WEBVTT - Help! We Suck at Being Newlyweds 0:00:00.280 --> 0:00:05.480 Help We Suck at Being Newlywed and Jared Haven and 0:00:05.600 --> 0:00:12.480 I Heart Radio Podcast. Welcome everybody, Happy Valentine's Day. You 0:00:12.520 --> 0:00:14.960 might be asking yourself, what the heck am I listening 0:00:14.960 --> 0:00:17.240 to right now? We'll let me set the record straight, 0:00:17.280 --> 0:00:20.079 because Jared probably didn't do a very good job last 0:00:20.120 --> 0:00:22.160 week on Help I Suck It. They tried, but they 0:00:22.160 --> 0:00:24.160 said that I teased too much. I put too much 0:00:24.160 --> 0:00:25.800 in the trailer, so they took some out. Well, let's 0:00:25.840 --> 0:00:28.319 set the record straight. Sure, you might have seen this 0:00:28.360 --> 0:00:31.120 podcast pop up. Maybe you just stumbled upon it. Maybe 0:00:31.400 --> 0:00:33.760 however you got here. First of all, we appreciate you 0:00:33.840 --> 0:00:36.559 being here. But why is it called not called Help 0:00:36.600 --> 0:00:38.360 I Suck It Dating? And I know, isn't that sad? 0:00:38.440 --> 0:00:41.080 There's no more Help I Suck a Dating? Yeah, so 0:00:41.120 --> 0:00:43.320 that's official. Jared announced it last week on Help I 0:00:43.360 --> 0:00:46.040 Suck A Dating? That that was the last episode of 0:00:46.080 --> 0:00:48.400 Help I Suck It Dating? What a run? And I 0:00:48.400 --> 0:00:51.440 wasn't even there for it, which is so fitting. I think, Yeah, 0:00:51.560 --> 0:00:53.760 it worked out pretty well what I wasn't there for it? 0:00:54.000 --> 0:00:56.840 Quick little history of Help I Suck It Dating? Just 0:00:56.920 --> 0:00:58.800 for those do we even want to talk about this 0:00:58.880 --> 0:01:00.400 or do we want to jump into this new format? 0:01:00.440 --> 0:01:02.040 I said, we just jump right into the new form. 0:01:02.080 --> 0:01:04.400 And everybody who's Whoevers listening to this probably listening to 0:01:04.440 --> 0:01:06.000 help us, like just hoping we could take a quick 0:01:06.040 --> 0:01:08.119 trick down memory lane. But I understand what the whole 0:01:08.160 --> 0:01:09.840 hands we can do it. I understand if we don't 0:01:09.840 --> 0:01:12.920 want to do that. Yes, So, as we're trying our 0:01:12.920 --> 0:01:16.759 best to allude to, we have a new podcast, new name, 0:01:17.160 --> 0:01:21.160 most importantly an incredible new co host. Um you will 0:01:21.160 --> 0:01:24.000 get introduced to her in just a second. Our new 0:01:24.080 --> 0:01:29.120 podcast name is help we suck at being newlyweds? Because 0:01:29.520 --> 0:01:31.920 I guess we just don't suck at dating anymore. No, 0:01:32.240 --> 0:01:34.520 I mean your newly weds. I am not a newly 0:01:34.560 --> 0:01:37.760 weed anymore. I'm curious if I sucked at being a newlywed. 0:01:37.840 --> 0:01:39.840 I don't think so. I mean I I made it 0:01:39.880 --> 0:01:43.000 to the Altar, so how badly could have sucked? Can I? 0:01:43.040 --> 0:01:44.800 Can we just also back up and help to find 0:01:44.840 --> 0:01:51.680 newlywed because you're going to introduce me please? Okay, we're 0:01:51.720 --> 0:01:55.240 just building the anticipation. You didn't make it to the 0:01:55.240 --> 0:01:58.640 Altar as a newlywed. You left the Altar. Yeah, that's right. 0:01:58.720 --> 0:02:00.920 And so technically me in this great new co host 0:02:00.960 --> 0:02:03.800 that we have are not newly so yeah, you're just 0:02:04.080 --> 0:02:06.480 you're just plain old fiances. That's boring. You suck at 0:02:06.480 --> 0:02:09.240 being newly weds because we're not even newly weds. That's 0:02:09.680 --> 0:02:11.520 and we stuck at to finding newly weds. That's right. 