WEBVTT - "The Breakup Expert" with Giulia Rozzi

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, Hello, Hello, Hello.

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<v Speaker 2>Welcome to the Unofficial Expert Podcast with Sydney and Marie.

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<v Speaker 1>Hi, guys, Hello Sidney, what's up?

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<v Speaker 2>How you doing? Oh I'm good. I'm tired. I'm like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>you came in real. I want to say cranky, but like,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not. I'm not a morning person. I'm not listen

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<v Speaker 2>two o'clock that's when i'm my best me. Before that,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, Okay, what are we doing. Let's hurry up

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<v Speaker 2>because I'm tired. What were you doing at two o'clock

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<v Speaker 2>last night? I went to bed, Matt early.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just tired.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like a tired person. You know, there's such a

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<v Speaker 2>thing as getting too much sleep, right, Like that's a thing. Well,

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<v Speaker 2>I biked all day yesterday, so I was tired from that.

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<v Speaker 2>So I literally got up early, went to brunch with

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<v Speaker 2>the bike, went to a show with the bike.

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<v Speaker 1>The bike.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm like, this bike thing is annoying, but it's good.

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<v Speaker 2>I need it because I need the cardio. I mean also,

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<v Speaker 2>your legs, I mean your legs are already good, so

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<v Speaker 2>I can't really see a difference, but.

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<v Speaker 1>They just look like you had good legs before.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but I need the cardio. I need to get

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<v Speaker 2>my you had good legs and crappy cardio. Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 2>need to get the blood flowing. I need to make

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<v Speaker 2>sure my legs are not itching. Walk. No, they don't.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm doing a good job for myself. So some

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<v Speaker 2>of y'all listening might not know this, but like sometimes

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<v Speaker 2>people who are not as active as others, when they

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<v Speaker 2>start to walk or they try to.

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<v Speaker 1>Run, their legs start eaching.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's legit just the blood circulating in your legs.

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<v Speaker 1>Like wait, what we stand and move forward? Mind you?

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, oh, I think I have like the

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<v Speaker 2>hives or I feel like I have like a skin

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<v Speaker 2>skin rest. Sydney would be like I didn't put any

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<v Speaker 2>lotion on today, and I'm like, dude, it's inside, it's

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<v Speaker 2>underneath the ash. But now we know that it's because

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<v Speaker 2>you know she won't really be walking you you walk

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<v Speaker 2>to Ubers. Well, no, I'm actually I don't itch anymore

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<v Speaker 2>because I'm being more active. So I'm doing great gay

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<v Speaker 2>stuff for myself. That's beautiful. I'm glad because I would

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<v Speaker 2>walk with you, and remember we try to go to

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<v Speaker 2>the park for a run and you were.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, just go on without me.

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like, it was so sad. And then

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<v Speaker 2>we went to your sister's boot camp on Saturday and

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<v Speaker 2>I could not keep up. I literally felt like I

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<v Speaker 2>was gonna faint. And then all these people in the

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<v Speaker 2>park were like, well, she's the thinnest one.

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<v Speaker 1>Why is she not She looks so in shape, and

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<v Speaker 1>it's like, nah, dude.

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<v Speaker 2>I was doing crunches and I needed like modified everything

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<v Speaker 2>pig her body. I could not. I was like, I

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<v Speaker 2>got a lot of weights, you couldn't crack. I had

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<v Speaker 2>a wig on, so the wig was heavy as well.

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<v Speaker 2>I was working out with a wig. So listen, if

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<v Speaker 2>anybody's interested in coming to the boot camp, it's nine

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<v Speaker 2>am every Saturday at Washington Square Park. Yeah, it's great

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<v Speaker 2>in Manhattan. Don't wear a wig to boot camp. Please

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<v Speaker 2>don't because I feel like that's added weight. It's so

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<v Speaker 2>much weight, not ready to sweat.

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<v Speaker 1>The wig gets heavy.

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<v Speaker 2>And she had a hat on. I had a hat on.

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<v Speaker 2>And then we had to run laps and I was like, oh, eight,

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<v Speaker 2>all eight, and then no that we had to run

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<v Speaker 2>extra because y'all were late. Yeah, that's so fuck that

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<v Speaker 2>boot camp ship. It should be for every man's for itself.

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<v Speaker 2>Like that. Why the whole group gotta suffer because of

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<v Speaker 2>a late bitch. I know they should have made y'all

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<v Speaker 2>run the ten and let me just run a cool eight.

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<v Speaker 2>I said, y'all could leave me, leave it, just leave

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<v Speaker 2>without me, go on with it, go on without me anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>That was that's what we're doing.

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<v Speaker 2>Uh. We were getting our summer bodies right for the fall. Nah,

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<v Speaker 2>my shit's gonna be ready by the winter time. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>gonna have a twelve pack when it's like two degrees outside.

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<v Speaker 1>Watch under a bubble coat. Watch, I'm gonna.

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<v Speaker 2>Have a midriff on and it's gonna be like a

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<v Speaker 2>blizzard going on. You're gonna right underneath my bubble coat.

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<v Speaker 2>It's gonna you know, you're gonna have like a like

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<v Speaker 2>a half bubble coat.

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<v Speaker 1>Like a hood rat.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, a baby fat. I might have a little

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<v Speaker 2>baby fat, a white baby fat with like with the

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<v Speaker 2>for her with the rat horse for like a blend

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<v Speaker 2>with the squirrel, a blend with like some pigeon. Oh man,

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<v Speaker 2>I having like pigeon feathers and duck. Okay, I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>pigeons don't have her. But Sidney, what the hell were

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<v Speaker 2>you an expert in this week. Well, I finally cooked

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<v Speaker 2>for my girlfriend for the first time in three years,

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<v Speaker 2>for the first time, I made lasagna. And now I

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<v Speaker 2>made breakfast, And now what did you make for breakfast?

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like you made peeb and J's or nah, girl,

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<v Speaker 2>I made like a cute little like roasted tomatoes with

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<v Speaker 2>like a garlic and cheese, Like it sounds like blended

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<v Speaker 2>ches tomato and half threw some cheese on top and

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<v Speaker 2>then like threw a garlic at it. But your basic

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<v Speaker 2>basified my ship. Don't make it basic. It was cute

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<v Speaker 2>the season, it was great. I made turkey bacon. I

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<v Speaker 2>put it in the oven, so it was like.

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<v Speaker 1>Dude, just threw everything in the pan and then cooked.

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<v Speaker 2>You're fucking hat, Listen, this is what this is the

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<v Speaker 2>moves that I'm making in a relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>So last night I made tacos.

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<v Speaker 2>I made ground turkey tacos and shredded chicken tacos or whatever,

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<v Speaker 2>and it was so freaking good that I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>these are for her. You said it was so freaking good, Well,

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<v Speaker 2>you have your girlfriend here to talk about. She took

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<v Speaker 2>some for tour. They were good.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, she does wanted that stuff atter her house.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I bought everything the same day fresh from Key Foods,

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<v Speaker 2>so you know it goes bad the next day, so

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<v Speaker 2>I definitely had to cook everything right away.

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<v Speaker 1>You made soft tacos, hard tacos. I made both.

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<v Speaker 2>She had options and they were the Accouts Ramonts I had. Obviously,

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<v Speaker 2>we had some tomatoes, We had onions, we had lettuce,

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<v Speaker 2>we had shredded cheese, we had sour cream, we had

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<v Speaker 2>hot sauce, mouthed sauce. Dude, what I feel like, tacos

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<v Speaker 2>is a pretty basic thing to make you just to

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<v Speaker 2>shred the girl in relationship with me. I'm just why

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<v Speaker 2>you I'm cutting my ship down. Did you cook the

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<v Speaker 2>ground turkey or I did? Okay, well then that's cooking.

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<v Speaker 2>And I had the season and everything. Okay, all right,

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<v Speaker 2>so uh stand down, let me live. Adrian was very happy,

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<v Speaker 2>but listen, I hate the tacos, and I was like, man,

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<v Speaker 2>I would want to marry me today.

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<v Speaker 1>She better have a ring ready for you. Thuk, Oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god.

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<v Speaker 2>You think Adrian is the one that's gonna propose, It's

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<v Speaker 2>not gonna be you. Honestly, I feel like we're just

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<v Speaker 2>gonna be real regular.

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<v Speaker 1>Y'are both take a knee at the same Who need rings.

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<v Speaker 2>We're in a partnership. You don't need a ring. We

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<v Speaker 2>don't need a man. We don't need a wedding. Who

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<v Speaker 2>needs to do all that ship that's for everybody else.

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<v Speaker 2>So y'all gonna go to the Justice of the peace. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>that's what we do.

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<v Speaker 1>Probably y'all both canna wear suits pants, suits.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a come in there with a yoga pant, a

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<v Speaker 2>white yoga pan, a white Lulu Lemon that's disgusting.

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<v Speaker 1>Active wear that's gross.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna have white an all white Ivy park a

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<v Speaker 2>little like a veil though, Like, yeah, I'm gonna have

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<v Speaker 2>like a what do they have those parachute pants'mna have

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<v Speaker 2>that on maybe like a little windbreaker jumpsuit thing win suit, Yes, yeah, winsuit.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna wear win suit for my wedding anyway.

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<v Speaker 2>So I do thank you so much for this past week.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's talk about what I was an expert at. I

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<v Speaker 2>was an expert at finding Game of Thrones and not

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<v Speaker 2>having HBO. So I'm not gonna tell y'all what streaming

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<v Speaker 2>service that I use because I don't need y'all to,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, clog up the website. It's ending your business

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<v Speaker 2>sliding my DMS, and I'll tell you what it is.

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<v Speaker 2>So I was an expert at like just finding like

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<v Speaker 2>where to stream that, but also I was an expert

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<v Speaker 2>this week.

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<v Speaker 1>At receiving dick pics.

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<v Speaker 2>Last time you were here, I was like, no one

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<v Speaker 2>ever sends me dick pics. They know better, Like legit,

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<v Speaker 2>three penises are sitting in my DMS right now?

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<v Speaker 1>What no words, just dicks. Oh yeah, that happens to

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<v Speaker 1>me on Facebook a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>And what's crazy is that it'll be like a distinguished

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<v Speaker 2>older man that I'm like, oh, it'll be somebody with

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<v Speaker 2>a salt.

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<v Speaker 1>And pepper haircut, peper puw Yeah. And then I'm like, Yo,

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<v Speaker 1>they don't even that dick, don't even match the profile

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<v Speaker 1>pick that you got going on here.

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<v Speaker 2>Yo, I've been getting I got a dick last night,

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<v Speaker 2>just the dick.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, you're not even gonna introduce yourself

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<v Speaker 1>or no good evening, No good evening. Hey, queen peace queen,

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<v Speaker 1>here's a picture of my dick.

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<v Speaker 2>Mee, just hold on. I'm I'm trying to get to

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<v Speaker 2>my d MS because you know, I didn't accept none

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<v Speaker 2>of these requests. Oh, you got to accept him. Oh no, Sydney,

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<v Speaker 2>you don't want to. I don't want to accept any

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<v Speaker 2>of them. Here's one dick, and it's a beige dick.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't even I didn't even know. That's fucking rude.

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<v Speaker 2>It's still fuzzy because I was like, no, I don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to see it.

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<v Speaker 1>It looked like a puffsicle. Mind you. His name is

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<v Speaker 1>lost in confusion, lost in the confusion. Let me give

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<v Speaker 1>you another dick.

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<v Speaker 2>Hold on at him, somebody at him, lost in confusion,

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<v Speaker 2>in the confusion.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna rate that penis a good old six. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>it's quite the six point five.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not here for the dick.

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<v Speaker 1>That dick looked like you don't have no type of job.

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<v Speaker 1>That dick is on his mom's couch right now.

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<v Speaker 2>It looks like a pullout catch. There's another dick. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not even gonna tap it for you. Oh that's a

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<v Speaker 2>black fla dick. It looks short. It looks short. Also,

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<v Speaker 2>he looked like he got chubby hamed. It looks like

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<v Speaker 2>it needs a ladder or stepping stool. Dude, I don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>but uh, those are the dicks that I got in

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<v Speaker 2>the last couple of days. So I was an expert

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<v Speaker 2>at just you know, being my best Christian self, curving

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<v Speaker 2>dicks and getting uh getting that Game of Thrones dick.

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<v Speaker 2>Well there was no dick in the first episode, but

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<v Speaker 2>you know, oh really, no, I don't remember. I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like that's why everybody watch it because of the dude. No.

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<v Speaker 1>I watched for the dragons.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I watched for the dragons and John snow, I

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<v Speaker 2>he does it. That's it. That sounds born. Wow. People

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<v Speaker 2>were running home to go watch fucking Game of Thrones,

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<v Speaker 2>and I was like, I don't get it. I had

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<v Speaker 2>a show and I was like, I didn't realize until

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<v Speaker 2>I left my house said it was Game of Thrones to.

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<v Speaker 1>Day and I was like, damn, I should just tell her.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sick.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, I don't understand what the big deal is.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't either, but our guess is a pretty big deal.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, such a big deal.

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<v Speaker 2>And we're having a great topic today because I definitely

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<v Speaker 2>need some help on that. I do. I'm not good

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<v Speaker 2>at it.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know what the topic is?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes? I do, because it's not really what it is

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<v Speaker 2>that you I don't think it is what it's the

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<v Speaker 2>opposite what I think you think it is. Our guest

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<v Speaker 2>today is is a comedian and she's a writer, she's

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<v Speaker 2>an actress. She's our breakup relationship expert and our rebound

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<v Speaker 2>six experts.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, so that's what you need.

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<v Speaker 2>Help, let me help on it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's Julia Rossi.

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<v Speaker 2>Julia Hi. Julia.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, I'll take I like this title. It's

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<v Speaker 1>a great title. I mean, we were not to shorten

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<v Speaker 1>it for the iTunes.

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<v Speaker 2>So you're just going to be like, you're the breakup true,

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<v Speaker 2>you're the breakup expert.

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<v Speaker 3>I've never seen Game of Thrones. I just want to

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<v Speaker 3>put that out there. Thank you, and I have HBO.

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<v Speaker 1>Funk would you thank you?

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<v Speaker 2>It's not on purpose.

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<v Speaker 4>I just get weird about stuff that's in other dimensions

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<v Speaker 4>of fantasy.

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<v Speaker 2>She's not even using her privilege, Like how dare you

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<v Speaker 2>have HBO? And you're not even going to dibble dabble

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<v Speaker 2>into the HBO movies.

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<v Speaker 4>I just watched Defiant Ones, which was so good, the

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<v Speaker 4>documentary Doctor Dre and Jimmy.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, what's that about.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh, it's about how trip like the creation of like

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<v Speaker 4>Innerscope Records and bh.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay did they talk about how he used to be

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<v Speaker 1>his ex wife.

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<v Speaker 4>They it wasn't his ex wife, it was a reporter

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<v Speaker 4>she was on.

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<v Speaker 2>But he did be his wife though doctor dre he

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<v Speaker 2>threwsome chick down the stairs. Yeah, it was in the

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<v Speaker 2>actual like straight out of Compton movie they talked about

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<v Speaker 2>they talked to that woman and him.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh she was They let her be in the documentary.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it was really good.

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<v Speaker 4>And I also, I don't want to say this because

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<v Speaker 4>I don't want any dick pics to not send them

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<v Speaker 4>to me.

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<v Speaker 3>But I've never gotten a dick peg.

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<v Speaker 1>I said that last.

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<v Speaker 2>Week right there in this living room, and somebody, two

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<v Speaker 2>people sent me dicks.

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<v Speaker 4>I had to beg and request them from like people

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<v Speaker 4>I was looking up with and I don't know. They're like,

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<v Speaker 4>I respect you. I'm like, oh, disrespect me. I only

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<v Speaker 4>want to be disrespected when I request it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but I don't want to. Dicks are ugly things. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to see them. If you think a.

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<v Speaker 2>Watch somebody send you a dick pic with like the

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<v Speaker 2>dick got a little like suit on, a little top

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<v Speaker 2>hand at face on it. You're gonna dress them up

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<v Speaker 2>like mister Penis with a little monocle.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, please don't send me the monocle right on the tip.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh.

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<v Speaker 4>Sorry, they're gonna say the w B.

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<v Speaker 1>Give me a plane in the background.

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<v Speaker 2>Kenny G.

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<v Speaker 1>Dick pic. Do you think Kenny G sends dick pics?

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<v Speaker 4>Definitely is really funny on the Internet Twitter.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, I think he sends pictures of saxophones. That's

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<v Speaker 2>what he probably his.

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<v Speaker 4>Pictures of himself playing a sax. He's like, do you

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<v Speaker 4>like good Sacks? He's real funny. If Kenny G is listening,

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<v Speaker 4>I would love to be your friend.

