1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:02,200 Speaker 1: My mom tried to force my sister and I to 2 00:00:02,200 --> 00:00:05,360 Speaker 1: make up. I'm cutting both of them out of my life. 3 00:00:05,440 --> 00:00:07,640 Speaker 1: The enemy of my enemy is my enemy. Get him 4 00:00:07,640 --> 00:00:10,680 Speaker 1: out of here. So background. I started dating my brother's 5 00:00:10,720 --> 00:00:13,200 Speaker 1: best friend when I was sixteen. We were together until 6 00:00:13,240 --> 00:00:16,480 Speaker 1: I graduated high school. When he proposed and I rejected it, 7 00:00:16,680 --> 00:00:19,000 Speaker 1: there was a lot of drama with my family asking 8 00:00:19,040 --> 00:00:22,760 Speaker 1: me to reconsider because we could have a long engagement 9 00:00:23,079 --> 00:00:24,960 Speaker 1: or make a promise to reconcile. 10 00:00:25,320 --> 00:00:30,920 Speaker 2: Wait, sixteen, Yeah, that's crazy. I had my first love. 11 00:00:31,160 --> 00:00:34,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, I graduated high school at any proposed. Yeah. 12 00:00:34,600 --> 00:00:36,080 Speaker 3: Wow, I mean that's how it goes. 13 00:00:36,320 --> 00:00:39,080 Speaker 1: It was like right right as they graduated. 14 00:00:38,520 --> 00:00:42,400 Speaker 2: Basically, so like like seventeen eighteen, seventeen eighteen. That's crazy 15 00:00:42,640 --> 00:00:45,280 Speaker 2: too much, that's I mean, I guess it's like old school, 16 00:00:45,320 --> 00:00:45,920 Speaker 2: you know, like. 17 00:00:45,960 --> 00:00:48,080 Speaker 1: It's yeah, it's old you're probably like all of our. 18 00:00:47,960 --> 00:00:50,879 Speaker 2: Great great grandfathers all got married at like eighteen. 19 00:00:51,040 --> 00:00:52,479 Speaker 3: Yeah, my grandpa, that's great for them. 20 00:00:52,600 --> 00:00:54,040 Speaker 2: Your granda got married at eighteen. 21 00:00:53,880 --> 00:00:57,120 Speaker 4: Yeah, he had My grandma had a kid at seventeen, yeah, 22 00:00:57,120 --> 00:00:59,400 Speaker 4: I know, and then they had another one at eighteen, 23 00:00:59,600 --> 00:01:01,200 Speaker 4: and then they had another one at twenty two. 24 00:01:01,200 --> 00:01:02,800 Speaker 1: Pumping them out as they do. 25 00:01:02,960 --> 00:01:05,200 Speaker 2: Good old days, Good old days. Now. 26 00:01:05,319 --> 00:01:08,479 Speaker 1: My relationship with my brother now thirty six suffered for 27 00:01:08,520 --> 00:01:10,959 Speaker 1: a while, but the one with my sister thirty two 28 00:01:11,360 --> 00:01:14,280 Speaker 1: never recovered. She was sure my ex was the best 29 00:01:14,319 --> 00:01:17,800 Speaker 1: fit for me and became unbearable when she started dating 30 00:01:18,080 --> 00:01:19,560 Speaker 1: my ex's brother. 31 00:01:19,840 --> 00:01:21,319 Speaker 2: You cannot do better. 32 00:01:21,480 --> 00:01:24,200 Speaker 1: You must marry this, but you have to do it. 33 00:01:24,680 --> 00:01:30,360 Speaker 1: High school is forever my exup. My ex was invited 34 00:01:30,520 --> 00:01:34,280 Speaker 1: everywhere by my siblings, even to some family holidays, but 35 00:01:34,440 --> 00:01:37,000 Speaker 1: I didn't say anything since he was their friend too, 36 00:01:37,200 --> 00:01:40,360 Speaker 1: That is until my sister started to push for us 37 00:01:40,600 --> 00:01:42,200 Speaker 1: to get back together. 38 00:01:42,440 --> 00:01:45,560 Speaker 4: Look, being biological sisters isn't enough. I would be sister 39 00:01:46,000 --> 00:01:49,320 Speaker 4: through marriage as well, right, Yeah, double. 40 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:52,000 Speaker 1: Sister, double sister. By the way, this comes. 41 00:01:51,720 --> 00:01:53,920 Speaker 2: From doublet sistering. 42 00:01:54,040 --> 00:01:57,800 Speaker 1: God dang, this comes from individual diamond six. So six 43 00:01:57,920 --> 00:02:01,160 Speaker 1: on the BRU updates spring it. So my sister did 44 00:02:01,240 --> 00:02:04,960 Speaker 1: everything from trying to get us onto blind dates to 45 00:02:05,120 --> 00:02:07,760 Speaker 1: making us share a room during the holidays that he 46 00:02:07,800 --> 00:02:10,840 Speaker 1: was invited to. No matter the occasion, my ex was 47 00:02:10,880 --> 00:02:13,400 Speaker 1: invited to it. After a while, I had had enough 48 00:02:13,520 --> 00:02:15,800 Speaker 1: and I asked my parents to intervene. They were clear 49 00:02:15,840 --> 00:02:18,760 Speaker 1: with my siblings and they stopped inviting my ex to 50 00:02:18,840 --> 00:02:21,640 Speaker 1: things or allowing him to tag along as much. It 51 00:02:21,680 --> 00:02:24,640 Speaker 1: was slightly better. But while my brother backed off, my 52 00:02:24,800 --> 00:02:27,600 Speaker 1: sister didn't. It all came to a crash when I 53 00:02:27,720 --> 00:02:31,000 Speaker 1: met my husband during a semester abroad. Well, you already 54 00:02:31,080 --> 00:02:32,560 Speaker 1: knew it from high school? What do you? 55 00:02:32,600 --> 00:02:33,720 Speaker 2: What do you? What are you doing? 56 00:02:33,800 --> 00:02:34,520 Speaker 3: What are you going abroad? 57 00:02:34,560 --> 00:02:34,720 Speaker 2: Man? 58 00:02:34,800 --> 00:02:38,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, he was from another university but the same country, 59 00:02:38,280 --> 00:02:40,960 Speaker 1: and we just clicked. It was magical for me, and 60 00:02:41,000 --> 00:02:43,440 Speaker 1: we got engaged after dating for just a year. 61 00:02:43,560 --> 00:02:46,280 Speaker 4: Dang, they go quick, they go quick, They go so 62 00:02:46,440 --> 00:02:50,120 Speaker 4: quick it goes lesbians, people from the South are just 63 00:02:50,160 --> 00:02:51,720 Speaker 4: turned eighteen, and then everyone else. 64 00:02:52,560 --> 00:02:55,920 Speaker 1: That's the fecking order. My family is very happy for me, 65 00:02:56,080 --> 00:02:58,960 Speaker 1: except for my sister. She kept insisting that I was 66 00:02:59,000 --> 00:03:01,000 Speaker 1: just in the honeymoon phase and I would grow out 67 00:03:01,000 --> 00:03:01,280 Speaker 1: of it. 68 00:03:01,480 --> 00:03:04,320 Speaker 2: That's a wild thing to say, as like you get 69 00:03:04,360 --> 00:03:06,480 Speaker 2: married to someone or it's like, oh, like I just 70 00:03:06,520 --> 00:03:09,440 Speaker 2: want to tell you I'm engaged. You're like, it's just 71 00:03:09,480 --> 00:03:09,919 Speaker 2: a fade. 72 00:03:13,160 --> 00:03:17,200 Speaker 1: What I clearly didn't and after many many many can't 73 00:03:17,200 --> 00:03:20,600 Speaker 1: express enough how many fights and attempts to reunite me 74 00:03:20,760 --> 00:03:22,960 Speaker 1: with my ex. I simply let her know that if 75 00:03:22,960 --> 00:03:25,520 Speaker 1: she pulled anything again, I will stop talking. 76 00:03:25,680 --> 00:03:28,040 Speaker 2: Is the ex down with all this too? Yeah? 77 00:03:28,080 --> 00:03:28,920 Speaker 3: What what does he do? 78 00:03:29,000 --> 00:03:32,079 Speaker 1: A good question? I mean he he does continue to show. 79 00:03:32,120 --> 00:03:35,040 Speaker 1: I mean he is friends with like the other siblings 80 00:03:35,040 --> 00:03:36,080 Speaker 1: and other people involved. 81 00:03:36,080 --> 00:03:39,720 Speaker 2: But like maybe maybe he or is he like, dude, 82 00:03:39,720 --> 00:03:40,600 Speaker 2: I don't want this either. 83 00:03:41,400 --> 00:03:42,720 Speaker 1: I kind of doubt it. 84 00:03:42,920 --> 00:03:44,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like he's on like because then he 85 00:03:44,800 --> 00:03:49,360 Speaker 2: was like like another blind date with this the same girl. Right. 86 00:03:49,400 --> 00:03:52,480 Speaker 1: I feel I feel like he's still in it because 87 00:03:52,520 --> 00:03:55,600 Speaker 1: then he would refuse like they keep being able to say, 88 00:03:56,200 --> 00:03:57,560 Speaker 1: because he's down for it. I feel like, what does 89 00:03:57,600 --> 00:03:59,640 Speaker 1: she do after that? Warning? Makes me her maid of 90 00:03:59,680 --> 00:04:02,080 Speaker 1: honor and then request that I spend all my time 91 00:04:02,120 --> 00:04:06,360 Speaker 1: with the bridal party aka my ex, and sets one 92 00:04:06,400 --> 00:04:09,480 Speaker 1: of her friends as my husband's date. 93 00:04:10,160 --> 00:04:13,680 Speaker 2: Wait, she's literally trying to break up their marriage and 94 00:04:13,920 --> 00:04:17,320 Speaker 2: using her wedding as a like a chess move. 95 00:04:17,440 --> 00:04:20,800 Speaker 1: Yes, she's like, oh your your your husband can walk 96 00:04:20,839 --> 00:04:21,760 Speaker 1: my friend down the aisle. 97 00:04:22,040 --> 00:04:24,520 Speaker 2: She's so cute. Yeah a lot, and just like choose 98 00:04:24,520 --> 00:04:25,240 Speaker 2: her hottest friend. 99 00:04:25,600 --> 00:04:28,320 Speaker 1: You will have dinner and just like hold her arms. 100 00:04:28,560 --> 00:04:30,920 Speaker 2: Something happens, like you know, you just walk down the together. 101 00:04:32,760 --> 00:04:34,440 Speaker 2: We didn't really also put them in the same room. 102 00:04:35,800 --> 00:04:38,000 Speaker 2: We didn't turned the heat on all the way. 103 00:04:37,960 --> 00:04:39,640 Speaker 3: That way where the pheromones. 104 00:04:39,720 --> 00:04:47,839 Speaker 2: So when the clothes go off where I spilled coffee over. 105 00:04:48,520 --> 00:04:51,320 Speaker 1: You order a bulk delivery of baby oil too? 106 00:04:52,200 --> 00:04:54,600 Speaker 2: God? Can we can? We can we order one of 107 00:04:54,640 --> 00:04:59,839 Speaker 2: those Amazon giant lube gallons. No, we can't be like Diddy. 108 00:05:00,040 --> 00:05:02,440 Speaker 2: Have you seen that? No way, Riley, pull it up. 109 00:05:02,440 --> 00:05:05,720 Speaker 2: Look up Amazon lube barrel bearrel. 110 00:05:06,920 --> 00:05:14,360 Speaker 1: Oh my god, a barrel five gallons, wonder water based. 111 00:05:14,520 --> 00:05:16,520 Speaker 3: That's good. It's only. 112 00:05:19,240 --> 00:05:19,600 Speaker 1: Hundred. 