1 00:00:19,239 --> 00:00:21,720 Speaker 1: Hello everyone, it's your girl Cheekies, and you've reached the 2 00:00:21,760 --> 00:00:24,200 Speaker 1: voicemail box for Dear Cheekies, I'm here to give you 3 00:00:24,200 --> 00:00:27,160 Speaker 1: advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe 4 00:00:27,160 --> 00:00:29,319 Speaker 1: you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with 5 00:00:29,360 --> 00:00:32,159 Speaker 1: your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how 6 00:00:32,159 --> 00:00:34,640 Speaker 1: to balance your checkbook or how to start a business. 7 00:00:34,960 --> 00:00:38,120 Speaker 1: Whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember 8 00:00:38,280 --> 00:00:40,599 Speaker 1: these are my thoughts and opinions. And if you're suffering 9 00:00:40,640 --> 00:00:42,800 Speaker 1: from an issue or hardship, you should seek help from 10 00:00:42,800 --> 00:00:45,760 Speaker 1: a qualified professional. All right, now, go ahead and leave 11 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:49,760 Speaker 1: your question at the sound of the bee. Hey, Cheekies, 12 00:00:49,960 --> 00:00:52,400 Speaker 1: I'm from Austin. I'm a huge fan. I asked you 13 00:00:52,440 --> 00:00:54,640 Speaker 1: saw you the last time you came into town, and 14 00:00:54,920 --> 00:00:57,120 Speaker 1: I just hope that we're on your map agaend this year. 15 00:00:57,400 --> 00:01:01,560 Speaker 1: And also I'm a huge beeflow Skin user. So if 16 00:01:01,600 --> 00:01:05,160 Speaker 1: anybody who hasn't tried your products, this is their signs 17 00:01:05,200 --> 00:01:08,440 Speaker 1: to go ahead and make that investment. My situation has 18 00:01:08,440 --> 00:01:11,319 Speaker 1: to deal with, you know, siblings. I'm the oldest me 19 00:01:11,360 --> 00:01:13,600 Speaker 1: and my siblings are all pretty grown, but we're still 20 00:01:13,600 --> 00:01:15,880 Speaker 1: live at home with mom. The youngest of my siblings 21 00:01:15,959 --> 00:01:19,039 Speaker 1: is about to graduate this year. But when it comes 22 00:01:19,120 --> 00:01:22,200 Speaker 1: to like helping mom around the house and you know, 23 00:01:22,319 --> 00:01:24,920 Speaker 1: dealing with chores, I feel like I'm the only one 24 00:01:24,959 --> 00:01:28,319 Speaker 1: who really steps to that palette. And I don't think 25 00:01:28,360 --> 00:01:32,600 Speaker 1: that my brothers see how helping out, lending that helping hand, 26 00:01:32,680 --> 00:01:36,160 Speaker 1: even financially. I don't feel like they really do that, 27 00:01:36,319 --> 00:01:38,480 Speaker 1: and my mom feels the same way. But when it 28 00:01:38,520 --> 00:01:41,880 Speaker 1: comes time to express those feelings my mom, you know, stay, 29 00:01:41,880 --> 00:01:44,000 Speaker 1: it's quiet, and I'm left fitting like the villain. So 30 00:01:44,080 --> 00:01:46,520 Speaker 1: I just want to know if there's anything or any 31 00:01:46,560 --> 00:01:49,880 Speaker 1: way that I could go about approaching that situation. So 32 00:01:50,160 --> 00:01:52,800 Speaker 1: thanks for listening, and I hope that you're doing good 33 00:01:52,800 --> 00:01:56,360 Speaker 1: and I love you so much. By Pablo, you are 34 00:01:56,400 --> 00:01:59,560 Speaker 1: so sweet. Thank you so much for shouting out my 35 00:02:00,080 --> 00:02:03,640 Speaker 1: you know, skincare line. I appreciate that. And