1 00:00:01,800 --> 00:00:03,519 Speaker 1: Get your head us together and we're going to start 2 00:00:03,560 --> 00:00:15,400 Speaker 1: to part I'm ready to party the Elvis Duran after party. 3 00:00:17,520 --> 00:00:22,400 Speaker 2: You want to go now, I'm ready. Now, dude, we've 4 00:00:22,440 --> 00:00:24,160 Speaker 2: been going. Why are you mad? 5 00:00:24,200 --> 00:00:27,560 Speaker 3: Scott? You know what? I have a headache today and 6 00:00:27,720 --> 00:00:30,000 Speaker 3: all you people like piling on me is making it worse. 7 00:00:30,040 --> 00:00:31,720 Speaker 2: I'm so sorry. Are you ready? 8 00:00:31,840 --> 00:00:36,440 Speaker 3: I'm ready? Yeah, I'm right. I've been. I don't know, 9 00:00:37,000 --> 00:00:39,640 Speaker 3: are you dying whether maybe it's just like a mild 10 00:00:39,720 --> 00:00:42,279 Speaker 3: sinus thing and it gives me like an eye socket migraine. 11 00:00:42,320 --> 00:00:44,320 Speaker 4: There's a lot of infections going on. 12 00:00:47,000 --> 00:00:51,559 Speaker 3: I've been Okay, you ready, dude, I will kill you. 13 00:00:52,080 --> 00:00:53,840 Speaker 2: We've been rolling this whole by the way, this is 14 00:00:53,840 --> 00:00:54,440 Speaker 2: the podcast. 15 00:00:54,520 --> 00:00:56,000 Speaker 3: Oh great, I'm sure it's so entertaining. 16 00:00:56,320 --> 00:00:59,200 Speaker 2: Is Scotty the most annoyed person on the show. 17 00:01:00,080 --> 00:01:01,680 Speaker 5: Yeah, he's like a ball of nerves. 18 00:01:02,040 --> 00:01:04,120 Speaker 3: You really are You? Guys trigger me so easily, and 19 00:01:04,120 --> 00:01:04,759 Speaker 3: I don't know why. 20 00:01:05,200 --> 00:01:08,000 Speaker 5: You will trigger everyone in here and then walk away 21 00:01:08,000 --> 00:01:09,720 Speaker 5: and they're like, I don't know why everyone's mad at me? 22 00:01:09,760 --> 00:01:11,360 Speaker 5: You say crazy thing and you know it's. 23 00:01:11,360 --> 00:01:14,319 Speaker 4: I noticed lately, like I thought you would be happier 24 00:01:14,400 --> 00:01:15,640 Speaker 4: lately because things in life. 25 00:01:15,680 --> 00:01:17,600 Speaker 3: Are brand Oh I'm very happy. 26 00:01:17,680 --> 00:01:19,399 Speaker 4: I feel like you're very crotchety. 27 00:01:20,520 --> 00:01:22,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, why home? 28 00:01:22,360 --> 00:01:25,320 Speaker 3: So happy? At home? Here? I don't know. You people 29 00:01:25,360 --> 00:01:26,640 Speaker 3: sometimes just make me insane. 30 00:01:27,160 --> 00:01:27,720 Speaker 6: You people. 31 00:01:28,000 --> 00:01:30,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, everyone's pulling in a limb. 32 00:01:30,520 --> 00:01:31,880 Speaker 5: Let me ask you this. Do you think you have 33 00:01:31,959 --> 00:01:33,640 Speaker 5: any responsibility in any of it? 34 00:01:34,040 --> 00:01:34,240 Speaker 3: No? 35 00:01:34,360 --> 00:01:35,720 Speaker 5: Oh, just everyone coming at you. 36 00:01:35,800 --> 00:01:37,760 Speaker 3: So much, so much, so fast, victim. 37 00:01:38,240 --> 00:01:43,759 Speaker 7: That's right, all right, special, Hey, welcome to the after 38 00:01:43,800 --> 00:01:48,840 Speaker 7: Party Podcast. 39 00:01:47,120 --> 00:01:51,200 Speaker 5: The tiniest piece of candy at him the other day 40 00:01:51,320 --> 00:01:53,960 Speaker 5: and they caught it on camera. His reaction, you would 41 00:01:54,000 --> 00:01:55,160 Speaker 5: have thought I shot him in the chest. 42 00:01:55,600 --> 00:01:58,840 Speaker 3: You hit me right in my bad spot in my heart. 