Speaker 1: I am a yamla, your host, your guide, a teacher
Speaker 1: for salm, and a soft place to fall for others.
Speaker 1: And I was a miserable failure in my relationships until
Speaker 1: I love myself enough to be able to share my
Speaker 1: love with other people. Welcome to the r Spot, a
Speaker 1: production of shondaland Audio in partnership with iHeartRadio. Everyone has
Speaker 1: their own BS, their own belief system, and everyone believes
Speaker 1: things about the world based on that BS, that belief system.
Speaker 1: It's a survival mechanism or a way of understanding the
Speaker 1: world around us and our experiences. If you were bitten
Speaker 1: by a dog at a young age, you might believe
Speaker 1: that all dogs will bite you, that dogs are scary
Speaker 1: and dangerous. If you've ever had a car accident, maybe
Speaker 1: you are afraid to drive. Anything and everything we experience
Speaker 1: can push the triggers of our belief systems in one
Speaker 1: way or another, and that also applies to relationships. People
Speaker 1: who have dealt with abandonment will attract those who abandon them,
Speaker 1: people who have dealt with rejection will attract those who
Speaker 1: reject them. And others who believe they don't deserve love,
Speaker 1: can't have love, won't ever get love will attract people
Speaker 1: who cannot give them the love that they want or need.
Speaker 1: It's a catch twenty two. So how do you fix that?
Speaker 1: How do you heal those issues? Well, we're gonna learn
Speaker 1: about that today. Let's say hello to our first caller.
Speaker 1: Good afternoon, beloved, welcome to the art spot. How can
Speaker 1: I support you today?
Speaker 2: First, I want to say I love you. I've been
Speaker 2: listening to you for years. I wish you could be
Speaker 2: like my personal therapist. I really wish.
Speaker 1: No, I'm not a therapist, so we would be in
Speaker 1: a lot of trouble.
Speaker 2: I know, I know, but your insight is just amazing.
Speaker 3: I love it.
Speaker 1: What kind of insight can I support you with? Today?
Speaker 2: So basically, I truly desire to have a committed relationship.
Speaker 2: I want to be married. I would like to have
Speaker 2: another child. But it's like all of the men that
Speaker 2: I come across, it's like they all just want, you know,
Speaker 2: to deal with multiple women. They don't want to commit,
Speaker 2: or they act like they do at the beginning just
Speaker 2: to give what they want and then they disappear. So
Speaker 2: I'm kind of just like losing hope for anything serious.
Speaker 1: I don't know who do me either? Oh my God
Speaker 1: me either, honey, and you a lot younger than I am.
Speaker 1: So the people my age ain't got no teething on
Speaker 1: all kinds of medication and pieces and parts ain't working.
Speaker 1: So we just out here together. What else gonna do?
Speaker 1: What else gonna do? Right, Well, I'm gonna go right
Speaker 1: to the core. Why do you want to be in relationship?
Speaker 2: That's a great question. I feel like I would be
Speaker 2: happy if I had a family to care for. That
Speaker 2: would just make me happy.
Speaker 1: So you want to be in relationship for what it
Speaker 1: will bring to you?
Speaker 2: Well, I also want to, you know, contribute to my
Speaker 2: partner a very loving, nurturing, caring person. So I do
Speaker 2: plan to give as well, and I just take what.
Speaker 1: Have you given in the past and what have you received?
Speaker 2: I feel like everything I've given loyalty, trustworthy. If a
Speaker 2: person need help with something, I would try to tell
Speaker 2: I've been a motivator, all types of things. I feel
Speaker 2: like in return, I feel like in return, I just
Speaker 2: like at the end of each situation, I feel depleted.
Speaker 2: I don't feel like I was given anything. I feel
Speaker 2: like I was probably begging most of the time, or
Speaker 2: a person make it seem like what I'm asking for
Speaker 2: is too much.
Speaker 1: M h So why did you give so much in
Speaker 1: hopes that I would get Yeah? So your relationships are transactional.
Speaker 1: You're dealing with transactional relationships. You give me this, I'll
Speaker 1: give you that. If I give you this, you should
Speaker 1: give me that. Transactional relationships never work and the giver
Speaker 1: always receives less. Always, And at the core, at the
Speaker 1: core of a transactional relationship, there is a kootie. You
Speaker 1: know what a kootie is? No, a cootie is like
Speaker 1: a little bug, a little thing that eats away in something.
