WEBVTT - Targeted Attacks: We Must Move Together 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:02.600 I'm Tamika D. Mallory and it Shit Boy my Son 0:00:02.680 --> 0:00:05.600 in general, we are your host of TMI. 0:00:05.400 --> 0:00:10.280 Tamika and my Son's Information, Truth, Motivation and Inspiration. 0:00:10.560 --> 0:00:12.920 New Energy. 0:00:14.760 --> 0:00:16.760 What's up, Tamika D. Mallory. How you doing today? 0:00:16.880 --> 0:00:18.599 I'm doing good, my SONA now. 0:00:18.440 --> 0:00:20.600 You I am doing better. 0:00:21.320 --> 0:00:25.600 It has been a rough week, but now I'm coming 0:00:25.640 --> 0:00:28.600 to terms with the reality of what we're dealing with. 0:00:29.280 --> 0:00:32.680 You know, I got my mojo and I'm ready to go. 0:00:33.600 --> 0:00:36.400 You know, yeah, me too. I'm good. 0:00:36.600 --> 0:00:36.800 You know. 0:00:36.960 --> 0:00:42.080 I feel like I am putting into practice things that 0:00:42.520 --> 0:00:46.720 I've learned since that horrific burnout. 0:00:47.720 --> 0:00:50.120 That landed me in rehab. 0:00:50.680 --> 0:00:54.680 Right, and you know, the trauma and everything that I experienced. 0:00:55.120 --> 0:00:58.440 I talk about what I learned and how I came 0:00:58.520 --> 0:01:02.000 out of it. But often times, as time goes on 0:01:02.320 --> 0:01:06.080 and you have different experiences and you live in life, 0:01:06.760 --> 0:01:09.000 we often forget about things. It's like when you drink 0:01:09.040 --> 0:01:13.560 too much and then you're like, God, I promise you, 0:01:13.760 --> 0:01:16.480 if you would just help me get over this, I 0:01:16.680 --> 0:01:20.040 promise I won't drink as let next. Oh no, that's it, 0:01:20.160 --> 0:01:22.479 this is my last time. And then of course five 0:01:22.520 --> 0:01:25.759 times later, maybe even the next day people go back 0:01:25.800 --> 0:01:29.319 to some of their old ways that you know, we revert, 0:01:29.520 --> 0:01:32.320 and so I've had to be mindful of that in 0:01:32.319 --> 0:01:34.680 this moment, and I write about it in my book, 0:01:34.920 --> 0:01:35.560 my new book. 0:01:36.240 --> 0:01:39.080 Yes, I live to tell the story. 0:01:39.200 --> 0:01:41.680 I live to tell the story, and that's the real thing. 0:01:41.760 --> 0:01:45.720 I live to tell the story. And the story goes 0:01:46.800 --> 0:01:50.480 and I say that I'm going to fight for freedom 0:01:50.560 --> 0:01:55.360 until I die, but this time freedom includes me, right. 0:01:55.520 --> 0:02:00.080 And so with that being said, I cannot allow my 0:02:00.120 --> 0:02:03.360 self to go back to where I was in twenty 0:02:03.440 --> 0:02:06.640 nineteen to ninety eight pounds, even though I wish I 0:02:06.640 --> 0:02:10.079 could get to ninety eight pounds now shoot on my own. 0:02:09.880 --> 0:02:11.000 Without being stressed out. 0:02:11.000 --> 0:02:15.480 But that's a whole different day's topic, not ninety eight pounds. 0:02:15.520 --> 0:02:16.400 But you get my point. 0:02:16.680 --> 0:02:19.040 I guess, let me get my point. 0:02:19.120 --> 0:02:22.200 So I can't allow that to happen. So I'm not 0:02:22.480 --> 0:02:25.400 going to allow myself to drown. 0:02:26.160 --> 0:02:26.840 I feel it. 0:02:27.080 --> 0:02:29.600 I know where we are, and I think what is 0:02:29.720 --> 0:02:36.040 very frustrating is watching people wake up knowing that like 0:02:37.600 --> 0:02:40.000 we said this, we said all of this and had 0:02:40.040 --> 0:02:43.200 been saying it before an election. Yeah, that's the other thing. 0:02:43.280 --> 0:02:45.399 I just want to make sure that. That's clear. We've 0:02:45.400 --> 0:02:47.880 been saying a lot of this stuff before an election. 