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<v Speaker 1>Kenny G.

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<v Speaker 2>Hit us up.

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<v Speaker 1>You could be our Sacks.

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<v Speaker 2>We're gonna add him on this at Kenny G. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>looking for him on Instagram right now. Kenny.

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<v Speaker 3>Also, I want to know what products he uses in

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<v Speaker 3>his hair.

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<v Speaker 1>Probably shame oisture. No, he looks like a type dude.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah you think so?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, definite is just out of them.

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<v Speaker 2>He uses fruit trees. He honestly will his stuff be

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<v Speaker 2>a little crunchy, So I feel like it's like a

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<v Speaker 2>jail Yeah, like a like a pink jel like from

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<v Speaker 2>the beauty supply store that costs like ninety ninety Look.

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<v Speaker 1>At that look at Kenny nineteen nineteen ninety three.

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<v Speaker 2>But what does he look like now? A black and

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<v Speaker 2>white curl. He looks like Howard stern O. No, Kenny,

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<v Speaker 2>he looks like Howard's clean brother. Okay, well both the

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<v Speaker 2>Kenny g We need to talk about this breakup expertise

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<v Speaker 2>you got going on here?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, us take us through.

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<v Speaker 2>Your dating my situation. Yeah, like when's the first young

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<v Speaker 2>first kiss? Halloween, first kiss, seventh grade? It's funny.

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<v Speaker 4>This week I was in Boston and I was I

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<v Speaker 4>went to the park with my nieces and it was

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<v Speaker 4>the park where I had my first kiss and like

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<v Speaker 4>got flooded with.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like super rejected.

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<v Speaker 4>Like when I was a teenager, I had like, no,

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<v Speaker 4>who has game when they're twelve but body?

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<v Speaker 2>But still, anybody who has game as a kid was

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<v Speaker 2>molested for sure. No, anybody who has a game as

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<v Speaker 2>a kid is fat. Now I probably got like a

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<v Speaker 2>kids and never left the town they started.

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<v Speaker 4>I was like I always went after guys that like

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<v Speaker 4>ignored me when I was a teenager and like into college.

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<v Speaker 3>So that was like my first kiss.

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<v Speaker 4>And then I didn't have any boyfriends in high school.

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<v Speaker 4>I just had like guys that I liked that were like, I.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't like you. I'm like cool, I'll call you tomorrow.

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<v Speaker 2>You know. Uh.

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<v Speaker 3>That was like my thing.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't have any I wasn't allowed to date in

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<v Speaker 2>high school. I feel like I'm still not I allowed

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<v Speaker 2>to date. My parents are not here for it. I

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<v Speaker 2>people would like write me notes, and it was always

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<v Speaker 2>like the nastiest dude who couldn't really spell and even

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<v Speaker 2>like folded, like he wouldn't even fold it. Cute. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know if you went to school when people were like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>you had to pull things and the note popped.

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<v Speaker 1>Open like a pop up book.

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<v Speaker 2>And this guy wrote me a note and he asked

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<v Speaker 2>me out, and I was like.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, you know, I gotta I'm.

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<v Speaker 2>Gonna say no, but I'm gonna say it nice, right,

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<v Speaker 2>And so he thought I liked him because I was

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<v Speaker 2>really nice about it. And found out a couple of

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<v Speaker 2>years ago he killed two people and that he.

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<v Speaker 1>Was in jail for us his life. So Dodge that Dick.

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<v Speaker 2>I was always the person who liked people. So I

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<v Speaker 2>would go on the Yellow Pages and look for their

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<v Speaker 2>phone number. I would get their parents' number, of their

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<v Speaker 2>parents full name. I would call the fucking house and

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<v Speaker 2>ask for them, and then they would pick up, and

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<v Speaker 2>then I would hang up. That's what I would do.

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<v Speaker 2>I would go to the parents full name. Oh, people

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<v Speaker 2>would always say their mom's first name. At school.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh, you could get I used to with My first

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<v Speaker 4>lived down the street from me, so I would walk

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<v Speaker 4>by his house. My sister had a crush and like

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<v Speaker 4>had hooked up with his older brother. So then when

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<v Speaker 4>she got a car, we would do drive bys. But

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<v Speaker 4>I don't even know what we were looking for, like, oh,

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<v Speaker 4>he's home, cool.

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<v Speaker 1>And then speed away.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>And then the guy that I gave my first hand

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<v Speaker 4>job to in high school, damn, I mean my boyfriend.

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<v Speaker 1>But then he wasn't even your boyfriend.

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<v Speaker 3>No, and then he well he acts a little hands too.

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<v Speaker 2>Let me see these are little hands. No.

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<v Speaker 4>I got like it's so funny as I've gotten a

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<v Speaker 4>lot of a handful of day hands.

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<v Speaker 1>Though you got thick hands.

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<v Speaker 4>Got like three comments on YouTube from very serious comedy

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<v Speaker 4>experts that are like, funny, but her.

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<v Speaker 3>Hands are too big, or he's got man hands.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, they're definitely not man hands, but I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like you have a grip, Like you definitely need lube

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<v Speaker 2>when you do it. I wouldn't. I wouldn't dry hand

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<v Speaker 2>job there.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I was like gripping like logs of salami as a.

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<v Speaker 1>Child, even palm a basketball.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah yeah, yeah I got I got a pretty sturdy grip.

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<v Speaker 2>But she said, you got w NBA hands. Thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>They also been back really far like that.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah yeah, yeah, they've been. I know, no one can

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<v Speaker 3>see it's listening.

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<v Speaker 2>So your first hand job was in high school, can't.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, during the movie I do talk about this on

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<v Speaker 4>stage to start for myself, but it was during the

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<v Speaker 4>movie Mighty Ducks Too.

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<v Speaker 3>We called it Mighty Dicks Too is always a comedian.

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<v Speaker 2>And uh yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>He we couldn't date because his mom got caller ID

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<v Speaker 4>while we were talking. That was like I don't know

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<v Speaker 4>if yayo we call it. It was like pre dating.

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<v Speaker 4>So we were talking and then we had to stop

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<v Speaker 4>talking because his mom got caller ID and he was like,

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<v Speaker 4>why did you call me thirty times?

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, oh, well, you weren't answering and I

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<v Speaker 3>want to, you know, just make sure girl. Yeah, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>I just want to make sure you got it.

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<v Speaker 4>And yeah, So that didn't work out, so I didn't

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<v Speaker 4>have like my first you know, mutual relationship where both

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<v Speaker 4>parties were in agreement till.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's see the.

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<v Speaker 4>Beginning of my junior year of college. So like right

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<v Speaker 4>before I turned twenty, Well.

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<v Speaker 2>That makes sense. Yeah, I feel like that's when everybody

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<v Speaker 2>had like real relationships, a.

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<v Speaker 1>Real relationship, but I did high school.

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<v Speaker 2>High school is not real relationships.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not.

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<v Speaker 4>But I do feel like I had a lot of

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<v Speaker 4>friends who were like my ex boyfriend this and then

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<v Speaker 4>this boyfriend, and I felt.

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<v Speaker 2>Very they were touched by their uncles. I'm telling you.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I'm not gonna okay, yeah, we'll say it

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<v Speaker 2>for you.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, don't write a BuzzFeed article, no.

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<v Speaker 1>Podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>So, and then that first boyfriend ended up being the

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<v Speaker 4>person that I married.

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<v Speaker 1>So we were like, wait, marry your first boyfriend.

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<v Speaker 2>Wait you were married? I was married.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, she's here to talk about breakups. Yeah and divorce.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah yeah we were. We were together for eight.

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<v Speaker 3>Years, but we were only married a year.

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<v Speaker 2>Whoa, Yeah, so you were together first seven, got married,

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<v Speaker 2>lasted for a year. Yeah, we broke up. I broke up.

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<v Speaker 4>We broke up once for real, and then a second time.

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<v Speaker 4>It only lasted like a few days. But he's great

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<v Speaker 4>we're still friends. He's like, yeah, but wait, why seven?

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<v Speaker 1>Let's back up.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why seven, Like you spent seven years without marrying him.

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<v Speaker 2>All of a sudden, you were like, you know what.

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<v Speaker 3>My god, how long is this podcast?

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<v Speaker 1>You got to.

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<v Speaker 2>It's uh we you know, so you guys dated junior

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<v Speaker 2>year and senior year of high school, college.

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<v Speaker 4>Half of junior year, half of senior year, and then

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<v Speaker 4>after that up until yeah, like for years.

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<v Speaker 1>So how does that? How did guess that work?

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<v Speaker 4>He we we were very we were friends before we

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<v Speaker 4>were dated, so like our relationship was very friendship.

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<v Speaker 2>Based, so you were being a relationship and then he

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<v Speaker 2>would come and like hold your hand and make you

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<v Speaker 2>feel better.

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<v Speaker 1>If the guy was it would both be in relationships.

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<v Speaker 4>And then when one of us, yeah, like he was like,

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<v Speaker 4>the guy would go to get advice.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I just knew this guy.

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<v Speaker 3>Why isn't he calling me?

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<v Speaker 4>And I was like, yeah, I know, I really I

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<v Speaker 4>really had good self esteem and so I, uh yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>so we just we fell in love and he's waiting.

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<v Speaker 2>Now this sounds like a like a rom com, like

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<v Speaker 2>White People romantic comedy movie. Like he's Ashton Kutcher and

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<v Speaker 2>you're obviously nilakun.

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<v Speaker 3>Is because he's very white.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, I just we just assumed, Okay, I have

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<v Speaker 2>Sydney were when she said we're talking, I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe when you said that, you start talking in high school.

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<v Speaker 2>It's so funny.

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<v Speaker 4>The guy I was talking to high school was black.

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<v Speaker 4>I know, no, but I mean my ex husband is

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<v Speaker 4>like white white, like like like Polish ethnic white.

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<v Speaker 2>He's like main white. Yeah, yeah, you can't cape yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>cape Cod.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, you get it, tan, but you're Italian. I'm Italian.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, he's still white.

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<v Speaker 1>You can catch a cat.

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<v Speaker 4>I use my privilege when I can, but I also

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<v Speaker 4>feel good that I can walk through certain neighborhoods and

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<v Speaker 4>be like what I'm Latina, Like when.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you really You're like, oh, okay, I'm definitely didn't

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<v Speaker 2>fund the block.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like and whatever you need me to be.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I mean, listen, Jennifer Lopez is white into all

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<v Speaker 2>of the movies that she.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and she's brilliant.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and she's.

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<v Speaker 2>Definitely not Puerto Rican in enough. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>And Jelie I think she was like super Italian.

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<v Speaker 4>I just feel like when you have like my parents

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<v Speaker 4>are immigrants, so I feel like when you have that,

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<v Speaker 4>it's hard for me to be like, I'm not white

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<v Speaker 4>white because there's like a grunge.

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<v Speaker 2>Were you next to us? Girl?

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<v Speaker 1>You are white white?

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<v Speaker 2>I forget, But I know what you mean about your

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<v Speaker 2>parents immigrants, Like my parents are immigrants too, And I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like when I talk to black folks, I'd be

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<v Speaker 2>like where.

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<v Speaker 1>You are people from?

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<v Speaker 2>And they'd be like here, and I'll be like you

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<v Speaker 2>just regular black? So like you're not regular white, You're yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>You know you story about the lunches, right, yeah? The food? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I mean that's my life.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>The way that my parents packed food.

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<v Speaker 2>Is like, like's gonta spill, so let's tape it, throw

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<v Speaker 2>it in a bag.

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<v Speaker 4>And like so many bags make it look like.

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<v Speaker 3>How many bags?

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<v Speaker 2>So you were married with this dude? You guys got

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<v Speaker 2>a divorce? How did that end? So basically I was

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<v Speaker 2>before I got married.

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<v Speaker 4>I knew this, okay, So I didn't know what else

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<v Speaker 4>to do with my life. So I suggested we get

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<v Speaker 4>married because everyone else was getting married and it felt

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<v Speaker 4>like the right thing to do and what you should

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<v Speaker 4>do and.

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<v Speaker 3>All that like should ship.

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<v Speaker 4>That is very If anyone is listening and you find

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<v Speaker 4>yourself saying the word should a lot. That should be

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<v Speaker 4>an alert. Then that goes for like career for anything, like.

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<v Speaker 1>I should be doing this. I should do this, it's

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<v Speaker 1>my job.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I should like this person. They seem really great,

0:22:44.080 --> 0:22:46.040
<v Speaker 4>like and if you're high. Also, my therapist is like,

0:22:46.080 --> 0:22:48.760
<v Speaker 4>whenever your voice goes into a higher optics, I'll be like, oh,

0:22:49.000 --> 0:22:52.920
<v Speaker 4>I should go Like that means I'm lying to myself.

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<v Speaker 2>But yeah, my voice is there pretty often.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah that's just because I'm like trying to pull a point.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but that's still you still have that like you're

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<v Speaker 2>not like.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know like that like wine, yeah, Mickey mouse help.

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<v Speaker 1>But before you guys got married, you kind of Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I knew.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like losing my mind.

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<v Speaker 4>I was like I was living in New York and

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<v Speaker 4>then I was like we should get married and move

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<v Speaker 4>to the suburbs of Boston because I don't know what

0:23:16.920 --> 0:23:18.879
<v Speaker 4>I'm doing with my career. I like I wanted to

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<v Speaker 4>quit everything. I was like I should be normal, Like.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you have any girlfriends? Like, like, do you have

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<v Speaker 2>any girls around you? Telling you like no, I mean

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<v Speaker 2>there's something else.

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<v Speaker 4>You could do better, like it, Well, the do better

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<v Speaker 4>is a tough one because he's a great guy. Like

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<v Speaker 4>we really it wasn't like we were arguing.

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<v Speaker 2>There wasn't. We were just really passive aggressive. It was terrible.

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<v Speaker 4>No, the sex was good like it was. I mean

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<v Speaker 4>I didn't have a ton of intercourse comparisons. I only

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<v Speaker 4>had sex with one other person.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, so you don't even know. Yeah, you have

0:23:51.720 --> 0:23:54.320
<v Speaker 2>nothing to judge, but now I do judge, and it

0:23:54.359 --> 0:23:56.160
<v Speaker 2>was it was good. Like we we communicate.

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<v Speaker 1>You remember all those different strukes for different folks.

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<v Speaker 4>But it was it was just it was bat like

0:24:04.880 --> 0:24:07.880
<v Speaker 4>we I knew then. I was like, oh, man, if

0:24:07.960 --> 0:24:10.639
<v Speaker 4>only I had met this person, I mean I can't guarantee,

0:24:10.640 --> 0:24:12.800
<v Speaker 4>but like maybe if we had met ten years later,

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<v Speaker 4>it would have been different.

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<v Speaker 3>But it was just like not the right time.

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<v Speaker 2>So you said, he's a good guy. Where was he working.

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<v Speaker 3>He was occupation like TV production. It's like really creative

0:24:22.520 --> 0:24:24.280
<v Speaker 3>and amazing, like supportive.

0:24:25.240 --> 0:24:27.720
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, health insurance and stuff he had.

0:24:27.600 --> 0:24:29.719
<v Speaker 3>He had insurance. Yeah, yeah, like it was.

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<v Speaker 4>It just the friendship was stronger than I think for me,

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<v Speaker 4>I can't speak for all relationships, but I have found

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<v Speaker 4>that like for me, it kind of has to be

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<v Speaker 4>equal parts everything so it's like it can't be like

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<v Speaker 4>I want to be friends with them, but we can't

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<v Speaker 4>be more friends than we are, like passionate, but it

0:24:48.480 --> 0:24:51.120
<v Speaker 4>can't be all passion and no friendship, no relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>I agree, you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 4>Like, and I also have to feel like they're family

0:24:54.119 --> 0:24:55.960
<v Speaker 4>in the sense of they'll like take care of me

0:24:56.000 --> 0:24:57.600
<v Speaker 4>and we have each other's back. But I also don't

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<v Speaker 4>want it to be like, e, you're like my brother,

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<v Speaker 4>like you know, like it's got a kind of all

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<v Speaker 4>work in.

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<v Speaker 3>A balanced way.

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<v Speaker 4>And I felt like in that relationship the friendship part

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<v Speaker 4>dominated any passion.

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<v Speaker 2>So you married your friend zone, That's what you did.

0:25:12.520 --> 0:25:14.960
<v Speaker 2>You married your friend how they were fist bumping in

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<v Speaker 2>the bedroom, there.

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<v Speaker 3>Was some high fiving that would happen.

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<v Speaker 2>You had him on the back, good job, yeah yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>yeah yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So it ends and now you're divorced.

