Speaker 1: And I've said this before, but I'll say it again.
Speaker 1: The challenge is, we eat where we're meant to sleep.
Speaker 1: We sleep where we're meant to work, and we work
Speaker 1: where we're meant to eat. Right, We'll work on the
Speaker 1: dinner table, we'll sleep on the couch, we will be
Speaker 1: entertained watching a show in bed. And it's so confusing energetically,
Speaker 1: it's so confusing for the mind. It's so confusing for
Speaker 1: the space, and it's confusing for our brain because we're
Speaker 1: constantly glued to three devices in all different places.
Speaker 2: The Number one Health and Wellness podcast said Jay.
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Speaker 1: Today's episode is all about speed pace time. How many
Speaker 1: of you feel like time is just getting faster and
Speaker 1: faster and faster as we get older, it feels like
Speaker 1: time's flying like it never has before. The week goes by,
Speaker 1: and you wonder where did it go? The month goes by,
Speaker 1: and you wonder where did he go? And right now
Speaker 1: you're thinking, how we already in May of twenty twenty four,
Speaker 1: How we already getting to juwe of twenty twenty four?
Speaker 1: How did this happen? Where did the time go? I
Speaker 1: find myself asking myself this question. I find myself talking
Speaker 1: to my friends about this. I find myself feeling like
Speaker 1: something happened four years ago, five years ago, and then
Speaker 1: I realized, actually it was just last year. Time truly
Speaker 1: flies now. There are so many theories for this, there's
Speaker 1: so many reasons for this.
Speaker 2: Some reass suggests that when we're a child.
Speaker 1: A week or a month feels like a huge part
Speaker 1: of our life, whereas now as we get older, a
Speaker 1: week or a month doesn't feel like any time at all. Right,
Speaker 1: there's so many more things we have to process. Another
Speaker 1: theory suggests that when we were younger, we had more unique,
Speaker 1: novel experiences that we could get immersed in, whereas as adults,
Speaker 1: we have routines, we have checklists, we have things that
Speaker 1: we need to get done, and those experiences don't feel
Speaker 1: like they last as long. And so time flies now,
Speaker 1: whatever it may be, I think we've all had this experience. Well,
Speaker 1: we wake up and we go I don't know where
Speaker 1: the time's going. I don't know what's going on. Everything
Speaker 1: feels so fast. And Gandhi has a famous quote that
Speaker 1: says there's more to life than increasing its speed. And
Speaker 1: I think we've all had that experience where our life
Speaker 1: has got faster. We're moving more, we're maybe even doing more,
Speaker 1: but we're being less We're more active, but less present.
Speaker 1: We're more accelerated, and so our view is blurred. So
Speaker 1: what I want to share with you today is how
Speaker 1: to slow down and zoom out when things get too
Speaker 1: busy and too fast. If you've been feeling overwhelmed, stressed,
Speaker 1: feeling a lot of pressure lately, this episode is for you.
Speaker 1: If you feel like you're doing more than ever, you're
Speaker 1: moving faster than ever. This episode is for you. And
Speaker 1: if you're someone right now who's just feeling like everything
Speaker 1: is feeling really heavy and you're feeling like there just
Speaker 1: isn't any space, this episode is for you. Now, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna be real with you, because I think we can
Speaker 1: stay in this phase for years. Sometimes, right, this isn't
Speaker 1: just something that crept up on us. Sometimes we find
Speaker 1: that years have gone by feeling this way. So my
Speaker 1: first insight that I want to share with you is,
Speaker 1: wake up twenty minutes before you actually have to. The
Speaker 1: experience of time begins from the moment.
Speaker 2: You wake up.
Speaker 1: So if your first thought when you wake up is
Speaker 1: I'm late, I'm already late, I'm already behind, I'm already
Speaker 1: you know, gonna miss that meeting, now, you're already living
Speaker 1: in a feeling that you need to catch up with time.