0:02:47.800 --> 0:02:50.760 Definitely way before election. Well, listen, how do people get 0:02:50.760 --> 0:02:53.960 this book? When does it drop? Like this is our show? 0:02:54.280 --> 0:02:55.280 People already know. 0:02:55.639 --> 0:02:58.000 They already know because I'll be telling them every other day. 0:02:58.040 --> 0:03:06.040 It's February eleven. Yes, first event is February sixth in Louisville, Kentucky. 0:03:06.360 --> 0:03:14.040 It is extremely humbling and it's such a proud moment 0:03:14.120 --> 0:03:18.920 for me to go to Louisville and have my friends 0:03:18.960 --> 0:03:23.880 Sadiqa Reynolds and attorney Leanita Baker to be the host 0:03:24.080 --> 0:03:28.720 of my first public event. It's actually before my book 0:03:28.760 --> 0:03:32.320 comes out. It's a pre event. It's the first event, 0:03:32.800 --> 0:03:34.920 and it means so much because you know what we 0:03:34.960 --> 0:03:39.400 went through in Louisville. Yeah, you know that, and well, 0:03:39.480 --> 0:03:43.400 and Louisville was right after I came out of rehab, right, 0:03:43.480 --> 0:03:44.280 I mean right before. 0:03:44.440 --> 0:03:46.600 Louisville was right before I. 0:03:46.600 --> 0:03:51.120 Came out of rehab, right, because twenty nineteen, and then 0:03:51.200 --> 0:03:55.720 we went there in twenty twenty. I was still a mess. 0:03:55.880 --> 0:03:58.880 I was still trying to piece myself back together. I 0:03:58.920 --> 0:04:01.840 was still dealing with shit. I you know, didn't know 0:04:01.920 --> 0:04:05.520 exactly what I was gonna do which direction to go in. 0:04:05.600 --> 0:04:06.600 I had so much. 0:04:06.480 --> 0:04:09.400 Going on, And when Ben Crump called me, all of 0:04:09.440 --> 0:04:13.520 that's in this book about you know, Breonna Taylor, we 0:04:13.560 --> 0:04:16.360 went and so these are people that we've only known 0:04:16.880 --> 0:04:19.280 for five years, but it seems like we've and it's 0:04:19.320 --> 0:04:21.640 not even five years yet, but it seems like we've 0:04:21.680 --> 0:04:25.919 known them for a lifetime. And they became our sisters, 0:04:26.080 --> 0:04:29.040 you know, to Meeka Palmer, she excuse me, she's one 0:04:29.080 --> 0:04:32.160 of the hosts as well of the event. And so 0:04:32.320 --> 0:04:36.600 I'm just like, wow, you know, this book has. 0:04:36.600 --> 0:04:39.599 Been I love to cover like show like show to. 0:04:40.520 --> 0:04:44.680 This is the uh, the this is my vision. 0:04:44.800 --> 0:04:46.320 It's the duality, all right. 0:04:46.400 --> 0:04:49.680 It's the duality from you know, the braids to the 0:04:49.800 --> 0:04:51.480 long here and it's just and this. 0:04:51.480 --> 0:04:53.800 Is actually the housing projects that I grew up in. 0:04:53.839 --> 0:04:58.360 People probably, oh, I can't even realize that and projects. 0:04:58.480 --> 0:04:58.760 Yep. 0:05:00.839 --> 0:05:05.719 So anyway, is this book was a lot to get out. 0:05:05.800 --> 0:05:08.679 I always say that it's like I'm at the right now. 0:05:08.800 --> 0:05:11.240 I'm in the delivery process. Like I already have my 0:05:11.360 --> 0:05:16.479 date scheduled. It's February eleventh. I know we're gonna have 0:05:16.600 --> 0:05:20.480 the baby that day. It's coming out, and all the 0:05:21.120 --> 0:05:25.200 terrible things, the what do you have with morning sickness? 0:05:25.400 --> 0:05:29.880 You nauseous, can't eat, can't rest, can't whatever. Most of 0:05:29.920 --> 0:05:33.040 those things have subsided at this point from this book, 0:05:33.400 --> 0:05:36.719 except you know, trying to get the tour done and 0:05:36.839 --> 0:05:39.440 the sales where they need to be. That kind of 0:05:39.480 --> 0:05:41.840 feels like the part when you need the body pillow. 