1 00:00:19,239 --> 00:00:21,720 Speaker 1: Hello everyone, it's your girl Cheekies, and you've reached the 2 00:00:21,760 --> 00:00:24,200 Speaker 1: voicemail box for dear Cheekies, I'm here to give you 3 00:00:24,200 --> 00:00:26,680 Speaker 1: a device on anything and everything you need help with. 4 00:00:26,960 --> 00:00:29,200 Speaker 1: Maybe you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues 5 00:00:29,240 --> 00:00:31,960 Speaker 1: with your family, or maybe you need help figuring out 6 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:34,640 Speaker 1: how to balance your checkbook or how to start a business, 7 00:00:34,960 --> 00:00:38,120 Speaker 1: whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember 8 00:00:38,240 --> 00:00:40,599 Speaker 1: these are my thoughts and opinions. And if you're suffering 9 00:00:40,640 --> 00:00:42,760 Speaker 1: from an issue or hardship, you should seek help from 10 00:00:42,800 --> 00:00:45,760 Speaker 1: a qualified professional. All right, now, go ahead and leave 11 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:49,639 Speaker 1: your question at the sound of the beat. Hey cheekies, 12 00:00:50,320 --> 00:00:52,839 Speaker 1: Good evening. So my question to you is how do 13 00:00:52,920 --> 00:00:56,400 Speaker 1: I get over fear? How do I stop setting guessing 14 00:00:56,440 --> 00:01:02,480 Speaker 1: myself or overthinking things. For example, I enjoy doing neils. 15 00:01:02,800 --> 00:01:05,319 Speaker 1: I'm not a nail tech. I don't have a clientele. 16 00:01:05,720 --> 00:01:08,960 Speaker 1: I enjoy doing makeup. Same thing with that, I don't 17 00:01:09,000 --> 00:01:12,560 Speaker 1: have a line of clients. I have my license and 18 00:01:12,680 --> 00:01:17,280 Speaker 1: tattooing eyebrows as well. I don't have a line of clients. 19 00:01:17,760 --> 00:01:21,360 Speaker 1: How do I overcome that fear of going out there 20 00:01:21,720 --> 00:01:25,640 Speaker 1: and pursue what I enjoy doing what I love doing. 21 00:01:26,120 --> 00:01:27,720 Speaker 1: I feel like I give the best advice to my 22 00:01:27,760 --> 00:01:30,440 Speaker 1: friends not to be afraid to go out there trying 23 00:01:30,440 --> 00:01:33,720 Speaker 1: new things, give it a shot. But when it comes 24 00:01:33,760 --> 00:01:36,399 Speaker 1: to me, I feel like I get cold feet, I 25 00:01:36,480 --> 00:01:39,280 Speaker 1: get scared. I don't know what it is. Please help me. 26 00:01:39,920 --> 00:01:43,160 Speaker 1: I am in my thirties and I've been doing this 27 00:01:43,240 --> 00:01:46,200 Speaker 1: since I was fourteen fifteen years old, and I just 28 00:01:46,360 --> 00:01:49,720 Speaker 1: see other girls succeed when they started from the bottom, 29 00:01:50,040 --> 00:01:52,120 Speaker 1: and I'll look where they're at and I want to 30 00:01:52,120 --> 00:01:54,680 Speaker 1: do the same thing. But I'm scared. How do I 31 00:01:54,760 --> 00:01:58,600 Speaker 1: overcome that? Oh? I'm loving how this is starting. Okay, 32 00:01:58,640 --> 00:02:01,640 Speaker 1: this is a great question. Hi a Dana'm okay. So 33 00:02:02,200 --> 00:02:06,120 Speaker 1: first off, that's the issue. You're scared, and I get that. 34 00:02:06,720 --> 00:02:11,160 Speaker 1: But we have to trade fear for faith, faith in 35 00:02:11,200 --> 00:02:14,200 Speaker 1: our future, faith in ourselves, faith in God, faith that 36 00:02:14,760 --> 00:02:16,440 Speaker 1: even if we try it and it doesn't work, at 37 00:02:16,520 --> 00:02:18,520 Speaker 1: least we tried it. I always say, take the leap 38 00:02:18,560 --> 00:02:21,440 Speaker 1: of faith, take a risk. Life is all about taking risks. 