43 00:01:59,600 --> 00:01:59,800 Speaker 2: God. 44 00:01:59,800 --> 00:02:02,280 Speaker 4: Wait, wait, you've got a bad spot in your heart? 45 00:02:02,520 --> 00:02:07,040 Speaker 3: Yes? When wait since for years piece of candy pierced 46 00:02:07,080 --> 00:02:11,240 Speaker 3: your skin, your sternum, and into your weak He. 47 00:02:11,280 --> 00:02:12,200 Speaker 2: Was wearing a costume too. 48 00:02:12,240 --> 00:02:13,280 Speaker 5: Yeah, and he had a costume on. 49 00:02:14,639 --> 00:02:16,280 Speaker 2: It's not physically possible, it is. 50 00:02:16,360 --> 00:02:18,680 Speaker 3: It hit me right there. I have a prolapsed valve 51 00:02:18,720 --> 00:02:21,200 Speaker 3: and I felt it. 52 00:02:22,200 --> 00:02:25,080 Speaker 6: My friend who's a doctor, literally spoke to him on 53 00:02:25,160 --> 00:02:25,720 Speaker 6: the phone. 54 00:02:25,520 --> 00:02:27,200 Speaker 3: That dude was high. He didn't know what he's talking about. 55 00:02:27,280 --> 00:02:27,960 Speaker 2: No, he was not. 56 00:02:28,120 --> 00:02:30,320 Speaker 6: He was actually at the hospital treating people that day 57 00:02:30,320 --> 00:02:32,600 Speaker 6: and every single symptom. He was like, Okay, it sounds 58 00:02:32,600 --> 00:02:34,720 Speaker 6: like it's not that bad. It sounds like you're fine. 59 00:02:34,800 --> 00:02:36,600 Speaker 6: We get this all the time. We basically just tell 60 00:02:36,639 --> 00:02:39,359 Speaker 6: people like you that you have something, so this way 61 00:02:39,400 --> 00:02:40,200 Speaker 6: you just leave us alone. 62 00:02:40,240 --> 00:02:42,360 Speaker 5: He'd saved me half. With my sister, he said that 63 00:02:42,400 --> 00:02:45,000 Speaker 5: he whatever he said it was a prolapsed heart was 64 00:02:45,040 --> 00:02:47,480 Speaker 5: something that he's valve whatever. My sister was like, that's 65 00:02:47,520 --> 00:02:47,840 Speaker 5: not a thing. 66 00:02:47,880 --> 00:02:48,440 Speaker 4: Please don't listen. 67 00:02:49,040 --> 00:02:51,280 Speaker 3: Did you go diagnose it is a thing. It's on 68 00:02:51,320 --> 00:02:52,639 Speaker 3: my chart. It says it, But. 69 00:02:52,639 --> 00:02:54,880 Speaker 5: You didn't say prolapse valve. You said it was a 70 00:02:54,919 --> 00:02:55,720 Speaker 5: prolap something else. 71 00:02:55,760 --> 00:02:57,480 Speaker 3: No, I didn't. It's a valve recktum. 72 00:02:58,080 --> 00:02:59,880 Speaker 6: But if you look it up exactly what he has 73 00:03:00,320 --> 00:03:02,959 Speaker 6: it is non fatal. There is no actual way to 74 00:03:03,000 --> 00:03:04,800 Speaker 6: treat it because all it is is just basically like 75 00:03:04,840 --> 00:03:05,720 Speaker 6: you might just feel something. 76 00:03:06,120 --> 00:03:07,920 Speaker 3: It's fatal if I bleed internally to death. 77 00:03:08,000 --> 00:03:10,079 Speaker 6: That is not even close to what it has. 78 00:03:10,440 --> 00:03:10,920 Speaker 3: It trips. 79 00:03:11,919 --> 00:03:15,480 Speaker 4: A valve prolapse refers to a condition where one or 80 00:03:15,520 --> 00:03:18,919 Speaker 4: more of the heart's valves do not close properly, causing 81 00:03:18,960 --> 00:03:22,080 Speaker 4: them to bulge or protrude into the chamber above. 82 00:03:21,880 --> 00:03:22,440 Speaker 3: Right, it hurts. 83 00:03:22,520 --> 00:03:23,400 Speaker 6: He does not have that. 84 00:03:23,480 --> 00:03:26,840 Speaker 3: I do my thing more excited. 