1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:03,199 Speaker 1: I refuse to help my pregnant sister because she tried 2 00:00:03,240 --> 00:00:04,160 Speaker 1: to exploit me. 3 00:00:04,680 --> 00:00:09,920 Speaker 2: Don't exploit, don't just don't dun't so. 4 00:00:10,119 --> 00:00:13,120 Speaker 1: I twenty seven, female, moved to the US almost seven 5 00:00:13,200 --> 00:00:16,240 Speaker 1: years ago. I have two half sisters from my father's side, 6 00:00:16,440 --> 00:00:19,400 Speaker 1: all from different women. We used to be very close, 7 00:00:19,480 --> 00:00:22,560 Speaker 1: and despite both of them being illegitimate, I shared with 8 00:00:22,640 --> 00:00:26,000 Speaker 1: them part of what little inheritance I got from my grandparents. 9 00:00:26,480 --> 00:00:29,680 Speaker 1: They never recognized them and left them nothing. By the way, 10 00:00:29,760 --> 00:00:32,440 Speaker 1: this comes from Throwaway for no drama, and if you 11 00:00:32,440 --> 00:00:34,480 Speaker 1: want to submit your stories, go to our slash Suggay 12 00:00:34,479 --> 00:00:38,320 Speaker 1: storytime severed it so. Two years ago, my sisters also 13 00:00:38,440 --> 00:00:41,280 Speaker 1: moved to the US. The middle sister, twenty eight, let's 14 00:00:41,320 --> 00:00:43,760 Speaker 1: call her Mary, got a company to host her with 15 00:00:43,840 --> 00:00:47,680 Speaker 1: the work visa. The eldest, thirty, Karen not her real name, 16 00:00:48,200 --> 00:00:50,600 Speaker 1: got a student visa and moved in with me. Since 17 00:00:50,600 --> 00:00:53,840 Speaker 1: I was already working and earning a good salary. The 18 00:00:54,000 --> 00:00:56,279 Speaker 1: arrangement was that I would pay bills, she would get 19 00:00:56,320 --> 00:00:58,320 Speaker 1: a job at the university since she's not allowed to 20 00:00:58,360 --> 00:01:01,800 Speaker 1: work outside, and that her spending money. I would cover 21 00:01:01,880 --> 00:01:04,640 Speaker 1: all bills and food. The only thing I asked was 22 00:01:04,640 --> 00:01:07,280 Speaker 1: to help with some minor chores. I have a dog 23 00:01:07,319 --> 00:01:09,080 Speaker 1: and a cat, and I told her she had no 24 00:01:09,200 --> 00:01:12,240 Speaker 1: responsibility while she had school and work. It was fine 25 00:01:12,319 --> 00:01:14,560 Speaker 1: since I work from home and I have a step 26 00:01:14,600 --> 00:01:17,600 Speaker 1: family that helped me maintain my home, mostly because I'm 27 00:01:17,640 --> 00:01:21,360 Speaker 1: the free babysitter for them. Oh you have a step family, 28 00:01:22,400 --> 00:01:29,240 Speaker 1: what does that mean? The pretty sweet deal for a student, right? Okay, Well, 29 00:01:29,280 --> 00:01:33,480 Speaker 1: apparently that wasn't enough. While she was in school, Karen 30 00:01:33,680 --> 00:01:37,440 Speaker 1: met Ken. I knew Ken from the time I went 31 00:01:37,480 --> 00:01:41,080 Speaker 1: to university. He's a creep, but I thought it was harmless. 32 00:01:41,600 --> 00:01:44,280 Speaker 1: Karen was head over heels for him. I warned her 33 00:01:44,400 --> 00:01:47,640 Speaker 1: Ken had a bad reputation at the university, but she 34 00:01:47,680 --> 00:01:48,120 Speaker 1: didn't care. 35 00:01:48,280 --> 00:01:48,960 Speaker 2: She don't care. 36 00:01:49,640 --> 00:01:51,720 Speaker 1: She's a big girl. So I let it be with 37 00:01:51,800 --> 00:01:54,919 Speaker 1: the only condition that Ken was not allowed in my place. 38 00:01:56,280 --> 00:01:59,639 Speaker 1: The VID hits and my hours were cut. Karen school 39 00:01:59,640 --> 00:02:02,720 Speaker 1: goes on pause, and she loses her campus job. Because 40 00:02:02,760 --> 00:02:04,760 Speaker 1: of all of this, we moved into a small apartment. 41 00:02:05,320 --> 00:02:07,480 Speaker 1: I took a second job and did some freelance on 42 00:02:07,520 --> 00:02:10,919 Speaker 1: the side. Needless to say, I had no personal life. 43 00:02:11,240 --> 00:02:13,960 Speaker 1: I am dating someone, but he was also swamped with 44 00:02:14,000 --> 00:02:17,320 Speaker 1: work and bills, so we barely met each other. Bummer, 45 00:02:17,600 --> 00:02:21,400 Speaker 1: But I guess if you're both busy, it's okay. 46 00:02:21,840 --> 00:02:24,480 Speaker 2: Hey, let's like date. But we have no time to 47 00:02:24,480 --> 00:02:25,040 Speaker 2: see each other. 48 00:02:25,040 --> 00:02:26,960 Speaker 1: But yeah, like maybe you guys can just like take 49 00:02:27,080 --> 00:02:27,920 Speaker 1: naps together. 50 00:02:28,560 --> 00:02:32,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess that's better than just it's like mentally, 51 00:02:32,760 --> 00:02:32,960 Speaker 2: you know. 52 00:02:33,080 --> 00:02:35,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. I'm a big proponent of just 53 00:02:35,200 --> 00:02:37,440 Speaker 1: working in the same space together. Like I don't even 54 00:02:37,440 --> 00:02:40,160 Speaker 1: need to talk, and no one, no one's on that grind, 55 00:02:40,200 --> 00:02:43,959 Speaker 1: you know. During this time, Karen and Ken apparently got closer, 56 00:02:44,000 --> 00:02:46,880 Speaker 1: and he began to appear in the apartment. Karen was 57 00:02:46,919 --> 00:02:50,000 Speaker 1: not part of my lease, but my landlord was very understanding. 58 00:02:50,480 --> 00:02:53,880 Speaker 1: Ken began making really inappropriate comments about me. I am 59 00:02:53,880 --> 00:02:56,200 Speaker 1: not a beauty queen. I just look a bit exotic. 60 00:02:56,280 --> 00:02:59,000 Speaker 1: As Ken put it, I mixed trace from the Caribbean, 61 00:02:59,160 --> 00:03:01,120 Speaker 1: so I have a bit of everything, and somehow it 62 00:03:01,160 --> 00:03:04,720 Speaker 1: all shows Karen looks more like our father. He was 63 00:03:04,720 --> 00:03:08,959 Speaker 1: of European descent. White. In all honesty, Karen. 64 00:03:08,720 --> 00:03:09,720 Speaker 2: Is more attractive. 65 00:03:11,600 --> 00:03:14,560 Speaker 1: Karen is more attractive. I only look foreign. In this 66 00:03:14,600 --> 00:03:17,880 Speaker 1: little intra mountain region city, Ken would go out of 67 00:03:17,880 --> 00:03:23,800 Speaker 1: his way to touch me and was just invasive. No No, 68 00:03:25,760 --> 00:03:27,640 Speaker 1: I managed to just keep in my room when he 69 00:03:27,720 --> 00:03:29,640 Speaker 1: was around, or used the excuse. 70 00:03:29,280 --> 00:03:31,040 Speaker 2: That my pets needed a walk. 71 00:03:31,240 --> 00:03:35,920 Speaker 1: Also, the like the immediate, just not even recognizing the 72 00:03:35,960 --> 00:03:38,880 Speaker 1: boundaries that he's put in place, saying hey, I don't 73 00:03:38,880 --> 00:03:39,640 Speaker 1: want him here. 74 00:03:40,520 --> 00:03:44,200 Speaker 2: Yes, already, point blank, period should be done. 75 00:03:44,400 --> 00:03:47,280 Speaker 1: I didn't know exactly why, but Karen kept pushing for 76 00:03:47,360 --> 00:03:49,520 Speaker 1: me to spend time on my own with Ken. It 77 00:03:49,560 --> 00:03:51,640 Speaker 1: will be good for you to bond with your future 78 00:03:51,680 --> 00:03:54,840 Speaker 1: brother in law. They'd only been dating seven months at 79 00:03:54,840 --> 00:04:00,560 Speaker 1: this point. She's she's very optimistice whatever. I didn't care. 80 00:04:00,920 --> 00:04:04,320 Speaker 1: I found excuses to avoid it. November twenty twenty, I 81 00:04:04,360 --> 00:04:06,920 Speaker 1: got a better position at my main career job, so 82 00:04:07,000 --> 00:04:09,000 Speaker 1: I was able to quit my second job and have 83 00:04:09,080 --> 00:04:12,160 Speaker 1: more meat time. I reconnected with friends and one of 84 00:04:12,160 --> 00:04:15,040 Speaker 1: them asked me if I was okay. I asked why, 85 00:04:15,240 --> 00:04:17,240 Speaker 1: and he told me Ken had been saying he was 86 00:04:17,520 --> 00:04:21,080 Speaker 1: very close to getting me for personal time. 87 00:04:26,240 --> 00:04:28,279 Speaker 2: Huh, personal time. 88 00:04:28,600 --> 00:04:29,360 Speaker 3: No time. 89 00:04:29,920 --> 00:04:32,440 Speaker 1: I was not okay with that idea, and I very 90 00:04:32,480 --> 00:04:34,520 Speaker 1: loudly said I would rather be hit by a train 91 00:04:34,839 --> 00:04:37,680 Speaker 1: than do anything with Ken. There we go, and Ken 92 00:04:37,760 --> 00:04:43,039 Speaker 1: is presumably still dating Karen, So what's going on there? 93 00:04:43,160 --> 00:04:46,560 Speaker 2: Yeah? What is this? What is this? 94 00:04:46,839 --> 00:04:47,240 Speaker 1: What is this? 95 00:04:47,279 --> 00:04:49,200 Speaker 2: And? Sorry? What is Karen's relation to OPI again? 96 00:04:49,320 --> 00:04:54,720 Speaker 1: Karen is her stepsister Raw Karen and Opie live together. 97 00:04:55,200 --> 00:04:59,080 Speaker 1: Karen is her stepsister. Ken is Karen's boyfriend. She is 98 00:04:59,080 --> 00:05:01,600 Speaker 1: now apparently getting the hots forro Pee. 99 00:05:01,839 --> 00:05:04,560 Speaker 2: Oh god, why would you? Why would you not try 100 00:05:04,600 --> 00:05:06,080 Speaker 2: to put it the boundaries? Karen? It's in your own 101 00:05:06,080 --> 00:05:06,400 Speaker 2: self in. 102 00:05:06,440 --> 00:05:10,080 Speaker 1: Trist On, Karen, since I'm in a small city in 103 00:05:10,120 --> 00:05:12,479 Speaker 1: the inter Mountain region, the kind that most people in 104 00:05:12,480 --> 00:05:14,719 Speaker 1: the same area know each other, a lot of people 105 00:05:14,760 --> 00:05:17,720 Speaker 1: had text messages or creepy stories to tell me that 106 00:05:18,120 --> 00:05:22,320 Speaker 1: was it for me. I went home and demanded an explanation. 107 00:05:23,080 --> 00:05:29,280 Speaker 1: They didn't deny it. They Ken even said Karen had 108 00:05:29,320 --> 00:05:31,240 Speaker 1: said it was fine and I was doing them as 109 00:05:31,279 --> 00:05:34,160 Speaker 1: solid as her sister since he had a fantasy he 110 00:05:34,240 --> 00:05:35,120 Speaker 1: wanted to go for. 111 00:05:37,120 --> 00:05:45,320 Speaker 2: Ah, what what. 112 00:05:47,080 --> 00:05:47,960 Speaker 1: You gotta get out of there? 113 00:05:48,240 --> 00:05:49,840 Speaker 2: You got you? 114 00:05:50,120 --> 00:05:52,440 Speaker 1: Not only is Ken trying to get with you, but 115 00:05:52,560 --> 00:05:56,520 Speaker 1: your sister is actively encouraging it out. 116 00:05:57,120 --> 00:05:58,800 Speaker 2: Wow do we kind of go? 117 00:05:58,920 --> 00:06:01,039 Speaker 1: Oh, sorry, you're right, Justine says half sister. That's what 118 00:06:01,040 --> 00:06:02,680 Speaker 1: I meant even worse. 119 00:06:03,240 --> 00:06:07,039 Speaker 2: That is so much worse, so much worse, Holy moly. 120 00:06:09,400 --> 00:06:13,839 Speaker 2: I mean, do we go like move out, like get 121 00:06:13,880 --> 00:06:17,360 Speaker 2: away and basically go like at least low contact with 122 00:06:17,600 --> 00:06:20,440 Speaker 2: sister until she realizes the gravity? Absolutely? 123 00:06:20,600 --> 00:06:23,560 Speaker 1: Absolutely Yeah, that's like a dangerous Its also just a 124 00:06:23,640 --> 00:06:26,240 Speaker 1: dangerous situation to be in because Ken is already showing 125 00:06:26,279 --> 00:06:29,520 Speaker 1: that he doesn't care about Opie's like personal boundaries. 126 00:06:29,600 --> 00:06:31,920 Speaker 2: Indeed, indeed, yes, I. 127 00:06:31,960 --> 00:06:34,840 Speaker 1: Told them both they were disgusting and that Ken had 128 00:06:34,880 --> 00:06:36,800 Speaker 1: to leave or I would be calling the cops. 129 00:06:36,880 --> 00:06:37,360 Speaker 2: Boom. 130 00:06:37,520 --> 00:06:40,640 Speaker 1: Ken left with some insults sent my way, and Karen 131 00:06:40,680 --> 00:06:42,960 Speaker 1: began telling me she didn't see the problem since my 132 00:06:43,080 --> 00:06:45,760 Speaker 1: partner and I were on a break. We were not. 133 00:06:48,520 --> 00:06:51,440 Speaker 2: We were on a break one because. 134 00:06:51,760 --> 00:06:54,200 Speaker 1: Even if Opi and her partner were on a break, 135 00:06:54,480 --> 00:06:58,640 Speaker 1: Opie is not interested in Ken. Yes, so he and 136 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:01,080 Speaker 1: has already explicitly stayed that she doesn't want to in 137 00:07:01,080 --> 00:07:01,560 Speaker 1: the house. 