113 00:05:19,760 --> 00:05:21,599 Speaker 3: What goals do I need to hit in order to 114 00:05:21,640 --> 00:05:22,039 Speaker 3: get this? 115 00:05:23,279 --> 00:05:24,360 Speaker 1: What's the new goal? 116 00:05:24,480 --> 00:05:25,000 Speaker 2: Guys? 117 00:05:25,520 --> 00:05:28,000 Speaker 1: If we if we hit uh oh. 118 00:05:27,960 --> 00:05:28,320 Speaker 2: What is? 119 00:05:28,320 --> 00:05:29,840 Speaker 1: It's a pump too? 120 00:05:32,440 --> 00:05:35,680 Speaker 2: All right? Here we go, Here we go, Here we go? 121 00:05:35,800 --> 00:05:36,120 Speaker 1: All right? 122 00:05:36,440 --> 00:05:39,400 Speaker 2: John, tell me if I couldn't if we hit a 123 00:05:39,440 --> 00:05:43,760 Speaker 2: street a ten k stream, Yeah, we will buy a 124 00:05:43,800 --> 00:05:47,160 Speaker 2: barrel of lube and do the lube stream where we're 125 00:05:47,200 --> 00:05:48,640 Speaker 2: in a kiddie pool of loob. 126 00:05:49,000 --> 00:05:51,359 Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, I'll do that, and then we have to 127 00:05:51,360 --> 00:05:52,280 Speaker 3: oil each other up. 128 00:05:52,760 --> 00:05:54,520 Speaker 1: We need to use it at least for a purpose 129 00:05:54,760 --> 00:05:57,039 Speaker 1: like that's that's at least I can't just buy it 130 00:05:57,160 --> 00:05:58,240 Speaker 1: just to sit here. 131 00:05:58,279 --> 00:06:02,120 Speaker 2: Also clean up, that would problem this one. 132 00:06:02,200 --> 00:06:04,240 Speaker 3: Dude, we get we get a girl for Sam and 133 00:06:04,240 --> 00:06:04,720 Speaker 3: some loop. 134 00:06:05,360 --> 00:06:07,520 Speaker 1: God, dude, it's his time. 135 00:06:09,600 --> 00:06:12,640 Speaker 2: Is this one two thousand a little extra for the lady? 136 00:06:12,800 --> 00:06:18,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, don't be an Oh my god. Okay, anyway, we're 137 00:06:18,080 --> 00:06:20,760 Speaker 1: getting back to this story. Absolutely. 138 00:06:21,520 --> 00:06:23,560 Speaker 2: What is that? Is that a massagers? 139 00:06:23,600 --> 00:06:29,719 Speaker 3: Like a thumb thumb saber? That's I did not know 140 00:06:29,760 --> 00:06:30,320 Speaker 3: those existing. 141 00:06:30,360 --> 00:06:35,160 Speaker 1: That's actually a cool tool. Anyways, So we didn't realize 142 00:06:35,279 --> 00:06:37,679 Speaker 1: until we were at the reception and the poor girl 143 00:06:37,800 --> 00:06:40,440 Speaker 1: tried to make a pass at my husband. I guess 144 00:06:40,440 --> 00:06:42,560 Speaker 1: she didn't know, or maybe she did. 145 00:06:42,800 --> 00:06:45,600 Speaker 3: Maybe wait, sorry, the comments on this are hilarious. 146 00:06:45,920 --> 00:06:47,760 Speaker 2: What didn't last long? 147 00:06:48,360 --> 00:06:50,800 Speaker 3: I got it and ran out in a week. My 148 00:06:50,839 --> 00:06:52,719 Speaker 3: boyfriend and I use this for a slipping slide and 149 00:06:52,720 --> 00:06:55,800 Speaker 3: now I'm pregnant. Did he approved? Comes highly recommended? That 150 00:06:55,800 --> 00:06:58,800 Speaker 3: did he dirty? Dirty? Money himself dirty? 151 00:06:58,839 --> 00:07:00,280 Speaker 1: Did he very good? 152 00:07:00,320 --> 00:07:01,839 Speaker 3: Got it three weeks ago? Almost gone? 153 00:07:01,920 --> 00:07:06,960 Speaker 1: All right, that's the end of you're all in perfect. 154 00:07:07,440 --> 00:07:09,760 Speaker 1: So my sister said that since we are not married, 155 00:07:09,800 --> 00:07:12,000 Speaker 1: it was okay to explore things. 156 00:07:11,760 --> 00:07:13,679 Speaker 2: With other people. Oh my god. 157 00:07:13,880 --> 00:07:15,880 Speaker 1: I left the party, and the next day I spoke 158 00:07:15,920 --> 00:07:18,440 Speaker 1: with my parents and brother and explained that while I 159 00:07:18,520 --> 00:07:21,000 Speaker 1: won't make them choose, I will not talk to my 160 00:07:21,040 --> 00:07:23,480 Speaker 1: sister ever again, and if they've tried to fix stuff 161 00:07:23,480 --> 00:07:26,080 Speaker 1: between us, I will simply cut contact with them too. 162 00:07:26,240 --> 00:07:28,880 Speaker 1: My mom was devastated and tried to negotiate, but my 163 00:07:29,000 --> 00:07:31,480 Speaker 1: dad and brother said that they would respect my decision, 164 00:07:31,600 --> 00:07:35,240 Speaker 1: and apart from two attempts from my mom, I haven't spoken, written, 165 00:07:35,480 --> 00:07:39,800 Speaker 1: or done anything with my sister in the past six years. 166 00:07:41,360 --> 00:07:42,320 Speaker 1: Six years a. 167 00:07:42,360 --> 00:07:45,080 Speaker 2: Long time, I mean, but she's continuously proven that she's 168 00:07:45,080 --> 00:07:46,600 Speaker 2: not gonna respect Gopeace boundaries. 169 00:07:46,600 --> 00:07:48,880 Speaker 1: So she she gave her all the warnings she had 170 00:07:48,920 --> 00:07:51,680 Speaker 1: all the time in the world, and just kept if 171 00:07:51,720 --> 00:07:54,360 Speaker 1: anything just got worse, Yeah, so what are you gonna do? 172 00:07:54,680 --> 00:07:57,200 Speaker 1: My sister has tried everything to reconcile with me, from 173 00:07:57,240 --> 00:08:00,240 Speaker 1: gifts to tantrums, but I simply don't talk to were 174 00:08:00,280 --> 00:08:02,240 Speaker 1: at all. If we were at a family event or 175 00:08:02,240 --> 00:08:05,320 Speaker 1: a dinner, I simply act like she doesn't exist. At first, 176 00:08:05,400 --> 00:08:08,000 Speaker 1: she made snarky comments or tried to create drama, but 177 00:08:08,040 --> 00:08:10,720 Speaker 1: since nobody backed her up, she gave up. She did 178 00:08:10,760 --> 00:08:13,320 Speaker 1: have a meltdown when she was informed that she was 179 00:08:13,360 --> 00:08:16,080 Speaker 1: invited to my wedding but would not be a part 180 00:08:16,120 --> 00:08:19,000 Speaker 1: of the preparation. I mean, dude, for being no contact 181 00:08:19,080 --> 00:08:21,720 Speaker 1: and invite to the wedding is a huge w Yeah 182 00:08:21,760 --> 00:08:24,360 Speaker 1: for you, if you're trying to be in contact. 183 00:08:23,920 --> 00:08:28,000 Speaker 2: Maybe that's like the opportunity to kind of re re engage. 184 00:08:27,520 --> 00:08:29,960 Speaker 1: Maybe maybe maybe. Yeah, Yeah, that's like a test. 185 00:08:30,120 --> 00:08:31,800 Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, it's like all right, like if you go 186 00:08:31,880 --> 00:08:36,480 Speaker 2: to this wedding and you don't try to like pull 187 00:08:36,520 --> 00:08:39,560 Speaker 2: any crap, then maybe we're in good good graces again. 188 00:08:39,720 --> 00:08:43,920 Speaker 1: Yeah. She hijacks the bachelor party and just is like, hey, 189 00:08:44,120 --> 00:08:46,880 Speaker 1: just like whisk this guy away. I will literally pay 190 00:08:46,920 --> 00:08:49,520 Speaker 1: you a salary to marry this guy away. 191 00:08:50,160 --> 00:08:53,560 Speaker 2: God, a little finders feed. It's like, uh, what's it 192 00:08:53,600 --> 00:08:56,240 Speaker 2: called when like headhunters get a placement fee? 193 00:08:56,320 --> 00:08:59,200 Speaker 1: I think it's finer fighter. Yeah, gotta love it. My 194 00:08:59,240 --> 00:09:01,560 Speaker 1: brother says he fees feels guilty for going along with 195 00:09:01,600 --> 00:09:04,480 Speaker 1: it for so long, and his relationship with my ex 196 00:09:04,520 --> 00:09:07,800 Speaker 1: has suffered. Since my ex they still talk, but they 197 00:09:07,800 --> 00:09:11,480 Speaker 1: are not that close anymore. The issue my mom's birthday 198 00:09:11,559 --> 00:09:13,600 Speaker 1: was a couple of weeks ago, and I finally announced 199 00:09:13,640 --> 00:09:16,400 Speaker 1: that we were expecting our first child. Should be a 200 00:09:16,640 --> 00:09:19,599 Speaker 1: cause for celebration. Now, this is not the first grandchild 201 00:09:19,600 --> 00:09:22,679 Speaker 1: in the family, but is the first granddaughter. Everybody was 202 00:09:22,720 --> 00:09:26,800 Speaker 1: happy except my sister. My mom noted that and asked 203 00:09:26,840 --> 00:09:29,440 Speaker 1: me for tea the other day. My sixth sense told 204 00:09:29,480 --> 00:09:32,360 Speaker 1: me to not go, but I wanted to be positive. 205 00:09:32,360 --> 00:09:34,719 Speaker 1: It's like, hey, you know, you can explore as long 206 00:09:34,760 --> 00:09:37,080 Speaker 1: as you haven't birded the first child yet. You know, 207 00:09:37,400 --> 00:09:41,280 Speaker 1: we're just we're just moving the gold post right. The 208 00:09:41,360 --> 00:09:44,760 Speaker 1: first thing I noticed when I arrived was my sister's car. 209 00:09:45,400 --> 00:09:45,839 Speaker 2: Uh oh. 210 00:09:45,920 --> 00:09:50,079 Speaker 1: Then as I entered the door, there she was my sister, 211 00:09:50,360 --> 00:09:55,120 Speaker 1: her husband, my ex, and my ex mother in law. 212 00:09:55,240 --> 00:09:57,079 Speaker 2: Why are they always rolling as a squad? 213 00:09:57,520 --> 00:10:02,520 Speaker 1: This is the the worst power rangers of somebody. Possibly 214 00:10:02,679 --> 00:10:07,079 Speaker 1: I hate this. I also like his the ex's mom, 215 00:10:07,200 --> 00:10:08,040 Speaker 1: like this is crazy. 216 00:10:08,160 --> 00:10:09,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, why are they all in on this? And 217 00:10:09,960 --> 00:10:13,880 Speaker 2: also it's like, you know, like give up, give play up, bro. 218 00:10:14,920 --> 00:10:17,480 Speaker 1: Fifteen plus years later, I think she's thirty six. 219 00:10:17,600 --> 00:10:19,240 Speaker 2: That's ain't the notebook, dude. 220 00:10:19,679 --> 00:10:23,959 Speaker 1: You know those movies are not reality. Don't steal the 221 00:10:24,120 --> 00:10:25,120 Speaker 1: note first from them. 222 00:10:25,160 --> 00:10:28,439 Speaker 2: Well, I guess in the notebook they did steal them exactly. 223 00:10:28,960 --> 00:10:31,080 Speaker 1: Don't do that. It's like the whole it's like the 224 00:10:31,080 --> 00:10:32,439 Speaker 1: whole thesis of this show. 225 00:10:33,240 --> 00:10:35,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, but the thesis of the notebook is cheating is 226 00:10:35,640 --> 00:10:37,560 Speaker 2: good and it will lead to forever love, which is 227 00:10:37,760 --> 00:10:40,320 Speaker 2: bad except when they get dementia. 228 00:10:41,120 --> 00:10:43,160 Speaker 1: Oh my god. Anyways, so they wanted to have an 229 00:10:43,200 --> 00:10:47,880 Speaker 1: intervention since my childish tactic has gone for so long. 230 00:10:48,120 --> 00:10:50,440 Speaker 2: Childish tactic, b peace, childish tactic. 