0:05:44.160 --> 0:05:47.840 Janie is looking like yes. Janice, who is our director 0:05:47.880 --> 0:05:50.440 of everything over there, she's looking like yes. 0:05:50.960 --> 0:05:52.240 So I'm in that stage. 0:05:52.520 --> 0:05:55.839 But it's pretty much I'm in the sailing part. We 0:05:55.960 --> 0:05:58.080 know the baby is coming and win. But it was 0:05:58.120 --> 0:06:02.520 a lot to get this done. The stories that I'm 0:06:02.560 --> 0:06:04.719 telling in this book, I wish I could take like 0:06:04.800 --> 0:06:06.839 five of them out because I don't know what I 0:06:06.920 --> 0:06:08.480 must have been like, I don't. 0:06:08.279 --> 0:06:12.279 Know, just telling you tell your business. 0:06:11.600 --> 0:06:14.400 Or something that day and just went the little bit. 0:06:14.880 --> 0:06:17.120 So but I'm glad that it's out here. I know 0:06:17.360 --> 0:06:19.960 that this book is going to help somebody. 0:06:20.240 --> 0:06:22.880 Well, I look forward to reading it today, you know, 0:06:22.880 --> 0:06:25.840 because I got my little copy and I'm gonna read it. 0:06:25.880 --> 0:06:28.279 But I'm proud of you. And please make sure that 0:06:28.320 --> 0:06:30.920 you'll go out pre order. Make sure that you at 0:06:30.960 --> 0:06:34.520 every event on the tour, show out, show up, make 0:06:34.560 --> 0:06:36.880 sure that you support this woman because the way she 0:06:36.960 --> 0:06:39.880 fights for black people is undeniable. 0:06:40.520 --> 0:06:40.799 Yeah. 0:06:40.839 --> 0:06:43.719 Well, and also make sure that you get my son's 0:06:43.800 --> 0:06:45.440 book I got a couple of years. 0:06:45.880 --> 0:06:46.760 Last one is. 0:06:46.680 --> 0:06:49.200 Called it's called Echoes in the Streets. 0:06:49.240 --> 0:06:50.520 Echoes in the Street, and it's. 0:06:50.440 --> 0:06:53.039 About gun violence, the stories about gun violence within the 0:06:53.040 --> 0:06:56.600 inner communities in the cities, and it breaks down different 0:06:56.600 --> 0:07:00.760 ways and strategies that community and you you can come 0:07:00.800 --> 0:07:04.440 together and stop gun violence. So there's really really strong 0:07:04.560 --> 0:07:09.520 stories inside. So shout out to my partner and publisher 0:07:09.680 --> 0:07:10.960 Heed Yes. 0:07:11.120 --> 0:07:11.840 Right cool. 0:07:11.960 --> 0:07:15.040 So, so you know wherever, first of all, wherever you 0:07:15.080 --> 0:07:20.280 buy books, Black bookstores very important, Barnes and Nobles. Also, 0:07:21.600 --> 0:07:24.640 please pick up a pre order copy. I know how 0:07:24.680 --> 0:07:28.040 we as black folks, especially how we are, we got 0:07:28.080 --> 0:07:29.960 to we want to touch the thing. We don't want 0:07:29.960 --> 0:07:32.920 to buy anything and wait for it to come. I 0:07:32.960 --> 0:07:35.720 remember when we were out getting people to the polls 0:07:36.040 --> 0:07:38.080 and I was like, you're not gonna early vote, Like 0:07:38.120 --> 0:07:39.240 you could go vote today. 0:07:39.240 --> 0:07:41.320 They be like our own vote early. I want my 0:07:41.400 --> 0:07:43.920 vote on the day. I'm like, but you gotta stand online. 0:07:43.960 --> 0:07:44.600 I don't care. 0:07:44.720 --> 0:07:47.679 I want my vote on the day. That's sometimes how 0:07:47.720 --> 0:07:52.000 we are, that's how we operate. But in the publishing world, 0:07:52.120 --> 0:07:56.320 and shout out to my publisher, Black Privilege Publishing, CHARLEMAGNEA 0:07:56.320 --> 0:07:59.280 god Atria, and the Simon and Schuster family. 