138 00:07:02,440 --> 00:07:03,480 Speaker 2: And why are you okay with this? 139 00:07:03,600 --> 00:07:05,640 Speaker 1: Karen? I told her I was not for her to 140 00:07:05,720 --> 00:07:08,279 Speaker 1: sell around like property, and that she had two weeks 141 00:07:08,320 --> 00:07:10,880 Speaker 1: to find a place up around. I was done with her. 142 00:07:10,960 --> 00:07:11,280 Speaker 2: Boom. 143 00:07:11,720 --> 00:07:14,400 Speaker 1: I called all my relatives, sent them copies of the 144 00:07:14,400 --> 00:07:16,760 Speaker 1: text messages I was given and no one in our 145 00:07:16,760 --> 00:07:21,640 Speaker 1: family wanted anything to do with Karen. Good bye bye. 146 00:07:21,760 --> 00:07:23,760 Speaker 1: She moved in with Ken a few days later. It 147 00:07:23,800 --> 00:07:25,480 Speaker 1: took me some effort, but I was able to get 148 00:07:25,480 --> 00:07:29,360 Speaker 1: a restraining order for Ken couldn't get one for Karen. Still, 149 00:07:29,520 --> 00:07:32,600 Speaker 1: they disappeared from my radar except for a few encounters 150 00:07:32,600 --> 00:07:35,200 Speaker 1: which easily were solved with showing. I was about to 151 00:07:35,200 --> 00:07:35,800 Speaker 1: call nine. 152 00:07:35,720 --> 00:07:38,400 Speaker 2: One one nice look at that. Oh he's been very 153 00:07:38,400 --> 00:07:40,080 Speaker 2: efficient and probably solved right. 154 00:07:40,760 --> 00:07:42,560 Speaker 1: And then today happened. 155 00:07:42,640 --> 00:07:44,440 Speaker 2: Oh what happened today? 156 00:07:45,320 --> 00:07:48,600 Speaker 1: And I had to hold back my laughter. Mary had 157 00:07:48,720 --> 00:07:51,400 Speaker 1: kept tabs on Karen since sisters and all, and she 158 00:07:51,480 --> 00:07:55,040 Speaker 1: messaged me with a notice, Hey, Karen just called me 159 00:07:55,280 --> 00:08:02,600 Speaker 1: she's pregnant and Ken kicked her out. Who could have 160 00:08:02,720 --> 00:08:07,239 Speaker 1: seen that coming? Who could have seen that coming? 161 00:08:07,400 --> 00:08:07,760 Speaker 2: Wow? 162 00:08:08,640 --> 00:08:12,920 Speaker 1: I just stared for a few minutes and responded, Oh 163 00:08:13,400 --> 00:08:18,000 Speaker 1: that's sad. Mary knew and supports that I don't care 164 00:08:18,160 --> 00:08:21,560 Speaker 1: or have any intentions to help. Karen used Mary's phone 165 00:08:21,560 --> 00:08:24,120 Speaker 1: to call me. She begged me to help, since Mary's 166 00:08:24,160 --> 00:08:26,120 Speaker 1: only letting her stay for a week before she moves 167 00:08:26,120 --> 00:08:28,800 Speaker 1: to another state. Said that she missed her little sister, 168 00:08:28,880 --> 00:08:32,079 Speaker 1: and had nowhere else to go to that she knows 169 00:08:32,120 --> 00:08:34,400 Speaker 1: I have family health insurance. I pay for private health 170 00:08:34,400 --> 00:08:36,840 Speaker 1: insurance for two relatives that are in hard times and 171 00:08:36,880 --> 00:08:39,680 Speaker 1: have health conditions, and then I could do something like 172 00:08:39,720 --> 00:08:43,360 Speaker 1: that for her pregnancy medical bills. This baby is a 173 00:08:43,360 --> 00:08:45,319 Speaker 1: blessing and I should want to help her raise it, 174 00:08:45,480 --> 00:08:48,360 Speaker 1: meaning I pay for everything. I let her pour her 175 00:08:48,400 --> 00:08:51,400 Speaker 1: heart out for a good five to seven minutes, then 176 00:08:51,480 --> 00:08:53,320 Speaker 1: said nope, I ended the call. 177 00:08:54,040 --> 00:08:57,400 Speaker 2: Ah, I love the visions. Yeah, you know, so put 178 00:08:57,400 --> 00:09:01,880 Speaker 2: me on the planet. Stir nope, click bye. 179 00:09:02,520 --> 00:09:05,679 Speaker 1: She tried calling again for a while, then stopped when 180 00:09:05,679 --> 00:09:07,960 Speaker 1: I got a text message from Mary saying she had 181 00:09:08,040 --> 00:09:09,880 Speaker 1: left her phone on the counter and she was sorry 182 00:09:09,880 --> 00:09:12,880 Speaker 1: for the spamming. Most of my family agrees with me, 183 00:09:13,120 --> 00:09:17,520 Speaker 1: even Karen's mom. The only one that disapproves is Karen's aunt. 184 00:09:17,640 --> 00:09:20,199 Speaker 1: Oh that's nice, Karen's aunt. Why don't you take Karen in? 185 00:09:20,320 --> 00:09:23,959 Speaker 2: Yeah, perfect solution. Yeah, you're you're gonna be a grand aunt. 186 00:09:23,720 --> 00:09:27,160 Speaker 2: Don't you hold that responsibility too? Yeah? 187 00:09:28,480 --> 00:09:30,880 Speaker 1: Come on, she's not my aunt, but I called her 188 00:09:30,920 --> 00:09:33,520 Speaker 1: aunt anyway. Since I've known her for many years, she's 189 00:09:33,559 --> 00:09:35,640 Speaker 1: been putting pressure on me. Most of the day. She 190 00:09:35,760 --> 00:09:37,800 Speaker 1: only stopped when I told her one more message and 191 00:09:37,840 --> 00:09:40,960 Speaker 1: I would show her text messages to my stepfather, who 192 00:09:41,080 --> 00:09:42,000 Speaker 1: is her landlord. 193 00:09:43,240 --> 00:09:46,880 Speaker 2: What is this? This is a lot crazy. 194 00:09:47,880 --> 00:09:49,960 Speaker 1: I feel bad for the baby to a point, but 195 00:09:50,000 --> 00:09:51,640 Speaker 1: this is one of those moments that all I can 196 00:09:51,679 --> 00:09:54,440 Speaker 1: think is this is not my circus and these are 197 00:09:54,440 --> 00:09:59,280 Speaker 1: not my monkeys. Edit one someone mentioned the region inconsistency. 198 00:09:59,320 --> 00:10:01,800 Speaker 1: I never looked in since I didn't really care, but 199 00:10:01,880 --> 00:10:05,600 Speaker 1: where I live I heard Midwest and Northwest interchangeably. As 200 00:10:05,600 --> 00:10:07,360 Speaker 1: far as I was concerned, it was the same thing. 201 00:10:07,760 --> 00:10:10,120 Speaker 1: We don't have those types of regions in my country, 202 00:10:10,200 --> 00:10:12,400 Speaker 1: so I decided to google while at work and found 203 00:10:12,400 --> 00:10:15,360 Speaker 1: out neither is right. I live in the Intermunton region. 204 00:10:16,200 --> 00:10:20,359 Speaker 1: Thanks random stranger. Also a small explanation on my grandparents. 205 00:10:20,559 --> 00:10:23,760 Speaker 1: They were very old traditionalists. By the end of their lives, 206 00:10:23,880 --> 00:10:26,520 Speaker 1: they didn't have much to give, so they chose to 207 00:10:26,559 --> 00:10:30,240 Speaker 1: give it to the legal grandchildren. My sperm donor father 208 00:10:30,400 --> 00:10:33,360 Speaker 1: had many children. I might not even know all of them. 209 00:10:33,920 --> 00:10:36,520 Speaker 1: Grandparents were just tired of every other year having a 210 00:10:36,559 --> 00:10:40,200 Speaker 1: new grandchild appear, and in some cases a moocher mother 211 00:10:40,280 --> 00:10:46,400 Speaker 1: attached last Karen's visa she had an extension since the VID, 212 00:10:46,480 --> 00:10:50,240 Speaker 1: but that's over. She's overstaying her Visah, this is very common. 213 00:10:50,720 --> 00:10:53,120 Speaker 1: I have relatives that do it. I don't agree, but 214 00:10:53,160 --> 00:10:55,920 Speaker 1: I also had one foot in since my stepfather is American. 215 00:10:56,120 --> 00:10:58,680 Speaker 1: And there is an update. But do you have any 216 00:10:58,679 --> 00:11:01,199 Speaker 1: thoughts step any wow vice for ape? 217 00:11:01,400 --> 00:11:05,319 Speaker 2: I mean so many, like random critical details like oh 218 00:11:05,400 --> 00:11:07,960 Speaker 2: this personal landlord and like her vis is expiring and 219 00:11:09,400 --> 00:11:11,400 Speaker 2: there's a lot going on. There is a lot going 220 00:11:11,400 --> 00:11:14,720 Speaker 2: on here, but uh, to put it simply, uh in 221 00:11:14,760 --> 00:11:17,959 Speaker 2: summarize what you said earlier, man Opie was freaking quick 222 00:11:18,000 --> 00:11:21,880 Speaker 2: with it. Like Opie's like, Nope, this is not happening. 223 00:11:21,920 --> 00:11:24,439 Speaker 2: I'm getting the restraining owner. Ken is gonna be nowhere 224 00:11:24,440 --> 00:11:26,280 Speaker 2: near me, and I'm not going to deal with this foolishness. 225 00:11:26,320 --> 00:11:29,800 Speaker 2: You were out of the house. Yeah, you know, I 226 00:11:29,840 --> 00:11:33,319 Speaker 2: think sometimes, you know, these people just get so ridiculous, 227 00:11:33,360 --> 00:11:36,120 Speaker 2: and I feel like generally in the stories, people are like, Okay, 228 00:11:36,160 --> 00:11:38,200 Speaker 2: well let me give them a chance, as if they're 229 00:11:38,240 --> 00:11:41,600 Speaker 2: a reasonable person. Yeah, but maybe it's like you kind 230 00:11:41,600 --> 00:11:43,959 Speaker 2: of got to do your best to assess, like, Okay, 231 00:11:44,240 --> 00:11:47,760 Speaker 2: are they are they? Are they the mayor of crazy Town? 232 00:11:47,880 --> 00:11:50,520 Speaker 2: If they are the mayor and president of crazy Town. 233 00:11:51,240 --> 00:11:53,040 Speaker 2: It might just be in your best interest to go 234 00:11:53,679 --> 00:11:57,240 Speaker 2: full stop, full send when the first you know, crazy 235 00:11:57,280 --> 00:11:58,080 Speaker 2: red flag appears. 236 00:11:58,160 --> 00:11:59,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's like you do that kind of 237 00:12:00,040 --> 00:12:02,559 Speaker 1: you know those like diagrams where it's like yes or no, and. 238 00:12:02,520 --> 00:12:04,120 Speaker 2: Then you're down the decision tree. 239 00:12:04,320 --> 00:12:08,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like, uh, is your is this person crazy? 240 00:12:08,240 --> 00:12:11,000 Speaker 1: And then if it's like yes, stop talking though, yeah 241 00:12:11,200 --> 00:12:14,760 Speaker 1: or no? Okay, maybe have discussion with them first. Oh 242 00:12:14,840 --> 00:12:18,240 Speaker 1: did they respond insanely to that discussion? Stop talking to them? 243 00:12:18,600 --> 00:12:22,400 Speaker 2: And okay, story time? How to go knock contact chart 244 00:12:22,440 --> 00:12:24,640 Speaker 2: would be would be great, let's got a genius? 245 00:12:24,800 --> 00:12:28,600 Speaker 1: Okay, cool? But there is an update. Oh I wasn't 246 00:12:28,640 --> 00:12:31,080 Speaker 1: planning to make an update so quick or at all, 247 00:12:31,280 --> 00:12:32,120 Speaker 1: but here it is. 248 00:12:32,240 --> 00:12:33,839 Speaker 2: We love we love that, we love it. 249 00:12:33,960 --> 00:12:37,520 Speaker 1: Small summary. I have two half sisters, Mary and Karen. 250 00:12:37,679 --> 00:12:39,920 Speaker 1: Karen used to live with me rent free and decided 251 00:12:39,960 --> 00:12:42,200 Speaker 1: to offer me up to her creepy boyfriend like a 252 00:12:42,240 --> 00:12:42,760 Speaker 1: side dish. 253 00:12:42,840 --> 00:12:43,240 Speaker 2: Oh dear. 254 00:12:43,360 --> 00:12:45,240 Speaker 1: I kicked her out and went and she went to 255 00:12:45,240 --> 00:12:47,360 Speaker 1: live with him. She got pregnant, he threw her to 256 00:12:47,400 --> 00:12:50,040 Speaker 1: the curb, and now she wants me to take care 257 00:12:50,080 --> 00:12:54,760 Speaker 1: of her and her unborn baby. Now to today. Mary 258 00:12:54,760 --> 00:12:57,160 Speaker 1: called me this morning to have brunch and discuss things 259 00:12:57,160 --> 00:13:00,199 Speaker 1: related to Karen. She told me she understood I don't 260 00:13:00,200 --> 00:13:01,800 Speaker 1: want to be part of the mix, but she really 261 00:13:01,840 --> 00:13:04,360 Speaker 1: wanted it to be discussed and after I can just 262 00:13:04,400 --> 00:13:07,160 Speaker 1: walk out. I know Mary, and I know she's just 263 00:13:07,160 --> 00:13:09,679 Speaker 1: trying to leave everything in order before she leaves the state. 264 00:13:10,120 --> 00:13:13,319 Speaker 1: She's the peacekeeper of my siblings. I agreed on the 265 00:13:13,360 --> 00:13:16,640 Speaker 1: condition that there was no way Karen would come home 266 00:13:16,679 --> 00:13:20,160 Speaker 1: with me. Mary just said, if she tries to follow you, 267 00:13:20,240 --> 00:13:23,200 Speaker 1: I'll drag her out myself. Okay, So I dressed up 268 00:13:23,240 --> 00:13:25,679 Speaker 1: and off I went to brunch with my sisters. I'll 269 00:13:25,679 --> 00:13:29,280 Speaker 1: skip the pleasantries and dumb friendly family look, Karen attempted. 270 00:13:29,760 --> 00:13:32,280 Speaker 1: Once we were done eating and just having coffee, Mary 271 00:13:32,360 --> 00:13:35,480 Speaker 1: set all the cards on the table. She explained she 272 00:13:35,520 --> 00:13:37,719 Speaker 1: couldn't take Karen with her out of state because she's 273 00:13:37,720 --> 00:13:40,760 Speaker 1: getting married to her longtime girlfriend and they can only 274 00:13:40,800 --> 00:13:43,839 Speaker 1: afford a one bedroom in her new city. She also 275 00:13:43,880 --> 00:13:46,720 Speaker 1: said Karen was insane if she thought Mary would allow 276 00:13:46,720 --> 00:13:48,880 Speaker 1: her to live with me, even if she had the 277 00:13:48,920 --> 00:13:52,040 Speaker 1: power to make me take Karen back in that Karen 278 00:13:52,120 --> 00:13:54,200 Speaker 1: was the lucky. She even let her stay with her 279 00:13:54,200 --> 00:13:56,959 Speaker 1: for the last few days. She told her the only 280 00:13:57,040 --> 00:13:59,200 Speaker 1: reason we were doing this was because her mother had 281 00:13:59,320 --> 00:14:03,080 Speaker 1: begged her to at least put Karen somewhere safe or 282 00:14:03,160 --> 00:14:05,719 Speaker 1: find a solution for the pregnancy. So she turned to 283 00:14:05,760 --> 00:14:09,200 Speaker 1: me and asked me, as the most stable economically, if 284 00:14:09,200 --> 00:14:11,640 Speaker 1: there was anything I would be willing to help with, 285 00:14:12,600 --> 00:14:14,800 Speaker 1: I might be an able for this. Feel free to 286 00:14:14,880 --> 00:14:18,400 Speaker 1: roast me, but I basically said I would only give 287 00:14:18,480 --> 00:14:23,680 Speaker 1: money for three things. One, a termination and a hotel 288 00:14:23,760 --> 00:14:25,160 Speaker 1: room while she heals from it. 289 00:14:28,080 --> 00:14:32,960 Speaker 4: Straight for the wooing the jugular, the freaking jugular. 