Speaker 1: You're already feeling behind the clock. And so our relationship
Speaker 1: with time is really really interesting because our language and
Speaker 1: our thoughts set how we feel. So if we say
Speaker 1: things like, oh, I'm already behind, I'm already late, I'm
Speaker 1: running late, right, I'm running out of time, and we
Speaker 1: wake up with that feeling. That thought tends to repeat
Speaker 1: itself for the rest of the day. And that's why
Speaker 1: waking up twenty minutes before you have to, just twenty
Speaker 1: minutes before you have to, and that time for you
Speaker 1: is to do three things. I call this the three c's.
Speaker 1: The first is to connect with yourself. Just take a
Speaker 1: moment to check in with how you feel and what
Speaker 1: you need today. What's the one thing you need to
Speaker 1: do for yourself today to make it a great day.
Speaker 1: The second see is your calendar. Take a look at
Speaker 1: your schedule for the day. What's the one thing you
Speaker 1: need to do today to make it a great day.
Speaker 1: And then the final thing connect connect with someone else,
Speaker 1: maybe a family member, a loved one. Check in with someone.
Speaker 1: So connect with yourself, look at your calendar, and check
Speaker 1: in with someone else. Those three things in that first
Speaker 1: twenty minutes can give you the boost. And that check
Speaker 1: in at the end could be sharing gratitude with someone,
Speaker 1: could just be a message that you send to someone.
Speaker 1: Wake up twenty minutes before you have to because what
Speaker 1: you find is if you start your day slower mentally
Speaker 1: and physically, you can maintain that momentum as.
Speaker 2: It speeds up.
Speaker 1: Often we think, oh, I need to slow down my
Speaker 1: whole day, I need to cancel things. That's not sustainable.
Speaker 1: We got a lot to do. I get it, I've
Speaker 1: got a lot to do. But I find that waking
Speaker 1: up earlier, just by twenty minutes, can start that process.
Speaker 1: So for me, I'm really focused and always working on
Speaker 1: how much I can wake up three hours before my
Speaker 1: day starts. And that's something I've built up towards. I
Speaker 1: didn't always have that. That wasn't always something that I've practiced.
Speaker 1: And I completely understand with different people's travel schedules and
Speaker 1: if you have kids, this is much more, much harder,
Speaker 1: and I completely empathize with that. But I'm sharing this
Speaker 1: as an idea of if you could wake up twenty
Speaker 1: minutes before you have to before you need to, so
Speaker 1: that you actually have twenty minutes of slow time. See,
Speaker 1: most of us find that all of our time is
Speaker 1: fast time because we have to be somewhere. We had
Speaker 1: to be there yesterday. We had to solve that now,
Speaker 1: and so we almost need to create more time where
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter where we are now. I find that
Speaker 1: you can extend this into the weekend. I think if
Speaker 1: you could have one Saturday a month that didn't have
Speaker 1: a schedule.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 1: I remember my mom having to take me to swimming
Speaker 1: lessons and then having to take me off to play
Speaker 1: sport or whatever it may have been, and I find
Speaker 1: that we're often always on a schedule. And if you
Speaker 1: think about what it was when we were kids, the
Speaker 1: reason why time felt the way it did is because
Speaker 1: we had so much playtime. Right, there's this beautiful quote
Speaker 1: from George Bernard Shaw where he said that we don't
Speaker 1: stop playing because we get old. We get old because
Speaker 1: we stop playing. And to me, playtime means time without time.
Speaker 1: It means having no time limit. It means having no schedule.
Speaker 1: It means not feeling like you have to be somewhere
Speaker 1: at a certain time. Now, that may not be possible
Speaker 1: on the weekdays, but imagine if you had one Saturday
Speaker 1: a month, one Sunday a month, one day a month
Speaker 1: where that day.
Speaker 2: Time didn't matter.