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<v Speaker 2>So what Just.

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<v Speaker 4>To back up one second, but I will say friend

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<v Speaker 4>zone because again, if anyone's listening, I think it's very

0:25:31.640 --> 0:25:34.119
<v Speaker 4>easy to do that, because if you think about it,

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<v Speaker 4>in my head, I thought relationships were jerks who ignored me,

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<v Speaker 4>that I had to follow right and chase around and

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<v Speaker 4>be like I remember me or a guy that's really

0:25:44.600 --> 0:25:46.760
<v Speaker 4>fucking cool in my buddy. I didn't know that there

0:25:46.880 --> 0:25:50.880
<v Speaker 4>was like something else else, right, So yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>One more question, So who's your girlfriends at the time, Like,

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<v Speaker 2>I just want to know who your friends were. They

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<v Speaker 2>weren't telling you to go out their friends. They weren't

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<v Speaker 2>out there, Like yeah, he's a good guy, but like

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like you need more experience.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I have friends who mentioned it or tried to

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<v Speaker 4>talk about it.

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<v Speaker 2>What they say. I mean.

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<v Speaker 4>I had a couple of friends when I was leaving

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<v Speaker 4>New York. I had to really good friends be like,

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<v Speaker 4>what do you so you're quitting life? Like they were

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<v Speaker 4>like very concerned, but I'm very good or it used

0:26:22.240 --> 0:26:25.679
<v Speaker 4>to be very good at swaying people to get on board,

0:26:26.280 --> 0:26:29.280
<v Speaker 4>like the you know when you like okay, so you

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<v Speaker 4>know when you ask someone's opinion, but you do it

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<v Speaker 4>in a way where you're exc answer. So I'll be like, okay,

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<v Speaker 4>do you guys think I should stay in New York

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<v Speaker 4>by myself? Ah, move to Boston with this guy, get married,

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<v Speaker 4>live in an apartment rent free that my dad owns,

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<v Speaker 4>and like save money and like real like and I

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<v Speaker 4>would like.

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<v Speaker 1>That sounds great. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, like a duck girl,

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<v Speaker 1>you should have gotten married.

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<v Speaker 2>Do your dad still.

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<v Speaker 1>In Boston?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'll save money and boss.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, So I was really I think I was really

0:27:07.160 --> 0:27:12.520
<v Speaker 4>good at minimizing. I'm I've learned to be less good

0:27:12.560 --> 0:27:14.800
<v Speaker 4>at and I've learned to be better about telling people like, hey,

0:27:14.800 --> 0:27:16.639
<v Speaker 4>I'm in a really bad place and I'm upset or

0:27:16.680 --> 0:27:17.720
<v Speaker 4>I'm like feeling depressed.

0:27:17.880 --> 0:27:20.400
<v Speaker 2>But I think like a lot of people, i'd be like, oh, fine.

0:27:20.800 --> 0:27:24.840
<v Speaker 1>You know, really good at just seeming fine.

0:27:25.080 --> 0:27:27.080
<v Speaker 2>And then when I'm not fine and people ask me,

0:27:27.160 --> 0:27:29.280
<v Speaker 2>I'm good at yelling at them until they leave me alone.

0:27:29.400 --> 0:27:30.720
<v Speaker 1>So I'm doing really well.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. We all have our fat yeah,

0:27:33.800 --> 0:27:35.719
<v Speaker 3>our methods. But yeah, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 4>It's it's just at the time, it seemed like what

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<v Speaker 4>I should all caps red letters be doing.

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<v Speaker 2>So who did the who initiated the divorce?

0:27:44.680 --> 0:27:46.920
<v Speaker 3>I initiated getting married and the divorce.

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<v Speaker 2>Damn. Yeah, women, Yo, you're a great team right here.

0:27:55.720 --> 0:27:58.080
<v Speaker 2>I love it when you said you wanted to get

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<v Speaker 2>a divorce. Was he like like, oh my god, thank

0:28:00.440 --> 0:28:01.320
<v Speaker 2>you so much for saying.

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<v Speaker 4>That, or no, I mean the part of the problem

0:28:05.119 --> 0:28:10.680
<v Speaker 4>with our dynamic was he yes, an improv he yes,

0:28:10.720 --> 0:28:13.760
<v Speaker 4>and me when I needed more of a I think

0:28:13.760 --> 0:28:16.199
<v Speaker 4>we should talk about this like he yeskeed me a

0:28:16.200 --> 0:28:18.800
<v Speaker 4>lot and not and then I think, I mean, I

0:28:18.840 --> 0:28:21.920
<v Speaker 4>can't speak on his behalf, but I'm sure if if

0:28:21.960 --> 0:28:23.159
<v Speaker 4>someone would talk to him now.

0:28:23.040 --> 0:28:25.159
<v Speaker 2>Deeply about it, he'd probably be like, No, I actually.

0:28:25.119 --> 0:28:26.760
<v Speaker 4>Was mad, but I didn't know how to express it

0:28:26.960 --> 0:28:29.040
<v Speaker 4>because we just never wanted to hurt each other's feelings.

0:28:29.400 --> 0:28:30.840
<v Speaker 3>So there's just a lot of enabling.

0:28:31.040 --> 0:28:33.400
<v Speaker 1>I feel like real love, real.

0:28:33.320 --> 0:28:39.840
<v Speaker 2>Real love is hurting somebody's feelings every like every other conversation. Yeah,

0:28:39.840 --> 0:28:41.120
<v Speaker 2>my feelings I got hurt all the time now in

0:28:41.120 --> 0:28:41.720
<v Speaker 2>my relationship.

0:28:42.200 --> 0:28:44.320
<v Speaker 3>But you know, I'm a growing way.

0:28:45.120 --> 0:28:47.120
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I don't know if I'm.

0:28:47.000 --> 0:28:49.720
<v Speaker 2>Growing, but like rolling my eyes, hurt him, hurt someone's

0:28:49.720 --> 0:28:53.800
<v Speaker 2>feelings every other conversation, and maybe throw something at them.

0:28:53.960 --> 0:28:54.800
<v Speaker 3>Oh I don't know about that.

0:28:54.840 --> 0:28:56.680
<v Speaker 4>Okay, Well that's that was my that was my relationship

0:28:56.680 --> 0:28:59.520
<v Speaker 4>about from my marriage. Okay, So okay, so I initiated that. Yeah,

0:28:59.520 --> 0:29:02.960
<v Speaker 4>so I basically was like I what I said verbatim

0:29:03.160 --> 0:29:05.840
<v Speaker 4>was I feel like I could take a ship on

0:29:05.880 --> 0:29:08.360
<v Speaker 4>your face and you would just wipe it away and

0:29:08.400 --> 0:29:09.160
<v Speaker 4>go ah.

0:29:09.320 --> 0:29:12.960
<v Speaker 2>Julia said, yeah, see this is how in the movies

0:29:13.000 --> 0:29:15.320
<v Speaker 2>you turn a missing that's right there, and your body

0:29:15.360 --> 0:29:17.440
<v Speaker 2>would be shot the mean way.

0:29:17.600 --> 0:29:20.760
<v Speaker 4>I just was like, this is ridiculous. Like I'm because

0:29:20.760 --> 0:29:22.640
<v Speaker 4>I was acting out. I was like not coming home

0:29:22.680 --> 0:29:25.360
<v Speaker 4>at night. I was like and he just was like,

0:29:25.920 --> 0:29:26.720
<v Speaker 4>he's like, have fun.

0:29:27.600 --> 0:29:29.960
<v Speaker 2>You see that. It's good that you left, because it

0:29:30.040 --> 0:29:33.040
<v Speaker 2>sounds like he was getting ready to start training fight

0:29:33.200 --> 0:29:36.240
<v Speaker 2>and yeah, be Jennifer Lopez and enough and oh yeah,

0:29:36.320 --> 0:29:36.880
<v Speaker 2>beat away.

0:29:37.000 --> 0:29:38.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah that's what it felt like.

0:29:38.560 --> 0:29:40.200
<v Speaker 2>It No, he is.

0:29:40.480 --> 0:29:43.360
<v Speaker 4>That is not the way. I do not any want

0:29:43.400 --> 0:29:45.000
<v Speaker 4>any defamation of character of my ex.

0:29:45.120 --> 0:29:46.800
<v Speaker 2>You know, he's a great guy. It's just us. We

0:29:46.840 --> 0:29:47.760
<v Speaker 2>are terrible people.

0:29:48.200 --> 0:29:48.560
<v Speaker 4>Sound like.

0:29:50.960 --> 0:29:54.400
<v Speaker 1>So much Jlo talk. I know, I thought I was Jlo.

0:29:54.520 --> 0:29:55.280
<v Speaker 3>Now he's Jelo.

0:29:55.880 --> 0:29:56.840
<v Speaker 1>Who is j Loo?

0:29:57.880 --> 0:29:58.080
<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>No, And and then he was kind of I think

0:30:00.840 --> 0:30:03.120
<v Speaker 4>he was in denial at first, and then we talked

0:30:03.120 --> 0:30:04.959
<v Speaker 4>about it, and then he finally think he got up

0:30:05.120 --> 0:30:06.800
<v Speaker 4>once I was like, so, which one of us is

0:30:06.800 --> 0:30:07.160
<v Speaker 4>moving out?

0:30:07.160 --> 0:30:07.920
<v Speaker 2>He was like, oh, you're.

0:30:07.800 --> 0:30:10.360
<v Speaker 3>Serious, and I was like yeah, because I was a very.

0:30:10.920 --> 0:30:13.560
<v Speaker 4>Boy who cried wolf kind of I think person in

0:30:13.560 --> 0:30:15.600
<v Speaker 4>my twenties, like I would get like hair brain schemes.

0:30:15.640 --> 0:30:17.600
<v Speaker 4>I'd be like, Okay, oh my god, I have this

0:30:17.640 --> 0:30:19.280
<v Speaker 4>audition tomorrow and I think I'm gonna get it and

0:30:19.320 --> 0:30:20.600
<v Speaker 4>then I'm gonna be rich and then I'm d d

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<v Speaker 4>d d dah and like so I had a lot

0:30:22.600 --> 0:30:24.440
<v Speaker 4>of that. So I think there was a little part

0:30:24.440 --> 0:30:26.720
<v Speaker 4>of him that was like, okay, Julia, Julia is getting

0:30:26.720 --> 0:30:28.800
<v Speaker 4>a divorce. Here she goes again with one of her

0:30:28.840 --> 0:30:31.920
<v Speaker 4>like wacky ideas. And then when it really started to

0:30:31.960 --> 0:30:34.640
<v Speaker 4>be real, we like didn't we obviously didn't know what

0:30:34.680 --> 0:30:35.400
<v Speaker 4>would you say.

0:30:35.200 --> 0:30:36.920
<v Speaker 2>Which one of us is moving out? Is? Isn't it

0:30:37.040 --> 0:30:38.120
<v Speaker 2>your dad's built you? No?

0:30:38.120 --> 0:30:39.960
<v Speaker 3>No, no, oh sorry, we had moved back to New York.

0:30:40.120 --> 0:30:43.760
<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, okay, yeah, we York.

0:30:44.400 --> 0:30:47.080
<v Speaker 4>We moved to Williamsburg because what's happening was when I

0:30:47.120 --> 0:30:49.640
<v Speaker 4>got married, we moved to by this hair brain scheme

0:30:49.720 --> 0:30:51.920
<v Speaker 4>where I was like, all right, everybody, and I'm really

0:30:52.080 --> 0:30:55.120
<v Speaker 4>I'm good. I should have gone into like I don't know, politics,

0:30:55.280 --> 0:30:57.680
<v Speaker 4>being a lawyer or something like that, but like, if

0:30:57.720 --> 0:31:00.080
<v Speaker 4>only I could use this for my career, but I

0:31:00.080 --> 0:31:01.960
<v Speaker 4>I'm really kind of like convincing everyone, Like I said,

0:31:01.960 --> 0:31:02.480
<v Speaker 4>it's a good idea.

0:31:02.520 --> 0:31:03.680
<v Speaker 3>So I was like, all right, here's the plant.

0:31:03.840 --> 0:31:05.640
<v Speaker 4>We're gonna move to Boston, we're gonna get married, we're

0:31:05.640 --> 0:31:08.400
<v Speaker 4>gonna live rent free, we're gonna save some money. Then

0:31:08.400 --> 0:31:10.719
<v Speaker 4>maybe i'll like work on a new project and like

0:31:10.800 --> 0:31:14.320
<v Speaker 4>everything'll be great, right, And then I was just after

0:31:14.360 --> 0:31:16.120
<v Speaker 4>that happened, after like a month, I started coming to

0:31:16.200 --> 0:31:18.880
<v Speaker 4>New York by myself for like a couple of days,

0:31:18.920 --> 0:31:22.239
<v Speaker 4>like a weekend, and then like flash, yeah, and I

0:31:22.280 --> 0:31:23.040
<v Speaker 4>was spending.

0:31:22.800 --> 0:31:23.840
<v Speaker 1>He let you.

0:31:23.920 --> 0:31:25.800
<v Speaker 2>Yeah you already was like hi, fun.

0:31:25.880 --> 0:31:27.719
<v Speaker 1>Adrianne would be like, okay, I'm coming with you.

0:31:28.400 --> 0:31:32.560
<v Speaker 4>Well so okay, yeah, So then well I don't want

0:31:32.560 --> 0:31:34.760
<v Speaker 4>to jump the gun. But then the relationship I had

0:31:34.800 --> 0:31:38.240
<v Speaker 4>after was beyond the opposite of this, okay, So it

0:31:38.280 --> 0:31:39.680
<v Speaker 4>was almost like the Three Bears.

0:31:39.720 --> 0:31:41.760
<v Speaker 3>It was like too hot, That's what I was gonna say.

0:31:41.760 --> 0:31:43.720
<v Speaker 2>When I was thinking of everything.

0:31:43.680 --> 0:31:45.840
<v Speaker 1>I was like, wow, she's really Goldilocks.

0:31:46.120 --> 0:31:48.720
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, but that's the thing is like part of and

0:31:48.800 --> 0:31:50.160
<v Speaker 4>I mean, I don't know if I'm going off the

0:31:50.440 --> 0:31:55.960
<v Speaker 4>expert topic now, I do think that, you know, it's

0:31:55.960 --> 0:31:59.000
<v Speaker 4>really easy to look at past relationships as like in anything,

0:31:59.080 --> 0:32:00.680
<v Speaker 4>even like the guy that I the hand job to

0:32:00.760 --> 0:32:03.280
<v Speaker 4>like all of it included as like mistakes or shame

0:32:03.400 --> 0:32:07.640
<v Speaker 4>or embarrassment or failures, but they all lead you to

0:32:07.800 --> 0:32:10.880
<v Speaker 4>the next and they all teach you something like I'm

0:32:11.560 --> 0:32:13.880
<v Speaker 4>you know it. Not everything I've done has felt good

0:32:13.920 --> 0:32:17.400
<v Speaker 4>at the time, but in retrospect I am. I truly

0:32:17.440 --> 0:32:19.680
<v Speaker 4>am grateful for everyone I met because I learned so

0:32:19.800 --> 0:32:21.680
<v Speaker 4>much about like what I actually want, Like I know

0:32:21.800 --> 0:32:24.600
<v Speaker 4>exactly the kind of person I can be around now.

0:32:24.680 --> 0:32:28.720
<v Speaker 2>It's so funny because everybody is like training to be

0:32:28.840 --> 0:32:31.640
<v Speaker 2>with the person they're really supposed to be with. Everything

0:32:31.760 --> 0:32:34.840
<v Speaker 2>is everybody is in the practice run, Like, oh, this

0:32:34.880 --> 0:32:37.120
<v Speaker 2>is practice in this relationship.

0:32:37.240 --> 0:32:38.880
<v Speaker 1>This is not how you really do it. This is

0:32:38.880 --> 0:32:41.440
<v Speaker 1>a scratch scratch paper, Yeah, scrap scrap dick.

0:32:42.600 --> 0:32:45.240
<v Speaker 2>I agree. I mean it's funny that you speak of

0:32:45.320 --> 0:32:48.600
<v Speaker 2>a scrap dick because my ex is getting married, he's

0:32:48.640 --> 0:32:52.200
<v Speaker 2>engaged or whatever, and everything that he probably did wrong

0:32:52.280 --> 0:32:55.200
<v Speaker 2>in the relationship with me, he probably flipped it. He

0:32:55.280 --> 0:32:57.080
<v Speaker 2>was like, oh, I was just running a course on

0:32:57.160 --> 0:33:00.280
<v Speaker 2>that ho. I know how to really treat a woman now.