231 00:10:50,800 --> 00:10:54,240 Speaker 1: Apparently, my ex said that he was just trying to 232 00:10:54,280 --> 00:10:58,040 Speaker 1: be romantic, but he understands that I just couldn't appreciate it. 233 00:10:58,120 --> 00:11:01,320 Speaker 1: His mom said, I was just hurting my sister for 234 00:11:01,440 --> 00:11:04,960 Speaker 1: wanting the best for me, and she apologized already, So 235 00:11:05,040 --> 00:11:08,240 Speaker 1: I need to forgive her. Ex's mom, you are like 236 00:11:08,400 --> 00:11:11,440 Speaker 1: already irrelevant, already, no one should be a part of this, 237 00:11:11,520 --> 00:11:15,000 Speaker 1: but you are just like absolutely nothing. Yeah, dude, you 238 00:11:15,040 --> 00:11:18,720 Speaker 1: are so out of the circle, Like, please exist far 239 00:11:18,800 --> 00:11:22,319 Speaker 1: far away. I was just sending text to my family dad, brother, 240 00:11:22,360 --> 00:11:25,680 Speaker 1: and husband and looking at my mom in disbelief. My 241 00:11:25,760 --> 00:11:28,720 Speaker 1: brother in law had the kahness to tell me that 242 00:11:28,840 --> 00:11:31,640 Speaker 1: I was a hurtful person and that I need to 243 00:11:31,720 --> 00:11:34,360 Speaker 1: learn how to act like an adult since I'm having 244 00:11:34,400 --> 00:11:37,360 Speaker 1: a baby now. Huh. Then my mom began reading a 245 00:11:37,440 --> 00:11:41,920 Speaker 1: letter about how hurt she was that her daughters weren't close, 246 00:11:42,400 --> 00:11:45,920 Speaker 1: how my sister was wrong, but she was well intentioned, 247 00:11:46,040 --> 00:11:49,199 Speaker 1: et cetera, et cetera. Mom is like she's being. 248 00:11:49,240 --> 00:11:52,760 Speaker 2: I mean, I think maye like she I guess she is. 249 00:11:52,880 --> 00:11:56,200 Speaker 2: She's like well intentioned, like she wants she she wants 250 00:11:56,280 --> 00:11:57,160 Speaker 2: them to be happy. 251 00:11:57,280 --> 00:12:01,600 Speaker 1: But it's it's just so blown through, you know, it's 252 00:12:01,679 --> 00:12:03,600 Speaker 1: it's just so far over the. 253 00:12:03,520 --> 00:12:06,280 Speaker 2: Line that it doesn't It's like it's like, hey, like 254 00:12:06,360 --> 00:12:08,559 Speaker 2: I really want you to try this cake I made 255 00:12:08,640 --> 00:12:11,800 Speaker 2: for you. It's really delicious, and then the person's like, oh, 256 00:12:11,960 --> 00:12:14,120 Speaker 2: like I would love to, but I'm allergic to chocolate. 257 00:12:14,320 --> 00:12:17,120 Speaker 2: And then the person's like, no, you're gonna really like this, 258 00:12:17,240 --> 00:12:20,679 Speaker 2: and then just forces the chocolate cake down that person's 259 00:12:20,679 --> 00:12:23,400 Speaker 2: throat and then then you die. And it's like and 260 00:12:23,400 --> 00:12:25,080 Speaker 2: it's like I was just trying to help you enjoy 261 00:12:25,160 --> 00:12:27,280 Speaker 2: this cake, and it's like I don't want the cake. 262 00:12:27,400 --> 00:12:28,960 Speaker 1: And every person they've given to it is like, oh, 263 00:12:29,000 --> 00:12:29,520 Speaker 1: this is the best of. 264 00:12:29,480 --> 00:12:30,559 Speaker 2: The blah blah blah whatever. 265 00:12:30,720 --> 00:12:33,040 Speaker 1: But there's still there's no gun. They went bye bye. 266 00:12:33,200 --> 00:12:35,840 Speaker 1: That's what we're dealing with, some poisonous chocolate cake ladies 267 00:12:35,880 --> 00:12:38,640 Speaker 1: and gentlemen. Then my sister read her letter and began 268 00:12:38,800 --> 00:12:42,200 Speaker 1: crying and telling me basically another version of what the 269 00:12:42,280 --> 00:12:45,240 Speaker 1: rest did. I said nothing to anybody, just sat there 270 00:12:45,360 --> 00:12:48,880 Speaker 1: until my brother arrived. He was angry beyond anything I've 271 00:12:48,920 --> 00:12:51,559 Speaker 1: ever seen before. He grabbed my stuff and told them 272 00:12:51,559 --> 00:12:54,520 Speaker 1: all that he was really disappointed and disgusted. We went 273 00:12:54,520 --> 00:12:57,120 Speaker 1: outside and sat in his car until my dad and 274 00:12:57,200 --> 00:12:59,760 Speaker 1: husband drive by. Then I was just sobbing, and he 275 00:12:59,840 --> 00:13:04,520 Speaker 1: just kept saying sorry. I am unsure what happened in there, 276 00:13:04,720 --> 00:13:08,400 Speaker 1: but I sent everybody except mom an email with my 277 00:13:08,480 --> 00:13:11,280 Speaker 1: lawyer's number and info attached and stated I do not 278 00:13:11,400 --> 00:13:14,160 Speaker 1: wish to be contacted by any of them ever again, 279 00:13:14,559 --> 00:13:16,280 Speaker 1: and if they do, I. 280 00:13:16,200 --> 00:13:20,000 Speaker 2: Will call the police. I mean, that's a strongly worded letter. 281 00:13:20,080 --> 00:13:21,040 Speaker 1: Strongly worded letter. 282 00:13:21,080 --> 00:13:22,679 Speaker 2: Communicate to message. 283 00:13:22,400 --> 00:13:25,920 Speaker 1: Right nobody has contacted me if I know from my 284 00:13:26,040 --> 00:13:28,720 Speaker 1: dad that my mom and sister are hysterical. They told 285 00:13:28,800 --> 00:13:31,240 Speaker 1: him they hope to repair things and for my sister 286 00:13:31,400 --> 00:13:35,520 Speaker 1: to be in my baby's life, maybe possibly being a godmother. 287 00:13:35,920 --> 00:13:39,880 Speaker 2: Dude. You don't get promoted to godmother by being like 288 00:13:40,040 --> 00:13:43,559 Speaker 2: a god level troll, correct. You. You get kicked out 289 00:13:43,559 --> 00:13:46,400 Speaker 2: of your your your sister's life, that's you get. You 290 00:13:46,440 --> 00:13:49,559 Speaker 2: get banished, you get parent like straight into the depths 291 00:13:49,600 --> 00:13:51,680 Speaker 2: of hell. You're the devil mother, You're the devil. I 292 00:13:51,679 --> 00:13:54,320 Speaker 2: can't let my kid anywhere near you, exactly. But I 293 00:13:54,360 --> 00:13:56,319 Speaker 2: guess every kid needs a little devil and a little 294 00:13:56,360 --> 00:13:58,160 Speaker 2: angel on their shoulder, so maybe they need both a 295 00:13:58,200 --> 00:13:59,440 Speaker 2: godmother and a devil mother. 296 00:14:00,320 --> 00:14:03,520 Speaker 1: No, my dad is staying with my brother at the moment. 297 00:14:03,600 --> 00:14:06,200 Speaker 1: They support me, but some others in the family don't. 298 00:14:06,720 --> 00:14:09,040 Speaker 1: I've even had mutual friends call me since they are 299 00:14:09,080 --> 00:14:11,320 Speaker 1: worried about my sister's well being and asked me what 300 00:14:11,559 --> 00:14:14,840 Speaker 1: happened since she's now going by the narrative that my 301 00:14:15,000 --> 00:14:18,280 Speaker 1: husband is keeping me away from my family. I hate 302 00:14:18,320 --> 00:14:20,680 Speaker 1: having my business in public, but I did go to 303 00:14:20,720 --> 00:14:26,880 Speaker 1: the public route and posted on where else Reddit, Facebook, Facebook, 304 00:14:27,320 --> 00:14:30,560 Speaker 1: Facebook is just like going I feel like recently in 305 00:14:30,600 --> 00:14:31,600 Speaker 1: these stories it's been. 306 00:14:32,480 --> 00:14:37,160 Speaker 2: I didn't realize how much people just dish their personal stuff. Dude. 307 00:14:37,160 --> 00:14:41,920 Speaker 2: That's crazy, like not anonymously like the like publicly. Yeah, dude, 308 00:14:41,960 --> 00:14:43,160 Speaker 2: that's crazy, ude. 309 00:14:43,200 --> 00:14:44,840 Speaker 3: It goes wild in the South. 310 00:14:45,200 --> 00:14:48,800 Speaker 1: It's like it's like, uh, the strongest passive aggressive thing 311 00:14:48,840 --> 00:14:51,520 Speaker 1: you could do, because it's like not anonymous, it's clearly you. 312 00:14:51,880 --> 00:14:55,000 Speaker 4: But dude, quick, Okay, story time. There was a lady 313 00:14:55,000 --> 00:14:57,000 Speaker 4: that got mad at my dad were on Facebook and 314 00:14:57,160 --> 00:15:00,120 Speaker 4: like trashed them and the comment sections were hilarious. But 315 00:15:00,240 --> 00:15:03,200 Speaker 4: he did this weekend apologize to her. He saw her 316 00:15:03,200 --> 00:15:06,280 Speaker 4: and was like, hey, sorry, yeah, yeah, it happened like 317 00:15:06,320 --> 00:15:08,880 Speaker 4: two weeks ago she posted or in June, and I 318 00:15:08,920 --> 00:15:09,880 Speaker 4: told my dad about it. 319 00:15:10,240 --> 00:15:10,840 Speaker 3: I can show you. 320 00:15:10,920 --> 00:15:13,160 Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, that's so funny. But then he like went 321 00:15:13,240 --> 00:15:15,120 Speaker 4: up to and apologized, which was sweet. 322 00:15:15,160 --> 00:15:15,760 Speaker 3: I was like, good job. 323 00:15:16,280 --> 00:15:18,920 Speaker 2: I guess Facebook accomplished exactly what that woman wanted. 324 00:15:20,280 --> 00:15:21,160 Speaker 1: She got what you wanted. 325 00:15:21,240 --> 00:15:23,360 Speaker 4: But he he like does cash and the lady who 326 00:15:23,400 --> 00:15:25,760 Speaker 4: was like asking for for like credit card, he was 327 00:15:25,760 --> 00:15:27,720 Speaker 4: in the wrong. But anyways, the comments were like, well 328 00:15:27,760 --> 00:15:30,080 Speaker 4: maybe you should have read the sign in the first 329 00:15:30,080 --> 00:15:32,200 Speaker 4: place and like and then other ones. 330 00:15:32,080 --> 00:15:33,640 Speaker 3: Was like bad man. So it was mixed. 331 00:15:33,880 --> 00:15:34,840 Speaker 2: I want to see this post. 332 00:15:34,920 --> 00:15:36,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, we need we need a poll. 333 00:15:36,320 --> 00:15:39,400 Speaker 2: We want her read this post as a Reddit story. 