WEBVTT - The Week Before 0:00:01.920 --> 0:00:05.359 Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heart Radio Podcast. 0:00:06.880 --> 0:00:11.520 Hi ladies, Hi, how we all feeling today? We're good? 0:00:11.760 --> 0:00:15.640 How are you? You know? Where do we even begin? Oh? 0:00:16.079 --> 0:00:18.640 I love it when you're I will say this. I'm 0:00:18.680 --> 0:00:19.960 a group chat last night. 0:00:20.120 --> 0:00:24.280 The group chats are not allowed anymore. We had big 0:00:24.600 --> 0:00:27.400 talk at school. I'll get to that, okay, yeah, but anyways, 0:00:27.400 --> 0:00:29.480 so I've got a big thing on group chats in school. 0:00:29.520 --> 0:00:32.720 Okay, okay, okay, So don't start there or there, I'm 0:00:32.720 --> 0:00:33.879 going to start there, go for it. 0:00:34.200 --> 0:00:37.600 No, just chat. I've been pinning a lot of things, 0:00:37.680 --> 0:00:39.560 right because I I'll always say, oh, that would be 0:00:39.640 --> 0:00:42.519 a really good topic, and then I forget. So I've 0:00:42.520 --> 0:00:45.440 been writing more down as time goes on, and I'm 0:00:45.440 --> 0:00:47.519 not I'm not eager, and none of the all the 0:00:47.560 --> 0:00:49.480 pins are not like timely, so we can do them whenever. 0:00:49.640 --> 0:00:53.240 But it was funny because I always, like, I always 0:00:53.280 --> 0:00:56.040 get a little intrigued when Kramer comes on and says, oh, 0:00:56.040 --> 0:00:59.920 well that'll go good with my wine. Oh, and I'm like, oh, 0:01:00.240 --> 0:01:01.440 we already have a wine. 0:01:01.600 --> 0:01:05.440 Okay, I know, but let's start hold it, Let's hold it. 0:01:05.480 --> 0:01:10.000 Let's start with a bit of a chatty chat. Why 0:01:10.000 --> 0:01:11.480 I think you warned me about fifth grade? 0:01:12.000 --> 0:01:13.400 Oh? I feel like I have? 0:01:13.720 --> 0:01:14.039 Did you? 0:01:14.120 --> 0:01:16.200 I feel like we've talked about fifth grade on here. 0:01:16.280 --> 0:01:18.160 Back me up, guys if I haven't said. 0:01:18.000 --> 0:01:21.880 I know it all change, yeah, like changes, right, But 0:01:21.920 --> 0:01:25.440 the emotion behind it is you really got me? 0:01:25.720 --> 0:01:28.200 Oh No, I didn't warn you about that. No, I 0:01:28.240 --> 0:01:31.240 don't know, like you were for jolly, but I thought 0:01:31.240 --> 0:01:32.000 you mean no? 0:01:32.160 --> 0:01:34.480 No? Yeah? Yeah? Sorry? No? Did did you? 0:01:34.840 --> 0:01:35.080 Is it? 0:01:35.160 --> 0:01:36.440 Did you feel? Listen? 0:01:36.520 --> 0:01:40.000 Can I just start this entire podcast off with I'm 0:01:40.080 --> 0:01:43.920 due to start any day my period. Okay, so usually 0:01:43.959 --> 0:01:45.520 the week leading up to it, and I'm going to 0:01:45.560 --> 0:01:47.200 go into that with my wine, all right, but let 0:01:47.200 --> 0:01:51.880 me just say I'm already emotional, right, but wow, I 0:01:51.960 --> 0:01:56.760 just did not The night before going in fifth grade 0:01:56.880 --> 0:02:00.000 is just like she's so old, yeah to her last 0:02:00.120 --> 0:02:01.920 year at the school. And then we're at the meet 0:02:02.000 --> 0:02:06.560 the parent orientation night, right, and they're giving us the 0:02:06.600 --> 0:02:09.160 calendar for the year and they're like, okay, and this 0:02:09.200 --> 0:02:11.200 is the day that we do the walk through, the 0:02:11.240 --> 0:02:15.200 final walkthrough, and I'm just like welling with tears. 