0:33:00.360 --> 0:33:04.280
<v Speaker 4>But I don't think it's it's I don't think it's like, uh,

0:33:04.640 --> 0:33:06.880
<v Speaker 4>intentional I don't think someone you know what I mean,

0:33:06.920 --> 0:33:08.800
<v Speaker 4>Like they're not like I'm going to practice on this person.

0:33:08.880 --> 0:33:10.200
<v Speaker 3>It's just it's part of gross.

0:33:10.200 --> 0:33:13.680
<v Speaker 2>It's not intentional, but you know when you have that

0:33:13.760 --> 0:33:17.000
<v Speaker 2>feeling like I'm gonna be with that person forever. Okay,

0:33:17.080 --> 0:33:20.040
<v Speaker 2>I feel like what I'm gonna say, Mike, I get

0:33:20.040 --> 0:33:25.000
<v Speaker 2>me in trouble with somebody. But my ex boyfriend would

0:33:25.760 --> 0:33:28.360
<v Speaker 2>complain about stuff that I was not doing in the

0:33:28.400 --> 0:33:30.840
<v Speaker 2>relationship right Like he was like, you're not contributing enough.

0:33:30.960 --> 0:33:33.280
<v Speaker 2>And he was like I was living in his apartment

0:33:33.320 --> 0:33:36.640
<v Speaker 2>like rent free, like legit, just living lavish in for

0:33:36.840 --> 0:33:40.600
<v Speaker 2>green And now I live by myself. And every day

0:33:40.640 --> 0:33:44.160
<v Speaker 2>I'll wake up and be like something will click in

0:33:44.240 --> 0:33:46.800
<v Speaker 2>my mind, like, oh, you know, I was a really

0:33:46.960 --> 0:33:50.960
<v Speaker 2>bad girlfriend, like I know, and now my sister's staying

0:33:50.960 --> 0:33:52.680
<v Speaker 2>with me and doing all this, all the things that

0:33:53.000 --> 0:33:54.480
<v Speaker 2>I was doing to him, and I'm like, oh, oh

0:33:54.560 --> 0:34:00.840
<v Speaker 2>my god, at all, but I see it.

0:34:01.040 --> 0:34:04.520
<v Speaker 1>I wasn't doing that all circle. Oh god, this circle

0:34:05.040 --> 0:34:05.640
<v Speaker 1>is so real.

0:34:05.760 --> 0:34:09.600
<v Speaker 4>But you learn, I mean you learn from experience, like

0:34:09.640 --> 0:34:11.440
<v Speaker 4>you can learn from like a book or listening to

0:34:11.480 --> 0:34:14.520
<v Speaker 4>a podcast or watching a movie, but like real lessons

0:34:14.600 --> 0:34:15.799
<v Speaker 4>stick from experience.

0:34:16.160 --> 0:34:17.960
<v Speaker 1>You got to burn your hand to be like I'm

0:34:18.000 --> 0:34:18.960
<v Speaker 1>not touching that exactly.

0:34:19.960 --> 0:34:22.480
<v Speaker 2>Okay, So wait you so after the divorce or whatever

0:34:22.600 --> 0:34:25.360
<v Speaker 2>that was done, you got in another relationship, there was

0:34:25.360 --> 0:34:28.319
<v Speaker 2>a lot of rebounding. Yeah, so we separated.

0:34:28.600 --> 0:34:31.200
<v Speaker 4>So we first did because everything.

0:34:30.800 --> 0:34:33.799
<v Speaker 2>Separation is not a full divorce, no, and in the

0:34:33.840 --> 0:34:35.799
<v Speaker 2>process of divorcing exactly, and.

0:34:35.760 --> 0:34:39.759
<v Speaker 4>Also because like it's very confusing to get divorced, Like

0:34:39.920 --> 0:34:42.360
<v Speaker 4>the paperwork is very confusing. It is way easier to

0:34:42.400 --> 0:34:45.040
<v Speaker 4>get married than it is divorced. I didn't it was

0:34:45.120 --> 0:34:47.120
<v Speaker 4>so many documents you had to fill out, and so

0:34:47.600 --> 0:34:49.160
<v Speaker 4>neither of us really wanted to spend any money. But

0:34:49.160 --> 0:34:52.080
<v Speaker 4>then finally we googled fast and friendly and we just

0:34:52.120 --> 0:34:53.839
<v Speaker 4>paid like eight hundred bucks and it was really easy.

0:34:53.800 --> 0:34:55.399
<v Speaker 1>So much of cause to get a divorce is eight

0:34:55.440 --> 0:34:56.120
<v Speaker 1>hundred dollars.

0:34:56.160 --> 0:34:57.200
<v Speaker 2>That was like the cheapest.

0:34:58.080 --> 0:35:01.280
<v Speaker 1>What's the more expensive option, like lu like super divorce.

0:35:01.440 --> 0:35:03.279
<v Speaker 4>I think more expensive is if you had a lot

0:35:03.320 --> 0:35:05.400
<v Speaker 4>of assets to split, like if we had owned a

0:35:05.440 --> 0:35:06.920
<v Speaker 4>house and a car and all that stuff. I mean

0:35:06.960 --> 0:35:08.719
<v Speaker 4>it was like he's taking the flat screen and I

0:35:08.760 --> 0:35:10.080
<v Speaker 4>took like the bread of.

0:35:10.239 --> 0:35:13.600
<v Speaker 2>Someone told me that the paper is so much Someone

0:35:13.600 --> 0:35:15.879
<v Speaker 2>told me that it's so much paperwork, so that by

0:35:15.920 --> 0:35:17.359
<v Speaker 2>the time you get to the middle of it, you're like.

0:35:17.280 --> 0:35:18.720
<v Speaker 1>Do we really want to fucking divorce?

0:35:19.080 --> 0:35:21.359
<v Speaker 2>It's to wear you out and wear you down, it's

0:35:21.640 --> 0:35:24.319
<v Speaker 2>up and make you think, hey, maybe we should just

0:35:24.480 --> 0:35:25.040
<v Speaker 2>stay togain.

0:35:25.160 --> 0:35:27.719
<v Speaker 1>Let's try a little harder. Yeah, yeah, that's what it is.

0:35:27.880 --> 0:35:30.840
<v Speaker 2>Try a little harder. And is it really worth doing

0:35:30.880 --> 0:35:33.479
<v Speaker 2>all this fucking sheets of paper? You I don't even

0:35:33.520 --> 0:35:34.759
<v Speaker 2>know how to Like, I still don't know how to

0:35:34.800 --> 0:35:38.279
<v Speaker 2>fill out like an eleven nine? What is it? What

0:35:38.400 --> 0:35:38.600
<v Speaker 2>is that?

0:35:39.000 --> 0:35:39.080
<v Speaker 4>What?

0:35:40.000 --> 0:35:41.759
<v Speaker 2>I don't even know. They're like, how many exemptions are

0:35:41.800 --> 0:35:43.920
<v Speaker 2>you claiming? I always just put three. I don't even

0:35:43.920 --> 0:35:44.640
<v Speaker 2>know what that means.

0:35:45.239 --> 0:35:47.960
<v Speaker 3>I think you get more tiken out, but then.

0:35:47.840 --> 0:35:50.920
<v Speaker 1>I get more back with my Maybe.

0:35:50.440 --> 0:35:55.239
<v Speaker 2>I don't know, you're going to jail. It's fine, she doesn't.

0:35:56.000 --> 0:35:57.480
<v Speaker 1>Right to me, I need pin pass.

0:35:58.640 --> 0:36:02.359
<v Speaker 4>So yeah, so a lot of our relationship and maybe

0:36:02.360 --> 0:36:04.040
<v Speaker 4>it was just me at that time. I was a

0:36:04.040 --> 0:36:06.880
<v Speaker 4>big procrastinator, So I think I just also just procrastinated

0:36:06.920 --> 0:36:08.759
<v Speaker 4>a divorce, Like in my head we were done, but

0:36:08.800 --> 0:36:10.600
<v Speaker 4>it just was like, oh, I gotta go fill out

0:36:10.600 --> 0:36:10.920
<v Speaker 4>this thing.

0:36:11.120 --> 0:36:12.239
<v Speaker 2>So I separated, he.

0:36:12.160 --> 0:36:18.320
<v Speaker 4>Moved out, and then I, immediately I call it burning stage,

0:36:19.360 --> 0:36:21.480
<v Speaker 4>had sex with someone like a week later, just to

0:36:21.600 --> 0:36:23.960
<v Speaker 4>like get it out, get it out and get new in.

0:36:24.080 --> 0:36:26.440
<v Speaker 2>You got to cleanse the kuchie palate. That's what you

0:36:26.480 --> 0:36:26.840
<v Speaker 2>gotta do.

0:36:27.080 --> 0:36:32.520
<v Speaker 4>And yeah, and I so I hooked up with two

0:36:32.560 --> 0:36:34.600
<v Speaker 4>people and then the third person I hooked up with

0:36:34.719 --> 0:36:36.200
<v Speaker 4>and this is it was a month later.

0:36:36.960 --> 0:36:39.520
<v Speaker 3>It just stuck and we stayed together.

0:36:39.640 --> 0:36:41.239
<v Speaker 1>And it's like venus flag trap.

0:36:41.280 --> 0:36:42.080
<v Speaker 2>You got an use like.

0:36:42.120 --> 0:36:43.160
<v Speaker 3>Three and a half years.

0:36:43.160 --> 0:36:45.759
<v Speaker 1>Three and a half years something about you. You were

0:36:45.840 --> 0:36:48.040
<v Speaker 1>long term, bitch, You're not funny.

0:36:48.080 --> 0:36:52.080
<v Speaker 3>Thing is I didn't think that I was, but you are.

0:36:52.200 --> 0:36:54.279
<v Speaker 4>But you are I know as an adult, I'm looking

0:36:54.320 --> 0:36:55.280
<v Speaker 4>at your track record.

0:36:55.560 --> 0:36:59.879
<v Speaker 1>Yeah eight years, yeah the three wait eight years? Eight years?

0:37:00.080 --> 0:37:00.960
<v Speaker 1>First boyfriends?

0:37:01.560 --> 0:37:03.640
<v Speaker 2>No, but I but the thing.

0:37:03.560 --> 0:37:08.680
<v Speaker 4>Is my mean like I in my like I I

0:37:08.800 --> 0:37:14.960
<v Speaker 4>love people pretty easily, but I'm also like very uh horny. Okay,

0:37:15.080 --> 0:37:17.759
<v Speaker 4>I was like, what's the word, not horny? But like

0:37:18.280 --> 0:37:20.399
<v Speaker 4>I think if I had been single, Like there's part

0:37:20.440 --> 0:37:22.120
<v Speaker 4>of me that was like I wonder if like the

0:37:22.239 --> 0:37:24.319
<v Speaker 4>universe made me be in a relationship from my early

0:37:24.360 --> 0:37:25.600
<v Speaker 4>twenties because I would have been like.

0:37:25.760 --> 0:37:28.600
<v Speaker 2>To stop you from being a hot Yeah, the universe

0:37:28.640 --> 0:37:29.840
<v Speaker 2>works in your defense.

0:37:29.600 --> 0:37:30.440
<v Speaker 1>Paper who knows?

0:37:30.640 --> 0:37:31.200
<v Speaker 3>Who knows?

0:37:31.239 --> 0:37:35.200
<v Speaker 2>Because let me tell you boo. Yeah, I got some

0:37:35.640 --> 0:37:38.400
<v Speaker 2>miles on mine. I definitely how many miles and.

0:37:42.640 --> 0:37:44.680
<v Speaker 3>There's a round miles there's I mean.

0:37:45.680 --> 0:37:46.080
<v Speaker 1>But yeah.

0:37:46.120 --> 0:37:49.440
<v Speaker 4>So that the relationship after was like the opposite.

0:37:49.480 --> 0:37:51.879
<v Speaker 3>He was ethnic. His parents were immigrants, and I.

0:37:51.840 --> 0:37:55.719
<v Speaker 2>Was like, oh, because also say ethnic Indian. Yeah, I

0:37:56.320 --> 0:37:57.239
<v Speaker 2>was thinking brown.

0:37:57.160 --> 0:38:00.200
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, and yeah. I just kept going shaved down and

0:38:00.400 --> 0:38:03.560
<v Speaker 4>uh until I found the right color that worked with my.

0:38:05.440 --> 0:38:05.760
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:38:05.800 --> 0:38:09.439
<v Speaker 4>But no, I so in that other relationship, I felt

0:38:09.480 --> 0:38:11.480
<v Speaker 4>like I was super I was like, oh, I'm dysfunctional.

0:38:11.480 --> 0:38:14.440
<v Speaker 4>I'm fucked up because here's this nice guy. His parents

0:38:14.480 --> 0:38:18.040
<v Speaker 4>are super in love, he's the best. I'm fucking nuts.

0:38:18.040 --> 0:38:19.719
<v Speaker 4>I'm the one who can't make a decision. I'm the

0:38:19.719 --> 0:38:22.840
<v Speaker 4>one with crazy immigrant parents that like argue all the time.

0:38:23.120 --> 0:38:25.279
<v Speaker 4>So I was like, this is my problem, right, Like

0:38:25.320 --> 0:38:27.879
<v Speaker 4>I really made it me. So then when I met

0:38:27.920 --> 0:38:30.799
<v Speaker 4>someone who was also immigrant parents, like, I was.

0:38:30.760 --> 0:38:32.920
<v Speaker 1>Like, your dad hit you, my dad hit you high fab.

0:38:32.840 --> 0:38:35.640
<v Speaker 3>You know like that. And he was very passionate.

0:38:35.680 --> 0:38:39.359
<v Speaker 4>He was very protective and jealous and like all the things,

0:38:39.440 --> 0:38:40.680
<v Speaker 4>like he would never have been.

0:38:40.600 --> 0:38:42.800
<v Speaker 1>The fire to the other guy's. Yeah.

0:38:42.840 --> 0:38:45.799
<v Speaker 4>Like literally, if I was late at night, he would

0:38:45.800 --> 0:38:47.239
<v Speaker 4>call like five you know what I mean. Like it

0:38:47.480 --> 0:38:49.160
<v Speaker 4>couldn't have been more opposite. So in my head I

0:38:49.239 --> 0:38:51.759
<v Speaker 4>was like, oh, well, I guess this must be love.

0:38:52.280 --> 0:38:55.080
<v Speaker 4>And I like, I mean, I was so and I

0:38:55.120 --> 0:38:57.000
<v Speaker 4>was so into the like we'd always argue in the

0:38:57.120 --> 0:38:58.760
<v Speaker 4>rain and I broke his phone.

0:38:59.080 --> 0:39:02.440
<v Speaker 2>Oh no the rain. Yeah, see, we don't do that. No, no,

0:39:02.520 --> 0:39:04.200
<v Speaker 2>whatever we got to talk about, we could do it

0:39:04.239 --> 0:39:06.879
<v Speaker 2>in the house or under some shelter. Like I got

0:39:07.080 --> 0:39:10.160
<v Speaker 2>into a quiet argument with my ex boyfriend at the

0:39:10.320 --> 0:39:13.480
<v Speaker 2>train uh steps not. We didn't even go.

0:39:13.480 --> 0:39:13.959
<v Speaker 1>Down the stairs.

0:39:13.960 --> 0:39:15.279
<v Speaker 2>We were at the top of the steps on the

0:39:15.280 --> 0:39:18.279
<v Speaker 2>sidewalk arguing, and people that we knew kept walking by.

0:39:18.320 --> 0:39:21.440
<v Speaker 2>Some we had to be like, oh, what are you

0:39:21.480 --> 0:39:24.760
<v Speaker 2>talking about, like like yelling through our teeth.

0:39:24.880 --> 0:39:27.200
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and hey, Carol.

0:39:26.960 --> 0:39:28.040
<v Speaker 2>How your mam gonna doing what she could?

0:39:28.280 --> 0:39:30.880
<v Speaker 1>Okay, I'm gonna kill you. I'm gonna kill you tonight.

0:39:31.719 --> 0:39:34.600
<v Speaker 2>So I can't imagine. I mean, it wasn't raining because

0:39:34.680 --> 0:39:35.399
<v Speaker 2>I'm black woman.

0:39:35.960 --> 0:39:40.160
<v Speaker 4>It was very like uh, we were not friends. It

0:39:40.280 --> 0:39:44.840
<v Speaker 4>was like purely just this passionate you know, all of

0:39:44.880 --> 0:39:46.680
<v Speaker 4>our I don't know, it was just it was that

0:39:46.840 --> 0:39:48.160
<v Speaker 4>was three years, three.

0:39:48.080 --> 0:39:48.359
<v Speaker 3>And a half.

