Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.
Speaker 1: Scrubbing in.
Speaker 2: So today I can't remember what were the parts of
Speaker 2: the book that we were sister, I.
Speaker 1: Think we're starting on demons, going to imagine. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: that's right, Yeah.
Speaker 2: Just kidding. Tanya isn't gay, Tanya is cool? Is this?
Speaker 1: She is the coolest, the coolest girl in the world.
Speaker 2: Well, you knew you were engaged when we recorded the
Speaker 2: whole cool segment. I did.
Speaker 1: I did.
Speaker 2: You had to keep it shut though, trickery, dickery doc.
Speaker 2: I don't even know where to begin, because we did
Speaker 2: the four podcast and I was so proud of everyone
Speaker 2: that we kept it that no one let it slip anywhere.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's interesting. So everything happened Sunday night. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: so I was like, oh, it's great, I'm gonna go win,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do the show and share. I'm gonna do
Speaker 1: the podcast and share it. But by the time we
Speaker 1: got home Sunday night, we were like in such a
Speaker 1: like days. It was so crazy. I was and I
Speaker 1: wanted to give it its proper like, you know, attention, attention,
Speaker 1: and we were not We didn't have any photos back,
Speaker 1: and so I was like, Okay, I'm just gonna sit
Speaker 1: on this and give it a beat and collect myself
Speaker 1: because I also didn't sleep, didn't eat, couldn't stop crying.
Speaker 1: So it was just like a lot of emotions, and
Speaker 1: so I needed like a couple of days to just
Speaker 1: like sit on it.
Speaker 2: I think that was really special. I think I think
Speaker 2: what we expected of you, and I think even what
Speaker 2: you expected of yourself, that it would be an instant post,
Speaker 2: like you get engaged and it goes out to the world. Yeah,
Speaker 2: so I liked that it was kind of y'all's for
Speaker 2: a little bit where you kind of got to process
Speaker 2: it and think about it and soak it in without
Speaker 2: feeling like I gotta get up. But I know it
Speaker 2: killed you kill me.
Speaker 1: But what's so crazy is my phone was in that
Speaker 1: locker room the whole night. I didn't have my phone
Speaker 1: for like four hours, Like.
Speaker 2: Who am I? Well, yeah, I think you were in
Speaker 2: a full state of shock.
Speaker 3: I was.
Speaker 1: I was in a state of shock. I didn't know
Speaker 1: where I was, Like my I don't know where my
Speaker 1: purse is, I don't know where anything is. Around seven o'clock.
Speaker 1: I was like, I think it's closing. I got to
Speaker 1: kill get my stuff. Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's crazy.
Speaker 2: Where do you want to begin on this journey?
Speaker 1: You little trickery, Dickery, mcdockerson. All my friends were in on.
Speaker 2: This, A lot of nick names there.
Speaker 1: All my friends were in on this. Yes, that was
Speaker 1: one of my favorite things. After it all went down,
Speaker 1: was kind of hearing like the lead up and the
Speaker 1: build up and like the behind the scenes of it all.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we had a group chat called not Tea because
Speaker 2: we were so scared that we were going to accidentally
Speaker 2: text her and get it confused with like other group chats.
Speaker 2: But it started around the same time You and I
Speaker 2: went to dinner that night. Remember, like a couple of
Speaker 2: weeks ago, you and I went to dinner and.
Speaker 1: I asked you flat out, I said, has Robbie approached
Speaker 1: you or asked you anything about a proposal? And Becca
Speaker 1: goes no.
Speaker 2: I was like, ugh, I was concerned with how easily
Speaker 2: I lied to her face. It was a little bit
Speaker 2: concerning for me, but it was so fun because he
Speaker 2: had texted us like I literally think it was that
Speaker 2: day and he said, do you care if I read
Speaker 2: this no friends and soon to be family. I'm very
Speaker 2: excited to tell you that I am planning to propose
Speaker 2: to Tanya the weekend of September eighth, so either that Friday,
Speaker 2: Saturday or Sunday, and wanted you guys to all be
Speaker 2: there and be a part of it if possible. Details
Speaker 2: are being worked out, but wanted to check your availability
Speaker 2: first and talked about like what is going to be
Speaker 2: followed by a mini champagne celebration, and he's like, love
Speaker 2: you all and so excited. It goes without saying this
Speaker 2: is a surprise, so please do not take her off,
Speaker 2: even though she knows it's coming any day now. So
Speaker 2: in this chat, it was me, Paulina, Sophia and Brad
Speaker 2: and Raquel and Robbie. Yeah, and it was just so fun,
Speaker 2: like trying to coordinate. You had the Jonas Brothers concert, yes,
Speaker 2: so it was possibly going to be on that Saturday,
Speaker 2: and we're going to like.
Speaker 1: We were going to go to the show. I'm very
Speaker 1: glad that plan did not go as planned.
Speaker 2: And it was just really fun, Like you could tell
Speaker 2: Robbie was just like so excited and wanted it to
Speaker 2: be perfect and wanted everyone to be there and wanted
Speaker 2: it to be what you would want, and it was
Speaker 2: just it was really sweet, like being a part of
Speaker 2: something that he was like leading and so excited about it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, there was well, I don't know, I'll give
Speaker 1: a cliff notes version of kind of how he did it,
Speaker 1: but basically what he did was he booked a uh.
Speaker 4: Podcast, need to do a cliff notes version, Yeah, we
Speaker 4: have all the time.
Speaker 2: I've been waiting for them.
Speaker 1: So he booked as a couple's massage, which we do
Speaker 1: from time to time. So that wasn't weird in hindsight.
Speaker 1: It was weird because we had the kids that weekend
Speaker 1: and he was like, they have some school thing that
Speaker 1: they have to do with my parents have to interview them,
Speaker 1: so they're gonna be at my parents' house for an hour.
Speaker 1: So and I was like, that was a little bit weird,
Speaker 1: but I didn't think anything of it. Now, in hindsight,
Speaker 1: I was like, that was really weird. But so we
Speaker 1: did the couple's massage. We go to the front desk,
Speaker 1: we check in and the woman's like, I'm so sorry.
Speaker 1: Our couple's room is like I don't know what she
Speaker 1: said under construction or water damage or something, so you
Speaker 1: guys have to go in separate rooms. And I was like, whatever,
Speaker 1: it's fine. I was really tired from the Jonas brother show.
Speaker 1: So the night after the day after the Jones Brother Show,
Speaker 1: had slept maybe five hours, so I was so tired
Speaker 1: after my brisk so I was just really kind of
Speaker 1: out of it. So I go into my couple to
Speaker 1: my you know, to my massage, and I get out
Speaker 1: of the and the messeuse. The woman hands me a
Speaker 1: handwritten letter from Robbie, and the handwritten note says, my angel, it's.
Speaker 5: Been a long journey to get here, but we're finally
Speaker 5: here and your dress, shoes, and makeup are waiting for
Speaker 5: you in the locker room. Please take your time getting
Speaker 5: ready and meet me outside on the terrace. So at
Speaker 5: that point I knew, and it was like the craziest
Speaker 5: feeling of emotion because.
Speaker 1: I'm like with this miss Susan.
Speaker 2: I just like look at her and I was like,
Speaker 2: I'm getting engaged. She's like, do you want champagne?
Speaker 1: I was like, no, no, I just want to like
Speaker 1: get out there, and she started crying too. She started crying, yeah,
Speaker 1: And so I went in there and I like opened
Speaker 1: my locker and the dress that he had like picked
Speaker 1: out was this dress that I bought. I bought it
Speaker 1: like specifically for like engagement stuff like I want. It
Speaker 1: was like going to be an engagement dress like for
Speaker 1: a party or photos or something, and he remembered he
Speaker 1: like clocked it, I guess, and remembered that dress. So
Speaker 1: that was hanging in there, and then a pair of
Speaker 1: shoes that I hate, which is fine, and like like
Speaker 1: a nude thong, a nude bra, my pasties, and like
Speaker 1: a bag of makeup. Yeah yeah, And so I was like,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, okay, so I'm gonna trying. I was like,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, this is really happening. So I wanted
Speaker 1: to like do my makeup and stuff, but that couldn't
Speaker 1: stop crying, Like I was just bawling hysterically. So I
Speaker 1: was like, I'm just going to forego the makeup. It's
Speaker 1: just gonna, you know, come off. And I can't even
Speaker 1: stop crying to do it. So I was like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna take a shower, get all the oils off me,
Speaker 1: put my clothes on, just like get out there. And
Speaker 1: then I was like I wanted to text all my friends,
Speaker 1: but I was like, it's gonna take too long, and
Speaker 1: I just want to go get engaged. I was like,
Speaker 1: I'll text them after. So I put it on and
Speaker 1: I walk out to the terrace and he's in like
Speaker 1: this little suit and he's standing there, and then just
Speaker 1: lost it again, like I think I just cried the
Speaker 1: entire time. I didn't stop. And then I walked up
Speaker 1: to him and he actually recorded the whole thing on
Speaker 1: his phone right there, and so I actually looked back
Speaker 1: and it was four and a half minutes of talking
Speaker 1: before he actually got down on the knee, which it
Speaker 1: did feel like.