334 00:15:39,480 --> 00:15:40,440 Speaker 3: You know what, why not. 335 00:15:42,200 --> 00:15:43,760 Speaker 1: At the end of this one, I got you there, 336 00:15:43,760 --> 00:15:46,720 Speaker 1: we go bonus. So I hate having my business in public, 337 00:15:46,720 --> 00:15:48,920 Speaker 1: but I did go the polychron and posted a long 338 00:15:49,040 --> 00:15:52,280 Speaker 1: Facebook post about everything that had happened. Sister, brother in law, 339 00:15:52,320 --> 00:15:55,280 Speaker 1: and X are being dragged, which, uh, even if it 340 00:15:55,320 --> 00:15:58,920 Speaker 1: wasn't one hundred percent intended, I feel is deserved. Now 341 00:15:59,080 --> 00:16:01,560 Speaker 1: my mom has been in consolable, which does make me 342 00:16:01,600 --> 00:16:03,840 Speaker 1: feel bad, but not as bad as she made me 343 00:16:03,920 --> 00:16:06,360 Speaker 1: feel with her little intervention. I agreed to have a 344 00:16:06,440 --> 00:16:08,400 Speaker 1: talk with her a couple of days ago and laid 345 00:16:08,440 --> 00:16:12,560 Speaker 1: the ground rules for any possible future interaction, including therapy, 346 00:16:12,720 --> 00:16:16,840 Speaker 1: family therapy, clear boundaries, no sharing information about me with 347 00:16:16,880 --> 00:16:20,280 Speaker 1: my sister, and separate holidays. Most important, if she ever 348 00:16:20,360 --> 00:16:23,520 Speaker 1: pulls anything like this again, she will for sure. 349 00:16:23,600 --> 00:16:24,360 Speaker 2: Be cut off. 350 00:16:24,400 --> 00:16:26,640 Speaker 1: She feels this is all too much, but is willing 351 00:16:26,680 --> 00:16:29,480 Speaker 1: to do it. She thought it meant immediate access to 352 00:16:29,600 --> 00:16:32,480 Speaker 1: baby news and it's all solved, but I told her 353 00:16:32,560 --> 00:16:34,960 Speaker 1: that this is a process and she needs to prove 354 00:16:35,280 --> 00:16:38,440 Speaker 1: that she has improved. My dad and brother refuse to 355 00:16:38,480 --> 00:16:41,000 Speaker 1: talk to my sister, and they keep apologizing for not 356 00:16:41,040 --> 00:16:44,040 Speaker 1: stopping it earlier. So now the dad and the brother 357 00:16:44,120 --> 00:16:46,360 Speaker 1: are also no contact with a sister. So she's like 358 00:16:46,520 --> 00:16:50,600 Speaker 1: she's becoming isolated right now, like everyone's leaving her. 359 00:16:50,680 --> 00:16:53,720 Speaker 2: Well, I mean deserve though deservedly. Yeah. 360 00:16:53,800 --> 00:16:56,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, we've forgiven them since they were able to move 361 00:16:56,560 --> 00:16:57,240 Speaker 1: on and grow. 362 00:16:57,400 --> 00:16:57,640 Speaker 2: Now. 363 00:16:57,760 --> 00:17:00,720 Speaker 1: My husband supports whatever I decide, but my mother in 364 00:17:00,840 --> 00:17:04,760 Speaker 1: law is unsure cutting my mom's access to her granddaughter 365 00:17:05,000 --> 00:17:09,520 Speaker 1: is the way to go, but says it's ultimately my decision. Yeah, 366 00:17:09,560 --> 00:17:13,040 Speaker 1: because it's dude, that would be crazy. Imagine like you're seeing, uh, 367 00:17:13,119 --> 00:17:15,560 Speaker 1: you know, your son's wife going through all this stuff 368 00:17:15,600 --> 00:17:17,720 Speaker 1: and everyone trying to get him back. I low key. 369 00:17:17,760 --> 00:17:20,879 Speaker 1: I feel like op Opie's husband has to step to 370 00:17:20,960 --> 00:17:24,680 Speaker 1: this X and be like, listen, buddy, never try this again. Yeah, 371 00:17:24,720 --> 00:17:25,320 Speaker 1: because like. 372 00:17:25,359 --> 00:17:26,800 Speaker 2: You gonna get a knuckle sandwich. 373 00:17:26,840 --> 00:17:29,800 Speaker 1: This is crazy. You might you might be catching these hands, dude. 374 00:17:30,080 --> 00:17:34,240 Speaker 2: All right, John, So you and yes, here we go. 375 00:17:34,480 --> 00:17:37,520 Speaker 2: Let's let's do it, all right, You and Nima we're here, 376 00:17:37,600 --> 00:17:44,080 Speaker 2: and Naima's sister is trying to set her up with 377 00:17:44,200 --> 00:17:47,200 Speaker 2: an X. What are you doing? And the ex exes down? 378 00:17:47,280 --> 00:17:49,080 Speaker 2: Sisters down? What are you doing to both? 379 00:17:49,240 --> 00:17:51,960 Speaker 1: I feel like because like this other guy, I'm like, 380 00:17:52,359 --> 00:17:54,800 Speaker 1: you know, you know, how I feel about these these 381 00:17:55,080 --> 00:17:56,320 Speaker 1: notebook type movies. 382 00:17:56,720 --> 00:18:00,640 Speaker 2: Listen, I hate the notebook type movies. I love him, 383 00:18:00,680 --> 00:18:02,440 Speaker 2: but I'm like, this is teaching. 384 00:18:02,200 --> 00:18:06,919 Speaker 1: The Primar's teaching poor morals to our society exactly, like 385 00:18:07,280 --> 00:18:09,960 Speaker 1: have there's got to be a better angle. You know, 386 00:18:10,320 --> 00:18:13,600 Speaker 1: forbidden love, you know that is forbidden love, but like 387 00:18:13,640 --> 00:18:20,400 Speaker 1: a different a different it. John, Oh my gosh. But yeah, 388 00:18:20,440 --> 00:18:23,560 Speaker 1: I feel like because like is trickier with the sister, 389 00:18:23,800 --> 00:18:26,600 Speaker 1: because like that's someone that you know, used to have 390 00:18:26,760 --> 00:18:28,800 Speaker 1: your your brother in law, sister in law, that is 391 00:18:28,840 --> 00:18:32,639 Speaker 1: your that is my wife's sister. But this other person, 392 00:18:32,720 --> 00:18:35,080 Speaker 1: I'm like, yo, you're here, just down to like steer 393 00:18:35,119 --> 00:18:36,760 Speaker 1: my steel, my girl. No, you know what I mean, 394 00:18:36,800 --> 00:18:38,400 Speaker 1: you have to be I feel like a lot more 395 00:18:38,400 --> 00:18:40,960 Speaker 1: intentional with with the sister, but with this other dude, 396 00:18:41,000 --> 00:18:42,720 Speaker 1: get him out, no, gone, be gone with you. 397 00:18:42,880 --> 00:18:45,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean he's like, he's he's nothing, he's nothing, 398 00:18:45,520 --> 00:18:47,600 Speaker 2: he's nothing. I think, like I don't know, like that's 399 00:18:47,760 --> 00:18:49,439 Speaker 2: the wind. Let him on fire a little bit, let 400 00:18:49,480 --> 00:18:52,280 Speaker 2: him on fire a little bit, like literally let him 401 00:18:52,320 --> 00:18:52,600 Speaker 2: on fire. 402 00:18:52,680 --> 00:18:56,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, the witch ah No, he says, closing out here. 403 00:18:57,119 --> 00:18:59,840 Speaker 1: So I am torn about what to do with my 404 00:19:00,600 --> 00:19:03,399 Speaker 1: and ladies and gentlemen. Uh, there's an update. There is 405 00:19:03,440 --> 00:19:07,400 Speaker 1: a lot more to go. God why but let's talk 406 00:19:07,440 --> 00:19:10,280 Speaker 1: about this. So OPI is now facing decision do I 407 00:19:10,359 --> 00:19:12,639 Speaker 1: keep going with do I do I keep up my 408 00:19:12,720 --> 00:19:13,760 Speaker 1: relationship with my mom? 409 00:19:14,760 --> 00:19:18,240 Speaker 2: And it's like, so context is basically sister keeps trying 410 00:19:18,280 --> 00:19:21,800 Speaker 2: to force this relationship between OP and this X level. 411 00:19:21,960 --> 00:19:24,400 Speaker 2: She's the main one, right and the mom is kind 412 00:19:24,400 --> 00:19:25,320 Speaker 2: of co opting it. 413 00:19:25,520 --> 00:19:28,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, she's playing, She's playing both sides basically. 414 00:19:28,240 --> 00:19:31,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think low contact, probably not no contact, but 415 00:19:32,000 --> 00:19:34,080 Speaker 2: because if you're like I don't think you can go 416 00:19:34,240 --> 00:19:37,040 Speaker 2: no contact if you're going to maintain a relationship with 417 00:19:37,119 --> 00:19:40,480 Speaker 2: your father and your your other siblings, it would be 418 00:19:40,680 --> 00:19:42,800 Speaker 2: very it would it would be impossible. So you have 419 00:19:42,840 --> 00:19:44,919 Speaker 2: to go low contact. But you can just kind of 420 00:19:44,920 --> 00:19:46,480 Speaker 2: say like, hey, like I really don't want to spend 421 00:19:46,520 --> 00:19:48,679 Speaker 2: time with you until you can respect this boundary and 422 00:19:48,720 --> 00:19:51,080 Speaker 2: you haven't respected it, and so until you're ready to 423 00:19:51,640 --> 00:19:53,600 Speaker 2: respect that, like this is going to be the nature 424 00:19:53,640 --> 00:19:54,359 Speaker 2: of a relationship. 425 00:19:54,440 --> 00:19:56,639 Speaker 1: I almost feel like she and this is basically I 426 00:19:56,680 --> 00:19:58,320 Speaker 1: think I think she did a great job laying out 427 00:19:58,359 --> 00:19:59,800 Speaker 1: like all the things she had to do and like, hey, 428 00:19:59,800 --> 00:20:02,160 Speaker 1: this is gonna be a process. But like I feel 429 00:20:02,200 --> 00:20:05,320 Speaker 1: like she could say it could be years before. And 430 00:20:05,359 --> 00:20:08,199 Speaker 1: she also remember as the the grand babies coming on 431 00:20:08,240 --> 00:20:09,200 Speaker 1: the way. 432 00:20:08,880 --> 00:20:13,280 Speaker 2: So she's, yeah, use that as an emotional leverage and manipulation. 433 00:20:13,680 --> 00:20:18,440 Speaker 2: That's what children are for. John says, exactly, ugly babies, 434 00:20:18,680 --> 00:20:21,600 Speaker 2: can you can use his bonds in your emotional schemes. 435 00:20:21,600 --> 00:20:24,200 Speaker 1: They're ugly, you might as well use them for leverage. 436 00:20:24,720 --> 00:20:29,480 Speaker 2: But yeah, twenty four that's why for me for sentence. 437 00:20:29,359 --> 00:20:31,680 Speaker 1: Here we go, I will ban all the ugly babies. 438 00:20:31,760 --> 00:20:31,960 Speaker 2: Yeah. 439 00:20:32,119 --> 00:20:34,320 Speaker 1: I think that she needs to maybe say, like, this 440 00:20:34,400 --> 00:20:37,520 Speaker 1: could be years before you could do something like you know, 441 00:20:37,680 --> 00:20:40,679 Speaker 1: taking taking the granddaughter out on like a you know, 442 00:20:40,880 --> 00:20:45,880 Speaker 1: grainy granddaughter day type things. Yeah, you know what what. 443 00:20:46,320 --> 00:20:50,600 Speaker 2: I'm reading, Kimberly finds. Yeah, message that is that is old? 444 00:20:50,960 --> 00:20:51,800 Speaker 1: I mean that is weird. 445 00:20:52,600 --> 00:20:53,480 Speaker 2: What does that mean? 446 00:20:54,320 --> 00:20:59,720 Speaker 1: Raly, don't click ahead, We're gonna keep it going here 447 00:21:00,640 --> 00:21:01,520 Speaker 1: into this next edit. 448 00:21:01,640 --> 00:21:06,520 Speaker 2: So oh, okay, she's quoting the notebook. You know you 449 00:21:06,520 --> 00:21:08,400 Speaker 2: want a raw dog in a home build because they 450 00:21:08,400 --> 00:21:10,280 Speaker 2: did it in like a home that they just built. 