Speaker 1: So waking up twenty minutes before you have to and
Speaker 1: finding a day a month where time doesn't matter will
Speaker 1: help you slow time right down. The second principle I
Speaker 1: want to talk about is one device at a time.
Speaker 1: One of the reasons why time feels like it's so fast.
Speaker 1: Is more often than not, we're engaged with three screens,
Speaker 1: three devices.
Speaker 2: So check this out.
Speaker 1: You have the TV on, then you and your partner
Speaker 1: both have your laptops out doing some work, and then
Speaker 1: you both have your phones next to you. So there's
Speaker 1: five screens in total, and you're looking at three screens each.
Speaker 1: You've got your phone, you've got your laptop, and you've
Speaker 1: got the screen on the wall. So now you've got
Speaker 1: three devices. Imagine how much information that is to process.
Speaker 1: Imagine how fast that is. So you've got the movement
Speaker 1: of the characters on screen, You've got the movement of
Speaker 1: the spreadsheet or the presentation in front of you on
Speaker 1: your laptop, and you've got the movement of TikTok or
Speaker 1: whatever you're scrolling through on your phone. You've got three
Speaker 1: different things moving at the same time, and you're trying
Speaker 1: to make sense of all of those, or even if
Speaker 1: you're not, your brain is. This is one of the
Speaker 1: things I realize that you may be saying, Oh, well,
Speaker 1: it's just in the background. Your brain is processing background noise,
Speaker 1: background sound, And I'll get onto that in a second.
Speaker 1: But it's really important that if you want to slow
Speaker 1: time down one device at a time, one device set
Speaker 1: a time, either your laptop, your phone, or the screen.
Speaker 1: Don't do all three at the same time. You're asking
Speaker 1: for too much from your brain. You're asking for too
Speaker 1: much to be processed, too much to be thought about,
Speaker 1: too much to be reflected on, too much to be
Speaker 1: made sense of. So make a commitment with your partner
Speaker 1: that if you're both watching something, you're going to watch something.
Speaker 1: And the best way to do this is just to
Speaker 1: create spaces. I call it no technology zones and no
Speaker 1: technology times in your home. So I believe that the
Speaker 1: dining room and the bedroom should be free of technology forever.
Speaker 1: We should eat and sleep in those spaces. And I've
Speaker 1: said this before, but I'll say it again. The challenge is,
Speaker 1: we eat where we're meant to sleep, We sleep where
Speaker 1: we're meant to work, and we work where we're meant
Speaker 1: to eat. Right, we'll work on the dinner table, we'll
Speaker 1: sleep on the couch, we will be entertained watching a
Speaker 1: show in bed. And it's so confusing energetically, it's so
Speaker 1: confusing for the mind. It's so confused us for the space,
Speaker 1: and it's confusing for our brain because we're constantly glued
Speaker 1: to three devices in all different places. So making rules
Speaker 1: with your partner and saying, look, the dining table, no
Speaker 1: technology allowed. Right, the couch, only the TV screen. Okay,
Speaker 1: in bed, we're gonna have no technology there right setting
Speaker 1: these rules. Now, you are going to break these rules.
Speaker 1: You are gonna make mistakes. I do all the time,
Speaker 1: but I find that having the rule is healthier than
Speaker 1: not having the boundary.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 1: Having the boundary, even if you break it, even if
Speaker 1: you make mistakes, is a healthier place to be.
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Speaker 1: pace that we often don't take the proper time to
Speaker 1: celebrate it. We get so caught up in everyday tasks, work,
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Speaker 1: a second to breathe and celebrate life. I recommend taking
Speaker 1: at least five minutes each day and reminding yourself of
Speaker 1: your accomplishments. Here are a few ways you can celebrate
Speaker 1: life every day.
Speaker 2: Be kind to others.