Speaker 2: A long time.
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, when this is coming to the
Speaker 1: point matter. He had invisible string playing on loop in
Speaker 1: the background, like a piano or violin version. I'm not
Speaker 1: sure that was Becca's duty. And then he asked me
Speaker 1: to marry him, and I was still bawling, and then
Speaker 1: the kids came running out, Sonny came running out. We
Speaker 1: all hugged for a minute, and then everybody else came out.
Speaker 1: It was so it was the most craziest feeling, Like
Speaker 1: you you imagine that feeling your whole life, and then
Speaker 1: when it happens, it's like even crazier than you pictured it.
Speaker 1: It was like so crazy. And then everybody was.
Speaker 2: There and.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like my family, his family, my best best friends.
Speaker 1: My parents are in Europe, so they were on FaceTime
Speaker 1: and it was like really weird because you want to
Speaker 1: hug everybody at the same time, but like you, I can't.
Speaker 1: And then it was like one hundred and ten degrees
Speaker 1: and I was like dripping sweat and like there's a
Speaker 1: photographer taking pictures and I was like, I look so
Speaker 1: ugly right now. My eyes were like bloodshot and like
Speaker 1: dripping sweat and crying. It was like so it was
Speaker 1: so overwhelming. I can't even in the best way.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I felt that. I was like I
Speaker 2: just know her brain is like just going so fast
Speaker 2: right now processing everything. But like the moment you got
Speaker 2: the letter, well really from the moment your massage got
Speaker 2: cut short.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was like, yeah, yeah, forgot that. She was like,
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. I don't remember what time. I think
Speaker 1: it's she cut it fifteen minutes short or something. She's like,
Speaker 1: I have to finish, you know, we're finishing early. And
Speaker 1: I was like, what the hell is going on in
Speaker 1: this place? The room's broken, My massage is getting cut.
Speaker 1: I was like, they better got charges for this. Like
Speaker 1: I literally was like, this is so weird. But then
Speaker 1: once I got the no, I like knew, yeah yeah,
Speaker 1: it was like not even a question.
Speaker 2: And I don't know if you mentioned this, but the
Speaker 2: Maybourne where you all went to get the massage, is
Speaker 2: a very significant place for you.
Speaker 1: Actually, that courtyard at the Mayborn is where I used
Speaker 1: to go. And this is what's even crazier. After we
Speaker 1: got engaged, Raquel was there and she got walked up
Speaker 1: to us and she was like, I'll never forget ten
Speaker 1: years ago, Tanya and I used to comb to this courtyard,
Speaker 1: sit at that fountain and we would pray for her husband,
Speaker 1: like we would pray for you, and like all this stuff.
Speaker 1: And this is the exact same courtyard that Robbie parks
Speaker 1: in every day to go to work. So we were
Speaker 1: in this courtyard passing each other for years before we
Speaker 1: ever met, And so this courtyard's really sentimental to us,
Speaker 1: just like as a couple, we'd go there and we
Speaker 1: just kind of like it's like our invisible string. Yeah yeah, wow, yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean it was perfect. And then after all that,
Speaker 1: we went downstairs and had like a champagne toast and
Speaker 1: like some light bits, delicious light bites. I gotta set.
Speaker 1: But I just started pounding champagne like I was like
Speaker 1: pounding champagne on an empty stomach too. Yeah, so I
Speaker 1: was feeling loose.
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, you were like exhausted from the night before,
Speaker 2: and then your adrenaline was like through the room.
Speaker 1: Pumping and then champagne. Lots of it, lots of it,
Speaker 1: lots of it. It was just the best day I
Speaker 1: could not have. It could not have been more beautiful
Speaker 1: or more special. It was a perfect day.
Speaker 2: It was worth the way.
Speaker 1: I didn't want it to end.
Speaker 4: Every time. The note gets me every time. Do you
Speaker 4: have plans for that note? Will that be in a
Speaker 4: frame somewhere? Will that be at a special place?
Speaker 1: So actually, because I had I didn't even know, like
Speaker 1: I had like a bag somewhere, so I threw it
Speaker 1: in the bag. It got wrinkly, so I know, I
Speaker 1: put it under like two heavy books to kind of
Speaker 1: straighten it out. But I do want to frame it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Yeah, that one gets me every time, me too.
Speaker 4: It's such a classy move. Like when I proposed I
Speaker 4: wanted my surprise to be when I dropped to the knee.
Speaker 4: It's thoughtful and thought out to give you, to let
Speaker 4: you know and have you have kind of your moment
Speaker 4: by yourself and then be meeting you. It's it's really
Speaker 4: a cool way to do it.
Speaker 3: And every woman I've spoken to said they would have
Speaker 3: preferred that, you know, like I wish I had time
Speaker 3: to like get dressed, Yeah, yeah, prepare myself mentally.
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, I know.
Speaker 1: I was thinking had he done it, I was literally
Speaker 1: wearing like a modern woman tank top and sweatpants and
Speaker 1: tennis shoes. So had he not brought an outfit for me,
Speaker 1: I would have it would have been a very different
Speaker 1: Uh look, what.
Speaker 4: Did you think she handed you the envelope.
Speaker 1: It was like, I'm sorry because like the SPA sucks
Speaker 1: and like this on us or whatever. He yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I didn't really think anything. But once I saw his
Speaker 1: handwriting and like I read the first sentence, I knew, yeah,
Speaker 1: it was crazy. And then the thing is like, obviously
Speaker 1: didn't know any of anybody, any of you were there.
Speaker 1: And Becca made me this video. It's a four minute
Speaker 1: video and it's kind of the behind the scenes of uh,
Speaker 1: what was going on when I was like getting a massage,
Speaker 1: and I didn't realize Robbie didn't get one. He just
Speaker 1: like left and started gathering everybody and everything. And so
Speaker 1: she has like video of like Paulina texting the SPA
Speaker 1: girl in there. She's like she's in the shower, and
Speaker 1: she's like she's in the shower, you know, and everyone's
Speaker 1: like she's in the shower. Everyone's like freaking out, and
Speaker 1: Brad was like, all I wanted to tell her last
Speaker 1: night when we were at the Jonas Brothers was you're
Speaker 1: getting engaged tomorrow. And actually, when we were after the
Speaker 1: Jonahs brother show, me, Brad, Sophia and Paulina went backstage
Speaker 1: to not really backstage a daughter standing it was like
Speaker 1: whatever in their party and Kevin Jonas was like, where's
Speaker 1: the hubby? When are you guys getting engaged? And I
Speaker 1: was like, oh, you know, I don't know, and they
Speaker 1: said that they were all like dying laughing because they
Speaker 1: all knew it was happening.
Speaker 2: The next day, Oh yeah, we got quotes in the
Speaker 2: group chat. Brad's like Kevin Jonas asked when's the ring
Speaker 2: coming and then quotes Tanya any day now, any minute now.
Speaker 1: And the best part was even during the show, they
Speaker 1: do like this kiss cam where Joe takes the camera
Speaker 1: and he like points it at couples to like kiss
Speaker 1: and stuff, And I literally turned to Brad. I was like,
Speaker 1: this would have been a great way for Robbie to propose.
Speaker 1: And even during the Taylor Swift Show, I was like
Speaker 1: during Love Story, I was like, this would have been
Speaker 1: a great opportunity for Robbie to propose.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we all we all knew you were waiting. Robbie
Speaker 2: knew you were waiting, yes, but Jonas brothers.
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, we were waiting.
Speaker 2: Everybody was on the way. Yeah, it was it was
Speaker 2: so fun. Like, first of all, it was really hot
Speaker 2: that day, like I don't know, there was like an
Speaker 2: extreme heat wave and uh the Beverly Hills.
Speaker 1: Five or six o'clock, so it wasn't in the middle.
Speaker 2: Of the day.
Speaker 1: It was sweaty.
