1 00:00:00,560 --> 00:00:03,760 Speaker 1: All right, guys, this is from Jasmine on Steve HARBFM. 2 00:00:03,880 --> 00:00:06,440 Speaker 1: She needs some advice. Jasmine says, I have been with 3 00:00:06,559 --> 00:00:10,080 Speaker 1: my fiance for a year and a half. He is 4 00:00:10,119 --> 00:00:12,840 Speaker 1: in the finance industry and makes a lot more than 5 00:00:12,880 --> 00:00:16,200 Speaker 1: I do. I work in marketing for a nonprofit, so 6 00:00:16,280 --> 00:00:19,880 Speaker 1: my paycheck is nothing close to his. He always says 7 00:00:19,880 --> 00:00:22,479 Speaker 1: it doesn't matter, and that he's happy to cover dinner's 8 00:00:22,560 --> 00:00:27,160 Speaker 1: trips and even bigger things. But I can feel the 9 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:29,840 Speaker 1: looks from some of his family and even a few 10 00:00:29,840 --> 00:00:32,239 Speaker 1: of his friends, like they think I'm only with him for. 11 00:00:32,240 --> 00:00:33,159 Speaker 2: What he can give me. 12 00:00:33,640 --> 00:00:36,280 Speaker 1: I really love him and want to make it clear 13 00:00:36,560 --> 00:00:39,280 Speaker 1: that I'm not after his money, but I'm not sure 14 00:00:39,320 --> 00:00:43,680 Speaker 1: how to signal that without sounding defensive or creating drama. 15 00:00:44,040 --> 00:00:46,480 Speaker 1: I know that he doesn't have a problem, but I'm 16 00:00:46,520 --> 00:00:49,159 Speaker 1: really self conscious about this and I don't know what 17 00:00:49,400 --> 00:00:50,120 Speaker 1: I should do. 18 00:00:50,720 --> 00:00:53,240 Speaker 2: Wow, what should she do? 19 00:00:54,440 --> 00:00:56,800 Speaker 3: First? I got to figure out how it's really about love? 20 00:00:56,880 --> 00:00:59,080 Speaker 3: Are you really about this money? That's the part I 21 00:00:59,080 --> 00:01:01,720 Speaker 3: got to figure out, and I don't have enough information 22 00:01:02,840 --> 00:01:03,279 Speaker 3: figure out. 23 00:01:03,280 --> 00:01:03,840 Speaker 2: You know, I. 24 00:01:03,720 --> 00:01:05,800 Speaker 3: Always want to know if you're ready to love first. 25 00:01:05,800 --> 00:01:07,640 Speaker 3: I always want to know that you know what I'm saying, 26 00:01:07,800 --> 00:01:10,080 Speaker 3: that's that's my first goal. Are you ready to love 27 00:01:10,440 --> 00:01:13,360 Speaker 3: because you start not with money? Anytime somebody's start with money. 28 00:01:13,440 --> 00:01:15,120 Speaker 3: That's all that seems to be the problem. Why are 29 00:01:15,160 --> 00:01:16,840 Speaker 3: we talking about money? If he saying, don't worry about it, 30 00:01:16,880 --> 00:01:18,600 Speaker 3: why are we discussing it? Why is it an issue 31 00:01:18,600 --> 00:01:23,440 Speaker 3: with But she doesn't believe how she doesn't feel he's saying, 32 00:01:23,480 --> 00:01:25,200 Speaker 3: I got you whatever you want to do, babe, I 33 00:01:25,280 --> 00:01:27,120 Speaker 3: got everything. We go out and be worried about that 34 00:01:27,120 --> 00:01:29,559 Speaker 3: when you need something, I got you. What's the problem? 35 00:01:29,680 --> 00:01:31,720 Speaker 1: So she said, she can feel the looks from his 36 00:01:31,840 --> 00:01:34,600 Speaker 1: family and his friends like she's only with him for 37 00:01:34,720 --> 00:01:37,560 Speaker 1: the money. That's why she must. 38 00:01:37,360 --> 00:01:40,440 Speaker 3: Be finding she looked way better than what he didn't 39 00:01:40,440 --> 00:01:43,240 Speaker 3: hand before. That's what this is. And he don't had 40 00:01:43,280 --> 00:01:44,319 Speaker 3: nobody looked this good. 41 00:01:44,680 --> 00:01:47,800 Speaker 2: And what is he? He is very well, he ugly, 42 00:01:49,680 --> 00:01:50,760 Speaker 2: He looked like me. 43 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:53,320 Speaker 3: Ugly. 44 00:01:53,400 --> 00:01:57,800 Speaker 4: He's certain fed with her guarantee he's paying for everything. 45 00:01:58,440 --> 00:01:59,680 Speaker 1: I think she needs this stuff? 46 00:01:59,720 --> 00:02:06,280 Speaker 2: Word ye your life? Yeah, she said, just right, you 47 00:02:06,360 --> 00:02:07,720 Speaker 2: need to chill. Yeah, don't. 48 00:02:08,560 --> 00:02:11,760 Speaker 3: Is it a situation where now you want him to 49 00:02:11,760 --> 00:02:14,080 Speaker 3: put some money in your account? You want to get. 50 00:02:15,520 --> 00:02:16,680 Speaker 2: Now it's an allowance. 