290 00:14:33,200 --> 00:14:35,800 Speaker 1: Two A ticket back to home country so she can 291 00:14:35,840 --> 00:14:38,160 Speaker 1: live with her mother or aunt and get free health care. 292 00:14:38,480 --> 00:14:41,120 Speaker 2: That's actually, why do we start with that? Why do 293 00:14:41,240 --> 00:14:42,120 Speaker 2: we start with one? 294 00:14:42,240 --> 00:14:42,400 Speaker 1: Though? 295 00:14:42,480 --> 00:14:46,640 Speaker 2: Okay, it is so reasonable, I just love I feel 296 00:14:46,640 --> 00:14:49,800 Speaker 2: like Opie's just like gives no crops. 297 00:14:51,560 --> 00:14:54,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, she's like One. A ticket for her funeral. 298 00:14:56,160 --> 00:14:57,960 Speaker 2: Listen, you might be my thing on a hill, but 299 00:14:58,160 --> 00:15:01,920 Speaker 2: take for a funeral. Yeah, okay, I'm OPI Three. 300 00:15:02,080 --> 00:15:04,600 Speaker 1: A ticket to her eldest brother's home country so she 301 00:15:04,600 --> 00:15:06,800 Speaker 1: can live with him, because I know he will take 302 00:15:06,800 --> 00:15:10,840 Speaker 1: her truly two or three were like the very. 303 00:15:10,680 --> 00:15:14,320 Speaker 2: Reasonable yes, I yeah, I. 304 00:15:14,280 --> 00:15:16,000 Speaker 1: Mean, you know what all of those were. 305 00:15:16,280 --> 00:15:19,960 Speaker 2: I guess it works, it works, but it's just it's just, 306 00:15:20,720 --> 00:15:23,360 Speaker 2: you know what it is, Sophia, it's a crazy number one. 307 00:15:23,480 --> 00:15:24,800 Speaker 2: It's a crazy one to start. 308 00:15:24,960 --> 00:15:27,440 Speaker 1: I think if it were three, I'd be like, oh yeah, yeah, 309 00:15:28,160 --> 00:15:30,200 Speaker 1: like we don't want to present her with all the options. 310 00:15:30,200 --> 00:15:32,680 Speaker 2: But number one it was. It was a strong start 311 00:15:33,120 --> 00:15:35,360 Speaker 2: call golly starts golly. 312 00:15:35,920 --> 00:15:37,920 Speaker 1: I also said she had the option to put the 313 00:15:37,920 --> 00:15:40,120 Speaker 1: baby up for adoption, but I would not be offering 314 00:15:40,120 --> 00:15:42,680 Speaker 1: her a place to stay or away to get medical 315 00:15:42,720 --> 00:15:45,280 Speaker 1: care out of my pocket. I gave her some links 316 00:15:45,280 --> 00:15:52,080 Speaker 1: to nonprofits she could use. Honestly, overall very considerate and 317 00:15:52,080 --> 00:15:53,800 Speaker 1: this is still upholding her boundaries too. 318 00:15:53,960 --> 00:15:55,880 Speaker 2: I think, so, I think, so, oh, you didn't have 319 00:15:55,920 --> 00:15:56,480 Speaker 2: to do anything. No. 320 00:15:57,160 --> 00:15:59,720 Speaker 1: Karen started crying, saying I was trying to take away 321 00:15:59,720 --> 00:16:02,920 Speaker 1: her and being a bad sister, that a good sister 322 00:16:02,960 --> 00:16:05,440 Speaker 1: would open up her home and help care for her baby, 323 00:16:05,760 --> 00:16:07,840 Speaker 1: that I never deserve to have the money I have. 324 00:16:08,440 --> 00:16:10,560 Speaker 1: Most of my money is from inheritance on my mother's 325 00:16:10,600 --> 00:16:12,560 Speaker 1: side of the family, so not sure how she would 326 00:16:12,560 --> 00:16:15,960 Speaker 1: have gotten anything that I was spoiled because my mother 327 00:16:16,280 --> 00:16:19,200 Speaker 1: by my mother because she had money. We did because 328 00:16:19,280 --> 00:16:22,840 Speaker 1: after our father left my mother and I with nothing, 329 00:16:23,040 --> 00:16:25,480 Speaker 1: she made a company from scratch. Oh had the money 330 00:16:25,480 --> 00:16:28,160 Speaker 1: because of that. She got babbling and making a scene, 331 00:16:28,240 --> 00:16:31,040 Speaker 1: and then she said something that actually hurt me. You're 332 00:16:31,240 --> 00:16:36,600 Speaker 1: just mad because you'll never get pregnant. Yes, I happened 333 00:16:36,640 --> 00:16:39,960 Speaker 1: to be infertile. Oh god, No, I can't get treatment 334 00:16:40,000 --> 00:16:44,040 Speaker 1: for it. It is what it is. I already accepted it, 335 00:16:44,240 --> 00:16:50,360 Speaker 1: but it still hurts. Wow, Karen is just like truly crazy, 336 00:16:50,560 --> 00:16:55,000 Speaker 1: truly crazy. Karen, you literally asking OP for or something. Yeah, yeah, 337 00:16:55,040 --> 00:16:56,720 Speaker 1: like like OP is offering you. 338 00:16:58,160 --> 00:17:01,080 Speaker 2: Yeah. Both. And also all these lu's mine I had 339 00:17:01,160 --> 00:17:08,520 Speaker 2: probably hundreds to like a thousand dollar maybe thousands potentially. Yeah, 340 00:17:08,760 --> 00:17:12,359 Speaker 2: and you're just spitting in the face of that. Yeah, 341 00:17:12,400 --> 00:17:13,760 Speaker 2: that's not a smart move. 342 00:17:14,440 --> 00:17:16,359 Speaker 1: Mary knew this was a low blow for me and 343 00:17:16,440 --> 00:17:20,240 Speaker 1: basically told Karen one more stupid word like that and 344 00:17:20,320 --> 00:17:23,680 Speaker 1: she'll be sleeping in the street tonight. I didn't cry 345 00:17:23,720 --> 00:17:27,800 Speaker 1: or anything, just stared. Karen stopped her crying muttering and 346 00:17:27,880 --> 00:17:30,520 Speaker 1: seemed to get an idea. She looked at me straight 347 00:17:30,600 --> 00:17:34,720 Speaker 1: and told me to adopt her baby. 348 00:17:38,040 --> 00:17:38,119 Speaker 4: What. 349 00:17:39,160 --> 00:17:41,680 Speaker 1: I laughed at that. I told her she was insane 350 00:17:41,720 --> 00:17:44,000 Speaker 1: if she thought I would adopt her baby. I don't 351 00:17:44,040 --> 00:17:46,439 Speaker 1: want her in my life, let alone her X. I 352 00:17:46,480 --> 00:17:49,400 Speaker 1: don't blame the baby, but I have absolutely no intentions 353 00:17:49,400 --> 00:17:51,920 Speaker 1: to be part of the child's life. I was about 354 00:17:51,920 --> 00:17:54,159 Speaker 1: to go off on Karen just for even thinking I 355 00:17:54,200 --> 00:17:57,280 Speaker 1: would consider that as an option, but Mary stopped me 356 00:17:57,359 --> 00:18:00,439 Speaker 1: in time. She simply said, to Karen, I have the 357 00:18:00,440 --> 00:18:04,360 Speaker 1: options she gave you here are mind. You can get 358 00:18:04,400 --> 00:18:06,720 Speaker 1: a termination or you can go back to home country. 359 00:18:06,880 --> 00:18:10,719 Speaker 1: Either way, you can't stay here. You are not legal 360 00:18:10,840 --> 00:18:13,119 Speaker 1: and your immigration status affects US. If you were to 361 00:18:13,119 --> 00:18:15,080 Speaker 1: live with us, I could lose my job and OP 362 00:18:15,119 --> 00:18:17,880 Speaker 1: he could lose her residence status. You have until next 363 00:18:17,960 --> 00:18:20,919 Speaker 1: Friday to choose. If none of these options work, you 364 00:18:20,960 --> 00:18:23,320 Speaker 1: will have to find your own solution without us. I 365 00:18:23,359 --> 00:18:26,320 Speaker 1: don't want you anywhere near my little sister. You put 366 00:18:26,359 --> 00:18:29,280 Speaker 1: her at risk of being assaulted or worse. You are lucky. 367 00:18:29,320 --> 00:18:31,000 Speaker 1: I have an empty room for one more week for 368 00:18:31,040 --> 00:18:33,760 Speaker 1: you to crash in, but after I don't want to 369 00:18:33,800 --> 00:18:35,959 Speaker 1: see you in person. We can keep in touch by 370 00:18:36,000 --> 00:18:39,480 Speaker 1: Facebook or phone. You've lost the right to spend time 371 00:18:39,560 --> 00:18:43,399 Speaker 1: in person with either of us. Shout out to Mary, Dude, 372 00:18:43,480 --> 00:18:44,399 Speaker 1: shout out to Mary. 373 00:18:44,720 --> 00:18:48,480 Speaker 2: Mary and op are the queens of setting boundaries. 374 00:18:49,720 --> 00:18:53,840 Speaker 1: They had good mothers. It seems like it seems like 375 00:18:54,960 --> 00:18:58,160 Speaker 1: of the mother lottery. Karen kind of did not look 376 00:18:58,240 --> 00:19:01,200 Speaker 1: out because it seems like a third their collective. Dad 377 00:19:01,240 --> 00:19:03,720 Speaker 1: doesn't seem like a great guy. Yeah, it's kind of 378 00:19:03,720 --> 00:19:04,639 Speaker 1: you only got your mom's. 379 00:19:05,040 --> 00:19:09,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a good observation. Yeah, No, I think, like, man, 380 00:19:09,080 --> 00:19:13,800 Speaker 2: we've just you know, I feel like we generally people like, Okay, 381 00:19:13,880 --> 00:19:16,040 Speaker 2: how can I not not be the A hole? That's 382 00:19:16,080 --> 00:19:19,080 Speaker 2: literally the most asked question, like on the internet, like 383 00:19:19,359 --> 00:19:20,359 Speaker 2: am I the A hole? 384 00:19:20,760 --> 00:19:21,080 Speaker 1: Yeah? 385 00:19:21,119 --> 00:19:23,320 Speaker 2: And it's I don't know. It's an interesting example in 386 00:19:23,359 --> 00:19:27,879 Speaker 2: the story to see just being so steadfast and you know, 387 00:19:28,040 --> 00:19:30,959 Speaker 2: but but again not an a whole, actually providing a 388 00:19:31,000 --> 00:19:34,600 Speaker 2: solution and help and truly doing things again, spending hundreds 389 00:19:34,640 --> 00:19:38,760 Speaker 2: to potentially thousands of dollars for someone who was an 390 00:19:38,760 --> 00:19:40,680 Speaker 2: a trader trader. 391 00:19:40,400 --> 00:19:43,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, Honeybee eighty five says, didn't she complain Opie 392 00:19:43,680 --> 00:19:45,960 Speaker 1: was trying to take the baby then offer them maybe 393 00:19:46,000 --> 00:19:48,280 Speaker 1: five minutes later also noticed. 394 00:19:48,040 --> 00:19:50,280 Speaker 2: That dude, true eighty five. 395 00:19:50,480 --> 00:19:54,639 Speaker 1: So true, but Opi continues. I just stared at Mary. 396 00:19:54,880 --> 00:19:57,560 Speaker 1: She's very quiet and normally the most reserved of us, 397 00:19:57,760 --> 00:20:01,360 Speaker 1: so this was not expected. Mary paid, didn't even wait 398 00:20:01,359 --> 00:20:03,959 Speaker 1: for the change, and left Karen with enough to get 399 00:20:04,000 --> 00:20:06,840 Speaker 1: a taxi home. Mary grabbed me by the arm and 400 00:20:06,880 --> 00:20:09,720 Speaker 1: took me out. I didn't know how much I needed 401 00:20:09,760 --> 00:20:12,480 Speaker 1: someone to just protect me for a change, but I 402 00:20:12,520 --> 00:20:14,480 Speaker 1: did cry a little on the way out from just 403 00:20:14,600 --> 00:20:17,720 Speaker 1: pure relief I had one older sister that's still looked 404 00:20:17,720 --> 00:20:20,359 Speaker 1: out for me. We decided to go for ice cream 405 00:20:20,400 --> 00:20:22,800 Speaker 1: after like we did as kids when bad things happen, 406 00:20:23,119 --> 00:20:26,119 Speaker 1: and discussed her plans to spend holidays and vacations together. 407 00:20:26,800 --> 00:20:29,119 Speaker 1: Mary's girlfriend also joined us for ice cream, and the 408 00:20:29,160 --> 00:20:31,600 Speaker 1: whole time she just made jokes about how sad she's 409 00:20:31,640 --> 00:20:35,439 Speaker 1: going to be without her moving table. She's much taller 410 00:20:35,480 --> 00:20:38,560 Speaker 1: than me, and it's a running gag for us. Nothing 411 00:20:38,640 --> 00:20:41,679 Speaker 1: too dramatic, thankfully. Mary and our girlfriend are going to 412 00:20:41,720 --> 00:20:44,520 Speaker 1: come later for dinner with me. Depending on how this 413 00:20:44,720 --> 00:20:47,480 Speaker 1: mess ends, I'll try to update, but at this point 414 00:20:47,840 --> 00:20:50,440 Speaker 1: I think it's pretty much done. It is not because 415 00:20:50,480 --> 00:20:54,000 Speaker 1: we are only like halfway through. Oh not sure if 416 00:20:54,040 --> 00:20:56,120 Speaker 1: Karen will take any of the options we gave her 417 00:20:56,320 --> 00:20:59,080 Speaker 1: or just do her own thing regardless. I have no 418 00:20:59,160 --> 00:21:01,840 Speaker 1: intentions of putting my money for anything but what I 419 00:21:01,880 --> 00:21:04,479 Speaker 1: said I would, and yes, Mary is my hero. If 420 00:21:04,520 --> 00:21:08,040 Speaker 1: anyone as curious and small edit. I got asked this 421 00:21:08,160 --> 00:21:10,480 Speaker 1: in a chat and wanted to clear it up. Karen 422 00:21:10,560 --> 00:21:13,159 Speaker 1: is not penniless. I gave her ten k at the 423 00:21:13,160 --> 00:21:15,760 Speaker 1: start of the year when our grandmother passed away. That 424 00:21:15,920 --> 00:21:17,760 Speaker 1: was her part of the thirty K I was given. 