85 00:03:26,840 --> 00:03:29,480 Speaker 8: But maybe we should just calm him down, take. 86 00:03:29,320 --> 00:03:32,400 Speaker 3: A breath, Calm down, and I hate you so much. 87 00:03:33,520 --> 00:03:34,640 Speaker 6: Sorry for calling you out here. 88 00:03:34,680 --> 00:03:36,520 Speaker 3: Didn't call me out. I've had it for years. I 89 00:03:36,520 --> 00:03:37,400 Speaker 3: got a cordiologist. 90 00:03:41,160 --> 00:03:42,200 Speaker 6: It's not what he has. 91 00:03:42,400 --> 00:03:45,960 Speaker 4: It says it could possibly be eventually life threatening. 92 00:03:46,000 --> 00:03:48,640 Speaker 6: Okay, so he doesn't have the life threatening one. 93 00:03:49,200 --> 00:03:51,160 Speaker 3: Why would you say something you don't know what I have. 94 00:03:51,600 --> 00:03:54,720 Speaker 5: Eventually all of us are going to get something truth. 95 00:03:54,880 --> 00:03:55,440 Speaker 7: It'll be fine. 96 00:03:55,560 --> 00:03:57,600 Speaker 6: Listen to the Serial Killers episode of the bull chat 97 00:03:57,640 --> 00:04:00,600 Speaker 6: we did where you literally go down the line and 98 00:04:00,680 --> 00:04:01,840 Speaker 6: none of it is fatal. 99 00:04:02,120 --> 00:04:05,080 Speaker 2: Okay, So what questions do you have for us? An? 100 00:04:05,720 --> 00:04:07,760 Speaker 6: I think this one's actually a good one. It's a 101 00:04:07,760 --> 00:04:08,600 Speaker 6: good turning point. 102 00:04:08,600 --> 00:04:11,320 Speaker 2: You start with Scott turning. He seems like he's in 103 00:04:11,360 --> 00:04:11,880 Speaker 2: a great mood. 104 00:04:11,920 --> 00:04:16,719 Speaker 3: I got a condition. Summary is I got hypertension, current 105 00:04:16,760 --> 00:04:21,000 Speaker 3: health issues. I got aortic root dilation. I got high 106 00:04:21,000 --> 00:04:25,400 Speaker 3: blood pressure, my cholester with high LDL and a history 107 00:04:25,400 --> 00:04:26,039 Speaker 3: of migraines. 108 00:04:26,320 --> 00:04:29,200 Speaker 2: Okay, are you on anything for your high LDL? No? 109 00:04:29,240 --> 00:04:31,719 Speaker 5: I won't and this is the man we deal with. 110 00:04:31,839 --> 00:04:33,960 Speaker 6: And also, where is the valve thing that's about to 111 00:04:33,960 --> 00:04:34,760 Speaker 6: bursting right here? 112 00:04:34,800 --> 00:04:35,840 Speaker 3: Aortic root dilation. 113 00:04:36,000 --> 00:04:37,920 Speaker 6: So that's not what she said. What she said is 114 00:04:37,960 --> 00:04:39,360 Speaker 6: the fatal one. What you have is not the fatal. 115 00:04:39,600 --> 00:04:40,960 Speaker 3: No, I have a valve prolapse. 116 00:04:41,160 --> 00:04:41,800 Speaker 9: Just checkmate. 117 00:04:41,920 --> 00:04:43,040 Speaker 2: Can we please move on? 118 00:04:43,279 --> 00:04:45,200 Speaker 4: Wait a minute, Wait a minute, when did you first 119 00:04:45,240 --> 00:04:49,040 Speaker 4: of all, when were you diagnosed with migraines years ago? Really? 120 00:04:49,240 --> 00:04:50,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, you are a migraine. 121 00:04:50,560 --> 00:04:51,240 Speaker 3: You're a migraine. 122 00:04:51,640 --> 00:04:55,040 Speaker 6: Mes have to pass. Just move it on, folks, Andrew question, 123 00:04:55,279 --> 00:04:57,680 Speaker 6: what's a belief or a mindset you've outgrown and what 124 00:04:57,800 --> 00:04:58,400 Speaker 6: replaced it? 125 00:04:59,760 --> 00:05:01,839 Speaker 2: I actually had a Scotty doesn't believe in doctors. 126 00:05:02,640 --> 00:05:05,600 Speaker 3: Hold on, hold here. Mitral valve prolapse. 127 00:05:05,680 --> 00:05:08,960 Speaker 6: That is not the same thing a lot of people have. 128 00:05:09,400 --> 00:05:10,640 Speaker 3: Okay, I'm gonna die from it. 129 00:05:10,720 --> 00:05:13,880 Speaker 5: You're Nate who had open heart surgery and a cow valve. 