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Speaker 1: This is episode twenty one of Dropping Gem's and I

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Speaker 1: am Debbie Brown. Thank you for joining me again. Let's

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Speaker 1: so interesting when we really and again this is always

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00:28:10,920 --> 00:28:13,439
Speaker 1: what I'm going to say here and everywhere, when we

433
00:28:13,480 --> 00:28:18,080
Speaker 1: step outside of ourselves to just be curious observers of

434
00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:20,959
Speaker 1: our lives and not in judgment, we can look at

435
00:28:20,960 --> 00:28:24,440
Speaker 1: that really clearly and realize we've always been enough, it's

436
00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:28,120
Speaker 1: not us and it's okay to not know things about

437
00:28:28,160 --> 00:28:30,359
Speaker 1: our bodies and not know things that we like, but

438
00:28:30,480 --> 00:28:33,880
Speaker 1: we have the opportunity to learn. Yeah, that's so beautifully said,

439
00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:37,920
Speaker 1: and it's it's so true. We're so disconnected from down there,

440
00:28:38,120 --> 00:28:39,720
Speaker 1: and I hate even staying down there because that's what

441
00:28:39,760 --> 00:28:43,240
Speaker 1: so many women refer to. The sun don't shine there.

442
00:28:43,480 --> 00:28:46,840
Speaker 1: It's like, you know, take some time and connect with that,

443
00:28:46,840 --> 00:28:50,560
Speaker 1: that intimate space that is so beautiful and is so diverse,

444
00:28:50,720 --> 00:28:52,840
Speaker 1: and yeah, I mean it so. One of the first

445
00:28:52,840 --> 00:28:56,600
Speaker 1: experiences that I had with Volvo mapping was with Betty Dodson,

446
00:28:57,320 --> 00:29:00,000
Speaker 1: who just passed recently, but she is an amazing pie

447
00:29:00,040 --> 00:29:05,080
Speaker 1: near of feminism and her whole thing was showing up

448
00:29:05,480 --> 00:29:08,400
Speaker 1: naked in a room full of women and unclothing and

449
00:29:08,480 --> 00:29:13,480
Speaker 1: showing each other our our yungnies are pussies because we

450
00:29:13,560 --> 00:29:16,840
Speaker 1: are not given an accurate paint that picture for everyone,

451
00:29:16,920 --> 00:29:18,880
Speaker 1: really quick, what does that look like to come into

452
00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:20,960
Speaker 1: a space And if you guys get time, please look

453
00:29:21,000 --> 00:29:25,080
Speaker 1: up Betty Dotson. She's actually a phenomenal, phenomenal woman and

454
00:29:25,160 --> 00:29:30,800
Speaker 1: pioneer of embracing orgasm and using it as tools for

455
00:29:30,960 --> 00:29:35,480
Speaker 1: manifestation and radiant youth and beauty and pleasure. But at

456
00:29:35,560 --> 00:29:39,680
Speaker 1: at something like that when like these women groups happen, Um,

457
00:29:39,720 --> 00:29:42,120
Speaker 1: what does that look like walking into a room and

458
00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:45,120
Speaker 1: disrobing with a room full of women you don't know,

459
00:29:45,880 --> 00:29:51,720
Speaker 1: And how does it feel seeing other people's genitals? It

460
00:29:51,840 --> 00:29:58,040
Speaker 1: is it's surprisingly feel so natural, so natural, and so

461
00:29:58,200 --> 00:30:01,080
Speaker 1: normal because we know we're clothed all the time, we're

462
00:30:01,120 --> 00:30:04,720
Speaker 1: putting shields and veils and you know what, we think

463
00:30:04,760 --> 00:30:07,280
Speaker 1: we should look like up on us all the time.

464
00:30:07,400 --> 00:30:10,320
Speaker 1: So walking into a space of women that are just

465
00:30:10,400 --> 00:30:14,440
Speaker 1: as naked and vulnerable as you, it is beautiful and

466
00:30:14,520 --> 00:30:20,200
Speaker 1: it's reminiscent about you know, like ancient feminine, deep empowered wisdom.

467
00:30:20,280 --> 00:30:22,840
Speaker 1: And then you realize that your body is so different.

468
00:30:22,920 --> 00:30:27,640
Speaker 1: Everybody's body is so different and uniquely and amazingly so

469
00:30:27,880 --> 00:30:31,000
Speaker 1: right of course, So then when you guys are doing

470
00:30:31,880 --> 00:30:34,280
Speaker 1: and I say, I'm going to get a little specific

471
00:30:34,320 --> 00:30:37,600
Speaker 1: with some of the definitions because I know this is

472
00:30:37,600 --> 00:30:40,240
Speaker 1: an audio format, so we have to visually paint the picture,

473
00:30:40,720 --> 00:30:42,720
Speaker 1: and I know this work is really foreign to so

474
00:30:42,800 --> 00:30:46,160
Speaker 1: many people, Like there there's a small handful of people

475
00:30:46,480 --> 00:30:50,480
Speaker 1: that do the work that you do globally a small

476
00:30:51,240 --> 00:30:55,720
Speaker 1: handful globally, Like this is a very very even though

477
00:30:55,760 --> 00:31:00,320
Speaker 1: this is ancient work, it's a very new practice for

478
00:31:00,360 --> 00:31:02,920
Speaker 1: people to be talking about it or even know that

479
00:31:03,560 --> 00:31:08,719
Speaker 1: there's possibility to heal and grow in this way. Um So,

480
00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:11,080
Speaker 1: when you're doing so, some of the words, some of

481
00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:14,760
Speaker 1: the things that happen in this process are like the

482
00:31:14,840 --> 00:31:19,200
Speaker 1: vulva mapping, pleasure mapping, Yoni massage. Can you break down

483
00:31:19,240 --> 00:31:22,160
Speaker 1: for me how some of that works. Yeah, So, pleasure

484
00:31:22,160 --> 00:31:24,960
Speaker 1: mapping is really just mapping your body and it doesn't

485
00:31:25,000 --> 00:31:27,720
Speaker 1: necessarily have to be sexual. It's just mapping your body

486
00:31:27,800 --> 00:31:32,960
Speaker 1: for what feels pleasurable. We really desensitize ourselves so much

487
00:31:32,960 --> 00:31:36,480
Speaker 1: of the time, and we we don't have a clear

488
00:31:36,560 --> 00:31:40,120
Speaker 1: understanding of what we actually want or desire, or we've

489
00:31:40,240 --> 00:31:43,880
Speaker 1: learned to only respond to what our partners likes and

490
00:31:43,920 --> 00:31:47,040
Speaker 1: wants are and this creates a huge disconnection in our

491
00:31:47,080 --> 00:31:51,560
Speaker 1: body and for long term pleasure and also just in

492
00:31:51,720 --> 00:31:54,920
Speaker 1: attracting what we want in our bigger purpose and life.