425 00:21:17,960 --> 00:21:21,000 Speaker 1: She's also been saving money from her college job. I 426 00:21:21,040 --> 00:21:23,399 Speaker 1: worked at the university about four years ago and I 427 00:21:23,520 --> 00:21:26,800 Speaker 1: was getting nine dollars an hour. Her mom also sent 428 00:21:26,840 --> 00:21:29,800 Speaker 1: her money unless she wasted all her funds. She won't 429 00:21:29,840 --> 00:21:32,480 Speaker 1: go home without money. If that was the case, my 430 00:21:32,600 --> 00:21:34,959 Speaker 1: brother's Mary and I would all give her something. So 431 00:21:34,960 --> 00:21:37,080 Speaker 1: you might be in my blacklist, but she is my 432 00:21:37,160 --> 00:21:39,239 Speaker 1: sister at the end of the day. And there is 433 00:21:39,280 --> 00:21:42,920 Speaker 1: another update. But yeah, so I don't know what I think. 434 00:21:42,960 --> 00:21:45,520 Speaker 1: Maybe Karen just wants someone else to kind of look 435 00:21:45,560 --> 00:21:46,840 Speaker 1: after the baby. 436 00:21:47,000 --> 00:21:51,840 Speaker 3: Karen is like, oh talk, she wants a full responsibility, 437 00:21:51,880 --> 00:21:56,000 Speaker 3: like she wants full credit credit but no responsibilities. 438 00:21:56,160 --> 00:22:00,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I think so, yeah, I think so. Yeah, 439 00:22:00,880 --> 00:22:03,119 Speaker 2: Karen is cuckoo for coca puffs. Let's just get that 440 00:22:03,560 --> 00:22:07,800 Speaker 2: just straight right out the gate. Okay, she she let 441 00:22:07,840 --> 00:22:11,600 Speaker 2: her freaking creep boyfriend try to get with her with 442 00:22:11,640 --> 00:22:15,199 Speaker 2: her half sister. She's like just like crying and saying 443 00:22:15,320 --> 00:22:18,359 Speaker 2: She's saying one thing, one sentence, and then the exact opposite, 444 00:22:18,440 --> 00:22:24,320 Speaker 2: you know, accusing, so on and so forth. Yeah, I 445 00:22:25,200 --> 00:22:27,560 Speaker 2: I lost my train of thought, but I agree. I'm 446 00:22:27,920 --> 00:22:31,520 Speaker 2: just where you're going. I'm jumping on the train, you know. 447 00:22:32,480 --> 00:22:35,920 Speaker 2: Karen is just Oh I was gonna say, I truly 448 00:22:36,000 --> 00:22:39,280 Speaker 2: think that it should be like her home country has 449 00:22:39,280 --> 00:22:44,440 Speaker 2: free health care. Get the ticket on the plane, take 450 00:22:44,520 --> 00:22:51,200 Speaker 2: your savings, yeah, and go home, presumably to your parents 451 00:22:50,280 --> 00:22:54,120 Speaker 2: or or your brothers or other family who lives there 452 00:22:54,119 --> 00:22:56,800 Speaker 2: that you could try at least attempts to live live 453 00:22:56,800 --> 00:22:59,120 Speaker 2: with one of them. The people in I think we're 454 00:22:59,119 --> 00:23:02,560 Speaker 2: in America here, I think, so, we're gonna guess. So 455 00:23:02,640 --> 00:23:05,159 Speaker 2: for the secular story, they notffing with you like that. 456 00:23:05,440 --> 00:23:06,800 Speaker 2: Nobody is gonna take. 457 00:23:06,640 --> 00:23:11,480 Speaker 1: You in, and she's not like her documentation has run out. 458 00:23:11,520 --> 00:23:15,200 Speaker 2: She doesn't have a visa, you don't have legal residency anyways. 459 00:23:15,320 --> 00:23:17,239 Speaker 1: Yeah, It's like, why are we staying here? 460 00:23:17,320 --> 00:23:17,960 Speaker 2: What are we doing? 461 00:23:18,359 --> 00:23:18,840 Speaker 1: Go home? 462 00:23:19,280 --> 00:23:21,920 Speaker 2: Take the free plane ticket and the free health care. 463 00:23:22,040 --> 00:23:27,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, and and go just go go bye bye. But 464 00:23:28,440 --> 00:23:31,520 Speaker 1: there is a final update. Oh I don't know how 465 00:23:31,600 --> 00:23:33,239 Speaker 1: final it is. Oh ready to find out. 466 00:23:33,320 --> 00:23:37,360 Speaker 2: We're gonna see Karen has made her choice. Final updates? 467 00:23:37,400 --> 00:23:37,960 Speaker 2: What choice? 468 00:23:38,200 --> 00:23:40,520 Speaker 1: As I mentioned in my last post, my sister Mary 469 00:23:40,560 --> 00:23:43,720 Speaker 1: and I gave Karen a couple of options for unplanned pregnancy. 470 00:23:44,119 --> 00:23:47,199 Speaker 1: The options were a termination on her pregnancy, to get 471 00:23:47,240 --> 00:23:49,919 Speaker 1: back to our home country or to our brother's home country, 472 00:23:50,400 --> 00:23:52,520 Speaker 1: or she can figure a way to keep her child 473 00:23:52,680 --> 00:23:55,600 Speaker 1: or put the baby up for adoption. She had until 474 00:23:55,600 --> 00:23:58,720 Speaker 1: tomorrow to choose. Since Mary leaves on Saturday for the 475 00:23:58,800 --> 00:24:03,639 Speaker 1: East Coast. Well, Karen chose none of the above. Of course, 476 00:24:04,160 --> 00:24:07,320 Speaker 1: she decided to make life so difficult. She is now arrested. 477 00:24:08,040 --> 00:24:09,800 Speaker 1: Oh more than likely will be deported. 478 00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:16,720 Speaker 2: Oh wow, I wasn't expecting that left field, okay, when 479 00:24:16,800 --> 00:24:18,680 Speaker 2: she could have gone home, had a free flight in 480 00:24:18,720 --> 00:24:21,720 Speaker 2: free health care, but she got jail instead. 481 00:24:22,280 --> 00:24:26,160 Speaker 1: Let me explain what happened. Tuesday, Mary decided to leave 482 00:24:26,200 --> 00:24:29,000 Speaker 1: for a nearby national park to enjoy it one last 483 00:24:29,040 --> 00:24:31,600 Speaker 1: time before she moves too far to drive there. She 484 00:24:31,760 --> 00:24:35,000 Speaker 1: left Karen with a key and some money. Big mistake. 485 00:24:35,800 --> 00:24:38,640 Speaker 1: Mary and her girlfriend returned yesterday and found out all 486 00:24:38,800 --> 00:24:40,840 Speaker 1: the locks in their house had been chased. 487 00:24:40,920 --> 00:24:42,760 Speaker 2: Stop it, stop it. 488 00:24:43,840 --> 00:24:47,280 Speaker 1: To make it worse, Ken Karen supposed X had moved 489 00:24:47,440 --> 00:24:50,680 Speaker 1: into their house. What I know, Mary should have seen 490 00:24:50,720 --> 00:24:54,359 Speaker 1: this coming? Should she? Should she have? I mean, I 491 00:24:54,400 --> 00:24:55,760 Speaker 1: don't know if I would have left care there, but 492 00:24:55,920 --> 00:24:57,639 Speaker 1: like I wouldn't have seen that coming. 493 00:24:57,840 --> 00:25:00,399 Speaker 2: I mean, it's a wild but they they grew up 494 00:25:00,400 --> 00:25:01,080 Speaker 2: as best friends. 495 00:25:01,320 --> 00:25:03,640 Speaker 1: They used to be closer to each other than anyone 496 00:25:04,000 --> 00:25:08,200 Speaker 1: myself included. Obviously, police were called and it was just 497 00:25:08,359 --> 00:25:12,119 Speaker 1: a major mess. Karen and Ken claimed it was their house. 498 00:25:12,320 --> 00:25:14,600 Speaker 1: Mary and her girlfriend kept telling them, no, it's not. 499 00:25:15,440 --> 00:25:18,280 Speaker 1: It's not even Mary's house anymore. It was sold and 500 00:25:18,400 --> 00:25:21,800 Speaker 1: the new family that owns it arrives on Sunday. Realtor 501 00:25:21,920 --> 00:25:24,480 Speaker 1: was going to give them the key. The police officers 502 00:25:24,480 --> 00:25:27,000 Speaker 1: were so done with this mess before it even escalated, 503 00:25:27,359 --> 00:25:31,320 Speaker 1: and asked everyone for their IDs. Ken, Mary and Mary's 504 00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:35,400 Speaker 1: girlfriend all had their ideas. Karen only had an expired passport. 505 00:25:36,200 --> 00:25:40,800 Speaker 1: Karen got arrested on immigration charges. Ken got arrested on 506 00:25:40,960 --> 00:25:44,240 Speaker 1: charges related to breaking and entering and some others I 507 00:25:44,280 --> 00:25:46,720 Speaker 1: don't know for sure. I got the second hand from 508 00:25:46,880 --> 00:25:50,159 Speaker 1: Mary while she was basically about to commit a unliving 509 00:25:50,240 --> 00:25:52,920 Speaker 1: felony had it not been for the officer's presence. O 510 00:25:53,040 --> 00:25:56,679 Speaker 1: my god. Today I got called about my sister. Her 511 00:25:56,760 --> 00:25:59,359 Speaker 1: lawyers said she claimed to be my surrogate and that 512 00:25:59,480 --> 00:26:03,359 Speaker 1: the baby in her was actually my child. And then 513 00:26:03,520 --> 00:26:09,840 Speaker 1: because I literally a proof that I'm infertile, you can't 514 00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:14,639 Speaker 1: uh yep, she tried this. I told the lawyer that 515 00:26:14,720 --> 00:26:17,359 Speaker 1: I was not looking for a Soviet or adopting a child. 516 00:26:17,520 --> 00:26:20,320 Speaker 1: I am already fostering and have no space, and that 517 00:26:20,440 --> 00:26:23,959 Speaker 1: my sister got pregnant by accident with Ken asked if 518 00:26:23,960 --> 00:26:26,119 Speaker 1: I would be willing to foster her baby since the 519 00:26:26,240 --> 00:26:27,760 Speaker 1: child would technically be American. 520 00:26:28,320 --> 00:26:31,040 Speaker 2: I said absolutely, not the kids American. 521 00:26:31,560 --> 00:26:33,480 Speaker 1: Why don't you just tell you want to raise a 522 00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:35,720 Speaker 1: a red blooded American child. 523 00:26:36,880 --> 00:26:38,879 Speaker 2: We got a fresh American here. 524 00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:44,919 Speaker 1: You'd be crazy not to raise this a little American dude. 525 00:26:45,680 --> 00:26:48,520 Speaker 1: He tried to work things out with me, explaining, my 526 00:26:48,600 --> 00:26:51,680 Speaker 1: sister will most likely be deported otherwise. I just told them, 527 00:26:51,880 --> 00:26:55,120 Speaker 1: if that's the law, then that's how it'll be. Yeah, 528 00:26:55,760 --> 00:26:58,480 Speaker 1: I asked him to please not contact me about her anymore. 529 00:26:58,760 --> 00:27:01,440 Speaker 1: As far as I'm concerned, the only family she has 530 00:27:01,640 --> 00:27:04,840 Speaker 1: is in our home country, aside from the scare and 531 00:27:04,920 --> 00:27:07,720 Speaker 1: new locks. Mary's okay. The realtor has copies of the 532 00:27:07,800 --> 00:27:10,240 Speaker 1: new keys for the family that owns the house. And 533 00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:12,320 Speaker 1: now my sister and I are planning to have no 534 00:27:12,480 --> 00:27:15,320 Speaker 1: contact with Karen. I don't know what exactly will happen 535 00:27:15,400 --> 00:27:19,280 Speaker 1: to Karen, nor do I care anymore now, not even 536 00:27:19,880 --> 00:27:22,560 Speaker 1: not even aunt in the home country wants anything to 537 00:27:22,600 --> 00:27:24,920 Speaker 1: do with Karen, and even apologize to Mary and I. 538 00:27:25,280 --> 00:27:25,480 Speaker 2: Good. 539 00:27:25,640 --> 00:27:30,920 Speaker 1: Finally she sees as for Ken, well, who knows. I 540 00:27:31,040 --> 00:27:33,440 Speaker 1: hope he goes to jail, but if he doesn't, I 541 00:27:33,480 --> 00:27:36,560 Speaker 1: couldn't care less. I now feel like a massive boulder 542 00:27:36,720 --> 00:27:39,520 Speaker 1: is off my shoulders and can just focus on work 543 00:27:39,600 --> 00:27:42,600 Speaker 1: and teaching my foster daughter about Star Wars. Nice. Uh, 544 00:27:43,320 --> 00:27:44,400 Speaker 1: who's your foster daughter? 545 00:27:45,000 --> 00:27:45,200 Speaker 2: Yeah? 546 00:27:45,520 --> 00:27:48,240 Speaker 1: I feel like, oh, that was the foster family. 547 00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:51,480 Speaker 2: No, no, no, because remember oh, she meaning host family. 548 00:27:51,960 --> 00:27:55,639 Speaker 2: I think so. A few sentences ago she was like, 549 00:27:56,200 --> 00:27:59,840 Speaker 2: I didn't want the baby. I already am fostering, So 550 00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:05,200 Speaker 2: I think my understanding of that was that since maybe 551 00:28:05,240 --> 00:28:08,520 Speaker 2: since can't have kids, Opie is fostering kids. 552 00:28:08,359 --> 00:28:10,639 Speaker 1: As yeah, because she did say earlier she has a 553 00:28:10,680 --> 00:28:13,280 Speaker 1: foster family. But then I got confused because she said 554 00:28:13,280 --> 00:28:13,760 Speaker 1: that she was like. 555 00:28:14,880 --> 00:28:17,400 Speaker 2: She was like a student, and so I was like, what, Yeah, 556 00:28:17,800 --> 00:28:24,000 Speaker 2: I guess she is the one that is the foster mom. 557 00:28:24,880 --> 00:28:27,880 Speaker 2: I understand. I believe. I believe that's my understanding. Play 558 00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:29,040 Speaker 2: me if I'm wrong, let me know. 559 00:28:29,240 --> 00:28:29,920 Speaker 1: I think you're right. 