130 00:05:15,760 --> 00:05:20,359 Speaker 3: Wait and and non houramatic mitral valve regurgitation. 131 00:05:20,600 --> 00:05:23,040 Speaker 2: If you cannot pronounce it, you are not allowed to 132 00:05:23,080 --> 00:05:23,560 Speaker 2: talk about it. 133 00:05:23,600 --> 00:05:28,080 Speaker 3: Okay, thank you? Oh and pure and pre cordial chest pain. 134 00:05:28,600 --> 00:05:33,520 Speaker 3: What's that? Cordial? What it's nice? That's like a chord 135 00:05:33,600 --> 00:05:34,080 Speaker 3: that's in there. 136 00:05:34,160 --> 00:05:36,400 Speaker 2: This is why I won't let him talk to my wife. 137 00:05:37,400 --> 00:05:37,880 Speaker 3: Is that why? 138 00:05:38,040 --> 00:05:38,840 Speaker 2: Yeah? 139 00:05:38,880 --> 00:05:42,440 Speaker 6: So back to my question, thank you so much reclaiming 140 00:05:42,480 --> 00:05:45,080 Speaker 6: my time. What's a belief or mindset you've outgrown and 141 00:05:45,080 --> 00:05:47,400 Speaker 6: what replaced it. I actually had this conversation with someone 142 00:05:47,440 --> 00:05:50,279 Speaker 6: at a bar this weekend who was convinced that everyone 143 00:05:50,400 --> 00:05:53,160 Speaker 6: was thinking about them everyone. She's like, it's just so 144 00:05:53,279 --> 00:05:55,440 Speaker 6: hard because I'm so stressed. Everyone's so mad at me 145 00:05:55,480 --> 00:05:57,919 Speaker 6: all the time. I'm like, to be honest, until I 146 00:05:57,920 --> 00:05:59,760 Speaker 6: had a life coach, I thought the same way I always 147 00:05:59,720 --> 00:05:59,960 Speaker 6: thought of it. 148 00:06:00,080 --> 00:06:00,560 Speaker 3: Some trouble. 149 00:06:00,640 --> 00:06:02,640 Speaker 6: I had so much anxiety about what people were thinking. 150 00:06:02,720 --> 00:06:04,520 Speaker 6: And then she was just like, hey, so guess what. 151 00:06:04,560 --> 00:06:06,159 Speaker 6: That's not a thing. And it's not to say that 152 00:06:06,200 --> 00:06:09,159 Speaker 6: you're not important. It's just thinking that everyone is talking 153 00:06:09,160 --> 00:06:12,039 Speaker 6: about you, You're that you're like the main character in 154 00:06:12,080 --> 00:06:14,920 Speaker 6: someone's life. Yeah, it's just not a thing. And it 155 00:06:15,000 --> 00:06:20,280 Speaker 6: leads like, oh, I'm sorry, go away, Mitrol Valves anyway, 156 00:06:20,960 --> 00:06:22,680 Speaker 6: no one has time to think about you, so go 157 00:06:22,800 --> 00:06:24,840 Speaker 6: live your life. 158 00:06:25,760 --> 00:06:26,520 Speaker 2: What do you think about that? 159 00:06:26,560 --> 00:06:29,039 Speaker 3: Scott, I'm out on this one. You guys, go ahead, 160 00:06:29,360 --> 00:06:30,839 Speaker 3: it's too new agy he hates that. 161 00:06:31,080 --> 00:06:33,599 Speaker 5: Yeah, he has no thoughts that he's ever changed his mind. 162 00:06:33,400 --> 00:06:38,360 Speaker 2: About that, has never changed his mind about anything. 163 00:06:38,760 --> 00:06:40,719 Speaker 3: I have changed my mind. I think therapy is stupid. 164 00:06:41,839 --> 00:06:42,279 Speaker 6: By the way. 165 00:06:42,279 --> 00:06:44,400 Speaker 4: I think you should be on some cholesterol medication. 166 00:06:44,520 --> 00:06:47,160 Speaker 3: Thinking back to all your shit now, the security guy 167 00:06:47,240 --> 00:06:48,880 Speaker 3: Chris told me to take some plant steryl. So that's 168 00:06:48,920 --> 00:06:49,560 Speaker 3: what I'm doing right. 