451 00:21:10,359 --> 00:21:10,760 Speaker 1: I see. 452 00:21:10,800 --> 00:21:12,639 Speaker 2: And then raw dog in decades old love and an 453 00:21:12,680 --> 00:21:16,199 Speaker 2: art studio, and then yeah, yeah, you know, yeah, Kimberly, 454 00:21:16,200 --> 00:21:16,600 Speaker 2: I get you. 455 00:21:16,720 --> 00:21:19,160 Speaker 1: That makes a lot more sense than I want. Toy 456 00:21:20,080 --> 00:21:22,480 Speaker 1: onto the edit. So as an edit, I wanted to post, 457 00:21:22,480 --> 00:21:23,720 Speaker 1: but I couldn't. I want to thank you all for 458 00:21:23,720 --> 00:21:25,840 Speaker 1: the amount of support and advice so far. I want 459 00:21:25,880 --> 00:21:28,520 Speaker 1: to give a little more info that is in my comments, 460 00:21:28,800 --> 00:21:30,680 Speaker 1: since there are too many for me to answer them 461 00:21:30,720 --> 00:21:33,080 Speaker 1: all individually. So my ex and I broke up when 462 00:21:33,080 --> 00:21:36,680 Speaker 1: I was eighteen. He is thirty seven. Now, okay, this 463 00:21:36,720 --> 00:21:37,680 Speaker 1: is a long. 464 00:21:37,760 --> 00:21:41,440 Speaker 2: Time older man, older man, not an old man, an 465 00:21:41,440 --> 00:21:42,040 Speaker 2: older man. 466 00:21:42,359 --> 00:21:44,520 Speaker 1: The reason for our breakup was that I didn't want 467 00:21:44,520 --> 00:21:47,880 Speaker 1: to get married or engaged. My sister's insistence comes from 468 00:21:47,880 --> 00:21:50,600 Speaker 1: the fixation of wanting the both of us to marry 469 00:21:50,600 --> 00:21:52,439 Speaker 1: brothers and being best friends. 470 00:21:52,840 --> 00:21:57,639 Speaker 2: Oh oh, so she has like this plan in mind. Yeah, 471 00:21:57,680 --> 00:22:00,520 Speaker 2: of like this perfect little family dynamic, and she is 472 00:22:00,720 --> 00:22:04,360 Speaker 2: so sold on that plan that she can't imagine anything other. 473 00:22:04,920 --> 00:22:07,800 Speaker 1: This is just like this you know Barbie Doll world, 474 00:22:07,840 --> 00:22:10,600 Speaker 1: where it's like, hey, we're all, hey, you married the brother. 475 00:22:10,680 --> 00:22:12,560 Speaker 1: I married the brother. It's so fun. We're doing all 476 00:22:12,560 --> 00:22:14,960 Speaker 1: this and it's like, how do you think you're building 477 00:22:15,160 --> 00:22:17,280 Speaker 1: this like amazing bond in friendship. 478 00:22:16,920 --> 00:22:20,440 Speaker 2: With this, Yeah, you realize you're destroying the bond by 479 00:22:20,440 --> 00:22:24,560 Speaker 2: trying to have this like fairy tale like brother on brother. 480 00:22:24,560 --> 00:22:29,760 Speaker 1: Action, complete insanity. My mom has always been so nice 481 00:22:29,760 --> 00:22:31,959 Speaker 1: to my husband, but I'm beginning to think that it 482 00:22:32,000 --> 00:22:34,800 Speaker 1: was all facade, which makes me very sad. My ex 483 00:22:34,840 --> 00:22:37,360 Speaker 1: has been with people since the breakup. He also has 484 00:22:37,400 --> 00:22:40,080 Speaker 1: two kids with an ex, but he's never been married. 485 00:22:40,200 --> 00:22:42,440 Speaker 1: My sister says that it is a very romantic thing 486 00:22:42,480 --> 00:22:45,720 Speaker 1: to do, since he has only ever wanted to marry me. 487 00:22:46,040 --> 00:22:50,960 Speaker 2: Dude, this ain't the notebook, Dude, I wrote you seventy 488 00:22:51,040 --> 00:22:52,560 Speaker 2: years in the rain. 489 00:22:53,000 --> 00:22:57,000 Speaker 1: I promised I wouldn't marry anyone, but you God. 490 00:22:57,280 --> 00:23:00,800 Speaker 2: Miss dude, I think it's just that you got no game. Yes, 491 00:23:00,880 --> 00:23:02,239 Speaker 2: that's really what it is. 492 00:23:02,480 --> 00:23:04,120 Speaker 1: My man definitely peaud in high school. 493 00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:05,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, man peaked in high. 494 00:23:05,920 --> 00:23:09,600 Speaker 1: He's still doing all of all of these like crazy 495 00:23:09,640 --> 00:23:13,000 Speaker 1: cartoonish things to try to win over the girl from 496 00:23:13,080 --> 00:23:15,760 Speaker 1: high school. My God. I should also mention his obsessive 497 00:23:15,840 --> 00:23:18,199 Speaker 1: behavior is not only with me. I know from the 498 00:23:18,200 --> 00:23:21,160 Speaker 1: grapevine he was very similar with the mother of his children. 499 00:23:21,280 --> 00:23:24,000 Speaker 1: But now he was refocusing on me because my sister 500 00:23:24,080 --> 00:23:28,040 Speaker 1: is encouraging it since she needs his help on getting. 501 00:23:27,680 --> 00:23:30,080 Speaker 2: Back marry But he has children. 502 00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:33,160 Speaker 1: He has two children, but didn't marry either of them. 503 00:23:33,320 --> 00:23:35,800 Speaker 2: Bro, what that doesn't even mean anything? You know what 504 00:23:35,840 --> 00:23:38,520 Speaker 2: I mean? If you're celibate for all that time, then 505 00:23:38,680 --> 00:23:39,159 Speaker 2: talk to me. 506 00:23:39,320 --> 00:23:41,480 Speaker 1: Well, you know what the sister's saying. She's like, cac 507 00:23:41,920 --> 00:23:45,040 Speaker 1: he never married them because you were the one he 508 00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:46,080 Speaker 1: was meant to marry. 509 00:23:46,119 --> 00:23:49,760 Speaker 2: Bro, it's easy not to marry people. It's super it's hard. 510 00:23:49,800 --> 00:23:51,040 Speaker 2: It's hard to marry someone. 511 00:23:51,200 --> 00:23:51,640 Speaker 1: Correct. 512 00:23:52,080 --> 00:23:54,879 Speaker 2: He's just taking the path of least resistant. If he 513 00:23:55,000 --> 00:23:57,560 Speaker 2: was like a monk and he's like I was celibate 514 00:23:57,680 --> 00:24:01,000 Speaker 2: for like seventeen years, then I would be like, and it's. 515 00:24:00,960 --> 00:24:03,080 Speaker 1: Only for you or not only for you, not even 516 00:24:03,200 --> 00:24:05,520 Speaker 1: my He lives in regular society. But it's like I 517 00:24:05,560 --> 00:24:08,440 Speaker 1: did not give into temptation because I didn't want anyone else. 518 00:24:08,600 --> 00:24:11,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you know what. It's creepy, but I might 519 00:24:11,640 --> 00:24:12,480 Speaker 2: have respect for that. 520 00:24:12,640 --> 00:24:16,040 Speaker 1: There's heterosexual, there's homosexual. I'm you sexual. 521 00:24:16,119 --> 00:24:21,840 Speaker 2: Yeah ooh oohoo, come on now, thanks, John, says Tanaima. 522 00:24:21,960 --> 00:24:24,280 Speaker 1: Sure, I know from the grape vine he was very 523 00:24:24,280 --> 00:24:26,120 Speaker 1: similar with the mother of his children. But now you're 524 00:24:26,119 --> 00:24:28,480 Speaker 1: focusing on me because my sister is encouraging it since 525 00:24:28,520 --> 00:24:30,520 Speaker 1: she needs this help on getting back into my good 526 00:24:30,520 --> 00:24:33,119 Speaker 1: graces so she can be a good aunt. My brother 527 00:24:33,280 --> 00:24:35,280 Speaker 1: did start to cut him off when I told my 528 00:24:35,359 --> 00:24:38,040 Speaker 1: parents I was very uncomfortable with my ex around all 529 00:24:38,080 --> 00:24:40,800 Speaker 1: the time I was living away for college, but would 530 00:24:40,840 --> 00:24:43,120 Speaker 1: visit my family during the breaks. He also made a 531 00:24:43,240 --> 00:24:46,440 Speaker 1: very big effort to make my husband feel welcome, which 532 00:24:46,480 --> 00:24:50,439 Speaker 1: deteriorated his relationship with my ex even more because he 533 00:24:50,520 --> 00:24:54,240 Speaker 1: felt betrayed by my brother. I think saying like the 534 00:24:54,359 --> 00:24:57,480 Speaker 1: brother tried to he was also made a very big 535 00:24:57,520 --> 00:25:01,600 Speaker 1: effort to make my husband feel welcome, which deteriorated the relationship. 536 00:25:01,720 --> 00:25:04,120 Speaker 1: I guess the brother was making the X feel comfortable, 537 00:25:04,160 --> 00:25:07,520 Speaker 1: which materia the relationship there. But nowadays my husband is 538 00:25:07,520 --> 00:25:10,240 Speaker 1: one of my brother's closest friends and he only speaks 539 00:25:10,280 --> 00:25:12,920 Speaker 1: with my ex when it's about our nephew, sister, son, 540 00:25:13,160 --> 00:25:15,280 Speaker 1: or not to be rude. Both of my parents seem 541 00:25:15,359 --> 00:25:17,840 Speaker 1: to be supportive of me not wanting to be around 542 00:25:17,840 --> 00:25:20,280 Speaker 1: my ex so much, but I guess only my dad 543 00:25:20,520 --> 00:25:22,880 Speaker 1: was in agreement. On the day of the tea party. 544 00:25:23,080 --> 00:25:25,560 Speaker 1: My mom told him that she was making me my 545 00:25:25,640 --> 00:25:28,399 Speaker 1: favorite tea in sweets, but he couldn't stay since we 546 00:25:28,440 --> 00:25:30,840 Speaker 1: would have quality time together. My dad left to go 547 00:25:30,920 --> 00:25:33,040 Speaker 1: hang with my uncle since he thought it would be 548 00:25:33,119 --> 00:25:36,200 Speaker 1: a nice sentiment for my mom. He is very pissed off, 549 00:25:36,240 --> 00:25:37,800 Speaker 1: so she got the dad out of the house for 550 00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:40,480 Speaker 1: the whole intervention. My husband tried very hard with my 551 00:25:40,600 --> 00:25:43,320 Speaker 1: sister when they met, but now he just ignores her 552 00:25:43,400 --> 00:25:45,600 Speaker 1: and believes she's mentally unwell. 553 00:25:45,800 --> 00:25:48,199 Speaker 2: Dude, that's what I was thinking, Like, having this like 554 00:25:48,320 --> 00:25:51,159 Speaker 2: vision in your head of what the perfect sister relationship 555 00:25:51,160 --> 00:25:53,760 Speaker 2: would be, like, I think being so fixated on that 556 00:25:53,880 --> 00:25:56,320 Speaker 2: feels like you got a screw loose. 