0:39:48.400 --> 0:39:50.360
<v Speaker 2>Okay, I'm gonna ask this question again. So who was

0:39:50.400 --> 0:39:52.280
<v Speaker 2>your friends during that time?

0:39:52.560 --> 0:39:56.319
<v Speaker 4>So during that time I did have I in the

0:39:56.400 --> 0:40:00.200
<v Speaker 4>very beginning, I had some friends be like, I know

0:40:00.200 --> 0:40:00.640
<v Speaker 4>about this.

0:40:00.600 --> 0:40:02.359
<v Speaker 2>Guy, like he doesn't you have a best friend, because

0:40:02.360 --> 0:40:05.120
<v Speaker 2>I feel like the best friend will always let you know, yeah,

0:40:05.160 --> 0:40:06.640
<v Speaker 2>I'm not feeling him, you know.

0:40:07.040 --> 0:40:10.320
<v Speaker 4>I had people kind of slowly say it. But again

0:40:11.239 --> 0:40:15.279
<v Speaker 4>because I was so I was really depressed the year

0:40:15.280 --> 0:40:17.239
<v Speaker 4>that I was married and the year leading up to that,

0:40:17.800 --> 0:40:20.600
<v Speaker 4>because I knew that I wasn't being myself, Like I

0:40:20.600 --> 0:40:23.840
<v Speaker 4>felt like I was trapped in another body. And so

0:40:24.520 --> 0:40:27.759
<v Speaker 4>because this person was doing all the things that I like.

0:40:27.800 --> 0:40:29.680
<v Speaker 4>My ex husband loved me, but he wasn't like verbal,

0:40:29.760 --> 0:40:31.240
<v Speaker 4>you know what I mean, Whereas this new guy would

0:40:31.239 --> 0:40:33.720
<v Speaker 4>just like put me on a pedestal.

0:40:33.280 --> 0:40:34.120
<v Speaker 3>And like compliment.

0:40:34.160 --> 0:40:36.080
<v Speaker 1>He was also like kick that pedestal.

0:40:36.239 --> 0:40:39.520
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, absolutely if it got too high, but like kid,

0:40:39.719 --> 0:40:41.080
<v Speaker 2>he always humbled you. Yeah.

0:40:41.160 --> 0:40:43.840
<v Speaker 4>It was but it was like it was very and

0:40:44.000 --> 0:40:47.239
<v Speaker 4>I was eating it up so hard, and it's you know,

0:40:47.280 --> 0:40:48.760
<v Speaker 4>I think you put out what you need.

0:40:48.640 --> 0:40:50.279
<v Speaker 3>At that time. I needed that at that time.

0:40:50.440 --> 0:40:52.319
<v Speaker 4>I also I moved in with him very fast. He

0:40:52.360 --> 0:40:53.799
<v Speaker 4>lived next door to his mom, so I had this

0:40:53.840 --> 0:40:54.839
<v Speaker 4>immigrant mom like.

0:40:55.280 --> 0:41:01.759
<v Speaker 2>You know, dinner, so you was away eating curry, yeah, exactly,

0:41:01.880 --> 0:41:03.879
<v Speaker 2>which I have not had since we broke up, because

0:41:03.920 --> 0:41:04.560
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, it's like.

0:41:04.520 --> 0:41:06.880
<v Speaker 1>Ah but grateful.

0:41:07.160 --> 0:41:09.520
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so are you.

0:41:09.560 --> 0:41:11.480
<v Speaker 2>When you walk by a halal truck, do you get

0:41:11.480 --> 0:41:12.239
<v Speaker 2>like flashbacks?

0:41:12.920 --> 0:41:14.479
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, start twitch all.

0:41:14.400 --> 0:41:16.880
<v Speaker 4>But definitely like First Avenue where all those guys are like,

0:41:16.960 --> 0:41:18.160
<v Speaker 4>come in, we have samosas.

0:41:18.200 --> 0:41:24.759
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, no, all your ex ruined Indian food, but.

0:41:24.960 --> 0:41:25.920
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's fine.

0:41:26.120 --> 0:41:27.680
<v Speaker 2>But but yeah, I mean I did.

0:41:27.719 --> 0:41:29.400
<v Speaker 3>And then toward the.

0:41:29.000 --> 0:41:31.560
<v Speaker 4>The last year that we were together, there was like

0:41:31.600 --> 0:41:33.840
<v Speaker 4>a lot of lying on his behalf, and my friends

0:41:33.840 --> 0:41:35.640
<v Speaker 4>started to be like, okay, come move in with like

0:41:35.719 --> 0:41:36.960
<v Speaker 4>they were sort of trying to.

0:41:36.920 --> 0:41:38.200
<v Speaker 2>Help facilitate it.

0:41:38.239 --> 0:41:40.880
<v Speaker 4>But the thing with telling your friends to break up

0:41:40.920 --> 0:41:44.360
<v Speaker 4>with people is it's real tricky because again, like you

0:41:44.520 --> 0:41:45.879
<v Speaker 4>got to touch that stove and.

0:41:45.840 --> 0:41:48.600
<v Speaker 5>Burn your hand, right, because you know, because you tell

0:41:48.600 --> 0:41:51.319
<v Speaker 5>your friend to leave somebody that you think that or

0:41:51.360 --> 0:41:53.399
<v Speaker 5>you can see that is not a good fit for them,

0:41:53.480 --> 0:41:56.439
<v Speaker 5>and then that person stays with them, and then it's like, well,

0:41:56.480 --> 0:41:57.520
<v Speaker 5>I guess we just go.

0:41:59.040 --> 0:42:01.480
<v Speaker 2>It's gonna be awkward, as up yesterday, it's gonna be awkward.

0:42:01.520 --> 0:42:03.840
<v Speaker 2>And then I know that I don't like him, So

0:42:03.960 --> 0:42:06.840
<v Speaker 2>now I gotta sit at lunch or dinner or whatever

0:42:07.280 --> 0:42:09.440
<v Speaker 2>from him. And he knowed that I don't like him

0:42:09.480 --> 0:42:12.000
<v Speaker 2>because she didn't ran her mouth and told him how

0:42:12.040 --> 0:42:14.600
<v Speaker 2>I feel. So now it's awkward. Now I can't go

0:42:14.960 --> 0:42:18.600
<v Speaker 2>to this restaurant because because he there, Like, but I

0:42:18.640 --> 0:42:22.120
<v Speaker 2>love it. I love what is it? What's my favorite thing?

0:42:22.200 --> 0:42:23.120
<v Speaker 2>Drunken noodles? I love?

0:42:24.239 --> 0:42:26.320
<v Speaker 1>Now he didn't fuck up drunken noodles for them exactly.

0:42:26.400 --> 0:42:27.839
<v Speaker 3>I mean, I think you can.

0:42:28.040 --> 0:42:31.480
<v Speaker 4>I what I would have, what I worked best with

0:42:31.480 --> 0:42:32.960
<v Speaker 4>me at that time, and what I try to do

0:42:33.040 --> 0:42:36.160
<v Speaker 4>with friends when they're in similar situations is like you listen,

0:42:36.760 --> 0:42:39.000
<v Speaker 4>you say, you know, like I support whatever you do,

0:42:39.239 --> 0:42:40.759
<v Speaker 4>but you know, I just care about you and I

0:42:40.760 --> 0:42:43.040
<v Speaker 4>want to like you have to kind of you can

0:42:43.080 --> 0:42:43.839
<v Speaker 4>be upfront.

0:42:43.520 --> 0:42:44.200
<v Speaker 3>And honest with them.

0:42:44.400 --> 0:42:47.160
<v Speaker 4>Every relationship is different the same way every romantic relationship

0:42:47.200 --> 0:42:49.239
<v Speaker 4>is different. Every friendship is different. You have some friends

0:42:49.239 --> 0:42:51.200
<v Speaker 4>where you can just say it and it's cool. Other

0:42:51.320 --> 0:42:55.000
<v Speaker 4>friends you can't. It's tricky, Like, but it's also not

0:42:55.000 --> 0:42:57.359
<v Speaker 4>my friend's responsibility to get me out of a relationship.

0:42:57.400 --> 0:42:58.520
<v Speaker 1>I have to learn what is.

0:42:58.440 --> 0:43:01.719
<v Speaker 2>Your friend's responsibility to be like a good friend. Yeah,

0:43:02.000 --> 0:43:04.239
<v Speaker 2>like this is not the cist. We're not doing this.

0:43:04.440 --> 0:43:06.640
<v Speaker 3>So it wasn't telling them everything that was wrong.

0:43:06.880 --> 0:43:09.400
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but they still were like, dude, like based on

0:43:09.400 --> 0:43:10.319
<v Speaker 2>what they were seeing, they were like.

0:43:10.320 --> 0:43:11.600
<v Speaker 1>You should come and stay with me.

0:43:11.760 --> 0:43:11.960
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:43:11.960 --> 0:43:13.600
<v Speaker 4>Towards the end, when I started to be more upfront

0:43:13.640 --> 0:43:15.279
<v Speaker 4>about like the problems we were having, they were like,

0:43:15.480 --> 0:43:19.520
<v Speaker 4>uh so, yeah, we ended up the reason why that

0:43:19.680 --> 0:43:21.959
<v Speaker 4>the final straw though, Like there's a lot of things

0:43:22.000 --> 0:43:23.640
<v Speaker 4>that were wrong, but the final straw was that I

0:43:23.680 --> 0:43:27.320
<v Speaker 4>was doing a solo show about my marriage and he

0:43:27.760 --> 0:43:31.600
<v Speaker 4>didn't like me putting all my business out there because

0:43:31.640 --> 0:43:33.480
<v Speaker 4>I talked about like my first hand, like I talked

0:43:33.480 --> 0:43:34.440
<v Speaker 4>about all those things.

0:43:34.560 --> 0:43:38.080
<v Speaker 2>I mean, but that's I think that's valid though, Like

0:43:38.360 --> 0:43:38.680
<v Speaker 2>it was.

0:43:38.800 --> 0:43:40.359
<v Speaker 3>A teen age teenage shit.

0:43:40.480 --> 0:43:42.120
<v Speaker 4>Also, it's not like he met me and I was

0:43:42.160 --> 0:43:44.440
<v Speaker 4>like a nurse and then I became a comedian, Like

0:43:44.520 --> 0:43:46.799
<v Speaker 4>he met me hearing me talk shit on stage and

0:43:46.880 --> 0:43:48.240
<v Speaker 4>was so attracted to it.

0:43:48.320 --> 0:43:50.680
<v Speaker 2>And now he probably was like, ooh it did don't

0:43:50.680 --> 0:43:52.160
<v Speaker 2>work out. This was gonna say everything.

0:43:52.280 --> 0:43:53.880
<v Speaker 4>I was the first thing out of his mouth when

0:43:53.920 --> 0:43:55.400
<v Speaker 4>we broke up, was were you going to tell everyone

0:43:55.400 --> 0:43:56.279
<v Speaker 4>everything I did wrong?

0:43:56.360 --> 0:43:56.520
<v Speaker 5>Yes?

0:43:56.560 --> 0:43:59.399
<v Speaker 3>It's like, yeah, that will be a yes.

0:44:00.120 --> 0:44:02.480
<v Speaker 4>Here's the thing is, in my marriage and in that relationship,

0:44:02.560 --> 0:44:05.560
<v Speaker 4>I absolutely know I made mistakes. I would not be

0:44:05.600 --> 0:44:07.719
<v Speaker 4>ashamed if any of those mistakes were out there, because

0:44:07.719 --> 0:44:10.399
<v Speaker 4>I'll be like, yeah, yeah, I was young, Yeah, sorry

0:44:10.440 --> 0:44:10.799
<v Speaker 4>about that.

0:44:11.560 --> 0:44:14.680
<v Speaker 2>You know, that's like dating a performer. You're in a

0:44:14.680 --> 0:44:17.520
<v Speaker 2>comic and you're dating somebody who's a comedian. Even when

0:44:17.560 --> 0:44:19.240
<v Speaker 2>I meet somebody and they find out I'm a comic,

0:44:19.239 --> 0:44:21.120
<v Speaker 2>they're like, is this gonna go on one of your skits?

0:44:21.200 --> 0:44:24.040
<v Speaker 2>And I'm like, first of all, I don't do skits?

0:44:24.040 --> 0:44:24.680
<v Speaker 1>What this is?

0:44:24.920 --> 0:44:27.719
<v Speaker 2>And you know, people are afraid that you're going to

0:44:27.800 --> 0:44:31.239
<v Speaker 2>talk about them, so they should stay a live as.

0:44:31.160 --> 0:44:32.959
<v Speaker 3>Soon as your dick goes, I mean, you signed a waiver.

0:44:33.280 --> 0:44:33.759
<v Speaker 2>You sure did.

0:44:33.840 --> 0:44:36.680
<v Speaker 3>That is a waiver that is a legally binding contract.

0:44:36.680 --> 0:44:38.360
<v Speaker 1>As soon as you're released, that's the release.

0:44:38.560 --> 0:44:40.360
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:44:40.719 --> 0:44:42.160
<v Speaker 1>Wait, how'd you break up with this dude.

0:44:42.440 --> 0:44:47.560
<v Speaker 4>Oh so he uh it was it was not great.

0:44:47.680 --> 0:44:49.200
<v Speaker 4>It was like he said he had a problem with

0:44:49.239 --> 0:44:52.960
<v Speaker 4>the show. Blah blah blah. We argued, had another argument,

0:44:53.040 --> 0:44:55.440
<v Speaker 4>and then I was like, I like, I can't do this.

0:44:55.480 --> 0:44:56.000
<v Speaker 3>I'm leaving.

0:44:56.239 --> 0:44:57.800
<v Speaker 4>I tried to break up with them a few times

0:44:57.840 --> 0:45:00.520
<v Speaker 4>over that past year because things were going south, and

0:45:00.560 --> 0:45:04.080
<v Speaker 4>he would, you know, beg and be like, I'm going

0:45:04.120 --> 0:45:06.279
<v Speaker 4>to therapy. I'll die without you, like a lot of

0:45:06.280 --> 0:45:08.280
<v Speaker 4>that guilt mother's curry.

0:45:08.560 --> 0:45:08.840
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:45:09.000 --> 0:45:11.840
<v Speaker 3>He did a lot of victim stuff.

0:45:11.840 --> 0:45:14.320
<v Speaker 4>And because but here's the thing is, I was so

0:45:14.320 --> 0:45:16.799
<v Speaker 4>so talking about rebounds to get into that expert thing.

0:45:16.800 --> 0:45:17.480
<v Speaker 3>I'm not gonna tell.

0:45:17.560 --> 0:45:19.799
<v Speaker 4>And you know, everyone does whatever they want to do,

0:45:20.120 --> 0:45:23.480
<v Speaker 4>but I will suggest, like, you gotta give yourself some time.

0:45:23.520 --> 0:45:25.520
<v Speaker 4>Like I was in an eight year relationship, I gave

0:45:25.560 --> 0:45:26.560
<v Speaker 4>myself zero time.

0:45:26.600 --> 0:45:27.279
<v Speaker 1>I did not want to.

0:45:27.960 --> 0:45:29.720
<v Speaker 4>I didn't want it because I felt like I didn't

0:45:29.760 --> 0:45:30.359
<v Speaker 4>deserve to.

0:45:30.320 --> 0:45:33.520
<v Speaker 2>Grieve because I vagina has some mourn yeah for a

0:45:33.560 --> 0:45:34.560
<v Speaker 2>little yeah.

0:45:34.400 --> 0:45:35.719
<v Speaker 1>A little little black veil.

0:45:36.320 --> 0:45:39.279
<v Speaker 4>And because I initiated the breakup, I felt like, because

0:45:39.280 --> 0:45:41.120
<v Speaker 4>I was the bad guy, I felt like I didn't

0:45:41.120 --> 0:45:42.080
<v Speaker 4>deserve times to grieve.

0:45:42.120 --> 0:45:43.920
<v Speaker 2>So wait wait, wait, wait wait, if you break up,

0:45:43.960 --> 0:45:45.080
<v Speaker 2>wasn't going to you to bad guy?

0:45:45.280 --> 0:45:47.400
<v Speaker 4>No felt I don't think that at all. Oh I

0:45:47.560 --> 0:45:50.319
<v Speaker 4>I I'm saying. At the time, I felt like I

0:45:50.360 --> 0:45:52.440
<v Speaker 4>just felt like the bad guy. I felt really fucked up.

0:45:52.600 --> 0:45:55.160
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean I don't feel I mean when I

0:45:55.160 --> 0:45:58.360
<v Speaker 2>broke up with my boyfriend, I was the bad guy.