Speaker 1: It can be as small as a compliment, opening the
Speaker 1: door for someone or even covering someone's bill at the
Speaker 1: grocery store. If you're really feeling generous, express gratitude toward
Speaker 1: others will always go a long way. Be more meaningful
Speaker 1: than you ever imagine. Highlight other people achievements. It can
Speaker 1: be your boss, your team, colleagues, significant other, or a
Speaker 1: family member. And do something you love every day, whether
Speaker 1: it's playing video games, going on a walkout side.
Speaker 2: Taking time for yourself.
Speaker 1: This year, I've made a commitment to myself to slow
Speaker 1: down and celebrate all that is happening in my life.
Speaker 1: Both personally and professionally. In my professional life, it's easy
Speaker 1: for me to quickly move from one thing to the next,
Speaker 1: so I've been mindful of taking a second to pause
Speaker 1: and celebrate accomplishments with my team. Every week, we do
Speaker 1: a weekly win session where we go around the team
Speaker 1: and everyone shares what they've done that week while they've
Speaker 1: achieved and it could.
Speaker 2: Be something everyone knows about or something no one.
Speaker 1: Knows about, but I've found that it makes a real
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Speaker 1: my focus has been on celebrating others, whether that be
Speaker 1: around someone's birthday, life achievement, or simply connecting and celebrating
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Speaker 1: Step number three is to take a moment, take thirty
Speaker 1: seconds when you enter a new room, when you enter
Speaker 1: a new space, when you enter a new part of
Speaker 1: your day. To engage all five senses. So most of
Speaker 1: us are purely relying on our eyes to see. We're
Speaker 1: quite visual, lead oriented, and we don't really engage all
Speaker 1: of our senses. But how many times have you been
Speaker 1: walking past something and you smell something incredible and all
Speaker 1: of a sudden you're present. How many times have you
Speaker 1: walking about something and you hear something and you go, oh,
Speaker 1: that's interesting, I want to know more about that. Imagine
Speaker 1: if you engaged all five senses in a room you
Speaker 1: want to be in. So if you're feeling distracted, you're
Speaker 1: running from meeting to meeting, even if you're running from
Speaker 1: zoom meeting to zoom meeting and you're feeling quite disconnected.
Speaker 1: If you're feeling kind of flustered, take a moment to
Speaker 1: practice this technique. It's known as the five four three
Speaker 1: two one technique. Five things you can see. Look around
Speaker 1: the room and look at five colors, shades, shapes. Just
Speaker 1: look around right now. What are five things? Look at
Speaker 1: the colors, the shades, the shapes, the design, and look
Speaker 1: at them more consciously than you normally would now. Four
Speaker 1: things you can touch, maybe the clothes you're wearing, the
Speaker 1: desk you're at, the texture, feel it, notice it closer
Speaker 1: than you usually would now. Three things you can hear,
Speaker 1: Two things you can smell, and one thing you can taste.
Speaker 1: Notice how quickly you become physically present mentally present when
Speaker 1: your senses are all engaged. And notice how usually when
Speaker 1: we walk into a room, we might be listening to
Speaker 1: the person in front of us and we might be
Speaker 1: looking at them, but our sense of smell is not engaged.
Speaker 1: We don't feel that we're engaged through a sense of
Speaker 1: touch and not through a sense of taste. Engage all
Speaker 1: five senses. Now, this next one's really really important, and
Speaker 1: I'll tell you why, and it's about safety.
Speaker 2: But on a.
Speaker 1: Mindfulness level, on a slowing down level, it's about being
Speaker 1: present and conscious obey the speed limit if you have
Speaker 1: to drive. One of the ways we feel the most rush.
Speaker 1: One of the ways we feel the most out of
Speaker 1: time is when we're driving. So most of us who
Speaker 1: are driving fast, we're not only causing, of course, potential
Speaker 1: risk for others and ourselves. But what we don't realize
Speaker 1: is that's what we feel it. We're like, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: shave off two minutes. Is it worth taking the risk
Speaker 1: that two people may lose their lives if we shaved
Speaker 1: off two minutes? And I know we feel it by
Speaker 1: the way, I feel really proud right when you feel like,
Speaker 1: oh it's going to take me thirty minutes to get there,
Speaker 1: I did it in twenty six. Are those four minutes
Speaker 1: worth the risk of what you may have to experience
Speaker 1: because of those four minutes.
