WEBVTT - Episode 138: The Legend (Feat. John Legend & Jasmine Sanders) 0:00:00.240 --> 0:00:03.280 Let's all right, you guys, we are gonna get started. 0:00:03.320 --> 0:00:05.080 I'm sorry we're having to his great conversation before the 0:00:05.120 --> 0:00:09.760 cameras start rolling that Sean Legend is here service and 0:00:09.800 --> 0:00:11.880 we have a special guest host to my girl, Jasmine. 0:00:13.880 --> 0:00:16.239 We love that. Even know Jasmine from d L hugely. 0:00:16.360 --> 0:00:19.360 They she co stars with him on that show as well. Yeah, 0:00:19.480 --> 0:00:22.640 do the best. I well, you know, we know how 0:00:22.680 --> 0:00:27.760 it is when you can't tame someone, right John, everybody. 0:00:28.040 --> 0:00:30.760 All you can do is say what you're gonna say, 0:00:30.840 --> 0:00:33.840 and they're gonna do what they're gonna do. I reminds, 0:00:33.880 --> 0:00:35.839 we'll get right into it because we can see that 0:00:35.880 --> 0:00:37.919 there's been some things and this is happening. Like as 0:00:37.960 --> 0:00:41.800 we say, Kanye posted some text messages that you sent 0:00:41.880 --> 0:00:44.120 to him. And it was interesting because on the Breakfast 0:00:44.120 --> 0:00:46.519 Club I talked about what you tweeted about, you know, 0:00:46.760 --> 0:00:49.479 just being responsible about who you say that you support 0:00:49.479 --> 0:00:52.000 and life, and Charlemagne was like, well, how do we 0:00:52.040 --> 0:00:54.520 know that he's talking about Kanye because people just speculated 0:00:54.560 --> 0:00:56.440 that and why didn't he just text him? And you 0:00:56.480 --> 0:00:59.080 did text them? I did text him, but I did 0:00:59.120 --> 0:01:02.120 text him. After the act, I tweeted about that stuff first, 0:01:02.160 --> 0:01:04.600 and then I texted him this morning because I felt 0:01:04.600 --> 0:01:08.320 like I should talk to them directly. And he responded, 0:01:08.360 --> 0:01:12.080 and everybody saw what our conversation, and you said, um, hey, 0:01:12.120 --> 0:01:15.039 it's jail. Is that what you're going by? People? Are you? Just? Yeah? 0:01:15.319 --> 0:01:17.360 A lot of people know me is jail. A lot 0:01:17.440 --> 0:01:19.280 of my staff like when they're just talking about me 0:01:19.600 --> 0:01:22.039 like jail. He said. You said, I hope you'll reconsider 0:01:22.040 --> 0:01:24.840 aligning yourself with Trump. You're way too powerful and influential 0:01:24.880 --> 0:01:26.920 to endorse who he is and what he stands for. 0:01:27.080 --> 0:01:30.200 I agree when you say that what you say really 0:01:30.200 --> 0:01:32.280 means something to your fans. They're loyal to you and 0:01:32.319 --> 0:01:35.319 respect your opinion. So many people who love you feel 0:01:35.360 --> 0:01:37.800 so betrayed right now because they know the harm that 0:01:37.840 --> 0:01:41.240 Trump's policies cost, especially the people of color. Right, Um, 0:01:41.280 --> 0:01:43.080 don't let this be part of your legacy. You're the 0:01:43.080 --> 0:01:46.480 greatest artist of our generation. Okay, very well stated, And 0:01:46.560 --> 0:01:48.880 Kanye said, I love you, John, I appreciate your thoughts. 0:01:48.840 --> 0:01:51.040 You're bringing up my fansom. My legacy is a tactic 0:01:51.360 --> 0:01:55.160 based on fair you to manipulate my free thought. I 0:01:56.640 --> 0:02:01.480 there was more. He posted a second and you said, 0:02:01.520 --> 0:02:04.480 think freely, think with empathy and context to your words 0:02:04.480 --> 0:02:07.240 and actions have consequences and much love. And since you're 0:02:07.280 --> 0:02:08.920 posting text, let me add that I have a new 0:02:08.960 --> 0:02:12.560 single out, thank you by the way. We love that 0:02:12.600 --> 0:02:16.440 song A good night. I would have hashtagged it, but 0:02:16.480 --> 0:02:19.240 I thought that was too much. Well, start checking your 0:02:19.240 --> 0:02:26.240 wine right now, so hopefully after this all yeah, all right, 0:02:26.320 --> 0:02:28.880 let me let