0:45:58.600 --> 0:46:01.279
<v Speaker 2>But I feel like that's sometimes you have to leave

0:46:01.320 --> 0:46:03.720
<v Speaker 2>the bad guy, or sometimes there's no bad guys.

0:46:03.760 --> 0:46:06.080
<v Speaker 3>Just we're not good for each other one hundred percent.

0:46:06.120 --> 0:46:06.880
<v Speaker 2>There's just energy.

0:46:06.920 --> 0:46:07.479
<v Speaker 3>It's not good.

0:46:07.520 --> 0:46:09.680
<v Speaker 4>And so when I met that second boyfriend, I was

0:46:09.680 --> 0:46:12.560
<v Speaker 4>in such a vulnerable place. I just wanted something to

0:46:12.600 --> 0:46:15.120
<v Speaker 4>distract me from myself, which I think a lot of

0:46:15.160 --> 0:46:17.920
<v Speaker 4>people do when they stay stuck in a relationship. You're like,

0:46:17.960 --> 0:46:20.160
<v Speaker 4>well if I put in, especially because he seemed more

0:46:20.200 --> 0:46:22.319
<v Speaker 4>fucked up than me, I was like, well great. The

0:46:22.320 --> 0:46:24.960
<v Speaker 4>same way I was my ex husband's project, this guy

0:46:25.000 --> 0:46:27.279
<v Speaker 4>will be my project, and I just wanted to Like

0:46:27.640 --> 0:46:29.600
<v Speaker 4>so when he would come to me crying, being like

0:46:29.640 --> 0:46:31.479
<v Speaker 4>I can't live without you, I'd be like, I guess

0:46:31.520 --> 0:46:33.360
<v Speaker 4>this is like if I see.

0:46:33.200 --> 0:46:35.920
<v Speaker 2>A man cry and say I can't live without you. No,

0:46:36.160 --> 0:46:38.520
<v Speaker 2>I definitely I'm backing my thing. Yeah, I'm putting a

0:46:38.520 --> 0:46:41.440
<v Speaker 2>different wig on. I'm changing my life. I'm changing my

0:46:41.480 --> 0:46:44.560
<v Speaker 2>first name because those guys, why would you say I

0:46:44.560 --> 0:46:46.560
<v Speaker 2>can't live with that? Come on, dude, you were living

0:46:47.040 --> 0:46:49.719
<v Speaker 2>I don't know, thirty years previous to me without me.

0:46:50.200 --> 0:46:52.080
<v Speaker 3>I agree with everything that is, Beau.

0:46:52.120 --> 0:46:56.399
<v Speaker 2>If I see a man cry, then pussy is dry,

0:46:54.480 --> 0:47:01.520
<v Speaker 2>haven't yeh? Man, man tears like sham while my va giant.

0:47:01.600 --> 0:47:06.000
<v Speaker 2>It's just like it depends. Layers are about No, they're

0:47:06.040 --> 0:47:09.480
<v Speaker 2>always making me dry. How about you crying during this

0:47:09.560 --> 0:47:10.640
<v Speaker 2>movie about Really?

0:47:11.080 --> 0:47:13.400
<v Speaker 1>I don't mind's funeral?

0:47:13.520 --> 0:47:16.640
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, wow, live you square, live you skirt up? Man?

0:47:16.680 --> 0:47:17.359
<v Speaker 2>What's going on?

0:47:20.400 --> 0:47:22.399
<v Speaker 1>But that's just me and that's probably why we're rude. Yeah,

0:47:23.560 --> 0:47:26.680
<v Speaker 1>so so let me see how mu champy oft I

0:47:26.680 --> 0:47:27.279
<v Speaker 1>just don't want to see.

0:47:27.440 --> 0:47:30.080
<v Speaker 2>So can you give anybody who's listening, like tips on

0:47:30.200 --> 0:47:32.880
<v Speaker 2>how to properly rebound or like?

0:47:33.520 --> 0:47:36.560
<v Speaker 4>Okay, so I think I did it properly after that one.

0:47:36.840 --> 0:47:38.279
<v Speaker 4>So now I'm like single for the first time in

0:47:38.400 --> 0:47:42.080
<v Speaker 4>eleven years, and I move in with.

0:47:42.040 --> 0:47:44.280
<v Speaker 3>A girlfriend who's also recently single.

0:47:44.480 --> 0:47:44.719
<v Speaker 2>Good.

0:47:44.880 --> 0:47:47.600
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, you've got to stick together. In Williamsburg. So I

0:47:47.680 --> 0:47:48.720
<v Speaker 4>moving to a young, hot.

0:47:48.520 --> 0:47:51.040
<v Speaker 3>Neighborhood, okay with the thriving.

0:47:51.400 --> 0:47:56.080
<v Speaker 4>Thriving and just start fucking and just started going up

0:47:56.080 --> 0:47:57.560
<v Speaker 4>to people that I'd always wanted to have, you know,

0:47:57.600 --> 0:47:58.680
<v Speaker 4>like people you kind of keep in the back of

0:47:58.719 --> 0:47:59.879
<v Speaker 4>your head and you're like, oh, I was sang.

0:48:00.440 --> 0:48:01.680
<v Speaker 3>Just started going up to all them.

0:48:01.680 --> 0:48:03.759
<v Speaker 4>It's really I will say, it's a lot easier because

0:48:03.760 --> 0:48:04.440
<v Speaker 4>I'm a comedian.

0:48:04.520 --> 0:48:07.040
<v Speaker 3>So it was like people I knew and I was.

0:48:06.960 --> 0:48:10.680
<v Speaker 2>Wait, was it civilians or you would like comedians and

0:48:10.960 --> 0:48:19.360
<v Speaker 2>civilians comedian? Oh, it's fine. Your current boyfriend is a comedian,

0:48:19.400 --> 0:48:19.960
<v Speaker 2>so it's fine.

0:48:20.160 --> 0:48:21.160
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and we worked out.

0:48:21.280 --> 0:48:22.799
<v Speaker 4>Yeah. I was going up to people that I like

0:48:22.880 --> 0:48:24.640
<v Speaker 4>that I knew a lot of them were like friends,

0:48:24.680 --> 0:48:26.120
<v Speaker 4>and I was like, I've always wanted to have sex

0:48:26.160 --> 0:48:28.000
<v Speaker 4>with you, and they were like what And I.

0:48:27.920 --> 0:48:28.480
<v Speaker 3>Was like I was.

0:48:28.680 --> 0:48:31.480
<v Speaker 4>They're like, what's the catch, and I'm like literally literally

0:48:31.560 --> 0:48:34.160
<v Speaker 4>just no, Like I have so much time to make

0:48:34.239 --> 0:48:36.200
<v Speaker 4>up for I need to get my numbers up fast,

0:48:36.480 --> 0:48:38.799
<v Speaker 4>Like I know, I fall in love easy, so like

0:48:38.920 --> 0:48:42.759
<v Speaker 4>let's get so. I guess the trick to it is

0:48:42.800 --> 0:48:44.600
<v Speaker 4>to just I just was being honest, like I was

0:48:44.640 --> 0:48:47.080
<v Speaker 4>being like brutally honest with people. I was just like,

0:48:47.560 --> 0:48:49.680
<v Speaker 4>this is where I'm at. I just got a relationship.

0:48:49.760 --> 0:48:53.640
<v Speaker 4>Like I anything, any advice that I'd ever been given

0:48:53.680 --> 0:48:55.840
<v Speaker 4>in like a fucking magazine or a TV show, I

0:48:55.880 --> 0:48:58.360
<v Speaker 4>was just like, fuck that. Like I talked about inappropriate

0:48:58.360 --> 0:49:00.160
<v Speaker 4>things on first dates.

0:49:00.200 --> 0:49:02.640
<v Speaker 2>So you went on dates, you weren't just going up

0:49:02.680 --> 0:49:05.040
<v Speaker 2>to people, let's fuck, you wouldn't getting were you getting like.

0:49:05.040 --> 0:49:07.080
<v Speaker 1>At least pasta you know.

0:49:07.080 --> 0:49:07.960
<v Speaker 2>I was mostly.

0:49:09.200 --> 0:49:12.080
<v Speaker 1>I got like a couple of breakfasts. Okay, so it

0:49:12.160 --> 0:49:13.320
<v Speaker 1>was after yacht and fucked.

0:49:13.400 --> 0:49:17.040
<v Speaker 4>Okay, I didn't Okay, I want you, I would say,

0:49:17.040 --> 0:49:19.040
<v Speaker 4>for like the first six months, it was mostly just

0:49:19.160 --> 0:49:22.799
<v Speaker 4>fucking and like connecting with people. Yeah, just it was

0:49:23.040 --> 0:49:24.880
<v Speaker 4>really fun and it was interesting. I felt like I

0:49:24.880 --> 0:49:26.680
<v Speaker 4>was hooking with a lot of people that had also

0:49:26.760 --> 0:49:29.520
<v Speaker 4>gone through a breakup or were like I was really

0:49:29.600 --> 0:49:32.000
<v Speaker 4>magnetizing people that were sort of in a similar place

0:49:32.000 --> 0:49:33.759
<v Speaker 4>of me of like, oh my god, I've always been

0:49:33.760 --> 0:49:35.279
<v Speaker 4>in long term really and I'm trying this.

0:49:35.239 --> 0:49:36.960
<v Speaker 2>In the summer because I feel like in the summer

0:49:37.280 --> 0:49:39.839
<v Speaker 2>that is where yeah go hey, oh yeah.

0:49:39.840 --> 0:49:41.759
<v Speaker 3>It was May and I was like wearing a like.

0:49:41.719 --> 0:49:46.360
<v Speaker 2>A scrumper that I don't want to magnetize with people

0:49:46.400 --> 0:49:48.120
<v Speaker 2>who are going through the same thing as me. I

0:49:48.120 --> 0:49:50.799
<v Speaker 2>want you to be going through something completely different. I

0:49:50.840 --> 0:49:53.160
<v Speaker 2>want you to be like in a different place financially,

0:49:53.280 --> 0:49:55.440
<v Speaker 2>I want you to keep working in a different field.

0:49:55.560 --> 0:49:57.960
<v Speaker 2>I want you to maybe not know who your dad is.

0:49:58.000 --> 0:50:00.720
<v Speaker 2>Like I just I need you to be complete different

0:50:01.000 --> 0:50:01.279
<v Speaker 2>than me.

0:50:01.520 --> 0:50:04.719
<v Speaker 4>I mean I had all sorts, but because I was

0:50:04.920 --> 0:50:09.080
<v Speaker 4>very specifically not wanting a boyfriend, I was okay hooking

0:50:09.160 --> 0:50:11.120
<v Speaker 4>up with someone who was like going through a lot

0:50:11.120 --> 0:50:12.799
<v Speaker 4>of ship because I'm like, oh, this is just gonna

0:50:12.800 --> 0:50:14.319
<v Speaker 4>be hooking up and maybe like.

0:50:14.320 --> 0:50:15.000
<v Speaker 3>A coffee date.

0:50:15.080 --> 0:50:16.240
<v Speaker 1>I feel like those people who.

0:50:16.080 --> 0:50:17.359
<v Speaker 2>Are going through a lot of stuff are the ones

0:50:17.360 --> 0:50:18.680
<v Speaker 2>that are gonna call you in the middle of the

0:50:18.800 --> 0:50:20.880
<v Speaker 2>night like, Hey, I just wanted you to know that,

0:50:21.080 --> 0:50:24.120
<v Speaker 2>Like it's getting pretty bad on like I don't want.

0:50:24.000 --> 0:50:25.640
<v Speaker 3>To talk to you, and you just say I don't

0:50:25.640 --> 0:50:26.360
<v Speaker 3>want to talk.

0:50:27.680 --> 0:50:31.960
<v Speaker 2>Cold. But if she's ice queen, she doesn't want you

0:50:32.000 --> 0:50:34.040
<v Speaker 2>to be vocals.

0:50:34.040 --> 0:50:36.080
<v Speaker 1>Feel things, ye speak to me. She wants you to

0:50:36.120 --> 0:50:36.720
<v Speaker 1>be a stone.

0:50:36.840 --> 0:50:39.239
<v Speaker 2>I'm afraid that if if I shut somebody who's like

0:50:39.280 --> 0:50:42.160
<v Speaker 2>a little bit broken, if I shut them down too harshly,

0:50:42.200 --> 0:50:44.120
<v Speaker 2>which is what I'm gonna do. I'm afraid they're gonna

0:50:44.120 --> 0:50:46.840
<v Speaker 2>be like waiting for me at my mailbox, Like hey, remember,

0:50:46.840 --> 0:50:48.880
<v Speaker 2>but Marie shuts people down all the time, And nobody's

0:50:48.920 --> 0:50:50.960
<v Speaker 2>waiting at your at your doorstad.

0:50:50.920 --> 0:50:52.319
<v Speaker 1>You need a key to get into the door.

0:50:53.600 --> 0:50:57.640
<v Speaker 2>None, they be letting anybody come through. Somebody was letting

0:50:57.640 --> 0:51:00.919
<v Speaker 2>me in a while. I was ringing, buzzing your bell. Yeah,

0:51:01.680 --> 0:51:02.719
<v Speaker 2>the end of the day, I was coming out of

0:51:02.760 --> 0:51:05.000
<v Speaker 2>that little area and there was a homeless man sleep

0:51:05.040 --> 0:51:05.520
<v Speaker 2>and I was like.

0:51:05.520 --> 0:51:10.520
<v Speaker 4>Really, somebody really want to do at two am?

0:51:11.120 --> 0:51:11.920
<v Speaker 3>And now you're.

0:51:14.840 --> 0:51:18.440
<v Speaker 1>Okay, So you need to rebound properly. I think rebound properly.

0:51:18.480 --> 0:51:20.719
<v Speaker 4>And also, and I hope this makes sense, and I

0:51:20.719 --> 0:51:24.399
<v Speaker 4>feel like Marie is going to disagree, but just picking

0:51:24.440 --> 0:51:27.759
<v Speaker 4>up on our vibe. But I also I think being

0:51:27.840 --> 0:51:30.359
<v Speaker 4>in the moment, and this goes for everything in life

0:51:30.400 --> 0:51:33.120
<v Speaker 4>is so important. And I think especially with relationships, it's

0:51:33.239 --> 0:51:36.160
<v Speaker 4>very easy to be with someone and of course naturally,

0:51:36.200 --> 0:51:38.480
<v Speaker 4>like your past ship comes up and then you're already

0:51:38.520 --> 0:51:40.640
<v Speaker 4>planning the future and you're like and all this stuff,

0:51:40.960 --> 0:51:43.200
<v Speaker 4>and what I really did when I was rebounding was

0:51:43.200 --> 0:51:44.360
<v Speaker 4>I was being in the moment.

0:51:44.480 --> 0:51:46.719
<v Speaker 3>So when I was like hooking up with people, I

0:51:46.840 --> 0:51:47.400
<v Speaker 3>was there.

0:51:47.920 --> 0:51:52.680
<v Speaker 4>I really felt like positive, caring energy for them while

0:51:52.680 --> 0:51:54.440
<v Speaker 4>we were like I felt like the sex I was

0:51:54.480 --> 0:51:57.279
<v Speaker 4>having was really connected with a lot of people. And

0:51:57.320 --> 0:51:59.720
<v Speaker 4>that might sound whatever, but I was in the moment

0:51:59.840 --> 0:52:02.360
<v Speaker 4>and so it it. My head wasn't like where is

0:52:02.400 --> 0:52:05.920
<v Speaker 4>this going or like oh and so I felt like

0:52:05.920 --> 0:52:08.920
<v Speaker 4>a lot of my exchanges with these people and this

0:52:09.040 --> 0:52:11.279
<v Speaker 4>is getting like very like woo woo energy. But the

0:52:11.520 --> 0:52:15.040
<v Speaker 4>energy was like respectful and balanced and nice because I

0:52:15.080 --> 0:52:15.879
<v Speaker 4>was actually there.

0:52:16.320 --> 0:52:18.919
<v Speaker 2>How old we are these people? They sounded uh yeah,

0:52:18.920 --> 0:52:21.480
<v Speaker 2>they sound like they might be interesting aged.

0:52:22.040 --> 0:52:23.600
<v Speaker 3>You know what I'm gonna say is it was better

0:52:23.600 --> 0:52:24.799
<v Speaker 3>and better the younger they were.

0:52:26.040 --> 0:52:28.480
<v Speaker 2>Also, they were just respecting you because you was older

0:52:28.520 --> 0:52:30.800
<v Speaker 2>than them. Maybe it was respect to elders.

0:52:30.800 --> 0:52:32.600
<v Speaker 3>That's what respect my elders.

0:52:32.680 --> 0:52:34.320
<v Speaker 2>Did they call you miss.