Speaker 2: Well, I bet you just came out of a massage too,
Speaker 2: So it's like a lot of emotions mixed with oils
Speaker 2: and whatnot. But yeah, I felt like we were all
Speaker 2: there was a lot of kids too, so it was
Speaker 2: like try to keep you know, put the kids in
Speaker 2: the bathroom and then and then they're like she's in
Speaker 2: the shower, so everyone would all the kids would come
Speaker 2: out of the shower and start running around. And then
Speaker 2: I had been in charge of the speaker. Robbie like,
Speaker 2: can you bring a wireless speaker?
Speaker 1: So I brought like this was becca thing ever by
Speaker 1: the way, okay.
Speaker 2: But so I brought a son speaker that plugs in right,
Speaker 2: and I was like, that way I don't have to
Speaker 2: worry about it being like full charge. And then I
Speaker 2: was like, I'm gonna bring my my real wireless one
Speaker 2: that doesn't need to be plugged in just to be safe.
Speaker 2: And I was like, I'm gonna charge it. And it
Speaker 2: was like a last minute because I just had assumed
Speaker 2: the only one I had was the Son's. But then
Speaker 2: I thought about that one, so I plugged it in.
Speaker 2: It got charged to thirty percent. Well we get there,
Speaker 2: there's no plug where they want the speaker to go.
Speaker 2: So I'm like, okay, I have this one. It's on
Speaker 2: thirty percent though, so we start playing the invisible string
Speaker 2: and then they're like, Tanya's in the shower. So I
Speaker 2: like run over to the speaker and turn it off.
Speaker 2: I'm like, we got to preserve, we have to preserve,
Speaker 2: and I just knew that during the proposal he was
Speaker 2: gonna it was gonna be like both speaker twenty percent.
Speaker 2: He didn't do that. I was so stressed, but shout
Speaker 2: out to Bo's like you really really not spalter but
Speaker 2: held it together and so it was so fun, like
Speaker 2: everyone just like in a chaotic headspace because everybody's like.
Speaker 1: You have to be quiet, You're not gonna ruin it.
Speaker 1: I'm like, there could have been fireworks going off back there,
Speaker 1: and I would have been I was so laser focused
Speaker 1: on him, Like the minute I stepped out on that terrace,
Speaker 1: it was like he was the only thing in the world.
Speaker 1: Like there could have been kids flying, there could have
Speaker 1: been birds chirping, there could have been like anything happening,
Speaker 1: and it would have been like beelin See.
Speaker 2: I wasn't sure. I didn't know if you were going
Speaker 2: to come and be like like looking around. So I
Speaker 2: was because we went back and forth were like, is
Speaker 2: she just gonna be in a bee line or is
Speaker 2: she gonna kind of like take it all in, like
Speaker 2: you know, and see us all on the side. But
Speaker 2: you were belin laser Yeah, So what were you like,
Speaker 2: did you feel like you were going to pass out?
Speaker 2: When he was talking, like, did you ever feel like,
Speaker 2: oh my gosh, this is what was your feelings while
Speaker 2: he was talking? Uh.
Speaker 1: I try was really trying to like listen to like
Speaker 1: listen to what he was saying, but I honestly blacked out,
Speaker 1: like it was the weirdest thing, Like it just blacked out.
Speaker 1: I remember bits and pieces of it.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I'm so glad he recorded it because then I've been
Speaker 1: able to kind of go back and like, actually hear
Speaker 1: what it said because I fully blacked out.
Speaker 2: Well, I was imagining. I was like, is she taking
Speaker 2: this in or is she just like in a state
Speaker 2: of being like it's happening.
Speaker 1: It's the craziest thing.
Speaker 2: I can't imagine.
Speaker 1: It's the I've envisioned this, don't like not even being
Speaker 1: just with him like my whole life, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, Like you envision that moment and it is
Speaker 1: so much crazier when you're in it than you even
Speaker 1: thought truly, Like I thought was go pass out. I'm surprised.
Speaker 1: I was standing.
Speaker 2: We get over there and Tanya hugs me and she's like, becka,
Speaker 2: help me. I was like trying to fan her down
Speaker 2: and she's like help me, Like I'm sweaty. I'm like,
Speaker 2: you look beautiful. This is so you and your element.
Speaker 1: I was like, you're glowing. I'm like, no, that is
Speaker 1: perspiration dripping down my body. Like that is not glow,
Speaker 1: that is water.
Speaker 2: It was really special. And then his mom hugged you,
Speaker 2: and this I like held it together. I think I
Speaker 2: was on like an anxious high. But she hugged you
Speaker 2: and she said, she like grabbed you by the face.
Speaker 2: I don't even know if you remember this, it's on
Speaker 2: the video and she goes, you're my daughter now, and
Speaker 2: I'm so emotional, but it was perfect. Yeah, it was
Speaker 2: like amazing. I just think that you're the most deserving person.
Speaker 2: I know you've wanted it for so long. I was like,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna get through this.
Speaker 1: While doing this, I know, I've actually been proud of
Speaker 1: myself because, like I for the first time told someone
Speaker 1: the whole story and didn't cry, and I was like, wow, Okay.
Speaker 4: This is good.
Speaker 2: I think this is so special because there's a whole
Speaker 2: community that's followed this journey from like the very beginning,
Speaker 2: and who's seen themselves in you, who've like longed for
Speaker 2: this love and this moment, you know, and we've all
Speaker 2: been waiting and like cheering it on and being there
Speaker 2: for you when it didn't happen, and I think, like
Speaker 2: for it to happen and come to fruition, it's just
Speaker 2: been like it's been such a beautiful journey that like
Speaker 2: you've been on, but like there's a whole scrubbing in
Speaker 2: community has been on with you, like cheering you on
Speaker 2: from the sidelines.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's just like I think also, like I am
Speaker 5: so happy that it's like I think back about how
Speaker 5: sad I was for so long, you know, like repeatedly sad,
Speaker 5: repeatedly heartbroken, repeatedly defeated, and it's like the fact that
Speaker 5: I'm on the other side of it is just like
Speaker 5: so crazy, Like it's so crazy.
Speaker 1: What does it feel like to be a fiance?
Speaker 2: But the best ever?
Speaker 1: I was telling Robbie, I was like, I literally feel
Speaker 1: like we're in a totally different relationship. Like it just
Speaker 1: feels so different. There's a different level of of safety,
Speaker 1: I guess, comfort unity, Like we're one, Like I finally
Speaker 1: feel like we're one and we've nothing's changed in the
Speaker 1: sense of like we still spend the same amount of
Speaker 1: time together and we're still doing the same things that
Speaker 1: we used to do, but it just feels so different.
Speaker 1: Like this weekend, we're gonna sit down and kind of
Speaker 1: go over a timeline of when to move in, when
Speaker 1: to move my stuff, when I'm gonna like I need
Speaker 1: to put a notice at my Famo hotel, essentially put
Speaker 1: notice in at my apartment and like you know, but
Speaker 1: it's like all these things. We're gonna like streamline all
Speaker 1: of our streaming services and like you know, to Netflix,
Speaker 1: and we have two everything to Netflix, to Hulu to
Speaker 1: so we're gonna like streamline all our streaming we could have,
Speaker 1: but it was just like not.
Speaker 4: Exactly, I get you that argument, the other stuff you
Speaker 4: could let slide.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, but anyways, she's like, when's the what date?
Speaker 1: Are we looking at?
Speaker 2: Dress shopping bachelorette? She's like, we're streamlining then streaming services. Baby,
Speaker 2: I know.
Speaker 1: Actually Ali texted us yesterday because they sent us flowers,
Speaker 1: so we said thank them, and she's like, are you
Speaker 1: guys gonn have an engagement party? And I was like,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, probably not. We got like way more
Speaker 1: important things to do, like streamline are streaming services. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: first things first, first, streamline and move those are the
Speaker 1: first things first.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so those are going to be the questions you
Speaker 2: get bombarded with, you know.
Speaker 1: Yeah, just so you're prepared.
Speaker 2: Yeah, what's next? When's the date?
Speaker 1: No clue?
Speaker 2: What kind of dress do you want?
Speaker 1: I know, Brad's like, when are we going dress shopping?
Speaker 1: I'm like, I just gone engage.
Speaker 2: Great person to have on in your squad dress shopping.
Speaker 4: Yeah, we should take a break.
Speaker 1: Oh.
Speaker 4: I did see some great comments on the scrubbing and
Speaker 4: Facebook group about this. A lot of them say they're
Speaker 4: immediately going out to get calling in the one because.
Speaker 2: Oh thank you.
Speaker 1: That's what I've been saying this whole.