Speaker 1: Cooties the nasty You know what is at the kootie
Speaker 1: at the core of a transactional relationship? Want me to
Speaker 1: tell you what it is? Yes, the belief that you
Speaker 1: can't have what you want.
Speaker 2: That sounds about right.
Speaker 1: There's a belief there, Uh huh. You can't have what
Speaker 1: you want. Now, you keep trying to disprove it, but
Speaker 1: you will never live beyond your belief. And if you
Speaker 1: believe that you can't have what you want, you will
Speaker 1: never have it. You'll keep getting evidence to prove that
Speaker 1: your belief is right. It leads to this kind of
Speaker 1: cat and mouse game. I can't have what I want.
Speaker 1: Oh but that looks like what I want, so let
Speaker 1: me get that. But the belief is operating, I can't
Speaker 1: have what I want. So you'll continue to attract things
Speaker 1: and people that aren't what you want because you know
Speaker 1: what we want more than anything else, we want to
Speaker 1: be right. And so you have a belief that is
Speaker 1: I can't have what I want. I want to be
Speaker 1: right about that, so I'll keep attracting evidence to make
Speaker 1: me write about the belief. You got to heal up
Speaker 1: the belief.
Speaker 2: So what do I need to do to reverse that
Speaker 2: thought process?
Speaker 1: So you know, there's a very powerful way to dismantle
Speaker 1: belief systems, and that's really to dump the consciousness of
Speaker 1: where the belief originated. So this probably originated in your childhood.
Speaker 1: And the way you can get in touch with that
Speaker 1: is by writing with your non dominant hand. So are
Speaker 1: you right handed or left handed? I'm right handed, okay,
Speaker 1: So that means with your left hand you would have
Speaker 1: to write. What I believe about relationship is what I
Speaker 1: believe about having a relationship in my life. What I
Speaker 1: believe about being loved by someone is all of that stuff,
Speaker 1: But you write it with your left hand, not with
Speaker 1: your right hand, because the left hand, the non dominant hand,
Speaker 1: will dump your subconscious mind and bring up all of
Speaker 1: those feelings and it's hard to do. It's hard, you know,
Speaker 1: to write with your left hand. It's gonna be all
Speaker 1: over the paper and it's gonna look real crazy, but
Speaker 1: you're gonna tap into what the kootie up under there,
Speaker 1: because there's some sadness and there's some anger, and there's
Speaker 1: some disappointment and loneliness. Yeah, and loneliness, yeah, probably all
Speaker 1: the way back to when you were little. And that's
Speaker 1: what you've got to uproot. And with your right hand,
Speaker 1: you know, you can do some powerful attraction through I
Speaker 1: am you know, I am attracting the right partner. I
Speaker 1: am attracting a generous partner. I am attracting a committed partner.
Speaker 1: I am attracting a loving partner. And you can do
Speaker 1: that with your right hand right, Because it's not the man.
Speaker 1: There are plenty of men out there, plenty of available men.
Speaker 1: And know how I know because I talk to them
Speaker 1: all the time. Why can't I find a good woman?
Speaker 2: Really?
Speaker 1: Yeah? What do you believe about good women?
Speaker 2: You know where Philadelphia?
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I used to live in Philly, West Philly
Speaker 1: forty ninth and Pine.
Speaker 2: They there in North Philly.
Speaker 1: Well, North Philly. That's why you can't find nobody go
Speaker 1: down to West Philly. No, I'm just scared. I'm just
Speaker 1: teasing you. But that's really what it's about. It's about
Speaker 1: your relationships have become transactional. You've been giving more than
Speaker 1: you're getting because you don't believe you can have what
Speaker 1: you want. You don't believe you can have what you want.
Speaker 1: So it has to be about you moving into that
Speaker 1: belief of I can have what I want. So since
Speaker 1: you ain't in a relationship, you got time do the work. Okay, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: my darling, thank you for calling.
Speaker 2: Thank you for speaking with me today.