0:02:15.080 --> 0:02:19.359 Like like no birds right now, like orientation, but this 0:02:19.440 --> 0:02:20.560 is like so sad. 0:02:21.040 --> 0:02:23.760 Yeah, it's been a while for me for that first one, 0:02:23.760 --> 0:02:27.840 So I don't I don't really remember. I don't know 0:02:27.919 --> 0:02:31.600 that I have really gotten super emotional on that week 0:02:31.680 --> 0:02:35.680 back to school. It's usually specific things like I will 0:02:35.840 --> 0:02:39.240 absolutely be crying at football or you know. 0:02:39.360 --> 0:02:42.440 It's like, so that's when I started thinking about you, 0:02:42.480 --> 0:02:44.880 because I'm like, man, she's got a fifth grader and 0:02:44.919 --> 0:02:46.040 then she's got a senior. 0:02:46.800 --> 0:02:48.600 So I'm like, that's when I texted you. 0:02:48.639 --> 0:02:51.160 I'm like, yeah, well check because I'm not well and 0:02:51.200 --> 0:02:53.440 I can imagine how you're doing. So I'm like if 0:02:53.800 --> 0:02:55.960 because I always say when you when you're focused on 0:02:56.000 --> 0:02:57.679 your pain, go to someone else that might have a 0:02:57.720 --> 0:03:02.040 little bit more like also happening, you know. And so 0:03:02.040 --> 0:03:03.480 I'm like, all right, well, she's got fifth and senior, 0:03:03.560 --> 0:03:05.280 so like she's got to be feeling something. 0:03:05.120 --> 0:03:07.280 You know. I haven't cried about it. I haven't. 0:03:07.440 --> 0:03:09.960 I mean, it's definitely hitting me, but I think it's 0:03:10.040 --> 0:03:13.480 so also busy that it keeps me kind of like 0:03:13.560 --> 0:03:15.440 especially seeing I have a checklist of the things I 0:03:15.440 --> 0:03:17.640 have to do for senior year, and so I'm so 0:03:17.720 --> 0:03:19.920 busy like making sure I've got hit these deadlines and 0:03:19.960 --> 0:03:23.160 done the things that it hasn't really like fully. 0:03:22.919 --> 0:03:23.520 Hit me yet. 0:03:23.560 --> 0:03:27.280 But I think also taking another kid to high school, 0:03:27.360 --> 0:03:29.240 I was like, that's where I was kind of like, 0:03:29.280 --> 0:03:30.560 holy shit, I'm. 0:03:30.440 --> 0:03:35.320 Old, right, like getting it like they're old. I have 0:03:35.400 --> 0:03:38.640 two kids in high school. I will say this, I 0:03:38.720 --> 0:03:44.040 really do think having the toddler for me is like 0:03:44.320 --> 0:03:47.040 anchoring me back a little, like it's making it not 0:03:47.240 --> 0:03:50.360 feel like because I because they're still this itty bitty 0:03:50.520 --> 0:03:54.440 right right right right, but loves I noticed it. Let's 0:03:54.480 --> 0:03:58.360 all try not to weep on this podcast. Stay tuned. 0:03:58.640 --> 0:04:00.960 I noticed it. I was doing laundry the other day 0:04:01.160 --> 0:04:04.400 and she just was saying something, but like her voice 0:04:04.440 --> 0:04:09.040 is changing differently, and I it just is, I'm like 0:04:09.200 --> 0:04:12.360 she's and she is also a very petite human, Like 0:04:12.400 --> 0:04:14.720 she's very little. So that's another reason I don't think 0:04:14.760 --> 0:04:17.839 like Legend is now almost as tall as her. They're 0:04:17.839 --> 0:04:21.400 almost three years apart, and he outweighs her, so I 0:04:21.520 --> 0:04:23.440 notice it more with him, honestly, Like I feel like, 0:04:23.520 --> 0:04:25.680 because of her stature, I just kind of assume she's 0:04:26.000 --> 0:04:28.120 stay little forever. But she hit this grossper and all 0:04:28.120 --> 0:04:30.719 of a sudden things aren't fitting and then the voice 0:04:31.000 --> 0:04:34.120 and then there's bigger questions coming my way. And I'm like, 0:04:34.760 --> 0:04:36.159 so I think that's the thing for impact. 