yes, I 36 00:02:03,680 --> 00:02:06,160 Speaker 1: have plans on going back to Austin, so I will 37 00:02:06,240 --> 00:02:09,320 Speaker 1: keep you updated on social media with the arena Part two. 38 00:02:09,480 --> 00:02:12,800 Speaker 1: What's up? Okay? So to your question, Oh, let me 39 00:02:12,840 --> 00:02:16,680 Speaker 1: tell you, I swear it's because as the eldest okay 40 00:02:16,720 --> 00:02:20,400 Speaker 1: as well, I feel like our siblings and even sometimes 41 00:02:20,400 --> 00:02:22,800 Speaker 1: our parents, they get used to us being the responsible 42 00:02:22,840 --> 00:02:26,120 Speaker 1: ones and leading the way, and then the younger ones 43 00:02:26,520 --> 00:02:30,880 Speaker 1: aren't held accountable. So I think for sure, talking to 44 00:02:30,880 --> 00:02:33,720 Speaker 1: your mom and telling her like, hey, I'm not trying 45 00:02:33,720 --> 00:02:35,800 Speaker 1: to be a pain in the ass, it's just everyone 46 00:02:35,840 --> 00:02:38,360 Speaker 1: needs to help. This is our home, not just my home. 47 00:02:38,800 --> 00:02:42,000 Speaker 1: Imagine if you were to stop doing things and they 48 00:02:42,000 --> 00:02:43,560 Speaker 1: won't have no other choice but to do it. So 49 00:02:43,800 --> 00:02:46,239 Speaker 1: that's one thing you can do. That Or what I 50 00:02:46,320 --> 00:02:48,440 Speaker 1: used to do with my siblings was I would put 51 00:02:48,480 --> 00:02:51,520 Speaker 1: every room, like the kitchen, the bathroom, all the rooms 52 00:02:51,520 --> 00:02:53,359 Speaker 1: in the house. I'd put them in a little piece 53 00:02:53,360 --> 00:02:55,920 Speaker 1: of paper and then I would roll them up and 54 00:02:56,200 --> 00:02:58,200 Speaker 1: we would all divide the choice. I would make it 55 00:02:58,240 --> 00:02:59,760 Speaker 1: like this fun game, and I would put in a 56 00:02:59,800 --> 00:03:01,600 Speaker 1: little cup and I'd like, Okay, each one of us 57 00:03:01,600 --> 00:03:03,960 Speaker 1: are going to choose two things out of the cup. 58 00:03:04,240 --> 00:03:06,359 Speaker 1: And then it's like, hey, this is a fun way 59 00:03:06,360 --> 00:03:09,079 Speaker 1: of all of us getting the house clean together. So 60 00:03:09,160 --> 00:03:11,360 Speaker 1: maybe that's another way of doing it. But be like, hey, guys, 61 00:03:11,360 --> 00:03:13,960 Speaker 1: this is our home, we need to keep it clean. 62 00:03:15,000 --> 00:03:19,480 Speaker 1: Gossip was clean up after yourself. Then they're gonna see 63 00:03:20,280 --> 00:03:21,960 Speaker 1: they're going to have to do it, you know. But 64 00:03:22,040 --> 00:03:24,280 Speaker 1: I'm hoping that helps, I mean doing it together and 65 00:03:24,360 --> 00:03:27,000 Speaker 1: making it fun. It just massively didn't love it, but 66 00:03:27,040 --> 00:03:28,720 Speaker 1: they had no other choice. So I was like, Okay, 67 00:03:28,840 --> 00:03:32,160 Speaker 1: you gotta clean the bathroom in the kitchen. So anyways, 68 00:03:32,320 --> 00:03:34,120 Speaker 1: I hope that that helps a little bit, and that 69 00:03:34,240 --> 00:03:36,240 Speaker 1: your mom also has your back on that. You gotta 70 00:03:36,240 --> 00:03:37,560 Speaker 1: talk to your mom be like mom, you have to 71 00:03:37,560 --> 00:03:41,360 Speaker 1: have my back. That's another important thing, bib. So thank 72 00:03:41,360 --> 00:03:47,040 Speaker 1: you so much, Pablo. I hope to see you soon. Okay. 73 00:03:47,040 --> 00:03:50,400 Speaker 1: Our next question comes from Madi Hi chickens. I just 74 00:03:50,440 --> 00:03:53,720 Speaker 1: want to start off by saying, girl, you are the bomb. Honestly, 75 00:03:53,880 --> 00:03:56,840 Speaker 1: I'm not want to fango over anybody, but you just 76 00:03:56,920 --> 00:04:01,240 Speaker 1: have this amazing spirit that shines through you. Minka to Republica. 