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Speaker 1: Time now for the today's Strawberry Letter. If you need

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Speaker 1: advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more, please

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Speaker 1: your letter just like we're gonna read this one right here,

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Speaker 1: right now. Bugle hold on tight. We gotta fire you

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Speaker 1: Strawberry letter. All right, here we go. Subject I'm starving

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Speaker 1: and I need a larger portion. Dear Stephen Shirley, I've

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Speaker 1: been in a relationship for a little over a year

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Speaker 1: with a wonderful man that I met online. We're both

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Speaker 1: in our forties and never been married. He is on

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Speaker 1: with women. So I was patient with him and he

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Speaker 1: tried anything new on his own. I encouraged him to

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Speaker 1: but instead I told him that sometimes it's good to

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Speaker 1: and on top of that, he's not that well endowed,

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Speaker 1: so I always end up starving for a larger portion

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Speaker 1: to feast on. I know this is something we can

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Speaker 1: him and get him to be more open minded. I

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Speaker 1: and when he interacts with his friends, but he turns

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Speaker 1: I release my inner beast and show him what I

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Speaker 1: in the bed telling him what to do. We're compatible

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Speaker 1: in every other area. Please advise, drill sergeant m nah,

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Speaker 1: I don't necessarily advise you'd be you know that you're

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Speaker 1: you know, me a turn off because men have really

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Speaker 1: fragile egos. You know you're yelling at him, do this,

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Speaker 1: do that? You know, and based on what you said

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Speaker 1: in the letter, that's not working anyway, So it might

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Speaker 1: be time to switch your game up. I don't think

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Speaker 1: you could take him too fast. I think you know

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Speaker 1: his pace is quite different from yours. You mentioned in

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Speaker 1: he hasn't had much experience, so he's shy. I think

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Speaker 1: demanding that he watched porn and and do like those

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Speaker 1: for him. So that's not it. I think in spite

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Speaker 1: of all this, you did put some work in. You

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Speaker 1: got him to finally loosen up, you know, and do

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Speaker 1: the things you taught him. But now you're mad because

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Speaker 1: not that guy. Maybe he's just not that guy, and

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Speaker 1: maybe maybe he never will be. I think you need

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Speaker 1: to be a lot more patient with him, except him

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Speaker 1: That's if you're planning on staying with him, and it

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Speaker 1: sounds like you are. You said you think you can

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Speaker 1: You have to compliment him and what he's doing, right,

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Speaker 1: You got to tell him how it makes you feel,

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Speaker 1: tell him you know the things that you like. Continue

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Speaker 1: to do that and ask him what he likes. You

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Speaker 1: didn't even mention anything about that in the letter, because

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Speaker 1: you know, just because you have more experience than a

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Speaker 1: man and all that, that doesn't mean that you're satisfying him.

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Speaker 1: That doesn't mean that necessarily if this doesn't get you

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Speaker 1: well look at him. Well I see this letter a

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Speaker 1: little bit differently. First of all, Shelly's advice was very

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Speaker 1: I've kind of read letter a little bit different some

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Speaker 1: time because I don't really care. You both in your forties,

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Speaker 1: they've never been mad, right there? Why? Why why both

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Speaker 1: something wrong with both of y'all. He too damn shine,

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Speaker 1: You too damn much. Yep, that's what it is. Yep,

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Speaker 1: you've been too much your whole damn life. That's why

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Speaker 1: And now y'all menage your own line, and now y'all

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Speaker 1: trying to make it work. When we met, I could

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Speaker 1: everybody more laid back in you probably, And he didn't

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Speaker 1: have much experience with women. Ain't no whole body gonna

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Speaker 1: have all the experience you gotta sound like. I was

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Speaker 1: patient with him and started he started opening up more.

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Speaker 1: as I am. Well that was good. You had to

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Speaker 1: teach him everything and train him high like it? Oh okay,

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Speaker 1: Or you're a trainer now, Oh oh I see, Oh

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Speaker 1: oh you're a trainer now, oh you makes people better

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Speaker 1: see something in this letter right here. He did everything

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Speaker 1: just like I taught him, but he ain't tried anything

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Speaker 1: All this you showed him, this is brand new. So

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Speaker 1: it ain't that he ain't trying that new. He trying

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Speaker 1: to perfect what he just learned from Who to train him? Girl?

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Speaker 1: You something else when I come back. I got plenty

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Speaker 1: more where that came from just sitting tight. Steve Harvey

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Speaker 1: on five is Morning. Yes you are see. We'll have

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Speaker 1: part two of your response coming up at twenty three

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Speaker 1: minutes after the hour. I'm starving and I need a

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Speaker 1: You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's Strawberry letters. Subject I'm starving and I

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Speaker 1: need a larger portion. Well, I was on commercial break

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Speaker 1: and I'm doing the letter and someone was brought to

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Speaker 1: I know it's a lot of forty year old women

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Speaker 1: being made. But your aunt saying a sex trainer too,

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Speaker 1: And that's what this letter is about. A sex trainer

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Speaker 1: and a sex student. That's what this letter is about.

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Speaker 1: So if you're in your forties, you don't have to

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Speaker 1: to what the hell I was saying. Now, she didn't

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Speaker 1: And he didn't done everything she said. The problem is

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Speaker 1: he ain't tried nothing new. But now, like I told you, Earlien,

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Speaker 1: didn't taught you what he knows, so you told him,

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Speaker 1: you said, I encourage him to watch a few videos

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Speaker 1: to yell at him, Joe, what they't do? Him? To take?

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Speaker 1: And that's their drill searching voice. Yeah, baby, I don't

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Speaker 1: and they disrespect with his body. That's what I want, baby,

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Speaker 1: Listen to me. I don't want to be to go.

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Speaker 1: What the damn pay that? I want some clip me allver?

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Speaker 1: Throw me in the float? The hell you think I

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Speaker 1: and there talking about it's true much. It ain't truth

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Speaker 1: damn much. You ain't enough. See that's the problem we

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Speaker 1: to do? Now here? And he got another problem too,

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Speaker 1: what's that he's not that well? And dial there you

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Speaker 1: larger portion. See in other words, well, no matter what

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Speaker 1: So let me just go on and give you some suggestions,

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Speaker 1: because you seem like you everywhere. So why don't you

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Speaker 1: Just things like that. Oh yeah, go outside and ball.

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Speaker 1: what this is a cheaper you don't need this don't

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Speaker 1: bring a massage table in there. That don't cost him up.

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Speaker 1: You know, Buy a book call sex for Dumbies. You

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Speaker 1: know they got the dummy books for everything. If you

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Speaker 1: Q grial rat just a rat. I don't know what

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Speaker 1: got an idea, because you seem like a real wild girl. Girl,

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Speaker 1: go down now and buy yourself a Politis machine and

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Speaker 1: bring that damn thinking that and strap your ass on

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Speaker 1: that and watch what happened then the burn. Yeah, you've

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Speaker 1: Now we're compatible in every other area, please advise. So

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Speaker 1: now let me say this, t system. You don't met

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Speaker 1: a man that's great in every area. Treat you like

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Speaker 1: a queen. Y'all talk, y'all, have a great time. He

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Speaker 1: some big man dingo up in there. Do all of that.

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Speaker 1: Fry your bacon like you wanted fried, you know, rub it,

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