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Speaker 1: It's ready. Are you welcome to stuff mom never told you?

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Speaker 1: From House to works dot com. Hey, welcome to the podcast.

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Speaker 1: This is Molly and I'm Kristen. Hey listeners. If you

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Speaker 1: guys ever read our blog how to Stuff, which is should,

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Speaker 1: and you may notice that Kristin and I have sort

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Speaker 1: of a little ongoing competition, which is to mention the

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Speaker 1: show mad Men as many times as possible. Yes, it's frequently.

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Speaker 1: If you'll read my post one day features some some

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Speaker 1: Don Draper, you know, reference, then Kristen will do it

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Speaker 1: the next day. Yeah, it's not really just mentioning mad Men.

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Speaker 1: It's specifically mentioning Don Draper, the lead character in mad Men.

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Speaker 1: Slash Mine and Molly's uh could I say dream crush? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean I think we're both fairly obsessed with this show. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's a great show if you don't watch it. Some

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Speaker 1: opera though I mean it kind of visitiveitely has some

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Speaker 1: soap opera elements, But you know what, um I will

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Speaker 1: I'm fine with that if I get to watch John

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Speaker 1: Hamm on screen in well fitting suits for forty minutes, right.

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Speaker 1: And so I was telling one of my good friends

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Speaker 1: and she started watching this show and she was like,

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Speaker 1: I just cannot watch this show because that guy makes

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Speaker 1: me so mad. He cheats on his wife all the time.

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Speaker 1: He's not a good guy. I'm just so sick of

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Speaker 1: just I don't know. I can put that aside because

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Speaker 1: But you can't deny that adultery is everywhere. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: these days. I mean we go at the Tiger Wood scandal,

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Speaker 1: So we thought we'd talked about adultery because men's got

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Speaker 1: And I think Madman is a good place to start

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Speaker 1: spoiler alert, I guess a little bit. You know, Don

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Speaker 1: dream attachment, that dream relationship, the romance, the romance must

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Speaker 1: never end. Yeah. Um, But this, and this also goes

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Speaker 1: Sizzle Fizzle? But monogamy in general is not exactly in

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Speaker 1: our biological natures, as you point out in this article

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Speaker 1: that you wrote Molley for how stuff works. Um. There

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