39 00:02:21,840 --> 00:02:24,680 Speaker 1: And you have the hardest part down. You have your license, 40 00:02:25,240 --> 00:02:27,519 Speaker 1: you already have the knowledge, you know how to do it. 41 00:02:27,520 --> 00:02:29,720 Speaker 1: It's just putting yourself out there and not being afraid 42 00:02:29,760 --> 00:02:32,160 Speaker 1: I would love to ask you what are you afraid of? 43 00:02:32,560 --> 00:02:34,160 Speaker 1: You have to ask yourself that question is, well, what 44 00:02:34,240 --> 00:02:38,560 Speaker 1: am I afraid of? Really? Because anxiety comes and fear 45 00:02:38,600 --> 00:02:40,920 Speaker 1: comes from things that most of the time haven't even happened. 46 00:02:40,960 --> 00:02:43,320 Speaker 1: It all lives in our mind. So you have to 47 00:02:43,360 --> 00:02:47,000 Speaker 1: just really put that to this side and say, fuck it, 48 00:02:47,600 --> 00:02:49,920 Speaker 1: what do I have to lose. I know it's a 49 00:02:49,919 --> 00:02:52,520 Speaker 1: lot easier said than done, but honestly, it's just literally 50 00:02:52,560 --> 00:02:55,040 Speaker 1: just saying I'm going to try it. You're worried about 51 00:02:55,040 --> 00:02:57,720 Speaker 1: something that hasn't even happened, and you're paralyzing your own 52 00:02:57,800 --> 00:03:01,240 Speaker 1: growth with fear and when in reality you should just 53 00:03:01,280 --> 00:03:04,000 Speaker 1: be like, I know what's up. God gave me the knowledge. 54 00:03:04,040 --> 00:03:05,360 Speaker 1: I know how to do nails, I know how to 55 00:03:05,400 --> 00:03:08,640 Speaker 1: do makeup. Now I just got to do it. Just 56 00:03:09,160 --> 00:03:12,840 Speaker 1: do it, literally, just do it. Put yourself out there. 57 00:03:12,880 --> 00:03:16,040 Speaker 1: There's nothing. You're not going to lose anything by doing that, 58 00:03:16,440 --> 00:03:23,480 Speaker 1: I promise you. So I believe in you. You got this. Now. 59 00:03:23,560 --> 00:03:28,639 Speaker 1: Let's here from Azalaiya al Chinkies. I'm from No Noai, California, 60 00:03:28,800 --> 00:03:32,040 Speaker 1: and I'm on here to ask for your advice for 61 00:03:32,960 --> 00:03:36,200 Speaker 1: time management and to start in from my businesses. I'm 62 00:03:36,280 --> 00:03:40,120 Speaker 1: nineteen years old. I am another to my beautiful daughter 63 00:03:40,240 --> 00:03:43,160 Speaker 1: named Luna, she's six months old. I am a full 64 00:03:43,200 --> 00:03:47,120 Speaker 1: time medical assisting student. I have two businesses. I am 65 00:03:47,120 --> 00:03:52,760 Speaker 1: a certified eyelash technician and I have a bakery business 66 00:03:52,880 --> 00:03:56,360 Speaker 1: where I bake adventure speezy treats. And with that being said, 67 00:03:56,400 --> 00:03:59,160 Speaker 1: I have so much on my schedule that I feel 68 00:03:59,200 --> 00:04:01,720 Speaker 1: like I never have an enough time for myself care. 69 00:04:02,040 --> 00:04:05,280 Speaker 1: And I would love to have enough and more time 70 00:04:05,360 --> 00:04:08,640 Speaker 1: with my daughter and my boyfriend so we can spend 71 00:04:08,720 --> 00:04:12,360 Speaker 1: time together as a family. And I have a bunch 72 00:04:12,400 --> 00:04:16,000 Speaker 1: of trouble like sending my schedules and managing my time. 73 00:04:16,240 --> 00:04:19,240 Speaker 1: I want to grow my businesses because it's such a 74 00:04:19,320 --> 00:04:21,760 Speaker 1: struggle when you're first running off. So if you have 75 00:04:21,800 --> 00:04:24,160 Speaker 1: any advice for me, I would love to hear it. 76 00:04:24,760 --> 00:04:26,919 Speaker 1: And I just want to let you know that I 77 00:04:27,080 --> 00:04:29,839 Speaker 1: love you. I love your sibling. I watched you guys 78 00:04:29,880 --> 00:04:34,080 Speaker 1: growing up. I love Jenny Chickens and Chill ye other 79 00:04:34,240 --> 00:04:37,880 Speaker 1: so funny. I love you all. Thank you for listening. Goodbye. 80 00:04:38,560 --> 00:04:42,440 Speaker 1: As a Leia Mama, Si dam you are out of 81 00:04:42,480 --> 00:04:47,719 Speaker 1: balance and that's okay. We all have to be super again. 