0:04:36.279 --> 0:04:38.600 Also part of it with the girl, you know, guy 0:04:38.839 --> 0:04:42.120 boys hit puberty later, so that fifth grade year doesn't 0:04:42.160 --> 0:04:45.040 also come with a lot of changes. I mean, this 0:04:45.160 --> 0:04:47.680 fifth grade is where you will start seeing kids that 0:04:47.720 --> 0:04:51.560 have already hit puberty or hitting puberty, who are really 0:04:51.600 --> 0:04:54.480 growing or starting to get boobs like all these things 0:04:54.600 --> 0:04:56.800 that doesn't really hit for boys yet. That happens so 0:04:56.880 --> 0:04:59.640 much later. So I do think it hits a little 0:04:59.640 --> 0:05:03.039 bit differ friendly with girls. And then like you know, 0:05:03.160 --> 0:05:05.679 drama comes, you know, So it's a lot. But having 0:05:05.680 --> 0:05:08.679 that first going into fifth I feel fore y'all because 0:05:09.040 --> 0:05:11.520 that is it's the last of elementary school. Like that's 0:05:11.600 --> 0:05:13.720 not easy. I get it, you know, but it's it's 0:05:13.760 --> 0:05:15.000 been a while since I've been. 0:05:15.520 --> 0:05:19.800 Yeah there, and I think too it being the girl 0:05:19.839 --> 0:05:20.440 part of things too. 0:05:20.480 --> 0:05:23.800 Yeah, apart for some reason, again, it just it all 0:05:23.960 --> 0:05:25.560 hits differently and in different way. 0:05:25.560 --> 0:05:27.239 All of a sudden, she's wearing a training brush shaving 0:05:27.240 --> 0:05:27.560 her legs. 0:05:27.600 --> 0:05:30.680 Yeah. Yeah, it was like we just had like the 0:05:30.680 --> 0:05:32.800 most cute summer ever and all of a sudden, you 0:05:32.880 --> 0:05:36.120 just like within two months you you are a different 0:05:36.240 --> 0:05:36.799 little girl. 0:05:36.920 --> 0:05:39.880 Yeah. Yeah, it feels fast. And I think too, because 0:05:39.920 --> 0:05:43.400 we're all female, like we remember I remember fourth and 0:05:43.400 --> 0:05:47.719 fifth grade. Yeah, and you start to remember, like I'm going, oh, Kristen, 0:05:47.800 --> 0:05:49.520 like I'm going back in the memory banks, like what 0:05:49.600 --> 0:05:51.240 did I do when I had a crush? What were 0:05:51.240 --> 0:05:53.800 my sex questions? What were I you know, like people 0:05:53.839 --> 0:05:56.360 are starting their period, I know, like we packed her 0:05:56.400 --> 0:05:59.760 little thing for her backpack and like just in case, 0:06:00.279 --> 0:06:00.520 you know. 0:06:01.720 --> 0:06:03.800 Yeah, it's just it's a lot. That fifth grade year 0:06:03.920 --> 0:06:07.960 is a lot, for sure. I know, seem big. 0:06:08.320 --> 0:06:11.240 It's just very and I get it, like they're ten, 0:06:11.560 --> 0:06:14.400 It's okay, we've got time. But there is so much 0:06:14.480 --> 0:06:16.560 change so quick if it. 0:06:16.600 --> 0:06:20.080 Comes after and not to but after elementary school is 0:06:20.120 --> 0:06:22.080 when it just and they say it, but it's just 0:06:22.160 --> 0:06:25.160 like I mean, it just goes so fast that middle 0:06:25.240 --> 0:06:28.640 school in high school years or just for so fast. 0:06:28.720 --> 0:06:30.359 Well even when you texted the other day that you 0:06:30.360 --> 0:06:32.560 were doing a college visit and I was holding my 0:06:32.600 --> 0:06:35.520 phone and Preston goes you okay, and I go, I 0:06:35.960 --> 0:06:38.200 I am I think kat Is, But I was like, 0:06:38.320 --> 0:06:40.719 this is wild, I said, Kat and Nickleck have a 0:06:41.120 --> 0:06:41.880 they have a senior. 0:06:42.080 --> 0:06:46.080 It's so weird because I'm so excited for him. Yeah, 0:06:46.120 --> 0:06:48.560 and so like the emotion of it hasn't hit me yet, 0:06:48.760 --> 0:06:51.039 like because like he is ready for college, Like he 0:06:51.400 --> 0:06:52.160 just is ready. 0:06:52.200 --> 0:06:52.880 It's going to be great. 