me be sophisticated. You're about the tap. 0:02:31.320 --> 0:02:34.760 I don't know about the time table. That's if you're 0:02:34.760 --> 0:02:38.080 doing like a shot. Don't you do a shot? Not 0:02:38.160 --> 0:02:39.880 a shot? You know it's not to drink it all 0:02:39.880 --> 0:02:44.280 the one. She doesn't know she's drink it all at once, 0:02:46.360 --> 0:02:49.239 A different quick al right, So yeah, let's get into it, 0:02:49.280 --> 0:02:51.520 because there's a lot of things, uh, that we would 0:02:51.560 --> 0:02:53.679 want to talk about. But I do appreciate that you did, 0:02:53.760 --> 0:02:56.000 and you should be able to cast somebody out. Yeah, 0:02:56.120 --> 0:02:58.040 and it's not It wasn't about like trying to make 0:02:58.160 --> 0:02:59.880 him feel bad. I just wanted him to think about 0:03:00.400 --> 0:03:02.800 what he's saying and what it means to people and 0:03:02.840 --> 0:03:05.880 like words words you. I mean, he's talking about free 0:03:06.200 --> 0:03:10.040 thought and free thinking a lot, and um, that's fine 0:03:10.080 --> 0:03:11.640 for him to think whatever he wants to think. But 0:03:11.720 --> 0:03:15.160 every time he makes an utterance and he publishes it, um, 0:03:15.200 --> 0:03:19.560 it has impact. And politicians, when they do things, it 0:03:19.600 --> 0:03:22.480 has impact. And when you align yourself with them, that 0:03:22.520 --> 0:03:25.080 doesn't mean you're endorsing every single thing they stand for, 0:03:25.200 --> 0:03:30.320 but you're endorsing their agenda essentially. And um, if Trump's 0:03:30.360 --> 0:03:33.360 agenda is bringing so much pain to so many people, 0:03:33.880 --> 0:03:36.800 then I don't think we should be endorsing it. Maybe 0:03:36.840 --> 0:03:40.240 he's kind of a little bit removed from the average person. Yeah, 0:03:40.320 --> 0:03:42.680 that's what I said yesterday in my tweets. I was like, 0:03:42.920 --> 0:03:45.520 sometimes we have the luxury to be insulated from that, 0:03:45.680 --> 0:03:49.680 from the consequences of what politicians do. And we're very blessed. 0:03:49.760 --> 0:03:53.280 And I'm blessed partly because Kanye decided to work with 0:03:53.320 --> 0:03:55.640 me in the beginning of my career and helped launch it. 0:03:55.680 --> 0:04:00.320 And I've been very successful. He's been extremely successful. And um, 0:04:00.720 --> 0:04:03.080 when politicians do bad things that affect a lot of 0:04:03.280 --> 0:04:10.840 ordinary people, they don't affect us, well, they don't. They 0:04:10.880 --> 0:04:12.760 don't affect us in the same way. We don't feel 0:04:12.800 --> 0:04:15.680 that pain, and so we we have more luxury to 0:04:15.720 --> 0:04:19.279 just kind of align ourselves or whoever. But other people 0:04:19.600 --> 0:04:22.440 they feel the consequences of that, and um, it's not 0:04:22.480 --> 0:04:24.800 a game, you know. And I see people getting deported, 0:04:24.800 --> 0:04:28.119 in families, getting torn apart and all and him saying 0:04:28.120 --> 0:04:31.560 things like hades and ship holes. You know, I think 0:04:31.600 --> 0:04:34.480 that's just so harmful to everybody. It's harmful to so 0:04:34.520 --> 0:04:38.960 many people, and it's and it's very explicit in his mind. Uh, 0:04:39.000 --> 0:04:43.520 Donald Trump's mind. He has a white supremacist agenda. And 0:04:43.560 --> 0:04:47.839 so his agenda is too. When white people felt like 0:04:47.880 --> 0:04:50.040 their status might be eroding a little bit because we 0:04:50.080 --> 0:04:53.200 had our first black president and there was some progress 0:04:53.200 --> 0:04:57.160 and some diversity and in culture and and everything, there 0:04:57.240 --> 0:04:59.280 was a backlash. And he is the voice of the 0:04:59.320 --> 0:05:02.960 backlas America Yes, and and America great Again has always 0:05:02.960 --> 0:05:08.440 meant to Trump make America white again. Yeah, And he's 0:05:08.839 --> 0:05:14.320 affected affected that through immigration policy, through um, having Jeff Yeah, 0:05:14.360 --> 0:05:18.800 his rhetoric, having Jeff Sessions, UM, reignite the war on 0:05:18.920 --> 0:05:21.799 drugs and all these other things. He's making it clear 0:05:22.000 --> 0:05:24.000 and also making it harder for people of color to 0:05:24.000 --> 0:05:26.160 the vote, all these other things. He's making it clear 0:05:26.200 --> 0:05:28.599 that he truly wants to make America white again and 0:05:28.640 --> 0:05:31.200 to marginalize people of color as much as possible. And 0:05:31.240 --> 0:05:34.119 so when you say you love that individual that is 0:05:34.120 --> 0:05:38.400 is perpetuating these policies, that's the consequences that you're you're 0:05:38.480 --> 0:05:41.280 advocating for. Is is what that person is saying they 0:05:41.320 --> 0:05:44.000 want to do and what they're doing. And we can't 0:05:44.040 --> 0:05:46.240 just be like, I'm I think freely. I don't have 0:05:46.279 --> 0:05:48.240 to be a Democrat just and I'm black. Okay, you don't. 0:05:48.279 --> 0:05:52.560 You don't have to be you don't. And you have 0:05:52.640 --> 0:05:55.719 to know that your vote has consequences for people. It's 0:05:55.720 --> 0:05:58.360 not just it's not just you know, it's not just 0:05:58.480 --> 0:06:00.160 some fun thing you can say, well, I'm on this 0:06:00.160 --> 0:06:02.040 team or that team is not just a marketing thing. 0:06:02.560 --> 0:06:05.360 It's actual real life consequence for people. See. But I 0:06:05.720 --> 0:06:08.599 do think he's using as a marketing tool because obviously 0:06:08.920 --> 0:06:11.039 we know he has a project coming out. So I 0:06:11.080 --> 0:06:13.160 do feel like he does stuff like this when he 0:06:13.160 --> 0:06:21.720 has projects coming out. And she loves Kanye. But the thing, 0:06:22.080 --> 0:06:36.200 this is my biggest issue up on the income upright, motherfucker, John, 0:06:41.480 --> 0:06:44.080 screw you and your wife. Is this a drill or 0:06:44.120 --> 0:06:46.920 is this not a drill? Something on fire? I think 0:06:46.920 --> 0:06:49.960 we're okay, I don't smell smoke. The fact that we 0:06:50.080 --> 0:06:54.240 just kept I'm like, this would be a bad way 0:06:54.279 --> 0:06:59.719 to go on videotape. But here's my here's my issue 0:06:59.800 --> 0:07:02.599 with Kanye a couple of things. First and foremost, I 0:07:02.640 --> 0:07:04.800 agree with you. I think the fact that whenever he 0:07:04.880 --> 0:07:06.880 has an album or whenever he needs attention, he does 0:07:06.880 --> 0:07:11.200 stupid stuff. Now, for me, in terms of contradiction, we 0:07:11.280 --> 0:07:13.480 all remember when he stood on stage and said, George 0:07:13.480 --> 0:07:17.000 Bush don't like black. So clearly you understand when you 0:07:17.120 --> 0:07:22.280 see divisive rhetoric. So knowing that Donald Trump spews that constantly, 0:07:22.600 --> 0:07:24.280 you can look at his history, you can look at 0:07:24.280 --> 0:07:26.280 the things that he does. How then can you now 0:07:26.360 --> 0:07:29.080 say this is my brother and I love him. That 0:07:29.120 --> 0:07:31.080 makes no sense to me. But knowing him, he's gonna 0:07:31.080 --> 0:07:33.480 flip it like I love everybody ever he did say that, 0:07:33.920 --> 0:07:36.600 But this is what I've read it like that, Like, 0:07:36.880 --> 0:07:39.960 that's not what I meant. I think he's always also 0:07:40.040 --> 0:07:43.600 sold himself as authentic to everybody, And like that, when 0:07:43.600 --> 0:07:45.760 he said things that you might have disagreed with, you 0:07:45.760 --> 0:07:47.600 always believed he was saying it because he really felt 0:07:47.640 --> 0:07:51.320 it right. And if this is a gimmick, which based 0:07:51.320 --> 0:07:53.600 on his text, I don't know if it is a gimmicky, 0:07:53.680 --> 0:07:56.040 like he seems like like he just feels this way 0:07:56.160 --> 0:07:58.640 right now. But if it is a gimmick, it's not 0:07:58.680 --> 0:08:01.280 good for him because like part of what he's always 0:08:01.320 --> 0:08:03.360 said to us, he was