493
00:31:55,240 --> 00:31:58,160
Speaker 1: Um So, yeah, some of this this work for me

494
00:31:58,240 --> 00:32:01,080
Speaker 1: has been just like connecting with is my desire and

495
00:32:01,120 --> 00:32:04,760
Speaker 1: once I'm connected to that and my pleasure. Then everything

496
00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:08,600
Speaker 1: is effortless. Everything just unfolds effortlessly into my life. And

497
00:32:08,840 --> 00:32:13,000
Speaker 1: vulva mapping is actually mapping your vulva, so you're learning

498
00:32:13,040 --> 00:32:16,440
Speaker 1: the anatomy of your vulva. So many people called the

499
00:32:16,480 --> 00:32:19,480
Speaker 1: vulva the vagina. We've been taught, you know, our parents

500
00:32:19,560 --> 00:32:22,200
Speaker 1: don't even know. It's not actually called the vulva. I mean,

501
00:32:22,200 --> 00:32:24,440
Speaker 1: it's not actually called a vagina. It's called a volva.

502
00:32:24,520 --> 00:32:28,239
Speaker 1: Volva is the outer parts, um, and the vagina is

503
00:32:28,280 --> 00:32:30,840
Speaker 1: the canal and in which we are penetrated or which

504
00:32:30,880 --> 00:32:36,360
Speaker 1: we have a baby through. So just reclaiming and naming

505
00:32:36,480 --> 00:32:40,800
Speaker 1: what our parts are so that we can be empowered

506
00:32:40,840 --> 00:32:44,280
Speaker 1: by by holding that space for each of our parts,

507
00:32:44,320 --> 00:32:48,480
Speaker 1: giving them identity, and then inviting pleasure and sensation to

508
00:32:48,600 --> 00:32:52,280
Speaker 1: each of those parts. Yeah, Simone and I actually did

509
00:32:52,280 --> 00:32:59,440
Speaker 1: that experience together, UM, and it was one It was

510
00:32:59,480 --> 00:33:05,320
Speaker 1: profound only beautiful. Um, it was an experience that was

511
00:33:05,360 --> 00:33:08,959
Speaker 1: just truly indescribable, Like there's no point of reference for

512
00:33:09,000 --> 00:33:12,040
Speaker 1: me ever feeling that closely connected to my body before

513
00:33:12,800 --> 00:33:17,320
Speaker 1: um even down to like massaging my C section scar

514
00:33:18,880 --> 00:33:25,200
Speaker 1: and experiencing like an immense amount of ancestral healing from

515
00:33:25,240 --> 00:33:31,880
Speaker 1: that spot, you know, um, And there were parts of

516
00:33:31,880 --> 00:33:35,840
Speaker 1: that experience. I mean, first, let's just say I've never

517
00:33:35,880 --> 00:33:39,640
Speaker 1: done anything like that before, so I was absolutely I

518
00:33:39,680 --> 00:33:41,960
Speaker 1: felt I showed up for myself really powerfully and in

519
00:33:42,000 --> 00:33:44,719
Speaker 1: a good way. Like I was ready for the experience.

520
00:33:44,720 --> 00:33:46,880
Speaker 1: So I wasn't all giggly and I wasn't all you know,

521
00:33:47,520 --> 00:33:51,560
Speaker 1: um silly about it. But I definitely felt more vulnerable

522
00:33:51,600 --> 00:33:56,840
Speaker 1: than I've ever felt. I've definitely felt more seen than

523
00:33:56,880 --> 00:34:01,640
Speaker 1: I've ever felt. But it was fascinating. It was fascinating, um.

524
00:34:01,680 --> 00:34:04,320
Speaker 1: And you can do like external and internal mapping in

525
00:34:04,400 --> 00:34:07,920
Speaker 1: that way, and just you know, we it's hardly talked

526
00:34:07,920 --> 00:34:10,560
Speaker 1: about in school, our anatomy, and when it is again,

527
00:34:10,719 --> 00:34:13,200
Speaker 1: it was presented to us most likely in the seventh grade,

528
00:34:13,239 --> 00:34:17,240
Speaker 1: unless you also took further courses maybe in high school

529
00:34:17,280 --> 00:34:21,200
Speaker 1: and college, and you kind of rushed through it because

530
00:34:21,239 --> 00:34:24,680
Speaker 1: everyone's giggling and everyone's like you or oh. That was

531
00:34:24,719 --> 00:34:27,320
Speaker 1: my experience in the seventh grade at least. And so

532
00:34:28,680 --> 00:34:30,600
Speaker 1: you know, it was actually interesting as a woman in

533
00:34:30,640 --> 00:34:34,400
Speaker 1: her thirties to realize there was stuff. I didn't know

534
00:34:34,440 --> 00:34:36,920
Speaker 1: what everything was called, you know, I did think the

535
00:34:36,960 --> 00:34:40,319
Speaker 1: whole thing was called vagina, Like I didn't know that

536
00:34:40,320 --> 00:34:42,840
Speaker 1: that was just the birth canal, or even if I

537
00:34:42,880 --> 00:34:45,080
Speaker 1: had learned it, it wasn't in you know, my conscious

538
00:34:45,120 --> 00:34:48,040
Speaker 1: memory that I had access to. But it was so

539
00:34:48,160 --> 00:34:51,880
Speaker 1: fascinating And some of the things that you have talked

540
00:34:51,920 --> 00:34:54,080
Speaker 1: about and that you show women in this work that

541
00:34:54,160 --> 00:34:57,160
Speaker 1: you do, it's really the system of understanding of how

542
00:34:57,200 --> 00:35:00,919
Speaker 1: our bodies even respond to pleasure and how much time

543
00:35:00,960 --> 00:35:03,839
Speaker 1: it actually takes. Like, no, thirty seconds of four play

544
00:35:03,920 --> 00:35:07,080
Speaker 1: is not enough. No, you you know, maybe touching me

545
00:35:07,120 --> 00:35:10,680
Speaker 1: in this way, that's not enough for me to actually

546
00:35:10,719 --> 00:35:14,360
Speaker 1: have that in body experience that I deserve to have

547
00:35:14,480 --> 00:35:16,560
Speaker 1: as a woman. Can you speak to that some of

548
00:35:16,600 --> 00:35:20,880
Speaker 1: the functions of how if if someone were to be

549
00:35:21,000 --> 00:35:24,160
Speaker 1: having sex with themselves or with a partner, what should

550
00:35:24,160 --> 00:35:27,120
Speaker 1: the flow of that actually look like and what physically

551
00:35:27,320 --> 00:35:31,720
Speaker 1: is happening to the body as these different stages are happening. Yes,

552
00:35:31,800 --> 00:35:34,200
Speaker 1: that's such a great thing to talk about and understand.

