and that we're very

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<v Speaker 1>great friends. And I will wondering if you would come

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<v Speaker 1>to our school and visit that would be very great.

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<v Speaker 1>And my question is how do you continue persevering through

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<v Speaker 1>all the criticism and when people are telling you to

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<v Speaker 1>not do something and you continue finding the strength to

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<v Speaker 1>do it. Please get back at us as soon as

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<v Speaker 1>you can, oh, Valle Andres. You guys are so cute.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you. I will definitely look into it. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know where your school is. We got We need a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit more information, but I would love to absolutely

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<v Speaker 1>you two are so damn cute. Thank you so much

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<v Speaker 1>for your question. Okay, So it took me a while

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<v Speaker 1>to get to this point where I literally I don't

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<v Speaker 1>give a shit. I don't care what people say, what

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<v Speaker 1>they think about me, if they like me, if they

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<v Speaker 1>don't like me. For so long, I live my life

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<v Speaker 1>trying to seek the approval of other people. And it

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<v Speaker 1>started with my mother, and then it went on to

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<v Speaker 1>like boyfriends and friends and just the outside world. It

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<v Speaker 1>was just a place where I never want to go back.

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<v Speaker 1>And I finally learned and it clicked in my mind

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<v Speaker 1>that it doesn't matter if people don't like what I'm

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<v Speaker 1>doing as long as I love what I'm doing and

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<v Speaker 1>as long as I know that it's aligned with what

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<v Speaker 1>God wants from my life. I stopped listening to the

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<v Speaker 1>toxic voices and I just started listening to one, which

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<v Speaker 1>is my inner voice, which is the one that's connected

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<v Speaker 1>to God and the way that I know that I'm

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<v Speaker 1>on the right path on the right journey is because

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<v Speaker 1>I have peace in my heart Stida where I'm like

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<v Speaker 1>I could rest, and I know that this is making

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<v Speaker 1>me happy, this is my passion, this is my Godly purpose,

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<v Speaker 1>and I just I don't know. I know who I am,

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<v Speaker 1>I know what I'm here for and the negativity and

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<v Speaker 1>I just need to focus on the people that love me.

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<v Speaker 1>And it just took a little bit of practice until

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<v Speaker 1>one day I just didn't give a fuck. So that's

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<v Speaker 1>how it happened, really, andres is just knowing who you

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<v Speaker 1>are deep down inside in your heart. So thank you

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<v Speaker 1>for your question, and I hope I answered it like

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<v Speaker 1>with window. That's it for this week's sort of Dear Cheekies.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you Adriana as Aleas. I really appreciate you guys

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<v Speaker 1>for being so open and vulnerable with what's going on

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<v Speaker 1>in your life. I always say there's strength and vulnerability

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<v Speaker 1>you guys, So I hope you guys feel empowered by

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<v Speaker 1>sharing your stories. If you have an advice question you'd

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