being real, like even if 0:08:03.400 --> 0:08:06.920 you didn't like what even if you know he disrupted 0:08:06.960 --> 0:08:11.080 the proceedings with Taylor and Beyonce, like it's something he was, 0:08:11.200 --> 0:08:14.520 something he strongly believed. And if he really believes this, 0:08:14.600 --> 0:08:16.480 and I just hope he'll think about it the more 0:08:16.480 --> 0:08:19.280 and reconsider, but if he doesn't believe it, then it's 0:08:19.280 --> 0:08:22.280 not a good look, all right. So we just had 0:08:22.320 --> 0:08:23.680 to get that out the way because this is all 0:08:23.760 --> 0:08:26.960 just happen to And by the way, I know Christie 0:08:26.960 --> 0:08:33.640 wants to tweet something right now. She just did I 0:08:31.960 --> 0:08:35.000 need my phone. I was like, he has the best sweets, 0:08:35.880 --> 0:08:37.480 He's really the best. Thing we want to think is 0:08:37.520 --> 0:08:40.160 what just Chris you have to say about that. This 0:08:40.280 --> 0:08:43.240 is the most elaborate and complex Google pixel phone add 0:08:43.240 --> 0:08:46.280 I have seen. Everyone keeps asking me to comment on ship, 0:08:46.360 --> 0:08:50.280 comment on Psycho Tammy Lasagna, whom I refused, Tommy Alazanna 0:08:50.360 --> 0:08:52.120 to give the Joy to say something about real House 0:08:52.200 --> 0:08:54.840 West of Atlanta, speak up about Kanye. When it comes 0:08:54.880 --> 0:08:56.840 to people we know, we do speak up to them, 0:08:56.920 --> 0:08:58.880 not on Twitter, and sometimes I guess it makes it 0:08:58.920 --> 0:09:02.760 to Twitter fair enough. Now she makes it the Twitter 0:09:02.800 --> 0:09:08.000 a lot. But I think she's good because people always 0:09:08.040 --> 0:09:12.080 asking us about, like respond to this, because anything Kanye does. 0:09:12.280 --> 0:09:15.240 You know that people want me to respond to Chrissy, 0:09:15.320 --> 0:09:18.840 to respond to Kim or whatever. And and uh, most 0:09:18.840 --> 0:09:20.600 of the time, if we have something we want to 0:09:20.600 --> 0:09:23.560 talk about with them, we talk to them ourselves because 0:09:23.679 --> 0:09:26.720 we've been friends for a long time. And uh, obviously 0:09:26.720 --> 0:09:29.360 this all became more public, but it is what it is. 0:09:29.400 --> 0:09:31.360 Were you annoyed when you saw that he posted the 0:09:31.520 --> 0:09:33.640 because you didn't say nothing crazy? So I was like 0:09:33.840 --> 0:09:35.679 a little bit surprised, but I was like, actually, I 0:09:35.720 --> 0:09:40.440 look very good in this time. I was like moving forward. 0:09:40.480 --> 0:09:43.880 I had to watch. I was like, this is probably 0:09:44.040 --> 0:09:46.200 better for my brand than if it weren't posted. So 0:09:49.240 --> 0:09:52.400 all right, so I want to talk about some things. Obviously, Um, well, 0:09:52.440 --> 0:09:55.760 I know you watch your housewives. Yeah, I know you 0:09:55.760 --> 0:09:58.360 watched Atlanta. Do you watched Potomac? Yeah, we watched both. 0:09:58.440 --> 0:10:01.480 We watched well Christie watches pretty much everything that's on 0:10:01.520 --> 0:10:05.920 BRA but that includes all the housewives. Um, and I've 0:10:05.920 --> 0:10:10.240 seen I see probably with her right very look very comfortable. 0:10:11.240 --> 0:10:13.319 But um. One question I wanted to talk about was 0:10:13.679 --> 0:10:16.080 Karen on The Real Houses of Potomac says that her 0:10:16.120 --> 0:10:18.920 and her husband have separate financial everything, like they have 0:10:19.000 --> 0:10:21.480 comporate accounts. They don't know what's going on with each 0:10:21.520 --> 0:10:25.000 other's finances. Could be aligned, could be true, but I 0:10:25.000 --> 0:10:27.160 wanted to know your take on that. If Christy was like, leg, 0:10:27.280 --> 0:10:30.840 we need separate accounts. No, we never said that. I mean, 0:10:31.160 --> 0:10:35.000 we do most of our decisions and everything jointly, um, 0:10:35.040 --> 0:10:37.280 but there's certain things that are separate. We