Speaker 2: Time, the ring to really, so let us by your referral.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I like Diana. She said her story on the
Speaker 4: radio this morning of how he did it and planned
Speaker 4: everything had me sobbing, and my way to drop the
Speaker 4: kids off to school and they were like, Mom, are
Speaker 4: you okay?
Speaker 1: I haven't stopped crying. I haven't stopped. I like it not.
Speaker 1: I can't focus at work, I can't focus anywhere. It's
Speaker 1: so crazy.
Speaker 2: No, you need like the full weekend to really I
Speaker 2: just want to.
Speaker 1: Be with him. It was like it was it happened Sunday,
Speaker 1: I went to bed and then went straight to work Monday,
Speaker 1: and I've just been working, like I haven't spent time
Speaker 1: with him, Like I just want to jump your bones,
Speaker 1: lay next to you, like be in the blizz you know,
Speaker 1: and like just haven't had that moment yet.
Speaker 2: We do need to take a break, but we will
Speaker 2: come back because we found out that night that there's
Speaker 2: a very important scrubber that was amongst us that night,
Speaker 2: and we will get to that when we come back.
Speaker 2: All right, we are back with more from the proposal.
Speaker 2: Do you know what else you'll have to do? Hashtag?
Speaker 1: Hashtag?
Speaker 2: Are you all going to do radigar as your wedding hashtags?
Speaker 1: I kind of liked it. I was cute. I always
Speaker 1: thought it would be from yat or sorry from rad
Speaker 1: to yad. Yeah, yeah, but radigar is kind of like
Speaker 1: more sustinct, sustinct, succinct succinct.
Speaker 3: Right, like like short and easy to take.
Speaker 1: So maybe one of those two radigar or from maybe
Speaker 1: maybe all of them? Not no, just want consistent.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, So do you want to talk about the
Speaker 2: duty that I was not only was I put on
Speaker 2: music duty, which almost caused me a full mental breakdown
Speaker 2: with the speaker almost dying. But before that duty was
Speaker 2: put on put onto me. I was told that I
Speaker 2: was going to be in charge of photos. Photography.
Speaker 1: So Robbie puts backa in charge of the photos for
Speaker 1: the proposal, and bless his heart, I just don't think
Speaker 1: guys think about photographers because I actually remember when he
Speaker 1: planned my surprise, my surprise birthday party.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I told.
Speaker 1: Him I was like, the only thing that would have
Speaker 1: made it the most perfect night was if you had
Speaker 1: a photographer, because I was so blown away. I didn't
Speaker 1: have my phone and so I had no photos from
Speaker 1: that night. All I had were photos from like some
Speaker 1: of my friends that took pictures, and so I was like,
Speaker 1: next time we do, like we have to get photographers
Speaker 1: at every party, blah blah blah. So he uh thinks
Speaker 1: Becca is a great photographer clearly, and put her in
Speaker 1: charge of taking photos of the proposal, which is a
Speaker 1: lot of pressure. But I love that you. I took it,
Speaker 1: like you just took it.
Speaker 2: Oh I didn't. I was like, in my mind, I go,
Speaker 2: holy Molly, like what I can take a decent photo.
Speaker 2: But this is the moment she's been waiting for like,
Speaker 2: this is gonna be on me, and I was also
Speaker 2: thinking I was laughing after the fact because once I
Speaker 2: got to the location, I'm like, where would I have
Speaker 2: stood that you would I would have started like giggling
Speaker 2: or crying when I saw you would have been like
Speaker 2: all shaky footage. And so luckily, as a side note,
Speaker 2: Paul or Sophia stepped in, was like, hey, if you
Speaker 2: want me to connect you to one of my photographer friends, like,
Speaker 2: let me know, and he goes, oh, I was just
Speaker 2: gonna have everyone take organic like content on their phones.
Speaker 2: And I stepped in at that point I go, I
Speaker 2: think it's great if everyone takes their photos, but I
Speaker 2: think having a photographer to like really capture the moment
Speaker 2: is a big deal. And he's like, okay, okay, Yeah.
Speaker 2: Was like, thank god Sophia came into that, because I
Speaker 2: was just gonna be like, you know what, I don't
Speaker 2: want to stress them out. If he wants it to
Speaker 2: be like intimate like that, great, I'm decent.
Speaker 1: Oh that would have if if the shoe were on
Speaker 1: the other foot and Haley asked me to be the
Speaker 1: photographer for your proposal she wanted I'm just saying if
Speaker 1: she had, I literally would have been like, I'm going
Speaker 1: to pay somebody to do this and like not tell her,
Speaker 1: Like there's no way I would take that responsibility on myself.
Speaker 2: I almost was like, do I reach out to one
Speaker 2: of my friends who I know like as a photographer
Speaker 2: and just be like, hey, I just brought her as
Speaker 2: back up and.
Speaker 1: Kid, yeah that's what There's no way I would have
Speaker 1: I would do that.
Speaker 2: So the fact was pretty good, So I felt like
Speaker 2: I could have done an okay job.
Speaker 1: Becca took this like cinematic video of us. Oh that video, well, yeah,
Speaker 1: all your videos that you did were incredible, but not
Speaker 1: really any good photos.
Speaker 2: I didn't take any photos correct.
Speaker 1: But your videos were like top notch. Steven Spielberg GESSO, yeah,
Speaker 1: tell you, I want to try and post the format
Speaker 1: and when I don't know where. It was the cutest
Speaker 1: freaking thing I have ever seen.
Speaker 2: It was really fun to make. It was fun. It
Speaker 2: was like fun to be in on the secret. It
Speaker 2: was fun. All of us felt the same way that
Speaker 2: we were in on this like massive secret that we
Speaker 2: knew that you were waiting on.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and like I guess the night when I went
Speaker 1: to Jonas's brothers Robbie had facetimed Sophia and Paulina to
Speaker 1: find what makeup to pack for me, and so they
Speaker 1: recorded that FaceTime, which is so cute because the audio
Speaker 1: is like he's like opening this and she goes, yeah,
Speaker 1: yeah take that, bring that, and he goes, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: this looks important. And then he's like looking through the
Speaker 1: brushes and he's like, which one of these do I pack?
Speaker 1: And it's funny because when I opened all the makeup,
Speaker 1: I was like, this is none of this is my stuff,
Speaker 1: Like it was like blush that I don't use the
Speaker 1: wrong brush.
Speaker 2: Like. It was very, very fun and Paulina was like,
Speaker 2: how do we do? And Tony was like terrible, it
Speaker 2: wasn't any.
Speaker 1: Of my idea. Yeah, but luckily I didn't need it
Speaker 1: and I didn't use it, so it was but it
Speaker 1: was so cute seeing that.
Speaker 2: It was just really I agree with Mark, like the
Speaker 2: thoughtfulnes of like even that, because he could have just, like,
Speaker 2: you know, right, just been like, oh, she's fine, she
Speaker 2: goes Sanza all the time. But the fact that he
Speaker 2: even like thought to do that was so so cute. Yeah.
Speaker 2: So after as we were all like downing champagne, which
Speaker 2: we had a lot. It was just kind of like
Speaker 2: Robbie's family, Sophia, Paulina, Me and Haley at this point.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because my so my family lived in San Diego,
Speaker 1: so they had to leave kind of early because it
Speaker 1: was a long drive back. And then Brad likes to
Speaker 1: go down early, so he like me, yeah yeah, and
Speaker 1: to catch a fly fight to New York. So everybody
Speaker 1: kind of was like trickling out and it was like
Speaker 1: the core and we got I mean, I was pretty
Speaker 1: drunk at that point.
Speaker 2: Well. I would also just like to shout out to
Speaker 2: Tanya's sister. She is wonderful. I haven't spent time with
Speaker 2: your sister, like I think I met her at the
Speaker 2: live show and that was it. She's just so warm
Speaker 2: and kind and I totally get that has been like
Speaker 2: a full just like safe space for you because I
Speaker 2: get it. She's wonderful and the kids are just the angels.
Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you. I feel the same way like she
Speaker 1: is this, Like I always say, my sister is the
Speaker 1: best version of like anybody everybody in my family. She's
Speaker 1: just warm and loving and and even keeled and like this,
Speaker 1: you just feel like when you're in her presence that
Speaker 1: she's just like calm and happy and like cool.
Speaker 2: Cool. She's the girl.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's the cool one.
Speaker 2: Is there's something very calm about Yeah.
Speaker 1: She's the opposite of me, like literally the opposite of No.
Speaker 2: I think I imagine that growing like y'all were a
Speaker 2: great balance for each other. Yeah, but yeah, shout at her.
Speaker 2: And then we're so we're at the table, We're all
Speaker 2: just drinking, laughing, recapping everything, and Robbie's dad goes.