557 00:25:56,480 --> 00:25:59,880 Speaker 1: There's something going on there. And yeah, it's like see 558 00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:02,800 Speaker 1: a mental health professional for this, Like I wonder if 559 00:26:02,840 --> 00:26:08,000 Speaker 1: anyone has said something, yeah, crazy, she probably wouldn't take 560 00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:09,440 Speaker 1: it well. But like it's I. 561 00:26:09,359 --> 00:26:11,359 Speaker 2: Mean, she's not taking anything well. 562 00:26:11,440 --> 00:26:15,600 Speaker 1: Yeah truth, Yeah, we don't know if she is or 563 00:26:15,640 --> 00:26:18,680 Speaker 1: not mentally unwell. That is still there is no excuse 564 00:26:18,760 --> 00:26:19,720 Speaker 1: for how she behaves. 565 00:26:19,840 --> 00:26:22,120 Speaker 2: A grade a great mental illness is not an excuse. 566 00:26:22,280 --> 00:26:25,600 Speaker 2: It is a way, a path towards understanding how to 567 00:26:25,640 --> 00:26:26,000 Speaker 2: get better. 568 00:26:26,040 --> 00:26:28,400 Speaker 1: They invited the X and his mom because they thought 569 00:26:28,400 --> 00:26:30,320 Speaker 1: it would be good for me to face the root 570 00:26:30,359 --> 00:26:33,200 Speaker 1: of my issues with my sister, or at least that 571 00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:37,000 Speaker 1: is their official version. Also, we are not Indian, not 572 00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:40,080 Speaker 1: really religious. My husband and I are from the same race. Again, 573 00:26:40,119 --> 00:26:42,240 Speaker 1: this is answering like a bunch of questions in the comments. 574 00:26:42,280 --> 00:26:45,520 Speaker 1: There is also no wealth disparity between my ex and 575 00:26:45,560 --> 00:26:48,159 Speaker 1: my husband. If there is, it would be in my 576 00:26:48,359 --> 00:26:52,000 Speaker 1: favor to my husband, meaning Opie got that bread, let's go, 577 00:26:52,160 --> 00:26:56,080 Speaker 1: she need no get Lastly, my sister in law's, my 578 00:26:56,240 --> 00:27:00,760 Speaker 1: brother's wife, and my husband's sisters are enraged the situation. 579 00:27:00,960 --> 00:27:03,480 Speaker 1: My husband and his sisters will be talking with their 580 00:27:03,520 --> 00:27:06,320 Speaker 1: mom about her comment. My brother and his wife are 581 00:27:06,359 --> 00:27:10,280 Speaker 1: considering going no contact with my mom permanently. Wow, so 582 00:27:10,400 --> 00:27:13,280 Speaker 1: that even her her brother and sister in law. 583 00:27:13,280 --> 00:27:15,680 Speaker 2: How are you gonna go no contact with your mom 584 00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:18,239 Speaker 2: and be in contact with your dad? I don't get that. 585 00:27:18,280 --> 00:27:20,240 Speaker 1: I mean I could see a way. It's not perfect, 586 00:27:20,560 --> 00:27:21,880 Speaker 1: but basically. 587 00:27:21,600 --> 00:27:23,360 Speaker 2: Like low contact or it's not no contact. 588 00:27:23,560 --> 00:27:26,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean it's like maybe virtually no contact because 589 00:27:26,760 --> 00:27:28,760 Speaker 1: you could, like like op for instance, she ignored her 590 00:27:28,760 --> 00:27:30,920 Speaker 1: sister at the family gatherings and stuff like that. I 591 00:27:30,920 --> 00:27:33,760 Speaker 1: don't know, but in the meanwhile, they will not allow 592 00:27:33,800 --> 00:27:36,280 Speaker 1: her to see my nephews for a bit. The more 593 00:27:36,280 --> 00:27:38,359 Speaker 1: I read, the more I think I might have to 594 00:27:38,359 --> 00:27:41,359 Speaker 1: go no contact with my mom for the sake of 595 00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:44,480 Speaker 1: my kid. My husband is still heartbroken to think all 596 00:27:44,520 --> 00:27:48,480 Speaker 1: their interactions were faked, but says he is even more enraged. 597 00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:51,040 Speaker 1: She made me cry and doubt that I was a 598 00:27:51,040 --> 00:27:54,760 Speaker 1: good person. I realized there are still countless conversations to 599 00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:57,600 Speaker 1: be had with my family about my mom. But I 600 00:27:57,640 --> 00:28:01,000 Speaker 1: will be definitely going for a restraining or against my 601 00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:05,720 Speaker 1: sister and the X. And there is another another. 602 00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:08,480 Speaker 2: Another update right after that. My god, a thick one. 603 00:28:08,640 --> 00:28:10,600 Speaker 2: My goodness, the updates don't stop. 604 00:28:10,720 --> 00:28:13,520 Speaker 1: I'm gonna ask you the same question, no contact with mom. 605 00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:16,080 Speaker 2: I mean, I still stand by the low contact thing 606 00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:18,720 Speaker 2: that we said earlier, Like I just, I just I 607 00:28:18,720 --> 00:28:21,760 Speaker 2: don't know, And it's more of just like a out 608 00:28:21,800 --> 00:28:24,560 Speaker 2: of logistics, like I don't know how you're going to 609 00:28:24,640 --> 00:28:27,760 Speaker 2: be no contact with your mom and have any kind 610 00:28:27,800 --> 00:28:28,880 Speaker 2: of contact with your dad. 611 00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:31,399 Speaker 1: Anytime she's like if you're on FaceTime, she comes to 612 00:28:31,400 --> 00:28:33,760 Speaker 1: the background, You're you're at the dad's house. No, not 613 00:28:33,800 --> 00:28:36,080 Speaker 1: even nope, just you just walk away, like every time, 614 00:28:36,119 --> 00:28:37,480 Speaker 1: every time you come in, I just walk away. 615 00:28:37,560 --> 00:28:38,880 Speaker 2: Yeah. I don't know. I feel like that would hurt 616 00:28:38,880 --> 00:28:39,920 Speaker 2: your relationship with your dad. 617 00:28:40,000 --> 00:28:43,840 Speaker 1: It would be, it would be inconvenient, but it's it's possible, 618 00:28:44,280 --> 00:28:44,760 Speaker 1: it can't be. 619 00:28:44,840 --> 00:28:46,400 Speaker 2: No, I don't think it's worth it. 620 00:28:46,440 --> 00:28:49,680 Speaker 1: Would you would you try to convince the brother and 621 00:28:49,840 --> 00:28:51,920 Speaker 1: your brother and your sister in law to not cut 622 00:28:51,920 --> 00:28:53,640 Speaker 1: off the moment because they're they're thinking of going no 623 00:28:53,760 --> 00:28:54,479 Speaker 1: contact themselves. 624 00:28:54,560 --> 00:28:55,400 Speaker 2: Do not cut off? 625 00:28:55,480 --> 00:28:57,520 Speaker 1: Yeah? Because yeah? Because the Yeah, the brother and the 626 00:28:57,560 --> 00:28:59,720 Speaker 1: sister in law basically in like solidarity and being like, 627 00:28:59,760 --> 00:29:02,080 Speaker 1: yo is so fed up. They're like, Yo, we're gonna 628 00:29:02,080 --> 00:29:04,200 Speaker 1: go no contact with mom is what they're thinking of 629 00:29:04,240 --> 00:29:06,280 Speaker 1: doing right now. Would you like, Yo, you don't need 630 00:29:06,320 --> 00:29:06,920 Speaker 1: to do all that. 631 00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:09,920 Speaker 2: I mean, you don't need to do that for me, Yeah, 632 00:29:09,920 --> 00:29:11,440 Speaker 2: but if you want to do it for your own reasons, 633 00:29:11,440 --> 00:29:12,120 Speaker 2: then you can. Yeah. 634 00:29:12,120 --> 00:29:12,800 Speaker 1: Would you like out? 635 00:29:12,800 --> 00:29:15,760 Speaker 2: Would you like basically demand I wouldn't demand anything. 636 00:29:15,640 --> 00:29:17,280 Speaker 1: Demand, but would you go out of your way to 637 00:29:17,280 --> 00:29:19,480 Speaker 1: at least say like, hey, just so you know, like 638 00:29:19,520 --> 00:29:20,560 Speaker 1: you don't have to do this for me? 639 00:29:20,880 --> 00:29:23,480 Speaker 2: Probably? Or probably I think that's just to communicate. 640 00:29:23,840 --> 00:29:25,560 Speaker 1: But yeah, big decision. 641 00:29:25,720 --> 00:29:28,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's uh, it's it's hard going no contact with it. 642 00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:31,640 Speaker 2: It would be it's hard going no contact with half 643 00:29:31,720 --> 00:29:34,840 Speaker 2: of our relations Yeah, it's pretty hard. Yeah. And then 644 00:29:34,960 --> 00:29:37,840 Speaker 2: especially if that half that relationship is your relationship is 645 00:29:37,880 --> 00:29:39,480 Speaker 2: your mom and dear dad parents. 646 00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:42,240 Speaker 1: Probably the hardest, hardest one, probably the hardest one. Well, 647 00:29:42,440 --> 00:29:45,080 Speaker 1: the proper semi update. So the state of my family 648 00:29:45,120 --> 00:29:47,320 Speaker 1: so far. I had a conversation with my mother. She 649 00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:49,880 Speaker 1: insists that she knew best I am a bad person, 650 00:29:50,040 --> 00:29:53,240 Speaker 1: and she will be getting grandparents' rights or even custody. 651 00:29:53,280 --> 00:29:55,480 Speaker 1: So now now Mom's flip than is like on the 652 00:29:55,600 --> 00:29:59,160 Speaker 1: on the offense, she's like, I'm gonna sue for grandparent. 653 00:29:59,480 --> 00:30:04,560 Speaker 2: That is, I don't think that is a thing. A thing. 654 00:30:04,600 --> 00:30:06,200 Speaker 1: Maybe I think it might be a thing for like 655 00:30:06,520 --> 00:30:08,680 Speaker 1: if the parents aren't involved and they're getting like adopted 656 00:30:08,720 --> 00:30:11,040 Speaker 1: and like that kind of thing. I think it is 657 00:30:11,080 --> 00:30:12,080 Speaker 1: a thing, but not the way that. 658 00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:13,200 Speaker 2: She's saying it. Ya. 659 00:30:13,760 --> 00:30:16,240 Speaker 1: I don't care what she says, but I'm still panicked. 660 00:30:16,400 --> 00:30:18,280 Speaker 1: So we sent her a letter about it. My dad 661 00:30:18,320 --> 00:30:21,680 Speaker 1: moved out definitely. Wow. He told her that he could 662 00:30:21,720 --> 00:30:25,200 Speaker 1: not co sign on her terrorizing his kid. My brother 663 00:30:25,280 --> 00:30:28,880 Speaker 1: and his wife have also fully decided to go no contact. 