Speaker 2: Will those four minutes change your life? They won't.
Speaker 1: But will those four minutes potentially cost someone else.
Speaker 2: To their life?
Speaker 1: Yes? And you There was this amazing video that I
Speaker 1: saw years ago on social media, and it was a
Speaker 1: video where they interviewed teens about how many of them
Speaker 1: are able to text and drive, and all these texters
Speaker 1: and drivers were like, yep, I can text and drive
Speaker 1: sometimes have one phone in one hand, and the interviewer
Speaker 1: was encouraging them to be like, wow, that's pretty impressive
Speaker 1: and tell us more stories. They then brought in an
Speaker 1: individual who shared their story. Their story was they lost
Speaker 1: a family member because of someone who was texting and driving,
Speaker 1: and all of a sudden, all these texts and drivers,
Speaker 1: most of them teens early twenties, started to Yeah. I
Speaker 1: mean a lot of them were crying, a lot of
Speaker 1: them were feeling terrible. A lot of them were, you know,
Speaker 1: a little bit shocked. And I think it's so important
Speaker 1: for us to realize that shaving four minutes off isn't
Speaker 1: going to change our life, but it could change someone else's.
Speaker 1: And I think on a deeper level, from a mindfulness
Speaker 1: point of view, when we're driving at the speed limit,
Speaker 1: we're actually really present. We have to be focused, we
Speaker 1: have to be there, and that slows things down because
Speaker 1: we're no longer trying to rush, we're no longer trying
Speaker 1: to achieve that shaving off of time. And cars are
Speaker 1: a place where I know a lot of you listen
Speaker 1: to the podcast, and I think that's amazing that you're
Speaker 1: using that time to feel like you're growing and learning
Speaker 1: and hopefully not feeling like, oh, I need to rush
Speaker 1: out of this situation scenario right now. The next step
Speaker 1: I want to share with you is being present with
Speaker 1: your breath. And one of my favorite practices I do
Speaker 1: this throughout the day is breathing in for four and
Speaker 1: out for four. What I find is that most of
Speaker 1: our stress and tension is experienced when our mind is
Speaker 1: ahead of our body, or our bodies ahead of our mind.
Speaker 2: How many of you have ever.
Speaker 1: Woken up in the morning and you're your mind is
Speaker 1: racing so many thoughts on your body is like, oh,
Speaker 1: I just want to be in bed, or you experience
Speaker 1: the opposite. Your body's running around, but your mind is saying,
Speaker 1: I can't do this right now. And so when we
Speaker 1: breathe in for four and out for four, we count one,
Speaker 1: two three four as we inhale, and we count one
Speaker 1: two three four as we exhale.
Speaker 2: Try it with me right now.
Speaker 3: In two three four out two three four in two
Speaker 3: three four out two three four.
Speaker 1: The simple act of inhaling and exhaling for the same count.
Speaker 1: The mind is counting and our breath is moving with it,
Speaker 1: so we're aligning the body and the mind through this
Speaker 1: simple practice. Anytime you feel tension, it's because your body
Speaker 1: or mind is a head or behind one or the other,
Speaker 1: and this simple activity just brings them back into alignment.
Speaker 1: I do this when I walk into a meeting. I
Speaker 1: do this before a phone call. I do this before
Speaker 1: I read or send a stressful email. I do this
Speaker 1: before the workday and after the workday. This is a
Speaker 1: simple practice that we can do throughout the day to
Speaker 1: be reconnected with our breath and our body, to be
Speaker 1: present once again in our breath and our body. Step
Speaker 1: number four. This one is one that I learned many
Speaker 1: years ago. Now, it was when I moved to New York.