0:06:53.000 --> 0:06:54.839 Done mom, which I do have to say though, I 0:06:54.880 --> 0:06:56.400 really have to tell you all a funny story real 0:06:56.440 --> 0:06:59.919 fast about college stuff. So long story short, he's already 0:07:00.000 --> 0:07:01.840 August first is kind of when you can start applying 0:07:01.839 --> 0:07:06.040 for colleges. So he's he applied for four different colleges. 0:07:06.120 --> 0:07:08.159 He already decided one of them he didn't want to do, 0:07:08.240 --> 0:07:09.200 so we didn't pay for it. 0:07:09.240 --> 0:07:10.520 You can like apply and then pay. 0:07:11.280 --> 0:07:14.320 Well two of them obviously, so one of them is 0:07:14.400 --> 0:07:15.280 kind of an out there. 0:07:15.680 --> 0:07:17.520 We brought it up to Nick months. 0:07:17.240 --> 0:07:20.720 Ago, Wyoming or some Montana Montana, that's right, Okay, Well 0:07:20.760 --> 0:07:22.800 he brings it back up because he had just gone 0:07:22.800 --> 0:07:25.080 out west with the church thing. 0:07:25.360 --> 0:07:28.080 He loves out west. He loves national parks. 0:07:28.120 --> 0:07:31.120 See him that, I know, it's like he would go 0:07:31.160 --> 0:07:33.040 to like he would go on a road trip just 0:07:33.080 --> 0:07:35.760 do national parks, like he loves this stuff, right, So 0:07:35.800 --> 0:07:37.800 he kind of brings it up, and I'm like, well, 0:07:37.840 --> 0:07:39.640 just apply, it doesn't hurt. He's like, I kind of 0:07:39.680 --> 0:07:42.400 want to apply, right, So we don't tell Nick that 0:07:42.440 --> 0:07:45.200 we're applying because he's very much against. 0:07:45.440 --> 0:07:47.320 He's he's going to be listening to us. He doesn't 0:07:47.400 --> 0:07:51.360 Nick knows. I know. 0:07:51.720 --> 0:07:53.600 That's whine I decided. I was just I'll tell it here. 0:07:54.440 --> 0:07:55.360 He can't kill me if it's on. 0:07:57.280 --> 0:07:58.800 The tape, and sit down. We have something we'd like 0:07:58.840 --> 0:07:59.520 to talk to you about. 0:07:59.560 --> 0:08:01.160 So, like one, Kate and I are on the couch 0:08:01.200 --> 0:08:02.440 and we're like, we need to pay for all these 0:08:02.480 --> 0:08:03.960 because you can apply and then you have to pay, 0:08:03.960 --> 0:08:06.280 and like kept walking by and I'm like trying to 0:08:06.320 --> 0:08:09.120 like like hide the computer because moa. 0:08:08.800 --> 0:08:10.520 State is like you have to pay for even if 0:08:10.520 --> 0:08:12.800 you don't go in anywhere from like thirt yet to apply. 0:08:13.040 --> 0:08:15.040 That's crazy what some of them are free, but they 0:08:15.080 --> 0:08:17.400 are anywhere between like thirty and they can be more. 0:08:17.440 --> 0:08:19.560 The ones we did were between like thirty dollars and 0:08:19.600 --> 0:08:22.160 eighty dollars. Okay, not terrible, but if you do a 0:08:22.160 --> 0:08:25.600 ton of schools, you know, so I'm like paying for 0:08:25.680 --> 0:08:26.720 it whatever well. 0:08:27.840 --> 0:08:30.720 Shows up on the credit card bill Monty State that 0:08:30.800 --> 0:08:32.800 I did actually, but he didn't say anything about that. 0:08:32.880 --> 0:08:35.200 But you know, as far as he knows, he's pretty 0:08:35.280 --> 0:08:36.920 much taking care of all of this on his own. 0:08:36.960 --> 0:08:38.880 I mean he's applying. I just like helped him pay 0:08:38.880 --> 0:08:39.560 for it or whatever. 0:08:39.760 --> 0:08:44.320 So fast forward days and I mean days, Okay, I 0:08:44.400 --> 0:08:47.040 get an email that it's like, congratulations, you've been admitted 0:08:47.080 --> 0:08:49.160 to Montana State, which I think this is going to 0:08:49.200 --> 0:08:52.800 take weeks, right, y'all. 0:08:53.280 --> 0:08:55.839 So I tell Caten knows, like, congratulations, you got you 0:08:55.880 --> 0:08:57.199 know whatever. So he got accepted. 