0:02:11.560 --> 0:02:13.800 All right, Well, we beat around the bush quite a 0:02:13.800 --> 0:02:17.240 bit here. As they say, we have a very incredible 0:02:17.440 --> 0:02:19.800 heavy hit and co host joining us on this great 0:02:19.800 --> 0:02:22.480 new podcast. Help we suck a heavy hitting. Is there 0:02:22.520 --> 0:02:25.239 something you wanna tell me, Dean we can talk? Well, 0:02:25.360 --> 0:02:28.480 that's why she sucks at being a newly wed. Welcome 0:02:28.520 --> 0:02:34.040 to the podcast, ladies and gentlemen, Kaylin Marie Miller Keys, Yeah, 0:02:34.280 --> 0:02:36.960 thank you, happy to be here, Happy to be here. 0:02:37.000 --> 0:02:38.880 And you suck at being a newlywed because your last 0:02:38.919 --> 0:02:40.880 name is still Miller Keys, but my last name is 0:02:40.880 --> 0:02:43.440 still Alert, So yeah, I think we both suck a 0:02:43.480 --> 0:02:47.160 little bit. Yeah, so I'm super excited to be here. 0:02:47.160 --> 0:02:50.360 I've been actually okay, we're not running down memory lane. 0:02:50.480 --> 0:02:53.079 But it's so funny because the last time I was 0:02:53.160 --> 0:02:55.079 in the studio were one of the last times you 0:02:55.080 --> 0:02:57.320 guys were recording help I suck a dating and Dean 0:02:57.320 --> 0:02:59.079 wouldn't even let me be in the room, so I 0:02:59.120 --> 0:03:00.600 had to go to Whole Food to cross the street 0:03:00.639 --> 0:03:02.880 and make myself busy. And he told me when we 0:03:02.880 --> 0:03:05.320 first started dating, you will never be on the podcast. 0:03:05.440 --> 0:03:07.840 Like I'm making a point, you'll never be on the podcast. 0:03:07.880 --> 0:03:10.079 And now not only am I on it, but I'm 0:03:10.080 --> 0:03:11.919 a co host. Well, and there's a reason that I 0:03:11.960 --> 0:03:13.600 didn't want you on the podcast because I didn't want 0:03:13.639 --> 0:03:16.920 it to feel like I was using you to bolster 0:03:17.440 --> 0:03:19.560 my podcasting career. I didn't want to make it feel 0:03:19.560 --> 0:03:22.120 like I was like using you to get more listeners 0:03:22.240 --> 0:03:24.519 or anything like that. You didn't want John Paul Jones 0:03:24.639 --> 0:03:27.200 to bust down the door, and you are doing this 0:03:27.240 --> 0:03:29.360 for your podcast. I stif with the one I opened 0:03:29.360 --> 0:03:32.120 for a long time because of that John Paul Jones guy. Um, 0:03:32.200 --> 0:03:34.720 But now that I'm has been I definitely need you 0:03:34.800 --> 0:03:39.160 to you know, get us. Yeah there going on. We 0:03:39.200 --> 0:03:42.920 need you to bolster this podcast that that idea hit 0:03:42.920 --> 0:03:44.800 the expiry day. So thank you so much for co 0:03:44.880 --> 0:03:49.520 hosting with us. It's gonna be interesting. Um, you know, 0:03:49.560 --> 0:03:52.320 for lack of a better word, working with with your partner. 0:03:52.920 --> 0:03:55.560 I think about our challenges in our relationships. I think 0:03:55.560 --> 0:03:57.840 it's good, which I think will be like therapeuter in 0:03:57.880 --> 0:03:59.720 a sense. And then there's sometimes where I'll be squeezing 0:03:59.760 --> 0:04:02.040 your leg like not that. Yeah, I think it's gonna 0:04:02.080 --> 0:04:04.600 just tear us apart, rip us apart, limb by limb 0:04:05.040 --> 0:04:07.720 that he said that when I got approached for the 0:04:07.800 --> 0:04:09.760 idea of doing the podcast, He's like, it'll either bring 0:04:09.840 --> 0:04:12.120 us together or it'll tear us apart. It's definitely not 0:04:12.160 --> 0:04:14.480 going to tear you apart. I'm not concerned about that. No, 0:04:14.640 --> 0:04:17.480 he just likes to be, you know, say outrageous things. 0:04:17.800 --> 0:04:20.160 Here's why I think, here's what our biggest issue is 0:04:20.200 --> 0:04:21.960 going to be. And it was an issue this morning 0:04:21.960 --> 0:04:26.080 to um Klin wants to be five minutes early to everything, 0:04:26.200 --> 0:04:29.000 and I know his podcast works and five minutes late 0:04:29.080 --> 0:04:32.240 is right on time. And I'm sure Daniel and Hanter 0:04:32.279 --> 0:04:35.600 probably disagree with that. But that's gonna be our biggest 0:04:35.880 --> 0:04:39.040 hurdle to overcome, is Caitlyn rushing Dad on the podcast 0:04:39.040 --> 0:04:42.119 and me saying, Klin, it's not that serious, just your time, 0:04:42.800 --> 0:04:45.200 lower your stress levels. I agree, And we're going to 0:04:45.279 --> 0:04:47.680 start off every podcast with me being stressed and Dean 0:04:47.720 --> 0:04:50.200 being annoyed with me. Were you're gonna start off podcast 0:04:50.279 --> 0:04:53.960 doing it by yourself for about eight minutes? Well, okay, 0:04:54.160 --> 0:04:57.280 and also Jared sometimes too. I'm not alone? Pretty good? 0:04:57.520 --> 0:05:00.760 I mean I I this past year was definitely my worst, 0:05:00.920 --> 0:05:02.320 especially in the beginning of the year. I was going 0:05:02.360 --> 0:05:04.159 back on the Instagram and watching those clips of me 0:05:04.200 --> 0:05:06.400 in the office at Audrey's and being like, I'll be 0:05:06.480 --> 0:05:08.400 right back and I have to go make a sandwiches. 0:05:09.000 --> 0:05:11.440 That time has passed. Okay. Now we're a fully functioning, 0:05:11.480 --> 0:05:13.880 running business. We're doing just fine. We're not here to 0:05:13.920 --> 0:05:15.960 talk about artist. We're here to talk about help I 0:05:16.000 --> 0:05:18.200 Suck at being newly woods? So what does that mean, 0:05:18.320 --> 0:05:20.600 Jared being a newly wed? Well, just what does it? 0:05:20.760 --> 0:05:22.800 What does it mean? Like our podcast? What are we 0:05:22.839 --> 0:05:24.560 going to talk about? Well, I mean it's going to 0:05:24.640 --> 0:05:26.440 be a continuation of help I Suck a dating where 0:05:26.440 --> 0:05:30.880 we talking about relationships, dating, talk about your guys experience 0:05:31.000 --> 0:05:35.880 getting engaged, my experience being married. Um, you know, I'm 0:05:35.960 --> 0:05:40.000 interested to hear about your guy's upcoming journey of going 0:05:40.080 --> 0:05:43.320 from fiance's two newly weds. I don't know when the 0:05:43.320 --> 0:05:46.200 newly wed age ends. I mean, I'm not a newly 0:05:46.240 --> 0:05:47.720 wed anymore, right, I feel like you are. You've been 0:05:47.720 --> 0:05:50.640 married for three years, that's newly wed. I feel like 0:05:50.680 --> 0:05:53.160 you're still in that early marriage phase. Think about people 0:05:53.200 --> 0:05:55.320 have been married for twenty years, they're not newly weds. 0:05:55.560 --> 0:05:58.599 Three years. Yeah, it's pretty early. Yeah, but then you 0:05:58.600 --> 0:06:00.480 could it's all about perspective, because then you could look 0:06:00.520 --> 0:06:03.120 at someone who's been married at six for sixty years 0:06:03.120 --> 0:06:04.839 and look at the couple who's been married for twenty 0:06:04.880 --> 0:06:06.680 years and be like, you guys just don't do it right. 0:06:06.880 --> 0:06:09.719 You don't even know, you don't even know the struggles. 0:06:09.760 --> 0:06:12.680 So the greatest part about being newly weds was that 0:06:12.720 --> 0:06:14.680 everybody would buy his drinks. I remember when we were 0:06:14.680 --> 0:06:17.760 on our honeymoon. It was fantastic because everybody just found 0:06:17.760 --> 0:06:19.840 out that we just got married and they're like, oh 0:06:19.880 --> 0:06:21.760 my god, you're newly weds, and we're like, yeah, we're 0:06:21.760 --> 0:06:23.720 newly weds. It's pretty fun. And then that war off 0:06:23.720 --> 0:06:25.680 pretty quickly because then everybody was just like, yeah, your 0:06:25.720 --> 0:06:27.440 husband and wife, that's cool when you're gonna have a kid. 0:06:27.760 --> 0:06:29.160 And then we had a kid, and now it's like, oh, 0:06:29.200 --> 0:06:30.760 that's cool. When you're gonna have a second kid, You're like, 0:06:30.800 --> 0:06:32.640 all right, everyone's slowed down for a second. I'm not 0:06:32.640 --> 0:06:34.320 gonna lie. Part of the reason I want to get 0:06:34.360 --> 0:06:36.520 married is because of the free drinks that it's too 0:06:36.920 --> 0:06:40.080 shortly after It's only for about a month. Okay, well 0:06:40.120 --> 0:06:42.960 we got a month month when you're not being offered 0:06:43.000 --> 0:06:45.279 free drinks anymore. That's about the time that