560 00:28:30,160 --> 00:28:34,040 Speaker 2: I think I'm right too. Pinky Slayer says, no, she's 561 00:28:34,080 --> 00:28:35,800 Speaker 2: fostering a child, she is adopting. 562 00:28:36,080 --> 00:28:38,640 Speaker 1: We have already watched all of the original trilogy and 563 00:28:38,800 --> 00:28:40,720 Speaker 1: we have a Clone Wars marathon plan for the weekend. 564 00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:41,480 Speaker 2: Fun let's go. 565 00:28:41,880 --> 00:28:44,160 Speaker 1: I want to thank everyone who sent me well wishes 566 00:28:44,240 --> 00:28:47,240 Speaker 1: to my sister and I, sister Mary and I, also 567 00:28:47,360 --> 00:28:50,400 Speaker 1: to the people that share advice. I am so glad 568 00:28:50,520 --> 00:28:53,040 Speaker 1: I took it to heart. This has probably been the 569 00:28:53,120 --> 00:28:56,360 Speaker 1: worst roller coaster family mess I've dealt with since my parents' divorce, 570 00:28:56,840 --> 00:28:59,920 Speaker 1: and it came absolutely from the one person I suspected 571 00:29:00,280 --> 00:29:04,040 Speaker 1: the least. Can't say I have any entitled stories aside 572 00:29:04,080 --> 00:29:06,320 Speaker 1: from this, but this is a pretty good one. Pretty 573 00:29:06,360 --> 00:29:09,440 Speaker 1: good Karen was once actually a very good sister. But 574 00:29:09,560 --> 00:29:12,440 Speaker 1: I guess when money and comfort are involved, people change 575 00:29:12,880 --> 00:29:15,360 Speaker 1: small update that isn't worth a new post. Karen was 576 00:29:15,440 --> 00:29:17,720 Speaker 1: offered to leave the US willingly and she will face 577 00:29:17,920 --> 00:29:19,520 Speaker 1: no negative effects for status. 578 00:29:19,640 --> 00:29:25,680 Speaker 2: Woww I mean where is she from? Yeah? People are 579 00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:27,160 Speaker 2: saying Europe and chat Yeah. 580 00:29:27,360 --> 00:29:30,160 Speaker 1: I mean yeah. Maybe it's probably why they could. Deportation 581 00:29:30,320 --> 00:29:33,000 Speaker 1: was so easy for her, That's true. She called my 582 00:29:33,080 --> 00:29:35,120 Speaker 1: mom to see if she can convince me to give 583 00:29:35,200 --> 00:29:37,480 Speaker 1: my sister the money for the ticket. Mary and I 584 00:29:37,600 --> 00:29:39,640 Speaker 1: agreed to be the ticket on the condition she never 585 00:29:39,760 --> 00:29:43,640 Speaker 1: again contacts either of us. Her mom is aware of 586 00:29:43,720 --> 00:29:45,800 Speaker 1: this and basically told me that Karen will have to 587 00:29:45,840 --> 00:29:48,880 Speaker 1: find a job within the month she arrives or she'll 588 00:29:48,920 --> 00:29:51,800 Speaker 1: be in the streets. As for lawyers and stuff, I 589 00:29:51,880 --> 00:29:54,600 Speaker 1: have my own immigration lawyer aware of the mess, and 590 00:29:54,800 --> 00:29:57,120 Speaker 1: he told me the only way the surrogate ploy would 591 00:29:57,120 --> 00:30:00,440 Speaker 1: work would be a DNA match or a contract. None 592 00:30:00,520 --> 00:30:03,720 Speaker 1: of that is around, so I'm safe. Mary booked Karen 593 00:30:03,760 --> 00:30:07,480 Speaker 1: for a trip back on Friday, and good riddance, let's 594 00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:10,760 Speaker 1: go sister came back via the power of the Internet. 595 00:30:10,840 --> 00:30:12,920 Speaker 1: I forgot to link the post since life has been messy. 596 00:30:14,920 --> 00:30:20,440 Speaker 1: There's another update. Oh, another update, Update three entitled Sister 597 00:30:20,640 --> 00:30:24,880 Speaker 1: Strikes Back, which I think might be influenced by Opie's 598 00:30:25,560 --> 00:30:26,600 Speaker 1: watching of Star Wars. 599 00:30:27,440 --> 00:30:31,120 Speaker 2: Oh, that does sound like an influence, but there is 600 00:30:31,480 --> 00:30:33,320 Speaker 2: there is an update that is true. 601 00:30:33,400 --> 00:30:34,640 Speaker 1: But do you have any thoughts? Uh? 602 00:30:35,040 --> 00:30:40,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think you know. Good on op for navigating 603 00:30:40,360 --> 00:30:43,360 Speaker 2: it and figuring, you know, going to this. Just just 604 00:30:43,720 --> 00:30:47,440 Speaker 2: what a crazy journey we went through to get here. Yeah, 605 00:30:47,560 --> 00:30:50,280 Speaker 2: when it could have just been like, hey, all buy 606 00:30:50,320 --> 00:30:52,320 Speaker 2: your ticket home and then her being sure. 607 00:30:52,400 --> 00:30:55,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, and instead she got forcibly taken home. 608 00:30:55,800 --> 00:31:00,320 Speaker 2: Dude. Wow. And I'm also glad that they think they 609 00:31:00,720 --> 00:31:03,280 Speaker 2: it was Opie and Mary that both jointly paid for 610 00:31:03,520 --> 00:31:06,760 Speaker 2: on the condition they contact neither of them, right, Yeah, 611 00:31:06,960 --> 00:31:11,000 Speaker 2: which is a great solution and also like a pretty 612 00:31:11,600 --> 00:31:14,520 Speaker 2: a pretty cheap cheap price to pay all things considered, 613 00:31:14,560 --> 00:31:17,720 Speaker 2: for getting a crazy care for. 614 00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:21,840 Speaker 1: Trying to freaking steal their place, dude, Like they could 615 00:31:21,840 --> 00:31:22,960 Speaker 1: have pressed charges. 616 00:31:22,760 --> 00:31:26,000 Speaker 2: And falsely say that oh she's actually the mother of 617 00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:29,080 Speaker 2: the child, and I'm like a surrogate. Wow, just insane, 618 00:31:29,800 --> 00:31:33,200 Speaker 2: really crazy moves. Yeah, I think I think what was 619 00:31:33,280 --> 00:31:35,400 Speaker 2: the part I feel like there was some part where 620 00:31:35,440 --> 00:31:37,240 Speaker 2: she was like, maybe I don't know if it was 621 00:31:37,280 --> 00:31:41,280 Speaker 2: my excuse my sister after all her I wanted to 622 00:31:41,320 --> 00:31:44,600 Speaker 2: talk to her more. I might be mistering some part 623 00:31:44,640 --> 00:31:48,480 Speaker 2: of it, because I know she said we're doing this 624 00:31:48,600 --> 00:31:49,600 Speaker 2: to go no contact. 625 00:31:50,040 --> 00:31:52,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it was. Oh it was saying that 626 00:31:52,320 --> 00:31:56,480 Speaker 1: was earlier before the whole changing locks fiasco. But she 627 00:31:56,680 --> 00:31:59,440 Speaker 1: was saying if she has money, but if she like 628 00:31:59,520 --> 00:32:01,680 Speaker 1: really needed money to staff the streets, I would I 629 00:32:01,680 --> 00:32:02,800 Speaker 1: would give her that money. 630 00:32:03,040 --> 00:32:03,280 Speaker 2: Yeah. 631 00:32:04,120 --> 00:32:05,960 Speaker 1: Maybe maybe that's not the case anymore. We don't know. 632 00:32:06,160 --> 00:32:09,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know, but I'm just glad all in 633 00:32:09,720 --> 00:32:13,320 Speaker 2: all that, OPI is basically setting the hard line of yes, 634 00:32:13,560 --> 00:32:14,800 Speaker 2: getting Karen out of her life. 635 00:32:14,920 --> 00:32:17,680 Speaker 1: I agree. And you know what else, I hope that 636 00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:21,080 Speaker 1: you agree with me on what the air is really 637 00:32:21,200 --> 00:32:22,200 Speaker 1: drying out my eyes? 638 00:32:23,240 --> 00:32:25,600 Speaker 2: I would Yeah, I am a cold boy. 639 00:32:26,200 --> 00:32:28,880 Speaker 1: My my body is not actually that cold, but my 640 00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:32,320 Speaker 1: eyes are quite dry. And any contact. 641 00:32:32,120 --> 00:32:34,680 Speaker 2: Users, No, that's true, I would not know. 642 00:32:34,840 --> 00:32:37,880 Speaker 1: You wouldn't know. You've got kind of protection. I have 643 00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:40,640 Speaker 1: what you have, eye protection. I do have eye protection 644 00:32:41,440 --> 00:32:45,680 Speaker 1: for my protection eyes. I said it reversed, but it 645 00:32:45,800 --> 00:32:50,000 Speaker 1: still works. But there is an update. Oh I almost 646 00:32:50,040 --> 00:32:53,120 Speaker 1: made it to a month without hearing from my half sister, 647 00:32:53,960 --> 00:32:56,760 Speaker 1: but okay, read it. You were right, this might not 648 00:32:57,040 --> 00:33:00,880 Speaker 1: be over, might never be over. Also, funny enough, dear 649 00:33:00,960 --> 00:33:03,800 Speaker 1: Sis found my post and sent me a scathing email 650 00:33:03,880 --> 00:33:07,080 Speaker 1: before I blocked her. But that's really not a big story. 651 00:33:07,360 --> 00:33:08,120 Speaker 1: Let's give it to me. 652 00:33:08,280 --> 00:33:09,160 Speaker 2: Send her to this episode. 653 00:33:09,280 --> 00:33:13,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, this one, however, pisses me off. So as I 654 00:33:13,120 --> 00:33:16,400 Speaker 1: posted before, my older half sister Karen was forcefully but 655 00:33:16,480 --> 00:33:20,560 Speaker 1: not really removed by immigration after going insane and trying 656 00:33:20,600 --> 00:33:24,040 Speaker 1: to get squatter's rights on a sold house that used 657 00:33:24,040 --> 00:33:27,920 Speaker 1: to belong to my other half sister married man an 658 00:33:28,080 --> 00:33:30,440 Speaker 1: when you put it like that, and she was escorted out, 659 00:33:30,520 --> 00:33:33,400 Speaker 1: so I know she left. Things were calm for a bit, 660 00:33:33,560 --> 00:33:35,760 Speaker 1: and in the meantime I focused on my four year 661 00:33:35,800 --> 00:33:40,160 Speaker 1: old foster daughter. I think that the explanation that this 662 00:33:40,640 --> 00:33:43,440 Speaker 1: child is four years old also makes the Star Wars 663 00:33:43,440 --> 00:33:46,000 Speaker 1: stuff funny. But we're watching the cluone ones now. 664 00:33:46,160 --> 00:33:48,200 Speaker 2: We're literally learning about the foster daughter from just like 665 00:33:48,320 --> 00:33:51,120 Speaker 2: the most mere bits and snippets. 666 00:33:51,400 --> 00:33:53,000 Speaker 3: It's like a sea line. 667 00:33:53,160 --> 00:33:55,520 Speaker 2: The yeah, the story. 668 00:33:55,680 --> 00:33:58,840 Speaker 1: Absolutely, Let's call her Lily, Lily's mom is one of 669 00:33:58,920 --> 00:34:01,480 Speaker 1: my oldest friends. She gave birth in the US, but 670 00:34:02,000 --> 00:34:06,040 Speaker 1: Lily's father is not American and unfortunately passed away when 671 00:34:06,120 --> 00:34:08,480 Speaker 1: Lily was a baby. God my friend was asked to 672 00:34:08,560 --> 00:34:11,200 Speaker 1: leave the US to do her immigration process off country 673 00:34:11,600 --> 00:34:13,440 Speaker 1: since she has no one to claim her aside from 674 00:34:13,440 --> 00:34:16,960 Speaker 1: a minor child. This sadly means she probably won't be 675 00:34:17,000 --> 00:34:19,719 Speaker 1: able to come into the US until Lily is eighteen. 676 00:34:20,239 --> 00:34:22,600 Speaker 1: Oh wow, that's so hard. 677 00:34:22,760 --> 00:34:24,120 Speaker 2: That is super awful. 678 00:34:24,360 --> 00:34:27,399 Speaker 1: Because of her home country's education system being really bad, 679 00:34:27,640 --> 00:34:30,439 Speaker 1: she asked me if I could take Lily. By this point, 680 00:34:30,520 --> 00:34:32,759 Speaker 1: I had already kicked Karen out, so I had an 681 00:34:32,800 --> 00:34:35,520 Speaker 1: extra room. I told her it was okay if it 682 00:34:35,640 --> 00:34:38,919 Speaker 1: was in Lily's best interest. Lily and I are tight 683 00:34:39,040 --> 00:34:43,480 Speaker 1: as thieves or and she's always seen me as her 684 00:34:43,560 --> 00:34:46,160 Speaker 1: crazy fun aunt took a bit, but three weeks ago 685 00:34:46,280 --> 00:34:49,960 Speaker 1: Lily's guardianship was passed from the state to me. And 686 00:34:50,200 --> 00:34:51,880 Speaker 1: just in time for Halloween too. 687 00:34:53,000 --> 00:34:55,959 Speaker 3: Would you guys dress up as like daughter and mom? 688 00:34:56,080 --> 00:34:56,200 Speaker 2: Oh? 689 00:34:56,280 --> 00:34:58,720 Speaker 1: I was thinking something from Star Wars probably, oh. 690 00:34:58,840 --> 00:35:03,160 Speaker 3: Like big ee Walk and small you walk Darth Vader 691 00:35:03,239 --> 00:35:04,600 Speaker 3: and Luke skywalk Darth Vader. 