Speaker 1: Okay, bye bye. We all have a belief system. The
Speaker 1: issue is how do we clean up our belief systems
Speaker 1: so that relationships are not such hard work. In my
Speaker 1: caller's case, she needs to identify the times that she
Speaker 1: didn't get what she wanted. Then over time she started
Speaker 1: to believe this pattern and live this pattern, and she
Speaker 1: believes this is just how things are going to be
Speaker 1: for her, and then she'll attract people who cannot will
Speaker 1: not do not give her what she wants and keep
Speaker 1: the cycle going. My lord, that's why you us do
Speaker 1: the work to identify your patterns and then dismantle them
Speaker 1: by creating a new pattern. After the break, we'll come
Speaker 1: back with my second caller, who has a similar issue,
Speaker 1: but for a very different reason. Welcome back to the
Speaker 1: R Spot today. We're talking about dismantling your false belief systems. Now,
Speaker 1: this whole notion of unworthiness and not being able to
Speaker 1: have what it is we say we want shows up
Speaker 1: in a variety way. Some of them are very clever,
Speaker 1: because you know, we are brilliant when it comes to
Speaker 1: covering up our core issues. Okay, we'll never go around
Speaker 1: saying I'm unworthy and I can't have what we want,
Speaker 1: But what we will do is create all kinds of story,
Speaker 1: all kinds of drama, and all kinds of bad behavior
Speaker 1: that the ego then uses to reinforce the belief that
Speaker 1: I'm unworthy of having what I want. One of the
Speaker 1: ways we do that is serial dating. My next guest
Speaker 1: is a classic example. Good afternoon, beloved, Welcome to the
Speaker 1: R Spot. And what is a challenge issue dilemma that
Speaker 1: you're bringing to the table. For us to nibble on today.
Speaker 3: I'll good afternoon, Queen Yanna, thank you so much for
Speaker 3: having me.
Speaker 1: How are you?
Speaker 3: I am blessed and so blessed and here your bofe.
Speaker 3: I went to see you when you came to stocks
Speaker 3: and I don't want to ramble, but I just love
Speaker 3: you so much and I've been following you for years
Speaker 3: and I'm so honored to be able to bring my issue,
Speaker 3: relationship issue to you.
Speaker 1: Okay, you got a relationship issue, do you?
Speaker 3: The issue I have is I have trouble building lasting
Speaker 3: relationships because of trust issues in the past and relationship
Speaker 3: where I felt like I gave one hundred percent and
Speaker 3: was heard and cheated on and lied too, and it
Speaker 3: just has kind of given me. I kind of am
Speaker 3: like a serial dater. I love dating, but as soon
Speaker 3: as I see anything that looks like it's not right,
Speaker 3: I run. And I'm trying to get to a point
Speaker 3: where I recognize, you know, normal things that you should
Speaker 3: expect and just I don't know, it's just that's where
Speaker 3: I'm struggling at the trust and relinquishing the control of
Speaker 3: out of fear of being hurt.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, did you see the movie The matrix.
Speaker 3: I did.
Speaker 1: Okay? Did you like him?
Speaker 3: I did.
Speaker 1: Do you remember that whenever Neo went out to do
Speaker 1: something in the world, to fight Jones, or to go
Speaker 1: visit the Oracle or anything, that he was strapped into
Speaker 1: the chair? Yes, okay, So that meant that everything that
Speaker 1: we were seeing, everything that he went through, what's going
Speaker 1: on in his mind because he was strapped into the chair.
Speaker 3: Oh I'm strapped into the chair.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you strapped into the chair, baby, making up all
Speaker 1: kinds of stuff. And do you remember that Morpheus said
Speaker 1: to Neo, do you want the red pill or the
Speaker 1: blue pill?
Speaker 3: Or the blue pill?
Speaker 1: The blue pill will keep you exactly where you are, doing,
Speaker 1: exactly what you're doing. That's the blue pill. And the
Speaker 1: red pill is going to catapult you out of the
Speaker 1: matrix into a whole nother way of being. All right,
Speaker 1: Do you want the blue pill or the red pill?
Speaker 3: A red pill?
Speaker 1: You sure? Okay? Red says, give me the real truth,
Speaker 1: the hardcore, rot, gut, cold water in my face, slapped
Speaker 1: me up inside the head truth. That's the red pill.
Speaker 1: You want that one? Yeah, okay, I do. Someplace deep
Speaker 1: in your being is the belief that you can't have
Speaker 1: what you want.
Speaker 3: That's true.