82 00:04:47,760 --> 00:04:50,839 Speaker 1: Here's this word intentional. You guys, it's my favorite word. 83 00:04:51,200 --> 00:04:53,440 Speaker 1: We all have to be super intentional about finding that 84 00:04:53,480 --> 00:04:55,920 Speaker 1: balance in our life. Okay, first of all, thank you 85 00:04:56,000 --> 00:04:57,760 Speaker 1: so much for loving my siblings. That makes my heart 86 00:04:57,800 --> 00:05:00,640 Speaker 1: so happy. Thank you, thank you for loving me. So 87 00:05:00,760 --> 00:05:03,760 Speaker 1: Now back to you. Okay, you have a family and 88 00:05:03,800 --> 00:05:06,479 Speaker 1: that's very important, and obviously you want to keep your 89 00:05:06,600 --> 00:05:08,679 Speaker 1: husband happy and you want to keep your babies happy. 90 00:05:09,360 --> 00:05:12,320 Speaker 1: So in order to do that, you really need to 91 00:05:12,320 --> 00:05:15,840 Speaker 1: find balance. I feel that you're biting more than you 92 00:05:15,839 --> 00:05:18,520 Speaker 1: can chew. And I love the fact that you are 93 00:05:19,279 --> 00:05:21,760 Speaker 1: doing a lot. Believe me, I do a lot as well. 94 00:05:21,880 --> 00:05:24,320 Speaker 1: But I've also learned my lesson to say, Okay, what 95 00:05:24,400 --> 00:05:27,240 Speaker 1: am I really really truly passionate about? And it's not 96 00:05:27,240 --> 00:05:29,360 Speaker 1: that you can't do everything. I just think right now 97 00:05:29,480 --> 00:05:31,479 Speaker 1: you need to focus on one or two things and 98 00:05:31,520 --> 00:05:32,920 Speaker 1: to say I'm going to do these things that I'm 99 00:05:32,920 --> 00:05:35,359 Speaker 1: going to do them great, I'm going to be the 100 00:05:35,400 --> 00:05:38,120 Speaker 1: best I possibly can at them, and then eventually start 101 00:05:38,120 --> 00:05:40,719 Speaker 1: bringing in other things so that you can find the 102 00:05:40,760 --> 00:05:44,520 Speaker 1: time for yourself. Yes, absolutely, because if you're not happy, 103 00:05:44,520 --> 00:05:46,800 Speaker 1: if you're not energized, if you're not content, then you 104 00:05:46,800 --> 00:05:49,320 Speaker 1: can't make everyone else around you, and your businesses won't flourish. 105 00:05:49,600 --> 00:05:51,800 Speaker 1: So you have to find time for yourself. And I 106 00:05:51,839 --> 00:05:54,800 Speaker 1: always say wake up early and read and meditate and 107 00:05:54,800 --> 00:05:56,720 Speaker 1: pray and all that good stuff. Work out whatever it 108 00:05:56,800 --> 00:06:00,320 Speaker 1: is that makes you happy, and really set that's schedule 109 00:06:00,320 --> 00:06:03,080 Speaker 1: of saying on Sundays, I'm not doing anything but being 110 00:06:03,080 --> 00:06:06,920 Speaker 1: with my husband and my daughter, Like you need to 111 00:06:06,960 --> 00:06:09,320 Speaker 1: do that. If not, it's going to cause issues in 112 00:06:09,360 --> 00:06:12,400 Speaker 1: your relationship. Your child is going to resent you. Like 113 00:06:12,480 --> 00:06:15,920 Speaker 1: you really need to say, mommy wife is working really 114 00:06:15,920 --> 00:06:18,160 Speaker 1: hard and has all these aspirations and I'm not telling 115 00:06:18,160 --> 00:06:20,280 Speaker 1: you to give up on those, but you also have 116 00:06:20,360 --> 00:06:23,000 Speaker 1: to take care of your loved ones and they have 117 00:06:23,080 --> 00:06:27,400 Speaker 1: to see oh, while she's really trying to find this time, 118 00:06:27,600 --> 00:06:31,520 Speaker 1: quality time for us and of course yourself. So does 119 00:06:31,560 --> 00:06:33,200 Speaker 1: that mean in the morning at night. I don't know 120 00:06:33,240 --> 00:06:36,760 Speaker 1: what your schedule looks like, but really really honing in 121 00:06:37,040 --> 00:06:40,240 Speaker 1: on this is what I'm really passionate