0:52:36.120 --> 0:52:41.560
<v Speaker 4>Ma'am? They were like, oh, I'm gonna come ma'am, Mama Rozzi,

0:52:45.600 --> 0:52:46.360
<v Speaker 4>where should.

0:52:46.080 --> 0:52:46.640
<v Speaker 2>I come up?

0:52:46.719 --> 0:52:46.799
<v Speaker 4>No?

0:52:47.000 --> 0:52:48.799
<v Speaker 3>But uh yeah, I don't know.

0:52:48.880 --> 0:52:51.320
<v Speaker 4>It was it was a really you know, I'm a

0:52:51.680 --> 0:52:53.280
<v Speaker 4>cry but I would also give myself time.

0:52:53.160 --> 0:52:54.520
<v Speaker 3>And like cry my shower.

0:52:55.920 --> 0:52:58.160
<v Speaker 4>Girl, but I was really good about like having nights

0:52:58.200 --> 0:52:59.839
<v Speaker 4>where I was like, you know what, any other thing

0:52:59.840 --> 0:53:02.960
<v Speaker 4>I it suggests too, if you are rebounding and you

0:53:03.000 --> 0:53:06.240
<v Speaker 4>tend to be codependent and find yourself in relationships easy

0:53:06.680 --> 0:53:08.520
<v Speaker 4>is you also have to kind of learn to self

0:53:08.560 --> 0:53:10.600
<v Speaker 4>soothe and not run to your friends all the time.

0:53:10.960 --> 0:53:11.839
<v Speaker 3>Because that was the thing.

0:53:12.000 --> 0:53:15.960
<v Speaker 4>Was like I would start to feel sad, and instead

0:53:16.000 --> 0:53:20.040
<v Speaker 4>of feeling sad because fine, I would grab the phone

0:53:20.040 --> 0:53:21.759
<v Speaker 4>and like, I'm not saying you shouldn't call people.

0:53:21.840 --> 0:53:23.480
<v Speaker 3>Of course, if you're like hitting, you.

0:53:23.600 --> 0:53:25.680
<v Speaker 2>Don't call them. If your friend is Marie Fasson, don't

0:53:26.080 --> 0:53:27.560
<v Speaker 2>you should be called Fay.

0:53:28.640 --> 0:53:31.760
<v Speaker 4>It was it was a really thing that I needed

0:53:31.800 --> 0:53:33.960
<v Speaker 4>to learn to make my next relationship good, which is

0:53:34.000 --> 0:53:36.160
<v Speaker 4>self soothing and being like what do I actually think

0:53:36.160 --> 0:53:38.000
<v Speaker 4>and what do I actually feel? And some of those

0:53:38.040 --> 0:53:39.960
<v Speaker 4>times would be like I would just cry for an

0:53:39.960 --> 0:53:41.880
<v Speaker 4>hour and then I'd dust myself off and go do

0:53:41.960 --> 0:53:44.360
<v Speaker 4>something productive instead of being on the phone with like

0:53:44.600 --> 0:53:46.640
<v Speaker 4>friend and after friend after friend being like I don't

0:53:46.719 --> 0:53:47.440
<v Speaker 4>know anything.

0:53:47.520 --> 0:53:50.080
<v Speaker 2>It's like yes, this, yeah, it's gonna be okay. Yeah

0:53:50.360 --> 0:53:52.120
<v Speaker 2>you got another call, that's the pizza.

0:53:52.440 --> 0:53:54.080
<v Speaker 1>Yes, ordered again?

0:53:54.400 --> 0:53:57.239
<v Speaker 4>Not, but just learning to pick and choose when you

0:53:57.280 --> 0:53:58.919
<v Speaker 4>actually need help and when you're just.

0:53:58.840 --> 0:54:00.680
<v Speaker 2>Like when do you call your friend? When do you

0:54:00.760 --> 0:54:01.239
<v Speaker 2>actually call?

0:54:01.360 --> 0:54:03.120
<v Speaker 3>I think when you need.

0:54:02.960 --> 0:54:03.799
<v Speaker 2>To stay at her place?

0:54:04.800 --> 0:54:06.640
<v Speaker 4>No, or when you I mean, god, like, if you're

0:54:06.640 --> 0:54:10.279
<v Speaker 4>feeling fucking suicidal, of course, if you feel if you're

0:54:10.320 --> 0:54:12.320
<v Speaker 4>like if you have had a realization.

0:54:11.920 --> 0:54:13.160
<v Speaker 3>And you're like, hey, I want to run this by

0:54:13.239 --> 0:54:14.640
<v Speaker 3>you and like talk it out.

0:54:14.640 --> 0:54:16.239
<v Speaker 4>But I think if you're just in that moment of

0:54:16.320 --> 0:54:19.520
<v Speaker 4>panic and you're not even letting yourself be honest with

0:54:19.560 --> 0:54:23.160
<v Speaker 4>yourself about what it is, because it's sometimes when you're

0:54:23.160 --> 0:54:25.640
<v Speaker 4>having a fitter breakdown, Like every time I've had a breakdown,

0:54:25.680 --> 0:54:28.600
<v Speaker 4>I've come out of it with something a new knowledge

0:54:28.600 --> 0:54:29.360
<v Speaker 4>about myself.

0:54:29.400 --> 0:54:31.160
<v Speaker 3>That hurts, but it's amazing.

0:54:31.520 --> 0:54:34.640
<v Speaker 2>That's so real. That is I mean, I'm right here,

0:54:34.760 --> 0:54:36.520
<v Speaker 2>think about all the times I've picked up the phone

0:54:36.520 --> 0:54:38.040
<v Speaker 2>call people like that was dumb.

0:54:38.400 --> 0:54:40.719
<v Speaker 4>It's not dumb. I mean, I still don't get me wrong.

0:54:40.840 --> 0:54:41.880
<v Speaker 4>I'm sure I have friends with my.

0:54:41.880 --> 0:54:43.600
<v Speaker 1>People listening, and you gotta self suit.

0:54:43.920 --> 0:54:47.640
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I have a friend who would hear this and

0:54:47.680 --> 0:54:48.280
<v Speaker 3>be like bitch.

0:54:52.080 --> 0:54:55.839
<v Speaker 4>But I'm trying to learn because that's and you'll make

0:54:55.880 --> 0:54:57.359
<v Speaker 4>better decisions after that.

0:54:57.440 --> 0:55:00.760
<v Speaker 2>Okay, what's a what's a good like break up line?

0:55:01.000 --> 0:55:03.880
<v Speaker 2>Not the it's you, it's not me, but like something

0:55:03.920 --> 0:55:04.680
<v Speaker 2>equivalent to that.

0:55:05.480 --> 0:55:08.120
<v Speaker 4>Oh, I just think it's it's just being honest. I

0:55:08.160 --> 0:55:11.200
<v Speaker 4>think trying to make it not. I think that what

0:55:11.320 --> 0:55:14.880
<v Speaker 4>happens a lot in breakups is people. Even if it

0:55:14.920 --> 0:55:17.880
<v Speaker 4>is quote unquote the other person's fault, it's never just

0:55:17.920 --> 0:55:20.640
<v Speaker 4>one person's fault because like the person I was with

0:55:20.680 --> 0:55:22.920
<v Speaker 4>for almost four years, I could right now be like

0:55:22.960 --> 0:55:24.920
<v Speaker 4>any lied about this and this and this, but you

0:55:24.960 --> 0:55:27.640
<v Speaker 4>know what I chose to say. I enabled the behavior.

0:55:27.800 --> 0:55:30.759
<v Speaker 4>I tried to change him. I shamed him when he

0:55:30.800 --> 0:55:32.719
<v Speaker 4>didn't do what I thought was right. I mean I

0:55:32.760 --> 0:55:34.960
<v Speaker 4>did a lot. So when I broke up with him,

0:55:35.160 --> 0:55:36.360
<v Speaker 4>he was like, I know I did a lot of

0:55:36.360 --> 0:55:39.680
<v Speaker 4>things wrong. I was like, yes, but we're it's not

0:55:40.320 --> 0:55:44.160
<v Speaker 4>you're wrong, I'm wrong. This just isn't right. And I think,

0:55:44.360 --> 0:55:46.839
<v Speaker 4>you know, someone might not believe that, but I think

0:55:46.880 --> 0:55:50.120
<v Speaker 4>if you can take ownership of your part in it,

0:55:50.120 --> 0:55:52.439
<v Speaker 4>it makes it easier for you both to heal.

0:55:52.600 --> 0:55:55.319
<v Speaker 2>When I hear this just isn't right, I get like

0:55:55.680 --> 0:55:56.520
<v Speaker 2>I feel crazy.

0:55:56.600 --> 0:55:59.040
<v Speaker 1>I feel like Nah, we gonna make it work. Let's

0:55:59.080 --> 0:56:00.960
<v Speaker 1>make it right, to make it.

0:56:01.360 --> 0:56:02.840
<v Speaker 4>But the thing is that when you get into a

0:56:02.880 --> 0:56:05.759
<v Speaker 4>new relationship, Yeah, but then it's.

0:56:06.760 --> 0:56:12.640
<v Speaker 2>Right, yeah, what's her name, Iyanda, I'll get her to

0:56:12.760 --> 0:56:15.719
<v Speaker 2>fix this relationship. Yeah, no, I'm not doing that. If

0:56:15.719 --> 0:56:18.160
<v Speaker 2>you're telling me it is no. My My line was yeah,

0:56:18.200 --> 0:56:21.000
<v Speaker 2>I can't do this anymore. And it was like what

0:56:21.040 --> 0:56:23.600
<v Speaker 2>do you mean? And then we talked for like I

0:56:23.600 --> 0:56:27.200
<v Speaker 2>feel like two days, and then I left and he

0:56:27.320 --> 0:56:29.040
<v Speaker 2>was like, hey, do you want to go see a play?

0:56:29.200 --> 0:56:32.360
<v Speaker 2>And I was like I just I left your keys there,

0:56:32.560 --> 0:56:34.879
<v Speaker 2>Like why would you? Like sometimes you try to break

0:56:34.920 --> 0:56:38.200
<v Speaker 2>up with somebody and then they're like no, we're just talking.

0:56:38.600 --> 0:56:40.680
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, how do you do with somebody like that?

0:56:40.840 --> 0:56:42.960
<v Speaker 4>You say, because that's what happened with my last He

0:56:43.000 --> 0:56:44.560
<v Speaker 4>was like sending me a picture he had a dog,

0:56:44.600 --> 0:56:46.400
<v Speaker 4>but it like kind of became my dog, you know,

0:56:46.400 --> 0:56:48.000
<v Speaker 4>and he would send me He's like the dog misses you,

0:56:48.160 --> 0:56:52.000
<v Speaker 4>or like hey can you And I was like I'm

0:56:52.640 --> 0:56:56.120
<v Speaker 4>I can't. I can't comfort you through this breakup. That's

0:56:56.160 --> 0:57:03.680
<v Speaker 4>what's happening. Yeah, that's where the call John and I wanted,

0:57:04.040 --> 0:57:06.960
<v Speaker 4>you know, I don't like having bad energy with anyone,

0:57:07.000 --> 0:57:08.799
<v Speaker 4>but with that one, I had to be like, he

0:57:08.880 --> 0:57:11.640
<v Speaker 4>might hate me, but I don't care because I can't.

0:57:11.680 --> 0:57:13.239
<v Speaker 4>I have to get out of this pattern of like

0:57:14.239 --> 0:57:16.640
<v Speaker 4>caring what other people think because that also makes you codependent.

0:57:17.600 --> 0:57:19.240
<v Speaker 2>So wait, how long did it take you to get

0:57:19.240 --> 0:57:21.479
<v Speaker 2>into a relationship that you're in now? Okay?

0:57:21.600 --> 0:57:23.720
<v Speaker 4>So I promised myself, and I know it's not gonna

0:57:23.720 --> 0:57:25.680
<v Speaker 4>sound like a long time, but for me, considering my

0:57:25.680 --> 0:57:27.280
<v Speaker 4>track record, I was like, I have to be single

0:57:27.320 --> 0:57:31.280
<v Speaker 4>and minimum a year. I was like, yeah, I was

0:57:31.320 --> 0:57:33.760
<v Speaker 4>like minimum. I can like go on dates, I can

0:57:33.880 --> 0:57:35.800
<v Speaker 4>like hang, but like, I can't be like this is

0:57:35.840 --> 0:57:38.200
<v Speaker 4>my boyfriend meet my parents for like at least a year?

0:57:38.280 --> 0:57:40.160
<v Speaker 2>Were you any dating apps or anything like that?

0:57:40.440 --> 0:57:42.120
<v Speaker 4>I join and then like someone would message me and

0:57:42.120 --> 0:57:43.800
<v Speaker 4>I'd canceled because I was like, well, I'm not looking

0:57:43.880 --> 0:57:44.840
<v Speaker 4>for I don't.

0:57:44.840 --> 0:57:45.360
<v Speaker 3>I kind of don't.

0:57:45.360 --> 0:57:46.880
<v Speaker 4>I would love it if it was longer than a year,

0:57:47.000 --> 0:57:49.760
<v Speaker 4>Like I really wanted to explore. So I say around

0:57:49.800 --> 0:57:52.160
<v Speaker 4>eight months, I started to like, you know, I would

0:57:52.200 --> 0:57:54.440
<v Speaker 4>go to dinner with someone before we had sex, but

0:57:54.440 --> 0:57:56.320
<v Speaker 4>I'd always be like sex and like.

0:57:56.920 --> 0:57:59.680
<v Speaker 1>Again, I'm happy to fails to go.

0:58:01.760 --> 0:58:06.560
<v Speaker 4>But I know Will, who's my current boyfriend almost exactly

0:58:06.640 --> 0:58:07.480
<v Speaker 4>a year to the day.

0:58:08.280 --> 0:58:09.960
<v Speaker 3>Wow, Yeah, which was really interesting.

0:58:10.480 --> 0:58:12.760
<v Speaker 2>The universe is line and shift. And we broke up

0:58:12.840 --> 0:58:13.240
<v Speaker 2>right away.

0:58:13.320 --> 0:58:15.640
<v Speaker 3>There was like something about his energy where I was like, now.

0:58:15.520 --> 0:58:17.120
<v Speaker 2>Will don't look like he hooked up right away. He

0:58:17.160 --> 0:58:19.080
<v Speaker 2>looked like your time he opened the door.

0:58:19.360 --> 0:58:23.320
<v Speaker 4>No, no, no, he is he his talk about his numbers.

0:58:23.400 --> 0:58:31.200
<v Speaker 4>He is such a whoreror really absolutely not. I have

0:58:31.280 --> 0:58:31.920
<v Speaker 4>my podcast.

0:58:32.000 --> 0:58:32.520
<v Speaker 2>He's nice.

0:58:32.640 --> 0:58:35.919
<v Speaker 3>He's a nice guy. That's probably why he gave I'm

0:58:35.920 --> 0:58:36.720
<v Speaker 3>his first girlfriend.

0:58:38.440 --> 0:58:40.840
<v Speaker 2>So you're saying he was he didn't hooked up with Mappy,

0:58:41.000 --> 0:58:43.880
<v Speaker 2>but he didn't have a girlfriend girlfriend right, Yeah.

0:58:43.880 --> 0:58:46.120
<v Speaker 4>He never like he had like people. Well, I'll let

0:58:46.200 --> 0:58:47.960
<v Speaker 4>him tell his story. This is my podcast.

0:58:48.200 --> 0:58:52.160
<v Speaker 2>And about his shoulders look like long term. He looks

0:58:52.200 --> 0:58:54.760
<v Speaker 2>like a long term Well that.

0:58:54.800 --> 0:58:57.080
<v Speaker 4>Was the thing because when I first when I first

0:58:57.080 --> 0:58:59.000
<v Speaker 4>saw him perform, he would do all these jokes about

0:58:59.040 --> 0:59:02.080
<v Speaker 4>rom coms and like not getting the girl, and so

0:59:02.200 --> 0:59:05.280
<v Speaker 4>I was like, oh, he's like a and that's also

0:59:05.320 --> 0:59:07.240
<v Speaker 4>why like he was flirting and I was like, I

0:59:07.240 --> 0:59:09.000
<v Speaker 4>feel like if we start hanging out, it could go

0:59:09.120 --> 0:59:09.600
<v Speaker 4>long term.

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<v Speaker 2>And I didn't want that, so you friend zoned him

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<v Speaker 2>for a little bit. I did, and then we like

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<v Speaker 2>but you were like, let's get this dollar pizza real quick.

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<v Speaker 1>No, Emily's were wherever.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, we just had like a slow like we like

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<v Speaker 3>we're at you know, a show.