692 00:35:04,760 --> 00:35:07,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, there we go or U or C and 693 00:35:08,960 --> 00:35:09,560 Speaker 1: R two D two. 694 00:35:10,880 --> 00:35:15,840 Speaker 2: No, it needs to be pariental, parental parental. No, pariental, periental. 695 00:35:16,080 --> 00:35:16,640 Speaker 1: It's a good one. 696 00:35:16,680 --> 00:35:20,600 Speaker 2: Shout out to my window, mat Mice window. I'm dropping it. 697 00:35:20,640 --> 00:35:21,000 Speaker 2: I'm done. 698 00:35:21,880 --> 00:35:24,440 Speaker 1: We're skipping trigger treating this year due to the pandemic, 699 00:35:25,239 --> 00:35:27,560 Speaker 1: but Lily still wanted to dress up as a scyth. 700 00:35:27,800 --> 00:35:30,600 Speaker 1: I freaking call that. I'm so proud of this child, 701 00:35:30,719 --> 00:35:34,759 Speaker 1: I swear. My mom was incredibly happy to have a 702 00:35:34,880 --> 00:35:39,000 Speaker 1: foster grandchild, especially since Lily actually doesn't have any other grandparents, 703 00:35:39,480 --> 00:35:44,160 Speaker 1: so she sent her some fairly fancy Star Wars props. Ooh, obviously, 704 00:35:44,280 --> 00:35:46,239 Speaker 1: we got her dressed up in her syth outfit and 705 00:35:46,320 --> 00:35:49,960 Speaker 1: had a mini photo shoot for Grandma, and my mom 706 00:35:50,040 --> 00:35:52,520 Speaker 1: posted the pictures on Facebook so Lily's mom could see 707 00:35:52,600 --> 00:35:55,920 Speaker 1: them easily. My family and friends went crazy with how 708 00:35:55,960 --> 00:35:59,560 Speaker 1: adorable Lily looks. She says she's not adorable, she's sith 709 00:36:01,080 --> 00:36:02,640 Speaker 1: and then Karen strikes back. 710 00:36:03,200 --> 00:36:08,040 Speaker 2: No, no, no, Karen, No, we were literally like getting 711 00:36:08,040 --> 00:36:09,840 Speaker 2: into into the c plotes. 712 00:36:11,480 --> 00:36:16,560 Speaker 1: Now we're back into the a plot. Mom forgot or 713 00:36:16,640 --> 00:36:19,839 Speaker 1: decided not to block Karen, and when my half sister 714 00:36:20,000 --> 00:36:23,120 Speaker 1: saw Lily's picture. She had some of her best hits, 715 00:36:23,360 --> 00:36:27,800 Speaker 1: such as, my four year old looks fat, she's ugly 716 00:36:27,960 --> 00:36:30,600 Speaker 1: and clearly going to grow up to be a slut. 717 00:36:31,239 --> 00:36:34,240 Speaker 1: She looks like a word I can't say even in writing, 718 00:36:34,600 --> 00:36:42,479 Speaker 1: but starts with an n Oh my god. Oh that's 719 00:36:42,680 --> 00:36:47,680 Speaker 1: just a handful, Oh my god. Block her. Block her. 720 00:36:49,000 --> 00:36:51,520 Speaker 1: She got called out and told kindly to return to 721 00:36:51,600 --> 00:36:54,040 Speaker 1: the darkness. But then she started to call my mother 722 00:36:54,360 --> 00:36:56,799 Speaker 1: at every hour to ask for money, to ask how 723 00:36:56,840 --> 00:36:58,759 Speaker 1: to contact me, to tell her she was wasting money 724 00:36:58,800 --> 00:37:00,680 Speaker 1: on a kid that was not really her grandchild and 725 00:37:00,680 --> 00:37:03,120 Speaker 1: should give her the money for her kid. Karen is 726 00:37:03,239 --> 00:37:06,719 Speaker 1: not my mom's daughter. Your mom needs to block her 727 00:37:06,960 --> 00:37:11,520 Speaker 1: on everything. How is she calling your mom? But you 728 00:37:11,600 --> 00:37:15,800 Speaker 1: know what, you guys should block us because you should 729 00:37:15,800 --> 00:37:17,840 Speaker 1: listen to more full episodes of stories just like this 730 00:37:18,280 --> 00:37:22,080 Speaker 1: on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or your favorite podcast app. Just 731 00:37:22,120 --> 00:37:26,920 Speaker 1: search up. Okay, storytime, do that, yike. There is a 732 00:37:26,960 --> 00:37:29,839 Speaker 1: little bit left to this story. But man, oh man, 733 00:37:30,360 --> 00:37:32,080 Speaker 1: I mean, man, own man. 734 00:37:32,520 --> 00:37:37,440 Speaker 2: Karen, what a devil? Put Karen in a box? 735 00:37:37,800 --> 00:37:41,680 Speaker 1: In a box opper off to the Tartet Tartarus, The 736 00:37:41,840 --> 00:37:42,840 Speaker 1: Depths of Tartarus. 737 00:37:43,000 --> 00:37:46,040 Speaker 2: First, we need to make sure the baby is delivered. Yeah, 738 00:37:46,320 --> 00:37:49,359 Speaker 2: and then we need to yeah take op and yeah 739 00:37:49,400 --> 00:37:52,680 Speaker 2: turn into ethereal spaghetti or whatever number Dakota has come 740 00:37:52,760 --> 00:37:52,920 Speaker 2: up with. 741 00:37:53,239 --> 00:37:55,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, we got we got number sixteen. 742 00:37:55,040 --> 00:37:57,719 Speaker 2: Number sixteen. We're up to eighteen now. Oh dang, but 743 00:37:58,200 --> 00:38:00,640 Speaker 2: it doesn't get worse as an umbers go up. 744 00:38:00,680 --> 00:38:02,000 Speaker 1: It's like it's just different. 745 00:38:02,120 --> 00:38:04,120 Speaker 2: It's like he said, it's like a menu. Yeah, so 746 00:38:04,160 --> 00:38:06,360 Speaker 2: it's like the number eighteen might be different from yeah. 747 00:38:06,200 --> 00:38:08,800 Speaker 1: Cause fifteen was where we started. Actually I think it 748 00:38:08,840 --> 00:38:09,160 Speaker 1: was fourteen. 749 00:38:09,200 --> 00:38:15,480 Speaker 4: I was fourteen, Yeah, fourteen, dude, Karen we we we 750 00:38:15,800 --> 00:38:20,880 Speaker 4: already knew before this part that Karen was a maniac. 751 00:38:21,040 --> 00:38:25,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, but she is a racist monster. 752 00:38:27,120 --> 00:38:28,960 Speaker 1: Big time, just big time. 753 00:38:29,440 --> 00:38:34,239 Speaker 2: Just get wipe her means necessary. Go go go, go 754 00:38:34,440 --> 00:38:35,719 Speaker 2: go go, that's all we gotta say. 755 00:38:36,200 --> 00:38:39,319 Speaker 1: Well, eventually my mom figured out how to block her. 756 00:38:39,520 --> 00:38:42,800 Speaker 1: Finally someone helped this poor woman, and Karen got to 757 00:38:42,880 --> 00:38:45,359 Speaker 1: me through a school friend. Oh my god, I would 758 00:38:45,400 --> 00:38:47,440 Speaker 1: be like sending out a Facebook blast and just be like, 759 00:38:47,520 --> 00:38:52,319 Speaker 1: everyone block my sister. Yes, she said, not one, not two, 760 00:38:52,719 --> 00:38:56,960 Speaker 1: but sixteen page long list of demands, or she'll sue 761 00:38:57,080 --> 00:38:59,040 Speaker 1: me for what go ahead? 762 00:38:59,480 --> 00:38:59,840 Speaker 2: Go ahead? 763 00:39:00,000 --> 00:39:01,840 Speaker 1: One was getting rid of my foster daughter so I 764 00:39:01,880 --> 00:39:02,920 Speaker 1: could adopt her baby. 765 00:39:03,560 --> 00:39:05,680 Speaker 2: She doesn't. She wouldn't even need to get rid of 766 00:39:05,719 --> 00:39:07,840 Speaker 2: the foster unadopted babies. 767 00:39:08,160 --> 00:39:10,959 Speaker 1: Another was an apartment I share with my cousins left 768 00:39:10,960 --> 00:39:14,960 Speaker 1: to us by our maternal grandmother. Five hundred K dollars, 769 00:39:15,360 --> 00:39:18,279 Speaker 1: my dog and my cat. Oh, and I need to 770 00:39:18,320 --> 00:39:21,920 Speaker 1: get her back into the US. And she's going to 771 00:39:22,040 --> 00:39:23,520 Speaker 1: sue you with those demands. 772 00:39:25,080 --> 00:39:27,600 Speaker 2: Wow, give me half a million dollars and your dog 773 00:39:27,680 --> 00:39:31,279 Speaker 2: and your cat. Yeah, and Fluffy and Sprinkles. 774 00:39:31,800 --> 00:39:35,000 Speaker 1: There's still more. Most of it is completely delusional. I 775 00:39:35,120 --> 00:39:37,160 Speaker 1: sent a copy to my lawyer to try to pursue 776 00:39:37,200 --> 00:39:40,080 Speaker 1: a no contact order in the US. Can't do anything 777 00:39:40,120 --> 00:39:42,520 Speaker 1: in my home country, but I did ford another copy 778 00:39:42,680 --> 00:39:46,080 Speaker 1: to our relatives, including our eldest brother. He just said 779 00:39:46,120 --> 00:39:49,360 Speaker 1: to me he'll take care of it. For the record, 780 00:39:49,400 --> 00:39:51,880 Speaker 1: I am not taking Karen's get in, even if I 781 00:39:51,960 --> 00:39:55,040 Speaker 1: didn't have Lily. Her ex was recently released and has 782 00:39:55,120 --> 00:39:58,759 Speaker 1: already caused problems for other people. Luckily, he's keeping away 783 00:39:58,800 --> 00:40:02,560 Speaker 1: from me, and to clear something up, Karen isn't penniless. 784 00:40:03,200 --> 00:40:05,800 Speaker 1: I divided with her and Mary one hundred and fifty 785 00:40:05,920 --> 00:40:09,960 Speaker 1: k inheritance in equal parts. She also got money from 786 00:40:10,000 --> 00:40:12,680 Speaker 1: her stepfather when he passed in our home country. She's 787 00:40:12,680 --> 00:40:15,879 Speaker 1: actually well off. The only reason I never charged rent 788 00:40:16,040 --> 00:40:17,759 Speaker 1: or asked her for money was because I knew the 789 00:40:17,800 --> 00:40:20,719 Speaker 1: tuition price was going to be very high and didn't 790 00:40:20,760 --> 00:40:22,480 Speaker 1: want her to have to take a loan like I 791 00:40:22,640 --> 00:40:23,279 Speaker 1: did for a time. 792 00:40:23,400 --> 00:40:26,160 Speaker 2: But I bet you ten million percent. 793 00:40:26,640 --> 00:40:28,279 Speaker 3: She did not even say up for that. 794 00:40:28,920 --> 00:40:31,640 Speaker 1: That's not on her radar whatsoever. But that is the 795 00:40:31,840 --> 00:40:32,520 Speaker 1: end of that story. 796 00:40:32,800 --> 00:40:36,120 Speaker 2: Wow, dude, she got forty one freaking thousand dollars. 797 00:40:36,360 --> 00:40:40,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's it's insane. And she got stuff from her stepfather. 798 00:40:40,760 --> 00:40:43,640 Speaker 2: And so yeah, she got more than forty one thousand dollars. 799 00:40:44,000 --> 00:40:46,520 Speaker 2: And listen, I know only get child support. If she 800 00:40:46,560 --> 00:40:50,040 Speaker 2: really needed it, probably get child support. I knowed America 801 00:40:50,320 --> 00:40:52,520 Speaker 2: and all the things and the healthcare in the school 802 00:40:52,560 --> 00:40:55,920 Speaker 2: and everything. Absolutely, but there are people that do not 803 00:40:56,080 --> 00:40:58,560 Speaker 2: have forty one thousand dollars that was given to them. 804 00:40:58,719 --> 00:41:01,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, and I have to look off of that. 805 00:41:01,560 --> 00:41:06,560 Speaker 2: Yes, So, oh my god, the audacity to go to 806 00:41:06,640 --> 00:41:08,479 Speaker 2: all these people be like, oh, give me the plane 807 00:41:08,520 --> 00:41:09,640 Speaker 2: taken to give me this, and give me that. 808 00:41:09,960 --> 00:41:11,120 Speaker 1: You have money. 809 00:41:11,440 --> 00:41:13,759 Speaker 2: Dude, you were what what did you do with job? 810 00:41:14,239 --> 00:41:16,440 Speaker 2: What did you what did you do with it? Literally, 811 00:41:16,560 --> 00:41:20,120 Speaker 2: if you just even got a minimum wage job, you're. 812 00:41:20,080 --> 00:41:23,840 Speaker 1: Up minimum wage job. You live with your family members who. 813 00:41:23,719 --> 00:41:29,760 Speaker 2: Have all offered free, free healthcare and free health care. Literally, 814 00:41:30,040 --> 00:41:33,440 Speaker 2: she has the world made for it, yet she demands 815 00:41:34,000 --> 00:41:37,520 Speaker 2: to the point where she will get arrested. Yeah, demanding 816 00:41:37,600 --> 00:41:39,320 Speaker 2: people give it to me. 817 00:41:40,280 --> 00:41:45,240 Speaker 1: Crazy crazy crazy. Oh my gosh, wowee, wowee wowie. 818 00:41:45,480 --> 00:41:46,239 Speaker 2: Doesn't that story? 819 00:41:46,280 --> 00:41:48,720 Speaker 1: But is that the There is another story. 820 00:41:49,719 --> 00:41:51,400 Speaker 2: I don't want to spend time with my mother in 821 00:41:51,520 --> 00:41:55,560 Speaker 2: law because she triggers my anxiety. Don't trigger me, Stop triggering, 822 00:41:55,719 --> 00:41:58,360 Speaker 2: stop it. So I have to say it first. I 823 00:41:58,480 --> 00:42:00,200 Speaker 2: love my mother in law, but we have we had 824 00:42:00,280 --> 00:42:03,200 Speaker 2: quite a fallout over the summer. My husband, male thirty five, 825 00:42:03,280 --> 00:42:05,480 Speaker 2: and me female thirty three live in Europe while my 826 00:42:05,560 --> 00:42:08,040 Speaker 2: mother in law lives in Asia. We have some I 827 00:42:08,160 --> 00:42:10,920 Speaker 2: don't know if I should call it cultural differences. As 828 00:42:11,000 --> 00:42:15,920 Speaker 2: you say, By the way, it comes from Fluffy employment 829 00:42:16,000 --> 00:42:18,600 Speaker 2: six oh one And if you want to share your stories, 830 00:42:18,960 --> 00:42:21,640 Speaker 2: send them to our slash Okay story time. So later 831 00:42:21,760 --> 00:42:23,719 Speaker 2: that year, I went there for Christmas and for New 832 00:42:23,800 --> 00:42:27,000 Speaker 2: Year's which was pretty difficult for me. I wasn't used 833 00:42:27,000 --> 00:42:29,200 Speaker 2: to spending as much time with people I barely know 834 00:42:29,400 --> 00:42:31,360 Speaker 2: on a small space, but I put it on a 835 00:42:31,440 --> 00:42:33,279 Speaker 2: brave face and I went through it. My husband and 836 00:42:33,320 --> 00:42:37,800 Speaker 2: I met shortly before the pandemic and then married during 837 00:42:37,920 --> 00:42:41,120 Speaker 2: it three years ago. Wasn't good this time, and I 838 00:42:41,280 --> 00:42:44,439 Speaker 2: met my family in person only three times. I didn't 839 00:42:44,440 --> 00:42:46,880 Speaker 2: want to disappoint anyone, but the lack of privacy was 840 00:42:46,920 --> 00:42:51,240 Speaker 2: taking a toll on me and my borderline personality disorder. 