Speaker 1: Hello everyone, it's your girl Cheekies, and you've reached the
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Speaker 1: a device on anything and everything you need help with.
Speaker 1: Maybe you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues
Speaker 1: with your family, or maybe you need help figuring out
Speaker 1: how to balance your checkbook or how to start a business,
Speaker 1: whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember
Speaker 1: these are my thoughts and opinions. And if you're suffering
Speaker 1: from an issue or hardship, you should seek help from
Speaker 1: a qualified professional. All right, now, go ahead and leave
Speaker 1: your question at the sound of the beat. Hey cheekies,
Speaker 1: Good evening. So my question to you is how do
Speaker 1: I get over fear? How do I stop setting guessing
Speaker 1: myself or overthinking things. For example, I enjoy doing neils.
Speaker 1: I'm not a nail tech. I don't have a clientele.
Speaker 1: I enjoy doing makeup. Same thing with that, I don't
Speaker 1: have a line of clients. I have my license and
Speaker 1: tattooing eyebrows as well. I don't have a line of clients.
Speaker 1: How do I overcome that fear of going out there
Speaker 1: and pursue what I enjoy doing what I love doing.
Speaker 1: I feel like I give the best advice to my
Speaker 1: friends not to be afraid to go out there trying
Speaker 1: new things, give it a shot. But when it comes
Speaker 1: to me, I feel like I get cold feet, I
Speaker 1: get scared. I don't know what it is. Please help me.
Speaker 1: I am in my thirties and I've been doing this
Speaker 1: since I was fourteen fifteen years old, and I just
Speaker 1: see other girls succeed when they started from the bottom,
Speaker 1: and I'll look where they're at and I want to
Speaker 1: do the same thing. But I'm scared. How do I
Speaker 1: overcome that? Oh? I'm loving how this is starting. Okay,
Speaker 1: this is a great question. Hi a Dana'm okay. So
Speaker 1: first off, that's the issue. You're scared, and I get that.
Speaker 1: But we have to trade fear for faith, faith in
Speaker 1: our future, faith in ourselves, faith in God, faith that
Speaker 1: even if we try it and it doesn't work, at
Speaker 1: least we tried it. I always say, take the leap
Speaker 1: of faith, take a risk. Life is all about taking risks.
Speaker 1: And you have the hardest part down. You have your license,
Speaker 1: you already have the knowledge, you know how to do it.
Speaker 1: It's just putting yourself out there and not being afraid
Speaker 1: I would love to ask you what are you afraid of?
Speaker 1: You have to ask yourself that question is, well, what
Speaker 1: am I afraid of? Really? Because anxiety comes and fear
Speaker 1: comes from things that most of the time haven't even happened.
Speaker 1: It all lives in our mind. So you have to
Speaker 1: just really put that to this side and say, fuck it,
Speaker 1: what do I have to lose. I know it's a
Speaker 1: lot easier said than done, but honestly, it's just literally
Speaker 1: just saying I'm going to try it. You're worried about
Speaker 1: something that hasn't even happened, and you're paralyzing your own
Speaker 1: growth with fear and when in reality you should just
Speaker 1: be like, I know what's up. God gave me the knowledge.
Speaker 1: I know how to do nails, I know how to
Speaker 1: do makeup. Now I just got to do it. Just
Speaker 1: do it, literally, just do it. Put yourself out there.
Speaker 1: There's nothing. You're not going to lose anything by doing that,
Speaker 1: I promise you. So I believe in you. You got this. Now.
Speaker 1: Let's here from Azalaiya al Chinkies. I'm from No Noai, California,
Speaker 1: and I'm on here to ask for your advice for
Speaker 1: time management and to start in from my businesses. I'm
Speaker 1: nineteen years old. I am another to my beautiful daughter
Speaker 1: named Luna, she's six months old. I am a full
Speaker 1: time medical assisting student. I have two businesses. I am
Speaker 1: a certified eyelash technician and I have a bakery business
Speaker 1: where I bake adventure speezy treats. And with that being said,
Speaker 1: I have so much on my schedule that I feel
Speaker 1: like I never have an enough time for myself care.