0:08:57.280 --> 0:09:00.560 He got accepted to Montana State. Within like it's relatively 0:09:00.600 --> 0:09:02.360 easy to get in. He has a really good GPA, 0:09:02.600 --> 0:09:04.360 you know whatever. You still have to do some things 0:09:04.400 --> 0:09:06.440 and turn things in, but like, yeah, he got accepted 0:09:06.480 --> 0:09:09.440 in like days, right, so it just feels like this 0:09:09.480 --> 0:09:09.640 is a. 0:09:09.600 --> 0:09:13.960 Bigger deal with like then right now, no hold on. 0:09:14.600 --> 0:09:17.200 So I'm like in the shower like the next day, 0:09:17.280 --> 0:09:19.160 and I hear them kind of taking talking about college 0:09:19.160 --> 0:09:21.760 about know what they're talking about, and then they disperse 0:09:22.200 --> 0:09:23.360 and then I go outside. 0:09:23.400 --> 0:09:24.000 He's in the garage. 0:09:24.040 --> 0:09:25.720 He likes to get a popsicle and like sit outside 0:09:25.720 --> 0:09:26.720 in the garage all the time. 0:09:26.880 --> 0:09:28.160 Kayden. Yeah. 0:09:28.160 --> 0:09:29.320 So I went out there and I was like, so, 0:09:29.440 --> 0:09:31.120 at what point are you going to tell dad about 0:09:31.120 --> 0:09:32.880 Montana State? And he goes, oh, he knows, and I 0:09:32.920 --> 0:09:34.320 was like, what do you mean he knows? He goes, 0:09:34.840 --> 0:09:36.760 I don't know. I was just in the kitchen and 0:09:36.800 --> 0:09:40.400 he goes, congratulations for getting accepted to Montana State. And 0:09:40.440 --> 0:09:42.480 I was like, how does he know, Kayden? He goes, 0:09:42.520 --> 0:09:44.040 I don't know. I didn't tell him. I I don't know. 0:09:44.080 --> 0:09:44.840 I didn't tell him. 0:09:45.440 --> 0:09:47.360 So we're sitting there, but I guess he got an 0:09:47.400 --> 0:09:51.920 email also that said that he was admitted to Montana State. 0:09:52.320 --> 0:09:55.640 So anyways he was, he was, I don't know that 0:09:55.720 --> 0:09:57.640 he knows. The party doesn't know? Is that I knew 0:09:57.679 --> 0:10:01.040 the whole time? Now he knows now again. I just 0:10:01.040 --> 0:10:02.360 want to give a shout out to Nick. 0:10:03.280 --> 0:10:06.400 So anyway, long story short, he's got his first acceptance. 0:10:06.559 --> 0:10:07.959 We kept it from him. I don't know if we'll 0:10:07.960 --> 0:10:10.880 go there, but so do you go visited? He asked 0:10:11.160 --> 0:10:14.240 how he got accepted, Like, you know, he hasn't asked 0:10:14.240 --> 0:10:15.440 me anything. 0:10:15.040 --> 0:10:17.280 Okay, because I don't think, like, well, how did you 0:10:17.280 --> 0:10:18.720 get accepted if you didn't? 0:10:18.840 --> 0:10:21.079 Well, he figured out that he applied. He's like, well, 0:10:21.120 --> 0:10:22.720 I just applied for it, and he wasn't like mad 0:10:22.760 --> 0:10:24.480 that he had. I don't know that he knew that. 0:10:24.559 --> 0:10:28.200 I knew that he had applied for it, but he 0:10:28.280 --> 0:10:30.680 told me he was or he told him. He's like, 0:10:30.720 --> 0:10:32.120 I'll pay for you to go to college there, but 0:10:32.160 --> 0:10:34.160 I won't pay for you to come back every six months. 0:10:34.320 --> 0:10:36.920 Like his point is you're never coming home because it's 0:10:36.960 --> 0:10:39.640 so far. You know, that's his why he doesn't want 0:10:39.679 --> 0:10:41.840 him to go there, because it's just so far and 0:10:41.880 --> 0:10:42.439 he's just not. 0:10:42.440 --> 0:10:44.840 Ready for it. But anyway, he got his first college acceptance. 