Speaker 1: That was so embarrassing.
Speaker 2: He like looks erec late me, and he goes, I
Speaker 2: remember what you said about uh them after their first date.
Speaker 2: And I was like, what did I say? And he
Speaker 2: goes He's like giggling. He's like I remember what you said.
Speaker 2: And I'm like what I said? And he's like, no,
Speaker 2: what she said? Points to Tania and I'm like, oh,
Speaker 2: all I get. I'm like, oh, he's talking about the
Speaker 2: vagina tingles, but I'm not saying that to him. And
Speaker 2: I'm like, are you talking about when she said she got?
Speaker 2: And he's like diet and like giggling, and Tania is like,
Speaker 2: what wait, what you heard about you listen to the podcast?
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm sorry, nobody in this family's let
Speaker 1: us to the podcast.
Speaker 2: And Robbie's like, Dad, you're not allowed to listen to
Speaker 2: the podcast. And he's like, I'm a scrubber. He's like,
Speaker 2: it's the best podcast. I'm a number one scrubber.
Speaker 1: Like what does that even mean?
Speaker 2: And Robby's like, no, he means he just listened to
Speaker 2: the one that I was on. And he's like, no, no,
Speaker 2: I've listened to since the beginning. So we did a
Speaker 2: whole toast where we cheered to him being a.
Speaker 1: Scrubber and he's a doctor and so he was like,
Speaker 1: I am a scrubber. That signs off I'm the scrubber.
Speaker 1: I can't remember something what he said, but it was
Speaker 1: really really funny.
Speaker 2: So hilarious and unexpected, and I was like, what else
Speaker 2: have you heard on the podcast?
Speaker 1: Me too? I was like, which ones are you listening to?
Speaker 2: Over there? So shout out to our number one scrubber.
Speaker 1: Shout out to my fought nuke soon to be father. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so crazy, it's so crazy. It happened beyoncea era. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he thought I was wearing white a lot before.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, we're never going to see her in
Speaker 2: any other.
Speaker 1: Colors. What are those.
Speaker 2: All right? We are back. So Mark went to the
Speaker 2: Facebook group to see if anyone had any questions for
Speaker 2: you about the day, about the proposal, how you're feeling.
Speaker 1: So he's going to read some of those that we got.
Speaker 4: Okay, yeah, let's see I just posted this, so we'll see.
Speaker 4: Did Becker know before we covered that? How did you
Speaker 4: keep it a secret all week? That is impressive? And yeah,
Speaker 4: that is that is not your style.
Speaker 1: I wanted it. It's more like I wanted to be honest.
Speaker 1: I wanted to look through all the photos and kind
Speaker 1: of like be in it because I did blackout and
Speaker 1: so I wanted to like rewatch the video. And you know,
Speaker 1: I was working a lot, like Mondays and Tuesdays are
Speaker 1: my busiest work days, and so I just I knew
Speaker 1: it was going to be rushed, and I didn't want
Speaker 1: to just like rush it. This was like such a
Speaker 1: big deal, so I wanted to look at everything. I
Speaker 1: wanted to like hear what he said when he proposed again,
Speaker 1: I wanted to see everybody come like I wanted to
Speaker 1: kind of like actually experience it without the blackout. So
Speaker 1: that's kind of why I wanted to hold.
Speaker 4: In your parents too, you wanted to spend some time with.
Speaker 1: Your parents, Yeah, because they weren't there, so I wanted
Speaker 1: to kind of like send them photos.
Speaker 4: And there's the middle of the night when this happened
Speaker 4: for them.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was like three o'clock in the morning when
Speaker 1: they were on FaceTime. So I did get to like
Speaker 1: see them, which was special when they got to like
Speaker 1: watch it all. But they weren't you know, they were like.
Speaker 4: Did Robbie talk to your dad beforehand?
Speaker 1: He did? He? I think it was back in May.
Speaker 1: Actually it was one of my parents sold the house
Speaker 1: and we spent that weekend with them. That's when he
Speaker 1: asked for their permission.
Speaker 2: Did you know that? Did you know that he had
Speaker 2: talked to your dad? Uh?
Speaker 1: I knew before the proposal that he had already asked
Speaker 1: for my parents' permission. Yeah, okay, yeah.
Speaker 4: Are you planning a twenty twenty four or a longer engagement?
Speaker 1: Probably twenty twenty four. Obviously nothing's been set yet. But
Speaker 1: we don't want a long engagement, but we don't want like,
Speaker 1: I don't want to do it too quick. I don't
Speaker 1: want to be rushed.
Speaker 4: Lauren asks how many times before this did you think, oh,
Speaker 4: this is it, this is happening right now, this is it?
Speaker 1: Probably one hundred No, let's.
Speaker 2: Literally go through the moments where you're like, this could happen,
Speaker 2: because I know they were like multiple Yeah.
Speaker 1: Well they started in December of last year, so December
Speaker 1: twenty twenty three. Oh wait, twenty twenty two. I thought
Speaker 1: maybe around Christmas time. Then I knew it wasn't gonna
Speaker 1: happen for a little bit until around summer. This summer
Speaker 1: is when I really started to feel it.
Speaker 2: On your trip, definitely in.
Speaker 3: Paris, I had money down on the Paris Yeah, I
Speaker 3: lost money on that.
Speaker 1: Definitely, the Eiffel Tower, I thought for sure. Definitely on
Speaker 1: my birthday, I thought for sure. And there was one
Speaker 1: other There was one other time I thought it was
Speaker 1: for sure happening. No, no, but I acted. I was like,
Speaker 1: you really missed an opportunity here. There was one other
Speaker 1: time I can't remember, but I remember it because anytime
Speaker 1: I would get my hair done, I'd be like, this
Speaker 1: is gonna be my engagement hair.
Speaker 2: That for at least a yeah.
Speaker 1: She was like, Okay, at what point are we gonna
Speaker 1: just do the hair and not have it be the
Speaker 1: engagement hair? And I was like Okay, I guess. And
Speaker 1: actually this last time I went, I was like whatever,
Speaker 1: and it happened. Maybe this is life wor yes, I
Speaker 1: literally was like whatever. I can't keep like bleaching my
Speaker 1: roots every time I come in here. So I was like, whatever,
Speaker 1: just do what you need. And this is the time
Speaker 1: I got engaged.
Speaker 2: Wait did you when for the ring? Did you know
Speaker 2: that he had the ring.
Speaker 1: Before we got proposed, before he proposed?
Speaker 2: Yeah? Like how long do you know how long he
Speaker 2: had the ring before you propose?
Speaker 1: No? But I don't think for very long.
Speaker 2: Okay, not for like you you knew like the kind
Speaker 2: of the style, or he knew the style that you wanted,
Speaker 2: because y'all had gone to Brilliant Earth and did like the.
Speaker 1: The whole thing.
Speaker 2: Ye.
Speaker 1: Yes, So after I went with you and Paulina, or
Speaker 1: I went with Paulina, and then I went with you
Speaker 1: and Ali ring shopping. Well that was not very productive,
Speaker 1: but I realized I was like, I really don't know
Speaker 1: what I want, Like I was really very stressful and
Speaker 1: so and I think he started a panic because he
Speaker 1: was like, well, if you don't know what you want, like,
Speaker 1: how am I gonna know? You know what I mean?
Speaker 1: And so we just went together to Brilliant Earth and
Speaker 1: like tried on. I can't even tell you how many
Speaker 1: rings I tried on. And so he knew that I
Speaker 1: wanted either an emerald cut or radiant cut. Those were
Speaker 1: like the cuts that I wanted. And then he kind
Speaker 1: of knew like the style that I wanted, So I
Speaker 1: knew it was gonna be a variation of one of these. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but he he chose, He chose, and he chose perfectly.
Speaker 2: It is. Can you maybe hold it up to the
Speaker 2: give crystal something to.
Speaker 1: The thing that I think that he was really adamant.
Speaker 1: He wanted a gold He wanted a gold band just
Speaker 1: around the finger. He wanted like a simple gold band.
Speaker 1: And I love that he put like platinum prongs around it,
Speaker 1: so you can't really see the prongs, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean? They like blend in Anyways, I can't wait
Speaker 1: to get the what's the wedding band that goes with it?
Speaker 2: Just one thing at a time, Tanya, I can't wait
Speaker 2: on the jacket, you know?
Speaker 1: Yeah? No, that like it. It took my life. I
Speaker 1: just again, I was crying like crazy. But when I
Speaker 1: saw it, I like gasped and cried like crazy. All
Speaker 1: my girlfriends came out there, where's the ring?