77 00:04:02,600 --> 00:04:04,560 Speaker 1: Sometimes you've been making my day and I'm like, oh 78 00:04:04,600 --> 00:04:06,560 Speaker 1: my god, I don't know her, but I know her, 79 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:14,000 Speaker 1: So thank you for that. Anyway, a little backstory. I 80 00:04:14,040 --> 00:04:17,400 Speaker 1: was born and raised in California. My husband was born 81 00:04:17,440 --> 00:04:34,039 Speaker 1: and raised in Mexico. We met and Mexicos, California, Medico, Quataria, 82 00:04:34,320 --> 00:04:39,840 Speaker 1: el cost Via, Muico et cetera, et cetera, iOS and 83 00:04:39,920 --> 00:04:59,600 Speaker 1: Mexico Asizo onna familia locals paio e ifila cos tombrame 84 00:05:03,600 --> 00:05:15,440 Speaker 1: como and contraste to propositi cosino olimpiando in no ayomi proposito. 85 00:05:16,400 --> 00:05:19,240 Speaker 1: Oh la, Marie, you are so sweet. Thank you honestly, 86 00:05:19,240 --> 00:05:21,520 Speaker 1: thank you so much. You are She just made my 87 00:05:21,560 --> 00:05:25,000 Speaker 1: heart feel so nice. I'm like, Okay, if Marie's listening 88 00:05:25,080 --> 00:05:27,160 Speaker 1: and sees this video, like, that's what I'm gonna think 89 00:05:27,160 --> 00:05:29,120 Speaker 1: now when I'm posting, I'm like, Okay, if Marie sees 90 00:05:29,120 --> 00:05:31,680 Speaker 1: it and I'm inspiring her, it's worth it. So thank 91 00:05:31,680 --> 00:05:34,560 Speaker 1: you so much. Okay. So made you guys is asking 92 00:05:34,680 --> 00:05:38,440 Speaker 1: she had to move from California to Mexico because her 93 00:05:38,480 --> 00:05:41,120 Speaker 1: husband was saying that California was very expensive and it 94 00:05:41,160 --> 00:05:43,040 Speaker 1: was just kind of like a routine life. And yes, 95 00:05:43,080 --> 00:05:45,120 Speaker 1: California is very expensive, so I get it. So they 96 00:05:45,120 --> 00:05:47,560 Speaker 1: moved to Mexico and she loves it. Everything is fine. 97 00:05:47,600 --> 00:05:50,920 Speaker 1: Her husband has a great job out there, but she 98 00:05:51,279 --> 00:05:54,360 Speaker 1: is finding it a bit difficult to you know, get 99 00:05:54,400 --> 00:05:58,520 Speaker 1: accustomed to it. So my advice to you, Mari is 100 00:05:58,600 --> 00:06:13,120 Speaker 1: the Q is no cent coliano, la casa e cosindoso 101 00:06:14,160 --> 00:06:35,280 Speaker 1: tambi st l C two core even and Mexico, but 102 00:06:36,120 --> 00:06:38,640 Speaker 1: a change. And I always say this, you guys, is 103 00:06:39,240 --> 00:06:41,880 Speaker 1: I think good getting out and stepping out of our 104 00:06:41,920 --> 00:06:57,320 Speaker 1: comfort zone helps us grow and spectos as fi loque 105 00:06:58,520 --> 00:07:02,680 Speaker 1: carnos and loquestamos the blads like really zoning in on 106 00:07:02,800 --> 00:07:04,480 Speaker 1: what you do have, you know what I mean? So 107 00:07:04,560 --> 00:07:06,680 Speaker 1: basically that's what I was telling her. You guys, maybe 108 00:07:06,720 --> 00:07:09,400 Speaker 1: her purpose is supporting her husband out in Mexico and 109 00:07:09,480 --> 00:07:11,280 Speaker 1: he has a great job, and you know, not to 110 00:07:11,360 --> 00:07:13,000 Speaker 1: just feel like, oh, all I do is cook and clean. 