0:10:44.840 --> 0:10:48.120 Isn't that tough when you because that's a that's a 0:10:48.200 --> 0:10:50.440 nick thing, yeah, you know what I mean, And like 0:10:50.520 --> 0:10:52.200 that would be a nus thing too, like it's going 0:10:52.280 --> 0:10:54.560 to be hard. But at the same time, and shoot, 0:10:54.640 --> 0:10:56.559 I mean I went far. I went to Cali, and 0:10:57.440 --> 0:10:58.960 you know, I'm. 0:10:58.960 --> 0:10:59.520 Far with it. 0:10:59.679 --> 0:11:02.320 I'm I didn't go far and I regret it, and 0:11:02.360 --> 0:11:04.400 so I think that's a lot of why. I'm just like, 0:11:04.440 --> 0:11:06.000 wherever you want to get spread. 0:11:06.880 --> 0:11:08.640 My mom that's how she was too, Like she regretted 0:11:08.679 --> 0:11:10.120 not doing what she wanted to do, so she's like. 0:11:10.240 --> 0:11:13.080 Go live. Yeah, yeah, I stay closed back up. 0:11:13.120 --> 0:11:13.320 Yeah. 0:11:13.600 --> 0:11:15.400 But then as soon as college was over, I was out, Well, 0:11:15.440 --> 0:11:17.400 Nick is like, what are you going to do if 0:11:17.480 --> 0:11:19.600 like your car breaks down and you know, I can't 0:11:19.600 --> 0:11:21.400 get to you. I'm like, but you can't really get 0:11:21.440 --> 0:11:23.719 to him in Alabama. I mean, it still takes a 0:11:23.760 --> 0:11:25.280 while I get you to get a fight and all 0:11:25.320 --> 0:11:25.600 the things. 0:11:25.600 --> 0:11:27.920 But I'm also like, yeah, he'll figure it out. So 0:11:28.080 --> 0:11:31.080 he's just not ready. But anyway, so do you a visit? 0:11:31.120 --> 0:11:31.320 Then? 0:11:31.440 --> 0:11:32.160 When do you visit? 0:11:32.559 --> 0:11:34.960 I need to We're going to see if he's like 0:11:35.040 --> 0:11:37.600 seriously wants to go. I don't think he'll go there. 0:11:37.720 --> 0:11:40.000 I think he just wanted it as an option if 0:11:40.000 --> 0:11:41.800 he decided he because you kind of have to go ahead, 0:11:41.840 --> 0:11:44.280 you know, you have to apply, you know. I don't 0:11:44.280 --> 0:11:46.560 think he'll end up going there, but I've brought it 0:11:46.640 --> 0:11:48.320 up going to visit. We were going to go visit 0:11:48.400 --> 0:11:50.160 before and then he took off his list. 0:11:50.400 --> 0:11:53.319 I had the moment where we play back this clip 0:11:53.840 --> 0:11:58.720 and your Montana's Stay shirts in the mountain in the back. 0:11:58.800 --> 0:12:01.760 I have a picture. He got it, like, I'm going 0:12:01.800 --> 0:12:05.440 to I think it's great. 0:12:05.520 --> 0:12:08.760 I think it's amazing. Having said that it is miserably cold. 0:12:09.760 --> 0:12:13.160 In the winters, but it's it's a long winter, and 0:12:13.240 --> 0:12:15.199 so I will say, and we're going in July. And 0:12:15.240 --> 0:12:17.560 it was like, do you really want that? You know 0:12:17.640 --> 0:12:19.560 that's the only so we'll see. 0:12:19.600 --> 0:12:21.719 But anyway, I love is his girlfriend a part of 0:12:21.720 --> 0:12:25.640 the equation. No love that we have talked about it. 0:12:25.679 --> 0:12:27.440 She might not like that to hear that, but. 0:12:30.640 --> 0:12:33.160 But I think it's hard when people are eighteen they 0:12:33.200 --> 0:12:36.040 think that. I literally thought my high school boyfriend was 0:12:36.080 --> 0:12:38.760 the only man I would ever be with my entire life. 0:12:39.360 --> 0:12:40.720 No one could tell me otherwise. 