you realize 0:06:45.279 --> 0:06:47.360 you're no longer nearly weds. Yeah, I would agree. Yeah, 0:06:47.440 --> 0:06:49.320 it's because then you're just like, this is it. This 0:06:49.360 --> 0:06:51.880 is our life, guys. But if I feel like Caitlin 0:06:51.920 --> 0:06:54.240 doesn't like that, it's something that actually definitely doesn't like. 0:06:54.760 --> 0:06:57.640 But like because it I see, I don't mind talking 0:06:57.680 --> 0:07:00.640 about the relationships certainly not quote unquote lose. It's luster, 0:07:01.279 --> 0:07:04.560 but it's just not you know, anybody who's been in 0:07:04.560 --> 0:07:07.000 a long term relationship, and it's scientifically proven that you 0:07:07.080 --> 0:07:11.480 lose you know, you lose that like lust towards somebody 0:07:11.520 --> 0:07:13.400 after a while. But then I don't know, I I 0:07:13.560 --> 0:07:15.480 that's just the reality of the situation. I feel like 0:07:15.520 --> 0:07:17.760 a lot of quil And how you feel about that, Like, 0:07:18.320 --> 0:07:20.520 how does that make you sad to me, it doesn't 0:07:20.520 --> 0:07:22.000 make me sad because then it's like, no, that's what 0:07:22.000 --> 0:07:24.080 a relationship is. We still choose each other every day, 0:07:24.120 --> 0:07:26.200 That's what life is all about. But I feel like 0:07:26.240 --> 0:07:28.120 Ashley is very sad whenever I bring that up, because 0:07:28.120 --> 0:07:30.160 it's not like magical to her. No. I think there's 0:07:30.160 --> 0:07:31.920 two ways to look at it. And I think the 0:07:32.000 --> 0:07:34.960 way like media portrays it and most people portray is like, 0:07:35.560 --> 0:07:38.560 you know, your relationship progresses and then you're not necessarily 0:07:39.640 --> 0:07:41.840 like lusting after the person in the same way. And 0:07:41.840 --> 0:07:43.600 then I was talking to a friend who's been married 0:07:43.840 --> 0:07:46.440 for like three or four years, and she's like, I 0:07:46.520 --> 0:07:48.200 think it's the opposite. Like the deeper you get to 0:07:48.240 --> 0:07:51.120 know someone, the more like the stronger the emotional bond 0:07:51.200 --> 0:07:53.120 is like the more sexually attracted you are to each other. 0:07:53.280 --> 0:07:56.240 So I think if you just flip your perspective, I 0:07:56.280 --> 0:08:00.120 think that's true. I'm gonna ask you a question, are 0:08:00.120 --> 0:08:02.800 you more sexually attracted Dan now when you first met 0:08:03.040 --> 0:08:08.280 first met? You can't answer for me. No, I feel 0:08:08.280 --> 0:08:10.960 like it the more I get to know you, the 0:08:11.000 --> 0:08:16.960 more I love you, and with that becomes come sexual attraction. Yeah, Okay, 0:08:17.200 --> 0:08:18.680 I mean, I just got you told me I was 0:08:18.760 --> 0:08:22.360 handsome a lot more handsomer a lot. That is ridiculous. 0:08:22.560 --> 0:08:25.920 That is so false. Also another thing, another thing to 0:08:25.920 --> 0:08:29.080 point out, we have so much criticism coming towards our 0:08:29.120 --> 0:08:32.760 relationship at all times. People like, people definitely support us, 0:08:32.760 --> 0:08:34.960 and I think and I love that, but then you know, 0:08:35.040 --> 0:08:36.959 things are said, whether they be on a podcast or 0:08:37.000 --> 0:08:42.840 something else, and there are so many criticisms critiques about 0:08:42.880 --> 0:08:46.160 a relationship. So it's pretty interesting that I did agree 0:08:46.200 --> 0:08:48.480 to do this, um just because I think that's going 0:08:48.559 --> 0:08:51.240 to bring in even more. But it's okay. And the 0:08:51.240 --> 0:08:53.160 thing is, like, we're so strong in our relationships, so 0:08:53.480 --> 0:08:56.200 it's fine. Does the criticism bother you? Of course it 0:08:56.200 --> 0:08:57.880 bothers you, But does it bother you to a point 0:08:57.880 --> 0:09:02.360 where it like you can't shake it? No, And I 0:09:02.400 --> 0:09:04.000 think we do a good job of ignoring it. It's 0:09:04.000 --> 0:09:07.320 just annoying. It's just like a pest thing. Yeah, it 0:09:07.440 --> 0:09:09.080 is a pest, and it was something I'm sure you 0:09:09.080 --> 0:09:10.800 guys had to deal with. Like when I was first 0:09:10.840 --> 0:09:13.160 on the show and we would get criticism, I would 0:09:13.280 --> 0:09:17.400 take people's opinions seriously, and that's something I don't do anymore. 