Speaker 1: So you brilliantly, brilliantly set yourself up to be in
Speaker 1: situations that will give you evidence that you can't have
Speaker 1: what you want. It's just as simple. Wow. And you
Speaker 1: cannot live beyond your beliefs. So what you will do
Speaker 1: is tirelessly, relentlessly and unconsciously put yourselves in situations or
Speaker 1: with people, or under circumstances where you can't have what
Speaker 1: you want. And the minute there's a eoda of what
Speaker 1: looks like, smells like, tastes like you can't have it,
Speaker 1: you blame them.
Speaker 3: That's true.
Speaker 1: They can gonna give me what I want. They're gonna
Speaker 1: hurt me, they're gonna leave me. But but boy, so
Speaker 1: let me go all all the way back. Let me
Speaker 1: go back to the root and the car.
Speaker 3: Wow.
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, who left you, mommy, daddy, Grandma? Who left you.
Speaker 3: Daddy?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Okay, that's number one. And what was the script
Speaker 1: or the conversation I'm talking young, I'm talking three four
Speaker 1: or five secs with the caregivers about you having what
Speaker 1: you want. It could have been we can't afford it,
Speaker 1: that's too much, you can't have it. What was that
Speaker 1: conversation what was that script that was implanted in your consciousness?
Speaker 3: Then I'm gonna say it's a little bit of both.
Speaker 3: So at the time, my biological father was deceased as
Speaker 3: I was three, So I was raised by my mom
Speaker 3: in a single parent home, and I had a brother,
Speaker 3: and I always felt like the bad kid. Even though
Speaker 3: I didn't do necessarily the bad things, regular mischievous things.
Speaker 3: I kind of always had the title of the bad kid.
Speaker 1: You know, period period right there, Yeah, right there, I
Speaker 1: was the bad kid. Now do bad kids get punished?
Speaker 1: Do bad kids get in your experience? What happened to
Speaker 1: bad kids?
Speaker 3: I was always expected to mess up, and so I
Speaker 3: did most of the time.
Speaker 1: Mm hmmm, because you will live up to the expectations.
Speaker 3: I did. But years later, you know, my real dad,
Speaker 3: who is alive. That's his character. He's slick, he's street,
Speaker 3: he's cunning, he's that. And so that was kind of
Speaker 3: at the time. I didn't realize that I was wearing that,
Speaker 3: because when my mom saw me, she saw my dad
Speaker 3: and she said, without saying it, she was thinking it,
Speaker 3: she's like him now. And so I lived up to that,
Speaker 3: you know, I lived up to it. Yeah, years later,
Speaker 3: when I was forty seven, I realized my dad was
Speaker 3: alive and that it just was a untruth or secret
Speaker 3: that kind of was kept. So anyway, Yeah, I always
Speaker 3: felt like that that I couldn't do anything right, or
Speaker 3: I'm going to make a mistake, or I'm walking kind
Speaker 3: of on a tight rope and my happiness is short
Speaker 3: term because I'm going to mess something up.
Speaker 1: So knowing all of that, why in the world are
Speaker 1: you calling me? You just laid it right out.
Speaker 3: It's something about a yama.
Speaker 1: So let me give you a prescription. Because it's not
Speaker 1: that you don't trust people, it's that you don't trust
Speaker 1: yourself because you are bad. Yeah, you don't trust yourself
Speaker 1: because people have secrets and you don't know what they are.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 1: You don't trust yourself because people are dishonest and you
Speaker 1: can't figure that out. Yeah, okay, yes, and well you
Speaker 1: don't have no time to waste. My producer said, you're
Speaker 1: fifty two, so we got to get this resolved. Okay,
Speaker 1: I don't have you've been doing this a long long time. Yes,
Speaker 1: after this break, we're going to talk about how to
Speaker 1: heal that inner child and break the pattern of the
Speaker 1: people that you are attracting. Welcome back to the R
Speaker 1: spot where we're talking about dismantling relationship belief systems and
Speaker 1: healing your inner child, who will run your life if
Speaker 1: you let it. Let's get back to the conversation. So
Speaker 1: I heard you say something about three. At three years old,
Speaker 1: you were told that your daddy was deceased. Is that accurate?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Do you have a picture of yourself at three or
Speaker 1: around that age?
Speaker 3: Yes? I do.
Speaker 1: I want you to get that picture. I want you
Speaker 1: to put it in a put it in a nice frame.
Speaker 1: Go to the Dollar Tree. You can get a nice
Speaker 1: frame from the Dollar Tree, or if you feel extravagant,
Speaker 1: go to Michael's. They have them on sale. Okay, put
Speaker 1: that picture in a nice, beautiful frame. Because I want
Speaker 1: you to teach that little girl that she can trust you.