553
00:35:34,960 --> 00:35:37,000
Speaker 1: Um And yeah, with that, I just want to say, like,

554
00:35:37,040 --> 00:35:38,759
Speaker 1: what if we change that, you know, in the way

555
00:35:38,760 --> 00:35:40,879
Speaker 1: that we learn our sex at what if we were

556
00:35:40,880 --> 00:35:43,080
Speaker 1: able to teach our daughters and our sons how to

557
00:35:43,120 --> 00:35:47,400
Speaker 1: connect with their bodies intimately and with their heart space

558
00:35:47,520 --> 00:35:50,279
Speaker 1: rather than just witnessing it on porn or witnessing it

559
00:35:50,360 --> 00:35:54,880
Speaker 1: by like STDs. And it changes everything, changes our connection

560
00:35:54,880 --> 00:35:57,120
Speaker 1: to ourselfs, and it also changes the respect we have

561
00:35:57,560 --> 00:35:59,839
Speaker 1: with others when we connect with them and the way

562
00:35:59,840 --> 00:36:02,080
Speaker 1: we treat their bodies in the way we treat them

563
00:36:02,080 --> 00:36:04,440
Speaker 1: as human spirits in the world as well in the

564
00:36:04,480 --> 00:36:10,040
Speaker 1: way we're able to deepen our experience of intimacy connection.

565
00:36:10,080 --> 00:36:13,759
Speaker 1: We're all really here for. So yeah, so coming understanding

566
00:36:13,840 --> 00:36:16,440
Speaker 1: how to the anatomy works. It's so fascinating and it's

567
00:36:16,480 --> 00:36:20,040
Speaker 1: so important because you know, a female's body is not

568
00:36:20,200 --> 00:36:24,200
Speaker 1: actually fully ready for penetration until she is fully aroused,

569
00:36:24,200 --> 00:36:28,719
Speaker 1: which takes about twenty to forty minutes. And when you're

570
00:36:29,200 --> 00:36:33,800
Speaker 1: examining involva mapping your body, you understand the different parts

571
00:36:33,880 --> 00:36:39,440
Speaker 1: and you understand the the entire length and capacity of

572
00:36:39,480 --> 00:36:44,960
Speaker 1: the clitterest, which expands and actually erects itself and you

573
00:36:45,000 --> 00:36:47,200
Speaker 1: can feel that, like when I do mapping with women,

574
00:36:47,239 --> 00:36:50,560
Speaker 1: you get to feel what you're what your clitterest feels

575
00:36:50,560 --> 00:36:53,600
Speaker 1: like when it's erect and then you understand like, oh, now,

576
00:36:53,640 --> 00:36:55,640
Speaker 1: I'm ready for that kind of play, and now I'm

577
00:36:55,640 --> 00:36:57,640
Speaker 1: ready for penetration, and now my body is going to

578
00:36:57,719 --> 00:37:00,000
Speaker 1: secrete fluid so that things are going to feel yummy

579
00:37:00,040 --> 00:37:04,600
Speaker 1: and delicious and juicy instead of ever forcing something. And

580
00:37:04,640 --> 00:37:06,640
Speaker 1: then you can also share that with your partner so

581
00:37:06,719 --> 00:37:09,719
Speaker 1: they know, like men are not taught this either, Like

582
00:37:09,760 --> 00:37:12,560
Speaker 1: we're both in the same place of being disconnected from

583
00:37:12,560 --> 00:37:14,640
Speaker 1: our pleasure and our bodies. You know, it comes forward

584
00:37:14,680 --> 00:37:17,120
Speaker 1: from you when you say that is like, imagine how

585
00:37:17,160 --> 00:37:20,600
Speaker 1: many times, as women, you have been with a partner

586
00:37:20,640 --> 00:37:23,080
Speaker 1: and you thought something was wrong with you, or it

587
00:37:23,200 --> 00:37:26,279
Speaker 1: was you, or they may have said a comment to

588
00:37:26,320 --> 00:37:29,840
Speaker 1: you of like, oh, you're not really wet, or you know,

589
00:37:29,920 --> 00:37:32,560
Speaker 1: why does it hurt? And it's like, no one ever

590
00:37:32,680 --> 00:37:34,560
Speaker 1: told you that it might take up to forty five

591
00:37:34,600 --> 00:37:38,200
Speaker 1: minutes for you for your body to really awaken so

592
00:37:38,239 --> 00:37:41,040
Speaker 1: that you can have this experience, because again, we've always

593
00:37:41,040 --> 00:37:43,920
Speaker 1: been the afterthought. We've always been there to serve and

594
00:37:43,960 --> 00:37:49,359
Speaker 1: show up and facilitate someone else's pleasure, which is, you know,

595
00:37:49,400 --> 00:37:51,840
Speaker 1: one of the many ways women are have been tricked

596
00:37:51,880 --> 00:37:55,840
Speaker 1: throughout history into these martyrdom roles, you know, these roles

597
00:37:55,880 --> 00:38:00,200
Speaker 1: of jest I'm here to serve I can go without this,

598
00:38:00,400 --> 00:38:05,160
Speaker 1: you know, perceived strength and resilience. It's so interesting to

599
00:38:05,160 --> 00:38:08,479
Speaker 1: see that interconnectedness. And you know, something that also really

600
00:38:08,480 --> 00:38:10,920
Speaker 1: comes forward for me is that I that I want

601
00:38:10,960 --> 00:38:14,480
Speaker 1: to be really honest with you guys and share UM

602
00:38:14,560 --> 00:38:16,560
Speaker 1: and actually feel a little motion in my chest right

603
00:38:16,600 --> 00:38:18,560
Speaker 1: now saying this so that lets me know I need

604
00:38:18,600 --> 00:38:21,440
Speaker 1: to say it. But I wanted to have Simone on

605
00:38:21,480 --> 00:38:23,239
Speaker 1: the show, and I wanted to be this open and

606
00:38:23,320 --> 00:38:25,840
Speaker 1: vulnerable with you in this way. We've never talked like

607
00:38:25,880 --> 00:38:30,919
Speaker 1: this with each other before. Because after beginning this work

608
00:38:30,960 --> 00:38:35,200
Speaker 1: with Simone and now deep diving into more work and

609
00:38:35,280 --> 00:38:43,120
Speaker 1: curriculum and reading and experiencing and self pleasuring, I believe

610
00:38:43,320 --> 00:38:47,040
Speaker 1: with all of my soul that every woman deserves this,

611
00:38:47,840 --> 00:38:52,440
Speaker 1: that every woman deserves to feel like this and to

612
00:38:52,680 --> 00:38:56,040
Speaker 1: know themselves in this way. And when I really think

613
00:38:56,080 --> 00:38:59,320
Speaker 1: about it, I am I am an extremely processed person.