0:09:17.840 --> 0:09:21.000 Because I would. I would, I certainly wouldn't. I guess yeah, 0:09:21.040 --> 0:09:22.920 I would listen to them because I would hear what 0:09:22.960 --> 0:09:25.720 someone has to say about somebody else about me, and 0:09:25.760 --> 0:09:29.000 then I would say, oh, okay, so that is that 0:09:29.160 --> 0:09:31.160 is what people think, or like, oh, maybe they're right, 0:09:31.280 --> 0:09:33.320 or maybe this is something I should think about. But 0:09:33.400 --> 0:09:35.680 now I look at it, I'm like, what am I 0:09:35.679 --> 0:09:37.320 doing with my life? I'm gonna listen to one thousand, 0:09:37.360 --> 0:09:39.840 four hundred seventy eight different opinions on one subject matter 0:09:39.880 --> 0:09:42.360 and try to make a rational decision. Of course not 0:09:42.600 --> 0:09:46.000 but also sorry, but they talked over each other for 0:09:46.040 --> 0:09:47.760 the first time. Guys, it's a big moment. Was a 0:09:47.800 --> 0:09:50.640 big mother right there. But I think a lot of 0:09:50.679 --> 0:09:52.200 that has to do with, like, you're on the show 0:09:52.200 --> 0:09:54.360 and it's so much more, it's so many voices coming 0:09:54.400 --> 0:09:56.080 at you, and then you're off the show for a 0:09:56.080 --> 0:09:58.559 bit and people just they like care a little bit lesser. 0:09:58.600 --> 0:10:01.200 If they're following you, it's solely to mostly to support 0:10:01.240 --> 0:10:03.400 you rather than like hate. And then we were just 0:10:03.520 --> 0:10:06.400 with this past week, people who are brand new off 0:10:06.400 --> 0:10:08.800 the show and they're still stuck in that they're still 0:10:08.800 --> 0:10:11.000 stuck in like all of the terrible things people are 0:10:11.000 --> 0:10:12.559 saying at them, and I'm like, just give it a 0:10:12.640 --> 0:10:14.079 year or two. Well, and that's that's what I was 0:10:14.120 --> 0:10:16.440 gonna say too. Is when you and I started dating, 0:10:16.480 --> 0:10:18.400 you are fresh off the show, and I had been 0:10:18.400 --> 0:10:21.319 two years removed doing this our last podcast help I 0:10:21.320 --> 0:10:23.640 stuck a dating for two years, and so eventually you 0:10:23.760 --> 0:10:25.920 just become numb to it, and you, like, I like 0:10:26.040 --> 0:10:28.800 to just mess around and toy with it, obviously more 0:10:28.800 --> 0:10:31.960 so than I should, probably, but I was in that 0:10:32.280 --> 0:10:34.120 mode and you were still in this phase of having 0:10:34.120 --> 0:10:35.920 just come off and so you're hyper aware of it. 0:10:36.280 --> 0:10:38.560 And so I was saying things from a completely numbed 0:10:38.559 --> 0:10:41.120 perspective and you were experiencing them all from a hyper 0:10:41.160 --> 0:10:44.520 aware situation. So that's kind of why it was like 0:10:44.559 --> 0:10:47.080 maybe more challenging at first, but also it's shocking, like 0:10:47.120 --> 0:10:50.680 you're you're just this random person that gets plucked onto 0:10:50.679 --> 0:10:53.280 the show and then you're adjusting to all these voices 0:10:53.320 --> 0:10:56.120 and negative things coming at you. So it wears off 0:10:56.160 --> 0:10:58.280 like that's the good thing. Yeah, but I've definitely taken 0:10:58.320 --> 0:11:00.480 it and maybe the wrong direction one. You have just 0:11:00.559 --> 0:11:02.680 like cared a lot at first, and now I care 0:11:02.800 --> 0:11:05.320 so not something. I care so little. It's just that 0:11:05.360 --> 0:11:08.360 I'm willing to say outrageous things for the sake of 0:11:08.360 --> 0:11:10.880 saying outrageous things. Yeah, some things that you don't believe in, 0:11:10.960 --> 0:11:13.240 but you'll just say it because you know that it's 0:11:13.240 --> 0:11:14.920 the opposite of what you should say. Yeah. I just 0:11:14.960 --> 0:11:17.600 like being a converian. I like provoking a second school 0:11:17.600 --> 0:11:20.800 of thought into some conversations. I also like provoking people, 0:11:20.920 --> 0:11:23.480 which I think you can relate to. There's something about like, 0:11:23.520 --> 0:11:27.440 if you're gonna I don't like provoking people. Uh, are 0:11:27.480 --> 0:11:30.760 you serious? He definitely likes pro people. There's no way 0:11:30.840 --> 0:11:33.480 I've never provoked anyone. I don't say things just for 0:11:33.520 --> 0:11:36.600 the sake of starting an argument. What is the contrarian? Then, 0:11:37.760 --> 0:11:39.720 you guys, I'm doing it right now. That was the joke, 0:11:39.880 --> 0:11:44.920 got it? That was the joke. It was funny because 0:11:44.960 --> 0:11:48.319 Ashley and I were talking about you, Kalen, I don't know. 0:11:48.360 --> 0:11:50.439 A couple of days ago, we were talking about Paradise 0:11:50.679 --> 0:11:53.000 and Ashley says that she always wishes she could google 0:11:53.120 --> 0:11:55.280 back to Paradise and tell herself, like when she's crawling 0:11:55.320 --> 0:11:57.960 on the beach, like it's gonna be okay. Like, it's 0:11:58.000 --> 0:12:00.360 gonna be fine, and you came up and she was like, 0:12:00.640 --> 0:12:02.800 isn't Maybe it was we were talking about the podcast, 0:12:02.840 --> 0:12:04.120 but she was like, I wish I could go back 0:12:04.200 --> 0:12:06.280 to that day that we went to Paradise for christ 0:12:06.280 --> 0:12:08.480 and Christmas wedding, and it was the day after you 0:12:08.520 --> 0:12:10.839 had left Paradise. It was very emotional and you were 0:12:10.920 --> 0:12:13.760 obviously very upset, and she wishes she could go back 0:12:13.760 --> 0:12:16.559 at that moment. And she would be like, Kalen, like, 0:12:16.880 --> 0:12:18.559 I know it's crazy to think right now, but the 0:12:18.600 --> 0:12:22.320 guy that just left going to marry that man? You 0:12:22.360 --> 0:12:25.760 will marry that man? Yeah, Okay. Who wouldn't love to 0:12:25.760 --> 0:12:27.640 be able to time travel back a couple of years, 0:12:28.080 --> 0:12:32.480 Sonny think about Yeah, it's cool to think about. No, 0:12:32.559 --> 0:12:35.839 I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. But you know, it's 0:12:35.840 --> 0:12:37.360 not like you could go back if you were if 0:12:37.360 --> 0:12:39.000 you were to go back to that time, you wouldn't 0:12:39.040 --> 0:12:40.480 have the glimpse into the future that we have now. 0:12:40.520 --> 0:12:44.400 That's my point. No, but you know we're pretending that 0:12:44.440 --> 0:12:48.079 you can that in our reality, in our world, if 0:12:48.120 --> 0:12:50.040 we traveled back in time, we would have the foreside 0:12:50.040 --> 0:12:52.680 of the future. Okay, Yeah, this is like This is 0:12:53.240 --> 0:12:56.400 a simple conversation that people have have often, and you're 0:12:56.640 --> 0:12:59.000 trying to challenge what I'm saying when people would normally say, 0:12:59.000 --> 0:13:01.400 seen to explain a little. That's all that situation would 0:13:01.400 --> 0:13:03.040 normally say is I wish I could go back in 0:13:03.120 --> 0:13:06.000 time and like telling myself everything would be okay, or 0:13:06.640 --> 0:13:09.560 not worry so much in your time, traveling back in 0:13:09.600 --> 0:13:11.320 time and tell myself to buy a bitcoin in two 0:13:11.360 --> 0:13:15.320 thousand and twelve. Yes, okay, But that song that you love, um, 0:13:15.400 --> 0:13:16.920 you put it to a real when when I went 0:13:16.960 --> 0:13:20.319 to your hometown for the first time, I wish that 0:13:22.679 --> 0:13:27.000 right when I was younger. So that song is basically 0:13:27.000 --> 0:13:29.240 what we're saying right now. I don't think you're allowed 0:13:29.240 --> 0:13:31.840 to sing. You can sing. It's I think it's