about, and I'm 122 00:06:40,240 --> 00:06:44,240 Speaker 1: going to focus focus on that and really take a 123 00:06:44,320 --> 00:06:46,680 Speaker 1: day off. You need at least one day where you're 124 00:06:46,720 --> 00:06:50,760 Speaker 1: just not doing anything but being okay. I hope that 125 00:06:50,839 --> 00:06:58,200 Speaker 1: helps and I can't wait to hear from you again. Okay, 126 00:06:58,279 --> 00:07:02,520 Speaker 1: next step is Graciela. Hey, chickies, I just want to 127 00:07:02,560 --> 00:07:06,760 Speaker 1: start off by saying how gorgeous you are, not only 128 00:07:06,800 --> 00:07:10,000 Speaker 1: on the outside but inside as well. And I've seen 129 00:07:10,040 --> 00:07:13,240 Speaker 1: the growth throughout the years. I absolutely love it, and 130 00:07:13,280 --> 00:07:16,840 Speaker 1: I know your mom is so proud of you. I 131 00:07:16,880 --> 00:07:21,720 Speaker 1: did have a question. I was curious and kind of 132 00:07:21,720 --> 00:07:24,800 Speaker 1: thinking to myself. I know you guys had to sell 133 00:07:24,840 --> 00:07:28,239 Speaker 1: your mom's mansion. If it ever came on the market again, 134 00:07:28,920 --> 00:07:33,640 Speaker 1: would you consider repurchasing it? Would you live in it again? Hi, 135 00:07:33,720 --> 00:07:36,480 Speaker 1: Garcia La, thank you so much for following us, for 136 00:07:36,640 --> 00:07:40,480 Speaker 1: loving us. I'm so grateful and I love your question 137 00:07:40,760 --> 00:07:44,760 Speaker 1: because the crazy thing is, I think last year or 138 00:07:44,760 --> 00:07:46,280 Speaker 1: about a year and a half ago, it went on 139 00:07:46,320 --> 00:07:49,800 Speaker 1: the market Miss Vanessa and Nick Lache they put it 140 00:07:49,840 --> 00:07:52,200 Speaker 1: on sale or they put it up for sale, and 141 00:07:52,760 --> 00:07:55,800 Speaker 1: they put it for seven million dollars. Girl, and I 142 00:07:55,840 --> 00:07:57,800 Speaker 1: swear I thought about it. I was like, oh my gosh, 143 00:07:57,800 --> 00:07:59,640 Speaker 1: I'll say, but you know what, it wouldn't be a 144 00:07:59,680 --> 00:08:02,200 Speaker 1: good move for me right now. It's just a lot. 145 00:08:02,960 --> 00:08:06,400 Speaker 1: I would love to absolutely, I mean, I think it 146 00:08:06,440 --> 00:08:09,760 Speaker 1: would be amazing for sure, but it's not something that 147 00:08:09,800 --> 00:08:11,840 Speaker 1: I feel I need in order to be happy. It 148 00:08:11,840 --> 00:08:14,440 Speaker 1: would just be something like if I have that money 149 00:08:14,640 --> 00:08:18,000 Speaker 1: and I'd be able to live comfortably, then yeah, I'd 150 00:08:18,000 --> 00:08:20,680 Speaker 1: do it. To answer your question, I would, and I'd 151 00:08:20,680 --> 00:08:22,440 Speaker 1: see if all my siblings want to come and move 152 00:08:22,440 --> 00:08:25,000 Speaker 1: back in which I know those they're gonna be like, no, 153 00:08:25,080 --> 00:08:34,280 Speaker 1: you're crazy. But anyway, thank you for your question. Lastly, 154 00:08:34,320 --> 00:08:38,440 Speaker 1: this question is admitted by two listeners, Violet and Andres. Okay, 155 00:08:38,480 --> 00:08:41,920 Speaker 1: let's hear this and this is by Ladia, and we 156 00:08:41,960 --> 00:08:44,679 Speaker 1: have a very important question for you. Okay, I just 157 00:08:44,679 --> 00:08:47,640 Speaker 1: wanted to let I'm your biggest fan. I love you 158 00:08:47,720 --> 00:08:51,720 Speaker 1: so much, I appreciate you, and I just want to 159 00:08:51,720 --> 00:08:53,800 Speaker 1: know that I'm a big fan of your mom. And 160 00:08:53,880 --> 00:08:55,760 Speaker 1: I also wanted to let you know that I have 161 00:08:55,800 --> 00:08:58,079 Speaker 1: a teacher that knew your mother and that we're very 162 00:08:58,120 --> 00:09:00,960 Speaker 1: great friends. And I will wondering if you would come 163 00:09:01,000 --> 00:09:04,439 Speaker 1: to our school and visit that would be very great. 