0:08:00.560 --> 0:08:05.640 But in the publishing world, authors need pre sales. 0:08:05.800 --> 0:08:09.040 That's very helpful in terms of how their books get 0:08:09.040 --> 0:08:09.560 out the bond. 0:08:09.640 --> 0:08:09.760 You know. 0:08:09.800 --> 0:08:12.520 It's like when you know when you in a race, 0:08:12.920 --> 0:08:15.960 you don't try to like take off slow. You coming 0:08:16.040 --> 0:08:20.200 out moving. You're coming out moving. So that's what we need. 0:08:20.440 --> 0:08:23.520 So you can go to Tamika D. Mallory dot com. 0:08:23.560 --> 0:08:25.960 That's Tamika D. Mallory dot com and you can find 0:08:25.960 --> 0:08:28.320 out all the things how to purchase the book. 0:08:28.640 --> 0:08:30.040 Where the tour is going. 0:08:30.240 --> 0:08:33.040 The sixth we're in Louisville, Kentucky. 0:08:33.080 --> 0:08:33.880 The ninth, I'm. 0:08:33.760 --> 0:08:39.240 At Jamal Bryant's Church, New Birth Baptist Church in Atlanta, Georgia. 0:08:39.320 --> 0:08:42.400 The eleventh, well, actually the thirteenth. 0:08:42.440 --> 0:08:44.440 The eleventh, I got something going on, but I ain't 0:08:44.480 --> 0:08:46.680 really talking about it too much. If you know me 0:08:46.880 --> 0:08:48.480 and you want to come to what I'm doing on 0:08:48.520 --> 0:08:51.720 the eleventh, holla. But on the thirteenth, We're at the 0:08:51.720 --> 0:08:55.719 New York Public Library on Fifth Avenue in Manhattan. I'm 0:08:55.720 --> 0:08:59.960 gonna be with Jimani Williams, the Public Advocate, and Janelle Aggie, 0:09:00.160 --> 0:09:04.760 who is the executive director of editing at Ebony Magazine. 0:09:05.040 --> 0:09:08.040 I mean, then we're in that's the thirteenth. The eighteenth, 0:09:08.040 --> 0:09:11.679 I'm in Washington, d C. At Politics and Pros. Then 0:09:11.679 --> 0:09:17.200 I'm in Tulsa, Oklahoma. Our family there, the Crutcher family, 0:09:17.320 --> 0:09:20.920 and also Keim Roxy of Lamique Beauty. And then you know, 0:09:21.040 --> 0:09:23.559 also in New Orleans, we're at Baldwin and Company. I 0:09:23.559 --> 0:09:26.080 think that's on the twentieth, but don't listen to me. 0:09:26.400 --> 0:09:29.559 Go to the website and look it up for yourself. Jacksonville, 0:09:29.600 --> 0:09:33.160 Florida on the twenty second. We have a full schedule 0:09:33.440 --> 0:09:35.920 of things that we'll be doing all of February, all 0:09:35.960 --> 0:09:38.880 of March, and I'm really really excited. 0:09:39.120 --> 0:09:40.800 I didn't get to do this with my first book. 0:09:40.840 --> 0:09:41.760 We were at home. 0:09:41.960 --> 0:09:48.320 Although I had a star studded release for my first book, 0:09:48.559 --> 0:09:52.120 we had everybody. We had panels and discussions online that 0:09:52.240 --> 0:09:56.319 included everybody from Taraji p Henson to Tiffany Hattis. Of course, 0:09:56.400 --> 0:09:59.240 Charlemagne was helping to hold some stuff. You held to 0:09:59.280 --> 0:10:02.680 host things. Linda Sarsour was invo I mean I could 0:10:02.679 --> 0:10:08.080 go on. Alicia Keys, you know, did panels and discussions 0:10:08.080 --> 0:10:11.360 with me. So it's not that we did not have 0:10:11.559 --> 0:10:15.600 a good amount of people who were supportive, but everybody 0:10:15.640 --> 0:10:18.520 was at home. It was now going outside. 