614
00:38:59,480 --> 00:39:03,399
Speaker 1: I'm very very deeply processed. I've always been introspective and

615
00:39:04,160 --> 00:39:07,440
Speaker 1: at least seemingly wise since I was young, UM, and

616
00:39:07,480 --> 00:39:10,560
Speaker 1: I've embarked on a life path, especially the last ten

617
00:39:10,680 --> 00:39:14,560
Speaker 1: years of deep excavation. If you have heard of it,

618
00:39:14,640 --> 00:39:18,240
Speaker 1: I can guarantee you I've done it, um. I years

619
00:39:18,239 --> 00:39:23,000
Speaker 1: of therapy, years of you know, now being someone really

620
00:39:23,239 --> 00:39:26,759
Speaker 1: who has dedicated themselves to helping women heal trauma and

621
00:39:26,800 --> 00:39:29,960
Speaker 1: discover the deepest parts of themselves. And you know I'm

622
00:39:30,080 --> 00:39:33,680
Speaker 1: heavy deep in the mindfulness and meditation world. I can

623
00:39:33,719 --> 00:39:38,800
Speaker 1: say with complete certainty, your work will never be complete

624
00:39:38,840 --> 00:39:43,080
Speaker 1: until you do this. And I say that again. I

625
00:39:43,120 --> 00:39:47,120
Speaker 1: can't stress this enough. I am more processed than probably

626
00:39:48,520 --> 00:39:52,480
Speaker 1: of people that most people meet. I am heavily processed.

627
00:39:52,520 --> 00:39:58,320
Speaker 1: I'm really constantly in hot pursuit of myself, always willing

628
00:39:58,440 --> 00:40:03,000
Speaker 1: to excavate and bel bear. And even in that, I

629
00:40:03,040 --> 00:40:06,560
Speaker 1: would have never reached the deepest depth of my healing

630
00:40:06,840 --> 00:40:10,600
Speaker 1: and been able to expand myself to the joy and

631
00:40:10,640 --> 00:40:15,000
Speaker 1: the abundance and the love that is my birthright without

632
00:40:15,040 --> 00:40:19,640
Speaker 1: doing this work. We have to nourish our wounds. We

633
00:40:19,840 --> 00:40:24,360
Speaker 1: have to tap into that divine, feminine power that we

634
00:40:24,400 --> 00:40:27,879
Speaker 1: have been trained and forced to let go of. We

635
00:40:28,040 --> 00:40:32,560
Speaker 1: have to love our bodies with reckless, abandoned and we

636
00:40:33,600 --> 00:40:44,239
Speaker 1: must regularly experience the greatest pleasures possible. This work is

637
00:40:44,280 --> 00:40:49,359
Speaker 1: the It's the work of the revolution. Mm hmmm, You're

638
00:40:49,360 --> 00:40:52,960
Speaker 1: gonna make me cry now. It's so true though, It's

639
00:40:52,960 --> 00:40:56,920
Speaker 1: so true. I mean my life has completely transformed and

640
00:40:57,040 --> 00:40:59,720
Speaker 1: just aligned, you know, like I am in my body,

641
00:40:59,840 --> 00:41:03,000
Speaker 1: I am in my my feminine wisdom that I'm drawing

642
00:41:03,040 --> 00:41:07,640
Speaker 1: on in myself and from from my ancestors, and being

643
00:41:07,680 --> 00:41:10,480
Speaker 1: able to share in a way that is that is

644
00:41:10,520 --> 00:41:13,200
Speaker 1: true and connected. And when you're in that space, anything

645
00:41:13,320 --> 00:41:20,560
Speaker 1: is possible. It's such amazing work. Yeah. Yeah, and it's pleasure,

646
00:41:20,600 --> 00:41:22,840
Speaker 1: you know, Like we need to be in pleasure. Everything

647
00:41:22,880 --> 00:41:25,919
Speaker 1: should be pleasurable. Like we should not demonize ourselves for

648
00:41:26,400 --> 00:41:30,160
Speaker 1: thinking that we want to be in pleasure and that. Yeah,

649
00:41:30,719 --> 00:41:33,359
Speaker 1: like I had no idea that there was this much

650
00:41:33,440 --> 00:41:36,879
Speaker 1: pleasure available to us in the world. And I don't

651
00:41:36,880 --> 00:41:39,680
Speaker 1: just mean that from like in orgasmic perspective, right, Like,

652
00:41:39,719 --> 00:41:44,560
Speaker 1: I mean that deeply from Wow, this is a new

653
00:41:44,800 --> 00:41:48,680
Speaker 1: facet of my being. I've uncovered this new access to

654
00:41:48,760 --> 00:41:51,400
Speaker 1: a deeper layer of who we are and who we

655
00:41:51,440 --> 00:41:58,279
Speaker 1: can be through sensuality, through like, you know, something I've

656
00:41:58,360 --> 00:42:02,359
Speaker 1: really been describing my experience says now, is I I'm

657
00:42:02,400 --> 00:42:07,520
Speaker 1: seducing the universe. I feel that I am a seductress

658
00:42:07,560 --> 00:42:12,080
Speaker 1: of the universe. I'm seducing the gods. That's how my friend,

659
00:42:12,200 --> 00:42:15,120
Speaker 1: Um Saudi Simone likes to describe it. You know, just

660
00:42:15,239 --> 00:42:20,400
Speaker 1: being in that state of everything is flirty, beautiful play. Yeah,

661
00:42:20,520 --> 00:42:23,080
Speaker 1: it's retraining your mind and your body and how to

662
00:42:23,200 --> 00:42:27,120
Speaker 1: just feel the temperature of the air, um, to taste

663
00:42:27,120 --> 00:42:30,720
Speaker 1: the sweetness of an apple in your mouth, to really

664
00:42:30,760 --> 00:42:35,520
Speaker 1: slow down and have that intimate conversation with your lover

665
00:42:35,760 --> 00:42:38,799
Speaker 1: or your child, or your parents or your coworker. And

666
00:42:39,000 --> 00:42:41,960
Speaker 1: that's really what the essence of this work is. It