0:12:40.840 --> 0:12:43.360 And it's like, it's so hard when people start to 0:12:43.400 --> 0:12:47.280 make decisions based on where their boyfriend or girlfriend is 0:12:47.440 --> 0:12:49.960 and not it's like, no, you have a whole entire universe, 0:12:50.000 --> 0:12:52.200 not saying this person might not be your person, but 0:12:53.080 --> 0:12:53.880 also like. 0:12:53.880 --> 0:12:57.120 Yeah, I just live. We've talked about it a lot. 0:12:57.240 --> 0:13:00.680 He even considered the school she is more than likely 0:13:00.720 --> 0:13:03.720 going to, Okay, and he won't consider it for that reason. 0:13:03.960 --> 0:13:06.880 Wow, he just he's like, I'm not raising it on Yeah, 0:13:06.920 --> 0:13:07.439 that's great. 0:13:07.480 --> 0:13:09.480 I mean, can you imagine going to college for a 0:13:09.520 --> 0:13:11.880 girl and then breaking up and then oh that's just I. 0:13:11.840 --> 0:13:14.200 Mean it's all the Emily Giffen books I read, you know, like, 0:13:14.920 --> 0:13:30.000 so no, not an equation. So I have a question. 0:13:30.080 --> 0:13:32.480 It kind of spins off of this table if we 0:13:32.559 --> 0:13:35.960 want to. But since we're sort of on the subject, 0:13:37.200 --> 0:13:38.920 I want to know how you feel about girlfriends and 0:13:38.920 --> 0:13:42.360 boyfriends and family photos in family photos, like if you're 0:13:42.400 --> 0:13:47.440 taking a trip. Because to your point, right, like we 0:13:48.120 --> 0:13:50.440 all think at eighteen, we're going to marry him, Like 0:13:50.600 --> 0:13:55.160 I thought I would be missus Joshua forever, you know, 0:13:55.440 --> 0:14:01.240 and I and I remember like and again a different time, right, 0:14:01.280 --> 0:14:03.360 we all had to take the picture, wait weeks, go 0:14:03.480 --> 0:14:07.840 back to wherever Meyer or wherever and develop the pictures. 0:14:07.840 --> 0:14:12.840 But I so which by the way, I got this message, 0:14:12.960 --> 0:14:14.720 uh uh this package in the mail and it was 0:14:14.760 --> 0:14:17.360 a camera, like one of those cameras we used to 0:14:17.400 --> 0:14:19.600 do dispose of a camera. And Jeli's like, what's this. 0:14:19.640 --> 0:14:21.280 I'm like, well, this is a camera like the mom 0:14:21.360 --> 0:14:23.080 used to have. I remember on senior night, like you know, 0:14:23.160 --> 0:14:25.040 you take the pictures. And then she's like, well, then 0:14:25.120 --> 0:14:26.520 how do you see the pictures? I go, well, you 0:14:26.520 --> 0:14:28.040 don't see the pictures. So she's like, well, what if 0:14:28.080 --> 0:14:29.600 you don't like the photos like it didn't matter. 0:14:30.320 --> 0:14:31.840 I got photos of my friends are like they're like 0:14:31.880 --> 0:14:32.440 eyes closed. 0:14:32.440 --> 0:14:33.560 And then she's like, well, then how do you get 0:14:33.560 --> 0:14:35.400 the photos? I go, well, you go to Walmart or 0:14:35.400 --> 0:14:38.040 CBS or wherever you'd go get the pictures printed. And 0:14:38.040 --> 0:14:41.239 she's like it was like, that's so the most confusing 0:14:41.320 --> 0:14:41.760 thing to her. 0:14:41.800 --> 0:14:43.520 She's like, what to those photos? 0:14:43.520 --> 0:14:46.760 Seldom to the old days, honey, anyway, so you. 0:14:46.960 --> 0:14:51.680 Yeah, So so then cropping people out right was you 0:14:51.760 --> 0:14:56.160 couldn't no photo eraser, No, there was no like awkward. Yeah, 0:14:56.320 --> 0:15:00.360 so it's just interesting. We I won't go like too 0:15:00.400 --> 0:15:03.200 far in, but there's like a person that's gonna try 0:15:03.240 --> 0:15:05.680 to be added into the mix and our family, and 0:15:05.840 --> 0:15:09.640 it's a little tumultuous, and so I am always I 0:15:09.640 --> 0:15:11.680 always kind of like guard the family photo, which I 0:15:11.720 --> 0:15:13.920 know everyone's not shocking, because I feel like I come 0:15:13.920 --> 0:15:16.160 across as such a bee on here all the time. 0:15:16.280 --> 0:15:20.560 I just do. And I'm such a kind person. I 0:15:20.680 --> 0:15:23.760 just wish people knew that I'm so freaking nice. I mean, 0:15:23.840 --> 0:15:26.920 I really am. Because you're really not allowed in the photo. 