like 0:13:31.920 --> 0:13:34.360 seven seconds. No no, no, no no, no. You can sing 0:13:34.440 --> 0:13:36.040 any song as long as you're the one singing, and 0:13:36.080 --> 0:13:42.880 we sing a whole song. Okay, Well I got two 0:13:42.880 --> 0:13:47.000 more seconds then when I was younger. See, the thing 0:13:47.040 --> 0:13:49.920 is in your world, traveling back in time would so 0:13:50.040 --> 0:13:52.360 if you travel back in time, you're traveling back into 0:13:52.440 --> 0:13:56.319 like your sixteen year old body, and you wouldn't know 0:13:57.000 --> 0:13:58.319 what the future has in store for you. Is that 0:13:58.360 --> 0:14:01.280 what you're saying in our time traveling, It's like we're 0:14:01.280 --> 0:14:04.280 not trying traveling back into our body. We're like taking 0:14:04.480 --> 0:14:06.760 our body right now and putting it in the past 0:14:06.800 --> 0:14:20.840 so we can talk to ourselves. Sure, but is it interesting? Dude? 0:14:20.840 --> 0:14:22.680 We're in the same studio. I will never forget. And 0:14:22.680 --> 0:14:25.520 we talked about on this podcast many times before about you. 0:14:26.360 --> 0:14:28.960 We came back from Paradise and then you were here 0:14:29.360 --> 0:14:31.240 and that's when you were like, I really can't stop 0:14:31.240 --> 0:14:32.840 thinking about this girl. And we were about to record 0:14:32.840 --> 0:14:36.240 an episode. Was that the same time? Yeah, we were 0:14:36.280 --> 0:14:39.400 in the other studio, but yes, what do you mean, 0:14:39.640 --> 0:14:41.400 I'm trying to think, Yeah, that was the same time, 0:14:42.560 --> 0:14:45.600 Because how did I not I knew you were Oh, 0:14:45.680 --> 0:14:47.240 I knew you were home from Yeah. I got it 0:14:47.280 --> 0:14:49.440 from going there and then seeing I flew back to 0:14:49.480 --> 0:14:51.080 record an episode and I was like, you know, let's 0:14:51.080 --> 0:14:53.600 go back. Yeah, I'll go back. That was a pretty 0:14:53.680 --> 0:14:57.960 nice time and two ucas anyways, and you didn't miss 0:14:57.960 --> 0:15:00.560 an episode. I literally didn't because I and this is 0:15:00.560 --> 0:15:03.320 what people don't always understand is that when Kaylin and 0:15:03.320 --> 0:15:04.880 I met on the beach, I was down there for 0:15:05.040 --> 0:15:07.920 two days three days and then I broke up with 0:15:07.960 --> 0:15:11.880 you after three days of knowing this person. People think 0:15:11.920 --> 0:15:16.160 it was like a month and a half. Anyway, we 0:15:16.160 --> 0:15:18.040 can get into that maybe on a later episode of 0:15:18.080 --> 0:15:21.600 Help we Suck at Beating newlyweds. What else will this 0:15:21.640 --> 0:15:24.520 podcast entail? I imagine we'll have some great guests. The 0:15:24.560 --> 0:15:27.600 thing the thing that concerns me, and it's not a 0:15:27.600 --> 0:15:30.000 big concern at all, but and and actually we kind 0:15:30.000 --> 0:15:31.800 of talked about this too. Because now there's three of us, 0:15:31.880 --> 0:15:35.200 there's less need for bringing guest co hosts and interviewing 0:15:35.240 --> 0:15:37.040 other people and stuff. But there's a lot less, a 0:15:37.080 --> 0:15:39.680 lot smaller of a pool to pull from from married 0:15:39.680 --> 0:15:42.760 couples than there are from single and dating couples. Because 0:15:42.760 --> 0:15:44.880 most of the time the show doesn't work right, that 0:15:44.920 --> 0:15:46.880 doesn't mean it can't work. Look at us, Yeah, look 0:15:46.920 --> 0:15:49.520 at us, Look at us, look at us, look at us. 0:15:49.720 --> 0:15:53.640 Me not me, uh yeah. So but we'll be pulling 0:15:53.640 --> 0:15:56.400 guests as well. But I think, um, you know, this 0:15:56.440 --> 0:15:58.360 podcast is going to be what this podcast is going 0:15:58.440 --> 0:16:00.600 to be, It's gonna be us talking. It's really nice 0:16:00.640 --> 0:16:04.400 having a female perspective back on the podcast because Dean 0:16:04.480 --> 0:16:08.040 and I are just you know, break up of the chest. 