0:10:18.559 --> 0:10:20.079 Now you outside with it, man. 0:10:20.160 --> 0:10:23.400 So I definitely I know it's gonna be a good book, 0:10:23.840 --> 0:10:25.560 and I know that people are gonna love it because 0:10:25.600 --> 0:10:28.040 it's so authentic and raw, like every time you talk 0:10:28.080 --> 0:10:30.600 about it, you got a team your eyes, and everybody 0:10:30.600 --> 0:10:33.160 that's read it so far has tears in it. So 0:10:33.559 --> 0:10:35.240 I make sure make sure that you go out and 0:10:35.240 --> 0:10:38.840 get the book. Yes, and the news for me. Yesterday 0:10:38.920 --> 0:10:43.080 was my youngest son, Kesten's birthday, Happy birthday casting He 0:10:43.160 --> 0:10:46.920 turned eleven yesterday and we had a ball, took him 0:10:46.960 --> 0:10:49.720 out to Humdinger's, this place he likes with his friends. 0:10:50.240 --> 0:10:51.960 So I enjoyed that. 0:10:52.040 --> 0:10:57.160 I just you got three sons and grandson. 0:10:59.480 --> 0:11:02.480 I'm a g from the gipop, but Kessen is like 0:11:04.400 --> 0:11:08.640 he's a very he's an impact. He's a very intelligent 0:11:08.720 --> 0:11:12.360 young boy and he picks up on everything like he 0:11:12.440 --> 0:11:15.640 knows what you're thinking, he knows how you're feeling. You know. 0:11:15.880 --> 0:11:20.760 He's very passionate about things. He messed up his foot 0:11:21.120 --> 0:11:24.280 last weekend, you know, playing soccer, and he had a 0:11:24.320 --> 0:11:26.439 game the next day he couldn't make it to. So 0:11:26.600 --> 0:11:27.800 he was up all night. 0:11:27.679 --> 0:11:29.680 Trying to heal itself together. 0:11:29.760 --> 0:11:33.320 He was soaking his ankle, he was putting alcohol, he 0:11:33.400 --> 0:11:36.400 put vics on his leg, anything you could think of. 0:11:36.760 --> 0:11:38.920 He was trying to make it to that game. He 0:11:38.960 --> 0:11:40.880 did not want to let down that team. He woke 0:11:40.960 --> 0:11:44.400 up at eight o'clock in that morning, was like, tried 0:11:44.440 --> 0:11:46.560 it again. He was just like, nah, Dad, he's still 0:11:46.600 --> 0:11:48.960 been living. So I made a little joke. I've been 0:11:48.960 --> 0:11:52.080 calling him young peg Leg and he hates that, but 0:11:52.520 --> 0:11:54.720 I played with It's. 0:11:54.600 --> 0:12:01.880 A joke, a joke. What God? Yeah, listen, everything is 0:12:01.920 --> 0:12:03.160 not so serious. 0:12:03.400 --> 0:12:04.400 No, But it's not that. 0:12:04.520 --> 0:12:09.440 It's that injuries sometimes makes people feel already, especially like 0:12:09.480 --> 0:12:11.359 you said, he can't play. 0:12:11.960 --> 0:12:13.280 He already is feeling. 0:12:13.000 --> 0:12:15.360 A way about that, and then you over here putting 0:12:15.360 --> 0:12:16.640 a label on him, and. 0:12:16.800 --> 0:12:18.960 They feel he laughed it up. 0:12:19.040 --> 0:12:22.079 Sometimes he doesn't like it. Sometimes he likes it. Sometimes 0:12:22.400 --> 0:12:23.679 Young peg Leg is fine. 0:12:23.760 --> 0:12:25.680 He's he'll be good for you know that there are 0:12:25.720 --> 0:12:28.000 people who really have peg legs. And it's kind of 0:12:28.040 --> 0:12:29.880 like you saying that to him. 0:12:29.960 --> 0:12:32.840 It's like saying, you know what, the reason why I 0:12:32.880 --> 0:12:36.600 call him because he limps like he has one. He 0:12:36.640 --> 0:12:39.640 looks like it looks like he has like a little 0:12:39.679 --> 0:12:43.360 pirate sometimes when his legs starts hurting very much. Disregarding 0:12:43.440 --> 0:12:46.400 these it ain't got nothing to do with I'm talking 0:12:46.400 --> 0:12:49.160 about my son. You're talking about these people. This ain't 0:12:49.160 --> 0:12:52.640 got nothing to do. This is not to offend anybody else. 0:12:52.720 --> 0:12:54.440 It's a joke that I have with my son. 0:12:55.240 --> 0:12:59.120 Right so please call somebody who actually has a peg 0:12:59.160 --> 0:13:02.080 leg a peg leg, although he probably won't do that. 0:13:02.040 --> 0:13:04.920 Because I will do that, because I would