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<v Speaker 4>We ended up like dancing all night after the show

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<v Speaker 4>after everyone left, and then I was like bye, and

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<v Speaker 4>he walked me into the train.

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<v Speaker 2>It was like, very well, he practiced his dance moves

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<v Speaker 2>before he hung out like a hitch you remember. Very sweet?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, No, Will is a nice guy.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so sweet.

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<v Speaker 1>And how long have y'all been together?

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<v Speaker 4>Three?

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<v Speaker 3>We just just three years, like a creer mark.

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<v Speaker 4>And it was but I will say this so this

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<v Speaker 4>would be my other advice was with him, it was

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<v Speaker 4>like beyond honesty from the get like we named every

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<v Speaker 4>comedian we had ever fucked, like the like the third

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<v Speaker 4>night we hung out, just.

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<v Speaker 2>Get it out.

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<v Speaker 3>They're fine and.

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<v Speaker 2>That means more than five.

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<v Speaker 4>Just because I don't want him to be able to

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<v Speaker 4>show talking to someone that I hooked up with and

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<v Speaker 4>have that other person be like I know.

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<v Speaker 3>A secret and like no Will knows and.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll find with it because we do have to because

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<v Speaker 2>comedians running fucking mouth.

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<v Speaker 1>They don't know how to keep secrets.

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<v Speaker 2>No, they tell all their business. Yeah, I mean it

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<v Speaker 2>goes back to dating somebody dating a comic and them

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<v Speaker 2>talking about Listen. I feel like if if you fuck

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<v Speaker 2>a comic and you a comic, there should be like

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<v Speaker 2>an NDR or I mean you gotta sign like no,

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<v Speaker 2>you can't mention this shit because like, don't be using

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<v Speaker 2>me as your material like in vice versus. That's why

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<v Speaker 2>I don't bank comedians. I mean that's really that's not

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<v Speaker 2>even why I just don't bank comedians because I don't. Again,

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<v Speaker 2>it goes back to not wanting to anything that's too

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<v Speaker 2>similar to me, but it's working for you, and I

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<v Speaker 2>love and I approve of him. If you were the

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<v Speaker 2>data comedian, he's one of them.

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<v Speaker 4>The thing is we have similar Okay, we have like

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<v Speaker 4>similar I think hearts and.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh you seen his heart before?

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<v Speaker 4>No, but you know what I'm saying, Like we have

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<v Speaker 4>like similar I think we have similar mentalities about how

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<v Speaker 4>one should behave and morals and beliefs, but we're very

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<v Speaker 4>different as far as like like he likes quiet, I

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<v Speaker 4>talk a lot. He is a night person. I'm a

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<v Speaker 4>morning like we really kind of balancing. Yeah, that's why

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<v Speaker 4>I like showed up.

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<v Speaker 1>And she walked from her house.

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<v Speaker 2>You made me look bad. You look like the bad

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<v Speaker 2>house you were here before me.

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<v Speaker 4>But yeah, I know, it's uh, it's just I think

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<v Speaker 4>what works for us. And you know, very early on,

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<v Speaker 4>I was like, I'm not gonna I'm not jumping too

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<v Speaker 4>far ahead. I'm not like I can't, I can't imagine.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not it seems like that's what works for you.

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<v Speaker 2>Not overthinking or for anybody really is just like being

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<v Speaker 2>in the moment and then doing it until you don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to do it anymore.

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<v Speaker 4>And something I would also really advise people because this

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<v Speaker 4>is something I learned from like the breakups and whatever is.

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<v Speaker 4>And it goes back to reaching out to friends, like

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<v Speaker 4>with him most things. Every now and then I'll talk

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<v Speaker 4>to a friend about him, but it's nothing that if.

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<v Speaker 3>He heard would be scandalous, you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 4>But even we were starting our courtship, I didn't ask

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<v Speaker 4>friends what they thought of him worship.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't yeah wow.

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<v Speaker 4>But I didn't even like, I didn't ask my friends

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<v Speaker 4>what they thought.

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<v Speaker 3>I wasn't like, I don't know, should I text him?

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't everything.

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<v Speaker 4>I went to him, like, I asked him for advice

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<v Speaker 4>about our relationship, and that to me was a very

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<v Speaker 4>huge sign because I feel like when you have a

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<v Speaker 4>friend that's like, how do I respond to this guy?

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<v Speaker 4>You're like, well, if you don't know how to respond

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<v Speaker 4>to a girl or whatever, what are you?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, bitch you thirty five if you don't know

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<v Speaker 2>about now, like, come on, girl, you don't need me

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<v Speaker 2>to help you. And then I'll be like, well, right, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>with the emergency here, and then yeah, tota egg plant

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<v Speaker 2>in there too, Yeah you might as well you didn't

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<v Speaker 2>fuck him, right. I'll screenshot conversations and send them to

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<v Speaker 2>my friend, but I already know what i'm gonna say. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't feel like and then if they tell me

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<v Speaker 2>to put something, I'm like yay, and then I just

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<v Speaker 2>put the opposite.

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<v Speaker 4>I just think if you're asked, if you're talking to

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<v Speaker 4>your friends more than you're talking to your partner about

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<v Speaker 4>the relationship friends, then that's that's a sign.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but sometimes you gotta do that because your friend

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<v Speaker 2>is vicariously living through you. So just make sure I'm entertained.

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<v Speaker 2>So please, weird, what are you talking about send it

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<v Speaker 2>my way please, I mean, Marie, don't hold it, don't

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<v Speaker 2>hold back. Okay, Well I'm okay, So I'm gonna I

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<v Speaker 2>was in a relationship for three years and now I've

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<v Speaker 2>been single for three years, and so I'm getting back

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<v Speaker 2>into the dating world. I'm saying that, but I'm probably

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<v Speaker 2>not going to But like i'm, I'm, I'm I've never

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<v Speaker 2>been on any of the apps. I've never done any like,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm definitely not gonna bang a comedian, so like, where

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<v Speaker 2>where should I be looking for my rebound on.

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<v Speaker 4>The Q train? So I'm gonna say, don't say. I

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<v Speaker 4>definitely not gonna about anyone.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, Okay, you know I'm talking about I'm taking back.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not not going to date a comedian in New

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<v Speaker 2>York who makes less money than Okay, friend, I approve,

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<v Speaker 2>I approve of whatever you said. You want to be

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<v Speaker 2>like a different level comedian than yes, and and Sydney

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<v Speaker 2>has to uh sign off on that, and I sign off.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't put my whole signature and that mention.

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<v Speaker 1>Sent it out is already she's the witness.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, So but I don't know where you maybe she's

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<v Speaker 4>like I don't even know you're doomed. No, wow, No,

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<v Speaker 4>but like ask I mean friends to introduce you to people.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, that's one thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Well it's just me. So I don't have nobody for her.

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<v Speaker 1>So Sept. One is get some new friends.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I get some new friends.

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<v Speaker 4>Anyone listening to this podcast, if you know someone who

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<v Speaker 4>you think would be a great match for Marae, why not?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh girl? Or don't even need no, don't feed into

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<v Speaker 1>this bullshit.

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<v Speaker 2>Look at her. She don't need no damn help. You

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<v Speaker 2>don't need her friends.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean my phone is full of dis.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, she walks out.

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<v Speaker 4>She's great, But but that's different than meeting someone who's

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<v Speaker 4>actually a good match. Like, yes, she's gorgeous, she's getting

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<v Speaker 4>dick pics. But if you're actually interested in meeting someone,

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<v Speaker 4>you can have a conversation and be yourself with that's

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<v Speaker 4>what you said.

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<v Speaker 2>You ain't all that, Marie's you ain't on it. Listen,

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<v Speaker 2>we're gonna talk off the podcast because Sidney's not gonna

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<v Speaker 2>let us be great. Julia, I feel like, is there

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<v Speaker 2>anything you want to leave people listening with about either

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<v Speaker 2>relationships or or rushing into things or taking their time

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<v Speaker 2>with Well, I was going to quiz her just a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit, right, Okay, So well, listen to the question

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<v Speaker 2>that I doesn't yes, and then well you want to.

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<v Speaker 4>Quiz and then and then if there's anything I didn't

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<v Speaker 4>answer in the quiz, but let's do that.

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<v Speaker 3>Sorry, I just go ahead control your podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, thank you? How you mediate that? So, Julia, we've

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<v Speaker 2>been together for about four years. You know, I'm all

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<v Speaker 2>right as a partner, not the best. I'm all right,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm I can already get you and your girlfriend you're

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<v Speaker 2>talking about now, you talk about you and her quiz

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<v Speaker 2>right here? Right?

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<v Speaker 1>You know you and your girlfriend. She already knows that

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<v Speaker 1>you're all right.

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<v Speaker 2>Get in, get in the zone. Okay. Sorry, So we've

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<v Speaker 2>been together. I've I'm all right. My career is okay.

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<v Speaker 2>So that means I have no money in the bank.

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<v Speaker 2>But I hate you with a ring. Do you say

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<v Speaker 2>yes or no? Four years?

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<v Speaker 4>I mean together? This is I need a lot more

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<v Speaker 4>information here.

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<v Speaker 1>You're in love with me? But like, but do you

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<v Speaker 1>have like goals?

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<v Speaker 3>And do you have are you.

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<v Speaker 4>Like yeah, I'm a comedian, but are you like are

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<v Speaker 4>you like a victim? And like nothing works out for you?

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<v Speaker 4>That's why you're broken. Nothing's happening.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you like actually leaving how to save money? Buffalo

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<v Speaker 1>exchange stake stuff at the through shag.

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<v Speaker 2>No, No, even though you're in love with me and

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<v Speaker 2>that my career is promising, I mean, I haven't booked

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<v Speaker 2>anything yet.

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<v Speaker 4>It's just no, I need no because if I have

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<v Speaker 4>to carry your like self pity, like that's gonna make

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<v Speaker 4>my pussy dry.

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<v Speaker 2>But for my own mind, you know what, my pussy

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<v Speaker 2>is wet, right Yo, that's beautiful.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, I mean, but you're but you're the things you

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<v Speaker 4>gave me to work with. We're not very sid that.

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<v Speaker 4>She was like, you love me? What are your positive qualities?

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<v Speaker 2>You love me? Me love It's hard to find fun

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<v Speaker 2>and I find you working on real fast my legs,

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<v Speaker 2>my calves, my cast I love your calves. Thank you.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, get a job, Julian, I was just laid off.

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<v Speaker 4>So like, honestly, I'm doing the past at twelve thirty

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<v Speaker 4>on a Monday.

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<v Speaker 2>So yes, guess what you're doing it in my pre

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<v Speaker 2>war apartment. Okay, So I have a question for you.

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<v Speaker 2>So you said that when you would go on dates

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<v Speaker 2>with people, like nothing was off limits, like you broke

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<v Speaker 2>all the dating rules that the magazines till yeah yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>So what what is something that is like one hundred

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<v Speaker 2>percent of the time always off limits to talk about nothing? Wow?

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<v Speaker 2>I just feel like because you're okay, here's the thing.

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<v Speaker 4>If you go on a date and you are, i know,

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<v Speaker 4>be yourself as such a generic thing, and it's also

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<v Speaker 4>a really hard thing because you're like, well, how do

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<v Speaker 4>I know who I am?

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<v Speaker 3>And the thing is, sometimes you learn.

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<v Speaker 4>Who you are in a relationship, like when you're in

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<v Speaker 4>a bad rely, Like a relationship is like a mirror,

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<v Speaker 4>so it's all relative. Right, So you go on a date,

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<v Speaker 4>you act like yourself, you like someone who reads an article,

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<v Speaker 4>and it's like, don't say this, act like this straight

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<v Speaker 4>Like when fucking millionaire matchmaker would tell people with curly

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<v Speaker 4>hair to straighten their hair. I'm like, once that girl

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<v Speaker 4>puts out of the shower, he's going to realize her

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<v Speaker 4>hair is curly.

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<v Speaker 1>Like why millionaire hair matchmaker is single too.

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<v Speaker 4>So that's what I'm saying, Like there's all this shit

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<v Speaker 4>where it's like do this, don't do that. The truth

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<v Speaker 4>is if you guys start dating, that real you is

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<v Speaker 4>gonna come out. So why hide it when you first

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<v Speaker 4>meet Because that's the thing that there's going to make

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<v Speaker 4>them love you like your your weird flaws.

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<v Speaker 2>Saying I should like pick my teeth on the first day,

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<v Speaker 2>and I should like, if you.

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<v Speaker 3>Pick your teeth, I should be like kick them.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, no, I don't need a tooth pick. They

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<v Speaker 1>got minced though.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean that's so that's you know something, I want

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<v Speaker 4>to work on it.

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<v Speaker 2>But like, yeah, Julia, leave us with something. Tell us

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<v Speaker 2>what you did you have another question? That was it?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay?

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<v Speaker 2>So anything that you missed that you feel like, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I would just reiterate if those shoulds are coming up

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<v Speaker 2>in dating, in your current relationship, just look at that

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<v Speaker 2>and see see what it means.

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<v Speaker 4>It's not always a bad thing, but if if shoulds

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<v Speaker 4>are dominating your love life, then maybe you should What.

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<v Speaker 2>If I'm like, should he should be paying? If it

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<v Speaker 2>is he got more money than me, I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>that's a good shoot, talk to him.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna talk to him.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just not gonna bring my wallette a Julia ware

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<v Speaker 2>of people listening.

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<v Speaker 4>Catch you plug your podcast? Okay, so I have a

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<v Speaker 4>podcast with my boyfriend. I'm out relation shops. If you

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<v Speaker 4>want to hear me talk more about this stuff if.

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<v Speaker 2>You want to hear more in depth conversations.

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<v Speaker 4>Hopefully we don't break up dot com or on iTunes.

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<v Speaker 4>We talked to other couples about this kind of stuff,

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<v Speaker 4>and then you can find me. Julia Razzi it's with

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<v Speaker 4>all my stuff will come the only one doing it.

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<v Speaker 2>What a plug?

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<v Speaker 1>What a plug?

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<v Speaker 2>You guys? Do you have a like a comedy show?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you have a show?

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<v Speaker 3>No, it's on hiatus right now, but they'll be when

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<v Speaker 3>does this come out?

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<v Speaker 2>We don't know. We don't even know.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm always doing something.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, we'll find you. I mean, we'll tag all of

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<v Speaker 2>your social media. This was great. I learned a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>I learned an iron ship and no that's not true.

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<v Speaker 2>I learned that I'm actually doing a really good job.

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<v Speaker 2>I will continue to thrive that thrive and live. You

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<v Speaker 2>have goals though you're doing stuff. Girl, that was just

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<v Speaker 2>a little example. That's not my real life. Okay, that's

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<v Speaker 2>like girl, I still got a couple of checks in

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<v Speaker 2>the mail. I'm good.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, it's will kay to be going through a hard

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<v Speaker 4>financial time.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just marry you don't don't that a tiny ass

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<v Speaker 2>ring to Julia's house. I was not gonna First of all,

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<v Speaker 2>the ring wasn't name of from K's jeweler. Okay, from

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<v Speaker 2>Jacob to jeweler please. The ring was from Buffalo, a

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<v Speaker 2>consignment shop ring the bloody ass Hipster Diamond.

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<v Speaker 1>We're gonna go.

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<v Speaker 2>You can catch us on Instagram at Unofficial expert at us.

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<v Speaker 2>You can hit us on Twitter minds as uh just

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<v Speaker 2>said b w n y C and Reezy on Instagram.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Reezy r e e e z y.

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<v Speaker 2>And then you can catch me uh once a week

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<v Speaker 2>on YouTube at miss rez m s.

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<v Speaker 1>R e e e z y.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, us questions please add us sliding our dms without

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<v Speaker 2>dis like. Just ask like real questions, comment for us

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<v Speaker 2>on your dick and then send us that Yes, We'll

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<v Speaker 2>ford them all to Julia.

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<v Speaker 3>And then I'll give you advice on your deck pack.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you, and let's shout out Comedy Hype for a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit, you know, Thank you Comedy Hype. Please listen

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<v Speaker 2>to all our episodes on there. We also have iTunes, uh,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, go to Comedy Hype for all of your

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<v Speaker 2>comedy news. This was fantastic, This was great so much. Uh,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, just hold up as much as you can

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<v Speaker 2>and uh maybe you'll find love.

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<v Speaker 1>You'll never know, find a nigga would enough be to use?

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<v Speaker 2>And then live your life and avoid the dude that

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<v Speaker 2>lives next door to his mom. Yeah, because you probably

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<v Speaker 2>that's too close, Yeah, Julia, I mean yeah, thanks guys,

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<v Speaker 2>Bye bye