664 00:30:29,160 --> 00:30:32,320 Speaker 2: Wow. Okay, I guess that takes care of it being 665 00:30:32,440 --> 00:30:33,680 Speaker 2: hard to go no contact. 666 00:30:33,720 --> 00:30:34,400 Speaker 1: See. 667 00:30:34,640 --> 00:30:36,400 Speaker 2: Wow, it kind of resolved. 668 00:30:37,280 --> 00:30:39,400 Speaker 1: I know it seems very sudden, but I think I 669 00:30:39,600 --> 00:30:42,680 Speaker 1: undertold the level of despair I had after the intervention. 670 00:30:43,000 --> 00:30:45,920 Speaker 1: My husband told them afterwards they had to think very 671 00:30:45,960 --> 00:30:49,360 Speaker 1: well about what they had, about what they had appreciated, 672 00:30:49,560 --> 00:30:52,240 Speaker 1: and to be kind and receptive to everything, but would 673 00:30:52,240 --> 00:30:56,640 Speaker 1: not raise a kid in a toxic environment. Reason three million, 674 00:30:56,680 --> 00:30:58,760 Speaker 1: two hundred seventy one thousand and six hundred and thirty 675 00:30:58,800 --> 00:31:01,720 Speaker 1: seven Why I love my husdute. My husband is very 676 00:31:01,920 --> 00:31:04,760 Speaker 1: heartbroken with my mom in her fakeness. He says that 677 00:31:04,880 --> 00:31:07,440 Speaker 1: she will never get anything from him, that is as 678 00:31:07,480 --> 00:31:10,600 Speaker 1: far as revenge goes. Here. My husband and sisters talk 679 00:31:10,680 --> 00:31:12,760 Speaker 1: to my mother in law about our comment and made 680 00:31:12,800 --> 00:31:15,840 Speaker 1: her understand why it was very out of pocket. As 681 00:31:15,920 --> 00:31:18,600 Speaker 1: many of you assumed. She is a very loving mom 682 00:31:18,800 --> 00:31:21,000 Speaker 1: from a very loving family, so I think she was 683 00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:23,040 Speaker 1: just like, you know, oh, like she just hated to 684 00:31:23,080 --> 00:31:27,000 Speaker 1: see the mother daughter bond besevered, you know, at the empathy. 685 00:31:27,520 --> 00:31:30,400 Speaker 1: My dad and brother kept apologizing for any role they 686 00:31:30,400 --> 00:31:33,000 Speaker 1: played in this. My dad can't believe that it went 687 00:31:33,040 --> 00:31:35,680 Speaker 1: to this point. He says, it is still surreal for 688 00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:38,920 Speaker 1: him regardless. They support me no matter what, and they 689 00:31:38,960 --> 00:31:41,680 Speaker 1: say that they are willing to help me fight whatever 690 00:31:41,880 --> 00:31:45,560 Speaker 1: ridiculous fight my mom and my sister put up. There's 691 00:31:45,560 --> 00:31:46,880 Speaker 1: an update eight days later. 692 00:31:47,160 --> 00:31:51,120 Speaker 2: Oh my god, this is the story that just keeps going. 693 00:31:51,600 --> 00:31:52,040 Speaker 1: It's happening. 694 00:31:52,080 --> 00:31:53,360 Speaker 2: There's more crushing me. 695 00:31:53,840 --> 00:31:56,960 Speaker 1: What do we think? So basically, I think where all 696 00:31:56,960 --> 00:31:59,560 Speaker 1: signs are pointing to mom went from like oh, forgive me, 697 00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:01,680 Speaker 1: I'm so sorry to now is like I'm suing you 698 00:32:01,800 --> 00:32:04,800 Speaker 1: for for grand parental rights and I'm gonna I'm gonna 699 00:32:04,800 --> 00:32:07,320 Speaker 1: fight this out. Is there? Do we have any conspiracy 700 00:32:07,400 --> 00:32:10,360 Speaker 1: theories on what mom and sister are gonna cook up next? 701 00:32:10,440 --> 00:32:11,880 Speaker 1: Are they cooking something up next? 702 00:32:12,120 --> 00:32:14,000 Speaker 2: I have no idea, but I have a feeling it's 703 00:32:14,000 --> 00:32:17,520 Speaker 2: gonna have to do with the X. Yeah, dude, he 704 00:32:17,560 --> 00:32:19,640 Speaker 2: puts a mustache on and it's like, I want you 705 00:32:19,680 --> 00:32:23,160 Speaker 2: to hurt me out this new algible bachelor, or they 706 00:32:23,240 --> 00:32:26,240 Speaker 2: dress him exactly as Opie's husband, if. 707 00:32:26,120 --> 00:32:28,080 Speaker 1: They just give him a full make over to look 708 00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:29,600 Speaker 1: back to like that husband. 709 00:32:29,680 --> 00:32:31,840 Speaker 2: Oh this is I don't know where your husband went. 710 00:32:31,880 --> 00:32:34,160 Speaker 2: He's right here. And then like they've just like trapped 711 00:32:34,160 --> 00:32:35,920 Speaker 2: that real husband in a basement or something. 712 00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:38,960 Speaker 1: He's just like the Great Value Great Value brand version 713 00:32:39,000 --> 00:32:42,680 Speaker 1: of Opie's husband. Dude. Wow, gentlemen, let's get an update. 714 00:32:42,760 --> 00:32:46,440 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. Another eight or nine days later, update 715 00:32:46,560 --> 00:32:49,240 Speaker 1: number two. Opie says, final update. Will it be We're 716 00:32:49,280 --> 00:32:50,959 Speaker 1: gonna have to stick around to find out, or I 717 00:32:51,000 --> 00:32:53,280 Speaker 1: hope it is. Opie says, I want to thank the 718 00:32:53,360 --> 00:32:56,680 Speaker 1: lovely messages and encouraging words that I got. I decided 719 00:32:56,680 --> 00:32:58,480 Speaker 1: to post it here so it won't be deleted like 720 00:32:58,480 --> 00:33:01,040 Speaker 1: the original was. Things are great and horrible at the 721 00:33:01,080 --> 00:33:04,280 Speaker 1: same time, but I am trying to remain positive about everything. 722 00:33:04,320 --> 00:33:06,800 Speaker 1: My brother and his wife sat my nephew's down and 723 00:33:06,880 --> 00:33:10,520 Speaker 1: explained that Grandma was ill and tried to hurt Auntie, 724 00:33:10,520 --> 00:33:14,280 Speaker 1: Diamond and the little cousin. They explained Grandma would not 725 00:33:14,320 --> 00:33:16,600 Speaker 1: be a part of their lives anymore, but that doesn't 726 00:33:16,640 --> 00:33:19,320 Speaker 1: mean that she doesn't love them. It was really hard, 727 00:33:19,640 --> 00:33:22,000 Speaker 1: but the kids are smart. They were also told that 728 00:33:22,080 --> 00:33:24,360 Speaker 1: the other aunt is no longer in their life, but 729 00:33:24,560 --> 00:33:25,880 Speaker 1: they don't care because they. 730 00:33:25,920 --> 00:33:29,080 Speaker 2: Just like hers. Okay, I win. 731 00:33:29,520 --> 00:33:33,440 Speaker 1: She's probably a terrible yeah, and yeah, you know, not 732 00:33:33,600 --> 00:33:36,960 Speaker 1: because of me alone, simply because she is not exactly 733 00:33:36,960 --> 00:33:39,560 Speaker 1: great with them either. My mom lost it when she 734 00:33:39,680 --> 00:33:42,719 Speaker 1: was informed and started claiming that she had rights and 735 00:33:42,800 --> 00:33:45,040 Speaker 1: she will get to see her grandchildren. 736 00:33:45,640 --> 00:33:48,400 Speaker 2: There's no such thing as grandchild parental. 737 00:33:48,080 --> 00:33:53,920 Speaker 1: Rights conspiracy theory. I am predicting a kidnap, which does happen. 738 00:33:53,920 --> 00:33:56,160 Speaker 1: We have seen it. We have seen multiple times on 739 00:33:56,200 --> 00:33:57,760 Speaker 1: the show. 740 00:33:57,120 --> 00:33:59,160 Speaker 2: Multiple times. I'm giving it. If I was to say 741 00:33:59,240 --> 00:34:01,400 Speaker 2: right now, I'm going to say a betting man, I'm 742 00:34:01,440 --> 00:34:03,240 Speaker 2: betting against you. Actually, I don't think she's gonna go, 743 00:34:04,160 --> 00:34:07,520 Speaker 2: and the reason is not because she wouldn't try. But 744 00:34:07,600 --> 00:34:09,759 Speaker 2: I think that OPI is going to be putting their 745 00:34:09,880 --> 00:34:13,719 Speaker 2: kids on lock because the mother is so unstable. 746 00:34:13,840 --> 00:34:16,759 Speaker 1: You forget, there are many grandchildren to steal. There's her 747 00:34:16,800 --> 00:34:20,600 Speaker 1: sister's kids, there's her kids. There's a lot, maybe more 748 00:34:20,640 --> 00:34:21,399 Speaker 1: buns in the oven. 749 00:34:21,480 --> 00:34:24,759 Speaker 2: We don't know. I'm stealing it right out of the oven, right. 750 00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:28,960 Speaker 2: She's like she puts on a door. 751 00:34:31,680 --> 00:34:39,879 Speaker 1: It's a boy, and it's mine. God, I love it. 752 00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:42,360 Speaker 1: So my dad is looking for a permanent place, but 753 00:34:42,400 --> 00:34:45,080 Speaker 1: will stay with us until January, but mainly due to 754 00:34:45,120 --> 00:34:48,080 Speaker 1: my brother's mother in law coming to visit UH and 755 00:34:48,400 --> 00:34:51,160 Speaker 1: us having the space. He is really sad. He's called 756 00:34:51,160 --> 00:34:54,880 Speaker 1: divorce lawyers, already moved, bank stuff, et cetera, et cetera, 757 00:34:54,960 --> 00:34:58,719 Speaker 1: all the divorce things. He's been getting countless emails, messages 758 00:34:58,800 --> 00:35:01,279 Speaker 1: and calls from my mom, but he just doesn't reply 759 00:35:01,400 --> 00:35:04,319 Speaker 1: to anything. The lawyer told him not to block her 760 00:35:04,480 --> 00:35:08,040 Speaker 1: right now. He considered maybe forgiving her, but I got 761 00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:11,120 Speaker 1: a huge spike on my blood pressure a couple of 762 00:35:11,200 --> 00:35:14,880 Speaker 1: days after my last post here because she decided to 763 00:35:14,960 --> 00:35:20,560 Speaker 1: come to my place with my sister. H Double whammy, 764 00:35:20,880 --> 00:35:25,200 Speaker 1: Double whammy again. She's relentless. Why why does this keep happening? 765 00:35:25,360 --> 00:35:27,879 Speaker 1: My sister had never been to my home. My mom 766 00:35:28,000 --> 00:35:30,120 Speaker 1: knew I didn't want her there, but I guess that 767 00:35:30,160 --> 00:35:33,000 Speaker 1: doesn't matter anymore. The cleaning lady let them in since 768 00:35:33,040 --> 00:35:35,239 Speaker 1: she knows my mom and I haven't had the time 769 00:35:35,280 --> 00:35:37,640 Speaker 1: to inform her that she was not allowed to come 770 00:35:37,680 --> 00:35:40,840 Speaker 1: in anymore. I was just coming home from some errands 771 00:35:40,880 --> 00:35:44,239 Speaker 1: and I saw the car. This time I didn't get in. 772 00:35:44,560 --> 00:35:48,000 Speaker 1: I called all of my relatives and my sister in law, 773 00:35:48,080 --> 00:35:50,840 Speaker 1: my husband's sister was the one closer to me. She 774 00:35:51,040 --> 00:35:54,560 Speaker 1: confronted them and told them that they either leave or 775 00:35:54,840 --> 00:35:57,480 Speaker 1: I called the police on them for trespassing. Dude, I 776 00:35:57,520 --> 00:35:59,520 Speaker 1: want them arrested so bad. I want them arrested. 