169 00:06:49,520 --> 00:06:51,560 Speaker 5: Because we listen to security guards for medical advice. 170 00:06:51,680 --> 00:06:53,640 Speaker 6: Yeah, what is wrong? I don't think that's on his 171 00:06:53,880 --> 00:06:56,560 Speaker 6: hun Can we take the internet away from him? Reclaiming 172 00:06:56,560 --> 00:06:58,120 Speaker 6: my time? Reclaiming my time? Gandhi? 173 00:06:58,200 --> 00:06:58,920 Speaker 2: What changed for you? 174 00:06:59,160 --> 00:07:01,960 Speaker 5: I mean so many I think that as I've grown up, 175 00:07:02,000 --> 00:07:04,600 Speaker 5: I see so much more gray area and stuff than 176 00:07:04,600 --> 00:07:05,000 Speaker 5: I used to. 177 00:07:05,040 --> 00:07:06,239 Speaker 2: A lot used to be black and white. 178 00:07:06,920 --> 00:07:09,000 Speaker 5: I think the biggest one was trying to wait for 179 00:07:09,000 --> 00:07:11,840 Speaker 5: a time to be right. You'll never ever do anything 180 00:07:11,920 --> 00:07:14,080 Speaker 5: if the time is right. So now, as soon as 181 00:07:14,120 --> 00:07:16,040 Speaker 5: I have an idea, I try to just act on it, 182 00:07:16,080 --> 00:07:17,960 Speaker 5: and if I f it up, okay, But that's how 183 00:07:18,000 --> 00:07:20,120 Speaker 5: you learn, and you do better and messing it up 184 00:07:20,160 --> 00:07:22,280 Speaker 5: and learning from it, you'll go so much farther than 185 00:07:22,320 --> 00:07:23,960 Speaker 5: if you just try and sit and wait for everything 186 00:07:23,960 --> 00:07:26,320 Speaker 5: to be perfect. It's never perfect, like one has the 187 00:07:26,360 --> 00:07:27,360 Speaker 5: time perfect. 188 00:07:28,120 --> 00:07:29,080 Speaker 6: I like that, Thanks Nate. 189 00:07:30,120 --> 00:07:33,480 Speaker 2: Waiting waiting for the moment to be right never gonna work. No, 190 00:07:33,560 --> 00:07:35,080 Speaker 2: you'll just wait for the right moment. 191 00:07:35,280 --> 00:07:35,480 Speaker 8: Never. 192 00:07:36,280 --> 00:07:38,000 Speaker 10: Even if you look back on the decisions you made 193 00:07:38,040 --> 00:07:40,040 Speaker 10: and thought you had the right moment, it wasn't right. 194 00:07:40,160 --> 00:07:40,520 Speaker 3: It wasn't. 195 00:07:40,560 --> 00:07:42,120 Speaker 5: You just had to do it. Can I have one more? 196 00:07:42,120 --> 00:07:44,360 Speaker 5: Can I give one more? I think the golden rule 197 00:07:44,440 --> 00:07:46,120 Speaker 5: is a piece of crap. You don't treat people the 198 00:07:46,160 --> 00:07:48,160 Speaker 5: way you want to be treated. You should treat people 199 00:07:48,200 --> 00:07:50,160 Speaker 5: the way they want to be treated. I think it's 200 00:07:50,200 --> 00:07:53,200 Speaker 5: a weird thing that they teach you that. Yeah, because 201 00:07:53,360 --> 00:07:55,080 Speaker 5: I love when people make fun of me and like 202 00:07:55,120 --> 00:07:57,120 Speaker 5: poke fun at me and play around. I would do 203 00:07:57,160 --> 00:07:58,360 Speaker 5: that all day. There are a lot of people that 204 00:07:58,400 --> 00:08:00,560 Speaker 5: do not like that. So if you play somebody in 205 00:08:00,600 --> 00:08:02,200 Speaker 5: the way that you like because you're like I like this, 206 00:08:02,280 --> 00:08:04,000 Speaker 5: you will like it too. That's not really great. You 207 00:08:04,000 --> 00:08:05,560 Speaker 5: should treat people the way that they would like to 208 00:08:05,560 --> 00:08:06,000 Speaker 5: be treated. 209 00:08:06,600 --> 00:08:10,000 Speaker 2: Interesting. I never thought of it, like, yeah, my dad 210 00:08:10,000 --> 00:08:10,400 Speaker 2: told me that. 211 00:08:12,000 --> 00:08:14,160 Speaker 4: See, I told you your dad smart. He's smart, he's 212 00:08:14,200 --> 00:08:14,720 Speaker 4: a genius. 