Speaker 2: Can I play the audio of that moment? Oh? You
Speaker 2: have it well just from the video I made, but
Speaker 2: I I was also going to say that he was
Speaker 2: taking photos holding it open for the photographer. Uh huh,
Speaker 2: and Pauline and I were like like trying to see it,
Speaker 2: and he closed it and he goes Tanya sees it first. Cute.
Speaker 2: We're like, dang, that's really cute.
Speaker 1: I did it was like, where was this? Like where
Speaker 1: did you hide this?
Speaker 2: Okay, here's the audio. So this is Sophia hugging Tanya.
Speaker 1: Wait, it was crazy.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know what kind of girl? Where's that kind
Speaker 2: of ring?
Speaker 1: Cool girl? Cool? But you know what I realized about
Speaker 1: an engagement ring. I'm not used to wearing jewelry just
Speaker 1: in general, and so I don't know where you're supposed
Speaker 1: to shower with your ring? Are you supposed to like
Speaker 1: do dishes with your ring? Are you supposed to work
Speaker 1: out with it?
Speaker 3: Like?
Speaker 1: I don't know the rules. No, see Danielle saying no,
Speaker 1: everybody says, don't take it off, and so I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: but I have been taking it off because I don't
Speaker 1: want to like get it dirty or anything. But then
Speaker 1: I'm scared I'm going to leave it somewhere. So I
Speaker 1: need tips on how to like not lose my ring.
Speaker 1: If anybody knows has little tricks of like little things
Speaker 1: that they leave around the house to put it on
Speaker 1: or put it in. I'm very stressed.
Speaker 2: I'm stressed for you. I don't even like hearing about
Speaker 2: the dishes the disposal.
Speaker 1: But no, I haven't done dishes. I take it off
Speaker 1: and put it but I know, yeah, sorry, scariest thing.
Speaker 4: They're so scary.
Speaker 2: Something stuck down there. I'm like, I know it's off,
Speaker 2: but what if it turns on when I grab this thing? Yeah,
Speaker 2: I can imagine having that on my finger and doing
Speaker 2: dishes confidently.
Speaker 1: No, it's very stress it's very stressful. So I'm trying
Speaker 1: to figure out like a good system to put in
Speaker 1: place so that that she's protected. And I might name
Speaker 1: her too.
Speaker 4: Oh oh yeah, any is that normal?
Speaker 2: Any names that might be a specialty?
Speaker 1: Right there? Let me tell you, guys calling in the one,
Speaker 1: There many leads for the in the one. No, I
Speaker 1: don't know, okay, maybe like mar.
Speaker 2: Man Morri, Yeah, she'd be so honored.
Speaker 4: Uh, there are two questions that everyone's asking. So I'll
Speaker 4: get to those in a second, but first, this is
Speaker 4: a good one from Marina. What advice do you have
Speaker 4: for single women in their mid thirties? What helped you
Speaker 4: stay hopeful?
Speaker 1: I knew the whole time, like I knew I meant
Speaker 1: to be married and have a family, Like it was
Speaker 1: such a strong desire of my heart, So I knew
Speaker 1: that that was gonna come for me. I just was like,
Speaker 1: dear God, how much longer am I gonna have to wait?
Speaker 1: And I feel like the waiting is the worst part.
Speaker 1: So it's like I knew it was gonna happen for
Speaker 1: me at some point, but I'm like, you never know
Speaker 1: it could happen in your forties, fifties, sixties, Like I
Speaker 1: had no idea. So knowing that it was gonna happen
Speaker 1: for me made me feel good in that, But it
Speaker 1: freaking sucks, like it's I would go through lolls you
Speaker 1: beca knows like I would go through lolls where I
Speaker 1: was just like, I can't do this anymore. I don't
Speaker 1: want to do this anymore, Like when is enough enough?
Speaker 1: Are there any good guys out there?
Speaker 2: I even think like in the process of waiting with Robbie.
Speaker 2: I think it was so important that you had a
Speaker 2: partner who was able to reassure you even when you
Speaker 2: felt like frustrated and you were tired of waiting. It
Speaker 2: was like he you never felt like he didn't see
Speaker 2: the future with you. It was just like timing. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and I think you that was like a lesson of patience,
Speaker 2: which you've talked.
Speaker 1: About like love is patient, and my god, I've never
Speaker 1: ever understood that Bible verse more in my life. Love
Speaker 1: is patient, love is kind. I was just like, why
Speaker 1: is patient the first word the Bible uses to describe love?
Speaker 1: And now I know. And it was kind of the
Speaker 1: push and pull of our relationship the entire time. I
Speaker 1: was ready and he wasn't, And so it was me
Speaker 1: being patient with him, him giving me grace and my impatience.
Speaker 1: But it all, it all worked out the way that
Speaker 1: it was supposed to do. Definitely not seamless, that's for sure.
Speaker 4: All right, here are the two questions everyone wants to know.
Speaker 4: First one is when are you moving out of your apartment?
Speaker 4: When are you getting rid of it? When are you
Speaker 4: officially moving in?
Speaker 1: You know what's crazy, there's this weird thing about giving
Speaker 1: up my apartment. That feels like I'm I'm giving up
Speaker 1: my independence, you know what I mean, Like, Oh, I don't.
Speaker 2: Know what I get that. I think it's what Carry Bradshaw.
Speaker 4: Went through is very much a cairy thing.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like it was so important for me to live alone,
Speaker 1: have my own space, be able to do it by myself,
Speaker 1: for myself. And I had that, and now to give
Speaker 1: it away, it just feels like I'm close. And I
Speaker 1: know I'm closing a chapter and I'm entering a new chapter.
Speaker 1: And it obviously makes sense, but it's a really weird
Speaker 1: feeling because I feel like I'm officially like closing the
Speaker 1: door of my independence in a weird way.
Speaker 2: I think it's more so closing the door of being
Speaker 2: a single woman. I don't think your independence goes when
Speaker 2: you get engaged or married. I think you keep that, yeah,
Speaker 2: but I think you merge your life together with someone.
Speaker 2: That's what this commitment is, you know, it's the merging
Speaker 2: of a life together. And I think that's what you've
Speaker 2: wanted and waited for. And I think being able to say,
Speaker 2: like I did have that time, I did have my
Speaker 2: own apartment, I did have my own space, and now
Speaker 2: I've merged my life with someone is like the goal
Speaker 2: that you meet.
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, but it is weird because I do mourn
Speaker 1: that life a little bit, Like it's weird. I was
Speaker 1: talking to my therapist about it because I was like,
Speaker 1: I have wanted this my whole life, and I'm so
Speaker 1: happy and I'm so excited, but it's like at the
Speaker 1: exact same time, I'm feeling this weird feeling of I,
Speaker 1: you know, like that my apartment is everything, that every
Speaker 1: morsel of whatever is in that apartment is what I want,
Speaker 1: how I want, when I want. I slept where I
Speaker 1: wanted when I wanted to wake up, and like that's
Speaker 1: not my life anymore, do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: And it's beautiful and I love my life now, but
Speaker 1: it's like I don't know, it's I'm definitely gonna do
Speaker 1: some weird ceremony when I leave that place.
Speaker 2: Like, well, if you ever need to just come and
Speaker 2: sleep where you want and wake up when you want,
Speaker 2: you can come to my house. Thank you need.
Speaker 1: That, No, when I can, like again, like I know,
Speaker 1: but like waking me up.
Speaker 2: But it's a different life that you're entering, and I
Speaker 2: think to want that every now and then is okay,
Speaker 2: But I think it's also it's very beautifully symbolic of
Speaker 2: the chapter of your life that you're in during that
Speaker 2: that part, it's like, Okay, you you served me, Like
Speaker 2: you served what I needed to know, and.
Speaker 1: Like that apartment is where we spent all of our quarantine,
Speaker 1: and like it's really symbolic for our relationships. So it's
Speaker 1: gonna be like I think we're definitely gonna have one
Speaker 1: last hurrah there, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: Okay, and then you're taking the furniture to his place
Speaker 2: and kind of gonna refurnish and we're not packing up
Speaker 2: that stuff.
Speaker 1: By the way. Oh yeah, I was supposed to do
Speaker 1: this week, but I don't know. I was getting engaged.
Speaker 2: Hello, I know, I just thought about that when I
Speaker 2: was like, did he come by and I missed Tony's
Speaker 2: taking some of my old stuff?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I am. But I got engaged on Sunday.
Speaker 2: So she's been busy.
Speaker 1: I've been not really.
Speaker 2: Busy, just distracted, busy in the head.