have the 0:10:37.320 --> 0:10:40.120 same business manager, but we have our own businesses because 0:10:40.120 --> 0:10:41.560 she makes a lot of money doing what she does 0:10:41.760 --> 0:10:43.120 and I make a lot doing what I do, and 0:10:43.160 --> 0:10:44.880 a lot of the money comes in through our businesses, 0:10:44.920 --> 0:10:48.160 and then once it comes to our household, it's household money. Okay, 0:10:48.200 --> 0:10:50.640 that's that's see, that's a good set up. But now 0:10:50.679 --> 0:10:54.800 if you've got a broke significant other, like you know 0:10:54.840 --> 0:10:57.520 what I mean, you know, so you might got more 0:10:57.559 --> 0:11:00.120 money than them, they might got more money than you. Yeah, 0:11:00.160 --> 0:11:01.960 I think a lot of people get divorced over money, 0:11:02.000 --> 0:11:03.720 So you have you have to kind of you have 0:11:03.800 --> 0:11:07.360 to kind of communicate well upfront about what I think 0:11:07.360 --> 0:11:09.240 you should have a household account and then I think 0:11:09.240 --> 0:11:11.959 you should kind of have your own individual like account. 0:11:12.720 --> 0:11:15.400 I want to buy and she she buys what she wants. 0:11:15.440 --> 0:11:17.480 She makes plenty of money. She buys what she wants, 0:11:17.480 --> 0:11:18.679 and if I want to buy a gift, I buy 0:11:18.720 --> 0:11:23.679 her gifts. Spends on shopping. She spends more. I mean 0:11:23.840 --> 0:11:25.920 it's not fair because women have women have to spend 0:11:25.960 --> 0:11:28.160 more on shopping. What do you spending more? I mean 0:11:29.160 --> 0:11:34.760 I spend money on all kinds of things, but home stuff, 0:11:34.840 --> 0:11:37.720 you know, whatever. But you know, women's clothes just costs 0:11:37.720 --> 0:11:41.720 more and you'll have to buy Morris. It's not Me 0:11:41.760 --> 0:11:44.640 and Jasmine had a whole debate about dating a man 0:11:44.760 --> 0:11:47.480 who makes less than you. She said she wouldn't do it. 0:11:47.640 --> 0:11:50.640 We disagreed. I said I would, Yeah, Well, it depends 0:11:50.640 --> 0:11:53.640 on what less means. It's like if he's working hard 0:11:53.640 --> 0:11:55.920 and he's doing well and what he does, but you 0:11:56.000 --> 0:11:58.080 happen to be doing better, Like I don't feel like 0:11:58.120 --> 0:12:01.439 that's that's a bad thing. Um, but you just want 0:12:01.559 --> 0:12:03.199 him to be able to you just want him to 0:12:03.200 --> 0:12:05.480 be able to contribute to the relationship. And also, I 0:12:05.520 --> 0:12:09.200 think psychologically it's tougher men when it's a huge imbalance, 0:12:09.640 --> 0:12:12.000 and then that infects a lot of other things. That's right, 0:12:12.000 --> 0:12:13.600 because let me tell you from the first At the 0:12:13.600 --> 0:12:15.840 first chance that he can't pay a bill, the very 0:12:15.880 --> 0:12:19.559 first argument you have a check is gonna say what's yours? 0:12:20.440 --> 0:12:22.440 So you're saying that a guy has to make at 0:12:22.520 --> 0:12:24.760 least the same amount as you, or at least the 0:12:24.800 --> 0:12:27.400 same amount or more would be nice that I'm really 0:12:27.400 --> 0:12:30.040 into money, but I am. But I think which money is? 0:12:30.400 --> 0:12:32.840 You know, here's the here's the real deal. I believe 0:12:33.320 --> 0:12:37.839 that men I don't think they can mentally handle making less. 0:12:38.200 --> 0:12:39.800 I think it will make them feel less of a 0:12:39.840 --> 0:12:42.160 man if they know you bring in the check, you know, 0:12:42.320 --> 0:12:45.000 the biggest check dinner. You know, the check comes at 0:12:45.000 --> 0:12:46.839 the end of the meal. You always have to sign 0:12:46.920 --> 0:12:48.960 in front of him and his boys. You know what. 0:12:49.000 --> 0:12:51.400 I think it just caused this problems that happened to 0:12:51.440 --> 0:12:55.400 you before. Yes, I want to hear about I can 0:12:55.440 --> 0:12:58.280 see that you like in front of him, Christ Tommy, 0:13:00.120 --> 0:13:02.360 and no matter how gentle you try to be about it. 0:13:02.360 --> 0:13:04.920 Their egos are always bruised because they know they don't 0:13:04.920 --> 0:13:07.000 make as much as you, and then they don't want 0:13:07.000 --> 0:13:08.360 to hear about I'm like, yo, I can't help that. 0:13:08.400 --> 0:13:10.720 I And the other thing is I believe people should 0:13:10.760 --> 0:13:13.120 be equally yoked. I think if you have a lot 0:13:13.200 --> 0:13:14.840 to lose, I think then you should be with someone 0:13:14.840 --> 0:13:17.960 else who el like yoke me, How yoke yoke we 0:13:18.080 --> 0:13:22.199 yoked together. I think if the person, if I make 0:13:22.240 --> 0:13:24.000 more than the person, I don't want to join account 0:13:24.000 --> 0:13:33.160 with them money we can join. That sounds one pretty 0:13:33.160 --> 0:13:35.839 fair to me, you know, because like some people are 0:13:35.920 --> 0:13:38.640 just wicked, like some people really do be in it 0:13:38.679 --> 0:13:41.320 for like money, Like and I know a lot of 0:13:41.400 --> 0:13:44.120 females that have been in relationships with guys for money. 0:13:44.360 --> 0:13:46.600 So I feel like guys can be in relationships with 0:13:46.760 --> 0:13:50.199 girls of females, women, whatever for money as well. I 0:13:50.240 --> 0:13:52.600 would never want nobody to like try to get over 0:13:52.640 --> 0:13:54.520 on me, like funk, I'm broke. Let me get with 0:13:54.559 --> 0:13:57.000 this to somebody being in love. But if y'all know 0:13:57.080 --> 0:14:00.200 each other love and doing really well, let me time. 0:14:00.240 --> 0:14:03.440 I think, well, listen, I think at the beginning of 0:14:03.480 --> 0:14:07.840 a relationship is one thing to be wary and be guarded, 0:14:08.360 --> 0:14:10.200 but after you get to a certain point where you 0:14:10.200 --> 0:14:12.280 really trust that person and you all really are a team, 0:14:12.360 --> 0:14:14.160 and you all need to act like a team to me, 0:14:14.200 --> 0:14:16.640 and you can't be always looking over your shoulder wondering 0:14:16.679 --> 0:14:18.600 if they're just in it for the money. Like if 0:14:18.640 --> 0:14:21.120 you've gotten to that point ten years in or whatever, 0:14:21.600 --> 0:14:25.080 and Christian, I've been together since two thousand six or 0:14:25.120 --> 0:14:28.360 two thousand seven, and um, if you're at that point 0:14:28.400 --> 0:14:30.960 in your relationship and you're still worrying about trusting them 0:14:30.960 --> 0:14:34.960 with money, then there's bigger problems in your relationship. Chris. 0:14:35.280 --> 0:14:37.800 It's like a fundamental trust issue. But then my my 0:14:37.880 --> 0:14:40.360 thing changes when it comes to like if I've gotten 0:14:40.360 --> 0:14:43.640 with a guy, he makes good money and then he 0:14:43.920 --> 0:14:46.400 loses his job, I'm not gonna leave him over that, 0:14:46.520 --> 0:14:48.920 especially we've been together for a long time. Then we're 0:14:48.920 --> 0:14:51.440 operating as a team. But you're not gonna come in 0:14:51.480 --> 0:14:58.040 with nothing. And I got I made it really just 0:14:58.480 --> 0:15:00.720 because it's a lot of hours in a you can't 0:15:00.720 --> 0:15:06.600 make a couple of dollars. But if he's only nineteen nothing, 0:15:06.920 --> 0:15:13.760 it's China are you talking about right? Here. That's just 0:15:15.120 --> 0:15:17.800 all right. Now let's talk about this is a topic 0:15:17.920 --> 0:15:20.560 that we were discussing before you came in. Putting trackers 0:15:20.680 --> 0:15:23.040 on people's phone, you know, like to find my phone, 0:15:23.520 --> 0:15:26.080 I think, find my friends and all of that, Well, 0:15:26.640 --> 0:15:28.720 what do you find it on someone else? Or find 0:15:28.720 --> 0:15:33.880 your own note located in the you're tracking people. Everything's 0:15:33.880 --> 0:15:38.880 feeling like Black Mirror to me, the one way you 0:15:38.880 --> 0:15:42.760 can see the numbers of following they got at watch 