Speaker 1: She's still in there, okay, and she's got all the
Speaker 1: information from the five year old, a nine year old,
Speaker 1: the thirteen year old. Because I can imagine eleven to
Speaker 1: thirteen was a rough time for you, because that's when
Speaker 1: all your badness was showing. It was Yeah, I know,
Speaker 1: because you're growing into your own you want to become independent,
Speaker 1: and you're thinking it out. Those are rough ages for girls.
Speaker 1: Your body's changing, everything's changing. When did you become sexually active?
Speaker 1: How old were you?
Speaker 3: Oh? My god, fifteen? I was a team mom.
Speaker 1: Okay, oh you messed up again, didn't you?
Speaker 2: I did?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, Bless your heart, baby, you've been through a lot. Oh,
Speaker 1: get that fifteen year old if you've got a picture
Speaker 1: of her thirteen fourteen, fifteen, So you can get the
Speaker 1: picture of the little one and the picture of eleven, twelve, thirteen, fourteen,
Speaker 1: somewhere in there. Put those pictures in a very prominent
Speaker 1: place where you can see them. But here is the
Speaker 1: work that I want you to do. This is a
Speaker 1: very deep and sacred work. Okay, and it was developed
Speaker 1: by a psychologist in Hawaii who worked with the criminally insane. Okay,
Speaker 1: now you're not criminally insane, but the process works.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 1: What's criminal is the belief that you can't have what
Speaker 1: you want. That is your punishment for being bad. Ok
Speaker 1: You can't trust yourself because you're dishonest and you're slick
Speaker 1: in your cunning, and you're gonna mess it up sooner
Speaker 1: or later. Yes, So the trust issue is with yourself. So, beloved,
Speaker 1: there's something that I think would be very helpful for you. Okay,
Speaker 1: it's called the whole process. That's h o O p
Speaker 1: O n O p O n O whole process. So
Speaker 1: I want to speak to your little three year old
Speaker 1: that are lodge deep in your subconscious mind. I want
Speaker 1: to speak to them right now. Okay, see feel imagine
Speaker 1: that that three year old, that four year old, five
Speaker 1: year old you are right there present with you. Take
Speaker 1: a breath and just remember what you look like, what
Speaker 1: your hair looked like, what your body look like, what
Speaker 1: your legs look like. Can you see that or feel
Speaker 1: that or imagine it? Yep? Yeah. So I want to
Speaker 1: say to you little Rochelle, I love you. I love you,
Speaker 1: and I'm speaking for the big you. I'm speaking for
Speaker 1: the fifty two year old Rochelle who knows all that
Speaker 1: you've been through. I love you, and I am so
Speaker 1: so sorry that you've been taught that you're bad. Please
Speaker 1: forgive whoever taught you that. Literal Rochelle. She is so
Speaker 1: so so sorry that you've been taught that you can't
Speaker 1: trust yourself, you can't trust your thoughts, you can't trust
Speaker 1: your feelings. But most of all, she is so so
Speaker 1: sorry that you've been taught that you can't have what
Speaker 1: you want. Please forgive whoever taught you that. Thank you
Speaker 1: for being committed to your healing. Thank you, liter Rochelle.
Speaker 1: I'm speaking for the big Rochelle who knows you and
Speaker 1: loves you, and she wants you to know that she
Speaker 1: is so so sorry that the big people that you trusted,
Speaker 1: the big people that you depended on, were dishonest and
Speaker 1: made you believe that you too were dishonest. She wants
Speaker 1: you to forgive them right now so that you and
Speaker 1: her can heal. And she says, thank you for being
Speaker 1: committed to your healing. Take a breath, tell me what
Speaker 1: you're feeling right now, Rede Yeah.
Speaker 3: Three, yeah.
Speaker 1: Your work is to work with those two pictures of yourself,
Speaker 1: the little girl and the teenager, the teen mom, and
Speaker 1: to every day for a couple of days, just sit
Speaker 1: with them, and here's the statements. I love you, I
Speaker 1: am so sorry that. And then you talk about whatever
Speaker 1: it is. You talk about what you believe and what
Speaker 1: you thought, what you were told. Please forgive them, for
Speaker 1: they know not what they do. Thank you. Those are
Speaker 1: the only four statements that you have to make, and
Speaker 1: you'll know whether you're talking to the little one, whether
Speaker 1: you're talking to the big one, because you have to
Speaker 1: teach those parts of yourself that they can trust you
Speaker 1: and that you can trust yourself. And as you free
Speaker 1: them up from the past, you'll free yourself up from
Speaker 1: the past, because all you're doing is living an ingrained pattern.
