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Speaker 1: is Strawberry Letter. Subject It's a lot to leave. Dear

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley. I'm in my late thirties and I was

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Speaker 1: dating a younger man that I grew up, that grew

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Speaker 1: up with my brother. He cuts my son's hair, and

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Speaker 1: he started making house calls during the pandemic, and I

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Speaker 1: paid him extra for the convenience. One day last summer,

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Speaker 1: I told him he could stop coming by because my

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Speaker 1: son and I were vaccinated and ready to start our

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Speaker 1: normal routines again. He practically begged to keep coming by

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Speaker 1: the house and told me I didn't have to pay extra.

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Speaker 1: After a haircut one day and left immediately to go

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Speaker 1: to his dad's house and I was alone with the barber.

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Speaker 1: He told me that he'd waited for months to be

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Speaker 1: alone with me and asked me to pour us a drink.

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Speaker 1: I was caught off guard by this younger man taking charge,

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Speaker 1: but I did what I was told. I walked back

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Speaker 1: into my den and he was standing in his birthday suit.

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Speaker 1: I put the drinks down, and you can imagine what

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Speaker 1: happened next. We've been role playing and having sex all

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Speaker 1: over my house for almost a year, and every time

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Speaker 1: I try to break it off with him, he sends

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Speaker 1: me a picture of himself in the shower or lying

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Speaker 1: alone in his bed. By the way, he still lives

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Speaker 1: in his mother's house and he's almost thirty years old.

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Speaker 1: He's so proud to be with me that he's okay

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Speaker 1: with his family knowing, and he's dropped hence to my

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Speaker 1: brother here and there. I am so caught up with

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Speaker 1: the mind blowing sex that it's a problem. His personality

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Speaker 1: is big, his arms are big, and his you know what,

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Speaker 1: is big, so it's a lot to I wish he

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Speaker 1: had his own apartment at the least, or maybe a

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Speaker 1: legitimate mobile barber service. I'll never find a lover as

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Speaker 1: thorough as him, so I'm so am I being shallow

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Speaker 1: for worrying about all the things that he doesn't have.

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Speaker 1: Should I go public with him and risk my reputation

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Speaker 1: for lots of great sex? Or end things for good.

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Speaker 1: You've been with this guy for a whole year, doing

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Speaker 1: it all over your place. You say in this letter

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Speaker 1: you've known all along that he's younger and that he

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Speaker 1: lives with his mom. I would say a year is

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Speaker 1: a pretty long time to stay with someone, So why

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Speaker 1: didn't you break it off long before? Now? Well, we

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Speaker 1: know the reason before. We know the reason. You like him,

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Speaker 1: and you know you like what he does to you,

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Speaker 1: and you want to spend time with him. You enjoy

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Speaker 1: doing what you do with him. I think it's more

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Speaker 1: than just the great sex. I mean, that's what you mentioned,

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Speaker 1: but I think it's more than that. You're obviously worried

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Speaker 1: about what people will think of you with this younger

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Speaker 1: guy who still lives at home with his mom. I

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Speaker 1: get all that. What I don't get is why you

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Speaker 1: guys can't stop having sex for just a moment and

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Speaker 1: maybe talk about your concerns. He sounds like he needs

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Speaker 1: some direction. He does have a job, so you know

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Speaker 1: you can ask him things like as he's saving his money.

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Speaker 1: Has he looked into getting his own apartment? What about

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Speaker 1: getting that mobile barber service you mentioned? I mean, what

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Speaker 1: does he say about the future. I say, at least

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Speaker 1: have a conversation with him about you know, where his

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Speaker 1: head is before you break it off. I mean, he

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Speaker 1: might surprise you. Be open to this young man. You

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Speaker 1: never know, Steve. I'm hell have a lot of mixed

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Speaker 1: emotions in this letter. It's a lot to leave. No,

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Speaker 1: it ain't not really. Let me tell you why. I

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Speaker 1: don't think it's much to leave at all. I remember

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Speaker 1: late thirties natany younger man, and now we find out

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Speaker 1: in the letter he's around he's almost thirty some assuming

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Speaker 1: he's twenty eight twenty nine years old. So that's the

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Speaker 1: younger man she's got. Friend of her brothers. He's a barber.