Speaker 1: So I moved to New York in twenty sixteen, and
Speaker 1: I used to find that by.
Speaker 2: The end of the day I was exhausted.
Speaker 1: Now, I've worked in London, I grew up in London,
Speaker 1: and so I've been in a busy city during my
Speaker 1: month years. I spent time in Mumbai, and Mumbai is
Speaker 1: a very busy city.
Speaker 2: But there was.
Speaker 1: Something about New York where I would feel exhausted at
Speaker 1: the end of the day, and I didn't have the energy.
Speaker 2: Really to go out.
Speaker 1: And there were a lot of things related to that.
Speaker 1: For sure, maybe I wasn't on the right vitamins and supplements,
Speaker 1: which I think make a huge difference. There were many reasons,
Speaker 1: but one of the things that I looked into, which
Speaker 1: I saw made a big difference to me, was that
Speaker 1: I didn't spend any time in silence. Now, I did
Speaker 1: my meditation, but I didn't really prioritize silence throughout the day.
Speaker 1: Now research has shown that when you're in longer periods,
Speaker 1: extended periods of silence, it increases your brain cells and
Speaker 1: therefore helps you be more focused and productive, and it
Speaker 1: helps you relax and slow down. And what happens is
Speaker 1: that our brains experienced something known as cognitive load. So
Speaker 1: cognitive load is the amount your brain as to process.
Speaker 1: And when I was in New York, I realized that
Speaker 1: my brain was constantly processing the road works, the cars,
Speaker 1: the siren, the horns, the noise, the people are everything.
Speaker 1: So what happened was that my brain was always active.
Speaker 1: Because even if you don't think you're consciously trying to
Speaker 1: make sense of it, your brain is.
Speaker 2: And so especially if.
Speaker 1: You live in a noisy city, especially if you live
Speaker 1: in a noisy area, it's so important to practice audio hygiene,
Speaker 1: which means spending time in silence, turning on those noise
Speaker 1: canceling headphones and not when you're outdoors, of course, not
Speaker 1: don't want any danger, but spending time indoors. And there's
Speaker 1: such a need to prioritize silence, right, because what's happening
Speaker 1: is that we're getting so mentally fatigued, not just because
Speaker 1: of the work you're doing on what you're trying to process,
Speaker 1: but because of all the background noise your mind is
Speaker 1: trying to process. Your brain is trying to process. This
Speaker 1: also applies to music. Now, certain music is soothing and
Speaker 1: helps you focus. It might be jazz, it might be
Speaker 1: classical music, it might be instrumentals, but there's certain music
Speaker 1: that in engages you a little more. And if you're
Speaker 1: constantly engaging your brain and engaging your mind and there's
Speaker 1: no time to disengage, disconnect and be in silence, we're
Speaker 1: actually creating more speed in our minds.
Speaker 2: Right, We're creating.
Speaker 1: More speed in our minds because our minds are constantly
Speaker 1: trying to process and are never getting a break.
Speaker 2: This next one is probably one of my favorite ones.
Speaker 1: And it's because I've felt the benefits a lot, both
Speaker 1: in La where I live and in New York where
Speaker 1: I used to live. And I felt it recently when
Speaker 1: I was in Bhutan. Now, Bhutan's a phenomenal country. You
Speaker 1: might have heard me mention it before here on the podcast.