Speaker 1: That's all. You can even go online and look up
Speaker 1: the whole process and it'll give you four statements. Work
Speaker 1: with them, let's say, over the course of the next month,
Speaker 1: and things will start coming up. You'll start remembering things.
Speaker 1: It's not you at fifty two, it's those little people,
Speaker 1: so that you can clear this out of your body
Speaker 1: and your system. Does that sound doable.
Speaker 3: My love, It definitely sounds doable. Oh my god, yes
Speaker 3: it does.
Speaker 1: So your assignment is to go to the Dollar Tree
Speaker 1: or Michael's. I'm not advertising for either of those two businesses. Okay,
Speaker 1: get those picture frames and put those two little ones
Speaker 1: in a prominent place, and every day for the next
Speaker 1: month or longer if you need to. I like to
Speaker 1: work with forty two days because they say it takes
Speaker 1: forty days to break a habit and two days to
Speaker 1: instill a new one. Okay, the first forty days, you're
Speaker 1: breaking the habit of thinking you're bad, you're wrong, you're slick,
Speaker 1: you're cunning, you're gonna mess up, you can't do it right.
Speaker 1: And then the next two days you're gonna be establishing
Speaker 1: the new habit of seeing yourself and those little people
Speaker 1: within you in a new way. Yeah. Yeah, and for
Speaker 1: the time being, And don't date nobody because you're a
Speaker 1: mess right now.
Speaker 3: I am, I am, I agree, Do.
Speaker 1: Not date nothing. Get you some popcorn and watch TV. Okay,
Speaker 1: give yourself a chance to heal. And when you hang
Speaker 1: up this phone, you know what I want you to do.
Speaker 1: Go somewhere in the corner and weep, just weep for
Speaker 1: those broken little girls that you've been carrying around in
Speaker 1: and out of dates.
Speaker 3: Oh my god.
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, or you got forty two days, so give
Speaker 1: me a call in about sixty days and let me
Speaker 1: know how you're doing. Okay. I will thank you for calling, beloved.
Speaker 1: Now go in the corner and weep. That's your assignment.
Speaker 3: I will.
Speaker 1: Okay, Bye bye, Thank you so much, Bye bye bye.
Speaker 1: It's just the fact of life that the experiences we
Speaker 1: have as children, the experiences we have with the big
Speaker 1: people the caregivers are siblings, other children in the neighborhood.
Speaker 1: These experiences teach us how to navigate relationships. We learn
Speaker 1: from the people in our lives, we emulate and recreate
Speaker 1: those dynamics and their relationships in our relationships. We can
Speaker 1: even learn about relationships from the people who are not
Speaker 1: in our lives. And if we develop patterns and beliefs
Speaker 1: about abandonment, rejection, or insecurity, we're going to live them
Speaker 1: out until we change them. There are ways to dissolve
Speaker 1: these belief systems and behavior patterns, and it's important to
Speaker 1: do the work as soon as you can to identify
Speaker 1: your issue, because you'll never have a healthy relationship or
Speaker 1: attract the people you want in your life if you
Speaker 1: believe you can't do it, if you believe you're not
Speaker 1: worthy of it, if you believe it will never happen
Speaker 1: for you or this is a good one. Very often
Speaker 1: in our relationship, instead of running toward what we want,
Speaker 1: we run away from what we don't want and in
Speaker 1: the process recreate the pattern. Now, these belief systems as
Speaker 1: it relates to relationship, these are hard patterns to break,
Speaker 1: but you can do it. You can move forward, you
Speaker 1: can heal. You can change and it doesn't matter what
Speaker 1: age you are now. I hope this has been helpful
Speaker 1: to someone, and if you have a question about this
Speaker 1: or any other relationship issue, you can call me live
Speaker 1: at seven seven five three zero seven seven seven six
Speaker 1: eight now be sure to follow me on social media
Speaker 1: for all of the calling times, and until then, stay
Speaker 1: in peace and not pieces. The R Spot is a
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