0:16:08.320 --> 0:16:10.200 It's going to be kind of awkward though, come like 0:16:10.240 --> 0:16:12.840 September October. Because we used to have a girl co 0:16:12.880 --> 0:16:15.640 host on this podcast with us. How long did that last? 0:16:16.000 --> 0:16:18.480 About a year? Yeah, Vanessa was at least a year 0:16:18.520 --> 0:16:20.720 and she got and she's just forever. She didn't get 0:16:20.720 --> 0:16:25.360 invited to a certain person's wedding. Oh my god, AT's 0:16:25.400 --> 0:16:27.280 got a little bit awkward. And I'm just saying, come 0:16:27.320 --> 0:16:30.000 around your September October. We can make it more awkward. 0:16:30.000 --> 0:16:31.800 We're going to have a wedding, and so a certain 0:16:32.120 --> 0:16:39.000 co host of it's never going to escape me. Guys, 0:16:39.120 --> 0:16:43.600 I wanted to go just say it. Man. Here's the thing. 0:16:43.680 --> 0:16:49.040 I look back on it, and I don't think it's 0:16:49.080 --> 0:16:54.480 so tough because it's the difference between someone and how 0:16:54.520 --> 0:16:56.920 someone asked you. And then also it was different because 0:16:56.960 --> 0:16:58.680 we were kind of like a part of the engagement 0:16:58.680 --> 0:17:00.800 where he wanted to like propose and then come back 0:17:00.840 --> 0:17:02.960 and have people there we have planned for you and 0:17:02.960 --> 0:17:07.600 actually obviously duh um, and we weren't bringing Dawson because 0:17:07.640 --> 0:17:09.639 we're like, we're not bringing Dawson's cross country at two 0:17:09.680 --> 0:17:13.159 times in one months, this guy. Anyway, I keep live 0:17:13.200 --> 0:17:19.679 on explaining myself again, this is ridiculous, and yeah, it 0:17:19.800 --> 0:17:22.879 was really like and I look back and I questioned, 0:17:23.000 --> 0:17:30.399 if whatever, anyway, you're numbered now no ship, this is 0:17:30.480 --> 0:17:34.240 bullshit anyway, It's just don't miss the wedding. And we're 0:17:34.240 --> 0:17:36.000 not gonna miss the wedding. We never missed the winning 0:17:36.119 --> 0:17:38.359 I don't want to see you can't. Yeah, she's just kidding. 0:17:38.359 --> 0:17:41.720 You can't miss something you're not invited to. So this, yeah, 0:17:42.119 --> 0:17:46.520 my god, this man, you say September October, Well, the 0:17:46.520 --> 0:17:48.760 weddings in September, but I'm sure the backlash won't really 0:17:48.760 --> 0:17:52.280 take effect until yeah, yeah, yeah, and then come November 0:17:52.320 --> 0:17:57.160 it will just be us to co hosting it. Will 0:17:57.359 --> 0:18:00.159 It will create such deep wounds that I will have 0:18:00.200 --> 0:18:04.760 no choice. In the past, she didn't leave because of that. 0:18:05.400 --> 0:18:07.960 Don't put this This guy's playing everything on me? Are 0:18:08.080 --> 0:18:11.879 right now? Good God? That was terrible though. That was 0:18:11.920 --> 0:18:14.760 so bad. I yeah, I look back on that time 0:18:14.840 --> 0:18:19.160 with regret. But okay, since this is a marriage podcast, 0:18:19.240 --> 0:18:22.000 I think until you've gone through it, you can't understand 0:18:22.520 --> 0:18:24.960 because right now we're planning our guest list, and we're 0:18:25.000 --> 0:18:28.000 planning like I don't want to give away how our 0:18:28.000 --> 0:18:30.159 wedding is gonna be set up, but it's very specific 0:18:30.359 --> 0:18:32.440 where we can only have a specific amount of people, 0:18:33.160 --> 0:18:35.880 um and until you've gone through it, like I want 0:18:36.359 --> 0:18:38.679 everyone to be there, like everyone we've ever met or 0:18:38.720 --> 0:18:41.280 cared about. But let's just not the reality of the situation. 0:18:41.480 --> 0:18:43.800 And that's me cutting you some slack for not inviting 0:18:43.800 --> 0:18:47.879 your co host. But it's until you, until you go 0:18:48.040 --> 0:18:53.240 through it. It's more just it's awkward because you guys 0:18:53.280 --> 0:18:56.040 will experience it that you know. I'm not saying it'll 0:18:56.119 --> 0:18:57.879