Speaker 1: Busy in the head, but I kind of always am.
Speaker 2: Yeah a lot.
Speaker 4: It was sweet from Miranda. She said, I've never cried
Speaker 4: more tears of a joy for a couple I don't
Speaker 4: even know.
Speaker 2: It's so weird. Don't you feel weird when people say that?
Speaker 2: Because it's in my mind, I'm like, but you do
Speaker 2: know her? But then I'm like, I guess you don't.
Speaker 2: But it feels like.
Speaker 1: I got the sweetest message from a friend of mine
Speaker 1: that was like, you, she's still single, and she was
Speaker 1: just like, I just want you to know that you
Speaker 1: portray or not portray, you are a symbol of like
Speaker 1: a single woman that never settled, that never gave up,
Speaker 1: and that always had faith and it's turned out amazing,
Speaker 1: like you have your happy ending. And she's like, it's
Speaker 1: such a important thing for me to see as like
Speaker 1: a single woman and like you've you've created this whole thing.
Speaker 1: I don't know, it's just like a really I'm obviously
Speaker 1: butchering it, but it's a really beautiful message and it
Speaker 1: made me feel some type of way because it is
Speaker 1: pretty crazy and I think back on like, oh, like
Speaker 1: think about it, mister Wilsher, doctor, w h doctor, FaceTime
Speaker 1: or screen time, my Arizona guy, all the things. It's like, yeah,
Speaker 1: what's his name? Post malone?
Speaker 2: Mister Tippler, who is no post malone?
Speaker 4: I get confused. Because Secrets has names for these guys
Speaker 4: and the podcast.
Speaker 1: Oh oh what did we call him on here? Something nice?
Speaker 1: Because he was a good one.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we liked him and then we didn't. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess forget. It's a lot like it's like,
Speaker 1: it's actually a lot of guys. I went through them.
Speaker 2: You went on a lot of dates. I mean that
Speaker 2: was that was the time of your life? Were you?
Speaker 2: I mean that's I think that's true to when people ask, like,
Speaker 2: what what do you say to someone in the thirties,
Speaker 2: It's like, you put in the you put in your time. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I said yes to all the guys and went out
Speaker 1: with anything that breathed, and not a lot of double
Speaker 1: date like second dates, but a lot of first dates.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Oh man, it's a numbers game. It's a numbers game. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Eventually, if you're putting yourself out there, correct.
Speaker 4: I'm still I'm still I'm getting to the most commonly
Speaker 4: asked question. I'll get to that.
Speaker 1: Okay, what's the most commonly asked question. I'll get to
Speaker 1: that end.
Speaker 2: I wanted to talk about We talked about this a
Speaker 2: little bit this morning, but Robbie, Dad, Robbie is like,
Speaker 2: it makes me want to cry every time I even
Speaker 2: think about it, because he is so present in their
Speaker 2: lives and you can feel it so much like when you.
Speaker 2: I don't I don't know if you're around a lot
Speaker 2: of other kids, but I've been around like different versions
Speaker 2: of different kids and ages and stuff. His boys are
Speaker 2: just like so kind and funny and like I know
Speaker 2: how to speak to adults.
Speaker 1: It's like really cute.
Speaker 2: But Robbie is a dad. He cares so much about
Speaker 2: them and how they've processed this part of y'all's life. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and you were giving a speech at this champagne toast
Speaker 2: and he Sebby came up, the youngest and came up
Speaker 2: and hugged you, and Robbie just it was like tears
Speaker 2: in his eyes, and I was like, what a beautiful
Speaker 2: I mean, that's got to be something that you see
Speaker 2: that you're like, wow, I mean yes.
Speaker 1: The thing with Robbie is he is so intentional, and
Speaker 1: I think that's why he is the way that he is,
Speaker 1: Like he will not make a single move in his
Speaker 1: life without thinking through every single little detail. And it
Speaker 1: like it's very apparent with the kids, like he is
Speaker 1: very thoughtful, intentional, every word everything we do. When we
Speaker 1: do it is all really really thought out and with
Speaker 1: their best interests at heart, and so yeah, it makes
Speaker 1: me emotional too because he cares about them so much.
Speaker 1: And I feel like the way we approached everything with
Speaker 1: the kids, it was not necessarily the way I wanted to,
Speaker 1: Like I wanted to meet them within two months of dating,
Speaker 1: and he was like, no way, you know, And so
Speaker 1: the way that we did everything was very, very slow
Speaker 1: and intentional and thoughtful. But I feel like we're at
Speaker 1: a place now where because of the way that we
Speaker 1: did it, it's a beautiful relationship. I didn't force myself
Speaker 1: on them. It was like a slow roll. And I
Speaker 1: don't try to parent them, like I'm not trying to
Speaker 1: be a parent. I try and be a friend obviously
Speaker 1: a little bit of a disciplinarian if I'm there, you know,
Speaker 1: like put your food in the kitchen and stuff like that,
Speaker 1: but I'm not like grounding them. They didn't really get
Speaker 1: grounded or anything. But I'm not really parenting. I'm I'm
Speaker 1: just being a friend and a thoughtful, caring, loving person
Speaker 1: in their lives. And I think that it's come a
Speaker 1: really really long way because having them be a they
Speaker 1: were part of the lie. Like and now I think
Speaker 1: back on it and I'm like, they were telling me, Yeah,
Speaker 1: we have this school project and we have to you know,
Speaker 1: interview me, me and Papa June for school and we're
Speaker 1: gonna wear this outfit. And like they were like fully
Speaker 1: in on it. They knew what was going on. So
Speaker 1: the fact that they were involved, they knew. They came
Speaker 1: running out, they were happy. They they got Sonny ready
Speaker 1: like they did all hurt the stuff for Sunny. Like,
Speaker 1: it's just cute that they were like involved in there
Speaker 1: and sweet and happy. Yeah, it was amazing and I
Speaker 1: love that.
Speaker 2: In the caption that y'all posted, Robbie said, like I
Speaker 2: come in a package of three, you know, like acknowledging
Speaker 2: that is such.
Speaker 4: A How did he phrase it?
Speaker 2: Uh?
Speaker 1: He said something like, oh, I'm a three heart package something. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Like it's not it's not just me. I'm a three
Speaker 1: heart package. Yeah.
Speaker 4: So many questions coming and you know what kind of
Speaker 4: wedding you're going to have? Big small?
Speaker 1: Oh, I was like mountain chic. Honestly, No, we've like
Speaker 1: talked about it. Uh, we've talked about it. We've made
Speaker 1: a short list, but like only once and this was
Speaker 1: even before we were engaged, So I have no idea.
Speaker 4: Was there a moment when you knew he was the one?
Speaker 4: Was there a specific moment where you felt like, oh boy.
Speaker 1: This is yes, Okay, when I got the vagina tingles.
Speaker 4: First kiss, you knew he was it? You were done?
Speaker 1: If I'm being honest, If I'm being honest.
Speaker 2: Yeah, what about something that wasn't a physical reaction, like
Speaker 2: a deep emotional where you were like wow, like I.
Speaker 1: Some would argue that the physical is triggered by the emotional.
Speaker 2: This feels like it was pretty just physical. Oh, it
Speaker 2: feels like a very physical reaction. What happened to you?
Speaker 1: How did I When did I know? Uh? Pretty soon
Speaker 1: into like quarantine. I think when I told him that
Speaker 1: I loved him, which is like around May we met November,
Speaker 1: I kind of felt like he was it. But it's
Speaker 1: kind of a lame answer.
Speaker 2: No, I think that I just didn't know. Like I
Speaker 2: have a moment on the where I was on the
Speaker 2: beach with Haley like two weeks after we met, And
Speaker 2: I remember two weeks you knew not like no, sorry,
Speaker 2: not like oh, this is the person going to spend
Speaker 2: my life with. But where I was like, I'm in
Speaker 2: love with this person. And I was like, I remember
Speaker 2: just like us looking at each other, and she had
Speaker 2: the same feeling. Like it was just like a moment
Speaker 2: that I can't describe anything else to it. So I
Speaker 2: didn't know if you had that moment outside of the
Speaker 2: vagina tingles, the VTS, the vts, if you were like,
Speaker 2: had a moment where you were doing something like simple
Speaker 2: you know, yeah, you know.