213 00:08:14,760 --> 00:08:17,080 Speaker 5: He's also insane. Two things can be true. 214 00:08:17,600 --> 00:08:17,960 Speaker 2: Do you hear? 215 00:08:18,680 --> 00:08:18,880 Speaker 4: Yeah? 216 00:08:19,200 --> 00:08:19,720 Speaker 3: You used to. 217 00:08:19,880 --> 00:08:20,000 Speaker 6: Uh. 218 00:08:20,080 --> 00:08:20,640 Speaker 3: Let's see. 219 00:08:21,680 --> 00:08:25,080 Speaker 8: I used to think that you had to please everybody 220 00:08:25,720 --> 00:08:28,120 Speaker 8: growing up, And as I've grown up, I realized, you know. 221 00:08:28,080 --> 00:08:30,680 Speaker 7: What, I don't need to do that anymore, because once 222 00:08:30,720 --> 00:08:33,280 Speaker 7: you reach a certain age, you just feel like, you know, 223 00:08:34,880 --> 00:08:35,680 Speaker 7: I don't know, I. 224 00:08:35,600 --> 00:08:37,600 Speaker 8: Know, it's it's it's it's a large thought. I don't know, 225 00:08:37,640 --> 00:08:40,880 Speaker 8: because I think about this stuff in the shower a lot. 226 00:08:40,960 --> 00:08:43,360 Speaker 3: And for whatever reason. 227 00:08:43,400 --> 00:08:43,920 Speaker 5: You're sitting there. 228 00:08:44,600 --> 00:08:46,520 Speaker 3: No, no, Because we were. 229 00:08:46,400 --> 00:08:49,400 Speaker 8: Always taught always always say yes. This guy kind of 230 00:08:49,400 --> 00:08:51,720 Speaker 8: goes along with what Elvis has taught us about. 231 00:08:51,480 --> 00:08:52,319 Speaker 2: The power of no. 232 00:08:52,320 --> 00:08:53,520 Speaker 4: No is a complete sentence. 233 00:08:53,559 --> 00:08:55,400 Speaker 8: No, it is a complete sentence. So yeah, I mean 234 00:08:55,400 --> 00:08:57,200 Speaker 8: I used to go around thinking, all right, you know what, 235 00:08:57,240 --> 00:08:58,920 Speaker 8: I'm a people pleaser, Yeah, what do you want? 236 00:08:58,920 --> 00:09:00,160 Speaker 3: What do you need this? And that, you know, if 237 00:09:00,160 --> 00:09:00,680 Speaker 3: people ask me. 238 00:09:00,679 --> 00:09:01,520 Speaker 2: For favors and stuff. 239 00:09:01,760 --> 00:09:05,199 Speaker 8: And now I realized time is short and I want 240 00:09:05,240 --> 00:09:07,520 Speaker 8: to spend more time with the people that I love 241 00:09:07,559 --> 00:09:09,400 Speaker 8: and hang out, you know, hang out with I had 242 00:09:09,400 --> 00:09:11,120 Speaker 8: this epiphany a couple of years back when I turned 243 00:09:11,120 --> 00:09:13,560 Speaker 8: to fifty. So now I'm thinking, like, you know what, 244 00:09:13,640 --> 00:09:16,520 Speaker 8: screw it, I'm just in this for me and the 245 00:09:16,520 --> 00:09:20,000 Speaker 8: people around me. And it's a little selfish, but I'm 246 00:09:20,040 --> 00:09:22,240 Speaker 8: allowed to get a little selfish. It's almost like reclaiming 247 00:09:22,240 --> 00:09:23,240 Speaker 8: my time in life. 248 00:09:23,760 --> 00:09:25,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, I kind of realized that too. 249 00:09:26,720 --> 00:09:30,880 Speaker 10: The thing I realized was the only person that has 250 00:09:31,440 --> 00:09:35,040 Speaker 10: your best interests in mind is you. 251 00:09:35,040 --> 00:09:36,080 Speaker 2: Nobody else does. 252 00:09:36,320 --> 00:09:37,040 Speaker 5: My sister does. 253 00:09:37,240 --> 00:09:39,440 Speaker 4: Yeah. I don't believe that because I think your parents do, 254 00:09:39,640 --> 00:09:40,000 Speaker 4: and your. 