0:15:42.880 --> 0:15:45.800 if you don't watch Black Mirror. It's so relevant to 0:15:45.840 --> 0:15:50.040 everything we're talking about, especially with technology and the way 0:15:50.760 --> 0:15:53.640 the show is basically kind of structured like Twilight Zone, 0:15:54.080 --> 0:15:56.720 or each episode is its own episode is about something 0:15:56.800 --> 0:16:00.400 kind of weird and a little bit futuristic, but it's future, 0:16:00.440 --> 0:16:03.280 but it's like now future. It's like it's like things 0:16:03.320 --> 0:16:05.080 you can imagine happened in the next five to ten 0:16:05.160 --> 0:16:08.680 years and how it could go awry, and how technology 0:16:08.720 --> 0:16:11.200 could go awry in our lives, and it's so it's 0:16:11.240 --> 0:16:14.080 so real you feel all these stories. You really have 0:16:14.120 --> 0:16:18.000 to watch it. It's really good. So that Find my 0:16:18.080 --> 0:16:20.720 Friends and the that whole app because it could be 0:16:20.760 --> 0:16:23.160 a situation where she's like, Okay, we need to know 0:16:23.160 --> 0:16:26.000 where each other are just in case something happens. Well, 0:16:26.040 --> 0:16:28.360 at this point in my life, everybody knows why I am, 0:16:29.000 --> 0:16:32.600 like I have it's on my calendar. My whole team 0:16:32.720 --> 0:16:35.160 knows where I am. TMZ knows where I am if 0:16:35.320 --> 0:16:38.080 if I'll show up anywhere, Like I have literally nothing 0:16:38.160 --> 0:16:44.080 too high, nothing I can hide. So it's different for me, 0:16:44.280 --> 0:16:46.800 but for relationships in general, Like, what would you say 0:16:46.880 --> 0:16:48.400 is you can get in that car in the middle 0:16:48.400 --> 0:16:50.880 of the night with the tints on and and go somewhere. 0:16:50.920 --> 0:16:53.440 We can not say that, you know what I'm saying, 0:16:53.520 --> 0:16:57.000 Like you, if you really wanted to get somewhere, you can, yes, 0:16:57.160 --> 0:16:59.880 But if you're if you're in an early stage, I 0:17:00.080 --> 0:17:03.480 feel like anybody should be stalking your your whereabouts at 0:17:03.520 --> 0:17:06.400 any time. And then once you're like five or ten 0:17:06.520 --> 0:17:09.719 years in listen, it's hard for you to argue with 0:17:09.760 --> 0:17:13.600 it because it's like what It's like, what can you say? 0:17:13.640 --> 0:17:15.760 Because she's like, I just need to know where you 0:17:15.760 --> 0:17:17.200 are at all times, and you're like, well I don't 0:17:17.200 --> 0:17:23.560 want you, right, but yeah, that's automatically suspicious. Yeah, so 0:17:23.640 --> 0:17:25.840 I feel like it's hard to say no. At that point, 0:17:26.560 --> 0:17:28.200 you got to leave your phone and have another phone, 0:17:29.119 --> 0:17:32.159 the phone at home. The best way out of this 0:17:32.240 --> 0:17:34.520 situation is not to be lying all the time. Nothing 0:17:35.240 --> 0:17:37.879 like it truly is honestly, it's like just better for 0:17:37.920 --> 0:17:41.120 your sanity, Like you don't like lying all the time. 0:17:41.119 --> 0:17:46.879 It is not easy, it's stressful, it's stressful, there's moys 0:17:47.680 --> 0:17:49.400 and there's so many more ways to get caught now, 0:17:49.440 --> 0:17:51.879 so it's like there's no point. Don't do it. I 0:17:51.920 --> 0:17:53.560 feel like back in the day with something you don't 0:17:53.560 --> 0:17:56.760 want to beat. If you don't want to be with somebody, 0:17:57.040 --> 0:17:58.560 if you want if you don't want to be faithful, 0:17:58.600 --> 0:18:00.439 just don't be in that long term relations ship at 0:18:00.480 --> 0:18:03.240 this point, because there's so many ways to get caught, 0:18:03.680 --> 0:18:05.960 Like just don't do it. Don't go to yourself, don't 0:18:06.000 --> 0:18:07.760 do it to somebody else. I'm sure before Christie, you've 0:18:07.760 --> 0:18:11.359 gotten quite cheating, do you have any never? Never? But 0:18:11.440 --> 0:18:13.720 you have cheated. You just never got caught before when 0:18:13.720 --> 0:18:16.720 you were young, when I was younger songs at that, 0:18:16.760 --> 0:18:20.680 and I don't want to believe that the slick is 0:18:20.720 --> 0:18:23.840 held though, like he'll get out of here. I don't 0:18:23.840 --> 0:18:29.879 know if he's talking about all of ye. But but 0:18:29.960 --> 0:18:32.400 the worst part is feeling like you have to lie 0:18:32.400 --> 0:18:35.440 about stuff and it's so much healthier for your own 0:18:35.520 --> 0:18:38.000 mind that I have to go around lying, right, well, 0:18:38.000 --> 0:18:42.760 I can't keep up with lies anyway. When I said healthier, 0:18:42.880 --> 0:18:45.119 it's so much healthier than I have to lie. It's 0:18:45.160 --> 0:18:47.960 like so peaceful in your life time, y'all ever gotten 0:18:48.000 --> 0:18:51.400 quote a life? Oh God, Angela not telling myself all 0:18:51.440 --> 0:18:55.119 the time was about. But you can't gun quote. I've 0:18:55.160 --> 0:18:57.080 gotten caught in a lie before. That's why I can't lie, 0:18:57.200 --> 0:18:59.920 because y'all know how open and honest I am about everything, 0:19:00.200 --> 0:19:03.360 so I'm always just you know, running it down verbatim 0:19:03.440 --> 0:19:05.679 that I can't remember that, like, oh, this is supposed 0:19:05.720 --> 0:19:09.160 to leave the truth. I can't remember that. I never 0:19:09.240 --> 0:19:11.320 got caught big time. And at remember I was dating 0:19:11.359 --> 0:19:14.480 this guy and we had like took a break or whatever, 0:19:14.560 --> 0:19:16.600 so we ended up getting back together. But I had 0:19:16.600 --> 0:19:18.439 already told this other guy he could come visit me, 0:19:19.359 --> 0:19:21.360 So I lied and told my boyfriend I was going 0:19:21.440 --> 0:19:23.639 to like Barcelona. I don't know why I made this 0:19:23.720 --> 0:19:26.400 elaborate liar, because sometimes I feel like an elaborate lie 0:19:26.480 --> 0:19:29.280 is more believable because you're like, that's no way she's 0:19:29.280 --> 0:19:32.679 gonna just say she's going to Barcelona on all the 0:19:32.720 --> 0:19:34.960 details though, But I guess he knew I was lying, 0:19:35.000 --> 0:19:36.760 and so he came to my house while the guy 0:19:36.880 --> 0:19:38.920 was there. So I just opened a dir and I 0:19:38.960 --> 0:19:42.119 was like, okay, you caught me. And I introduced them 0:19:42.160 --> 0:19:45.280 to each other. And how did it end? It was fine. 0:19:45.320 --> 0:19:47.480 He just left and that was that and I finished 0:19:47.480 --> 0:19:49.240 my weekend. That's like, she's got to have it. It 0:19:49.359 --> 0:19:50.840 was nothing I could do about it. I got caught. 0:19:50.880 --> 0:19:52.440 Like I think, when you get caught lying, it's really 0:19:52.480 --> 0:19:54.719 important to just admit it. Well, no, it's really important 0:19:54.720 --> 0:19:58.840 just to get mad. Turn the table. What are you doing? 0:19:59.040 --> 0:20:04.199 You fo? Turn around on crip'st all. Why do you 0:20:04.200 --> 0:20:10.880 think I'm here strategy do that all the time. Why 0:20:10.920 --> 0:20:16.040 do you not trust me enough? Yeah? Definite, least you 0:20:16.160 --> 0:20:19.240 doing something I don't trust me. That's the problem. That's 0:20:19.280 --> 0:20:23.879 what the problem. That's why he's here. Now. That is 0:20:23.920 --> 0:20:28.440 called gas lighting, right opening. Alright, So we have a 0:20:28.440 --> 0:20:29.760 little game to play, and this is going to be 0:20:29.760 --> 0:20:32.560 a John Legend playlist game. Okay, don't have to be 0:20:32.640 --> 0:20:35.399 your songs, but the theme is a good night all right, 0:20:35.720 --> 0:20:38.959 And so this is all about your bedroom playlist? All right, 0:20:39.400 --> 0:20:41.959 So what is the best song to make a baby too? 0:20:42.920 --> 0:20:48.879 I'm all about the Marvin Gaye for for for sex Time. 0:20:49.600 --> 0:20:53.560 Um So, which song I like the whole um I 0:20:53.640 --> 0:20:57.200 Want You album. It's dough. I'm gonna go with that. 0:20:57.720 --> 0:20:59.879