667
00:42:42,040 --> 00:42:46,399
Speaker 1: invites you to drop into that space in every way. Yeah. Yeah,

668
00:42:46,560 --> 00:42:49,799
Speaker 1: and to that point, you know, when you're doing this

669
00:42:49,920 --> 00:42:53,959
Speaker 1: womb healing and some of this pleasure work, it extends

670
00:42:54,160 --> 00:42:57,759
Speaker 1: so much to non sexual things like you are just

671
00:42:58,000 --> 00:43:02,120
Speaker 1: really savoring everything, whether you are at the park holding

672
00:43:02,160 --> 00:43:05,319
Speaker 1: hands with your child, you know, whether, as you said,

673
00:43:05,400 --> 00:43:09,880
Speaker 1: you're having like a really juicy, yummy, open conversation with

674
00:43:09,920 --> 00:43:20,640
Speaker 1: another person. Um, everything is felt with more intensity. So

675
00:43:20,760 --> 00:43:23,040
Speaker 1: tell me, Simone. I mean, we've been we've been talking

676
00:43:23,640 --> 00:43:26,759
Speaker 1: about some of the juiciest parts of this, But what

677
00:43:26,840 --> 00:43:29,879
Speaker 1: are some of the misconceptions about the work that you do.

678
00:43:30,520 --> 00:43:33,280
Speaker 1: Because I know, I know, y'all, I know, for some people,

679
00:43:33,440 --> 00:43:36,600
Speaker 1: especially to sit depending on the belief systems you were

680
00:43:36,680 --> 00:43:39,359
Speaker 1: raised in your family structures, you know, there's a red

681
00:43:39,360 --> 00:43:42,319
Speaker 1: flag going up. Yeah, definitely. I mean this this goes

682
00:43:42,400 --> 00:43:45,160
Speaker 1: back to, you know, my story about when I was

683
00:43:45,239 --> 00:43:49,279
Speaker 1: younger and just being shamed for um, feeling sensual or

684
00:43:49,320 --> 00:43:52,920
Speaker 1: in my body, And there is so much tabooist to

685
00:43:52,920 --> 00:43:55,440
Speaker 1: to what this is and even saying the word sex

686
00:43:55,480 --> 00:43:57,160
Speaker 1: like sex coach, what does that mean? Like, do you

687
00:43:57,160 --> 00:44:00,680
Speaker 1: have sex with people? Right? Like, no, don't have sex

688
00:44:00,680 --> 00:44:04,480
Speaker 1: with people. Um, it's not sex work, but it is

689
00:44:04,560 --> 00:44:07,560
Speaker 1: intimate work. You know, you're creating a space where you're intimate,

690
00:44:07,719 --> 00:44:10,640
Speaker 1: and um, it needs to be intimate in order to

691
00:44:10,800 --> 00:44:17,960
Speaker 1: let those those veils unfold and for shame to disappear,

692
00:44:18,120 --> 00:44:21,279
Speaker 1: we need to unearth why it is that we feel

693
00:44:21,360 --> 00:44:25,440
Speaker 1: shame about those words in the first place. Yeah, how

694
00:44:25,480 --> 00:44:29,239
Speaker 1: could someone get started on this journey? Well, you know,

695
00:44:29,480 --> 00:44:33,000
Speaker 1: just connecting with yourself, connecting with your body, taking time

696
00:44:33,040 --> 00:44:37,480
Speaker 1: every night to nurture and create a self pleasure practice.

697
00:44:37,800 --> 00:44:40,920
Speaker 1: Everything that I teach and that I do with my

698
00:44:41,040 --> 00:44:44,040
Speaker 1: clients is stuff that you can do on your own.

699
00:44:44,080 --> 00:44:46,960
Speaker 1: You know, it's meant to empower you and really just

700
00:44:47,040 --> 00:44:52,320
Speaker 1: creating a connection to having a UM communication with your body.

701
00:44:52,440 --> 00:44:56,080
Speaker 1: Your body has messages and they're very clear when you

702
00:44:56,160 --> 00:44:58,640
Speaker 1: take the time to get to know it. So for

703
00:44:58,760 --> 00:45:02,560
Speaker 1: someone listening that asn't self pleasure and feels really intimidated

704
00:45:02,600 --> 00:45:06,520
Speaker 1: by by it or maybe even traumatized around it and triggered,

705
00:45:06,960 --> 00:45:16,800
Speaker 1: how would someone start or super charge they're self pleasure practice? Yeah,

706
00:45:16,800 --> 00:45:19,040
Speaker 1: well that's the first step is just thinking about do

707
00:45:19,120 --> 00:45:21,640
Speaker 1: you have one UM? If you did have one, what

708
00:45:21,680 --> 00:45:24,240
Speaker 1: would it look like? What are you doing right now?

709
00:45:24,280 --> 00:45:28,560
Speaker 1: What are the habitual patterns that you've done for so long?

710
00:45:28,600 --> 00:45:30,960
Speaker 1: Like when did they start? When you first started masturbating?

711
00:45:31,040 --> 00:45:33,719
Speaker 1: So many of us have these patterns. It's like one

712
00:45:33,719 --> 00:45:37,920
Speaker 1: single position super quick, like get it done with and um,

713
00:45:37,960 --> 00:45:40,760
Speaker 1: how can we change that? How can we invite more pleasure?

714
00:45:40,880 --> 00:45:47,120
Speaker 1: How can you invite different movements, breath, sound, all of

715
00:45:47,160 --> 00:45:50,560
Speaker 1: that stuff, touch, dance, all the fun things into your

716
00:45:50,560 --> 00:45:53,680
Speaker 1: self pleasure practice? I think to like such a big,

717
00:45:54,239 --> 00:45:56,960
Speaker 1: big thing that no one talks about because especially women,

718
00:45:57,000 --> 00:46:01,359
Speaker 1: you're not necessarily comparing notes about mass servation or you know,

719
00:46:01,880 --> 00:46:06,239
Speaker 1: self expression in that way. It's slowing down, you know,

720
00:46:06,360 --> 00:46:08,839
Speaker 1: I think because so often and We've talked about this

721
00:46:09,719 --> 00:46:12,600
Speaker 1: so often. You're so ashamed with your body that you

722
00:46:12,640 --> 00:46:15,360
Speaker 1: think if you do self pleasure, you have to rush

723
00:46:15,360 --> 00:46:17,720
Speaker 1: through it because you're doing it secretly with a blanket

724
00:46:17,719 --> 00:46:19,480
Speaker 1: over your head. You're just trying to get to it,

725
00:46:19,560 --> 00:46:22,120
Speaker 1: or you're hiding it from your partner. You don't want