255 00:09:39,960 --> 00:09:46,600 Speaker 2: Well excluding fan. 256 00:09:47,240 --> 00:09:47,480 Speaker 3: Yeah. 257 00:09:47,880 --> 00:09:51,040 Speaker 2: I think the only person that truly is looking out 258 00:09:51,080 --> 00:09:51,840 Speaker 2: for you is you. 259 00:09:52,120 --> 00:09:54,160 Speaker 4: Yeah, my husband I think looks out for me. 260 00:09:54,360 --> 00:09:55,240 Speaker 3: Family who hurt you? 261 00:09:55,320 --> 00:09:57,400 Speaker 4: Nate, who hurt you? 262 00:09:57,400 --> 00:09:58,040 Speaker 6: Your husband's not. 263 00:09:58,080 --> 00:10:01,320 Speaker 4: Looking though, No, he wasn't supposed to. 264 00:10:03,080 --> 00:10:04,800 Speaker 10: Really kind of goes to a work setting because I 265 00:10:04,800 --> 00:10:06,839 Speaker 10: know we've talked about this, you know, the only person 266 00:10:06,880 --> 00:10:08,000 Speaker 10: really looking out for you is you. 267 00:10:08,200 --> 00:10:08,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, you know. 268 00:10:08,840 --> 00:10:11,680 Speaker 10: And I think what I'm talking about in you know, 269 00:10:11,800 --> 00:10:14,599 Speaker 10: really relates to the world of careers and jobs and 270 00:10:15,000 --> 00:10:17,720 Speaker 10: work and what we choose to do for employment. 271 00:10:18,000 --> 00:10:21,120 Speaker 2: The only person looking at for you is you. Else 272 00:10:21,840 --> 00:10:26,240 Speaker 2: is nobody? You know? Yeah, And uh yeah, That's one 273 00:10:26,240 --> 00:10:29,520 Speaker 2: thing I grew up in the Midwest. I thought, Oh, 274 00:10:29,600 --> 00:10:35,360 Speaker 2: everybody you know wants the best for everybody. Nope, not true. 275 00:10:35,400 --> 00:10:38,040 Speaker 5: People wants what's best for them, and how you fit 276 00:10:38,160 --> 00:10:41,960 Speaker 5: into that is where your role sort of like you know, appears. 277 00:10:42,640 --> 00:10:45,520 Speaker 4: Do you have anything, Danielle, I'm I'm more like scary 278 00:10:45,559 --> 00:10:48,600 Speaker 4: with with when this happened over COVID, where I started 279 00:10:48,640 --> 00:10:51,439 Speaker 4: to think what was most important and that there are 280 00:10:51,440 --> 00:10:53,840 Speaker 4: certain things that are not as important as they used 281 00:10:53,840 --> 00:10:56,800 Speaker 4: to be. And so the power of no and Nate. 282 00:10:56,920 --> 00:10:58,480 Speaker 4: Nate was actually one of the people who had to 283 00:10:58,520 --> 00:11:00,840 Speaker 4: say to me, listen to me, you can not do everything. 284 00:11:00,840 --> 00:11:03,320 Speaker 4: You have to say no. Sometimes your mental health is 285 00:11:03,360 --> 00:11:06,319 Speaker 4: worth more, your your time is worth more. And it's 286 00:11:06,320 --> 00:11:08,680 Speaker 4: not that you don't want to do things that you 287 00:11:08,720 --> 00:11:12,000 Speaker 4: don't want to help people. It's just that sometimes physically 288 00:11:12,320 --> 00:11:15,320 Speaker 4: you are, you know, in so many directions at once, 289 00:11:15,760 --> 00:11:19,360 Speaker 4: you just need a breather, You just need some you 290 00:11:19,400 --> 00:11:23,480 Speaker 4: know that moments. So that's where I come from now. 291 00:11:23,480 --> 00:11:25,959 Speaker 4: And if I look at my schedule, and I mean, 292 00:11:26,200 --> 00:11:29,160 Speaker 4: I'm not gonna say October, we didn't do that this October. 