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Speaker 1: He'd been coming by the house cutting the Sun's hair

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Speaker 1: during the pandemic. She puts a call in, tells him

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Speaker 1: to hear and the sun been vaccin. They're gonna get

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Speaker 1: back to normal living, so he ain't got to come

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Speaker 1: by no more. And you know he pays extra to

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Speaker 1: come back. He immediately told her you don't have to

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Speaker 1: pay extra, you know, Please please just He practically begged

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Speaker 1: you not to get rid of him because you don't

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Speaker 1: have to pay extra. The reason you don't have to

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Speaker 1: pay extra costs in his mind, and you are the extra,

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Speaker 1: and he fit to see about that, right there. Extra

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Speaker 1: ain't always money, hello, man, Extra, sometimes it's just extra.

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Speaker 1: I was here so one day your son was over there,

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Speaker 1: immediately left go to his dad's house, and you was

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Speaker 1: alone with the bob. Now he's been making house skulls,

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Speaker 1: doing the pandemic and all this hill and finally, all

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Speaker 1: He told me he's waiting for months to be alone

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Speaker 1: with me, and asked me to paw us a drink.

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Speaker 1: I was caught off god by this younger man taking charge,

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Speaker 1: but I did what I was told. See as you know,

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Speaker 1: you can beat twenty eight twenty nine. Hey, hey, you

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Speaker 1: know we weren't here to talk human favor going in

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Speaker 1: and get us a trainer, So you did what you

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Speaker 1: was told. He took charge. He asked for a drink.

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Speaker 1: That ain't taking charge. He asked for the drink. You

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Speaker 1: went and got the drink. When you came back, he

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Speaker 1: standing asked the neck it in and then I like it.

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Speaker 1: I really like it. I have on you ain't have

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Speaker 1: on nothing but one sock. And he heard you coming

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Speaker 1: It was his heel was out, but he had one

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Speaker 1: have enough time to get completely niked. You didn't notice that,

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Speaker 1: so you set that drink down, and y'all, you said,

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Speaker 1: and you can imagine what happened next. Okay, we've been

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Speaker 1: rolled playing and having sex all over my house for

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Speaker 1: almost a year. I know you rolled playing him. He

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Speaker 1: never in mother. Hold on, Steve. Part two of your

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Speaker 1: Today's Strawberry Letters, subject it's a lot to lead. We'll

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Speaker 1: get back into it right after this. You're listening to

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Speaker 1: Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, Come on, Steve, let's

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Speaker 1: recap today's strawberry letter. The subject it's a lot to leave.

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Speaker 1: The woman saying it's a lot to leave. Let me

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Speaker 1: hurry through this. Boba been cutting her son's head during

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Speaker 1: the pandemic. Her and the son got vaccinated. Told the

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Speaker 1: boba he didn't have to come by anymore. He begged

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Speaker 1: her not to cancel him. He don't want to pay extra,

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Speaker 1: just let him come. He over that cutting the hair.

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Speaker 1: One day, the son leaves would go to his father's house. Immediately,

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Speaker 1: the barber stays, she's surprised. The man asked for a drink.

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Speaker 1: She go get a drink. She come back to young

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Speaker 1: Boba who's about twenty eight twenty nine years old, thirty

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Speaker 1: or thirty that live with his mama, is standing in

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Speaker 1: her then booty button niked just all up button naked.