726
00:46:22,120 --> 00:46:24,640
Speaker 1: people to hear. And so most people learn to self

727
00:46:24,680 --> 00:46:28,799
Speaker 1: pleasure by really truncating and restricting themselves. So you are

728
00:46:28,840 --> 00:46:32,760
Speaker 1: being completely silent, you're being very hyper vigilant, your faces

729
00:46:32,840 --> 00:46:37,160
Speaker 1: probably locked, like your jaws probably pretty tight. And then

730
00:46:37,320 --> 00:46:41,719
Speaker 1: you are having an experience where it's almost as if

731
00:46:42,440 --> 00:46:44,960
Speaker 1: your genital area is not a part of the rest

732
00:46:45,040 --> 00:46:47,839
Speaker 1: of your life. You know, it's like this little thing

733
00:46:47,880 --> 00:46:50,320
Speaker 1: that exists, but you don't actually really know it. You

734
00:46:50,400 --> 00:46:52,600
Speaker 1: just pop it out when you think you need to,

735
00:46:53,640 --> 00:46:55,760
Speaker 1: and then you tuck it away again, and you don't

736
00:46:56,480 --> 00:46:58,799
Speaker 1: invited into the rest of your life. You don't you

737
00:46:58,840 --> 00:47:01,960
Speaker 1: don't have your yoni, presn't in other parts of your life.

738
00:47:02,120 --> 00:47:05,640
Speaker 1: And slowing down is a great first way to start that.

739
00:47:05,880 --> 00:47:08,959
Speaker 1: You know, if you self pleasure saying, instead of trying

740
00:47:08,960 --> 00:47:11,879
Speaker 1: to hurry and get to it in ten minutes, I'm

741
00:47:11,880 --> 00:47:14,880
Speaker 1: going to take forty five minutes, right, Like, I'm going

742
00:47:14,920 --> 00:47:18,200
Speaker 1: to put on a playlist that feels really good. I'm

743
00:47:18,200 --> 00:47:21,359
Speaker 1: gonna dimn the lights, maybe light a few candles. I'm

744
00:47:21,400 --> 00:47:25,520
Speaker 1: going to give myself the romance and intimacy that I

745
00:47:25,600 --> 00:47:30,160
Speaker 1: long for and make it a special space, a special container,

746
00:47:30,960 --> 00:47:35,320
Speaker 1: and really setting the intention of you know, I I'm

747
00:47:35,360 --> 00:47:38,480
Speaker 1: doing this so that I can know myself better, so

748
00:47:38,560 --> 00:47:43,600
Speaker 1: that I can heal myself, so that I can heal

749
00:47:43,719 --> 00:47:46,920
Speaker 1: through joy and pleasure. Yeah. One of the things I

750
00:47:46,960 --> 00:47:50,720
Speaker 1: always say is, you know, if you're just practicing touching yourself,

751
00:47:50,719 --> 00:47:53,359
Speaker 1: so you can start with your you know, between your

752
00:47:53,400 --> 00:47:57,799
Speaker 1: wrist and your elbow, and touch yourself in a way

753
00:47:57,840 --> 00:48:01,400
Speaker 1: that feels pleasurable, touch yourself as if your hand is

754
00:48:01,440 --> 00:48:06,359
Speaker 1: that of a lover's and then take a moment and

755
00:48:06,520 --> 00:48:13,719
Speaker 1: slow that touchdown by fift and just notice, wow, the difference. Yeah,

756
00:48:13,760 --> 00:48:17,960
Speaker 1: because self pleasure it doesn't just mean getting to business. No,

757
00:48:18,520 --> 00:48:24,040
Speaker 1: there's such a wide, wide, wide wide road of other things.

758
00:48:24,160 --> 00:48:28,239
Speaker 1: Even hugging yourself as self pleasure, right, that's that's such

759
00:48:28,239 --> 00:48:32,960
Speaker 1: a beautiful intimacy. Yeah, And there's such a misconception about orgasms.

760
00:48:33,000 --> 00:48:35,719
Speaker 1: You know, we think of what orgasms as one thing,

761
00:48:35,920 --> 00:48:38,200
Speaker 1: and often a reference to what we've seen in movies

762
00:48:38,239 --> 00:48:42,440
Speaker 1: being this explosive. Oh my gosh, I don't know, you know, Um,

763
00:48:42,440 --> 00:48:45,360
Speaker 1: but it's not. There's so many versions of an orgasm.

764
00:48:45,480 --> 00:48:47,520
Speaker 1: So so many women think they're broken because they think

765
00:48:47,520 --> 00:48:50,319
Speaker 1: that they've never had an orgasm. And well that's like

766
00:48:50,440 --> 00:48:54,520
Speaker 1: I feel like a whole another episode. But um, but yeah,

767
00:48:54,680 --> 00:48:56,640
Speaker 1: just like getting to know your body and how she

768
00:48:56,760 --> 00:48:59,760
Speaker 1: likes to be touched and you know, moved and held

769
00:48:59,800 --> 00:49:01,880
Speaker 1: in and then exploring with all the different ways that

770
00:49:01,960 --> 00:49:05,680
Speaker 1: you haven't touched her before and see how that feels. Yeah.

771
00:49:06,200 --> 00:49:08,520
Speaker 1: How many kinds of orgasms are there? I mean I

772
00:49:08,560 --> 00:49:13,480
Speaker 1: think there's infinite amount, but there's like full body orgasms.

773
00:49:13,560 --> 00:49:18,960
Speaker 1: There's like like what like could you orgasm without Yes,

774
00:49:19,040 --> 00:49:22,200
Speaker 1: you can orgasm without even being touched. Some people, some

775
00:49:22,239 --> 00:49:26,440
Speaker 1: personas are so sensitive that they can just you know,

776
00:49:26,560 --> 00:49:30,800
Speaker 1: by the by the interactions that they're having or the sites.

777
00:49:31,080 --> 00:49:35,680
Speaker 1: Um can orgasm without touch. There are purely vaginal orgasms.