never do that. 0:13:04.960 --> 0:13:08.120 I made a joke with him about his little foot 0:13:08.280 --> 0:13:09.719 being hurt. 0:13:08.840 --> 0:13:17.320 I'm going to once again, happy birthday. I love you. 0:13:17.480 --> 0:13:23.080 Listen if my granddaughter was being pushed in the swing 0:13:24.360 --> 0:13:29.760 and when she said something, but her father was also 0:13:29.880 --> 0:13:32.600 talking to our whole family on face time, because we 0:13:32.679 --> 0:13:37.800 literally have everybody possible on a FaceTime. Whenever he wants 0:13:37.880 --> 0:13:41.360 to show Blair and he hit something and then everybody goes. 0:13:41.200 --> 0:13:44.160 In and go, hi, Blair, we love you. She's the 0:13:44.200 --> 0:13:45.000 star of the show. 0:13:45.800 --> 0:13:49.080 So he was pushing her, and he pushed her one 0:13:49.160 --> 0:13:53.360 time and she said and she said something, but he 0:13:53.400 --> 0:13:54.680 doesn't he didn't know what she said. 0:13:54.679 --> 0:13:57.960 And her mom was there also, so he said, what 0:13:58.080 --> 0:14:01.120 did you say? What does she say? So her mom. 0:14:01.360 --> 0:14:04.080 Says, she said do it again or put or do 0:14:04.160 --> 0:14:07.280 it one more time or something like that, and so 0:14:07.400 --> 0:14:08.959 he goes, she didn't say that. 0:14:09.240 --> 0:14:11.600 Now, she was probably. 0:14:11.280 --> 0:14:15.560 Talking kind of baby gibberish, but a mother's gonna understand 0:14:15.720 --> 0:14:16.520 her child. 0:14:17.160 --> 0:14:17.800 We don't care. 0:14:17.840 --> 0:14:20.640 You could be talking backwards and a mother is gonna 0:14:20.680 --> 0:14:24.360 be like, I know exactly what that means. So he said, 0:14:24.920 --> 0:14:32.960 she didn't say that, and Blair goes, yes, she's old too. 0:14:33.760 --> 0:14:37.040 She said, yes, like mommy is right, I can do 0:14:37.160 --> 0:14:37.680 it again. 0:14:37.800 --> 0:14:39.600 I might not have said it exactly, but. 0:14:42.200 --> 0:14:45.040 Listen, she wants you to understand, and she knows what 0:14:45.080 --> 0:14:48.160 she wants for herself, and she wants you to understand 0:14:48.160 --> 0:14:49.320 that she's expressing herself. 0:14:49.360 --> 0:14:51.160 And her mama understood exactly. 0:14:51.960 --> 0:14:54.400 That's exactly right. That's why I love my mother, because 0:14:54.400 --> 0:14:57.960 my mother she knows she's they are they are. 0:14:58.560 --> 0:15:02.200 We talk about this all the time. These kids parents 0:15:02.240 --> 0:15:05.920 are amazing. It's not like when we was parents. 0:15:06.040 --> 0:15:08.080 That's one thing I say about these kids. My son 0:15:08.160 --> 0:15:11.400 is serious about being a father to his son. These kids, 0:15:11.400 --> 0:15:13.240 they do not play about his son. 0:15:13.480 --> 0:15:15.520 Now. They can have all. 0:15:15.320 --> 0:15:17.880 Kinds of they're crazy otherwise, but. 0:15:17.920 --> 0:15:21.120 Them kids, they serious about them kids. They go. 0:15:21.400 --> 0:15:24.240 So that's a testament to you know, parenting that they 0:15:24.240 --> 0:15:27.400 see they either you know, they feel like something didn't 0:15:27.400 --> 0:15:30.160 happen that they want to happen, or they've seen something 0:15:30.200 --> 0:15:31.080 happen that they want to. 0:15:31.080 --> 0:15:34.080 Continue to Later on, they're going to realize we weren't 0:15:34.120 --> 0:15:34.880 as bad as. 0:15:34.760 --> 0:15:37.400 They That's what I think. 