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Speaker 1: She put that drink down and said, you can imagine

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Speaker 1: what's been happened. Then she said, we've been rolled playing

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Speaker 1: and having sex all over my house for almost a year,

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Speaker 1: and every time I try to break it off with him,

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Speaker 1: he sends a picture of himself in the shower or

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Speaker 1: laying alone in his bead. Now, we later find out

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Speaker 1: that the problem you're having with this young man is

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Speaker 1: not only is he younger than you, but he lives

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Speaker 1: at home with his mama. So now, why are you

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Speaker 1: surprised that y'all been role playing and having sex all

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Speaker 1: over your house. He can't have sex all over his

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Speaker 1: mama house, So what role is he playing? Oh? I

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Speaker 1: get he's acting like he got his own place playing

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Speaker 1: that role. Then he's trying to play the role, or

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Speaker 1: what it feels like they act like a grown ass man.

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Speaker 1: He playing that role, then he probably sitting up here

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Speaker 1: acting like he had a full time, good paying ass job.

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Speaker 1: He just playing all types of roles. You know, So

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Speaker 1: now you enthralled with it. By the way, he still

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Speaker 1: lives in his mama's house and he's almost thirty years old.

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Speaker 1: Now he's so proud to be with me that he's

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Speaker 1: okay with his family knowing. And he's dropped hints to

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Speaker 1: my brother and there now he's dropping his to your brother,

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Speaker 1: who is his friend, and his brother gonna with his

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Speaker 1: the jaw, because that's gonna be our initial reaction. I'm

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Speaker 1: so caught up with this mind blowing sex that it's

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Speaker 1: a problem. His personality is big, his arms are big,

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Speaker 1: and you know what else's big. It's a lot to leave. Well,

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Speaker 1: let me tell you what ain't big. His dreams ain't big,

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Speaker 1: His aspirations ain't big. His uh, his promise for tomorrow

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Speaker 1: ain't big. Uh he you know, his his potential ain't big.

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Speaker 1: You nothing else's big. He got big arms, and a

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Speaker 1: don't she said, So it's a lot to leave. No,

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Speaker 1: it's not because he ain't got nothing else. I wish

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Speaker 1: he had his own apartment. He thirty. How that's a wish. Now,

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Speaker 1: you ain't even got big dreams. Now, see, you'd have

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Speaker 1: met this boy, you got your own house, you'd have

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Speaker 1: met this boy. Now you'd have lowered your aspiration. I

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Speaker 1: wish he had his own apartment. What you own a

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Speaker 1: home with it then? And it you hope he got

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Speaker 1: his own apartment. He stayed with his MoMA, Yeah he had.

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Speaker 1: He giving good sex, he working, He ain't ever tied.

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Speaker 1: Then he tell me that he every time you try

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Speaker 1: to break it off, he's sending your picture himself in

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Speaker 1: a shower, laying on the bed. He got plenty of

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Speaker 1: He working on a photo shoot, taking all his neck

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Speaker 1: and photo shoot your mama's house. Get your ass up

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Speaker 1: and find him. Now. I wish he'd get his own

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Speaker 1: I'll never find a lover as thorough as him. So

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Speaker 1: he doesn't have? You better be worried about what he

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Speaker 1: don't have, because he didn't talk about getting it. You

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Speaker 1: talking about an apartment? You talking about him getting a

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Speaker 1: legitimate mobile service? Should I do? I? Am I being

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Speaker 1: better be worried about it, because if he don't have it,

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Speaker 1: now when you when you commit to him, what's gonna

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Speaker 1: make him have it? He gonna come live in your house,

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Speaker 1: gonna drive your car. The only thing you're gonna get

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Speaker 1: free haircuts. That's all that's third at dollar. Should I

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Speaker 1: lots of great sex? Or end things for good? You

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Speaker 1: can't end it? You sprung, you say, every time you

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Speaker 1: break it off, he's sending another neked picture. All he

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Speaker 1: gotta do it, keeps sending the neck in pictures. You

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Speaker 1: want the sex, you don't want the man you want

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Speaker 1: the sex, don't get it confused the man you won't

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Speaker 1: The man you won't should have some dreams of his own.

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Speaker 1: The man you won't should have a plan. He stayed

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