WEBVTT - Second Cup: No one is busy at 5 a.m.

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is to consider doing a regular get together

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<v Speaker 1>at an unorthodox time. If you and your friends have

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<v Speaker 1>busy schedules, that just might be your best bet for

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<v Speaker 1>actually making social time work. Today's tip comes from a

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<v Speaker 1>time log that a listener named Nicole sent to me.

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<v Speaker 1>She participated in my recent time tracking challenge, where thousands

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<v Speaker 1>of people tracked their time for a week. Nicole works

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<v Speaker 1>as a lawyer. She also has a three year old

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<v Speaker 1>and is doing a home renovation. All of these take

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of time, but like many of us, she

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<v Speaker 1>also wanted to exercise and see friends in her busy schedule.

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<v Speaker 1>So she and three neighborhood friends found a solution. They

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<v Speaker 1>meet at five am, three mornings a week to walk

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<v Speaker 1>together for forty five minutes. They chat and go about

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<v Speaker 1>two point seven miles, and then they are back in

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<v Speaker 1>time to get their households started on their days. Now.

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<v Speaker 1>To be sure, setting an alarm for four forty am

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<v Speaker 1>three days a week isn't easy. It's dark enough that

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<v Speaker 1>this five am club needs to use headlamps. However, if

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<v Speaker 1>you had to bed between nine thirty and ten pm,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not so bad, and Nicole sleeps an hour or

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<v Speaker 1>so later. On the other days. She averaged seven point

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<v Speaker 1>two hours per day according to her time log when

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<v Speaker 1>we looked at the whole week, and she enjoys the

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<v Speaker 1>walk in the social time so much that she keeps

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<v Speaker 1>doing it. Knowing you are going to be meeting friends

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<v Speaker 1>is a great incentive to get up and get moving.

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<v Speaker 1>I love this idea. I personally am not a member

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<v Speaker 1>of any sort of five am club. Believe it or not,

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<v Speaker 1>I am not actually a morning person. But I do

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<v Speaker 1>know that lots of people would like to spend more

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<v Speaker 1>time with friends, Lots of people would like to spend

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<v Speaker 1>more time exercising. The problem is that everyone is busy.

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<v Speaker 1>There are few hours of the day when most people

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<v Speaker 1>aren't committed to something. Five am is one of those hours,

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<v Speaker 1>or maybe six am if your family doesn't need to

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<v Speaker 1>be up so early, But early morning tends to be

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<v Speaker 1>a time many people have available before everyone else needs

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<v Speaker 1>a piece of them. Another option might be eight pm,

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<v Speaker 1>after kids are in bed. Most people aren't busy around

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<v Speaker 1>eight or nine pm on weekdays, and a walk could

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<v Speaker 1>be a way to spend time with friends and get

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<v Speaker 1>some activity too. Now I know this wouldn't work for everyone.

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<v Speaker 1>For years, my husband was traveling at least two to

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<v Speaker 1>three days a week, which meant that I couldn't have

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<v Speaker 1>left sleeping kids home alone at five am. Not everyone

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<v Speaker 1>lives near enough to friends to make this work, or

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<v Speaker 1>lives in places that are safe enough to walk in

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<v Speaker 1>the dark. Probably having a group of enough people is

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<v Speaker 1>key to making this work, because if you only have

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<v Speaker 1>two people, Party A is going to be pretty mad

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<v Speaker 1>about waking up at four forty am. If Party B

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't show in Nicole's group, four people means at least

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<v Speaker 1>someone is going to be there, and attendance is good.

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<v Speaker 1>But the rule is you don't have to text about

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<v Speaker 1>your absence. You just have to know that at five

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<v Speaker 1>oh five everyone is leaving without you. Anyway, if there

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<v Speaker 1>is something you would like to make more space for

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<v Speaker 1>in your life, try looking at the whole of your

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<v Speaker 1>one sixty eight hours. I have always found it interesting

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<v Speaker 1>that many calendars and planners only show the hours from

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<v Speaker 1>say eight to six, and only Monday to Friday, with

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<v Speaker 1>the weekend just not having hours. Really, that is nowhere

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<v Speaker 1>near the full amount of your time. If you want

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<v Speaker 1>to see how vast time really is, just check out

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<v Speaker 1>one of my one D sixty eight hour spreadsheets. You

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<v Speaker 1>can sign up for one at my website, or just

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<v Speaker 1>make your own. Start at whatever time makes sense, like

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<v Speaker 1>five am and go to four thirty a m. Each day.

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<v Speaker 1>Put the days of the week across the top Monday

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<v Speaker 1>to Sunday. You quickly see that there are a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of unorthodox hours to be used if you like. Sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>having the life you want requires being a little creative,

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<v Speaker 1>but that's fine. Nicole gets to exercise and see friends regularly,

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<v Speaker 1>even as a busy lawyer and mom. Sometimes that's worth

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<v Speaker 1>setting the alarm a little early for In the meantime,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making

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<v Speaker 1>the most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to

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