0:15:37.440 --> 0:15:40.400 What happens is they realize it now because they realize 0:15:40.480 --> 0:15:42.600 all of the pressure and stuff that they're under, and 0:15:42.640 --> 0:15:45.320 then they're like, damn, I didn't even know you went 0:15:45.360 --> 0:15:45.640 through this. 0:15:45.760 --> 0:15:46.800 I just because it's hard. 0:15:46.840 --> 0:15:47.320 It's hard. 0:15:48.080 --> 0:15:52.240 Is very very very hard. It's very hard. It's very hard. 0:15:53.840 --> 0:15:57.000 And speaking of hard things, there's a lot of hard 0:15:57.040 --> 0:15:59.080 things happening in our world. 0:15:58.840 --> 0:15:59.920 Love and I. 0:16:02.600 --> 0:16:09.640 You know, I've only made one post maybe two about 0:16:09.800 --> 0:16:16.160 the target situation and and just overall diversity, equity and inclusion, 0:16:17.320 --> 0:16:21.280 and I am committed. I've only made two posts maybe 0:16:21.320 --> 0:16:26.040 about it, maybe one and then also I only said 0:16:26.120 --> 0:16:32.000 one thing like on camera. But I thought about it 0:16:32.120 --> 0:16:35.160 and I listened for the last few days. 0:16:35.280 --> 0:16:36.160 I just listened. 0:16:36.760 --> 0:16:41.440 I was taking in all the different aspects, because you know, 0:16:42.200 --> 0:16:47.080 we follow and are followed by all different types of people. 0:16:47.200 --> 0:16:50.480 We got the super radical blacks, we got the Pan 0:16:50.560 --> 0:16:55.480 African blacks, we got the the the bougie black, we 0:16:55.600 --> 0:16:57.360 got the conservative blacks. 0:16:57.400 --> 0:16:59.880 We had we every. 0:16:59.720 --> 0:17:06.399 Kind of person, black person, we have somebody who is 0:17:06.440 --> 0:17:10.439 a part of that Republicans of course, Democrats or whatever, 0:17:10.520 --> 0:17:12.280 black women, black men. 0:17:12.880 --> 0:17:18.080 Troll we got trolling, pntroll we have the trolls. We 0:17:18.160 --> 0:17:19.159 have the ignorant. 0:17:19.440 --> 0:17:22.760 We have all kinds of young, we have young, we 0:17:22.800 --> 0:17:28.080 have different age groups. So we see a lot of things, 0:17:28.080 --> 0:17:30.520 and I follow a lot of different types of people, 0:17:30.960 --> 0:17:32.639 and I just want to I just listen. 0:17:32.720 --> 0:17:33.200 I said. 0:17:33.720 --> 0:17:36.919 The one thing that I have learned in my leadership 0:17:36.960 --> 0:17:43.280 position is that I now don't where I used to 0:17:43.720 --> 0:17:47.920 need to respond. I don't have to as quick because 0:17:48.480 --> 0:17:52.520 the more information that I gathered before speaking, I think 0:17:52.560 --> 0:17:56.040 it makes my voice more effective, more powerful. So I 0:17:56.080 --> 0:17:58.439 just sat back and I kind of listened to people 0:17:58.520 --> 0:17:59.480 sending me everything. 0:17:59.640 --> 0:18:01.560 Every body sending me something. 0:18:01.520 --> 0:18:04.040 And I know that part of the reason why so 0:18:04.200 --> 0:18:07.520 many people are sending me so many different things is 0:18:07.520 --> 0:18:10.639 because folks know that I have not said this is 0:18:10.720 --> 0:18:13.280 what I think we should do, and they want to 0:18:13.320 --> 0:18:16.160 try to not so much influence in a negative way, 0:18:16.240 --> 0:18:22.080 but just put their perspective into mind. 0:18:21.560 --> 0:18:23.200 In my in my thought process. 