164 00:09:05,040 --> 00:09:09,480 Speaker 1: And my question is how do you continue persevering through 165 00:09:09,520 --> 00:09:13,079 Speaker 1: all the criticism and when people are telling you to 166 00:09:14,080 --> 00:09:16,480 Speaker 1: not do something and you continue finding the strength to 167 00:09:16,480 --> 00:09:18,800 Speaker 1: do it. Please get back at us as soon as 168 00:09:18,800 --> 00:09:22,440 Speaker 1: you can, oh, Valle Andres. You guys are so cute. 169 00:09:22,679 --> 00:09:25,600 Speaker 1: Thank you. I will definitely look into it. I don't 170 00:09:25,640 --> 00:09:27,280 Speaker 1: know where your school is. We got We need a 171 00:09:27,280 --> 00:09:30,880 Speaker 1: little bit more information, but I would love to absolutely 172 00:09:31,160 --> 00:09:32,960 Speaker 1: you two are so damn cute. Thank you so much 173 00:09:33,000 --> 00:09:35,960 Speaker 1: for your question. Okay, So it took me a while 174 00:09:36,000 --> 00:09:38,319 Speaker 1: to get to this point where I literally I don't 175 00:09:38,360 --> 00:09:40,200 Speaker 1: give a shit. I don't care what people say, what 176 00:09:40,280 --> 00:09:41,760 Speaker 1: they think about me, if they like me, if they 177 00:09:41,800 --> 00:09:44,360 Speaker 1: don't like me. For so long, I live my life 178 00:09:44,640 --> 00:09:47,079 Speaker 1: trying to seek the approval of other people. And it 179 00:09:47,200 --> 00:09:49,160 Speaker 1: started with my mother, and then it went on to 180 00:09:49,280 --> 00:09:52,439 Speaker 1: like boyfriends and friends and just the outside world. It 181 00:09:52,520 --> 00:09:54,760 Speaker 1: was just a place where I never want to go back. 182 00:09:55,240 --> 00:09:57,920 Speaker 1: And I finally learned and it clicked in my mind 183 00:09:58,520 --> 00:10:01,680 Speaker 1: that it doesn't matter if people don't like what I'm 184 00:10:01,760 --> 00:10:04,960 Speaker 1: doing as long as I love what I'm doing and 185 00:10:05,040 --> 00:10:08,000 Speaker 1: as long as I know that it's aligned with what 186 00:10:08,040 --> 00:10:11,800 Speaker 1: God wants from my life. I stopped listening to the 187 00:10:11,840 --> 00:10:17,199 Speaker 1: toxic voices and I just started listening to one, which 188 00:10:17,280 --> 00:10:19,880 Speaker 1: is my inner voice, which is the one that's connected 189 00:10:19,920 --> 00:10:22,360 Speaker 1: to God and the way that I know that I'm 190 00:10:22,400 --> 00:10:25,000 Speaker 1: on the right path on the right journey is because 191 00:10:25,040 --> 00:10:28,080 Speaker 1: I have peace in my heart Stida where I'm like 192 00:10:28,559 --> 00:10:31,160 Speaker 1: I could rest, and I know that this is making 193 00:10:31,160 --> 00:10:34,320 Speaker 1: me happy, this is my passion, this is my Godly purpose, 194 00:10:34,600 --> 00:10:39,160 Speaker 1: and I just I don't know. I know who I am, 195 00:10:39,280 --> 00:10:43,320 Speaker 1: I know what I'm here for and the negativity and 196 00:10:43,320 --> 00:10:45,040 Speaker 1: I just need to focus on the people that love me. 197 00:10:45,480 --> 00:10:47,360 Speaker 1: And it just took a little bit of practice until 198 00:10:47,360 --> 00:10:49,559 Speaker 1: one day I just didn't give a fuck. So that's 199 00:10:49,600 --> 00:10:52,280 Speaker 1: how it happened, really, andres is just knowing who you 200 00:10:52,360 --> 00:10:55,480 Speaker 1: are deep down inside in your heart. So thank you 201 00:10:55,520 --> 00:10:57,920 Speaker 1: for your question, and I hope I answered it like 202 00:10:57,960 --> 00:11:01,040 Speaker 1: with window. That's it for this week's sort of Dear Cheekies. 203 00:11:01,200 --> 00:11:06,480 Speaker 1: Thank you Adriana as Aleas. 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