841 00:42:51,680 --> 00:42:53,719 Speaker 2: I went to therapy and I'm okay now as long 842 00:42:53,760 --> 00:42:57,520 Speaker 2: as I avoid triggers. Because of my borderline personality disorder, 843 00:42:57,680 --> 00:43:00,279 Speaker 2: I am quite afraid to meet new people, and I 844 00:43:00,360 --> 00:43:03,200 Speaker 2: am always afraid that I might lose control. My husband 845 00:43:03,520 --> 00:43:07,480 Speaker 2: knows this. The problem is it is difficult to explain 846 00:43:07,600 --> 00:43:09,960 Speaker 2: explain to him some of my reactions or why I 847 00:43:10,080 --> 00:43:14,800 Speaker 2: sometimes am running away from people important. We speak ninety 848 00:43:14,880 --> 00:43:18,480 Speaker 2: nine percent of the time of time his language. He 849 00:43:18,680 --> 00:43:22,120 Speaker 2: spends almost none. Oh, he speaks almost none of mine 850 00:43:22,840 --> 00:43:25,520 Speaker 2: and very little in my second language, which is German. 851 00:43:25,960 --> 00:43:29,200 Speaker 1: I could be really hard like from people I've talked 852 00:43:29,239 --> 00:43:32,040 Speaker 1: to who speak English as their second language, or like 853 00:43:32,160 --> 00:43:35,719 Speaker 1: have partners or something who only speak English. That, like, 854 00:43:35,800 --> 00:43:39,040 Speaker 1: the mental strain of always speaking in your second language 855 00:43:39,080 --> 00:43:40,000 Speaker 1: can be very difficult. 856 00:43:40,160 --> 00:43:45,200 Speaker 2: And also we've seen two thousands instances of people not 857 00:43:45,400 --> 00:43:49,200 Speaker 2: communicating even in their both sharing a native tongue. Yeah, okay, 858 00:43:49,480 --> 00:43:52,560 Speaker 2: so not being able to have that ooh goodness, gracious, 859 00:43:53,880 --> 00:43:56,000 Speaker 2: I'm quite good at his language, but I would consider 860 00:43:56,080 --> 00:43:58,080 Speaker 2: myself and not good enough to live in his country yet. 861 00:43:58,120 --> 00:44:01,640 Speaker 2: Ooh that's important. Is like a ninety day fiance type situation. 862 00:44:02,000 --> 00:44:05,279 Speaker 1: Well, also it could be I think, wait, oh he's 863 00:44:05,320 --> 00:44:08,920 Speaker 1: not German, right, so germane language okay? 864 00:44:09,000 --> 00:44:09,160 Speaker 2: Yeah. 865 00:44:09,200 --> 00:44:11,200 Speaker 1: I mean like a lot of times people especially from Europe, 866 00:44:11,239 --> 00:44:13,279 Speaker 1: think that three English is not that good when it's 867 00:44:13,360 --> 00:44:15,960 Speaker 1: like pretty good, better than ours, yeah, and we're like, no, 868 00:44:16,120 --> 00:44:17,800 Speaker 1: it's that was pretty good. They're like, oh, no, I 869 00:44:17,800 --> 00:44:19,839 Speaker 1: don't speak English, and then they're like fluid. 870 00:44:19,640 --> 00:44:22,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like better literacy than America, Like, well, okay. 871 00:44:22,600 --> 00:44:25,120 Speaker 2: The difference is also during my childhood, my father never 872 00:44:25,239 --> 00:44:27,879 Speaker 2: let people we didn't know spend time at our house, 873 00:44:28,000 --> 00:44:29,920 Speaker 2: let alone say the night. I'm also quite strict with 874 00:44:29,960 --> 00:44:33,200 Speaker 2: this rule. Only people that I personally know, and I'm 875 00:44:33,239 --> 00:44:35,239 Speaker 2: not afraid of are allowed to come to my home. 876 00:44:35,640 --> 00:44:38,680 Speaker 2: My husband knows this and respects this, and I as 877 00:44:38,760 --> 00:44:41,680 Speaker 2: I am accepting much more rules from his culture. So 878 00:44:41,960 --> 00:44:44,880 Speaker 2: this one I am out of it about until the summer. 879 00:44:45,520 --> 00:44:47,439 Speaker 2: Mother in law wanted to see my husband at work. 880 00:44:47,960 --> 00:44:51,759 Speaker 2: He works at a famous music festival. Tell us, we're 881 00:44:51,760 --> 00:44:54,240 Speaker 2: gonna say Coachella, because why are you being so vague? 882 00:44:54,440 --> 00:44:58,800 Speaker 2: Come on and stop with the insert festival, insert sport, 883 00:44:58,920 --> 00:44:59,920 Speaker 2: insert niche. 884 00:45:00,120 --> 00:45:02,360 Speaker 1: Just to give it, even if you're lying to me, 885 00:45:02,920 --> 00:45:03,600 Speaker 1: put something in there. 886 00:45:03,680 --> 00:45:05,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, and just for like a fake name, come up anyways, 887 00:45:06,400 --> 00:45:09,200 Speaker 2: a fake country, fake country, fake fake Coachella. 888 00:45:09,520 --> 00:45:12,520 Speaker 1: He's like, I'm from Genovia, Genovia. 889 00:45:14,440 --> 00:45:16,360 Speaker 2: So she said she would come to Europe with my 890 00:45:16,440 --> 00:45:19,759 Speaker 2: brother in law. At first it was two weeks. I 891 00:45:19,880 --> 00:45:21,840 Speaker 2: canceled my plans with a friend to move my vacation 892 00:45:21,960 --> 00:45:23,920 Speaker 2: at work to take care of them. My husband is 893 00:45:24,040 --> 00:45:26,640 Speaker 2: always at this festival for two months in the summer. 894 00:45:26,719 --> 00:45:29,880 Speaker 2: My god and I stay at home alone for two weeks. 895 00:45:30,320 --> 00:45:33,880 Speaker 2: From two weeks it was three weeks, and that a person, 896 00:45:34,160 --> 00:45:37,800 Speaker 2: that person a is coming with them. The problem is 897 00:45:37,880 --> 00:45:41,320 Speaker 2: my husband did not specify who this person is, and 898 00:45:41,440 --> 00:45:44,319 Speaker 2: he never asked if I'm okay with it. He only 899 00:45:44,480 --> 00:45:47,840 Speaker 2: informed me. At first, I thought it was person B 900 00:45:48,239 --> 00:45:51,120 Speaker 2: whom I personally said it's okay to stay at her house. 901 00:45:52,440 --> 00:45:55,760 Speaker 2: I was so wrong. It was mother in law's best 902 00:45:55,880 --> 00:45:59,160 Speaker 2: friends who inserted herself into the strip, and mother in 903 00:45:59,239 --> 00:46:01,960 Speaker 2: law never asked me directly. I found out about this 904 00:46:02,160 --> 00:46:05,680 Speaker 2: months later, and boy, it gave me anxiety. It caused 905 00:46:05,719 --> 00:46:07,360 Speaker 2: me a lot of arguments with my husband, and I 906 00:46:07,480 --> 00:46:09,560 Speaker 2: was afraid to send them into a hotel as I 907 00:46:09,680 --> 00:46:11,759 Speaker 2: was afraid that mother in law would hate me. She 908 00:46:11,960 --> 00:46:14,000 Speaker 2: was already upset her friend could not go to a 909 00:46:14,040 --> 00:46:16,640 Speaker 2: family barbecue, which was for her and brother in law 910 00:46:16,719 --> 00:46:19,160 Speaker 2: to meet my family for the first time. I was 911 00:46:19,280 --> 00:46:22,080 Speaker 2: also very anxious as I had to finish an article 912 00:46:22,320 --> 00:46:26,839 Speaker 2: and my master's thesis and had to work a few 913 00:46:26,920 --> 00:46:30,200 Speaker 2: days full time. During summer. We get a maximum of 914 00:46:30,239 --> 00:46:34,759 Speaker 2: fourteen days off haul man. Normally, I'm ragging on the 915 00:46:35,080 --> 00:46:38,440 Speaker 2: million days off at Europe gets, but opie schedule actually 916 00:46:38,480 --> 00:46:42,360 Speaker 2: sounds crazy. I'm not gonna lie lea oh Man. So 917 00:46:42,560 --> 00:46:44,719 Speaker 2: I had to drive a car after ten years and 918 00:46:44,840 --> 00:46:47,160 Speaker 2: had some minor adjusting problems in the beginning, and a 919 00:46:47,440 --> 00:46:51,239 Speaker 2: friend let's call her Anna seventy four had some not 920 00:46:51,600 --> 00:46:54,759 Speaker 2: very nice comments about it. I can't describe everything that 921 00:46:54,800 --> 00:46:58,040 Speaker 2: would happened here, but in short, Anna got angry because 922 00:46:58,239 --> 00:47:00,560 Speaker 2: she couldn't use the bathroom sink for or in evening. 923 00:47:00,960 --> 00:47:02,920 Speaker 2: I had to repair it as I didn't have all 924 00:47:02,920 --> 00:47:05,480 Speaker 2: the utensils and it was night, and she had the 925 00:47:05,520 --> 00:47:09,160 Speaker 2: audacity to slam the doors in my house as a guest. 926 00:47:10,160 --> 00:47:13,120 Speaker 2: She also got lost in a foreign city they went 927 00:47:13,200 --> 00:47:16,000 Speaker 2: as a trio had I had to work and mother 928 00:47:16,000 --> 00:47:18,040 Speaker 2: in law and brother in law waited for her in 929 00:47:18,160 --> 00:47:21,200 Speaker 2: the heat thirty six degrees celsius for two hours, which 930 00:47:21,239 --> 00:47:24,319 Speaker 2: is freakin' that's almost like one hundred deguese fair, that's 931 00:47:24,360 --> 00:47:25,080 Speaker 2: hok Yeah. 932 00:47:24,880 --> 00:47:26,760 Speaker 1: It's almost a hundred. That's forty is about hundred? 933 00:47:26,880 --> 00:47:27,799 Speaker 2: That is true? 934 00:47:27,960 --> 00:47:29,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like ninety seven. 935 00:47:29,800 --> 00:47:33,040 Speaker 2: Right y. Also, Sophia, what do you think about what's 936 00:47:33,040 --> 00:47:33,799 Speaker 2: happening here so far? 937 00:47:36,080 --> 00:47:36,840 Speaker 1: I don't like it? 938 00:47:37,960 --> 00:47:39,480 Speaker 2: Yep, yep, I agree. 939 00:47:39,600 --> 00:47:42,719 Speaker 1: I don't like it one bit, and I've I've absorbed 940 00:47:42,760 --> 00:47:43,120 Speaker 1: all of it. 941 00:47:43,560 --> 00:47:48,560 Speaker 2: That's true. Ten percent reading comprehension. Then it was mother 942 00:47:48,600 --> 00:47:51,879 Speaker 2: in lass no, no, okay. As we were returning from 943 00:47:51,960 --> 00:47:55,520 Speaker 2: my grandma's in a neighboring country. I said twice, I 944 00:47:55,560 --> 00:47:58,080 Speaker 2: will be doing laundry because I don't have enough room 945 00:47:58,280 --> 00:48:01,279 Speaker 2: for dry laundry for four people and I am in 946 00:48:01,320 --> 00:48:04,200 Speaker 2: another country the next day and they are free. I 947 00:48:04,320 --> 00:48:06,080 Speaker 2: also said if our neighbors have a problem with it, 948 00:48:06,200 --> 00:48:08,799 Speaker 2: I will talk to them. They all agreed. I live 949 00:48:08,880 --> 00:48:10,680 Speaker 2: in a house with a few neighbors, and you are 950 00:48:10,800 --> 00:48:16,560 Speaker 2: not allowed to be loud after ten ten thank you 951 00:48:17,400 --> 00:48:21,080 Speaker 2: after ten pm, and washing machines are quite loud here. Okay, 952 00:48:21,120 --> 00:48:25,880 Speaker 2: that's maybe a little bit ridiculous, but we'll see. So 953 00:48:26,320 --> 00:48:28,440 Speaker 2: I went to park the car, and as I was returning, 954 00:48:28,560 --> 00:48:31,840 Speaker 2: mother in law messaged me if they could do the laundry. 955 00:48:32,040 --> 00:48:34,840 Speaker 2: I repeated what I said earlier, hoping they understood. We 956 00:48:35,000 --> 00:48:37,600 Speaker 2: have a smart washing machine and can remote control it, 957 00:48:38,000 --> 00:48:40,359 Speaker 2: and I also get a push message when it's done. 958 00:48:41,320 --> 00:48:44,280 Speaker 2: I was already drained and tired as I was driving 959 00:48:44,320 --> 00:48:47,520 Speaker 2: a lot and also translating for them all day. On 960 00:48:47,640 --> 00:48:50,040 Speaker 2: my way home, I received a message that the laundry 961 00:48:50,160 --> 00:48:53,400 Speaker 2: is done. You mean the laundry that's supposed to do 962 00:48:53,640 --> 00:48:58,200 Speaker 2: It wasn't supposed to be done. It's done. Come on. 963 00:48:58,920 --> 00:49:02,040 Speaker 2: That's when I lost control. Unlike the remote control washing machine, 964 00:49:02,120 --> 00:49:06,000 Speaker 2: which is very much within people's control. I came home, 965 00:49:06,239 --> 00:49:09,520 Speaker 2: slammed the door, and argued heavily and loudly over the 966 00:49:09,560 --> 00:49:11,920 Speaker 2: phone with my husband. Why did he ignore what I 967 00:49:12,080 --> 00:49:15,400 Speaker 2: said and let them do the laundry. My mother in 968 00:49:15,480 --> 00:49:16,560 Speaker 2: law then screamed at me. 969 00:49:16,680 --> 00:49:18,600 Speaker 1: Which probably also isn't good for the noise complaints. 