0:18:23.359 --> 0:18:26.720 And so speaking of thoughts today, in my thought of 0:18:26.760 --> 0:18:29.280 the day, I really want to take the time. And 0:18:29.320 --> 0:18:33.840 we don't have a guest for this show because it 0:18:34.080 --> 0:18:36.720 just we just couldn't fit it with what we want 0:18:36.760 --> 0:18:40.600 to discuss. So I want to just start off by 0:18:40.640 --> 0:18:45.600 saying that. So I want to put this at the 0:18:45.600 --> 0:18:49.360 beginning in the end as a bookmark to Meeka Mallory 0:18:49.880 --> 0:18:54.760 personally will not be shopping at Target. That's not going 0:18:54.840 --> 0:19:00.400 to happen. I won't be going to Target. I have 0:19:00.800 --> 0:19:06.960 always and will continue to uplift black brands. I am 0:19:07.280 --> 0:19:11.240 a die hard support supporter of black people in general, 0:19:11.600 --> 0:19:15.080 and I will continue to do that. But I personally 0:19:15.520 --> 0:19:18.000 will not be shopping in Targets. Some people are saying 0:19:18.040 --> 0:19:21.080 Black History Month, others are saying the third quarter. I 0:19:21.080 --> 0:19:24.199 mean the first quarter. People have different ideas about it. 0:19:24.320 --> 0:19:26.760 I don't know when or if I will ever return. 0:19:27.560 --> 0:19:30.639 Our history is that when we leave a brand, we 0:19:31.080 --> 0:19:34.399 we almost never go back. I looked at myself today 0:19:34.440 --> 0:19:39.400 and realize that I've been wearing my little Blenciaga sock sneakers. 0:19:40.359 --> 0:19:42.639 I was a good I was a beyond a Blencioga 0:19:42.680 --> 0:19:46.119 person like I liked Blenciaga. Uh and and I as 0:19:46.160 --> 0:19:48.520 soon as they start with the kids and the videos 0:19:48.600 --> 0:19:51.479 and the devil stuff and whatever, I don't know what 0:19:51.560 --> 0:19:51.760 was going. 0:19:51.800 --> 0:19:53.080 I didn't even take. 0:19:52.880 --> 0:19:57.479 The time to do bus so much research about whatever 0:19:57.520 --> 0:19:57.960 that was. 0:19:58.000 --> 0:19:59.359 But it just didn't feel right to me. 0:19:59.359 --> 0:20:01.000 I don't like the way it looked, and I didn't 0:20:01.040 --> 0:20:02.879 have anything to do with this side it packed up 0:20:02.920 --> 0:20:07.000 a bunch of Balenciaga stuff and just gave it away. 0:20:07.440 --> 0:20:10.639 I might I have like two sweaters, maybe three sweaters, 0:20:10.920 --> 0:20:13.760 and these little sock sneakers. So that's where I'm at 0:20:13.800 --> 0:20:17.000 with it. But I'm probably never going to be caught. 0:20:17.200 --> 0:20:19.240 And when I say caught, I don't mean like gotcha, 0:20:19.320 --> 0:20:24.320 but me personally walking into a store purchasing something from Balenciaga. 0:20:24.400 --> 0:20:24.840 That's just me. 0:20:26.000 --> 0:20:30.840 I gave up Gucci and the blackface sweater. I did 0:20:30.880 --> 0:20:35.880 not like it. I felt, first of all, the impact 0:20:35.880 --> 0:20:38.720 to me, it was very very disrespectful for people to 0:20:38.840 --> 0:20:41.720 even try to make the excuse that they did not 0:20:42.000 --> 0:20:45.720 know or that it wasn't exactly what we saw. And 0:20:45.800 --> 0:20:48.960 so I just decided that I was done with it. 0:20:49.000 --> 0:20:52.879 But then even if I even if I would have said, well, 0:20:53.640 --> 0:20:58.400 maybe I'm overreacting or maybe we need to educate them 0:20:58.440 --> 0:21:00.760 and it's going to get better, the way in which 0:21:00.840 --> 0:21:04.520 things rolled out after that I didn't appreciate at all. 0:21:04.880 --> 0:21:07.720 So I just don't wear a Gucci. But that's you know, 0:21:07.920 --> 0:21:14.280 everybody do their thing. That's my personal thing. Then Kyrie 0:21:14.280 --> 0:21:17.680 Irvin Nike, they cut their contract with him. 0:21:18.119 --> 0:21:18.920 I cut Nike. 0:21:19.160 --> 0:21:22.439 So you cut Kyrie, I cut you. That's it, simple, 0:21:22.920 --> 0:21:25.679 one hard decision. First I was kind of like, what 0:21:25.720 --> 0:21:29.280 we're doing. Everybody wears Nike. Then I realized it's not 0:21:29.320 --> 0:21:31.439 that serious. I don't have to wear Nike. There's a 0:21:31.520 --> 0:21:35.800