111 00:07:13,240 --> 00:07:15,480 Speaker 1: There's a beautiful thing in that. You know, she's supporting 112 00:07:15,520 --> 00:07:17,520 Speaker 1: her family and her husband and having his back, and 113 00:07:18,080 --> 00:07:21,640 Speaker 1: that in itself is a purpose. Now, if she's yearning 114 00:07:21,680 --> 00:07:24,480 Speaker 1: to do something else and started a business, then I 115 00:07:24,520 --> 00:07:26,680 Speaker 1: think that's amazing as well, and she should try that. 116 00:07:27,040 --> 00:07:30,200 Speaker 1: But it's really just honing in and focusing on what 117 00:07:30,400 --> 00:07:33,040 Speaker 1: I do have. You know, the blessings that you do have. 118 00:07:33,080 --> 00:07:34,559 Speaker 1: You have a roof over your head, you have your husband, 119 00:07:34,560 --> 00:07:37,880 Speaker 1: you have your children. Really not focusing too much on 120 00:07:38,240 --> 00:07:40,360 Speaker 1: what you're missing out on if not seeing what's in 121 00:07:40,440 --> 00:07:46,560 Speaker 1: front of you. Hopefully that helped mighty. Last, but not 122 00:07:46,720 --> 00:07:51,360 Speaker 1: least is a question from an anonymous listener, Hi chikis, 123 00:07:51,920 --> 00:07:55,040 Speaker 1: what would you do if you were in my position. 124 00:07:55,440 --> 00:08:00,880 Speaker 1: I have sisters that I was raised with my whole life. 125 00:08:01,080 --> 00:08:04,200 Speaker 1: We are half sisters, but I never considered them half 126 00:08:04,240 --> 00:08:09,080 Speaker 1: sisters since we were raised so close. When my mom passed, 127 00:08:09,520 --> 00:08:13,600 Speaker 1: which wasn't their biological mom, but my mom, a lot 128 00:08:13,680 --> 00:08:17,840 Speaker 1: of things just turned really nasty, you know. And then 129 00:08:17,960 --> 00:08:21,840 Speaker 1: it even got worse after my father passed, which was 130 00:08:22,640 --> 00:08:27,120 Speaker 1: all of our fathers, and the jealousy, the rivalry, it 131 00:08:27,200 --> 00:08:30,640 Speaker 1: all just kind of started happening, and it got really 132 00:08:30,720 --> 00:08:34,600 Speaker 1: bad when I had my child. It's been eight years 133 00:08:34,720 --> 00:08:40,800 Speaker 1: now where I don't talk to them, and it's you know, 134 00:08:41,120 --> 00:08:43,800 Speaker 1: I'm at the stage in my life now where big 135 00:08:43,920 --> 00:08:47,640 Speaker 1: things are happening. You know, I'm getting married. My kids 136 00:08:47,760 --> 00:08:53,160 Speaker 1: eight years old, and they we just don't talk to 137 00:08:53,280 --> 00:08:56,760 Speaker 1: each other, and it's primarily because I don't want to. 138 00:08:59,000 --> 00:09:04,160 Speaker 1: How would you deal with when family wants you to reconcile. Well, 139 00:09:04,600 --> 00:09:08,240 Speaker 1: I wish I knew your name, but okay, Yeah, it's 140 00:09:08,920 --> 00:09:12,240 Speaker 1: really sad because when we lose someone like a pillar 141 00:09:12,320 --> 00:09:15,720 Speaker 1: of our family, like shit just hits the fan. I mean, 142 00:09:15,800 --> 00:09:18,840 Speaker 1: I've heard it from so many different