970 00:49:19,880 --> 00:49:23,080 Speaker 2: That is a great point in callback. Sophia is comprehendively. 971 00:49:23,080 --> 00:49:26,760 Speaker 2: I comprehended, and then even worse for the noise curfew. 972 00:49:27,440 --> 00:49:29,560 Speaker 2: Mother in law screamed at me, why am I screaming 973 00:49:29,600 --> 00:49:32,759 Speaker 2: at her son? And if I hate them, they would leave. 974 00:49:33,680 --> 00:49:36,279 Speaker 2: I felt very hurt, but apologized after two hours of 975 00:49:36,320 --> 00:49:38,760 Speaker 2: me kneeling in front of her my husband on the phone. 976 00:49:39,080 --> 00:49:42,399 Speaker 2: She said it was her fault as she never told 977 00:49:42,440 --> 00:49:48,120 Speaker 2: my husband about our agreement. WHOA She even apologized, Well, okay, 978 00:49:49,560 --> 00:49:52,000 Speaker 2: what has happened? So she's we went like all the 979 00:49:52,040 --> 00:49:54,359 Speaker 2: way up and then all the way back down. 980 00:49:54,520 --> 00:49:57,640 Speaker 1: Literally they like crashed out. He's like the kneeling on 981 00:49:57,719 --> 00:50:02,279 Speaker 1: the floor right on did She's like, I'm sorry, And 982 00:50:02,360 --> 00:50:04,880 Speaker 1: then I was like I forgive you and I'm. 983 00:50:04,760 --> 00:50:08,560 Speaker 2: Sorry for how I to do. So all is good? Yeah, 984 00:50:08,800 --> 00:50:12,920 Speaker 2: it's perfect, I think so. But this whole situation me 985 00:50:13,120 --> 00:50:15,640 Speaker 2: losing control in front of Anna, who didn't know I 986 00:50:15,760 --> 00:50:19,320 Speaker 2: have a borderline personality disorder. In their culture and their culture, 987 00:50:19,440 --> 00:50:22,240 Speaker 2: mental issues are not talked about and so not really understood. 988 00:50:22,360 --> 00:50:24,080 Speaker 2: My mother in law knows about it, but I don't 989 00:50:24,160 --> 00:50:27,120 Speaker 2: know if she really understands. She also knows about my 990 00:50:27,360 --> 00:50:30,839 Speaker 2: massive childhood trauma that made me this way. I felt 991 00:50:30,840 --> 00:50:35,640 Speaker 2: extremely embarrassed and wanted to no. My mother in law 992 00:50:35,719 --> 00:50:37,920 Speaker 2: also said she doesn't think it would be okay to 993 00:50:38,000 --> 00:50:41,239 Speaker 2: have children with her son if I can't control myself. 994 00:50:44,280 --> 00:50:46,800 Speaker 1: Maybe if you didn't push all her buttons. 995 00:50:46,880 --> 00:50:52,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, anything would be fine. And Mama that that's not 996 00:50:52,239 --> 00:50:55,879 Speaker 2: your place. I'm sorry, No, that's listen. These are These 997 00:50:55,880 --> 00:50:58,760 Speaker 2: are two adults, and if they want to have a baby, 998 00:50:59,320 --> 00:51:02,080 Speaker 2: well you have It's it's not up to you to 999 00:51:02,200 --> 00:51:07,040 Speaker 2: have your royal decree of granniness. You might even not 1000 00:51:07,480 --> 00:51:10,600 Speaker 2: get to beat either granny. You might be a gone 1001 00:51:10,680 --> 00:51:13,239 Speaker 2: granny if you ask me. Anyways, that hurt the most. 1002 00:51:13,360 --> 00:51:15,720 Speaker 2: I was really doing everything, but I was under immense 1003 00:51:15,760 --> 00:51:18,840 Speaker 2: pressure and stress. After this incidents, I built a wall 1004 00:51:18,920 --> 00:51:21,839 Speaker 2: around me and refused to spend a longer time with him. 1005 00:51:22,040 --> 00:51:24,040 Speaker 2: I also don't message her as much as I used to, 1006 00:51:24,280 --> 00:51:27,480 Speaker 2: just the necessary I feel. I felt very disrespected by 1007 00:51:27,520 --> 00:51:29,600 Speaker 2: her and Anna. Although I should have sent them to 1008 00:51:29,640 --> 00:51:32,080 Speaker 2: a hotel immediately, I was just too afraid she would 1009 00:51:32,080 --> 00:51:34,000 Speaker 2: hate me. We said a new rule with my husband. 1010 00:51:34,480 --> 00:51:36,480 Speaker 2: No one will stay over at our home for a 1011 00:51:36,560 --> 00:51:39,680 Speaker 2: longer than a weekend, not even my family. And this 1012 00:51:39,840 --> 00:51:42,120 Speaker 2: rule is also for our home. If we move to 1013 00:51:42,280 --> 00:51:46,280 Speaker 2: his country, he has to ask me, and I also 1014 00:51:46,400 --> 00:51:48,279 Speaker 2: have to ask him every time we want to have 1015 00:51:48,400 --> 00:51:51,560 Speaker 2: someone come over to party or for the weekend. But 1016 00:51:52,320 --> 00:51:55,919 Speaker 2: my word is final. If I hadn't known the person, well, 1017 00:51:56,360 --> 00:51:58,719 Speaker 2: he doesn't even have to bother ask him. 1018 00:51:58,760 --> 00:52:01,600 Speaker 1: Because you guys are comedic, we're talking. 1019 00:52:02,800 --> 00:52:05,760 Speaker 2: We were supposed to go to his country from February 1020 00:52:05,880 --> 00:52:08,479 Speaker 2: twenty twenty five for three weeks. Now we're talking about 1021 00:52:08,719 --> 00:52:11,600 Speaker 2: the future as of this recording. Who At first, we 1022 00:52:11,719 --> 00:52:13,319 Speaker 2: were going to mother in law's house for two weeks. 1023 00:52:13,360 --> 00:52:16,040 Speaker 2: Every time I thought about it, I felt extremely uncomfortable 1024 00:52:16,040 --> 00:52:18,640 Speaker 2: and anxious to the point of a yakin. So I 1025 00:52:18,719 --> 00:52:21,120 Speaker 2: said I'll book a hotel. My husband are really angry 1026 00:52:21,200 --> 00:52:23,879 Speaker 2: and accused me of hating mother in law. Yeah, that's 1027 00:52:23,920 --> 00:52:24,439 Speaker 2: not the case. 1028 00:52:25,280 --> 00:52:26,319 Speaker 1: Oh, it's not the case. 1029 00:52:26,400 --> 00:52:27,040 Speaker 2: It's not the case. 1030 00:52:27,160 --> 00:52:30,120 Speaker 1: Oh okay, I just needed the distance. Sophia hate the 1031 00:52:30,160 --> 00:52:32,080 Speaker 1: mother in law, and that's okay. 1032 00:52:32,920 --> 00:52:36,120 Speaker 2: I just need distance, all right, Okay, all right, okay, 1033 00:52:36,480 --> 00:52:38,880 Speaker 2: I need to adjust myself to the situation and rebuild 1034 00:52:38,920 --> 00:52:42,040 Speaker 2: a normal relationship with her. That won't work for me 1035 00:52:42,239 --> 00:52:44,799 Speaker 2: being thrown to her house for two weeks with anxiety 1036 00:52:44,920 --> 00:52:48,239 Speaker 2: over the roof. Pun intended by the way. If you 1037 00:52:48,320 --> 00:52:51,520 Speaker 2: want to hear more great puns, more great stories, guys, 1038 00:52:52,040 --> 00:52:55,760 Speaker 2: go to Spotify search okay, storytime or or Apple Podcasts 1039 00:52:55,760 --> 00:52:58,560 Speaker 2: wherever you listen to podcasts, and we have full episodes 1040 00:52:58,600 --> 00:53:02,200 Speaker 2: with stories just like this. It's it's really amazing. It's 1041 00:53:02,239 --> 00:53:02,840 Speaker 2: really the greatest thing. 1042 00:53:02,880 --> 00:53:05,279 Speaker 1: So we do it bread ain't that true? 1043 00:53:06,080 --> 00:53:08,040 Speaker 2: But we have a little bit left in the story, 1044 00:53:08,160 --> 00:53:09,839 Speaker 2: so we got to stick around to see what happens there. 1045 00:53:09,880 --> 00:53:12,319 Speaker 2: But I also feel, what are we what do we feel? 1046 00:53:12,320 --> 00:53:15,799 Speaker 2: I feel like we've had actually kind of like a mix. Yes, 1047 00:53:15,960 --> 00:53:18,520 Speaker 2: you know, it's not it's not a clear cut situation, no, because. 1048 00:53:18,280 --> 00:53:20,040 Speaker 1: It seems like, you know, they had the big blow 1049 00:53:20,080 --> 00:53:22,440 Speaker 1: up fight with the mother in law and then she apologized, 1050 00:53:22,600 --> 00:53:24,520 Speaker 1: and then we were like, oh, well, did the husband 1051 00:53:24,880 --> 00:53:28,160 Speaker 1: you know, let her watch the laundry anyway? And then 1052 00:53:28,200 --> 00:53:30,439 Speaker 1: we found out that he didn't know, and now he's 1053 00:53:30,520 --> 00:53:32,120 Speaker 1: mad at her because she doesn't want to spend time 1054 00:53:32,160 --> 00:53:35,640 Speaker 1: with his mother. It's a whole mess of things, a 1055 00:53:35,680 --> 00:53:37,640 Speaker 1: whole mess. I think you just need to have a 1056 00:53:37,680 --> 00:53:40,200 Speaker 1: conversation with your husband and say, hey, I've been like 1057 00:53:40,360 --> 00:53:45,560 Speaker 1: you know, about my BPD and this has been like 1058 00:53:45,800 --> 00:53:50,439 Speaker 1: creating a lot of anxiety in me to the point 1059 00:53:50,440 --> 00:53:53,399 Speaker 1: where it's inhibiting my ability to kind of go about 1060 00:53:53,440 --> 00:53:58,600 Speaker 1: my day to day. Yes, and hope that he understands that, Yeah, 1061 00:53:58,960 --> 00:54:00,720 Speaker 1: I see if he doesn't nothing, I'm a good partner. 1062 00:54:01,080 --> 00:54:02,839 Speaker 2: I need time to process her as a new person 1063 00:54:02,920 --> 00:54:05,360 Speaker 2: in my life, and as we couldn't meet that much before, 1064 00:54:05,760 --> 00:54:08,680 Speaker 2: I need some neutral space for that. He doesn't understand that. 1065 00:54:09,000 --> 00:54:11,200 Speaker 2: As a compromise, I said, I will stay for four 1066 00:54:11,280 --> 00:54:13,560 Speaker 2: days at her house, specifically on the days she's working, 1067 00:54:13,960 --> 00:54:16,200 Speaker 2: so I will meet her only in the evening. Then 1068 00:54:16,280 --> 00:54:18,640 Speaker 2: I will travel parts of the country alone while my 1069 00:54:18,800 --> 00:54:21,760 Speaker 2: husband will run his errands, and then he'll meet me halfway. 1070 00:54:22,120 --> 00:54:24,080 Speaker 2: So am I the ahole for not? When he spending 1071 00:54:24,080 --> 00:54:26,120 Speaker 2: time with my mother in law. Am I overthinking? Am 1072 00:54:26,160 --> 00:54:28,480 Speaker 2: I too sensitive? Or is it okay to protect myself 1073 00:54:28,520 --> 00:54:34,320 Speaker 2: first and then in an extended way everyone else? A 1074 00:54:34,440 --> 00:54:39,320 Speaker 2: great question to end this off, Sophia, what are your thoughts? 1075 00:54:39,400 --> 00:54:42,200 Speaker 1: I think it's always a good thing to protect yourself. 1076 00:54:42,560 --> 00:54:45,920 Speaker 1: I mean, there is a thing as too sensitive, but 1077 00:54:46,040 --> 00:54:50,040 Speaker 1: it usually comes from a kind of not genuine place, 1078 00:54:51,000 --> 00:54:55,440 Speaker 1: whereas you are experiencing tremendous, tremendous amounts of anxiety that 1079 00:54:55,640 --> 00:55:00,319 Speaker 1: are hurting you. And so I don't think that means 1080 00:55:00,360 --> 00:55:01,960 Speaker 1: you're too sensitive. It just means that you need to, 1081 00:55:02,480 --> 00:55:07,160 Speaker 1: you know, be gentle with yourself and don't let people 1082 00:55:07,960 --> 00:55:11,279 Speaker 1: invade your space and you know, exacerbate that. 1083 00:55:11,600 --> 00:55:14,400 Speaker 2: I agree. I think like, especially when it's a relationship 1084 00:55:14,440 --> 00:55:17,920 Speaker 2: with two people, everyone's always like, oh, is this unreasonable? 1085 00:55:18,040 --> 00:55:21,360 Speaker 2: But really the question is is it first reasonable to 1086 00:55:21,480 --> 00:55:25,479 Speaker 2: you and then is it reasonable to your partner? Yeah? 1087 00:55:26,120 --> 00:55:29,200 Speaker 2: And you know what, sometimes there is a misalignment and 1088 00:55:30,200 --> 00:55:32,840 Speaker 2: we could acknowledge and be like, Okay, this is what 1089 00:55:32,960 --> 00:55:35,560 Speaker 2: I want and this is what you want. Hey, maybe 1090 00:55:35,640 --> 00:55:38,400 Speaker 2: it doesn't align, could be compromised, could we do something? 1091 00:55:38,560 --> 00:55:41,480 Speaker 2: But I do think in general, as long as you're 1092 00:55:41,520 --> 00:55:45,000 Speaker 2: not like hurting anyone or doing something malicious. It is 1093 00:55:45,719 --> 00:55:48,359 Speaker 2: I think generally like okay to just be like, hey, 1094 00:55:48,440 --> 00:55:50,719 Speaker 2: this is this is what I want because this is 1095 00:55:50,760 --> 00:55:53,480 Speaker 2: how this affects me. Yeah, personally, does it make you 1096 00:55:53,560 --> 00:55:56,560 Speaker 2: a monster? No it does not. In fact, it means 1097 00:55:56,640 --> 00:56:00,360 Speaker 2: you stand up for yourself and that is good. I agreed, 1098 00:56:00,600 --> 00:56:02,480 Speaker 2: But we're gonna have to sit down because this episode 1099 00:56:02,560 --> 00:56:05,239 Speaker 2: is freaking done. It's freaking over, freaking over. If you 1100 00:56:05,360 --> 00:56:08,080 Speaker 2: love us, make sure to subscribe. We love you and 1101 00:56:08,440 --> 00:56:09,160 Speaker 2: Cinamo