777 00:35:59,600 --> 00:36:00,520 Speaker 2: I want them in chance. 778 00:36:00,640 --> 00:36:01,920 Speaker 1: Oh that would be amazing. 779 00:36:02,120 --> 00:36:05,680 Speaker 2: Walk to the to the cellar door from in the dundints. 780 00:36:06,200 --> 00:36:08,920 Speaker 2: It's that one Edgar allan Poe thing where he like 781 00:36:09,080 --> 00:36:11,080 Speaker 2: puts them in the wall and then then. 782 00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:15,319 Speaker 3: Oh so the heartbeat, the tell tale it's the hard 783 00:36:15,360 --> 00:36:15,879 Speaker 3: tell te. 784 00:36:16,040 --> 00:36:17,840 Speaker 2: It's the one where he like he gives him a 785 00:36:17,840 --> 00:36:19,840 Speaker 2: glass of wine and then he like locks him in 786 00:36:19,880 --> 00:36:21,799 Speaker 2: the wine cellar and then builds the wall and then 787 00:36:21,840 --> 00:36:22,879 Speaker 2: he's like stuck in the wall. 788 00:36:23,000 --> 00:36:23,839 Speaker 3: The telltale heart. 789 00:36:24,040 --> 00:36:25,000 Speaker 2: Is that the tell tale heart. 790 00:36:25,000 --> 00:36:27,160 Speaker 3: It's the telltale heart because his heart gets bigger and 791 00:36:27,160 --> 00:36:28,759 Speaker 3: he's like at the end, he's like no, no, no, no, 792 00:36:28,760 --> 00:36:29,080 Speaker 3: no no no. 793 00:36:29,480 --> 00:36:29,560 Speaker 2: No. 794 00:36:29,600 --> 00:36:31,520 Speaker 4: One's like, I didn't hear anything. What are you talking about? 795 00:36:31,640 --> 00:36:33,560 Speaker 4: You can hear the and it's just in his head 796 00:36:33,600 --> 00:36:34,440 Speaker 4: because guy's already dead. 797 00:36:34,480 --> 00:36:34,960 Speaker 3: He can't do that. 798 00:36:35,120 --> 00:36:36,399 Speaker 2: Is that one? I don't know if it's that sound 799 00:36:36,400 --> 00:36:38,040 Speaker 2: on that one, I remember. 800 00:36:37,920 --> 00:36:40,000 Speaker 1: I haven't seen it. 801 00:36:40,760 --> 00:36:41,200 Speaker 3: You read it. 802 00:36:41,239 --> 00:36:43,759 Speaker 1: No, no, no, I haven't seen it. I haven't seen it. 803 00:36:43,800 --> 00:36:44,440 Speaker 1: We're gonna be back. 804 00:36:44,800 --> 00:36:45,480 Speaker 2: I can't read fry. 805 00:36:47,600 --> 00:36:49,680 Speaker 3: Oh man, I can get finally get rid of my name. 806 00:36:50,520 --> 00:36:53,799 Speaker 1: They take the crown from here. They left, and I 807 00:36:53,840 --> 00:36:56,680 Speaker 1: started feeling bad. We went to the doctor and they 808 00:36:56,840 --> 00:36:59,719 Speaker 1: told me all the excitement was not good and I 809 00:36:59,800 --> 00:37:02,040 Speaker 1: need to start relaxing or it would hurt the baby. 810 00:37:02,160 --> 00:37:04,279 Speaker 2: Cast if I'm on to tell Otto, that's it, that's 811 00:37:04,320 --> 00:37:07,160 Speaker 2: it cast. Yeah, sorry, that's the when you were thinking, 812 00:37:07,200 --> 00:37:08,640 Speaker 2: that's what I was thinking. But he did it. 813 00:37:08,719 --> 00:37:10,239 Speaker 3: He did another one where you put the guy on 814 00:37:10,280 --> 00:37:10,840 Speaker 3: the floors. 815 00:37:11,280 --> 00:37:12,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, this is the wall. 816 00:37:12,640 --> 00:37:18,440 Speaker 1: Oh, I haven't seen it. My dad went home with 817 00:37:18,520 --> 00:37:22,000 Speaker 1: my brother, uncle and my husband and took every single 818 00:37:22,080 --> 00:37:24,400 Speaker 1: thing he could think of. My husband says that my 819 00:37:24,480 --> 00:37:27,319 Speaker 1: sister was there too, and she kept screaming at him 820 00:37:27,520 --> 00:37:30,040 Speaker 1: and that he destroyed her family. My dad told my 821 00:37:30,120 --> 00:37:34,600 Speaker 1: mom and sister they almost the baby, and he also 822 00:37:34,760 --> 00:37:37,800 Speaker 1: doesn't want to talk to any of them again because 823 00:37:37,880 --> 00:37:41,680 Speaker 1: I think Opie was saying literally her blood pressure, which 824 00:37:41,840 --> 00:37:44,479 Speaker 1: makes perfect sense. Earlier today, we record an episode where 825 00:37:44,960 --> 00:37:46,760 Speaker 1: Opie found out his kids are. 826 00:37:46,640 --> 00:37:48,520 Speaker 2: Not his and heart attack. 827 00:37:49,160 --> 00:37:52,120 Speaker 1: It happens people. My sister kept sending messages to my 828 00:37:52,160 --> 00:37:55,040 Speaker 1: brother begging for help, but it's not happening. I am 829 00:37:55,040 --> 00:37:57,799 Speaker 1: devastated and very sad for my nephew since he is 830 00:37:57,880 --> 00:38:00,719 Speaker 1: losing so much of his family because his mother has 831 00:38:00,719 --> 00:38:03,640 Speaker 1: some wacky ideas. But it is what it is. As 832 00:38:03,680 --> 00:38:07,600 Speaker 1: for the custody and the grandparents writes the old grandparents' 833 00:38:07,680 --> 00:38:10,280 Speaker 1: rights we're talking about. My mom wants to throw around 834 00:38:10,320 --> 00:38:13,120 Speaker 1: so much. My lawyer sent her a letter stating that 835 00:38:13,200 --> 00:38:15,799 Speaker 1: she caused harm to my health and the baby, and 836 00:38:15,840 --> 00:38:18,880 Speaker 1: if she keeps harassing me, it will become an official 837 00:38:19,000 --> 00:38:21,799 Speaker 1: legal matter because probably it's like, hey, yeah, I told 838 00:38:21,880 --> 00:38:25,080 Speaker 1: you not to come, it's documented you came. Here's my 839 00:38:25,239 --> 00:38:26,920 Speaker 1: blood pressure reports got him? 840 00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:29,400 Speaker 2: And then is that like attempted murder? 841 00:38:30,640 --> 00:38:36,360 Speaker 1: That would be awesome, dude, as in like sewer or 842 00:38:36,640 --> 00:38:40,680 Speaker 1: block her up for that, not her, dieup, lock her up, 843 00:38:41,200 --> 00:38:44,320 Speaker 1: lock up granny and the sister. But my brother also 844 00:38:44,400 --> 00:38:47,720 Speaker 1: sent her a letter using her harassing of me. Both 845 00:38:47,800 --> 00:38:50,120 Speaker 1: my mom and sistor have refused to go to therapy. 846 00:38:50,200 --> 00:38:52,400 Speaker 1: They might be mentally ill, but with all of this 847 00:38:52,560 --> 00:38:54,960 Speaker 1: coming to light, it is obvious that they have been 848 00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:57,680 Speaker 1: in agreement for a long time. I will focus on 849 00:38:57,760 --> 00:39:01,320 Speaker 1: spending my holidays with my family, the family, being healthy, 850 00:39:01,600 --> 00:39:02,760 Speaker 1: and going to therapy. 851 00:39:03,000 --> 00:39:05,520 Speaker 2: Okay, this ends, well, you think it's all over. 852 00:39:05,760 --> 00:39:09,680 Speaker 1: No, there's another update three months later. And keep in mind, 853 00:39:09,680 --> 00:39:12,120 Speaker 1: three months later, Opie is still pregnant with the baby. 854 00:39:12,120 --> 00:39:15,360 Speaker 1: At this point, is this as or after the baby's 855 00:39:15,400 --> 00:39:15,799 Speaker 1: a little bit? 856 00:39:16,480 --> 00:39:19,279 Speaker 2: That's the question, dude. I can't. I can't have this 857 00:39:19,360 --> 00:39:21,880 Speaker 2: happen again. It's not like if the sister and the 858 00:39:21,920 --> 00:39:24,440 Speaker 2: mother come again and the freaking ex is there, I'm 859 00:39:24,440 --> 00:39:27,600 Speaker 2: gonna lose my shit. I'm gonna lose it. I'm gonna 860 00:39:27,640 --> 00:39:28,799 Speaker 2: lose it. I'm losing it. 861 00:39:28,840 --> 00:39:30,440 Speaker 1: I'm gonna be honest with you. At the beginning of 862 00:39:30,440 --> 00:39:32,880 Speaker 1: this this update, we just read I had the conspiracy 863 00:39:32,880 --> 00:39:35,960 Speaker 1: of the grandma kidnapping, but I was like, I don't know. 864 00:39:36,280 --> 00:39:38,000 Speaker 2: But now you're like, it's gonna happen. 865 00:39:38,040 --> 00:39:42,080 Speaker 1: I believe a lot more now that that is gonna happen, 866 00:39:42,120 --> 00:39:45,239 Speaker 1: because she's just like going for it. That's like her hair. 867 00:39:45,840 --> 00:39:49,839 Speaker 2: Dude. I hate when people go crazy after like it's like, oh, 868 00:39:49,960 --> 00:39:51,960 Speaker 2: like they're they're so normal, blah blah blah blah, and 869 00:39:52,000 --> 00:39:54,480 Speaker 2: then all of us, like all of a sudden, just 870 00:39:54,480 --> 00:39:57,040 Speaker 2: someone snaps and it just implodes in family like that. 871 00:39:57,040 --> 00:39:57,759 Speaker 2: That scares me. 872 00:39:57,920 --> 00:39:59,759 Speaker 1: And it seems like the mom like a first of 873 00:39:59,840 --> 00:40:01,719 Speaker 1: my almost like all sob stores, like oh, I'm so 874 00:40:01,800 --> 00:40:03,799 Speaker 1: sad that my daughters have a relationship to da da da, 875 00:40:03,840 --> 00:40:05,680 Speaker 1: and then it just like hit this tipping point and 876 00:40:05,719 --> 00:40:08,279 Speaker 1: she snapped. She's like, I'm gonna suit from dude. 877 00:40:08,320 --> 00:40:10,520 Speaker 2: That's how it happens. I feel like that's how it happens. 878 00:40:10,520 --> 00:40:13,120 Speaker 2: It's just like you know, you can someone, someone can 879 00:40:13,160 --> 00:40:14,920 Speaker 2: snap and then bam family. 880 00:40:14,920 --> 00:40:17,560 Speaker 1: And it's almost scarier because it's like the sister showed 881 00:40:17,560 --> 00:40:19,359 Speaker 1: her true colors the whole whole time, but the mom 882 00:40:19,440 --> 00:40:22,160 Speaker 1: you didn't. You didn't even know. Scary stuff. Scary stuff. 883 00:40:22,200 --> 00:40:25,120 Speaker 1: But let's scare selves more by getting into this next episode. 884 00:40:25,560 --> 00:40:27,080 Speaker 2: Spooky, spooky,