778
00:49:35,680 --> 00:49:39,560
Speaker 1: There's only clitoral orgasms. There are's mouth orgasms. There's so

779
00:49:39,600 --> 00:49:46,319
Speaker 1: many mouth orgasms. Yeah. Interesting, okurrent, So how do you think, um, now,

780
00:49:46,600 --> 00:49:49,480
Speaker 1: you know, with all the work that you've done and

781
00:49:49,560 --> 00:49:51,839
Speaker 1: all the different kinds of people that you've seen are

782
00:49:51,880 --> 00:49:56,520
Speaker 1: the ways in which you've experienced this healing. Why is

783
00:49:56,560 --> 00:50:02,239
Speaker 1: this work so important especially for women of color m

784
00:50:02,440 --> 00:50:07,680
Speaker 1: HM as a tool for healing. I think this is

785
00:50:07,760 --> 00:50:12,000
Speaker 1: so important for all women and especially for women of color,

786
00:50:12,040 --> 00:50:15,320
Speaker 1: because it just connects you with your body. It connects

787
00:50:15,320 --> 00:50:24,640
Speaker 1: you with your desires, your power, your intuition, and it

788
00:50:24,719 --> 00:50:28,880
Speaker 1: reclaims a part of us that are just we've lost

789
00:50:28,920 --> 00:50:33,640
Speaker 1: touch with. Yeah. Yeah, gives you really the opportunity to

790
00:50:33,800 --> 00:50:37,120
Speaker 1: feel safe inside of yourself? Yes, yeah, thank you for

791
00:50:37,160 --> 00:50:41,160
Speaker 1: saying that. Yeah. I think so many women of color one,

792
00:50:42,560 --> 00:50:45,439
Speaker 1: and especially up until recently, all women like you've never

793
00:50:45,480 --> 00:50:48,360
Speaker 1: really been able to even own your own story or

794
00:50:48,440 --> 00:50:52,719
Speaker 1: speak freely about things you've experienced. There's always this expectation

795
00:50:52,840 --> 00:50:55,040
Speaker 1: of how you should show for others, how you should

796
00:50:55,120 --> 00:50:59,239
Speaker 1: heal others, how you should nourish others and martyr for others.

797
00:50:59,400 --> 00:51:02,960
Speaker 1: And you know what that really means is what that

798
00:51:03,080 --> 00:51:07,240
Speaker 1: translates into is a feeling of not being safe inside

799
00:51:07,239 --> 00:51:13,040
Speaker 1: of yourself, feeling like you are a stranger to yourself, um,

800
00:51:13,040 --> 00:51:17,360
Speaker 1: feeling scared and anxious to even spend time with yourself

801
00:51:17,400 --> 00:51:20,840
Speaker 1: alone and be with your thoughts or be with your body.

802
00:51:21,120 --> 00:51:24,640
Speaker 1: You know. Um, there's so many tiny ways we start

803
00:51:24,640 --> 00:51:28,319
Speaker 1: to betray ourselves and add to our suffering and add

804
00:51:28,360 --> 00:51:30,960
Speaker 1: to the pain of our stories and our narratives that

805
00:51:31,080 --> 00:51:35,359
Speaker 1: we don't even realize just because we don't know how

806
00:51:35,400 --> 00:51:41,080
Speaker 1: to be at rest with us. Yeah, definitely, And yeah,

807
00:51:41,160 --> 00:51:43,839
Speaker 1: with this work, you get to connect with yourself and

808
00:51:43,880 --> 00:51:48,279
Speaker 1: feel safe and therefore really trust the choices that you make,

809
00:51:48,520 --> 00:51:51,520
Speaker 1: really trust them and be at one with them. And

810
00:51:51,600 --> 00:51:53,920
Speaker 1: you know, we're speaking about pleasure, pleasure, pleasure, but a

811
00:51:53,960 --> 00:51:57,239
Speaker 1: lot of this work is also about boundaries and how

812
00:51:57,320 --> 00:52:00,680
Speaker 1: to identify what doesn't feel good. So that super clear

813
00:52:00,719 --> 00:52:02,719
Speaker 1: with that as well. Oh my gosh, I love that.

814
00:52:02,800 --> 00:52:06,640
Speaker 1: Can you speak more to that? Yeah, yeah, So that's

815
00:52:06,680 --> 00:52:09,840
Speaker 1: a huge chunk of where we begin in this journey

816
00:52:09,880 --> 00:52:12,680
Speaker 1: is how do you actually say what you don't want?

817
00:52:12,760 --> 00:52:16,720
Speaker 1: You know, we as women override and tolerate so much

818
00:52:16,840 --> 00:52:20,040
Speaker 1: where caregivers, where mothers were just feel like we have

819
00:52:20,120 --> 00:52:22,960
Speaker 1: to carry the world on our back. So we pushed

820
00:52:23,040 --> 00:52:27,560
Speaker 1: past our boundaries constantly, and by doing this work, you

821
00:52:27,640 --> 00:52:32,120
Speaker 1: really connect with what feels good, what doesn't feel good

822
00:52:32,160 --> 00:52:36,040
Speaker 1: and what feels like me and all that met is

823
00:52:36,080 --> 00:52:40,799
Speaker 1: like that's a no, yeah, yeah, and it could be

824
00:52:40,840 --> 00:52:43,760
Speaker 1: interesting everybody, and do this without judgment, but really spend

825
00:52:43,800 --> 00:52:46,680
Speaker 1: time and thought of like maybe when was that having

826
00:52:46,719 --> 00:52:49,879
Speaker 1: an intimate moment with a partner and actually didn't want

827
00:52:49,880 --> 00:52:52,719
Speaker 1: to do that, but I didn't say anything, or I

828
00:52:52,800 --> 00:52:55,880
Speaker 1: just thought, well it's fine, Or you didn't like the

829
00:52:55,920 --> 00:52:57,640
Speaker 1: way they were touching you, but you didn't want to

830
00:52:57,680 --> 00:52:59,920
Speaker 1: correct them because you know, you may have felt that

831
00:53:00,000 --> 00:53:03,439
Speaker 1: that would have been embarrassing or thrown the mood off,

832
00:53:04,400 --> 00:53:07,439
Speaker 1: you know. And and how often do we really get

833
00:53:07,440 --> 00:53:12,320
Speaker 1: to practice saying what we want in real time? Yeah,

834
00:53:12,640 --> 00:53:14,960
Speaker 1: so saying what you want and saying what you don't want,

835
00:53:15,000 --> 00:53:17,560
Speaker 1: but in a way that's not from a place of

836
00:53:17,600 --> 00:53:22,000
Speaker 1: trigger but a loving no, a loving like way to redirect,

837
00:53:22,040 --> 00:53:25,360
Speaker 1: which we don't ever get taught. What would that sound

838
00:53:25,400 --> 00:53:27,279
Speaker 1: like like if if you were with a partner right

839
00:53:27,280 --> 00:53:31,400
Speaker 1: now and the way they were touching you it wasn't bad,

840
00:53:31,440 --> 00:53:34,080
Speaker 1: but you're like, I just rather have be touched in

841
00:53:34,080 --> 00:53:37,279
Speaker 1: a different way. How would you vocalize that? Yeah, I

842
00:53:37,320 --> 00:53:42,239
Speaker 1: would say I appreciate your touch right there, but it

843
00:53:42,239 --> 00:53:46,560
Speaker 1: would feel much better if you grabbed my hips and

844
00:53:46,600 --> 00:53:50,480
Speaker 1: pulled me closer like that really turns me on. So

845
00:53:50,560 --> 00:53:53,840
Speaker 1: you're appreciating what they're doing, but you're redirecting them to

846
00:53:53,920 --> 00:53:56,560
Speaker 1: a place that you really like. Or if it's something

847
00:53:56,600 --> 00:53:59,359
Speaker 1: that really you know you don't like, you just say

848
00:53:59,560 --> 00:54:01,680
Speaker 1: that doesn't make me feel good in my body, I

849
00:54:01,719 --> 00:54:04,320
Speaker 1: would really appreciate if you touched me in this way instead.