families, and I've 143 00:09:18,880 --> 00:09:21,400 Speaker 1: experienced it in my own family. So it's just it's 144 00:09:21,440 --> 00:09:26,040 Speaker 1: really sad how that happens if you really well, first 145 00:09:26,040 --> 00:09:27,920 Speaker 1: of all, I don't know if you have forgiven them. 146 00:09:27,960 --> 00:09:30,120 Speaker 1: I think the first step for you is to forgive 147 00:09:30,160 --> 00:09:31,880 Speaker 1: whatever it is that they did. If you don't want 148 00:09:31,880 --> 00:09:35,400 Speaker 1: to reconcile, that's okay. You can love people from afar. 149 00:09:35,960 --> 00:09:37,559 Speaker 1: But I feel like a part of you doesn't have 150 00:09:37,679 --> 00:09:41,040 Speaker 1: peace with that, because you're kind of like, Okay, should 151 00:09:41,080 --> 00:09:42,959 Speaker 1: I not feel this way? Should I feel this way? 152 00:09:43,040 --> 00:09:44,440 Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Like, I feel like you're 153 00:09:44,480 --> 00:09:47,080 Speaker 1: also kind of questioning yourself. So I think first and foremost, 154 00:09:47,120 --> 00:09:50,040 Speaker 1: it's let me forgive them and really just let it go. 155 00:09:50,640 --> 00:09:52,760 Speaker 1: Forgive and forget what it is that they did, and 156 00:09:53,280 --> 00:09:55,400 Speaker 1: just say, look, guys, I don't have peace with this 157 00:09:55,559 --> 00:09:58,760 Speaker 1: decision of having you guys back in my life. Please 158 00:09:58,840 --> 00:10:01,840 Speaker 1: respect that. Maybe in few years you know. But don't 159 00:10:01,880 --> 00:10:03,760 Speaker 1: hold resentment, is what I'm telling you. I think the 160 00:10:03,840 --> 00:10:06,760 Speaker 1: most important thing here is don't hold resentment. Forgive them 161 00:10:06,920 --> 00:10:09,040 Speaker 1: for whatever it is that they did to hurt you. 162 00:10:09,200 --> 00:10:11,360 Speaker 1: And also, if you need to ask for forgiveness, ask 163 00:10:11,400 --> 00:10:13,760 Speaker 1: for forgiveness. And if you're just not ready for them 164 00:10:13,800 --> 00:10:16,000 Speaker 1: to be in your life, that's okay, and they have 165 00:10:16,120 --> 00:10:20,120 Speaker 1: to understand that. Just know that sometimes we say, oh, 166 00:10:20,160 --> 00:10:22,640 Speaker 1: we need time, but sometimes we run out of time, 167 00:10:23,040 --> 00:10:25,360 Speaker 1: you know, or life decides for us, if you know 168 00:10:25,440 --> 00:10:27,679 Speaker 1: what I mean. So just keep that in mind. But 169 00:10:27,800 --> 00:10:29,640 Speaker 1: I think the most important thing here is for you 170 00:10:29,760 --> 00:10:33,520 Speaker 1: to just forgive. And if you have peace without them 171 00:10:33,880 --> 00:10:36,240 Speaker 1: in your life, then that's okay as well. You know, 172 00:10:36,440 --> 00:10:39,880 Speaker 1: don't feel that pressure of having them or wanting them 173 00:10:39,960 --> 00:10:41,800 Speaker 1: in your life or needing them in your life, because 174 00:10:42,080 --> 00:10:46,040 Speaker 1: the world says it, if that makes sense. But anyways, 175 00:10:46,320 --> 00:10:47,959 Speaker 1: I'm sending you a big hug and I hope things 176 00:10:48,080 --> 00:10:51,920 Speaker 1: get better with you guys or within yourself. Should I say, okay, 177 00:10:52,440 --> 00:10:55,319 Speaker 1: Well that does it for me. 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