Speaker 1: And I would love to have enough and more time
Speaker 1: with my daughter and my boyfriend so we can spend
Speaker 1: time together as a family. And I have a bunch
Speaker 1: of trouble like sending my schedules and managing my time.
Speaker 1: I want to grow my businesses because it's such a
Speaker 1: struggle when you're first running off. So if you have
Speaker 1: any advice for me, I would love to hear it.
Speaker 1: And I just want to let you know that I
Speaker 1: love you. I love your sibling. I watched you guys
Speaker 1: growing up. I love Jenny Chickens and Chill ye other
Speaker 1: so funny. I love you all. Thank you for listening. Goodbye.
Speaker 1: As a Leia Mama, Si dam you are out of
Speaker 1: balance and that's okay. We all have to be super again.
Speaker 1: Here's this word intentional. You guys, it's my favorite word.
Speaker 1: We all have to be super intentional about finding that
Speaker 1: balance in our life. Okay, first of all, thank you
Speaker 1: so much for loving my siblings. That makes my heart
Speaker 1: so happy. Thank you, thank you for loving me. So
Speaker 1: Now back to you. Okay, you have a family and
Speaker 1: that's very important, and obviously you want to keep your
Speaker 1: husband happy and you want to keep your babies happy.
Speaker 1: So in order to do that, you really need to
Speaker 1: find balance. I feel that you're biting more than you
Speaker 1: can chew. And I love the fact that you are
Speaker 1: doing a lot. Believe me, I do a lot as well.
Speaker 1: But I've also learned my lesson to say, Okay, what
Speaker 1: am I really really truly passionate about? And it's not
Speaker 1: that you can't do everything. I just think right now
Speaker 1: you need to focus on one or two things and
Speaker 1: to say I'm going to do these things that I'm
Speaker 1: going to do them great, I'm going to be the
Speaker 1: best I possibly can at them, and then eventually start
Speaker 1: bringing in other things so that you can find the
Speaker 1: time for yourself. Yes, absolutely, because if you're not happy,
Speaker 1: if you're not energized, if you're not content, then you
Speaker 1: can't make everyone else around you, and your businesses won't flourish.
Speaker 1: So you have to find time for yourself. And I
Speaker 1: always say wake up early and read and meditate and
Speaker 1: pray and all that good stuff. Work out whatever it
Speaker 1: is that makes you happy, and really set that's schedule
Speaker 1: of saying on Sundays, I'm not doing anything but being
Speaker 1: with my husband and my daughter, Like you need to
Speaker 1: do that. If not, it's going to cause issues in
Speaker 1: your relationship. Your child is going to resent you. Like
Speaker 1: you really need to say, mommy wife is working really
Speaker 1: hard and has all these aspirations and I'm not telling
Speaker 1: you to give up on those, but you also have
Speaker 1: to take care of your loved ones and they have
Speaker 1: to see oh, while she's really trying to find this time,
Speaker 1: quality time for us and of course yourself. So does
Speaker 1: that mean in the morning at night. I don't know
Speaker 1: what your schedule looks like, but really really honing in
Speaker 1: on this is what I'm really passionate about, and I'm
Speaker 1: going to focus focus on that and really take a
Speaker 1: day off. You need at least one day where you're
Speaker 1: just not doing anything but being okay. I hope that
Speaker 1: helps and I can't wait to hear from you again. Okay,
Speaker 1: next step is Graciela. Hey, chickies, I just want to
Speaker 1: start off by saying how gorgeous you are, not only
Speaker 1: on the outside but inside as well. And I've seen
Speaker 1: the growth throughout the years. I absolutely love it, and
Speaker 1: I know your mom is so proud of you. I
Speaker 1: did have a question. I was curious and kind of
Speaker 1: thinking to myself. I know you guys had to sell
Speaker 1: your mom's mansion. If it ever came on the market again,
Speaker 1: would you consider repurchasing it? Would you live in it again? Hi,
Speaker 1: Garcia La, thank you so much for following us, for
Speaker 1: loving us. I'm so grateful and I love your question
Speaker 1: because the crazy thing is, I think last year or
Speaker 1: about a year and a half ago, it went on
Speaker 1: the market Miss Vanessa and Nick Lache they put it
Speaker 1: on sale or they put it up for sale, and
Speaker 1: they put it for seven million dollars. Girl, and I
Speaker 1: swear I thought about it. I was like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: I'll say, but you know what, it wouldn't be a
Speaker 1: good move for me right now. It's just a lot.