850
00:54:05,920 --> 00:54:09,640
Speaker 1: That's so powerful. Any way that we can learn boundaries,

851
00:54:09,760 --> 00:54:12,320
Speaker 1: any way that we can learn to advocate for self

852
00:54:12,520 --> 00:54:15,480
Speaker 1: is so important. Not just for this talk that I know,

853
00:54:15,760 --> 00:54:19,400
Speaker 1: you know feels like really sexy or really sexualized or sensual,

854
00:54:19,520 --> 00:54:22,640
Speaker 1: but all of these tools, especially the ones you put

855
00:54:22,680 --> 00:54:26,680
Speaker 1: into play in your most intimate moments, they're the tools

856
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Speaker 1: that are going to be able to lead your life.

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Speaker 1: And you're going to be able to stand in the

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Speaker 1: world with this authentic inner power and this peace and

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Speaker 1: this radiance. And so I believe you know, when we

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Speaker 1: talk about mind, body, soul, we have to have the

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Speaker 1: integration of all three. And so for me, the journey

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Speaker 1: is not complete. No matter how many books you've read,

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Speaker 1: how much therapy, how much journaling you do, you know

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Speaker 1: you also have to have the somatic experiencing, and I

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Speaker 1: believe that once you've heard of this work, no woman

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Speaker 1: should go without like this is such a profoundly powerful

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Speaker 1: and necessary piece of the puzzle of really coming into

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Speaker 1: a place of wholeness as a woman, remembering your full wholeness.

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Speaker 1: Mm hmm, you do powerful work. Thank you, TeV. Well,

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Speaker 1: you know it's not even me, That's the thing is.

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Speaker 1: I feel like this is just reconnecting with your body.

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Speaker 1: I'm just a guide. Yeah, So I'd like to I

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Speaker 1: like to end the show first, please let everyone know

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Speaker 1: how they can connect with you, because I know people

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Speaker 1: are going to be so excited to learn more. And

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Speaker 1: I know you have programs available on your website, so

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Speaker 1: please share some of that. Yes, thank you so much.

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Speaker 1: So you can go to my website, the Pleasure Plus,

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Speaker 1: and that's the online community for women, and there I

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Speaker 1: have courses, I have individualized sessions for one on one

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Speaker 1: um I do the Volva mapping there and I work

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Speaker 1: in person, but I also do a lot of my

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Speaker 1: work now via zoom, so it's fully accessible. So my

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Speaker 1: Instagram is at the Pleasure Plus. My private coaching website

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Speaker 1: is simone Farshee dot com. And then my community and

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Speaker 1: courses website is the pleasure plus dot com. Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: highly recommend if you even feel slightly open enough to

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Speaker 1: do this, if you feel ready, if you if this

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Speaker 1: resonates in your heart and you're like, this is the piece,

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Speaker 1: because that's what I heard when one of my girlfriends

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Speaker 1: first told me a little bit about this journey. She

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Speaker 1: was doing work with Betty Dotson, and when she just

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Speaker 1: revealed a small amount of what she was doing, my

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Speaker 1: heart instantly knew, I have to know more. This is

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Speaker 1: for me. So if you're hearing that and feeling that,

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Speaker 1: I really recommend that you go to Simone's website, pleasure Plus.

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Speaker 1: She has beautiful courses available um different entry points, so

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Speaker 1: as ready as you are, there will be something available

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Speaker 1: to you and would just be a really incredible experience

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Speaker 1: to begin investigating. There's no race, there's no pressure, but

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Speaker 1: there's always more that we can have. There's more available

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Speaker 1: to us. So someone in closing, I like to end

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Speaker 1: every show with what I call soul work. It's a

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Speaker 1: little bit of homework for the listeners to take whip

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Speaker 1: them into the week until we meet again in the

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Speaker 1: next episode. So is there something some soul work, some

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Speaker 1: homework that you can give to everyone that they can

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Speaker 1: start experiencing. Yes, there is, uh so I would invite

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Speaker 1: you all tonight or in the morning, or whenever you

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Speaker 1: find your an intimate moment with yourself to take a breath,

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Speaker 1: to drop into your body, to put one hand over

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Speaker 1: your heart and one hand cupping your yoni or your vulva,

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Speaker 1: your pussy, whatever you call her. I definitely invite you

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Speaker 1: to name her if that's something you haven't done already,

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Speaker 1: and just sit there. Just the act of coping her

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Speaker 1: is incredibly powerful and from this place, if you're feeling

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Speaker 1: any kind of uncertainty or if you want to receive

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Speaker 1: more pleasure, just channeling that and asking her if she

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Speaker 1: has a message for you mm hm. And you can

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Speaker 1: do this copying her. You can do this over your womb,

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Speaker 1: on your ovaries, but just asking what that messages and

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Speaker 1: then receiving it. Ah, that's so beautiful. And don't try

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Speaker 1: to fill that space with a response of your own,

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Speaker 1: like really give it some room for depth. Really let

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Speaker 1: spirit universe bring forward you know, um, and maybe you

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Speaker 1: could even say like what do you really want? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: what do you really want? And I highly recommend to

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Speaker 1: keep your journal nearby, get a pen, and even if

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Speaker 1: you don't want to write a full novel to yourself,

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Speaker 1: just jot down a couple of bullet points of what

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Speaker 1: came up for you and revisit it when you're ready. Beautiful,

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much, Somone, thank you, Devy, thank you all.

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Speaker 1: Hey find me on social let's connect at Debbie Brown.

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Speaker 1: That's Twitter and Instagram, or go to my website Debbie

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Speaker 1: Brown dot com. And if you're listening to the show

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Speaker 1: on Apple Podcasts, please please please don't forget to rate, review,

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Speaker 1: Jams is the production of I Heart Radio and the

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