0:15:28.280 --> 0:15:29.960 You're not married, get out of here. 0:15:30.200 --> 0:15:33.440 But even if you are married, like you got a 0:15:33.480 --> 0:15:36.600 white erase, a few things my grandparents home. 0:15:36.920 --> 0:15:40.160 Right. Yes, it's tricky. So I just wonder when you're 0:15:40.200 --> 0:15:42.800 like paying for these vacations a boyfriend's girlfriends go, or 0:15:43.520 --> 0:15:45.280 if you have family coming in out of town, whatever 0:15:45.360 --> 0:15:49.280 the case may be, like, do you take the photo 0:15:49.680 --> 0:15:52.560 with everyone we know is the family and then we 0:15:52.640 --> 0:15:55.480 add the kickstands Because I a girlfriend of mine has 0:15:55.520 --> 0:15:58.600 been going through something where this girl keeps putting herself 0:15:58.760 --> 0:16:03.160 in the photo all the time of her it's her 0:16:03.520 --> 0:16:09.360 son's girlfriend, and every time they like family picture homegirl 0:16:09.400 --> 0:16:11.400 just puts herself right in and she's like, I don't 0:16:11.680 --> 0:16:13.400 love it, but I don't want to. I don't want 0:16:13.400 --> 0:16:14.440 to hurt her feelings. 0:16:14.920 --> 0:16:17.920 I mean, we just so far, like if we do 0:16:18.000 --> 0:16:19.880 all of this, I'll just have her take it and 0:16:19.960 --> 0:16:22.600 then I'll like put all the way to do it together. 0:16:22.920 --> 0:16:25.680 But like she respects it, like she doesn't. Yeah, so 0:16:25.720 --> 0:16:27.920 we haven't done one big like family. But I can 0:16:28.000 --> 0:16:31.360 remember being a girlfriend at the family function where I 0:16:31.400 --> 0:16:33.080 was not allowed in the photo and I was like, well, 0:16:33.080 --> 0:16:33.720 this is awkward. 0:16:33.840 --> 0:16:35.440 So yeah, so I think there's like a little bit 0:16:35.480 --> 0:16:38.000 of both, and I like that. Oh, Cayden's girlfriend because 0:16:38.000 --> 0:16:39.520 I think there's a piece of what I like to 0:16:39.520 --> 0:16:43.040 see in those situations is awareness of being a girlfriend 0:16:43.080 --> 0:16:45.440 in that situation. So we you know, we've there's a 0:16:45.480 --> 0:16:48.000 situation right where it's like when someone doesn't have the 0:16:48.040 --> 0:16:50.560 awareness like hey, do y'all just want one? Or yeah, 0:16:50.800 --> 0:16:54.840 you know, or like letting the family have it and 0:16:54.920 --> 0:16:57.480 just like thinking they're in it, right and that's fine. 0:16:57.520 --> 0:17:00.000 It's like, I'll never make anyone feel out of play. 0:17:00.600 --> 0:17:03.080 So what I'll always do is be like, and I 0:17:03.120 --> 0:17:06.600 didn't do it at one point, and I look back 0:17:06.600 --> 0:17:09.960 now and go, oh boy, because now what happens if 0:17:10.119 --> 0:17:12.560 they break up? And now that family photo then can't 0:17:12.600 --> 0:17:13.359 really be used. 0:17:14.040 --> 0:17:14.200 Right. 0:17:14.320 --> 0:17:17.440 So but most times I'll always try to make someone 0:17:17.440 --> 0:17:19.640 feel comfee like hey, let's all do one group photo, okay, 0:17:19.680 --> 0:17:21.880 and now just the just the fam. So then you've 0:17:21.920 --> 0:17:24.640 got because I think that that you make him both 0:17:24.640 --> 0:17:27.000 feel comfortable. But I like it when someone I was 0:17:27.000 --> 0:17:29.000 always aware of that I was I was like, let 0:17:29.040 --> 0:17:29.920