Speaker 1: I would love to absolutely, I mean, I think it
Speaker 1: would be amazing for sure, but it's not something that
Speaker 1: I feel I need in order to be happy. It
Speaker 1: would just be something like if I have that money
Speaker 1: and I'd be able to live comfortably, then yeah, I'd
Speaker 1: do it. To answer your question, I would, and I'd
Speaker 1: see if all my siblings want to come and move
Speaker 1: back in which I know those they're gonna be like, no,
Speaker 1: you're crazy. But anyway, thank you for your question. Lastly,
Speaker 1: this question is admitted by two listeners, Violet and Andres. Okay,
Speaker 1: let's hear this and this is by Ladia, and we
Speaker 1: have a very important question for you. Okay, I just
Speaker 1: wanted to let I'm your biggest fan. I love you
Speaker 1: so much, I appreciate you, and I just want to
Speaker 1: know that I'm a big fan of your mom. And
Speaker 1: I also wanted to let you know that I have
Speaker 1: a teacher that knew your mother and that we're very
Speaker 1: great friends. And I will wondering if you would come
Speaker 1: to our school and visit that would be very great.
Speaker 1: And my question is how do you continue persevering through
Speaker 1: all the criticism and when people are telling you to
Speaker 1: not do something and you continue finding the strength to
Speaker 1: do it. Please get back at us as soon as
Speaker 1: you can, oh, Valle Andres. You guys are so cute.
Speaker 1: Thank you. I will definitely look into it. I don't
Speaker 1: know where your school is. We got We need a
Speaker 1: little bit more information, but I would love to absolutely
Speaker 1: you two are so damn cute. Thank you so much
Speaker 1: for your question. Okay, So it took me a while
Speaker 1: to get to this point where I literally I don't
Speaker 1: give a shit. I don't care what people say, what
Speaker 1: they think about me, if they like me, if they
Speaker 1: don't like me. For so long, I live my life
Speaker 1: trying to seek the approval of other people. And it
Speaker 1: started with my mother, and then it went on to
Speaker 1: like boyfriends and friends and just the outside world. It
Speaker 1: was just a place where I never want to go back.
Speaker 1: And I finally learned and it clicked in my mind
Speaker 1: that it doesn't matter if people don't like what I'm
Speaker 1: doing as long as I love what I'm doing and
Speaker 1: as long as I know that it's aligned with what
Speaker 1: God wants from my life. I stopped listening to the
Speaker 1: toxic voices and I just started listening to one, which
Speaker 1: is my inner voice, which is the one that's connected
Speaker 1: to God and the way that I know that I'm
Speaker 1: on the right path on the right journey is because
Speaker 1: I have peace in my heart Stida where I'm like
Speaker 1: I could rest, and I know that this is making
Speaker 1: me happy, this is my passion, this is my Godly purpose,
Speaker 1: and I just I don't know. I know who I am,
Speaker 1: I know what I'm here for and the negativity and
Speaker 1: I just need to focus on the people that love me.
Speaker 1: And it just took a little bit of practice until
Speaker 1: one day I just didn't give a fuck. So that's
Speaker 1: how it happened, really, andres is just knowing who you
Speaker 1: are deep down inside in your heart. So thank you
Speaker 1: for your question, and I hope I answered it like
Speaker 1: with window. That's it for this week's sort of Dear Cheekies.
Speaker 1: Thank you Adriana as Aleas. I really appreciate you guys
Speaker 1: for being so open and vulnerable with what's going on
Speaker 1: in your life. I always say there's strength and vulnerability
Speaker 1: you guys, So I hope you guys feel empowered by
Speaker 1: sharing your stories. If you have an advice question you'd
Speaker 1: like to ask me, head over to Speakpipe dot Com
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