Speaker 1: It's landlocked between Indian and China. It's a small country,
Speaker 1: but it's primarily nature. I mean when we went there,
Speaker 1: I didn't see a restaurant, I didn't see a mall,
Speaker 1: I didn't see a cinema. Like it was really like
Speaker 1: it felt like it went back in time. But I
Speaker 1: felt this beautiful or slowness when I was there. And
Speaker 1: I was looking into this and Ricardo Carrera, who's at
Speaker 1: a university in Finland, he discovered that being in nature
Speaker 1: changes how we experience time and actually gives us a
Speaker 1: sensation or a feeling of time abundance. So Carrera's research
Speaker 1: looked at comparing people's experiences of time when they were
Speaker 1: in the city and when they were in nature, and
Speaker 1: what it consistently showed is that when people were in nature,
Speaker 1: their sense of time was slower and more meaningful. So
Speaker 1: what was really remarkable though, is that he found that
Speaker 1: people are more likely to see a walk in the
Speaker 1: countryside is longer than a walk in the city. And
Speaker 1: he also found that what's really interesting as well is
Speaker 1: that other research suggests that when we're in nature we're
Speaker 1: also able to zoom out, whereas when we're in the city,
Speaker 1: we're kind of zoomed in, and so we can't see
Speaker 1: the bigger picture, we can't get perspective. And I think
Speaker 1: a big part of this for me is because nature
Speaker 1: itself is slow. Right, when something's growing in nature, it
Speaker 1: doesn't happen overnight. If you see something in nature eating,
Speaker 1: it doesn't eat it really fast. It's a slow process.
Speaker 1: When you see the leaves slowly start to go beautiful
Speaker 1: in the fall, like that doesn't happen overnight. And so
Speaker 1: I feel like the pace of nature. And remember, we
Speaker 1: are nature, right, we are nature. We're natural. So moving
Speaker 1: at the pace of nature is far more normal than
Speaker 1: moving at the pace of technology. If you think about
Speaker 1: the difference between climbing a tree and taking an elevator,
Speaker 1: there are two things humans wanted to do. Is to
Speaker 1: gain elevation. But if you get into an elevator and
Speaker 1: you go up or you climb a tree.
Speaker 2: Climbing a tree takes longer.
Speaker 1: It's naturally it engages touch, it engages your sense of
Speaker 1: height you're looking down. I literally am in a hotel
Speaker 1: right now and it's pretty trippy. I'm in Atlantaism recording
Speaker 1: this and literally it's so high and when you get
Speaker 1: I went to the forty seventh floor today and I
Speaker 1: look down and it is so trippy. If you've seen
Speaker 1: the TV show on Apple called Silo, it's literally like
Speaker 1: they've built a city underground in Silo.
Speaker 2: This feels like that, but.
Speaker 1: It's overground, and it's so trippy when you look down
Speaker 1: because it's just stairs and it's every floor that you
Speaker 1: can see. And the reason I'm saying this is because
Speaker 1: when you're going up in an elevator, you don't actually
Speaker 1: know you're not choosing the pace. There's no senses involved,
Speaker 1: you're not making meaning out of it, and so it
Speaker 1: just moves so fast, Whereas when you're climbing a tree,
Speaker 1: there's effort, there's focus. So I'm not saying we have
Speaker 1: to climb a tree to get to the top of
Speaker 1: a building. I'm saying when we spend more time in nature,
Speaker 1: we get more accustomed to a pace that suits us,
Speaker 1: that feels natural to us, that allows us to zoom out.
Speaker 1: When we're spending time in nature, we're less reactive, we're
Speaker 1: less impulsive because it doesn't work that way right. We
Speaker 1: can't process it all. And I've shared with you some
Speaker 1: tips here today. So wake up twenty minutes before you
Speaker 1: have to and set one day a month where there
Speaker 1: is no schedule or time. Remember to be on only
Speaker 1: one device set of time, and to set no technology
Speaker 1: zones and no technology times in your home. Engage all
Speaker 1: five senses. When you're in a space and you're feeling flustered,
Speaker 1: stick to the speed limit. Breathe in for four and
Speaker 1: out for four to align your body and mind. Find
Speaker 1: and create moments of silence, focusing on the cognitive load,
Speaker 1: and observe and be present in nature. I really hope
Speaker 1: this helps you slow down in a fast world. I
Speaker 1: really hope this helps you zoom out in a world
Speaker 1: where we're constantly pulled in. And I want you to
Speaker 1: remember that I'm always rooting for you and I'm forever
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