Speaker 1: What's interesting and like what I'm so excited about. And
Speaker 1: this is gonna sound so lame, but I was like,
Speaker 1: I love the fact that I get to like sleep
Speaker 1: next to you every night, and I actually just love
Speaker 1: doing life with him. You know, we have very similar
Speaker 1: We like to live the same way, we like to
Speaker 1: spend our days doing the same stuff, we like to
Speaker 1: eat the same way. Like we very are soulmates in
Speaker 1: that way, you know what I mean, Like we just
Speaker 1: love being together and like the fact that we get
Speaker 1: to be together every day and sleep in the same
Speaker 1: bed is like the craziest thing.
Speaker 2: Sleepovers forever, sleepovers forever.
Speaker 1: It's the best thing ever.
Speaker 4: All right, you ready, as we're wrapping up here we go, Yeah,
Speaker 4: there's gonna be that's right. The most commonly asked question
Speaker 4: on the scrubbing in Facebook group.
Speaker 2: I'm ready for that. I know, I know, I'm gonna
Speaker 2: guess before the question. The most commonly asked question, I
Speaker 2: don't know what it is. Mark's looking at the screen.
Speaker 2: That's who is the maid of honor? That that's the question.
Speaker 4: Everybody wants to know that. So, Tanya, who is the
Speaker 4: maid of honor?
Speaker 1: I meanven started planning the wooding, Oh cop on.
Speaker 4: It should be so simple, shouldn't it.
Speaker 2: No, it's not. We actually, Paulina and I discussed it
Speaker 2: at the Champagne toast and we were like, I'm I'm
Speaker 2: down to be like just dual made of honor duties,
Speaker 2: Like even if like one person is the title, then
Speaker 2: we both like, you know, just do you know our
Speaker 2: own thing? Wow, you've made this a competition more than
Speaker 2: we have.
Speaker 1: There's a competition. What if we throw my sister in
Speaker 1: there too, you know, then.
Speaker 2: There's three that's my dream. We need your sister to
Speaker 2: balance me. Very true.
Speaker 4: Sister is the easy one. That way, you don't have
Speaker 4: to make a decision because they can't argue with your
Speaker 4: sister being you're maid.
Speaker 1: Of hont But I can't put that on her.
Speaker 2: Well, we understand that that would be the title and
Speaker 2: we would take on the duties.
Speaker 1: Oh got it? Yeah, Like I can't put that on her.
Speaker 2: Was my sister's made of honor. I'm sure she has
Speaker 2: high regrets because I was like nineteen and couldn't do
Speaker 2: anything say with me.
Speaker 1: That's what I w I was hers. I was like twenty.
Speaker 2: I don't sorry, you want to redo that?
Speaker 1: So yeah, yeah, we we.
Speaker 2: Can handle not having the title if you want to,
Speaker 2: but everybody can.
Speaker 1: Just needs a holder horses, because I do want to,
Speaker 1: Like I don't I'm just going to ask people to
Speaker 1: do things. I'm going to like do a whole ceremony.
Speaker 1: You think I'm just gonna say, hey, you want to
Speaker 1: be my bridesmaid like show?
Speaker 2: Maybe you do like like an amaze erase or survivor
Speaker 2: type thing that we battle it out for.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, could you imagine? I would love that actually.
Speaker 2: But it's like bridal things.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Can we end with Tanya's announcement that she has a
Speaker 4: boyfriend back in twenty twenty when he became.
Speaker 2: Her boyfriend on the podcast.
Speaker 4: This is from the Morning Show and this was the
Speaker 4: song she did And I think it's so fun.
Speaker 2: He shows up.
Speaker 1: I got no doubt. I have a boyfriend. Holy wow,
Speaker 1: how we meet Jimee. That's how I have a boyfriend.
Speaker 4: Holy cow.
Speaker 1: Wow. Yeah, that's a ball. I have a fiance.
Speaker 2: We should rewrite it to like a new song.
Speaker 1: Yeah with fiance, Margert he kind of did, oh well.
Speaker 4: I like in Dance the Night Away, you could do
Speaker 4: something like, uh, I'm a gage, I'm a fiance.
Speaker 1: Mamma in yeah the fiance.
Speaker 2: I like that.
Speaker 1: Wow.
Speaker 2: Well, scrubbers.
Speaker 1: By the way, everything I do now I do with
Speaker 1: my left hand, and I'm like my computer and I'm
Speaker 1: like doing my laundry with Ralph?
Speaker 4: Which of these apples?
Speaker 1: Which one of these is good? Driving my car?
Speaker 2: Like I get it.
Speaker 1: Maren's full full throttle.
Speaker 2: There's gotta be some way we can get in contact
Speaker 2: with Maren Morris to let her know that the rock
Speaker 2: is named Maren. Yeah, congratulations than you. I speak for
Speaker 2: everybody when I say we could not be happier for
Speaker 2: you and Robbie.
Speaker 1: I'm literally in the clouds. I hope I never come
Speaker 1: off as high. I better eventually will, but I like,
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm out of my body. It's like
Speaker 1: the best feeling ever.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we love you. We're so happy for you, and
Speaker 2: no one deserves it more.
Speaker 1: And we're just going to keep celebrat. I mean every
Speaker 1: week we'll just yeah. Now, Yeah, there's so much planning
Speaker 1: to do, Like I don't even know, Like honestly, I
Speaker 1: don't even know how to plan a wedding. I'm like,
Speaker 1: what do I pick a date? Do I?
Speaker 4: I think that's step one?
Speaker 2: I do think a venue? Do I pick a service?
Speaker 1: I got the guy?
Speaker 4: Step two?
Speaker 1: Like it's very overwhelming, Like I just don't know the
Speaker 1: steps of it, Like I need to read like Bride
Speaker 1: one oh one or some Actually.
Speaker 4: I think picking the venues first because they're going to
Speaker 4: have the dates available in some day it's not available,
Speaker 4: so maybe your dream venue is.
Speaker 1: Then how do you know about like weather like.
Speaker 4: California, You're probably fine as long as you don't do
Speaker 4: it in February.
Speaker 6: It depends what's most important? Is the date most important
Speaker 6: or the venue and then you have to go that route.
Speaker 4: Danielle Romo, producer extraordinaire.
Speaker 6: Who has in fact married is Mary back to your
Speaker 6: ring question, do not work out with it?
Speaker 4: Really?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 6: Especially since like you don't have any hardware around that rock,
Speaker 6: like you will bang it up and you'll like mess
Speaker 6: it up. So don't you can't do that. You can't.
Speaker 6: So my rule is, whenever you take it off, always
Speaker 6: take it off in the same spot so you don't
Speaker 6: lose it. So you always know. Okay, if my ring's
Speaker 6: not on my finger.
Speaker 1: It's in it's it's yeah, yeah, it's in its home. Okay.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 3: Has a lot of good advice on how not to
Speaker 3: lose a ring is Dean Ungler. We should call him.
Speaker 2: Oh my even I can't even talk to him about
Speaker 2: that hilarious. Is it funny for Kaylin?
Speaker 1: No, it's not funny. It's not funny. It's not funny.
Speaker 1: And I don't want to lose this this maren So. No,
Speaker 1: I was gonna keep her on my finger.
Speaker 2: Do you have a time of year that you envision
Speaker 2: a wedding A sap?
Speaker 1: Yeah, you said you don't want to do what it is.
Speaker 1: I mean, look, I don't want to be rushed. I
Speaker 1: definitely want to feel like I'm scrambling to get a
Speaker 1: wedding done, but I definitely want like a long you know,
Speaker 1: somebody like oh twenty twenty five, Like no, yeah, So
Speaker 1: somewhere in the middle.
Speaker 2: Okay, are you ready for it?
Speaker 1: I'm already. May.
Speaker 2: Don't do it in.
Speaker 1: May because you're a bride. You're made of honor.
Speaker 2: I'm made of honor.
Speaker 1: That's gonna just so. If I get married in April,
Speaker 1: that will also.
Speaker 2: Be very stressful. But I can we can do it.
Speaker 1: We can do it.
Speaker 2: If that's your dream, we can do that. Okay, we
Speaker 2: can make.
Speaker 1: Whatever work I'm thinking after May?
Speaker 4: Great?
Speaker 2: Yeah, perfect, all right, that's all. If we miss anything,
Speaker 2: you can message us and we'll we'll be back next week.
Speaker 4: Yeah, coming back at some point.
Speaker 2: Ready, stay tuned. This might just be a wedding podcast.
Speaker 1: Now. A lot to do, there's like a lot. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I didn't realize that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's why people do year plus engagements because there's
Speaker 4: so much to do.
Speaker 2: Right, and I'm not sure I enjoy this from a
Speaker 2: find a photographer and videographer that you like because that
Speaker 2: I will be busy that day. That's true.
Speaker 1: All right.
Speaker 2: We love you somebody, I love you.
Speaker 5: You m