293 00:11:29,200 --> 00:11:30,840 Speaker 4: But most of the time I will look at a 294 00:11:30,880 --> 00:11:34,160 Speaker 4: week and I will plot in, don't schedule anything on 295 00:11:34,280 --> 00:11:36,760 Speaker 4: certain days, just to give myself a little bit of 296 00:11:36,760 --> 00:11:38,400 Speaker 4: breathing room. And a little bit of downtime. 297 00:11:38,920 --> 00:11:42,080 Speaker 9: You have to dare it, stop overthinking things and making 298 00:11:42,120 --> 00:11:44,719 Speaker 9: them worse than they seem, because ninety to ninety five 299 00:11:44,720 --> 00:11:46,760 Speaker 9: percent of the time it's not as bad as it 300 00:11:46,760 --> 00:11:48,920 Speaker 9: turns out to be, but in your head it makes 301 00:11:48,920 --> 00:11:50,200 Speaker 9: it like the world's coming to an end. 302 00:11:50,400 --> 00:11:52,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a good one. And last, but not least, 303 00:11:52,720 --> 00:11:53,240 Speaker 2: Scotty Bee. 304 00:11:53,360 --> 00:11:55,160 Speaker 3: You know, I wish I could stop being a hypochondriac. 305 00:11:55,280 --> 00:11:57,079 Speaker 3: I just think I'm gonna die on a daily basis. 306 00:11:57,080 --> 00:11:57,959 Speaker 5: We all wish stop for it. 307 00:11:58,200 --> 00:11:59,640 Speaker 9: No way, I don't believe that. 308 00:12:00,480 --> 00:12:01,760 Speaker 3: There's always something wrong with me. 309 00:12:02,280 --> 00:12:04,840 Speaker 6: So the question was what have you outgrown? And you 310 00:12:04,880 --> 00:12:06,600 Speaker 6: are still a child? So I think we can wrap 311 00:12:06,600 --> 00:12:06,920 Speaker 6: this up. 312 00:12:07,160 --> 00:12:09,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't think I've outgrown anything. To be quite 313 00:12:09,520 --> 00:12:09,840 Speaker 3: honest with. 314 00:12:09,840 --> 00:12:10,760 Speaker 2: You, I believe that. 315 00:12:10,920 --> 00:12:12,600 Speaker 3: But I also don't think there's anything wrong with that. 316 00:12:13,000 --> 00:12:14,199 Speaker 3: I don't they're outgrown anything. 317 00:12:14,240 --> 00:12:15,680 Speaker 5: There's nothing wrong with never growing. 318 00:12:16,280 --> 00:12:17,959 Speaker 3: No, I didn't say you don't have to not grow, 319 00:12:18,240 --> 00:12:21,520 Speaker 3: but there's also nothing wrong with not out growing something. 320 00:12:22,120 --> 00:12:24,960 Speaker 2: Well, never mind, Uh what think about that? 321 00:12:25,080 --> 00:12:26,319 Speaker 3: Like I still like to go out every once in 322 00:12:26,360 --> 00:12:28,120 Speaker 3: a while and run over a bottle of barbecue sauce 323 00:12:28,160 --> 00:12:30,000 Speaker 3: and laugh. I'm not going to outgrow that. I don't know. 324 00:12:30,000 --> 00:12:31,240 Speaker 3: I got to grow stuff. Who cares? 325 00:12:31,640 --> 00:12:33,600 Speaker 6: I think that that's not the question. 326 00:12:33,760 --> 00:12:35,079 Speaker 3: There are some people in my life that be like, 327 00:12:35,120 --> 00:12:36,640 Speaker 3: you never grow up, this, that and the other. I 328 00:12:36,679 --> 00:12:39,160 Speaker 3: don't care. I want to be a young idiot forever. 329 00:12:39,600 --> 00:12:46,880 Speaker 2: Well you have half of it. Yeah, thank you very much, 330 00:12:46,920 --> 00:12:48,080 Speaker 2: Andrew for that thought provocol. 331 00:12:48,520 --> 00:12:50,520 Speaker 6: She thinks, guys, make sure you look at your my 332 00:12:50,640 --> 00:12:52,559 Speaker 6: charts and then have a spiral out. 333 00:12:52,920 --> 00:12:55,920 Speaker 4: It's true, Scotty shouldn't have access. 334 00:12:55,960 --> 00:12:59,480 Speaker 2: There is my chart. 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