51 00:02:16,760 --> 00:02:20,440 Speaker 3: Now it's starting to be a little bit more than this. 52 00:02:20,919 --> 00:02:21,840 Speaker 2: None of that is in this. 53 00:02:22,080 --> 00:02:25,120 Speaker 1: Okay, Yeah, she's just concerned that she wants to make 54 00:02:25,240 --> 00:02:28,080 Speaker 1: sure that she's you know, he doesn't think she's a 55 00:02:28,120 --> 00:02:32,359 Speaker 1: gold digger, basically, and nowhere, nothing in here says she's 56 00:02:32,360 --> 00:02:34,400 Speaker 1: a gold digger. Nothing he's got to. 57 00:02:34,480 --> 00:02:40,639 Speaker 4: Give is we need Jazz to step it up, Jamine 58 00:02:40,720 --> 00:02:43,560 Speaker 4: Jasmin need to do a better job as a man 59 00:02:43,600 --> 00:02:44,160 Speaker 4: that pays for. 60 00:02:44,120 --> 00:02:49,240 Speaker 2: A lot of things. We want help. I don't want 61 00:02:49,280 --> 00:02:50,320 Speaker 2: to pay for every dinner. 62 00:02:51,000 --> 00:02:54,040 Speaker 3: The problem is this, though. The problem is she got 63 00:02:54,040 --> 00:02:57,120 Speaker 3: to give his ugly some confidence. And that's what's the problem. 64 00:02:57,160 --> 00:03:01,040 Speaker 3: Is she's with him, but he still can't figure out 65 00:03:01,040 --> 00:03:01,480 Speaker 3: why though. 66 00:03:01,560 --> 00:03:02,359 Speaker 2: He can't. 67 00:03:04,160 --> 00:03:06,000 Speaker 3: Because that's the first thing an ugly person to say, Man, 68 00:03:06,000 --> 00:03:07,840 Speaker 3: I don't know why hell she with me? I'm talking Nah, 69 00:03:07,880 --> 00:03:10,680 Speaker 3: this is set up. This is set up. He feels like, 70 00:03:13,120 --> 00:03:15,840 Speaker 3: that's how ugly people feel called when I know it's 71 00:03:15,919 --> 00:03:17,600 Speaker 3: too big, it's too good to be true. 72 00:03:17,960 --> 00:03:21,320 Speaker 2: This is too deep, Carol, tell me this is too deep. 73 00:03:22,360 --> 00:03:22,640 Speaker 3: Mind. 74 00:03:25,000 --> 00:03:27,799 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, she just doesn't want him to think she's 75 00:03:27,800 --> 00:03:28,440 Speaker 1: a gold digger. 76 00:03:28,480 --> 00:03:30,160 Speaker 3: That y'all don't know how to help ugly people. 77 00:03:30,160 --> 00:03:34,079 Speaker 2: I see, let's just move on, y'all. Don't y'all don't 78 00:03:34,080 --> 00:03:37,320 Speaker 2: know how to how to counsel. I know, I'm speaking 79 00:03:37,320 --> 00:03:40,400 Speaker 2: for the ugly people. I know you need. 80 00:03:41,440 --> 00:03:45,880 Speaker 4: Up dinners, trips, even bigger things. And the looks from 81 00:03:45,880 --> 00:03:47,440 Speaker 4: the family, how can we ugly? 82 00:03:47,480 --> 00:03:49,960 Speaker 2: We know it's not that they looking at her. They 83 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:52,200 Speaker 2: try to figure out what is she doing here? You're 84 00:03:52,200 --> 00:03:56,200 Speaker 2: not supposed to have this. I've had this happen to me. 85 00:03:56,480 --> 00:04:01,000 Speaker 2: I'm married. I'm married now, I'm I had all these dinners, 86 00:04:01,000 --> 00:04:03,000 Speaker 2: trips and bigger things. Look at this house I live in. 87 00:04:03,280 --> 00:04:04,920 Speaker 2: I did this because I'm ugly, because I had to 88 00:04:04,960 --> 00:04:08,360 Speaker 2: keep her. And you did a very good job. You 89 00:04:08,360 --> 00:04:09,000 Speaker 2: got a very. 90 00:04:08,920 --> 00:04:11,120 Speaker 4: Good because when you ugly, you can lose it. At 91 00:04:11,200 --> 00:04:17,320 Speaker 4: any moment, you can lose her. She'll leave his house. 92 00:04:18,240 --> 00:04:20,320 Speaker 4: If I don't keep doing stuff in here, she'll leave 93 00:04:21,000 --> 00:04:21,400 Speaker 4: other than me. 94 00:04:21,640 --> 00:04:24,240 Speaker 2: Notice, we have to keep doing stuff. 95 00:04:24,520 --> 00:04:26,840 Speaker 3: You want to step from losing it all. 96 00:04:28,360 --> 00:04:32,799 Speaker 4: Ah, Wait, Tommy, I'm about to buy a car. 97 00:04:33,160 --> 00:04:34,159 Speaker 2: I'm about to buy a car. 98 00:04:34,320 --> 00:04:37,920 Speaker 4: Tommy, I'm gonna go buy a car just to keep 99 00:04:37,960 --> 00:04:39,360 Speaker 4: her for six more months. 100 00:04:39,400 --> 00:04:42,840 Speaker 2: Ignorant Show. You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.